My father beat me so savagely when drunk that I was literally cover in black and blue marks. I was 7 or 8. I will never be normal as a result of it. I am often suicidal. That was 45 years ago. Please don't beat your children.
Judy GD please take care of yourself ❤️ I know. the world is a scary place right now and that can’t be helping people’s mental health/existing mental health but please seek the help of another before hurting yourself. I’ve been where you are and constantly told myself “never solve a temporary situation, with a permanent solution.” You’re want here and you are loved, please seek help and company if being alone feels too much, take care ❤️
@@hannacarter9782 I will be looking for job All by myself I really have no choice Noone to depend on Now you know why I feel I am better off dead than alive
It breaks my heart because I know so many women who would make amazing mothers and may never have the chance and then some people are blessed with living children but are too stupid to realize how lucky they are.
Probably because many people are pressured into having children they don't want. You try telling people you don't want children and they will literally attack you like crazy.
It is a difficult job. Done it since 1989. One has to truly believe in job to do it. You are hated by the public and the families. Plus used by government, for their lack of financial support. Thank you for the respect.
It's criminal, kids Belong to their parents not goverment, officers should be killed....if parents commit crime put them in jail if not don't separate them from their kids
@@curiousgeorge6921 1) Criminal means against the law, so which law(s) did this organization contravene? 2) Parents do not objectively belong with anyone, they can belong with parents, volunteers, grandparents. The conventional view is that parents are the best suited to take care of their children due to maternal/paternal instinct born from human biology and societal expectation from social psychology; but such assumption do not hold true in all cases. 3) So when governments put parents in jail they are not separated from their kids? 4 [related to 3]) Generally when parents commit crimes they should be punished, but the world is full of unprosecuted criminals. Our justice system simply cannot prosecute and process every single crime, there may be cases where the parents' crime is insufficient for institutionalization but still disqualify them as proper childcare givers. 5) How dare you curse them with death, you are a horrible human being that "should be killed" so that you do not harm others.
curious george children don’t belong to their parents. They are their own person. Not an extension of their parents and deserve to have their rights protected.
Side note, The father that was accused of abusing his wife, when asked why did he push her...his response was “she’s the type of person..”. Can we just take that in for a second. A man. That is accused of abusing his wife. When asked. About abusing her. JUSTIFIES IT. And bLAMES HER. I am very scared about that situation. I pray that the wife is safe.
One drug test isn’t enough. Notice the neglected child’s food insecurity. Then child curled up as small as possible and covering his face didn’t want his father called. So many indicators.
I think he just didn't want to worry his father because it seemed like they had a good relationship, it also seemed like cps was willing to leave the children with but because of his work ours it wouldn't be possible. I feel bad for the kids and the dad
@@amberlinmchugh8115 how do you know have you been in there shoe`s because you can`t assume anything if your not seeing it .so are you a drug user ?? Please DO Tell .!
They are easy to pass as well. I did for years using sadly- even the so called supervised ones- they have a kit for that too. It’s sick what addicts will do to pass them. I honestly don’t think many workers know or understand much about fake urine or urine kits... I never hear them say “well one negetive doesn’t mean they aren’t using let’s do a hair sample or blood sample to be sure” when they are suspected of drugs and pass... red flags all over. I would make such a good social worker with my experiences but I can’t deal with neglect at all. I would kick the door in and kidnap the kids instead of filing paperwork and follow ups. So yeah: I may be a recovered addict but I never abused a child. And I never will.
Yeah, I had that and also that people tried verry hard to form me a certain way. The result: Unability to progress own emotion and from others, depression, development issues, unability to put feelings into words or to even know them, and and and. Don't do this to others, please!
It's criminal to separate kids from parents..if they committed a crime then put them in jail that's it if you want to help send helpers to assist not separate it's insanity
@@curiousgeorge6921 a lot of children need to be taken away from their parents and placed with parents that will love them and provide for them. I've seen kids come in covered in fleas and with head trauma from being beaten and 4 year olds still nursing on mom..... The case with the father and twins was tragic but likely hes going to pass on from the heart failure if hes sleeping all day long :( :(
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The biggest regret of my life, even to this day, was when I lied to cps in order to protect my abusive parents, if I hadn't lied, I would have been rescued from them, abusive parents shouldn't be parents.
@@idkihaveaname845 I mean I cannot relate. But let's not forget your upbringing and mine isn't the same but maybe people would agree even I was abused. I've been hit by my father and been told bad stuff, being angry at me sometimes. But not beaten as abusive hit. As of being hit I remember max 1 hit like a slap each time and maybe i've been hit 4-5 times in my life and alot of anger towards me for some mistakes. I would lie because I love my family and some hit doesn't bother me much. I literally forgot about them shortly. Like usually after being hit I went to sleep and when I woke up it was laughing again. Now I'm old. I love my family and I have respect. Even tho I disagree alot with my dad and I wouldn't do what he did. I would say if child protection would take us away from my parents I would be devestated and that would be the ultimate abuse. Now maybe some says but some have it way worse in form of abuse. Yeah 100% but it doesn't change the fact that both the government and society would actually force me into child protection back then if they ever found out. That's my issue. That's abusive towards the family and the children. Child care is needed when it's it's consistent abuse, drugs involved, harsh beating or day in and out screaming. The toughest one is a parent who hates their child that one cannot be fixed easily and drug addict parents. For the rest, the government should have clear watch on parents and educate them so very soon maybe they can be with their child again not just totally ignore as if it shall be a permanent change or atlesat until the kids are 18+.
I love seeing how Mrs. Tessa interacted with the little girl. She was so happy and upbeat and kept telling her how smart she is. She does a great job and getting the child to know they can trust her and she’s there to help and protect them.
I fell victim to vindictive behaviors of someone and they kept calling Child Protective Services on me. They told them my children are living without basic necessities, such as food, shelter etc. My fridge, freezer, cupboards and pantry are packed full. They opened and closed the case the same day. Sometimes a lot of these calls are false information and what people do not understand is that they are taking away time and resources from children and families who truly need them. Just because you do not like someone, do not call CPS and try to break apart a family!! It's sick and not to mention it is illegal as some have found out!
The good thing though is that if it is false you will be ok but if it’s not reported and is true, children die!! I would much rather people report things that they think they might see than to close their eyes, because “it’s not their business”.
That’s because judges are just cashiers... here to cash out based on the case and locking people up.. not judging for balance.. sad. We all neeed to wake up to what’s going on around us & protect our children
I was shocked when they were so hungry and hadn't eaten all day, and probably many days before that, CPS went out and got McDonald's for them !! Geez - get them some healthy food that will help to re-energize their bodies and make their tummies feel full at least overnight. Coke and fries before bed is not a good choice
@@leeleybanna6126 You can fact check me, but from what I've learned, short sprints of starvation can lead to your body turning anything that isn't used quickly into fat more than normal. It's so you have more fat to burn during the periods of starvation. You don't become "skin and bones" till you're not eating hardly more than scraps. When there's not even enough food to even store as fat.
“We can go fishing on the weekends.” “Yaaaaay!” That honestly warmed my heart. That poor dad clearly loves his sons, it must be so hard for him having lost his wife and living with a heart condition, on top of being a single dad.
I called CPS several times about this child I've seen in my last school in the Special Needs, nothing happened. She had bruises, she was sooo skinny, and she always had bugs crawling on her. They said that she gets fed at home so she's ok and never went back to check on her. Dani was "accidentally" run over by her parents car 3 months later... so sad how some children are looked over or can't get the attention needed by officers
The women arguing with the social worker had me shaking my head... So what if you have C section? So what if you have a newborn? Most mothers went through exactly what she went through and they still send their kids to school. Did she really think she is allowed not to send her kids to school for 4 days? The father with fractured hand couldn't send his kids to help his wife... Dude, this is just laziness. These two should know that they have consensual sex and birthed three children, there is no excuse to neglect your children's needs, otherwise don't have children for god sake!
I mean some people have really hard times recovering from C sections but the father seems like a box of excuses. There seems to be tons of tension in the house like she said about coming home and having to clean cause the place was destroyed. Yelling at the social worker was super premature tho as she's just trying to help.
That dad that’s sick I really feel for him. He is raising two active children and is very sick w little support. If he doesn’t take care of his health he won’t be around.
@@eightfoottallman sometimes it's not even about hunger. My mother has an eating disorder rooted in her childhood trauma being neglected and not having food security. When her episode comes, we have to tell her to stop eating because "My stomach sometimes feels like a bottomless pit," and she can't feel full at all. Thankfully it was far and few in between, but I can't imagine how hard it is to be my mom.
ikr.. even if i had so much food and was starving id savor it because mcdonalds is good af and any food i love i savor (for some reason, even if i eat 3 meals a day)
And then there is my kids that refuse to eat cause they don't like it or just don't want to. Or even waste food. Sickening. I'm Gunna show them this and let them see how some kids don't have what they have
@@blvdurocher3255 Don’t do that, they wouldn’t understand that and you’ll just minimize the reason why they don’t want to eat. Sometimes when children don’t want to eat, avoid certain food or being restrictive, it can be an eating disorder too or something else . So pay attention and don’t forced them to eat specific food please. Ps : My bad, English isn’t my mother tongue…
they fear that what they do will be found out from people outside and they will be scorned for it. many still think they must portray a proper family on the outside and will always tell their kids to lie or keep the internal home affairs hush hush
And depending on their income, the government may be giving them financial support because of their children. If the children get taken away, money also stops. I dunno if this is the case in this country - but it is the case in mine.
I think there can be many reasons. They might not want the children in order to love and care for them, but they might want the children as possessions. They might see them as things to play with and to let out frustrations on. They might enjoy manipulating them and using them. They might even just like to uphold the pretense of a happy family, and they need the children at home so that neighbours and family will think they're a normal family. Psychologically, they probably don't want to admit to being bad parents because they don't want to have a negative self-image, they want to continue to think of themselves as powerful and justified in their actions.
Kevin J This is a very prevalent problem, especially in the UK. If you don’t have a job but have kids, instant money. And the larger the number of kids, the larger the cheque.
Not to mention her ability to remember details, communicate them clearly & make sure the child protection officer is writing down what she is saying correctly. I noticed how she is looking at what is being written down. That means her reading ability is much more advanced than those within her age group. God bless her school. She is every teacher's dream & she will go far in life.
@@ilikeudonnoodles i think they were talking about 4:11-5:50? If so yeah she’s really smart, i feel bad about how her parents always push their anger on her. Brings back bad memories
I can see that in Singapore CPS reaally does care about the safety of the children. Unfortunately Here in the USA they go after the wrong parents and let the bad parents continue to harm their kids. I have seen with my own eyes how they attack good families and ignore the bad ones.
