Today I called my manager crying whilst telling her I was not OK and feeling so overwhelmed by work. I was ashamed after cause I thought I was totally being overdramatic... but then I realized, i was being brave and therefore I experienced discomfort. I wasn't overdramatic i was just feeling uncomfortable, but at the same time... I was brave♡. Brave enough to speak up, brave enough to show my boundaries en brave enough to tell her what no one else did before but said they wanted. I was speaking my truth, maybe via tears, but directly from a pure and honest place and being brave with that🙏
Hope she took your feelings seriously and made an effort to help you. What employers many times do not understand is that their employees wellbeing at work is their responsability, and it's good for both parts. You were brave! Big hug :)
So many powerful statements require me to listen again and again to understand and apply to my life. Those old tapes of feeling unworthy, not good enough, feeling I am a mistake. Others validating you're not enough, too sensitive. I've owned my mistakes yet self forgiveness... boy, that's taking time. Brene Brown i appreciate you.
I have no desire to be “a courageous leader”! All I want right now is to be able to function - to be able to sleep at night, to wake up in the early morning, and do what needs to be done, to care for myself and one measly cat, to function as a competent parent and grandparent, to have a reasonably clean, neat, organized, comfortable home.
If you are accomplishing those things, then you are demonstrating leadership qualities in your own way. That naturally shows outwardly. Taking care of yourself is not a selfish first step. You do you!!🙏❤🕊💫
Brenne Brown I love your vulnerability and your authenticity. Yours words came from the heart and is inspiring. Thank you for helping the world to transform their shame into pure wholehearted universal soul
*TO EVERYONE 👇🏻👇🏻* You're the best, always remember this and don't be pressure or intimidated by the success of others. Everyone has their own success story but different timing 🤔 Don't compare your journey to those whose journey are different from yours.... Time is on your side and your timing is different from theirs. Just Keep grinding👏🏾, because am very sure one day, you will also be celebrated. Have a blessed day *I Love You 💕*
You blew me out of the water with... People don't let their kids experience failure... This was my epiphany... My way of saying this was... Let your kids fall and skin their knee at 3 when they run too fast... So they don't screw up on big stuff at 16 that you can't save them from
I am so desperate to find a way to change the way that I look at time it’s affecting my life in every single aspect. It’s negatively affecting my family relationships, my friendships, my romantic relationships, my ability to be a successful as possible in the current nursing program that I’m in and I just need a way to change it and I have not come across more than just advice, rather than steps of how to work on this in the hundreds of podcasts that I’ve watched. However, your method sounds like a very useful way to begin the process. I’m starting this time tracking exercise today. I will update you thank you for this.
It is VERY difficult to put yourself out there when you believe what you do is directly tied to your self-worth. As a musician, I am petrified to make a mistake because, to me, that equals failure. I'm so afraid of seeing someone "turn off" if I do make a mistake.
I loved reading Maya Angelou when I was a kid. What she said resonated in me at a young age. You are exceptional at explaining it and your thoughts and insight are amazing 😇 thank you
Thanks Brene working on my relationships after going through a heavy drug addiction its difficult but I feel as if it'll be worth it. Kaley Puma Cooke❤
You are so inspiring and I love the structure and flow of your talks. I feel that we know about forgiveness, but yet we don't know how to forgive ourselves. Forgiveness Makes resilience and courage to move forward easier.
If I find myself in the presence of really admirable people that make me want to change myself, then I am going to strive to change myself so that I will fit better into that group. To say that feeling some pressure to change - and then making positive changes - is self-betrayal just doesn't jibe with my life experiences.
so if you twist Brene's words buying the right clothes and car is the exact same thing as trying to learn something from people you admire? interesting.
