You're welcome, Alina! Glad you found it helpful! Thanks for the support… please like and subscribe if you haven’t already: th-cam.com/users/bradbrowning”
I did all these begs and pleads in my break up from 5 years ago. I just broke up with my 4 years GF and even if I feel terrible and I want her back, nowadays is a HUGE NO on me repeating the mistakes from the past. Time will tell... Good luck to all of you guys, I hope all of us find that true love that will stay forever
True. Never beg. It's never attractive. The moment someone disrespects or treats you unfairly, learn to walk away. In your case, respect yourself since you've been broken up with.
I’ve tried every good advice that exists. And yes: the first time of going no contact worked. She even controlled my steps, being afraid (for no reason) I might be seeing another woman, making me feel guilty at the moments I wasn’t able to pick up the phone immediately (and as a result me trying to call her back asap to take away her worries). I showed my understanding because I know she is having trust issues. Now I wish my ex would beg me to come back after again 3 months of suddenly ghosting me. (We didn’t even have a fight; even better: we had plans to go on holiday together). Then I would have the chance to say to her: “bad luck woman, you’ve had your chances but ruined them. Now live with it”. I’m done with being fooled around. Been way too patient with her (and maybe made it too comfortable for her that way).
Thanks! Don't be so hard on yourself though. Chalk it up to experience and be sure to take these lessons learned and use the pain to become a better person because of it. Take care!
Sadly I will admit I wasn’t the best version of myself when me and my ex were together, I said mean things, made her feel used, etc. i never saw how it truly affected her until it was to late my jokes and comments I thought were funny werent. I now realize everything I did and hope and wish her well for the future. I know my chances are cut slim to none but she didn’t deserve me at that time I was immature and couldn’t understand.
This is why it's important to take time to work on yourself and not force things. This is the best time to work on your own issues and try not to get anyone involved. Being comfortable in your own company is never a bad habit to do, so start doing it, yeah? Good luck!
If she hates herself for being in a relationship with you. she want give a second chance a minutes worth of thought..if she is keeping in touch and wants to remain friends, you may still have a chance..
Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of her. Despite my efforts to bring her back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for her, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing her.
Sorry to hear that. This may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: th-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/w-d-xo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
I know the feeling . My girlfriend of 6 years just called things off with me. It felt very sudden but in the end I just try to see my part in it and learn acceptance. All things that seem perfect sometimes aren’t meant to be
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: th-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/w-d-xo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: th-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/w-d-xo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/w-d-xo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
I remember I was the dumper, regretted my decision she got into a rebound relationship and I begged. I had the game won but lost by begging. Do NOT beg.
Me and my gf argued 5 days ago and broke up. We love eachother and we say it almost everyday. I wasn’t putting enough effort for us and it backfired, cuz i settled and tought we’re going to be together forever, so i made that mistake. But she also said that she needs time X amount of time and when i can proof myself and pick myself up, i make myself her home again, but not now. We spent this weekend together 3 days after breakup, just to clear things and reminissing things we did and how much we love eachother and tomorrow i get back to my own place and start to elevate and level up. I’ll update everything here. I pray for myself and i pray for yall! Stay strong❤
It takes two people to put in effort so try to see if she's putting in the work as well. Otherwise resentment will only tend to build over time. But yes, give it time. You both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new (thus the old relationship be considered as over) relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: th-cam.com/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
I've been in 3 weeks of no contact, I was the one that broke up with her because she started pulling back. She popped up at my house without letting me know she was stopping by to drop off my keys. Since the breakup, i found out she's back with her ex. I've been in the gym relentlessly 💪🏾I'm feeling good and looking good 4:21
Glad to hear you're putting yourself first, man. That's absolutely the best thing you can do right now, so thanks for sharing. As to getting her back though, looking at the situation, sorry, but there's not much you can do at this point, especially if your relationship only lasted a short while and more so if she's seemingly (subconsciously or not) used you as a rebound, for your ex to jump back too quickly with him. Good luck and I hope you find the right woman for you soon!
I have had plenty of chances from my wife of 11 years. Together 15. She’s finally had enough. Now I’m devastated. No one to blame but myself. This sucks!
How was it your fault? Try to see what your chances are for saving your marriage, at www.marriageguy.com/quiz but if you need my personal opinion on this, I need to more about the situation, so consider hiring me as your coach, at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
my ex said that she is firm with her decision and that she doesn't give second chance. plus even if she did she said that she wouldn't feel the same. we broke up couple days ago. so give me the best advice so I could win her back. Thank you
Do damage control and don't make things worse than it already is. The only surefire way to do that is to cut off contact for at least 30 days because it really looks like she needs it. This video is for you: th-cam.com/video/TlHkG2m5MdU/w-d-xo.html
I did alot of begging and she blocked me everywhere and almost disappeared from the face of the earth. However, 9 months later she returned but I had taken on a rebound. She has recently suggested going out for dinner when I am ready 😅😅
This means you really need to stop all contact for at least 30 days and not push it. Being needy or too forceful for your ex to talk to you will only alienate them further. Here's what may going through your ex's mind and they seem they want nothing to do with you: th-cam.com/video/sd2Lx8uEni8/w-d-xo.html
Yes, like right away. For those who already did, I suggest you redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: th-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/w-d-xo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: th-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/w-d-xo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/w-d-xo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule - let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
This goes for both men and women. A time apart, a breakup, recognizing the need to end a toxic or bad relationship ... it can be crucial if the love is real, and it can make the second relationship bullet-proof. But ... and this is a game changer: If the person who did or caused the breakup, engages in sexual intercourse with another person, there is no turning back. Sexual intercourse is not only the most vulnerable moment between two adults but is also the strongest emotional connection. If the person that wanted to leave, gives herself/himself to another, there is no way back. It will never, never be forgotten or erased. And it will deteriorate any relationship.
Assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: th-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/w-d-xo.html but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!
My ex came back after ghosting me for 3 months, asked me to marry her in May and in June got a job that offered a apt. and she left me haven't seen her in a month.
That's weird. Anyway an ex being flaky is obviously a sign of her losing interest but going through extremes is something else. Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
We broke up then decided we both wanted to make it work and things were going great and then 3 days later im blocked on everything 😐...hes begged me for me before but the one time i do it he acts cold and wants nothing to do with me...
Was it his initiative to want to make it work or were you trying to convince him? That kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: th-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/w-d-xo.html
4.5 years later and I still miss her. Have been with plenty of other women but no one will ever fill her void. All the walls are up and blocked everywhere. The only way I could contact her would be to drive over to her house and see if she wants to talk.
Don't do that though. If she wants to open communication between you two, trust me, she will. In this case, it's really time to process the breakup and accept it's over. But no worries, I understand what you're going through. You know moving on is a tricky process and the emotions come in waves. This video is for you: th-cam.com/video/01wvLSaS9_I/w-d-xo.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: th-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/w-d-xo.html or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup guide as that will help you and your mindset to evolve from the breakup and therefore become the best version of yourself. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com
My situation is complicated as her and i have an amazing son together, im a super caring and emotional person so breaking up is hard for me and yes i begged countless times for her back and shes certain its finished i hope santa can make my wishes come true this christmas :(
It's an uphill battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html
Had no contact with my ex for about 3ish weeks.. she is dating someone else currently, but she calls me everyday I don’t know what to do but I’ve bettered myself excising etc. going out more etc
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/YVViZmY2x0I and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUB
@@BradBrowningty for responding Brad, so I’ve talked to her also, we talk everyday sometimes over a hr on the phone I’ve met up with her several times. She told me last night “that we are meant for each other and we will be back together” but the question is when. I’m doing everything I can to get her back I love her and miss her so much
Our relationship was amazing until she got sick the year I was going to propose. 17 months we was in limbo. I showed up as her man and she kept pushing me away. It started to affect me. Then the arguments got bad. I ended up going homeless. Then it hit the fan. I was full out going off. Messed up the relationship with her family and stormed out. I did apologize to the family and her. Everyone accepts it but we still aren’t together. I asked, begged her to work this out, and typically offered better treatment but principalities were crossed. - this went on for a month. I finally just gave her space. Man she disrespected me in all kinds of ways. Manhood and value hits. Conclusion: I know she’ll be in my DMs and texts and as much as i love her, that disrespect she gave during my homelessness and during my phase of trying to fix our ish will keep me away from her.
Hey man, sorry to hear that. How sick did she get and how has it affected the relationship? More importantly, is she recovering now? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning honestly. She’s good. And I’m ok with walking away to become a better man. Though I will keep your offer in mind. Right now I’m happy with knowing I have the capacity to love -> based on the Bible and love -> like a man.
Try not to take it personally because that's your ex's means of coping from the breakup. Here are the most common reasons for being blocked (on social media or phone number) and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
it hurts losing my self respect and begging someone like this. I feel like I have done everything to make him see the good in me. But he just is indifferent. He doesn't show any remorse and would not care if I am never ever contact him in life. I cry everyday thinking of him but I don't know why this person is this way towards me.
