When Can My Child Come Home? | Inside The Child Protective Service | Part 3/3
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 มี.ค. 2020
- Three families are trying to get their children back, after the children were removed for their own safety. A single mother risks having her toddler sent for adoption if she ends up in jail for drugs again. A family struggling to keep its home safe for two active youngsters, gets a second chance. Will these children ever be reunited with their parents?
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About Inside the Child Protective Service : An observational documentary series filmed across four-months, featuring the work of Child Protection Officers. Watch as they battle hostility from parents, scrutiny of every unpopular decision they make on behalf of the child, and the emotional weight that comes from witnessing abuse, neglect and violence inflicted on vulnerable minors. They are the children's only hope - and they ensure that every child can live a safe and happy life in their own homes.
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So proud of that single mum who’s actually putting in effort to change for the better. As for the other families, I really pity the children but I’m glad CPS is available to these vulnerable children. 👍🏻
flyhigh0905 I loved that she encouraged him to climb higher on that rock climbing wall.
I am so proud of her also. I hope and pray that she is able to stay clean. Addiction is a horrible beast that claims so many beautiful humans lives. It turn them into something they never thought they would be.
I truly believe that her son is her saving grace. If she remains focused on her own health and well being her son as well as herself will thrive. I admire her courage and commitment and I hope to see an update in future.
Foster care does not mean the best interest of the child.
calling her cats her "kids" and her husband and son her "pigs"...yeesh, that was too much.
Also, she keeps her cats in a cage, so not really doing much for them either. It makes one wonder about her own childhood. Abuse is the gift that keeps on giving :(
Yeah 🤔😳🙄
The place isn't even safe or suitable for he cats, much less her kids lmao
Poor boy to be stuck with a mother like that and poor gorgeous cats put in cage with no freedom to move around...just praying they dont get abandon one day.
Abusive and toxic women tend to find mild tempered and insecure husbands who are unable to protect or shield the children from abuse. Made my blood boil when it was said that she was pregnant for a 3rd time, she doesn't need another child, she needs to focus on learning proper housekeeping 😑
Even that woman's cats hate her.They scratched her. well done kitties, real mvp
Imagine being trapped in that small cage with multiple other cats all day, barely able to move around... they're cats not hamsters... I'd say that's animal abuse as well
The mom says how can the kid remember what his parents did to him a few months ago? I am 20 now and still remember what my mom did to me when I was 3. And the parents does not believe the fact that their kid can become violent because of them? That is just stupid. My therapist still teaching me how to deal with my anger and emotions since all I know is to hurt myself or others. Because I don’t want to hurt others I was a threat to myself
The kid recounted fighting at home between the parents. Bet the parents fight so often they don't remember themselves. Of course the children will fear they will be beaten one day. They can see for themselves the violence and anger between the parents, and if daddy can beat up mommy who is an adult, he can also beat up the children.
Debbie Nguyen I agree. Im about to be 17, so 2 more years before I can run, but parents argue and then they forget. But I see my parents argue and fight and then I try to forget like they tell right, then I try to forget but the feelings is always there. I can still hear my mom shouting and screaming and my brother breaking things in my head, even though they never fight for 1 month d. Kids don't forget parents arguments, not a single one. The worst ones are arguing about the same things over and over again. TMI oops. Who can relate?
@@muros6707 i can relate. And i also have anger issues but it’s not only because of my bipolar mother but also because I was bullied in school for many years.
@@tinateh so true.
i want you to know you did nothing wrong!