Happened to a friend of mine... her son had an accident and she was treated like a monster for 2 years... meanwhile the same caseworker had another child nearly DIE cause they wouldn't check on him.... its disgusting...
I don't think that's really true. I've heard a lot of stories about "good families" being "attacked". When you I dig a little deeper, the parent with the sob story usually isn't being totally honest or didn't comply with court ordered drug tests or something.
@@babymaude8469 I mean, it's pretty well documented and not hard to find these kind of cases. I can think of a dozen right off the top of my head. Unfortunately, there's very little oversight in family courts and people aren't afforded rights like they are in other types of court (general sessions, traffic, criminal, etc)
I don't think they had child protective service when I was a young child, the teachers were told to just look away when they saw the bruises on me. I had two concussions in a year, my father would beat me with a belt for 15 mins and I was not aloud to cry, my back was bruised from my neck to the middle of my back. The most painful was the emotional abuse my mom loved to be cruel, harsh, and mean. giving my sister the best treatment while telling me I was stupid and that she hated me and wished I was never born.
im so sorry for your bad childhood experience :( nobody deserves this. i hope you will find true happiness in the times to come. although, cps has been around since a long time, it was not widely known and used previously. people didnt dared or knew the hotline previously. its only more commonly thought of in the recent years.
Word of Advice: Be very careful when children tell you things, because sometimes they might mistake their words or take something that isn't abuse as abuse. An example of what a mother told me recently: She has a child with Autism who was recently taught at his school along with is classmates who to talk too if they feel they are being abused. One day his mother refused to give him sweets, so he told the school he was being abuse, causing a visit from social services to the school along with teachers as the mother had to come in and sort out the situation. Luckily for her, the boy revealed it was because his mother didn't give him sweets that he felt abused. Nothing happened after that. Another example is what happened in my place of work: I work with very young children (ages 0-3 years). I witnessed a little boy gently tap onto a little girl's arm. She was perfectly fine and didn't show an signs of distress. The following day, when her father dropped her off, he explained that his daughter had told him a child was "breaking her arm". I explained what I witnessed as my boss had to explain to the father how some children around that age can make over-the-top stories of what really happened. I'm not trying to suggest don't believe everything a child says, but make sure you always get the facts from other resources before making a judgement. It's never the children's fault if what they say isn't 100% true, sometimes they can feel scared when put on the spot light or get confused by their own story or mix their words up.
That’s why you watch the child. Their mannerisms and the way they hold themselves. Many that are abused try to hide from the spotlight or lash out in anger or frustration. There is no in between most of the time. The ones that are raised in a loving and secure environment are confident and outgoing or bashful. I was abused growing up. I wanted to hide and never wanted to be seen or noticed. My husband was also abused and he lashed out onto others.
Amen!!!! I was investigated for drug use because my son, at barely 4 years old said 'needles prick and hurt.' I had been sewing all of the previous weekend and was explaining why he wasn't to touch any sewing supplies. (I also put them about 8 ft high on top of a dresser if I left the room, but there's always a chance of a stray one being found, so of course I'd teach him why he shouldn't touch them!) *Edited to clarify* They assumed I must be an IV drug user, which is of course a GIANT leap from the actual 'martha-stewart-wannabe' situation that had happened haha! And not even a month ago, I had DSS at my door saying that there was an accusation of me locking my kids in their rooms all day. I showed them that their doors don't have locks, and explained that when a child says 'yeah I hate having to stay in my room all day' during a PANDEMIC where we are in LOCK DOWN, they should probably consider that it's not the parents making them stay home lol. That's the one issue I have with this show so far.... They have entered every situation with the intent of PROVING guilt, not the intent of investigating the situation. It's a major flaw in the entire DCFS/CPS/DCF model, and apparently it happens all over the world, not just in the US!
This is true, its very important to be educated with this knowledge when being confronted by a young child with any sort of accusations. My grandmother use to work as a Headstart Teacher as well as a Family Social Worker and she was told me how she was trained into not ever asking certain questions if a child is trying to communicate something to you that may sound abusive or neglectful. She also told me some stories where innocent people had there lives turned upside down due to a child saying something had happened one way when in fact there was an innocent explanation. Its very scary how easily something crazy can happen based of miscommunication or not investigating thoroughly.
My brother was 7 when he said he was ganna jump of a bridge and die. He said that cuz he wanted attention and heard about it somewhere so we were investigated. My mom was watching a movie and sent 1 audio clip from it and we got investigated. I mean there was domestic physical abuse n emotional/psychological abuse so if we didnt lie we wouldve been taken away but luckly ive always been a great liar my mom is in no way fit to raise kids. She is bipolar and is emotionally abusive but she doesn't realize it my dads gone tho so thats good...
This brought up many bitter memories for me... it's heartwarming to know that there are people out there actively trying to make sure 'disciplined' children aren't actually undergoing abuse and being traumatised. Great work
I really loved Tessa's interactions with the little girl, as someone who has had interactions with CPS it's really awesome to see when someone who works with at-risk kids excels at their job in making sure they're safe and well.
Public transport is EXCELLENT in Singapore, seriously. He should have been able to get them to school someway, unless the issue isn't really logistics..
THIS is why I'm never having kids. I have disabilities that keep me from working, and I know I'd never be able to give them the life that I want to. I'm fine with babysitting my nephew, but I know that I wouldn't be able to provide for a child longterm.
@Memcha Laishram *kelller* her last name was keller not killer lol
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@@helmiellamatilda1664 So instead, she was the first woman to attend Harvard and she was a devout Socialist. Maybe more women should try her way, marriage being what it is today. So much about HK revolves around her blindness, but she had an amazing life. She met so many very notable people, as well as kings and queens. She was brilliant.
If your disabilities are minor/ you can still move you should try foster care. Those kids need a person like you to love and care for them. The government also provides you with money to take care of them so you don't need lots of money to take care of them.My friend was a foster and she said anything was better than being in an adoption center or her abusive home.
Sadly, many times these children are the result of the adult being irresponsible from prior to their conception! They treat their children as a burden rather than the ultimate gift.
😢😔 Sometimes I wish there was some sort of mandatory certification or training. I mean if you have to get licensed to drive and be old enough to vote, surely we can't just allow gambling of another life? Had a friend from Goa who said an agency gave her a 1 week course before the wedding on what happens in married life e.g. sexually, financially etc.
Those flash cards explaining prison, showing fotos inside and out, explaining where his mum was, what she will do there etc was really cool. Often we hide things from kids that we think are upsetting and they imagine things far worse than the truth.
the child whose aunt hit him, its outrageous bc the sch told her he was being naughty and cut up his book well im not surprised he is suffering trauma bc his mother has died his father is ill and he has been moved to his aunts house all adverse child experiences he needs love and care poor baby 🕊❤️
Iam convinced that school bring more harms to students nowadays. When I was a kid, I was bullied severely and a lot of teachers witnessed how they exclude me, how I cry because I cant stand it, how I keep circling the canteen and didn't eat everyday because I was afraid to sit alone and get bullied... All at 9 years old. They done nothing. And as far as I can remember, troubled kids are severely yelled at, the teachers get so much glee abusing these 'troubled' kids. Cat pe*d on the school work last minute and the boy panicked and still dry it and bring it to school because he dont have a choice? Slap! Hit! Punch! Yell! Push! Hit! Slap! I still remember it to this day, even when 10 years passed.
Has anyone watched the documentary the Trials of Gabriel Fernandez? The Department of Child and Family Services in Los Angeles should watch this video. This is how they should go about protecting children in the US.
It's different in the US. CPS in the US is significantly under-funded, their officers way overworked (although I'm absolutely not excusing the case worker who worked on Gabriel's case). Overall, they also have many times the caseload (the end of that documentary mentioned that as many as 6M children are suspected of being abused in the US ... That's approx 1.8% of their population. An equivalent number for Singapore would be about 108,000 abused children - a population we're almost guaranteed not to have). That said, I absolutely agree that the US CPS system is in dire need of reform. They can start with consolidation of systems across states to make one national body implementing consistent standards and practices, followed by a complete overhaul of corrupt leaderships. But this is all but a pipe dream, and nothing will truly change there until they reform their corrupt politics to begin with. Their democracy is not a democracy at all.
I myself has experienced/saw physical and mental abuse when i was a child. The trauma to a child will still remain even if they grew up. I for one, think of myself as a lost soul but need to keep fighting to live and survive. I may have not been removed from my parents. But I know it is still hard for a child to experience things that they cannot grasp.
Sweetheart I’m sorry you experienced those things but please know that you have a Heavenly Father who loves you. Jesus Christ is real and he wants to be in your life. Seek him, pray with all your heart and ask him to show you. He will do it for you because he did it for me. He loves you so much.
My aunt was a social worker for over 30 years and ended up adopting 2 boys who were living in (for lack of a better term) a crack house. Thank you for all that you do!
I grew up in a very abusive household. It affected my school work, it affected my sleep, it affected me in more ways than I could ever explain. I used to wish some nice person would "save me." I tried calling the cops.. that made things worse. I tried running away, starting at age 4 .. I realize now how lucky I was that I did not get abducted and end up in an even worse situation. I'm still haunted by my childhood memories.. I envy people who had a fun and happy childhood or those who have a close, loving family. 🤷♀️ I'm only 6 minutes into the video.. When the little girl said, my dad calls my mom a "dog" it made me flashback because my dad called my Mom that many times.. and a *whore* CONSTANTLY but she really wasn't.. actually the total opposite.. my dad had been her first and only guy she had ever been with and she always wanted to live in a convent and be a nun.. sadly, she never really wanted children either.. which she made very clear, we were a burden in her life. Good times.
They were only people, weak and restricted by a lack of insight and support during their time. You sound so much more self-aware and intelligent. If you have children, have them because you want to love and know them. You are better than those who came before you. I deeply hope you experience more joy!
I am parent to a girl boy twin too and twins really do take up very much of your energy..i feel bad for the father. With an existing health condition myself, I understand fully well taking care of twins and having to cope with my own health problem is no walk in the park. I hope the children will get proper care as family environment really do break or build a child's mental and physical wellbeing.
i pray for these workers. i need to give them a round of applause. they work 24/7 i think it is crucial that the parents agree with them and respect their hard work
@@ashlingcollins2725 This video has nothing to do with false allegations, and neither does that comment. Don’t you think we should appreciate the good workers who are protecting and saving children’s lives?
Let's applaud the CPS workers👏👏👏 your job is important, you are very kind human beings. I hope your days get better and know that as long as you did your best. You did your best! Please do not have nightmares and blame yourself🙌
@@freya3841 I was protected by my teacher when my mom hit my head by the bottom of her shoes repeatedly. I went to sleep after so scared from her, without knowing my head was bleeding? Luckily, nothing major happened. After my teacher saw all the dried up blood, I was sent to another person's house to be fostered. What did I learn? I was saved and it was never Always my fault. I would never be Enough for her. Of course I was not perfect, I might have done wrongs, but at 29 years old now. I know I am not "nothing" and that even though we are never sarcastically enough for our asian parents, it is not right for my mom to beat me with a big ass wooden broom because I didnt wash dishes as soon as I got home. I am not invalidating your suffering, and theres good and bad. In my case it was life saving mostly Mentally.