How long has it been since the breakup? It's possible it's too soon and you're forcing to be in his life when he's simply not ready to deal with you, so stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/w-d-xo.html
dec 2nd. I went back to my hometown. he is still staying in the school area but doesn't make attempt to call me and talk to me. He likes my stories in instagram and asks random stuff abt school once in a few days. im worried if we could be together when I go back to school on the jan 8. I have no chance of meeting him till then. @@BradBrowning
The breakup itself was already dramatic enough, so adding more drama won't really help, man. Watch this first and my other vids to help guide you: th-cam.com/video/MroLZ7XK9gY/w-d-xo.html
We lived together for 4 months after the breakup, so i did a lot to get her back. But we went into no contact for 8 long ass months. She reached out recently, kinda put me back into a crazy mental state. It was kinda bitter sweet to hear her voice. I loved hearing it but hearing it bc I can't hear it like i use to
Tried "a lot" including begging? Because that would absolutely dwindle your chances. Anyway getting an ex back is a gradual process, so there's no one-action solution for this. Okay? The "no contact" phase is a good start, so do that first if you haven’t yet, for 30 days. If you have, then I'm glad you've completed it. There are two more phases to go with a few other steps in between (in the right order). What I'm trying to say here is it's a 3-phase process, and it's a bit complicated to explain it all on here, but I made an overview in the hopes of making people understand, so watch it here: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html or read my guide for the entire process. Good luck!
After our breakup I didn't contact her for 4 months. Then I contacted but she blocked me. This was when I started begging. Still she blocked me from everywhere. I stopped contacting again. 2 months later tried again, she ignored me totally. The same thing happened few more times. It's been a complete year now, I've been giving her breaks but everytime I return she is the same. She just completely ignores my messages and when I try to call she blocks me. I don't want to beg but this desperation automatically leads to something similar to begging. I don't know what to do now, I'm in a deranged mental state and I have no one to talk to. I just want her back
Hey man... really sorry, but your window of opportunity has already passed. Discussed that here: th-cam.com/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/w-d-xo.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc but if you're having a hard time moving on from this, check out my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
I did the exact opposite. Everytime he reached out to me, I responded with anger. Don't know if that can be fixed. He's now blocked me and won't speak at all.
This isn't really a concerning issue, at least initially, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: th-cam.com/video/5UT92IB5ugs/w-d-xo.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : th-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
But how to keep a proper no contact, when you work in the same organisation, same office, sitting right next to this person? You can’t avoid every interaction, since you work together and you still kinda “around”, so it weakens the effect of no contact
Never ever resort to begging. It's important not to do that any more than you already have and what's clearly not working out for you. By begging, it shows how you're not respecting your ex's need for space and time at the moment. Can't you see? In other words, you're making it hard for your ex to be attracted to you again. Your best bet is still to cut off contact completely for around a month or even more in order to clear your heads. You'd increase your chances of getting your ex back if you've got your sh*t together than if you were doing the opposite of the no contact rule which is begging/pleading or negotiating/trying to woo your ex again. Well, there are a few rare who take their exes back if you beg/plead but it hardly ever lasts since these people are taking their exes back out of pity. So my point is, don't let your ex take you back out of pity, all right? Here are 5 keys you need to remember when it comes to this: th-cam.com/video/eZ6niCLUU6E/w-d-xo.html The best way to avoid that is to work on yourself and get your life together by having fun, hobbies, etc. and to stop chasing your ex. I've made numerous videos about the "no contact" rule and why it's important. Check those out. Also watch the stories here and try not to be a statistic: th-cam.com/video/1U_IOm8ofFo/w-d-xo.html
Great video..I want to add when you think about it, who would even want their ex back after being brought that low? The damage they cause your feelings means they are not worth any effort.
Couples who have been together for decades do so because they've learned to forgive each other and practice love, respect your partner's need for space, and learn from their mistakes throughout the evolving changes and growth life brings.
Me and my ex broke up 2 days ago i begged and pleaded him but he said he can’t forget what i did to him but we can be friends, talk whole day and he will call everyday , i feel like ending my life now 💔
What if, when she brought things up, your emotions shut down a bit and was a little cold in the situation and both of us saying "theres nothing we can do, if this is it, then this is it." And a few days have gone by and you ask her to talk about what had happened, and she never replied
The thing is, nobody but both of you can figure out what it is you're truly feeling. The same goes for your ex, too. If you ain't feeling it anymore or if the relationship has ran its course, then it's best to give each other space and clear your head first because you're obviously both torn about how to proceed somehow? This may help: th-cam.com/video/QPJprJuf-iU/w-d-xo.html
Good. Give it time to work while you focus on yourself, okay? Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: th-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/w-d-xo.html
If you're done with the "no contact" phase and therefore had sent one of these text messages for re-establishing contact, give your ex time to warm up slowly to you. Don't expect one text to work magic because it simply doesn't work that way. Getting an ex back is a process, therefore, learn to be patient and like I said, give her time to actually come close to you. She can't do that if you keep chasing her. Makes sense? Also, this may help: th-cam.com/video/PBotQygy7os/w-d-xo.html
I had a real good friend of mine how to relationship with his girlfriend for 3 years. She all suddenly stop talking to him. She said she needed her space he took it really hard. So hard that he went into his parents garage and put an end to his life. With a gun.. now everybody hates her for not communicating and talking it out with him. She's been threatened to the point, where she needs counseling. She basically caused a person that she supposedly loved. To kill himself with a gun. The moral of the story of this is. Some people should watch other people's feelings and what they do because they never know what the consequence is going to be. Now she has to live with the rest of her life that she caused a person to commit suicide
Such a tragic story. Sorry to hear that. Most breakups do end abruptly and often with one person ghosting the other. That's just the reality of life. I think some other factor played into this though; mental illness shouldn't be downplayed. Was your friend showing signs of depression? He would've been all right if he got the help he needed during the time because believe it or not, breakups happen all the time, man! I should know because I've been a relationship coach for the past decade.
She didn’t put the gun to his head. Shouldn’t put that all on her. 3 sides to every story. That’s horrible for everyone involved, but unless she loaded that gun and put it to his head, she didn’t ’cause him to commit suicide’ and comments like that - from people like you, are not helping anything at all
I don’t need anyone back, all I need is to feel good about myself which I am not after begging and folding my hand in front of him to not leave because we had a 7 years of relationships. Now I don’t need my ex back, I want to feel good about myself but that last day still haunts me all the time and I am unable to accept how much I have been disrespected, abused and why did I adjust. How can I heal from that trauma mentally because I have lost my self respect even in front of myself only
Sorry to hear that. If it's any consolation, what you've done was actually a normal reaction and most people have done it. This is why majority of my videos on the channel mentions the importance of the 30-day "no contact" rule. I think you ought to process what happened and learn from it so you can start to heal from it and do better next time. Learn to forgive yourself as well for not having known better, yeah? 7 years is also a while to be spending with someone. I suggest you get my Beat the Breakup e-book. I made sure it takes a wholesome approach so everyone can relate to it (including spirituality) and I spent a lot of time writing this and have given it careful thought, so I guarantee you'll find something useful in it to help you out. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com Take care!
@@BradBrowning thanks brad, right now I am just thinking how much I have changed and sacrificed myself to be with him, no doubt he also did the same but in process of fixing our relationship, it affected his business, his terms with his family, his physical and mental health, I believe their is a lot of resentment inside us for each other individually but I don’t doubt that he doesn’t love me. He loved me the most but I believe due to everything got jeopardised due to fixing this relationship, he started pointing fingers at me, he had a very stable business but now he is in debt because he said he couldn’t concentrate on other things because he was keeping every single thing aside to fix things between us, now he said in the last conversation “within 6 months I ll fix everything i messed up” but in the process he abused me a lot, even looking to his condition, his father also got affected and started psychiatrist counselling and he use to blame me for that too. He just lost all hope in the end and said I give up
How to do no contact with my ex-wife, if a have a daughter with her, and have to occasionally see her or talk to her?? Always watch these videos, they are amazing, comforting and helpful, keep up the good work, thank you,
If you're hellbent on trying to work things out, let me just set expectations that it's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html
For most people, that would be the straw the breaks the camel's back while others have more tolerance, especially if they know you. If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique and things aren't often black and white, I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz or sign up for my coaching program so I could take a closer look at what your situation and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
My ex said we were trying too hard for this and that loving me wasn’t enough anymore. I begged and offered a compromise that I come live with her for the week and now I’m not sure what to do to win her back. We’re long distance btw.
Is she open to the idea? If she isn't, then chances are she's losing interest... especially if there hasn't been an established long term plan to bridge the physical gap for good.
My situation is this, my ex broke up with me, i tried so hard to beg her and make things work but she didn’t give me a chance. The weird thing about this is that she still loves me and still wants to talk to me. She texts and calls me literally everyday but she’s doesn’t want us to get back together
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: th-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/w-d-xo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: th-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/w-d-xo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/w-d-xo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
My ex is searching me again after his other relationship didn't work.He try to contact my friends and family members for returning.I leaved him for a valid reason.I feel bored about because it is like he want to block my future.He know many people who He can ask about me.I changed even where I lived because of this.
