Because it depends on the situation. If it’s something that you’ve done that ruined it, that you realise was stupid then you can fix it. Sometimes it’s a silly mistake. Sometimes it’s unforgivable. It depends.
It pays to be Alpha, it pays to learn how to be Alpha than be a Beta male. Also, attraction grows in space/distance. As an Alpha, women go & women come. I never chase & never say because I'm Alpha, I must get the woman. Naaa. Rejection is what I wear as a badge & I never reattract a woman who said no. Guys, don't chase, don't reattract her. There are a million beautiful women out there who will give you more for less effort from you. If she says she's not interested or needs a break, never reach out because if a woman likes you genuinely, she'll move mountains just to get to you. All you have to do is have an abundance mindset (a mindset of plenty, surplus of women & other quality traits in your life). That's why I said don't chase. Leave her & move on to others. It'll help you but going back to a woman who told you no just to get a yes isn't worth it. Build yourself as a man & try elsewhere because if you go back to her, it shows you don't have options & she's all the best you could ever have. That's an attention seeking behaviour & it sucks.
there wasn't even anything to start with went out on 2 (meetings) she wanted ME to prove myself to her and keep chasing her she wasnt even consistent or i was simply playing it HER way (by chasing her) she would rarely if ever text me first (once i started chasing HER) first meeting passed with flying colors she really enjoyed the time we spent together i even kissed her then i had a weird gut feeling about that girl i even showed my insecurities to her yet she still agreed to go out on a second (meeting) after she was done with work she showed absolutely NO INTEREST in me and was only after a free dinner signs were clear from the beginning of that (meeting), she wasnt into me despite me doing extremly well ! at end of the date SHE DECIDED to put in the friend's zone i had a weird gut feeling about her and acted weird that day i turned her off but yes, apparently she was just playing from the starts probably coz she admitted to me that she was BORED, and wasn’t looking for ANYTHING i learned my lesson, but she was really either insecure, narcissist, or just immature time to move on with my life and work on myself better for any potential future relationships...
I mean I get it dude but sometimes you just genuinely like someone and the other option you have are not appealing. Also someone calling themself alpha male constantly is kind of weird
Does work that way for me..... I get it im young love shouldn't be a thing at a young age but my own bsf the one i want to grow old with knows i care about her she cares about me but she's sending mixed signals idfk what to do.
Often the female may like you, but not the options you have at the time. Just improve your life and later she'll come around, but leave her alone and find someone new.
A good point here is deciding why she rejected you in the first place. With hypergamy being the basic nature of women. You must decide what you lacked in her eyes. So before attempting to engage with her again, work on yourself. Make yourself better. Better mentally, better physically, better financially, and better spiritually. This will give you the best chance of being successful with her. This being said, there is a higher probability that she will again reject you. A high value woman has many, many options. But the work you put into yourself will never be wasted. It only heightens your chances of being successful with women. The key is to never loose the frame of who you are and what you want. But above all else. NEVER judge your sense of self worth based solely on if you are in relationship or if your good with women. You deserve respect and you have a purpose on this earth. Carry on and Good Luck ! "Men display, Women choose" "Every woman wants a good man, until that man requires her to be a better woman"
Guys, don’t chase or pursue anyone who doesn’t choose you. Stay on ur purpose, eat right, work out and maintain your masculine frame! 💯. The moment you are trying to “re-attract” her, its game over. just move on brothers!
Don’t forget while she needs space...work on you! So if she comes back that you are now fixing your reality! If your in fantasy your gonna repeat the reason why you pushed her away. Get control of you emotions and actions and that will help you to reestablish trust. Apollonia has it down to help us fix things!
does this method contradict with everyone else saying focus on urself and allow HER to reach out to u ? Am little confused because everyone else says never reach back to her and let her come back to u !?!…..
Some guys need to stop being so desperate and learn to Value themselves I have a younger woman devalues me for who I am it's not that I'm rich I just stand firm for who I am
I don't know why it said devalue she values me very much so she does not want to have anything to do with anyone else especially anyone in her age group or close to her age are very insecure and immature
Preach! A lot of guys need to wake up in the morning, and look in the mirror and say "DAMN IT, I'M A PRIZE! I deserve happiness within myself, and I deserve a queen. I'm worthy, and I AM THE PRIZE!" 👍👍👍
Your videos are really helping me… my girlfriend and I are on a break right now because she’s been feeling overwhelmed with her work, school, and ultimately me. I remember her earlier this week telling me she loves me and doesn’t want to lose me and then the next day saying that she’s just been overwhelmed with everything and I was overwhelming her… at first I was flustered and frantic crying of course just being confused and wanting her back but I realized that the only way i can get her back and make our relationship work is by being my own person and allowing her to be as well. I lost sight of that as her and I have progressed in our relationship. I forgot that her and I could do our own things and be our own people but still love each other and be involved with each other. So with this time while her and I are on a break I’m watching your videos and really trying to figure out my flaws and grow those and I haven’t been talking to her which is a mistake I made the first day we were on our break is I was crying and begging etc but realized that I need to use this time to allow her to get her stuff together and for myself, improve and work on doing my own things.
You should never attach yourself to an outcome when dating women or in life simply because you should be the outcome that she attaches herself to. Once you have peace of mind and tap into your divine masculine energy she will be completely drawn to you! NO CAP!
@@ApolloniaPonti I think everyone should treat relationships as a way to level up. Isn't that the whole point? That is healthy. When you pull back from the situation, see what you did wrong and just do your best to solve it, regardless of the outcome
I’m telling you do not reach out, let her reach out. That shows confidence, fix yourself. YOU BE THE CATCH, YOU HE THE ONE TO MOVE ON AND DONT LOOK BACK AND WORK ON YOURSELF!!! I’m telling you this got my ex slowly coming back, while she’s with another man. Be cool and be mysterious
So this will be a process to which one needs to be committed, paced and patient. But a few minutes into this, I thought to myself; “so this is going to take awhile, she said TODAY! Argh!” I centered myself and after taking it all in, I realized everything you instructed was absolutely practical. Thank you for this.
This was so good. No nonsense, coherent, straightforward advice about something that isn't always very straightforward for us guys. Thank you Apollonia!
