1. Man with a goal/purpose-driven man 2. Shows that you are a leader / subtle leadership / how you portray yourself 3. Pacing / Take things slow, relaxed, confident / Exude your high-value aura / Have your standards 4. Be opinionated in a good way / shows that you have different beliefs and not ashamed about it 5. Be decisive 6. Look good / be well put together / don't overdo 7. Be emotionally stable 8. Know when to be vulnerable / connect emotionally 9. Have a sense of humor 10. Watch the video till the end and find out for yourself.
1. Being purpose-driven 2. Leadership 3. Pacing yourself (taking it slow) high-value men don't just date any woman 4. Opinionated (in a good way) 5. Decisive 6. Take pride in your looks, invest in style, grooming (fingernails), etc. 7. Emotionally stable. Women want to feel safe, not only physically but emotionally. 8. Vulnerability 9. Sense of humor. Don't take yourself too seriously when around her, 10. Be spontaneous and adventurous.
Hola Apollonia, thank you for all these recommendations. I am 40 and divorced for the last three years, getting back in the dating world was complex for me. But after looking over your videos and some of your writings, I changed my approach when dating. I recently worked with "the escalation cheat sheet" on a date I had, and the response I had on a date was amazing... I am now dating a lovely lady and the response I get from her is strong. Thank you for all your good advice.
I’m trying to remaster a lot of these after losing my relationship with my ex for 4+ years. 8+ months on and its still a learning process. Thank you for this video Apollonia!
Totally understand women's fear of being assaulted, but also be aware that men are FOUR TIMES more likely to be assaulted or murdered. Love your stuff!
It's SO important to look past only seeing beauty and screen for the values you want in someone! If you've never walked away from a woman you find attractive, then you are never building true confidence. You're basically saying that as long as she's beautiful, that's all you're worth. It's why many men put women on a pedestal and still feel terrified around them for years. Of course being physically attracted to someone is important. But from there, you need to stay true to yourself. If you can give up an opportunity with an attractive women who isn't a right fit, you'll reinforce to yourself that you are high value. That you have choice with women, too and you're not waiting to be picked. Fantastic tips Apollonia.
This is a great video and right on point with REAL world dating. No matter where you stand on feminism or women's rights. You will still be required to do ALL the work to prove you are worthy. All these points will NOT guarantee you success with women. But will give you a greater chance at success. Now it will be solely your choice if you decided to use your resources for this purpose. "Every woman wants a good man, until she finds one that requires her to be a better woman." "Men display, Women choose"
vulnerability is essential to deep flourishing intimacy...be yourself do what makes you feel good,dont be a creep,be an artist ...theres pretty much an art to anything and everything!be passionate.. be you through and through and just straight up dont give a shit what others think of you ...balance is key,for instance there is a healthy form of passion...and there is an unhealthy, negative, dark,violent, toxic form /expression of passion...sad thing is trial and error tend to be the best form of change/growth...dont make the woman your sun ...you are the sun ...dont make her your world,because true abundance is in you!you really have to dive into your passion and purpose before you step into any relationship of any kind is the God honest truth !!
High value human do not have to "attract" other humans. A highly valued person it is attractive on itself being, and do not need another human approval to feel himself valuable and attractive.
Ending a seven year relationship because I JUST realized we have different goals in mind. We always thought there would be compromise, but I now know she was asking me to sacrifice my goals and dreams. Now I know to look for an actual partner.
Going along to get along has always been my problem. I’m a laid back alpha and I’m loath to give an opposing opinion in a relationship because I fear it will lead to negative conversations and I would loose her. The fight was never worth it so I stayed silent. It’s certainly caused me problems. Great vid, thanks!!
I'm so glad that I watched this video while I'm single I'm working on a lot on this list and I'm getting better at it I still have a long way to go but I'll get there
The more videos I watch about this, the more i got the feeling I have to be a total psychopath. This is all playing games and not be yourself. Just be you, if she likes you, cool, if not, move on.
