Making The Difficult Decision | Inside The Child Protective Service | Part 2/3
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- A father loses his rights over his two children due to his volatile temperament. Will he lose his third child to foster care too, even though he has never laid a finger on any of his children? What gives the Child Protective Services the right to make decisions for families, even if it means breaking them up?
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that 4 year old literally had to scream "dont bring me spicy food", and with that alone I can tell that the mom probably used spicy stuff as a punishment. jesus christ...please help that kid...
Yea I agree. I heard that in America there's parents using hot sauce as punishment
@@ism333mx my mother use it when I talk back.
@Tiger I. F. R. Tiger for my mother talking back is just saying something that she don't like :gay people are not mentally sick or if I say that I personally don't believe in god.hug you back(if you were talking to me)
@@ism333mx yep, I know a few people from the south in specific who had hot sauce as a punishment for "back talk" or using profanity. :( it's so sad
@Tiger I. F. R. Tiger The Protection Worker at the MFS watching the meeting?
She did state that she was watching and listening and would step in and stop the session if needed. But obviously felt that apart from reaffirming that the seperation from the mother was in the child's best interest. It also allowed them to monitor for any changes in their relationship as time goes on.
If the child wet her pants, vomited from distress or such, the Worker definitely would have stepped in and stopped the visit.
With that temper, and you expect CPS to let your children be under your care? Joke.
I believe the CPS is corrupt! I think parents should be allowed second chances but once they mess up the third time it should be over. The children should not return to the parents. Give them to someone who will love them!
Tiffanie Green What the hell. What do u mean corrupt?
@@ashiraazhar8047 It is just not a very good system.
There are countless examples of children dying from abuse at the hands of parents who have been given a "second chance". Many children cannot survive their parents being given another opportunity to "mess up"
@@tazzandstuff1434 That is true! I agree!
Omg that little girl is completely traumatised by the mother
Children are perfect reflections. What you do to them will always become apparent in one way or another.
she should arrested (idk)for attempted murdre(i cant spell :/ and was it really attempted murdur?)
@@tongfiona8310 Definitely should be arrested for sure - if not for attempted murder, then at least child endangerment
Why are they letting her see someone who hurt her so much?! I am furious that they are supporting this.
@@Godlim17 It's part of their job, the best possible cenario for CPS is not to remove the child from the parents but provide aid and support for the parents to take care of their children. To completely take away a child and remove the parent's parental rights entirely is a long ardurous process, made worse if the parent/parents fight it.
In this case, it looks like the father really wants and cares for the child and it's the mother who is the problem. But the mother herself said that she would never let her child go for anything (which is messed up if she's saying that and did indeed dangle the child out of a window)
They also need to observe the child’s reaction for first hand recorded evidence should they take it to court and have her rights legally terminated. This is not taken lightly and they need all the evidence they can get.
Did the violent dad realise that he literally threatened the safety of a public servant on camera?
The idiocy of some people.
Seems to me he doesn't care. He's a bully.
He's really probably not educated. Poor childhood coupled with a lack of education just results in a lack of self-awareness, self-control, and a lack of ability to change.
If you hear his parents (kids paternal grandparents) and how they threaten to harm cps officers, it makes sense that he is such an angry and aggressive person.
Ya the whole family is f**king crazy!! How can the kids grow up properly with so much hatred, abuse and negativity at home?
@@Wendy-gm8us trust me when i say, how i wish i was saved earlier, took away & cared by other loving family member rather than my own. growing up my abusive mental, manipulative & guilt-tripping grandma is no difference either. it really does take a toll on my mental well being. both of my aunts aware how abusive my grandma could be, but only her choose to stay ignorant. in this case, the parents of the 2 y/o boy & 1 y/o girl, could try to manipulate the situation in the future to make the kids see the CPS as the bad people trying to separate them in early age. i really wish that when the kids grow up, they’ll know better.
If a child is so hysterical & doesn't want any contact with the mother, she's either genuinely terrified with good reason, or coerced. Regardless, they shouldn't leave the little girl with her potential abuser like that.
Listening to her scream and cry like that broke my heart. That woman is a walking nightmare to her.
@@wendywarski7131 agree. That was not thoughts put into her head nor a tantrum. She was in fight or flight mode. Completely terrified of that monster.
my heart was at lost hearing she think she will be free to do what she wants if that was in vietnam. she had no remorse even after hearing her daughter's scream or terror in her face. i can almost feel the fear that little girl had and it feels so real i hope she will be free from her.
