It’s not that they lose in the end. Some do..some don’t! The reality is that most are searching for something that ISN’T THERE...that doesn’t exist! They wake up to the self loathing and emptiness EVERY DAY! That’s the karma! Love your channel Jess!
Yes, I had a friend who looked constantly for perfection in her bf. She was the black hole that just couldn't be filled. I told her that I go by the 80/20 rule if 80% of anything is good and 20% sucks - you're good.
They loose because the expect the absurd, contradiction. The want you to be intelligent and dumb in the same time and so on . Its two opposites in same time.
They know they are on borrowed time relationship after relationship on and on and once the victim finds out about their dirty little secret NPD mental disorder basically their a mental case and go from person to person, that would really suck, and it's better to be alone and happy then to be with someone and be miserable 👍 Jess and survivors and thrivers 🙏
I agree, in the beginning my ex said he would probably mess up our relationship he usually did. That was probable one of the few truthful things he said.
I see the ex as one sorry-assed individual who’s locked into a heap of karmic sh*t! Paranoid, secretive, always looking for supply, bored, angry, miserable, this person lives his own “karma”! Definitely not something I would like to experience.
Narcissists deny their dark side and find reasons why others just play the victim or get mad for no reason. This kind of game doesn´t work always so they will pay for it sooner or later.
Miss you, Jess! Thank you for another awesome video! I think one of the biggest ways they lose is that they have no true sense of self identity. They don’t know who they are, what they want, or why they are the way that they are.
But dont forget we all have narcissistic behavior it's just at different degrees. So what if I use the word we? We can be low scare narcissist or higher up the chain cluster B or above or anywhere in between. The spectrum is pretty broad and the behavior patterns can be pretty erratic and certain types can slip right past the radar. Just saying because of the large numbers of narcissistic people iv been in contact with over many years. I really know how to piss off the highly narcissistic maybe its because I can think like one? Does that make me a narcissist?
So accurate! Once I started offering "lifelong friendship" he bailed. He'd rather be utterly alone than to have someone to be there for him, listen, etc.
They lose by ordering bad karma, even tho they don't see it that way lol They lose because they devalue people. They lose because they have no empathy. They lose because their life is lying, cheating, denying, projecting, manipulating, gaslighting BS!! I am onto these narrative spinners. Y'all be wise! Awesome video!
They are adept at playing the victim. That way they don't have to admit any wrongdoing and "delusion" (yes I used it as a verb!) themselves into thinking they are perfect and deserve perfection. They put you on a pedestal and then when you don't live up to their expectations or start to see THEM as imperfect, sayonara! It's quite sad.
Good stuff Jess. Narcissist make everything hard except for one thing that’s supposed to fun to make hard. Pardon the pun. Narcissist are famous for knowing everything about everything yet master of nothing.
+Jess Stanley Praise the LORD narcissists are cursed with a curse. narcissists are demon-possessed. plain and simple, Jess Stanley. God bless. Agape love
They remind me of the Japanese legends about the "Hungry Ghosts." They're always ravenously hungry but are never satisfied no matter how much they eat.
I knew my bros. were kind of stupid azzhole, mutated (R)s! I didn't know Trumb was running, or that they're Far Alt-Rt., "Rt.W.Authoritarians," Terrorists and violent criminals & Nazi 'Narcopaths'! Still in Probate, with 1 of the Monsters. :-( 6 years, after the fact; NIGHTMARES From HELL!
They lose because their life is a contradiction……..they fear rejection and abandonment but spend their life doing everything physically possible to push romantic partners to reject and abandon them!!
If they are also influenced by the American dream...They are angry at the lies the society has been telling us. I make my own happiness, and they expect other people to entertain them and are responsible for their joy. Good luck with that... no one made me happy, but I have been Happy being with certain people.
