Narcissist Has No Friends
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ส.ค. 2010
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Narcissists can't empathise or love and, therefore, have no friends. The narcissist is one track minded. He is interested in securing Narcissistic Supply from Narcissistic Supply Sources. He is not interested in people as such. He is incapable of empathising, is a solipsist, and recognises only himself as human. To the narcissist, all others are three dimensional cartoons, tools and instruments in the tedious and Sisyphean task of generating and consuming Narcissistic Supply. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 2 DVDs with 12 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: www.narcissistic-abuse.com/the...)
I have no friends because I got rid of all the narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths, bullies, users, abusers, alcoholics, and drug drug addicts from my life, and they are not getting back in.
Same
Same ! I have no friends because of narcissists ,and psychopaths ,users , ..
I really want to have a healthy relationships ! I can't deal with them anymore ! They wasted my time ! My patience , my energy ! My good vibes !! I really ends with no friends no job no real life !!! They drained my life ! And I realized that very clear lately and I'm trying to find a way to go sooo far from the environment because they are not just strangers but especially family members !!!! I have to find a job to cut this attachment material and moral attchmnt !! I m so tired really ! I became soo lazy and so tired !! I m not like that usually !! I was so energetic and positive and healthy !! I look at my self now in those 3 years I feel depression and dessapointmnt !
Because of toxic people y will find yourself in big trouble within yourself and others !!
Wish I can find the way to freedom 🙏
aspalathos we can blame others for ower problm if they are toxic because people like narsassist or syckho in general can destroy ower life they can and they want cause pain ! But we are the responsible of the solution ! We have to pick wisely friends cause not everyone can be a friend !
We have to learn how to say no without feeling guilty ! Empathy too it a a real problm ! We found ourselves in a ralationship with a sychko or narcissist or users because of that ! Empathy it s gift from Allah but we have to know how express it exactly !
Debra Johnson same!
Me, too! It is so awesome to be free of abusers. It took 5 years, lots of hard work and confrontations , but they are all gone . I can barely believe it, I am 65. It is the first time no one was abusing me since I was a baby . Just lovely.
They can't have friends because real friendship requires being vulnerable and building intimacy with others. They keep people at a distance.
Daughter of The Most High Elohim one of my favorite friends online this week had it with me a threading with 8 messages from him I just cried it’s not fair at all I was nice to him and all I get in return was blocked an he was going to tell my mom an dad if I didn’t stop
I keep people at a distance ! That means I m narcissist ?? I don t think so !!! It can be the opposite ! When smone get hurts or treated bad from toxic people he will become afraid and without energy or patience ! They cause him depression ! He can t feel ok again fast !
@@arijarij9571 That's different. You were hurt by people because you were too trusting or kind so you need to work on your boundaries and self protection. A narcissist can't open up like that. They are a fake friend. In public they pretend but when they come home you can see how exhausting it is and how hollow their soul is. I know... I live with one for 46 years and I could see the physical transformation on the face as soon as the narcissist came home.
@@kristijester4327 Never chase people. Love yourself and learn to be enough for yourself.
I see this
They have no friends, they have supply objects, friends are tools. Their friends are to them just a toolbox with tools that are useful to the narcissist. They live superficially. They are only external, their life is external. They are empty vases with a charming exterior. Love from Amsterdam 🌷
Hi amsterdam
My narc has many "friends", yet many of them acted like they barely knew the narc when I met them. I think the narc has a profoundly different definition of "friend" and "friendship".
...to the point of delusion.
Superficial
Same. Mine always had a slew of people he was associated with but very few knew him outside of gaming
I think they can fool some people though. Some of them can be "funny" and "charming" in small doses ... and as long as people don't know them well enough to see their dark side.
+K T Narcissists don't really want friends, because that requires work. What they really want are fans, followers and worshipers. A narcissist would rather impress a stranger, than be loved by his own family. Narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths are all around us; they are our brothers, sisters, parents, relatives, friends, bosses, colleagues and other people around us. There are so many narcissists around us. Narcissists are machines and I can't even look at them as people. They are machines because they are only out for themselves and they wil never, ever stop. They have no empathy. They have no remorse. They have no reasoning skills. All they have is "I want my way... period." A narcissist is a lying snake in the grass. The psychopath is a wolf in sheep's clothing. Sometimes you just have to accept that some people are shitty humans and stop trying to see the good that isn't there.