@@allisoncrooks4493 wow abused children wouldn't dare scream like that. However coerced children do. Look up the differences in behaviours of abused children from parental alienated children (aka coercive control) That screaming child was a coerced child not an abused one
@@bronwentownsend5601 not every child reacts in the same way after being abused.
Can't stand parents who act like children are their property & therefore they can do as they want with them, without questions being asked.. don't get kids, get non-living things or a plant..
Ingrid Åkerblom maybe they should start with a fish
Ingrid Åkerblom yeah
Don't breed as well. The government do not own our children.
Generational curse
The Vietnamese mother's motive (just my opinion) to get back to her daughter is so that she can become a Singapore PR / citizen or use it as a crutch to stay in Singapore. She say the reason she remarry is to stay here.
i feel bad for the girl and her father..
Sad
She's pretty loathsome. She kept acting concerned when she met the girl at CPS office... So where was that concern while she was threatening to throw her from the window? Insane.
Get that mother away from the girl!! The little girl was screaming!
It is absolutely infuriating to watch. I hope the laws become tighter for people like her to get a PR/Citizenship
If you're a parent, remember that kids are innocent. They should not be the ones to suffer your sins and mistakes.
Change yourselves for their sake.
Puiz yes facts
So true. As a parent I have to remember I make the decisions and I have to suffer the consequences. My kids should never have to suffer, ever! The scales should always tip more heavily on the love side, discipline should come with age.
Holysmokes, her "safe person" is a man convicted of human trafficking 😳
Article?
@@buffdrum6122 He admitted to it in the interview with the Worker's.
I’m really shocked they actually allowed a child to have a parent like that..
And drugs and other things. He was pretty nervous, there was more. Very safe...
He should not be allowed near his stepdaughter at all.
Kids - some parents take it as ownership rather than responsibility.
Ty for this point. That's how I felt in my parents home. I didn't feel like they cared about me. My Mom was a Martyr and my Dad was angry. I didn't think that anything could have been done to take me away from that place. It's like my Dad was tempermental and you always had to watch what you said around him and agree with him all the time. My Mom would guilt trip us, play the martyr, act like she loved us following up with critising us and acting like our personal experiences never happened. So we felt confused, guilty, never good enough, and pitted against each other because that is what narcs do. Once my Dad even said one day that we don't abuse you go call CPS then. I had no idea of what CPS was back when I was a kid but basically we were taught that if we did anything that they didn't like that there would always punishment. I was scared to contact outsider help. There was this one time when I was 21 and my sister and Dad kidnapped me when I ran away from home. I had to escape. My Mom put a gun to her head in front of me that is why I ran away from home. I could go on and on but I would rather not. Basically I felt like I had to comply with their wishes even though I knew it was wrong. I always wanted to be free but didn't think it was possible. So basically I felt that I was helpless. I wish I knew back then what I know now. My life would have been a lot less painful.
@@artemisjr1237 I'm so sorry that you had to suffer like this in silence.
What your parent's did was abusive.
That would have been such a difficult thing to not only grow up with, but to get over.
I hope that you found someway positive to deal with your past? And that you have a much better life now with lot's of love and support.♥️
For the love of God that poor little girl is absolutely terrified of her mother. I can't begin to imagine the abuse and torture that baby girl had to endure at the hands of the woman who birthed her. She was removed from the home years before this and she's only 4 (@ time of filming) but she's still absolutely scared to death and panicked to be Ina room with her mom. Shows how much abuse really effects kids in all aspects of lives. So many ppl think oh they're to young to remember...this little baby girl is proof that's a bunch of bull. Bless her little heart💕
Tara Stover so shocking.
I was in a children's home after reporting my dad's abuse. Two days after I'd been placed the court tried to send me home, I had to barricade myself in a room to keep from being taken "home". Afterwards I stayed a run away except for the birth of my daughter, I was so messed up I sent her to live with her dad's mom. I stayed messed up for over 2 decades. Much better now at 43, still have the nightmares but no other problems.
Exactly! Then she says she doesn't trust the father. So she HAD to get married. To stay in Singapore. The little girl adores her father.
@@rachelmartin3631 I'm so sorry that's horrible. In almost all cases of really severe abuse or child homicides that make it to the public light are cases where CPS had several opportunities to intervene & don't or they put the children back in the home like in your case. You made it out not without a lifetime of turmoil & chaos I'm sure. I hope you have some peace in life now. I'm 40 and am just getting some peace.