It was that bad, huh? Well, as I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
I am starting my no contact from today 05/20/2023 let’s see after 30 days cause she already started dating a guy right after the breakup it the same guy she started hanging out with after work from my workplace but can’t hate her cause i promise her i will love you forever.. hope she will be back !!soon
Never wait around for anyone though. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/7AgSyWZfWV4/w-d-xo.html Give each other space, yes, but put some boundaries up especially as to when and how long you'd try but also don't rush it. It's complicated to explain it all in one go but my updated 2.0 version Ex Factor Guide should give you a step-by-step process on how to go about it. In the meantime, here's a quick overview: th-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/w-d-xo.html
Anything more than a month is too much already. Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: th-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/w-d-xo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: th-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/w-d-xo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/w-d-xo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
...ive been dumped by my girlfriend of over 11 years - i gave her everything, was everything to her...we had a beautiful life, living in a beautiful mountain home that my Father and I built together...sure, we were a little codependent, but it was great... our home was destroyed by a mudslide a year ago...we lived in hotels and finally in her mother's house...her mother hates me, and was abusive to my girlfriend when she was a child...she encouraged her daughter to dump me, and she has...she even has a new guy, and it kills me...i need her back, ive invested my whole life into a future with her...i love her
Hi there! Why does her mother hate you? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I know how you feel bro I was married to the love of my life for 11 years together 13 and have 3 children together and it only makes it harder. Any way in the beginning she got along with my family but over time she wouldn't even let my mom come in the house an eventually we split up for a 10 month period and when I came back I fell in deeper love then ever and she led me on making me think we were gonna get back together an then stoped an told me she had met a nother guy on line. I begged for her back an tried to show her that no other man could love her as much as me but to no avail just have to love yourself and let them go I guess an if they truly love you guess they'll come back
It's tough, but you can do this! :-) Also you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it:th-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/w-d-xo.html I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com okay? Good luck!
The no contact is supposed to last 30 days and not 4 days. In other words, you're not supposed to be reaching out yet because yes, you're likely to be ignored. Watch this to help understand what your ex goes through during the breakup process: th-cam.com/video/dqnqGWOk9NA/w-d-xo.html
Other than clicking the unblock button, prepare for an awkward conversation but give it time, while trying to keep things fun and light to diffuse the situation. Make sure you don't create any more unnecessary mistakes though. Good luck!
What was the message? Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: th-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/w-d-xo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: th-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/w-d-xo.html
Hello coach brad , I accidentally broke no contact with my ex after 6 months and I believe i may have shown little excitement when i heard her voice , do you have video of what should i do now ? , I don’t want to waste all the work because of a mistake
You're not breaking the no contact rule if it's already been 6 months from the breakup because the no contact rule is only supposed to last for 30 days straight. After that, you're supposed to reach out and test the waters...instead of waiting for months on end. Anyways since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: th-cam.com/video/YVViZmY2x0I/w-d-xo.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Since you have kids and/or other responsibilities still tied to your ex, it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule instead of the full on silence associated with the no contact rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html or for a comprehensive guide on how to go about things, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy Best of luck!
We broke up 2days back and the reason was that, I still had a lot of female interactions inspite of being in a relationship. Should I talk to her once more face to face or should I keep no contact? I really love her so much
Did you get a chance to explain what these women are to you? Try that first but don't push it if she's closed off. Also what's the nature of your conversation with these women? Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Just do damage control at the moment and try not to make the situation worse than it already is. Send the clean slate text as mentioned and try to be patient.
We are here ~ Tryna Fix Everything And those stupid Ex's are there Tryna Avoid ~ Humans are freakin Stupid " they never realize what we have done for them "
I just had to recognize that if I tried to win her back it would have just proven to her that I hadn't learned anything as to why she left. Time went on and I recognized that if things had worked out and we stayed together. I would have just been miserable. Bottom line, this is a journey that we both have to take alone. I've got no say.
Yes. Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you since you know your relationship and your ex better than anyone else on here. And alas, not every ex is worth all the trouble. It's up to you to decide who is worth fighting for at one of the toughest of battles you face in your relationship. Best of luck!
I begged my girlfriend for 4 years and thats what kept us together. She took me back everytime. What did end up happening is she got all the power and began seeing me as a second class citizen to her. Now im under a no contact order from the police so cant communicate anymore. Begging works but it is a ticking time bomb.
Begging rarely works, if at all. By begging, it shows how you're not respecting your ex's need for space and time at the moment. Can't you see? In other words, you're making it hard for your ex to be attracted to you again. Your best bet is still to cut off contact completely for around a month or even more in order to clear your heads. You'd increase your chances of getting your ex back if you've got your sh*t together than if you were doing the opposite of the no contact rule which is begging/pleading or negotiating/trying to woo your ex again. Well, there are a few rare who take their exes back if you beg/plead but it hardly ever lasts since these people are taking their exes back out of pity. So my point is, don't let your ex take you back out of pity, all right? Here are 5 keys you need to remember when it comes to this: th-cam.com/video/eZ6niCLUU6E/w-d-xo.html The best way to avoid that is to work on yourself and get your life together by having fun, hobbies, etc. and to stop chasing your ex. I've made numerous videos about the "no contact" rule and why it's important. Check those out. Also watch the stories here and try not to be a statistic: th-cam.com/video/1U_IOm8ofFo/w-d-xo.html
if i'm in no contact and she writes me what do i do? do i ignore her? then i have her friendship in some games, she simply sees me online or offline but we don't play together, should i remove the friendship?
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: th-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/w-d-xo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: th-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/w-d-xo.html
That's not so bad. Some do it for weeks on end. I suggest you apply the tips from the vid you've just watched and try to calm down. Your situation is also very delicate so once you start to see some progress with your ex, then don’t go at it alone, especially if you're in doubt or don't know what to do next. Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
As a woman, does the no contact rule work on a man who i was only dating for 2 months when he suddenly said hes not ready for a relationship but wants to be "friends".
It does, but bepending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html Take care!
That quickly? I'm sorry to hear that, man... but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: th-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/w-d-xo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
This situation i have is kinda hard... She is pulling away, we arent even boyfriend and girlfriend, but we did have some exclusivities, but it came to a point i gave too much power. The bad part is we are at a cram school, and i think one of us might get on a college somewhere this year. The exams will come at the end of the year, so i dont think i have too much time for this process. With this said, i dont have much time to "live life" as i need to study all time, with the few breaks that were used with her on the times she came back. Perhaps my way to show "i am improving" is Just going to the gym more frequently, getting the best haircut and showing on the simulated exams that i am focused on my Carrier, which i actually should be doing right now instead of getting her. I already am kinda ahead than most of the colleagues, so by getting at least top 5 on every test might show her i am still standing, i am not affected.
Looking at your situation, it doesn't look like a relationship should take priority in your life right now. You're busy, and rightfully so...and so is your ex. Work on your own lives first and the rest will likely fall into place once you get that part sorted.
There's not much to do yet at this time other than to respect their need for space. I understand how you feel and it's gut wrenching when you're trying to ask your ex for a really good explanation, but resist that! If you ask me, really, closures are overrated. If your ex broke things off with you and acts like it, trust me, you'd really want to give each other space as soon as possible. However, these may help offer a different perspective on things, as to what really happened in your relationship: th-cam.com/video/t6IX-pUnGZQ/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/VQjVlDWxJ2o/w-d-xo.html
Tbh i went to therapy got anti depress pills. Stayed no contact for 2 months. All i did was delete my socials at least insta cuz i couldnt block her anf stop myself from watchin her profile. Now im just tryin to get through every day with pills and my fam being here for me
Sorry to hear. I know how painful a breakup can be, so family and trusted friends are a great source of comfort for you now. Awareness is key, so at least you're halfway there! :-) Continue therapy and get all the help you need. These changes take time to work though, so put your relationship in the back burner first just so you can really take time to really tend to your own issues first with the help of the professionals you're already talking to, okay? If you need someone to talk to, you can also hire me as your coach and let's see what your next best move is, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching and or get my Beat the Breakup guide to help you heal and lead a more fruitful life without your ex at www.beatmybreakup.com Take care!
Don't contact her anymore for at least 30 days straight. But you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
I was always overthinking and made she belive that i dont belive her,she left me,i was beging her so much,she block me,i want her so much😭😭😭,she was teling me that i was her dream, everything,sometimes i think that she still love me,i dont now what to do?
Hi! Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
It's another story if you live under the same roof after a relationship ends. I suggest you do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
Hello Brad my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me one month ago. When breaking up he said to me that I am his soulmate but he thinks only as friends but he doesen't want to lose me in his life. When breaking up he cried too. After he broke it off I called him one time and begged him to try again but he said he only wants to stay friends with me. After that I told him that I can't do this and said then I don't want to hear anything from him. The problem is we live together and now he is in our apartment for the week and I am there at the weekends so we didn't see or talk to each other since the breakup and he only left little messages about organisational things on our table. He wanted to quit the contract for our apartment after one week too. A week ago I saw that he already signed a contract for a new apartment. It seems like he wants to get as far away from me as possible. First he said he doesn't want to lose me in his life but why is he so fast in getting away from me? Can I still save anything?
