@@breakupbradbrowning it was because she was so hot and cold. Wanted to be back together, walked away, came back, walked away… it was a roller coaster of madness
After a near perfect 3 months together, not so much as a cross word, deeply loving and intimate, she shut down emotionally to me one evening for no apparent reason. I went to see her 3 days later and very little had changed. Day 4 I ended the relationship and instinctively went what I now know to be no-contact, that just made sense in this case. I felt the only possible chance for us was if she had a major shock and was forced to face the complications of her behaviour. I have zero tolerance for that sort of nonsence, I suffered through a relationship with one of these people many years ago. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't take her back if she comes back (it's only been 3 weeks) because these people don't generally take responsibility and 'do the work' like the rest of us have to do. I'm here to learn more about these people so I avoid attracting the avoidant in the first place. Too painful.
Hi! Thanks for sharing your story. Yes, some exes don't take responsibility, others do. It depends on the person and their maturity level/emotional IQ. Also people who don't take responsibility, in general, also tend to put the blame on you. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/M4h7in9dtxI/w-d-xo.html
@@breakupbradbrowning ….oh I’m guilty, no question about it. Guilty of being emotionally available, of intimacy and a high level of communication, listening, being supportive and providing a very safe environment within which to become all she could become if she so chose. I have a great life, I’ve had two really lovely, relatively long term (10 years plus) relationships since I was dealt to to by one of these avoidant types where I learned to live and be loved and became very secure within myself. I remain. Close to both these exes. So I’m guilty of being drawn into such a relationship and not reading it for what it was. Even now I can’t say there were any signs which is actually a bit disturbing. Had I seen it I would not have entered into the relationship for sure. Also, this is a case where a woman who has always done the dumping got dumped, I nipped it in the bud. So I’m guilty of being a bit brutal, though that is for my sanity, not hers. Hey either way, it really was a beautiful 3 months together and that is what I focus on. I have learned to really give of myself in all relationships but especially intimate ones and there are some people who just can’t handle it. This appears to be one of those cases unfortunately. Thanks for the videos, I really appreciate your work, even if it is in retrospect.
She broke up with me and went with another guy. During the first month, she posted about her new relationship every day, so I blocked her on everything. It's been 60 days now, and I don't expect anything anymore.
That's right. Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUB
Does this apply to me, when my wife of over 31 years together and she has told me she has fell out of love with me and has been talking and cheating on me for at least 3 years? I left the house to give her space and then my adult children finally go me to realize I wasn't accepting that she was doing more than flirting with other guys.
That's a tough one and I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. So what's your plan? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Validating you for months for the past 3 years? I could be wrong but it looks like your ex is using you as a backup plan? But yes, if you haven't cut off contact through all this time, I suggest to do that first...though it's likely not going to have the same effect if you were to have cut contact right off the bat and in which case you may have to consider moving on from this. Take time to observe first though and do the 30 day rule. IF you see progress with your ex after that, then don’t go at it alone, especially if you're in doubt or don't know what to do next. Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Good luck!
My boyfriend broke up with me because we constantly fought and had very bad argument all the time. The moment he broke up he still cried, cold and mean. The thing is that we also work the same place (WFH mostly). But currently I’ve been doing no contact for almost 2 weeks now. Only reply professionally at work. I also radio silent on social medias as well - no post, no like, no anything.
I of course would like to fix things again when he feels better, learning what went wrong and improving myself everyday. Wishing that we will have a chance again
Sheesh. What do you two always bicker about? Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: th-cam.com/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/w-d-xo.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: th-cam.com/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/w-d-xo.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
Our broke up is about 1 mth. what should i do, our last conversation is 1 week + ago and she blocked me and unblocked me at the same day. What should i do next? please help me.
You can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
You can actually reach out to your ex after the 30-days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Adding to that I just got out of a 2 year relationship and I’m confused as to why my girl broke up with me over our personal issues that we needed to change in our relationship. I couldn’t change for her during our relationship, for example, not taking things so seriously and getting upset at most things. Which yes there’s things in our relationship we bother needed to work on. But still doesn’t give the reason to break up with me even though I caught her flirting with other guys and I need a break after that for her to earn my trust back, but she did not hook up what so ever. More of a girl trait of waiting attention from me but-couldn’t give that to her as we were going through personal life stuff and had little arguments. she turned it into our personal things that we need to work on and broke up over that reason instead of the reason she cheated on me. I’m just confused about this,
Hi there! Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad. My Bf and i called it off last December in an amicable way. We are same sex couple, he was doubting and felt guilty that he liked women sexually. So basically he wanted to be straight again. And i moved on with my life for a month. But after 1 month and a half? He texted me, that he wanted me to be there for him. As a close friend. Now its June. And im struggling and i still love him. Though i know, there is no hope for us to be together. But our contact is constant. He is struggling with anxiety ever since, and health issues. Now he wanted to find a job, getting healthy and start his life. Should i stopped seeing him? As a friend?
