My boyfriend is 7 years younger then me, when I turn 40 we decided to get pregnant. We are still so so happy and in love 🥰 last year he asked me to marry him. Best 8 years of my life!
I'm 26 and she's 34...its like a breathe of fresh air compared to the girls my age who just want to be taken care of and want to try and shape you into some fantasy guy. She isn't looking to get anything out of me. She's independent and I can still focus on my goals without feeling guilty.
So what's the deal y'all still going strong? And what about kids? You're going to want them someday. Even if you don't realize that right now. So will she.
My wife is 11 years older then me and we have 4 kids as well and we've been together since 2015. My wife will be 44 and she still looking fine since I knew her back in 2004
First Ill say, awesome and great family you have there. TBH with you? And this will strike many as me being a Donny Downer...but your kind of story, I believe, gives a lot of women false hope. Or can definitely lead to that. It is quite rare for a young man to stay with a much older woman (7+ years). Everyone thought they could have it too when there was Ashton Kutcher with Demi Moore. But she got smashed against the rocks too. I currently know a woman whos in love with a guy 15 years younger. Of course she hates me for telling her he'll never stay with her. Thing is, he onyl is "with" her, when hes in jail or rehab. lol, I know. Its insane. Shes the only one who is there for him when hes locked up. Anyway ladies, the story above while heartwarming and wonderful...one out of...30? Maybe 40? Seriously. And the # could easily be far worse. For young men that stay forever with a much older woman? One out of 80 or 100 wouldn't surprise me.
Older men can be ageist too but hunnie the older women they look down on still got it. Cause women especially black women have a gift of still looking and feeling young even when we are older.
We older men do not look down on older women. They are simply invisible for us. We do not care if older women still got it and fuck younger guys. Because rather them then us.
I just ended a controlling and draining 9 year relationship a year ago. However, I met a guy who is amazing all the way around. Beautiful personality, generous and treats me like a princess, protective, and respects my boundaries and respects the fact that my son comes first. He told me he was in love with me. I'm very apprehensive of starting a relationship with someone that young. I'm 31 and he is 24. I've only dated guys my age and older and he has treated me better than most.
If your able to go up in age then Going down in age shouldn’t be an issue right ? Be with some one as youthful as you . Grow together not play catch up or grow apart .
I love this! I never thought that age was a thing. Though being with an older man might feel a little more comfortable, being with a younger man I feel like I have someone to grow with, someone to inspire someone who keeps me feeling young. I have so much life to live.
I am currently involved with a man 9 years younger than me and he is more matured than I am and regulates his emotions better than me. I am learning a lot from him ( I'm 31, he's 22)
Great to hear. I've been involved with older women in the past and my wife she's 11 years older than me. She's 45 and I'm 34 and we have 4 kids a well. I'm glad to hear there are older women who aren't afraid to go public with younger men because the older women I use to be with were always wanted to have a relationship behind closed doors and at the time I was younger and sometimes the gap was big between us and maybe that's why and they just wanted to have fun with my wife she didn't care how people felt about us even though she's not really people's favourite cup of tea she was never ashamed of being with me in public.
@@mojok7070 Thank you so much for this comment. The fact that you guys have four kids together means you've been together for a while. I am dating & falling in love with someone who is 15 years younger than me. I NEVER thought I would find myself in this position & it makes me nervous. Idc what other people think it's more about me and getting out of my own head about what my traditional dating & partnership ideals were. And can this work? Can this last or is this just something that should be ended before either of us gets hurt. I do believe that maybe love showed up like this to shake me out of superficial/ liner thinking that says it should look a certain way. I mean if everyone is enjoying it & is an adult then why stop!? Why limit the way love shows up?? ❤️
I am 33 years old and I wish to marry a woman older than me, who is 45 or 50 years old. This is very beautiful to me. An older woman is more emotional and has beautiful love.
Stop waiting. My wife is 11 years older and she's currently 44 and I was lucky that I knew my wife before we started our relationship back in 2015. Honestly most of the older women I had relationship was I already knew them and I felt confident being with them. But I've hardly asked out women I never knew because I've tried and it backfired a few times but the ones I already knew before the relationship it was a risk but most of the times they said yes.
Your pic looks like your 61. But what did you do? Nothing? With that you should just have told her exactly what you said to us. Might sound lame but you gotta hit her with something unique and special to make it happen.
I’m 54 dating a 38 year old and it has been amazing! He is more caring, loving and understanding than any man I’ve ever met. Just taking it day by day not looking to far into the future. Just decided to let someone love me :)
Im a 32 year old Italian man dating a 45 year old Salvadoran woman. We just CLICK! I can't deal with the younger girls tbh. I can't stand the childish behavior one bit and have no time for it in a partner. For kids, sure. For adults? No. I don't like the hook up culture and I was raised by WW2:vets so I guess you could say I have an antiquated view on love and Romance....or just younger girls can't appreciate when you pull out their chair or hold the door opened or do candle lit dinners after the sun goes down. Too many want to party to hear days and I find it very unladylike tbh. With her I can do that, have the bonfires and coffee, go camping and hiking. I couldn't find a girl my age or younger who liked these things to save my own life! It's just crazy! So I started dating older and then I finally got the mental and spiritual stimulation I was after.
Thats part of the problem. Younger men have hardly anything in common with women 2 decades older, but not the other way around. With the exception of sex.
only caught a bit of this , my girl is 11 years older than me. yes shes got all what you mentioned , good job , home , car etc. but if she lost all that tomorrow id still be with her.. love is love... what i will say tho , i did want security , not financial , but just someone who is settled in their own skin .... x
I just met a guy and he is 40 he seems to be really authentic but I'm 57 and I'm a little hesitant. But I must realize guys my age break my heart to. Should I give him a try?
@@marybarr2750 I would say get to know him. His morals ethics and what he believes in. Check if he has feelings for x’s if he’s healed from past trauma. If you yourself haven’t healed then I won’t get into a relationship. Don’t waste time it goes by fast if he feels authentic then he probably is. My thing is the age gap is sort of a lot but every story doesn’t have to be the same, he just has to be willing to take care of you when you guys get older. Basically he will tell you what he wants and if your okay with that then I’d say jump in the pool but actions speak louder than words so watch the actions and the people he hangs out with.
My 27 year old has been chasing me for 2 years. I’m 45. We recently starting dating and having amazing sex. I have been married twice and we are more compatible than any relationship I have ever had
Be real lady to the world and yourself.. you like his raw sexual energy; a very young man or very woman has little else than sexual energy to offer.. stop lying to yourself ladies.. raw sexual energy is all you want.. why do women refuse to talk in truths..I have dated women 15 years younger than me and in order to enjoy her company I had to forget 15 years of my personal development.. it was stressful & it inner demeaned me; the same is true for older women.. the younger woman’s bodies aren’t worth me sacrificing who I’m for a firmer body..and one great thing older men have in their favor as it relates sex.. women in our age if they are healthy are just as sexy as a younger women.. their kitty is just as pretty & tasty & firm as a younger woman’s ; their bodies aren’t perfect but everything else is the exactly the same feelings..but older women as their younger counterparts are such fakes and liars as it relates to why they like younger men💪🏾Stop lying ladies💪🏾
You probably met your match, younger men have a different dynamic, when they hit 40 though, then that's when things start changing, they start desiring younger women, and that's annoying, so just keep up your appearance and sass so no one have anything over you!
Men my age are retiring want to sit home watching tv while getting ready to die. I like younger men and they like me since I seem to be aging backwards and we can chill.