I've been watching your videos for a a while now, and I've been doing the suggestion. I know now I was making myself too available to her and not making time for myself and being me. I stopped texting her back right away I made sure to go out with my friends started going to the gym and learning a language. Now she is reaching out to me to hang out again.
Your videos and information surely have saved some lives of low morale and depressed men. Thank you appolonia for making the world a better place to live and love.
Warning- This is long so you don't have to read this if you don't want to. I admit I'm no dating and relationship expert , but what i have learnt and do know for sure is less is more and to do that gift buying when in a more serious relationship , i have also learnt that majority of women want in a man is a real confident , trustworthy guy and to be the leader that can make the right decisions for the relationship. It's how you make her feel that counts and keeps her attracted to you. I also have learn't and worked out that a guy is supposed to do about 80% of the listening and 20% of the talking / asking her questions. Don't stare at her , but while making confident eye contact with her , look at her in the eyes when communicating like us guys should do to show real confidence then look away 2 to 3 seconds, then look her in the eyes again and just as important pay attention to what she's saying then reply in the right way to prove your listening to her and not pretending to do so. Rinse and repeat as that will more than likely get her feeling more comfortable, safe and secure , plus also open up more around you. I now know women thrive off their emotions and that is the way to connect with them , build a little bit of a emotional connection with them by being vulnerable ,which a lot of us men don't like to do because it makes us look weak and soft , but actually being a little bit vulnerable makes us guys actual men and women love that as far as im aware because we can build a better , deeper, stronger connection that way. We are back in lockdown at the minute here in England , but are going back on April 12TH , that is when i will ask about her passions , dreams , goals , ambitions , what she likes to get up to outside of work even though i know she likes to go out with her friends, she's into creative writing as she as graduated in creative Writing from university, plus being a manager of a restaurant. I am also going to ask her if any other guy as cooked for her and whether they have or not, i will still offer to cook (her favourite dish / meal) for her and share some wine with her if she likes wine (red or white). I am going to taje it slow with her, but be as confident as possible, look her in the eyes when making connection with her, listen to her 80% and ask her questions about her 20% or a little bit more that is how you make her feel more secure , safe and comfortable around you , be a bit emotional and vulnerable with her while communicating and opening up to each other. I have learn't from watching countless dating (coacb) videos here on TH-cam and elsewhere what turns women on and wants them to be around you. However us men have to not always be available and concentrate on our own goals , dreams, desires , passions and life which will attract her to you more as it will make her miss you and more if she see's your a ambitious person that follows your dreams and goals without letting anything stop you or get in your way of living them with or without her. If you have ambitions, dreams and goals like i do with my karate (earning every karate belt especially the big one , the black belt), learn guitar , learn kick boxing (i have done a bit if boxing in the past aswell), travel to Canada , USA e.t.c. then more than likely she will want to join me on my life journey and help me achieve and succeed with my all dreams , goals and ambitions and same with me for her, support her through everything she wants to achieve and succeed with in her life. I can't and I'm not guaranteeing that i will get her this way, but i believe it's really possible as majority of women i have talked to about this and the videos i have learn't from say they all want a man like that. I go by the saying "Concentrate on you, then the women do too". It's all about working on yourself to be a better person everyday , treating people with the right proper amount of respect and being kind to everyone around you. It all comes down to being confident and giving off the right positive vibes around everyone, not being negative and boring, but enjoying yourself and living the life you love to live then that energy attracts other people's energy and energy of other great things around you that is when different , better options open up to you. Pursue her in the right way like i already mention and she will more than likely chase you , but just as important concrete on all your goals , dreams , ambitions and desires in your life and keep improving yourself to be a better version of yourself every single day. Stay positive as positive energy attracts.
She left me due to my lazy ness & I didn’t have goals, now ever since she left I’m a lot more happier an I have an idea to how manage my time better an study/work for my future, to one day soon be a high value man. Manifesting it
I started following your channel and watching your videos since January 2021 and let me tell you this is your video posted is the best by far. I mean you are Classy, Real and talk straight to the point which is very very relatable to my personality. I swear your content has depth and since then it has changed the way I approach life.
The second you ask yourself if your an Alpha or Beta, you’re in trouble and missing the point. Don’t worry about the label. Rid yourself of all anti seductive traits which all stem from insecurity. I always recommend psychotherapy/trauma therapy for past trauma’s that contribute to needy sourced behavior. Once you don’t need another’s approval, your behavior (flirting/teasing/playfulness) will come out in its own way. Plus, you’ll find that a lot of the Alpha traits naturally fit into being non needy. Fix the source, not the traits individually because as long as the source exists, the traits you try to change will seem mechanical and unnatural.
Awesome video, Apollonia! This really adds on to the work that I’ve been putting in for awhile with coach Natalie. For anyone who doubts that this stuff works, trust me, it does work! Give it time and put your work in.
Apollonia, I’ve watched so many of your videos and this one is one of the best. You’re really clear and concise on the advice… I hope I can pull it off in reality!
@@ApolloniaPonti does this method contradict with everyone else saying focus on urself and allow HER to reach out to u ? Am little confused because everyone else says never reach back to her and let her come back to u !?!…..
I agree with most of this. To mansplain for the men… Focus on improving yourself. Get fit. Get some style. Get some hobbies. Become interesting. Pursue your passions and hobbies. Most of all do NOT be clingy or needy. And don’t chase. But be direct if you like her. If it works out, cool. If not, cool. Bottom line is, you can’t force someone to like you. And, you can’t force someone to have emotional intelligence and reciprocate in healthy ways while dating. Lots of broken immature people out there!