As tough as this may seem, he does need to figure himself out first in more than one aspect of his life and in more ways than one. The relationship may be the least of his priorities. The friendzone is the worst position to be in. I suggest you apply the tips here first: th-cam.com/video/SWERv_y3c5w/w-d-xo.html
They say there's three sides to every story. His story. Her story. And the truth. I'm sure you're both hurt and it could just be her way of coping. Try to focus on yourself, yeah? Although you may want to check this out, too: th-cam.com/video/pu0bGkDAMZ0/w-d-xo.html
Hey brad! I met my ex boyfriend yesterday as he wanted to gave me things .. we talked that day . He told me that he feels guilty that he left a girl who trusted him.. but he told ne once he decided that he don't want relationship, he will not return... I asked him if he will come back to me again... He told me that 'if i will have come back, i wouldn't have left you right, i left you so there's no coming back'.... Please this is a relationship of 2.7 years. We were really happy, we were like best friends... But he left me for the problems that had happened for 15 days.. he left me for the 15 days problem.. please respond to this
What kind of problems were you two having? It's best to consider those because that was obviously a dealbreaker to him. Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
My boyfriend broke up with me..but he still told my friend to take care of me ..he even told me he's dying from loneliness as he's in a different country... should I use no contact on him
Hi Brad. My boyfriend broke up with me after 21 years. I started the no contact almost a week ago but I need to contact him somehow to arrange for him to pick up the rest of his belongings. Do I initiate it first?? I am so broken and lost. Can’t get therapy appointments until 2 mos out PLEASE HELP
Yes. You have shared responsibilities with your ex and therefore puts your situation to the one of the exceptions to the "no contact" rule. This vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/w-d-xo.html
@@breakupbradbrowning hi I have the same issue as her.. I have his things in a box however we live long distance.. should I mail it? I watched that video but it didn’t discuss items that belong to them..
@@breakupbradbrowning well she’s attracted to me I know that but she’s is also an dismissive avoidant she’s not willing to make it work right now seems like so what should I do?
If you've reached out to your ex only fairly recently, and assuming you've correctly employed the 30-day "no contact" rule, then that's a normal reaction from your ex. Here, watch this to help you understand things better: y2u.be/CP8FQlvDuVU But I would worry about what sort of messages have you been sending your ex? It's a different story if you've been trying for so long with all the right moves and still no progress. It just depends how this plays out really. Focus on the second and third phases instead. It helps to learn the basics here: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html and/or better yet, read my guide to guide you every step of the way, at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
No he wasn't always like this is change quite a bit in the past few years how he treats me I wonder if it's this person that he hangs with it's a roommate it seems like it's time they're around we have problems
It's still your best bet since staying in touch obviously didn't work. But since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: th-cam.com/video/YVViZmY2x0I/w-d-xo.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
She broke up with me saying she fell out of love but weeks after break up i talk to her to tell the truth , she cheated on me . She chatted other guy using other account. At first i im hopeless but as the days passed i understand that he do that because she's not in love with me anymore. I beg and i plead her for 1 week then the next week i still go to our work together but she's very aggressive. I saw you video then decided to do NCR. Now im a no contact. What should i do for the better??
Work on yourself and try not to think about the breakup right now. Take time to heal first. You can reach out to your ex after the 30-days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
It's a wrap my ex told me the same thing she's not in love with me. It's been 3 months no contact. She moved on...if its been that long she definitely moved on and getting those cheeks clapped. Move on It's over
@jamalforrest2737 lol no wonder she didn't come bck you sound like a insecure type of man. My girl said the samething and came bck after a month. If u truly believe you are her best option she'll give another chance.