There not always kind. I had false allegations made when I was pregnant and the social worker was on the side of the accuser. The police exposed his lies and turns out he has a history of making false allegations
@@ashlingcollins2725 that is great, that the truth came out but I understand sadly it caused you stress and hardship at your most precious time in your life. I know not everyone is great, not everyone does their job right. But I just want to give strength and encouraging words to the ones who really do their job from the bottom of their heart.
A:Why do you care they're not even your own children? B: I should care because they could turn into monster if you let them grow up in trauma and pain Just a little story of my friend that is a kindergarten teacher, it's so scary that human breeds just to create monsters. Those child is the future for better society.
My step dad abused me as a child and then suddenly decided he wanted nothing to do with me when I turned about 13. I'm still affected to this day and I'm 22 now. I totally feel for every single one of these poor kids
After watching all 3 parts of the video, i just wish such help could be available during my childhood time. Then i wouldn't need to suffer so much from my family... And till to-date im still seeing counselor to work on myself due to abusive and neglected childhood and the whole growing up stages went wrong. But i still want to give my utmost respect to these officers. They are brave. Unlike heartless relatives who see thing happen and not helping.
It’s crazy the amount of work put into someone missing a few days of school, but the kids that are literally being tortured are brushed off and looked passed.
I am from an Asian background and it was taboo to expose child abuse, as it was never recognised as such. I had a parent who was clinically depressed as a result of her childhood and took her frustrations out on us every single day. There was not one day of either verbal of physical abuse when we were young and this continued into our early adulthood. Now they are unable to be physical with us but the verbal abuse still continues. I am a product of my experiences of abuse, it really does destroy your self esteem and confidence to be ' normal'.
Just watched the documentary for the trials of gabriel fernandez and now this. If only the social workers could be as resilient as these here.. a child's life would have been saved
These people are everyday heroes! Great to witness such an eclectic group of people (different ages, different ethnicities, etc) come together to protect little kids :)
So the mother bragging her C-Section experience 🙄 why having children in the first place when she is not able to take care of them least bring them to school? I know childrearing is very challenging and stressful but parents should be fully aware and mature enough to face the responsibility before making one. In the end, the child is the one suffering the most 😐 A sad reality.
@@tiffprendergast I assume you mean to say that Muslim girls can't go to school after the age of 12? If that's what you believe, then that's completely wrong. You probably have never met a Muslim before. There is no age limit to education, especially in Islam. Muslims believe that the first few lines of the Quran that were sent down are ones that encourage people to read, learn and seek knowledge. The prophet Muhammad SAW's children (all daughters) were all educated. I myself am a Muslim, I wear the hijab and observe Muslim practices, and I am in my twenties in college, getting an education. There are some ridiculous extremists that prohibit this and that for the people who believe, but this is not anything that is connected to the Quran or the religion. If you were to look into it, you would find that there is no verse in the Quran that specifies that "girls should not be educated" or that their education stops only at the age of 12.
@@tiffprendergast emm, excuse me but I'm a MUSLIM GIRL (now I'm 20 years old) and have been to school from when I was 5 years old until I'm 19 years old. Now I'm waiting for one of my university applications to be approve and needless to say I've received good education since I was very little. What's your proves that Muslim girls can't go to school after they reach 12 years old ? Please do more research before making a statement. For your information Muslims are encouraged to never stop learning regardless of your gender, age or family background.
It sucks that they have to go to court just to have someone tell them that they are wrong and the kids go back to harms way. It’s like the potential for harm isn’t enough. The court doesn’t care until someone is dead.
How many kids have died, because court decision to return the child to the parents. I am 63, my childhood was hell, i had nobody to protect me. With 16 i run away from home. 10 years ago i finally broke completely with the family, i am born in. It remains a nightmare, the scares of such a childhood in abuse and fear will never heal. Thank you so much for the job you doing, it's so very important.
The Pink House father really seemed like he loved his child, the mother may love her child but her mental health will probably always get in the way. it hurt my heart that he also had to choose one or the other to support. I’m glad the child is in a safer place where she still gets to see her father but not have to deal with her mother.
ppl in the comments say “if you cant take care of kids dont have them” “why have kids if youll abuse them” but wont support abortion when in reality that could actually help these cases go down instead of having children grow up in homes that do not want them or do not have the resources to successfully take care of them and keep them healthy and safe. or unfortunately have kids being pushed onto the streets, foster care or orphanages where its hard for them to find the right place to settle in at. im thankful for these officers and their work bc it must be rlly hard but they have patience and rlly are helpful.
A.C.K tube thats not what im saying at all?? what im getting at is the fact most females who want an abortion want to bc they know they’ll be unable to care for the child, or that they see themselves as a not fit parent. the world is also already very over populated, children are in orphanages and foster homes with no one to take them in yet people wanna keep making babies. foster homes can be abusive. if the mother isn’t able to provide for the child its seen as neglect or unfit parenting. something that would lower cases like these is allowing woman to get an abortion if they feel its needed, its her body anyways and she shouldn’t be told what to do. and literally you can only have abortions at a certain time, they are not fully developed children yet and are barely anything, its not killing a child at all, they’re basically a clump of cells and blood and mucus. like??
@@tryingmybest5141 exactly my point. and you only have so long to get an abortion before its too late, which in that time span its not even an actual baby yet and definitely not “murder”. if people could actually get abortions safely and comfortably then there would be less children growing up in harmful environments.
I was a victim of child abuse when i was five. My father tried to break my neck out of frustration from a fight with my mother. He was often abusive to me, my older sister and my mother. But i was always the main source to his abuse as my older sister wasn't as much as a target and my mother. Hit hit my mum with his car when i was still in her stomach. Until this day sometimes i have to be hidden because of the threats he still sends my mother. Even with warrants against him he still doesn't care.
5:44 you can almost hear the kid kinda laugh a little as she answers, it just goes to show how children aren’t able to detect when theyre in an abusive home and the CPS does an amazing job of taking care of those kids. Its not a job I could handle and its honestly inspiring to see such heroes in our world 💕 There really should be a test or something to see if you can take care of a child- some people really arent meant to be parents.
I just don’t understand how as a parent you could do anything to leave your child in state where they feel panicked, uncertain and worried that you might return or never return. The world is harsh enough, there has to be a soft place for children. However you choose to discipline children there has to be a lesson, you can’t just beat a child and expect them to learn a lesson. If you discipline out of anger you are failing.
I hate how it's ok to hit a kid, but hitting your spouse or even a stranger is called "assault". Why aren't both assault? Hitting a child is also worse, because they really can't defend themselves...
I remember running into a CPS lady as a 4 or 5 year old. It's one of my most vivid memories. The neighbors (duplex) herd my fathers abuse and called CPS having had enough. I was home alone at the time. No idea where my parents where, or where my siblings were. Completely open about how mean daddy was mean and how I ate at the neighbors. To be honest I have no childhood memories of eating at home meal until my parents divorce. CPS lady said she would be back and left-never came back. May I note at the time I was growth stunted and my favorite jacket was a 2T. She never asked me my age, not like I could have told her though. For many years there was signs of abuse but I never seen CPS again. Really wish they would have stepped in.
I'm really sorry you had to go thru that. I hope things are better for you now, & that you know you didn't deserve to be treated badly & that none of it was your fault. All the best.
My mom was in cps and she just broke down with a mental breakdown. It’s a very hard job, kids getting killed just bc you’re making a visit to ensure their safety. It hurts to take a child away especially if you have children , you wouldn’t ever want people to take your own kids away so it’s just tough.
I was aiming to get into child protection but I decided to work In Resi while studying. There's good and bad being a child protection worker I figured working hands on with the kids and supporting them while being away from their homes is what I'm keen on doing at the moment. So many broken kids in the system as a result of being abused and removed from their homes. It's so sad.
Why would you separate children from their siblings? WHY? Siblings should live together. It's good to help children but the siblings did nothing to each other so why are they being separated and not being put in the same home?
My father was a social worker for a long time and ended up managing the service. I saw how hard he worked and the hours that he put into his job... I will never forget it. He made me very proud, god bless his soul ❤
@@ashlingcollins2725 don't tar everyone with the same brush.. I've known of some awful social workers, but I've also known of some wonderful ones who have saved lives.
everyone just got to know that you don’t get any awards for becoming parents so before deciding to be one all of us must remember that and fully understand the capacity and responsibility before taking care of the lives you will be creating.
The social workers need to understand that siblings being separated is just as traumatic as the abuse , so if their concern is based around the impact of the child then they should make that just as much of a priority
The thing is nobody will wanna take your child if you do the right thing by taking care of them. I've been through this before when I was young with an abusive dad but never had been taken away because my mum was there to ensure the officers that my dad will never hurt us. My mum was the sane one and she always making sure we get the education we needed. But we had times when dad pull us out of school because he doesn't want us to study, so the officers came looking for us and making sure my dad allows us to go school the next day. The officers job is to protect the vulnerable children who might be a potential to abuse and neglect, be responsible parents and no one will take your children away from you. I would rather to have CPOs like them than having the ones who involved in Gabriel Fernandez case in United States.
If you hate seeing children broken then you will be exposing yourself to it by becoming a foster parent. My wife wants to do it as well and I told her no. My foster parents were abusive and I refuse to become one
Kevin w Shouldn’t having had abusive foster parents in the past serve as a reason for u to encourage your wife(someone u trust) to take in foster kids? So that you can prevent other kids from going through similar experiences?
Also you could be really attached to the child but you could foster if you want and learn from the experiences of your past foster parents. And not all foster parents are abusive just saying
thank you for this! brought back memories of working with colleagues from CPS about 7 years ago, they’re amazing! I was working in the disability sector and we worked with children as well. I do recall the few times I passed by the CPS office and can sense the stress emanating from it 🙃
Even though this job is stressful, I am glad that people like you are all willing to protect the children no matter what. I am feeling very touch because I didn't know that existed this kind of service! I wish you all the best!!!
Im Kuelll Gremlin With kids being so young especially with abuse they are scared to say what exactly is going on. So they have to coax them. They aren’t invalidating their voices. They are having bigger voice to take action and do what they can to take a child out of an abusive environment.
