1. Offering friendship 2. They are getting mad at you 3. Jealousy baiting 4. The check-in 5. Their stuff(trying to get their stuff back from you or your stuff from them) 6. Give back a gift 7. Hot and Cold treatment
8 } be totally bitchy to them after they cheated on you 9) try to get them jealous about moving on 10} gloat about your new lover do not stop 11) they have a massive breakdown in front of you begging you to take them back after saying they still love you 12) Walk away while tell them you’re a better man than them
I just walked away, no question asked , no drama , nothing. just walk away , i know its painful. But trust be a Man never look back. You might feel the suffering at that moment but later they are the one whos going to regret.
True, especially if you gave it your all. Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
Married 7 years and he moved on with in 2 weeks.. I was heartbroken I sat in my heartbreak and healed myself been 10 month since we split 7 month of no contact, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been now
Boy, im struggling after giving ex my everything to end with nothing. And we gotten back together few times and been practily the side chic once in a blue moon. And thats between different one 3 days a week and in a relationship he left me for again again and again. Boy i feel our souls hasnt let go dipply. Boy then this time has been the meant things he does to trear me down to were i just cant stop thinking even after a couple years of no contact as he thin was with another he left me for. Not many did he up and left me but cheated.its been to much to try and tell about its craziness drove this one crazier and lost with little lonely.
My ex who ended it messaged me to brag about a woman he slept with. He is cruel and disrespectful and I let him know it. I gave 4 years of my life and that’s what I get.
I know exactly how you feel. My Ex would say he was taking another woman out if I showed any signs of my own independence. It feels like a kick in the gut doesn't it?
Blessing in disguise beautiful. You deserve better. In some sick way that’s his way to express he’s upset or hurting. He sounds like an egocentric, prick.
I know it’s hard to accept.One possible thing you can do is to not to respond.If you do that you have the upper hand ,you will be in his head forever obsessed over you. He can be with whoever he wants to but he can’t have a woman like you.Finally he will live his life as a man with PTSD.Good luck you deserve better
My ex has breadcrumbed me for 16 months. She’d been seeing someone straight after we ended. She said it’s no longer happening as she’s still in love with me. We went on 2 dates then boom…she disappeared again. I told her I deserve more and better so I have went back into no contact. We’d been together for 10 years. God I miss her but I can’t keep playing these games. I’ll miss and love her from afar but now is the time to move on.
Sorry to hear, sounds like a tough situation… 10 years is a long time so moving on won’t be easy, but it’s good that you are taking that attitude and starting to focus on getting over your ex and finding someone new. You never know how things might pan out, your ex may come back to you again soon, but if you stick to No Contact for now and work on moving on you will keep the door open to your ex coming back while also preparing for the possibility it is truly over. Wishing you all the best!
Stand strong and just remember woman chase after someone who is happy without them and start to do things that make yourself and your life better. If she's meant for you she would reschedule out and stay. Don't play the games.
I hope you're doing good. I'm in month 8 now with my ex wife of 12 years. It's so crazy how our situations are so similar. I've been thru just about every emotion and lvls of depression. Stay strong dude, I've been at the edge for so long now ending it is just a daily thought. Our 3 boys is the only reason I got and I can't let them see me being weak when shit happens. Your comment hit home hard here.....needed this one. Thx dude
That's part of the process as your ex is trying to heal as well. So in the long run, I don't see this as a cause for concern really, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex (going out on dates is not counted since you're single now), there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: th-cam.com/video/5UT92IB5ugs/w-d-xo.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : th-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
Trash took itself out. Now it wants back in. Doesnt matter if it tries hard to return into my life. He is like spam emails. And what do you do with spam emails? Completely disengage
As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
Continue what you've been doing until he hopefully he realizes the role he played in the demise of the relationship. Apply the tips from this vid as well: th-cam.com/video/plgoMW6GrM8/w-d-xo.html
Hi I had the same. Ex cheated. I went back. Ex went cold after Christmas. I tried to move on and met someone else. She got mad. And decieded to drop in a hint about maybe we could get back together in the future. What is this all about
Am from Uganda I walk away from her in May after she ghosted and move on with another man but I was shocked when she greeted me in public and asked me to call and we talk ,so I called her but I felt nothing at all ,What I have learned in life when you break up with some one sometimes when they come back to you it's always not so attractive,so I decided to love my life am ok being single and my life has a great course I have been watching your videos since 2019 but I would love to send my high appreciation am thankful and grateful more and much love from Uganda East Africa
Hey you're welcome! Thanks for taking the time to share your story. Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you since you know your relationship and your ex better than anyone else on here. And alas, not every ex is worth all the trouble. It's up to you to decide who is worth fighting for at one of the toughest of battles you face in your relationship. Best of luck!
Trust and believe....a break up with a rocky long distance relationship, with a 10 weeks absence, mixed in with her developing feels for some one else, along with game playing, being blocked on their phone, loss of feelings, etc etc, no relationship like that could ever be repaired....especially now, shes in a rebound ...we had 3 years
That's right. A long distance relationship is not easy to maintain, especially if you two had a weak foundation where you don't get to spend time with each other much in person. Not to state the obvious, but the distance is often the main culprit. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: th-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/w-d-xo.html and/or th-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/w-d-xo.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
True. Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
Back then I used to think that, too. But as I became a relationship coach with a degree in Psychology, there's more deeper motivations as to why people play games. It's still up to you though whether your ex or the relationship is worth it because some people can be downright abusive, too. It depends on your situation so use discernment.
You're welcome! If you're trying to move on, this video is for you: th-cam.com/video/01wvLSaS9_I/w-d-xo.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: th-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/w-d-xo.html or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup guide as that will help you and your mindset to evolve from the breakup and therefore become the best version of yourself. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com
He's the dumper and I had to ask him to stop calling to so call check on me so that I can heal. Although this has all just happened last month, everyday is getting better not hearing from him. Right after the breakup I kept begging him to make things work but, he kept giving me excuses so, I stopped asking him. Everyday is getting better...
Giving back a gift isn't a game. It's a rewinding and casting off/release of memories of "better times" after so much emotional cruelty that was never apologized for.
Yes, it can be symbolic for that. However, be careful because for some if not most people, giving back gifts can be a sign of disrespect and may only cause more anger and it's drama you don't need right now.
That's another way of looking at it. Sometimes two people are just way too different to ever make it out for life while others could do with the right amount of compromise, understanding and love. So it depends.
If you can reasonably expect that you'll meet someone new in the near future, sure. But if you know it'll be years before that happens, it's hard to find the positives in knowing you'll be spending every night alone for the next few years.
He just ended our 2.5 year relationship because I asked for a commitment. He said he loves me and is wildly attracted to me and that he loves being with me and how I make him feel but he’s not feeling enough to take it to the next level. But wants to be close friends still. I told him no for now. Thank you for validating my decision.
How was there a relationship if there was no commitment in the first place? If you two have had a casual relationship for these 2 years, that ought to raise some red flags on your end past the 6-month mark, yes? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Yes, thanks! I was across the country for most of the time and we only just started having an in person thing once a month when I'd visit but yep this was a situationship with a friend I'd known for 15 years. I'm not going to try to make it work since clearly he isn't capable but I love your videos anyway-they're comforting! I did 10 years of 12 step work around intimacy so I feel good, just sad. @@BradBrowning
@@magicisreal111😢😢😢why did you waste 10+ years of your life with this bastard?! I hope you find healing and God gives you a better man never again open your heart to this user evil man😮he takes and takes and he didn’t give you marriage
1. Friendship- friends, family and community pressure you to leave on good terms and help the ex distance themselves from you. It is a life lesson to learn not communicate with them anymore. Friendship was for me out of guilt for breaking up with them and not wanting to hurt them. Now, I understand just move on. 5. Their stuff. (trying to get their stuff back from you or your stuff from them). They deserve to get their stuff back and vice versa, do it in one go (i did and it worked well).
Yeah, I'm seeing the game ... One of these days he'll play his game and I won't see him anymore. His confusion leads to my 'drama' and it's getting old.
That's right. If you want him back, you can try to meet him halfway though and try to see if there's progress. It's important to set boundaries as to when you'd stop trying and follow that. However, if you need all the help you can get in trying to get you ex back, consider getting my 2.0 Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy Good luck!
We had a major fight, and I overreacted and he said that I proved that I don't have control over myself. He blocked me for just one day, unblocked, then said we could only be friends and we don't have boundaries, but we can't be together. He told me if I fix things he may be able to consider it. and I need to learn to have patience. It's been a week since the breakup, and no matter what I say he says the decision is final and we will only be friends.
What was the fight about? Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: th-cam.com/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/w-d-xo.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: th-cam.com/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/w-d-xo.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
This is gold and exceeded all my expectations one could have for a youtube video. Even included the question my gf asked if we could be friends. Damn, they are so wired like having a collective consciousness or something.
I need to add unblocking you after bring blocked for a while, they dont want to be the one initiating contact, so they open a door for you to communicate with them
That's a double-edge sword really... coz sometimes it means they've let go for good, including the grudge they may hold and therefore has closed the chapter. When that happens, it's usually associated with these signs though: th-cam.com/video/SLXoeSabPnw/w-d-xo.html
@@BradBrowning Interesting, but my ex unblocked me only on WhatsApp and I'm still blocked on everything else, if they let go of the grudge why am I blocked on other social media? I think in this situation it's just manipulation and a way to see if I'll blow her phone up
Always heart sick without each other . He cant offer time and cant commit to anything. The connection is so very strong. And love is there, a lot of addictions involved on his behalf. 4 days no contact. I cant sleep or eat. Ugh aweful feeling
How long have you been dealing with each other? It's either he's really an avoidant who's not ready to commit or he's not that into you. Both scenarios are tricky so I suggest moving on but if you wanna try anyways, let me know about the full details about your situation where I can monitor the progress (or lack therefore) and help you plan your next best move, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
That's a big no-no. That's coming on way too strong when you should only be testing the water first when restarting communication. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/3StiDLdhi04/w-d-xo.html
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I told her I wasn't interested in being friends, I told her we wouldn't be good friends. I know she's making the mistake, she's seeing that the grass isn't greener but, she needs to learn that herself
True. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: th-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/w-d-xo.html
Ok, but you need to be prepared for if she discovers that the grass actually IS greener. Because in the real world, that's often the case. The girl I was just with met a guy and said I didn't need to worry about him, she even invited him out with us so we could get to know each other. He was basically a younger, cooler version of myself. As the night went on, she started ignoring me and paid more attention to him until by the end of the night, she was completely focused on him. She left me the next day, and there was no way I could deny that she'd moved on to greener pastures.
