TEN SIGNS that show YOU DON'T HAVE CLASS! | Stop these Classless Behaviours Immediately!

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  • 10 Signs You Don't Have Class. Sometimes the signs are glaringly obvious; how you dress, walk and generally behave. However, sometimes there are more subtle tell tale signs that show you need refining in dome aspects of your life.
    This video discusses 10 signs that show you lack class in many ways. 2023 is just 2 weeks away. Why not use this time to leave those mediocre behaviours behind and make the next year your most elegant and classy one yet?
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  • @jacquelinesmith-gaston2071
    @jacquelinesmith-gaston2071 ปีที่แล้ว +1763

    My mother told me this as a younger, single lady..."a man that will cheat WITH YOU, will cheat ON YOU!"

    • @wannaduckfin
      @wannaduckfin ปีที่แล้ว +33

      So true

    • @CatHarlem
      @CatHarlem ปีที่แล้ว +37

      No one ever told me this but I always felt this way.

    • @vic576
      @vic576 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Not true know that each person has a reason for why they do what they do before jumping to conclusions.

    • @RTA6226
      @RTA6226 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      AMEN!

    • @rucianapollard7098
      @rucianapollard7098 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      @@vic576 you must be a cheater...🤔🤔🤔

  • @irenecaboni5677
    @irenecaboni5677 ปีที่แล้ว +2160

    As a married woman, I would certainly not blame another woman if my husband was cheating on me. The only person to blame is him, as he was the married one.

    • @camellia8625
      @camellia8625 ปีที่แล้ว +108

      Exactly

    • @SAGITTARIUS312
      @SAGITTARIUS312 ปีที่แล้ว +177

      TRUE! It’s never the mistresses fault! It is the husbands CHOICE!

    • @chiamandasspace6572
      @chiamandasspace6572 ปีที่แล้ว +144

      That’s like saying an assasin should not be blamed as he’s being paid to do his job

    • @nicolesprocess
      @nicolesprocess ปีที่แล้ว +381

      It's not about blame. The statement is that a 'woman who chases married men has no class'. Doesn't mean the man has class.

    • @amnotfightingalone8462
      @amnotfightingalone8462 ปีที่แล้ว

      I have always said this to friends but none has ever agreed with me.
      You have hit the nail right on the head, POINT BLANK PE- RI- OD.🧐🧐🧐🧐

  • @patmarveli8789
    @patmarveli8789 ปีที่แล้ว +151

    1. don’t date a married man
    2. dirty, rude and junk words/remark
    3. disrespecting/mocking others
    4.loud mouth
    5. boasting of achievements , status and connections
    6 don’t dress well . Be modest and elegant
    7. lack manner and good basic social etiquette
    8. desperation can lead to cheap and Poor options.
    9. betraying your friends because of attention seeking
    10. good body, mouth, skin etc hygiene

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I need to work on dirty jokes and cuss words and some of my outfits are half tops

  • @estherokpo2564
    @estherokpo2564 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    She’s the elder sister we all wished we had 😢❤

  • @susanspianostudio7057
    @susanspianostudio7057 ปีที่แล้ว +252

    What I find amazing is that these tips are all biblical principles. If people read the Bible and applied it they'd be a woman of elegance. 🎉 Thank you for this video. Well done! 💖

    • @nirmalaramjit1267
      @nirmalaramjit1267 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I agree with you!😊

    • @Nicolee7764
      @Nicolee7764 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @Susan's Piano Studio, Exactly, l said the same thing.

    • @genevievehoskins6829
      @genevievehoskins6829 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I noticed that too!

    • @anais457
      @anais457 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      I said the same thing. God wants his daughters to be modest or elegant. It is in the Bible.

    • @neoraisrael8403
      @neoraisrael8403 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I was thinking the same exact thing. Proverbs 7:10-11 popped into my mind when she spoke about being loud

  • @carolpowell2199
    @carolpowell2199 ปีที่แล้ว +469

    My mother was the definition of ‘class’, she was my role model. Very blessed to have been her daughter.

    • @emerald8795
      @emerald8795 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      There is nothing more beautiful than a woman with class and upstanding mannerism.

    • @christianaezema6573
      @christianaezema6573 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I love u so so much for this

    • @Chahlie
      @Chahlie ปีที่แล้ว +6

      While my mother was the worst possible role model.... It took me many years to learn what was right. We should all be very tolerant of those who have low self esteem and who did not have the opportunity to learn better behaviours. It really can be a handicap. But that is where the tip to always treat others with respect comes in, no matter their class it is never wrong to be respectful to everyone, and who knows, someone may learn from your own example!

    • @genetabate45
      @genetabate45 ปีที่แล้ว

      My mom too.

    • @OceanicPearlz1
      @OceanicPearlz1 ปีที่แล้ว

      Carol my mother too

  • @TK_the_Teacher
    @TK_the_Teacher ปีที่แล้ว +433

    I have dated a married guy myself. I am healing all the trauma, shame and aura I acquired in that relationship. In as much I have done a lot of healing, I still find myself in deep regret. Ladies whatever happens donnot date a married man.