Emotional stability is the one that I'm not sure of ... I think I have it all but I've been in relationships that I think now the women are low value , and I become unsure about long term relationship when I see concern actions ... This is where Im at
I need to work on looking good and knowing when to be vulnerable. Now that my wife of 11 years left me, I find my appearance and house are not fit for dating, and I should have never gotten this way with her... don't shave every day, haven't bought any new clothes in over a year, house is just filled up with my guy shit like a damn pawn shop, I should have done better. I was never vulnerable with her, she always came to me first to apologize after an argument, I would never tell her how I feel because I thought she wouldn't understand and would just get angry. She left thinking I don't care about her and not knowing what I want from her, but I loved her so much. She drank a lot and in my opinion it destroyed us, but this gives me a lot to think about going forward meeting new women.
She said it "The game" I think that book tries to reinvent the wheel the same with the "the tao of bad ass" they try to act like they discovered something but are just renaming shit like neging it's just teasing but when they explain it guys do it wrong I've seen it dudes being so rude and proud become he's "neging" non stop and getting what he thought was results. When teasing is just so self explanatory. So yeah I agree it feels incomplete. It's like what Bruce Lee said about martial arts you shouldn't stick to only one style and it's true about the Venetian arts. Woow.... I'm so glad I found this.
There's people that are not purpose driven. There's people that are happy and at peace with who they are. What they have and have accomplished in life. Enjoy life and find a person or let that person find you that will fit your personality. Men stop trying SO hard. Improve on who you are but don't be someone YOU ARE NOT. You might impresse someone but you will get sick and tired of being someone you are not. Let someone fall in love with WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU LOVE.
I've always looked up to you until you mentioned you ghosting the indecisive guy. How did that help him? If anything it put a bad taste in his mouth with women. So many women ghost men and it makes them want to give up. I would have loved to have heard be blunt with the guy and say "look your indecisiveness has really turned me off. I'm no longer interested in exploring you as a option. Please don't take it personal. I don't want an indecisive guy nor does any woman. So learn from this so it doesn't happen to you again. Be decisive when your with a woman. Take charge and have a plan." That's just my 2 cents Appolonia. Everyone deserves to know what they did to unattract someone. Ghosting people helps nobody. It only hurts people.
You know when I interview people for my clinic, I want them to look their best with office attire. I want to see their potentials. I want to see how good they can put themselves together. A person who can put themselves together really nicely has the quality I am looking for. It suggests to me that they can do an excellent job, and has high standards.
Good morning @Apollonia ponti great video 10 traits on attracting women to men shows great information to know and how to pace yourself and not to rush 🤣😁gotta be slow and take time to a relationship.
Having absolutely none of these traits, I can say with utter confidence what I always knew (or at the very least, take an educated guess at): I never stood a chance. It's over. I'm doomed to be alone. I can now officially give up and more seriously consider ending it all. I hate the society I'm forced to participate in since birth. I have come to despise humanity and have come to believe (a belief reinforced by this video) that our only salvation is through voluntary extinction.
HERE IS THE SECRET: It depends on how desperate, or not, a woman is to find a man that can provide for her. The less desperate, and or young, the woman is, then the better looking a man must be to attract her. Those are the facts. So, as a man, you must LEVEL UP.. Get in the gym, eat right, dress well, and get your money right. Ideally, you want both, looks and money.
I have a girlfriend, well technically ex now. After a year of relationship, she now says she doesn't want to be in one. Okay...but then she gets in touch back and is constantly pretending to be a friend. What am I supposed to do here???
Hey I have a friend who is a girl we been hanging out alot I've been taking it slow so I finally got the courage to ask if she can see us as a couple and she said we will see what should I do
So I'm like 90% of the way reconnected with my ex who left me like she'd never see me again. Lol it's taken 5 months of crazy hard work, hardest thing I've ever done but we are almost back together. Last weekend we were talking about "us" an she said she wanted to see me do a bit more before we got back together completely. She's just doing small steps, and she meant just more time the same actions I clarified. I wasn't being patient enough and it caused some mood shifts which she pointed out so I'm buckling down on controlling my emotions and being happy regardless of the outcome. Following my own drive an purpose with better emotions an she will join the story again or she won't 🙏
I used to never get chased by women, because I presented my self as low valued women chaser. Once i stopped misleading my self, focused on my self, and followed the most of the 10 steps I began to have line of women from work, gym, and even in friend gatherings chasing me.
