Whenever I feel like my life is punishing me, I just try to think of myself in comparison to other victims and I see how lucky I really am. I haven’t watched my children starve to death, I don’t have to walk a mile for clean water and I haven’t been forced into a refugee camp. Things could always be MUCH worse and somehow reminding myself that other people have much more challenging issues everyday helps me remain grateful.
For those who don't believe it is possible, my life experience is testament that this works. My whole childhood was traumatic. I suffered every kind of abuse, my parents divorced, my siblings split up & I & my younger brother lived with our grandma. I lived yearning for my mom, was sexually,physically, verbally abused, witnessed my aunt beaten to a pulp, constant violence & toxicity around me, distrust, fear, silent anger & a longing to end it all, while the family showed a facade of good christian community role models. It wasn’t easy, Im 48 and still healing, but I've flipped the narrative and I love with an open heart and attract good things & good people. My past does not define my worth. Other people's actions do not define who I am. Life is beautiful and magical.
My take: The story we tell/narrate about ourselves of the past define our perspective on life itself. Choose to remember and narrate positive incidents of yourself and others connected with you . Thank you lady
It is been an absolute pleasure having people like you with all this value.Thank you for the immense effort you put into this work. You are absolutely killing it and in top of that you give what really we want as individuals to understand and reshape our thinking.
Dr Joe Dispenza says- your personal reality eventually becomes your personality. It the what you experience, but the how you frame it and narrative you create. I have found this to be true
I was very toxic, till I began to listen to helpful individuals like you. It's funny, we like to place ourselves as a victim,some times we do it to self or led ourselves into that very predicament and begin the stories. We all have had, failure, trauma, set backs. Instead of stepping back look from another set of eyes and beautiful mind.
Thank you! This is exactly what I needed to hear. What was holding me back from believing I was worth more...everything. Re-write, re-frame and the future is renewed!
I needed this today! Exactly what my husband and I were discussing. I complain, compare, negative, beat myself up, play victim, no purpose. I want to stop. I want to just be happy!
Wow so many new notions and technical words. I used to think I am a word warrior, but after listening to this, I have to start learning my vocabulary from scratch. I will take this lesson and spread it around me. Lady you are proving again that we never stop learning. Thank you.
Your videos are becoming so addictive. I listen to them everyday before going to bed and every morning once I wake up. This is more than something motivational. Your contents are awesome. You are a guiding stars for women like us out there. Thank you so much Shade 💓
I am happy 100% with my life, though I don't have enough success to tell about, still I feel I didn’t do anything wrong to anybody in this world and could love everybody and could stublish myself at the same time as a singer and a teacher thus a youtuber.
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. It was a godsend to a question. I’ve been asking for the past few days. Perfect. I will move forward and continually placed this into practice. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Narrative Identity is a powerful resource for making life changes. We can all reflect on our self-talk and make changes if needed. Negative self talk can become a habit and we firstly need awareness to change it...
Thank you! Your words feel like those of an elder sister who has experienced life and now guides her younger siblings in navigating it. (Though you might actually be younger than me😃.)
This video is exactly what I needed to see at this time. I was dwelling in a frustrated and contaminated mindset due to a challenge at work. While I have learned to pivot and see things differently, this really hit home and guided me to fully accept, rewrite and move forward. Thank you so much.
This video is like a treasure for every person who is on the path of self improvement. Changing the narrative can really redefine our whole life and how we perceive it. Shadè you are amazing.
I must say that after watching much of your practical advice I just got some results. I am a retired Physics professor and always have too many ideas (scientific) to report to Journals and I feel that I have very little time left on this planet. I always used and still do multitask and write about 5 different papers at once. When I concentrate on one to complete sometimes something comes up in the journals that make my priorities change. But I get things done but when one paper is published I immediately start the next one. Sometimes I get 10 different articles in the press. I don't feel the joy of getting published. From now on I will reward myself and enjoy once a project is completed. Basically, I always felt that if I do not get the ideas before too long, nobody ever will. THANK YOU.