If someone treats you like shit, just remember that there is something wrong with them, not you. Normal people don't go around destroying other human beings.
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They demand attention, have no empathy; yet they are most personable, They use their children as tools; for blame, validation and manipulation. Often, playing one against the other. When their children remove themselves, their partners or next victim suffer hell on earth, thinking everything that happens is all their fault. Narcissists usually die alone.
All of this, true!
Oh this is pleasing to hear,as me and my siblings all aged 42,39,38 broke free over a year ago..we are all happy people now...and the "dying alone thing" would be our greatest wish.😊
Its sad that these people will never ever experience true love with the opposite sex . They walk the earth like terminators , no empathy no love no nothing just to find there next fix ( supply )
And they think they have it better then people that have love and emotion , empathy . Love is the greatest emotion in our universe , sadly these people don't have it . They are good at mimicking love , and empathy , but they can't truly feel it through their body mind and soul .
Because often they are 2-faced. They are your true friend, humble, kind, compassionate AND they are also a narcissist. So it is hard to figure them out.
I would say they have superficial friendships. The ones I have known seem to like negative energy, wanting to create drama.
I don’t get how some people were married up to 40 years to a narc and never got the balls to leave their sorry ass’. I mean, how do you even function properly by getting hurt und treated like garbage for so many years. Maybe I am not an “empath”, but victims have to take responsibility too.
fun for a limited time, nauseating in the long run... sounds like a perfect description
"The Narcissist is a human rollercoaster, fun for a limited time, nauseating in the long run." This is why, forgetting that the idealization period will not last is the empaths/codependents biggest mistake. It is pointless & masochistic to endure the pain of this cycle. Better to just create a REAL LIFE for yourself, based on peace, joy and consistency as well as new experiences to delight You.
In my experience they seem to collect "friends" like trophys, the.more they have to gloat over you so therefore you must be the bad one xxx
My first thought on this is, how can a Narcissist have real friends when they themselves are not being their true selves.. Eventually everyone will figure it out.. Se once I find out that the person has a Narcissistic personality, I observe them, and after that I leave them alone..
My ex said he didnt want friends because they always wanted something from him. He would never help anyone.
Yes, spot on... they choose their 'friends' and spouse for a specific purpose/benefit...I know alot of npds who like having physically or mentally ill spouse/friends or less educated ones to use them and devalue them. Whilst initially appearing generous and helpful, ultimately the relationship becomes hostile, contemptuous and abusive. Eventually no one can handle their hostility. They end up alone and friendless or surrounded by worn out family that are financially dependent on them
I believe that not having friends or having very few ones doesn't make one a narc. This is kind of a paradox, cuz my ex is a total psychopathic narc and he has a lot of "friends." He wears this great façade of being such a caring concerned friend when he's not. On the other hand, I have very few good friends, and still, I keep my distance cuz I've gotten hurt badly in the past by people I trusted n thought were my best "friends." I'm so traumatized that now I have major trust issues and that keeps me from opening up too much to others.
Totally agree. I could have written that myself as that is exactly my life and experiences.
Ana Lozada yer, he may have alot of friends but they may all be kept at arms length.
Ana Lozada for me it will take time for me to open up to someone I would be careful what I confide in two people I would only speak to my family about certain things cuz truly no one could help you with certain issues and they would not understand what you had been through in your personal life I have wisen up on certain issues when running into a new acquaintance they will have to earn my trust and all in the meantime I will be listening to every word that comes out of their mouth very carefully and I will be a very good listener but it will not come easy for me to trust anyone
I totally understand your post. I have few friends, but not because I don't want them. I do. But I have learned from childhood that there are many mean people in this world. So, I am torn between my desire for more true friends and the fact that I have few close friends. But I have learned one thing, better one or two friends, who love you for who you really are, then a lot of people who claim they have your back, when they really don't.
Ah thats so true, l feel the same way, its so confusing learning about this stuff, you really do start to question yourself xxx
Sounds like my dad. No friends, no hobbies, no interest but watching TV and bitching at my mom and when I talk to him he denies reality and real life trolls me until I get angry then he wants to tell me I am crazy.