Hi there! The bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: th-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/w-d-xo.html but to get the step-by-step process on what to do on each step, read my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 at www.breakupbrad.com
How long has it been since the breakup? It's possible you're forcing yourself in his life when he's simply not ready to deal with you. Stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/w-d-xo.html
Jesus. I have used every form of begging at the end of this video. Unintentionally. I went back on the kill myself statement almost immediately and said I was talking dumb, but its not like it wasnt said. Im saying that decribed me, yikes. Its been 2 months. I have finally decided to leave her be...today. i just hope its not too late. The other dynamic is she took my 7 year old, I still see her...its kind of hard to no contact when she works nights. She moved out a half a block away. I told her today, I would give her the time to heal herself if she found someone to watch our daughter because its tough to do no contact when we have to see each other so often. -lost
A kid is a shared responsibility and you don't necessarily have to stop being a father just because you two broke up. You can work on co-parenting with your ex. However, if you're hellbent on trying to work things out, let me just set expectations that it's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html
I say generally it's still fair game unless you see most if not all the signs that your ex is over you. Here's the vid: th-cam.com/video/ZyJRphwDca4/w-d-xo.html and especially if those signs prevail over a prolonged period of time. If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
If you're like most people, then yes, it is a mistake. I just noticed a bunch of people having some problems reaching out later on because they've either deleted their ex, blocked (especially everywhere) or unfriended them, which creates an unnecessary dilemma really, if you ask me. The only reason why I suggest NOT to unfollow/block or delete an ex (that you want to get back with) is because you can, in fact, leverage social media to your advantage but this requires self-control. Here's how: th-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/w-d-xo.html
Assess the risks first if it's all worth it. Remember, meeting up when you're both not ready will only alienate your ex further, and that's best case scenario. Worst case scenario will land you a spot in the dreaded friendzone. Watch this first: th-cam.com/video/Jzb18j7ZMPE/w-d-xo.html but if you're both ready, watch this video on how to tell as well as how tips for you on tipping the odds to your favor: th-cam.com/video/eJPGrkuQnm0/w-d-xo.html Best of luck!
This most likely means you really need to stop all contact for at least 30 days and not push it. Being needy or too forceful for your ex to talk to you will only alienate them further. Here's what may going through your ex's mind and they seem they want nothing to do with you: th-cam.com/video/sd2Lx8uEni8/w-d-xo.html Take care!
My begging was was... not limited! 3 weeks into the breakup ive had many mamy meltdowns, many apologies and lots of emotion. Frankly, i cant even blame her for leaving. I was NOT expecting her to leave. I was LEGIT bragging to a coworker about how i had found my forever person. So thats the context behind begging i think. The breakup hit me like a goddamned cold bucket of water. Now shes entertaining another ex and its fucking breaking me to a million pieces. Anyways... theres likely 0 chance of getting her back huh? At most, a 1% i feel. It was a 5 year long relationship, 2 year friendship ANNNND we got 2 kids. So... yeah. A tough time. And i shot my own self in the foot based on this video.
Hey man, thanks for sharing your story but I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. How long were you two together? I understand how devastating it can be when your mind has already been set she's the one. How long were you two together? I really hate to burst your bubble here but let her finish whatever unfinished business she has with this ex. Sorry, but there's not much you can do at this point, especially if your relationship only lasted a short while and more so if she's seemingly (subconsciously or not) used you as a rebound, for your ex to jump back too quickly with him. So overall, the breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: th-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/w-d-xo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com Good luck and I hope you find the right woman for you soon!
I just had a break up a week ago. Her mom manipulated the situation. I did no contact but she Had her mom get ahold of me asked, if I had a laptop and clothes in our home before she left And I don't know what to do.
@@BradBrowning I just don’t get how she was so in love with me when I was a total mess when she met me and I totally removed a lot of the negative things from my life and showed her. I was trying to work on me and then she ran. Trying to acknowledge my flaws and I showed vulnerability. Made me look weak I guess cause she prob thought it was manipulation. Idk why this wasn’t even a long term relationship, but it’s broken me more than anything in my life.
@@moneauxjewomen don’t Iike to hear about your life. The more intimate you are with her, the more she will pull back The sad truth. Learn and accept it before you take too much damage
9:06 how to reply if he contacts me while I'm doing no contact? How do I reply? He didn't actually say he was breading up. He just did the he needs time thing after almost 4 years and we started out as best friends
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: th-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/w-d-xo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: th-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/w-d-xo.html
I break no contact for 5days we started talking as friends ,flirting when i talk about our breakup it make it worse and he told me that let's cut all communications what can i do doing no contact again
It's too soon to be dealing with an ex right now. I suggest you apply the tips from this vid first to help you out: th-cam.com/video/7PRx8XXmgrU/w-d-xo.html
Begging does affect your chance. Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: th-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/w-d-xo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: th-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/w-d-xo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/w-d-xo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule - let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
I broke up with her. She stayed in contact with me. She got a rebound and cheated on her rebound with me. I didn't know about him. She left me this time said she was confused and went back to her rebound. She blocked me and deleted all our photos off social media. I am three weeks into no contact. Healing my broken heart and working out. I am learning more about my attachments and wounds. I will be a better man in the long run.
It happens. As long as you take the lessons learned with you along your journey and really become a better version of yourself, then it won't all be futile.
Hi @BradBrowning I my ex broke up with me nearly a year ago. Originally she said it was nothing I'd done just that she was struggling to be in a relationship and didn't want to be in one. She said she confused love with strongly like. I didn't really believe or understand that and begged her to come back or convince her over the next 2 months to no avail . She even said I was trying to manipulate emotionally blackmail her back into a relationship. We then had a period of 6 months of no contact where I wanted to reach out but was too scared too. Finally she reached out to over the Xmas New year saying it was a year since we met and she couldn't help reminiscing. I was over the moon but after that she went cold again and when I pushed her for what she wanted and why we broke up she said because I gave her the ick . She asked me to respond but I was so hurt it took me a few weeks. Few weeks later she posts on Facebook she was in a new relationship . I completely lost it and took a letter to her house which I gave to her mum. It was very over the top say she was the 1 I'd have married her, and if it wasn't for my son, I'd have jumped off a bridge. Few days later she blocked me. Can you help me ? I can't get over her.
I tried to get my ex back a year later and basically found out from her that she is really happy and in a steady relationship with a new guy. I feel so jealous. Is probably best to cut my losses and let her be. No chance of ever getting her back now would you say?
That's right. The odds are stacked against you, so I suggest you use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. I recommend these videos to watch: th-cam.com/video/01wvLSaS9_I/w-d-xo.html and/or get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
As always you give the best advice when needed the most. Thank you Brad for the great work you are doing ❤
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Am going through this right now.i begged him the past 2days only for him to reject me and blue ticking me.
I really needed to hear this
Take back your power! I made the same mistake. I left him alone; also blocked him. We divorced ten years ago. Now were engaged.
That's true! Thanks for sharing your story.
How did you take back the power?
Dumb
@@robturner7024😂😂😂
I did all these begs and pleads in my break up from 5 years ago. I just broke up with my 4 years GF and even if I feel terrible and I want her back, nowadays is a HUGE NO on me repeating the mistakes from the past. Time will tell... Good luck to all of you guys, I hope all of us find that true love that will stay forever
True. Never beg. It's never attractive. The moment someone disrespects or treats you unfairly, learn to walk away. In your case, respect yourself since you've been broken up with.
did u two get back together?
hey man I am going through the same stuff, just wondering how did it go?
I’ve tried every good advice that exists. And yes: the first time of going no contact worked. She even controlled my steps, being afraid (for no reason) I might be seeing another woman, making me feel guilty at the moments I wasn’t able to pick up the phone immediately (and as a result me trying to call her back asap to take away her worries).
I showed my understanding because I know she is having trust issues.
Now I wish my ex would beg me to come back after again 3 months of suddenly ghosting me. (We didn’t even have a fight; even better: we had plans to go on holiday together).
Then I would have the chance to say to her: “bad luck woman, you’ve had your chances but ruined them. Now live with it”.
I’m done with being fooled around. Been way too patient with her (and maybe made it too comfortable for her that way).
Hi man my wife wanna break of with me need help guys don't know what 2 do it's been over a month
This video is great, i just realized i made so many mistakes during the breakup. I have learn now
Thanks! Don't be so hard on yourself though. Chalk it up to experience and be sure to take these lessons learned and use the pain to become a better person because of it. Take care!
Sadly I will admit I wasn’t the best version of myself when me and my ex were together, I said mean things, made her feel used, etc. i never saw how it truly affected her until it was to late my jokes and comments I thought were funny werent. I now realize everything I did and hope and wish her well for the future. I know my chances are cut slim to none but she didn’t deserve me at that time I was immature and couldn’t understand.
Best of luck to you. I know it’ll be hard but remember to keep living life. Love you bro
This is why it's important to take time to work on yourself and not force things. This is the best time to work on your own issues and try not to get anyone involved. Being comfortable in your own company is never a bad habit to do, so start doing it, yeah? Good luck!
I was the same way I said awful things never realize how much it hurt😢
@@matthewmcgee265same case on me my brother 😢, but now I know where my areas of improvement are.
If she hates herself for being in a relationship with you. she want give a second chance a minutes worth of thought..if she is keeping in touch and wants to remain friends, you may still have a chance..
Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of her. Despite my efforts to bring her back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for her, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing her.
Sorry to hear that. This may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: th-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/w-d-xo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
You’re not alone buddy… 11 years gone.
Brad my 9 month girl just dumped me I'm miserable..I begged can I still get her back? Please help me
How you doing buddy, I’m going through the same thing, we going to make it
I know the feeling . My girlfriend of 6 years just called things off with me. It felt very sudden but in the end I just try to see my part in it and learn acceptance. All things that seem perfect sometimes aren’t meant to be
I begged and pleaded while he was shutting me down again and and again is the only regret i have. I found these videos late.