I feel like all you explored in this video is the negatives of dating a younger man. However, that isn't true for all. I am dating a younger guy, he has more money than I do (due to his family), he has a career ( he's a professional), he drives a better car than I do, and he never asks me for anything out of the way and he is mature. With that being said, just date who you want ladies, you'd know if he's right for you during the relationship. I dated guys older than I am who tried to use me for my money; They wanted new tires, they wanted tickets to fly abroad and they wanted something expensive for their birthday, and always brought up the money( I am middle class).
There are a lot of great younger men willing and able to make an older woman happy but it is misleading to ignore the realities in this video and dangerous
Spot on I am with a much younger man and he has changed my whole life literally...he earns probably more than my older ex ever did and supports me....in return I will give him a house this year which will be owned by a trust, my sister is helping me and my mum...the house will be under my name....he will have no claim on it and when I die my kids will get it not him...he excepts this and is fine with it what a guy, no wonder i am with him, and he found me on a dating app three years ago...life just keeps getting better with him everyday...with my older ex was like I was cursed...
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy So your with a younger man then and you know?????don't think so dear older men are WAY WAY MORE DSANGEROUS know from my past...nearly got killed by a few including my older ex who is from Iran by the way...
My wife is way older than me and we’ve been together for almost 3 years and it always feel like meeting for the first time. The connection and energy is all good. We appreciate and understand each other very well. I never bonded so well with my age mates but with her is super good
I have a friend that is going through the same thing, I don't know how she does it... But I believe that it is possible for two people to fall in love with each other, and it really doesn't matter the age, as long as they are legal..
Another thing is that Woman are raised to wait for a dream husband, get married, have family and friends on the other hand man are raised to work hard and get rich and take care of their fam and all those have to sync together, when i was young i dated older Woman not by selection but it just happened and all my relationship were good, they had kids already and i didn't but i played father role and what i like about older woman they go for what they want and don't take B.S, i liked the challenge though i'm introvert, don't smoke nor drink so my life suited them at first but the only problem that i had and i think it broke us apart it was scars they had before me i could tell that they were still very hurt from past relationships that they thought i was gonna be those guys, which bring negativity in a relationship and they also wanted to look young to suit me which can backfire, some guys love them old i don't say don't take care of yourself but love yourself. if you keep on telling me that you ugly and grow old you are training my brain to look at you in that manner, my advice is be yourself and any guy will love you for who you are if he doesn't then show him the door.
You found an easy super very easy woman for your bedroom and she also found a useful willing younger man to spend some time with because the rest of the guys she is really interested they don't pay any attention to her. Don't make it sound it's something special, women ( and none really men as well) are not going to beat aging,time because feminism and political correctness of our time is telling them so.
Dating a guy that’s 23 I’m 32 but look in my early 20’s. When he approached me he initially thought I was his age so find out I was older was a bonus for him.😜
Hi dear, I’m Alex Johnson I just need someone I can really love and who’s ready to love me with her whole heart for who I am. I need a companion to live with and also plan the future together with. I hate lies and cheats, these are my core dislikes. I’m from Austin, Texas United States. I’m about 5.9ft tall. Are you married now or single?
How’s that going cause the same thing is happening to me. I thought he was older than me. We were both very surprised. It was a turn on for the both of us for sure. There’ a lot of curiosity and we have stayed friends for 3 years. The chemistry is still very there. Careers have kept us both busy. Now we are just getting back together and it’s like crushing all over again. It’s like going through the first stages of knowing someone. We get to catch up on each other’s life since we are both at a point in our careers where we are ready for a relationship.
Married to a beautiful woman who is 20 years older than me for 11 years after 8 years of courtship. I have never been so happy in my life. Best decision I ever made.
Wow I'm happy for you I'm 45 my man is 22 his have old soul did you get judge and people told you give up on each other how do you over come all this negative from friends outside and parents
@@teishagonzalez1545 well I got judged by my family and friends but I didn’t listen what they say I talk to his mother and ask her she told me as long as I don’t hurt her son we can be together yes my husband has an old soul to but we just block negative out but I got rid of the negative people out my life that was judging me and I let god deal with them
@@KingBabaJames You stop lying yourselves Gentlemen please if I am allowed to intervene that you might be seriously thinking that these fools are going ever to stop lying to themselves in the era of lies and hypocrisy if I may say so.
Definitely agree, that younger bf is ambition and looking for support of his dreams and to borrow from my successful energy. He loves when I offer my insight in his business dealings. Thanks for your insight about financial stability and status- escalator . My bf is crazy ambitious and feels inspired by all I have done, if I was struggling (which might still happen someday) I don’t think he’d be as into me as he is. Keep being real !!! Xxx
Very good social awareness. It sounds like you both understand what the other person is bringing to the table. That's a great thing as long as you know deep down what he likes about you. In my experience, people get upset when they don't realize just because they feel something about X doesn't mean the other person does as well.
Thank you for making this video! It’s so ironic how double standards society is. When an older man twice a girl’s age dating is normalized. Yet there’s this BS that a woman dating someone younger is manipulative. Make it make sense.
Im 43 he is 25. In the beginning he was definitely looking for the cookie jar special. Here we are more than 2 years later engaged and knocking these goals down. I have a 11 year old and he is the whole reason he hustles. He wants a biological and im still able to conceive so im trying. Love is love
When y’all out do you feel like people looking at you like you his mom . Or it just a natural flow . A younger person is trying talk to me but I have kids almost his age
That’s my very first question if he answers yes He wants kids ... I good bye! Im a widow in my 50s raising a teenager and I don’t want anymore children. He should not miss the opportunity of having a child!
This is beautiful and I don’t see anything wrong with this age gap but would like to ask, do people ever look at you like your his mother or give you weird looks because of the age difference. I was with an older woman not that long ago and although she wasn’t visibly as old as she was (was stunning for her age) one person did assume I was her son, and she felt very embarrassed by this and insecure about it even though several others didn’t assume this nor judge us. So how do you deal with this if at all? If you don’t mind me asking?
Im in my 40s and in love with a younger guy he is 33 years I'm not rich and we are still in the talking stages I am not in the best places financially but I'm working towards bettering my situation
It is also relative, isn't it? I mean, if the younger man is in his late 30s or early 40s and he has no desire to have children and the older woman is in her 50s many of the issues raised might not apply
@@louisemc3680 Exactly. Plenty of men in general don't want kids just like Plenty of women now days don't want kids. She is generalizing, that young men want kids, young men will walk out as soon as financial perks are gone. She is talking about financial/ sexual arrangements
My gf now is 8 years older than me. and I never felt so happy. dont know why. she makes me feel true love and makes me feel human. Not all but most younger women treats men their age like an atm machine, so many rules, so many dramas. and I hate gold diggers, dramatic kids. see, I get a girlfriend is to HAVE A GIRLDFRIEND, NOT to have an adopted-like child girl, cries dramas, demands, complains, etc too much... I'm trying to have date A GIRL FRIEND. not a kid. So why I prefer and been dating older women, because they are well experienced, graduated from immature party nights, less excited about money, they dont need old men to make them happy because they responsible and independent and already know what they want in life.
My girl is 14 yrs older than me...im 32 we are doing fine...with that said theres no chance of children so any of you guys looking for that then think about what your doing....I have 3 kids by one other woman and it didn't workout but just think about everything guys. Go through every scenario before being committed
You say most younger men are looking for financial security and states from an older woman. Not true! Of course there will be some but there's lots of reasons men go for older women. I think the main reason is the sex but they might genuinely prefer someone who has more life experience or there's just an attraction and they can't explain it. You can easily test if they're after money by not giving them any!
