A friend died last week. Suicide + chronic illness. Some thoughts.
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ส.ค. 2024
- Last week a friend died by suicide. The last message I received from them is the reason for this video. This is my effort at breaking the stigma. Opening a dialogue.
If you're comfortable share your chronic illness and struggles with the community in the comments below. I don't think I realized the connection until I received their message.
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The head injuries and IBS-S for 50 years almost killed me with brain inflammation. What was more dangerous was the stigma from other people that told me to...... " pull my socks up !! "
So, lol, I told those same two people that I thought they were brilliant so I told them that I had recently started telling people , I encountered with Cancer to........." PULL THIER SOCKS UP !! "
" NO !! , they said in a panic...... those people ........are really sick ! "
Sending all the love. I'm sorry.
So sorry for your loss 😢. I'm not chronically sick (disregarding PTSD), but I am a chronical artist/author, and as you (@BarrettLaurie) probably has noticed it often goes along with lack of recognition for one’s work, (chronically/comically) low income, stress, depression and suicides. Although not by suicide, all the three friends and dear colleagues of mine who recently died within one and a half month were often severely depressed (over their miserable situation) - first, on the day before Christmas, a 70-year old Danish close friend and painter passed away, then on January 10th my friend the US author Terry Bisson attended the big afterlife Sci-fi convention (Aftercon), and finally on February 2nd my ‘mentor’ and proofreader since 1999, the British author Christopher Priest, put his last full stop. And guess who they gave the task of writing two of the Danish language obituaries, me, who loathe writing obituaries, having written too many on dead artist friends over the years (but if I hadn’t written them, no one else would have). What I can say about it may sound as mere clichées: Don’t let adversity pull you down. Don’t blame yourself for mistakes, for what you couldn’t have known or couldn’t have prevented. Don’t hate anyone for leaving you or your dear ones (alone), not even if they commit atrocities to you. Leave them for the future to blame if they wish, or no blame at all, but don’t behave like them. Let them fade away in your shadow by being true to, caring for and loving yourself, shine and pour your honesty, care and love whereever you go, into your art, other people, the planet and the rest of the universe. Because it’s undeniable: You may feel and think that you are alone, but you are not! Our dearly departed are neither in speeches nor obituaries, they are in our hearts, just as we were in their hearts before. Love is truth and truth is strength.
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Thank you for sticking around and still fighting for your happiness.
And at the same time, I’m sorry you lost someone close and dear to you. I hope everyone’s heart heals.
I'm so sorry for your loss 😢❤
My mother spoke about the mental state of having a chronic pain illness. She also has bipolar-mania, which in itself can have depression and crashes. Then, to add her multiple pain illnesses, it's a lot. I'm glad you talked about this.
Thanks friend. I can’t wait for her content. 💜❤️🫶🏻
I'm so sorry for your loss, and for your friends mum too. Gentle hugs from someone who's been there too.
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Barrett I am so very sorry for your loss and am keeping the family in my prayers 🙏🏾🙏🏾😔 You already know some of the struggles I've had with the pain, with the depression, all of it and I'm so glad that you talked about this and did this video. So many people suffer and think that they are alone in their suffering. Sending you my love and know that I'm here for you whenever you need me. Love you friend ❤❤
Thank you for being so open. Your journey has been so informative for so many of us. Thank you again for being that open. 💜❤️💜🫶🏻
I am sorry for your loss. I am pretty quiet here on YT, but I do deal with some chronic pain and a lot of issues with depression. I understand the struggles with ideation and just feeling low and it is and always will be a struggle. Things like this are helpful to everyone. Support is necessary and talking about it needs to be done more. You're in my thoughts.
Thank you for this. I have lots of tough days where the depression monster wins and I let my mind run to some scary corners of my mind. But all in all, I always strive to do better tomorrow. That’s always and forever my goal.
If you ever need an ear, I’m a DM away. 💜
Wow man sorry for what you're going through.
Depression monster is one I have not heard before but accurate. Take care.
Thank you. And it is a monster. But one we can all beat. 🫶🏻
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So sorry for your loss ❤❤❤
Thank you so much. It was a tough thing. 🫶🏻
I'm sorry for your loss. I have had these really tough days lately. I always struggle with this in flare. I agree very normal.
I hope you're taking some time off to regroup. A loss like that is hard. Glad you're talking to someone. ❤🩹
@Emmie816 it is normal. Now we just need to normalize the talking about it part. 💜🫶🏻
I'm so so sorry for your loss Barrett but this made me decide to tell carer/best friend what's going on in my head and what I'm feeling right now. The depression monster is very much a beast, and asking for help is hard but I know I have support and I can say something. Thinking of you ❤
@JoeyPaulOnline I’m glad. We all have these moments, but they are compounded by chronic conditions. Be gentle with yourself. 🫶🏻
I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you and your friend's family so much love.❤ Unfortunately, I understand this feeling all too well. At the time, I didn't even realize my thoughts were suicidal. I had just given up and was ready to let my disease win. I didn't care anymore. The pain was too great and everything felt too hopeless and I felt like no one could understand what I was going through. Thankfully, I am in a better place now, and I will always be thankful to my cousin for noticing my struggle. And I'm so grateful for you and that you're in my inner circle. Know that I'm here if you ever need me.
Thank you so much for sharing this. This perfectly sums up how I was feeling. Hopeless, trapped, distraught. It wasn’t about thinking I was struggling with suicidal ideation and more about letting the disease win. Perfect analogy.
Sorry for the loss of your friend. 😢. 🙏 ❤. And i am sorry for your depression and thank you for sharing this important and informstive messsage. I have 2 chronic illnesses, and though i have never had suicidal ideations, however it gets lonely when family and friends wont talk with me about it. Hang in there Barret. 🙏.
Thanks Karen. I’m on the other side of the sadness now. Working through grief. Most of us with chronic illnesses have faced the darkness and thankfully make it out the other side. 💜🫶🏻💯
This is so sad, I am extremely sorry for your loss Barrett. I relate to several areas - namely the death a friend in sudden an unexpected circumstances (Dan ❤) this year, and because I found myself going through a similar dark path during a mental health episode in 2016 where I honestly thought suicide was a viable way out. Luckily I wasn't able to do anything so drastic and got help (including a course of CBT which I found extremely helpful through some more sadness in the years to follow) which led to a positive outcome. I can't relate to the chronic illness side of this but thank you for making this video at this time with some important information. Talking it out can really help.
Also: "Shitty on a Good Day" would make a great series title for these vlogs 😂
I’m glad you were able to find your way out with the right tools. I wish there was a better way to get the message about those tools and resources to those in the most need.
For the record I’m so glad you hung in. Where would I be without Richard chaos and Harvester updates?!?
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There are support groups .
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I sent you a message on instagram. I hope you're ok friend. 💝 I'm so sorry sweetheart.
I’ll be sure to check this week while on vacation and unplugging. 🫶🏻
Enjoy your time off @@BarrettLaurie Be well friend and be safe.
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Thanks Dee. 🫶🏻
If In Australia you can call for help at Lifeline Crisis Line - 131114
Thank you for sharing this Suey! 💜❤️💜🫶🏻
Of course!! there are many that I have had contact with but this is the most commonly used by the most people@@BarrettLaurie there are industry specific ones also. Just get help from someone if you need it! there is nothing to be embarrassed about. Mental Health in disability is a very real thing.
I am sorry for your loss Barrett. I know that it often brings back some troubling thoughts for you also. So take care of yourself dot. remember the old adage you have to put your own oxygen mask on before you help others x
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