I did this no contact after he break up on me. No contact for only 4 days he message me and want to get together after two weeks didn’t see each other. After 3 weeks he proposed to me 🥰. Now, we are happily engaged 😇. Just be patient and wait for it to turn in your table. Because if they really love you they will come back😍.
Sweet! I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: th-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/w-d-xo.html All the best! :-)
Yes please update here, Matea. I am currently in 14 days NC. But most likely no high hope, as my ex is in USA while i am in Asia.. i can only hope for the best
@@mateagalic1378 I was NC 3 days post break up 1 week. Things are back to normal. I'm still tryna take it slowly but I felt he just needed a break after the argument to calm down. I don't look at it as a real break up. It was an argument, things got heated. Let the heat simmer down.
@@martisimeonov Hung out with my friends. Smoked weed (if that's your thing) worked out at home with my weight bench, I walked a LOT! Try walking like in the woods while high on marijuana, it was FANTASTIC !! I also have a child who I hung out with and brought everywhere and just basically chilled (my child is not with the girl we are talking about)... I wouldn't try to get another girl right away because your heart is with the girl who left you. I tried that and let me tell you it was awful. Only hang out with other girls in the beginning just as friends is fine. Basically you just got to keep busy, if your mind is busy all the time you don't have time to think about her (easier said than done but you need to do it) Feel free to ask me any questions about anything. I hope I have helped. GOOD luck to you sir. Ps. If none of this works, you can always picture her in the toilet with smelly diahreah 🚽🤣🤣😂 Remember, woman are just humans like the rest of us.
Did she left you or was the opposite? My girlfriend recently left me because she wasn't feeling the same things for me as before, she told me she loves me, but not the way I love her
I thought it would take a month or more but she actually called me after a week of no contact and said to meet her Then she hugged me and cried . Thank you so much ,😊😊😊
I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: th-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/w-d-xo.html All the best! :-)
It was for barely 2 weeks.... All you have to do is break all contact with the person and the harder it seems the worthier it is... You should know that begging won't help... Break contact completely and your sudden absence from the person's life will make them come back to you.
@@jamieparsons3546 She might be mad at you. Just let the things cool down because if you keep begging her and trying to make her love you just after the breakup then you are not doing yourself any good. The first few days will be a really hard without her but dont let it crumble you and maintain no contact
Wxyys hey, ummm I broke up with my ex last week for a stupid reason, the reason is because one day she went out with her friends 3 boys and i saw her snaps recording other mans and I got jealous and angry. And I was acting dry for 2 days I wasn’t acting normal so she’s like what’s wrong with you? I told her that I don’t like seeing you around other mans you know it makes me jealous. I told her how would you feel if you saw me around girls? She’s like I trust you but I don’t trust the girls around you. I said I feel the same she’s like my bad I didn’t think how would you feel. We were cool that day then the second days she’s like I can’t handle this anymore something it’s bothering me I’m like what is it? She’s like I wanna break up I need some space and I’m distracted with school and family stuff. I’m like we can work on these things we can fix them she’s like I can’t be with you I lost feels towards you why? Because I was acting different like wtf that’s stupid reason you can’t just lose feels to someone just because how they were acting. And now she blocked me everywhere, she said I don’t wanna see your name anywhere. And now I don’t know what to do we were dating for a month only... please help!!!
Yep - the person will expect you to contact them within 1-2 weeks. If you don't, two things wil start happening in their mind. They will 1) start wondering whether or not you've moved on or forgotten about them triggering an emotional ego reaction. And 2) they will start to have positive recall - i.e they will start to forget about the reasons they lost attraction and instead start to remember the good times you had together and the initimacy you shared. After 3/4 weeks they will usually snap and reach out to find out what's been going on with you. The key is don't reply straight away and don't accept the first invitation to meet up! The first time they ask to meet up say that youre busy and will have a think about another time. then leave them in suspense for a couple days and then offer to have dinner or smething.
Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you since you know your relationship and your ex better than anyone else on here. And alas, not every ex is worth all the trouble. It's up to you to decide who is. Best of luck! :-)
I used no contact properly in 1 month after we break up. So that my ex chat me 😂 i win 😁 and i ignored him in 1 week before i reply his message. Thank you brad browning ☺
I worked with Brad one and one. Everything he told me to do i followed, the no contact rule was so effective she contacted me in the 30th day 😃 Brad has taught me some great life lessons and not to make the same mistakes again, the x factor programme is also worth purchasing so you use the techniques effectively.
I wish I hac enough money to get that program. For now, just keep watching Brad video compilation as a guide. I am now on my 4th week of No Contact and hes sending short message sometimes. Just open and not responding to it. After this 30-45 days of No contact I don’tknow what to do, and what will happen. Since we are on LDR I still love him.
73 days of no contact 🤷🏻♀️I don’t really think 30 days is enough. Because the breakup is still fresh. 🤷🏻♀️mine will probably not contact me but it’s ok Bc I’m never going to contact them
But you do gotta contact him now or he'll think you have moved on and will try accepting and moving on too if he's a stubborn and proud even if he wants you.
If you want your ex back, why wait for your ex to run back to you? :-) I never said the "no contact" rule is supposed to go for weeks or months on end. I only said it's for 30 days in about 80% of my videos, didn't I? :-) Anyway getting an ex back, just like anything that's worth having, takes work, so make sure he's/she's worth it. Anyway the "no contact" rule is just the first phase. There are two more phases to getting an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html and to initiate communicate, this is the vid: th-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/w-d-xo.html
Hi Brad - you are a genius! - thank you! After watching many of your videos for advice, I decided to try no conact carefully and just reply politely to some texts without being rude. I concentrated on my life, hung out with some other girls and friends, of which she was aware, and generally got on with things. After 2 weeks she sent me a text saying 'I miss you', I really miss you. I check my phone constantly. I was waiting or you to write to me with something, but always nothing came to me'. I still kept communication to a minimum. Now we are talking again and she says she wants to build something new between us. Your advice really worked. Thank you so much!
Sounds like a plan! As what I always say, the decision to get an ex back is totally up to you. You know your ex's worth to you as well as your relationship. So you decide whether this is someone you want to go back to or not. All the best!
By acknowledging a break up everyday you give it existence and credibility. A break up is often made worse when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. Remember, you choose to let things bother you, if you waste time and energy on your ex, it is your own fault. For the time being, you must turn your back on what you want, this response is a very good move. It leads to change, and change is good when good. The pros and cons of changing doesn't matter, what matters is becoming a better person.
3 days no contact she unblocked me from all social media and stalking me, lol. Our mutual friend told me not jump into any relationship now that made me think she asked her to do so. Now am going on 2 to 4 weeks vacation on an island. Am soooo exited.
Day 2 of NC and it’s already hard! But love the fact that yes it is a great time to focus on myself and find other hobbies I like to do and do it for myself and not for her! I genuinely think she is the one for me. I just feel like I became boring and too predictable like I had no life outside of her which was the reason for the breakup. So I’m going to start going to the gym and possibly get into meditation!
BRO THIS IS ME RIGHT NOW. i was a huge gym rat. I had an amazong physique and she loved that about me. As months went by, we started to get a little chunky, especially for me. I gained so much and stopped doing what i loved. She noticed that and when we moved out of our expensive apartment, she told me that she wanted to seperate but stay friends to focus on ourselves again. Im still in love with her and she already accepted it. I told her i wanted to stay friends but eventually in the future get back together and she seemed to doubt me because only actions speak louder. I guess now i have to do the no contact rule and get back in my prime so she misses me again and doing back what i used to do. Fishing, hiking and becoming a bodybuilder again. MUCH LUCK TO YOU BROTHER. WE CAN BOTH DO THIS MAN
I just broke up with my bf of 4.5 years 2 days ago cuz of some unsolved problems that are piling up. I always believed not contacting them would help them think about the relationship and me--same goes with me. So even though I get so tempted to talk and chat him up, I dont; today is day 2 of our breakup. I was crying moments before I saw this video. Now Im fired up to make a 30-day plan to do fun, new stuff for myself. Whether he and I are meant to be together in the end, only time will tell. Right now, it's all about me. 💕 Lots of love for y'all! We can do this!
Be open-minded about the outcome and yes, crying helps release those emotions as you heal, so it's good, do what you can to heal. I recommend you to employ the FULL 30-day "no contact" rule and be mindful of the tips in the following videos to help you out: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND make sure you don't make the number one mistake here: y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw So once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel. Start with these: th-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/w-d-xo.html AND y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do despite the tips sprawled on my channel, then you may want to sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
That's one strong soul right there! Keep it up because at this time, you really need to take care of you first. So I recommend you to employ the 30-day "no contact" rule and be mindful of the tips in the following videos to help you out: y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw AND y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Now once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel: y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do, sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
Hi brad Thank you for your guidance. I m grateful n thankful to u. I got my boyfriend back with this no contact rule in just 25 days. N we r very happy to gather at the same time we hv stronger bonding now. I followed ur each n every advice n i trust you n ur psychology a lot. Keep up ur good work. Stay blessed with happy n healthy life always. Regards: Binita from india.💖
I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: th-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/w-d-xo.html All the best! :-)
We were together for a year and he left me 10 days ago. I haven’t contacted him since cause I want him to miss me first. Praying the no contact rule works out so we can talk things out in the end
Whatever you decide to do, make sure you employ the FULL 30-day "no contact" rule and be mindful of the tips in the following videos to help you out: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND make sure you don't make the number one mistake here: y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw So once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel. Start with these: th-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/w-d-xo.html AND y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do despite the tips sprawled on my channel, then you may want to sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
Day 11 of No Contact...I'm still constantly filled with anxiety and confusion..these videos definitely help me feel like there's hope. I hope that the loss of my presence in her life is enough to get her to reconsider!