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy it did to me for quite awhile. Had to break through a lot mentally. But I look young and feel young, so I figured we’re a match😁
Younger guys are more respectful and full of life. My guy is 12 years younger and I’m the happiest I have ever been. People look at us and just think we are just adorable and cutest couple.
SPOT ON!!! We are 2 hrs apart and 14.5 yrs apart. He’s an old soul cowboy cancer survivor- 10 months together and just incredible connection I am learning SO MUCH about myself it’s insane!
I think the best relationship for people is one where you can grow together and not have to worry about catching up to the older person and grow old together or learn new things together be in an age range where you can’t tell who’s older .
I dated guys 10-13 years younger than me. All in their mid 20s.They’re fun to be with but none of them was ready for a long term relationship. So never again! it’s better to be in the same generation.
@@Lightner445555555555 well, this was my experience! They don’t have to be exactly my age but the difference should not be more than 10 years apart, that will be different generation. Yea I don’t mind divorced as long as he’s serious and committed
My wife is 14 years older than I am. Age does not matter. Just because it did not work for you does not mean your statement applies to everyone. Change my mind.
Idk about that religion is huge as a christian I am not suppose to have fellowship with darkness as the bible states so a non christian isn't an option whereas a girl 10 years older is.
You must be a young inexperienced person; if you are woman you will change that attitude as you age...women don't age sexually..At 70 or 80 years old if you are healthy your sex drive with be as good and sweet and feel just as good as a 40 yr old woman...just keep living..
Hey Chengi you have a beautiful warm spirit. No malicious, no belittling I really appreciate that. I am involved with a younger man so I appreciate this video. God bless you Sister !!!!
Men my age in the 20s and 30s want women 35 and up over younger women? Especially looks? And would that older women take that same young man when she was In her prime? Serious question
I got the same problem. Most men think I'm around 25 years old, but I'm 36. This year I will become 37 in September and the guy that's interested in me turned 35 in January. He seems like a man with a protect/provide mindset and he dates with finding a woman to marry and start a family with as a goal. He doesn't mind that I already have a kid. He seems way more mature than my ex husband of 38. So I also wondering what age difference to big.
Ladies?? Question. If you are with a younger man. Would you try to keep up with him? Would you take care of yourself so that your age difference wouldn't be an issue? How do you react is you noticed younger women are giving him attention? I'm just wondering. How would you handle yourself with a younger man.
Great question. This dynamic is fired up by the age gap. The younger men that love older women are actually attracted to their mates age and energy. She trying to be younger or “keep up” diminishes his attraction to her. A woman that accepts the love of a younger man understands that if he wanted a younger woman he would gone for her. Being with a younger man is usually a case where he really adores his older woman. It can cause insecurity if the woman is not confident and high value but in most cases older women don’t really worry about handling themselves around their younger men.
* Make sure you connect physically, emotionally, and mentally. ... * Don't chase him. ... * Love yourself. ... * Take care of yourself. ... * Don't be a people pleaser. .. * Speak your mind.
Thank you so much for this post!! I’m so blessed. I have been suffering from anxiety with my younger bf. He is 20 and I’m 34. And this is his first relationship. I am always feeling like he will leave me in the future because he wants more experiences in his life and also relationship. He has been working on his self confident and so has I. But he has changed a lot and I feel like he is gonna change a lot. Could you please help me anyone 😭 I love him so so much… but also sometimes I feel like as an older woman, I should let him do whatever he wants in his life so let him experience more relationships…I’m so lost… can anyone give me advise? Especially if you are a young man who has first relationship.
I think about sh like this too. Hes always asking what kind of weird sh I get into. Fetishes & sh. Me: "🤔 ummm I really don't even know. I just... I like me boring 😁. I guess you're my fetish." That prob goes over well. Idk. Def didn't think I'd end up w/ someone so much younger than me. Im not a young man tho. Its half/ half for me. Hes been going @ a hunded for so long, I do think hes tired. But the other half, there's prob things he hasn't explored yet. But its just silly sh., so, I dont think thats too hard to tackle. If we really wanted to. Im not praising dating someone younger anymore than I should tho. Im just glad I was ok before he came along.
My thing is I’d be nervous dating a older woman because I’m not very experienced sexually so she would have to teach me. Do older women mind teaching younger men?
@@Keepingupwitbree unfortunately he told me we are not on the right paths. And left me. He told me he needs more experience. It’s been a year now since our breakup. It was such a torment. But I think I learnt and am learning a lot from it. I cannot forget him and never will. I’m still thinking of him from time to time… he will be with a young girl or maybe he already is with someone idk. But age wasn’t the issue for us. We had totally different objects. There are a lot to go through for age gap couples. However, I really hope you guys will work out from bottom of my heart.
French president with wife which for 23 years more older they together 30 years , my father younger of mom for 16 years they were together 23 years , but he died younger because of cancer . I know guys who mature in 23 and ready make children and home and I know Jonny Depp he is child for all life . This not about age
@Julia Zaratova I can see why you are confused. I have revised my comment. I find myself attracted to much younger men now that I am divorcing. I take care of myself and I don't look or feel my age. I have been shy but not anymore. Life is too short for that but that comes with experience, LOL. I think you should tell your crush how you feel, especially if you know that she is unattached. You will never get what you want if you don't ask for it. Just because you are less experienced doesn't mean you don't have anything to teach/offer an older woman. My son and I are doing well and I really appreciate your comment.
I’m 25 and the guy I’m interested in is 20 but turning 21 this year. I think I’m more afraid and worried how things could go, since I’m turning 26 this year. I don’t want kids any time soon, nor to be married. I just worry that since I’m older I’m just throwing myself into a terrible position. Especially since I’ve always dated men older than me and never younger. Should I still pursue?
I'd go on a date with him and get to know him maybe he doesn't want kids or to rush into anything either. If you don't want kids at all I think that is a deal breaker for most people in general regardless of age.
Any man younger than 25 is simply not developed enough for something real but he might be that old spirit that is ready for what you are ready for. Proceed with caution. Truth is he doesn’t have a fertility window and you do xx
You dont have big age difference go on date get to know each other...and maybe with time u miggt want to settle or just experience something nice i mean u never know with tgese things
am open to dating some one older than me as long as we bond and connect very well. happiness is all i crave for ,so if am happily in love with you then am going no where with out you, at the moment am not seeing anyone but am looing forward to because being single isnt good for my mental health
Thank you for the insight! I think it depends on the ages and each other's situations. I'm 43 and hes 33. He does not want any children So it's not an issue.He's very mature for his age hes a business owner and he likes older women. And I like that lol keep up the good work on the videos thanks
@Marin Cuculic I never said I was dating him, I said I met a nice man and he is 35. But to answer your question, no I am not dating him and do not have any plans on dating him. We went to lunch yesterday. He is a man of that would make a good friend and share different business ideas. Being an older woman we'll see what we are looking for in a guy and to be clear, it doesn't matter if he's six years younger or six years older. We are on different wavelengths far as I'm concerned.
Hi dear, I’m Alex Johnson I just need someone I can really love and who’s ready to love me with her whole heart for who I am. I need a companion to live with and also plan the future together with. I hate lies and cheats, these are my core dislikes. I’m from Austin, Texas United States. I’m about 5.9ft tall. Are you married now or single?
They're either single or currently divorced. Most of the older women I use to chase were those women but most times they would hit on me because I use to do housework such as building or painting for some of the neighbours. When I worked on the single mums' houses there was always tension and most time I would make a move or she would even though I was young the more I spent with older women the more I got addicted to them.
