@@sandyhughes9474 I was for 30 years. In the super market today, I had a basket which was about full. Some people behind me only had single items, so I let them go in front of me. They said “oh, you’re in no hurry to get home to your wife!” I laughed a little bit and smiled a lot. I could have told them something, and made their hair curl!
He brought me here on the hopes id pay his bills...lol...little did he know my financial status changed when i moved in with him..however, im in the process of being blessed and rewared...ill be gone!!! Now that see clearly what he is...The universe never lets you down and puts you in situations so you can learn, grow and move up!!!!!
This video is a real eye opener! This explains absolutely EVERYTHING! Call him out on his bad behaviour once, he may apologize, but call him out twice,he will give you a silent treatment or ghost you completely. They HATE boundaries and the more you have them, the less they are likely to commit. They want a dormat.
Yep..went through that one! He kept my engagement ring in his safe in our apartment(my dad owned and he never paid one cent of rent living there with me for free)only to be told if I acted and did what he wanted I'd get it. Meanwhile mentally torturing me with verbal and psychological abuse daily. I told him to get out in several occasions and he had the audacity to tell me it wasn't my place and it was my dad's so I couldn't make him leave. Guess what?...my dad kicked his ass out and when he finally did he struggled but still tormenting the hell out of me. Finally immigration was able to deport him back to his country in South America where he belongs. He took money from me, extorted me etc. My advice is run as fast as you cam from these evil demonic monsters that are in meat suits appearing as human. Thank God I got my life back with him gone!
Mine wanted to get married for 5yrs. When I lost my job and stopped paying her bills, plus started questioning her actions, she no longer wanted to get married and left.
I was in a relationship for 24 years and then discarded out of the blue. Was engaged for the last 12 years. I was the problem. Going on 4 years now and no contact with her. I’m definitely better off now, since I learned about narcissists. Thanks
My ex narc said to me one day “I’m gonna buy you a ring but we don’t have to get married. 😂💩 what kind of bs is that? Four years I was w this demon and he would barely keep a change of clothes at my place. Several reasons here; 1. His mom and him were enmeshed (emotional incest) they lived together like a married couple, the father died and the narc mother made him the replacement husband. 2. He would have a hard time grooming his back burner supply. He kept his ex around behind my back the entire time. After the discard I found out that his first wife ran away from him and that he had a kid with her. He lied to me for 4 entire years claiming he had no children. This was one of the most difficult and toxic relationships I’ve ever had to endure. Always felt alone, never felt loved or cared for. Everything he ever helped me with was thrown in my face and kept on a score sheet. Being with a narc is one of the most traumatizing and damaging things a person can endure. I am alone now and not ready to date but at least I have peace. Stay strong family ❤️
Im broke. And i pushed back. Often. I also paid my own bills refused to pay his. Or help him any way. I also. Have a great support system one he couldnt isolate me from. All that. .i didnt want to marry him. He was a dumpster fire of problems. For me it was because of the push back and calling him an idiot when he have me word salad.
After the break up he tells me that he's still married! The whole time I'm thinking he's "eligible." I must've been on double secret probation that I didn't know about!
My ex told me he changed his mind about marrying me when my parents changed their will on their four houses so half went to my son as they saw straight through him and worried about me wanting to marry him one day... He babbled out of it by saying it was because he felt they didn't see him as family. They'd only known him two hours when he told them he wanted to marry me!!😅 Div!!!
Mine asked me to marry in 3mnths I did not stayed 4 years and my Gut said do not do it he wanted to just abuse me and he knew I would not leave him he wanted a Steak he can have bologna now!
I made him marry me because I felt as a girlfriend, he didn't have a right to boss me around. Talk about being stupid! I don't regret the children, but I will never not hate him. I still hate him after 30 years!
It was weird. She never talked of marriage. She had no financial resources. Told me she walked away from her previous marriage with nothing because she didn’t want to take anything. However, she checked all the boxes of being a vulnerable narcissist. Smear campaign, her previous husband and boyfriend only to triangulate them against me later in the relationship. She just oozed with toxicity. I can’t believe I hung in as long as I did. She just caused trauma drama and chaos all the time, but mentioned how she really hated people that had so much of that. Hard to wrap your head around somebody that could just blow up a relationship because they can’t sit still.