I hope that the single mum keep this good mind frame, I feel she can be super successful cuz she has something to fight for
exactly
I still remember when a social worker came to my home I had cerebral palsy and my mom and sisters were physically and verbally abusing me leaving deep marks up all my arms. Sometimes they would push me just to see me fall or leave me in the snow as I tried to get up. Left me to get up the stairs when I could fall. But as soon as the social worker came my mom talked them out of the abuse, I wish they took me away. My code word to the social worker was that my mom and sisters were strong, and I wasn`t. We need to make sure that manipulative mothers do not get away with such crimes. I got out at 17 even with a severe disability, and am very Independent my mom would take away my assistance devices and I would fall all day. She called me lazy and fat when I said I needed them. She ruined my life, but if one person could of stood up to her, I could of grew up in a loving home. I am healed spiritually, but I feel for children of abuse
may God bless u :)
Social services would have made you endure abuse.. so trust me would have been any better
@@brownsuga487 I live in Canada so thats not true our social services are good enough to have offered me a better life
I’m sorry for all you had to endure.
@@fiestyone maybe its all for a bigger reason I learned alot
Wtf. 4 months is more than enough time to clean your house. Or make it safer for the kids. This is just pure laziness. Plus no money still wanna keep cats?! Omfg poor cats.... disgusting parents who keep making excuses.
I can do in a day 😬.. 4 months?! Like they just lazy
@@IOPE_ Best dun parent if one cannot parent. Also cats are much less work compared to kids.
She might have some mental condition which they did not disclose. Hoarding is a mental condition.
You’d be shocked at the cases I’ve witnessed as a respite worker in America.
@@jujularue7611 agreed. doesnt even have to be hoarding-- plenty of mental illnesses can be a root cause of excess junk/trash in people's homes, especially depression. I wish people were more educated on this topic- we need more attention on the larger issues at hand.
Really appreciate CPS efforts in giving these kids a safe environment to grow up in while trying to maintain the child's relationship with their parents. Thanks cna for this doc!
"I never say ah? I never say such thing? No? I where got say?" A few moments later. Who marry you will jump down 16 story flat. 🤦♂️🤦♂️
I was like: please don't denie....
Her: never
Me: face palm.
I think the worst is not admitting your faults, if the kids said it happened, it happened. Kids have imagination but they don't have a trashy mind as to think jumping from a building, biting someone with hangers or punche people. This are things expose them for long or short therm.
@@yogurLAPIZ true, they have to have heard it from someone. They're great imitators. Especially the phrase 'jump off a building' I have heard 'use scissors to cut hand' or 'put ants into your mouth'. Violent language much. And the mum was trying to coach her kid to lay blame on the foster parents. Great kid for refusing to submit. The son has a lot more self-regulation and executive function than his mother.
CPS in the US could really take a cue from CPS in Singapore.
do you know of any US documentaries?
So can CPS UK
Same in uk
For real
The mom insinuating the children are lying and making an analogy about how you don't remember what you eat a few months ago. Of course no one remembers what they eat a few months ago because it wasn't traumatic lmao smh.
I think that she doesn't realize is that if you were traumatized by something enough you will remember that until the day you die you were not traumatized by what you ate a few months ago but you are traumatized by your parents constantly fighting and the fear that one day they're just going to get so out of hand they're going to hit you That is a permanent memory but what you ate two months ago is not in second children especially the youngest one it's not going to lie unless they know that they told the truth Mommy daddy is going to hit me most of the time they would say the truth regardless of the outcome because they know It can't get any worse than this
I really like that they have that tent in the room where the families interact. Kids can often be afraid and crave a secure place to “hide” when they are scared, upset, or uncomfortable and that little tent is large enough for a child to feel secure but small enough that parents really can’t enter the small space with them. They can create distance and space until they feel comfortable enough to join their family in the room. It is also a good way for the CPO worker to gauge the interaction with the child and their family. If they immediately run and hide and remain there for the majority of the visit they are obviously uncomfortable. As the visits progress they can determine how comfortable the child is and how the relationship/s have improved by whether the child runs immediately to the tent and/or how much of the visit the child spends inside the tent vs. interacting with the family. It is a great tool and I am sure it helps the child to feel more comfortable knowing they have a safe space in the room if they need it.
the cat abuse is overlooked
she locks her 4! cats in cages and lets them out only to touch and HOLD them? not to mention the cats didn't want to be held!
she just forcefully grabbed it back like it's some toy
my god I want to slap her
her "vision" of wanting to raise four cats and a child is also terribly disturbing considering how she's doing
Put a timestamp in the cat part
@@autumnmayfield6852 42:46
She said she wanted to raise 4 cats and 2 pigs… the pigs being her husband and son
I love these documentaries. Currently watching in quarantine... a great way to spend time. Thank you, CNA Insider! Greetings from Indonesia.