I picked up a number of this woman at a wedding, so I thought would be older but not by much. I'm 26, she's about 34. I'm a bit of an old soul myself. But she's fixated on our age gap and won't consider it. What a shame.
All the comments are people only dating men 1-10 years younger LOL that’s not a a big age gap at all..same age bracket it’s crazy how society can make a woman dating or married to a man 5 years younger a “cougar” 🧐 it’s sad because men marry and date women 1-10 years younger ALL the time and it’s so accepted..the DOUBLE STANDARD is sickening
Not 100% truth... Some young men are financially well and are not looking for financial support from women. Just fun and good time. Im 53 female and my guy is 36. Perfect 2 years relationship
as a young man interested in older women i would personaly say .......YES u are a liabilitiy but that doesnt mean theres no space for love and from my view older woman basically show more love which makes most of the type of relationships mutual
I am 71 and my younger friend age 39 wants a relationship with me. He lived with my husband and I as my husbands caregiver so we share common memories and mental hardships dealing with his death. We have drawn closer together dealing with his loss but nothing physical by any means. Help
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Honey I just left my marriage of 24 years from a man that is the same age as me and he and his entire family are exceptionally cruel. Good character has nothing to do with age.
Shoutout all the woman in these comments who date younger men , me myself I love dating older woman always have I like to have a much older woman instead of a girl my age ☺️❤️
I’m damn near 30 but look young af. So guys in their early 20’s hit on me 24/7. I had a 22 year old hit on me recently and I can’t do it lol I feel like I’m rocking the cradle man lol
I’ve been getting to know a man who is 10 years my junior. And I’ve been struggling with the idea that I might end up meeting his mama, and I don’t want to deal with the criticism. On the other side of this, he “daddies” me more than I “mommy” him. 👀😂 He corrects me when I’m wrong. We are in agreement quite often. But, he takes the wheel and rescues me from time to time. I have decided not to mother him since I realized we wanted to get to know one another.
I am 31 she is 45. She has 3 daughters from a previous marriage. I am 3 years older to her first born. She now wants to end things because she believes her children will never accept me. I have always been transparent with her regarding my age and what is it that I want from her which is a life with her. Eish
All the issues you pointed out is spot on. Ill also add many older women who date younger men have child issues. Especially son issues. So it's like opposites attract each other
Thanks so much for this video im 41 my boyfriend is 31 and everything you said always stuck in the back of my mind its so much common sense you pointed out on here fhsi is a wake up call for me
Does not mean you cannot have a meaningful and profound relationship with him. It just means there is a price you have to pay to have it like any other relationship. It’s just one women aren’t used to being asked to pay. ❤️
Thanks for responding back... Yes its a serious price to pay and a lot of what ifs. I also feel insecure when i have to meet his friends because all of them are so young and even some are younger then him so i know their friends have girl friends thaf may be 20 years younger then me and he has to be around their young friends. I just keep trying to leave him so i wont get hurt in long run because this relationship is very one sided . im the one with my own place i have a job and a car he has none of these but needs a place to live my car to drive and im footing most the bills cause his only jncome is 700 a month so i always ask myslef would he be with me if i had none of those things.
I’m 22 and met a 28 yr old recently. Any advice? I really like her and she says I’m mature and that she also likes me. We are both Christians and have similar values. I find most girls my age too immature and wondering if anyone has advice?
I'm a massage therapist & I always have older women try and make moves on me . I've always wanted to get involved with one but don't want to come off as unprofessional. Hopefully some day .
@Boldhold London it's not that bad older woman seem to know exactly what they want and as younger Male that been through alot u wanna just settle down and u know exactly what u want its different for all males becuase just because were both 20 are mentality can be completely different but i dont even notice the age difference
I'm scared I'm 53, I don't look it I have a 26 year old guy pursuing me with a vengeance I'm terrified of what people will say if I say yes I will let you in my life.
The oldest woman ive dated that actually wanted kids was 49 (still ovulating). The oldest woman ive actually ever slept with was a 54 year old doctor (thats when I found out a majorit of med professionals are horny as hell). Both times I was in my 20s. Now I'm not. I can safely say it is very hard to make it work on the mans side. That is without totally disregarding many common social norms and personal behaviors that men need. On the older woman's side I think it's way easier, because y'all have already been through a lot and know what works amd what to do. However I can say on a mental and emotional level I was treated WAAAaaaayyyy better by the older women ive beem with. They just talk like a normal human being and just help out with cooking and cleaning without being asked. Totally the opposite of modern day women 20s and 30s that bitch about everything. Its a weird trade off. Either way the man has to give up somethimg. The best way to sum it up is the pursuit of both worlds where both sides are committed bit the woman is still attractive and helps the guy out amd the man treats her same as a younger girl and she is fertile at same time. Thats my 2 cents.
Right,but what a lot of people will miss in your well written scribe...is that youre saying what Ive always known, if he is a man with things going on, has choices/options (which is often what attracts the older woman to him) he's not going to stay with her for the long haul. Her remaining attractive (not just for her age as in, Oh she looks great for 50) is key and beauty fades. It does happen but boy is it rare. Thats why I warn women...dont do it. Cos what they end up doing 95% of the time is wasting valuable years of their life they could have devoted to finding Mr. Forever.
That was stated beautifully, and that is my exact dilemma. Men my own age are wonderful, and have resources, and are absolutely awesome being unselfish and fixing things. But, they either are not able to have sex at all, are they having a reaction for a few seconds. They are wonderful at foreplay, but they can never actually finish to the point of sex, so it’s like a big tease. The younger guys kind of just wanna have sex with any woman of any age, and I can’t picture them being as great as relationships as an older man. One of the reason an older man is more willing to commit to one woman is because his sex drive drops, and he starts to experience problems with impotence and would feel much more comfortable with a woman who loves him , rather than a hot woman expecting great sex. It’s very sad that these days, the hotties that are really great at sex don’t want to commit. And then the ones who are older and less sexually attractive will commit but you’re never satisfied sexually. For a younger man with an older woman, he may love the sex and love the woman, and be totally physically attracted to her. But if he wants children, he alsoHast to commit to a younger girl who will make more demands. That’s the bad thing about today sexually liberated society. When people have multiple opportunities for sex, they usually won’t commit. By the time they do commit these days they are sexually done, especially men
@@dawnallison3070 Here's the greatest yet oldest advice you can receive. Dont. Give up. The. Yumyum. Be yourself (sorry, I know it sucks hearing that) and dont give it up. One of these idiots like me will come along with all these morals and values (which is what you want) and find great value in that.
Hey im a 26 year old guy and ill date a woman whos 44 years old very soon. Im a bit nervous because shes very beatiful and kind and funny and im just ... well im just me nothing special. I hope it will work out for me
Perhaps she behaves that way because she is guarded against disappointment. You should communicate how you feel and lead the relationship or she will assume you just want to play
As someone who has been in an age gap LTR I can say that younger men are primarily looking for sex (no children involved) and emotional intimacy that women their age cannot provide due to lack of life experience. Also, they are looking for a nurturing person if they lacked a positive mother figure growing up. One who has all the answers and strategy. One who doesn't cause drama ( not possible). The one who doesn't need a man to make her feel worthwhile. She is a woman who is both feminine yet strong willed. Mature women do not need augmentations of body parts and botox but to stay in shape-- for themselves. The younger man may not stick around too long but he will cherish the love and wisdom of an older woman. Forever.
