modesty can be both elegant and sexy if done properly. Confidence is the main accessory. ppl dont know how to leave stuff to the imagination anymore lol
It would be great if more teen girls would find this channel; but at the same time, it's depressing at how many moms and grand moms are failing at their job of teaching girls that their worth is not in cheap attention, but found in a relationship with God and having self-respect & respect for others.
Now this is a woman I would DEFINITELY take advice from. Her makeup is on point. Face and neck SAME COLOR/HUE. More of a natural look vs unnatural and Elvira look. No "baby hairs" foolishness etc. Great job all around. Love this!!
1)wearing too many logos on your outfit 2)T shirt with lots graphics and inscription 3)wearing lots of bright color 4)Your make up is poorly done 5)Dirty accessories 6)wrinkle clothing 7)Too much skin 8)oversize or undersize clothing 9)your nails are too long and too colorful 10)excessive jewelry 11)your underwear shows through your clothes 12)Bizarre hair color or hair style 13)Too many piercing and tattoos
You can also be elegant in your natural (no added hair no makeup) representation matter knowing that you dont have to look like someone else in order for you to be deemed a elegant woman and you can feel comfortable in your own skin matter. Especially for melanated women.
Have you ever thought why some women don't like wearing makeup? It can be deeper than that (impostor syndrom, afraid of receiving compliments, afraid of shining...)
As a mature woman, I have been horrified at some of the outfits, hairstyles and outlandish nails I've seen on mostly younger women. I am glad you are offering this advice. It is much needed. I hope your message reaches the intended audience.
I just graduated from highschool and will start studying law in a few months. These videos actually help me a lot since I've struggled with my femininity for a very long time and used to cover my body with men's clothing, although I have a very petite body. Thank you so much for giving me and many other women the chance to embrace elegance!
Good luck in with your studies. I'm glad to hear you have discovered this channel and is learning from it. I am learning a lot from Woman of Elegance channel as well, even as a feminine woman. I love watching and learning.
Not true. Many rude, obnoxious women behave that way because "they know their worth." Many true ladies go unnoticed because their way of dressing makes them blend into the background.
@@edennis8578 no, I didn't mean worth that way at all. I meant a deep peace within you knowing your worth as a human being & in particular as a woman. When this happens, although we all have our weaknesses ect, it goes hand in hand with humility & grace
The key is wearing clothes, makeup, and accessories that ADD and ENHANCE who you are, not take away. You control it. It doesn't control you. And watch the way you carry yourself. Beauty and elegance comes from within.🌷
I love silver and gold jewellery I hate fake jewellery I have more rings than my fingers can wear I'm obsessed silver earrings chains bangle anklet I even bought silver jewelry for my baby I
I literally switch my looks everyday. 1 day i look very classy and elegant. Next day i look afro punk. One day i look like a tired successful salon spa owner, morher of 4 under 12, and wife. It just really depends on the day and occasion 😅. I do like your advice of looking kempt no matter what. I cam share the joy in that. 😊 Great video.
I wear long nails, not cardi b long. Lol I used to be a nurse so hand washing is so important to me. I keep a clean nail brush and antibacterial soap at all times at every sink I use. I do my own nails so I don’t ever have to wait too long in between maintenance. I put a new set on every 2 weeks or less. It’s a preference to wear them long. And I don’t even care who don’t like it. It makes me so happy. I’m a retired Navy Veteran and wore short nails for years. I’m free now. Lmao😂Doing my nails keeps my ptsd/depression at bay ❤ But I love what you are teaching! These lessons need to be learned and heard!❤
I think this largely depends on culture. I also wear my nails semi-long and get compliments all the time by elegant people, men and women. Many respectable ladies and classy celebrities also wear long nails because it’s considered fashionable. I think it all comes down to tasteful designs and flattering colors. On the contrary, when I wear short nails nobody comments on it. In my culture very short nails can look juvenile like what teens would wear so they can sneakily go to school. It’s not the most attractive look for a young woman. I don’t think elegance is a one size fits all and most content I see online mostly cover western idea of elegance.
I’m artistic and I’m from the Caribbean so I love colour and splashes of it 😂 but I think women should also find their personal style and individualize their look; “elegant” does not have to mean that all women look the same but this advice about the essentials is excellent! This is more about daily dress etiquette than just “elegance” per se
@@renewingmyminddaily2400that is true I have a teen who is very artistic but I do tell her we are all human beings and people see you before they know you. That good old saying 1st impressions are lasting ones. But I am all for colors in a more tasteful way. People judge you before they know you unfortunately.
I completely AGREE!!! I love color too, ALL of them!! Brilliant brights, soft pastels, muted shades, deep rich tones, neutrals and vibrant colors. Colors MAKE a statement 💯 💖💃
THANK YOU - I love to see content creators cut through the "don't judge me" nonsense. Anna Bey, The Feminine Fancy, Olivia B, Freddy My Love, and Woman of Elegance all understand that how you present yourself to the world matters, it brings you more respect and opportunities. If you want to be taken seriously at school, at work (be it just a part-time job or in your full-time profession), or on the dating scene, then you need to dress the part. All of these tips make sense and every woman can apply them in her everyday life.
Yes. However, there is a difference between recognising that that is the case, and endorsing it. The other people aren’t unaware of how society perceives them; they are actively working to dismantle those stereotypes by literally telling people not to judge
That’s still judgement though. You can acknowledge that there’s a time and place for certain outfits without judging those around you for the way they choose to dress themselves. We can all agree you should look professional at your job, but that doesn’t mean you have to judge the people who don’t. It’s just about minding your business
Anna Bey is definitely not an expert on this subject-matter. Her fake over plumped lips are appalling taste and she bangs on about subjects she doesn't know much about. The kind of clothes she goes for are horrible knits and cheap imitations. She's appalling.
Elegance doesn’t mean that you have to look dull. It simply means to tone down a bit and be well groomed. Some of these things are common sense and some you speak are not unacceptable. I wear any length nails I want! However they are not loud colors or designs, usually a neutral or one color on every nail. I’ve always kept my nails VERY clean, I use a brush underneath EVERY TIME I wash my hands! I love quiet luxury and monochromatic outfits, but I LOVE a pop of color! Also, I have 2 tattoos one can be seen and one can’t. Both are tasteful. So I just think elegance can be interpreted and expressed many ways. Good video
It's *her* opinion on *her* channel. Yes, you can wear what you want on your nails. She isn't saying you specifically should not. She doesn't follow the trend and that's her choice. A lot of us feel this way, but we get drowned out by the flashiness in others and get called plain Janes by other women aka " look dull". Let her have the space to speak her viewpoints and learn to not take others' opinions so personally. If you were really confident that you are classy and elegant, you wouldn't be so much in your feels about her giving her opinion.
I’m guilty of the grizzly nails but IMO my hands are small so the nails kinda counter that. But I keep them clean and neutral colors or French and believe it people love them!
This comment is to remind you, wear what you want to wear, dress for the occasion of course, but theres no cookie cutter way to dress, its a reason you like what you like. As long as you respect yourself youll always be elegant
YES. I saw a really classy older lady with the most beautiful purple hair. She dressed very minimal, but she had a splash of fun with her purple hair. Her hair was styled simple, which created balance.
@Recluse-music.. I completely agree with the comment you made. I think that people can look elegant with long nails and different colored hair. Like you said , as long as you respect yourself, you will always be elegant. You can follow all these rules, and some people are still not going to respect you and could care less if you look eloquent. People always talk about outward appearance, but I’m always looking inside a person. What kind of person are you inside?