Me too 👀
Still in lockdown. Finally got around to watching this three parter though!
That family reunified with their son; that was so touching. Cutting onions.
A broken parent was once a broken child, hope they are able to aware of their pain and heal them.
Not sure if it's a cultural thing, that comment at 39:45 but boy is it alarming to me for the boy to just be sitting there as his mother a) comments on wanting to kill herself b) threatens to murder his father via window and then follows up with c) "I want to raise 4 kids--" THE CATS!? "and 2 pigs" referring to her husband and the child sitting right in front of her?!? At least from western perspective, that would be such a painful comment for the child to hear ):
It's definitely not a cultural thing. I'm Singaporean and it is indeed alarming to hear a child say that. Plus, as you noted, the mum had said similar things about throwing people out of the window and killing, even if she lies about not saying that to the CPS staff. It's pretty clear where the young child had learnt to say those things from and I honestly hope the mum can go for family counselling and parenting classes; otherwise, it is the child who suffers growing up in such an environment.
It's totally not cultural. It's just bad parenting and bad upbringing on the woman's side. She has very little executive functioning, even her son is better self-regulated and has better values than she, probably credit to his foster parents.
Btw she is 99% not Singaporean. That is a malaysian chinese accent
It's not a cultural thing. As a Singaporean, it's as horrifying as it sounds like.
Yeah I don’t know what culture in the world that would justify that level of emotional dysregulation and abuse.
I really hope that the single mum who struggled with drugs who went to prison is able to stay on track and keep her life heading in a positive direction!
Kudos to foster parents and those who lend a hand for kids to stay in a safer environment
Seeing the 4 year old ask nicely the second time while being in an excited state made me tear up. He remembered he needed to ask nicely for her to open the glitter. It’s hard for even adults to remember manners when excited and pumped up for things. I love knowing they’re helping him grow.
I am very impressed with this group of cps workers!!!! They are extremely thorough and definitely more interested in the children staying with parents if it’s totally safe or working with the parents on how to get there child(ren) back home!!!! Great work!!!👍🏽
the fact she compares mistreatment to what you had for lunch is sickening
The safety of the young person is paramount. Reunification is the best option for the young person only if it is safe.
Blessings to the Children, Foster Carers, Parents, Specialists and all who work towards giving the child the best possible healthy, home environment that enables the child to grow.
Thank you for all your hard, emotionally draining, heartbreaking, caring and wonderfully dedicated work.
🙏✌🏼❤️
They are so nice to the families and not rude at all.
It’s really triggering to see the dad not believing that his kids can see the violence going on in his house. I still remember how my parents fight when I was 4. Things were not thrown but I remember the shouting. Or when I recounted very clearly how I was crying I can’t go to my mum and my dad had to pull me back. Traumatic things stays with you and it’s really disheartening to see parents dismissing their child like this.
the mom in the messy home seems to be quite unstable emotionally and her behaviour is definitely affecting her child. she's saying really awful things like wanting to kill herself and her child is just picking up on that. she keeps denying that she has said these things even though its been caught on camera. sometimes her emotional and mental state can also make upkeep of her home a problem. the mother needs help as well
So glad they had the kids stay in foster care.
Yes the mother needs help!!!
shes pregnant again need to eat mental medicine
The messy home case - parents with Malaysian chinese accent. Why do they have 2 houses? And words don tally with what they say to cpo..said she has no idea why the child said he will jump down? Hello..filmed u said that phrase and u said u no idea.. please be a more responsible adult to ur children ok?