Did this and he did miss me but missing me dose not mean he wants me back before he did ut again remind me for something I did not do play the no contact is there somebody came to me and told me stuff about him and he is keeping them as a friend got rid of me I have been friends with him for over 20 years of course yes it was a year ago that we were together from the very beginning this commitment thing he has a hard time with and I'm okay with that other than is he says we're just going to be friends he starts seeing other women he tells me he's going to get married two different times women ever workout not at all simple kiss from them why can't you see what's right in front of his face he says I'm not the one neither were they and if I wasn't the one then why 20 years later we still seeing each other off and on but I'm doing it again I'm staying away I'm not talking with him I'm tired of him hurting me he says things like I've heard him and different things like that but he won't tell me how power what I did to hurt him you want to sit down and talk to me about anything that I've done wrong to make him go away he'd rather have me guess and try to figure it out and read his mind figure it out wrong it's my fault because I just assumed something but like I told him he leaves the door wide open for me to think anything I want you never explain anything to me or tells me anything why does he do this
Hi there! It looks like he wanted his cake and eat it too? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey brad! My girlfriend broke up with me a week ago due to her personal problems, like family problems. She just unfollowed and unfriended me on Instagram and Facebook. There’s nothing wrong with our relationship. We both genuinely loved each other. She just couldn’t understand herself. Her mind is unstable due to her problems, which led to our breakup. Is there any chance that me and my ex will come back if I give her time and space? I’m also doing “no contact” right now.
If your relationship was truly happy and she just ran into a few personal issues she needs to resolve on her own, then yes, allowing her time to miss you will help her calm down. So be sure to cut off contact for at least 30 days. This vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/npuQb1APSaU/w-d-xo.html
Listen to Brad. Don’t do what I did. I gave her the “yes, I’ll still chat with you and help you get over me” treatment.
Yup. Becoming your ex's emotional sponge is one of the things most people regret. But you know better now. Thanks for dropping by, man!
@@breakupbradbrowning it was because she was so hot and cold. Wanted to be back together, walked away, came back, walked away… it was a roller coaster of madness
After a near perfect 3 months together, not so much as a cross word, deeply loving and intimate, she shut down emotionally to me one evening for no apparent reason. I went to see her 3 days later and very little had changed. Day 4 I ended the relationship and instinctively went what I now know to be no-contact, that just made sense in this case. I felt the only possible chance for us was if she had a major shock and was forced to face the complications of her behaviour. I have zero tolerance for that sort of nonsence, I suffered through a relationship with one of these people many years ago. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't take her back if she comes back (it's only been 3 weeks) because these people don't generally take responsibility and 'do the work' like the rest of us have to do. I'm here to learn more about these people so I avoid attracting the avoidant in the first place. Too painful.
Hi! Thanks for sharing your story. Yes, some exes don't take responsibility, others do. It depends on the person and their maturity level/emotional IQ. Also people who don't take responsibility, in general, also tend to put the blame on you. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/M4h7in9dtxI/w-d-xo.html
@@breakupbradbrowning ….oh I’m guilty, no question about it. Guilty of being emotionally available, of intimacy and a high level of communication, listening, being supportive and providing a very safe environment within which to become all she could become if she so chose. I have a great life, I’ve had two really lovely, relatively long term (10 years plus) relationships since I was dealt to to by one of these avoidant types where I learned to live and be loved and became very secure within myself. I remain. Close to both these exes. So I’m guilty of being drawn into such a relationship and not reading it for what it was. Even now I can’t say there were any signs which is actually a bit disturbing. Had I seen it I would not have entered into the relationship for sure. Also, this is a case where a woman who has always done the dumping got dumped, I nipped it in the bud. So I’m guilty of being a bit brutal, though that is for my sanity, not hers. Hey either way, it really was a beautiful 3 months together and that is what I focus on. I have learned to really give of myself in all relationships but especially intimate ones and there are some people who just can’t handle it. This appears to be one of those cases unfortunately. Thanks for the videos, I really appreciate your work, even if it is in retrospect.
She broke up with me and went with another guy. During the first month, she posted about her new relationship every day, so I blocked her on everything. It's been 60 days now, and I don't expect anything anymore.
That's right. Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUB
Does this apply to me, when my wife of over 31 years together and she has told me she has fell out of love with me and has been talking and cheating on me for at least 3 years? I left the house to give her space and then my adult children finally go me to realize I wasn't accepting that she was doing more than flirting with other guys.
That's a tough one and I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. So what's your plan? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Hi brad. It's been 3 yrs since we broke up. Can no contact work for my ex? She is still validating me for months.