I dated a Narcissistic who was previously married for me over 20 years. He actually told me he got more attention from women when he was married. I guess the women he hooked up with didn't care about him being married. I can't believe he bragged about it. Some Narcissistic who are married still act single.
I got her a £10,000 engagement ring. 4 yrs later she said she’s doesn’t want to get married as she had a bad divorce. She still kept the ring. There’s a lovely 4 letter word in the dictionary & shes full of it. Just makes feel I made the right decision to leave.
OMG This is so Accurate And I m in My 2 weekend of Him discarding Me. Because it's my fault And that's what I did Jess. Called him out on his Bullshit and He Said he was tired And so fed up with my insecurities And thinking he was cheating And also said I was a tramp because I had Facebook and guys commented And I would Heart or like posts And sometimes Have a conversation And he thought I was being dishonest And trampy
I'm married to a woman exactly like your saying I can't help feel like poop given 10 years of this has gone on officially 2 days ago I'm living in my car working Lyft I don't have anything due to her contaminating it I really appreciate these videos they hurt but its more than what a church did for me in a decade I've already had prior issues 10-18 social services and here I am homeless and watching my son's mom laughing while my son grows to help aid her in a very dark way now she's stage 5 kidney failure and lied using the church witch is a cult at the end of the day but I'm a mess and alone thank you again and again for your video
Jess, Another Great Video to start my week off on the right on foot. Its a good thing I have no ties with my Ex Narc Girlfriend. 15 Years together LTR We we not even living together. She just Future Faked both us I think she even believed her own Bull Shit. Always with the Promise of Tomorrow. We both made very good Incomes with PENSIONS. I guess when she asked me, if I was going to leave her my Pension and my reply was no. We never discussed marriage and she was worrying about getting retirement $$$$. Right after that the last 3 years she figured I'm gonna use this guy drain him and dumped. I was no longer going to be her A1Supply next thing I know no more Intimacy that started to dry up. Now you are being taken for Granted Used like dirty dishcloth. I did everything for her like an idiot, Save her thousands $$$$ just on property care alone at her home. Lawn care, Winter snow removal. Car washing and waxing. Finally when I walked away from her and told I had enough of her BS. Which by that time she must have been grooming her New Supply getting ready to Monkey Branch on me. Knowing that she now has to pay for those services I love it. Let the New Supply step in and take my spot please. 8 months No Contact I'm Silent peaceful I don't need to go rushing back into any relationships. I workout 4 days a week I take daily walks. Stacking $$$ I even go to Church on Sundays My mother would be proud. I'll keep the PENSION and she can keep her New Guy. Always Great to watch your VIDEOS.
You can do a survey on the reason why the narcissists got married at the very first place, Jess. You'll be surprised with the results. Have a wonderful day and blessings to you 🙏💐🎉
I do have a video on reasons why they get married. To lock down supply, trap supply, get money... basically the opposite of everything on this list. Surprising, staggering and gross for sure! Thanks so much! Have a lovely day!
I found out mine was married 6 months into our relationship (we were together a year and a half) after I had fallen in love with him and he had me hooked, claims he hadn’t seen/spoken to his wife in years (we were living together), I was his primary supply, I wanted babies and marriage, could you also talk about why a narc wouldn’t get divorced even if he’s not getting any supply from his marriage? Pls be gentle with me in the comments, I’m NC & 7 months post discard
My ex too was married and separated, he did ask me to marry him during the love bombing stage and said he would divorce his second wife however all that changed and he would not get divorced he gave some bs story about not wanting to deal with her again, months later he told me he run into her and they had a conversation. I think in his case he didn’t want to be “trapped” in a marriage again (he had two) and this is why he said what he did. I would never of married him but I don’t think he knew this, he knew very little about me, he never bothered to find out all he talked about was himself 🙄
@@catlady6938 Sounds like mine…why do you think they won’t get divorced if they’re getting no supply from that marriage?? Honestly curious like what’s the point, not that I want him back, I miss him but he can also rot in hell for the way treated me
@@faceofglam it’s like I said if they say they can’t get divorced for whatever reason then they don’t have to make up lies why they don’t marry you. If they are getting all the supply they want from their current relationship then they don’t need to get married. Unless of course you are very wealthy and they think they can get a settlement from you when it ends, or worse if they are malignant. That’s just my opinion.