    • @sharonnjeri3581
      @sharonnjeri3581 ปีที่แล้ว +93

      I used to think I cannot date a married then I did. That was the lowest I have ever been in my life. Over two years later, I am healed and have learned to forgive myself. It gets better with time. I have also cut off all the people who endorsed that affair. I cannot even relate with the version of myself that dated him. I am better than that mistake.

    • @robbieb.garlandm.ed.6729
      @robbieb.garlandm.ed.6729 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      ❤ Amen… do not feel bad…I totally understand… Continue to heal and don’t look back…

    • @carolynbarkley8997
      @carolynbarkley8997 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      Ask God for forgiveness, forgive yourself and vow not to ever do that again which is repentance then start to love yourself to wholeness. It's a process so do the work on yourself.

    • @joyokafor5887
      @joyokafor5887 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Keep your head up and move on. Now you know better, do better, don't Keep blaming yourself. You've made peace with God and yourself, so forgive yourself, don't dwell on your pass mistakes and regrets. I'm proud of you for removing yourself from that situation, it takes courage and loving yourself

    • @alissagonzales735
      @alissagonzales735 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      I always had a rule. Never date a friends boyfriend or a married man. I always wanted to meet the parents or the siblings. I just got lucky I never dated a married man.

  • @Lov3A11Rac3s
    @Lov3A11Rac3s ปีที่แล้ว +162

    As a 26-year-old young professional this video was SOLID GOLD. Sometimes we need a shaking of the tables, this video was confirmation that being classy takes intention, AND isn’t common anymore

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Class is lacking in today’s society! 😢🤦‍♀️

  • @snowshadow11
    @snowshadow11 ปีที่แล้ว +300

    Morality, dignity, descency, self respect, respect for others, love for one another , manners. The greatest of these is love.

    • @sarahsalter678
      @sarahsalter678 ปีที่แล้ว

      This comment is wonderful!! 🫶🏽💕🤲🏽

  • @pappysheart6710
    @pappysheart6710 ปีที่แล้ว +702

    Dear all women here, I'm a guy and I say with honesty that if you carry yourself with dignity, you suddenly become more respectable and attractive. In my opinion, selling one's looks on onlyfans to lonely men is not "liberation" nor "empowerment". Wish y'all the best and I'll see you out in the real world.

    • @craziebarbietalks692
      @craziebarbietalks692 ปีที่แล้ว +71

      It isn’t empowering because they’re letting men overstep their boundaries for money. True empowerment as a woman is knowing your worth and boundaries

    • @yuki._loves
      @yuki._loves ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@craziebarbietalks692 Exactly!!

    • @mikab2375
      @mikab2375 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      @@craziebarbietalks692 but they aren't letting the men overstep their boundaries. Many of them have poor or no boundaries therefore they'd have to be an existing boundary beforehand for men/ others to overstep.

    • @craziebarbietalks692
      @craziebarbietalks692 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@mikab2375 true

    • @mstwelvedeadlycyns
      @mstwelvedeadlycyns ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Being attractive gives you respect. Do I have respect after my reproductive rights have been taken away?

  • @wannaduckfin
    @wannaduckfin ปีที่แล้ว +330

    Wonderful wisdom! I'm a 72 year old grandmother, married 50 years, and still elegant. New sub!❤

    • @kriszma1212
      @kriszma1212 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Amen Mama' keep on keeping on! I'm a little younger than You' and still classy.. looking good, feeling good too!

    • @rochellethompson9854
      @rochellethompson9854 ปีที่แล้ว

      God Bless You! You are from the "Great School"--not the Old School! So very proud of you!👑🦚🎁💄👠💅💖💝💜💞❤️‍🔥

    • @cynthiabubbles1047
      @cynthiabubbles1047 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I started following you today I have not stop scrolling down 😸 thank you u got a new fan

  • @Touchedmymouthministriesint
    @Touchedmymouthministriesint ปีที่แล้ว +1038

    Wouldn't it have been more classy to approach from a positive perspective...
    1. Respect other's boundaries i.e. have your own husband and not another's
    2. Speak gracefully -
    3. Be humble-don't put down others...
    4. Speak gently - Speak less and moderately
    5. Be discreet re: high income status, position, status, etc., er, don't be a show off
    6. Dress decently and modestly - first impression counts - no breast/leg and thighs😊
    7. Have etiquette-good mnners
    8. Don't be motivated by desperation - maintain standards
    9. Respect yourself - don't do any and anything for attention
    10. Attend to proper hygiene - mind bad breath etc, love yourself - Attend to your health

    • @GABRIELADAWSON
      @GABRIELADAWSON ปีที่แล้ว +43

      Don’t Forget Keep your hands to yourself except when Greeting Others and Or Defending Oneself or Someone else Weaker than you Etc.

    • @augustaluch7354
      @augustaluch7354 ปีที่แล้ว +63

      The way you stated them is awesome.
      However, I think how she stated them resonates with what she tagged the video.