My mom raised me with some of these tips! Especially ironing 😭😭 I used to iron my school uniform for the week every Sunday, even jeans 😭😭. But it taught me how important it is to have clean and wrinkle free items.
I love all of these tips. Im a former professional model and I was taught these things a long time ago. Im often flabbergasted when I see how today's young women dress. For example, I saw a woman at the grocery store yesterday wearing sheer black leggings with a thong clearly visible underneath them. Lord have mercy.
Yes indeed - many of these women leave the house wearing nothing but underwear. You see them in Walmart, the airport ….. I mean EVERYWHERE . Has society lost its mind.? And it seems the bigger and more overweight - the more they want to put on display. It’s just gross, extremely unattractive and disgusting. Who wants to look at 4 layers of body fat hanging from your stomach and around your sides like stacked tires.??? These people must consume food cows 🐄 and Bisons 🦬, because this is what many women are looking like today and don’t give a damn about leaving the house looking sloppy and unkept. Decency is for certain not important and elegance is obviously not important as well or a goal.
You are the reason I started my elegance journey💕 I sent your videos to my Nana & come to find out SHE’D been watching you as well. My confidence has soared through the roof since I started my elegance journey a little over a year ago. Now I’m on a full out modesty journey and don’t even own any pants or sneakers or anything & I ensure I look my best when leaving my home. All I wear now are dresses and skirts. Men always treat me nice and hold the door open for me and if when drop something in public, they pick it up for me. Women and men both compliment me all of the time. I feel so wonderful and I can’t thank you enough.
Men hold the door open for you? They hold it for me also, and I like to look nice, but in my 70’s I wear slacks much more often. No one would ever mistake me for a man. No need to fall for the dress, to not look mannish.
@@lynnebattaglia-triggs1042 pants themselves aren’t what make women look mannish, however, I’m 25 and women my age wear Crocs, baggy t-shirts, and distressed jeans and dress very androgynous (if not out right mannish) and I prefer to be a prim and proper gyal. I already went through my phase of graphic t-shirts, hoodies, leggings, and skinny jeans and realize I didn’t put any effort into my wardrobe and simply followed the trend. I’m glad to hear men holding the door open for elderly women, a teeny bit of my hope has been restored.
@@SundaySpeaks WOW I'm 18 and plus size but I don't have a belly It's mostly in my thighs and I have a small waist and small boobs with that in mind how should I dress modestly? most of the time I wear high waisted skinny jeans, rompers, dresses that hit a couple inches above my knees, t-shirts, leggings, crop-tops, sneakers, high waisted flare-leg jeans, shorts, matching shorts and crop-top sets, and heels my measurements are (in inches) 51 hips, 40 waist, 47 bust, and my bra size is 42B in American womens and I am 5 feet 9 1/2 inches tall. I am trying to lose weight by running 2 miles a day on my treadmill and doing the keto diet and can't wait to see results! I'm trying to go down to a size medium/140 pounds. Also I have 2B (2B = very wavy almost curly hair) very long dark brown hair, dark blue eyes, and very pale neutral toned skin so with that in mind I was thinking about dyeing my hair after I lose weight for a new look I was thinking white or platinum blonde? PLEASE tell me what you think! I would really appreciate any input from anyone!!! 😊🙏And thanks to anyone for liking my comment or even reading it! it's so long LOL🤭🤗😆
I have tattoos but I am sophisticated and refined inside and out. I’m not getting rid of them and if someone can’t accept my tattoos, then they are not for me.
I started my elegance journey after getting quite some tattoos on my arm. Even though they might not fit a 100% to my new style, their message is so important to my life, that I would never want to get rid of them.
@@anjaglivar4284You missed what was said. Tats are very much a personal message. But, too many takes away from that personal statement and just becomes a loud distraction.
@@fourthgirl I don't think I missed it at all :-) She is definitively right that too much is taking away from elegance and I have quite many tattoos on one arm. But nonetheless I decided to keep them since the message of kindness towards all beings is such an important one (I stand up for animal rights and have many of the animals that I rescued from slaughter tattooed on). I started to dress modestly and wanting to be elegant after I made those. Even if they are distractive and not too elegant since I have many, I'll keep them and not laser them away. But that's the beauty of those videos; we can take what fits to us and use it to elevate ourselves, and we can leave what does not suit our preference and go on. I absolutely loved the overall video and message ;-)
Absolutely. I think the younger generations are not interested in disappearing into the background. And that’s ok. Be you- whether that is a logo billboard or disappearing into the background and everything in between.
I’ve heard that clothes steamers are great. I’ve been wanting to take the plunge with steaming rather than ironing my clothes, but I’m not sure how to pick a “good” steamer vs a “bad” one. Some people love them, others say that they don’t work
I have 1 tattoo, on my right forearm. I got it when I was 60, and I haven’t regretted it at all. People can dislike them; that’s their right. I am not planning on covering my body with tats.
This is just my advice , actually its my ritual on Sunday. I take some time out every Sunday to pull together all my work outfits for the week. I pick out the hand bags, accessories, shoes..everything. I iron or steam things that needs attention. It makes my life so much easier. Additionally I have a "uniform" for at home which is some black pants and a long black tunic. It all takes so much stress out of my life.
I’m 47 years old now and all my friends that are around my age and have tattoos regret getting them when they were younger, because most of them want to look classy and no matter what they wear, the tattoos just bring down the look. It doesn’t match and covering them up is a hassle and getting them removed isn’t easy either. So if you’re young really think about that.
I’m so glad I found your channel! True elegance and modesty are so rare these days. Thank-you for your contribution to educating our young women to decency. The respect they get will give them a good self image and teach other women what it means to be a “true lady”.
My admiration and respect for your videos emphasizing elegance! It saddens me that it's rare among us. My mother aways emphasized to invest in a coat, purse, shoes, and a wallet. She would say, "Although we may be poor we don't need to be lazy and look sloppy." "We can stand out, admired and respected for our good faith efforts!" Men are to also invest in a coat, shoes, belt, and wallet. Never ever wear clothes that look like they were taken out of the hamper! Women to always wear a dress to church, a wedding, a baptism, a graduation, a quinceanera (sweet sixteen) and, always wear dark solid colors to a funeral. Men to wear a suit and tie to all these occasions! We are at these events for the person being honored or celebrated and looking presentable is being respectful! May elegance and grace win! Much love! ❤
Anyone who wants to argue should know that this video is about those that want to be elegant, classy and modest. It's not about being trendy, catchy or anything of that sort. Thank you you, gracious lady
Every woman defines her way of Beauty! God doesn't make mistakes! love how you have been created! the real beauty for me is to accept yourself first and foremost and others come next! I feel most elegant when I have my natural hair! My Afro hair is my Power!
I truly agree with you. I think we as women need to just accept each other as we are and stop advising what someone should and/or should not wear. I have dreadlocks and love them.
I’m soooo glad you spoke on tattoos. I have so many and at the age of 31 I regret them all. I just want my own natural clean skin at this point. I’ve transitioned to a natural self and the tattoos are the only thing I’m stuck with. I’ve pierced my tongue, nose, lip and breasts…they have all been removed overtime. Still not sure why I did it. But thanks for this video. It’s going to be a huge help for me at this stage of life.