@@m0nnie_ those guys aren't, but the fact they are afraid means people often brush them off or punish them, even when kids do come forward they are often mot believed
@@imkuelllgremlin I understand what you mean. I think it does need to change parents often devalue anything their child says. I'm 20 now and my mom still interrupts me, ignores me and laughs at anything I have to say. One one hand it shows how insignificant your voice is but it's your parent and if anyone should listen to you it should be them. However, in abuse cases its good to have proffesinals who can deal with the legality of things and face adults because children can't do that themselves or if they do it'll turn dangerous.
I really feel for the dad with the heart condition. It seems that he really loves his kids, and they have a lot of fun together. I feel bad for him not being able to take care of the kids due to his condition. ❤
I‘m amazed how some parents are the same worldwide. And also how overwhelmed some parents are with care taking of one child but keep having more. Bless the officers🙏🏻
I remember being those 2 boys at the beginning, I have a sister 5 years younger than me too and we were in a horrible home with the same reasons why they were taken out. I know the pain of wanting food and being scared, but I hid those feelings to protect my sister at the time, I made sure she didn't get hit or abused, fed as best as I could give her, bathe her, change her diapers while my mom and boyfriend were snorting meth. I was 8 years old at the time with a 3-year-old who isn't supposed to be in diapers anymore. I always had to step in when my mom would start parties, I took care of the whole household. It was horrible and tiring but I don't regret it bc my sister would never have had someone there for her and my mom would have never gotten help sooner. Who do I blame for it? Her boyfriend. He introduced her to it, so I blame him for everything. But the pain of being taken away still hurt. I was able to process the fact that my mom probably won't get better any time soon and that we won't be the same family as we were a year before she met her boyfriend. That sudden realization hurt so much when she said goodbye to me and my baby sister. I remember not crying at first like the boy in the video, I just smiled. I smiled and laughed like it was gonna be ok, to show my sister that it was fine to smile again. But the moment she left and I went to my room, I cried so hard for hours on end. I kept asking "Why did mommy listen to her boyfriend? Why can't I have a mommy? Why can't I have parents like everyone else?" and I kept on crying until eventually a few days later we were officially taken out of our home. I basically fought with the workers and tried hitting them with a lamp to not take me away, but probably bc I didn't fully understand what was going on with my mom and how harmful she was and is. After that, I didn't trust adults for 3 years. I slept with my sister in the same bed like I always had, held her close to me as I slept on the edge of the bed so that I know she is safe. A habit that I shouldn't have been experiencing that led to trust issues, anxiety, depression, and insomnia bc it scared me to death that if I fell asleep someone would hurt us. And then the promises she made that she'll get better, that she'll visit us. But she never did. I never blamed her for any actions bc most of it was on her boyfriend, it changed after I got older and realized that she was 25 and should have realized. The trauma that parents cause kids. Don't have kids at a young age, like a teenager or something. WAIT until you feel you are ready and can provide them with love and care. DON'T scare your kids and FEED them. Ofc everyone should know that but sometimes some people need to get it through their thick skull like my mom and her boyfriend (pls don't take offense but it just saddens me that children have to go through this like how I did, and having parents who have thick skulls that don't think twice) Children shouldn't have to have trust issues around childhood years, let alone depression, insomnia, eating disorders, etc. They should be playing with other kids, BEING a kid themselves, eating and sleeping healthier. God some parents/adults are just not meant to have kids, either foster care parents or parents in general
I cried reading your comment. How have you been doing? How's your sister? It breaks my heart to know that you have to take a role as an adult in such very young age. I hope you guys are doing alright.
did you managed to ever talk to you again? Honestly, to me 25 is young to have a child. My sis have a kid at 24 if im right (we are not close at all). She married a drug user, and Im pretty sure the toddler is autistic since she cant talk at 3 years old, not even a word, potty by herself and exhibit a lot of autistic behaviors. I wish I can say that I helped her, but to be honest, my family is not doing financially good, And Im just 20 years old thats on my way to get my degree. I dont think I can even tell my parents that their grand daughter is a autistic since not only then they have to use a lot of money for her therapies, but also because being autistic is hugely frowned upon here. I probably ruin the kid's life if I tell everyone that's shes autistic. Honestly, im not even sure. Sometime I hear my sis yelling at her own kid. I mean.. Why get pregnant when you don't want a kid then???
I hope you're doing well now and you seem like a great big brother! May this life bless you with all the things you deserve because you're definitely deserving. I am so proud of you !
I'm an adult survivor of severe child abuse. I remember DEFAC was used as a threat by my mother at many times. If us children made her mad, she would say that they would take us away. I understand how critical this work is and that you MUST get it right. This agency cannot be misused nor should its powers be abused. I pray for wisdom and insight for the case workers. I hope that others like myself can become advocates for abuse children because we know what's happening on their side of things. I hope that the workers can be cared for so that they don't become burned out or hardened because that's when it would be time to leave the field. God bless you all for sharing this video and for those of us who are here trying to learn.
Thank you for producing this series, coming from an abusive family and having been through the same experiences these children have undergone as well, it is very heartwarming to see that there are, in fact people who care and they are getting the much deserved recognition for that. My heart goes out to all the people who stand at the frontline to keep children safe, thank you
The father and the twins was just painful. That father is clearly not in a good state of mind. His lack of interest in playing with his kids, telling them they don’t miss him. Totally inappropriate.
Okay this man doesn’t make sense!! He stopped using dope in 1990 but he was in prison/jail 4 times for drug charges up until 2018. Sooo he clearly, VERY CLEARLY didn’t stop using in 1990!
My father beat me so savagely when drunk that I was literally cover in black and blue marks. I was 7 or 8. I will never be normal as a result of it. I am often suicidal. That was 45 years ago. Please don't beat your children.
John Doe please take care ❤️
John Doe
I am suicidal too
Judy GD please take care of yourself ❤️ I know. the world is a scary place right now and that can’t be helping people’s mental health/existing mental health but please seek the help of another before hurting yourself. I’ve been where you are and constantly told myself “never solve a temporary situation, with a permanent solution.” You’re want here and you are loved, please seek help and company if being alone feels too much, take care ❤️
@@hannacarter9782
I will be looking for job All by myself I really have no choice Noone to depend on Now you know why I feel I am better off dead than alive
@@judygd8749 i was suicidal at 15/16 trust me attempting to take your own life is not a good idea it will not be worth it trust me on that
Just proves not everyone was born with a maternal instincts and not everyone was meant to be a parent.
It breaks my heart because I know so many women who would make amazing mothers and may never have the chance and then some people are blessed with living children but are too stupid to realize how lucky they are.
Beccy 0 True, life is so cruel and unfair at times.
Probably because many people are pressured into having children they don't want. You try telling people you don't want children and they will literally attack you like crazy.
@@supersidjapan2267 so true tho
I do believe the majority have the instinct but drugs and drinking messes them up
What a stressful job it must be for the officers. Respect for their patience and efforts.
It is a difficult job. Done it since 1989. One has to truly believe in job to do it. You are hated by the public and the families. Plus used by government, for their lack of financial support. Thank you for the respect.
It's criminal, kids Belong to their parents not goverment, officers should be killed....if parents commit crime put them in jail if not don't separate them from their kids
@@curiousgeorge6921 1) Criminal means against the law, so which law(s) did this organization contravene?
2) Parents do not objectively belong with anyone, they can belong with parents, volunteers, grandparents. The conventional view is that parents are the best suited to take care of their children due to maternal/paternal instinct born from human biology and societal expectation from social psychology; but such assumption do not hold true in all cases.
3) So when governments put parents in jail they are not separated from their kids?
4 [related to 3]) Generally when parents commit crimes they should be punished, but the world is full of unprosecuted criminals. Our justice system simply cannot prosecute and process every single crime, there may be cases where the parents' crime is insufficient for institutionalization but still disqualify them as proper childcare givers.
5) How dare you curse them with death, you are a horrible human being that "should be killed" so that you do not harm others.
curious george children don’t belong to their parents. They are their own person. Not an extension of their parents and deserve to have their rights protected.
🙏
Side note, The father that was accused of abusing his wife, when asked why did he push her...his response was “she’s the type of person..”. Can we just take that in for a second. A man. That is accused of abusing his wife. When asked. About abusing her. JUSTIFIES IT. And bLAMES HER. I am very scared about that situation. I pray that the wife is safe.
Samantha Golper - I pray that that wife is GONE - living on her own now, creating her own life, not suffering under his nasty moods.
Amber herd.. maybe thats what he ment.. there are more then just amber whos crazy af. Not saying thats for sure what happened. But u never know.
Yes Amen praying also
that’s not a man, that’s a scumbag
I think both of them are scumbags, not just the dad.
The father with the heart disease genuinely seems like a nice person. Its just because of his heart disease that he is stuck in this situation.
Loving father. I fear that the active children will affect his healing process
I hope he gets a new heart donated to him
One drug test isn’t enough. Notice the neglected child’s food insecurity. Then child curled up as small as possible and covering his face didn’t want his father called. So many indicators.
I think he just didn't want to worry his father because it seemed like they had a good relationship, it also seemed like cps was willing to leave the children with but because of his work ours it wouldn't be possible. I feel bad for the kids and the dad
Women especially can get around a drug test pretty easily
@@amberlinmchugh8115 how do you know have you been in there shoe`s because you can`t assume anything if your not seeing it .so are you a drug user ?? Please DO Tell .!
@@wendyfrazee5263 yes, faked drug tests for 20 yrs. I don't have kids but saw the system at work while I was in prison
They are easy to pass as well. I did for years using sadly- even the so called supervised ones- they have a kit for that too. It’s sick what addicts will do to pass them. I honestly don’t think many workers know or understand much about fake urine or urine kits... I never hear them say “well one negetive doesn’t mean they aren’t using let’s do a hair sample or blood sample to be sure” when they are suspected of drugs and pass... red flags all over. I would make such a good social worker with my experiences but I can’t deal with neglect at all. I would kick the door in and kidnap the kids instead of filing paperwork and follow ups. So yeah: I may be a recovered addict but I never abused a child. And I never will.
I hate when people tell others (especially kids) not to feel a certain way.
Emotional invalidation is so, so harmful. It's underrated. People don't realize how damaging it can be to a child's mental health in the long run.
pixie1310 yup or you’ll get over it haha
Tiff Prendergast I’m sorry for your trauma
Yeah, I had that and also that people tried verry hard to form me a certain way.
The result:
Unability to progress own emotion and from others, depression, development issues, unability to put feelings into words or to even know them, and and and.
Don't do this to others, please!
Especially when a child is scared or hurt
The daddy and the twins were very heartbreaking to watch, they obviously love their father a lot. I hope they end up happy and well in the end.
It's criminal to separate kids from parents..if they committed a crime then put them in jail that's it if you want to help send helpers to assist not separate it's insanity
curious george Parents can easily manipulate situations involving abuse because they don’t value the words of their children.