Hey there, I enjoy every single second and every single word you say in your message. I have connected completely with the shame issue to connect to another person. You are fantastic and authentic like myself. We should do a Ted X talk in tandem sometime. We could help each other. 😊
😊become your best friend your inspiration, you should believe in yourself know that where you are now is temporary that your looks don't determine your worth your past mistakes are your lessons that you deserve amazing life of adventure explore and true relationships that fake people are not made for you, true friends never leave never cheat . Stay strong work towards your dreams you4 life is your creation🎉😊
Wow! I Absolutely loved this info you shared! Thank you, Brene Brown, for this amazing, life changing, and very profound, video!! Are you coming to the Indianapolis area to speak anytime soon? 😊
I love Brené Brown she makes it sound so easy to do? I mean i am in love with a man and that i can’t tell him that i am a transgender and that is something that he does not know an i don’t think I will or every be able to tell him the truth. Is that shame or is that guilt..so that is why, i think i can relate to ever word that she is talking about? ❤
Please, please read the book “The Tools” by Phil Stutz. This video tells you what is important in life and that it will make you become a better person but doesn’t really give you the tools to make that happen. It doesn’t make it easier for you to tell this man you’re in love with that you are trans. You’re fearing rejection from him because that would mean he might not want to be a part of your life anymore and that probably scares you more than anything. This book completely changed my life. I used to be so bad about micromanaging people and I came off as an asshole. The Book helped me realize that what I was doing doesn’t help the person at all and only makes me hated. I’ve since learned how to communicate to my team better and use my knowledge to educate without being a threat. To make their job easier and more efficient while still doing a quality job. I’ve learned to say sorry and admit when I’m wrong at things. I can now tell myself “I am not perfect, and my way is not the only way” “You can’t control the outcome. You can only control the effort you put in. This may be hard to accept, but it’s also liberating. It means you don’t have to be perfect-just determined.” Phil Stutz When using this quote in your situation you can see that of course there’s a chance that the man you’re in love with doesn’t love you back, thus being the “outcome you cannot control”. You on the other hand have full control of the actions you can take “controlling the effort you put in”. Example “you’ll never know if you don’t ask”. By always running different scenarios through your head you become overwhelmed and put in no actual effort to take action. The sooner you put yourself through the uncomfortable situation of telling this man your truth, the faster you can move forward with life whether that be in a relationship with him or not. Rejection happens to every person in every form all through life. Some people experience more rejection than others and it might feel unfair at times but it’s how you deal with that rejection that determines what kind of person you are. The most successful people in life are the best at facing rejection because it allows them to see new experiences and reach bigger and better goals. I seriously wish you the best and I do hope this man remains a part of your life after you tell him but if that isn’t the case just know that you are strong enough to continue moving forward. ❤
Please please read the book “the tools” by phil stutz. His entire book is 100% giving you the exact tools to put this into action. All the amazing things in this video that are said to be important in making change happen, the book teaches how to do. For me the book has helped me to not nitpick things that are not that big of deal. Things that don’t need escalation. I used the book to stop being a micro manager. I instead use my knowledge to educate and help my team accomplish things correctly and efficiently instead of scolding and taking over. It’s clear that you have identified there is change you’d like to make. Side note, I know this might sound like I am affiliated with this book but honestly it’s just made me a better person and I want everyone to achieve the same. ❤️
She's gives a few different examples of shame but they're not the real point. We all have our own box that we build around ourselves and blame others for being in. Left unchecked, shame, in whatever form the human experiences it in, is not good for us.
= a lot of talk, with long catchwords that have no meaning if we're not given to understand how to actualize the things being talked about. it's easy to say resilience, authenticity, vulnerability, but harder to communicate how to embody those qualities.
which one is shame vs guilt. I am the mistake vs I made one. I make mistakes. With those close to me it becomes I am the mistake then they leave. It is like quicksand, once I make one that is all they see and all I am. a series of mistakes. even though they are never the same mistake.
This was a fantastic video, but I REALLY wish you wouldn't pop in those subscribe visual/audios throughout. It's incredibly distracting, especially when we're listening to a topic that requires critical thought. Please reconsider this sort of thing! Especially for those of us on the neurodiverse spectrum. My ADHD is sobbing. lol
That depends on the guy.Justin Trudeau is not afraid of being perceived as weak and that likely has something to do with him being the Prime Minister of Canada while all the "strong" he men are too low on the food chain to be a Canadian Prime Minister.
This is not man related to.women relationships. Yes be brave but don't be emotional. All the women I've spoken to admit its a turnoff. Feel vulnerable in a decision and be courageous making it. But not in relationships.