That poor baby girl screaming "I don't want you! Go away" shattered me...
It’s honestly shocking
When the child started crying my heart sank. She’s obviously been threw major damage I hope her dad will take care of her.
*through
@@doyouhearthepeoplesing2 ok grammar nazi
@@raydonovan1173 😊😊😊😊
The couple with the 3 kids - the mum is obviously a victim of domestic abuse. She's showing the classic signs of remaining with her abuser but at the same time, you can see that she does care for her kids but she feels like she has no choice but to be with him.
I hope one day she'll come to the sense to see that she is strong enough to be independent and that she doesn't need him.
@Grannvale Flame Emperor i agree cuz i was in this situation for 7 years im 15 rn and my dad was kicked out a mouth ago
@@kashregester3974 hope you and your mom are fine and happy now
If she leaves he will still get custody. It’s just as dangerous for women and children to leave. I advocate for victims of DV in family court.
It seems he's been successful at isolating her from her family. The worker was very clear that the husband and the paternal grandparents were the issue. I hope she has family who can support her when she is ready.
The father’s entire family screams abuse and violence. Obviously the mother is a victim of domestic abuse and her family tried to help her and her children. Unfortunately you can’t help the mother if she doesn’t want to get help. Her children on the other hand need to live in a healthy and safe environment
As a teenager who used to live in an abusive home, I find the lady in the intro that says "ill keep you safe, okay?" is such a nice comfort and gives me such a nice warm feeling in my heart :')
Me too
Sad to say it doesn't give me warm fuzzies. They don't always keep you safe, some fall through the cracks like I did.
@@rachelmartin3631 /Sends hugs/ Not every child and every family can be saved, we can only try our best with what we have 🥺
"Our daughter cried when she first saw us. Doesn't she know we're her parents?"
She was taken away at birth, of course she doesn't know you're her parents!
Exactly! And even if she was not to taken away, or even if she DID know them as parents, she'd know them as horrible and nightmarish parents.
(I apologise for the very late and unprompted reply.)
CPS don't want to take your children away, they don't feel happy taking your kids away but maybe just ask yourself for a second, why are they taking your children away
@@nhakim222 how do they even do that
I love how the one mom says: "I requested CCTV footage" to prove their "innocence," and then the footage completely supports CPS report. It is very sad what these kids have had to endure. These are the kind of people that should've been sterile from birth, as cruel as that may sound.
The safe person system doesn't seem like it's really an effective plan. The abuser chooses another adult, who likely has the same shitty values, who likely has more loyalty to the parent than the child and they're supposed to hold the abuser accountable?
I’m sure that the CPS officers do a background check and interview the chosen person before just allowing them to gain custody, plus they most likely will do unannounced visits just to make sure the child is continuing to be safe, but idk (Timestamp 32:16)
Well at least it ruled out the father's family.
The safe person should be chosen by them.
A single officer handles 40-50 cases at a time? that’s immense. Time is definitely not on their side if the cases keep growing
they are really super super busy. I used to work with kids and sometimes we had the CPOs involved. It was so so hard to get an email or a phone call in cos they were that busy. and often it was challenging to try and get follow-up on cases because they were not "bad enough" (and honestly I could see why, considering how time consuming and severe some of these cases are in comparison), basically it was indicative of a system that is constantly being overwhelmed. I can't forget one of the kids I used to work with, there was so much emotional abuse, but without sufficient proof it was so difficult to get a foot in the door of child protection services. Until the child turned up at school with a massive bruise and they finally had something tangible to report. It's can get really complicated because in reality there are more than just the CPOs, there are social workers, therapists, doctors, lawyers etc working with the family, it's just such a tough field.
The hospital had to resuscitate the child??? SHEESH THE COUPLE IS CLEARLY UNFIT TO TAKE CARE OF THEIR CHILDREN CMON LA
I really feel like the angry father comes from a family that displays similar/ same abuse and hyper aggressive behavior. Just hearing his parents and what they were saying it is easy to picture him growing in that toxic environment. I can see that at heart he really loves his children genuinely but he and his family are very toxic and abusive with the wife and it seems like it would end up being the same with kids.