    • @Touchedmymouthministriesint
      @Touchedmymouthministriesint ปีที่แล้ว +29

      @@augustaluch7354 Then I'm sorry, the tagging might have been, classily: 'ten signs of classiness'😊; Happy New Year🎉

    • @augustaluch7354
      @augustaluch7354 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Touchedmymouthministriesint I wish you the very best of it😊

    • @Touchedmymouthministriesint
      @Touchedmymouthministriesint ปีที่แล้ว

      @Augusta Luch Yeah man, it is so😊

  • @prophetchrist1994
    @prophetchrist1994 ปีที่แล้ว +1355

    We dress like we’d like to be addressed. We need three billion more women like her.

    • @suzygirl1843
      @suzygirl1843 ปีที่แล้ว

      Go to Africa then

    • @prophetchrist1994
      @prophetchrist1994 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@suzygirl1843 I believe she resides in England. Such eloquence is found in the Queen's Province. I am a king myself, so I would know.

    • @sakuraesther6309
      @sakuraesther6309 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      @@prophetchrist1994 King of where exactly?? I am curious btw

    • @prophetchrist1994
      @prophetchrist1994 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@suzygirl1843 God bless you. You’re perfect 🥰

    • @prophetchrist1994
      @prophetchrist1994 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      @@sakuraesther6309🙂 I am an heir to the kingdom of God. I’m a partaker of God’s divine grace, and I am seated in heavenly places.

  • @dollhouseq1530
    @dollhouseq1530 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    Ladies keep in mind to learn etiquette and femininity for your own self growth. Not for the approval of a man or to one up your fellow sisters. Learning to be feminine brings us back to the core of who we were before being damged by those we may have trusted. Im on the journey as well. Stay positive and be forgiving of yourself always! Much love sisters❤

  • @chiarac3833
    @chiarac3833 ปีที่แล้ว +120

    Truly classy people are as kind and respectful of the lowest level employees as they are to high level employees.
    I worked at a company where certain people wouldn't even say good morning because I was a temporary employee. I almost pitied them, even as a young woman.

    • @christineparker7534
      @christineparker7534 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      My grandmother always told me ,a well bread person is not a snob.

    • @CF-yr1dm
      @CF-yr1dm ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This.

    • @Chahlie
      @Chahlie ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I remember as a child reading an old etiquette book and there was an example in it of how to introduce your friend to your gardener, something you MUST do if you are speaking with your gardener when your friend arrives. You don't expect them to strike up a friendship, but it shows respect.

  • @cathynykolaishyn8926
    @cathynykolaishyn8926 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Something else to consider is being rude to waitresses or cashiers or public workers. Not communicating, just being rude. That is having no class.

  • @babygirltdi
    @babygirltdi ปีที่แล้ว +157

    I'm glad I stumbled across this. My mother was the epitome of class. It didn't matter the situation she was always poised, graceful, and classy. She taught all eight of her daughters and her granddaughters.

  • @nav_1050
    @nav_1050 ปีที่แล้ว +205

    You really called me classless in such a classy way 😂😂❤

    • @itsinesantonio
      @itsinesantonio ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Hahahahaha 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @amarairene1760
      @amarairene1760 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      😂😂😂😂

    • @Wonderwoman79G
      @Wonderwoman79G ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😆 🤣

    • @mishyrawanzo9191
      @mishyrawanzo9191 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😂😂😂😂

    • @freenow5484
      @freenow5484 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      That’s what we’re all thinking😂😂😂 I think the most important thing is to be a good person! Be yourself and Love infinitely. Class is a social construct designed to control and separate humanity! It’s something colonizers used to strip the cultural identity from so many people.

  • @alissagonzales735
    @alissagonzales735 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    My mother used to say how you dress and act is how a guy sees you and will treat you accordingly. I always got treated with respect on dates.

  • @sherules5005
    @sherules5005 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    No profanities, bad manners etc moving forward ⏩. I keep learning, I don't stop

  • @BlackCoffeeee
    @BlackCoffeeee ปีที่แล้ว +185

    Well, this needs to be a public service announcement. You really covered it all. Excellent.

  • @preciousbwembya3852
    @preciousbwembya3852 ปีที่แล้ว +124

    I lost it at 'deranged hyena' and immediately laughed like one 😂

  • @jarkachalmovianska7812
    @jarkachalmovianska7812 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Its not about class, but selflove, selfesteem, intelligence. If you have these 3, you are cool classy and on top

  • @juanitahardy8583
    @juanitahardy8583 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I was taught very young that a rich person may not have class but that a poor person can have class. I had a very classy father who taught me to always value quality over quantity in all things in life. You are a very very classy lady.