@@curiousgeorge6921 a lot of children need to be taken away from their parents and placed with parents that will love them and provide for them. I've seen kids come in covered in fleas and with head trauma from being beaten and 4 year olds still nursing on mom.....
The case with the father and twins was tragic but likely hes going to pass on from the heart failure if hes sleeping all day long :( :(
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@@ohemdoublegee how does nursing a 4 year old indicate abuse? Not something I would do but also I have never equated it to abuse either
The biggest regret of my life, even to this day, was when I lied to cps in order to protect my abusive parents, if I hadn't lied, I would have been rescued from them, abusive parents shouldn't be parents.
You probably lied because it wasn't that bad. Unless you wanna tell me about the abuse.
@@zarmadyl5038 no, they probably were TOLD to lie, children are innocent and they were probably scared of the punishment they may have faced.
@@idkihaveaname845 I mean I cannot relate. But let's not forget your upbringing and mine isn't the same but maybe people would agree even I was abused. I've been hit by my father and been told bad stuff, being angry at me sometimes. But not beaten as abusive hit. As of being hit I remember max 1 hit like a slap each time and maybe i've been hit 4-5 times in my life and alot of anger towards me for some mistakes.
I would lie because I love my family and some hit doesn't bother me much. I literally forgot about them shortly. Like usually after being hit I went to sleep and when I woke up it was laughing again.
Now I'm old. I love my family and I have respect. Even tho I disagree alot with my dad and I wouldn't do what he did. I would say if child protection would take us away from my parents I would be devestated and that would be the ultimate abuse.
Now maybe some says but some have it way worse in form of abuse. Yeah 100% but it doesn't change the fact that both the government and society would actually force me into child protection back then if they ever found out. That's my issue. That's abusive towards the family and the children.
Child care is needed when it's it's consistent abuse, drugs involved, harsh beating or day in and out screaming.
The toughest one is a parent who hates their child that one cannot be fixed easily and drug addict parents.
For the rest, the government should have clear watch on parents and educate them so very soon maybe they can be with their child again not just totally ignore as if it shall be a permanent change or atlesat until the kids are 18+.
@@zarmadyl5038 What?
Not your fault honey
I love seeing how Mrs. Tessa interacted with the little girl. She was so happy and upbeat and kept telling her how smart she is. She does a great job and getting the child to know they can trust her and she’s there to help and protect them.
ikrr! when i saw her n how she interacted w the kid, i can tell shes a very wholesome human being🥺😩🙏🏻
I fell victim to vindictive behaviors of someone and they kept calling Child Protective Services on me. They told them my children are living without basic necessities, such as food, shelter etc. My fridge, freezer, cupboards and pantry are packed full. They opened and closed the case the same day. Sometimes a lot of these calls are false information and what people do not understand is that they are taking away time and resources from children and families who truly need them. Just because you do not like someone, do not call CPS and try to break apart a family!! It's sick and not to mention it is illegal as some have found out!
Mom2 bzl Did the person get karma for what dey did to you? Also im so sorry that it happened to you, i wish best of luck for you
The good thing though is that if it is false you will be ok but if it’s not reported and is true, children die!! I would much rather people report things that they think they might see than to close their eyes, because “it’s not their business”.
I had them called on me by someone who was just mad at me. Should be a crime
@@marianstevens5567 100% agree.
They are responisble to inverstergate every report, rather one check to much than one too little.
“The judge felt there was no immediate safety concerns...” sends chills down my spine...
thats what they said to me too 💀💀
@Cathy Burnham im no expert but half the time or even more the children end up dead!
That’s because judges are just cashiers... here to cash out based on the case and locking people up.. not judging for balance.. sad. We all neeed to wake up to what’s going on around us & protect our children
@@KQuinn672 more kids end up dead in the system. And the cases CPS should look into- they don’t. PERIOD!
Looks like the judge is waiting for kid's death
So sad 😞 the boy was so hungry that that he almost puked from eating. They asked neighbors for food... that hurts my heart :(
I cried at that part.. no one goes hungry in my house..
I was shocked when they were so hungry and hadn't eaten all day, and probably many days before that, CPS went out and got McDonald's for them !! Geez - get them some healthy food that will help to re-energize their bodies and make their tummies feel full at least overnight. Coke and fries before bed is not a good choice
He was also chubby and clean so I hope they make sure he just didn't want goodies.
@@2ndhandSue he needed calories
@@leeleybanna6126 You can fact check me, but from what I've learned, short sprints of starvation can lead to your body turning anything that isn't used quickly into fat more than normal. It's so you have more fat to burn during the periods of starvation. You don't become "skin and bones" till you're not eating hardly more than scraps. When there's not even enough food to even store as fat.
“We can go fishing on the weekends.”
“Yaaaaay!”
That honestly warmed my heart. That poor dad clearly loves his sons, it must be so hard for him having lost his wife and living with a heart condition, on top of being a single dad.
I called CPS several times about this child I've seen in my last school in the Special Needs, nothing happened. She had bruises, she was sooo skinny, and she always had bugs crawling on her. They said that she gets fed at home so she's ok and never went back to check on her. Dani was "accidentally" run over by her parents car 3 months later... so sad how some children are looked over or can't get the attention needed by officers
Poor kid I’m studying to become a special education teacher. It’s my passion
id call the police tbh
Thats hella suspicious, I would’ve kept a close eye on her as much as possible to make sure she was okay.
Sometimes it's the total history of a child's report over years. Sometimes it's the credibility of the reporter.
The women arguing with the social worker had me shaking my head... So what if you have C section? So what if you have a newborn? Most mothers went through exactly what she went through and they still send their kids to school. Did she really think she is allowed not to send her kids to school for 4 days? The father with fractured hand couldn't send his kids to help his wife... Dude, this is just laziness. These two should know that they have consensual sex and birthed three children, there is no excuse to neglect your children's needs, otherwise don't have children for god sake!
LJQ Carina yes!
But we don't really know her mental state. The baby blue are real.
I mean some people have really hard times recovering from C sections but the father seems like a box of excuses. There seems to be tons of tension in the house like she said about coming home and having to clean cause the place was destroyed. Yelling at the social worker was super premature tho as she's just trying to help.
even blind parents send their kids to school... wtf??
@@Julie-jl2kk Come on that's insulting to blind parents comparing them to trash
That dad that’s sick I really feel for him. He is raising two active children and is very sick w little support. If he doesn’t take care of his health he won’t be around.
yes... is there any ways we can help him?
@@serene9239 he needs a donor heart.
Yeah its sad. If he's not around, who would take care of the children
As a very ill parent, not having energy for your child is one of the hardest parts. I feel so much for him.
I don’t feel for him. The way he talks to his children is toxic
The poor little boy shoving food in his mouth coz hes so hungry, that's very sad.
you can even tell he's starving, it's so unfortunate to watch :(
@@eightfoottallman sometimes it's not even about hunger.
My mother has an eating disorder rooted in her childhood trauma being neglected and not having food security. When her episode comes, we have to tell her to stop eating because "My stomach sometimes feels like a bottomless pit," and she can't feel full at all.
Thankfully it was far and few in between, but I can't imagine how hard it is to be my mom.
ikr.. even if i had so much food and was starving id savor it because mcdonalds is good af and any food i love i savor (for some reason, even if i eat 3 meals a day)
And then there is my kids that refuse to eat cause they don't like it or just don't want to. Or even waste food. Sickening. I'm Gunna show them this and let them see how some kids don't have what they have
@@blvdurocher3255 Don’t do that, they wouldn’t understand that and you’ll just minimize the reason why they don’t want to eat. Sometimes when children don’t want to eat, avoid certain food or being restrictive, it can be an eating disorder too or something else . So pay attention and don’t forced them to eat specific food please.
Ps : My bad, English isn’t my mother tongue…
“I don’t want to say bad things about other people...”
But has no problem beating women and neglecting his children
That little boy shoveling food in his mouth so fast is the saddest thing I’ve ever seen😭 You know he hasn’t been fed at home😥
I would associate neglect with unwillingness to care for the child, so why are these parents so keen to keep them at home?? Its messing up my mind
they fear that what they do will be found out from people outside and they will be scorned for it. many still think they must portray a proper family on the outside and will always tell their kids to lie or keep the internal home affairs hush hush
And depending on their income, the government may be giving them financial support because of their children. If the children get taken away, money also stops. I dunno if this is the case in this country - but it is the case in mine.
I think there can be many reasons. They might not want the children in order to love and care for them, but they might want the children as possessions. They might see them as things to play with and to let out frustrations on. They might enjoy manipulating them and using them. They might even just like to uphold the pretense of a happy family, and they need the children at home so that neighbours and family will think they're a normal family. Psychologically, they probably don't want to admit to being bad parents because they don't want to have a negative self-image, they want to continue to think of themselves as powerful and justified in their actions.
@@anythingyouwant448 you nailed it. It's about getting a bigger check from the government
Kevin J This is a very prevalent problem, especially in the UK. If you don’t have a job but have kids, instant money. And the larger the number of kids, the larger the cheque.
That little girl in the pink jacket is one sharp cookie. She doesn't miss much.
Not to mention her ability to remember details, communicate them clearly & make sure the child protection officer is writing down what she is saying correctly. I noticed how she is looking at what is being written down. That means her reading ability is much more advanced than those within her age group. God bless her school. She is every teacher's dream & she will go far in life.
Do you have a time stamp?
@@ilikeudonnoodles i think they were talking about 4:11-5:50? If so yeah she’s really smart, i feel bad about how her parents always push their anger on her. Brings back bad memories
@@wyv_3rn thanks for the time stamp 🤗
@@PrincessAmenRa Yeah when you need to raise yourself those habits tend to happen.
I can see that in Singapore CPS reaally does care about the safety of the children. Unfortunately Here in the USA they go after the wrong parents and let the bad parents continue to harm their kids. I have seen with my own eyes how they attack good families and ignore the bad ones.
Happened to a friend of mine... her son had an accident and she was treated like a monster for 2 years... meanwhile the same caseworker had another child nearly DIE cause they wouldn't check on him.... its disgusting...
Thats why i dont wanna ever get pregnant again
I don't think that's really true. I've heard a lot of stories about "good families" being "attacked". When you I dig a little deeper, the parent with the sob story usually isn't being totally honest or didn't comply with court ordered drug tests or something.
@@babymaude8469 I mean, it's pretty well documented and not hard to find these kind of cases. I can think of a dozen right off the top of my head. Unfortunately, there's very little oversight in family courts and people aren't afforded rights like they are in other types of court (general sessions, traffic, criminal, etc)
omg so true. why does that happen?
The resilience of these kids are amazing. They grow up in such an environment and they still smile and trust people.