Yes they didn't inflict physical abuse but cussing a lot can cause a heavy blow to the child. ☹️ Take note verbal abuse inflicts more than the physical ones. Bruises may fade but the words that implanted to the child's mind will stay there and became a norm for them. They (parents) must reform themselves first until they are capable :(
@Grannvale Flame Emperor i have ptsd and trauma from the 15 years ive been alive. Ive not been physically abused but domestic abuse was the norm my dad would chase us while cussing and if he couldn't catch us hed hit our mom in the head i pushed my dad 1 time and he almost hit me... But my mom was the verbally abusive 1 so any loud noise/ yelling gives me ptsd and i canot be in any small confrontation without crying. Nothing is worse than abusive parents it doesnt matter how it happens or which abuse it is. It all causes the same emotional and physical trauma. (Everyone in my family has depression and anxiety most of us r bipolar)
That was my upbringing. I wish CPS had intervened.
Been living with such abuse for 27 years of my life. Agree with the fact that bruises fade and I remembered that once I had contacted the police yet they did not act on or call child protection services. Ran away multiply times yet not even the school helped. Grew up with so much toxicity and hatred had destroyed my mental heath. I wish no child had to experience what I've been through.
"In Vietnam, I'd be more carefree." That's not a good thing you know?
We have an operation like CPS in VN also, the mom would definitely doesn't know about it.
But honestly, from my personal point of view only, CPS in VN doesn't work in the way it should be. Not many people know of it, most cases result in just talks and consultations, and unless there is extreme abuses involved (violence, sexual abuse,...) then the children would not be separated from the parents. Having to report my own father to the polices for domestic violence twice, I was even threatened by an officer that if I keep accusing my dad while projecting "disobedient behaviors" (I'd been hit and terrified before they got there so I just wanted to get the dude away from me asap) then if he were my dad he would hit me harder.
That little girl had a full blowing panic attack just to see her mother... she should be sent to prison...
Research the difference between abused children and alienated children (aka coercive control)
@@bronwentownsend5601 still abuse.
@@LuLu-tz5ge yep by whoever it is instilling the fear in her mind. Children don't react like that to their abusers. They only act like that to a person when another person/people have instilled it in them. Child psychological abuse perpetrated by whoever has been putting it in her head
@@LuLu-tz5ge and yes whoever has coerced that child needs to be put in prison
The malay couple, they said bla bla bla, we fought but we still together. What a toxic relationship!! Both is immature and they are not capable to tend after the children. Constant fighting and at the end the victims will be the innocent. The fact that the father taught the son to say vulgar words, hating the mother due to the conflict they had as a couple truly shows that the child deserves foster care. May God protects all these children.
Research parental alienation (aka coercive control)
my only question, anyone checking on the wife/mother, this is a trauma bond and obvious abuse and she is a victim too, she must be so scared herself but her maternal instincts atleast gave her children a chance. she needs therapy to build on her confidence not to tolerate abuse and disrespect as expectation to be a gd wife. i hope n pray if nothing else, she reunites with her kids and do better.
Are you stupid?
johnny kikki nah you are.
I was thinking the same thing, when he said I’ve forgiven you for all your sins and she hugs him after they watched the video of the son cussing her. So sad. The fact that they said that he’s more violent while she’s pregnant puzzles me. Why are they not helping her:-(
@@ellaella5537 Lol the bitch was a lousy good for nothing piss poor excuse for a mother. She should have been taken away from her daughter in the first place
Dunno, his parents are none too good either. They seem to inflame the husband more.
The case of The Angry Dad made me feel so mad with anger at the dad and his parent's. 😤😡
He was all about control, which is the ONLY reason he wanted his children back. He is about controlling his wife and children, so to lose that ultimate control to CPS was a kick in the guts for him. And the encouragement he got from his parent's who are religious for goodness sakes, just reinforced his control issues.
I believe mum is scared to leave him as he has shown how angry and violent he can get in public. So imagine what he's like when he is in the privacy of his own home?!
He couldn't even control his temper in the meetings.
It's a drastic thing obviously to take away a child at birth and then later, remove another child. I feel so bad for the son, who thankfully won't remember the abuse and/or neglect he was subjected to.
The Protection Worker's in this case did the correct thing. And they have the patience of saint's.
He NEVER said ANYTHING about what do I CAN I do just want to bully and lie
He's all about his own victim mentality unfortunately.