I cannot be attached to an outcome; I cannot be attached to an outcome. Haha thanks Apollonia, i have an abundance mindset by default and im used to get most of the woman most of the time. But this time was different bcs i really liked this girl bladibla you know the drill. Got ghosted and ignore her back cause that’s my style, which gave me the perfect opportunity to finding your channel ! Went literally from sensitive back to alpha in about 3 days, thank you coach!🙏🏽
When I found out that ALL women ( in my opinion), have "Daddy Issues" ( which can be extremely positive experiences or extremely negative experiences with their Father , or somewhere between those two extremes ), it was a huge breakthrough for me. I'm 65, and I am not good looking, I would definitely not be attractive to a woman based on a possible financial benefit to them, etc. I've been told that I have an honest, straight-forward, dominant "vibe" ( and I think a lot of women pride themselves on their intuition, whether it is right or wrong ), I cannot go into public, grocery store, etc. without making a strong connection with a woman, including if my (30 year younger) girlfriend is just 1 aisle over from me when I'm shopping. It is worse when they see you with an attractive young woman...for some reason they think it is open season for hitting on you, and if my girlfriend sees it, it makes me look like a "player", which I am definitely not. I couldn't even offer a date a ride in a nice car ( 20 year old used car ), and I don't own my own home ( primarily from a divorce), I'm on social security, so I really know it's not related to money. A "date" for me is Pizza and then home to TV ( but I am open to a lot of good conversation )..now the problem is, how do I give off the opposite "vibe" without having to say a word to these women that are interested in me ? It is putting a strain on my current relationship. Sometimes to me it boggles my mind about "why" ? are they attracted ???...I have girls attracted to me who are very beautiful, very intelligent, very high IQ, beautiful runway model who was 25, etc. etc...( FYI, these qualities are usually not in the same woman )....I guess it's delusional, but I actually think that if given a little time that there isn't a woman that I couldn't attract, as long as she is single, and it's difficult to get that attitude out of my head... The point of this comment is not to brag about my exploits, but just to offer another opinion, that I have no "game", I have no "pick up lines", etc. etc...to encourage other men to just be yourself as your first priority.
She texted me and said she thinks we should just be friends and I agreed and said I felt the same way... even though I didn’t.. but I realized why she did and it was because I stopped showing interest in her because when I was 3 my dad left and that created a sense of abandonment and I felt unloved, in return anyone who shows interest in me I tell myself that it’s impossible and that they really don’t care. This was about a month ago and I’ve actually been working on it and I’ve seen a difference at work and the way I am around my co workers but.. should I tell her now that I don’t want to be friends and that we should take a few weeks away from each other because we still hang out but 60% of the time we’re together it’s chill, we have fun. But the other 40 gets awkward, probably because deep down I don’t want to be her friend
Walk away. If the good times out way’d the bad. She’ll remember them as well and try to get you back. If she doesn’t, she’s moved on and you do the same. Period
Apollina, it seems that you have lived a life abundant with emotions and feelings of every sort. It makes you unique and real. In your analysises these sentiments can be felt working every where. That's GREAT and hats off to you!!!
Great Show, You put it so well, I would love for you to do a show on How to interact with a ex girl friend who gave you the " lets be friends text " had a boyfriend the next day and after that was over in 5 weeks would keep texting you and giving you tiny bits of hope for almost 6 months . I was the needy clingy guy ! lol. Why do women keep texting back for so long when you indicate you really like her , why does women keep texting ( return texts ) . Am I the backup ? or is there a way to find out ? You are fantastic in these shows. !! Do they call this Bread Crumbs ?
thats because you were too much, she never got the butterflies because she never had to worry about losing you.. back away asap to minimize her new awakening, literally just become cold and cut off contact otherwise she gonna know she is the celeb and your just a fan.. you got to become the celeb and treat her like the fan
Sadly can't do anything about it, what I'm talking about is, I never liked the social dynamics or gender dynamics of dating but I know they are forever here to stay but what I've always hated is that it seems like for guys or men, we need to have certain social behaviors or just be an almost perfect conversationalist, have certain social skills or social abilities, talk right or sit right or stand right or breathe right, learn or have certain social behaviors or social skills. It just has always seemed that a man's social skills or social behaviors have a much bigger impact on his dating life or attractiveness than the other way around. And it reminds me of this quote that I was told and it only made me more mad and pissed off: "Well, everything depends on how you look at things. And you can complain about how the world works, or you can adapt to it and make the most of your situation!" Not saying that I disagree with that, it just made me mad because it's a brutal cold heart reminder that sadly we can't do anything about it. There have been times in my life I have hated being born male because of the cards I'm dealt with in the mating Game or just what guys are expected to do in order to attract women, all the things that guys have to do if we want to have a girlfriend. Well it seems like for women they just have to be attractive only or just exist and just have a nice or decent personality but obviously that's not enough for men.
I thought the whole strategy was supposed to be no contact until she reaches out. What’s different about this situation that makes it okay to reach out ?
I have seen many videos and yes I can see my emotions and mindset changing over a period of time but I have one doubt. In future, if possible can you explain what to do if she reaches out to you in the period of no contact .
Sorry dude - 'chasing' is for LOSERS. If 'she' wants you, she wants you. If not, her loss. You will 'get' to the point where you OUTGROW and GROW tired of GAMES.
@@dzjoneshauser yeah we live in a different era now, our grandaddy's used to chase and then married a woman and were with them for 50+ years.. because your grandma secretly wanted to be 'won' over nowadays everygirl just wants to dismiss sex as anything but a disposable action and want to be free so they can belong to the streets
If a relationship gets derailed during the early stages, it’s highly unlikely to get back with the girl. Also, do you want to be with someone who is so hot/cold and plays games early on? Unless you royally screwed up, It’s all about communication. Personally, the thought of getting back with her, then potentially losing her again is not worth it. Move on to someone who’s more mature and likes you for you (strengths and weaknesses, no one is perfect).
Playing hot and cold only proves that you’re an emotionally unstable boy who can’t compartmentalise his feelings and has no clue what he wants. That’s every immature weirdo. If she’s smart, she will deem you unreliable for your disappearing act and think that you’re unsure. She will not think “Yes! He came back”. She will see that you put in effort and then retreat which is unhealthy and unreliable. You’re not all in. You have one foot in and one foot out. Intelligent women don’t respond to that. There’s a difference between space and genuinely respecting her space VS playing games. Women know the difference very well. George Clooney got Amal Clooney by pursuing her and being sure. He didnt mess up. He didn’t play games or act hot and cold. He didn’t waste a split second. He was reliable. That’s what made her say yes despite being hesitant early on. George Clooney holds her hand, her dress and helps her get on boats when she’s wearing heels. He dotes on her and is open about his love for her without being needy or desperat. That’s working for him. George knows what to do and how to do it.
I thank you for your sessions that you give. I am a single father of two I work out I take care of myself I have all kind of projects and I'm only dating apps I cannot meet any women none click on my page seems like I've been single for almost 5 years it is really beginning to be disheartening.