  • @ashleyg.2064
    @ashleyg.2064 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    Had a rough day. Thank you for reminding me I'm classy 😌🥰

  • @jlrichdesigns
    @jlrichdesigns ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Sadly my mother in law fits ALL of these. My poor husband has tried talking her about but she just keeps telling him “I am who I am, if people don’t like it they can “f” off”. Then she wonders why none of her sons want to be around her or why none of us want our children around her…🤦‍♀️

  • @rokhayaleye7465
    @rokhayaleye7465 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    I’m 19years and all my friends leave me because I behave like the way you explaining but I feel like classy is being around people who are classy too❤ thanks you so much I just follow you ❤

    • @dotlee
      @dotlee ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Their loss! Keep being you and stay classy young lady.

    • @Chahlie
      @Chahlie ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I'm older and believe me, if people are uncomfortable with you having class it's due to their own insecurities. I worked in the garden centre of a farm store for a time, and dressed appropriately for the job. Some time after I had left, I dropped in to see my old co-workers. One said "wow, you look like a lady", and one said "you dress like THAT to go shopping?". Short sleeved sweater, knee length skirt and loafers, but it hit her insecurity. Just be who you know is right :)

    • @NatalieTheRican
      @NatalieTheRican 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You are ahead of the game at 19 years old. Be proud, and keep being the classy young lady you are ❤

  • @bridgettewilson2075
    @bridgettewilson2075 ปีที่แล้ว +203

    I truly enjoy and try to speak on these issues as much as I can delicately to the younger women and girls. I’m 64 and I know that what you teach is the absolute best advice for women. Keep shining your light and teaching these valuable lessons. Vivian you are true elegance. Thank you.

    • @bella57644
      @bella57644 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You spkke truth

    • @spaceted3977
      @spaceted3977 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm a 68 yr old male and have never got married or had children !!! I have my own place with 2 Dogs !!!! I thought morality died in the 1960s. I've had a Wonderful Life on my own !!!!!

    • @rochellethompson9854
      @rochellethompson9854 ปีที่แล้ว

      So beautiful sentiment!💝💜💞❤️‍🔥💖❤️👑🦚

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@spaceted3977agreed!!! I’m far from classy. I have my flaws like too short shorts or dresses but to me I wear a swim suit and it shows just as much. 🤦‍♀️😂. I became really sick and was married to a very try abusive man. Haven’t dated and really would love to do that but most people sleeps around and it’s just sickening to me! I’m sad by the mess of the world and my words for an educated woman have ..let’s just say my filter is gone and I cuss often now. Trying to be more refined but serious sick of vultures and not sure I can turn the ship around. Trying

  • @janisnewman1832
    @janisnewman1832 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    I accidentally found your channel and i have been blown away! You have such sound advice but not just for class, but for the correct way to behave in public, according to the rules of your host or hostes, or traditions of the area. The old saying “class cant be bought” is inherently true and exhibited currently in many venues of wealthy and powerful people. Your video is also about likability no one likes men nor women who behave in the negative manner in which you are speaking. I have subscribed and im so grateful you are addressing this in this current world. Thank you

  • @realpristine
    @realpristine ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Self esteem is soo important 🤎🙌🏾

    • @mariannefidel
      @mariannefidel ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I couldn't agree more. It's the foundation of everything isn't it.

  • @thinkmagHQ
    @thinkmagHQ ปีที่แล้ว +66

    17:50 I’m can’t tell you how refreshing it is to hear a young woman speak about this topic. 🙌🏽

    • @juliatripp2010
      @juliatripp2010 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yes, rather than hair, nails, fashion, BBL, etc!!! I enjoyed listening to her! Despite the fact that I have raised myself well. I must work on my spicy use of language, however. Thanks young lady. You are lovely and a pleasure to listen to

  • @royalgoddess3284
    @royalgoddess3284 ปีที่แล้ว +267

    Yes 🙌🏾 let’s put class and grace back in our place 💪🏾✨

  • @belindacrisp7078
    @belindacrisp7078 ปีที่แล้ว +371

    It really does come down to self esteem doesn't it. And it's a vicious circle. Most of the 'bad' behaviours were mine in my late teens and early twenties. I thought I was worthless. Time, experience and work taught me otherwise. :) Thank you for a really good video.

    • @swiftkarma4436
      @swiftkarma4436 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Same here. Never wanted an attached man tho. I don't like to share.

    • @dellk8198
      @dellk8198 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm very proud and happy for you !:)

    • @rucianapollard7098
      @rucianapollard7098 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@swiftkarma4436 girl, you better keep it 💯!! Ain't nobody sharing in 2023!!!

    • @johnniepegues305
      @johnniepegues305 ปีที่แล้ว

      It's nice to point out the 10 points or so that women who don't have class but let's also call out the men who don't have any self control because they go after women who are allowed in the cheat web with them as well

    • @justinamusyoka4986
      @justinamusyoka4986 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Women brought up with absent father's got relationship issues.

  • @alcudiababe1
    @alcudiababe1 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    It is one thing to discover you've been seeing a married man rather than chasing a married man. Let me explain, before you got to understand he was with someone in a committed husband and wife relationship he had you believing that you were the one for him. I do believe that's an honest mistake on your part because men do lie or not telling you the full truth but what you do next determines your value.