The Vietnamese mother really knows what to say, & how to behave when the officers are around. Is so obvious that the girl is terrified of the mum, she really just screams like so traumatised when the mum comes near. I got chills when the mum says "In Vietnam I'd be more carefree." Really just let the girl stays with the dad please. 🤦🏻♀️
As a Vietnamise and 15- i really don't understand why she said that okay?? Then go to Vietnam is she saying she's under a ton of stress at the moment? It's her child the fact she said that also yes i agree with you so much she cooporated so much and her comments there is just something off she definitly knew what to say or do i'm afraid for the child, the mom will probably comeplete all the steps on the plan and get to visit her daughter when she threatened to kill her or harm her
What?! He went to prison for human trafficking and she married him thinking he is a suitable person?! Is she stupid?! 🤦🏻♀️
The couple with the two toddlers, they seem to love their kids but they still hit and abuse each other. Why can't they recognize they cannot parent together successfully and separate? Then they can both see the children.
Also who is the agressor? Who is hitting who? If dad hits mom and is the abuser they should be concentrating on getting mom resources so she can separate from him and live alone, and vice versa.
Why are these people having another child when two of the other children have been taken away...
Because it’s free and they already own the equipment?
They are married and perhaps contraception is against their religion??? I know, I know- domestic violence SHOULD BE against their religion as well, but I guess not.
Brainless problematic
@@christinafidance340 contraception is not against their religion btw, thats a misconception...
I knew a family who both had all of their previous children (from different relationships) seized by cps. They were our neighbours and had a baby at the same time as my step mother and we went to their place a few times. We saw her become malnourished because the mother was boiling the baby formula after mixing it. She would let her cry and cry and put her behind the cushions in the sofa "she just wants attention". The baby was weeks to a few months old. She also dropped her because of intoxication. We reported them and the child was taken away in the end.
I work in child care. Unfortunately I have even worse stories but as they are confidential I can't share those. Some people should not be parents. Or let close to a child.
They’re relationship is so toxic and it’s sad that they & the grandparents can’t see that. Kids are like sponges, they’ll soak up anything they see or hear. Maybe the son gets his temper from his parents 🤷🏽♀️
I think the young dad has love for the children. It is just that he may need guidance to manage his anger? Simply removing their children will also make them frustrated and vengeful. The parents need to be cared and guided to manage themselves.
Nuraini Ain That's mad. No matter how much he loves his kids, if he can't be a normal adult and stop himself from hurting the people he loves, then they should never be given back to him
@@nurainiain7761 his value system seems so wrong; he thinks of himself as a victim and doesn’t hold himself accountable for anything. It’s frustrating just watching him.
The 4 year old! How her mother has tortured her! The sheer terror! OMG! No 4 year old fears their mother like that. It pains me they were trying to give the mom a path to getting her child back. She sounds like a total monster. And her fake co-operation.
Research the difference between abused children and alienated children (aka coercive control)
These CPS workers seem to be lovely, caring people. God bless them!
Superheroes. They have passion for children.
Get real all social workers are nasty prices of crap that steal children from loving happy homes a sell them to the highest bidder
@@doyouhearthepeoplesing2 More like you're a bad parent venting out your anger
They also do child trafficking for pedophiles.
@@doyouhearthepeoplesing2 agreed
the angry dad and his family is failing to see why their children are being taken away, especially his parents, they are completely blind to the toxic masculinity and the abuse he has committed. he didnt even try to listen to the cpo and walked out. i hope that his wife left him and took their children.
I’ve worked with families like this in Canada and we taught parenting skills classes to the parents, recommended anger management therapy for those who have anger problems. Many parents have problems stemming from things that happened to them as they were growing up so we would support them, help them to get therapy to deal with these problems . When they have dealt with the problems themselves they understand that they need to break the cycle of abuse for their child’s happiness and safety. For families from lower socioeconomic levels we simplified questionnaire and instruction language so they didn’t feel like we were judging them, that we were supportive and want to help them .
Grannvale Flame Emperor I’d say about 7 out of 10. Many of the kids came back to visit us over the years saying it made a difference, it changed them and their self esteem and life expectations, helping to break the cycle . They wanted more, and though life is hard they knew they could ask for help and get it. The kids stayed in residence with us for several months , at first only going home for weekends after a month break of only seeing the family at our place for short visits. We taught the kids social and life skills and many other things as well, they attended school at our school for about 6 months and we liaised reintegration into home, school, community when we could see it all coming together.
I wished the system in Singapore will adapt a similar approach, instead of just trying to arrange safety plans & seperation on top of penalising the wrongdoer without offering ANY anger therapy.
Agree. The parents may not know to manage their inner unhappiness. They themselves need guidance to be self aware.