This is exactly what i was needed this time ... I was feeling so low .. thinking I'm the most toxic person and i hurt everyone and want to relive everything to make things right ... but that's not how things work ... i can't relive but surely can rewrite my story in my head.... and use that for my growth ... I've learned alot and should feel take that as a win ... can't relate more to this ... Thank you for making my mind simpler an thoughtful
Shade Zahrai, I was totally stucked before I start listening you. I was thinking why these things are happening with me? Why I have been through this? But, when I started to listen you now I am feeling more confident, back to track and progressing alhmdulilah. More power to you
I carry the attitude of gratitude with me every day the past is just a story we tell ourselves rarely do we think of the power we hold for ourselves as authors and narrator ❤
Beautifully conceptualized.... Ultimately it is "interpretation" That matters..... This video could be life changing for many... Big thanks to you for helping contaminated lives .... 👍
It’s me.. I have everything a person can think of. I am smart , confident n technical strong n maintain good working relationships but complaint alot. Blame my husband of every hardwork I have to do. I got a great idea from this video 🥰🥰 My husband only shared this video with me
Your tone of narrating story is so powerful and so touching that anyone once watch your videos will for it. ..thank you for being so kind for making such a wonderful videos and helping people enriching the experience to live their life
Thanks for the lovely advice! You explain like a life teacher. It's not how challenging our situations are, it's how we learn from it even if something one feels it's not upto the mark. I tend to perceive everything as negative because I try everything to do as perfect as possible, when that does not happen, I feel that others are better, I am not suitable for this. I should perceive it as a learning experience.
You are simply fabulous. I think you prepare a lot before you appear on the camera. If it is just spontaneous, just can't believe! Your every word in this and other few, i watched, are treasures for self improvement. Hats off to you! May God bless you!
A VERY well thought-out and structured episode on changing the stories we tell ourselves to change our lives. I deeply believe in this for quite some time. This is incredibly valuable for people. Thank you for sharing and helping people change their lives for the better, Shadé Zahrai!
Shade you are truly changing Lives,No Words... Thank you from the Core of My Heart Your All Videos are Commendable & Thoughtful! Lots of Love & Keep up the Good Work!!!
spot on, and more importantly it's timely for me! this differs constructive thinking, that allows further growth, from positive thinking, that tends to ignore what happens. many thanks Shadé
I grew so much from my pain, it is insane and I developed great stability over the deacdes. Since trauma keeps happening to me it now gets harder and harder to again and again seek appreciation or meaning in there. I think the great trap I fell into is that I assumed to find a better future if I only remain strong, learn, grow and find appreciation for all the hardship of the past. But the future may be even worse. Life obvously isn´t here to be better or to be improve. It is only for the experience.
Aaaah, ummm. Hmm 🤔. Well, without seeming too dramatic or grandiose, I feel that this video gave me what I needed the most and at just the right time; 🙏🏽…
Your videos really work as booster dose to recycle my negative vibes into positive ones. You are blessed with immense knowledge and you keep sharing your thoughts so beautifully with us that one just keep longing for more to come .
I feel so previliged to find you. The precision in your presentation is awesome. Stay blessed for everything you do for unlifting us. Love you!❣️"The way we communicate with ourselves and others determine the quality of our life" Tony Robins, Unlimited Power
Shadé, what a great sharing you gave to us. Yes, it's right, what we narrate ourselves is important, it shapes our minds, being more positive, happy or depressed. Thanks for ur sharing.
Thanks for sharing life changing vidoes to make our lifes happier and better if we also take our responsibility. It is so blessing having a amazing sister like you, Zahrai.
Very Nice. I have slight different view. 1 . Meditate 2. Have less desires 3 Have more clarity about yourself (who you truly are ) and your world around you.
dear shade, thanks for your super useful contents. I don't know if you have a persian background or not since I see a persian name. but if you know about adversities we Iranians are dealing with in a dictatorship society, you definetely find it they leaded us to become a sad fighter in the road to growth.
TH-cam AI algorithm is working so great. Its showing the right content to me, and shade sister you are awesome always. I will write Sorry rewrite my story now ❤
I really appreciate your content Shade, you really did a great job by not only motivating people like me but, you also counsel and telling the meaning of live a happy life. Living Krishna you are❤️🙏
Whenever I feel like my life is punishing me, I just try to think of myself in comparison to other victims and I see how lucky I really am. I haven’t watched my children starve to death, I don’t have to walk a mile for clean water and I haven’t been forced into a refugee camp. Things could always be MUCH worse and somehow reminding myself that other people have much more challenging issues everyday helps me remain grateful.