The more I watch this kind of stuff the more I realized that she should naturally be attracted to me without me trying to do all this bullshit. There’s way too many girls out there to be doing this shit.
See the thing is, if Im going to give a woman 3 weeks to reconnect, Imma just be finna hitting it with at least 3 different women. I'm not gonna waste a single breath in someone who is not interested in me. I'm moving on, making a life for myself that I want, with someone that I like and that likes me more than that person. Things are simple guys, they made their decision and so did we. They didnt like us so they didn't forgive our mistakes, that just means they dont care about us as a person, they just want to get something from us, kings, Wake up! On a side note, if they want us it's up to them to try to get us, guys, don't waste your time in them if they don't want you because they don't deserve space in your mind, let alone in your heart, Kings. If you have to keep an appearance to be with someone, specially an "alpha" appearance, then you are sacrificing something that is more important than their attention, your individuality. On a super side note guys, the key to everything is not worrying. If you don't worry, things will come to you. That is the essence of emotional stability.
Quite simply... Attraction works BOTH ways. It's not only about getting the woman... The woman also needs to have feelings for the man! For them is kind of worshiping a celebrity... You need fame, accomplishments, charisma, intelligence, etc etc etc. To keep them hooked! Apollonia is just trying to adjust/amp the game for men... Because sometimes our game is lame, truth to be told. NOBODY wants a sofa potato that only cries and complains too. However I do reject this tactic because I have the firm believe that if someone doesn't like you because of this or because of that, I shouldn't waste my time changing who I am for anyone... That's how a spiral into a black hole begins... You start to live in function of others rather than yourself. But yeah life is not that simple... Sometimes is about compromises too. Even though I reject this tactic I don't completely discard it, I actually think it's something to keep in mind and in your pocket ready to use. I appreciate what she's doing... Because let's face it... Sometimes you want the girl and she doesn't want you, sometimes a girl wants you and you don't want her
Love your work Apollonia! Can you tell me, have you ever came across a case like mine? Talking for 2 months, then went on a first real date, then the same night she tells me she cant do "this", that she wants to actually just sometimes be with me, as most of the times she feels chained down. PS: She was the one who had primary control, she previously told me like 5-6 times that she wants something with me and we had everything mutual, like perfect for each other. Thank you!
You are reaching out to her too much. She has more control than you and this is not a good thing. I am assuming you are trying to confirm that you are a great guy by dismissing your needs and just doing what she wants. Be very careful with this as you have to also give her the space to want something with you without you always wanting for more.
im a girl but im always watching your videos coz i dont understand women😣😥 lesbian but cant be friends with other girls😖 so i struggle with relationships😭😤
So if I do this with a girl that said she liked me and then started ghosting me, she blocked me on snapchat and instagram, few days after she sends me a friend request on Facebook. I still haven't looked for her. It's been 4 or 5 weeks.
Leave her alone that’s classic narcissism. She friended you on Fb to spy on you and gather info for her eventual return. If she ghosted you consider it a blessing cuz if she stayed it would’ve been a lot worse
Gotta question.. this girl likes my boy and when he asks her out she goes and they are physical as I understand and she is always responsive when he texts her which is not a lot of times.. but she never checks his social media like ever.. lol, or gives any likes to any of his pics when they don't see each other.. I never saw anything like that before.. what does even mean? We both are clueless.. I never had that happening to me so I have no idea what to even say lol
Why reach out?
"Why care about having someone in your life who doesn't care whether or not you're in theirs."
- Corey Wayne -
I’m also a follower of CW. There’s definitely overlap between AP and CW.
Corey Wayne is the man.
Corey is the only one I trust
Because it depends on the situation. If it’s something that you’ve done that ruined it, that you realise was stupid then you can fix it. Sometimes it’s a silly mistake. Sometimes it’s unforgivable. It depends.
“If a woman has interest in you, she’ll remember you”. So true.
Fact🤞
Apollonia is like the strong older sister I never had. I love it.
No joke
Guys should ask their sisters for advice instead of their friends or the girls female friends.
You can just see it in her that she is so passionate about helping good quality men out here. Love the energy!🙏🏾❤️
It pays to be Alpha, it pays to learn how to be Alpha than be a Beta male. Also, attraction grows in space/distance. As an Alpha, women go & women come. I never chase & never say because I'm Alpha, I must get the woman. Naaa. Rejection is what I wear as a badge & I never reattract a woman who said no. Guys, don't chase, don't reattract her. There are a million beautiful women out there who will give you more for less effort from you. If she says she's not interested or needs a break, never reach out because if a woman likes you genuinely, she'll move mountains just to get to you. All you have to do is have an abundance mindset (a mindset of plenty, surplus of women & other quality traits in your life). That's why I said don't chase. Leave her & move on to others. It'll help you but going back to a woman who told you no just to get a yes isn't worth it. Build yourself as a man & try elsewhere because if you go back to her, it shows you don't have options & she's all the best you could ever have. That's an attention seeking behaviour & it sucks.
there wasn't even anything to start with
went out on 2 (meetings) she wanted ME to prove myself to her and keep chasing her
she wasnt even consistent or i was simply playing it HER way (by chasing her)
she would rarely if ever text me first (once i started chasing HER)
first meeting passed with flying colors she really enjoyed the time we spent together i even kissed her
then i had a weird gut feeling about that girl
i even showed my insecurities to her
yet she still agreed to go out on a second (meeting) after she was done with work
she showed absolutely NO INTEREST in me and was only after a free dinner
signs were clear from the beginning of that (meeting), she wasnt into me
despite me doing extremly well !
at end of the date SHE DECIDED to put in the friend's zone
i had a weird gut feeling about her and acted weird that day i turned her off
but yes, apparently she was just playing from the starts probably coz she admitted to me that she was BORED, and wasn’t looking for ANYTHING
i learned my lesson, but she was really either insecure, narcissist, or just immature
time to move on with my life and work on myself better for any potential future relationships...
Using the alpha beta thing is honestly dumb no offense.
And yet here you are watching video about re-attracting
I mean I get it dude but sometimes you just genuinely like someone and the other option you have are not appealing. Also someone calling themself alpha male constantly is kind of weird
This is spot on. Never be attached to an outcome.