So it's all about the challenge. Because the pattern typically goes- the older woman finds it flattering but rejects the guy knowing that conversations might be a bit off due to life experiences/age gap, and this for some reason turns him on (Ashton Kutcher+Demi Moore). I find it fascinating nonetheless. It doesn't seem as though sex is all they want though, especially when they seem to value even the boring daily chores you have to do- they find that even fun and interesting-- I think they love certain things about that woman that reminds them of their moms? It's also more than the physical when they look into your eyes and really listen like what you say matters and they remember the little things.
I agree with (love isn’t enough) my boyfriend is 21 years my junior. Sex is off the hook! I’m his until it no longer works. I’ve only been dating him 7 months I’ve seen the negative side and because I’m older I say let’s talk about what we can work on. I’m enjoying the now. By the way I’ve known him 3 years before dating. I love his work ethics. I thought we would have NOTHING to talk about, I was wrong his intellectual and down to earth.
I admire this relationship and I would say don’t give up just yet. If he treats you well and is intellectual and down to earth and prioritises you then he’s a keeper. I was in a similar boat with my now ex who was 22 years my senior and we met each other 2 years before becoming a couple and although she talked about a future with me which I was definitely ready for she was very insecure about the age after one person ASSUMED that I was her son even though visibly she looked amazing for her age and, you could almost say she looked at least 10 years older than me rather than 20+. I guess I’m curious if you don’t mind me asking, do you and your current bf ever get weird looks from anyone? Or have you ever had people assume your current bf is your son? If so how do you manage this and do you feel put off as a result? Nonetheless if he really cares about you and puts you first despite the age difference please don’t leave him heartbroken like mine did me. If he’s not concerned about having children or anything then hang onto him please Much love and respect for your relationship ❤️
I’m dating a younger man. I’m 40 and he’s 30. It’s amazing dynamic. He’s so responsible and respectful. He treats me like a queen…
My boyfriend is 7 years younger then me, when I turn 40 we decided to get pregnant. We are still so so happy and in love 🥰 last year he asked me to marry him. Best 8 years of my life!
I'm 26 and she's 34...its like a breathe of fresh air compared to the girls my age who just want to be taken care of and want to try and shape you into some fantasy guy. She isn't looking to get anything out of me. She's independent and I can still focus on my goals without feeling guilty.
So what's the deal y'all still going strong? And what about kids? You're going to want them someday. Even if you don't realize that right now. So will she.
Bro. You never answered. Coem on with the update. :-)
Yall still together or no?
@@metaldreams3595 😂
yes a whole 8 years is such a big difference!
You're a dusty who doesn't want to provide for his woman. You don't deserve to be in a relationship.
My wife is 11 years older then me and we have 4 kids as well and we've been together since 2015. My wife will be 44 and she still looking fine since I knew her back in 2004
Wow 🤩 you guys have 4 kids since 2015? In 5.5 you made her 4 children ? That’s amazing 😂
@@tiffanycrystalclear We had our last kid in 2018 so it was 3 years between 2015 - 2018. We had twins the second time she got pregnant
Did you have help conceiving? I’m curious and hopeful for myself.
@@baberina1 Not really. We just conceived normally. The problem was it was her age when we conceived but there wasn't no issue but it was risky.
First Ill say, awesome and great family you have there.
TBH with you? And this will strike many as me being a Donny Downer...but your kind of story, I believe, gives a lot of women false hope. Or can definitely lead to that.
It is quite rare for a young man to stay with a much older woman (7+ years).
Everyone thought they could have it too when there was Ashton Kutcher with Demi Moore.
But she got smashed against the rocks too.
I currently know a woman whos in love with a guy 15 years younger. Of course she hates me for telling her he'll never stay with her. Thing is, he onyl is "with" her, when hes in jail or rehab. lol, I know. Its insane.
Shes the only one who is there for him when hes locked up.
Anyway ladies, the story above while heartwarming and wonderful...one out of...30? Maybe 40? Seriously. And the # could easily be far worse. For young men that stay forever with a much older woman? One out of 80 or 100 wouldn't surprise me.
Older men can be ageist too but hunnie the older women they look down on still got it. Cause women especially black women have a gift of still looking and feeling young even when we are older.
We older men do not look down on older women. They are simply invisible for us. We do not care if older women still got it and fuck younger guys. Because rather them then us.
Asians too
Older women accept who we are and they support us and motivate us to improve.
I just ended a controlling and draining 9 year relationship a year ago. However, I met a guy who is amazing all the way around. Beautiful personality, generous and treats me like a princess, protective, and respects my boundaries and respects the fact that my son comes first. He told me he was in love with me. I'm very apprehensive of starting a relationship with someone that young. I'm 31 and he is 24.
I've only dated guys my age and older and he has treated me better than most.
AGE IS JUST A NUMBER, IF HE MAKES YOU HAPPY THEN STAY WITH HIM, THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS YOUR HAPPINESS
Yes, younger men treat you well! They haven’t been ruined and made bitter by the idiots
If your able to go up in age then Going down in age shouldn’t be an issue right ? Be with some one as youthful as you .
Grow together not play catch up or grow apart .
A 31 with a 24 year old is not such a major difference. Wishing you both a lifetime of happiness!
So happy for you! Do whatever that makes you feel good!
Am dating a younger man and it’s the best decision i have ever made! I feel his love everyday in every way!😍❤️
So happy for you ❤️
Explain how?
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy hello changi am into you and I will love to know you more please message me on ig @official_slim7 let's talk better
@@thatjamericankidd6637 no one owes you shit ☺️
I love this! I never thought that age was a thing. Though being with an older man might feel a little more comfortable, being with a younger man I feel like I have someone to grow with, someone to inspire someone who keeps me feeling young. I have so much life to live.
I am currently involved with a man 9 years younger than me and he is more matured than I am and regulates his emotions better than me. I am learning a lot from him ( I'm 31, he's 22)
Great to hear. I've been involved with older women in the past and my wife she's 11 years older than me. She's 45 and I'm 34 and we have 4 kids a well. I'm glad to hear there are older women who aren't afraid to go public with younger men because the older women I use to be with were always wanted to have a relationship behind closed doors and at the time I was younger and sometimes the gap was big between us and maybe that's why and they just wanted to have fun with my wife she didn't care how people felt about us even though she's not really people's favourite cup of tea she was never ashamed of being with me in public.
@@mojok7070 Thank you so much for this comment. The fact that you guys have four kids together means you've been together for a while. I am dating & falling in love with someone who is 15 years younger than me. I NEVER thought I would find myself in this position & it makes me nervous. Idc what other people think it's more about me and getting out of my own head about what my traditional dating & partnership ideals were. And can this work? Can this last or is this just something that should be ended before either of us gets hurt. I do believe that maybe love showed up like this to shake me out of superficial/ liner thinking that says it should look a certain way. I mean if everyone is enjoying it & is an adult then why stop!? Why limit the way love shows up?? ❤️
I am 33 years old and I wish to marry a woman older than me, who is 45 or 50 years old. This is very beautiful to me. An older woman is more emotional and has beautiful love.
21 yr old here ,there’s this 28 year old women that just does something to me everytime I see her😍
So what are you telling us for? Go get her!
Update us on what’s happening xx
Stop waiting. My wife is 11 years older and she's currently 44 and I was lucky that I knew my wife before we started our relationship back in 2015. Honestly most of the older women I had relationship was I already knew them and I felt confident being with them. But I've hardly asked out women I never knew because I've tried and it backfired a few times but the ones I already knew before the relationship it was a risk but most of the times they said yes.
Your pic looks like your 61. But what did you do? Nothing?
With that you should just have told her exactly what you said to us.