H H It sounds to me like the first house is maybe owned by the wife’s family, and then the couple qualified for a BTO flat on their own. They must have Singaporean Permanent Residency status. Too bad low-life’s such as they were given what looks to be a pretty nice public housing flat. Neither apparently works for any appreciable amount of time, either.
Not just that though, the father appeared to acknowledge the wife's awful attitude and behaviour. He was trying so hard to accommodate the child to help him settle and go to sleep whilst the mother cut him off name called and bullied them both! Services should focus parental care with the father and maybe even push the mother to address her behaviour or lose rights to the child. It sounds harsh and the father may feel resentful for a short while until he realises that a huge bulk of stress has been removed without the mother being present constantly attacking them both verbally and from what I gathered sometimes physically. The father mentioned her hitting the child, I bet the bruise came from her slapping him in frustration or taking her eyes off him for a moment once she took him back to the filthy residence; she herself said that things fall constantly and navigating the space is difficult; imagine what it is like for a child.
I sincerely hope the child services are responding to the footage captured here and make adjustment because she certainly knows that by taking him to the messy property she is going against the orders already given. Im not a fan of child services say in Britain or America as their attitudes are far different than the attitudes of thes cpo's. Over here it's all about 'winning' a case and trying to have the child removed or ignoring the abuse outright as its 'too much work' very little is centered on the childs welfare and more of how to demoralise the parent even when they follow the rules set. I've been a part of it and have friends who have also been failed by the u.k system unfairly. Seeing it done right in Singapore has really made me hopeful xxx
I just saw all Three parts of this documentary and i am impressed. Such a hard work with this familys and so many kids who need help and protection, i feel sad about this. But i am thankful to see these organisation, who stand behind the back of all these childs and fighting for them, but also trying to help their parents to grow up to good parenting and create a safer space in the future. I admire every mother and father, who decide to get help and try the best to get their children back at home, change their life and circumstances to be good parents for their loved ones. It's a hard and painful work for all involved persons, but kids are our future, and we need to stand up and protect the helpless, because they can't help themselves. I have a bad past back in childhood, as an adopted child, the unwanted child and now i have two wonderful kids (21y. and 7y.) and i love them so much and do my best to support them and raise them well. Nobody is perfect, we all make mistakes, but we are able to learn about the mistakes and we all have a chance to do it better the next time. It is worth it. If you don't want to learn, you don't deserve children...
I loved this series. Would love to see it again. Has certainly opened my eyes to the CPS and they really do care.
What a wonderful job you all are doing at CNA ! You are saving so many lives for the next generation. You should be extremely proud of yourselves and your accomplishments in returning children to parents who have listened and changed. Also saving those children from the parents who won't take any responsibility for their own bad behaviour and actions. I survived child abuse and am proud to say my kids are all grown up and didn't endure what I went through. Anyone can break the cycle, you just have to want something better for you're children.
Her cats are locked up in cages ALL DAY omg spca please take away these cats and put them up for adoption.
Is there anything we can do to help? I'm worried for the cats ...
I just watched a child be able to acknowledge he’s feeling an intense emotion and wow, he just SIGHED ALL THAT WEIGHT OFF HIS LIL BABY SHOULDERS
Thk u CNA for bringing up this story of life really a eye opener for us
The dirty house mother sounds seriously Borderline. At the very least, massively immature. Tells the little boy there’s monsters at the new apt., so he’ll want to go back to the old house, where she wants to be. Mentioned twice about jumping off the building. Told her husband she’d throw him off. Called both of them pigs. If she doesn’t get help, one thing she’ll do is turn her sons into her emotional caretakers. If you don’t make Mommy happy, I guess I’ll just have to jump off this roof. They don’t really want their children back, but CPS is pretty much forcing it on them. At least during the four years the boys have been out of the home, crazy Mom didn’t have another baby. Kudos to her and Dad for that.
They had a third child apparently, so i don't think they really understood how bad their situation was...
The cats condition is so bad too. The fur is unhealthy, basically means lack of grooming and possibly not enough nutrition. They don't have much money but still have so many high maintenance cats. Make it make sense
Breeding them for money?