Only when the both of you are on the same page then there is no attachment only flow. :-)
@@ApolloniaPonti Absolutely. Once that flow is achieved and maintained, objective outcome becomes irrelevant.
If she doesn't like you, move on to someone who does 😄
yes
Does work that way for me..... I get it im young love shouldn't be a thing at a young age but my own bsf the one i want to grow old with knows i care about her she cares about me but she's sending mixed signals idfk what to do.
Often the female may like you, but not the options you have at the time. Just improve your life and later she'll come around, but leave her alone and find someone new.
Exactly.
easier said than done for some people
A good point here is deciding why she rejected you in the first place. With hypergamy being the basic nature of women. You must decide what you lacked in her eyes. So before attempting to engage with her again, work on yourself. Make yourself better. Better mentally, better physically, better financially, and better spiritually. This will give you the best chance of being successful with her. This being said, there is a higher probability that she will again reject you. A high value woman has many, many options. But the work you put into yourself will never be wasted. It only heightens your chances of being successful with women. The key is to never loose the frame of who you are and what you want. But above all else. NEVER judge your sense of self worth based solely on if you are in relationship or if your good with women. You deserve respect and you have a purpose on this earth. Carry on and Good Luck ! "Men display, Women choose" "Every woman wants a good man, until that man requires her to be a better woman"
Every time I question myself or think I’m doing more, I take a set back and watch your vids
I don’t wanna re attract that devil!!!
If she is the devil then you shouldn't!
Guys, don’t chase or pursue anyone who doesn’t choose you. Stay on ur purpose, eat right, work out and maintain your masculine frame! 💯. The moment you are trying to “re-attract” her, its game over. just move on brothers!
"If she really need you in her life, she will remember you" Thanks Appolonia❤
yes!! Sadly she remembered me...
She needs you? No! She wants you.
Mine lost attraction for me because I stopped giving her money.
Don’t forget while she needs space...work on you! So if she comes back that you are now fixing your reality! If your in fantasy your gonna repeat the reason why you pushed her away. Get control of you emotions and actions and that will help you to reestablish trust. Apollonia has it down to help us fix things!
does this method contradict with everyone else saying focus on urself and allow HER to reach out to u ? Am little confused because everyone else says never reach back to her and let her come back to u !?!…..
Re-attract? once i’m done, i’m done.
same bro
don’t really love them do you
@@chuckkkk ?
It's funny that you posted this today and I saw my ex yesterday. I didn't chase after we chatted a little and it was refreshing.
Some guys need to stop being so desperate and learn to Value themselves I have a younger woman devalues me for who I am it's not that I'm rich I just stand firm for who I am
I don't know why it said devalue she values me very much so she does not want to have anything to do with anyone else especially anyone in her age group or close to her age are very insecure and immature
Preach! A lot of guys need to wake up in the morning, and look in the mirror and say "DAMN IT, I'M A PRIZE! I deserve happiness within myself, and I deserve a queen. I'm worthy, and I AM THE PRIZE!" 👍👍👍
Your videos are really helping me… my girlfriend and I are on a break right now because she’s been feeling overwhelmed with her work, school, and ultimately me. I remember her earlier this week telling me she loves me and doesn’t want to lose me and then the next day saying that she’s just been overwhelmed with everything and I was overwhelming her… at first I was flustered and frantic crying of course just being confused and wanting her back but I realized that the only way i can get her back and make our relationship work is by being my own person and allowing her to be as well. I lost sight of that as her and I have progressed in our relationship. I forgot that her and I could do our own things and be our own people but still love each other and be involved with each other. So with this time while her and I are on a break I’m watching your videos and really trying to figure out my flaws and grow those and I haven’t been talking to her which is a mistake I made the first day we were on our break is I was crying and begging etc but realized that I need to use this time to allow her to get her stuff together and for myself, improve and work on doing my own things.
How’s everything working out ?
A dream without action can become a nightmare.
Well said sister
You should never attach yourself to an outcome when dating women or in life simply because you should be the outcome that she attaches herself to. Once you have peace of mind and tap into your divine masculine energy she will be completely drawn to you! NO CAP!
I'm actually thankful for her pulling away. I've grown as a person.
Yes. Sometimes relationships aren't meant to serve us.
@@ApolloniaPonti I think everyone should treat relationships as a way to level up. Isn't that the whole point? That is healthy. When you pull back from the situation, see what you did wrong and just do your best to solve it, regardless of the outcome
I’m telling you do not reach out, let her reach out. That shows confidence, fix yourself. YOU BE THE CATCH, YOU HE THE ONE TO MOVE ON AND DONT LOOK BACK AND WORK ON YOURSELF!!! I’m telling you this got my ex slowly coming back, while she’s with another man. Be cool and be mysterious
Keep your self healthy and happy always Appolonia ❤️ we love you so much.😘🥰🙏
LOVE YOU!
@@ApolloniaPonti ❤️
So this will be a process to which one needs to be committed, paced and patient. But a few minutes into this, I thought to myself; “so this is going to take awhile, she said TODAY! Argh!” I centered myself and after taking it all in, I realized everything you instructed was absolutely practical. Thank you for this.
This was so good. No nonsense, coherent, straightforward advice about something that isn't always very straightforward for us guys. Thank you Apollonia!
I've been watching your videos for a a while now, and I've been doing the suggestion. I know now I was making myself too available to her and not making time for myself and being me. I stopped texting her back right away I made sure to go out with my friends started going to the gym and learning a language. Now she is reaching out to me to hang out again.
I'm so happy that you started focusing on yourself and becoming less available!
Your videos and information surely have saved some lives of low morale and depressed men. Thank you appolonia for making the world a better place to live and love.
Warning- This is long so you don't have to read this if you don't want to.
I admit I'm no dating and relationship expert , but what i have learnt and do know for sure is less is more and to do that gift buying when in a more serious relationship , i have also learnt that majority of women want in a man is a real confident , trustworthy guy and to be the leader that can make the right decisions for the relationship.
It's how you make her feel that counts and keeps her attracted to you.
