5 Habits I Needed To Change To Lose 180 Lbs | Half of Carla
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- 5 Habits I Needed To Change To Lose 180 Lbs | Half of Carla
Weight gain can be caused by automatic habits, and so changing those habits can lead to lasting and sustainable weight loss. These are 5 habits that I needed to change to help me lose 180lbs.
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One of my best tricks-brushing my teeth right after my last meal of the day prevents me from evening snacking 😊
This really works for me!! Thanks for sharing ❤
Oil pulling helps me. Although I don't see it as just mouth cleaning. It's a no carb snack because I swallow. Anti inflammatory and replaces gum. I also use salted water. That's oral care but also helps cramping.
That’s a great idea.
Great advice
For me brushing my teeth is a much bigger problem than my weight. I clicked on this video out of curiosity I don't really want to loose weight. That being sad - how do you guys brush your teeth every single day?! The sensation is disgusting, the taste that you have in your mouth afterwards is disgusting, sometimes my teeth downright hurt after toothpaste (I have very sensitive teeth). If I brush them two times a day I cannot eat at all (teeth hurt after any contact with any food). I HATE to brush my teeth. I just hate it.
The five habits that Carla discusses:
1) Let go of perfectionism and all-or-nothing thinking (work towards self-compassion and -kindness)
2) Don't feel pressure to clean your plate (learn to use internal fullness and satisfaction cues)
3) When you're eating, eat the best foods first! (Don't save your favorites for last.)
4) Let go of the fear of not being satisfied by a meal (you can always eat later if you're still hungry)
5) Stop automatically accepting dessert (question your habits and assumptions)
Thanks for another helpful video, Carla 🖤🖤
Thanks for summarising 🙏 I've watched the video three times but I don't always take information in one way so this really helps 💯
Hey thank you for writing the 5 tips out. 👍
Thank you 🙏
Thank you!
Thank you so much - - she spent way too much time on the first one (perfectionism) and I was just ready to turn out…
My mantra for the past year and a half has been “Progress not Perfection“ and I have lost 80 pounds with 20 pounds left to go.
Update: Down 106 pounds with 2 left to go. Hello maintenance!
Wonderful 🙏🏻
Mazel Tov!!
Wow ❤❤❤.
👍👍👍💕💐
You’re a rockstar!
I'm down from 272 to 223 and still trying to lose more!
Dont stop! Keep going! Do it safely and healthy way. Slow progress is the best. I use to try and starve myself and workout like crazy but that just ruins you.
Fantastic 👍
Keep up the good work👍!
The other day my husband and I were cleaning up our basement because water leaked into it. It was a hard day of physical labor. He wanted custard type ice cream from a local restaurant. He did more physical work than I, so he had me go get them. He wanted a two scoop sundae. I talked to myself the whole way. I would be fine not getting any dessert, but if I see him eating the sundae, I would have FOMO. I ordered myself a small and him the large. Tomorrow is another day, but I call it a win for that day.
A trick I started to use that helped me was when eating at a restaurant and getting a large portion, I would plan to take half of it (or a third of it) home for the next day (depending on the portion size). If I was full but tempted to keep eating, I’d remind myself that tomorrow I’d be sorry I didn’t have as much to eat. Stealing from myself wasn’t very satisfying and it would encourage me to stop eating so I could have the same portion size tomorrow with my leftovers.
That’s an excellent tip Cheryl!
God one! You get to enjoy your restaurant meal more than once.
I have friends who ask for their take a way box when the meal is served and put half away ‘out of sight out of mind’. Well wishes on you weight loss journey
@@entername6010 great minds think a like😊
I have to laugh because I did that yesterday!!!! I ate the food and I am sitting here working and thinking WOW you should have saved your food for later today! I will start though!
I read a nice quote, I don’t exercise because I hate my body but because I love it. The same thing applies to body weight I think. Lose weight because you love your body.
A quote that’s really changed my life is “don’t rush something you want to last forever”. This has really helped me to be okay with losing weight and improving my habits slowly but consistently.
Love this. I need this reminder a lot .
Another good one that was a big wake up call fof me from TED talk speaker was "face your stuff and don't stuff your face" It made me realize that I need to address my mental health issues to stop resorting to eating when I'm stressed
That’s an important point. Weight gain and limited physical activity doesn’t happen overnight so the weight shouldn’t come off quickly either.