Oh, Canada, adopt me.
Unfortunately our system when it comes to emotions, relationship and trauma still seems to be very primate. Especially when implemented with the government.
Oml the 4 year old girl seemed so terrified of her mother that was so painful to watch and she was so young
How could they watch the videos and laugh about it? How is it funny when your husband is teaching your 2 year old vulgarities?
From the way the parents and the grandparents talk; how they want to spit and hit the CPO, it's clear how physically and verbally violent they can all potentially be. They're so toxic for each other and their children. I'm glad CPS stepped in.
I like how she’s talking about the newborn’s safety when she’s holding him while riding in a vehicle. Shouldn’t he be in a car seat then?..
Different countries have different ideas of safety.
Angela Jackson it is compulsory for children to wear car seats in Singapore up to a certain age(I’m not 100% sure,but I think it’s around 3 years old). This was definitely out of ordinary from our country.
I thought they were in a taxi so there might not have been an appropriate car seat available and since newborns can't sit by themselfs holding them is the best option I guess.
@@mennoe7076 No car seat, no ride. It's insane to drive a child or infant around without a car seat.
Its common in asia to not wear seatbelts.
I've spent the first seven years with my bio parents. Although they were great when they weren't intoxicated or drugged, I was abandoned and physically, mentally and verbally abused a lot. Which from those traumatic experiences I developed panic disorder, GAD and PTSD. I'm 23 now, and still live with my foster parents who I now call mom and dad. I hope to become a television producer/filmmaker one day. Don't know where my bio parents are. It would have been nice to have at least a relationship. Maybe attended my grade eight graduation, my high school graduation and when I graduate from college...
Did your adoptive parents allow your bio parents to remain in contact ?
If them can't love you I can love you for them
@@leahhustleee9244 yes, my bio father I still talk to but he is in Germany. My mother I lost contact as she kept calling the house drunk. So Children's Aid had to step in. Dont know what happened to her. All I know is that she is in Toronto. I live in Alliston with my foster parents now.
@@nadiarenz1124 😅😅
@@ameliawilder28 glad that you are still in touch with your bio father
it's evident the child does not want the mom near her
like son like mother. this is why at some point, the child will need to be seperated so that they won't grow up to be like them.
Oh dear God pls get that mother away from that child..obviously she abuses the child.
The Poor 4 year old :(( She was literally screaming to get away from her mom
It almost seems like the angry dad's wife wants her kids in foster care. Maybe she feels her kids will be better off in foster care...🤷♀️
And angry dad probably turned out this way thanks to his parents (father saying he will tie up the officers, spit at them...that too on camera 🤦🏾♀️)
sad to see them putting up an act in front of the camera and the CPS crew
Why would they want to rebuild relationship with the abuser and the child ??? The four years old girl is clearly afraid of her Vietnamese mum. The little girl kept saying “don’t come” when the mum entered the room. Geez
They will see if a mother-child bond can be re established. It’s not ideal, but there is a huge cost, psychological injury for life when the child is abandoned by the mother. At this point in the program we don’t know the final decision.
The couple seems almost proud of their past. And the grandparents oblivious to how bad it is. When you’ve got three kids in foster care there’s an issue. I feel bad for these social workers it must be terrifying knowing aggressive people hate them so.
That 4 year old screaming for her mother to go away and trying to run from her is heart breaking.
I think they CPS should really have a dedicated car or car service, so that they would not have to ride around in taxis with an unsecured newborn baby or infant. That way, they would have the correct anchor-points in the car the secure they car seat and they would be able to ensure the airbags (which can be fatal to an infant or older child, in the event of an accident,) are deactivated. Airbags are for the protection of adult passengers only and I’m concerned that the CPS staff may not have considered the car seat issue, let alone the airbag issue.
Julie Mcgugan Always a struggle for more funds with these necessary services :(
Eh gila la dorang. Kecik kecik taknak mampus dah besar susahkan orang. Mak dengan anak pon sama. Bini pon boleh ketawa ketawa. Couples like these don’t deserve kids. Unfortunately all they know is to have unprotected sex abeh takleh tanggung
I was raised by my parents with a belt, shoe, stick, hammer, cloth hanger and abused very nicely with no scars on my body so nobody knew. My parents would act very nice to me outside home.
Now I have depression
i hope the father with that anger management issue understand that he is part of the problem and try to improve himself, and i hope that you guys can resolve the issue and became family as whole again.