It’s all about control as long as the Narc has a link to you that gives them the feeling of control over you. They’ll take any kind of vibe they can get from you. Good bad ugly it doesn’t matter. If they sign those papers they know the control is over. Plus they like to keep you on the back burner just in case one day you might want to come back.
I’m the wife! I filed for divorce and moved out. He had someone already lined up that caters to him, has a PhD, they travel out of the country, she owns her own home, luxury car, no kids, and he still won’t allow her to post him on social media. AND he will not participate in the divorce at all, refuses to provide paperwork, won’t hire an attorney, and refuses to communicate with me. I’m confused. I’m giving him what I thought he wanted. But, I think what he really wanted was to juggle us. He wants it all. Greed. Ego. I guess. Smh.
My question is. Who cares what a Narcissist wants Isn’t a good thing they won’t marry you? I mean, count your blessings because who wants to be married to a narc?
I wasn’t marriage material due to ill health. So I was dumped, got better, was hoovered, re acquired, then dumped again. Got better again and now in fighting rude health! No more narcs please
I dated a guy for 6 months and I’m almost sure he is a covert narcissist. He would talk a lot about himself, he only talked about marriage when I brought up the subject, he made me a lot of promises that never got fulfilled, he had wandering eyes and would blatantly look to other pretty women near me, he never asked me too many questions and he didn’t want to set up a date for marriage when I said that I was going to leave. He would do nice things for me, like paying dinners, bring me groceries but the commitment that I always wanted he couldn’t give it to me. I’m glad I left him 2 months ago.
A narc that I had dated in my late 20s told me he'd never marry someone without money. (I put myself through school and paid my own way all of my life, so I didn't meet that requirement.) This after spending a year with him and me labeling him "Just a type A" kinda guy. I left just after this comment. If I had known about NPD and what they are, I would've been gone sooner. BTW: he did find and marry a well off woman whose family had multiple homes throughout the San Francisco area. However, when they had kids, their girl was born with cerebral palsy and I can just imagine "Mr. I-have-Ducatis-Porsche-amthemanoftheworld-everywomanwantsme" now sees he has to spend money on many surgeries and SDR treatments for her and the rest of her life will require him to provide, whereas he thought he'd finish off living the good, nee GREAT, enviable life.
The broke part I disagree the one I was with was rich . She wanted someone that was living paycheck to paycheck so that you can become codependent of them . I discarded mine after 5 years 6 months later she’s marrying this guy who had a 9-5 average job . He already quit his job and is working for her just like I did .
Relationships aren’t what they use to be. Its not a narc thing to stay unmarried. Alot of people out here with open wounds and cant take responsibility or accountability for their part in the home. Birth and marriage rates are on the decline and have been for decades. This is discussed on a few mens channels on yt.
My ex narc refused to sign a pre-nup. I told him...no man has ever put a roof over my head or paid my bill. Raised 2 boys on my own. He told me, I'm not gonna live in your house, you can sell your house and keep the equity and can move with me to another state. Why? So he could get me away from my boys and my family. Too bad he had to file bankruptcy because he was married with 3 kids and used all his money on coke and drugs. Not to mention he now has 5 DUI'S. And he's gonna fuck up again. Wants to bring anyone down with him that he can and trap them.
I would love to drop a comment saying if you're the type of person who is headstrong, knows what you want and don't want - you appear to take no shit, the narcissist can still play you don't think they can't, sometimes they like a challenge to break a strong woman, don't think they just go for weakness therefore they get more narcissistic supply when you crack knowing they can get to you and if you don't listen to your parents or being told what to do by anyone yourself - it doesn't matter who's warning you against them but the people they might have a challenge with, is weaker people (they view people in ranks) because someone who is perceived as weak they underestimate them and in the end prove to be a challenge for them to break away from their families
I was going to ask mine to marry me on her bday, she knew this. 2 months before her bday she discarded me. I know in my heart she wanted me to beg her to come back, I didn't. She Married new guy on her bday. I never reached out. She just emailed me asking to meet up, I didn't reply. She has diagnosed borderline personality disorder.