Nice looking video. Too many perfect bodies on there. Where are all the real people? Wanted to finish watching but feel excluded and that I don’t belong, and hey I’m not even very overweight. Real people please.
Today I called my manager crying whilst telling her I was not OK and feeling so overwhelmed by work. I was ashamed after cause I thought I was totally being overdramatic... but then I realized, i was being brave and therefore I experienced discomfort. I wasn't overdramatic i was just feeling uncomfortable, but at the same time... I was brave♡. Brave enough to speak up, brave enough to show my boundaries en brave enough to tell her what no one else did before but said they wanted. I was speaking my truth, maybe via tears, but directly from a pure and honest place and being brave with that🙏
And then she was fired
@@joshuameyer4013 🤣🤣🤣 no still in the game
Thank you for sharing this ❤
Hope she took your feelings seriously and made an effort to help you. What employers many times do not understand is that their employees wellbeing at work is their responsability, and it's good for both parts. You were brave! Big hug :)
I did the same, I had to, and felt good ❤
So many powerful statements require me to listen again and again to understand and apply to my life. Those old tapes of feeling unworthy, not good enough, feeling I am a mistake. Others validating you're not enough, too sensitive. I've owned my mistakes yet self forgiveness... boy, that's taking time. Brene Brown i appreciate you.
Don't be pressured about what your future is going to be. Future is were you are right now 🥰♥️
I love this woman. Such profound insight.
I have no desire to be “a courageous leader”! All I want right now is to be able to function - to be able to sleep at night, to wake up in the early morning, and do what needs to be done, to care for myself and one measly cat, to function as a competent parent and grandparent, to have a reasonably clean, neat, organized, comfortable home.
If you are accomplishing those things, then you are demonstrating leadership qualities in your own way.
That naturally shows outwardly. Taking care of yourself is not a selfish first step. You do you!!🙏❤🕊💫
Brenne Brown I love your vulnerability and your authenticity. Yours words came from the heart and is inspiring. Thank you for helping the world to transform their shame into pure wholehearted universal soul
Dr Brene Brown, I found your words connecting with me every second I was watching. May GOD Bless you and Keep you all the days of your life.
I find the same thing with every time I hear her speak!!💯👏❤️
❤ How Profound
"I Belong Everywhere I Go" Absolutely ! ❤ And "I Believe In My Ability To Get There". ❤
Everyone needs to have hope. I truly believe that no matter what religion you choose if any, it is all based on hope.
I really like comfort and that makes me feel shame 😔
*TO EVERYONE 👇🏻👇🏻*
You're the best, always remember this and don't be pressure or intimidated by the success of others.
Everyone has their own success story but different timing 🤔
Don't compare your journey to those whose journey are different from yours....
Time is on your side and your timing is different from theirs.
Just Keep grinding👏🏾, because am very sure one day, you will also be celebrated.
Have a blessed day
*I Love You 💕*
You blew me out of the water with... People don't let their kids experience failure...
This was my epiphany... My way of saying this was...
Let your kids fall and skin their knee at 3 when they run too fast... So they don't screw up on big stuff at 16 that you can't save them from
I am so desperate to find a way to change the way that I look at time it’s affecting my life in every single aspect. It’s negatively affecting my family relationships, my friendships, my romantic relationships, my ability to be a successful as possible in the current nursing program that I’m in and I just need a way to change it and I have not come across more than just advice, rather than steps of how to work on this in the hundreds of podcasts that I’ve watched. However, your method sounds like a very useful way to begin the process.
I’m starting this time tracking exercise today. I will update you thank you for this.
It is VERY difficult to put yourself out there when you believe what you do is directly tied to your self-worth. As a musician, I am petrified to make a mistake because, to me, that equals failure. I'm so afraid of seeing someone "turn off" if I do make a mistake.
Well said. I live this way and I often speak to others about this very message. Hope is never giving up regardless ♥️
Brene, I really like how you word things....I listen when you speak..thank you 💯
Amazing! Thanks for this. Courageous people get attacked, a lot. Nice to hear.