It’s so lovely and reassuring seeing such competent and caring CPS workers truly helping out. You hear a lot of horror stories of CPS workers who fail the child, but this teams seems so capable and successful
I love this we need more of this . Parents who need to notice where they are failing is why this exists this is not ABOUT YOU it is about your child !!! If you are not ready to have one do not have one !!!
I am glad CPS exist, but I am angry at the cat abuse in those cages!
Really good, very interesting, wish there were more in the series.
It's disgusting to see how these people who have the audacity to call themselves parents yet lie blatantly about their actions. They want to assume the authority and power of a parent but refuse to carry out the responsibility. True representation of what a scumbag looks like.
Educational Documentary. Very Good.
The three hardest hours of documentaries to watch. I have developed a deeper appreciation for the work that the CPS employees do. I would ask what type of mental health services do they receive because working with some of these parents would be very difficult emotionally.
I am really shocked they would even consider a brand new stephfather to be the safe parent. Wasnt he sent to jail for trafficking girls from oversea? And uncommon for a 4 year old to hurt their siblings?? please watch Supernanny... its all you see.
I was actually shocked what child protection means when I took up my certificate 3 qualifications for childcare. I’m a mandatory reporter in my line of work. I could never fathom that a child can be abused and it sickens me. But that’s the reality of the situation and it is true. The CPS is there for the children and it is the best option when the child can stay with the parents when they have the help and support they need.
In this episode only single mom is the trying her best... others just showing off or telling lie everything.
the diversity of workers! 😍
That is Singapore
Watching this made me think about what KPAI has been doing in Indonesia so far. How cool the CPS officer 👍👍👍👍
Wow. That's all I can say, I don't have any words for this.
This team appears to have more experience and insight on how to handle the cases. Good job and hope u guys keep on doing what you are doing.
I am a parent my self, some of these cases is really shocking. I mean we are not perfect, we as parents can have mistakes and we also quarell sometimes, but children wellfare comes first. Some of these parents are in denial, even when there are evidence about what they are saying or doing. I just dont understand why they have more than one children or any children at all if they are not ready to make sacrifice. Being a parents is a very difficult task that you can ever find in your life so think before you have one. And dont blame others especially institution that are helping you correct your mistake as a parent.
I’m not saying any of these parents are being good, quite the contrary. But for the 4 year old misbehaving, the cps worker said about children of that age behaving in that fashion is so abnormal and that they don’t want to hurt or hit people. When my daughter was 3 and a half she head butted my face and dislocated my jaw, this was after years of her attacking me, hitting, pinching, kicking. When I went to the hospital because of my face the drs tried to accuse my husband of abusing me. I had to admit it was my daughter, they didn’t believe me until I asked my husband to bring her in and she started to hurt me almost immediately.
At 6 years old she was diagnosed with asd, she no longer hits me at all because we all have a greater understanding of her condition and how to help her empathise and manage her feelings more appropriately! She is 7 now, 8 this year and she is doing fantastic!
All I’m trying to say is that, if you have an aggressive child, or if you observe a child who is lashing out...it may not always be because they are witnessing abuse. As soon as my daughter was in assessment (which took about a year and a half) we started researching autism and how to help her progress and connect to us. In fact it wasn’t until she was 7 that she would allow her dad (my husband) to bond to her and help me with her! Now they are best friends! Teachers and drs always assumed he was not her father and was my new partner, but he is the father of both of our girls, we have been together for 11 years. He has been there everyday for them.
Things are not always as they appear.
I think that also the psychology takes part in it, if they show some kind of behaviour, explosive like your daughter, they would seek help or opinions. But the only 4 year old child I know, normal with no psychology conditions, was my cousin and he was exposed to violence and still now a days he explodes in rage. I'm worried but he is scared of me somehow, he tells my mom he feels awkward and is scared of me, never hit him in fact he was the one to stab me with a pencil when we where younger. But I suppose is because like my brother says: I feel like you are staring my soul and reading my thoughts. XD
Which is precisely what the worker said; it’s not normal for kids to hit others unless they’ve witnessed it. In your child’s case, it’s triggered by ASD and in theirs perhaps family violence. Did you also notice that mother did not move to comfort him?