Ex has done a few of these things so far it's been 3 months since we broke up and she's reaches out a few times checking up and wants friendship and still hasn't come to pick up her stuff
That's good but like they say, nothing ventured, nothing gained. Do you think you're ready to give it a try? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/w-d-xo.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
Ive been married for 13 years and my wife left me. We lost a lot of intimacy last year because we got tired and she stoped trusting me. And we have a 5 year old boy,that we love very much. The problem with no contact for me its we see each other or phone almost everyday because of him. I love her very much and i understand my mistakes from the past. Thank you
Is infidelity involved in this issue? Issues having to do with trust, especially as a result of your own behaviour is a bit challenging to resolve. Not saying it's possible, but it's really challening and although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
You're welcome! Glad you found it helpful. Thanks for the support as well… please like and subscribe if you haven’t already: th-cam.com/users/bradbrowning”
What steps have you taken to try to lure her back in and is the relationship worth fighting for? Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Do you think you're ready to give it a try? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/w-d-xo.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
This is really nice .now it’s been three weeks that we don’t have communication.i never send him a message or call .I just disappeared like a bubble after he said he want some space 😂
That's good! I'm glad you got right on to it. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: th-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/w-d-xo.html
i walked away from her because she pulled away and was treating me bad. she came back 5 months later and started to want to get back saying she wasn't ready then really acting like she Wanted it then doing 1,2 and 3 so i said i won't just be your friend and walked away again. did I make a mistake?
I think you did right. You said she had been treating you bad. If she really were not ready, she would've done it in polite manner. She did not care about you.
You ought to be on talking terms to fix things... Friends or more appropriately, talking terms for now (if your ex isn't already in another relationship), but don't let that derail you, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Whatever you do, make sure you don’t resort to doing the things here: y2u.be/jikW4YYC9yo Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it but also try to see you aren't just being strung along. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? Apply the tips here: th-cam.com/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/w-d-xo.html It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
what if it was a short relationship (2 months) and she tried to contact me twice after one week. but i didnt respond and now she unfollowed me on all social media and deleted all our messages we saw each other outside last night and she texted me saying she wanted to come say hi and i just left her on read and a little bit later she did all of the above. what should i do now??PLEASE HELP ME!
What was the message about? Reply only if the message warrants a response. Depending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html
@@BradBrowning thanks you for the response. i just found out she is talking to someone new already. i showed too much attachment and i thinks that was what made it too easy for her. she used to tell me she felt something was missing when she didn't talk to me at night before sleeping, and i think after a week of no contact and leaving her on read made her mad. and this new guy is definitely not her type i can tell. like he is way worse looking than me and doesn't have any better life than mine. so is this considered a rebound relationship for her as ours only lasted 2 months? (btw we were talkin for a month before we made it official so about 3 months total) what should i do now?
Spent 15 years with her. Really wanted my forever story. She got mad over some things out of my control and left. Lost 30 pounds and had a major heart attack. When she did message me she found out I was in the hospital but didn’t believe me. I know I got to let her go but this is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do.
We’re on our 5th break and we usually get back together a few weeks later. We had trust issues but overall a great relationship but she’s not a big communicator and I am so she’ll hold things in then blow up. We both have expressed love for each other and we’re both still in love she doesn’t feel she deserves love. Childhood trauma and lack of accountability has been a major factor. It’s been 7 days she’s been watching my stories we’ve talked and she got mad we then were texting for hours which wasn’t so bad but she says she doesn’t want to work on this yes she’s said it before but we both have a connection like no other. She had mentioned us being cool which we’ve done before it’s like we always find our way back. We be sick without each other
I see. 5 breakups is a huge red flag best not ignored. How long have you two been together and were you two actively doing anything to rebuild that trust? It's best to take practical ways to learn to do that before your relationship becomes truly toxic -- if it isn't already. Let's try to make this breakup the last one. Work with me and hire me as your coach so I can help you talk to her and pinpoint other issue/s you two may have missed. Sign up for my one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Talk soon!
@@BradBrowning we’ve been together since August 2022 and okay thank you I’ll click link yes we tried a couple of things to rebuild trust but honestly we need direction
I experienced all those points from the video except for the exchange of gifts because I never met her irl. It's a LDR with her where both of us never expressed our feelings or proposed to each other. But the thing is I failed her shit tests and then chased her for no reason and she lost respect for me. So, here am I doing the no contact for the second time and this time without social media, limited presence and its been over 7 months and she still not messaging me but playing games to get the reaction out of me. I'm not giving in but I've noticed that she too had reduced Social media presence lately, may be she's trying to forget me 😢
Sorry to hear that. As you've noticed, the distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then it may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: th-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/w-d-xo.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Three months of being lied to was enough for me lying to myself was what really made me finish it , and I just found out she's telling everyone who will listen she left me
Well, if you ask me, the breakup looks like a blessing in disguise but yes, it doesn't make the pain any less. This may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: th-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/w-d-xo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
My fiancee recently ghosted me two weeks before I realized she did something she was ashamed of, and pushed me away as hard as she could. I'm still dealing with the grief, as she is the love of my life.
What was she ashamed of? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
It would be either drug use or cheating. But I'm not sure that's the case, as new developments have come to light. Her mental state is on edge, and pushed everyone away to do this by herself. She has a hard time getting help for this, and on the fence as to whether to seek help or let herself go. All I could do was let her know that I'm always there if she needed to talk
@mschermerhorn5576 you are more caring than most people just remeber you will eventually come to a cross roads to where you have to decide to keep them or let them go. The choice is yours
He told me even if i came back to the country we cant be together because hes not financially well right now. He left me for someone else and is still with her. So what this means
It means it may be over for good. Sorry, but chances are your beau has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: th-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/w-d-xo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with him if you can see he no longer wants to try. Take care!
Me and my ex gf tend to start fighting and arguing about really small stuff, and she tends to try to make me jealous alot, and teasing me like 24/7 and we recently broke up, but she claims “she will never like me ever again”
Looks like you two are bored with each other? What do you two always bicker about? Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: th-cam.com/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/w-d-xo.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: th-cam.com/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/w-d-xo.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
My ex just broke up with me about a week ago yet she texts me twice a day and even attempts to call me the last 4 days in a row. Honestly i do want her back but i how can i trust that she wants me back for a relationship and not just attention? Im28 she is 41 what should i say to her
Oftentimes you can actually tell if someone genuinely likes you, especially if you've had some history with them. Look out for the signs here: th-cam.com/video/KMer79OQ_xo/w-d-xo.html
My ex texted me 4 days after we broke up and with no contact since the breakup. We spoke about how we were both feeling and how the therapy for her issues was going? Have I fucked up my chances of getting her back at all? The conversation wasn’t too long and I reestablished no contact immediately after the conversation
No, but silence would've been a much better option. Discussing feelings is the last thing you wanna do if you've just been dumped. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/npuQb1APSaU/w-d-xo.html
Lol. I got the classic "Are you alive?" Message after 3 weeks of NC. Chatted that evening and briefly 2 days after. Then she disappeared, been almost 2 weeks again of NC. She initiated these conversations... Unfortunately I had to message her to arrange collecting some of my last few things at her place. She did say "It is better for both of us to call it a day" So ya not sure what that means lol. Im going back into NC after collecting my things. Doing this when she isnt at home for my own sake. Very confused 🤔
That's a classic one indeed! That's what I call the "validation-seeking" text and believe it or not, your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: th-cam.com/video/tev2-lrJq7o/w-d-xo.html
am from india . My ex broke up with me as my previous ex sent our few intimate photos with him and he said that i have broke his trust . He also broke his phone due to anger . We study in the same university , he said that he will not come in relationship with me for the next 5 years , which is the duration of our course . He sometimes check on me about my health and then says that we are just friends and so i told him that i dont want you to play mind games with me , come and talk to me only when you want to get back together . He said ok . But a week ago he called me asking for a stupid help , and kept on calling me for like 10 times . Then again told me , he cant get back. But he also looks at me in the class . What is he thinking ? By the way , i dont talk to him at all , not even eye contact. Any chances of reconciliation ?
Apply the tips from this vid: th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html but if you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique and things aren't often black and white, I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz or sign up for my coaching program so I could take a closer look at what your situation and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
Just curious my ex unblocked me a few weeks ago, has been texting me more than usual lately and even wanted me to come over to help clean our daughters room. What are those signs cause im totally confused about it
How long has it been since the breakup? Those are good signs especially if there's been a period of no contact for at least 2 weeks before that started happening. For solid signs, though, here's what to be on the lookout for: th-cam.com/video/CsVR7yV4X8k/w-d-xo.html
We were at long distance relationship and 3 weeks after the break up, he asked if I'm seeing anyone. I replied by "it's none of your business" and he said it was a mistake to text me and to be clear I should move on and plus, he told me he likes someone new these days. Deep inside, I don't believe him. Sometimes, when he breaks up with me lies in order for me to "move on". Every time we had broken up it was because of the distance and nothing depending on us as a couple. We were doing good as a couple. It's just he is struggling with his financials right now and he wants to improve his life. In a couple of months, I was going to be where he lives right now.