True story, my ex gf was a manager at a Dunkin Donuts at the airport, super hot. All the airport guys were all over her, i kept my distance and eventually after being a customer and having normal conversations, I was able to strike gold because according to her, i was the only one not hitting on her lol. Yes, she's an ex but it last 2 years and half.
i need a session. this message confused me with your other messages. Don't date her before you know her. over a month to know her... then date her.... other messages say that text should only mean business.... set the date
Help: I have all of this, but i lack fun and adventure. I slept with a co worker that is into me at first, but i just find out she is already with some1 and been lying to me.
I have proof and somewhat disagreement for one of the aspects of this attracting women. I remember being in seventh grade and in ninth grade both and on three different occasions during those grades I was asked out by girls because my clothes were not fashionable at all I was wearing holey jeans and a simple T-shirt with flip-flops. I am one of the occasions but out of all three occasions I look like crap! When I asked each one of them why they asked me out they said because I look like I did not give a shit about anything and I was my own person
I do all ten you are right about all ten I’m a short guy and women chase me all the time great video
Facts! I pinned this comment because men need to stop thinking all it takes is height. This is FAR from the truth. :)
I have my own channel I share game and positive tips I watch your channel because you confirm everything I talk about on my channel
@Saul Goodman LOL..GOOD ONE
Chase you all the time? I doubt it 😂
That's cap
1. Man with a goal/purpose-driven man
2. Shows that you are a leader / subtle leadership / how you portray yourself
3. Pacing / Take things slow, relaxed, confident / Exude your high-value aura / Have your standards
4. Be opinionated in a good way / shows that you have different beliefs and not ashamed about it
5. Be decisive
6. Look good / be well put together / don't overdo
7. Be emotionally stable
8. Know when to be vulnerable / connect emotionally
9. Have a sense of humor
10. Watch the video till the end and find out for yourself.
Thank you my brother
Number 10 got me😹🤠
#11 - Be able to walk away unemotionally.
True
U r my hero
1. Being purpose-driven
2. Leadership
3. Pacing yourself (taking it slow) high-value men don't just date any woman
4. Opinionated (in a good way)
5. Decisive
6. Take pride in your looks, invest in style, grooming (fingernails), etc.
7. Emotionally stable. Women want to feel safe, not only physically but emotionally.
8. Vulnerability
9. Sense of humor. Don't take yourself too seriously when around her,
10. Be spontaneous and adventurous.
Thank you!
Remember at all times, guys, she is the trophy, but you are the prize. Act accordingly!
Haha my dawg!
reading this blesses my spirit so much
@@MeekoRuiz i agree! I love this comment haha
Great point high value men don't date/sleep with anything. Also, it will fit within your life, values, standards, and prefrences.
Facts xoxo
WHAT ABOUT HOMELESS MEN.. ARE THEY AT THE BOTTOM OF THE DATING TOTEM POLE??
HVM do NOT date anything, meaning you have to be okay with being alone, there will be droughts, this is where your PURPOSE comes in to fill your Time.
Hola Apollonia, thank you for all these recommendations. I am 40 and divorced for the last three years, getting back in the dating world was complex for me. But after looking over your videos and some of your writings, I changed my approach when dating. I recently worked with "the escalation cheat sheet" on a date I had, and the response I had on a date was amazing...
I am now dating a lovely lady and the response I get from her is strong.
Thank you for all your good advice.
Practically a neighbor here. Your advices are allways priceless
I’m trying to remaster a lot of these after losing my relationship with my ex for 4+ years. 8+ months on and its still a learning process. Thank you for this video Apollonia!
Totally understand women's fear of being assaulted, but also be aware that men are FOUR TIMES more likely to be assaulted or murdered. Love your stuff!
So guy does everything and the woman just goes for the ride. Got it.