Wow that's so unfortunate. I would never get tattoos personally because my skin has so many blemishes that all I want is even clear skin. But I wonder if I would have gotten tattoos if my skin had been clear.
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Same here girly! Don’t feel bad. Im such a beautiful woman and I’m stuck with these tattoos from over 10years ago. Main reason I’m even watching this video, to see how I can still portray an elegant look even with them. I think for us it’s mainly about how we carry ourselves because we are judged instantly from the tattoos! ❤
Too true. You might be the most beautiful and elegant person in terms of dress and grooming, but if your behaviour and mannerisms are uncouth, you'll look like a poor immitation of the real thing
In my opinion, inking tattoos on my body would be analogous to me placing bumper stickers on my luxury model cars. You would never see a bumper sticker on a Porsche. Admittedly, I've seen some beautiful tattoos which I considered to be works of art. However, I'd rather own that inspired artwork on canvas, as a drawing or in sculpture form. Honestly, I like to change my appearance often, so I would easily tire of seeing the same artwork on my body everyday for the rest of my life. Well, to each her own.
As a Hollywood stylist, nose piercing studs look outdated and cheap. Small Nose rings with nice make up and cute style look better. I grew up having piercings and I don’t wear them anymore bc they are not classy
@@feliznavidad6958cultural and traditional piercings usually look extremely attractive. But otherwise, they don't. Even a tongue piercing looks better than a nose ring
I have a brother in the music industry. He said most of those long nails are fake. They only wear them for performances and appearances. The female rappers/singers only dress scandalous for pictures. They dress normal in their regular life
Apologies. I do understand the way they dress for shows could be different from their everyday wear, however, I find it hard to believe that they dress differently whilst not performing. I see many still unelegantly dressed in their normal day to day wears
I’m 43 and make good money, I’m going to wear whatever clothes I want to wear. Looking cheap keeps me from getting robbed or people asking me for money.😂
I’m an artist. I think it really comes down to your career and lifestyle. I love oversized clothing and form-fitting, it depends on the occasion, how I’m feeling, and time of year. Fashion is never one size fits all. And no matter the length of your nails, good hygiene should be important to everyone. I’ve seen people with very short and filthy nails, and people with long and gorgeous nails. How to care for your clothing is universal too, but it really comes down to one’s personal comfort and wearing whatever makes you feel confident. I could never wear plain, uniform clothing every day. I enjoy variety and experimentation far too much, but there are still universally useful tips here even if your personal aesthetic is wildly different than what’s described here.
I wear clothes, footwear and makeup that make me look and feel amazing. I don't follow style rules and trends. I don't worry about what others think of me. Cheapen your appearance? That is a matter of personal opinion.,
Elegance is a woman's superpower. It takes a really tuned in, confident woman to radiate as 100% female, especially in a stressful world. Your look can also reveal how you tick on a deep level. Too much of anything might suggest that you've psychological issues or that you're struggling with confidence and self love and respect. There's generosity in presenting elegance. You're basically telling people to treat you with respect and that you respect them enough to make an effort to look 'peak class' in their company.
This is soooo helpful. After running my own business and working from home in yoga pants for 7 years, I am currently in the process of finding my style again.
Ur pant lines printing from your clothes it's different from it being seen through your dress. People's pant lines tends to cut through their clothes n u can't blame them cus not everybody likes a G string
**Splendid!** I appreciate your recommendations! My most prominent concern is wrinkled garments, haha. At times, I may exhibit a touch of laziness 😅; however, this often leads to feelings of insecurity later on. So, no more wrinkled clothes.
I am usually asleep at this time but was skimming through and saw this presentation... I agree with you 1000%!! Our being free to make certain choices does not have to include cheapening our appearance. Well done....greetings from Barbados :)
Hey Vivian. I like this video. I'm a male but I realized your videos are so elegant that men should follow them too. It's also an opportunity for people who are coming from a french background like me to learn how to speak nicely like you. Your beauty is also dazzling. Keep it up my dear⭐🌟💫👌👌
Your hair looks lovely Vivienne, I love this relaxed look and the top/sweater dress you are wearing. The person in the flesh-coloured leggings looked like she had gone out without wearing any bottoms 7:46, also Lizzo's barely there outfit 7:34, oh dear 😧!
@@ziasfusion not only that but her behind was fat n ugly . Lizzo needs to go to a charm school . She has a beautiful face but flaunts her body like a whore . It is women like her that give women of color a bad name cause they are so idolized and worshipped by millions.
Thank you for your Elegance training video. Always looking classy doesn’t have to cost a fortune. People treat you better when you carry yourself with class and look like a million bucks.
I would like to understand this statement, "elegant women do not crave the attention of others" in the context of trying to get the attention of a man.
Thanks Vivienne, great points. ✨❤ The time when I struggle to remain elegant is in the summer, when the heat and humidity make me ill. Would you please make a video with advice for those of us living in hot summers or climates? 🙏 TIA 💜
I 100% agree with this whole list and realize I naturally gravitate towards all these types of things anyway. Also, I would never eat food prepared by someone with super long nails. You’d be surprised and disgusted with the amount of bacteria and fecal matter under those nails (so kudos to the long nail girls who know to use a nail brush and antibacterial soap at every hand washing). Great video!
Thank Lord Jesus, my grandmother thought me how to dress since I was a toddler, now I’m 48 years old, you won’t find these things on me as a christian woman, praise the Lord Jesus for sending the Holy Ghost to teach me all things 🙏🙏🙏 . Thank you Vivian for your teaching
Some of your “advice”’is factual such as proper undergarments and having properly heeled, soled, we’ll maintained foot ware . However, much of what you said (hair color, nail length, jewelry, for example) are truly personal held by YOU. Elegance is more about the way a lady carries her self and presents than it is most of the examples you gave. Elegance and grace are traits that are learned early on and taught by action. A person (male or female) could follow all of your opinions on attire and if they do not carry themselves in a certain manner they still would not be elegant, classy, or graceful. I can have on jeans, sneakers, a graphic top, and pink and green nails and be the epitome of elegance based on how I carry myself.
I think the concern of long nails, unnatural hair color and too much jewelry screams “I need attention” elegance does not beg for attention. The same way an elegant dress can be cheapened by how someone carries themself, an elegant lady can be cheapened by what she wears.
My mom taught me to stand up straight, look people in the eye, smile, and treat others with respect and dignity.. And none of those cost a PENNY. She was from a large and very poor family, one of 12 kids, but no one who ever met her would have thought that. She didn't have many nice things but took good care of what she did have. She taught me that poise, self-respect, and confidence go a long way, and she wasn't wrong.
Hello Vivienne! Thank you so much for sharing these tips with us very helpful and help most of us on our journey to become elegant and put together. I have learnt a lot from your videos. keep up the good work ❤
Hey Mam Vivian, you are just superb. You are the true example of how to be elegant in this modern world where trends are fading elegance. Furthermore, I simply love your vocabulary. I truly appreciate your choice of words. A huge support and respect in your way😊
Thank you for mentioning nails…I see so many women wearing “ glamour “ nails…it cripples the hand and makes hand jesters look so fake. There isn’t enough said about the over the top fake eyelashes.
The fake eyelashes look like spiders on top of your eyes. They cover up your eyes and look terrible. Yet these women think that they look classy and beautiful with fake hair , fake nails and fake eye lashes. ......just awful . Wish we all just accepted our selves and loved ourselves rather than trying to look fake " pretty" all the time.