Validating you for months for the past 3 years? I could be wrong but it looks like your ex is using you as a backup plan? But yes, if you haven't cut off contact through all this time, I suggest to do that first...though it's likely not going to have the same effect if you were to have cut contact right off the bat and in which case you may have to consider moving on from this. Take time to observe first though and do the 30 day rule. IF you see progress with your ex after that, then don’t go at it alone, especially if you're in doubt or don't know what to do next. Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Good luck!
My boyfriend broke up with me because we constantly fought and had very bad argument all the time. The moment he broke up he still cried, cold and mean. The thing is that we also work the same place (WFH mostly). But currently I’ve been doing no contact for almost 2 weeks now. Only reply professionally at work.
I also radio silent on social medias as well - no post, no like, no anything.
I of course would like to fix things again when he feels better, learning what went wrong and improving myself everyday. Wishing that we will have a chance again
Sheesh. What do you two always bicker about? Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: th-cam.com/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/w-d-xo.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: th-cam.com/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/w-d-xo.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
Our broke up is about 1 mth. what should i do, our last conversation is 1 week + ago and she blocked me and unblocked me at the same day. What should i do next? please help me.
You can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
3 months of no contact and since he broke up with me. i wish there is still hope for him to message me again.
You can actually reach out to your ex after the 30-days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Adding to that I just got out of a 2 year relationship and I’m confused as to why my girl broke up with me over our personal issues that we needed to change in our relationship. I couldn’t change for her during our relationship, for example, not taking things so seriously and getting upset at most things. Which yes there’s things in our relationship we bother needed to work on. But still doesn’t give the reason to break up with me even though I caught her flirting with other guys and I need a break after that for her to earn my trust back, but she did not hook up what so ever. More of a girl trait of waiting attention from me but-couldn’t give that to her as we were going through personal life stuff and had little arguments. she turned it into our personal things that we need to work on and broke up over that reason instead of the reason she cheated on me. I’m just confused about this,
Hi there! Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Can you please give me a tip at least?
I can make it shorter
Hi Brad. My Bf and i called it off last December in an amicable way. We are same sex couple, he was doubting and felt guilty that he liked women sexually. So basically he wanted to be straight again. And i moved on with my life for a month. But after 1 month and a half? He texted me, that he wanted me to be there for him. As a close friend. Now its June. And im struggling and i still love him. Though i know, there is no hope for us to be together. But our contact is constant. He is struggling with anxiety ever since, and health issues. Now he wanted to find a job, getting healthy and start his life. Should i stopped seeing him? As a friend?
As tough as this may seem, he does need to figure himself out first in more than one aspect of his life and in more ways than one. The relationship may be the least of his priorities. The friendzone is the worst position to be in. I suggest you apply the tips here first: th-cam.com/video/SWERv_y3c5w/w-d-xo.html
I am 19 days in no contact and my ex is acting like she is the one who has been dumped on Facebook why is this?
They say there's three sides to every story. His story. Her story. And the truth. I'm sure you're both hurt and it could just be her way of coping. Try to focus on yourself, yeah? Although you may want to check this out, too: th-cam.com/video/pu0bGkDAMZ0/w-d-xo.html
Hey brad!
I met my ex boyfriend yesterday as he wanted to gave me things .. we talked that day . He told me that he feels guilty that he left a girl who trusted him.. but he told ne once he decided that he don't want relationship, he will not return... I asked him if he will come back to me again... He told me that 'if i will have come back, i wouldn't have left you right, i left you so there's no coming back'.... Please this is a relationship of 2.7 years. We were really happy, we were like best friends... But he left me for the problems that had happened for 15 days.. he left me for the 15 days problem.. please respond to this
I’m his head it’s been brewing for longer rham fifteen days. Move on and focus on yourself
What kind of problems were you two having? It's best to consider those because that was obviously a dealbreaker to him. Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
My boyfriend broke up with me..but he still told my friend to take care of me ..he even told me he's dying from loneliness as he's in a different country... should I use no contact on him
The physical distance does play a huge part but since you two broke up, yes, respect his decision by giving him space.