It's SO important to look past only seeing beauty and screen for the values you want in someone! If you've never walked away from a woman you find attractive, then you are never building true confidence.
You're basically saying that as long as she's beautiful, that's all you're worth. It's why many men put women on a pedestal and still feel terrified around them for years.
Of course being physically attracted to someone is important. But from there, you need to stay true to yourself.
If you can give up an opportunity with an attractive women who isn't a right fit, you'll reinforce to yourself that you are high value. That you have choice with women, too and you're not waiting to be picked.
Fantastic tips Apollonia.
So true.I let a real miter shell go .My cry next relationship lasted 3.5 years.Im don't see that it's totally over
This is a great video and right on point with REAL world dating. No matter where you stand on feminism or women's rights. You will still be required to do ALL the work to prove you are worthy. All these points will NOT guarantee you success with women. But will give you a greater chance at success. Now it will be solely your choice if you decided to use your resources for this purpose. "Every woman wants a good man, until she finds one that requires her to be a better woman." "Men display, Women choose"
Nice one Apollonia! To whoever is reading this, keep working towards becoming the best version of yourself! 🚀 👊
vulnerability is essential to deep flourishing intimacy...be yourself do what makes you feel good,dont be a creep,be an artist ...theres pretty much an art to anything and everything!be passionate.. be you through and through and just straight up dont give a shit what others think of you ...balance is key,for instance there is a healthy form of passion...and there is an unhealthy, negative, dark,violent, toxic form /expression of passion...sad thing is trial and error tend to be the best form of change/growth...dont make the woman your sun ...you are the sun ...dont make her your world,because true abundance is in you!you really have to dive into your passion and purpose before you step into any relationship of any kind is the God honest truth !!
“And You are Loved”
Thank you so much!
I've been watching and practicing the instruction in your videos trying to better my relationship. I've actually bettered my self!
This is amazing!
Awesome advice. It’s good to hear things from the women’s perspective. I have a few things to work on. Thanks for creating this channel 🙏🏽
High value human do not have to "attract" other humans. A highly valued person it is attractive on itself being, and do not need another human approval to feel himself valuable and attractive.
Ending a seven year relationship because I JUST realized we have different goals in mind. We always thought there would be compromise, but I now know she was asking me to sacrifice my goals and dreams. Now I know to look for an actual partner.
Going along to get along has always been my problem. I’m a laid back alpha and I’m loath to give an opposing opinion in a relationship because I fear it will lead to negative conversations and I would loose her. The fight was never worth it so I stayed silent. It’s certainly caused me problems. Great vid, thanks!!
If you fear losing someone over your opinion. You’re not alpha. The first step to growth is being real with yourself
I'm so glad that I watched this video while I'm single I'm working on a lot on this list and I'm getting better at it I still have a long way to go but I'll get there
Great Video Appolinia
This is one of your best advice for most men today
Being that leading for your sweetheart is just an amazing point Apollonia. Thank you 😊
Everything you say is spot on! Very good 👍.
I can't wait to watch this video after work. All your videos are great and filled with truth.
You are simply my favourite Dating coach
Teachingmensfashion needs to see this. Kinda surprised that Apolonia mentioned him. Big fan of Jose Zuniga and the TMF fam.
The more videos I watch about this, the more i got the feeling I have to be a total psychopath. This is all playing games and not be yourself. Just be you, if she likes you, cool, if not, move on.