A trip can be really costly. How is he struggling financially? Also how are your finances and can you support your own to travel to where he lives? Try to heal and consider moving on from this. You'll know if he's serious with your plans once you give him space and have time to miss you.
@@BradBrowning He has a job but right now he lives with his parents and he wants to be independent and live alone in his own house but he can't afford all of that with the income he has. He is trying to collect some money to do such things and I totally understand I'm not in the plan right now. Personally, I will be in the position to afford a trip to go there these months I think, I have told him many times and he said that he doesn't feel good if I spend most of the money for this, for a hotel maybe. I understand that he has to make his life better first. If he was clear enough about it, I would let him do what he has to do, but right now I don't know what to do because he insists I should move on and meet a new guy.
Hey Brad! My ex ( from a short relationship of 2 mnths) contacted me saying hi! She has a rebound herself but unblocked me and asked me if i were dating someone !! And before I could reply blocked me again saying she doesn’t want to see my face. Wat to do?
Depending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html
girl friend hurt much more, so i deleted she's number, after i moved on she's come back again 2 times after 5month, i not respond, after 8 months i contact him, now she's deleted my number, what will happen next, this is healthy love? She's come back again?
This happened after 8 months apart? Sorry but it may be time to move on from this. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: th-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/w-d-xo.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
We scheduled a meeting but she said she still had to recover, so the meeting was suspended. Is No Contact still working since I must wait for her response?
How long has it been since the breakup? Focus on texting and try not to meet up when one or both of you aren't ready yet. No contact means radio silence/zero communication between you and your ex in any way, shape or form. Therefore you shouldn't be waiting for a response. The phase you're on (assuming you've done the first phase correctly which is the 30-day no contact rule, if not, then prioritize that first for your own sake) is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
My ex didn’t speak in person one day and then right after, he sent me a friend request on face book. Did that mean he wanted to be friends? More recently, there had been an incident where I got too drunk at a part and essentially “went missing” aka wondering and someone called him because we were in the same apt complex and he came outside and looked for me. I apologized for bringing him into that and then told him I couldn’t be friends with him and blocked him. Where do I go from here lol? I didn’t think I could just be friends with him and didn’t want to see him post someone else lol
You don't have to be friends with him but there's no need to block him either, especially since you can leverage social media to your advantage. This vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/w-d-xo.html
Question about #5 If the break up was bad and they asked me at the time of the break up via text if I wanted my stuff back and said I replied "No*, (I only had a few articles of cheap clothing left behind and some soap), is it pretty safe to assume when they text me 30 days later, asking if I want this same stuff back they are playing games? I live an hour away almost and it's not even worth the gas.
My ex 4 years before broke up .i waited 1 year and moved on. I didn’t expect,he came to me .he texted and asked that I have to give second chance to him . He cheated on me 4 years before ,even I healed myself very hardly ,I can’t trust again . I don’t know ,these days even in my mind mixed signals. I rejected to meet with him ,I rejected to give him cha nce again. Is it true way ?
Healing takes time but yes, if you've moved on and don't see yourself with him anymore, then you can save both yourselves further heartbreak by declining his further attempts to reconcile. You know what's best to do here as you know your ex better, so you decide whether he's worth another shot or not. Take care!
My boyfriend broke up with me on sunday and today us tuesday and he has not stopped texting me and even showed up at my place left me message with my child and then texted me to tell me he brong me a gift from his trip . Most of his texts are about he loves me and knows im going through a hard time and wants to be there for me.
Give him time to decide what he really wants because this kind of dynamic between you and your ex won't work in the long run. It's still important to put the full 30-day straight "no contact" rule into priority because if you've been in touch after the breakup too soon, then you BOTH aren't taking the time needed to process the breakup and been acting like it hadn't happened. Here's how not contacting your ex can help you a lot: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html Burying the problems which had caused the breakup in the first place is a surefire way towards a doomed relationship, if you get your ex back. Make sense now? You ought to teach your ex these very important lessons: th-cam.com/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/w-d-xo.html On the other hand, you can work on the issues together but you have to make sure you're on the same page and you aren't being manipulated and/or strung along. Are you seeing any progress? Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed and so I can guide accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Yeah, nice move, man. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: th-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/w-d-xo.html
I greeted my ex yesterday and she responded but when I asked for the return of my remaining stuff back she full out blocked me, why she doesn't want to return my stuffs back? And how can I get my stuffs back, I don't feel safe going to her place as well.
If the breakup was still fresh, she may be way too pissed or hurt (or both) to deal with you for the time being, so try to give it a few days, if you can? However, if you badly need the stuff back right away, you can arrange for a close friend to pick it up for you. Anyway here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do and for you to understand what may be going on at the moment: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
@@BradBrowning thank you for the advice, it's been two months already since we broke up because of her toxic environment/family I asked a mutual friend as well but she got no response, I'm thinking of letting my things go now, she is toxic and manipulative, she even reported me to the police after the heated argument when we broke up, and she hold my remaining stuff. I don't think it's a good Idea to risk my friends and family's safety over my stuff just because of her. It feels like she is using my stuff and authority for power and control on the break up, so I think it's time to let it go... It's unhealthy anymore.
Awesome Video! My ex reached out recently and told me her nephew asked about me, Could you tell me what that mean? I asked about him before thats was a year ago,(no response)now she wanna say something, should i trust it?
If you were particularly close to her nephew, then that may not be far from the truth. However, that doesn't necessarily mean your ex is trying to find ways to get you back. For solid signs, though, here's what to be on the lookout for: th-cam.com/video/CsVR7yV4X8k/w-d-xo.html
Assess the risks first if it's all worth it. Remember, meeting up when you're both not ready will only alienate your ex further, and that's best case scenario. Worst case scenario will land you a spot in the dreaded friendzone. Watch this first: th-cam.com/video/Jzb18j7ZMPE/w-d-xo.html but if you're both ready, watch this video on how to tell as well as how tips for you on tipping the odds to your favor: th-cam.com/video/eJPGrkuQnm0/w-d-xo.html Best of luck!
I don't think there's anything to be confused about. Do you expect him to reach out? Since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: th-cam.com/video/YVViZmY2x0I/w-d-xo.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Which part? Most of my vids are about getting an ex back, so that should be good news for you, yeah? If you're referring to the "no contact" tips, this usually comes naturally to the dumpers. Learn the 3 basic phases I teach in my Ex Factor Guide because this lets you know the basics of my 3R system here first, so you'll have an idea on how to go about it on your end: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
Hello Brad, Me and my special someone broke up because she thought she could handle academics and relationships at the same time. And she still wanna be friends with me but we still have some good texts in a past few weeks but after that it became cold and after few days I asked her how's she doing and she only seen it and its been 10 days no reply to that text. Im very confused now what am i going to do.
What are you going to do? Kick her to the curb! Look, you sound young and are in university. I never bothered with dating while getting my engineering degree, but by age 21 I was earning more than half the people and by age 25 I was earning more than 70% of the people and by age 30 I was earning more than 85% of Americans. I have had women ask me out all my life. Get to work! Nothing makes you look more attractive to a woman than being busy and having no time for them.
She's busy with other stuff. As to being friends, that's a bad idea as that will absolutely lead you nowhere. Don't do it, man. In addition to being busy, she's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You ought to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at th-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/w-d-xo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
@BradBrowning now, it's been 14 days, and there was no contact . Yesterday, she unfollows me at ig and removed me from her following list, and i didn't do anything wrong. And I've been silent for 14 days
I was the one who broke up with my ex, but he is the one who is in a new relationship and he is the one who reached out to me after 6 months of no contact, wanting to be friends. First he says that he want to win me over again, and then the next day he wants to stay with his horrible new gf whom he says is mean to him. So confusing
Well, it's been many months since the breakup and I take it you're in talking terms with him again? Be cordial without actually being friends. This means you put him on the bottom of your priority list especially since he's confused which direction to go. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: th-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/w-d-xo.html Best of luck!
@BradBrowning my ex reached out after almost 2 weeks of no contact, but when I suggested to meet she said it was too soon for her and that she would prefer to meet later when things were more settled down. I replied that I was OK with that. Did I do wrong in replying this way? I feel that she now thinks that there is no consequences for the breakup anymore because she knows I would be willing to meet later. What should I have done in this situation?
It's too soon to be talking with your ex. I posted a recent vid that has to do with your situation, so please watch this, it's from my other channel: th-cam.com/video/OvPoxUe0yIY/w-d-xo.html As to meeting up, assess the risks first if it's all worth it. Remember, meeting up when you're both not ready will only alienate your ex further, and that's best case scenario. Worst case scenario will land you a spot in the dreaded friendzone. Watch this first: th-cam.com/video/Jzb18j7ZMPE/w-d-xo.html but if you're both ready, watch this video on how to tell as well as how tips for you on tipping the odds to your favor: th-cam.com/video/eJPGrkuQnm0/w-d-xo.html Best of luck!
Sorry to hear that. Did you mean he was already messing around while still in a relationship with you? If so, your beau has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: th-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/w-d-xo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with him if you can see he no longer wants to try. Take care!
My ex asked me to meet him after few months we broke up. I told him I was busy. He sent me a message saying that it was really lovely to see me again during hiking event and that he would really like to meet with me. I was busy too. He recently sent me a birthday message. I thanked him. I have always been politely in my responses. Should I meet him if he asks me again?
