I'm on the respirator since the end of 2017, and I had three girlfriends in 5 years. It didn't work out, I was too much for them. I can't go out, I'm living in bed basically, and I have muscle disease. I still manage to live a fulfilling life. I meet girls online and you wouldn't believe how many girls are attracted to me. Online, in person, it doesn't matter. I write a motivational blog and fight prejudices against disabled people, also I write about my daily life, my healthy eating habits, my healthy life mindset etc. I do freelance graphic design, I read a lot, and I write three books. I have goals, the mission, to use my condition to help and motivate people. Girls love guys who have goals, the confidence to be brutally honest with them, guys who have strong opinions, and guys who truly live their life no matter what. Plus, I'm a creative writer, which helps to make girls curious and excited, even in a sexual way, because girls love words. I always tell them everything without hesitation, sometimes they are shocked by my honesty, but they love it. At the beginning of our chat, I never try to impress them or give them compliments about their look. I tease them a lot in a flirty or sexual way, but never too much, just enough to keep thing fun and relaxed. We also talk about deep, emotional subjects. I'm not hiding any emotion. So, if I can have girls and I can't leave the house, and I'm severely disabled - you can too. Just be confident in who you are, have purpose, be honest, have strong opinions, never change your opinions just to be liked by a girl. Respect her, joke with her, make her laugh, be understanding. It's really that easy. Don't be pushy about things, but don't use much words like: ''do you want'', ''can I'', ''I'm sorry'' for every little thing. For example, I never ask: ''Do you want to have a date with me?'' , I ask: ''I want to have a date with you, get to know you better, we should have a date on Saturday night, are you busy then?'' See the difference, I'm telling her, not asking.
Thank you for taking the time to write this and share this. This is so so important to hear and read. People will always see us how we see ourselves. I commend you and your confidence! Way to go!!!
@@ApolloniaPonti Thank you very much. I also appreciate you took the time to reply to my comment. I watch your videos often! I'm always trying to, how I like to say, update my character and mindset. People should never stop working on themselves. Now - I will stop advising people in my comments. I don't want to steal your job. :P Have a nice day.
GREAT advice her men. Very well presented. The common theme with these ideas is that men must be it all and do it all. No room for error, let down, or weakness. Make sure the woman is worth all this effort and expenditure of resources. Also remember she will expect this same effort for the entirety of the relationship. Every woman wants a good man until, that man requires her to be a better woman.
In light of this advice: how do you approach subjects like MGTOW? From what I hear in that movement, men are determining what their non-negotiable are, and in an era where so much more is demanded of men to even have the attention of a woman, a lot of men have decided that their effort in life is better directed elsewhere. Yet in choosing to not play the dating game because of ridiculously high one-sided standards, men are often ridiculed and demeaned for not making a woman their focus. I’ve come to the point in my own life where I realized that my goal can’t be to be what women want, because largely most women don’t even know what they want. I choose to put my energy into my relationship with God, close friendships and family, and into exploring interests that I have. In that freedom though, the constant question from women to me is “why aren’t you married yet?” Or “you are total husband material,” yet whenever I give one a chance, they aren’t interested, because they usually mean I’m all that “for someone else.” Ideally I would like a family and kids, and a solid relationship with a SO, but I refuse to meet the needs of someone who either doesn’t know what they want, or won’t pursue someone they even acknowledge has the traits that any woman looking for a stable relationship would want (because that usually means they are still looking for the excitement of an unstable relationship).
I needed to see this video today, particularly the segment beginning at 12:32. I'm past several weeks with a woman, have had 6 wonderful dates, but I've noticed lately she's not initiated contact as much as she did the first few weeks after we met. She's ceased the occasional good night/good morning texts, or spur of the moment phone calls. I've developed strong feelings for this woman. She is responsive and excited to spend time together, but this change in communication from her has me shaken. Perhaps using this tip during our next date will be help ease the anxiousness I feel. Just don't want to come off needy, which the way you worded it, it does not. Thanks for the great content, Apollonia!