@@beezlebub9 when kids act out it's best to not give that negative behavior any attention. Attention only feeds into it
What she said on 41:25 brings me back to 39:33 LOL. Even though she didn't directly say it to a child, but the child is present he can hear.
Yes she was blatantly lying and probably is in denial about her verbal abuse. The husband is being abused as well, and it does not reflect well on the young boys to see their dad treated without respect.
Singapore’s CPS is on point!
:') unrelated but siaotian's mandarin is hella fluent dem
Heartbreaking. So many issues.
It has got to be so frustrating for the CPS workers when parents not only refuse to take responsibility for their own actions and behaviors but also actively make things harder by not doing whatever they to be a better parent. Why would you not want to be a better parent? With or without CPS involvement?
Addiction is hard. You cant never say that a person will falling back on, two, three, four times in life, because they will, its like depression, I hope the mom with little child have some kind of support, someone to reach out to, she can always reach out to someone. I am so PROUD of the mom and all parents that understand that they need help to change. And i am so sorry for parents that felt so hopeless and gave up. Your children will always love you no matter what.
It takes more paperwork to own a dog than to have a baby. If you can't take care of your children, then please, don't have them! You're creating a cycle of abuse and neglect that they'll learn from their parents and there's a strong possibility that they will continue on those cycles when they are adults. It's a shame that so many people have kids, when they are unable and unwilling to care for them.
when will parents learn that kids are impressionable. they will remember everything you to do to them as a kid until they're adults. and it will stay with them.
It may only be a passing thing you did "a few months ago" but it will have a lasting effect for the rest of their lives.
The messy house lady is a serious hoarder that needs help, she's already hoarding out the second apartment. She rather hoard than keep her children, that stuff she fills her home with has no meaning, her children do though.
This is huge, raise awareness all around the world 🌎, all cps systems are overloaded, in the United States it's very broken, too many apathetic attitudes, children fall through the cracks and then we hear they're dead or fighting for their lives in the hospital 🏥 😢
My mom had a unique way of punishing me. Besides beating me she would tell me everything that's bad happened coz I was tormenting my parents. She would tell me she would soon die as I don't listen to her. She would snap at me, scold me over everything like I refusing to wear the frock that was too tight to wear, she won't talk to me for days and yell and taunt and made me anxious. She cherished my insecurity when I had no one to approach while she was misbehaving with me. My father being henpecked would only look for temporary solutions. And now I am permanently an anxiety patient. My mom is finally successful!
i hope you're doing better now. what an awful way to treat a child!!
The messy house reminds me of my ex’s house when we were teens in high school. His mother was a hoarder and the house was full of miscellaneous objects to the point where we could barely walk in there. I had a couple random things fall on me a few times while visiting. I think CPS was involved since we were both 15-17 at the time, but I don’t know his situation now.
yes kids get used to it or are afraid to see anything. they should remember this when working with kids
everything feels too.. sterile.. it's clear that bad parenting isn't the only thing that's harming the kids - parent's mental health, whether the child's receiving any nurturing care (asking an impatient child to say 'please' might teach manners but probably won't introduce the concept of empathy)... ya sgean parenting for lower income groups might quite void of actual TLC, but the stress of parenting + money are valid reasons for a parent to lose it. my own dad belted me when i was 6. but he also was the sole breadwinner of a family with 5 active and noisy (annoying) kids. as we grew up and matured, and finances weren't such an issue anymore, he gradually became more affectionate and caring. thank you for shedding light onto the stories of our CPOs, and the work they do to protect the children is incredibly admirable - i can't imagine bearing the stress and emotional toll that comes with the job. but maybe consider tweaking the training a little? creating a stronger support system for these families? like yes this helps but doesn't look v sustainable..