Nothing wrong with fake hair, lashes, or nails….if they are done subtly and with class. They should not be overly long. They should look natural and enhance your beauty. Same goes for makeup: less is more. No one looks good in dark blue lipstick, unless you’re a Smurf
Thanks for this. I've warned my daughter severally regarding dressing up and elegantly. Whilst, she does not dress anyhow, she's troubled me severally about piercings and tattoos and I said no no no. I've also sent this video to her
If you're here. It must mean that you care about these things so in a spirit of that I offer you the following." If you can't say something nice do not say anything at all". A lady is also judged by the criticism she offers others . .you could be 100 prrcent right..but it wont change the fact that it is rude to call attention to someones lack of styyle, manners, class, personality, etc. Kamala might not dress to your liking but... she didnt come off the worse in your post. A lady ignores these types of things and keeps her head high moving forward with kindness and respect for all. Blessings.
Wonderful video! I honestly was worried when I went to the comments because I thought there was going to be a fight over the nail topic, anyways; I love watching these videos for guidance! I also wanted to know if you had any tips or tricks for young ladies wishing to enter high society, I'm 16 and don't come from a background where elegance is taught and would love to know anything on etiquette, upgrading social status, and anything that you think would be useful for girls like me. Thank you and have a great day!
YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE. A WOMAN OF SUBSTANCE AND CALIBRE HIGH CAN LOOK ELEGANT ELEGANT IN A BIN LINER...IT'S ALL IN THE WALK AND GAIT. HEAD HELD HIGH AND DELICATE STEPS. CROSSING LEGS PROPERLY. THANKYOU FOR YOUR ADVICE. PEOPLE WEARING FAR TOO MUCH DESIGNER CLOTHES SIMPLY FEEL THE NEED TO APPEAR WEALTHY.. XX
Yes! Undergarments is important, having the wrong ones on can hurt an outfit. I seen this in church a lot. I really enjoyed the advice. I am guilty of the graphic teens, they don't have a lot of graphics they are usually from White House/Blackmarket. However Thanks so much.
Hello Vivian, I reside in the United States, specifically in Jacksonville, Florida. I recently discovered your TH-cam channel. I am impressed with your eloquence and your expertise. I am a mature woman, 63, seeking to elevate my speech, diction, and eloquence. I started on TH-cam to improve those qualities, which is how I discovered your channel. I am not easily impressed with people, but you captured my attention and encouraged me to follow your channel, consume your advice, and learn to master exquisite characteristics. I am motivated to refine myself to become the more eloquent and equistic Theresa in all facets of my life. I would enjoy learning from you. It would be my pleasure to meet you. Thank you.
The wrinkled clothes make me crazy! Literally remembering the girl I just saw as a physician assistant yesterday. I wanted to say something privately (I didn’t of course). She was my daughters age and I felt so bad for her. I’m sure I’m not the only one that day that noticed.
People think elegance =fancy. That’s not the case. One of my favorite everyday outfits was a well fitted black turtleneck sweater, nice blue jeans, low black heels or boots, and sometimes a nice scarf for a touch of color. I loved when the weather turned cooler so I could also wear my black and white houndstooth coat. I carried a very simple black purse. No jewelry except for maybe a ring. Hair loosely curled, very minimal makeup; foundation, blush, light lipstick, mascara. So many times I was told I looked elegant or classy.
Thank you so much and I really agree with all your points 💯. I like the way you spoke about tattoos I.e not attacking anyone but clearly showing that if you love your tattoos it’s good but you can’t then go the elegant look. One image consultant spoke and mentioned that 55% of a person’s opinion about you is made up at first glance. So we have to think about the first impression we give, of course for those that care. It’s about choices after all.
Nails should look human and not like a grizzly bear😂I agree! My grandmother also always said long nails were not hygienic. All young ladies could benefit from having a church granny to lay the foundation on class. 😊
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Modesty. There's a word. I wish more teen/young women find your channel. Great advice here!💝
modesty can be both elegant and sexy if done properly. Confidence is the main accessory. ppl dont know how to leave stuff to the imagination anymore lol
im a teen just 14 and its helped me so much on my femininity and also modesty walk 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Modesty is load of bullshit its just a man made garage
I concur!
It would be great if more teen girls would find this channel; but at the same time, it's depressing at how many moms and grand moms are failing at their job of teaching girls that their worth is not in cheap attention, but found in a relationship with God and having self-respect & respect for others.
“Your nails should look like that of a human being and not a grizzly bear”, I cracked up😂
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The comment I’m looking for.😂😂😂
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Now this is a woman I would DEFINITELY take advice from. Her makeup is on point. Face and neck SAME COLOR/HUE. More of a natural look vs unnatural and Elvira look. No "baby hairs" foolishness etc. Great job all around. Love this!!
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1)wearing too many logos on your outfit
2)T shirt with lots graphics and inscription
3)wearing lots of bright color
4)Your make up is poorly done
5)Dirty accessories
6)wrinkle clothing
7)Too much skin
8)oversize or undersize clothing
9)your nails are too long and too colorful
10)excessive jewelry
11)your underwear shows through your clothes
12)Bizarre hair color or hair style
13)Too many piercing and tattoos
Awesome. Thank you.
Thank you so much!
Thank you! Was hoping someone did this.
Thanks for making it snappy
I was looking for this 😂thanks
You can also be elegant in your natural (no added hair no makeup) representation matter knowing that you dont have to look like someone else in order for you to be deemed a elegant woman and you can feel comfortable in your own skin matter. Especially for melanated women.
I agree !
I'm not a fan of make up and I hope and work towards maintaining an elegant look while still staying 💯 natural
Have you ever thought why some women don't like wearing makeup? It can be deeper than that (impostor syndrom, afraid of receiving compliments, afraid of shining...)
Absolutely!
Yes specially some chemicals in make up are unhealthy
@iremey i so agree
As a mature woman, I have been horrified at some of the outfits, hairstyles and outlandish nails I've seen on mostly younger women. I am glad you are offering this advice. It is much needed. I hope your message reaches the intended audience.
Yessssss ma'am intended audience is correct !!
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I just graduated from highschool and will start studying law in a few months. These videos actually help me a lot since I've struggled with my femininity for a very long time and used to cover my body with men's clothing, although I have a very petite body. Thank you so much for giving me and many other women the chance to embrace elegance!
She studied Law as well. 🙂
Best of luck in your. Future endeavors ❤
Congratulations on your high school graduation.
Good luck in with your studies. I'm glad to hear you have discovered this channel and is learning from it. I am learning a lot from Woman of Elegance channel as well, even as a feminine woman. I love watching and learning.
Nothing decreases the SHINE of a woman who knows her worth. ✨
Lol. This is wrong !
Not true. Many rude, obnoxious women behave that way because "they know their worth." Many true ladies go unnoticed because their way of dressing makes them blend into the background.
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@@edennis8578 no, I didn't mean worth that way at all. I meant a deep peace within you knowing your worth as a human being & in particular as a woman. When this happens, although we all have our weaknesses ect, it goes hand in hand with humility & grace
@@ladyfrance3 how so?
The key is wearing clothes, makeup, and accessories that ADD and ENHANCE who you are, not take away. You control it. It doesn't control you. And watch the way you carry yourself. Beauty and elegance comes from within.🌷
I love silver and gold jewellery I hate fake jewellery I have more rings than my fingers can wear I'm obsessed silver earrings chains bangle anklet I even bought silver jewelry for my baby I
I totally agree with all thirteen rules to looking good. Beauty and elegance come from within.