Might sound lame but you gotta hit her with something unique and special to make it happen.
@@metaldreams3595that's Jose Mourinho you bozo
I’m 54 dating a 38 year old and it has been amazing! He is more caring, loving and understanding than any man I’ve ever met. Just taking it day by day not looking to far into the future. Just decided to let someone love me :)
Im a 32 year old Italian man dating a 45 year old Salvadoran woman. We just CLICK! I can't deal with the younger girls tbh. I can't stand the childish behavior one bit and have no time for it in a partner. For kids, sure. For adults? No. I don't like the hook up culture and I was raised by WW2:vets so I guess you could say I have an antiquated view on love and Romance....or just younger girls can't appreciate when you pull out their chair or hold the door opened or do candle lit dinners after the sun goes down. Too many want to party to hear days and I find it very unladylike tbh. With her I can do that, have the bonfires and coffee, go camping and hiking. I couldn't find a girl my age or younger who liked these things to save my own life! It's just crazy! So I started dating older and then I finally got the mental and spiritual stimulation I was after.
No matter the age if you guy's have alot in common & you get along well. Go for it no matter the haters. Especially if you love one another
Thats part of the problem. Younger men have hardly anything in common with women 2 decades older, but not the other way around. With the exception of sex.
Watch that comment 18 and over 🤣😂
It's not for me....🤷🏾♀️
only caught a bit of this , my girl is 11 years older than me. yes shes got all what you mentioned , good job , home , car etc. but if she lost all that tomorrow id still be with her.. love is love... what i will say tho , i did want security , not financial , but just someone who is settled in their own skin .... x
She a lucky girl 🙏🏾
I just met a guy and he is 40 he seems to be really authentic but I'm 57 and I'm a little hesitant. But I must realize guys my age break my heart to. Should I give him a try?
@@marybarr2750 I would say get to know him. His morals ethics and what he believes in. Check if he has feelings for x’s if he’s healed from past trauma. If you yourself haven’t healed then I won’t get into a relationship. Don’t waste time it goes by fast if he feels authentic then he probably is. My thing is the age gap is sort of a lot but every story doesn’t have to be the same, he just has to be willing to take care of you when you guys get older. Basically he will tell you what he wants and if your okay with that then I’d say jump in the pool but actions speak louder than words so watch the actions and the people he hangs out with.
@@iJuanGutierrez Thanks..I hear you.💞
@Chris Black no i work , but i dont have to support her , she has her own thing going on
My 27 year old has been chasing me for 2 years. I’m 45. We recently starting dating and having amazing sex. I have been married twice and we are more compatible than any relationship I have ever had
I'm 65 my man is 38 he acts older than I do! I don't stand in the way of his dreams! Great lover!😃😃😃
I'm 65 my man is 38 he acts older than I do! I don't stand in the way of his dreams! Great lover!😃😃😃
Has he moved in yet? Cos you know hes trying get the 3 Ps. Pay and a place to stay.
Be real lady to the world and yourself.. you like his raw sexual energy; a very young man or very woman has little else than sexual energy to offer.. stop lying to yourself ladies.. raw sexual energy is all you want.. why do women refuse to talk in truths..I have dated women 15 years younger than me and in order to enjoy her company I had to forget 15 years of my personal development.. it was stressful & it inner demeaned me; the same is true for older women.. the younger woman’s bodies aren’t worth me sacrificing who I’m for a firmer body..and one great thing older men have in their favor as it relates sex.. women in our age if they are healthy are just as sexy as a younger women.. their kitty is just as pretty & tasty & firm as a younger woman’s ; their bodies aren’t perfect but everything else is the exactly the same feelings..but older women as their younger counterparts are such fakes and liars as it relates to why they like younger men💪🏾Stop lying ladies💪🏾
You probably met your match, younger men have a different dynamic, when they hit 40 though, then that's when things start changing, they start desiring younger women, and that's annoying, so just keep up your appearance and sass so no one have anything over you!
Men my age are retiring want to sit home watching tv while getting ready to die. I like younger men and they like me since I seem to be aging backwards and we can chill.
27 here😍😍
@@jahvairclark1650 💋
@@livefromtheground7274 hey
29 here
Any old woman single holler at me
I'm 39 and he's 30, he's more established than I am but he is absolutely amazing and everything I desired in a man
That's not a significant age difference
I feel like all you explored in this video is the negatives of dating a younger man. However, that isn't true for all. I am dating a younger guy, he has more money than I do (due to his family), he has a career ( he's a professional), he drives a better car than I do, and he never asks me for anything out of the way and he is mature. With that being said, just date who you want ladies, you'd know if he's right for you during the relationship. I dated guys older than I am who tried to use me for my money; They wanted new tires, they wanted tickets to fly abroad and they wanted something expensive for their birthday, and always brought up the money( I am middle class).
There are a lot of great younger men willing and able to make an older woman happy but it is misleading to ignore the realities in this video and dangerous
Spot on I am with a much younger man and he has changed my whole life literally...he earns probably more than my older ex ever did and supports me....in return I will give him a house this year which will be owned by a trust, my sister is helping me and my mum...the house will be under my name....he will have no claim on it and when I die my kids will get it not him...he excepts this and is fine with it what a guy, no wonder i am with him, and he found me on a dating app three years ago...life just keeps getting better with him everyday...with my older ex was like I was cursed...
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy So your with a younger man then and you know?????don't think so dear older men are WAY WAY MORE DSANGEROUS know from my past...nearly got killed by a few including my older ex who is from Iran by the way...
@@coletteannemaud1340 You're muslim and got with a white Christian man?
@@vivaeuropa ARE YOU NUTS PERHAPS CHECK INOT A INSANE ASSYLUM PLEEEEASE FRO YOUR OWN SAKE
My wife is way older than me and we’ve been together for almost 3 years and it always feel like meeting for the first time. The connection and energy is all good. We appreciate and understand each other very well. I never bonded so well with my age mates but with her is super good
When did you stop working? Right after you moved in?
Im 39 he is 21 we both are poor rich in love.
42, trying to fight my feelings for a man about 20 years younger. 🤦🏾♀️he's not having it, but I love how crazy he is about me.
It’s never easy 🤗
My first time was with a girl older than me
I have a friend that is going through the same thing, I don't know how she does it... But I believe that it is possible for two people to fall in love with each other, and it really doesn't matter the age, as long as they are legal..
@@sandrajean3502 Hello beautiful Queen How are you . Single man looking for one Seriously. 24 years old but age is just a number for me
Arica you are very charming :) Are you single maybe?
Another thing is that Woman are raised to wait for a dream husband, get married, have family and friends on the other hand man are raised to work hard and get rich and take care of their fam and all those have to sync together, when i was young i dated older Woman not by selection but it just happened and all my relationship were good, they had kids already and i didn't but i played father role and what i like about older woman they go for what they want and don't take B.S, i liked the challenge though i'm introvert, don't smoke nor drink so my life suited them at first but the only problem that i had and i think it broke us apart it was scars they had before me i could tell that they were still very hurt from past relationships that they thought i was gonna be those guys, which bring negativity in a relationship and they also wanted to look young to suit me which can backfire, some guys love them old i don't say don't take care of yourself but love yourself. if you keep on telling me that you ugly and grow old you are training my brain to look at you in that manner, my advice is be yourself and any guy will love you for who you are if he doesn't then show him the door.
I agree. A negative self-depreciating mindset can be a turn off. Thanks for sharing.
@@adj5767 its a pleasure
You found an easy super very easy woman for your bedroom and she also found a useful willing younger man to spend some time with because the rest of the guys she is really interested they don't pay any attention to her.