I wish I can tell the mother, “I don’t remember what I ate few months ago because that wasn’t traumatising, but I do remember being hit with a belt by my father 22 years ago. When I’m only a toddler who do not know how to control my emotions or process my thought and expressing them with words. And I do remember looking for mother for help but she was so scared I can see she went to hide and only watch from a far… the pain that I felt on that day wasn’t just physical level but also mentally. the abuse continued until I learned how to defend myself. So yes, traumatic event STUCK with you for life “
Really impressed!! Go CPS in Singapore
Appreciate the challanges that CPS faces in trying to protect the children. Simply setting standards for this troubled parents to meet in order to ensure that the children could return to a safe environment however, is IMHO going to be yet another hurdle the parents have to overcome. Some, if not most of the these parents wants desperately to care for their children, but they don't know how to.
If we require a driving license to drive a vehicle, why are we allowing people to be parents without adequate training or teachings? Some adults grew up not knowing how to take care of themselves, but we are expecting them to be responsible & caring parents in the instance their child is born?
I noticed that all the parents featured in this series are from low income, and relatively uneducated families, how could we help them learn to better manage themselves?
I learned most of my soft skills from the internet, because I was fortunately enough to have the resources to do so. I am grateful that my brother & I were able to learn how to be financially responsible on our own, though we have parents who are not.
In the case of the "unsafe environment", it really isn't due to a lack of effort on her part, she seems to have a hoarding problem. She feels so stressful from her life, she learns to "ignore" all the things that makes her uncomfortable. Only if she could be given assistance in the form of training, teaching to manage her emotions and how to step-by-step get her life back on track.
Let's give a round of applause to all social workers and everyone at CPS!!
Actually when I was a kid I was placed, with my two old brothers in a place, supposed to take care of us while my mom worked. I don't have much memory of that time, but I have a bit of confusing parts of it. I think my brain decided to wipe it because was shocking, also I was a mommy girl and being without her all week except one weekend I think was traumatic. But my mom did said the cps from Brasil made a deal with her of taking care while she stabilized her life (she was a single mom of 3 and my father abusive). Anyway, they replaced us to another center without notice or conscent or so they told her, the thing is kids where missing on that place. We where separated too from each one so she got scared, but no answers. Good thing after some blackmail of burning the place down if not given back her kids, they did return and told her was all a misunderstanding.... Still somehow she didn't bought it. Also she said it was weird how they send each one of us to different places, even knowing I was dependent on my brother's to not cry and cope with all. More of it there was no documents that showed the approvement of this replacement. To get it worse one of the workers on that place told her to take us before is too late and not trust them.... Suppose that's why my mom didn't had a good view over them. To tell the truth I wiped out all that of my memory I think for a reason and had nightmares since young that I couldn't understand... Better not remember. Thanks for the new perspective of how it works and why some cases is needed to be taken at that level. Kids tell more than we think it's so simple the way they show it, maybe that's why we adults don't get it because for us all is complicated.
It’s thankless work and it’s sad it even needs to exist but it’s a very good thing it does
God bless you all, difficult job
34:45 This is so important!
Not all heroes wear capes
It’s amazing how in denial all these parents are. You’re the problem figure it out.
I wish my country has this kind of service too, unfortunately there is none. Gov doesn't care even a little
Interesting content
I hope the mother with so many cats can change over 2 years
I wonder if CPO will alter law to allow foster parents to become adoptive parents
I am just curious why or in what way did these families agree to be filmed even though they knew their identities would be protected?
I’m sorry but the woman who refuses to believe her and her husband fighting doesn’t affect their children is repulsive I couldn’t stand her. Good jobs to the worker
Welcome to the world of traditional asian parenting style. I had to say watching the cases that the parents themselves probably don't know better and probably were brought up the same way too and in similar environments as well. Still, violence is never the way to resolve conflict anywhere, physical and verbal. If pre-marital counselling is widely available, parenting classes should be too. The wife beater duo don't see how their cultural brand of 'fighting' is wrong. He never beat the sons but it's okay to beat the wife.