My ex narc OMG she actually went to the extremes with all the BS lies she claimed that I was doing to her but in reality everything I was accused of SHE was ACTUALLY doing all of it to ME. Hit all MY friends up lying about me etc. Then she even went as far as filing a restraining order on ME, ME of all people. Then she LIED to the judge playing VICTIM telling the judge I had guns (I never owned a gun) and she believed I WAS GOING TO BREAK IN her house and shoot her and her kids. Lied to the judge that she fears me for HER LIFE and so do her kids. Doesn't tell the judge how old her "kids" really were. (22 and 18). Twice my size as well. Yeah but she made it out to the judge as if they were little children and how scared of ME they were. SMH. I just had enough. Totally removed and blocked the bit** from my life. I even went as far as selling my house and moving OUT OF THE STATE that she still lives in. She really was a psychopath and no I do NOT feel sorry for this person. Good riddens is all I have to say and I just THANK GOD for helping me get out of the AWFUL situation and closing that most awful chapter of MY LIFE. SMH.
we had been deceived. but yes, i do believe they lose even from the beginning because fooling themselves is not that easy and so they do hate themselves. yet i do pity them still, but sorry that there's nothing i can do but to rebuild myself and be happy without her. nothing feels better being free from a narc.
I'm so middle of the fence... my friend only seems narcissistic when we get into conflict - she avoids responsibility and never apologizes even when she's been caught red handed and caught in a lie, we've had good times together where I feel there was no room to be used but it's been a week no contact after she stole from me and lied about it and now I'm getting confusing thoughts but I'm sticking to no contact as I'm starting to feel better and have much less anxiety. These people are cold and calculating.
I too had a really good friend who I realise now certainly had narcissistic tendencies, she was toxic and very draining. I ended up blocking her and going no contact after she hurt me 3 times over a period of time then came back and wanted to offload onto me. But when I had a problem she was nowhere to be seen. This happened 5 years ago and I no longer miss her. Stay no contact it’s the only thing that works with these people.
"When we get into conflict" - that's when they reveal themselves... 'conflict shows character'... Narcs usually will be 'amazing' and 'fun' when things are working out, but when something is going on in their life or YOUR life, they will show who they really are... That's why the love bombing is so dangerous because they will always show their good face, because they WILL create 'only good' situations... I remember my sister being bummed when I described what a narc is and that our mother was one.. she said 'but when she is here she is all happy and fine!" but didn't realize that she is only there in good momments and during good moods... but the first time someone disagrees , she gives the rage and silent treatment... It's hard, but it's better to cut toxic people out as much as possible.. Life is too short to be catering to other people's needs neglecting while neglecting our basic ones... Hope you get better soon!
Thanks for the replies, they are appreciated and help keep my head level, I know deep down inside if I went back it would only hurt me more. I think its out of fear of being alone but what's the point in going back to a toxic friendship with someone who makes you feel alone anyway?
I wonder where they get this idea of a 'high standard' supply from? In my experience they don't live their lives to anything like a high standard. Fantasy land?
Hello, Jess I am so glad I found you on this channel. Everything you say is so true . Never knew what a Narc was until I started watching your videos. Thank you so much for all the videos you have made . They have really helped me to understand who these people really are. Jess keep up the good work you are awesome at what you do .!!!
It's so interesting that Jess mentioned hobbies. "My" NARC had a ZILLION hobbies.....and ZERO hobbies. I'll put it another way: She had a garage and basement chock full of skis, yoga mats, all manner of art supplies, a motorcycle, a quad, a firearms locker and shooting equipment, a compound bow...the list in inexhaustible. THEN, it dawned on me: Her supply of physical gear and equipment ABSOLUTELY CORRESPONDED to the supply of her individual Persons Collection!!
Yup, Jess! They might "gain the world but lose so much in the process".... so toxic....not much there, really....losers, yes....🌟 I thought of a new term for narcissism while I was listening to you! What do you think? "Restless narcissism"....😵💫 thanks Jess! It was good to hear from you today! Sending love!💞
The Narcissist that I was married to for 22 years discarded me which I am grateful that he did because my life is so much better he had been cheating on me for a year prior to our divorce I had no idea,now he’s miserable and I’m happy.
My husband of 12 years never allowed me into his depths. I always felt an under current of resentment towards me. How devastating for me because I loved that fake man 110%. Not real, that's mind boggling
Describes mine to a T!!! You're great, Jess. I love listening to you!! Thank you. I've been with mine for too long, the one thing I can count on from him is that he'll do something to screw things up. Like you say, if they put all that time and effort into a good life instead of smut dating websites and sitting on their phones playing games, we'd actually really have something.