When people tell me that they’ve lost 20-30 pounds in an short amount of time while I’m only losing a pound a week, it’s important to remind myself that it isn’t a race and the changes need to be permanent.
Yep
I love that quote! Best wishes on your journey
A monumental mindset change that helped me was to stop telling myself, "I CAN'T have x." Now, I tell myself, "I DON'T WANT x."
YES! Having lost 75 lbs (and still working toward losing 30 more) I often tell myself, "I don't want that. That's what made me fat, and I'm no longer that person."
Oooo I love this. Thanks for sharing!
Oh, this is such a great tip ! I never thought about it that way. ❤ Thank you for sharing!
@@SpiritOfShadows666 Yes, girly! Don't make it a punishment! Make it an act of self love!
I have lost 210 lbs. Took almost 6 years (2020-2021 was a pause while I dealt with stage 3 cancer). Do I still have cravings? Yes. Do I still eat more some days and less other days? Yes. Can I do different types of exercises? No. My physical limitations mean I just walk. Do I force myself to get all of my walking in at one time? Heck, no. Other things happen, and I split my time during the day. I don't beat myself up.
Bravo for you even thought it took you a while the main thing is you didn’t give up. ❤🎉
Good job!!! 😊
Way to go…getting up every day. That’s what i am trying to do!
When I was giving up sugar and cigarettes and I felt the urge for one of these I'd say to myself (aloud) "I'll have it later, not now. Wait a bit longer."Then I'd get busy doing anything to distract my attention from the craving and in time the craving passed. I'd do this every time, acknowledge the desire and recognise the need but take control by not giving in. I could go hours or a whole day using this way of thinking.
Yes, the postpone technique 👏 I've used this for my pain meds. "I'll take it in a hour; I'll take it in two hours; just another hour, maybe two. I know this well and it works!
Did you still eat any fruit??
So can we now call it the positive procrastination method ❤😂. I'm sorry I cope using sarcasm 😅
Love it ! 💕
I LOVE this. Going to try
Oh my gosh. I’ve never made the connection between saving the best part of the plate for last and overstuffing myself. Thank you so much for saying this!
My cardiologist says, eat the cookie first!
I have my food at restaurants brought out in a to go box. Much easier to stop eating.
Same, I will be trying that from now on and see how it goes. Fingers crossed!!!
Me too!
🖤So much truth!So many things I haven’t persevered with in life because I couldn’t see myself being great at it. So much food I’ve eaten because I saved the best till last AND refused to waste any🖤
Never been one for dessert but lasagne with fries and coleslaw oh yes! These days I would ditch the lasagne but still want coleslaw with my fries 😂
I've never made the correlation between perfection and weight loss before. For me this was a total light bulb moment. Thank you for sharing.
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Same thing here. Wow just totally opened my mind processes to my perfectionism mind blown 🎉 Thank You for sharing your story.
Perfectionism was a killer for me when I was younger. Now I aim for progress because I was able to let go of so much of the perfectionist mindset. Now I have a 22 year old daughter who is working through the same issues. She has always struggled with perfectionism and it’s killing her spirit. It started in Kindergarten. Her K teacher recognized it right away and we have been working on it since then.
I think the "all or nothing" perfectionist approach is the downfall of a lot of us, and biting off more than we can chew both literally and with our goals. I've set a goal for just 5 minutes of mindful movement a day and doing yoga or dance 5 days a week, which also covers the 5 mins of mindful movement a day. Most days I go way beyond 5 minutes, but on the days where I just can't sum up the will to move I can usually force out 5 minutes of yoga or a walk around a block or two with the dog.
ive screwed myself up on that for sure. like, i do an all-in approach on fitness/weightloss but then stack up too many things to do or juggle. i lose hold or i burn out. it's better to start with one or two things, get that into a habit, and build from there. that way it's not *everything all at once.*
1. Stop perfectionism
2. STOP Cleaning my plate.
3. Eat the favorite first
4. Portion food. Dont let your stomach dictate.
5. Stop having dessert.
Love how down to earth this is. Not about "tricks" or "hacks," but being present in the moment and understanding your thoughts and body cues in order to make lasting change.