The question here is are you ready to? If you see a future with him, then focus on texting and try not to meet up when one of you or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on (assuming you've done the first phase correctly which is the 30-day no contact rule) is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
When did you two broke up? Your ex could be feeling jovial and so into the holiday season. If the breakup was fresh, then that could be a great sign. Look out for these signs, too: th-cam.com/video/nvcUmaNbh_A/w-d-xo.html
Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
@@BradBrowning I think it would help most men move on if the guy that was plowing her behind their back recorded her deceit and moans and sent it to them with a note "just trying to help a brother out!" 🥶
@@BradBrowningam in a situation where my boyfriend told me he has nothing to do with me,we are done and he told me he's decision is final on not wanting to be with me...days later,he started viewing my social media stories,even reacting,I kept quiet and watched,he can't call me or text.. he's friend had a birthday party and he told his friend I should attend but still he can't talk to me...But why?
after one year is there ia any chance my ex is missing me or not he tried to contact me every 3 to 4 month but at last i don't talk to him since 1 year
You wouldn't know unless you meet him halfway and talk to him, especially if you're really curious. But the fact that he's been trying to reach out to you all these months is something. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/KDJz0_vBk48/w-d-xo.html
7 weeks apart, had the angry messages accusing me of stuff I haven’t done where she’s paranoid I’m speaking to other women because she sees I’ve spent time on WhatsApp, recently had 4 days of nice phone calls and messages and then 5th day I say hi and she says hi back and have heard nothing more in 2 days!…how long should you go with this behaviour, she knows I’m sorry for mistakes in the relationship (no cheating) and she knows I want her back.
It may not be a cheating issue but obviously it was huge enough to cause her to break up with you. It's very important to give it time to let whatever anger and hurt there is between you two, especially from your ex's side, subside. Sometimes it takes a month but oftentimes it takes longer or shorter depending on the situation and what the mistake was/were. You simply cannot rush this. An apology is in order, too. These may help: th-cam.com/video/qnE192fUKxI/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/w-d-xo.html
The no contact rule is only for 30 days, not 90. Anyway yes, you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
It could mean you're doing something right, so keep at it. Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: th-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/w-d-xo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: th-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/w-d-xo.html
When did you two broke up? Make sure you aren't being used for your kindness and that you learn to set some boundaries especially if things start to not feel right anymore. Remember, you are not liable to help him especially if the breakup happened within the 30-day period in which case, your focus should be diverted fully to yourself. Refer to my other videos or the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide to be guided what to do after each phase, at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy Good luck!
The first 30 days, aka the no contact phase, is supposed to be where you focus on yourself for a full 30 days. You do all that AFTER the 30-day period. Make sense?
When he said he want to breakup I begged him a lot And after that I said him so much bad things about his toxic behaviour And now 1 month I am not contacting him Starting 1st week hi seen my status but now he didn’t seen my status Is there any chance to get him back He is not sending me a single msg between 1.5 months after no contact rule I am not understanding what’s going on his mind right now?
Checking statuses doesn't really matter. People do it all the time and there's really not much to it. As to your chances, I say generally it's still fair game unless you see most if not all the signs that your ex is over you. Here's the vid: th-cam.com/video/ZyJRphwDca4/w-d-xo.html and especially if those signs prevail over a prolonged period of time. If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
Hi! Please turn on closed captioning (cc) found on the upper right corner of the vid if you're using the app or on the lower right portion if using a web browser -- it works the same way as a subtitle. :-)
Friends so you both can co-parent? Why have you waited too long to try and save your marriage though? Try to gauge your chances here first: www.marriageguy.com/quiz These may help, hopefully: th-cam.com/video/lvH0STXVqdI/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/F1nFUvtof7Y/w-d-xo.html but if you still need my help in trying to fix your marriage, sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can take a look at what's really going on and help you out, at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Hi please help me! I dont have an ex but We only went on 3 dates. We had a deep connection. He was talking commitment with me. I kinda pulled away for like two weeks then he ghosted me. Its been a whole week since Ive heard from him. 😢😢😢 can i salvage this or get him back? Pls!!!😢
all modern women are same, just playing mind games all the time just because you you have more option compared to men but nowadays men understand what should they have to do. you messed up, now enjoy the same medicine.
What if when your ex-girlfriend is mad at you over something puny but they call your sister or your mom to get comforted or to tattle like your family is going to all the sudden say oh we're all on your side 100%
That's odd, not to mention unhealthy. How's your communication in the relationship though? Did you do her wrong, thus her rant? Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here, with too many variables to consider… so sign up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation where we could get to the bottom of the issue/s: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Im not sure if this guy is getting it down right. But lets stay away from toxic people. But some people dp need to learn lessons. I think being around themhelps them see that when you offer your time. But really i just want to have fun man and it was fun to have her around. Its hard because you dont want to give in but you dont want to just deal with the nonsense.
Not all relationships end because things got toxic. If things became toxic fast between you two, chances are it already is right from the beginning but nobody paid attention to the red flags.
You both could use that much needed space, so don't push it. I suggest you read the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning thank you. We actually dated 10 years ago. He moved, we dated long distance and then broke up. He moved again out of the country and recently reached out and we’ve been chatting for 6 months, long distance. He told me I’m the only one he keeps wanting to come back to, that he keeps thinking about me and can see us building a life, but then he seems to pull away. I think I’m anxious attachment and he’s avoidant, so me wanting to talk about how we move forward with the long distance made him feel “exhausted” (his words). I think we could have just talked about it and set some boundaries and expectations. It’s more natural for him to just pull away.
Will my ex fiancé come back we were together for 1 year and 8 months and our anniversary was gonna be feb 4th of this year for 2 years, he was so impulsive and he said I don’t love you and I hate you when he walked out and went 6 hours home that night we argued because we argued because of me a lot and I didn’t do everything I should have…I want him back ❤
To add context we argued like often because of me, he blocked me on Xbox and my phone number cause he got a new one and I did beg at first but I stopped just recently and he left October 20th.
Lastly there was a lot of stress on him paying my bills, my family being stressful with him and him building up because of our relationship issues but I want to fix this.
I say generally it's still fair game unless you see most if not all the signs that your ex is over you. Here's the vid: th-cam.com/video/ZyJRphwDca4/w-d-xo.html and especially if those signs prevail over a prolonged period of time. If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
Take it extra slow and try to see where you're both at emotionally first. Get to know each other all over again. It's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: th-cam.com/video/YVViZmY2x0I/w-d-xo.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
1. Offering friendship
2. They are getting mad at you
3. Jealousy baiting
4. The check-in
5. Their stuff(trying to get their stuff back from you or your stuff from them)
6. Give back a gift
7. Hot and Cold treatment
8 } be totally bitchy to them after they cheated on you
9) try to get them jealous about moving on
10} gloat about your new lover do not stop
11) they have a massive breakdown in front of you begging you to take them back after saying they still love you
12) Walk away while tell them you’re a better man than them
@karidugan4000 are you completely over him or are you playing games knowing you want him back and are you happy?
I still love you Penny John it's been 31 one days today it hurts just like it happened yesterday I will love you until my last breath ❤ Amen
@@virgilwilliams8018 yes I am i will be waiting for a real man to come along
Yes totally and it's very irritating the 2nd one
I just walked away, no question asked , no drama , nothing. just walk away , i know its painful. But trust be a Man never look back. You might feel the suffering at that moment but later they are the one whos going to regret.
True, especially if you gave it your all. Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
Yes but true love hurts to just walk away from something real love 😍
Coming from a girl I agree with u
But does true love walk away?
@@Unknownuserhtps Yes. Because if you dont love yourself, you can not love someone else. Love yourself first.
Married 7 years and he moved on with in 2 weeks.. I was heartbroken I sat in my heartbreak and healed myself been 10 month since we split 7 month of no contact, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been now
Good. I'm glad to hear you're coping well! Take care!
He reached out today through a friend. But I’m over it all now
Boy, im struggling after giving ex my everything to end with nothing. And we gotten back together few times and been practily the side chic once in a blue moon. And thats between different one 3 days a week and in a relationship he left me for again again and again. Boy i feel our souls hasnt let go dipply. Boy then this time has been the meant things he does to trear me down to were i just cant stop thinking even after a couple years of no contact as he thin was with another he left me for. Not many did he up and left me but cheated.its been to much to try and tell about its craziness drove this one crazier and lost with little lonely.
No contact is better than limited contact imo. You fully put them out of you mind in time
My ex who ended it messaged me to brag about a woman he slept with. He is cruel and disrespectful and I let him know it. I gave 4 years of my life and that’s what I get.
You deserve much better. It is hard to feel not good enough but you are. He is a Narcisst. See it as a blessing so you can attract a real man.
Really sorry to hear that. This vid may be for you: th-cam.com/video/PN-07kAtIjw/w-d-xo.html
I know exactly how you feel. My Ex would say he was taking another woman out if I showed any signs of my own independence. It feels like a kick in the gut doesn't it?
Blessing in disguise beautiful. You deserve better.
In some sick way that’s his way to express he’s upset or hurting. He sounds like an egocentric, prick.
I know it’s hard to accept.One possible thing you can do is to not to respond.If you do that you have the upper hand ,you will be in his head forever obsessed over you. He can be with whoever he wants to but he can’t have a woman like you.Finally he will live his life as a man with PTSD.Good luck you deserve better
My ex has breadcrumbed me for 16 months. She’d been seeing someone straight after we ended. She said it’s no longer happening as she’s still in love with me. We went on 2 dates then boom…she disappeared again. I told her I deserve more and better so I have went back into no contact. We’d been together for 10 years. God I miss her but I can’t keep playing these games. I’ll miss and love her from afar but now is the time to move on.
Sorry to hear, sounds like a tough situation… 10 years is a long time so moving on won’t be easy, but it’s good that you are taking that attitude and starting to focus on getting over your ex and finding someone new. You never know how things might pan out, your ex may come back to you again soon, but if you stick to No Contact for now and work on moving on you will keep the door open to your ex coming back while also preparing for the possibility it is truly over. Wishing you all the best!