For those who don't believe it is possible, my life experience is testament that this works. My whole childhood was traumatic. I suffered every kind of abuse, my parents divorced, my siblings split up & I & my younger brother lived with our grandma. I lived yearning for my mom, was sexually,physically, verbally abused, witnessed my aunt beaten to a pulp, constant violence & toxicity around me, distrust, fear, silent anger & a longing to end it all, while the family showed a facade of good christian community role models. It wasn’t easy, Im 48 and still healing, but I've flipped the narrative and I love with an open heart and attract good things & good people. My past does not define my worth. Other people's actions do not define who I am. Life is beautiful and magical.
My take: The story we tell/narrate about ourselves of the past define our perspective on life itself. Choose to remember and narrate positive incidents of yourself and others connected with you . Thank you lady
It is been an absolute pleasure having people like you with all this value.Thank you for the immense effort you put into this work.
You are absolutely killing it and in top of that you give what really we want as individuals to understand and reshape our thinking.
Thank you Khalid, we're so glad that the content is of value!
Dr Joe Dispenza says- your personal reality eventually becomes your personality. It the what you experience, but the how you frame it and narrative you create. I have found this to be true
I was very toxic, till I began to listen to helpful individuals like you.
It's funny, we like to place ourselves as a victim,some times we do it to self or led ourselves into that very predicament and begin the stories.
We all have had, failure, trauma, set backs. Instead of stepping back look from another set of eyes and beautiful mind.
Thank you! This is exactly what I needed to hear. What was holding me back from believing I was worth more...everything. Re-write, re-frame and the future is renewed!
Thank you Shade! Your assistance to the mental health of this world is truly the work of a light being!
I needed this today! Exactly what my husband and I were discussing. I complain, compare, negative, beat myself up, play victim, no purpose. I want to stop. I want to just be happy!
Wow so many new notions and technical words.
I used to think I am a word warrior, but after listening to this, I have to start learning my vocabulary from scratch.
I will take this lesson and spread it around me.
Lady you are proving again that we never stop learning.
Thank you.
Yeah,I am the same way.I have a lot of pain in my left hip.
Your videos are becoming so addictive. I listen to them everyday before going to bed and every morning once I wake up. This is more than something motivational. Your contents are awesome. You are a guiding stars for women like us out there. Thank you so much Shade 💓
I am happy 100% with my life, though I don't have enough success to tell about, still I feel I didn’t do anything wrong to anybody in this world and could love everybody and could stublish myself at the same time as a singer and a teacher thus a youtuber.
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. It was a godsend to a question. I’ve been asking for the past few days. Perfect. I will move forward and continually placed this into practice. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
I love these serendipitous moments. Thank you for sharing and delighted this little video was of some small service.
Narrative Identity is a powerful resource for making life changes. We can all reflect on our self-talk and make changes if needed. Negative self talk can become a habit and we firstly need awareness to change it...
I am grateful for these nine minutes that I spend on this video. Ty Shade
Thank you! Your words feel like those of an elder sister who has experienced life and now guides her younger siblings in navigating it. (Though you might actually be younger than me😃.)
This video is exactly what I needed to see at this time. I was dwelling in a frustrated and contaminated mindset due to a challenge at work. While I have learned to pivot and see things differently, this really hit home and guided me to fully accept, rewrite and move forward. Thank you so much.
Glad it was helpful and timley!
Shade you are a super star.
Thank you Shade. This is of high value to me on a professional identity crisis.
I'm going on holiday and I'll enjoy doing these exercises ❤
Super Useful Guidelines for the office.. real behavioral science ... Thank you from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤
This video is like a treasure for every person who is on the path of self improvement. Changing the narrative can really redefine our whole life and how we perceive it. Shadè you are amazing.
Good one ma'am 👍🏻
I came across this concept for the first time.
Going through a transition right now. This comes at a right time…♥️❤️♥️
Great teaching !!! ❤
I voted the most important person in TH-cam right now is this iron young lady kudos my mentor and all the very best
It really is about looking outside yourself, seeing it from a different angle and learning from it. It really can be an awakening imho
Thanks Shade' - much appreciation from South Africa and Zimbabwe
You're welcome Jika. Beautiful part of the world!