Hi Sean, if it's a new behavior just proceed with caution and be aware of it. But 6 dates we can like someone but still not 100% know who they are and what they want. Take your time. -Apollonia
You are a good friend for me, I even don't mind on network connection with you and you are watching my always for me I am approximate about it thanks for reminding me I think network is reaching at the same time to you right now thanks for the same no problem at all for me whenever we always getting together every day before two years ago that days are very hard for me in every situation like connectivity with all foreign countries language, and my main problem was always language along with us but now I can understand and deal it with deep understanding that's the results for me a good conversation with anyone so some times I avoid your message due to engaging else where that's the only reason I am not able to get your message now you can understand before convocation and now there is a vast difference between the same So thanks for watching my writing details about this meaningful conversations with me
Ok listen, I agree with all you say, these things only apply for emotionally available high value women. Not a emotionally unavailable low quality women. Ages 18-30
Not on the first date!! Think of the first date as a way to get to know each other. Flowers are definitely very welcome, but wait until maybe a few dates, unless you already knew each other before dating.
Phrases such as "high value" really take the shine off your wisdom. You say a lot of good things and I'm really keen to know more about what you have to say, however, that one phrase really doesn't work whe describing a prospective partner. It really shapes a group of prerequisites in which we should judge a person. If I ever meet a female I personally decide I want (not NEED) in my life, she will always be of value regardless if shes all together or not and I'm sure she will feel the same. Stay wise, stop using throw away, hip terms like "high value".
Thank you!! I really dislike that term, it comes across as prejudiced. Like it's dismissive of a person's inherent value, to say that some are "high value" means that others aren't, and comes across as shallow and hateful. Compatibility is the most important, and that is something that is individualized, it can't be generalized; "high value" is assumed to be an adequate measurement. The type of men who repeatedly say "high value" are the ones that women think are "low value," for not having a proper sense of humility nor humanity. I typically assume that a man who uses that term also buys into other negative societal constructs.
That jacket thing I never understood. Why not bring a jacket. We've known for thousands of years that nights are cold. The man brings a jacket. Why the woman can't bring one? It's well known women feel cold much quicker than men. Why not plan accordingly? To me that would be a turn off. Shows poor prioritisation and planning. Not wife material.
Children are must. Getting married is great. I have no religion. Jewish, Cristian or buddalism are all cool. I don't drink much, that makes me a great driver for wifi.
being honest is not always a good idea because a lot of woman in my experience they are afreid of open and communicative men who know what they want and say it up front and also they dont like chivalry form 19 to 27 years olds woman i have dated they all do the same BS games and retreat when they feel a man is getting to close to them or they say your to nice then complain there are no good men left when they are in thire 20s then turn 29-30 and say we are all drit bags when she had many good men she tossed aside like trash
Depends on the woman! I LOVE pet names, but not when the person clearly thinks of me as "lesser" than them. Make sure it isn't demeaning. My ex husband had a pet name for me that I loathed, I associated it with being overweight, and he associated it with something totally different. My favorites are baby, sweet pea, sweetheart. Least favorites- doll, sweet cheeks, princess. (Princess was used in sarcasm in my family of origin, that one can be very hit or miss.) A pet name makes me feel like I'm "his," and helps me know he is still feeling loving towards me. My ex husband started using my first name, which became an indicator that he wasn't fond of me anymore. I've had boyfriends who were too afraid to try and never had pet names for me. It's not something you can really ask for.
this may be accurate but what I see out there from all different demographics, is genetics. facial attractiveness followed by height and status/resources. sure one can't have an off-putting personality, hygiene, impoverished etc... but all of these things pale in comparison to the primary components of attraction. is this defeatist? no...there can be a fit for many men and women, but the upper tier of men (and women) get BY FAR the majority of options. it's not a linear curve.
appolonia ma'am.i am in love with a girl.her parents want their son-in-law to be a doctor and i am an IT expert.how can i convince them to make her daughter marry me?