My heart broke seeing the bond the twins had with the father :(
I don't think they had child protective service when I was a young child, the teachers were told to just look away when they saw the bruises on me. I had two concussions in a year, my father would beat me with a belt for 15 mins and I was not aloud to cry, my back was bruised from my neck to the middle of my back. The most painful was the emotional abuse my mom loved to be cruel, harsh, and mean. giving my sister the best treatment while telling me I was stupid and that she hated me and wished I was never born.
Are you 90?
They've had it for decades.
i hope u are happy now
I got punched but immediate regret and apologies this happened once but my mom got mental health issues
im so sorry for your bad childhood experience :( nobody deserves this. i hope you will find true happiness in the times to come.
although, cps has been around since a long time, it was not widely known and used previously. people didnt dared or knew the hotline previously. its only more commonly thought of in the recent years.
I'm so sorry. Are you okay now? Sometimes I wish I could hug everyone who has suffered abuse... No one deserves to be neglected, hated and abused.
When the twins were playing with their dad it absolutely broke me 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Word of Advice: Be very careful when children tell you things, because sometimes they might mistake their words or take something that isn't abuse as abuse. An example of what a mother told me recently: She has a child with Autism who was recently taught at his school along with is classmates who to talk too if they feel they are being abused. One day his mother refused to give him sweets, so he told the school he was being abuse, causing a visit from social services to the school along with teachers as the mother had to come in and sort out the situation. Luckily for her, the boy revealed it was because his mother didn't give him sweets that he felt abused. Nothing happened after that. Another example is what happened in my place of work: I work with very young children (ages 0-3 years). I witnessed a little boy gently tap onto a little girl's arm. She was perfectly fine and didn't show an signs of distress. The following day, when her father dropped her off, he explained that his daughter had told him a child was "breaking her arm". I explained what I witnessed as my boss had to explain to the father how some children around that age can make over-the-top stories of what really happened. I'm not trying to suggest don't believe everything a child says, but make sure you always get the facts from other resources before making a judgement. It's never the children's fault if what they say isn't 100% true, sometimes they can feel scared when put on the spot light or get confused by their own story or mix their words up.
That’s why you watch the child. Their mannerisms and the way they hold themselves. Many that are abused try to hide from the spotlight or lash out in anger or frustration. There is no in between most of the time. The ones that are raised in a loving and secure environment are confident and outgoing or bashful. I was abused growing up. I wanted to hide and never wanted to be seen or noticed. My husband was also abused and he lashed out onto others.
Amen!!!! I was investigated for drug use because my son, at barely 4 years old said 'needles prick and hurt.'
I had been sewing all of the previous weekend and was explaining why he wasn't to touch any sewing supplies. (I also put them about 8 ft high on top of a dresser if I left the room, but there's always a chance of a stray one being found, so of course I'd teach him why he shouldn't touch them!) *Edited to clarify* They assumed I must be an IV drug user, which is of course a GIANT leap from the actual 'martha-stewart-wannabe' situation that had happened haha!
And not even a month ago, I had DSS at my door saying that there was an accusation of me locking my kids in their rooms all day. I showed them that their doors don't have locks, and explained that when a child says 'yeah I hate having to stay in my room all day' during a PANDEMIC where we are in LOCK DOWN, they should probably consider that it's not the parents making them stay home lol.
That's the one issue I have with this show so far.... They have entered every situation with the intent of PROVING guilt, not the intent of investigating the situation. It's a major flaw in the entire DCFS/CPS/DCF model, and apparently it happens all over the world, not just in the US!
This is true, its very important to be educated with this knowledge when being confronted by a young child with any sort of accusations. My grandmother use to work as a Headstart Teacher as well as a Family Social Worker and she was told me how she was trained into not ever asking certain questions if a child is trying to communicate something to you that may sound abusive or neglectful. She also told me some stories where innocent people had there lives turned upside down due to a child saying something had happened one way when in fact there was an innocent explanation. Its very scary how easily something crazy can happen based of miscommunication or not investigating thoroughly.
My brother was 7 when he said he was ganna jump of a bridge and die. He said that cuz he wanted attention and heard about it somewhere so we were investigated. My mom was watching a movie and sent 1 audio clip from it and we got investigated. I mean there was domestic physical abuse n emotional/psychological abuse so if we didnt lie we wouldve been taken away but luckly ive always been a great liar my mom is in no way fit to raise kids. She is bipolar and is emotionally abusive but she doesn't realize it my dads gone tho so thats good...
That child over reacted because that is what they see. Kids just don’t inherently know things.. is what they learn from the “adults” in their lives
This brought up many bitter memories for me... it's heartwarming to know that there are people out there actively trying to make sure 'disciplined' children aren't actually undergoing abuse and being traumatised. Great work
I really loved Tessa's interactions with the little girl, as someone who has had interactions with CPS it's really awesome to see when someone who works with at-risk kids excels at their job in making sure they're safe and well.
Can't take his children to school because of a sore hand 🤦♀️
dear god my mum is like that but with shopping for food, at least i get an education
He might not be able to drive a car with one hand but still my mom has knee problems and she took me to school for a while
Public transport is EXCELLENT in Singapore, seriously. He should have been able to get them to school someway, unless the issue isn't really logistics..
Yeah, and yet they can go vivo shopping... Jeez.
THIS is why I'm never having kids. I have disabilities that keep me from working, and I know I'd never be able to give them the life that I want to. I'm fine with babysitting my nephew, but I know that I wouldn't be able to provide for a child longterm.
Thanks for recognicing the fact
@Memcha Laishram *kelller* her last name was keller not killer lol
@@helmiellamatilda1664 So instead, she was the first woman to attend Harvard and she was a devout Socialist. Maybe more women should try her way, marriage being what it is today. So much about HK revolves around her blindness, but she had an amazing life. She met so many very notable people, as well as kings and queens. She was brilliant.
If your disabilities are minor/ you can still move you should try foster care. Those kids need a person like you to love and care for them. The government also provides you with money to take care of them so you don't need lots of money to take care of them.My friend was a foster and she said anything was better than being in an adoption center or her abusive home.
So much respect to you for realizing that
Sadly, many times these children are the result of the adult being irresponsible from prior to their conception! They treat their children as a burden rather than the ultimate gift.
😢😔 Sometimes I wish there was some sort of mandatory certification or training. I mean if you have to get licensed to drive and be old enough to vote, surely we can't just allow gambling of another life? Had a friend from Goa who said an agency gave her a 1 week course before the wedding on what happens in married life e.g. sexually, financially etc.
Those flash cards explaining prison, showing fotos inside and out, explaining where his mum was, what she will do there etc was really cool. Often we hide things from kids that we think are upsetting and they imagine things far worse than the truth.
I love my two boys so much. I dont know how anyone could treat their children like this. My boys come first and always will!
Ikr! I have a daughter and just seeing these children suffer made me cry so bad!
@@skrrbaby it's awful isnt it. I love my kids to death I'd do anything for them🥺x
the child whose aunt hit him, its outrageous bc the sch told her he was being naughty and cut up his book well im not surprised he is suffering trauma bc his mother has died his father is ill and he has been moved to his aunts house all adverse child experiences he needs love and care poor baby 🕊❤️
Pft i am not surprised that a aunt would hurt him
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Iam convinced that school bring more harms to students nowadays. When I was a kid, I was bullied severely and a lot of teachers witnessed how they exclude me, how I cry because I cant stand it, how I keep circling the canteen and didn't eat everyday because I was afraid to sit alone and get bullied... All at 9 years old.
They done nothing. And as far as I can remember, troubled kids are severely yelled at, the teachers get so much glee abusing these 'troubled' kids. Cat pe*d on the school work last minute and the boy panicked and still dry it and bring it to school because he dont have a choice?
Slap! Hit! Punch! Yell! Push! Hit! Slap!
I still remember it to this day, even when 10 years passed.
Has anyone watched the documentary the Trials of Gabriel Fernandez? The Department of Child and Family Services in Los Angeles should watch this video. This is how they should go about protecting children in the US.
It's different in the US. CPS in the US is significantly under-funded, their officers way overworked (although I'm absolutely not excusing the case worker who worked on Gabriel's case).
Overall, they also have many times the caseload (the end of that documentary mentioned that as many as 6M children are suspected of being abused in the US ... That's approx 1.8% of their population. An equivalent number for Singapore would be about 108,000 abused children - a population we're almost guaranteed not to have).
That said, I absolutely agree that the US CPS system is in dire need of reform. They can start with consolidation of systems across states to make one national body implementing consistent standards and practices, followed by a complete overhaul of corrupt leaderships.
But this is all but a pipe dream, and nothing will truly change there until they reform their corrupt politics to begin with. Their democracy is not a democracy at all.
I saw it on Netflix and it broke my heart!😪
Agree
liveiria yes thank you
Yes. So very tragic and heartbreaking. I watched it a couple of weeks ago, and it's still playing on my mind. Pure evil.
I myself has experienced/saw physical and mental abuse when i was a child. The trauma to a child will still remain even if they grew up. I for one, think of myself as a lost soul but need to keep fighting to live and survive. I may have not been removed from my parents. But I know it is still hard for a child to experience things that they cannot grasp.
Sweetheart I’m sorry you experienced those things but please know that you have a Heavenly Father who loves you. Jesus Christ is real and he wants to be in your life. Seek him, pray with all your heart and ask him to show you. He will do it for you because he did it for me. He loves you so much.
@@JesusLovesYouSoMuch1 💀💀
My aunt was a social worker for over 30 years and ended up adopting 2 boys who were living in (for lack of a better term) a crack house. Thank you for all that you do!
I grew up in a very abusive household.
It affected my school work, it affected my sleep, it affected me in more ways than I could ever explain.
I used to wish some nice person would "save me."
I tried calling the cops.. that made things worse.
I tried running away, starting at age 4 .. I realize now how lucky I was that I did not get abducted and end up in an even worse situation.
I'm still haunted by my childhood memories..
I envy people who had a fun and happy childhood or those who have a close, loving family.
🤷♀️
I'm only 6 minutes into the video..
When the little girl said, my dad calls my mom a "dog" it made me flashback because my dad called my Mom that many times.. and a *whore* CONSTANTLY but she really wasn't.. actually the total opposite.. my dad had been her first and only guy she had ever been with and she always wanted to live in a convent and be a nun.. sadly, she never really wanted children either.. which she made very clear, we were a burden in her life.
Good times.
They were only people, weak and restricted by a lack of insight and support during their time. You sound so much more self-aware and intelligent. If you have children, have them because you want to love and know them. You are better than those who came before you. I deeply hope you experience more joy!
I am parent to a girl boy twin too and twins really do take up very much of your energy..i feel bad for the father. With an existing health condition myself, I understand fully well taking care of twins and having to cope with my own health problem is no walk in the park. I hope the children will get proper care as family environment really do break or build a child's mental and physical wellbeing.
i pray for these workers. i need to give them a round of applause. they work 24/7 i think it is crucial that the parents agree with them and respect their hard work
What about false allegation
@@ashlingcollins2725 This video has nothing to do with false allegations, and neither does that comment. Don’t you think we should appreciate the good workers who are protecting and saving children’s lives?