I also have learn't and worked out that a guy is supposed to do about 80% of the listening and 20% of the talking / asking her questions. Don't stare at her , but while making confident eye contact with her , look at her in the eyes when communicating like us guys should do to show real confidence then look away 2 to 3 seconds, then look her in the eyes again and just as important pay attention to what she's saying then reply in the right way to prove your listening to her and not pretending to do so. Rinse and repeat as that will more than likely get her feeling more comfortable, safe and secure , plus also open up more around you.
I now know women thrive off their emotions and that is the way to connect with them , build a little bit of a emotional connection with them by being vulnerable ,which a lot of us men don't like to do because it makes us look weak and soft , but actually being a little bit vulnerable makes us guys actual men and women love that as far as im aware because we can build a better , deeper, stronger connection that way.
We are back in lockdown at the minute here in England , but are going back on April 12TH , that is when i will ask about her passions , dreams , goals , ambitions , what she likes to get up to outside of work even though i know she likes to go out with her friends, she's into creative writing as she as graduated in creative Writing from university, plus being a manager of a restaurant. I am also going to ask her if any other guy as cooked for her and whether they have or not, i will still offer to cook (her favourite dish / meal) for her and share some wine with her if she likes wine (red or white). I am going to taje it slow with her, but be as confident as possible, look her in the eyes when making connection with her, listen to her 80% and ask her questions about her 20% or a little bit more that is how you make her feel more secure , safe and comfortable around you , be a bit emotional and vulnerable with her while communicating and opening up to each other.
I have learn't from watching countless dating (coacb) videos here on TH-cam and elsewhere what turns women on and wants them to be around you.
However us men have to not always be available and concentrate on our own goals , dreams, desires , passions and life which will attract her to you more as it will make her miss you and more if she see's your a ambitious person that follows your dreams and goals without letting anything stop you or get in your way of living them with or without her. If you have ambitions, dreams and goals like i do with my karate (earning every karate belt especially the big one , the black belt), learn guitar , learn kick boxing (i have done a bit if boxing in the past aswell), travel to Canada , USA e.t.c. then more than likely she will want to join me on my life journey and help me achieve and succeed with my all dreams , goals and ambitions and same with me for her, support her through everything she wants to achieve and succeed with in her life.
I can't and I'm not guaranteeing that i will get her this way, but i believe it's really possible as majority of women i have talked to about this and the videos i have learn't from say they all want a man like that.
I go by the saying "Concentrate on you, then the women do too".
It's all about working on yourself to be a better person everyday , treating people with the right proper amount of respect and being kind to everyone around you. It all comes down to being confident and giving off the right positive vibes around everyone, not being negative and boring, but enjoying yourself and living the life you love to live then that energy attracts other people's energy and energy of other great things around you that is when different , better options open up to you.
Pursue her in the right way like i already mention and she will more than likely chase you , but just as important concrete on all your goals , dreams , ambitions and desires in your life and keep improving yourself to be a better version of yourself every single day.
Stay positive as positive energy attracts.
She left me due to my lazy ness & I didn’t have goals, now ever since she left I’m a lot more happier an I have an idea to how manage my time better an study/work for my future, to one day soon be a high value man. Manifesting it
I started following your channel and watching your videos since January 2021 and let me tell you this is your video posted is the best by far. I mean you are Classy, Real and talk straight to the point which is very very relatable to my personality. I swear your content has depth and since then it has changed the way I approach life.
Apollonia should receive a dollar for every single word this Woman say, she is dropping Knowledge and saving Men.
The second you ask yourself if your an Alpha or Beta, you’re in trouble and missing the point. Don’t worry about the label. Rid yourself of all anti seductive traits which all stem from insecurity. I always recommend psychotherapy/trauma therapy for past trauma’s that contribute to needy sourced behavior. Once you don’t need another’s approval, your behavior (flirting/teasing/playfulness) will come out in its own way. Plus, you’ll find that a lot of the Alpha traits naturally fit into being non needy. Fix the source, not the traits individually because as long as the source exists, the traits you try to change will seem mechanical and unnatural.
Awesome video, Apollonia! This really adds on to the work that I’ve been putting in for awhile with coach Natalie. For anyone who doubts that this stuff works, trust me, it does work! Give it time and put your work in.
Always positive. Thank you for the advice. I Always enjoy watching your videos and using your pointers. Keep up the good work.👌
Thank you for current videos.
But. Like I said, I give up. I still watch your videos.
God bless you
When you reattract, it may not feel the same. Move on guys. There are millions of them❤
17:36. Gold. Mind blown. Definitely going to have to try this if she comes back and tries to rekindle the flame.
This is exactly what I need right now... Thanks!
I have given up on the girl... But I still received important lessons from this video...
You nailed it I've been listening to you and Corey Wayne in everything has really helped me thank you
Apollonia, I’ve watched so many of your videos and this one is one of the best. You’re really clear and concise on the advice… I hope I can pull it off in reality!
Thank you so much for watching!
Nice advices Apollonia, you help mankind, you are amazing woman!
This video really help me out a lot answered all my questions took a few notes off this one 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
You're amazing Apolonia. Thanks for sharing
You are so welcome
You really are amazing.
I will definitely see how this strategy works out for me!!! Thank you
Best of luck!
@@ApolloniaPonti does this method contradict with everyone else saying focus on urself and allow HER to reach out to u ? Am little confused because everyone else says never reach back to her and let her come back to u !?!…..
Thanks I got her. 👍🏾
I agree with most of this. To mansplain for the men… Focus on improving yourself. Get fit. Get some style. Get some hobbies. Become interesting. Pursue your passions and hobbies. Most of all do NOT be clingy or needy. And don’t chase. But be direct if you like her. If it works out, cool. If not, cool. Bottom line is, you can’t force someone to like you. And, you can’t force someone to have emotional intelligence and reciprocate in healthy ways while dating. Lots of broken immature people out there!
I cannot be attached to an outcome; I cannot be attached to an outcome.
Haha thanks Apollonia, i have an abundance mindset by default and im used to get most of the woman most of the time.