When intimately involved with a narc ... only uttered a word only if there was a need or request ... no idle conversation ... only spoke to sig other if there was a need and only a need ... beverage, food, ride, sex, have you seen ___ PERIOD
I feel like that speech should go into the hall of fame of great moments in psychology.
My mom has many friends although she will publicly humiliate them, she will also be there for them in times of duress but inconsistently. If she would rather do something else, she'll go do that. She is very "flaky". How the heck do people continue to be a friend to her is mind blowing.
You have amazing information. As bad as being married to a narcissist is, imagine what its like to divorce them when there are children involved. It's a complete nightmare as they try to charm everyone involved and make you look like the psycho. I wouldn't wish this on an enemy, if I had one.
@DropDeadCouture They have many friends, but only on a superficial level...they are the kind of people who 'friend' strangers on Facebook, so they can have 1,000 so-called 'friends' they never talk to.
Also, watch carefully. many of them badmouth their friends the MOMENT they are out of earshot. They may have friends, but they are a friend to no one. People are instruments to be used to achieve a narcissists' goals.
I have no friends and choose to not build any relationships ever again.
Sometimes i wish i had someone to hug me. It would be so wonderful. And healing. But then i remember how everything ended and how every relationship ends and im broken afterwards to a point of not wanting to be alive again.
I do wonder if i just turned narcissistic because of it. I sometimes think im a covert narcissist because i admit having had rage outburts and not caring for people on the past.
It was mostly because i could not handle the percieved disrespect and percieved abuse of my privacy snd boundaries and identity in the past.
Im still private and reactive if anyone wants to get to know me.
It dont understand why. I hope that i will have an epiphany someday about why i am like this and what happened to me.
My childhood was indeed something to be talked about in therapy. Which i did for almost ten years on and off and with many many therapists and methods. From spiritual to psychoanalysis and everything else.
Did not work. Only made it worse.
Now i choose to trust myself and embrace my „narcissism“ and allow myself to hate and not want to be around anyone.
Its hard because i have to go to work and im exhausted after being around people and having to interact with them.
I dont want to interact with anyone.
Jesus christ im so tired.
This series has been SO HELPFUL, and comforting too. My mother was a nightmare narcissist, and since her death '07, I feel like I've finally been released from a POW camp after nearly 50 years of Hell on Earth. I feel as though I need to go through some sort of deprogramming, like survivors of cults or something. As a child, my survival depended on humoring these monster-narcissists "parents", and my sister seems to be the same way. I feel very alone while trying to understand all this.
I was very relieved when my narcissistic father died. I felt guilt but I no contacted him for 35 years. All those years I spent trying to walk through the minefields that he so artfully created, I just couldn’t do it anymore.
The same.
He supports his friends but he is jealous of them. He got upset when one had a photo shoot and didn't include him. He started speaking badly about the friend and he wanted to design his own t-shirt to go to this friend event. He kept asking his brother to help him come up with a design and he was upset when he couldn't get it done
Nauseating - that is so true. Eventually, once the novelty wears off, they make you sick with their incessant pompous and hollow self-aggrandisement .
He will claim to make $80k a year, but then fail to pay bills and accuse the wife who makes $15k a year of not helping him out; although she pays daycare, cable, utilities, all groceries, insurance, medical bills, furniture payments, her own gas & fuel maintenance, and credit card
@GuitarKat93 Narcissists are very sad and worried when they lose their sources of narcissistic supply (their fans and admirers).
If you wan’t. to know for sure whether you’re dealing with a narcissist friend, just discard/no contact them for a while and try to watch their social lives. You’ll shockingly soon see a person «just like you» showing up. It’s just supply. They don’t care about you personally. If you go and someone else provides, it’s all fine with them.
So true.My Narc is a family member,lives with me for a year now.Has no friends,resents the friends I have and has driven out my house guests and other friends.He explodes every month over something petty and then retreats to his room and then the silent treatment for weeks .He has discarded various female relationships,the last one was wealthy when she met him,10 years later is almost without resources.He is ill ,seriously ill which is why I agreed to let him stay with me for 6 months.This has turned into a year,he stopped contributing to the expenses and wrote me extensive letter after letter blaming me for everything wrong in his life since teenage hood. He says I should support him because he is ill (he has lots of savings,a part time job and ssdi) and it just proves that all I care about is money.I have to actually evict him thru the courts to get him out and judging by attempts to reason with him to leave,He will probably get a lawyer and fight it.Lesson learned,never,ever,let your guard down with these people!