@@blue1584 she is all over the comments telling abuse victims to think about false allegations, she sounds like a narcissist to me
Let's applaud the CPS workers👏👏👏 your job is important, you are very kind human beings. I hope your days get better and know that as long as you did your best. You did your best! Please do not have nightmares and blame yourself🙌
I still have night terrors over being ripped away from my mother by CPS over a false claim my school made, they are not always so great.
@@freya3841 I was protected by my teacher when my mom hit my head by the bottom of her shoes repeatedly. I went to sleep after so scared from her, without knowing my head was bleeding? Luckily, nothing major happened. After my teacher saw all the dried up blood, I was sent to another person's house to be fostered. What did I learn? I was saved and it was never Always my fault. I would never be Enough for her. Of course I was not perfect, I might have done wrongs, but at 29 years old now. I know I am not "nothing" and that even though we are never sarcastically enough for our asian parents, it is not right for my mom to beat me with a big ass wooden broom because I didnt wash dishes as soon as I got home.
I am not invalidating your suffering, and theres good and bad. In my case it was life saving mostly Mentally.
There not always kind. I had false allegations made when I was pregnant and the social worker was on the side of the accuser. The police exposed his lies and turns out he has a history of making false allegations
@@ashlingcollins2725 that is great, that the truth came out but I understand sadly it caused you stress and hardship at your most precious time in your life. I know not everyone is great, not everyone does their job right. But I just want to give strength and encouraging words to the ones who really do their job from the bottom of their heart.
@@okodog6486 Hope it never happens to you because if it ever does you will go through hell and the accuser gets away with it
A:Why do you care they're not even your own children?
B: I should care because they could turn into monster if you let them grow up in trauma and pain
Just a little story of my friend that is a kindergarten teacher, it's so scary that human breeds just to create monsters. Those child is the future for better society.
My step dad abused me as a child and then suddenly decided he wanted nothing to do with me when I turned about 13. I'm still affected to this day and I'm 22 now. I totally feel for every single one of these poor kids
After watching all 3 parts of the video, i just wish such help could be available during my childhood time. Then i wouldn't need to suffer so much from my family...
And till to-date im still seeing counselor to work on myself due to abusive and neglected childhood and the whole growing up stages went wrong.
But i still want to give my utmost respect to these officers. They are brave. Unlike heartless relatives who see thing happen and not helping.
I hope you will get well soon 💐💐💐🥀🥀🌱🥀🌻🌻. I just recently begin counseling.. let's get well together
It’s crazy the amount of work put into someone missing a few days of school, but the kids that are literally being tortured are brushed off and looked passed.
I am from an Asian background and it was taboo to expose child abuse, as it was never recognised as such. I had a parent who was clinically depressed as a result of her childhood and took her frustrations out on us every single day. There was not one day of either verbal of physical abuse when we were young and this continued into our early adulthood. Now they are unable to be physical with us but the verbal abuse still continues. I am a product of my experiences of abuse, it really does destroy your self esteem and confidence to be ' normal'.
@@Sr-vw5nn I hope you get well soon 💐💐💐💐💐
@H G same here. Big hugs!
i really love the check-ins they do with the officers. it’s really smart and important
Just watched the documentary for the trials of gabriel fernandez and now this. If only the social workers could be as resilient as these here.. a child's life would have been saved
Omg! That story of Gabriel is horrendous... My heart hurt so much watching that! 💔💔💔
Yeah since I watched that I've thought about it quite often, absolutely heart breaking
These people are everyday heroes! Great to witness such an eclectic group of people (different ages, different ethnicities, etc) come together to protect little kids :)
He was a heroin addict for 20 yrs minimally but gets pissed at being called a drug addict-makes sense. 🙄
Hello Masha how are you doing hope you’re having a great time with your family may God bless you and your family and I hope you all stay safe
So the mother bragging her C-Section experience 🙄 why having children in the first place when she is not able to take care of them least bring them to school? I know childrearing is very challenging and stressful but parents should be fully aware and mature enough to face the responsibility before making one. In the end, the child is the one suffering the most 😐 A sad reality.
Era Estrera Muslim girls can’t go to school after 12
@@tiffprendergast I assume you mean to say that Muslim girls can't go to school after the age of 12? If that's what you believe, then that's completely wrong. You probably have never met a Muslim before. There is no age limit to education, especially in Islam. Muslims believe that the first few lines of the Quran that were sent down are ones that encourage people to read, learn and seek knowledge. The prophet Muhammad SAW's children (all daughters) were all educated. I myself am a Muslim, I wear the hijab and observe Muslim practices, and I am in my twenties in college, getting an education. There are some ridiculous extremists that prohibit this and that for the people who believe, but this is not anything that is connected to the Quran or the religion. If you were to look into it, you would find that there is no verse in the Quran that specifies that "girls should not be educated" or that their education stops only at the age of 12.
@@tiffprendergast emm, excuse me but I'm a MUSLIM GIRL (now I'm 20 years old) and have been to school from when I was 5 years old until I'm 19 years old. Now I'm waiting for one of my university applications to be approve and needless to say I've received good education since I was very little. What's your proves that Muslim girls can't go to school after they reach 12 years old ? Please do more research before making a statement. For your information Muslims are encouraged to never stop learning regardless of your gender, age or family background.
@@tiffprendergast uh what we can go to school for however long we want that's wrong
@@tiffprendergast I am a muslim woman and have a masters and my own business lol
It sucks that they have to go to court just to have someone tell them that they are wrong and the kids go back to harms way. It’s like the potential for harm isn’t enough. The court doesn’t care until someone is dead.
How many kids have died, because court decision to return the child to the parents. I am 63, my childhood was hell, i had nobody to protect me. With 16 i run away from home. 10 years ago i finally broke completely with the family, i am born in. It remains a nightmare, the scares of such a childhood in abuse and fear will never heal. Thank you so much for the job you doing, it's so very important.
The Pink House father really seemed like he loved his child, the mother may love her child but her mental health will probably always get in the way. it hurt my heart that he also had to choose one or the other to support. I’m glad the child is in a safer place where she still gets to see her father but not have to deal with her mother.
Bless that sickly dad - he and his sons just radiated warmth. So sad that they couldn't find a way to keep the brothers together during the process.
Hello Anne how are you doing hope you’re having a great time with your family may God bless you and your family and I hope you all stay safe
ppl in the comments say “if you cant take care of kids dont have them” “why have kids if youll abuse them” but wont support abortion when in reality that could actually help these cases go down instead of having children grow up in homes that do not want them or do not have the resources to successfully take care of them and keep them healthy and safe. or unfortunately have kids being pushed onto the streets, foster care or orphanages where its hard for them to find the right place to settle in at. im thankful for these officers and their work bc it must be rlly hard but they have patience and rlly are helpful.
Oh treat children abuse by killing the children ? ridiculous!!!!
A.C.K tube thats not what im saying at all?? what im getting at is the fact most females who want an abortion want to bc they know they’ll be unable to care for the child, or that they see themselves as a not fit parent. the world is also already very over populated, children are in orphanages and foster homes with no one to take them in yet people wanna keep making babies. foster homes can be abusive. if the mother isn’t able to provide for the child its seen as neglect or unfit parenting. something that would lower cases like these is allowing woman to get an abortion if they feel its needed, its her body anyways and she shouldn’t be told what to do. and literally you can only have abortions at a certain time, they are not fully developed children yet and are barely anything, its not killing a child at all, they’re basically a clump of cells and blood and mucus. like??
100% agree, i rather see a fetus aborted than a child abused or neglected
@@tryingmybest5141 exactly my point. and you only have so long to get an abortion before its too late, which in that time span its not even an actual baby yet and definitely not “murder”. if people could actually get abortions safely and comfortably then there would be less children growing up in harmful environments.
@@UrRainFairy 🖕🖕
I was a victim of child abuse when i was five. My father tried to break my neck out of frustration from a fight with my mother. He was often abusive to me, my older sister and my mother. But i was always the main source to his abuse as my older sister wasn't as much as a target and my mother. Hit hit my mum with his car when i was still in her stomach. Until this day sometimes i have to be hidden because of the threats he still sends my mother. Even with warrants against him he still doesn't care.
I’m so sorry I hope things get better ❤️
Your work is not praised enough. Thank you for doing what you do. This is a real job, protecting children from harm
5:44 you can almost hear the kid kinda laugh a little as she answers, it just goes to show how children aren’t able to detect when theyre in an abusive home and the CPS does an amazing job of taking care of those kids. Its not a job I could handle and its honestly inspiring to see such heroes in our world 💕 There really should be a test or something to see if you can take care of a child- some people really arent meant to be parents.
I wish I had a child protection officer to help me when i was young. I had to survive my mum's abuse alone. The work they do is so important.
I just don’t understand how as a parent you could do anything to leave your child in state where they feel panicked, uncertain and worried that you might return or never return. The world is harsh enough, there has to be a soft place for children.
However you choose to discipline children there has to be a lesson, you can’t just beat a child and expect them to learn a lesson. If you discipline out of anger you are failing.
I hate how it's ok to hit a kid, but hitting your spouse or even a stranger is called "assault". Why aren't both assault? Hitting a child is also worse, because they really can't defend themselves...
I was neglected by my mother and I know the consequences as an adult. It's even hard to have a safe relationship or a stable job.
It’s me, Kelly! Sorry to hear that your mother didn’t treat you right, hope you are ok.
Same for me ❤️ Best Wishes
Hello Kelly I’m sorry by what you passed through especially from the ones who we did think will protect and give us love sorry about that
How are you doing hope you’re having a great time with your family may God bless you and your family and I hope you all stay safe
I remember running into a CPS lady as a 4 or 5 year old. It's one of my most vivid memories. The neighbors (duplex) herd my fathers abuse and called CPS having had enough. I was home alone at the time. No idea where my parents where, or where my siblings were. Completely open about how mean daddy was mean and how I ate at the neighbors. To be honest I have no childhood memories of eating at home meal until my parents divorce. CPS lady said she would be back and left-never came back. May I note at the time I was growth stunted and my favorite jacket was a 2T. She never asked me my age, not like I could have told her though. For many years there was signs of abuse but I never seen CPS again. Really wish they would have stepped in.
I'm really sorry you had to go thru that. I hope things are better for you now, & that you know you didn't deserve to be treated badly & that none of it was your fault. All the best.
Sorry you had to go through abuse. I pray for your emotional healing
It takes a special kind of strength to be a cps officer,and I truly admire that.
3:15
"Why do you have children?"