But this time was different bcs i really liked this girl bladibla you know the drill. Got ghosted and ignore her back cause that’s my style, which gave me the perfect opportunity to finding your channel ! Went literally from sensitive back to alpha in about 3 days, thank you coach!🙏🏽
Your videos are sooo helpful, followed all your advices, now my ex is trying to connect with me again
Hi Apollonia I'm Thomas I go by TJ I want to say thank GOD for him help me find you a BLESSING
When I found out that ALL women ( in my opinion), have "Daddy Issues" ( which can be extremely positive experiences or extremely negative experiences with their Father , or somewhere between those two extremes ), it was a huge breakthrough for me. I'm 65, and I am not good looking, I would definitely not be attractive to a woman based on a possible financial benefit to them, etc. I've been told that I have an honest, straight-forward, dominant "vibe" ( and I think a lot of women pride themselves on their intuition, whether it is right or wrong ), I cannot go into public, grocery store, etc. without making a strong connection with a woman, including if my (30 year younger) girlfriend is just 1 aisle over from me when I'm shopping. It is worse when they see you with an attractive young woman...for some reason they think it is open season for hitting on you, and if my girlfriend sees it, it makes me look like a "player", which I am definitely not. I couldn't even offer a date a ride in a nice car ( 20 year old used car ), and I don't own my own home ( primarily from a divorce), I'm on social security, so I really know it's not related to money. A "date" for me is Pizza and then home to TV ( but I am open to a lot of good conversation )..now the problem is, how do I give off the opposite "vibe" without having to say a word to these women that are interested in me ? It is putting a strain on my current relationship. Sometimes to me it boggles my mind about "why" ? are they attracted ???...I have girls attracted to me who are very beautiful, very intelligent, very high IQ, beautiful runway model who was 25, etc. etc...( FYI, these qualities are usually not in the same woman )....I guess it's delusional, but I actually think that if given a little time that there isn't a woman that I couldn't attract, as long as she is single, and it's difficult to get that attitude out of my head... The point of this comment is not to brag about my exploits, but just to offer another opinion, that I have no "game", I have no "pick up lines", etc. etc...to encourage other men to just be yourself as your first priority.
Nice one!❤👌
Thank you! 😊
She texted me and said she thinks we should just be friends and I agreed and said I felt the same way... even though I didn’t.. but I realized why she did and it was because I stopped showing interest in her because when I was 3 my dad left and that created a sense of abandonment and I felt unloved, in return anyone who shows interest in me I tell myself that it’s impossible and that they really don’t care. This was about a month ago and I’ve actually been working on it and I’ve seen a difference at work and the way I am around my co workers but.. should I tell her now that I don’t want to be friends and that we should take a few weeks away from each other because we still hang out but 60% of the time we’re together it’s chill, we have fun. But the other 40 gets awkward, probably because deep down I don’t want to be her friend
I missed you n your advice🥺
@Apollonia ponti you are so pretty with your outfits i love them and your advice helps me out when I need it 💗 thank you apollonia ponti.
The best advice about women can only come from a woman!
1... Great Chanel., a lot of great information... 👍
Thank you!
Great video thanks
In a word, attraction is created in space.
As usually this gentleman gives great advises!
The thrill is in the momentum before you go for the kill well said.
Walk away. If the good times out way’d the bad. She’ll remember them as well and try to get you back. If she doesn’t, she’s moved on and you do the same. Period
Amazing advice ❤️ thank you!!
Hey Apollonia! 👏❤️
Apollina, it seems that you have lived a life abundant with emotions and feelings of every sort. It makes you unique and real. In your analysises these sentiments can be felt working every where. That's GREAT and hats off to you!!!
Great Show, You put it so well, I would love for you to do a show on How to interact with a ex girl friend who gave you the " lets be friends text " had a boyfriend the next day and after that was over in 5 weeks would keep texting you and giving you tiny bits of hope for almost 6 months . I was the needy clingy guy ! lol. Why do women keep texting back for so long when you indicate you really like her , why does women keep texting ( return texts ) . Am I the backup ? or is there a way to find out ? You are fantastic in these shows. !! Do they call this Bread Crumbs ?
She wants you as a friend -
Chris Rock's explanation of what male friends are to women:
A dick in a glass case; in case if emergency, break glass....
Thank you Apollonia
She told me we didn't have chemistry. After a 1.5 years and pretty much living together. Now what?
What you mean what now?!
Bro leave , find new hobbies , get a part time job. Workout, go to school idk
Love yourself and find yourself.
Your trippn
thats because you were too much, she never got the butterflies because she never had to worry about losing you.. back away asap to minimize her new awakening, literally just become cold and cut off contact otherwise she gonna know she is the celeb and your just a fan.. you got to become the celeb and treat her like the fan
Yeaaaa rings my bell I use be all like this working on it though thank you 🙏
Nice Apollonia
Omg you giving me the keys right now !!! 😍😍😍
Sadly can't do anything about it, what I'm talking about is, I never liked the social dynamics or gender dynamics of dating but I know they are forever here to stay but what I've always hated is that it seems like for guys or men, we need to have certain social behaviors or just be an almost perfect conversationalist, have certain social skills or social abilities, talk right or sit right or stand right or breathe right, learn or have certain social behaviors or social skills.
It just has always seemed that a man's social skills or social behaviors have a much bigger impact on his dating life or attractiveness than the other way around.
And it reminds me of this quote that I was told and it only made me more mad and pissed off:
"Well, everything depends on how you look at things. And you can complain about how the world works, or you can adapt to it and make the most of your situation!"
Not saying that I disagree with that, it just made me mad because it's a brutal cold heart reminder that sadly we can't do anything about it.
There have been times in my life I have hated being born male because of the cards I'm dealt with in the mating Game or just what guys are expected to do in order to attract women, all the things that guys have to do if we want to have a girlfriend.
Well it seems like for women they just have to be attractive only or just exist and just have a nice or decent personality but obviously that's not enough for men.
Thanks!
I thought the whole strategy was supposed to be no contact until she reaches out. What’s different about this situation that makes it okay to reach out ?
I have seen many videos and yes I can see my emotions and mindset changing over a period of time but I have one doubt. In future, if possible can you explain what to do if she reaches out to you in the period of no contact .
The thrill is in the chase 🕳 🐇 🏃♀️ 🏃...
Sorry dude - 'chasing' is for LOSERS. If 'she' wants you, she wants you. If not, her loss. You will 'get' to the point where you OUTGROW and GROW tired of GAMES.