God bless you.
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I literally switch my looks everyday. 1 day i look very classy and elegant. Next day i look afro punk. One day i look like a tired successful salon spa owner, morher of 4 under 12, and wife. It just really depends on the day and occasion 😅. I do like your advice of looking kempt no matter what. I cam share the joy in that. 😊 Great video.
I wear long nails, not cardi b long. Lol I used to be a nurse so hand washing is so important to me. I keep a clean nail brush and antibacterial soap at all times at every sink I use. I do my own nails so I don’t ever have to wait too long in between maintenance. I put a new set on every 2 weeks or less. It’s a preference to wear them long. And I don’t even care who don’t like it. It makes me so happy. I’m a retired Navy Veteran and wore short nails for years. I’m free now. Lmao😂Doing my nails keeps my ptsd/depression at bay ❤
But I love what you are teaching! These lessons need to be learned and heard!❤
You sound elegant to me, keep your nails and enjoy, that's my advice. I believe that this video is just a guideline, not written in stone ❤
It may be a preference but long nails are not elegant no matter how you slice it
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I think this largely depends on culture. I also wear my nails semi-long and get compliments all the time by elegant people, men and women. Many respectable ladies and classy celebrities also wear long nails because it’s considered fashionable. I think it all comes down to tasteful designs and flattering colors. On the contrary, when I wear short nails nobody comments on it. In my culture very short nails can look juvenile like what teens would wear so they can sneakily go to school. It’s not the most attractive look for a young woman. I don’t think elegance is a one size fits all and most content I see online mostly cover western idea of elegance.
I work in Research and wear my nails semi-long. I'm with you Sis, and thank you for your service to our country:)
I am 13 and I already am learning alot form you
Keep on learning darling
So proud of you
Wow! That's awesome. Keep it up!
Same
I think more young women need to watch your channel 🙂
True
Many young women aren't concerned with being elegant
My thoughts exactly!
I will go to university soon then I will recommend this channel to my girl friends 👍
100% agree!!
I’m artistic and I’m from the Caribbean so I love colour and splashes of it 😂 but I think women should also find their personal style and individualize their look; “elegant” does not have to mean that all women look the same but this advice about the essentials is excellent! This is more about daily dress etiquette than just “elegance” per se
Thank you for this. I am artistic woman and my clothes reflect that but I carry myself with much elegance.
@@renewingmyminddaily2400that is true I have a teen who is very artistic but I do tell her we are all human beings and people see you before they know you. That good old saying 1st impressions are lasting ones. But I am all for colors in a more tasteful way. People judge you before they know you unfortunately.
I completely AGREE!!! I love color too, ALL of them!! Brilliant brights, soft pastels, muted shades, deep rich tones, neutrals and vibrant colors. Colors MAKE a statement 💯 💖💃
I'm from the Caribbean as well, and I had a similar thought.
THANK YOU - I love to see content creators cut through the "don't judge me" nonsense. Anna Bey, The Feminine Fancy, Olivia B, Freddy My Love, and Woman of Elegance all understand that how you present yourself to the world matters, it brings you more respect and opportunities. If you want to be taken seriously at school, at work (be it just a part-time job or in your full-time profession), or on the dating scene, then you need to dress the part. All of these tips make sense and every woman can apply them in her everyday life.
Yes. However, there is a difference between recognising that that is the case, and endorsing it. The other people aren’t unaware of how society perceives them; they are actively working to dismantle those stereotypes by literally telling people not to judge
Absolutely!
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That’s still judgement though. You can acknowledge that there’s a time and place for certain outfits without judging those around you for the way they choose to dress themselves. We can all agree you should look professional at your job, but that doesn’t mean you have to judge the people who don’t. It’s just about minding your business
Anna Bey is definitely not an expert on this subject-matter. Her fake over plumped lips are appalling taste and she bangs on about subjects she doesn't know much about. The kind of clothes she goes for are horrible knits and cheap imitations. She's appalling.
Elegance doesn’t mean that you have to look dull. It simply means to tone down a bit and be well groomed. Some of these things are common sense and some you speak are not unacceptable. I wear any length nails I want! However they are not loud colors or designs, usually a neutral or one color on every nail. I’ve always kept my nails VERY clean, I use a brush underneath EVERY TIME I wash my hands! I love quiet luxury and monochromatic outfits, but I LOVE a pop of color! Also, I have 2 tattoos one can be seen and one can’t. Both are tasteful. So I just think elegance can be interpreted and expressed many ways. Good video
Amen!!
It's *her* opinion on *her* channel. Yes, you can wear what you want on your nails. She isn't saying you specifically should not.
She doesn't follow the trend and that's her choice. A lot of us feel this way, but we get drowned out by the flashiness in others and get called plain Janes by other women aka " look dull".
Let her have the space to speak her viewpoints and learn to not take others' opinions so personally. If you were really confident that you are classy and elegant, you wouldn't be so much in your feels about her giving her opinion.
what would be an example of a tasteful tattoo?
My nails have been long since 89 its not a trend. I think short nails look manly. To each their own.
I’m guilty of the grizzly nails but IMO my hands are small so the nails kinda counter that. But I keep them clean and neutral colors or French and believe it people love them!
This comment is to remind you, wear what you want to wear, dress for the occasion of course, but theres no cookie cutter way to dress, its a reason you like what you like. As long as you respect yourself youll always be elegant
Agreed
YES. I saw a really classy older lady with the most beautiful purple hair. She dressed very minimal, but she had a splash of fun with her purple hair. Her hair was styled simple, which created balance.
@Recluse-music.. I completely agree with the comment you made. I think that people can look elegant with long nails and different colored hair. Like you said , as long as you respect yourself, you will always be
elegant. You can follow all these rules, and some people are still not going to respect you and could care less if you look eloquent. People always talk about outward appearance, but I’m always looking inside a person. What kind of person are you inside?
My mom raised me with some of these tips! Especially ironing 😭😭 I used to iron my school uniform for the week every Sunday, even jeans 😭😭. But it taught me how important it is to have clean and wrinkle free items.
YEP. I even iron t-shirts. People act like t-shirts don't get wrinkled. Lol. I can NOT leave the house wearing wrinkled clothes!
I love all of these tips. Im a former professional model and I was taught these things a long time ago. Im often flabbergasted when I see how today's young women dress. For example, I saw a woman at the grocery store yesterday wearing sheer black leggings with a thong clearly visible underneath them. Lord have mercy.
Well, for leggings, the panty line is considered embarrassing to show, so many women opt for thongs, though personally, I think it shows more
How was it
Yes indeed - many of these women leave the house wearing nothing but underwear. You see them in Walmart, the airport ….. I mean EVERYWHERE .
Has society lost its mind.?
And it seems the bigger and more overweight - the more they want to put on display. It’s just gross, extremely unattractive and disgusting.
Who wants to look at 4 layers of body fat hanging from your stomach and around your sides like stacked tires.???
These people must consume food cows 🐄 and Bisons 🦬, because this is what many women are looking like today and don’t give a damn about leaving the house looking sloppy and unkept.
Decency is for certain not important and elegance is obviously not important as well or a goal.