Can you do a video when a covert narcissist unknowingly hooks up with another covert. This happened to my ex with the girl he cheated on me with. Pure justice. Lol
He knew i love him, but -He also aware that i can ba pain in his ass -Maybe a punishment he propose 14 years ago and i wasnt thnking right i been so rude that time, i thought hes cheating, in a jealous freak.. so i turned down in a rude way.. -yah if he ghost me, i wont chased him, i ghost him too, This last 2 years if im we have misundrstanding, i ghost him. Until hes the one to make first move..
If you have a child together and you are raising the child together then who can tell you that you are not married...? You dont need the church and state to verify your marriage...
Just wondering something about your comment by treating the narcissist like a grown up (I understand that you hold them accountable to their actions and you're expecting them to apologise to do right I get that), but there are other ways to get especially male narcissists not to always act like a child (at least in your presence.). I've heard how the narcissist resents most people who try and change them. You know? People who think once they have their man, or woman, they'll change their ways, or mould them into what they want them to be and then get frustrated with them when they're not behaving in certain ways, but, in time the narcissist finds it annoying, will end up not listening and will in fact end up behaving like a child where your at loggerheads with them - so, by treating them like an adult, doing the opposite effect - like letting them make their own mistakes, letting them choose what they want to do, you are treating them as an adult, they'll probably see this as you being loving and supporting them because I do feel there are other ways to get narcissists or most people to behave like a grown up. For example, like when a situation arises that is troubling for them ask them what they want to do - you take the decision out of their hands and you will get them screaming out saying you don't tell me what to do. You can never change anyone. Period. I'm saying don't do it because it causes resistance but controlling people narcissistic or not, in a relationship, they try and control others in their life. I've got a Mother like this. Anyway, you can only truly treat someone as an adult when you let them make their own choices whether you agree with them or not. I'm not saying you can't talk it through with them but I'll also say, if your need for independence is strong you will understand you don't respond well to being controlled yourself, so, if you know that, you can understand their thought process. Treat them like any other adult where you respect the right to their feelings whether or not you agree with them and their choices, even if you think it's a stupid one. If no one can do this within a relationship narcissistic or not then it will come as a shock to you that you were never truly appreciated. I also know you don't want to see people you love making wrong decisions but your love comes after when the shit hits the fan for them. Otherwise you're treating any partner like a child, and children don't step up. At least in some ways they will act as a man. It's probably not going to be completely this way all the time but narcissist or not, he or she will feel valued and they get to make decisions about what they want to do in life but you have to get into the mindset of - especially getting into a relationship with another controller you're never going to tell them what to do.
They use an engagement to "future fake" you so you will move in with them, etc. and be trapped. Like a spider in a web.
Trust me.. you don’t want to marry a narcissist
@DJ rDNA I actually did.. for 8 years
I am married to one
@@sandyhughes9474 my heart goes out to you
@@sandyhughes9474 I was for 30 years. In the super market today, I had a basket which was about full. Some people behind me only had single items, so I let them go in front of me. They said “oh, you’re in no hurry to get home to your wife!” I laughed a little bit and smiled a lot. I could have told them something, and made their hair curl!
Sounds like the Relationship I had. Ughhhh. Well it's over now and time to move on. God is healing me.
That's great
If you haven't already done so consider going and staying No Contact
Be strong
@DJ rDNA they don’t deserve nothing because they are never great full for anything in life.
Unfortunately, narcissists are often very good at keeping up (false) appearances until after the vows.
Aint that the truth
He brought me here on the hopes id pay his bills...lol...little did he know my financial status changed when i moved in with him..however, im in the process of being blessed and rewared...ill be gone!!! Now that see clearly what he is...The universe never lets you down and puts you in situations so you can learn, grow and move up!!!!!
Yep this is just how it goes all they want is bed fun an thats it ..dont waist your time ..move on an be happy ty jess ❤🙏
This video is a real eye opener! This explains absolutely EVERYTHING! Call him out on his bad behaviour once, he may apologize, but call him out twice,he will give you a silent treatment or ghost you completely. They HATE boundaries and the more you have them, the less they are likely to commit. They want a dormat.
Thanks God I'm not a marriage material for narcissists...
Thx for your videos 💖
Spot on. 4 years and two of them there sat a ring in his glove box…i was “too much work” and knew he would never put the ring on it. Thank god!