I really identify with the “clean your plate” problem. I grew up with parents who insisted we clean our plates, “their are children starving in ...”. My husband on the other hand was taught it is “proper to leave food on his plate” because if not it looks like you are just hungry and will eat anything instead of enjoying what was prepared for you.
( in public setting he always leaves something but at home he cleans his plate)
I have switched to smaller plates and bowl to help with portion control and alway think if I am still hungry I can get second but never need to.
THIS.
take less you can take again don't waste mum was right...
For me, the biggest problem is not noticing what I DRINK, that is causing major weight gain. Lattes from Starbucks, beer, martinis, mochas.....I sometimes have 2 lattes, a mocha and two beers in a day.....which adds up to over 1500 calories.....JUST IN YUMMY LIQUID.....and I don't even notice I am taking it in as there is no chewing involved.☹️ Ugh. Also, all of that dehydrates me, which makes me more thirsty for more yummies....and depletes vitamin B, which makes me tired , so I seek caffeine. What a circular problem.....that has turned me into a circle!!🤣😂
Love this quote by Carla: Calorie allowance is a limit, not a target.
Last year I weighed in at 313, I believe I weighed more but for a month before this weigh in I stopped drinking regular soda and as much sweets. I'm now 253. I haven't been this small for 2 decades. I'm still learning and I LOVE this video. I need more of the mindset changes that are needed to be and stay successful. I've been lucky to not have to do too much and lost their first 60lbs. BUT I have a min of 73 more to go before I'm at the max BMI for health. I'm not terribly stressed about he weight however I know when I'm not losing for a long time it is a sign I need to do something different. I also an no longer diabetic so it's important for me to stay well not just lose weight. I'm about to be 46 so my life priorities are different and sure I want to look good but feel good, be able to move and live well is my main concern and reason. I'm hoping you speak more on the mental and emotional and thankful to have this one video to assist as I learn to fight my eqting addiction. Be well
Congratulations on the progress! All the best for future. Keep it up!
Oh wow! Congratulations on your progress and Happy Early Birthday! I just turned 46 on the 13th of this month. So, I definitely agree that being healthy and setting myself up to enjoy life for the long run is now a MAJOR priority in my life as well. Keep up the great work! 💯
Congratulations!!! I’m so happy for you!!
Congratulations on your hard work and finding hope that things can change!
Congratulations! Your story is so inspiring! I also dropped soda and my big thing was coffee and sweet baked goodies. Once I dropped all sweet drinks I also began shedding weight. Keep up the good work🙂
Having compassion for yourself really hit home for me 🖤🖤🖤
You are so attractive before and after. I lost 65 pounds years ago and it gets easier as time moves on in the journey losing weight!! Believe in yourself and don't rush yourself to hurry up and lose it all in 3 days!! I have to be mentally ready to lose weight by believing I will not fail!
Another thing that’s helped me with not overeating is I’ll make up my plate and then I’ll put the rest into separate portion sized Tupperware containers. Then I’ll look at the serving I gave myself and take a little bit more off and put it in the containers. If I’m still hungry after I eat, I can go get more but it’s not already on my plate tempting me to just eat it. I live alone so I’m often cooking enough for 4 meals or so at a time. Then my lunches are ready to take to work for the next few days too.
I too was a stress eater, and aside from making huge gain in that realm, one key thing is no longer having snacks @ home, meaning if I want to eat, I have to prepare a meal from scratch. That got me out of the habit of eating ANYTHING pre-made.
🖤🖤🖤I'm at 320 myself right now and can use all the helpful tips I can get. Thank you for this. I started walking about a month ago and on days I can't do it, it's easy to let it slide the days after because of "perfectionism"... but I have to remember that ANY walking is better than the total absence of exercise before I started. So if I only make it three or four days a week, that's still a huge improvement. The clearing of the plate makes a lot of sense to me too, as that's how I was brought up. Time to stop eating when I'm satisfied.
I'm 220lbs and what I do to gradually lose weight is eating by the Japanese food pyramid with the servings per day of the food groups. I'm insulin resistant so all the breads I eat are wholegrain, also I don't have a car so I walk everywhere.