I’m pretty terrible at:
1. Purpose-Driven
2. Leader
3. Pacing
5. Decisive
7. Emotionally Stable
10. Spontaneous & Adventurous
I’m busy these days…
Thank you so much for the content Apollonia! I am so grateful for having come across your channel. ✨
Thank you for your support as well and being here with me on the channel. xoxo
I'm in love w you. I'm putting these things in practice and your so right on. I promoted you on an love quote site. You owe me a free counsel. Lol
Fellas 😌 this lady is dropping THEE GAME
Emotional stability is the one that I'm not sure of ... I think I have it all but I've been in relationships that I think now the women are low value , and I become unsure about long term relationship when I see concern actions ... This is where Im at
Real men real style is another great channel on men's style
Good video Apollonia Ponti
I DONT PAY MUCH ATTENTION TO DATING COACHES..MOST ARE ALL WIND AND SMOKE.. BUT APOLLONIA IS AN EXCELLENT DATING COACH.. SHE REALLY KNOWS HER STUFF
Thankyou for all your videos
Great advice as always
I am always anxious about the parking situation, that explains a lot lol
Always Love ur commentary
I need to work on looking good and knowing when to be vulnerable. Now that my wife of 11 years left me, I find my appearance and house are not fit for dating, and I should have never gotten this way with her... don't shave every day, haven't bought any new clothes in over a year, house is just filled up with my guy shit like a damn pawn shop, I should have done better. I was never vulnerable with her, she always came to me first to apologize after an argument, I would never tell her how I feel because I thought she wouldn't understand and would just get angry. She left thinking I don't care about her and not knowing what I want from her, but I loved her so much. She drank a lot and in my opinion it destroyed us, but this gives me a lot to think about going forward meeting new women.
Your hair looks gorgeous
Thank you!
Good morning Apollonia great TH-cam on these 10 traits.
Good morning!
Thank You so much for your advise!
I am good in every trait mentioned but i have to work on them daily to improve more and more without rest! Always stay hungry :)
She said it "The game" I think that book tries to reinvent the wheel the same with the "the tao of bad ass" they try to act like they discovered something but are just renaming shit like neging it's just teasing but when they explain it guys do it wrong I've seen it dudes being so rude and proud become he's "neging" non stop and getting what he thought was results. When teasing is just so self explanatory. So yeah I agree it feels incomplete. It's like what Bruce Lee said about martial arts you shouldn't stick to only one style and it's true about the Venetian arts. Woow.... I'm so glad I found this.
Awesome 10 tips 👍
Love this.
Love your videos Apollonia!
Loving It. 🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆
thanks for your beautiful advice apalonia
There's people that are not purpose driven. There's people that are happy and at peace with who they are. What they have and have accomplished in life. Enjoy life and find a person or let that person find you that will fit your personality.
Men stop trying SO hard.
Improve on who you are but don't be someone YOU ARE NOT. You might impresse someone but you will get sick and tired of being someone you are not.
Let someone fall in love with WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU LOVE.
Glad it's current video.
I've always looked up to you until you mentioned you ghosting the indecisive guy. How did that help him? If anything it put a bad taste in his mouth with women. So many women ghost men and it makes them want to give up. I would have loved to have heard be blunt with the guy and say "look your indecisiveness has really turned me off. I'm no longer interested in exploring you as a option. Please don't take it personal. I don't want an indecisive guy nor does any woman. So learn from this so it doesn't happen to you again. Be decisive when your with a woman. Take charge and have a plan." That's just my 2 cents Appolonia. Everyone deserves to know what they did to unattract someone. Ghosting people helps nobody. It only hurts people.
+1 to that. I would have rather heard the truth than be ghosted. As if someone would want to talk to me in the first place :(
i love your video’s
You know when I interview people for my clinic, I want them to look their best with office attire. I want to see their potentials. I want to see how good they can put themselves together. A person who can put themselves together really nicely has the quality I am looking for. It suggests to me that they can do an excellent job, and has high standards.
It suggests to me that they can attend to the details that this work requires.
Good stuff.
Good morning @Apollonia ponti great video 10 traits on attracting women to men shows great information to know and how to pace yourself and not to rush 🤣😁gotta be slow and take time to a relationship.
Having absolutely none of these traits, I can say with utter confidence what I always knew (or at the very least, take an educated guess at): I never stood a chance. It's over. I'm doomed to be alone. I can now officially give up and more seriously consider ending it all.
I hate the society I'm forced to participate in since birth. I have come to despise humanity and have come to believe (a belief reinforced by this video) that our only salvation is through voluntary extinction.
100 percent... Good looking well put together, but can't create connections, its what happens when you look a certain way...
Meanwhile, all men need from a woman to be attractive, is that she is beautiful and kind.
Thank You 👍
Hi and Thank You.