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: th-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/w-d-xo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: th-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/w-d-xo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/w-d-xo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
@@BradBrowning Thanks Brad !
@@2.22am did he ever come back?
I truly thank all the breakup coaches. Mostly brad 🖤
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I remember I was the dumper, regretted my decision she got into a rebound relationship and I begged. I had the game won but lost by begging. Do NOT beg.
That's right. Thanks for sharing your story, man.
Me and my gf argued 5 days ago and broke up. We love eachother and we say it almost everyday. I wasn’t putting enough effort for us and it backfired, cuz i settled and tought we’re going to be together forever, so i made that mistake. But she also said that she needs time X amount of time and when i can proof myself and pick myself up, i make myself her home again, but not now. We spent this weekend together 3 days after breakup, just to clear things and reminissing things we did and how much we love eachother and tomorrow i get back to my own place and start to elevate and level up. I’ll update everything here. I pray for myself and i pray for yall! Stay strong❤
It takes two people to put in effort so try to see if she's putting in the work as well. Otherwise resentment will only tend to build over time. But yes, give it time. You both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new (thus the old relationship be considered as over) relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: th-cam.com/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
Update
@@HueyMullen haven’t seen her since. Now i’m better and happy aswell. Damn me 5 months ago, deep times.
Update? @@LavBen111
Same here
If she calls it quits.. give it her ten times fold and watch how that is powerful!
Yes.
How?
I've been in 3 weeks of no contact, I was the one that broke up with her because she started pulling back. She popped up at my house without letting me know she was stopping by to drop off my keys. Since the breakup, i found out she's back with her ex. I've been in the gym relentlessly 💪🏾I'm feeling good and looking good 4:21
Glad to hear you're putting yourself first, man. That's absolutely the best thing you can do right now, so thanks for sharing. As to getting her back though, looking at the situation, sorry, but there's not much you can do at this point, especially if your relationship only lasted a short while and more so if she's seemingly (subconsciously or not) used you as a rebound, for your ex to jump back too quickly with him. Good luck and I hope you find the right woman for you soon!
I have had plenty of chances from my wife of 11 years. Together 15. She’s finally had enough. Now I’m devastated. No one to blame but myself. This sucks!
How was it your fault? Try to see what your chances are for saving your marriage, at www.marriageguy.com/quiz but if you need my personal opinion on this, I need to more about the situation, so consider hiring me as your coach, at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Same boat pretty much
This video is just what I needed , thanks brad❤
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This was actually really cool, informative, and even inspiring.
Thank you for your kind words and support. I appreciate you!
my ex said that she is firm with her decision and that she doesn't give second chance. plus even if she did she said that she wouldn't feel the same. we broke up couple days ago. so give me the best advice so I could win her back. Thank you
Do damage control and don't make things worse than it already is. The only surefire way to do that is to cut off contact for at least 30 days because it really looks like she needs it. This video is for you: th-cam.com/video/TlHkG2m5MdU/w-d-xo.html
Were you unfaithful?
I did alot of begging and she blocked me everywhere and almost disappeared from the face of the earth. However, 9 months later she returned but I had taken on a rebound. She has recently suggested going out for dinner when I am ready 😅😅
This means you really need to stop all contact for at least 30 days and not push it. Being needy or too forceful for your ex to talk to you will only alienate them further. Here's what may going through your ex's mind and they seem they want nothing to do with you: th-cam.com/video/sd2Lx8uEni8/w-d-xo.html
9 months later? That's crazy..
Dont beg ive made this mistake twice. If you beg you need to stop.
Yes, like right away. For those who already did, I suggest you redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: th-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/w-d-xo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: th-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/w-d-xo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/w-d-xo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule - let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
This goes for both men and women.
A time apart, a breakup, recognizing the need to end a toxic or bad relationship ... it can be crucial if the love is real, and it can make the second relationship bullet-proof.
But ... and this is a game changer:
If the person who did or caused the breakup, engages in sexual intercourse with another person, there is no turning back.
Sexual intercourse is not only the most vulnerable moment between two adults but is also the strongest emotional connection.
If the person that wanted to leave, gives herself/himself to another, there is no way back.
It will never, never be forgotten or erased. And it will deteriorate any relationship.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
I don’t think this it true every one has sex, it all depends on how you made them feel sex can just be mutual
4month after break up and 3months of no contact. I’m fine but i miss her so much.
Assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: th-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/w-d-xo.html but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!
My ex came back after ghosting me for 3 months, asked me to marry her in May and in June got a job that offered a apt. and she left me haven't seen her in a month.
Sounds terrible, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you focus on yourself and see she doesn't worth you! You worth much more than this crap❤
That's weird. Anyway an ex being flaky is obviously a sign of her losing interest but going through extremes is something else. Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
We broke up then decided we both wanted to make it work and things were going great and then 3 days later im blocked on everything 😐...hes begged me for me before but the one time i do it he acts cold and wants nothing to do with me...
Was it his initiative to want to make it work or were you trying to convince him? That kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: th-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/w-d-xo.html
4.5 years later and I still miss her. Have been with plenty of other women but no one will ever fill her void. All the walls are up and blocked everywhere. The only way I could contact her would be to drive over to her house and see if she wants to talk.
Don't do that though. If she wants to open communication between you two, trust me, she will. In this case, it's really time to process the breakup and accept it's over. But no worries, I understand what you're going through. You know moving on is a tricky process and the emotions come in waves. This video is for you: th-cam.com/video/01wvLSaS9_I/w-d-xo.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: th-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/w-d-xo.html or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup guide as that will help you and your mindset to evolve from the breakup and therefore become the best version of yourself. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com
@@BradBrowningthx
Bookmarking this, thanks.
My situation is complicated as her and i have an amazing son together, im a super caring and emotional person so breaking up is hard for me and yes i begged countless times for her back and shes certain its finished i hope santa can make my wishes come true this christmas :(
It's an uphill battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html
I told him I would reach out to him again. So I pretty much told him I was going no contact.
I begged him so much to i disrespected myself so much. I have to respect myself now
That's right!
This is the best video I have seen for the dumper. ❤Thank you
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Had no contact with my ex for about 3ish weeks.. she is dating someone else currently, but she calls me everyday I don’t know what to do but I’ve bettered myself excising etc. going out more etc
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/YVViZmY2x0I and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUB
@@BradBrowningty for responding Brad, so I’ve talked to her also, we talk everyday sometimes over a hr on the phone I’ve met up with her several times. She told me last night “that we are meant for each other and we will be back together” but the question is when. I’m doing everything I can to get her back I love her and miss her so much
Our relationship was amazing until she got sick the year I was going to propose.
17 months we was in limbo. I showed up as her man and she kept pushing me away. It started to affect me.
Then the arguments got bad. I ended up going homeless. Then it hit the fan. I was full out going off. Messed up the relationship with her family and stormed out.
I did apologize to the family and her. Everyone accepts it but we still aren’t together. I asked, begged her to work this out, and typically offered better treatment but principalities were crossed. - this went on for a month.
I finally just gave her space. Man she disrespected me in all kinds of ways. Manhood and value hits.
Conclusion:
I know she’ll be in my DMs and texts and as much as i love her, that disrespect she gave during my homelessness and during my phase of trying to fix our ish will keep me away from her.
Hey man, sorry to hear that. How sick did she get and how has it affected the relationship? More importantly, is she recovering now? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning honestly. She’s good.
And I’m ok with walking away to become a better man.
Though I will keep your offer in mind. Right now I’m happy with knowing I have the capacity to love -> based on the Bible and love -> like a man.
What if she has unfollowed me on all socials and potentially blocked my number?
Try not to take it personally because that's your ex's means of coping from the breakup. Here are the most common reasons for being blocked (on social media or phone number) and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
She left me for another guy. Do I still go no contact? I'm old. I can't play all these waiting games.
it hurts losing my self respect and begging someone like this. I feel like I have done everything to make him see the good in me. But he just is indifferent. He doesn't show any remorse and would not care if I am never ever contact him in life. I cry everyday thinking of him but I don't know why this person is this way towards me.
How long has it been since the breakup? It's possible it's too soon and you're forcing to be in his life when he's simply not ready to deal with you, so stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/w-d-xo.html
dec 2nd. I went back to my hometown. he is still staying in the school area but doesn't make attempt to call me and talk to me. He likes my stories in instagram and asks random stuff abt school once in a few days. im worried if we could be together when I go back to school on the jan 8. I have no chance of meeting him till then. @@BradBrowning
I’ve acted insecure and kept fighting with my ex. She said she’s done and that ship has sailed
The breakup itself was already dramatic enough, so adding more drama won't really help, man. Watch this first and my other vids to help guide you: th-cam.com/video/MroLZ7XK9gY/w-d-xo.html
We lived together for 4 months after the breakup, so i did a lot to get her back. But we went into no contact for 8 long ass months. She reached out recently, kinda put me back into a crazy mental state. It was kinda bitter sweet to hear her voice. I loved hearing it but hearing it bc I can't hear it like i use to
Tried "a lot" including begging? Because that would absolutely dwindle your chances. Anyway getting an ex back is a gradual process, so there's no one-action solution for this. Okay? The "no contact" phase is a good start, so do that first if you haven’t yet, for 30 days. If you have, then I'm glad you've completed it. There are two more phases to go with a few other steps in between (in the right order). What I'm trying to say here is it's a 3-phase process, and it's a bit complicated to explain it all on here, but I made an overview in the hopes of making people understand, so watch it here: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html or read my guide for the entire process. Good luck!