I started at 352 lbs. I started walking just 5 minutes at a time, a number of times during the day. Try breaking up the time throughout the day. Almost 6 years later...lost 210 lbs
Yes! Slow progress is STILL progress! And something is ALWAYS better than nothing. Don't be discouraged, just take 1 day at a time and you will certainly reap the results! Keep up the good work! It will pay off if you don't give up!😊💯
Two tricks I use to control my weight are; first make sure you are hungry before you eat, and not just thirsty, most people can't tell the difference. Secondly, stand up half way through eating, walk to the bathroom or just stand around, you may be more full than you think but can't tell because you are seated. Good luck!
I did alternate day fasting and lost a 100 pounds!
that perfectionism really hits the diet hard. because if you fall off even for one day or a meal, you toss your hands up. it's MUCH more important for consistency, how fast you recover and get back on. vs "the whole thing's borked!" and giving up.
Not being a perfectionist was huge for me. Not only for my fitness journey, but my professional life as well as a designer.
Wow!! I had NO idea that I would be guilty of doing all 5 things!! And the thing that I like the most is, that they are all attainable goals!! Thank you so much for posting this. 🖤🖤
🖤 I’ve noticed that many people with obesity eat meals just one food at a time and it’s definitely a trap (to save the favorite foods till last)! Thank you for mentioning that, along with the other habits, as it reinforces the changes I’m also making. My go to favorite food now is an abundant salad with lots of variety built-in and plenty of greens. It’s now how I start most meals and no longer have the bread, dessert, etc automatically.
I have the exact opposite issue (anorexia) and have always eaten one food at a time and left the best for last! My Dad and Uncle also did that until there mid 30’s snd none of us have ever been overweight!!!
I love salads, could definitely eat one every day 😋
@@kecrn4132 if you have anorexia then you should be careful watching weight loss videos. And Carla the lady who made the video was talking about self sabotage by leaving the best for last and I'm sure that self sabotage could come with any kind of eating disorder. Whether anorexia, bulimia or over eating disorders.
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🖤🖤🖤 good video, thanks so much. My question though is HOW did you stop these habits? Distraction, self talk?
1) Don't be a perfectionist.
2) You don't have to eat EVERYTHING on your plate!
3) Eat what you're looking forward to the most FIRST.
4) Understand that your eyes are often bigger than your stomach and try putting less on your plate to begin with. If its not enough you can always get more!
5) Stop automatically saying "yes" to certain foods (like deserts or appetizers).
Very good tips! I learned tips one, two and four early in my weightloss journey. I'm going to focus on three and five next. Eighty pounds down - Sixty pounds to go!
What I notice in all these tips is that through them all, you were not depriving yourself, punishing yourself, or being derogatory or critical to yourself.
All your tips were done with compassion, kindness, self awareness and patience with yourself.
I feel like that is the key.
I have heard others use these “tricks” without success. I feel like it’s because they applied them as harsh “rules,” or punishment to their body.
The distinction is important. Like you said, compassion for yourself if it’s not perfect, but shifting and noticing.
Congratulations on finding what works for you! You are inspiring! :)
Thank you so much for your feedback and I completely agree and I should have mentioned that more in this video for those who perhaps have never seen another video of mine. The distinction as you said completely accurately is that everything is done with compassion rather than punishment.
People who do not have a weight problem do not know the struggle. Personal problems that cause things to happen can send someone over the edge. Good that you talk about it.
I hadn’t realized that saving what I think will taste the best for last was part of why I was overeating so frequently until you mentioned it. That’s one habit I definitely need to work on. I just put the rest of my lunch in the fridge to have at a different time even though it was the part that seemed like the “best bites” since I am full and don’t want to eat anymore right now. Small steps towards progress
One of the best suggestions I’ve heard is always have salad with food. (Make your own dressing, an olive oil, lemon juice, vinegar, little water: shake well.) Eat the salad first. You get nutrients & fiber that is filling and makes it easier NOT to eat everything on your plate. The other suggestion of reserving a portion of dinner for the next meal is a great idea!
This is also healthier because if you eat the salad or veggies first, then your protein next, and save the carbohydrate portion of your meal for last it is better for less of a glucose spike.
Wow, I'm only 5 minutes in and can already relate to you so much especially with the perfectionism stuff. I absolutely tend to feel that if I can't do something perfect, I won't attempt it all. It comes into play in every aspect of my life. I can't wait to finish this video and get even more motivation to start my own weightloss journey and I know I have alot of habits that need to change I just feel so stuck right now.