You are the reason I started my elegance journey💕 I sent your videos to my Nana & come to find out SHE’D been watching you as well. My confidence has soared through the roof since I started my elegance journey a little over a year ago. Now I’m on a full out modesty journey and don’t even own any pants or sneakers or anything & I ensure I look my best when leaving my home. All I wear now are dresses and skirts. Men always treat me nice and hold the door open for me and if when drop something in public, they pick it up for me. Women and men both compliment me all of the time. I feel so wonderful and I can’t thank you enough.
Men hold the door open for you? They hold it for me also, and I like to look nice, but in my 70’s I wear slacks much more often. No one would ever mistake me for a man. No need to fall for the dress, to not look mannish.
@@lynnebattaglia-triggs1042 pants themselves aren’t what make women look mannish, however, I’m 25 and women my age wear Crocs, baggy t-shirts, and distressed jeans and dress very androgynous (if not out right mannish) and I prefer to be a prim and proper gyal. I already went through my phase of graphic t-shirts, hoodies, leggings, and skinny jeans and realize I didn’t put any effort into my wardrobe and simply followed the trend. I’m glad to hear men holding the door open for elderly women, a teeny bit of my hope has been restored.
@@SundaySpeaks WOW I'm 18 and plus size but I don't have a belly It's mostly in my thighs and I have a small waist and small boobs with that in mind how should I dress modestly? most of the time I wear high waisted skinny jeans, rompers, dresses that hit a couple inches above my knees, t-shirts, leggings, crop-tops, sneakers, high waisted flare-leg jeans, shorts, matching shorts and crop-top sets, and heels my measurements are (in inches) 51 hips, 40 waist, 47 bust, and my bra size is 42B in American womens and I am 5 feet 9 1/2 inches tall. I am trying to lose weight by running 2 miles a day on my treadmill and doing the keto diet and can't wait to see results! I'm trying to go down to a size medium/140 pounds. Also I have 2B (2B = very wavy almost curly hair) very long dark brown hair, dark blue eyes, and very pale neutral toned skin so with that in mind I was thinking about dyeing my hair after I lose weight for a new look I was thinking white or platinum blonde? PLEASE tell me what you think! I would really appreciate any input from anyone!!! 😊🙏And thanks to anyone for liking my comment or even reading it! it's so long LOL🤭🤗😆
SundaySpeaks, Wow. You've done a major make over!
I have tattoos but I am sophisticated and refined inside and out. I’m not getting rid of them and if someone can’t accept my tattoos, then they are not for me.
I started my elegance journey after getting quite some tattoos on my arm. Even though they might not fit a 100% to my new style, their message is so important to my life, that I would never want to get rid of them.
@@anjaglivar4284You missed what was said. Tats are very much a personal message. But, too many takes away from that personal statement and just becomes a loud distraction.
@@fourthgirl I don't think I missed it at all :-) She is definitively right that too much is taking away from elegance and I have quite many tattoos on one arm. But nonetheless I decided to keep them since the message of kindness towards all beings is such an important one (I stand up for animal rights and have many of the animals that I rescued from slaughter tattooed on).
I started to dress modestly and wanting to be elegant after I made those. Even if they are distractive and not too elegant since I have many, I'll keep them and not laser them away. But that's the beauty of those videos; we can take what fits to us and use it to elevate ourselves, and we can leave what does not suit our preference and go on. I absolutely loved the overall video and message ;-)
Good for you." There is nothing more elegant than being who you are.
Absolutely. I think the younger generations are not interested in disappearing into the background. And that’s ok. Be you- whether that is a logo billboard or disappearing into the background and everything in between.
Steamers are game changing! They save so much time & are fun and easy to use. You will likely ditch your iron afterwards.
I’ve heard that clothes steamers are great. I’ve been wanting to take the plunge with steaming rather than ironing my clothes, but I’m not sure how to pick a “good” steamer vs a “bad” one. Some people love them, others say that they don’t work
I have 1 tattoo, on my right forearm. I got it when I was 60, and I haven’t regretted it at all. People can dislike them; that’s their right. I am not planning on covering my body with tats.
This is just my advice , actually its my ritual on Sunday. I take some time out every Sunday to pull together all my work outfits for the week. I pick out the hand bags, accessories, shoes..everything. I iron or steam things that needs attention. It makes my life so much easier. Additionally I have a "uniform" for at home which is some black pants and a long black tunic. It all takes so much stress out of my life.
Great advice! Thank you
I’m 47 years old now and all my friends that are around my age and have tattoos regret getting them when they were younger, because most of them want to look classy and no matter what they wear, the tattoos just bring down the look. It doesn’t match and covering them up is a hassle and getting them removed isn’t easy either. So if you’re young really think about that.
Vivienne's voice is serenading and soothing. 😅 Is her calmelness for me.❤
I’m so glad I found your channel! True elegance and modesty are so rare these days. Thank-you for your contribution to educating our young women to decency. The respect they get will give them a good self image and teach other women what it means to be a “true lady”.
My admiration and respect for your videos emphasizing elegance!
It saddens me that it's rare among us.
My mother aways emphasized to invest in a coat, purse, shoes, and a wallet. She would say, "Although we may be poor we don't need to be lazy and look sloppy." "We can stand out, admired and respected for our good faith efforts!"
Men are to also invest in a coat, shoes, belt, and wallet.
Never ever wear clothes that look like they were taken out of the hamper!
Women to always wear a dress to church, a wedding, a baptism, a graduation, a quinceanera (sweet sixteen) and, always wear dark solid colors to a funeral.
Men to wear a suit and tie to all these occasions! We are at these events for the person being honored or celebrated and looking presentable is being respectful!
May elegance and grace win!
Much love! ❤
You're mother is wise!! And loving to impart such encouragement. ♡
Anyone who wants to argue should know that this video is about those that want to be elegant, classy and modest. It's not about being trendy, catchy or anything of that sort.
Thank you you, gracious lady
Every woman defines her way of Beauty! God doesn't make mistakes! love how you have been created! the real beauty for me is to accept yourself first and foremost and others come next! I feel most elegant when I have my natural hair! My Afro hair is my Power!
I truly agree with you. I think we as women need to just accept each other as we are and stop advising what someone should and/or should not wear. I have dreadlocks and love them.
I’m soooo glad you spoke on tattoos. I have so many and at the age of 31 I regret them all. I just want my own natural clean skin at this point. I’ve transitioned to a natural self and the tattoos are the only thing I’m stuck with. I’ve pierced my tongue, nose, lip and breasts…they have all been removed overtime. Still not sure why I did it. But thanks for this video. It’s going to be a huge help for me at this stage of life.
Wow that's so unfortunate. I would never get tattoos personally because my skin has so many blemishes that all I want is even clear skin. But I wonder if I would have gotten tattoos if my skin had been clear.
There Are Waterproof Skin Coverage Makeup I Know This Is A Temporary And There Is Other Alternatives Tattoo Removal Cream,Lazer Removal And Other Products I Would Mention This To Your Doctor They May Also Can Find Healthy Alternatives Too I Hope This Helps God Bless👑🙏🏽🙆🏾♀️🙋🏾♀️❤
Same here girly! Don’t feel bad. Im such a beautiful woman and I’m stuck with these tattoos from over 10years ago. Main reason I’m even watching this video, to see how I can still portray an elegant look even with them. I think for us it’s mainly about how we carry ourselves because we are judged instantly from the tattoos! ❤
It’s what’s in you, not always what’s on you.
One don't always have to dress up. It's the way you carry yourself as a woman and also the body language that counts.