We have learnt so much from you Brene Brown on Vulnerability and many other topics, Thank you for all the inspiration
I loved reading Maya Angelou when I was a kid. What she said resonated in me at a young age. You are exceptional at explaining it and your thoughts and insight are amazing 😇 thank you
Thanks Brene working on my relationships after going through a heavy drug addiction its difficult but I feel as if it'll be worth it. Kaley Puma Cooke❤
I really enjoyed your fresh perspective. It “ unstuck” me. Thankyou.
Never let your fear of missing a pitch prevent you from participating in a game.
I appreciate this video!!! Thank you Brenne’. Me2!! And you are INSPIRING ❤
One must be responsible first to expand
Not to Others, but to
Thyself
You are so inspiring and I love the structure and flow of your talks.
I feel that we know about forgiveness, but yet we don't know how to forgive ourselves. Forgiveness Makes resilience and courage to move forward easier.
This was Devine timing I heard this video. It was great help and info! Hope to see you again 🌷
Spot on!
I needed this today ❤
Thank you for sharing this video. It has taught me so much.
If I find myself in the presence of really admirable people that make me want to change myself, then I am going to strive to change myself so that I will fit better into that group. To say that feeling some pressure to change - and then making positive changes - is self-betrayal just doesn't jibe with my life experiences.
so if you twist Brene's words buying the right clothes and car is the exact same thing as trying to learn something from people you admire? interesting.
i think you are inspired by them which leads you to aligns better with your true self that wants success and happiness
Hope is not a feeling
Wow I felt that you are talking to me ... thank You
Hey there, I enjoy every single second and every single word you say in your message. I have connected completely with the shame issue to connect to another person. You are fantastic and authentic like myself. We should do a Ted X talk in tandem sometime. We could help each other. 😊
Wow….. thank you!
So very powerful ❤
Brilliantly said!!!! Wow!
Ayye yo i was just reading her book and now she is in my home page ....what a coincidence
Thank you
the people in these stock videos are so attractive
😊become your best friend your inspiration, you should believe in yourself know that where you are now is temporary that your looks don't determine your worth your past mistakes are your lessons that you deserve amazing life of adventure explore and true relationships that fake people are not made for you, true friends never leave never cheat . Stay strong work towards your dreams you4 life is your creation🎉😊
Wow! I Absolutely loved this info you shared! Thank you, Brene Brown, for this amazing, life changing, and very profound, video!! Are you coming to the Indianapolis area to speak anytime soon? 😊
Without hope and faith in God you don't have anything 🙏 Hope gives you a possibility that something can happen
This is really good. Thankyou.
대한민국에서 듣고 있습니다. I love you❤
I love Brené Brown she makes it sound so easy to do? I mean i am in love with a man and that i can’t tell him that i am a transgender and that is something that he does not know an i don’t think I will or every be able to tell him the truth. Is that shame or is that guilt..so that is why, i think i can relate to ever word that she is talking about?
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Please, please read the book “The Tools” by Phil Stutz. This video tells you what is important in life and that it will make you become a better person but doesn’t really give you the tools to make that happen. It doesn’t make it easier for you to tell this man you’re in love with that you are trans. You’re fearing rejection from him because that would mean he might not want to be a part of your life anymore and that probably scares you more than anything. This book completely changed my life. I used to be so bad about micromanaging people and I came off as an asshole. The Book helped me realize that what I was doing doesn’t help the person at all and only makes me hated. I’ve since learned how to communicate to my team better and use my knowledge to educate without being a threat. To make their job easier and more efficient while still doing a quality job. I’ve learned to say sorry and admit when I’m wrong at things. I can now tell myself “I am not perfect, and my way is not the only way”
“You can’t control the outcome. You can only control the effort you put in. This may be hard to accept, but it’s also liberating. It means you don’t have to be perfect-just determined.” Phil Stutz
When using this quote in your situation you can see that of course there’s a chance that the man you’re in love with doesn’t love you back, thus being the “outcome you cannot control”. You on the other hand have full control of the actions you can take “controlling the effort you put in”. Example “you’ll never know if you don’t ask”. By always running different scenarios through your head you become overwhelmed and put in no actual effort to take action.