    • @aesinam
      @aesinam ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yes definitely. Doing it knowingly is definitely different from unknowingly

    • @chiarac3833
      @chiarac3833 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      True, but as soon as you discover he's married, it's over. Otherwise you're a doormat.

  • @florence848
    @florence848 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I hope Camilla can really watch this very informative piece of GOLDEN ADVICE on being a HOME - WRECKER !!!

  • @arlenelovelace18
    @arlenelovelace18 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I greatly appreciate this episode. My husband of 34 yrs left me for his best friends wife (she was also a friend of mine). And your word’s describing such a woman was actually healing for me 💕

  • @helenp5649
    @helenp5649 ปีที่แล้ว +194

    Thank you for making these videos, I'm 25 and look up to you quite a bit. You have single-handedly taught me more about being elegant than my own mom!

    • @sulusu4812
      @sulusu4812 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      My mom used to put down for my attempts to be elegant.

    • @bernicewise8313
      @bernicewise8313 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@sulusu4812 WOW!

    • @soleighaku6690
      @soleighaku6690 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      @@sulusu4812 mine as well or just simply being comfortable in my femininity. She’d call me fast for doing my hair everyday and always looking my best and make me feel bad about myself. It wasn’t until I became an adult that I realized a parent can be jealous just as anyone else

    • @G_Galore
      @G_Galore ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I definitely get made fun of in my family by my mom and sisters for desiring to be classy, dressing f feminine, and going to church of all things

  • @janetmiller2980
    @janetmiller2980 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I would also say dress for the environment you inhabit. I work a job with exposure to potential hazards and one that keeps me on my feet 17:54 quite a bit. Professional dress, for example a skirt, blouse and high heels may not only get ruined, but be uncomfortable, whereas jeans/t shirt or scrubs and sneakers are ideally comfortable. IMO leggings on most jobs look pretty crass, but that changes if the job is something like personal fitness trainer, coaching or teaching something like ballet. Adapting oneself to the particular situation works best.

  • @nkatekomshwane3872
    @nkatekomshwane3872 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Yes ladies sooo true..another one is talking badly about your fellow women..it can make you look inferior, like you lack confidence/class.Great video Vivienne God 🙌 bless

  • @safiyyahmuhammad3185
    @safiyyahmuhammad3185 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I wished we had enough money to bring you to high schools in the district where I work so you can talk to these young girls!! My goodness!!! We need you!

    • @chiarac3833
      @chiarac3833 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Those young girls would benefit from a mentoring program.
      Self esteem is a learned behaviour.

  • @ladyaonthemove
    @ladyaonthemove ปีที่แล้ว +98

    Videos like this are not for everyone, you don't expect everyone to coddle your emotions and pamper simple truths just because you don't want to be judged for your "lifestyle". She isn't forcing anyone to take her advice. I am pretty sure her content is for women who actually want to turn their lives around and not for those are simply searching for validation from strangers on the internet.

    • @mongalix8
      @mongalix8 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Well said. So many people here wounded by her advice instead of listening to learn and adjust.

    • @bernicewise8313
      @bernicewise8313 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@mongalix8 Exactly!

    • @aesinam
      @aesinam ปีที่แล้ว +15

      I wonder why they even watch her videos. Some of them always have negative comments

    • @flo-dd5sw
      @flo-dd5sw ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very well stated

    • @denisebranchcomb7811
      @denisebranchcomb7811 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I enjoyed this video it was very informative and very true on everything
      in this video still working on improving
      Self-esteem

  • @portiahlatshwayo7675
    @portiahlatshwayo7675 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Thank you so much for showing up on my search bar😊
    Recovering from a year long toxic relationship and in my case, I had betrayed myself; standards beliefs and all.
    I now remember who I am🙂

    • @deborah9384
      @deborah9384 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      there are no mistakes in life. we all learn what makes us stronger ❤️

  • @margaretohara7250
    @margaretohara7250 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Class shines thriugh no matter what. I have seen many men and women down on their luck because of circumstances beyond control and yet class oozed from every pore. Sometimes young men and women behave in undesirable ways in order to fit in. Just listen to the way many in leadership positions behave.. Basic manners are non-existent. We truly live in different times and need great strength to not go with the flow so to speak. Children are so involved with technology now - how do they learn how to communicate properly. I don't have answers - only hope respect, etc for each other survive. We need civility in all walks of life. Thank you for reminding society.

  • @joanofarcxxi
    @joanofarcxxi ปีที่แล้ว +55

    We need this. And this should be taught in elementary school. Thank you for being classy.

    • @irenefunn4261
      @irenefunn4261 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      No. This should be taught at home first, then backed up at school.

    • @joanofarcxxi
      @joanofarcxxi ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@irenefunn4261 I agree with you.

    • @flo-dd5sw
      @flo-dd5sw ปีที่แล้ว

      No. At home

    • @joanofarcxxi
      @joanofarcxxi ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@flo-dd5sw At home is obvious, but realistically, many parents don't teach their children much these days. Do you?

  • @alannathompson2587
    @alannathompson2587 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    The number of times I had to check my dictionary for some of the words you mentioned 😂😂...+10 to my vocabulary inventory!