Lol we are the same!!!
DODGED THAT BULLET!
Yep..went through that one! He kept my engagement ring in his safe in our apartment(my dad owned and he never paid one cent of rent living there with me for free)only to be told if I acted and did what he wanted I'd get it. Meanwhile mentally torturing me with verbal and psychological abuse daily. I told him to get out in several occasions and he had the audacity to tell me it wasn't my place and it was my dad's so I couldn't make him leave. Guess what?...my dad kicked his ass out and when he finally did he struggled but still tormenting the hell out of me. Finally immigration was able to deport him back to his country in South America where he belongs. He took money from me, extorted me etc. My advice is run as fast as you cam from these evil demonic monsters that are in meat suits appearing as human. Thank God I got my life back with him gone!
They are already married
Mine wanted to get married for 5yrs. When I lost my job and stopped paying her bills, plus started questioning her actions, she no longer wanted to get married and left.
I was in a relationship for 24 years and then discarded out of the blue. Was engaged for the last 12 years. I was the problem. Going on 4 years now and no contact with her. I’m definitely better off now, since I learned about narcissists. Thanks
I loved this video! A narc told me he was thinking of me as a wife; he already had one. 😂
Spot on!! You nailed this one!!!
My ex narc said to me one day “I’m gonna buy you a ring but we don’t have to get married. 😂💩 what kind of bs is that? Four years I was w this demon and he would barely keep a change of clothes at my place. Several reasons here; 1. His mom and him were enmeshed (emotional incest) they lived together like a married couple, the father died and the narc mother made him the replacement husband. 2. He would have a hard time grooming his back burner supply. He kept his ex around behind my back the entire time. After the discard I found out that his first wife ran away from him and that he had a kid with her. He lied to me for 4 entire years claiming he had no children. This was one of the most difficult and toxic relationships I’ve ever had to endure. Always felt alone, never felt loved or cared for. Everything he ever helped me with was thrown in my face and kept on a score sheet. Being with a narc is one of the most traumatizing and damaging things a person can endure. I am alone now and not ready to date but at least I have peace. Stay strong family ❤️
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Im broke. And i pushed back. Often. I also paid my own bills refused to pay his. Or help him any way. I also. Have a great support system one he couldnt isolate me from. All that. .i didnt want to marry him. He was a dumpster fire of problems. For me it was because of the push back and calling him an idiot when he have me word salad.
This is spot on!
Yes he tried to triangulate me multiple times. Didn’t work 😂. Now I moved on I made sure he knows and his flying monkeys.
After the break up he tells me that he's still married! The whole time I'm thinking he's "eligible." I must've been on double secret probation that I didn't know about!
My ex told me he changed his mind about marrying me when my parents changed their will on their four houses so half went to my son as they saw straight through him and worried about me wanting to marry him one day... He babbled out of it by saying it was because he felt they didn't see him as family. They'd only known him two hours when he told them he wanted to marry me!!😅 Div!!!
Mine asked me to marry in 3mnths I did not stayed 4 years and my Gut said do not do it he wanted to just abuse me and he knew I would not leave him he wanted a Steak he can have bologna now!
Jess u hit this well, no lies. Make sense why he was with the ex wife. She had 💰. Guess I wasnt the perfect supply.
I made him marry me because I felt as a girlfriend, he didn't have
a right to boss me around. Talk about being stupid! I don't regret the
children, but I will never not hate him. I still hate him after 30 years!
It was weird. She never talked of marriage. She had no financial resources. Told me she walked away from her previous marriage with nothing because she didn’t want to take anything. However, she checked all the boxes of being a vulnerable narcissist. Smear campaign, her previous husband and boyfriend only to triangulate them against me later in the relationship. She just oozed with toxicity. I can’t believe I hung in as long as I did. She just caused trauma drama and chaos all the time, but mentioned how she really hated people that had so much of that. Hard to wrap your head around somebody that could just blow up a relationship because they can’t sit still.
I dated a Narcissistic who was previously married for me over 20 years. He actually told me he got more attention from women when he was married. I guess the women he hooked up with didn't care about him being married. I can't believe he bragged about it. Some Narcissistic who are married still act single.