Stand strong and just remember woman chase after someone who is happy without them and start to do things that make yourself and your life better. If she's meant for you she would reschedule out and stay. Don't play the games.
I hope you're doing good.
I'm in month 8 now with my ex wife of 12 years. It's so crazy how our situations are so similar. I've been thru just about every emotion and lvls of depression. Stay strong dude, I've been at the edge for so long now ending it is just a daily thought. Our 3 boys is the only reason I got and I can't let them see me being weak when shit happens. Your comment hit home hard here.....needed this one. Thx dude
If u love her bro do what needs to be done doesn’t make sense living a life with half a soul.
This woman was quite confused or is quite not serious person playing with feelings like this...get away from her soonest possible!!!!!?😮
Well they pushed me away, and I accepted it. Started posting myself out and on dates and now I’m blocked.
That's part of the process as your ex is trying to heal as well. So in the long run, I don't see this as a cause for concern really, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex (going out on dates is not counted since you're single now), there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: th-cam.com/video/5UT92IB5ugs/w-d-xo.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : th-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
Love is like a fart: if you have to force it, it’s shit.
It's why I discourage people from chasing their ex and in fact, it's one of the main reasons why I encourage the "no contact" rule!
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Trash took itself out. Now it wants back in. Doesnt matter if it tries hard to return into my life. He is like spam emails. And what do you do with spam emails? Completely disengage
As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
He got mad when he found out I was on a date. Which I don't understand when he was the one who cheated.. 4 yrs wasted
Continue what you've been doing until he hopefully he realizes the role he played in the demise of the relationship. Apply the tips from this vid as well: th-cam.com/video/plgoMW6GrM8/w-d-xo.html
Hi I had the same. Ex cheated. I went back. Ex went cold after Christmas. I tried to move on and met someone else. She got mad. And decieded to drop in a hint about maybe we could get back together in the future. What is this all about
Am from Uganda I walk away from her in May after she ghosted and move on with another man but I was shocked when she greeted me in public and asked me to call and we talk ,so I called her but I felt nothing at all ,What I have learned in life when you break up with some one sometimes when they come back to you it's always not so attractive,so I decided to love my life am ok being single and my life has a great course I have been watching your videos since 2019 but I would love to send my high appreciation am thankful and grateful more and much love from Uganda East Africa
Hey you're welcome! Thanks for taking the time to share your story. Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you since you know your relationship and your ex better than anyone else on here. And alas, not every ex is worth all the trouble. It's up to you to decide who is worth fighting for at one of the toughest of battles you face in your relationship. Best of luck!
Same here... greetings my fellow from the pearl of Africa 🥰🥰🥰
That’s so painful so sorry hope God sends you the right woman 🧍♀️
Trust and believe....a break up with a rocky long distance relationship, with a 10 weeks absence, mixed in with her developing feels for some one else, along with game playing, being blocked on their phone, loss of feelings, etc etc, no relationship like that could ever be repaired....especially now, shes in a rebound ...we had 3 years
That's right. A long distance relationship is not easy to maintain, especially if you two had a weak foundation where you don't get to spend time with each other much in person. Not to state the obvious, but the distance is often the main culprit. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: th-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/w-d-xo.html and/or th-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/w-d-xo.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning trust me, B, that was my 2nd and ultimately LAST L.D.R( long distance relationship of course lol)
@@BradBrowning not to state the obvious, I am the dumpEE....lol
Happened to me too. Sorry it’s painful. But sooo disrespectful!! We don’t have to put up with that ever .
True. Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
If he's playing games when he wants you back, it just shows that he's not worth taking back.
Back then I used to think that, too. But as I became a relationship coach with a degree in Psychology, there's more deeper motivations as to why people play games. It's still up to you though whether your ex or the relationship is worth it because some people can be downright abusive, too. It depends on your situation so use discernment.
I hate this game. I want her to leave me alone. Thank for the advice on keeping the conversation short.
You're welcome! If you're trying to move on, this video is for you: th-cam.com/video/01wvLSaS9_I/w-d-xo.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: th-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/w-d-xo.html or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup guide as that will help you and your mindset to evolve from the breakup and therefore become the best version of yourself. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com
This is very deep
But hit the nail on the head
Hi! Thanks for dropping by!
He's the dumper and I had to ask him to stop calling to so call check on me so that I can heal. Although this has all just happened last month, everyday is getting better not hearing from him. Right after the breakup I kept begging him to make things work but, he kept giving me excuses so, I stopped asking him. Everyday is getting better...
Great! And yes, giving each other space if important. Don't take any shortcuts! Watch this, too: th-cam.com/video/GswGSBZ35n4/w-d-xo.html
Giving back a gift isn't a game. It's a rewinding and casting off/release of memories of "better times" after so much emotional cruelty that was never apologized for.
Yes, it can be symbolic for that. However, be careful because for some if not most people, giving back gifts can be a sign of disrespect and may only cause more anger and it's drama you don't need right now.
@@BradBrowning I honestly don't understand how doing that could be a sign of disrespect.
Please be thankful that you now have the space for the love of your life.
That's another way of looking at it. Sometimes two people are just way too different to ever make it out for life while others could do with the right amount of compromise, understanding and love. So it depends.
If you can reasonably expect that you'll meet someone new in the near future, sure. But if you know it'll be years before that happens, it's hard to find the positives in knowing you'll be spending every night alone for the next few years.
He just ended our 2.5 year relationship because I asked for a commitment. He said he loves me and is wildly attracted to me and that he loves being with me and how I make him feel but he’s not feeling enough to take it to the next level. But wants to be close friends still. I told him no for now. Thank you for validating my decision.
How was there a relationship if there was no commitment in the first place? If you two have had a casual relationship for these 2 years, that ought to raise some red flags on your end past the 6-month mark, yes? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Yes, thanks! I was across the country for most of the time and we only just started having an in person thing once a month when I'd visit but yep this was a situationship with a friend I'd known for 15 years. I'm not going to try to make it work since clearly he isn't capable but I love your videos anyway-they're comforting! I did 10 years of 12 step work around intimacy so I feel good, just sad. @@BradBrowning
Dang!
@@magicisreal111😢😢😢why did you waste 10+ years of your life with this bastard?! I hope you find healing and God gives you a better man never again open your heart to this user evil man😮he takes and takes and he didn’t give you marriage
1. Friendship- friends, family and community pressure you to leave on good terms and help the ex distance themselves from you. It is a life lesson to learn not communicate with them anymore. Friendship was for me out of guilt for breaking up with them and not wanting to hurt them. Now, I understand just move on.
5. Their stuff. (trying to get their stuff back from you or your stuff from them). They deserve to get their stuff back and vice versa, do it in one go (i did and it worked well).
Hi! Thanks for sharing!
1st view and like 💯🙌Big fan sir
You're right! Thank you so much for your support. :-)
You are awesome bro u save my lifee
Thank u so much
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Yeah, I'm seeing the game ... One of these days he'll play his game and I won't see him anymore. His confusion leads to my 'drama' and it's getting old.
That's right. If you want him back, you can try to meet him halfway though and try to see if there's progress. It's important to set boundaries as to when you'd stop trying and follow that. However, if you need all the help you can get in trying to get you ex back, consider getting my 2.0 Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy Good luck!
We had a major fight, and I overreacted and he said that I proved that I don't have control over myself. He blocked me for just one day, unblocked, then said we could only be friends and we don't have boundaries, but we can't be together. He told me if I fix things he may be able to consider it. and I need to learn to have patience. It's been a week since the breakup, and no matter what I say he says the decision is final and we will only be friends.
What was the fight about? Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: th-cam.com/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/w-d-xo.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: th-cam.com/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/w-d-xo.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
This is gold and exceeded all my expectations one could have for a youtube video. Even included the question my gf asked if we could be friends. Damn, they are so wired like having a collective consciousness or something.
Thanks, I'm glad you appreciate it. It's human psychology really.
I need to add unblocking you after bring blocked for a while, they dont want to be the one initiating contact, so they open a door for you to communicate with them
That's a double-edge sword really... coz sometimes it means they've let go for good, including the grudge they may hold and therefore has closed the chapter. When that happens, it's usually associated with these signs though: th-cam.com/video/SLXoeSabPnw/w-d-xo.html
@@BradBrowning Interesting, but my ex unblocked me only on WhatsApp and I'm still blocked on everything else, if they let go of the grudge why am I blocked on other social media? I think in this situation it's just manipulation and a way to see if I'll blow her phone up
Always heart sick without each other . He cant offer time and cant commit to anything. The connection is so very strong. And love is there, a lot of addictions involved on his behalf. 4 days no contact. I cant sleep or eat. Ugh aweful feeling
How long have you been dealing with each other? It's either he's really an avoidant who's not ready to commit or he's not that into you. Both scenarios are tricky so I suggest moving on but if you wanna try anyways, let me know about the full details about your situation where I can monitor the progress (or lack therefore) and help you plan your next best move, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I've had no contact with my ex for like 3 months and I texted him that I miss him He said that he is over it. What should I do to get him back???
That's a big no-no. That's coming on way too strong when you should only be testing the water first when restarting communication. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/3StiDLdhi04/w-d-xo.html
Nothing. Move on. You will find someone better. Don’t regret later on
One of the best videos! I enjoyed it.
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I emailed you about literally games 2,3,4,5,6, and 7 all in the same day; today
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I told her I wasn't interested in being friends, I told her we wouldn't be good friends. I know she's making the mistake, she's seeing that the grass isn't greener but, she needs to learn that herself
True. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important
Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: th-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/w-d-xo.html
Ok, but you need to be prepared for if she discovers that the grass actually IS greener. Because in the real world, that's often the case. The girl I was just with met a guy and said I didn't need to worry about him, she even invited him out with us so we could get to know each other. He was basically a younger, cooler version of myself. As the night went on, she started ignoring me and paid more attention to him until by the end of the night, she was completely focused on him. She left me the next day, and there was no way I could deny that she'd moved on to greener pastures.