  • @stephanieharper6047
    @stephanieharper6047 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I like her, I will do better to be a lady of elegance in every way. I am not perfect but some of her examples made me see myself

  • @nashonharris7805
    @nashonharris7805 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I must tell you, I love this video, seen watching you approximately five months ago, and I used to use profanity, it made me empty and I dislike myself. Now, I don't allow anyone to speak to me in such manner like that, and I do not talk to anyone like that.I read more to gain knowledge.Thank you, sweetie❤

  • @Ever_Winning
    @Ever_Winning ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I always learn rich English vocabulary in addition to how to be more refined... Thank you for the extra lessons, madam Vivian.

  • @gemmabriggs8139
    @gemmabriggs8139 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You have completely describe a very classy woman . A classy woman don’t chase but attracts attention ..

  • @gladysebaye4106
    @gladysebaye4106 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Being classy First begins in your mind. You have to beLIeVE it then LIVE it.

  • @user-rs6bi5rq1f
    @user-rs6bi5rq1f 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Abby from CNN is a classy lady. Most of the ladies in congress are so loud and rude. It’s painful to watch. This is so refreshing and uplifting! Thank you

  • @nicoleross7726
    @nicoleross7726 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I wholeheartedly agree. As a now 50 year old, I am so glad I set the precedence for my daughters on how to dress in a decent manner. My daughters are always speaking on how they are so glad I dress my age.

  • @shaunahill516
    @shaunahill516 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    D best thing is too b yourself.... It obvious when we can see a false one... B yourself and hv a good ❤️ is more important.....

  • @christinepadua593
    @christinepadua593 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Thank you for highlighting these points! I’ve been surrounded by some women who believe they have class; yet, display many of these characteristics. This is good Food for Thought.

  • @cathypurnell9331
    @cathypurnell9331 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    This is perfect for the young ladies who need guidance in the worst way today. Great job. Please keep this information coming to help people who just don’t have a clue. 🌸

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The young women today are clueless about elegance, class & modesty.

  • @Solowise1
    @Solowise1 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    As a man, I must say that this is one of the most INSPIRING PIECE I've come across this year. I already forwarded it to a lot of ladies including my woman. Thanks a lot, ma'am for being so explicit on these attributes. Continue to soar high in your career.

    • @BrassyBrunette
      @BrassyBrunette ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I'm 57 yrs old. Married 39 yrs. I decided recently that what is lacking in society right now is INTEGRITY. I try to carry myself the way this lady outlines. I can tell when I encounter older men in public they look my way. Not in a lustful way. But respect and admiration. I can tell they appreciate seeing a woman attempt to model dignity.

    • @acajudi100
      @acajudi100 ปีที่แล้ว

      Get vasectomies boys, and do not murder your pregnantgirls, stupid enough to get pregnant by you.

    • @DJNelson-ky4qd
      @DJNelson-ky4qd ปีที่แล้ว

      I imagine your wife and other ladies were thrilled by your kind gesture.

  • @saj-saj
    @saj-saj ปีที่แล้ว +52

    You covered all the points, i wish these videos is mandatory in all girls schools around the world so we can stop muscline behaviour and bad manners.

    • @genalewis6124
      @genalewis6124 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This.

    • @jolly7728
      @jolly7728 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes, she covered them all; yet, many high value guys would never approach a girl dressed like a fashion model at 10:45. That's because women you look like that appear to be self-centered and focused on appearance and they are intellectually weak -- unable to have an intelligent conversation and most of all incapable of building a life together with a man because doing chores around the house, raising children, and solving problems in a constructive way would be boring to her compared to shopping for new outfits and more and better makeup.

    • @ForbsieLaLa
      @ForbsieLaLa ปีที่แล้ว

      They used to be. We were taught how to conduct ourselves. To this day I just can't do certain things in public. I hate hearing women just casually swearing like nothing. I have often asked my male friends to go easy on the swearing as what is the point. I know sometimes you need to just emphasize but otherwise

    • @saj-saj
      @saj-saj ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jolly7728 value guys would also never approach loud , noisy and crass women plus she mention in the video alot of good points like being nice to people regardless of their social background i don't know why you choose only the fashion point 😀.

    • @jolly7728
      @jolly7728 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@saj-saj I picked fashion because it's the first thing a man sees when he looks at a girl, and women spend so much time, energy, and money on their appearance to attract men, usually. Any man who likes such stunningly dressed women will likely never be faithful; he'll always be looking for the next "even more stunning fashion model," younger and skinnier, walking down 5th Avenue. And I don’t give guys a pass; they have lots of “issues," too.

  • @josephineakah9089
    @josephineakah9089 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Mum I am grateful for your teaching on elegance. More grace.

  • @staceymcgowan2238
    @staceymcgowan2238 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you, having teenaged daughters is a challenge, and I can’t emphasize enough the importance of parents, particularly mothers, teaching and modelling to their daughters self respect. Self respect is not limited to the way we speak, but in all the topics you tactfully covered. Also I heartedly agree a man can only wander so far, and quite probably in circles , if there are no women willing to take the bait.