I must say that after watching much of your practical advice I just got some results. I am a retired Physics professor and always have too many ideas (scientific) to report to Journals and I feel that I have very little time left on this planet. I always used and still do multitask and write about 5 different papers at once. When I concentrate on one to complete sometimes something comes up in the journals that make my priorities change. But I get things done but when one paper is published I immediately start the next one. Sometimes I get 10 different articles in the press. I don't feel the joy of getting published. From now on I will reward myself and enjoy once a project is completed. Basically, I always felt that if I do not get the ideas before too long, nobody ever will. THANK YOU.
This is exactly what i was needed this time ... I was feeling so low .. thinking I'm the most toxic person and i hurt everyone and want to relive everything to make things right ... but that's not how things work ... i can't relive but surely can rewrite my story in my head.... and use that for my growth ... I've learned alot and should feel take that as a win ... can't relate more to this ... Thank you for making my mind simpler an thoughtful
I coped with my severe trauma the same way as you explained. And it transformed my thinking.
Shade Zahrai, I was totally stucked before I start listening you. I was thinking why these things are happening with me? Why I have been through this? But, when I started to listen you now I am feeling more confident, back to track and progressing alhmdulilah. More power to you
Very nice and useful.
I carry the attitude of gratitude with me every day the past is just a story we tell ourselves rarely do we think of the power we hold for ourselves as authors and narrator ❤
Beautifully conceptualized.... Ultimately it is "interpretation" That matters..... This video could be life changing for many... Big thanks to you for helping contaminated lives .... 👍
Couldn't agree more!
Exactly
Thank you, Shadé! Very, very helpful. May the light you share always bless you!
You are so welcome Ana! Thank you for the kind words. 🙏🏽
Incredible❤❤
Thoughtful video
Helpful advice considering that most go through real traumatic ups and downs. Stay Motivated Shad`e
Thank you so much for this video. I feel like this is God’s touch for me to rewrite my story for the better. Thank you so much!!! ❤❤❤
Really good one Shade!
A potentially painful concept, beautifully and gently delivered. Thank you 🙏
AMAZING!🤩
It’s me.. I have everything a person can think of. I am smart , confident n technical strong n maintain good working relationships but complaint alot. Blame my husband of every hardwork I have to do. I got a great idea from this video 🥰🥰
My husband only shared this video with me
I am so messed up and screwed up my life. I can’t let go and move on. It just leads to more pain and suffering.
@@alexfinn7989 she is giving you a tremendous gift on how to move forward. Is your responsibility to accept this gift and do something with it?
Your tone of narrating story is so powerful and so touching that anyone once watch your videos will for it. ..thank you for being so kind for making such a wonderful videos and helping people enriching the experience to live their life
Thanks for the lovely advice! You explain like a life teacher. It's not how challenging our situations are, it's how we learn from it even if something one feels it's not upto the mark. I tend to perceive everything as negative because I try everything to do as perfect as possible, when that does not happen, I feel that others are better, I am not suitable for this. I should perceive it as a learning experience.
You are simply fabulous. I think you prepare a lot before you appear on the camera. If it is just spontaneous, just can't believe! Your every word in this and other few, i watched, are treasures for self improvement. Hats off to you! May God bless you!
A VERY well thought-out and structured episode on changing the stories we tell ourselves to change our lives. I deeply believe in this for quite some time.
This is incredibly valuable for people. Thank you for sharing and helping people change their lives for the better, Shadé Zahrai!
Concept is crafted in another level... It's opportunity to re write our story and to have spark to our perspective... Simply superb
Never thought a nine minute video can deliver that Enormous amount of value👏👏🙌🙌..
keep this spirit straight up to sky and thanks a lot🙏 namaste
Great video! 😊
Thank you, great concept... adding an example would have been nice...👍
Really This woman is inspiring to me and never forget seeing her video
Useful ❤
Shade you are truly changing Lives,No Words...
Thank you from the Core of My Heart
Your All Videos are Commendable & Thoughtful!
Lots of Love & Keep up the Good Work!!!
Thank you for this important information.
Taking lessons from past experiences and applying them in order to grow and develop and prosper .
spot on, and more importantly it's timely for me! this differs constructive thinking, that allows further growth, from positive thinking, that tends to ignore what happens. many thanks Shadé
I have post traumatic growth, It's craze how I am attracted to pain. this video helped me understand , Thank You
Fam, I am writing my story to a winning narrative to uplift many. Thanks Shade
Oh I love this!!!🥰🙏🏽
I really have an interesting when i see your videos , you are very inspiration person .