Ex has done a few of these things so far it's been 3 months since we broke up and she's reaches out a few times checking up and wants friendship and still hasn't come to pick up her stuff
That's good but like they say, nothing ventured, nothing gained. Do you think you're ready to give it a try? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/w-d-xo.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
Ive been married for 13 years and my wife left me. We lost a lot of intimacy last year because we got tired and she stoped trusting me. And we have a 5 year old boy,that we love very much. The problem with no contact for me its we see each other or phone almost everyday because of him. I love her very much and i understand my mistakes from the past. Thank you
Is infidelity involved in this issue? Issues having to do with trust, especially as a result of your own behaviour is a bit challenging to resolve. Not saying it's possible, but it's really challening and although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Basically they're wanting you to be a placeholder.
You know your ex better so chances are you'll know if he's being sincere or not. Take time to observe first, yeah? Take care!
Thank you so much this video I was actually helped me a lot
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Its been a year and a half, and my ex has done 4 of these, but says she doesnt want me back
What steps have you taken to try to lure her back in and is the relationship worth fighting for? Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Do you think you're ready to give it a try? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/w-d-xo.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
Well she left her "rebound", and made sure i knew it.. ive kinda just went back to no contact.. but she insists that she doesnt want me
This is really nice .now it’s been three weeks that we don’t have communication.i never send him a message or call .I just disappeared like a bubble after he said he want some space 😂
That's good! I'm glad you got right on to it. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: th-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/w-d-xo.html
How do you minimize contact if you have a kid with them?
i walked away from her because she pulled away and was treating me bad. she came back 5 months later and started to want to get back saying she wasn't ready then really acting like she Wanted it then doing 1,2 and 3 so i said i won't just be your friend and walked away again. did I make a mistake?
I think you did right. You said she had been treating you bad. If she really were not ready, she would've done it in polite manner. She did not care about you.
You ought to be on talking terms to fix things... Friends or more appropriately, talking terms for now (if your ex isn't already in another relationship), but don't let that derail you, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Whatever you do, make sure you don’t resort to doing the things here: y2u.be/jikW4YYC9yo Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it but also try to see you aren't just being strung along. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? Apply the tips here: th-cam.com/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/w-d-xo.html It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Right after the breakup I asked her for an item back. 😅 still haven’t gotten it back
what if it was a short relationship (2 months) and she tried to contact me twice after one week. but i didnt respond and now she unfollowed me on all social media and deleted all our messages we saw each other outside last night and she texted me saying she wanted to come say hi and i just left her on read and a little bit later she did all of the above. what should i do now??PLEASE HELP ME!
What was the message about? Reply only if the message warrants a response. Depending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html
@@BradBrowning thanks you for the response. i just found out she is talking to someone new already. i showed too much attachment and i thinks that was what made it too easy for her. she used to tell me she felt something was missing when she didn't talk to me at night before sleeping, and i think after a week of no contact and leaving her on read made her mad. and this new guy is definitely not her type i can tell. like he is way worse looking than me and doesn't have any better life than mine. so is this considered a rebound relationship for her as ours only lasted 2 months? (btw we were talkin for a month before we made it official so about 3 months total) what should i do now?
Spent 15 years with her. Really wanted my forever story. She got mad over some things out of my control and left. Lost 30 pounds and had a major heart attack. When she did message me she found out I was in the hospital but didn’t believe me. I know I got to let her go but this is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do.
We’re on our 5th break and we usually get back together a few weeks later. We had trust issues but overall a great relationship but she’s not a big communicator and I am so she’ll hold things in then blow up. We both have expressed love for each other and we’re both still in love she doesn’t feel she deserves love. Childhood trauma and lack of accountability has been a major factor. It’s been 7 days she’s been watching my stories we’ve talked and she got mad we then were texting for hours which wasn’t so bad but she says she doesn’t want to work on this yes she’s said it before but we both have a connection like no other. She had mentioned us being cool which we’ve done before it’s like we always find our way back. We be sick without each other
I see. 5 breakups is a huge red flag best not ignored. How long have you two been together and were you two actively doing anything to rebuild that trust? It's best to take practical ways to learn to do that before your relationship becomes truly toxic -- if it isn't already. Let's try to make this breakup the last one. Work with me and hire me as your coach so I can help you talk to her and pinpoint other issue/s you two may have missed. Sign up for my one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Talk soon!
@@BradBrowning we’ve been together since August 2022 and okay thank you I’ll click link yes we tried a couple of things to rebuild trust but honestly we need direction
I experienced all those points from the video except for the exchange of gifts because I never met her irl. It's a LDR with her where both of us never expressed our feelings or proposed to each other. But the thing is I failed her shit tests and then chased her for no reason and she lost respect for me. So, here am I doing the no contact for the second time and this time without social media, limited presence and its been over 7 months and she still not messaging me but playing games to get the reaction out of me.
I'm not giving in but I've noticed that she too had reduced Social media presence lately, may be she's trying to forget me 😢
Sorry to hear that. As you've noticed, the distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then it may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: th-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/w-d-xo.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Three months of being lied to was enough for me lying to myself was what really made me finish it , and I just found out she's telling everyone who will listen she left me
Well, if you ask me, the breakup looks like a blessing in disguise but yes, it doesn't make the pain any less. This may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: th-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/w-d-xo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
My fiancee recently ghosted me two weeks before I realized she did something she was ashamed of, and pushed me away as hard as she could. I'm still dealing with the grief, as she is the love of my life.
What was she ashamed of? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
It would be either drug use or cheating. But I'm not sure that's the case, as new developments have come to light. Her mental state is on edge, and pushed everyone away to do this by herself. She has a hard time getting help for this, and on the fence as to whether to seek help or let herself go. All I could do was let her know that I'm always there if she needed to talk
@mschermerhorn5576 you are more caring than most people just remeber you will eventually come to a cross roads to where you have to decide to keep them or let them go. The choice is yours
He told me even if i came back to the country we cant be together because hes not financially well right now. He left me for someone else and is still with her. So what this means
It means it may be over for good. Sorry, but chances are your beau has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: th-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/w-d-xo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway
men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with him if you can see he no longer wants to try. Take care!
Me and my ex gf tend to start fighting and arguing about really small stuff, and she tends to try to make me jealous alot, and teasing me like 24/7 and we recently broke up, but she claims “she will never like me ever again”
Looks like you two are bored with each other? What do you two always bicker about? Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: th-cam.com/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/w-d-xo.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: th-cam.com/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/w-d-xo.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
@@BradBrowning ok thank you for your help!
Is it normal for her to on and off play mind games?
It tends to happen after a breakup, so it's pretty common.
My ex just broke up with me about a week ago yet she texts me twice a day and even attempts to call me the last 4 days in a row. Honestly i do want her back but i how can i trust that she wants me back for a relationship and not just attention? Im28 she is 41 what should i say to her
Oftentimes you can actually tell if someone genuinely likes you, especially if you've had some history with them. Look out for the signs here: th-cam.com/video/KMer79OQ_xo/w-d-xo.html
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Thanks for dropping by!
My ex told me he's confused. What is the real meaning behind this?
Mixed emotions are common in the wake of a breakup. Yes, even for the dumpers. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/PHFnR-MMgho/w-d-xo.html
My ex texted me 4 days after we broke up and with no contact since the breakup. We spoke about how we were both feeling and how the therapy for her issues was going? Have I fucked up my chances of getting her back at all? The conversation wasn’t too long and I reestablished no contact immediately after the conversation
No, but silence would've been a much better option. Discussing feelings is the last thing you wanna do if you've just been dumped. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/npuQb1APSaU/w-d-xo.html
Lol.
I got the classic "Are you alive?" Message after 3 weeks of NC.
Chatted that evening and briefly 2 days after. Then she disappeared, been almost 2 weeks again of NC. She initiated these conversations...
Unfortunately I had to message her to arrange collecting some of my last few things at her place. She did say "It is better for both of us to call it a day"
So ya not sure what that means lol. Im going back into NC after collecting my things. Doing this when she isnt at home for my own sake.
Very confused 🤔
That's a classic one indeed! That's what I call the "validation-seeking" text and believe it or not, your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: th-cam.com/video/tev2-lrJq7o/w-d-xo.html
am from india . My ex broke up with me as my previous ex sent our few intimate photos with him and he said that i have broke his trust . He also broke his phone due to anger . We study in the same university , he said that he will not come in relationship with me for the next 5 years , which is the duration of our course . He sometimes check on me about my health and then says that we are just friends and so i told him that i dont want you to play mind games with me , come and talk to me only when you want to get back together . He said ok . But a week ago he called me asking for a stupid help , and kept on calling me for like 10 times . Then again told me , he cant get back. But he also looks at me in the class . What is he thinking ? By the way , i dont talk to him at all , not even eye contact. Any chances of reconciliation ?
Apply the tips from this vid: th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html but if you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique and things aren't often black and white, I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz or sign up for my coaching program so I could take a closer look at what your situation and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
Just curious my ex unblocked me a few weeks ago, has been texting me more than usual lately and even wanted me to come over to help clean our daughters room. What are those signs cause im totally confused about it
How long has it been since the breakup? Those are good signs especially if there's been a period of no contact for at least 2 weeks before that started happening. For solid signs, though, here's what to be on the lookout for: th-cam.com/video/CsVR7yV4X8k/w-d-xo.html
@@BradBrowning we have been split up for almost 2 years
We were at long distance relationship and 3 weeks after the break up, he asked if I'm seeing anyone. I replied by "it's none of your business" and he said it was a mistake to text me and to be clear I should move on and plus, he told me he likes someone new these days. Deep inside, I don't believe him. Sometimes, when he breaks up with me lies in order for me to "move on". Every time we had broken up it was because of the distance and nothing depending on us as a couple. We were doing good as a couple. It's just he is struggling with his financials right now and he wants to improve his life. In a couple of months, I was going to be where he lives right now.