@@dzjoneshauser yeah we live in a different era now, our grandaddy's used to chase and then married a woman and were with them for 50+ years.. because your grandma secretly wanted to be 'won' over nowadays everygirl just wants to dismiss sex as anything but a disposable action and want to be free so they can belong to the streets
I like this information!!
If a relationship gets derailed during the early stages, it’s highly unlikely to get back with the girl. Also, do you want to be with someone who is so hot/cold and plays games early on? Unless you royally screwed up, It’s all about communication. Personally, the thought of getting back with her, then potentially losing her again is not worth it. Move on to someone who’s more mature and likes you for you (strengths and weaknesses, no one is perfect).
I really don't have any pattern cause I gave not dated in so long. Now I got some confidence and I am dating a lot. I just be myself.
Playing hot and cold only proves that you’re an emotionally unstable boy who can’t compartmentalise his feelings and has no clue what he wants. That’s every immature weirdo. If she’s smart, she will deem you unreliable for your disappearing act and think that you’re unsure. She will not think “Yes! He came back”.
She will see that you put in effort and then retreat which is unhealthy and unreliable. You’re not all in. You have one foot in and one foot out. Intelligent women don’t respond to that. There’s a difference between space and genuinely respecting her space VS playing games. Women know the difference very well.
George Clooney got Amal Clooney by pursuing her and being sure. He didnt mess up. He didn’t play games or act hot and cold. He didn’t waste a split second. He was reliable. That’s what made her say yes despite being hesitant early on.
George Clooney holds her hand, her dress and helps her get on boats when she’s wearing heels. He dotes on her and is open about his love for her without being needy or desperat. That’s working for him. George knows what to do and how to do it.
She told me that she's not ready for a relationship and then a month later she's in a relationship with another guy, is my hope lost?
She just wasn't into you, dude, it sucks. Man up and be your best self!!!
Your absolutely amazing
Hi. I really like all of your videos. Thank u. Hope u notice me. From Philippines😊 mabuhay 💓
I thank you for your sessions that you give. I am a single father of two I work out I take care of myself I have all kind of projects and I'm only dating apps I cannot meet any women none click on my page seems like I've been single for almost 5 years it is really beginning to be disheartening.
The more I watch this kind of stuff the more I realized that she should naturally be attracted to me without me trying to do all this bullshit. There’s way too many girls out there to be doing this shit.
See the thing is, if Im going to give a woman 3 weeks to reconnect, Imma just be finna hitting it with at least 3 different women. I'm not gonna waste a single breath in someone who is not interested in me. I'm moving on, making a life for myself that I want, with someone that I like and that likes me more than that person. Things are simple guys, they made their decision and so did we. They didnt like us so they didn't forgive our mistakes, that just means they dont care about us as a person, they just want to get something from us, kings, Wake up!
On a side note, if they want us it's up to them to try to get us, guys, don't waste your time in them if they don't want you because they don't deserve space in your mind, let alone in your heart, Kings. If you have to keep an appearance to be with someone, specially an "alpha" appearance, then you are sacrificing something that is more important than their attention, your individuality.
On a super side note guys, the key to everything is not worrying. If you don't worry, things will come to you. That is the essence of emotional stability.
Thank you. You’re amazing
Thank you too!
This some complicated shit. But it's real talk. Smh. 👊🏿
LOL
Quite simply... Attraction works BOTH ways. It's not only about getting the woman... The woman also needs to have feelings for the man! For them is kind of worshiping a celebrity... You need fame, accomplishments, charisma, intelligence, etc etc etc. To keep them hooked! Apollonia is just trying to adjust/amp the game for men... Because sometimes our game is lame, truth to be told. NOBODY wants a sofa potato that only cries and complains too.
However I do reject this tactic because I have the firm believe that if someone doesn't like you because of this or because of that, I shouldn't waste my time changing who I am for anyone... That's how a spiral into a black hole begins... You start to live in function of others rather than yourself. But yeah life is not that simple... Sometimes is about compromises too. Even though I reject this tactic I don't completely discard it, I actually think it's something to keep in mind and in your pocket ready to use. I appreciate what she's doing... Because let's face it... Sometimes you want the girl and she doesn't want you, sometimes a girl wants you and you don't want her
Couldn't have been better.
Love your work Apollonia! Can you tell me, have you ever came across a case like mine? Talking for 2 months, then went on a first real date, then the same night she tells me she cant do "this", that she wants to actually just sometimes be with me, as most of the times she feels chained down. PS: She was the one who had primary control, she previously told me like 5-6 times that she wants something with me and we had everything mutual, like perfect for each other. Thank you!
You are reaching out to her too much. She has more control than you and this is not a good thing. I am assuming you are trying to confirm that you are a great guy by dismissing your needs and just doing what she wants. Be very careful with this as you have to also give her the space to want something with you without you always wanting for more.
You are a blessing...
Could u make a video for teens/people who just turned 18, what kind of foundation do we need to make for relationships long n short term
Good job 🍎
im a girl but im always watching your videos coz i dont understand women😣😥
lesbian but cant be friends with other girls😖 so i struggle with relationships😭😤
You are the most beautiful girl in the whole world babe. You are the girl of my dreams babe.
When is the next opening session for the Algorithm of Attraction coming up Apollonia? Can you send me the registration link?
Thank you :)
So if I do this with a girl that said she liked me and then started ghosting me, she blocked me on snapchat and instagram, few days after she sends me a friend request on Facebook. I still haven't looked for her. It's been 4 or 5 weeks.
seriously i would just forget about her, not a woman worth dealing with
Leave her alone that’s classic narcissism. She friended you on Fb to spy on you and gather info for her eventual return. If she ghosted you consider it a blessing cuz if she stayed it would’ve been a lot worse
She’s weird
Said she loved her ex after a month and a half with me as well as being exclusive. She messed me up big time
Gotta question.. this girl likes my boy and when he asks her out she goes and they are physical as I understand and she is always responsive when he texts her which is not a lot of times.. but she never checks his social media like ever.. lol, or gives any likes to any of his pics when they don't see each other.. I never saw anything like that before.. what does even mean? We both are clueless.. I never had that happening to me so I have no idea what to even say lol
Retract? I'm ready to run 🛫
I adore You Appolonia Ponti ;)
Thank you so much for your support!