When I feel my perfectionism kicking in, keeping me from starting, I remember that I should focus on perfecting the process and not focus on the perfect outcome. That really helps me.
*I'm inspired to take a closer look at my own habits and make positive changes for my health. Keep shining your light and motivating others!*
All of these, including resolving mental health issues, are things I struggle with. Thank-you! I am one of the many Americans with Irish heritage.
For me what helped was actually learning about my crazy food cravings and the role of glucose spikes in all that. Switching out fast carbs to slow carbs, reducing sugar, eating veggies first, eating fermented vegetables with every meal, and eating smaller portions every 3 hours have dramatically reduced my food cravings. I think a lot of us gain weight because we eat too much processed fast carb. Everything we eat is mostly carbs... Bread, pastry, pasta, potatoes, rice.... and even if we eat veggies it's usually a very small portion and we leave it to the end of the meal. Reducing my glucose levels put me on the right track. Even if I eat something sweet I don't feel like eating the whole bucket of ice cream or the whole chocolate bar in one sitting like I used to.
I don't know whether someone has already commented this, but a habit that made me gain a LOT of weight and lose my discipline, was eating while watching Netflix or TH-cam, etc.
It not only made me eat waaaay more, it also made me want to keep watching tv just to justify eating snacks.
So I didn't just eat more, I also became a lazy couch potato :-)
Now I NEVER eat in front of the tv, and I do NOT distract myself with my phone or anything else during a meal. I am only allowed to focus on my food.
This actually made me look forward to being done with my meal, because it will mean I can do what I want to do. And it gave me soooooo much more free time, time to get things done, time for hobbies, time to work out, etc.
Because I'll be less likely to even WANT to watch tv or scroll through my phone etc.
Anyhow :-) I hope this will help someone with the same problem.
Since I never realised how much impact ONE habit can have.
Love this! I’ve found the dessert part to be tricky too - so I’ve made a conscious effort to ask myself if it’s even a dessert I like! For example - I’d always say yes to the dessert, even when it was a dessert I didn’t even care for (like a dry cupcake vs a luxurious cheesecake)… once I started being okay with saying no to desserts I don’t really care about, it made me feel empowered!
It's so true, we have to ask ourselves are we actually enjoying what we are eating or are we just eating for the sake of it x
I just learned to say no to desserts I dont like a couple of months ago. Same with soups. I too feel empowered being able to turn down a dessert!
The all or nothing perfectionism mindset resonates with me. When I was on the Weight Watchers at Work program (they came to our workplace for weigh-ins and a meeting once a week), weigh-in day was Monday. If I messed up on Tuesday, I wrote off the rest of the week and started over again on Monday. If I wasn’t perfect one day, I didn’t even try until the next “re-set” day, which to my mind was Monday.
So relatable !!! And especially the using perfectionism as an excuse ! I have lost weight multiple times throughout my life , but failed to maintain it . Because instead of creating a long term , sustainable healthy lifestyle, which I could keep up to . I did those diets and everything extreme and always ended up in those ups and downs . This time finally I get it that I have to keep it up long term . Hence nothing extrem but something that will work long term
4 mins in and I already love it here! The tone and honesty of this video is giving me life! 😊
Thank you so much and welcome xx
I was blessed to be born picky. What I mean by that is that eating for me has been a struggle at least half of my life. I was blessed or cursed to get gastritis, colitis and later on I became gluten intolerant. When I turned around 27, I went up from size 3/5 to almost between 7/9, I decided that was the highest I could be in life. Because my gastritis, I stopped drinking sodas, I have to follow my schedule, and eating around 3pm not later than 4pm my last meal of the day, I can sleep just fine, otherwise, my tummy keeps me awake. I hate chocolate and sweets, don’t like cakes and just looking at cookies, I get thirsty. When I get depressed, I can’t eat at all. It is all about habits, I eat everything I like, but not in excess and before 4pm, only 2 meals, BK and late lunch, my tummy is happy like that. I work out every other day, I run 5 k, it keeps me sane, I am almost 55 and size 4. Change one bad habit at a time, you will get amazing results.
This is me! Every tip applies to me. 🖤🖤🖤🖤 you don’t know how much this video makes me feel validated and how much hearing you say those things helps. Thank you!