After our breakup I didn't contact her for 4 months. Then I contacted but she blocked me. This was when I started begging. Still she blocked me from everywhere. I stopped contacting again. 2 months later tried again, she ignored me totally. The same thing happened few more times. It's been a complete year now, I've been giving her breaks but everytime I return she is the same. She just completely ignores my messages and when I try to call she blocks me. I don't want to beg but this desperation automatically leads to something similar to begging. I don't know what to do now, I'm in a deranged mental state and I have no one to talk to. I just want her back
Hey man... really sorry, but your window of opportunity has already passed. Discussed that here: th-cam.com/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/w-d-xo.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc but if you're having a hard time moving on from this, check out my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
I did the exact opposite. Everytime he reached out to me, I responded with anger. Don't know if that can be fixed. He's now blocked me and won't speak at all.
This isn't really a concerning issue, at least initially, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: th-cam.com/video/5UT92IB5ugs/w-d-xo.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : th-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
But how to keep a proper no contact, when you work in the same organisation, same office, sitting right next to this person? You can’t avoid every interaction, since you work together and you still kinda “around”, so it weakens the effect of no contact
What about if have a newborn together.. and they insist being there when you see them
I bagged him again after 1month 8 days of breakup, how I regain my selfrespect even he said he has lost his feelings for me..
Never ever resort to begging. It's important not to do that any more than you already have and what's clearly not working out for you. By begging, it shows how you're not respecting your ex's need for space and time at the moment. Can't you see? In other words, you're making it hard for your ex to be attracted to you again. Your best bet is still to cut off contact completely for around a month or even more in order to clear your heads. You'd increase your chances of getting your ex back if you've got your sh*t together than if you were doing the opposite of the no contact rule which is begging/pleading or negotiating/trying to woo your ex again. Well, there are a few rare who take their exes back if you beg/plead but it hardly ever lasts since these people are taking their exes back out of pity. So my point is, don't let your ex take you back out of pity, all right? Here are 5 keys you need to remember when it comes to this: th-cam.com/video/eZ6niCLUU6E/w-d-xo.html The best way to avoid that is to work on yourself and get your life together by having fun, hobbies, etc. and to stop chasing your ex. I've made numerous videos about the "no contact" rule and why it's important. Check those out. Also watch the stories here and try not to be a statistic: th-cam.com/video/1U_IOm8ofFo/w-d-xo.html
your videos are so awesome too watch and too learn from!!
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Great work, very on point.
Thanks for your support! :-)
Great video..I want to add when you think about it, who would even want their ex back after being brought that low? The damage they cause your feelings means they are not worth any effort.
Couples who have been together for decades do so because they've learned to forgive each other and practice love, respect your partner's need for space, and learn from their mistakes throughout the evolving changes and growth life brings.
The mistake I made was to send her a farewell letter. Since then I broke the contacts and never heard from her back.
Nothing too drastic or dramatic moves any more please.
Brad you are a great guy
Thank you for your kind words!
Me and my ex broke up 2 days ago i begged and pleaded him but he said he can’t forget what i did to him but we can be friends, talk whole day and he will call everyday , i feel like ending my life now 💔
What did you do to him? Being friends isn't exactly a good idea. Listen to what I've discussed here first: th-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/w-d-xo.html
What if, when she brought things up, your emotions shut down a bit and was a little cold in the situation and both of us saying "theres nothing we can do, if this is it, then this is it." And a few days have gone by and you ask her to talk about what had happened, and she never replied
The thing is, nobody but both of you can figure out what it is you're truly feeling. The same goes for your ex, too. If you ain't feeling it anymore or if the relationship has ran its course, then it's best to give each other space and clear your head first because you're obviously both torn about how to proceed somehow? This may help: th-cam.com/video/QPJprJuf-iU/w-d-xo.html
I watched the clean slate message and sent an apology 😭 for the begging
Good. Give it time to work while you focus on yourself, okay? Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: th-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/w-d-xo.html
How about if my ex is very stubborn and stuck to his word when my insecurities made him depressed?
If you're done with the "no contact" phase and therefore had sent one of these text messages for re-establishing contact, give your ex time to warm up slowly to you. Don't expect one text to work magic because it simply doesn't work that way. Getting an ex back is a process, therefore, learn to be patient and like I said, give her time to actually come close to you. She can't do that if you keep chasing her. Makes sense? Also, this may help: th-cam.com/video/PBotQygy7os/w-d-xo.html
I had a real good friend of mine how to relationship with his girlfriend for 3 years. She all
suddenly stop talking to him. She said she needed her space he took it really hard. So hard that he went into his parents garage and put an end to his life. With a gun.. now everybody hates her for not communicating and talking it out with him. She's been threatened to the point, where she needs counseling. She basically caused a person that she supposedly loved. To kill himself with a gun. The moral of the story of this is. Some people should watch other people's feelings and what they do because they never know what the consequence is going to be. Now she has to live with the rest of her life that she caused a person to commit suicide
Such a tragic story. Sorry to hear that. Most breakups do end abruptly and often with one person ghosting the other. That's just the reality of life. I think some other factor played into this though; mental illness shouldn't be downplayed. Was your friend showing signs of depression? He would've been all right if he got the help he needed during the time because believe it or not, breakups happen all the time, man! I should know because I've been a relationship coach for the past decade.
She didn’t put the gun to his head. Shouldn’t put that all on her. 3 sides to every story. That’s horrible for everyone involved, but unless she loaded that gun and put it to his head, she didn’t ’cause him to commit suicide’ and comments like that - from people like you, are not helping anything at all
I don’t need anyone back, all I need is to feel good about myself which I am not after begging and folding my hand in front of him to not leave because we had a 7 years of relationships. Now I don’t need my ex back, I want to feel good about myself but that last day still haunts me all the time and I am unable to accept how much I have been disrespected, abused and why did I adjust. How can I heal from that trauma mentally because I have lost my self respect even in front of myself only
Sorry to hear that. If it's any consolation, what you've done was actually a normal reaction and most people have done it. This is why majority of my videos on the channel mentions the importance of the 30-day "no contact" rule. I think you ought to process what happened and learn from it so you can start to heal from it and do better next time. Learn to forgive yourself as well for not having known better, yeah? 7 years is also a while to be spending with someone. I suggest you get my Beat the Breakup e-book. I made sure it takes a wholesome approach so everyone can relate to it (including spirituality) and I spent a lot of time writing this and have given it careful thought, so I guarantee you'll find something useful in it to help you out. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com Take care!
@@BradBrowning thanks brad, right now I am just thinking how much I have changed and sacrificed myself to be with him, no doubt he also did the same but in process of fixing our relationship, it affected his business, his terms with his family, his physical and mental health, I believe their is a lot of resentment inside us for each other individually but I don’t doubt that he doesn’t love me. He loved me the most but I believe due to everything got jeopardised due to fixing this relationship, he started pointing fingers at me, he had a very stable business but now he is in debt because he said he couldn’t concentrate on other things because he was keeping every single thing aside to fix things between us, now he said in the last conversation “within 6 months I ll fix everything i messed up” but in the process he abused me a lot, even looking to his condition, his father also got affected and started psychiatrist counselling and he use to blame me for that too. He just lost all hope in the end and said I give up
How to do no contact with my ex-wife, if a have a daughter with her, and have to occasionally see her or talk to her?? Always watch these videos, they are amazing, comforting and helpful, keep up the good work, thank you,
If you're hellbent on trying to work things out, let me just set expectations that it's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html
So if you've begged and pleaded and attempted suicide in front of them during the breakup theres pretty much no chance in getting them back?
For most people, that would be the straw the breaks the camel's back while others have more tolerance, especially if they know you. If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique and things aren't often black and white, I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz or sign up for my coaching program so I could take a closer look at what your situation and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
Thus one is gonna be good.
Hello. Thanks for your support!
My ex said we were trying too hard for this and that loving me wasn’t enough anymore. I begged and offered a compromise that I come live with her for the week and now I’m not sure what to do to win her back. We’re long distance btw.
Is she open to the idea? If she isn't, then chances are she's losing interest... especially if there hasn't been an established long term plan to bridge the physical gap for good.
My situation is this, my ex broke up with me, i tried so hard to beg her and make things work but she didn’t give me a chance. The weird thing about this is that she still loves me and still wants to talk to me. She texts and calls me literally everyday but she’s doesn’t want us to get back together
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: th-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/w-d-xo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: th-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/w-d-xo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/w-d-xo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
My ex is searching me again after his other relationship didn't work.He try to contact my friends and family members for returning.I leaved him for a valid reason.I feel bored about because it is like he want to block my future.He know many people who He can ask about me.I changed even where I lived because of this.
It was that bad, huh? Well, as I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
='( I hate that I had to beg. He broke up with me last week of July. The fact that I wasnt even doing him wrong tho.
Begging will never work. If anything, it only pushes your ex further away.
How can I compete against his friends?