Narcissists prefer to give easiely up on others and pretend the consequences have nothing to do with them. As if it doesn´t change the life of someone if you tell him, he is a looser and not worth time and feelings. If it´s the other way round, narcissist would be upset if someon gives up on them like they to on others. Narcissists "help" others to fail but pretend that the fail has nothing to do with them. As if it hasn´t any impact to treat others as if they never win and always chose the wrong way. They are cheap people who deny the impact of support or the lack of it, as if it doesn´t matter if others believe in you or not. Narcissists have more talent to discourage others than in the opposite. But the prefer to see themself as a helpful person not someone who destroy the courage of others just because they don´t want to be leaded. Narcissists want quick results so they don´t invest in people who look as if they have it hard to find their way.
It bothered me because I felt invaded. But I’m glad she discarded me, hallelujah. I should have done it but didn’t want to hurt her. I don’t reflect on her, I’m no longer butt hurt. I’m good.
Ex narc pretended to be so independent yet needed someone for almost everything. I am recovering from codependency so I was needy myself. However, I grew up as only child so I valued having personal space. The narc acted like a kid with a parent in the bathroom. I can't imagine trying to share space with some but need someone to the point I can't trust them to own thoughts and actions in a room apart from me. The funny thing is the narc this thought this controlling behavior was normal.
Thank you for what you do. Narcs are becoming more common and more harmful every day, Recognizing them early is critical to avoiding a major setback, or worse, disaster. Love your photos too.
The need for supply definately takes over and inhibits them from a balanced well comprised life/relationship. Funny how much suffering they cop in return alone when they aren't projecting it in their muddled up real for life movie. They pull you back too because things aren't amounting to much particularly if they suspect you might know that or are suspected by them to find out, the half part of the mask is a cover-up. Fear based decisions that don't amount to much... put that in the DSM 🙏 You can see their need to impress is even a fear based decision, grandiosity steming from the false self must actually be the pits for them. The narcissists idea of making it work...🤭
This channel has helped me so much. But I have a long way to go. I was doing so well. 2 months of not seeing him then I bump into him on a train out of the blue. I fell for his charm. 3 days later… I’ve been discarded. Feels worse than the first time. I feel like a fool.
Don’t feel like a fool you are human they arnt .. just learn from it maybe it was the universes way of showing you for good . Now you know for certain and can move fwd .. whereas you may have always been questioning it .. now you have it confirmed …. I’d see it as a sign and embrace the new xx
You are AMAZING Jess!!! You deliver a message that’s straight to the point and makes perfect sense. I appreciate you for being another piece of my strength. I needed this today. Thank you Jess ❤️
You couldn't believe my narcissist ex girlfriend lost her father but she wasn't sad at all she was posting tik tok videos and instagram stories within couple of days after her father's demise 🙄🙄🙄🙄
Hey Jess - go you have a video on co-parenting with a narc? I scrolled through your vids and didn’t notice unless I missed it. Btw your videos I’ve seen have been helpful. Thank you.
To us, they are losing, but to them, they're winning! Like it was said in the video, all they care about is supply, and supply they get! In my situation, she plays the victim so well that even people who have experienced her nastiness will drop everything and rush to her side, buy into her smear campaign, and ostracize the current target on her behalf. So to her, she's winning! And I have to agree. I'm being attacked by people who I have never offended in any way, simply because they believe her lies. Children lose their childhood by missing out on having an uncle or aunt because that narcissist grandparent turned everybody in the family against each other. They do cause a lot of destruction and pain. And that's supply to them, so in their on malignant way, they are winning.
When I first met him and he told me his age, just 2 years older than me….I was shocked he looks 10 years older. Unfortunately I thought he was a charming harmless older gentleman! Eek! Far from it! That mask did slip. This lifestyle they live really ages them. It’s a hard life and 1 year goes by and they age 10 etc. this is another way they lose because of the lifestyle and addictions.