That's my problem. I do not feel comfortable if I don't have on a heel. And no I'm not bougie. I'm cheap as hell. I love a cute SheIn dress and heels
Too true. You might be the most beautiful and elegant person in terms of dress and grooming, but if your behaviour and mannerisms are uncouth, you'll look like a poor immitation of the real thing
In my opinion, inking tattoos on my body would be analogous to me placing bumper stickers on my luxury model cars. You would never see a bumper sticker on a Porsche. Admittedly, I've seen some beautiful tattoos which I considered to be works of art. However, I'd rather own that inspired artwork on canvas, as a drawing or in sculpture form. Honestly, I like to change my appearance often, so I would easily tire of seeing the same artwork on my body everyday for the rest of my life. Well, to each her own.
You took the words right out my mouth with this!
I like how you left out nose piercings because a simple nose stud looks so beautiful and ethereal especially with makeup that is done correctly
As a Hollywood stylist, nose piercing studs look outdated and cheap. Small Nose rings with nice make up and cute style look better. I grew up having piercings and I don’t wear them anymore bc they are not classy
It's also a cultural thing. A lot of Indian women wear nose piercings
@@feliznavidad6958cultural and traditional piercings usually look extremely attractive. But otherwise, they don't. Even a tongue piercing looks better than a nose ring
I have a brother in the music industry. He said most of those long nails are fake. They only wear them for performances and appearances. The female rappers/singers only dress scandalous for pictures. They dress normal in their regular life
Not really you can see card b long nails in her home videos
Apologies. I do understand the way they dress for shows could be different from their everyday wear, however, I find it hard to believe that they dress differently whilst not performing. I see many still unelegantly dressed in their normal day to day wears
Yeah, like most women lol. Would you be wearing your leggings and slippers in a music video?
I’m 43 and make good money, I’m going to wear whatever clothes I want to wear. Looking cheap keeps me from getting robbed or people asking me for money.😂
I’m an artist. I think it really comes down to your career and lifestyle. I love oversized clothing and form-fitting, it depends on the occasion, how I’m feeling, and time of year. Fashion is never one size fits all. And no matter the length of your nails, good hygiene should be important to everyone. I’ve seen people with very short and filthy nails, and people with long and gorgeous nails. How to care for your clothing is universal too, but it really comes down to one’s personal comfort and wearing whatever makes you feel confident. I could never wear plain, uniform clothing every day. I enjoy variety and experimentation far too much, but there are still universally useful tips here even if your personal aesthetic is wildly different than what’s described here.
I wear clothes, footwear and makeup that make me look and feel amazing. I don't follow style rules and trends. I don't worry about what others think of me. Cheapen your appearance? That is a matter of personal opinion.,
Wear what makes YOU happy, forget what others think
Thank you
Elegance is a woman's superpower. It takes a really tuned in, confident woman to radiate as 100% female, especially in a stressful world. Your look can also reveal how you tick on a deep level. Too much of anything might suggest that you've psychological issues or that you're struggling with confidence and self love and respect. There's generosity in presenting elegance. You're basically telling people to treat you with respect and that you respect them enough to make an effort to look 'peak class' in their company.
This is soooo helpful. After running my own business and working from home in yoga pants for 7 years, I am currently in the process of finding my style again.
I completely agree with you. I am teaching my 12 yo niece how to be an elegant lady. So far, she's right on track. Great video 🙂
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Isn’t a 12 year old a child and not a lady?
Ur pant lines printing from your clothes it's different from it being seen through your dress. People's pant lines tends to cut through their clothes n u can't blame them cus not everybody likes a G string
Loved the bit about looking like you're being dragged in by a cat 😂😅
The clawed nails got to me. I cringe when I see women with such long nails 💅
I remember when Elegance used to be the trend, I hope it comes back
**Splendid!** I appreciate your recommendations! My most prominent concern is wrinkled garments, haha. At times, I may exhibit a touch of laziness 😅; however, this often leads to feelings of insecurity later on. So, no more wrinkled clothes.
Avoid wearing clothes that can easily crease when going for long meetings. Modesty is key to Elegance. Thank you, Vivian.
Hi Vivian, could you do a video about elegance at home. What could I wear when doing housework etc? Thank you.
Chanel no 5.
Louis vuitton 😅😅. C9mmeon sense luv
Don’t worry about that. Save it for going out and feeling good
I am usually asleep at this time but was skimming through and saw this presentation... I agree with you 1000%!! Our being free to make certain choices does not have to include cheapening our appearance. Well done....greetings from Barbados :)
Hey Vivian. I like this video. I'm a male but I realized your videos are so elegant that men should follow them too. It's also an opportunity for people who are coming from a french background like me to learn how to speak nicely like you. Your beauty is also dazzling. Keep it up my dear⭐🌟💫👌👌
Your hair looks lovely Vivienne, I love this relaxed look and the top/sweater dress you are wearing. The person in the flesh-coloured leggings looked like she had gone out without wearing any bottoms 7:46, also Lizzo's barely there outfit 7:34, oh dear 😧!
Regarding the flesh colored leggings...at first I also thought that she wasn't wearing anything. Yikes.
@@ziasfusion not only that but her behind was fat n ugly . Lizzo needs to go to a charm school . She has a beautiful face but flaunts her body like a whore . It is women like her that give women of color a bad name cause they are so idolized and worshipped by millions.
Thank you for your Elegance training video. Always looking classy doesn’t have to cost a fortune. People treat you better when you carry yourself with class and look like a million bucks.
I am dying here. "your nails should look like a human being, not a grisly bear". I will never forget this one. I agree of course. Hahahahahah!!!!
100% Agree with you! Would recommend this video to every woman/lady/girl.
I would like to understand this statement, "elegant women do not crave the attention of others" in the context of trying to get the attention of a man.
Or attention of others. We stand in the light, no need for attention.
Thanks Vivienne, great points. ✨❤
The time when I struggle to remain elegant is in the summer, when the heat and humidity make me ill. Would you please make a video with advice for those of us living in hot summers or climates? 🙏 TIA 💜
Your audacity is admirable!
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Lol
I 100% agree with this whole list and realize I naturally gravitate towards all these types of things anyway. Also, I would never eat food prepared by someone with super long nails. You’d be surprised and disgusted with the amount of bacteria and fecal matter under those nails (so kudos to the long nail girls who know to use a nail brush and antibacterial soap at every hand washing). Great video!
You are absolutely correct! You effectively described what looks cheap and what is elegant. I hope many women find your channel.
Dang, I love me a great graphic T-shirt with jeans and a blazer. I think it really depends on the event on when to where them.
Here I love old handbags and where rings on every finger lol. Great points. Most importantly, wear what makes you feel beautiful.
I love you’re delivery. Haha Straight forward. Earth to understand. And quite humorous!!!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂
I requested this video months ago. Thank you so much Vivienne 💖🙏🏻
Thank Lord Jesus, my grandmother thought me how to dress since I was a toddler, now I’m 48 years old, you won’t find these things on me as a christian woman, praise the Lord Jesus for sending the Holy Ghost to teach me all things 🙏🙏🙏 . Thank you Vivian for your teaching
I love all your comments !! So true. 💖
I agree with all of the above except I’ll throw on a graphic tee to run to the mall or grocery shopping. Never in the office 👍🏽
This is very good for modern day Women of class.Excellent job well done
I cannot believe....! I actually agree with every 13 points you mentioned... 👏
A bad wig/weave, where the glue or lace is visible, also cheapens one's appearance.