What did that monster do to that little girl 😭😭😭
If this father cannot control himself in the CPS office imagine how he is at home? If he wanted his kids back or what’s best for his kids he would get help for his behavior.
Some parents just cannot understand the pain that we as kids have to go through.
Toxic, abusive relationship, kids removed by CPS and I have a good idea, let's make another baby!!!!I wouldn't even want him touching me to begin with.
That interaction with the stepdad and abusive mom was so cringy/uncomfortable. I get it but neither adult feels right. Sorry.
why were they trying to give the mother a second chance the kid was clearly very traumatised and no amount of reshaping the mom as a person will fix that enough that she'll be able to live with her mother or even interact with her in her early years to teen years...
There are also children who kept silent or don't show any sign of being abused because they mask it well or they are afraid to speak out because they know the abuse will get worse when the abuser finds out. This is heart wrenching to watch as someone who has CPTSD due to abuse. I hope more measures will be in placed to help/spot abuse victims
Actually being too afraid to speak out is a number one indicator of real abuse. That is how most abused children are until they become aware that the abuse is not normal for all households
@@bronwentownsend5601 exactly my point
@@NavyAng I know. Was validating as I'm being attacked by a large amount of people for speaking out on the real dynamics of abuse. Most seem to think it's black and white and simple to see.
A newborn in a car without a carseat!?!?! I was in a severe car accident with my 6 week old. I'm SO glad he was in a good carseat- it was wrecked, he was fine.Different norms, certainly.
Thank you all for that and for protecting those that can’t protect themselves. This came timely with the netflix docu-series, the stark differences in the way resources are dedicated and systemic plans are in place to help children is really heartwarming. I’m p thankful to be living in Singapore.
I felt really bad when the father said I am scared of the Mother. It is heartbreaking to see anybody scared of the spouse or former spouse.
That little girl with her mum was me. The only difference is that no one came to help me. I hope she gets to stay wherever she feels safest.
That mum is awful. She should walk away. Infact all of these parents pose a clear danger. How that social worker will allow the child with that evil mum and evil stepdad is beyond me.
Crazy to see a CPS worker riding in the back of a car holding a newborn, in the US that will get your kid taken away by CPS.
How a child reacts to an adult is all you need to Know
Research the difference in behaviours between abused children and alienated children (aka coercive control) Then you will know what you need to know in how a child responds to the parent
These people do a great job keeping the children safe and then risk it all by driving in a car without the child in a car seat. If there was a collision that baby would surely be injured or killed.
5.50 is what I went through but it was reuniting my daughter back to my care it was very hard as I needed to find a way out and was sleeping in my uncles house which he helped me to escape to but no room for my daughter :( so I had to wait for public housing and foster care agents cps and even a housing agency them self’s pushed very hard to get me a house iam soo grateful.took more than a few months but u do what Eva no matter how long to make sure ur son or daughter is returned plus it will take longer if ur violent u just stay calm and do what ever u can to have ur loved ones :) so glad I did I now have sole custody and it’s been more than 6 years she came back into my care at age 5 and she is turning 12 this year
As someone who came from parents who uses violence and abuse to discipline their child, lord knows how much I pray for someone to take picture when they hit or punch me then report it to the social workers. But no one ever did.
the child had to be RESUSCITATED???? should the parents be thrown into jail at this point? like how are they fit to care for children and how ridiculous it is have a 3rd child. The only victims are the poor children.
That mother of this 4years old is manipulating. I would never leave that child with her. She act perfect in front of the adults but the kid attitude show well that she is scared of her mother.
The questioning techniques used on the children are unsettling. Who is training these people?? These defenseless children live in trauma, please treat them gently.
I noticed that as well. You wonder if they get so desensitized by what they must witness in their jobs everyday. I know i couldn't do it.
I kinda agree but at the same time it's relevant to realise that time is of the essence. They need to assess and identify asap. That can mean pretty direct and hands on methods. Still makes me feel as you did though.
Why didn't they make the mother leave the room when the child was screaming and crying for her to leave? She was obviously terrified and isn't interested i having a relationship with her right now,
The mother that’s abused her 4 year old is legit bribing the child. A child clearly has PTSD from her mother. The father of the child is amazing and the daughter wants her father how stupid of the support system. They helped the abuser get her child back
It sounds like the father was the violent one in that relationship with the 3 kids. It's unfortunate that the mother just doesn't leave him. She could stabilize her life and probably get a chance to have her kids in her life. I hope she's found the strength to leave. Having my kids back by my side would be the greatest motivator to do so.