it was my wife, no hobbies no dreams nothing going , i asked what she likes to do, like i'll tinker or play the guitar her , spend money and go out with anyone but me . when i say something about her and then hear the exact wording on a random video i think she wasnt going to stop . downright refused to leave her zanax and fell out on a 2 lane infront of a semi. yep, cremated. I just asked her to stick to the numbers per day
she stole my partner from me my ex partner support worker told me to go back to derby i was in a suport bubble the covid 19 has ruined my realionship i have been called horrible names wtf
I'm a Overt Narcissist in Love w/ a Covert Narcissist. When I dumped her she deaded me from her life like I was nothing. Covert Narcissists are BRUTAL 😭
I love your vids. But I have to say, narcs do have high level jobs. Look at most of the Presidents we've ever had, CEO's of major corps and freakin Priests for crying out loud and yes, even psychologists - with a couple of exceptions - totally grandiose narcs. Vulnerable narcs seem to be the ones who are lack luster, victim mentality, who have the lower level professions, etc., etc. and you can tell who they are very quickly - they have 'special' information that even the Dr's don't have - them with their cute GED's and the Drs with their PhD's. You can't make this stuff up.
It’s not that they lose in the end. Some do..some don’t! The reality is that most are searching for something that ISN’T THERE...that doesn’t exist! They wake up to the self loathing and emptiness EVERY DAY! That’s the karma! Love your channel Jess!
Yes, I had a friend who looked constantly for perfection in her bf. She was the black hole that just couldn't be filled. I told her that I go by the 80/20 rule if 80% of anything is good and 20% sucks - you're good.
True 🙌🏼
They loose because the expect the absurd, contradiction. The want you to be intelligent and dumb in the same time and so on . Its two opposites in same time.
They don’t trust anyone because they don’t trust themselves
Fact!
I couldn't imagine having to make up lies to tell myself about myself in order to try to like myself. That must be a sad existence.
They lose good people who care about them Jess. I mean, that’s lunacy!
Thank you ☺️
True
Facts
They don’t just lose them, they chase them off!
@@rockstarofredondo yep 👍🏻.
They know they are on borrowed time relationship after relationship on and on and once the victim finds out about their dirty little secret NPD mental disorder basically their a mental case and go from person to person, that would really suck, and it's better to be alone and happy then to be with someone and be miserable 👍 Jess and survivors and thrivers 🙏
I agree, in the beginning my ex said he would probably mess up our relationship he usually did. That was probable one of the few truthful things he said.
My narc ex gf said to me in a revealing slip “love is a game”
I see the ex as one sorry-assed individual who’s locked into a heap of karmic sh*t!
Paranoid, secretive, always looking for supply, bored, angry, miserable, this person lives his own “karma”!
Definitely not something I would like to experience.
You have described my ex
@@sanjmalik6282
Yep.
I suspect that a large number of narcissistic abusers have this description!
A person doing the same thing expecting a different result is insane💯
Einstein! 👍👍
Narcissists deny their dark side and find reasons why others just play the victim or get mad for no reason. This kind of game doesn´t work always so they will pay for it sooner or later.
Miss you, Jess! Thank you for another awesome video! I think one of the biggest ways they lose is that they have no true sense of self identity. They don’t know who they are, what they want, or why they are the way that they are.
I totally agree!
But dont forget we all have narcissistic behavior it's just at different degrees. So what if I use the word we? We can be low scare narcissist or higher up the chain cluster B or above or anywhere in between. The spectrum is pretty broad and the behavior patterns can be pretty erratic and certain types can slip right past the radar. Just saying because of the large numbers of narcissistic people iv been in contact with over many years. I really know how to piss off the highly narcissistic maybe its because I can think like one? Does that make me a narcissist?
They pick up whatever identity and development they have from mirroring their current supply. When the supply changes, the identity changes.
So accurate! Once I started offering "lifelong friendship" he bailed. He'd rather be utterly alone than to have someone to be there for him, listen, etc.
Me. He lost a chance of growing old and happy with me 😊
Same
That’s so sweet😊 it’s the truth tho! So sad. They will never understand
They lose by ordering bad karma, even tho they don't see it that way lol They lose because they devalue people. They lose because they have no empathy. They lose because their life is lying, cheating, denying, projecting, manipulating, gaslighting BS!! I am onto these narrative spinners. Y'all be wise! Awesome video!
This picture makes me want to play in the snow and just forget about narcs Thanks Jess !
They are adept at playing the victim. That way they don't have to admit any wrongdoing and "delusion" (yes I used it as a verb!) themselves into thinking they are perfect and deserve perfection. They put you on a pedestal and then when you don't live up to their expectations or start to see THEM as imperfect, sayonara! It's quite sad.