I did once ...he lied to my children.pretended to like them...
He played me like a violin.said he cud do what he liked .....woman believe any thing ha ha ha he said....the wife Letts him play an lie and hurt children..... She new what he was a didn't care so long as HE didn't leave her....20 years marriage.....HE DID LEAVE.????
My mother who I think had narcissistic tendencies had many loving and loyal friends. Love shown towards outsiders but she was an entirely different person towards us at home. I never understood this divided world.
THEIR PARTNER ARE THEIR ONLY REAL FRIEND, EVERYONE ELSE IS A USABLE OBJECT! WELL,TO THEM WE'RE ALL USABLE OBJECTS, WE BELIEVED DIFFERENT.
Appsolutly spot on...wife true friend....punch bag...provider
they have LOTS of friends. on my former workplace we had one. EVERYONE (included the victims) liked him. because i was new there i was able to see things from a different perspective. he abused the people around him by making them do stupid things and humiliate them. they folloved him like he was jesus. i didnt, and started to feel his extreme rage against me. he humiliated me in front of my friends, and eventually turned them against me. thats when i quit my job. i simply couldnt win!
Great video! You outdid yourself. You nailed it. Once they loose their supply...they move on to the next victim.
i was married to a narc for about 3 years. 2 years in, he started to devalue me by criticizing me, talking down to me. i could not figure out why he was behaving that way. we started a business together and soon he was treating our customers like dirt and attempted to cheat them. i decided to dump him. i got a lawyer and divorced him before he knew what hit him! i got the last laugh on him. i took away my income and sex, which was the "supply" i had provided.....
gothicprincess52 you did well ...perfect
My N mom and ex are actually social butterflies, but they don't see anyone on a regular basis. Maybe more normal for a man though to not pal-around with anyone a lot.. My mom gets weird when anyone wants to spend extra time with her and avoids their calls. They are both very charming and charismatic to other people. The mask is strong. ) :
Thank you Mr. Vaknin. My grandfather is just like you described. He seeks to control everyone through his influence and money. Growing up I did not see this side, but when I went to work for him I was "thrown in the lion's den." For so long I was dumbfounded as to why he behaved the way he did towards me. I towed the line and did everything he asked. Yet, he continued...yes...emotionally abusing me. After seeing your videos, it has really illuminated a lot and has assisted in my healing.
i think many of the symptoms of a narcissist are displayed by many people as a consequence of the way we respond to living in these unnatural societys, being pilled up ontop of one another, fear and negativity constantly reported by the media all around us, its no wonder humans become distressed, narcissism I feel is born from a need to protect oneself. From watching these I understand my parents and the relationship I have with my brother.
I actually know a narcissist who appeared to have lots of 'friends' although, when became one of them (not exactly by choice), I later found that most of them, including myself, share unyielding disdain for her, yet continue to associate with her do to the fact that we have to for our job.
"...fun for a limited time..." damn straight
the Narcissist that I work with is a tenured professor and can never lose her job, she humiliates students that she isn't able to exploit free services from or that don't follow her insane syllabus, she talks stink about her colleagues and is constantly trying to find "dirt" on people so she can gossip about them and she brags about how spiritual she is because of all the retreats she's done. She has tried every trick in the narcissist book on me...but I'm getting smarter to her ways!
"The narcissist remains lonely and isolated". Oh, I do hope you are right about that, Mr V.... 🙏
Mine is life and soul.at.work.and abusively quiet at.home
Omg yes!!! Jeckyl and hyde personality
a rattle cuz I am a baby. Needless to say I was really, really upset by his ranting and very cruel words. Also the fact that he meant to hurt me. I recently lost my husband and do not have a lot of experience with men but after this short episode and thanks to your videos I know now that I was lucky to not be around him for long. I mistook all the warning signs and gaslighting as quirks. Not ever again. I can see that my personality enrages a narcissist and I am glad to get away alive.
Wow, Thank you for the information. Now that I recognize all traits of the narcissist and how much I have endured a toxic friendship, it is time to retreat off the relationship, since I can't help this person. I am now waiving my rights to decide to leave and be safe again.