Hi Brad. My boyfriend broke up with me after 21 years. I started the no contact almost a week ago but I need to contact him somehow to arrange for him to pick up the rest of his belongings. Do I initiate it first?? I am so broken and lost. Can’t get therapy appointments until 2 mos out PLEASE HELP
Yes. You have shared responsibilities with your ex and therefore puts your situation to the one of the exceptions to the "no contact" rule. This vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/w-d-xo.html
@@breakupbradbrowning hi I have the same issue as her.. I have his things in a box however we live long distance.. should I mail it? I watched that video but it didn’t discuss items that belong to them..
Can no contact work if we were in contact for the first 10-11 months but now her rebound ended and I don’t want her. But will it work?
It won't work without the attraction or willingness to make it work. Really think this over, so you won't end up wasting your time. Good luck!
@@breakupbradbrowning well she’s attracted to me I know that but she’s is also an dismissive avoidant she’s not willing to make it work right now seems like so what should I do?
No contact for a year still nothing I tried reconnecting nothing any we're...
If you've reached out to your ex only fairly recently, and assuming you've correctly employed the 30-day "no contact" rule, then that's a normal reaction from your ex. Here, watch this to help you understand things better: y2u.be/CP8FQlvDuVU But I would worry about what sort of messages have you been sending your ex? It's a different story if you've been trying for so long with all the right moves and still no progress. It just depends how this plays out really. Focus on the second and third phases instead. It helps to learn the basics here: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html and/or better yet, read my guide to guide you every step of the way, at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Thank you so much for your advice ❤
No he wasn't always like this is change quite a bit in the past few years how he treats me I wonder if it's this person that he hangs with it's a roommate it seems like it's time they're around we have problems
It's not good to assume or guess. In order to make a relationship work and keep a relationship solid, honest communication is key.
While doing “No contact” can I do post good life on social media
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We broke up a little over a year ago. Is it too late to do no contact?
It's still your best bet since staying in touch obviously didn't work. But since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: th-cam.com/video/YVViZmY2x0I/w-d-xo.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
She broke up with me saying she fell out of love but weeks after break up i talk to her to tell the truth , she cheated on me . She chatted other guy using other account. At first i im hopeless but as the days passed i understand that he do that because she's not in love with me anymore. I beg and i plead her for 1 week then the next week i still go to our work together but she's very aggressive. I saw you video then decided to do NCR. Now im a no contact. What should i do for the better??
Work on yourself and try not to think about the breakup right now. Take time to heal first. You can reach out to your ex after the 30-days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
It's a wrap my ex told me the same thing she's not in love with me. It's been 3 months no contact. She moved on...if its been that long she definitely moved on and getting those cheeks clapped. Move on It's over
@jamalforrest2737 lol no wonder she didn't come bck you sound like a insecure type of man. My girl said the samething and came bck after a month. If u truly believe you are her best option she'll give another chance.
Did this and he did miss me but missing me dose not mean he wants me back before he did ut again remind me for something I did not do play the no contact is there somebody came to me and told me stuff about him and he is keeping them as a friend got rid of me I have been friends with him for over 20 years of course yes it was a year ago that we were together from the very beginning this commitment thing he has a hard time with and I'm okay with that other than is he says we're just going to be friends he starts seeing other women he tells me he's going to get married two different times women ever workout not at all simple kiss from them why can't you see what's right in front of his face he says I'm not the one neither were they and if I wasn't the one then why 20 years later we still seeing each other off and on but I'm doing it again I'm staying away I'm not talking with him I'm tired of him hurting me he says things like I've heard him and different things like that but he won't tell me how power what I did to hurt him you want to sit down and talk to me about anything that I've done wrong to make him go away he'd rather have me guess and try to figure it out and read his mind figure it out wrong it's my fault because I just assumed something but like I told him he leaves the door wide open for me to think anything I want you never explain anything to me or tells me anything why does he do this
Hi there! It looks like he wanted his cake and eat it too? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey brad! My girlfriend broke up with me a week ago due to her personal problems, like family problems. She just unfollowed and unfriended me on Instagram and Facebook. There’s nothing wrong with our relationship. We both genuinely loved each other. She just couldn’t understand herself. Her mind is unstable due to her problems, which led to our breakup. Is there any chance that me and my ex will come back if I give her time and space? I’m also doing “no contact” right now.
If your relationship was truly happy and she just ran into a few personal issues she needs to resolve on her own, then yes, allowing her time to miss you will help her calm down. So be sure to cut off contact for at least 30 days. This vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/npuQb1APSaU/w-d-xo.html
What happened bro?