The sooner you put yourself through the uncomfortable situation of telling this man your truth, the faster you can move forward with life whether that be in a relationship with him or not. Rejection happens to every person in every form all through life. Some people experience more rejection than others and it might feel unfair at times but it’s how you deal with that rejection that determines what kind of person you are. The most successful people in life are the best at facing rejection because it allows them to see new experiences and reach bigger and better goals.
I seriously wish you the best and I do hope this man remains a part of your life after you tell him but if that isn’t the case just know that you are strong enough to continue moving forward. ❤
Could anyone let me know which book or lecture is Brene talking from? I would really like to hear the whole discussion. This is an eye opener for me.
Probably Daring Greatly as a book. Her TED talk on vulnerability is great too 😊
@@julietshepherd8852 what is her very best most useful practical book?
Braving the Wilderness!! She quotes it a couple times in this. I just finished reading it this week and I 10/10 recommend. ♡
Rising Strong.
Jesus Christ gave me Hope, still does everyday. Without HIM i would Not BE alive today. Jesus Christ ✝️✨🙌🏻 the Hope of GLORY.
Yes 🙌
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why is it that no matter how many lectures i listen to i still dont choose discomfort and bravery?? :( i always chose comfort
It’s the easier thing to do. I do the same thing
Please please read the book “the tools” by phil stutz. His entire book is 100% giving you the exact tools to put this into action. All the amazing things in this video that are said to be important in making change happen, the book teaches how to do. For me the book has helped me to not nitpick things that are not that big of deal. Things that don’t need escalation. I used the book to stop being a micro manager. I instead use my knowledge to educate and help my team accomplish things correctly and efficiently instead of scolding and taking over. It’s clear that you have identified there is change you’d like to make.
Side note, I know this might sound like I am affiliated with this book but honestly it’s just made me a better person and I want everyone to achieve the same. ❤️
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She has been after me for a few years. I say to her, don’t put people in a box that fits your own history that you have held onto your entire life.
She's gives a few different examples of shame but they're not the real point. We all have our own box that we build around ourselves and blame others for being in. Left unchecked, shame, in whatever form the human experiences it in, is not good for us.
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Agree 👍
= a lot of talk, with long catchwords that have no meaning if we're not given to understand how to actualize the things being talked about. it's easy to say resilience, authenticity, vulnerability, but harder to communicate how to embody those qualities.
which one is shame vs guilt. I am the mistake vs I made one. I make mistakes. With those close to me it becomes I am the mistake then they leave. It is like quicksand, once I make one that is all they see and all I am. a series of mistakes. even though they are never the same mistake.
This was a fantastic video, but I REALLY wish you wouldn't pop in those subscribe visual/audios throughout. It's incredibly distracting, especially when we're listening to a topic that requires critical thought. Please reconsider this sort of thing! Especially for those of us on the neurodiverse spectrum. My ADHD is sobbing. lol
#☝️Leap!😝🤷♀️👏👍😎💪💖😊🙂
Everybody dodging accountable
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I'm female but I sound like I'm the man in this story...🤔
That depends on the guy.Justin Trudeau is not afraid of being perceived as weak and that likely has something to do with him being the Prime Minister of Canada while all the "strong" he men are too low on the food chain to be a Canadian Prime Minister.
He has no shame.
Empty blubbers.
Why you look me you know I am poor leave my life
Welcome to My helpful organization meny of these girls needs help although I know how to help you so don't waist time.
I wish she'd speak more slowly
Like all these “ gurus” they make way too much money. This is not that great.
This is not man related to.women relationships.
Yes be brave but don't be emotional.
All the women I've spoken to admit its a turnoff.
Feel vulnerable in a decision and be courageous making it.
But not in relationships.
This is all so obvious. Why do people think this stuff is so profound?
Nice looking video. Too many perfect bodies on there. Where are all the real people? Wanted to finish watching but feel excluded and that I don’t belong, and hey I’m not even very overweight. Real people please.
the narcissist attacks again..
Honestly, this is bullsh*t.
Every act of bravery I can recall is associated with vulnerability ranging all across the vulnerability spectrum.
brenee brown get off your soap box?? you ain't any better b!
Yes @brene’brown I can
Started out well but then became a bit of word salad covering tangents related to the original topic. Not as good as I'd hoped.
Thank you.
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