We're going through it at the same time, brother. It's pretty much hell doing this but I think common experiences between us helps to encourage our venture. Let's get our girls back.
The important thing to remember is to not wait on that to happen. Make sure you live your life without your ex and you'd be surprise to see how much you'll start to feel better. This vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/w-d-xo.html
Hey brad i just love u, Everything u said is happening,even tho we were dating each for just 3 months and we broke(luckily i found u) and after 30 days no contact,i texted her earlier today and she replied within 15 min and there was when she was not even seeing my text,i believe in yu dawg🌹
Haha that’s great, and thanks for the kind words! Next just play it cool bro, don’t seem to eager to text her back or ask her to hang out too soon. No Contact worked partly because you didn’t appear needy and clingy by chasing your ex... stick to the same strategy and don’t turn her off by being overeager. Good luck boss 👊🏼
Day 8 into the NC rule. One of the hardest things is to suppress the incessant memories and anxiety about what she's doing, where she is, who she's with, looking at my phone, all the while still trying to bring back control of my life and not go back to the desperation that I constantly feel bubbling under the surface . She's incredibly stubborn, so my hopes are low, but it's worth a try. Anyone had any success?
Sorry to hear. Everyone who's been dumped can relate to what you're saying since that's really how it is and feeling like the pain will have no end, but I promise you there is! Just focus on yourself first and do what you can to not focus on your ex. Most, if not all of my tips are designed to help you feel better about yourself first and your own life, which is a key element in getting an ex back. So yes, technically it's bound to work one way or another. Here are signs the no contact rule is starting to do what its supposed to do: th-cam.com/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/w-d-xo.html
@@BradBrowning During these 30 days of no contact, should I disappear on the social media for a while? Like, really disappear, for at least 2 weeks or so, so she will be missing me and also being super curious about what I'm doing, or should I post a lot of cool stuff? (she still follows me)
@@imissme8313 I persevered with NC for about three months. I caved afterwards, and I sent her a couple of letters/messages but never heard from her ever again. Until, a month ago she reached out to me asking if we could meet because she was going back to her country and not coming back. The absurd selfishness of her reason was that she 'didn't want to regret' not seeing me again and for us to have a proper send off. I was beside myself with disbelief. Not one peep from her until then. I politely declined and now I'll never see her again, but I'm much, much happier than back then.
I did three days of no contact before I texted her. She finally responded. First time in a long time that she responded to my message. She let me come up to her work and see her for about a half hour and we hugged the whole time and even kissed. We had a good conversation, a healthy conversation. We both agreed that we still have a lot of feelings for each other. She thinks right now is not a good time to get back together but she did say if we let some time pass and see where we are then she’s open to that. She even agreed to come over to my apartment soon and spend some time with me. So even though it’s a lot less than I want, I’m making some progress. I just have to keep it up and I hope I can win her back eventually.
Three days of no contact is such a short time, though. I more often than not recommend the 30-day rule. There's a possibility of confusing messages from your ex most likely, unless the breakup was temporary and she asks for you back !
I broke up with my ex 4months ago and I started apply no contact after like 1 month. No result, as I would reply to his texts like 2 weeks later. The real no contact started like 2 months ago, after I said "happy bday" to him. He texted me one week ago out of the blue and we talked for 2 days. The next day, he texted me in the afternoon and we talked non senses, as the days before. Again, we've talked for like 3 days, when yesterday he replied with an emoji and this was when I "seen" him. Today he texted me again and he asked me out. We've spent like 3h talking about uni, his passions and what we've been doing lately. He hugged me when we left and now I'm waiting for the next meet up :). Thank you, Brad!
You're welcome! Looks like you're all set, yeah? :-) My other videos should help out a bit, too but if you still need my help further on this, however, then you and I both ought to take a look at a lot of various factors at play, so sign up for my coaching program so I can help take a look at all the various factors at play including your overall relationship history, issue/s, among many other elements, and to find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis. Please check on availability first because I only have a limited number of clients I can realistically manage before I go into spontaneous combustion. Here’s the link: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
My only regret is that why I didn't get your videos a month back!! I feel so lost and stupid because of it. But still I'll use your advice in the future for sure. Thank you Brad!
You're welcome! Hey, you never know who else can benefit, so if it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! 🙂
Day 6 .. She disrespected me last week Thursday then on Sunday I decided to mute 🔇 😒 all her status she was starting to play the jealous game , posting her pictures at restaurants.. It was Killin me to see her happy but I had to avoid contact then I muted all her whatsapp status updates
Awesome! Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: th-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/w-d-xo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: th-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/w-d-xo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
Two years dating my girlfriend, she finally got more power to control the relationship. I was irritated by this after so much fight, begging & pleading I decided to break up with her... Its almost 3 weeks & I'm slowly getting back my life, I'm doing this for my own peace of mind not to get her back.....
Hi Brad thanks a ton. I followed the no contact strategy. After a week I am getting calls from her. I am not responding but not sure she will be back or not. But this works.
Yep. A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing herself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let her feel what it's like not to have you in her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: th-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/w-d-xo.html
That's great! Exactly what I discussed here: th-cam.com/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/w-d-xo.html You have to be in a better mindset first before getting a chance to get your ex back.
Yep, if someone youre seeing says they think you should have some space, assume no contact for 12 weeks. usually it wont be this long. but even so, if they haven't contacted you by 12 weeks and seems they unlikely will, then by that point you should have moved on enough to not be as hurt by it anyway.
You're absolutely right with no contact. I followed your advice and it was rough doing no contact and talking to other people and she called me back 3 weeks later trying to go back to what we had
Great! I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: th-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/w-d-xo.html or from this advice here as well: th-cam.com/video/-OqYy_DqNJc/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/8gc53SzHrac/w-d-xo.html All the best! :-)
I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: th-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/w-d-xo.html All the best! :-)
Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: th-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/w-d-xo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: th-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/w-d-xo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
Just remember, once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: th-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/w-d-xo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: th-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/w-d-xo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: th-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
Was in a taking a break..but we were going to be seeing each on friend level...I decided we needed a complete break ,to see if each wanted to get back...However he waited less than 3 days and got together with someone else.. Crushed 😢
Hi Brad. You really help me a lot and I am very grateful! My ex broke up with me a month ago and we agreed being friends, but he kept sending mixed signals. Yesterday he called me to go out and I confronted him about everything because it seems he thinks he didn't have any mistakes in relationship, only me. He was with tears in his eyes, but said he stand behind his words and he loves me, but it's done. I said he doesn't deserve me in his life after he threw it all away and I won't be his friend. This was really the hardest decision and I want him to understand he is wrong, but he doesn't listen to his family either. I won't contact him, but I am afraid he won't come back... I will listen to you and work on myself, but I am scared we lost our love forever.
It's all part of the process when one goes through a breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed signals. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/RN6ndJZ0J-w/w-d-xo.html This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: th-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/w-d-xo.html
I messed it up. Achieved no contact of about 7 days. Now sent mixed smses which are a big NO. I am back on square 1! But it's worth the try. Thanks for the advice Brad.
Always give it enough time and space first. At least 30 days should be good enough but don't keep worrying about the breakup. Try to process it instead and heal, all right? You're welcome!
I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. Our relationship have actually been on and off. On January I went back home to Medan and left him in Jakarta. (Which is 2 hours faraway by plane) Now that I’m back to Jakarta, he told me that he met someone and he picked her over me. But he told me that if this new girl isn’t for him, then he’ll be back to me. Before that I actually have told him that I want to focus on my career that’s why he started looking for other people. So yesterday we were officially break up. And this morning he texted me a “good morning” and asked me what am I doing. I don’t to whether to text him back or to ignore it.
Read this first to know what to expect when you have this kind of dynamic in your relationship: bit.ly/1HjcagC But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot!
A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: the 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing himself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him feel what it's like not to have you in his life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: th-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/w-d-xo.html
Hey I’m 17 and my girl was 15 we broke up only because of consistency of arguments that causes no trust in a relationship because insecurities but we we’re together for 8 months and we just broke up we both respectfully agreed for a break up on face time she showed me signs that our break up is temporary she let me know it was be fair the arguments and communication and she said if we weren’t meant to be we will get back together
You two especially your ex, has got a lot of things to learn about relationships. Life is or will be taking you in two different directions at this stage. Watch this, too: th-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/w-d-xo.html&lc=Ugw4Ce3x9APUrYfz29N4AaABAg So whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously for now since you may be in a period of growth and lots of changes, including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
Hey I recently broke up with my girlfriend but regretted it immediately and she didn't want to get back as there had been building tensions. We still "love each other" and saw each other yesterday but today I blew it by pressuring her into being with me or not. We dated for a year and 3 months and I surely want her back and have made positive changes. Will the 30 days work?
Good attitude! Keep it up and you'll surely come a long way. Anyway once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: th-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/w-d-xo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: th-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/w-d-xo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
I'm starting my journey for no contact and helping myself. He wants the best for me and still wants me in his life. His happiness was me being my best self which being not and being depressed was the reason why he broke up with me..I have faith that in one-way shape or form we will get back together. He wants to be close friends. I love him so much and it hurts so much, but it is the best choice. The only thing which makes me truly desperate and scared is that I am in college, and he is ahead of me and will probably graduate earlier and lives 8 hours away from my hometown. I just want that happiness we had when we first starting going out back, then maybe fall back in love
Maintaining a struggling relationship while also struggling with depression at the same time can be too much for most people. A relationship needs two healthy people in it in order for it to thrive. Get the help you need first and the rest will fall into place.Do not downplay depression or any other type of mental illness because that's a tricky one! Right now, stuff can just be way too draining for you both, so focus on you first. Okay? Take care!