Don't make it sound it's something special, women ( and none really men as well) are not going to beat aging,time because feminism and political correctness of our time is telling them so.
I could not have said it better . You articulated what I was thinking as a man. Thank you
Love this
Dating a guy that’s 23 I’m 32 but look in my early 20’s. When he approached me he initially thought I was his age so find out I was older was a bonus for him.😜
Hi dear,
I’m Alex Johnson
I just need someone I can really love and who’s ready to love me with her whole heart for who I am.
I need a companion to live with and also plan the future together with.
I hate lies and cheats, these are my core dislikes.
I’m from Austin, Texas United States.
I’m about 5.9ft tall.
Are you married now or single?
Are you still dating him ?
me too he thought i was younger than him
How’s that going cause the same thing is happening to me. I thought he was older than me. We were both very surprised. It was a turn on for the both of us for sure. There’ a lot of curiosity and we have stayed friends for 3 years. The chemistry is still very there. Careers have kept us both busy. Now we are just getting back together and it’s like crushing all over again. It’s like going through the first stages of knowing someone. We get to catch up on each other’s life since we are both at a point in our careers where we are ready for a relationship.
Age does not matter when you love someone beautiful
My gal is 56 I'm 45 we get along great. And no I'm not looking for the motherly thing either.
This is not much in the way of an age gap as you are both over 45.
That true it not much age gap try his 22 I'm 45 that age gap
That is a matter of perspective@@blackswanrelationshipacademy
@Chris Black Oh im sorry i didn't get that,i don't speak idiot.
@@teishagonzalez1545 Your man is 22?
My "Boyfriend" is 14 years younger than me and he's Turkish. Best decision i have made in a long time. 😊
Good for you x
Iam american
Muah!
@Marin Cuculic thank you! That was so sweet of you to say. 😊
@Marin Cuculic no, unfortunately we broke up due to the distance. 😔 Hes still a great guy though and I wish him the best.
I'm 52 & He's 33. After 6 years of being together. He left me for a 27 year old woman. I'm so hurt.
I'm sorry that happened to you
I'm 56 and he's 31. We're thinking of doing a podcast.
Married to a beautiful woman who is 20 years older than me for 11 years after 8 years of courtship. I have never been so happy in my life. Best decision I ever made.
All jokes aside, this is... One of thee realest women I've bumped into.
I my husband is 25 and am 43 and my marriage is great and my husband has a old soul
Wow I'm happy for you I'm 45 my man is 22 his have old soul did you get judge and people told you give up on each other how do you over come all this negative from friends outside and parents
@@teishagonzalez1545 well I got judged by my family and friends but I didn’t listen what they say I talk to his mother and ask her she told me as long as I don’t hurt her son we can be together yes my husband has an old soul to but we just block negative out but I got rid of the negative people out my life that was judging me and I let god deal with them
Cool! I’m 36 & my fiancé is 22.
This was reassuring as I’m 44 & like a guy who’s 26...thank you!
Very nice! how long have you been married?
My man is 23 years younger than I am, and we get along fantastically. So I believe it can happen
How many toys have bought him. You know that shit ain't love. Stop lying to yourself.
That is your son ,no lie
Awesome!
Your man is a Simp, a modern Simp,this is how we call them nowadays.
@@KingBabaJames You stop lying yourselves Gentlemen please if I am allowed to intervene that you might be seriously thinking that these fools are going ever to stop lying to themselves in the era of lies and hypocrisy if I may say so.
Definitely agree, that younger bf is ambition and looking for support of his dreams and to borrow from my successful energy. He loves when I offer my insight in his business dealings. Thanks for your insight about financial stability and status- escalator . My bf is crazy ambitious and feels inspired by all I have done, if I was struggling (which might still happen someday) I don’t think he’d be as into me as he is.
Keep being real !!! Xxx
Hello .i want serious relationship.I want a girl who really loves me
Very good social awareness. It sounds like you both understand what the other person is bringing to the table. That's a great thing as long as you know deep down what he likes about you. In my experience, people get upset when they don't realize just because they feel something about X doesn't mean the other person does as well.
Rhoda you look so charming :) Are you single?
Thank you for making this video! It’s so ironic how double standards society is. When an older man twice a girl’s age dating is normalized. Yet there’s this BS that a woman dating someone younger is manipulative. Make it make sense.
Im 43 he is 25. In the beginning he was definitely looking for the cookie jar special. Here we are more than 2 years later engaged and knocking these goals down. I have a 11 year old and he is the whole reason he hustles. He wants a biological and im still able to conceive so im trying. Love is love
This is beautiful 😻
You will get pregnant. See a Naturopath.
When y’all out do you feel like people looking at you like you his mom . Or it just a natural flow . A younger person is trying talk to me but I have kids almost his age
That’s my very first question if he answers yes He wants kids ... I good bye! Im a widow in my 50s raising a teenager and I don’t want anymore children. He should not miss the opportunity of having a child!
This is beautiful and I don’t see anything wrong with this age gap but would like to ask, do people ever look at you like your his mother or give you weird looks because of the age difference. I was with an older woman not that long ago and although she wasn’t visibly as old as she was (was stunning for her age) one person did assume I was her son, and she felt very embarrassed by this and insecure about it even though several others didn’t assume this nor judge us. So how do you deal with this if at all? If you don’t mind me asking?
Im in my 40s and in love with a younger guy he is 33 years I'm not rich and we are still in the talking stages I am not in the best places financially but I'm working towards bettering my situation
Hope it works out beautifully for you Swan ❤️
It is also relative, isn't it? I mean, if the younger man is in his late 30s or early 40s and he has no desire to have children and the older woman is in her 50s many of the issues raised might not apply
Over 40 perhaps. Men in their 30s still want families and are yet to be truly established
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy Not all men in their 30s want children
@@louisemc3680 Exactly. Plenty of men in general don't want kids just like Plenty of women now days don't want kids. She is generalizing, that young men want kids, young men will walk out as soon as financial perks are gone. She is talking about financial/ sexual arrangements
My gf now is 8 years older than me. and I never felt so happy. dont know why. she makes me feel true love and makes me feel human. Not all but most younger women treats men their age like an atm machine, so many rules, so many dramas. and I hate gold diggers, dramatic kids. see, I get a girlfriend is to HAVE A GIRLDFRIEND, NOT to have an adopted-like child girl, cries dramas, demands, complains, etc too much...
I'm trying to have date A GIRL FRIEND. not a kid.
So why I prefer and been dating older women, because they are well experienced, graduated from immature party nights, less excited about money, they dont need old men to make them happy because they responsible and independent and already know what they want in life.
I'd love to meet older woman. I've had this thing for older women ever since I'm a kid. I am 26
My girl is 14 yrs older than me...im 32 we are doing fine...with that said theres no chance of children so any of you guys looking for that then think about what your doing....I have 3 kids by one other woman and it didn't workout but just think about everything guys. Go through every scenario before being committed
I’m 28 and I love older women
Just don’t find the perfect one yet
I would say the same of younger women about older guys, they dont choose guys that have nothing.
Yep...absolutely true...lol
Been there, done that...lol
Right lol
Yeah i agree
So true!!
You say most younger men are looking for financial security and states from an older woman. Not true! Of course there will be some but there's lots of reasons men go for older women. I think the main reason is the sex but they might genuinely prefer someone who has more life experience or there's just an attraction and they can't explain it. You can easily test if they're after money by not giving them any!