Good stuff Jess. Narcissist make everything hard except for one thing that’s supposed to fun to make hard. Pardon the pun. Narcissist are famous for knowing everything about everything yet master of nothing.
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I thought you are funny...
+Jess Stanley Praise the LORD narcissists are cursed with a curse. narcissists are demon-possessed. plain and simple, Jess Stanley. God bless. Agape love
They remind me of the Japanese legends about the "Hungry Ghosts." They're always ravenously hungry but are never satisfied no matter how much they eat.
Imagine someone flooring the gas pedal yet stomping on the brakes at the same time … and getting furious!
THAT describes a Narcissist perfectly …
I don't miss the narc! But.... I find myself angry still!
I’m so angry at myself….can’t believe I stoop so low to mingle with that creature
I knew my bros. were kind of stupid azzhole, mutated (R)s!
I didn't know Trumb was running, or that they're Far Alt-Rt., "Rt.W.Authoritarians," Terrorists and violent criminals & Nazi 'Narcopaths'!
Still in Probate, with 1 of the Monsters. :-( 6 years, after the fact; NIGHTMARES From HELL!
@@mechanicbilla5633 same l kick myself everyday for stooping to low life
They’re karma is they are who they are n they hate it
They lose because their life is a contradiction……..they fear rejection and abandonment but spend their life doing everything physically possible to push romantic partners to reject and abandon them!!
If they are also influenced by the American dream...They are angry at the lies
the society has been telling us. I make my own happiness, and they expect
other people to entertain them and are responsible for their joy. Good luck with
that... no one made me happy, but I have been Happy being with certain people.
My ex narc OMG she actually went to the extremes with all the BS lies she claimed that I was doing to her but in reality everything I was accused of SHE was ACTUALLY doing all of it to ME. Hit all MY friends up lying about me etc. Then she even went as far as filing a restraining order on ME, ME of all people. Then she LIED to the judge playing VICTIM telling the judge I had guns (I never owned a gun) and she believed I WAS GOING TO BREAK IN her house and shoot her and her kids. Lied to the judge that she fears me for HER LIFE and so do her kids. Doesn't tell the judge how old her "kids" really were. (22 and 18). Twice my size as well. Yeah but she made it out to the judge as if they were little children and how scared of ME they were. SMH. I just had enough. Totally removed and blocked the bit** from my life. I even went as far as selling my house and moving OUT OF THE STATE that she still lives in. She really was a psychopath and no I do NOT feel sorry for this person. Good riddens is all I have to say and I just THANK GOD for helping me get out of the AWFUL situation and closing that most awful chapter of MY LIFE. SMH.
we had been deceived. but yes, i do believe they lose even from the beginning because fooling themselves is not that easy and so they do hate themselves.
yet i do pity them still, but sorry that there's nothing i can do but to rebuild myself and be happy without her.
nothing feels better being free from a narc.
Their endless self sabotage.
Spot on..100%
I'm so middle of the fence... my friend only seems narcissistic when we get into conflict - she avoids responsibility and never apologizes even when she's been caught red handed and caught in a lie, we've had good times together where I feel there was no room to be used but it's been a week no contact after she stole from me and lied about it and now I'm getting confusing thoughts but I'm sticking to no contact as I'm starting to feel better and have much less anxiety.
These people are cold and calculating.
I too had a really good friend who I realise now certainly had narcissistic tendencies, she was toxic and very draining. I ended up blocking her and going no contact after she hurt me 3 times over a period of time then came back and wanted to offload onto me. But when I had a problem she was nowhere to be seen. This happened 5 years ago and I no longer miss her. Stay no contact it’s the only thing that works with these people.
"When we get into conflict" - that's when they reveal themselves... 'conflict shows character'...
Narcs usually will be 'amazing' and 'fun' when things are working out, but when something is going on in their life or YOUR life, they will show who they really are...
That's why the love bombing is so dangerous because they will always show their good face, because they WILL create 'only good' situations...
I remember my sister being bummed when I described what a narc is and that our mother was one.. she said 'but when she is here she is all happy and fine!" but didn't realize that she is only there in good momments and during good moods... but the first time someone disagrees , she gives the rage and silent treatment...