Healing a relationship takes time, though. Don't set a timeframe but at the same time, don't be blind to the signs that the relationship is beyond repair and it's time to move on. Whatever the case, take time to clear your head first.
Hey Brad! Question: A lot of the other break-up coaches I've found claim that the 30 day no contact rule is B.S. and that a little more time is beneficial i.e. 45 or 55 days. Now I'm not sure what to believe. What are your thoughts on this? If I go over the 30 day mark, will this have any negative consequences, and if so, what would they be?
This is why I say AT LEAST 30 days of "no contact" with your ex. Average time is 30 days but can go anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks in usual cases. If there's been some endless begging and/or refusing to cut off contact, I usually suggest to give it more time, around 2 months or even more. Cheating instances are different if you've cheated, could be longer or shorter depending on how your ex reacts. Do take note that in some instances where the dumpee just couldn't take the hint and continually bugs their ex for months, there comes a time where the ex reaches a "breaking point" and confirms it's the right decision to break up and becomes hellbent in moving on from you. So the bottom line is the "no contact" rule is best applied when the breakup is still fresh. Discussed the importance of silence here: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html
hay brad,been watching some of your videos about winning ex's back , thanks for all your advice,you really saved my life with these kinda videos,hope you're always making content about relationship and deal with ex's like this in the future to help other people too
You're not alone as some,if not most people do flunk the 30-day rule. It's what you do next that determines whether you succeed or not, though, so play your cards right and notice the world of difference that this can make. Stick to the "no contact" rule this time for at least 30 days. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: th-cam.com/video/4gqo4RjqUpo/w-d-xo.html and this is the principle you ought to follow: th-cam.com/video/EfbgU7v0Ny4/w-d-xo.html A situation with an ex is often fragile, so you'd really want to omit, if not minimize these mistakes. Start with the 30-day straight "no contact rule. It’s one step forward, two steps backward with an ex & there are no unlimited chances with them, so if you can do it right moving forward, then do so. Check out my guide so you won't end up making the same mistakes. Good luck!
I hit her up and overwhelmed her the first week In a half but I reached out 4 days ago to tell her that I am just going to let her live her life in peace and that I want to leave the door open for us in the future. She replied “thanks for that” now it’s been 4 days and I am feeling a sense of strength but worry at the same time. Wish me luck. I do really love her and feel she is the one for me.
Do the dynamic "no contact" rule or limited contact. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html
Breakups, especially one that isn't initiated by you and more so if it was a long term relationship, will often cause a WAVE of emotions, so up and down emotions are to be expected her. Take your time to heal and ride the waves. :-)
True. This pandemic has affected people worldwide. Nothing left to do but to use your time productively and change your perception for a bit and see this as an opportunity for a lot of things. Here's my stance on the matter: bit.ly/3bn8bPN
My ex says he wants to be friends but when I message him he doesn't reply, I messaged him this morning he didn't reply. I will try the no contact rule from tomorrow.
When a breakup happens, most of the time this means he has lost attraction for you, hence, it's a bad move to be friends with him. You need to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch this video so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, at th-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/w-d-xo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
The first path towards moving on and getting an ex back follows the same route. It's always best to take your time in deciding first so there'll be no regrets in the end. As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
As tough as it may be, it's always best to come to terms with the breakup and the fact that you're both single now. You doing the "no contact" rule neither prevents nor encourages your ex to go with someone new. In other words there's really nothing you can do to keep your ex from getting with someone new if they want to. So it boils down to two options, really. 1. Employ no contact and keep your dignity while respecting your ex's decision to breakup (why push yourself to someone who doesn't want you?) or Option 2: Do not do no contact and be pathetic. I always advise people to choose option 1 but really, which option you choose is ultimately up to you.
What should I do when no contact period is over but I already told her beforehand that "I don't want to be friends, so you contact me when you change your mind"?
Less talk, less mistakes. Let's just hope the time and space you give her will offset what you said and then give it a try once you're done with the first phase.
I recently suffered a break up and through this time all I did was go back to him and cry but this time I am determined not to do so let's see what fate has in its mind...Wish me luck :)
Soooo we’re on day 3. Wish me luck y’all. I’m keepin myself busy with making music and working on my body. After three days she already tried to FaceTime me at night. I can’t wait to see how far I get with my goals while we’re on a break :) One little hangup I’ve had is: “What is the difference between no contact and ghosting?” I don’t wanna be a jerk and leave calls and messages untouched, I just wanna show that I’m not gonna serve as a backup plan, and that I’m busy and happy. I’d love to hear your thoughts if any of you guys have experience in this particular area.
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: th-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/w-d-xo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: th-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/w-d-xo.html
Just wanted to say, I went through a break up 3 months ago and now we're back together. Long story short, she broke up with me. We were together for 7 years. It devastated me and I did all the wrong things for about a month straight and drove her farther away. Then I applied no contact and worked on becoming my greatest version, not just for her but because I knew I had changes to make. About 2 weeks into no contact (about 6-7 weeks since the break up), she reached out to me saying she was thinking about me. We talked for a little but I kept it brief and used a lot of techniques from these videos. Now a couple of weeks ago (at about the 10 week mark) she felt comfortable enough to see me for the first time in over a month and she liked the changes she was seeing. Now 13 weeks since the break up, we're back together and it feels amazing. The point of my story is that when she dumped me, I was looking for any bit of help and validation that she would come back. I would watch these videos and read comments and just look for a quick fix to get her back because I felt like I needed her in my life so I want to give a pretty specific success story with a rough timeline to follow. Every relationship is different but I hope I can help someone reading this. During no contact, I discovered self-love, self-happiness, purpose and new focus. I no longer "needed" her but I still desired her. This change of focus and discipline attracted her back as well as lead to a drastic change in success for myself. Guys and girls, follow the advice in these videos. Stay patient, work on yourself and evolve into your greatest version. Work out, go out and have fun, meet new people, find self-love, practice a disciplined no contact and before you know it, you will no longer feel the pain of being away from the person and embrace the possibilities the future may bring, with or without them. I wish I could comment on every video so someone who is in a lot of pain like I was can learn to let go and trust the process. Thanks for reading!
It may be time to put things into perspective because in 14 years spent as a relationship coach, I find that a breakup is often NOT just one person's fault, so look at the roles that you've BOTH played that led to the breakup and if the issues have a chance to get resolved, and how to go about it. In most cases, the problems that led to the breakup can be resolved, but in some cases, it can't. So take time to evaluate, okay? However, I have to warn you not to ask the reasons from your ex. This is what I've discussed here along with other stuff that might help you, so this is a must-watch: th-cam.com/video/zqAEi9PbEAA/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
It can lead to a lot of different things really, but one thing's for sure: it will help you to clear your mind, which means you will have enough time to think whether you like your ex back or not. That's up to you really and is one of the things I've mentioned on this vid: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html
My ex is an egoist ! Like super ego!! . If I don't contact him ,or show him the clues of me wanting him back ,he might take it in an opposite way and never come back ! What do i do ?
Decide if you really want to be with someone who has that kind of ego? Look out for other red flags. Oftentimes, it's associated by a behaviour where nothing is ever their fault...which can be tiring for you in the long run.
I started to do the no contact rule yesterday I hope it goes well and I hope I can make it because this videos of your's helps me a lot and make mw feel better. But as I wake up in the morning I cant help myself but miss him so much! 😭 He told that he wanteed to rest because he's tired of my jealousy and too much protectiveness. Im over thinking most times and super duper get jealous. I admit it! I'm in the stage where I admit all of those mistakes of mine and try to be a better girlfriend but its too late. So September 12 is the day when we fought and we broke up. I did it because he told me "Go break up with me" and I said "Okay fine then break" I thought we will be okay as he came back in their home but its already evening and he's still not talkin to me. So I approached him and that's it. That's the moment hw told me He's tired already of everything. I wish I can make it please give me some advice Mr. @Brad. I wanted to be coached But I don't have money yet 😭 Please help me.
I started yesterday too, her friend told me she asked them if am doing well and if she heard anything from me. Because of my business, her friends are my customers so am in contact with them. I didn’t ask them about her. And I will keep it like that. Today is my day 2.
I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: th-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/w-d-xo.html All the best! :-)
I’m already 7 days in no contact rule. He told me he’s gonna block me everywhere so I won’t convince him to get back together. I really hope he will contact me cause I’m fighting here! Btw, I did bought your book!
If you don't panic, you could pull this off. That’s great! I’m glad you now have the tools to guide you on what to do. Now I know it's difficult (and it's a different challenge all on its own) but try to follow the guide down to a tee, all right? Read it many times over until you master it. All the best!
Brad Browning he hasn’t unblocked me yet... but he’s family ask how am I everyday. I honestly don’t want to get back together with him now. I understood this relationship was so toxic
Honestly hanging out with friends is way more hard to bring myself to do than working out. I’m not sure why but the daunting task of being social while I’m distraught just makes me close up.
I understand where you're coming from. It's not easy at first but trust me that it will get better in time and this is something that will come naturally to you when you've healed enough. Just heal at your own pace, there's no rush, yeah? Take care!
Based upon your previous videos, I implemented the no contact rule properly. But after 45 days of NC when my ex reached out to me, he scolded, blamed me falsely for his loss and broke up once again. I don't know why he did that.
He's bitter and if you haven't done anything, a tad immature, really if he's letting you take all the blame for the breakup. You sure you wanna be with someone like that?
Hi brad, i completed 35 days no contact..still did't contact her. she is did't unblocked me in social media. what to do next ,,,its second time she blocked me in 6 months..last time she came back on my birthday she called me...so now i dont know what to do.
If you have no other means to contact her, then it could be game over. Otherwise, the texting tips here will be a good starter: th-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/w-d-xo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: th-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/w-d-xo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
If you've been with him for a significant amount of time, he will remember you if you employ the no contact rule. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, after all!
Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you since you know your relationship and your ex better than anyone else on here. And alas, not every ex is worth all the trouble. It's up to you to decide who is worth fighting for at one of the toughest of battles you face in your relationship. Best of luck!
Brad, what if my ex reacted to my status on Whatsapp during no contact? What should I do? Should I just ignore it till no contact period is over? Its just 3 days going on no contact by the way
Just ignore. Just try to make sure you maximize what you can within this 30-day period such as healing yourself, enjoying your own company, as well as spending time to see where it all went wrong, but only when you start to feel better, so be sure to take time to grieve first and feel the loss and cry all you want but then make an effort to pick yourself up first. Remember, you can't pick someone up (to be back in a relationship with you) if you're also feeling down yourself. Now is the time for self love. So give yourself the time and attention you need to heal first, all right? Good luck!
Starting NC now, got ghosted because I was overly emotional in texts (LDR), then discovered she had coffee with her ex before me. He was with her for a year and is in the same city, whereas she and I were dating for only 2 months. Hard to compete... but hopefully NC will work in my interest and she'll also see why she broke it off with the other guy before.
I really hate to burst your bubble here but let her finish whatever unfinished business she has with this ex. Sorry, but there's not much you can do at this point, especially if your relationship only lasted a short while and more so if she's seemingly (subconsciously or not) used you as a rebound, for your ex to jump back too quickly with him. Good luck and I hope you find the right woman for you soon!
Hello Coach, Thank you for the ex factor! I was in a short term relationship of less than three months but we've been seeing each other almost everyday.. I didn't chase her after the breakup which was 6 days ago.. Is 30 days nc too much in my case?
Consider moving on from this, especially if it was just a fling to either you or your short-term ex. My program is all about regaining that lost attraction. However, there may not be anything to rebuild here if that's the case because there wasn't any long term bonding or attraction that naturally develops in long term relationships. On the brighter side, here's how the "no contact" rule will work for you, though: th-cam.com/video/4gqo4RjqUpo/w-d-xo.html However, you may want to improve your dating skills and Amy North may has a ton of tips on what to do about that, so check out her channel, too. Take care!
@@BradBrowning hey um i'm in a similar situation as that guy...but he contacted me a lot (my ex) i replied his massages tho ik big mistake but if it was just a fling is there any possible way that i could get him back and build a real relationship?
After 30 days no contact. I wrote my ex. He answered that I did ignore he thought I would write him. But I didn't. And it seems like he is offended at me because of that. He doesn't answer me anymore. 🙈🙈i can't understand him , he has a new girlfriend but he is offended at me because I didn't write. I don't know what to do now. 🤷
Tell your ex you've been busy... and it really helps if you are. So take steps to rebuild your life first. Hang out with friends, family, get a new hobby, join a club, etc. to keep your mind off of things and to process the breakup accordingly and heal. It's all about balance! Take care!
What should we do when she will call after no contact period coz You never gave this explanation that if she calls after no contact, then what answer do we give and how to talk?
Ignore it. If your ex continues to reach out to you, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. If not, and your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses his/her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: th-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/w-d-xo.html
he broke up with me saying he still wants me but needs time because he’s stressed but ignores me all day. he still messages me and i try to take a few hours to respond but he gets upset when i don’t respond right away but for some reason it’s ok for him to not reply right away? like do i have to just ignore him completely?? i feel like if i do that, he will loose feelings and leave for good and be upset with me because we are still chatting and he is saying he loves me. god please help
He's being distant so yeah, give him space. The more you push, the further he'll run away from you. Sometimes this is the reason why people get blocked. They just don't know when to pause! Watch this free vid presentation to help you understand things more clearly: www.breakupbrad.com
Hello brad! I have started the no contact since 2 weeks now . And since then i am working on myself more and more ( she looks sad as she is liking to many sad posts and she did some stuff to make jealous) . Next week i will be travelling to her city where we will be introducing our research ( she is with me in it) in a conferance , i don't know if to break the no contact rule and act upbeat and cool or keep up with it . I really need your advice as it maybe my only chance to see her cause after that i will be back home to my city and i don't know when i will go back to hers.
Keep it civil. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html
Keep it up! Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: th-cam.com/video/4gqo4RjqUpo/w-d-xo.html Anyway here's a quick overview to help guide you: th-cam.com/video/xgR03RcU8mw/w-d-xo.html Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the "no contact" rule: th-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/w-d-xo.html Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html
I'm scared to do this. My ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago because he said he needed space to heal from past traumas. He said we need a break and probably wont talk as much. Well, he talks to me everyday. Its like nothing has changed and I'm scared I'm just his emotional dumping ground and I'm afraid if I initiate no contact that I will lose him forever.
You both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: th-cam.com/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
I'm not a fan of being passive. Why wait for your ex to run back to you? :-) I never said the "no contact" rule is supposed to go for weeks or months on end. I only said it's for 30 days in about 80% of my videos, didn't I? :-) Anyway getting an ex back, just like anything that's worth having, takes work, so make sure he's/she's worth it. Anyway the "no contact" rule is just the first phase. There are two more phases to getting an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html and to initiate communicate, this is the vid: th-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/w-d-xo.html
We just broke up aur 7 years relationship. The reason she provided me was by saying she just got into her professional career and her job is too hectic, financial condition not too good, she doesn't want anyone who should ask her what is she doing or where is she heading towards and with whom. She said she want break time and space....... What should i do in this case please help me😭😭😭😭😭
@@aaryagupta1290 no she didn't block me infact we talk daily in chat and once in a day in a call as a friend.... But we don't talk as we used to.....i took her for granted in relationship which i shouldn't have done.... Please let me know what should i do.... I regret for my mistake 😔
Assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: th-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/w-d-xo.html but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!
I did this no contact after he break up on me. No contact for only 4 days he message me and want to get together after two weeks didn’t see each other. After 3 weeks he proposed to me 🥰. Now, we are happily engaged 😇. Just be patient and wait for it to turn in your table. Because if they really love you they will come back😍.
Sweet! I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: th-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/w-d-xo.html All the best! :-)
@@BradBrowning actually it is day 45-60.
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What was the reason he broke up with you?
Wow amazing!
2nd time doing NC rule.
I’m on day 6, wish me luck people.
I’ll keep y’all updated
Best of luck!
Brad Browning thank you!!
Stay strong! I'm on day 1
Yes please update here, Matea. I am currently in 14 days NC. But most likely no high hope, as my ex is in USA while i am in Asia.. i can only hope for the best
@@mateagalic1378 I was NC 3 days post break up 1 week. Things are back to normal. I'm still tryna take it slowly but I felt he just needed a break after the argument to calm down. I don't look at it as a real break up. It was an argument, things got heated. Let the heat simmer down.
I started no contact as soon as she left. 17 days later she was begging for me back.
This would have never happened if I was constantly calling her
during no contact, what did you do :)
@@martisimeonov
Hung out with my friends. Smoked weed (if that's your thing) worked out at home with my weight bench, I walked a LOT! Try walking like in the woods while high on marijuana, it was FANTASTIC !! I also have a child who I hung out with and brought everywhere and just basically chilled (my child is not with the girl we are talking about)...
I wouldn't try to get another girl right away because your heart is with the girl who left you. I tried that and let me tell you it was awful. Only hang out with other girls in the beginning just as friends is fine.
Basically you just got to keep busy, if your mind is busy all the time you don't have time to think about her (easier said than done but you need to do it) Feel free to ask me any questions about anything. I hope I have helped.
GOOD luck to you sir.
Ps. If none of this works, you can always picture her in the toilet with smelly diahreah 🚽🤣🤣😂
Remember, woman are just humans like the rest of us.
True that!
@@BradBrowning
You are a legend Brad, you have taught me so many valuable life lessons about women more than my father has!
I owe you brother✊
Did she left you or was the opposite? My girlfriend recently left me because she wasn't feeling the same things for me as before, she told me she loves me, but not the way I love her
I thought it would take a month or more but she actually called me after a week of no contact and said to meet her
Then she hugged me and cried .
Thank you so much ,😊😊😊
Looks like she regretted the breakup. Good job and congrats! :-)
I HOPE ALL! 😭
@@bebikeyk3692 be strong and trust me it works .
Avi_Praz Gaming sana all!
Any update?
Just listen to this man. No contact rule is the key 👍🏻
It really works.
Trust me
There was no hope and ny ex said that we can't get back together but no contact made her come back to me🙂
I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: th-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/w-d-xo.html All the best! :-)
It was for barely 2 weeks....
All you have to do is break all contact with the person and the harder it seems the worthier it is...
You should know that begging won't help...
Break contact completely and your sudden absence from the person's life will make them come back to you.
@@jamieparsons3546 Just do as I mentioned 🙂
@@jamieparsons3546 She might be mad at you.
Just let the things cool down because if you keep begging her and trying to make her love you just after the breakup then you are not doing yourself any good.
The first few days will be a really hard without her but dont let it crumble you and maintain no contact
Wxyys hey, ummm I broke up with my ex last week for a stupid reason, the reason is because one day she went out with her friends 3 boys and i saw her snaps recording other mans and I got jealous and angry. And I was acting dry for 2 days I wasn’t acting normal so she’s like what’s wrong with you? I told her that I don’t like seeing you around other mans you know it makes me jealous. I told her how would you feel if you saw me around girls? She’s like I trust you but I don’t trust the girls around you. I said I feel the same she’s like my bad I didn’t think how would you feel. We were cool that day then the second days she’s like I can’t handle this anymore something it’s bothering me I’m like what is it? She’s like I wanna break up I need some space and I’m distracted with school and family stuff. I’m like we can work on these things we can fix them she’s like I can’t be with you I lost feels towards you why? Because I was acting different like wtf that’s stupid reason you can’t just lose feels to someone just because how they were acting. And now she blocked me everywhere, she said I don’t wanna see your name anywhere. And now I don’t know what to do we were dating for a month only... please help!!!