Keep up the good work boo I support you and your dreams and ambitions.
I wouldn't mind owning Apollonia soul
Thank you.
yeah guys take it slow, don't blow ur own trumpet too much and if you make a move to kiss her, trust me throw her a flirty smile first..x
HERE IS THE SECRET: It depends on how desperate, or not, a woman is to find a man that can provide for her. The less desperate, and or young, the woman is, then the better looking a man must be to attract her. Those are the facts. So, as a man, you must LEVEL UP.. Get in the gym, eat right, dress well, and get your money right. Ideally, you want both, looks and money.
I have a girlfriend, well technically ex now. After a year of relationship, she now says she doesn't want to be in one. Okay...but then she gets in touch back and is constantly pretending to be a friend. What am I supposed to do here???
Hey I have a friend who is a girl we been hanging out alot I've been taking it slow so I finally got the courage to ask if she can see us as a couple and she said we will see what should I do
Teaching mens fashion, real men real style, Alpha M. and alex costa
Thanks 🤩
Teaching Men's Fashion TMF shout out to Jose Zuniga
The Style OG shout out to Dr Jeff
shout out to Alex Costa
Hi !
I wish I knew this before, before screwing up everything.
How can I comb my hair I'm bald when I get a haircut I tell da guy top number 2 and sides number 0.
So I'm like 90% of the way reconnected with my ex who left me like she'd never see me again. Lol it's taken 5 months of crazy hard work, hardest thing I've ever done but we are almost back together.
Last weekend we were talking about "us" an she said she wanted to see me do a bit more before we got back together completely. She's just doing small steps, and she meant just more time the same actions I clarified.
I wasn't being patient enough and it caused some mood shifts which she pointed out so I'm buckling down on controlling my emotions and being happy regardless of the outcome. Following my own drive an purpose with better emotions an she will join the story again or she won't 🙏
Best of luck with the situation bro..i know exactly what you are talking about
Points should come on the screen. Kindly look into it for all your videos.
I used to never get chased by women, because I presented my self as low valued women chaser. Once i stopped misleading my self, focused on my self, and followed the most of the 10 steps I began to have line of women from work, gym, and even in friend gatherings chasing me.
Nice video beautiful girl ✌️
Did you just say high value man do not just date anything? ..I love that emoji..100%
Absolutely,absolutely high value man don't date anyhow, anyhow
I need to work on emotional stability and purpose driven
Kudos
I have all this traits
What if someone doesn't have a sense of humor? I have a distance to myself but I can't tell jokes etc.
Don’t give someone else your emotions.
True story, my ex gf was a manager at a Dunkin Donuts at the airport, super hot. All the airport guys were all over her, i kept my distance and eventually after being a customer and having normal conversations, I was able to strike gold because according to her, i was the only one not hitting on her lol. Yes, she's an ex but it last 2 years and half.
Was it tough getting over the relationship? Ive had a hard time in the past getting over the relationships
It’s really ONE trait having a BIG
Wallet
Be rich and smoking hot, they will be lining up
Appallonia it's me alberto. I learning a lot on attracting women ? Thanks ? Appalonia that' s what i like get women addicted to me ? Alberto
Lots of great advice. I'm now wondering what the woman is actually bringing to this arrangement. 🤔🤣
i need a session. this message confused me with your other messages. Don't date her before you know her. over a month to know her... then date her.... other messages say that text should only mean business.... set the date
I’m so advanced 😝
what if the guy is retired? no job to go to during the day
Help: I have all of this, but i lack fun and adventure. I slept with a co worker that is into me at first, but i just find out she is already with some1 and been lying to me.
I have proof and somewhat disagreement for one of the aspects of this attracting women. I remember being in seventh grade and in ninth grade both and on three different occasions during those grades I was asked out by girls because my clothes were not fashionable at all I was wearing holey jeans and a simple T-shirt with flip-flops. I am one of the occasions but out of all three occasions I look like crap! When I asked each one of them why they asked me out they said because I look like I did not give a shit about anything and I was my own person
high value men don't just date anything. 💥