Even the cat feeling uneasy when she holds it...dammmmmm she's pregnant again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Nice to be here early!
I don't understand why that man will say that their children is lying about being scared to go home children don't say that they never want to go back home I left something were to happen in their house most children or happy to go home honestly it's very rare to see a child refuse to go home unless you're doing activity somewhere today are kind of into in a moment and second children don't draw weapons or join their parents in jail usually when it comes to drawing if you see something negative or something concerning that came from a place children don't just draw things that are concerning out of nowhere they draw things that are concerning based on what they has experience or has seen at some point in their life children don't just rarely draw their dad with a knife unless they assume one day that yeah I will pick up a knife and do something with it and take it children don't lie unless you taught them to lie so unless you were to do something that cost them you need to lie do not get hurt then that's completely on you if you have a good communication with your kids then there's no reason why they should ever lie in the first place
I'm from the USA and teach English online to children in China. More than once I have heard obvious family problems (screaming and banging) and distress in the background and seen the kids look nervous as hell. I've thought to myself try that in the USA and see how fast somebody will turn your ass into the authorities. You'll look up and the social worker will be on your doorstep with the police to take your kids away. Child protective services won't make it easy at all to get your kids back and in the USA a kid can only spend 15 months out of 22 months in protective custody before court proceedings for termination of parental rights WILL commence. Singapore is very nice to parents compared to the USA.
Why is only the younger sibling allowed to return home to stay each week
If I'm not mistaken the child who was severely onjured on his head was the oldest, so maybe they prefer to keep in away due to the trauma. Or perhaps he refused to go for overnight visits.
I love her hair color with the blue and grey I could imagine myself working there
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Pls be honest n kind to your self pity the children have a long way to go don't bring their life to trauma it really a sad thing to see the children being treated like that pls n pls stop for your children
Iresponsable adults ! they are not parents just awfull and not educated people. Is easy to have children but to raise them is something else.Please continue with your good job !
Hello Dana how are you doing hope you’re having a great time with your family may God bless you and your family and I hope you all stay safe
@@steveclinton4084 Stop spamming dude you’re a fake account you’ve said this comment to 20 people all women
Or in Singapore?
Wow the kid was playing with bay blade wrong
oh lord... the way some of these parents speak you can just hear their missing chromosomes
They are. They’re*
You mean like you?
@@bakarangerpinku ??
bakarangerpinku what he said was the correct grammar. Kau yang salah 😂
@@bakarangerpinku are you illiterate?
The little boy was just not thought how to deal with his emotions correctly it dose happen it's something that is gonna take alot of time n work 2 fix n help he deal in the right way
Take notes U.S. CPS, THIS IS HOW YOU SAVE A CHILDS LIFE‼️🤧
I can't bare to see the separation of the kids and the parents
Oh my goodness ..a caseload of 1,200 cases per CP workers ..unreal!! moi
Where is this
She says she is worried that things might fall and hurt hur child but she doesn't take the initiative to clear the mess and get rid of the danger.
She's a hoarder..It's a sickness
Who keeps cats in a cage?? Very bizarre.
i only keep my dog in her cage when she’s sleeping. in her cage there’s enough water and a comfy bed and many stuffed s toys so she would not be bored when she isn’t tired. in the morning, we’ll take her out for fresh air 🙃
@@user-ts4sz3ss7b I understand keeping dogs in cages/crates as that is pretty normal. But cats???? That is just plain weird.
@@lanpingpug i’ve never seen a cat owner have a cage for a cat before
@@lanpingpug it's not just weird, it's animal abuse. cats aren't meant to be kept confined somewhere, they need to be able to move around their territory freely. these cats seem like they have given up, and it's really sad to see
The children from the dirty house should be placed for adoption. The mom is so selfish and even got to the point os saying she is going to bring her children home after 2 years. They need to be secure in an loving home, they can't be waiting and getting older in a place that it's not a home. It's not fair for them.
Poor cats