Yep - the person will expect you to contact them within 1-2 weeks. If you don't, two things wil start happening in their mind. They will 1) start wondering whether or not you've moved on or forgotten about them triggering an emotional ego reaction. And 2) they will start to have positive recall - i.e they will start to forget about the reasons they lost attraction and instead start to remember the good times you had together and the initimacy you shared. After 3/4 weeks they will usually snap and reach out to find out what's been going on with you. The key is don't reply straight away and don't accept the first invitation to meet up! The first time they ask to meet up say that youre busy and will have a think about another time. then leave them in suspense for a couple days and then offer to have dinner or smething.
@@anikm111maybe she started no contacting. Thinking u move on😁
I probably wouldn’t say “another time”, i would stick with saying im busy that day. How about next week or something
I took a screenshot of this to remind myself everyday!
Completed 14 days of no contact , now I dnt want him anymore. I dnt want same stress and anxiety again 🙂
Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you since you know your relationship and your ex better than anyone else on here. And alas, not every ex is worth all the trouble. It's up to you to decide who is. Best of luck! :-)
I used no contact properly in 1 month after we break up. So that my ex chat me 😂 i win 😁 and i ignored him in 1 week before i reply his message. Thank you brad browning ☺
Trying to do this in a Corona lockdown is going to be horrendous. Wish me luck folks.
Same here
Oh my lord right as the quarantine began my girlfriend broke up with me so I have felt heart broken this entire time
Me too 🙋🏼♀️ it’s hard to keep distracted and motivated when you’re stuck inside and can’t stop thinking about them 😂🤦♀️
Yeaa exactly
@@jamesMdlk break up happened start of January but things have happened since then so not so clear cut.
I worked with Brad one and one. Everything he told me to do i followed, the no contact rule was so effective she contacted me in the 30th day 😃 Brad has taught me some great life lessons and not to make the same mistakes again, the x factor programme is also worth purchasing so you use the techniques effectively.
So ehstx happened in the last year , I just need to know.
I wish I hac enough money to get that program. For now, just keep watching Brad video compilation as a guide. I am now on my 4th week of No Contact and hes sending short message sometimes. Just open and not responding to it. After this 30-45 days of No contact I don’tknow what to do, and what will happen. Since we are on LDR I still love him.
73 days of no contact 🤷🏻♀️I don’t really think 30 days is enough. Because the breakup is still fresh. 🤷🏻♀️mine will probably not contact me but it’s ok Bc I’m never going to contact them
But you do gotta contact him now or he'll think you have moved on and will try accepting and moving on too if he's a stubborn and proud even if he wants you.
If you want your ex back, why wait for your ex to run back to you? :-) I never said the "no contact" rule is supposed to go for weeks or months on end. I only said it's for 30 days in about 80% of my videos, didn't I? :-) Anyway getting an ex back, just like anything that's worth having, takes work, so make sure he's/she's worth it. Anyway the "no contact" rule is just the first phase. There are two more phases to getting an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html and to initiate communicate, this is the vid: th-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/w-d-xo.html
Hi Brad - you are a genius! - thank you! After watching many of your videos for advice, I decided to try no conact carefully and just reply politely to some texts without being rude. I concentrated on my life, hung out with some other girls and friends, of which she was aware, and generally got on with things. After 2 weeks she sent me a text saying 'I miss you', I really miss you. I check my phone constantly. I was waiting or you to write to me with something, but always nothing came to me'. I still kept communication to a minimum. Now we are talking again and she says she wants to build something new between us. Your advice really worked. Thank you so much!
how is it going?
Awesome! You're welcome. Continue to play your cards right and you'll get her back in no time, man! :-)
And the hard part about this break up now is because it's quarantine :( we're basically home all day
Use your time productively. Here's my stance on the matter: bit.ly/3bn8bPN
Only thing I'm determined to do is live my life not caring whether she comes back or not😂
Opabinia regalis Im dying💀💀💀
what advice can u give me? (im the guy who sent two comments above explaining my situation)
@Opabinia regalis
Sounds like a plan! As what I always say, the decision to get an ex back is totally up to you. You know your ex's worth to you as well as your relationship. So you decide whether this is someone you want to go back to or not. All the best!
💯💯💯
Facts
By acknowledging a break up everyday you give it existence and credibility. A break up is often made worse when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. Remember, you choose to let things bother you, if you waste time and energy on your ex, it is your own fault. For the time being, you must turn your back on what you want, this response is a very good move. It leads to change, and change is good when good. The pros and cons of changing doesn't matter, what matters is becoming a better person.
Yes, thus the need for the "no contact" period to be employed asap instead of trying to push it. Anyway that's a good way of looking at it! Thanks!
3 days no contact she unblocked me from all social media and stalking me, lol. Our mutual friend told me not jump into any relationship now that made me think she asked her to do so. Now am going on 2 to 4 weeks vacation on an island. Am soooo exited.
Awesome. Have fun!
Updates?
Day 2 of NC and it’s already hard! But love the fact that yes it is a great time to focus on myself and find other hobbies I like to do and do it for myself and not for her! I genuinely think she is the one for me. I just feel like I became boring and too predictable like I had no life outside of her which was the reason for the breakup. So I’m going to start going to the gym and possibly get into meditation!
BRO THIS IS ME RIGHT NOW. i was a huge gym rat. I had an amazong physique and she loved that about me. As months went by, we started to get a little chunky, especially for me. I gained so much and stopped doing what i loved. She noticed that and when we moved out of our expensive apartment, she told me that she wanted to seperate but stay friends to focus on ourselves again. Im still in love with her and she already accepted it. I told her i wanted to stay friends but eventually in the future get back together and she seemed to doubt me because only actions speak louder. I guess now i have to do the no contact rule and get back in my prime so she misses me again and doing back what i used to do. Fishing, hiking and becoming a bodybuilder again. MUCH LUCK TO YOU BROTHER. WE CAN BOTH DO THIS MAN
I just broke up with my bf of 4.5 years 2 days ago cuz of some unsolved problems that are piling up. I always believed not contacting them would help them think about the relationship and me--same goes with me. So even though I get so tempted to talk and chat him up, I dont; today is day 2 of our breakup. I was crying moments before I saw this video. Now Im fired up to make a 30-day plan to do fun, new stuff for myself. Whether he and I are meant to be together in the end, only time will tell. Right now, it's all about me. 💕 Lots of love for y'all! We can do this!
Be open-minded about the outcome and yes, crying helps release those emotions as you heal, so it's good, do what you can to heal. I recommend you to employ the FULL 30-day "no contact" rule and be mindful of the tips in the following videos to help you out: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND make sure you don't make the number one mistake here: y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw
So once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel. Start with these: th-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/w-d-xo.html AND y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do despite the tips sprawled on my channel, then you may want to sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
Staying single is the best. All time for loving oneself and personal development - career, physical fitness, self love.. 😊👌
It’s day one I’m crying like hell... day 30 he will be crying and I’ll be happy
Be strong ✨
That's one strong soul right there! Keep it up because at this time, you really need to take care of you first. So I recommend you to employ the 30-day "no contact" rule and be mindful of the tips in the following videos to help you out: y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw AND y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM
Now once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel: y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do, sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
Same here. Its day 4 of NCR. Day 30 she'll be crying and I'll be happy
update?
Hi brad
Thank you for your guidance.
I m grateful n thankful to u.
I got my boyfriend back with this no contact rule in just 25 days.
N we r very happy to gather at the same time we hv stronger bonding now.
I followed ur each n every advice n i trust you n ur psychology a lot.
Keep up ur good work.
Stay blessed with happy n healthy life always.
Regards: Binita from india.💖
I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: th-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/w-d-xo.html All the best! :-)
Hey can u tell me.. in no contact, did u post pictures of urself with ur friends to show him or not ?
@bradbrowning today I started no contact rule
Should I block her from all social account??
We were together for a year and he left me 10 days ago. I haven’t contacted him since cause I want him to miss me first. Praying the no contact rule works out so we can talk things out in the end
Whatever you decide to do, make sure you employ the FULL 30-day "no contact" rule and be mindful of the tips in the following videos to help you out: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND make sure you don't make the number one mistake here: y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw
So once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel. Start with these: th-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/w-d-xo.html AND y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do despite the tips sprawled on my channel, then you may want to sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
Day 11 of No Contact...I'm still constantly filled with anxiety and confusion..these videos definitely help me feel like there's hope. I hope that the loss of my presence in her life is enough to get her to reconsider!
We're going through it at the same time, brother. It's pretty much hell doing this but I think common experiences between us helps to encourage our venture. Let's get our girls back.
Same situation
Wish you good luck brother.
The important thing to remember is to not wait on that to happen. Make sure you live your life without your ex and you'd be surprise to see how much you'll start to feel better. This vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/w-d-xo.html
Hey brad i just love u, Everything u said is happening,even tho we were dating each for just 3 months and we broke(luckily i found u) and after 30 days no contact,i texted her earlier today and she replied within 15 min and there was when she was not even seeing my text,i believe in yu dawg🌹
If you read this comment,just tell me what to do next in brief,pls
Haha that’s great, and thanks for the kind words! Next just play it cool bro, don’t seem to eager to text her back or ask her to hang out too soon. No Contact worked partly because you didn’t appear needy and clingy by chasing your ex... stick to the same strategy and don’t turn her off by being overeager. Good luck boss 👊🏼
@@BradBrowning brad,i asked her for meet up(givin solid) reasons but she said that she had her freshers party this weekend and said sorry,now what?