  • @ladyislovely
    @ladyislovely ปีที่แล้ว +49

    I love her content! ❤️ My mother always raised me to be classy. 🎀

  • @tinaf600
    @tinaf600 ปีที่แล้ว +137

    I remember when I was younger and I used to get teased for being classy. It's so sad seeing those same girls all grown up and they're so classless. The way they act, what they post on social media, the men that they date, Etc. I'm so happy I kept my class and I didn't try to be like them. I have a good life where I am respected. One of the reasons my husband said he married me was because I'm classy. He didn't want a disgusting, in all areas of her life, woman. He wanted a classy, traditional godly woman.

    • @yuki._loves
      @yuki._loves ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I really look up to you Mrs. C.A.M!!
      Im still young and dont have a lot of experience but when I read stpries like yours it gives me hope
      May God bless your and your husband 💓💓

    • @tinaf600
      @tinaf600 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@yuki._loves aww 💖 thank you. God bless you too and keep Christ at the center of your life.

    • @yuki._loves
      @yuki._loves ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@tinaf600 Amen!! I will do 💓🙏🏾

    • @I.DONT.read.notifs.hatefuljerk
      @I.DONT.read.notifs.hatefuljerk ปีที่แล้ว +2

      the *boys they date

    • @I.DONT.read.notifs.hatefuljerk
      @I.DONT.read.notifs.hatefuljerk ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Never mind those kids or immature people. More people, classy and average, traditional and untraditional, will respect that kind of character.

  • @StayAtHomeMeme
    @StayAtHomeMeme ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This is beautiful. I wish I had had someone like you in my life when I was young. I was far too old before I learned some of these lessons because I had no good role models to teach me some of these things. I’m very lucky to have found a wonderful man and have grown a lovely family in spite of those flaws. But I love that people have platforms these days to provide young woman with this guidance. Very needed and Truly beautiful.

  • @curli-lettey4319
    @curli-lettey4319 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I truly appreciate this video its is a very good reminder of traditional & primary examples of class instead of the disturbing stuff being displayed (social media, public, and music videos, tick-tock) as the way of having class.

  • @fswfromthegroundup1848
    @fswfromthegroundup1848 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I'm following as I truly want to see AA women rising in this area. I'm glad to see you are starting this needed revolution.

  • @tisha9970
    @tisha9970 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Married men will have you in a deadly love triangle & still never leave their wife. Alot of mistresses are only around as an effort to humble their wives most times. Marrried men are bad luck, don't allow them to embarrass you!

  • @monicavelazquez3652
    @monicavelazquez3652 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    i love your rawness. We all need a friend like you. Thank you

    • @torichill7294
      @torichill7294 ปีที่แล้ว

      In short not beating around the bush but straight direct to the point

  • @marylynvictoriamackay1206
    @marylynvictoriamackay1206 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Ooo Viv
    Thank you so much
    I am happy I met you through the channel,
    People usually make these things like it's normal, listening to your videos I feel we still have truthful and classy women around 🥰

  • @reenabyroo7757
    @reenabyroo7757 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for being a classy elegent lady. Sometimes we need to be reminded what's required of us. Along the way we could lose our beautiful selves. So thank you so much for refreshing our minds & thought.

  • @summergirl0480
    @summergirl0480 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Well done classy lady, 👏 we need more ladies like you to teach the young ones!

  • @rocshellsonjon1828
    @rocshellsonjon1828 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is much needed for this generation.

  • @wendysimpson134
    @wendysimpson134 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I adore your videos and approach to life. The need to develop self-respect and carry oneself appropriately in society can NOT be understated.

  • @johnangel5041
    @johnangel5041 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You're the first sensible woman after my mom that I have come across all my life, this isn't a joke, I am saying the truth! Thank you so much for being bold to say this.

  • @Wonderwoman79G
    @Wonderwoman79G ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I rarely hear any of these male or female coaches talk about cussing. You get my utmost respect.I hope younger girls and women take your advice.There is nothing worse than an attractive,well dressed women with a dirty mouth.

  • @monataz5056
    @monataz5056 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I feel god has showed me your video
    To concentrate on myself & selfworth.
    Thank you darling
    May god bless you and me
    Ameen

  • @avisreid3199
    @avisreid3199 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I know quite a few people who need to listen to this. Thank you much. Well done and well said on how a lady should carry and conduct herself. God bless you🙏🏾

  • @jacquelinesmith-gaston2071
    @jacquelinesmith-gaston2071 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    What a great video! Full of TRUTH. Thank you for telling it JUST LIKE IT IS!

  • @judynorris8239
    @judynorris8239 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I want my granddaughters to see this. They are wonderful girls and I want them to stay that way.

  • @rennie5043
    @rennie5043 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Blessings sent ,I done some modeling when I was young and having class is nothing you teach you have it you don't learn it ,I would close my blouse and pray for who ever that indeed, pray for that person

  • @ashlaraque4135
    @ashlaraque4135 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Number one is so true! It’s funny because I was just watching just for early things interview with Britney a runner and she was the other woman and bragging about it everywhere at the time. She said about herself everything you just said about women who shamelessly go after with married men.