... my father is a NPD and he was chairman on all the voluntary boards, charities and political parties that you can imagine. He was rarely at home... he knew plenty of people in the town where he lived, but none of these people ever came to visit us at home! Just a very lonely person, really....
I have to say it, I loved my late mother dearly, but this video describes her frequent behaviour to a tee!
Mine has lots. But he took away my friends.
i had a friend who has this disorder! oh my God! that sick s*ut turned my life into hell. i really didnt know whats wrong with her until i took abnormal psy as a major requirement course. these people really need help. liars, cheaters, jealous people, weird, seductive behavior all the time even to ur brother, father, even to your husband. so sad they never have real friends because people cant stand them after a while. its amazing how these people make up interesting stories to get attention!
Dr. Vaknin, I find all of the information about narcissists so interesting. It explains why a man I saw off and on for a few months so strange. I can see clearly why it did not take long for him to become abusive. After putting his strange behavior as search items in computer I found out he exhibits almost all the behaviors of a narcissist. He saw me as an aggressive woman when I was being assertive. I was telling him all the time to act nice and laughed at his antics in the beginning that
The ultimate "narcissist" is the one who can chose to not be a narcissist!
I love this example! I never perceived this cartoon in this way.
I have never considered the idea that Rousseau may have been a Narcissist... But when you think about it does fit the character's ideas, beliefs or controversial nature.
After dating one for 2 years I have no more friends.
I was just thinking the same thing. Perfect quote.
Those last words were so the truth
I agree. Intense focus on skill. And there's the violin playing...Asperger, I think so.
So interesting. Thank you for sharing that was amazing.
Hi Sam...thanks for the vid.
Sometimes they have "friends" who do their bidding. When they can use someone--they buddy up to them and provide that "friend" with what he needs or is missing in order to be able to use the person for their own needs. Yes--they won't keep people around they feel threatened by and find ways to rid their life of that person. Knowing a narc for 15+ years and seeing they never had real friends--ever--should have been a tip off. Lucky for the narc there are 7 billion people on this planet--so they can keep cultivating temporary victims as "friends". Useful idiots is what they have around them. If you refuse to be a useful idiot--or are smarter or more successful or even just a better and more moral person--they will crush you when you try to remove yourself from their presence. Divorce is a huge narcissist wound for them and they cannot get over it--even after finding a new victim, they will often keep abusing in their covert methods.
You're describing my grandaunt right now,she's been divorced since 2013 and keeps blowing up her anger especially to me, I wonder why she's like that when in reality she has everything.
You're describing my grandaunt right now,she's been divorced since 2013 and keeps blowing up her anger especially to me, I wonder why she's like that when in reality she has everything.
Very interesting analysis, thanks you.
I am sure my ex was a narcissist. He had no other friends other than me. I was not treated nicely and still stayed friends after he betrayed me. Ten years I kept him in my life and now it is him who has distanced himself with no contact. I have bpd so I find rejection hard. I am so angry with him and myself.
Consider his no contact a blessing. You don't need him in your life. I tried being friends with my ex, it just didn't work. I wont be making that mistake again.
How do you feel today?
thank you for those wise words. i agree fully.
I don't get out cause my narc took my money friends and health
The more a narcissist wallows in how superior it is to be one... the more this friendless thief steals from its host his gift.
The gift is humility, trust & gratefulness. It tells & shows its frightened host how strong and smart you are for agreeing with its cynical arrogance. It surly lies and says the "gift" is corny or for suckers, or for someone not messed up.
No matter how much this thief tries to insure you "your" right, you have to know "you" can chose to no longer respect it.
@4:15...very interesting point. I've seen this exact content play out with a person I once considered a friend. Not just towards myself...towards others that were around him. He used women until they had an objection...then he would disregard them no matter what their feelings...all the while voicing heavily the distorted viewpoint on that person when they weren't around which would later become his exit monolog and dialog with others.
Weird to listen because the more I've educated myself on narcissistic ways after being mentally & spiritually battered by one for 3 years, some of the descriptions are what I've turned INTO as a result. I distance myself from people because of my PTSD from the narc's ways. So there seems to be a fine line in some way but I can't put my finger on it.