As soon as I applied this rule she begged for me back and still is too this day thank you Brad
Good. Meet her halfway if you want her back. You're welcome!
Day 8 into the NC rule. One of the hardest things is to suppress the incessant memories and anxiety about what she's doing, where she is, who she's with, looking at my phone, all the while still trying to bring back control of my life and not go back to the desperation that I constantly feel bubbling under the surface . She's incredibly stubborn, so my hopes are low, but it's worth a try. Anyone had any success?
Sorry to hear. Everyone who's been dumped can relate to what you're saying since that's really how it is and feeling like the pain will have no end, but I promise you there is! Just focus on yourself first and do what you can to not focus on your ex. Most, if not all of my tips are designed to help you feel better about yourself first and your own life, which is a key element in getting an ex back. So yes, technically it's bound to work one way or another. Here are signs the no contact rule is starting to do what its supposed to do: th-cam.com/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/w-d-xo.html
@@BradBrowning During these 30 days of no contact, should I disappear on the social media for a while? Like, really disappear, for at least 2 weeks or so, so she will be missing me and also being super curious about what I'm doing, or should I post a lot of cool stuff? (she still follows me)
Update
@@imissme8313 I persevered with NC for about three months. I caved afterwards, and I sent her a couple of letters/messages but never heard from her ever again. Until, a month ago she reached out to me asking if we could meet because she was going back to her country and not coming back. The absurd selfishness of her reason was that she 'didn't want to regret' not seeing me again and for us to have a proper send off. I was beside myself with disbelief. Not one peep from her until then. I politely declined and now I'll never see her again, but I'm much, much happier than back then.
I did three days of no contact before I texted her. She finally responded. First time in a long time that she responded to my message. She let me come up to her work and see her for about a half hour and we hugged the whole time and even kissed. We had a good conversation, a healthy conversation. We both agreed that we still have a lot of feelings for each other. She thinks right now is not a good time to get back together but she did say if we let some time pass and see where we are then she’s open to that. She even agreed to come over to my apartment soon and spend some time with me. So even though it’s a lot less than I want, I’m making some progress. I just have to keep it up and I hope I can win her back eventually.
Three days of no contact is such a short time, though. I more often than not recommend the 30-day rule. There's a possibility of confusing messages from your ex most likely, unless the breakup was temporary and she asks for you back !
I broke up with my ex 4months ago and I started apply no contact after like 1 month. No result, as I would reply to his texts like 2 weeks later. The real no contact started like 2 months ago, after I said "happy bday" to him. He texted me one week ago out of the blue and we talked for 2 days. The next day, he texted me in the afternoon and we talked non senses, as the days before. Again, we've talked for like 3 days, when yesterday he replied with an emoji and this was when I "seen" him. Today he texted me again and he asked me out. We've spent like 3h talking about uni, his passions and what we've been doing lately. He hugged me when we left and now I'm waiting for the next meet up :).
Thank you, Brad!
You're welcome! Looks like you're all set, yeah? :-) My other videos should help out a bit, too but if you still need my help further on this, however, then you and I both ought to take a look at a lot of various factors at play, so sign up for my coaching program so I can help take a look at all the various factors at play including your overall relationship history, issue/s, among many other elements, and to find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis. Please check on availability first because I only have a limited number of clients I can realistically manage before I go into spontaneous combustion. Here’s the link: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
My only regret is that why I didn't get your videos a month back!! I feel so lost and stupid because of it. But still I'll use your advice in the future for sure. Thank you Brad!
You're welcome! Hey, you never know who else can benefit, so if it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! 🙂
i’m at day 2, already trying to better myself. ready to get him back.
Day 6 ..
She disrespected me last week Thursday then on Sunday I decided to mute 🔇 😒 all her status she was starting to play the jealous game , posting her pictures at restaurants..
It was Killin me to see her happy but I had to avoid contact then I muted all her whatsapp status updates
Awesome! Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: th-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/w-d-xo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: th-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/w-d-xo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
Two years dating my girlfriend, she finally got more power to control the relationship. I was irritated by this after so much fight, begging & pleading I decided to break up with her... Its almost 3 weeks & I'm slowly getting back my life, I'm doing this for my own peace of mind not to get her back.....
Awesome! Your self love and self worth should come first especially after you've done your best to try to fix things with her.
it works. I can't believe it omg
Hi Brad thanks a ton. I followed the no contact strategy. After a week I am getting calls from her. I am not responding but not sure she will be back or not. But this works.
Yep. A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing herself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let her feel what it's like not to have you in her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: th-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/w-d-xo.html
Brother no contact works so damn good.....🖤
I dont know about my ex but ...with no contact im started feeling better and ...gained my self confidence back☺😉
That's great! Exactly what I discussed here: th-cam.com/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/w-d-xo.html You have to be in a better mindset first before getting a chance to get your ex back.
It’s not always 30 days.. it can take longer and that’s what sucks 🤷🏼♀️
True. Patience and determination is needed.
Yep, if someone youre seeing says they think you should have some space, assume no contact for 12 weeks. usually it wont be this long. but even so, if they haven't contacted you by 12 weeks and seems they unlikely will, then by that point you should have moved on enough to not be as hurt by it anyway.
You're absolutely right with no contact. I followed your advice and it was rough doing no contact and talking to other people and she called me back 3 weeks later trying to go back to what we had
Great! I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: th-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/w-d-xo.html or from this advice here as well: th-cam.com/video/-OqYy_DqNJc/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/8gc53SzHrac/w-d-xo.html All the best! :-)
Braaad, I'm Soo glad, that my girl became mad . Ty's fr your tips it worked out,my ex is my present again 💓💓
I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: th-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/w-d-xo.html All the best! :-)
Are you guys still together?
I use no contact now 2days now and this morning she contact me but i ignore her.. i hope after 30days she still love me.. coz ii love her so much
Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: th-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/w-d-xo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: th-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/w-d-xo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
I'm on day one, wish me luck! I'll update you.
Just remember, once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: th-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/w-d-xo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: th-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/w-d-xo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: th-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
Was in a taking a break..but we were going to be seeing each on friend level...I decided we needed a complete break ,to see if each wanted to get back...However he waited less than 3 days and got together with
someone else.. Crushed 😢
Right. This vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/QPJprJuf-iU/w-d-xo.html
Hi Brad. You really help me a lot and I am very grateful! My ex broke up with me a month ago and we agreed being friends, but he kept sending mixed signals. Yesterday he called me to go out and I confronted him about everything because it seems he thinks he didn't have any mistakes in relationship, only me. He was with tears in his eyes, but said he stand behind his words and he loves me, but it's done. I said he doesn't deserve me in his life after he threw it all away and I won't be his friend. This was really the hardest decision and I want him to understand he is wrong, but he doesn't listen to his family either. I won't contact him, but I am afraid he won't come back... I will listen to you and work on myself, but I am scared we lost our love forever.
It's all part of the process when one goes through a breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed signals. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/RN6ndJZ0J-w/w-d-xo.html This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: th-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/w-d-xo.html
Update?
I messed it up. Achieved no contact of about 7 days. Now sent mixed smses which are a big NO. I am back on square 1! But it's worth the try. Thanks for the advice Brad.
Always give it enough time and space first. At least 30 days should be good enough but don't keep worrying about the breakup. Try to process it instead and heal, all right? You're welcome!
Again a huge Hello hope you are fine ! I wish you get lots of success.😊
Many thanks, black beauty! :-) Take care.
I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. Our relationship have actually been on and off. On January I went back home to Medan and left him in Jakarta. (Which is 2 hours faraway by plane)
Now that I’m back to Jakarta, he told me that he met someone and he picked her over me. But he told me that if this new girl isn’t for him, then he’ll be back to me.
Before that I actually have told him that I want to focus on my career that’s why he started looking for other people.
So yesterday we were officially break up. And this morning he texted me a “good morning” and asked me what am I doing.
I don’t to whether to text him back or to ignore it.
Read this first to know what to expect when you have this kind of dynamic in your relationship: bit.ly/1HjcagC But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot!
I’m on my 5th day! It’s so hard. I’m always tempted to reply or chat him. But I think, he is very happy that we broke up.
Update: We got back together lol 😂 Me is so marupok
A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: the 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing himself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him feel what it's like not to have you in his life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: th-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/w-d-xo.html
Hey I’m 17 and my girl was 15 we broke up only because of consistency of arguments that causes no trust in a relationship because insecurities but we we’re together for 8 months and we just broke up we both respectfully agreed for a break up on face time she showed me signs that our break up is temporary she let me know it was be fair the arguments and communication and she said if we weren’t meant to be we will get back together
You two especially your ex, has got a lot of things to learn about relationships. Life is or will be taking you in two different directions at this stage. Watch this, too: th-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/w-d-xo.html&lc=Ugw4Ce3x9APUrYfz29N4AaABAg So whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously for now since you may be in a period of growth and lots of changes, including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
Outstanding advice!
Thank you!
So this is where the legends were born lol 😂 Opus n Coach T
Hey I recently broke up with my girlfriend but regretted it immediately and she didn't want to get back as there had been building tensions. We still "love each other" and saw each other yesterday but today I blew it by pressuring her into being with me or not. We dated for a year and 3 months and I surely want her back and have made positive changes. Will the 30 days work?
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Apply the tips here: th-cam.com/video/8wq6u-esNOY/w-d-xo.html
Two of my exes reach out to me after 10 years last week.😂😂😂😂
Seems like you've become some sort of ex-magnet now. lol
Law of attraction 🤣
see! NC worked 😂
It's my 2nd day i pushed myself today to be happy.