I got her a £10,000 engagement ring. 4 yrs later she said she’s doesn’t want to get married as she had a bad divorce. She still kept the ring. There’s a lovely 4 letter word in the dictionary & shes full of it. Just makes feel I made the right decision to leave.
OMG This is so Accurate And I m in My 2 weekend of Him discarding Me. Because it's my fault And that's what I did Jess. Called him out on his Bullshit and He Said he was tired And so fed up with my insecurities And thinking he was cheating And also said I was a tramp because I had Facebook and guys commented And I would Heart or like posts And sometimes Have a conversation And he thought I was being dishonest And trampy
Happy Sunday, Jess! 🌟 thank you so very much for this video which is, BTW, very helpful.... Love and blessings! 💞
I'm married to a woman exactly like your saying I can't help feel like poop given 10 years of this has gone on officially 2 days ago I'm living in my car working Lyft I don't have anything due to her contaminating it I really appreciate these videos they hurt but its more than what a church did for me in a decade I've already had prior issues 10-18 social services and here I am homeless and watching my son's mom laughing while my son grows to help aid her in a very dark way now she's stage 5 kidney failure and lied using the church witch is a cult at the end of the day but I'm a mess and alone thank you again and again for your video
Jess, Another Great Video to start my week off on the right on foot. Its a good thing I have no ties with my Ex Narc Girlfriend. 15 Years together LTR We we not even living together. She just Future Faked both us I think she even believed her own Bull Shit. Always with the Promise of Tomorrow. We both made very good Incomes with PENSIONS.
I guess when she asked me, if I was going to leave her my Pension and my reply was no. We never discussed marriage and she was worrying about getting retirement $$$$. Right after that the last 3 years she figured I'm gonna use this guy drain him and dumped. I was no longer going to be her A1Supply next thing I know no more Intimacy that started to dry up. Now you are being taken for Granted Used like dirty dishcloth.
I did everything for her like an idiot, Save her thousands $$$$ just on property care alone at her home. Lawn care, Winter snow removal. Car washing and waxing. Finally when I walked away from her and told I had enough of her BS. Which by that time she must have been grooming her New Supply getting ready to Monkey Branch on me. Knowing that she now has to pay for those services I love it.
Let the New Supply step in and take my spot please. 8 months No Contact I'm Silent peaceful I don't need to go rushing back into any relationships. I workout 4 days a week I take daily walks. Stacking $$$ I even go to Church on Sundays My mother would be proud. I'll keep the PENSION and she can keep her New Guy. Always Great to watch your VIDEOS.
Keep posting your updated photo's Love Them. Just Saying.
You can do a survey on the reason why the narcissists got married at the very first place, Jess. You'll be surprised with the results. Have a wonderful day and blessings to you 🙏💐🎉
I do have a video on reasons why they get married. To lock down supply, trap supply, get money... basically the opposite of everything on this list. Surprising, staggering and gross for sure! Thanks so much! Have a lovely day!
I found out mine was married 6 months into our relationship (we were together a year and a half) after I had fallen in love with him and he had me hooked, claims he hadn’t seen/spoken to his wife in years (we were living together), I was his primary supply, I wanted babies and marriage, could you also talk about why a narc wouldn’t get divorced even if he’s not getting any supply from his marriage? Pls be gentle with me in the comments, I’m NC & 7 months post discard
My ex too was married and separated, he did ask me to marry him during the love bombing stage and said he would divorce his second wife however all that changed and he would not get divorced he gave some bs story about not wanting to deal with her again, months later he told me he run into her and they had a conversation. I think in his case he didn’t want to be “trapped” in a marriage again (he had two) and this is why he said what he did. I would never of married him but I don’t think he knew this, he knew very little about me, he never bothered to find out all he talked about was himself 🙄
@@catlady6938 Sounds like mine…why do you think they won’t get divorced if they’re getting no supply from that marriage?? Honestly curious like what’s the point, not that I want him back, I miss him but he can also rot in hell for the way treated me
@@faceofglam it’s like I said if they say they can’t get divorced for whatever reason then they don’t have to make up lies why they don’t marry you. If they are getting all the supply they want from their current relationship then they don’t need to get married. Unless of course you are very wealthy and they think they can get a settlement from you when it ends, or worse if they are malignant. That’s just my opinion.