Glad to hear you're getting value from them!
Miss you are outstanding. Thanks for this work. Please! Pray for Us.
Brilliant Insight Shade Zahari...God Bles You... Thank You Shade...
Amazing 😍
Very beautifully explained. I have heard this so many times from others. Haven't understood so deeply earlier. Grateful to you.
this video made me breath thank you💙
Thanks for this. I am writing these question on my notebook and trying to evaluate and re-author my narrative.
Hello I,am learning English and I love your channel So, one day I wanna go to TED Talk and talk my story to everyone
I grew so much from my pain, it is insane and I developed great stability over the deacdes. Since trauma keeps happening to me it now gets harder and harder to again and again seek appreciation or meaning in there. I think the great trap I fell into is that I assumed to find a better future if I only remain strong, learn, grow and find appreciation for all the hardship of the past. But the future may be even worse. Life obvously isn´t here to be better or to be improve. It is only for the experience.
Kya baata hai, 👍 👌 👍 👌 👍 👌 👍 great video explain well every time thanku 🙏
I love it.
Aaaah, ummm. Hmm 🤔. Well, without seeming too dramatic or grandiose, I feel that this video gave me what I needed the most and at just the right time; 🙏🏽…
Your videos really work as booster dose to recycle my negative vibes into positive ones. You are blessed with immense knowledge and you keep sharing your thoughts so beautifully with us that one just keep longing for more to come .
Super...!
I feel so previliged to find you. The precision in your presentation is awesome. Stay blessed for everything you do for unlifting us. Love you!❣️"The way we communicate with ourselves and others determine the quality of our life" Tony Robins, Unlimited Power
Nice useful video.
Shade, you are a wonderful person and doing a wonderful job! Thank you so much for the video! Watching you is a therapy.
Thank you! So glad that these videos are helpful. 😊
great video!
Your contribution to our lives is really great.Hope you will meet Sadguru and grow even higher🙏
It's been a pleasure listening to all that you have to teach us ... You make us learn from our own experience, a whole new perspective... Thanks a ton
Great motivational and challeng provoking session.thanks for giving new dimensions....Ali from Pakistan.
Thank you dear Shade for this amazing session! Lots to learn from this short yet highly impactful session! Thanks again.
Shadé, what a great sharing you gave to us. Yes, it's right, what we narrate ourselves is important, it shapes our minds, being more positive, happy or depressed. Thanks for ur sharing.
Thanks for sharing life changing vidoes to make our lifes happier and better if we also take our responsibility. It is so blessing having a amazing sister like you, Zahrai.
WHEN YOUR BODY, MIND, SOUL SINK WITH ONE ANOTHER AND SPEAK ONE LANGUAGE. MAGIC STARTS.
Taking ownership is one thing I am practicing and striving to work on it tenaciously...
Excellent addition of lots of great advices
Superb.
I really needed to listen to this again and again to remember to be postive and attract positivity..thank you 🙏
You nailed it. Thank you for sharing. Indebted to you for your clarity.
This channel has changed my life!
This world needs a women like you to encourage others. 👌✌️
Shade' voice is everything.
Such a wonderful video. We need more people like you on this earth seriously. Please keep posting more. God bless.
I feel this is how Politicians and film actors tweak their story. I now get it that this is like working on my own PR for myself.
Very Nice. I have slight different view. 1 . Meditate 2. Have less desires 3 Have more clarity about yourself (who you truly are ) and your world around you.
dear shade, thanks for your super useful contents. I don't know if you have a persian background or not since I see a persian name. but if you know about adversities we Iranians are dealing with in a dictatorship society, you definetely find it they leaded us to become a sad fighter in the road to growth.
Thanks mam, to make all of us author of our life.
I was having trouble rewriting my story and your video helped me a lot. You helped to focus on how to do it correctly. Thank you❤
I love and admire your thoughts, ma'am.
TH-cam AI algorithm is working so great. Its showing the right content to me, and shade sister you are awesome always. I will write Sorry rewrite my story now ❤
I really appreciate your content Shade, you really did a great job by not only motivating people like me but, you also counsel and telling the meaning of live a happy life.
Living Krishna you are❤️🙏