Good attitude! Keep it up and you'll surely come a long way. Anyway once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: th-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/w-d-xo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: th-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/w-d-xo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
What to do if we meet at my friends place during no contact rule?
I'm starting my journey for no contact and helping myself. He wants the best for me and still wants me in his life. His happiness was me being my best self which being not and being depressed was the reason why he broke up with me..I have faith that in one-way shape or form we will get back together. He wants to be close friends. I love him so much and it hurts so much, but it is the best choice. The only thing which makes me truly desperate and scared is that I am in college, and he is ahead of me and will probably graduate earlier and lives 8 hours away from my hometown. I just want that happiness we had when we first starting going out back, then maybe fall back in love
Maintaining a struggling relationship while also struggling with depression at the same time can be too much for most people. A relationship needs two healthy people in it in order for it to thrive. Get the help you need first and the rest will fall into place.Do not downplay depression or any other type of mental illness because that's a tricky one! Right now, stuff can just be way too draining for you both, so focus on you first. Okay? Take care!
I was watching ur videos,and then a new one came😁😁
Thanks for watching! :-)
I'm on day 1 of no contact, I know is the right thing to do but at the same time I hope in less than 30 days we will feel better
imagine he watched this video as well and saw ur comment
Healing a relationship takes time, though. Don't set a timeframe but at the same time, don't be blind to the signs that the relationship is beyond repair and it's time to move on. Whatever the case, take time to clear your head first.
Hey Brad! Question: A lot of the other break-up coaches I've found claim that the 30 day no contact rule is B.S. and that a little more time is beneficial i.e. 45 or 55 days. Now I'm not sure what to believe. What are your thoughts on this? If I go over the 30 day mark, will this have any negative consequences, and if so, what would they be?
This is why I say AT LEAST 30 days of "no contact" with your ex. Average time is 30 days but can go anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks in usual cases. If there's been some endless begging and/or refusing to cut off contact, I usually suggest to give it more time, around 2 months or even more. Cheating instances are different if you've cheated, could be longer or shorter depending on how your ex reacts. Do take note that in some instances where the dumpee just couldn't take the hint and continually bugs their ex for months, there comes a time where the ex reaches a "breaking point" and confirms it's the right decision to break up and becomes hellbent in moving on from you. So the bottom line is the "no contact" rule is best applied when the breakup is still fresh. Discussed the importance of silence here: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html
hay brad,been watching some of your videos about winning ex's back , thanks for all your advice,you really saved my life with these kinda videos,hope you're always making content about relationship and deal with ex's like this in the future to help other people too
Hey you're welcome! And yes, I've always been posting for many years now so stay tuned. Check out my other vids.
Tomorrow will be my day 1 of no contact. I messed up today and tried to contact my ex. I feel so embarrassed 😩
Its ok because i did it too 😭
Judy Tregarthen hey, how is goin? I am starting NCR from now😭
You're not alone as some,if not most people do flunk the 30-day rule. It's what you do next that determines whether you succeed or not, though, so play your cards right and notice the world of difference that this can make. Stick to the "no contact" rule this time for at least 30 days. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: th-cam.com/video/4gqo4RjqUpo/w-d-xo.html and this is the principle you ought to follow: th-cam.com/video/EfbgU7v0Ny4/w-d-xo.html A situation with an ex is often fragile, so you'd really want to omit, if not minimize these mistakes. Start with the 30-day straight "no contact rule. It’s one step forward, two steps backward with an ex & there are no unlimited chances with them, so if you can do it right moving forward, then do so. Check out my guide so you won't end up making the same mistakes. Good luck!
I hit her up and overwhelmed her the first week In a half but I reached out 4 days ago to tell her that I am just going to let her live her life in peace and that I want to leave the door open for us in the future. She replied “thanks for that” now it’s been 4 days and I am feeling a sense of strength but worry at the same time. Wish me luck. I do really love her and feel she is the one for me.
Good luck!
What do I do when my ex is at social events? Or even at the gym? Should I go to the gym at a different time?
This vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html
I'm in 1st day NC💖 WISH ME ALL THE LUCK❤️
Good luck!
Update?
I started doing no contact rule after 1 and half month of my breakup! Will it still work?
It's your best bet. Make sure you follow the tips here as well: th-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/w-d-xo.html
@@BradBrowning it actually worked!!!! I cut all contacts and worked out well as expected!!! Thanks for the videos!
What if there’s a child involved?
Do the dynamic "no contact" rule or limited contact. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html
I just realized I'm only on day 8 😂😂😂 if I'm this happy by 30 days I'm sure I'll be over it lol
Breakups, especially one that isn't initiated by you and more so if it was a long term relationship, will often cause a WAVE of emotions, so up and down emotions are to be expected her. Take your time to heal and ride the waves. :-)
@@BradBrowning thank you!
How did you do?
What can i do in 30 days locked down in covid? Please, please suggest.
It’s really hard to do socializing during quarantine .... in this lockdown 💔
True. This pandemic has affected people worldwide. Nothing left to do but to use your time productively and change your perception for a bit and see this as an opportunity for a lot of things. Here's my stance on the matter: bit.ly/3bn8bPN
My ex says he wants to be friends but when I message him he doesn't reply, I messaged him this morning he didn't reply. I will try the no contact rule from tomorrow.
When a breakup happens, most of the time this means he has lost attraction for you, hence, it's a bad move to be friends with him. You need to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch this video so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, at th-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/w-d-xo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
I started on 23 Jun brad. I hope it will work 🙋 OTHERWISE i will get better person.
That's great thinking, yup! Stay strong! Know your worth and love yourself first, yeah? Best of luck!
I don’t want my ex anymore we’ve been going through this for three years is six or seven different times she’s changed her mind and fed up with it.
The first path towards moving on and getting an ex back follows the same route. It's always best to take your time in deciding first so there'll be no regrets in the end. As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
Thank you Brad for another great video.
Thanks for watching!
I did this and she is now with someone else within 2 months after our break up of a 14 year relationship..😳😳
As tough as it may be, it's always best to come to terms with the breakup and the fact that you're both single now. You doing the "no contact" rule neither prevents nor encourages your ex to go with someone new. In other words there's really nothing you can do to keep your ex from getting with someone new if they want to. So it boils down to two options, really. 1. Employ no contact and keep your dignity while respecting your ex's decision to breakup (why push yourself to someone who doesn't want you?) or Option 2: Do not do no contact and be pathetic. I always advise people to choose option 1 but really, which option you choose is ultimately up to you.
What should I do when no contact period is over but I already told her beforehand that "I don't want to be friends, so you contact me when you change your mind"?
Less talk, less mistakes. Let's just hope the time and space you give her will offset what you said and then give it a try once you're done with the first phase.
I recently suffered a break up and through this time all I did was go back to him and cry but this time I am determined not to do so let's see what fate has in its mind...Wish me luck :)
Good luck!
Soooo we’re on day 3. Wish me luck y’all. I’m keepin myself busy with making music and working on my body. After three days she already tried to FaceTime me at night. I can’t wait to see how far I get with my goals while we’re on a break :) One little hangup I’ve had is: “What is the difference between no contact and ghosting?” I don’t wanna be a jerk and leave calls and messages untouched, I just wanna show that I’m not gonna serve as a backup plan, and that I’m busy and happy. I’d love to hear your thoughts if any of you guys have experience in this particular area.
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: th-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/w-d-xo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: th-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/w-d-xo.html
Just wanted to say, I went through a break up 3 months ago and now we're back together. Long story short, she broke up with me. We were together for 7 years. It devastated me and I did all the wrong things for about a month straight and drove her farther away. Then I applied no contact and worked on becoming my greatest version, not just for her but because I knew I had changes to make. About 2 weeks into no contact (about 6-7 weeks since the break up), she reached out to me saying she was thinking about me. We talked for a little but I kept it brief and used a lot of techniques from these videos. Now a couple of weeks ago (at about the 10 week mark) she felt comfortable enough to see me for the first time in over a month and she liked the changes she was seeing. Now 13 weeks since the break up, we're back together and it feels amazing.
The point of my story is that when she dumped me, I was looking for any bit of help and validation that she would come back. I would watch these videos and read comments and just look for a quick fix to get her back because I felt like I needed her in my life so I want to give a pretty specific success story with a rough timeline to follow. Every relationship is different but I hope I can help someone reading this. During no contact, I discovered self-love, self-happiness, purpose and new focus. I no longer "needed" her but I still desired her. This change of focus and discipline attracted her back as well as lead to a drastic change in success for myself.
Guys and girls, follow the advice in these videos. Stay patient, work on yourself and evolve into your greatest version. Work out, go out and have fun, meet new people, find self-love, practice a disciplined no contact and before you know it, you will no longer feel the pain of being away from the person and embrace the possibilities the future may bring, with or without them. I wish I could comment on every video so someone who is in a lot of pain like I was can learn to let go and trust the process.
Thanks for reading!
It may be time to put things into perspective because in 14 years spent as a relationship coach, I find that a breakup is often NOT just one person's fault, so look at the roles that you've BOTH played that led to the breakup and if the issues have a chance to get resolved, and how to go about it. In most cases, the problems that led to the breakup can be resolved, but in some cases, it can't. So take time to evaluate, okay? However, I have to warn you not to ask the reasons from your ex. This is what I've discussed here along with other stuff that might help you, so this is a must-watch: th-cam.com/video/zqAEi9PbEAA/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
While doing this, it helps me to move on lol
It can lead to a lot of different things really, but one thing's for sure: it will help you to clear your mind, which means you will have enough time to think whether you like your ex back or not. That's up to you really and is one of the things I've mentioned on this vid: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html
My ex is an egoist ! Like super ego!! . If I don't contact him ,or show him the clues of me wanting him back ,he might take it in an opposite way and never come back ! What do i do ?