When victims become narcissists htp://samvak.tripod.com/faq42.html
The next question is, why do one tend to attract alot of Narcs in their lives? We need to turn the Mirrors on ourselves too. Why do Narcs like us so much? Do we have characteristics that feed them? If so, its time for us to change those behaviors Now...
Yes thats a very good question,id like to know why too..all my life ive attracted these people..i think i know why though really..im a total empath🤣
Narcissists parents always creates a narc magnet for their children.I hope one day there will be a healing radiowave to broadcast and help the narcs to be grounded and aware of others feelings.
My ex narc would message my mother on Facebook asking for prayers when his mother died. I can't believe that he didn't have someone to call and talk to. We only dated for 6 months. I dumped him long before his mother died.
Mine has some long-term friends. Some shorter term friends. Family that talk to him. But, several of these people say that he has burned a certain bridge or can't be trusted anymore. Yet they still talk with him and spend time with him. Help him. Most of these people have money. Most didn't know how he treated me because he acted different with them.
A lot of fake people have many friends because they are people pleasers. I would say that more realistic people have less friends.
The Narc friendzoned me after several months of an awful relationship of lies, deception, triangulation, manipulation, and subtle insults. He tried to keep me around for supply after he had already replaced me before the discard. Once I realised all of this, I told him that I want nothing to do with him.
I love your delivery and the sustained analogy with Holmes and Poirot. On the other hand, you seem to focus on complete narcissists (as opposed to personalities along a continuum). Even Holmes was capable of feeling humility when he makes a mistake (The Adventure of the Yellow Face) and concern over Watson's safety (The Adventure of the Three Garridebs). Although in many other ways he was a stereotyped narcissist, these deviations into the realm of normal behavior are worthy of notice--both in life and literature.
Pathological narcissism is, indeed, a spectrum www.narcissistic-abuse.com/1.html , but even full-blown narcissists can be "altruistic" (samvak.tripod.com/journal81.html) and "giving" (samvak.tripod.com/journal96.html) and "modest" (samvak.tripod.com/faq36.html)
Actually the recent Sherlock series clears it up rather nicely. One of the Scotland Yard detectives calls Holmes a psychopath. He says, "I'm not a psychopath; I'm a high-functioning sociopath. Learn the difference."
I don't know Poirot well enough to say, but I have read all of Doyle's work and seen many televised adaptations. "High-functioning sociopath" is a closer fit than "narcissist": Holmes doesn't care if people don't like him, nor is he attached to a particular image of himself as a narcissist would be.
Brian Steidinger He may have been concerned for the safety of his college because he considered him valuable narcissistic supply, just like you would be concerned for your car being in an accident or your house burning down. Once a narcissist has rained and brainwashed someone, they would have to go through the trouble of finding a replacement and going through the conditioning process all over again,
TandavaArts The terms psychopath and sociopath are often used interchangeably. Remember that a narcissist lies and gaslights people all of the time. If Sherlock is a narcissist, or has an antisocial personality then he was probably gaslighting the person when he made the comment..I am not a psychopath, I am a highly functional sociopath. We are used to assuming that people make statement like these and actually believe what they are saying but he was probably trying to confuse the person he was saying it to...and trying to distract her because she was beginning to see the truth about him.
Annie Mimi Hall The problem then becomes: who is not a narcissist? What is commonly called altruism is based on the alignment of personal and social interests, which is maintained by reciprocity, kinship, reputation building, generating public goods or avoiding sanctions. The other kind of altruism--the completely disinterested, saintly type--is probably also possible, but seems too high a demand, too rarely accomplished, to be the non-pathological altruism.
Interesting. I noticed one person, a narcissist, while completely unashamed (even proud) that he discarded two people who helped him immensely in life and career, had trouble looking into the eyes of those two people.
But yes I do agree they don't have any friends and you feel bad for them to bring them along then they turn everyone on you lol to cut ✂️ you out.
Wish I knew what this was b4 this happened. Couldn't sense any threats thought the world was just a nice place and full of loving , caring.
Boy was I soòooooooo wrong!