It's hard, but it's better to cut toxic people out as much as possible.. Life is too short to be catering to other people's needs neglecting while neglecting our basic ones...
Hope you get better soon!
Thanks for the replies, they are appreciated and help keep my head level, I know deep down inside if I went back it would only hurt me more.
I think its out of fear of being alone but what's the point in going back to a toxic friendship with someone who makes you feel alone anyway?
I wonder where they get this idea of a 'high standard' supply from? In my experience they don't live their lives to anything like a high standard. Fantasy land?
Hello, Jess I am so glad
I found you on this channel. Everything you say is so true . Never knew what a Narc was until I started watching your videos. Thank you so much for all the videos you have made . They have really helped me to understand who these people really are. Jess keep up the good work you are awesome at what you do .!!!
It's so interesting that Jess mentioned hobbies.
"My" NARC had a ZILLION hobbies.....and ZERO hobbies.
I'll put it another way: She had a garage and basement chock full of skis, yoga mats, all manner of art supplies, a motorcycle, a quad, a firearms locker and shooting equipment, a compound bow...the list in inexhaustible.
THEN, it dawned on me: Her supply of physical gear and equipment ABSOLUTELY CORRESPONDED to the supply of her individual Persons Collection!!
One of the biggest things they lose are friends and love ones
that truly loved them warts and all !!
Yup, Jess! They might "gain the world but lose so much in the process".... so toxic....not much there, really....losers, yes....🌟 I thought of a new term for narcissism while I was listening to you! What do you think? "Restless narcissism"....😵💫 thanks Jess! It was good to hear from you today! Sending love!💞
The Narcissist that I was married to for 22 years discarded me which I am grateful that he did because my life is so much better he had been cheating on me for a year prior to our divorce I had no idea,now he’s miserable and I’m happy.
Some things you said I just needed to hear, thank you
Thanks Jess!!
My husband of 12 years never allowed me into his depths. I always felt an under current of resentment towards me. How devastating for me because I loved that fake man 110%. Not real, that's mind boggling
Shit! Hurtful truth again! You have said very well again!
Describes mine to a T!!! You're great, Jess. I love listening to you!! Thank you. I've been with mine for too long, the one thing I can count on from him is that he'll do something to screw things up. Like you say, if they put all that time and effort into a good life instead of smut dating websites and sitting on their phones playing games, we'd actually really have something.
Narcissists prefer to give easiely up on others and pretend the consequences have nothing to do with them. As if it doesn´t change the life of someone if you tell him, he is a looser and not worth time and feelings. If it´s the other way round, narcissist would be upset if someon gives up on them like they to on others. Narcissists "help" others to fail but pretend that the fail has nothing to do with them. As if it hasn´t any impact to treat others as if they never win and always chose the wrong way. They are cheap people who deny the impact of support or the lack of it, as if it doesn´t matter if others believe in you or not. Narcissists have more talent to discourage others than in the opposite. But the prefer to see themself as a helpful person not someone who destroy the courage of others just because they don´t want to be leaded. Narcissists want quick results so they don´t invest in people who look as if they have it hard to find their way.
I love your videos Jess, so inspirational. They make the greatest Christmas gifts. Stocking stuffers.
Thank you so very much 😊
It bothered me because I felt invaded. But I’m glad she discarded me, hallelujah. I should have done it but didn’t want to hurt her. I don’t reflect on her, I’m no longer butt hurt. I’m good.
Ex narc pretended to be so independent yet needed someone for almost everything. I am recovering from codependency so I was needy myself. However, I grew up as only child so I valued having personal space. The narc acted like a kid with a parent in the bathroom. I can't imagine trying to share space with some but need someone to the point I can't trust them to own thoughts and actions in a room apart from me. The funny thing is the narc this thought this controlling behavior was normal.
🙌🙌🙌 TOTALLY !
Thank you for what you do. Narcs are becoming more common and more harmful every day, Recognizing them early is critical to avoiding a major setback, or worse, disaster. Love your photos too.
The need for supply definately takes over and inhibits them from a balanced well comprised life/relationship.
Funny how much suffering they cop in return alone when they aren't projecting it in their muddled up real for life movie. They pull you back too because things aren't amounting to much particularly if they suspect you might know that or are suspected by them to find out, the half part of the mask is a cover-up.