Decide if you really want to be with someone who has that kind of ego? Look out for other red flags. Oftentimes, it's associated by a behaviour where nothing is ever their fault...which can be tiring for you in the long run.
I started to do the no contact rule yesterday I hope it goes well and I hope I can make it because this videos of your's helps me a lot and make mw feel better. But as I wake up in the morning I cant help myself but miss him so much! 😭 He told that he wanteed to rest because he's tired of my jealousy and too much protectiveness. Im over thinking most times and super duper get jealous. I admit it! I'm in the stage where I admit all of those mistakes of mine and try to be a better girlfriend but its too late. So September 12 is the day when we fought and we broke up. I did it because he told me "Go break up with me" and I said "Okay fine then break" I thought we will be okay as he came back in their home but its already evening and he's still not talkin to me. So I approached him and that's it. That's the moment hw told me He's tired already of everything. I wish I can make it please give me some advice Mr. @Brad. I wanted to be coached But I don't have money yet 😭 Please help me.
I started yesterday too, her friend told me she asked them if am doing well and if she heard anything from me. Because of my business, her friends are my customers so am in contact with them. I didn’t ask them about her. And I will keep it like that. Today is my day 2.
Give him space and let him miss you. Also watch this to learn from your mistakes: th-cam.com/video/qQu5YL5saDI/w-d-xo.html
No contay works,believe me if 1% u have chance to get you ex back the just thing to should do is no contact,my ex has came back after 1 month ....
I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: th-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/w-d-xo.html All the best! :-)
I’m already 7 days in no contact rule.
He told me he’s gonna block me everywhere so I won’t convince him to get back together.
I really hope he will contact me cause I’m fighting here!
Btw, I did bought your book!
If you don't panic, you could pull this off. That’s great! I’m glad you now have the tools to guide you on what to do. Now I know it's difficult (and it's a different challenge all on its own) but try to follow the guide down to a tee, all right? Read it many times over until you master it. All the best!
Brad Browning he hasn’t unblocked me yet... but he’s family ask how am I everyday.
I honestly don’t want to get back together with him now. I understood this relationship was so toxic
Honestly hanging out with friends is way more hard to bring myself to do than working out. I’m not sure why but the daunting task of being social while I’m distraught just makes me close up.
I understand where you're coming from. It's not easy at first but trust me that it will get better in time and this is something that will come naturally to you when you've healed enough. Just heal at your own pace, there's no rush, yeah? Take care!
Based upon your previous videos, I implemented the no contact rule properly. But after 45 days of NC when my ex reached out to me, he scolded, blamed me falsely for his loss and broke up once again. I don't know why he did that.
He's bitter and if you haven't done anything, a tad immature, really if he's letting you take all the blame for the breakup. You sure you wanna be with someone like that?
Hi brad, i completed 35 days no contact..still did't contact her. she is did't unblocked me in social media.
what to do next ,,,its second time she blocked me in 6 months..last time she came back on my birthday she called me...so now i dont know what to do.
If you have no other means to contact her, then it could be game over. Otherwise, the texting tips here will be a good starter: th-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/w-d-xo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: th-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/w-d-xo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
How do I start this... Like what do I say before I start this to make sure he remembers me?
If you've been with him for a significant amount of time, he will remember you if you employ the no contact rule. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, after all!
You can also go on with your life.
Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you since you know your relationship and your ex better than anyone else on here. And alas, not every ex is worth all the trouble. It's up to you to decide who is worth fighting for at one of the toughest of battles you face in your relationship. Best of luck!
What if she chatted me "Happy Birthday" should I respond and thank her? I'm on my 3weeks and 2days of no contact.
Yes, just a simple thanks will do if she took the time out to greet you.
Faharnniccah Castro No!
I wanna thank you from bottom of my heart.... It worked within 9 days.
Brad, what if my ex reacted to my status on Whatsapp during no contact? What should I do? Should I just ignore it till no contact period is over? Its just 3 days going on no contact by the way
Just ignore. Just try to make sure you maximize what you can within this 30-day period such as healing yourself, enjoying your own company, as well as spending time to see where it all went wrong, but only when you start to feel better, so be sure to take time to grieve first and feel the loss and cry all you want but then make an effort to pick yourself up first. Remember, you can't pick someone up (to be back in a relationship with you) if you're also feeling down yourself. Now is the time for self love. So give yourself the time and attention you need to heal first, all right? Good luck!
Starting NC now, got ghosted because I was overly emotional in texts (LDR), then discovered she had coffee with her ex before me. He was with her for a year and is in the same city, whereas she and I were dating for only 2 months. Hard to compete... but hopefully NC will work in my interest and she'll also see why she broke it off with the other guy before.
I really hate to burst your bubble here but let her finish whatever unfinished business she has with this ex. Sorry, but there's not much you can do at this point, especially if your relationship only lasted a short while and more so if she's seemingly (subconsciously or not) used you as a rebound, for your ex to jump back too quickly with him. Good luck and I hope you find the right woman for you soon!
Hello Coach,
Thank you for the ex factor!
I was in a short term relationship of less than three months but we've been seeing each other almost everyday.. I didn't chase her after the breakup which was 6 days ago.. Is 30 days nc too much in my case?
Consider moving on from this, especially if it was just a fling to either you or your short-term ex. My program is all about regaining that lost attraction. However, there may not be anything to rebuild here if that's the case because there wasn't any long term bonding or attraction that naturally develops in long term relationships. On the brighter side, here's how the "no contact" rule will work for you, though: th-cam.com/video/4gqo4RjqUpo/w-d-xo.html However, you may want to improve your dating skills and Amy North may has a ton of tips on what to do about that, so check out her channel, too. Take care!
@@BradBrowning hey um i'm in a similar situation as that guy...but he contacted me a lot (my ex) i replied his massages tho ik big mistake but if it was just a fling is there any possible way that i could get him back and build a real relationship?
After 30 days no contact. I wrote my ex. He answered that I did ignore he thought I would write him. But I didn't. And it seems like he is offended at me because of that. He doesn't answer me anymore. 🙈🙈i can't understand him , he has a new girlfriend but he is offended at me because I didn't write. I don't know what to do now. 🤷
Tell your ex you've been busy... and it really helps if you are. So take steps to rebuild your life first. Hang out with friends, family, get a new hobby, join a club, etc. to keep your mind off of things and to process the breakup accordingly and heal. It's all about balance! Take care!
What should we do when she will call after no contact period coz You never gave this explanation that if she calls after no contact, then what answer do we give and how to talk?
Ignore it. If your ex continues to reach out to you, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. If not, and your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses his/her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: th-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/w-d-xo.html
Thank you so much brad sir
And lots of love from india🤗😘
anand bhai kesa chal rha ab sab?
he broke up with me saying he still wants me but needs time because he’s stressed but ignores me all day. he still messages me and i try to take a few hours to respond but he gets upset when i don’t respond right away but for some reason it’s ok for him to not reply right away? like do i have to just ignore him completely?? i feel like if i do that, he will loose feelings and leave for good and be upset with me because we are still chatting and he is saying he loves me. god please help
He's being distant so yeah, give him space. The more you push, the further he'll run away from you. Sometimes this is the reason why people get blocked. They just don't know when to pause! Watch this free vid presentation to help you understand things more clearly: www.breakupbrad.com
Hello brad! I have started the no contact since 2 weeks now . And since then i am working on myself more and more ( she looks sad as she is liking to many sad posts and she did some stuff to make jealous) . Next week i will be travelling to her city where we will be introducing our research ( she is with me in it) in a conferance , i don't know if to break the no contact rule and act upbeat and cool or keep up with it . I really need your advice as it maybe my only chance to see her cause after that i will be back home to my city and i don't know when i will go back to hers.
Keep it civil. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html
Today is my 1st day of no contact rule...... Let's see 😃😃😀 it's a new hope and a new challenge for me
Keep it up! Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: th-cam.com/video/4gqo4RjqUpo/w-d-xo.html Anyway here's a quick overview to help guide you: th-cam.com/video/xgR03RcU8mw/w-d-xo.html Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the "no contact" rule: th-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/w-d-xo.html Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html
Kinda hard to do this when you got a 300+ Snapchat streak going
The streak is your choice, though.
Mine was 800 mate don’t stress it
Obey Augie 850 actually
I'm in the same situation
But a streak isn't really talking
I'm scared to do this. My ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago because he said he needed space to heal from past traumas. He said we need a break and probably wont talk as much. Well, he talks to me everyday. Its like nothing has changed and I'm scared I'm just his emotional dumping ground and I'm afraid if I initiate no contact that I will lose him forever.
You both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: th-cam.com/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
I do no contact for 1 year😅finally get the msg😍
how is it going???
I'm not a fan of being passive. Why wait for your ex to run back to you? :-) I never said the "no contact" rule is supposed to go for weeks or months on end. I only said it's for 30 days in about 80% of my videos, didn't I? :-) Anyway getting an ex back, just like anything that's worth having, takes work, so make sure he's/she's worth it. Anyway the "no contact" rule is just the first phase. There are two more phases to getting an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html and to initiate communicate, this is the vid: th-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/w-d-xo.html
We just broke up aur 7 years relationship. The reason she provided me was by saying she just got into her professional career and her job is too hectic, financial condition not too good, she doesn't want anyone who should ask her what is she doing or where is she heading towards and with whom. She said she want break time and space....... What should i do in this case please help me😭😭😭😭😭
listen
did she block you?
@@aaryagupta1290 no she didn't block me infact we talk daily in chat and once in a day in a call as a friend.... But we don't talk as we used to.....i took her for granted in relationship which i shouldn't have done.... Please let me know what should i do.... I regret for my mistake 😔
Assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: th-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/w-d-xo.html but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!