As a narcissist myself, I don't try to compare myself to others. In fact I don't at all. But I did notice other people do that a lot whether consciously or subconsciously. Bu
i think i’m in a narcissist’s trap at the moment and i am vey co-dependant. I’m trying extremely hard to get rid of him. He makes me feel like shit most of the time and everytime he is sure a ‘break up’ is imminent he finds a way of showering me with attention and luring me back in to the trap. He humiliated me in front of others and makes me feel like i’m going mad everytime i try to speak up and confront him. I need help because i don’t know what to do now. I can’t really escape him.
This is so true
Can a narcissist be a person that continually focus the conversation on him or her self?
I had a friend with whom having a conversation was a constant struggle to get back to me, and my problems. In that relationship it was never about me. It was like talking to a wall. Eventually, I ended that friendship. Is that a narcissist?
Narcissists do that, but not everyone who behaves this way is a narcissist. Many narcissists are actually too focused on the partner and conceal information about themselves. Read these: The Weapon of Language samvak.tripod.com/journal34.html and The Narcissist's Object Constancy samvak.tripod.com/journal77.html
Thank you Sir!!
yes.
Nina Manotti , yes it's i had that so called relationship my self.
Up and down and inside out!!!!!!!!!!!!
In a nutshell: Pleasing you is killing me. (The dysfunctional dynamic between the Narc and the abused)
My friends used to refer to me as my husbands magic mirror
My ex Tim B has a lot of friends. All of his friends idolise him. After they leave he would complain about them to me and say he did n't like them much. He said he preferred to be by himself but it appeared to me he liked all the attention from his friends. I also noticed he would idolize some celebrities.
Damn! He's talking about me and the minions I 've always surrounded myself with, since I was a child! LOL
Brilliant.
Sam you have definitely improved with age! ❤
So this is why the Narcissistic person will forever quit talking to, act as if the person be it his child, his ex's etc those people are no longer alive.
Yet when one of those people he discarded are in the same room he will go into "oh poor me" mode to get attention.
I think it is odd how the N can not even look at, much less look in the eyes of the people he has discarded.
How is this fair to people who lost they're friends via death or they joined a toxic relationship. I've also had friends that grew up and have family to raise which I'm happy for. If I'm not part of someone's future I'm ok with that I'm just happy to see people going forward with there lives it refreshing.
VERY TRUE.
Thank you for this video. Is the couple Don Quixote and Sancho Panza fit into the same category?
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You don't sound like a narcissist to me.
There's many reasons why someone would not go out of their way to make friends.
Narcissists consider themselves better/more important than others, and see it as a waste of their time making friends unless they can use them to get some benefit from it.
People with aspergers often want to socialise, but don't know how
Hello Sam, I'd first like to say that i appreciate your videos. Your knowledge has given me great insight as I feel that I carry many narcissistic traits. However, I can't help but feel that the picture you paint for the fate of any narcissist is a rather grim one. I understand that a narcissist will always be a narcissist, but is there anyway one could learn how to cope with their disorder. Or at least reduce the damage they cause to those around them?
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No contact is the only way. They always figure out what you're doing and sabotage it or use it against you and manipulate. They really just don't give a shit.
InSpadez. I agree ; I'm surprised that a narcissist would even have the capacity to be interested in things of an unselfish nature
" but is there any way one could learn how to cope with their disorder." There sure is, its a massive lead injection into the demonic Narcissistic lizard brain...That will cure you forever.
100% correct.
Very true.
I’ve just met a guy that is a workaholic and doesn’t seem to have a lot of friends does this mean he is a narcissist ? My sister doesn’t have a lot of friends either but I don’t see her as a narcissist but she has been very hurt in the past and has only one friend .
o_o You just described my dad almost exactly. *sudden revelation*
@dutytocareforothers I am only now learning about this personality disorder, narcissism, I called them selfish assholes for years. Now, I see it is far more serious. This disorder is being brought to my attention because I am involved closely with a narc. Sadistic, cruel, aloof, self centered, etc. My point is, I was thinking the same: this persons language is evasive, accusatory, intentionally vague and confusing. I am in the process of ending the relationship, but I see the person noticing...
OK. Where do I find the support group site? I'm painfully making my way through the videos.
My ex get many friends but have hard time to keep them beacuse he act crazy and scare them. He always told me he hate people and hate his friends but he need them he say.
You just described Dr House.
Dear God, I just realized, I was always Sancho Panza. So sad!