A trip can be really costly. How is he struggling financially? Also how are your finances and can you support your own to travel to where he lives? Try to heal and consider moving on from this. You'll know if he's serious with your plans once you give him space and have time to miss you.
@@BradBrowning He has a job but right now he lives with his parents and he wants to be independent and live alone in his own house but he can't afford all of that with the income he has. He is trying to collect some money to do such things and I totally understand I'm not in the plan right now. Personally, I will be in the position to afford a trip to go there these months I think, I have told him many times and he said that he doesn't feel good if I spend most of the money for this, for a hotel maybe. I understand that he has to make his life better first. If he was clear enough about it, I would let him do what he has to do, but right now I don't know what to do because he insists I should move on and meet a new guy.
Omg same goes with ex too.
She has literally did every one of these
Well, now you know better! :-) If you need further help, hire me as your coach at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey brad what should I take my girlfriend on a first date
A single red 🌹
@@losbanos999 what are you talking about
@@losbanos999 sorry I don’t understand
Her house or yours after a few drinks next day they will say iv never done that on a first date🤦🏻♂️🤔 ok huni 😂😂
@@BrandelSaundh-s2y Read your question very carefully. "What". Lol
Hey Brad! My ex ( from a short relationship of 2 mnths) contacted me saying hi! She has a rebound herself but unblocked me and asked me if i were dating someone !! And before I could reply blocked me again saying she doesn’t want to see my face. Wat to do?
Depending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html
girl friend hurt much more, so i deleted she's number, after i moved on she's come back again 2 times after 5month, i not respond, after 8 months i contact him, now she's deleted my number, what will happen next, this is healthy love? She's come back again?
This happened after 8 months apart? Sorry but it may be time to move on from this. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: th-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/w-d-xo.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
We scheduled a meeting but she said she still had to recover, so the meeting was suspended. Is No Contact still working since I must wait for her response?
How long has it been since the breakup? Focus on texting and try not to meet up when one or both of you aren't ready yet. No contact means radio silence/zero communication between you and your ex in any way, shape or form. Therefore you shouldn't be waiting for a response. The phase you're on (assuming you've done the first phase correctly which is the 30-day no contact rule, if not, then prioritize that first for your own sake) is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
My ex didn’t speak in person one day and then right after, he sent me a friend request on face book. Did that mean he wanted to be friends? More recently, there had been an incident where I got too drunk at a part and essentially “went missing” aka wondering and someone called him because we were in the same apt complex and he came outside and looked for me. I apologized for bringing him into that and then told him I couldn’t be friends with him and blocked him. Where do I go from here lol? I didn’t think I could just be friends with him and didn’t want to see him post someone else lol
You don't have to be friends with him but there's no need to block him either, especially since you can leverage social media to your advantage. This vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/w-d-xo.html
Looks like he dodged a bullet.
@@robsvtgt500 ya mama.
Question about #5 If the break up was bad and they asked me at the time of the break up via text if I wanted my stuff back and said I replied "No*, (I only had a few articles of cheap clothing left behind and some soap), is it pretty safe to assume when they text me 30 days later, asking if I want this same stuff back they are playing games? I live an hour away almost and it's not even worth the gas.
Not really as some people have a habit of forgetting.
My ex 4 years before broke up .i waited 1 year and moved on. I didn’t expect,he came to me .he texted and asked that I have to give second chance to him . He cheated on me 4 years before ,even I healed myself very hardly ,I can’t trust again . I don’t know ,these days even in my mind mixed signals. I rejected to meet with him ,I rejected to give him cha nce again. Is it true way ?
Healing takes time but yes, if you've moved on and don't see yourself with him anymore, then you can save both yourselves further heartbreak by declining his further attempts to reconcile. You know what's best to do here as you know your ex better, so you decide whether he's worth another shot or not. Take care!
My boyfriend broke up with me on sunday and today us tuesday and he has not stopped texting me and even showed up at my place left me message with my child and then texted me to tell me he brong me a gift from his trip .
Most of his texts are about he loves me and knows im going through a hard time and wants to be there for me.
Give him time to decide what he really wants because this kind of dynamic between you and your ex won't work in the long run. It's still important to put the full 30-day straight "no contact" rule into priority because if you've been in touch after the breakup too soon, then you BOTH aren't taking the time needed to process the breakup and been acting like it hadn't happened. Here's how not contacting your ex can help you a lot: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html Burying the problems which had caused the breakup in the first place is a surefire way towards a doomed relationship, if you get your ex back. Make sense now? You ought to teach your ex these very important lessons: th-cam.com/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/w-d-xo.html On the other hand, you can work on the issues together but you have to make sure you're on the same page and you aren't being manipulated and/or strung along. Are you seeing any progress? Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed and so I can guide accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
She just asked me to fly 700 miles, to be intimate with her, despite her indicating she is dating two other guys. I said good night and hung up.
Yeah, nice move, man. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: th-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/w-d-xo.html
I greeted my ex yesterday and she responded but when I asked for the return of my remaining stuff back she full out blocked me, why she doesn't want to return my stuffs back? And how can I get my stuffs back, I don't feel safe going to her place as well.
If the breakup was still fresh, she may be way too pissed or hurt (or both) to deal with you for the time being, so try to give it a few days, if you can? However, if you badly need the stuff back right away, you can arrange for a close friend to pick it up for you. Anyway here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do and for you to understand what may be going on at the moment: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
@@BradBrowning thank you for the advice, it's been two months already since we broke up because of her toxic environment/family I asked a mutual friend as well but she got no response, I'm thinking of letting my things go now, she is toxic and manipulative, she even reported me to the police after the heated argument when we broke up, and she hold my remaining stuff. I don't think it's a good Idea to risk my friends and family's safety over my stuff just because of her. It feels like she is using my stuff and authority for power and control on the break up, so I think it's time to let it go... It's unhealthy anymore.
I asked him if we could keep the friendship and he said probably 😂😂😂 The video arrives late
More on that topic here: th-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/w-d-xo.html
Awesome Video! My ex reached out recently and told me her nephew asked about me, Could you tell me what that mean? I asked about him before thats was a year ago,(no response)now she wanna say something, should i trust it?
If you were particularly close to her nephew, then that may not be far from the truth. However, that doesn't necessarily mean your ex is trying to find ways to get you back. For solid signs, though, here's what to be on the lookout for: th-cam.com/video/CsVR7yV4X8k/w-d-xo.html
so excactly what can i say now if she asks me lets be friends? (im still interested in her)
I suggest you apply the tips here. Please watch from start to end to not miss out on any important tip: th-cam.com/video/SWERv_y3c5w/w-d-xo.html
My ex reached out to me , he asked that we hanged out , we hanged out twice and made out but not still sure if he wants me back .kinda confused
Assess the risks first if it's all worth it. Remember, meeting up when you're both not ready will only alienate your ex further, and that's best case scenario. Worst case scenario will land you a spot in the dreaded friendzone. Watch this first: th-cam.com/video/Jzb18j7ZMPE/w-d-xo.html but if you're both ready, watch this video on how to tell as well as how tips for you on tipping the odds to your favor: th-cam.com/video/eJPGrkuQnm0/w-d-xo.html Best of luck!
My ez blocked me for 14 months. 4hen 3 qeeks ago he unblocked me, but hasnt reached out. Im confused.
I don't think there's anything to be confused about. Do you expect him to reach out? Since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: th-cam.com/video/YVViZmY2x0I/w-d-xo.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
what would i do if, by any chance, she's also doing this or the videos you do?
Which part? Most of my vids are about getting an ex back, so that should be good news for you, yeah? If you're referring to the "no contact" tips, this usually comes naturally to the dumpers. Learn the 3 basic phases I teach in my Ex Factor Guide because this lets you know the basics of my 3R system here first, so you'll have an idea on how to go about it on your end: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
Hello Brad,
Me and my special someone broke up because she thought she could handle academics and relationships at the same time. And she still wanna be friends with me but we still have some good texts in a past few weeks but after that it became cold and after few days I asked her how's she doing and she only seen it and its been 10 days no reply to that text. Im very confused now what am i going to do.
What are you going to do? Kick her to the curb! Look, you sound young and are in university. I never bothered with dating while getting my engineering degree, but by age 21 I was earning more than half the people and by age 25 I was earning more than 70% of the people and by age 30 I was earning more than 85% of Americans. I have had women ask me out all my life. Get to work! Nothing makes you look more attractive to a woman than being busy and having no time for them.
She's busy with other stuff. As to being friends, that's a bad idea as that will absolutely lead you nowhere. Don't do it, man. In addition to being busy, she's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You ought to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at th-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/w-d-xo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
@BradBrowning now, it's been 14 days, and there was no contact . Yesterday, she unfollows me at ig and removed me from her following list, and i didn't do anything wrong. And I've been silent for 14 days
I was the one who broke up with my ex, but he is the one who is in a new relationship and he is the one who reached out to me after 6 months of no contact, wanting to be friends. First he says that he want to win me over again, and then the next day he wants to stay with his horrible new gf whom he says is mean to him. So confusing
Well, it's been many months since the breakup and I take it you're in talking terms with him again? Be cordial without actually being friends. This means you put him on the bottom of your priority list especially since he's confused which direction to go. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: th-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/w-d-xo.html Best of luck!