You can not make a woman love you thats just cringe lol infact is bordering on being a creep we have words for people like that in uk its called n*****
convince means you were already turned down. I'm gonna have to say you didn't look very promising to her parents (and maybe to her too), perhaps you're lazy. Perhaps you don't look like you're really trying your utmost in life. I really think if you're living a respectable life, anyone can look at you and accept you. You don't convince them, you show them. And in the process you may even find a better woman. So don't stop to convince her or her parents
She teaching what she like. "She" likes. Not what women or even shes attracted too. First lie. Women do like guys who show emotion to issues. She said they dont. 1 of our biggest tricks is to act sad until a girl asks whats wrong. Tell her your girlfriend cheated on u and it bothers u sometimes because how good u became u her. Even tho u never had a girlfriend. Every woman will instantly become nurtering. Nurtering equates emotion. Feelings. Now shes thinkn of her past issues. While holding u. Rubbing u. Hold for 10 mins and youll have her doggy. This is importnt. Make sure youre aggressive. And she will be hooked. Subconsciously youll be the guy who she thinks of when she thinks of cheatn men she knew and how youre better. And the aggressive sex makes her want it more. Trust me. i am the guy.
I like it: "Being patience is the key to building an everlasting sustainable healthy relationship"
Thank you!
@@ApolloniaPonti Thank you, Apollonia. You're doing an amazing job.
We didn’t stop being chivalrous because we got bored of it. We stopped because women told us they hated it.
I'm on the respirator since the end of 2017, and I had three girlfriends in 5 years. It didn't work out, I was too much for them. I can't go out, I'm living in bed basically, and I have muscle disease. I still manage to live a fulfilling life. I meet girls online and you wouldn't believe how many girls are attracted to me. Online, in person, it doesn't matter.
I write a motivational blog and fight prejudices against disabled people, also I write about my daily life, my healthy eating habits, my healthy life mindset etc. I do freelance graphic design, I read a lot, and I write three books. I have goals, the mission, to use my condition to help and motivate people.
Girls love guys who have goals, the confidence to be brutally honest with them, guys who have strong opinions, and guys who truly live their life no matter what.
Plus, I'm a creative writer, which helps to make girls curious and excited, even in a sexual way, because girls love words. I always tell them everything without hesitation, sometimes they are shocked by my honesty, but they love it.
At the beginning of our chat, I never try to impress them or give them compliments about their look. I tease them a lot in a flirty or sexual way, but never too much, just enough to keep thing fun and relaxed. We also talk about deep, emotional subjects. I'm not hiding any emotion.
So, if I can have girls and I can't leave the house, and I'm severely disabled - you can too. Just be confident in who you are, have purpose, be honest, have strong opinions, never change your opinions just to be liked by a girl. Respect her, joke with her, make her laugh, be understanding. It's really that easy.
Don't be pushy about things, but don't use much words like: ''do you want'', ''can I'', ''I'm sorry'' for every little thing.
For example, I never ask: ''Do you want to have a date with me?'' , I ask: ''I want to have a date with you, get to know you better, we should have a date on Saturday night, are you busy then?'' See the difference, I'm telling her, not asking.
Thank you for taking the time to write this and share this. This is so so important to hear and read. People will always see us how we see ourselves. I commend you and your confidence! Way to go!!!
@@ApolloniaPonti Thank you very much. I also appreciate you took the time to reply to my comment. I watch your videos often! I'm always trying to, how I like to say, update my character and mindset. People should never stop working on themselves. Now - I will stop advising people in my comments. I don't want to steal your job. :P
Have a nice day.
Cringeeee
Amazing
@@PlatinumHustle What exactly is the cringe here, call me curious?
You along with Marni, Corey, and a few others have really helped me. Thanks love!
I know winggirl Marni but who's Corey ?? And who are the few others ?
@@NecromancerTO Read the book on "How to be a 3% man"
GREAT advice her men. Very well presented. The common theme with these ideas is that men must be it all and do it all. No room for error, let down, or weakness. Make sure the woman is worth all this effort and expenditure of resources. Also remember she will expect this same effort for the entirety of the relationship. Every woman wants a good man until, that man requires her to be a better woman.
Yes in a relationship patience is the best,
.... Excellent video. Supremely thorough and well executed. Thank you Signorina Ponti!
You're very welcome!
Absolute gold. Thanks Apollonia.
Thank you so much for watching!
First comment here! Watching your videos is like therapy for me haha. Thanks for your hard work!
Thank you! Happy to help!
I like how authentic she is out here.
Thanks, Apollonia.