Exactly how I feel when i see these types of parents. Smh
My mom was in cps and she just broke down with a mental breakdown. It’s a very hard job, kids getting killed just bc you’re making a visit to ensure their safety. It hurts to take a child away especially if you have children , you wouldn’t ever want people to take your own kids away so it’s just tough.
I was aiming to get into child protection but I decided to work In Resi while studying. There's good and bad being a child protection worker I figured working hands on with the kids and supporting them while being away from their homes is what I'm keen on doing at the moment. So many broken kids in the system as a result of being abused and removed from their homes. It's so sad.
What about false reports
while on the other hand some families are wasting government money on social services which they don’t even need
@@ashlingcollins2725 so what you keep saying this but ignore those of us who were actually abused
Why were the brothers separated? I don't understand. Why are siblings from the same home separated?
Why would you separate children from their siblings? WHY? Siblings should live together. It's good to help children but the siblings did nothing to each other so why are they being separated and not being put in the same home?
They most likely don't have space for them in the same place. It's unfortunate but can't be helped.
Hats off for the patience, care, perseverance and hard working officers
My father was a social worker for a long time and ended up managing the service. I saw how hard he worked and the hours that he put into his job... I will never forget it.
He made me very proud, god bless his soul ❤
Did he ever setup innocent people
@@ashlingcollins2725 nope
@@hollyvipond168 Most do
@@ashlingcollins2725 don't tar everyone with the same brush.. I've known of some awful social workers, but I've also known of some wonderful ones who have saved lives.
@@hollyvipond168 Never heard of a good one all the same
everyone just got to know that you don’t get any awards for becoming parents so before deciding to be one all of us must remember that and fully understand the capacity and responsibility before taking care of the lives you will be creating.
The way you’re referring to it as a “reward” kind of rubbed me the wrong way for some reason.
The social workers need to understand that siblings being separated is just as traumatic as the abuse , so if their concern is based around the impact of the child then they should make that just as much of a priority
Poor child😑😔eating so fast they must be very hungry
I believe that no government or organisations have the right to take children.
Adults need to learn without interference.
OMG... I definitely can't take this job, i will just crying every day and not doing the job... Mad respect for them
The thing is nobody will wanna take your child if you do the right thing by taking care of them. I've been through this before when I was young with an abusive dad but never had been taken away because my mum was there to ensure the officers that my dad will never hurt us. My mum was the sane one and she always making sure we get the education we needed. But we had times when dad pull us out of school because he doesn't want us to study, so the officers came looking for us and making sure my dad allows us to go school the next day. The officers job is to protect the vulnerable children who might be a potential to abuse and neglect, be responsible parents and no one will take your children away from you. I would rather to have CPOs like them than having the ones who involved in Gabriel Fernandez case in United States.
My dream is to be a foster mother
If you hate seeing children broken then you will be exposing yourself to it by becoming a foster parent. My wife wants to do it as well and I told her no. My foster parents were abusive and I refuse to become one
Kevin w Shouldn’t having had abusive foster parents in the past serve as a reason for u to encourage your wife(someone u trust) to take in foster kids? So that you can prevent other kids from going through similar experiences?
Also you could be really attached to the child but you could foster if you want and learn from the experiences of your past foster parents. And not all foster parents are abusive just saying
thank you for this! brought back memories of working with colleagues from CPS about 7 years ago, they’re amazing! I was working in the disability sector and we worked with children as well. I do recall the few times I passed by the CPS office and can sense the stress emanating from it 🙃
Oh God, please bless the people working to protect children.
Even though this job is stressful, I am glad that people like you are all willing to protect the children no matter what. I am feeling very touch because I didn't know that existed this kind of service! I wish you all the best!!!
why can't kids have their own voices, why do they need to rely on someone else to be heard, just because they are young doesn't devalidate their words
Im Kuelll Gremlin With kids being so young especially with abuse they are scared to say what exactly is going on. So they have to coax them. They aren’t invalidating their voices. They are having bigger voice to take action and do what they can to take a child out of an abusive environment.
@@m0nnie_ those guys aren't, but the fact they are afraid means people often brush them off or punish them, even when kids do come forward they are often mot believed
@@imkuelllgremlin I understand what you mean. I think it does need to change parents often devalue anything their child says. I'm 20 now and my mom still interrupts me, ignores me and laughs at anything I have to say. One one hand it shows how insignificant your voice is but it's your parent and if anyone should listen to you it should be them. However, in abuse cases its good to have proffesinals who can deal with the legality of things and face adults because children can't do that themselves or if they do it'll turn dangerous.
Im Kuelll Gremlin there’s too scared to speak up
Amy M.w e'e yup
You can tell the father truly loves his children and just wants what’s best for them
Some people don't deserve to be parents. It's just not in them. It's really heartbreaking to see such pure little souls suffering like this.
I really feel for the dad with the heart condition. It seems that he really loves his kids, and they have a lot of fun together. I feel bad for him not being able to take care of the kids due to his condition. ❤
I‘m amazed how some parents are the same worldwide.
And also how overwhelmed some parents are with care taking of one child but keep having more.
Bless the officers🙏🏻
you know what they say.. all children deserve parents but not all parents deserve children.
TRILINGUAL QUEENS AND KINGS. They're so amazing ahhh
I remember being those 2 boys at the beginning, I have a sister 5 years younger than me too and we were in a horrible home with the same reasons why they were taken out.
I know the pain of wanting food and being scared, but I hid those feelings to protect my sister at the time, I made sure she didn't get hit or abused, fed as best as I could give her, bathe her, change her diapers while my mom and boyfriend were snorting meth. I was 8 years old at the time with a 3-year-old who isn't supposed to be in diapers anymore. I always had to step in when my mom would start parties, I took care of the whole household. It was horrible and tiring but I don't regret it bc my sister would never have had someone there for her and my mom would have never gotten help sooner. Who do I blame for it? Her boyfriend. He introduced her to it, so I blame him for everything.
But the pain of being taken away still hurt. I was able to process the fact that my mom probably won't get better any time soon and that we won't be the same family as we were a year before she met her boyfriend. That sudden realization hurt so much when she said goodbye to me and my baby sister. I remember not crying at first like the boy in the video, I just smiled. I smiled and laughed like it was gonna be ok, to show my sister that it was fine to smile again. But the moment she left and I went to my room, I cried so hard for hours on end. I kept asking "Why did mommy listen to her boyfriend? Why can't I have a mommy? Why can't I have parents like everyone else?" and I kept on crying until eventually a few days later we were officially taken out of our home. I basically fought with the workers and tried hitting them with a lamp to not take me away, but probably bc I didn't fully understand what was going on with my mom and how harmful she was and is. After that, I didn't trust adults for 3 years. I slept with my sister in the same bed like I always had, held her close to me as I slept on the edge of the bed so that I know she is safe. A habit that I shouldn't have been experiencing that led to trust issues, anxiety, depression, and insomnia bc it scared me to death that if I fell asleep someone would hurt us. And then the promises she made that she'll get better, that she'll visit us. But she never did. I never blamed her for any actions bc most of it was on her boyfriend, it changed after I got older and realized that she was 25 and should have realized.
The trauma that parents cause kids. Don't have kids at a young age, like a teenager or something. WAIT until you feel you are ready and can provide them with love and care. DON'T scare your kids and FEED them. Ofc everyone should know that but sometimes some people need to get it through their thick skull like my mom and her boyfriend (pls don't take offense but it just saddens me that children have to go through this like how I did, and having parents who have thick skulls that don't think twice)
Children shouldn't have to have trust issues around childhood years, let alone depression, insomnia, eating disorders, etc. They should be playing with other kids, BEING a kid themselves, eating and sleeping healthier. God some parents/adults are just not meant to have kids, either foster care parents or parents in general
I cried reading your comment. How have you been doing? How's your sister?
It breaks my heart to know that you have to take a role as an adult in such very young age.
I hope you guys are doing alright.
did you managed to ever talk to you again?
Honestly, to me 25 is young to have a child. My sis have a kid at 24 if im right (we are not close at all). She married a drug user, and Im pretty sure the toddler is autistic since she cant talk at 3 years old, not even a word, potty by herself and exhibit a lot of autistic behaviors.
I wish I can say that I helped her, but to be honest, my family is not doing financially good, And Im just 20 years old thats on my way to get my degree.
I dont think I can even tell my parents that their grand daughter is a autistic since not only then they have to use a lot of money for her therapies, but also because being autistic is hugely frowned upon here.
I probably ruin the kid's life if I tell everyone that's shes autistic. Honestly, im not even sure. Sometime I hear my sis yelling at her own kid.
I mean.. Why get pregnant when you don't want a kid then???
I hope you're doing well now and you seem like a great big brother! May this life bless you with all the things you deserve because you're definitely deserving. I am so proud of you !
I'm an adult survivor of severe child abuse. I remember DEFAC was used as a threat by my mother at many times. If us children made her mad, she would say that they would take us away. I understand how critical this work is and that you MUST get it right. This agency cannot be misused nor should its powers be abused. I pray for wisdom and insight for the case workers. I hope that others like myself can become advocates for abuse children because we know what's happening on their side of things.
I hope that the workers can be cared for so that they don't become burned out or hardened because that's when it would be time to leave the field.
God bless you all for sharing this video and for those of us who are here trying to learn.
Thank you for producing this series, coming from an abusive family and having been through the same experiences these children have undergone as well, it is very heartwarming to see that there are, in fact people who care and they are getting the much deserved recognition for that. My heart goes out to all the people who stand at the frontline to keep children safe, thank you
The father and the twins was just painful. That father is clearly not in a good state of mind. His lack of interest in playing with his kids, telling them they don’t miss him. Totally inappropriate.
I think he was joking the kids were laughing. He clearly loves them.
@@anonananas940 Yes, you are correct. It is Singaporean culture.
If i were doing this job I'd probably be crying every day :( respect to the social workers!
Social workers are not that great. They lie
@@ashlingcollins2725 you’re all over these comments replying to abused kids just stop
I feel awful for the kids and they deserve so much better. But I also love animals too and the fish in that teeny tank at 15:16 really broke my heart.
Yeah that was killing me
finally someone who noticed the tiny tank
These child protection officers deserve so much respect
As an Educarer myself I can’t emend imagine how some parents are so abusecive and neglectful. Watching this really broke my heart
You can't spell
I am so happy that more cases are reported every year instead of being ignored. (of course I am not happy that children are being abused)
Okay this man doesn’t make sense!! He stopped using dope in 1990 but he was in prison/jail 4 times for drug charges up until 2018. Sooo he clearly, VERY CLEARLY didn’t stop using in 1990!
These are the people that we should be giving bonuses to. They have hearts of gold ♥️ thank you for what you do
"my hand is injured, i can't send the kids to school" LOL WHAT????
Thank you for a glimpse of what a protection worker deals with.