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My aunt taught me that when I was a kid. The most cheapest clothes in luxury brands are the ones that have labels or logos all over it
Such a great informative video! Thank you Vivian once again! I love the part about your nails looking human 😂 it’s so true
Some of your “advice”’is factual such as proper undergarments and having properly heeled, soled, we’ll maintained foot ware . However, much of what you said (hair color, nail length, jewelry, for example) are truly personal held by YOU. Elegance is more about the way a lady carries her self and presents than it is most of the examples you gave. Elegance and grace are traits that are learned early on and taught by action. A person (male or female) could follow all of your opinions on attire and if they do not carry themselves in a certain manner they still would not be elegant, classy, or graceful. I can have on jeans, sneakers, a graphic top, and pink and green nails and be the epitome of elegance based on how I carry myself.
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I think the concern of long nails, unnatural hair color and too much jewelry screams “I need attention” elegance does not beg for attention. The same way an elegant dress can be cheapened by how someone carries themself, an elegant lady can be cheapened by what she wears.
My mom taught me to stand up straight, look people in the eye, smile, and treat others with respect and dignity.. And none of those cost a PENNY. She was from a large and very poor family, one of 12 kids, but no one who ever met her would have thought that. She didn't have many nice things but took good care of what she did have. She taught me that poise, self-respect, and confidence go a long way, and she wasn't wrong.
Hello Vivienne! Thank you so much for sharing these tips with us very helpful and help most of us on our journey to become elegant and put together. I have learnt a lot from your videos. keep up the good work ❤
You are glowing Vivian. Thanks for another great video
Hey Mam Vivian, you are just superb. You are the true example of how to be elegant in this modern world where trends are fading elegance. Furthermore, I simply love your vocabulary. I truly appreciate your choice of words. A huge support and respect in your way😊
Thank you for mentioning nails…I see so many women wearing “ glamour “ nails…it cripples the hand and makes hand jesters look so fake. There isn’t enough said about the over the top fake eyelashes.
The fake eyelashes look like spiders on top of your eyes. They cover up your eyes and look terrible. Yet these women think that they look classy and beautiful with fake hair , fake nails and fake eye lashes. ......just awful . Wish we all just accepted our selves and loved ourselves rather than trying to look fake " pretty" all the time.
Nothing wrong with fake hair, lashes, or nails….if they are done subtly and with class. They should not be overly long. They should look natural and enhance your beauty. Same goes for makeup: less is more. No one looks good in dark blue lipstick, unless you’re a Smurf
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This was excellent! My late, great, mother always preached to us: “simplicity is elegance.”
Thanks for this. I've warned my daughter severally regarding dressing up and elegantly. Whilst, she does not dress anyhow, she's troubled me severally about piercings and tattoos and I said no no no. I've also sent this video to her
Let her dress how she wants to dress. This sort of style is very particular
If you're here. It must mean that you care about these things so in a spirit of that I offer you the following." If you can't say something nice do not say anything at all". A lady is also judged by the criticism she offers others . .you could be 100 prrcent right..but it wont change the fact that it is rude to call attention to someones lack of styyle, manners, class, personality, etc.
Kamala might not dress to your liking but... she didnt come off the worse in your post.
A lady ignores these types of things and keeps her head high moving forward with kindness and respect for all.
Blessings.
I recently graduated high school. I've realized I've never been very feminine. I want to change that. I want to look clean, put together, and soft.
T-shirt’s can be elegant actually it’s how you weir with a nice shoes and a nice pants like graphics ones that clean cut cute ones
Wonderful video! I honestly was worried when I went to the comments because I thought there was going to be a fight over the nail topic, anyways; I love watching these videos for guidance! I also wanted to know if you had any tips or tricks for young ladies wishing to enter high society, I'm 16 and don't come from a background where elegance is taught and would love to know anything on etiquette, upgrading social status, and anything that you think would be useful for girls like me. Thank you and have a great day!
I think the same as you,friend! 👍👍
@@aishwarya2016 Lovely! I find it comforting to see many of us have the same mindsets!
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@@jessicamallory5387 Oh! I already planned to watch one of her videos, I think she will be helpful!
YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE. A WOMAN OF SUBSTANCE AND CALIBRE HIGH CAN LOOK ELEGANT ELEGANT IN A BIN LINER...IT'S ALL IN THE WALK AND GAIT. HEAD HELD HIGH AND DELICATE STEPS. CROSSING LEGS PROPERLY. THANKYOU FOR YOUR ADVICE. PEOPLE WEARING FAR TOO MUCH DESIGNER CLOTHES SIMPLY FEEL THE NEED TO APPEAR WEALTHY.. XX
Yes! Undergarments is important, having the wrong ones on can hurt an outfit. I seen this in church a lot. I really enjoyed the advice. I am guilty of the graphic teens, they don't have a lot of graphics they are usually from White House/Blackmarket. However Thanks so much.
Simplicity says alot about a woman ❤
Hello Vivian, I reside in the United States, specifically in Jacksonville, Florida. I recently discovered your TH-cam channel. I am impressed with your eloquence and your expertise.
I am a mature woman, 63, seeking to elevate my speech, diction, and eloquence. I started on TH-cam to improve those qualities, which is how I discovered your channel. I am not easily impressed with people, but you captured my attention and encouraged me to follow your channel, consume your advice, and learn to master exquisite characteristics. I am motivated to refine myself to become the more eloquent and equistic Theresa in all facets of my life. I would enjoy learning from you. It would be my pleasure to meet you.
Thank you.
100% agree with you!!!🌸🌺
The wrinkled clothes make me crazy! Literally remembering the girl I just saw as a physician assistant yesterday. I wanted to say something privately (I didn’t of course). She was my daughters age and I felt so bad for her. I’m sure I’m not the only one that day that noticed.
People think elegance =fancy. That’s not the case. One of my favorite everyday outfits was a well fitted black turtleneck sweater, nice blue jeans, low black heels or boots, and sometimes a nice scarf for a touch of color. I loved when the weather turned cooler so I could also wear my black and white houndstooth coat. I carried a very simple black purse. No jewelry except for maybe a ring. Hair loosely curled, very minimal makeup; foundation, blush, light lipstick, mascara. So many times I was told I looked elegant or classy.
Thank you so much and I really agree with all your points 💯. I like the way you spoke about tattoos I.e not attacking anyone but clearly showing that if you love your tattoos it’s good but you can’t then go the elegant look. One image consultant spoke and mentioned that 55% of a person’s opinion about you is made up at first glance. So we have to think about the first impression we give, of course for those that care. It’s about choices after all.
Keep going. You are doing very important work! "Elegant women do not crave approval from others".... significant!
My first time viewing your channel and such a needed message for the times we live in. Beauty with Simplicity is key. God Bless ❤
God bless you; there was a time when mothers used to raise up lovely young ladies.
Nails should look human and not like a grizzly bear😂I agree! My grandmother also always said long nails were not hygienic. All young ladies could benefit from having a church granny to lay the foundation on class. 😊
Ms Vivian. . This is an awesome video. Love it. Please, do more videos like this. OMG. Thank you so much my dear for sharing. Beautiful hair
Live your life as you see fit … if you look cheap and you love it , do you boo🤷🏾♀️
Thank you for this video! The nail part cracked me up 😄😅
These shows are so IMPORTANT!!! These lady here speaks an impeccable English-language!!! She is the real example to follow!!!