This is great wisdom thank you señorita
In light of this advice: how do you approach subjects like MGTOW? From what I hear in that movement, men are determining what their non-negotiable are, and in an era where so much more is demanded of men to even have the attention of a woman, a lot of men have decided that their effort in life is better directed elsewhere. Yet in choosing to not play the dating game because of ridiculously high one-sided standards, men are often ridiculed and demeaned for not making a woman their focus.
I’ve come to the point in my own life where I realized that my goal can’t be to be what women want, because largely most women don’t even know what they want. I choose to put my energy into my relationship with God, close friendships and family, and into exploring interests that I have. In that freedom though, the constant question from women to me is “why aren’t you married yet?” Or “you are total husband material,” yet whenever I give one a chance, they aren’t interested, because they usually mean I’m all that “for someone else.” Ideally I would like a family and kids, and a solid relationship with a SO, but I refuse to meet the needs of someone who either doesn’t know what they want, or won’t pursue someone they even acknowledge has the traits that any woman looking for a stable relationship would want (because that usually means they are still looking for the excitement of an unstable relationship).
she has a few videos on it
Its not a movement.
I use maps app to get direction
I needed to see this video today, particularly the segment beginning at 12:32. I'm past several weeks with a woman, have had 6 wonderful dates, but I've noticed lately she's not initiated contact as much as she did the first few weeks after we met. She's ceased the occasional good night/good morning texts, or spur of the moment phone calls. I've developed strong feelings for this woman. She is responsive and excited to spend time together, but this change in communication from her has me shaken. Perhaps using this tip during our next date will be help ease the anxiousness I feel. Just don't want to come off needy, which the way you worded it, it does not. Thanks for the great content, Apollonia!
Hi Sean, if it's a new behavior just proceed with caution and be aware of it. But 6 dates we can like someone but still not 100% know who they are and what they want. Take your time. -Apollonia
@@ApolloniaPonti Thanks. I'm trying to pace myself, just hasn't been easy to not read into things too much.
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Appreciate it :-)
Love the video
I'm curious on your prespective of Coach Corey Wayne?
Yea I’m I’m with a few things on the list .. she’s gonna have to accept me for who I am & I’ll do the same
How will this work over long distance relationship ? How will this work
I have some videos on long distance relationship as well. These are behaviors and mindset. Long distance or not it should always be attained. :-)
Awesome
You are a good friend for me, I even don't mind on network connection with you and you are watching my always for me I am approximate about it thanks for reminding me
I think network is reaching at the same time to you right now thanks for the same no problem at all for me whenever we always getting together every day before two years ago that days are very hard for me in every situation like connectivity with all foreign countries language, and my main problem was always language along with us but now I can understand and deal it with deep understanding that's the results for me a good conversation with anyone so some times I avoid your message due to engaging else where that's the only reason I am not able to get your message now you can understand before convocation and now there is a vast difference between the same
So thanks for watching my writing details about this meaningful conversations with me
These videos are funny lol. None of this matters unless you’re attractive and have stable income
Lots and lots of information…. Maybe one concepts at a time!
Love life what's that? I have given up on finding anyone been 6 years no one in my life. My only lovers have been my left and right hands
Take a look on your profile message.. And then go and look your self in the mirror. There you have the answer! ;)
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Ok listen, I agree with all you say, these things only apply for emotionally available high value women. Not a emotionally unavailable low quality women. Ages 18-30
When is it appropriate to bring flowers? 1st date or depends…
When you have a reason..
Not on the first date!! Think of the first date as a way to get to know each other. Flowers are definitely very welcome, but wait until maybe a few dates, unless you already knew each other before dating.
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Phrases such as "high value" really take the shine off your wisdom. You say a lot of good things and I'm really keen to know more about what you have to say, however, that one phrase really doesn't work whe describing a prospective partner. It really shapes a group of prerequisites in which we should judge a person. If I ever meet a female I personally decide I want (not NEED) in my life, she will always be of value regardless if shes all together or not and I'm sure she will feel the same.
Stay wise, stop using throw away, hip terms like "high value".
Thank you!! I really dislike that term, it comes across as prejudiced. Like it's dismissive of a person's inherent value, to say that some are "high value" means that others aren't, and comes across as shallow and hateful. Compatibility is the most important, and that is something that is individualized, it can't be generalized; "high value" is assumed to be an adequate measurement. The type of men who repeatedly say "high value" are the ones that women think are "low value," for not having a proper sense of humility nor humanity. I typically assume that a man who uses that term also buys into other negative societal constructs.