With the first girl you can obviously tell that she has suffered and is now fearful as fxck
I cannot believe flags like crazy would not be going off that the mother had chosen a man to get married to so she could stay in Singapore, and he had been convicted of bringing girls over to Singapore. Aka Went to Prison for it! Hum... No alerts from the Social Worker to say, hell no, he will NEVER be able to be living with your daughter! Total set-up for that little girl, classic!
For the couple that has physical fights. Hilarious to see the dad say he'll be a 100% husband to her. Abusers don't change they only progress and get worse and worse. Spousal abuse will never stop so as long as she's with that man she'll never have her children back and rightfully so. This man is a wife beater and no therapy in the world is going to change that. Sad to see the little girl who was terrified of her mother to the point they shouldn't have let her see the child.
The little girls tears broke my heart....
#strongstaff all the best... bless you guys❤️❤️❤️
There’s a special place in hell for people who hurt innocent children
I can see that the kids are taken care of. What happens with providing parents with much needed support/training/counseling? For example, the physically abused pregnant wife? Or the very angry father...he’s dealing with issues - repeated demonstrated physical abuse in marital relationship and past drug abuse and conviction. I think the children are just a symptom of dysfunctional parents who are a part of society in Singapore who have now been marginalised. They never get back to being a contributing part of society. CPS is doing an amazing job. Down to earth individuals who balance the welfare of these kids and the law. I love it!
when the mother want her daughter back and would corporate 😭😭
Corporate??? Do you mean cooperate? What does a corporation have to do with child protection?
i literally respect all these officers
Why is the newborn baby not in a car seat on his way to foster care? In Australia, CPS will investigate parents for having a child unrestrained in a vehicle!
7:30 Why is the mom still allowed to be free? Thats literal assault on the child and the husband!
Parents / caregivers who abuse/neglect children are the worst. They hurt the most innocent and vulnerable of society.
So your telling me the abusive mother took a look at her new husband that has a record for human trafficking and said yep this is the safe adult? Like how is this even allowed
Honestly. That little girls reaction was so heart breaking. But they have to explore every possible situation. Like if it was a child doing that to a dad they would say the child was coached. So they need to explore every situation.
🙏 yes because abused children don't behave like that but coached children do
17:57 the difference is stark
With her baba, she's giggling uncontrollably and wants to play. She's full of energy. When she saw her mother she instantly started screaming and trying to hide. That's so...why do people hurt their children?
Wow. That little girl crying and screaming at her mother to go outside and don't come back, saying "I don't want you!" and "Don't give me spicy food" and everything else. That is not a normal interaction between mother and child. She's scared of her mother! After seeing that I wouldn't force that child to be in the same room as her mother!! That's abuse too. Forcing a child to visit with a parent they're clearly terrified off. So sad!! And then we have the new husband who has a criminal history. Don't these CPS workers know that putting these people in the same room with the child under close supervision is not reality? This is not how these people are going to behave towards the little girl at home when no one is watching! This is how kids end up dead.
tbh I think the parents of the Malay family ( the grandparents) were so rude towards the cps officers. they're just doing their job. if the parents doesn't cooperate then there's no way they can get their kids back. also I feel cpos are so strong mentally because they have to deal with all these unreasonable people.
I have so much respect for the people that have to to this job every day
CPS officers are real life superheroes man!
some parents make the child feel so unsafe that the only place they feel less safe is with a stranger.
A stranger is safer than abusive parents.
There is a terrible situation where I live at I hear kids being beat left at home by their self throwing Pampers out the window I called Child Protection Services on them I even called the police I told the apartment who's over the apartment building boys and girls sleeping in the same bed I don't know what else to do
No matter how bad is the father treat his child. The moment i saw a father babytalk to his daughter.... its really pure and sad.... esp when he said he will sleep on the floor... oh my.....😞
It’s night and day when it comes to the little 4 year old’s mother and father
Oh my God that little 4 year old girl is trembling and screaming at the sight of her mum. For such a young child to have a strong reaction means that her mum has been abusing her for so long lah. This is so sad and hard to watch. The mum is so creepy lah...
Pray for the girl and also kudos to the dad because he seems like a normal dude who actually takes care of his kid. Children's reactions never lie lah
No their reactions don't lie. Research the difference in behaviours of abused children versus parental alienated (aka coercive control) and then the abuser will be obvious to you