  • @selinguezel631
    @selinguezel631 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Dese Vivian I’m so happy and feel blessed that I met you. You are an incredible lady. Thank you so much 🙏❤️

  • @sionapink1560
    @sionapink1560 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    I wish this was the law, to be applied in every society. Indoctrinated in our children school system. I think the world would be better don’t you ? ❤

  • @jeanniejones8777
    @jeanniejones8777 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This is excellent! I have a passion to teach and remind women of what makes us special. Behaving in a manner that diminishes your value is what creates a atmosphere of self disrespect. A majority of those in power tempt women into low self esteem mindsets inorder to manipulate us into a cycle that routinely adds to their financial bottom line. Being reminded of the basics of what having class means and making this a priority creates a game changing shift in respect for self and others. Thank you again for this informative and powerful post✨

  • @albertinachikonde2802
    @albertinachikonde2802 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank you 🤗 no addition and no substraction 💯

  • @saraboukir8794
    @saraboukir8794 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Funny to show the picture of Charles- Diana- Camilla triangle while talking about dating married men, everybody knows that Camilla was dating Charles before he got married to Diana, if anybody is to blame (besides Charles of course) it's for sure Diana who accepted to get married to someone who's already in love with somebody else, I mean she indeed was a stunning kindhearted woman but she had no self-love (to not say self-respect may be because of her young age or her being so overly sensitive) to prevent herself from going into a loveless marriage and suffering for years.

  • @jamedee4146
    @jamedee4146 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Bravo 👏🏿👏🏾👏🏿👏🏾 Wonderful video. Thank you for taking the time to review this subject matter. Many women in various age groups will benefit from your words. Viewers please share this video with a note to watch and share with everyone - male and female. It's a duty to teach others that don't have anyone who can teach them these valuable principles. Please remember to lead by example and help the generations of parents that did not have parents themselves.

  • @mariakatsande704
    @mariakatsande704 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This lady is genuine and beautiful and one can see she truly loves to help

  • @leonilaarias48
    @leonilaarias48 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    We need vlogs like this in this messy world now.. So grateful to my mom coz she had raised like her a true classy one! Thanks for this great vlog! Females listen n obey! You'll never regret! 😘☺💖

  • @californiasgauld9442
    @californiasgauld9442 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Thank you so much for this...lots to think about and apply. God bless you!

  • @ange6alexandra527
    @ange6alexandra527 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    My aunt once told me that first impression is very indelible, so you dress the way you want to be addressed, totally agree with that.

  • @tomikamedearis6641
    @tomikamedearis6641 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This message was a true treasure. Thank you very much for your time, knowledge and love.

  • @orchidtreasure1484
    @orchidtreasure1484 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    "You dress how you want to be addressed" Me: *shows up to work dressed in a Wonder woman costume*

  • @crystalquartz11
    @crystalquartz11 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    All correct. ✅ Vivienne, I've been hoping you will focus on speech improvement, not only etiquette but accent neutralization. It's not always necessary of course, but I believe that some of us would like to improve our speech/accent without sounding fake. I'm interested in your opinion on this. 💙

    • @eisenhower9069
      @eisenhower9069 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I agree

    • @rosieparez
      @rosieparez ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Accents are what make us unique. Why travel if we are all going to be cookie cutter images of each other. I've never understood people that want to neutralize what makes them who they are.

  • @victoriaodili-akpom4019
    @victoriaodili-akpom4019 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    💯 % well done, I am sending this to my young daughters ❤️

  • @bluesparrow7
    @bluesparrow7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I agree with everything she said except the dressing part I’m very casual when I dress but very modest I get dressed up around my adult children and grandchildren

  • @estephanelia
    @estephanelia ปีที่แล้ว +9

    & the married men thing OMG THANK YOU. why would you want to be anybody's second choice??? already a HUGE turn off. agreed 100% THERES TOO MANY SINGLE MEN OUT HERE to worry about one that's already made a vow to someone they're clearly more interested in.

    • @syntabelle
      @syntabelle ปีที่แล้ว

      Money is a major factor

  • @Daisy_518
    @Daisy_518 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I respect you for your views on the first point. You've been very straightforward in describing all the aspects of that scenario. I'm glad that I follow your advice.

  • @queenofthesouth4205
    @queenofthesouth4205 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Happy Holidays Ladies. Stay nice , feminine and always wear a smile which is your best asset🎅🤶

  • @orchidtreasure1484
    @orchidtreasure1484 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Seven seconds in, and this lady exudes more class than most people I know

  • @Starrr-ro8hg
    @Starrr-ro8hg 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you 😊 I curse a little this will end and I started today with talking more appropriately and I see a difference in peoples reaction ❤

  • @Queen-ConsciousYa
    @Queen-ConsciousYa ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Yes! I love this ❤this is absolutely necessary.