This felt like you were telling me EXACTLY what I do and gave me hope that I can stop these very same habits that I have.
Wow. Thank you so much for sharing this.
True. My eyes are bigger than my stomach. I started with unsweetened tea with meals. Talking more and then tasting my food. ❤
Letting go of perfectionism is helping me tremendously
I have been on a weightloss journey for almost a year now and I also struggle with perfectionism. It took me so many years and excuses to get started bc I was worried about starting and hating it not turning out just right. I can relate to so much you said about taking the time we have that day and doing the most that we can. I am now halfway to my weightloss goal and so happy I found your video. ❤
Amazing work Elizabeth!! 🙌🏼
Hearing you talk about dessert made me realize I have designated snacking times during the day, and there’s literally no reason for them and I don’t need them.
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Best advice for eating out is to ask for a container to take half home WHEN YOU ORDER and when you're served, putting half away before you start eating. At home, I bought glass containers to put food away for next time.
Inspiring! And I love that you shared that your approach towards yourself was kindness, patience, and self-love. I'm disabled, but thankfully, I can still walk. Hearing you say that's the exercise you did made me hopeful.
Small steps, I'm starting now.
What you say about perfectionism really resonated with me. I fall into that same trap! I must constantly tell myself that I should not let the perfect be the enemy of the good.
Thankyou for sharing this wisdom! I've just started to understand what perfectionism is. I didn't realize that its a procrastination and fear based thing and basically an incredible overwhelm of not even bothering to start doing something or trying something new. I'm beginning to think I have this as part of my personality and i resonate with you totally. It bleeds into all facets of my life, not just my weight. This is really helpful advise, i hope i can implement this into my own life.
I don't know how to leave black hearts, but this was wonderful! I can see myself in all of these habits. Thank you for the inspiration!
I’m just learning how to not leave the best for last. It is a big habit for me that I’m working on for sure. Such great advice in here! Thank you!
This was beautifully worded and eloquently presented. Thank you for your wise and helpful words ❤️
Thank you so much Arielle x
I have only just found your channel Carla and oh my goodness everything you have just said I can identify with. I have just lost 6st 11lbs, I have been at target for about a month and I am so frightened of regaining all my weight. After listening to you I still do not believe I have dealt with all the issues I have got with food, but I will try using your 5 habits to help me sustain my weight. Thank you x
I feel so seen with the "saving the best for last" mentality that you described! I have done that my whole life and I will always end up overstuffing myself if I do that! It is great to be mindful rather than shameful, which I think you basically describe perfectly!
I've been struggling with my weight for a few yrs and seen so many weightloss/tips videos, but I hadnt seen one that mentioned perfectionism like this one, and it just...that's exactly what I do and I know it but it just hit me in the face directly just now. All the other tips also resonated with me but it just left me blank to hear that explanation on failing because of perfectionism....
I just happened on your video by accident and I especially appreciated the tip on eating what you like the most first, instead of saving it until last!
Such great advice! I've been following the same rules to get out of my binge-eating disorder, and they really work. The 'best to last' one was a revelation!
i’ve recently hit 180 after telling myself i’d never pass 140 (i’m quite petite) and it really got to me that i need to control myself before i go past the point of no return, which i really think is going to start with my food habits. thank you so much for the insight and i’ll try all of these out 🖤
We are in the same boat. I never thought I’d weigh more than 140. The last 9 years I have been at 180 after having two kids. Good luck to you. Hope we both get there!
Want to just say that there is no “point of no return” (well, until death, I suppose.) I say that because I have had that “point of no return” thought too - with its underlying panic-but now notice it and recognize it for what it is: distrust of myself, fear of being out of control etc., which are actually things I need to address directly if I’m to be happy in my body, whatever size it is. A work in progress, for sure.
I have been considering bariatric surgery. Your story encourages me to explore other options. Thank you for your positive message. My weight loss journey is just beginning. You give me hope. I have benefited already from journaling, which I learned from you. Thank you.
I am so glad my content has encouraged you to explore other options, this is why I decided to share, to show that it is possible xx
I know several women who have had the surgery and here is what I have learned from them. 5 women - 3 didn't, 2 did do the work - habits, emotional, movment, feeding yourself well.... if you don't you will gain it back. Give yourself the chance to change these little habits and be kind to yourself. All the best to you!