I am starting my no contact from today 05/20/2023 let’s see after 30 days cause she already started dating a guy right after the breakup it the same guy she started hanging out with after work from my workplace but can’t hate her cause i promise her i will love you forever.. hope she will be back !!soon
Never wait around for anyone though. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/7AgSyWZfWV4/w-d-xo.html Give each other space, yes, but put some boundaries up especially as to when and how long you'd try but also don't rush it. It's complicated to explain it all in one go but my updated 2.0 version Ex Factor Guide should give you a step-by-step process on how to go about it. In the meantime, here's a quick overview: th-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/w-d-xo.html
How’s it going buddy..??
Any update??
Is 2 months of begging too much already? It wasn’t every day it was more like every 2 weeks in those 2 months
Anything more than a month is too much already. Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: th-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/w-d-xo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: th-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/w-d-xo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/w-d-xo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
...ive been dumped by my girlfriend of over 11 years - i gave her everything, was everything to her...we had a beautiful life, living in a beautiful mountain home that my Father and I built together...sure, we were a little codependent, but it was great...
our home was destroyed by a mudslide a year ago...we lived in hotels and finally in her mother's house...her mother hates me, and was abusive to my girlfriend when she was a child...she encouraged her daughter to dump me, and she has...she even has a new guy, and it kills me...i need her back, ive invested my whole life into a future with her...i love her
Hi there! Why does her mother hate you? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I know how you feel bro I was married to the love of my life for 11 years together 13 and have 3 children together and it only makes it harder. Any way in the beginning she got along with my family but over time she wouldn't even let my mom come in the house an eventually we split up for a 10 month period and when I came back I fell in deeper love then ever and she led me on making me think we were gonna get back together an then stoped an told me she had met a nother guy on line. I begged for her back an tried to show her that no other man could love her as much as me but to no avail just have to love yourself and let them go I guess an if they truly love you guess they'll come back
I’m doing this now. 4 weeks no contact and it’s killing me! I miss her and love her so much 😢
It's tough, but you can do this! :-) Also you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it:th-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/w-d-xo.html I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com okay? Good luck!
@ I reached out with a gentle text and got not reply. I think I’m blocked actually 🥲😩😪
Never begged her at all, just texted her "Hey, how's goin?" After 4 days of no contact, just to be ghosted and ignored, fun
The no contact is supposed to last 30 days and not 4 days. In other words, you're not supposed to be reaching out yet because yes, you're likely to be ignored. Watch this to help understand what your ex goes through during the breakup process: th-cam.com/video/dqnqGWOk9NA/w-d-xo.html
I blocked my ex rather than going NC, when and how should I go about unblocking?
Other than clicking the unblock button, prepare for an awkward conversation but give it time, while trying to keep things fun and light to diffuse the situation. Make sure you don't create any more unnecessary mistakes though. Good luck!
what to do if they suddenly message you during the no contact phase? I'm classmates with my ex💀
What was the message? Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: th-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/w-d-xo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: th-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/w-d-xo.html
Hello coach brad , I accidentally broke no contact with my ex after 6 months and I believe i may have shown little excitement when i heard her voice , do you have video of what should i do now ? , I don’t want to waste all the work because of a mistake
You're not breaking the no contact rule if it's already been 6 months from the breakup because the no contact rule is only supposed to last for 30 days straight. After that, you're supposed to reach out and test the waters...instead of waiting for months on end. Anyways since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: th-cam.com/video/YVViZmY2x0I/w-d-xo.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
@@BradBrowning thank you so much for replying coach brad , i will watch those videos and think about the next move
Tnak u brad ,still expecting more breakup 😢 videos from u ,to get ex back
Stay tuned as I post regularly. Please hit the bell notification icon to make sure you get notified everytime a new video pops up. Good luck!
Definitely brad ,i watch all ur videos regularly,and I gets a big hope ....
Me and my ex just broke up a month ago. We have a 1 year old together and we see each other everyday when I go pick up our kid from her.
Since you have kids and/or other responsibilities still tied to your ex, it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule instead of the full on silence associated with the no contact rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html or for a comprehensive guide on how to go about things, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy Best of luck!
😢coach i have tried so much to solve the problem with my ex,but now i had that feeling that he dont love me anymore 😢
What issue/s were you two having? This may also help: th-cam.com/video/M4h7in9dtxI/w-d-xo.html
We broke up 2days back and the reason was that, I still had a lot of female interactions inspite of being in a relationship. Should I talk to her once more face to face or should I keep no contact? I really love her so much
Did you get a chance to explain what these women are to you? Try that first but don't push it if she's closed off. Also what's the nature of your conversation with these women? Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
If we didnt talk for about days, does it wont affect the relationship?
If you're still in a relationship, you two ought to be talking, yes... unless you meant he is already an ex?
fuck I did all this shit, it's still fairly fresh, a month into the break up but I'm worried that I already fucked it up
Just do damage control at the moment and try not to make the situation worse than it already is. Send the clean slate text as mentioned and try to be patient.
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I just had to recognize that if I tried to win her back it would have just proven to her that I hadn't learned anything as to why she left. Time went on and I recognized that if things had worked out and we stayed together. I would have just been miserable.
Bottom line, this is a journey that we both have to take alone. I've got no say.
Yes. Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you since you know your relationship and your ex better than anyone else on here. And alas, not every ex is worth all the trouble. It's up to you to decide who is worth fighting for at one of the toughest of battles you face in your relationship. Best of luck!
I begged my girlfriend for 4 years and thats what kept us together. She took me back everytime. What did end up happening is she got all the power and began seeing me as a second class citizen to her. Now im under a no contact order from the police so cant communicate anymore. Begging works but it is a ticking time bomb.
Begging rarely works, if at all. By begging, it shows how you're not respecting your ex's need for space and time at the moment. Can't you see? In other words, you're making it hard for your ex to be attracted to you again. Your best bet is still to cut off contact completely for around a month or even more in order to clear your heads. You'd increase your chances of getting your ex back if you've got your sh*t together than if you were doing the opposite of the no contact rule which is begging/pleading or negotiating/trying to woo your ex again. Well, there are a few rare who take their exes back if you beg/plead but it hardly ever lasts since these people are taking their exes back out of pity. So my point is, don't let your ex take you back out of pity, all right? Here are 5 keys you need to remember when it comes to this: th-cam.com/video/eZ6niCLUU6E/w-d-xo.html The best way to avoid that is to work on yourself and get your life together by having fun, hobbies, etc. and to stop chasing your ex. I've made numerous videos about the "no contact" rule and why it's important. Check those out. Also watch the stories here and try not to be a statistic: th-cam.com/video/1U_IOm8ofFo/w-d-xo.html
if i'm in no contact and she writes me what do i do? do i ignore her? then i have her friendship in some games, she simply sees me online or offline but we don't play together, should i remove the friendship?
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: th-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/w-d-xo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: th-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/w-d-xo.html
I have done all of this inside a 2 hours span😢….. what do i do now do i even have a chance?
That's not so bad. Some do it for weeks on end. I suggest you apply the tips from the vid you've just watched and try to calm down. Your situation is also very delicate so once you start to see some progress with your ex, then don’t go at it alone, especially if you're in doubt or don't know what to do next. Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
As a woman, does the no contact rule work on a man who i was only dating for 2 months when he suddenly said hes not ready for a relationship but wants to be "friends".
It does, but bepending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html Take care!
what if she blocked me and literally found someone else already 2 days after breaking up w/ me
That quickly? I'm sorry to hear that, man... but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: th-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/w-d-xo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
This situation i have is kinda hard... She is pulling away, we arent even boyfriend and girlfriend, but we did have some exclusivities, but it came to a point i gave too much power. The bad part is we are at a cram school, and i think one of us might get on a college somewhere this year. The exams will come at the end of the year, so i dont think i have too much time for this process. With this said, i dont have much time to "live life" as i need to study all time, with the few breaks that were used with her on the times she came back. Perhaps my way to show "i am improving" is Just going to the gym more frequently, getting the best haircut and showing on the simulated exams that i am focused on my Carrier, which i actually should be doing right now instead of getting her. I already am kinda ahead than most of the colleagues, so by getting at least top 5 on every test might show her i am still standing, i am not affected.
Looking at your situation, it doesn't look like a relationship should take priority in your life right now. You're busy, and rightfully so...and so is your ex. Work on your own lives first and the rest will likely fall into place once you get that part sorted.
What to do when she starts pulling away silently without any closure?
There's not much to do yet at this time other than to respect their need for space. I understand how you feel and it's gut wrenching when you're trying to ask your ex for a really good explanation, but resist that! If you ask me, really, closures are overrated. If your ex broke things off with you and acts like it, trust me, you'd really want to give each other space as soon as possible. However, these may help offer a different perspective on things, as to what really happened in your relationship: th-cam.com/video/t6IX-pUnGZQ/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/VQjVlDWxJ2o/w-d-xo.html
Tbh i went to therapy got anti depress pills. Stayed no contact for 2 months. All i did was delete my socials at least insta cuz i couldnt block her anf stop myself from watchin her profile. Now im just tryin to get through every day with pills and my fam being here for me
Sorry to hear. I know how painful a breakup can be, so family and trusted friends are a great source of comfort for you now. Awareness is key, so at least you're halfway there! :-) Continue therapy and get all the help you need. These changes take time to work though, so put your relationship in the back burner first just so you can really take time to really tend to your own issues first with the help of the professionals you're already talking to, okay? If you need someone to talk to, you can also hire me as your coach and let's see what your next best move is, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching and or get my Beat the Breakup guide to help you heal and lead a more fruitful life without your ex at www.beatmybreakup.com Take care!