It’s all about control as long as the Narc has a link to you that gives them the feeling of control over you. They’ll take any kind of vibe they can get from you. Good bad ugly it doesn’t matter. If they sign those papers they know the control is over. Plus they like to keep you on the back burner just in case one day you might want to come back.
I’m the wife! I filed for divorce and moved out. He had someone already lined up that caters to him, has a PhD, they travel out of the country, she owns her own home, luxury car, no kids, and he still won’t allow her to post him on social media. AND he will not participate in the divorce at all, refuses to provide paperwork, won’t hire an attorney, and refuses to communicate with me. I’m confused. I’m giving him what I thought he wanted. But, I think what he really wanted was to juggle us. He wants it all. Greed. Ego. I guess. Smh.
+Jess Stanley Praise the LORD good stuff and so true, my sweet sister Jess Stanley. God bless. Agape love
Hahaha now I know. Thank you very much for this. Now all I can say is I am blessed that we broke up, because he saw a new source of supply 😂
My question is. Who cares what a Narcissist wants Isn’t a good thing they won’t marry you? I mean, count your blessings because who wants to be married to a narc?
When do you have a public forum?
Mine not talked to me in over 8 years now
I wasn’t marriage material due to ill health. So I was dumped, got better, was hoovered, re acquired, then dumped again. Got better again and now in fighting rude health! No more narcs please
Come again I was married to one - well when I say married yeah 😒
His mom
That was my story
The abuse sent next level
I dated a guy for 6 months and I’m almost sure he is a covert narcissist. He would talk a lot about himself, he only talked about marriage when I brought up the subject, he made me a lot of promises that never got fulfilled, he had wandering eyes and would blatantly look to other pretty women near me, he never asked me too many questions and he didn’t want to set up a date for marriage when I said that I was going to leave.
He would do nice things for me, like paying dinners, bring me groceries but the commitment that I always wanted he couldn’t give it to me. I’m glad I left him 2 months ago.
Good morning Jess !☃️
Good morning!
Jess Stanley ♥️🕊
A narc that I had dated in my late 20s told me he'd never marry someone without money. (I put myself through school and paid my own way all of my life, so I didn't meet that requirement.) This after spending a year with him and me labeling him "Just a type A" kinda guy. I left just after this comment. If I had known about NPD and what they are, I would've been gone sooner.
BTW: he did find and marry a well off woman whose family had multiple homes throughout the San Francisco area. However, when they had kids, their girl was born with cerebral palsy and I can just imagine "Mr. I-have-Ducatis-Porsche-amthemanoftheworld-everywomanwantsme" now sees he has to spend money on many surgeries and SDR treatments for her and the rest of her life will require him to provide, whereas he thought he'd finish off living the good, nee GREAT, enviable life.
Good ol’ karma for sure, life has a funny way of working out😔
The broke part I disagree the one I was with was rich . She wanted someone that was living paycheck to paycheck so that you can become codependent of them . I discarded mine after 5 years 6 months later she’s marrying this guy who had a 9-5 average job . He already quit his job and is working for her just like I did .
Relationships aren’t what they use to be. Its not a narc thing to stay unmarried. Alot of people out here with open wounds and cant take responsibility or accountability for their part in the home.
Birth and marriage rates are on the decline and have been for decades. This is discussed on a few mens channels on yt.
Unfortunately, the narcissist did marry me. Twice!! Never again, though!
$$$$$$$ cha ching!..... they're main goal!.... marriage plans are in the first few hours,....runnn🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
My ex narc refused to sign a pre-nup. I told him...no man has ever put a roof over my head or paid my bill. Raised 2 boys on my own. He told me, I'm not gonna live in your house, you can sell your house and keep the equity and can move with me to another state. Why? So he could get me away from my boys and my family. Too bad he had to file bankruptcy because he was married with 3 kids and used all his money on coke and drugs. Not to mention he now has 5 DUI'S. And he's gonna fuck up again. Wants to bring anyone down with him that he can and trap them.