Carla - such helpful reminders and approaches to the weight loss challenge. Thank you for sharing! 🖤🖤
You explain everything so well and you are very articulate. Great points and great insights! Thank you!!
Insane how 100% spot on this is to me and really makes me think (also feel better knowing I’m not the only one with these thoughts!)
Thank you. This was helpful and enjoyable to watch.
🖤🖤 thank you, so helpful. I'm over 300lb and life is hell! I hope to get to where you are now. You're amazing 😊
Wow an amazing and refreshing take on weightloss! I relate to number 4 so much! I prejudge my meal that it’s not gonna be enough and keep adding what i THINK will satiate me. When in reality by the end I simply overate. Thank you! Food for thought for sure
This is the exact content I need right now! I recently injured my back and am on a new journey of taking care of myself and getting healthy so I can feel good for as long as possible. I immediacy connected to your aesthetic and the way you speak about weight loss and food. How divine! Gunna start binge watching all your videos now! 😂🖤
Awe thank you and welcome Melissa xx
I have struggling with being over weight for the past 50 plus years! I want to loose weight and keep it off this time. All my weight is starting to take a big toll on both me physically but also my life in general. I saw another video of yours first and got me thinking of just to start walking. But I am a perfectionist and it wasn't a Monday so I haven't started. I am thankful I came across this video. All 5 things ( and I am sure there are more) that i have totally experienced. Thank you for sharing! You have given me a Huge perspective change on how I view food and my eating habits. You have given me hope! 🖤🖤
Hi Carla. Thank you for sharing your journey. I lost 50 lbs on my own the year of Covid and gained 40 back. I recently lost 55 lbs, and I have been in maintenance for 4 months now. Listening to your journey was a good reminder to help keep the weight off for good. Keeping it off is often harder than losing it. Thank you for the helpful tips and good habits to incorporate into our daily lives, as well as a reminder of the habits to avoid. Yes, forgive thyself. Congratulations!
Thank you Carla for the informative video. I mostly related to perfectionism because it spreads to most all areas of my life. As a single woman, I resist cooking healthy meals because I have a bad habit of saying, "It takes too long." Also, I have the bad habit of standing up to eat and rushing my meal. I don't really enjoy the meal, I just want it to be over. I was always throughout my life very thin until my 60's. I was very physically active and I didn't have to watch my foods. But, when I was in my mid 60's I said to myself one day, "I don't care about my weight anymore." And, it's been downhill from then. The truth is "I DO CARE" but I got lazy. I'm ready to start loving my body again. Thanks for all of the good tips!
Hello from one Carla to another!!! I've got 120 more pounds to lose!
Your first point is something that's massively helping me in ED recovery, so glad you brought it up ❤
All very good tips. Thanks for sharing.
"Stop using perfectionism as an excuse". Yes! I do this in every area of my life. Thank you!!!
Oh my goodness! I am SO happy to have found your channel. I needed this, so badly. I am following and praying for the same success you have had! 🖤🖤
Thanks Anita xx
So glad I found this channel! Great advice as I begin to change my habits after knee replacement surgery
Great tips, Carla! I love the idea of taking it off of auto pilot, and listening to your body, and allowing yourself to come back to something if you end up wanting it. Thank you 🖤🖤🖤
Very good advice particularly about self compassion ❤
Thank you! I am still trying, and this is very helpful. I’m trying to walk, and am embarrassed when i hear how much others are doing. I love how you frame this, and will revisit this video, i’m sure!
This was right on point and very helpful. Thank you
This is excellent insight!!
I really loved everything you said!! I feel like you were inside my head as my thoughts because everything you said was so relatable to how I think. I've been breaking these habits slowly but I'm glad you brought light upon something I never realized was an issue in my life.
You have talked about every one of my habits. Thank you for putting it into perspective. Definitely the "Clean Plate Club" of my parent's idea, sabotaged me into guilt of leaving food. I'm going to start boxing half at restaurants.
ironically, my mom both taught the clean plate club ( i think from her parents ) but also did the boxing half a meal at restaurants through quite a few years of my life. (she was perpetually on a weightloss journey. now, due to stupid lithium and some other factors, i blew up and have like 45 lbs to lose. previous to this, my whole life i maintained 5-10lbs over at most, with the exception of 15 a couple times. it's damn daunting. there's a REASON i always weighed myself a lot and had a chokehold on it. one, didn't want to end up like my mom or brother, but two, i was afraid of hitting a weight that felt too hard to lose. frequent weigh-ins is what i think helped most with maintenance.