Fear based decisions that don't amount to much... put that in the DSM 🙏
You can see their need to impress is even a fear based decision, grandiosity steming from the false self must actually be the pits for them.
The narcissists idea of making it work...🤭
Great video !
After stealing my car, detective convinced him to drop car off at park, happy valentines. A blessing in disguise, no contact!
Great video. It made me feel better, thanks 👍
Thank you Jess,every word is true,I'm starting to smile,,,,
This was a awesome video. You dug deep into the unasked world of questions and answers. Your pretty kool 😎👍
This channel has helped me so much. But I have a long way to go. I was doing so well. 2 months of not seeing him then I bump into him on a train out of the blue. I fell for his charm. 3 days later… I’ve been discarded. Feels worse than the first time. I feel like a fool.
You can't help feeling hopeful. You live and learn something new everyday.
Don’t feel like a fool you are human they arnt .. just learn from it maybe it was the universes way of showing you for good . Now you know for certain and can move fwd .. whereas you may have always been questioning it .. now you have it confirmed …. I’d see it as a sign and embrace the new xx
You are AMAZING Jess!!! You deliver a message that’s straight to the point and makes perfect sense. I appreciate you for being another piece of my strength. I needed this today. Thank you Jess ❤️
You couldn't believe my narcissist ex girlfriend lost her father but she wasn't sad at all she was posting tik tok videos and instagram stories within couple of days after her father's demise 🙄🙄🙄🙄
Brilliant and Funny! … in a twisted way, Thanks!
Appreciated, thank you!
Hey Jess - go you have a video on co-parenting with a narc? I scrolled through your vids and didn’t notice unless I missed it. Btw your videos I’ve seen have been helpful. Thank you.
To us, they are losing, but to them, they're winning! Like it was said in the video, all they care about is supply, and supply they get! In my situation, she plays the victim so well that even people who have experienced her nastiness will drop everything and rush to her side, buy into her smear campaign, and ostracize the current target on her behalf. So to her, she's winning! And I have to agree. I'm being attacked by people who I have never offended in any way, simply because they believe her lies. Children lose their childhood by missing out on having an uncle or aunt because that narcissist grandparent turned everybody in the family against each other. They do cause a lot of destruction and pain. And that's supply to them, so in their on malignant way, they are winning.
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When I first met him and he told me his age, just 2 years older than me….I was shocked he looks 10 years older. Unfortunately I thought he was a charming harmless older gentleman! Eek! Far from it! That mask did slip. This lifestyle they live really ages them. It’s a hard life and 1 year goes by and they age 10 etc. this is another way they lose because of the lifestyle and addictions.
it was my wife, no hobbies no dreams nothing going , i asked what she likes to do, like i'll tinker or play the guitar her , spend money and go out with anyone but me . when i say something about her and then hear the exact wording on a random video i think she wasnt going to stop . downright refused to leave her zanax and fell out on a 2 lane infront of a semi. yep, cremated. I just asked her to stick to the numbers per day
It’s like we dated the same person lol
80 or more soulmates in the last 16 or so years and only a few are even anywhere on your web anymore, so hard to understand how you keep failing.
Shenarc lost me, and im wonderful!! Poor thing.
she stole my partner from me my ex partner support worker told me to go back to derby i was in a suport bubble the covid 19 has ruined my realionship i have been called horrible names wtf
I'm a Overt Narcissist in Love w/ a Covert Narcissist. When I dumped her she deaded me from her life like I was nothing. Covert Narcissists are BRUTAL 😭
Lol yal Narcs
How can we talk one on one?
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Adiction is the first they used drugs and alchool the demons dont left them sleep.
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they are conartest
I love your vids. But I have to say, narcs do have high level jobs. Look at most of the Presidents we've ever had, CEO's of major corps and freakin Priests for crying out loud and yes, even psychologists - with a couple of exceptions - totally grandiose narcs. Vulnerable narcs seem to be the ones who are lack luster, victim mentality, who have the lower level professions, etc., etc. and you can tell who they are very quickly - they have 'special' information that even the Dr's don't have - them with their cute GED's and the Drs with their PhD's. You can't make this stuff up.
Thank you!