I cooked cleaned and made him coffee all the time
I would love to drop a comment saying if you're the type of person who is headstrong, knows what you want and don't want - you appear to take no shit, the narcissist can still play you don't think they can't, sometimes they like a challenge to break a strong woman, don't think they just go for weakness therefore they get more narcissistic supply when you crack knowing they can get to you and if you don't listen to your parents or being told what to do by anyone yourself - it doesn't matter who's warning you against them but the people they might have a challenge with, is weaker people (they view people in ranks) because someone who is perceived as weak they underestimate them and in the end prove to be a challenge for them to break away from their families
narcs never really marry, they marry their fantasy
They can't get married because they need a birds like them a source of supply hahaha...😅🤣😅 recycle Pegion..
Why did he marry the new supply then ?
Bingo
I was going to ask mine to marry me on her bday, she knew this. 2 months before her bday she discarded me. I know in my heart she wanted me to beg her to come back, I didn't. She Married new guy on her bday. I never reached out. She just emailed me asking to meet up, I didn't reply.
She has diagnosed borderline personality disorder.
Sorry Daniel, mine just up and left randomly too and has already moved on to the next victim .
@@candydrake45 thank you for the reply. It hurts but not that bad since I understand now the dynamics in which they "love"
WOOOOW
Can you do a video when a covert narcissist unknowingly hooks up with another covert. This happened to my ex with the girl he cheated on me with. Pure justice. Lol
Hello Jess I have send you an email but i haven’t received any reply pls let me know as I need personal one on one
Here is some good advice. Know that they lie abt everything. Leave them. Immediately and save yourself while you can.
I do apologize. Occasionally I lose emails to my Spam folder. If I haven't gotten to yet, please resend. My apologies.
@@JessStanley thank you I shall email you and pls if u can give ur time as I need some guidance as going through a lot
He knew i love him, but
-He also aware that i can ba pain in his ass
-Maybe a punishment he propose 14 years ago and i wasnt thnking right i been so rude that time, i thought hes cheating, in a jealous freak.. so i turned down in a rude way..
-yah if he ghost me, i wont chased him, i ghost him too,
This last 2 years if im we have misundrstanding, i ghost him. Until hes the one to make first move..
If you have a child together and you are raising the child together then who can tell you that you are not married...? You dont need the church and state to verify your marriage...
He married his ex wife over 32 years and they disvorced!
Just wondering something about your comment by treating the narcissist like a grown up (I understand that you hold them accountable to their actions and you're expecting them to apologise to do right I get that), but there are other ways to get especially male narcissists not to always act like a child (at least in your presence.).
I've heard how the narcissist resents most people who try and change them. You know? People who think once they have their man, or woman, they'll change their ways, or mould them into what they want them to be and then get frustrated with them when they're not behaving in certain ways, but, in time the narcissist finds it annoying, will end up not listening and will in fact end up behaving like a child where your at loggerheads with them - so, by treating them like an adult, doing the opposite effect - like letting them make their own mistakes, letting them choose what they want to do, you are treating them as an adult, they'll probably see this as you being loving and supporting them because I do feel there are other ways to get narcissists or most people to behave like a grown up.
For example, like when a situation arises that is troubling for them ask them what they want to do - you take the decision out of their hands and you will get them screaming out saying you don't tell me what to do.
You can never change anyone. Period. I'm saying don't do it because it causes resistance but controlling people narcissistic or not, in a relationship, they try and control others in their life.
I've got a Mother like this.
Anyway, you can only truly treat someone as an adult when you let them make their own choices whether you agree with them or not. I'm not saying you can't talk it through with them but I'll also say, if your need for independence is strong you will understand you don't respond well to being controlled yourself, so, if you know that, you can understand their thought process.
Treat them like any other adult where you respect the right to their feelings whether or not you agree with them and their choices, even if you think it's a stupid one. If no one can do this within a relationship narcissistic or not then it will come as a shock to you that you were never truly appreciated.
I also know you don't want to see people you love making wrong decisions but your love comes after when the shit hits the fan for them. Otherwise you're treating any partner like a child, and children don't step up.
At least in some ways they will act as a man. It's probably not going to be completely this way all the time but narcissist or not, he or she will feel valued and they get to make decisions about what they want to do in life but you have to get into the mindset of - especially getting into a relationship with another controller you're never going to tell them what to do.
No wonder he didn't wanna marry me
Why would u want to marry this type of person anyway
Typically because people have been brainwashed and love bombed