That jacket thing I never understood. Why not bring a jacket. We've known for thousands of years that nights are cold. The man brings a jacket. Why the woman can't bring one? It's well known women feel cold much quicker than men. Why not plan accordingly? To me that would be a turn off. Shows poor prioritisation and planning. Not wife material.
Children are must. Getting married is great. I have no religion. Jewish, Cristian or buddalism are all cool. I don't drink much, that makes me a great driver for wifi.
Them young girls act like they saw a puppy yawn when you open the truck door for them
if you want fishing tips ask a fisherman, don't ask a fish.
being honest is not always a good idea because a lot of woman in my experience they are afreid of open and communicative men who know what they want and say it up front and also they dont like chivalry form 19 to 27 years olds woman i have dated they all do the same BS games and retreat when they feel a man is getting to close to them or they say your to nice then complain there are no good men left when they are in thire 20s then turn 29-30 and say we are all drit bags when she had many good men she tossed aside like trash
Sounds like an issue with girls, not women.
Do women like pet names in a romantic relationship?
oh course!
@@ApolloniaPonti Thank you for your wonderful advice Mrs. Ponti. I look forward to being mentored by you in the art of dating.
Depends on the woman! I LOVE pet names, but not when the person clearly thinks of me as "lesser" than them. Make sure it isn't demeaning. My ex husband had a pet name for me that I loathed, I associated it with being overweight, and he associated it with something totally different. My favorites are baby, sweet pea, sweetheart. Least favorites- doll, sweet cheeks, princess. (Princess was used in sarcasm in my family of origin, that one can be very hit or miss.)
A pet name makes me feel like I'm "his," and helps me know he is still feeling loving towards me. My ex husband started using my first name, which became an indicator that he wasn't fond of me anymore.
I've had boyfriends who were too afraid to try and never had pet names for me. It's not something you can really ask for.
Let's drop all the crap. Women are easily attracted to really good looking men. That's it.
this may be accurate but what I see out there from all different demographics, is genetics. facial attractiveness followed by height and status/resources. sure one can't have an off-putting personality, hygiene, impoverished etc... but all of these things pale in comparison to the primary components of attraction. is this defeatist? no...there can be a fit for many men and women, but the upper tier of men (and women) get BY FAR the majority of options. it's not a linear curve.
Women.. he doesn't show his emotions.
Men- shows emotions
Women- ewe why is he showing emotions I don't like that.
Chivalry is for Simps gentlemen.
appolonia ma'am.i am in love with a girl.her parents want their son-in-law to be a doctor and i am an IT expert.how can i convince them to make her daughter marry me?
Unless you are going into an arranged marriage- this ain’t going to work
You can not make a woman love you thats just cringe lol infact is bordering on being a creep we have words for people like that in uk its called n*****
convince means you were already turned down. I'm gonna have to say you didn't look very promising to her parents (and maybe to her too), perhaps you're lazy. Perhaps you don't look like you're really trying your utmost in life. I really think if you're living a respectable life, anyone can look at you and accept you.
You don't convince them, you show them. And in the process you may even find a better woman. So don't stop to convince her or her parents
Remember you are always loved bye for now...
She teaching what she like. "She" likes. Not what women or even shes attracted too. First lie. Women do like guys who show emotion to issues. She said they dont. 1 of our biggest tricks is to act sad until a girl asks whats wrong. Tell her your girlfriend cheated on u and it bothers u sometimes because how good u became u her. Even tho u never had a girlfriend. Every woman will instantly become nurtering. Nurtering equates emotion. Feelings. Now shes thinkn of her past issues. While holding u. Rubbing u. Hold for 10 mins and youll have her doggy. This is importnt. Make sure youre aggressive. And she will be hooked. Subconsciously youll be the guy who she thinks of when she thinks of cheatn men she knew and how youre better. And the aggressive sex makes her want it more. Trust me. i am the guy.
Gross
Wow, I have never been first in anything in my life. Well... except one thing 😔
LOL, now you are. :-)
Comedy gold
Divorce?