@BradBrowning my ex reached out after almost 2 weeks of no contact, but when I suggested to meet she said it was too soon for her and that she would prefer to meet later when things were more settled down. I replied that I was OK with that. Did I do wrong in replying this way? I feel that she now thinks that there is no consequences for the breakup anymore because she knows I would be willing to meet later. What should I have done in this situation?
It's too soon to be talking with your ex. I posted a recent vid that has to do with your situation, so please watch this, it's from my other channel: th-cam.com/video/OvPoxUe0yIY/w-d-xo.html As to meeting up, assess the risks first if it's all worth it. Remember, meeting up when you're both not ready will only alienate your ex further, and that's best case scenario. Worst case scenario will land you a spot in the dreaded friendzone. Watch this first: th-cam.com/video/Jzb18j7ZMPE/w-d-xo.html but if you're both ready, watch this video on how to tell as well as how tips for you on tipping the odds to your favor: th-cam.com/video/eJPGrkuQnm0/w-d-xo.html Best of luck!
My ex got a girl friend while we was still hooking up now post pics online even kissing it looks so fake smhh
Sorry to hear that. Did you mean he was already messing around while still in a relationship with you? If so, your beau has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: th-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/w-d-xo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with him if you can see he no longer wants to try. Take care!
My ex done all of this, now she wants to be round me a lot and be intimate a lot as well, she wants to be more than friends now, is this good?
More than friends... so you're back together? That's good!
My ex asked me to meet him after few months we broke up. I told him I was busy. He sent me a message saying that it was really lovely to see me again during hiking event and that he would really like to meet with me. I was busy too. He recently sent me a birthday message. I thanked him. I have always been politely in my responses. Should I meet him if he asks me again?
The question here is are you ready to? If you see a future with him, then focus on texting and try not to meet up when one of you or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on (assuming you've done the first phase correctly which is the 30-day no contact rule) is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning thank you. It is the second phase. I will read your guide and go from there.
Yes
My ex keeps texting me doing the holidays. What's up with that ?
When did you two broke up? Your ex could be feeling jovial and so into the holiday season. If the breakup was fresh, then that could be a great sign. Look out for these signs, too: th-cam.com/video/nvcUmaNbh_A/w-d-xo.html
@@BradBrowning ok. I'll check it out
It's been over a year.
Walk away and never look back if she breaks it off. You’re better than that
Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
@@BradBrowning I think it would help most men move on if the guy that was plowing her behind their back recorded her deceit and moans and sent it to them with a note "just trying to help a brother out!" 🥶
@@BradBrowningam in a situation where my boyfriend told me he has nothing to do with me,we are done and he told me he's decision is final on not wanting to be with me...days later,he started viewing my social media stories,even reacting,I kept quiet and watched,he can't call me or text.. he's friend had a birthday party and he told his friend I should attend but still he can't talk to me...But why?
Spot on
Hi, thanks for dropping by!
after one year is there ia any chance my ex is missing me or not he tried to contact me every 3 to 4 month but at last i don't talk to him since 1 year
You wouldn't know unless you meet him halfway and talk to him, especially if you're really curious. But the fact that he's been trying to reach out to you all these months is something. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/KDJz0_vBk48/w-d-xo.html
7 weeks apart, had the angry messages accusing me of stuff I haven’t done where she’s paranoid I’m speaking to other women because she sees I’ve spent time on WhatsApp, recently had 4 days of nice phone calls and messages and then 5th day I say hi and she says hi back and have heard nothing more in 2 days!…how long should you go with this behaviour, she knows I’m sorry for mistakes in the relationship (no cheating) and she knows I want her back.
It may not be a cheating issue but obviously it was huge enough to cause her to break up with you. It's very important to give it time to let whatever anger and hurt there is between you two, especially from your ex's side, subside. Sometimes it takes a month but oftentimes it takes longer or shorter depending on the situation and what the mistake was/were. You simply cannot rush this. An apology is in order, too. These may help: th-cam.com/video/qnE192fUKxI/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/w-d-xo.html
Should I wish her happy birthday?It's next week and we 're at about 90 days no contact
You definitely should. Don’t know your exact situation, but if you feel like you must, listen to your heart and don’t let pride get in the way !
The no contact rule is only for 30 days, not 90. Anyway yes, you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
6 years with her and she literally treats me like a stranger! I ain’t texting or calling her, yet she texts me , you are inconsistent! WTF!!
It could mean you're doing something right, so keep at it. Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: th-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/w-d-xo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: th-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/w-d-xo.html
My ex always calls me asking me to help him with paperwork or something he can do himself
When did you two broke up? Make sure you aren't being used for your kindness and that you learn to set some boundaries especially if things start to not feel right anymore. Remember, you are not liable to help him especially if the breakup happened within the 30-day period in which case, your focus should be diverted fully to yourself. Refer to my other videos or the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide to be guided what to do after each phase, at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy Good luck!
bro how am i supposed to know what she posts if no contact says to not look at their social media...
The first 30 days, aka the no contact phase, is supposed to be where you focus on yourself for a full 30 days. You do all that AFTER the 30-day period. Make sense?
When he said he want to breakup I begged him a lot
And after that I said him so much bad things about his toxic behaviour
And now 1 month I am not contacting him
Starting 1st week hi seen my status but now he didn’t seen my status
Is there any chance to get him back
He is not sending me a single msg between 1.5 months after no contact rule
I am not understanding what’s going on his mind right now?
Checking statuses doesn't really matter. People do it all the time and there's really not much to it. As to your chances, I say generally it's still fair game unless you see most if not all the signs that your ex is over you. Here's the vid: th-cam.com/video/ZyJRphwDca4/w-d-xo.html and especially if those signs prevail over a prolonged period of time. If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
I guess he is over me because he has done none of these things but I want to do all of them 🙄
Not necessarily. Here's what to be on the lookout for, though: th-cam.com/video/SLXoeSabPnw/w-d-xo.html
This is so weird, I'm the one who got dumped yet these are all the behaviours that I'm doing wtf
Thanks for watching!
Who usually edits your videos? DO YOU HAVE YOUR PERSONAL VIDEO EDITOR?
Yes, I do.
What editing software are you using @@BradBrowning
Would you please put subtitles on your videos ? 😢
Hi! Please turn on closed captioning (cc) found on the upper right corner of the vid if you're using the app or on the lower right portion if using a web browser -- it works the same way as a subtitle. :-)
@BradBrowning thank you
My ex wife wants to be friends after she asked for a divorce and our divorce is February 6th of this year
Friends so you both can co-parent? Why have you waited too long to try and save your marriage though? Try to gauge your chances here first: www.marriageguy.com/quiz These may help, hopefully: th-cam.com/video/lvH0STXVqdI/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/F1nFUvtof7Y/w-d-xo.html but if you still need my help in trying to fix your marriage, sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can take a look at what's really going on and help you out, at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Hi please help me! I dont have an ex but We only went on 3 dates. We had a deep connection. He was talking commitment with me. I kinda pulled away for like two weeks then he ghosted me. Its been a whole week since Ive heard from him. 😢😢😢 can i salvage this or get him back? Pls!!!😢
Why were you pulling away in the first place? That would only cause all sorts of unnecessary trust issues.
That's what you fucking deserve tbh. I feel no remorse for you.
@@BradBrowning I was having a stressful week with work and homelife.
all modern women are same, just playing mind games all the time just because you you have more option compared to men but nowadays men understand what should they have to do. you messed up, now enjoy the same medicine.
What if when your ex-girlfriend is mad at you over something puny but they call your sister or your mom to get comforted or to tattle like your family is going to all the sudden say oh we're all on your side 100%
That's odd, not to mention unhealthy. How's your communication in the relationship though? Did you do her wrong, thus her rant? Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here, with too many variables to consider… so sign up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation where we could get to the bottom of the issue/s: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Im not sure if this guy is getting it down right. But lets stay away from toxic people. But some people dp need to learn lessons. I think being around themhelps them see that when you offer your time. But really i just want to have fun man and it was fun to have her around. Its hard because you dont want to give in but you dont want to just deal with the nonsense.
Not all relationships end because things got toxic. If things became toxic fast between you two, chances are it already is right from the beginning but nobody paid attention to the red flags.
My ex said there’s no way he could just be friends. So he’s just shut me out.
You both could use that much needed space, so don't push it. I suggest you read the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning thank you. We actually dated 10 years ago. He moved, we dated long distance and then broke up. He moved again out of the country and recently reached out and we’ve been chatting for 6 months, long distance. He told me I’m the only one he keeps wanting to come back to, that he keeps thinking about me and can see us building a life, but then he seems to pull away. I think I’m anxious attachment and he’s avoidant, so me wanting to talk about how we move forward with the long distance made him feel “exhausted” (his words). I think we could have just talked about it and set some boundaries and expectations. It’s more natural for him to just pull away.
Will my ex fiancé come back we were together for 1 year and 8 months and our anniversary was gonna be feb 4th of this year for 2 years, he was so impulsive and he said I don’t love you and I hate you when he walked out and went 6 hours home that night we argued because we argued because of me a lot and I didn’t do everything I should have…I want him back ❤
To add context we argued like often because of me, he blocked me on Xbox and my phone number cause he got a new one and I did beg at first but I stopped just recently and he left October 20th.
Lastly there was a lot of stress on him paying my bills, my family being stressful with him and him building up because of our relationship issues but I want to fix this.
I say generally it's still fair game unless you see most if not all the signs that your ex is over you. Here's the vid: th-cam.com/video/ZyJRphwDca4/w-d-xo.html and especially if those signs prevail over a prolonged period of time. If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
What about an ex boyfriend who comes back 22 yrs later??
Take it extra slow and try to see where you're both at emotionally first. Get to know each other all over again. It's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: th-cam.com/video/YVViZmY2x0I/w-d-xo.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!