Carla, you are resonating with me, ie. the 'perfectionistic' tendencies! Your comments, "meeting myself where I was," oh my goodness, what a wonderful, healthy, gentle, concept.
Thank you Elizabeth x
Absolutely loved this! Congrats on your loss and I wish you continued success 🖤🖤
I'm beginning my journey for losing weight now and changing my lifestyle. Your suggestions hit home. I've changed a lot about how I eat, but I am always looking for more suggestions. Glad I've found you, wish me luck!
You got this Rachel, remember consistency over motivation xx
Thank you Carla! I texted this to my friend with your link! My summary!! 🌸🌸💞
Carla shared 🛑:
1) stopped being a perfectionist (so before she’d be like “oh I wanted to walk an hour and I only have 30 min today, forget it - I’m gonna eat a cake” 🎂😂😂🤣🚫
2) stopped making herself eat everything on the plate… then she learned to take smaller portions eventually! Eat only until satiated… then STOP 🛑
3) stopped leaving the best part of her meal last. (She used to eat veggies first then steak… then she savored the steak first and that did something for her)
4) stopped saying her old automatic narrative “oh that’s not enough to fill me” (when she was limiting calories for some meals, it was her old addictive to food for her traumas brain that kept automatically insisting it wouldn’t be enough…) she’s so compassionate w herself in all of this too though!
And
5) she stopped automatically just saying ‘yes’ to dessert 🍰or to eating all the calories she had left on her diet if she had some left but was full already…
Ok! Much love!! It’s fun to hear HER say it all though! 💕💕
Great information really enjoyed the content thank you
Thank you for this video!! 🖤🖤
Thank you so much for these tips. The eating habits and issues you mentioned are what I struggle with and I can relate so much to this. 🖤🖤
Another great video Carla 🖤🖤
Really great info! Thank you!
🖤🖤🖤🖤 greatly resonated with your video and your tips, noticed when i incorporate those as well, the difference.
Thank you for sharing, subscribing
I relate so much on perfectionism preventing me from doing things. Used to be if I wasn’t eating perfectly exactly how I wanted or following my planned routine to the T, I would just consider it ruined and not do it all. I have found implementing better sleep has helped me across the board. I learned years ago that when I get up early my days go way better. But I struggled with going to bed at a reasonable time. So I’ve made the going to bed part and building bedtime routines a priority. I try to walk every morning but on days that I’m in a rush or have less time, I also tell myself it’s okay to literally do 1 minute on the treadmill, the goal is just to keep the habit in my routine. On days like today I’ll stay on the treadmill for an hour plus just watching TH-cam or playing on my phone which I used to do every day regardless, just usually sitting in a chair or in bed.
Oh my gosh, Lorraine! What are you doing inside my head! Our brains are identical on this front. I'm finding my phone to be a HUGE deterrent to getting to bed early enough. I am a good sleeper once I get there, but need more of it. I find that if I get at least 7:35 of sleep, I feel more alive & clear-headed, I lose a "little" weight, and my ADHD interferes less with my life. Imagine if I could get myself to bed early EVERY night!!! I'm involved in a work challenge & have set "in bed by 10:30" as my goal 5x/wk. I've been successful for 2 wks now. I get up at 5:AM, though, so it's still not enough. I think I'll bump it to 10:00 for a week, then 9:30.... it makes THAT much of a difference when I do it. So, in addition to Carla's fantastic 5, I would add a min. of 7.5 hrs sleep as tip 6. I saw somewhere that the human clock runs most efficiently if we sleep from 10PM-6AM. It makes zero sense to me that we could all be the same, but I have a feeling it would be ideal for me.
🖤🖤 thank you for sharing your story! I just found your channel. I lost 120 lbs about 6 years ago and ended up gaining it back due to emotional eating. I am trying to step into the journey again and I am inspired by your videos so far. Thank you for the inspiration!
My pleasure Kalynda x
Helpful tip is the one about not looking at calorie limit as a target but more of a guide. Thank you.