What should i do if i already told her that I won't be contacting her anymore?
Don't contact her anymore for at least 30 days straight. But you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
I was always overthinking and made she belive that i dont belive her,she left me,i was beging her so much,she block me,i want her so much😭😭😭,she was teling me that i was her dream, everything,sometimes i think that she still love me,i dont now what to do?
Hi! Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
What if you live together ? Can this still work
It's another story if you live under the same roof after a relationship ends. I suggest you do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
such an awesome and mature content. Thanks Brad
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Hello Brad my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me one month ago. When breaking up he said to me that I am his soulmate but he thinks only as friends but he doesen't want to lose me in his life. When breaking up he cried too. After he broke it off I called him one time and begged him to try again but he said he only wants to stay friends with me. After that I told him that I can't do this and said then I don't want to hear anything from him. The problem is we live together and now he is in our apartment for the week and I am there at the weekends so we didn't see or talk to each other since the breakup and he only left little messages about organisational things on our table. He wanted to quit the contract for our apartment after one week too. A week ago I saw that he already signed a contract for a new apartment. It seems like he wants to get as far away from me as possible. First he said he doesn't want to lose me in his life but why is he so fast in getting away from me? Can I still save anything?
Hi there! The bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: th-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/w-d-xo.html but to get the step-by-step process on what to do on each step, read my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 at www.breakupbrad.com
I searched for my ex after two weeks, what should I do? Wait another month before contacting her again?
How long has it been since the breakup? It's possible you're forcing yourself in his life when he's simply not ready to deal with you. Stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/w-d-xo.html
Jesus. I have used every form of begging at the end of this video. Unintentionally. I went back on the kill myself statement almost immediately and said I was talking dumb, but its not like it wasnt said. Im saying that decribed me, yikes. Its been 2 months. I have finally decided to leave her be...today. i just hope its not too late. The other dynamic is she took my 7 year old, I still see her...its kind of hard to no contact when she works nights. She moved out a half a block away. I told her today, I would give her the time to heal herself if she found someone to watch our daughter because its tough to do no contact when we have to see each other so often. -lost
The other deal is she says we are still together and just needs time...idfk lol
..but she moved out 2 months ago while I was at work... you think your relationship is in the gutter .. 😂
My thought is...shes still arguing..so she still cares...but probably not the right thinking lol
A kid is a shared responsibility and you don't necessarily have to stop being a father just because you two broke up. You can work on co-parenting with your ex. However, if you're hellbent on trying to work things out, let me just set expectations that it's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html
5weeks no contact from her and she’s moved on. 3weeks after we broke up… can’t see this working for me. Can it?
I say generally it's still fair game unless you see most if not all the signs that your ex is over you. Here's the vid: th-cam.com/video/ZyJRphwDca4/w-d-xo.html and especially if those signs prevail over a prolonged period of time. If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
So, blocking them on social media Is a mistake? I had to do It, because i was checking her every 5 minutes, i couldn't take It anymore
If you're like most people, then yes, it is a mistake. I just noticed a bunch of people having some problems reaching out later on because they've either deleted their ex, blocked (especially everywhere) or unfriended them, which creates an unnecessary dilemma really, if you ask me. The only reason why I suggest NOT to unfollow/block or delete an ex (that you want to get back with) is because you can, in fact, leverage social media to your advantage but this requires self-control. Here's how: th-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/w-d-xo.html
I made a second account on fb and texted her from there and she was curious in a meet up... we where 8 months together and im broken💔💔
Assess the risks first if it's all worth it. Remember, meeting up when you're both not ready will only alienate your ex further, and that's best case scenario. Worst case scenario will land you a spot in the dreaded friendzone. Watch this first: th-cam.com/video/Jzb18j7ZMPE/w-d-xo.html but if you're both ready, watch this video on how to tell as well as how tips for you on tipping the odds to your favor: th-cam.com/video/eJPGrkuQnm0/w-d-xo.html Best of luck!
I begged and he blocked me is it safe to say that it is over I am so hurt that he is no longer in my life and will I never see or speak to him again?
This most likely means you really need to stop all contact for at least 30 days and not push it. Being needy or too forceful for your ex to talk to you will only alienate them further. Here's what may going through your ex's mind and they seem they want nothing to do with you: th-cam.com/video/sd2Lx8uEni8/w-d-xo.html Take care!
My begging was was... not limited! 3 weeks into the breakup ive had many mamy meltdowns, many apologies and lots of emotion. Frankly, i cant even blame her for leaving. I was NOT expecting her to leave. I was LEGIT bragging to a coworker about how i had found my forever person. So thats the context behind begging i think. The breakup hit me like a goddamned cold bucket of water. Now shes entertaining another ex and its fucking breaking me to a million pieces.
Anyways... theres likely 0 chance of getting her back huh? At most, a 1% i feel. It was a 5 year long relationship, 2 year friendship ANNNND we got 2 kids. So... yeah. A tough time. And i shot my own self in the foot based on this video.
Hey man, thanks for sharing your story but I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. How long were you two together? I understand how devastating it can be when your mind has already been set she's the one. How long were you two together? I really hate to burst your bubble here but let her finish whatever unfinished business she has with this ex. Sorry, but there's not much you can do at this point, especially if your relationship only lasted a short while and more so if she's seemingly (subconsciously or not) used you as a rebound, for your ex to jump back too quickly with him. So overall, the breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: th-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/w-d-xo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com Good luck and I hope you find the right woman for you soon!
I just had a break up a week ago. Her mom manipulated the situation. I did no contact but she Had her mom get ahold of me asked, if I had a laptop and clothes in our home before she left And I don't know what to do.
Answer her mom politely but go back straight to no contact rule.
I begged off and on for months just trying to have a conversation but making myself look more and more like a fool.
That's right. Begging never works!
@@BradBrowning I just don’t get how she was so in love with me when I was a total mess when she met me and I totally removed a lot of the negative things from my life and showed her. I was trying to work on me and then she ran. Trying to acknowledge my flaws and I showed vulnerability. Made me look weak I guess cause she prob thought it was manipulation. Idk why this wasn’t even a long term relationship, but it’s broken me more than anything in my life.
@@moneauxjewomen don’t Iike to hear about your life. The more intimate you are with her, the more she will pull back
The sad truth. Learn and accept it before you take too much damage
9:06 how to reply if he contacts me while I'm doing no contact? How do I reply? He didn't actually say he was breading up. He just did the he needs time thing after almost 4 years and we started out as best friends
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: th-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/w-d-xo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: th-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/w-d-xo.html
@@BradBrowning thank you, wow I didn't really expect a reply, let alone such a useful and detailed one 🙂
I break no contact for 5days we started talking as friends ,flirting when i talk about our breakup it make it worse and he told me that let's cut all communications what can i do doing no contact again
It's too soon to be dealing with an ex right now. I suggest you apply the tips from this vid first to help you out: th-cam.com/video/7PRx8XXmgrU/w-d-xo.html
I begged and pled her to stay but then i accepted a break up and go no contact with her idk if this will do anything to get her back
Begging does affect your chance. Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: th-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/w-d-xo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: th-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/w-d-xo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/w-d-xo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule - let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
@@BradBrowning but i was only begging during the break up not afther it so do i need to use clean slate template?
I broke up with her. She stayed in contact with me. She got a rebound and cheated on her rebound with me. I didn't know about him. She left me this time said she was confused and went back to her rebound. She blocked me and deleted all our photos off social media. I am three weeks into no contact. Healing my broken heart and working out. I am learning more about my attachments and wounds. I will be a better man in the long run.
It happens. As long as you take the lessons learned with you along your journey and really become a better version of yourself, then it won't all be futile.
Hi @BradBrowning I my ex broke up with me nearly a year ago. Originally she said it was nothing I'd done just that she was struggling to be in a relationship and didn't want to be in one. She said she confused love with strongly like. I didn't really believe or understand that and begged her to come back or convince her over the next 2 months to no avail . She even said I was trying to manipulate emotionally blackmail her back into a relationship. We then had a period of 6 months of no contact where I wanted to reach out but was too scared too. Finally she reached out to over the Xmas New year saying it was a year since we met and she couldn't help reminiscing. I was over the moon but after that she went cold again and when I pushed her for what she wanted and why we broke up she said because I gave her the ick . She asked me to respond but I was so hurt it took me a few weeks. Few weeks later she posts on Facebook she was in a new relationship . I completely lost it and took a letter to her house which I gave to her mum. It was very over the top say she was the 1 I'd have married her, and if it wasn't for my son, I'd have jumped off a bridge. Few days later she blocked me.
Can you help me ? I can't get over her.
I tried to get my ex back a year later and basically found out from her that she is really happy and in a steady relationship with a new guy. I feel so jealous. Is probably best to cut my losses and let her be. No chance of ever getting her back now would you say?
That's right. The odds are stacked against you, so I suggest you use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. I recommend these videos to watch: th-cam.com/video/01wvLSaS9_I/w-d-xo.html and/or get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com