So true
Age does not matter when you love someone.. and I am searching for a older woman because they are so lovely and caring❤
I’m 40 and he’s 26 but he treats me sooo soo sooo good 😊♥️😊
Good for you lu
My first time was with a girl older than me
When I read these comments I’m like what the hell am I freaking out about lol, I’m 1.5 years older than him 😂
Different strokes for different folks ♥️🤷
I’m in my 60’s, he’s in his 50’s. It’s love. Age isn’t an issue! It’s about commitment to each other.
At this age I don’t think this age gap counts.
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy it did to me for quite awhile. Had to break through a lot mentally. But I look young and feel young, so I figured we’re a match😁
@@auntkathy9141 Why did it even matter when you both are grown adults 🤔?
@@Lightner445555555555 it’s just me🤪
He's 50. He is not that young man that says in the video
Younger guys are more respectful and full of life. My guy is 12 years younger and I’m the happiest I have ever been. People look at us and just think we are just adorable and cutest couple.
SPOT ON!!! We are 2 hrs apart and 14.5 yrs apart. He’s an old soul cowboy cancer survivor- 10 months together and just incredible connection I am learning SO MUCH about myself it’s insane!
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I think the best relationship for people is one where you can grow together and not have to worry about catching up to the older person and grow old together or learn new things together be in an age range where you can’t tell who’s older .
Don’t work always
@@sherrillee385 yes but majority the time it does 💯
I dated guys 10-13 years younger than me. All in their mid 20s.They’re fun to be with but none of them was ready for a long term relationship. So never again! it’s better to be in the same generation.
What makes you think guys around your age would be any different 🤔? Most guys your age are already divorced lol.
My wife is 11 years older than me at 44 and me and her have 4 kids as well. Been together 2015
@@Lightner445555555555 well, this was my experience! They don’t have to be exactly my age but the difference should not be more than 10 years apart, that will be different generation. Yea I don’t mind divorced as long as he’s serious and committed
@@mojok7070 you’re wife is lucky then because it’s rare lol
@@danam358 Don't worry it's hard to tell the age difference as the younger person gets older🙂.
Am 32 and his 27, and am happy being with him.
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She's 100% spot on. I was in a 2.5 yr relationship with a man 16 yrs my junior, and the age gap mattered in the end. Never again.
Well with all do respect 16 is a lot... I think 12 is the max in my opinion ☺️ best of luck
That's a huge gap maybe try a guy within a 5 year range and that way you age together
No, the person matters in the end. There are some very mature and intelligent younger men out there just like there are some very immature older men.
My wife is 14 years older than I am. Age does not matter. Just because it did not work for you does not mean your statement applies to everyone. Change my mind.
@@garyprieto3731 Curious to know your ages and how long you've been married. Thanks.
To be honest I think age is more of a factor than race or religion. Age has aspects that cannot be worked around.
Idk about that religion is huge as a christian I am not suppose to have fellowship with darkness as the bible states so a non christian isn't an option whereas a girl 10 years older is.
You must be a young inexperienced person; if you are woman you will change that attitude as you age...women don't age sexually..At 70 or 80 years old if you are healthy your sex drive with be as good and sweet and feel just as good as a 40 yr old woman...just keep living..
Hey Chengi you have a beautiful warm spirit. No malicious, no belittling I really appreciate that. I am involved with a younger man so I appreciate this video. God bless you Sister !!!!
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I wouldnt say that's why a younger guy would always go for an older woman
Im 20 and I love older women Fr so mature and so independant
Men my age in the 20s and 30s want women 35 and up over younger women? Especially looks? And would that older women take that same young man when she was In her prime? Serious question
Interesting
Is a 4yr gap too big? Most of the guys who are interested in me always turn out to be younger than me because I look way younger than my actual age.
Angel depends how old you are?
I got the same problem.
Most men think I'm around 25 years old, but I'm 36. This year I will become 37 in September and the guy that's interested in me turned 35 in January.
He seems like a man with a protect/provide mindset and he dates with finding a woman to marry and start a family with as a goal. He doesn't mind that I already have a kid.
He seems way more mature than my ex husband of 38.
So I also wondering what age difference to big.
A good rule is no more than 10 yrs +/-.
WOW you worry way to much who cares, I am 24 years older than my cutie, and we just 'click'
Ladies?? Question. If you are with a younger man. Would you try to keep up with him? Would you take care of yourself so that your age difference wouldn't be an issue? How do you react is you noticed younger women are giving him attention? I'm just wondering. How would you handle yourself with a younger man.
Great question. This dynamic is fired up by the age gap. The younger men that love older women are actually attracted to their mates age and energy. She trying to be younger or “keep up” diminishes his attraction to her. A woman that accepts the love of a younger man understands that if he wanted a younger woman he would gone for her. Being with a younger man is usually a case where he really adores his older woman. It can cause insecurity if the woman is not confident and high value but in most cases older women don’t really worry about handling themselves around their younger men.
I disagree
It all depends on how much of a gap there is. The dynamics are different.
Everything she said is ABSOLUTELY true!!! Sooo much patience
* Make sure you connect physically, emotionally, and mentally. ...
* Don't chase him. ...
* Love yourself. ...
* Take care of yourself. ...
* Don't be a people pleaser. ..
* Speak your mind.
Especially the mommy thing.
@@daniellamoreno3616 very correct miss!!where are you from?
Thank you so much for this post!! I’m so blessed. I have been suffering from anxiety with my younger bf. He is 20 and I’m 34. And this is his first relationship. I am always feeling like he will leave me in the future because he wants more experiences in his life and also relationship. He has been working on his self confident and so has I. But he has changed a lot and I feel like he is gonna change a lot. Could you please help me anyone 😭 I love him so so much… but also sometimes I feel like as an older woman, I should let him do whatever he wants in his life so let him experience more relationships…I’m so lost… can anyone give me advise? Especially if you are a young man who has first relationship.
I think about sh like this too. Hes always asking what kind of weird sh I get into. Fetishes & sh. Me: "🤔 ummm I really don't even know. I just... I like me boring 😁. I guess you're my fetish." That prob goes over well. Idk. Def didn't think I'd end up w/ someone so much younger than me. Im not a young man tho. Its half/ half for me. Hes been going @ a hunded for so long, I do think hes tired. But the other half, there's prob things he hasn't explored yet. But its just silly sh., so, I dont think thats too hard to tackle. If we really wanted to. Im not praising dating someone younger anymore than I should tho. Im just glad I was ok before he came along.
My thing is I’d be nervous dating a older woman because I’m not very experienced sexually so she would have to teach me. Do older women mind teaching younger men?
@@huhhuh8306 no...they don't mind. They are mature enough to understand
Same 😩 he’s 20 im 28 literally going thru this right now
@@Keepingupwitbree unfortunately he told me we are not on the right paths. And left me. He told me he needs more experience.
It’s been a year now since our breakup. It was such a torment. But I think I learnt and am learning a lot from it. I cannot forget him and never will. I’m still thinking of him from time to time… he will be with a young girl or maybe he already is with someone idk. But age wasn’t the issue for us. We had totally different objects. There are a lot to go through for age gap couples. However, I really hope you guys will work out from bottom of my heart.
When u love someone age doesnt matter.but it do has it ups an down
Very grateful for this as i dnt see alot of blk older women younger men rships
French president with wife which for 23 years more older they together 30 years , my father younger of mom for 16 years they were together 23 years , but he died younger because of cancer . I know guys who mature in 23 and ready make children and home and I know
Jonny Depp he is child for all life . This not about age
My name is James hickey I am 29 years old I do like older women
Can we side talk ..am 48 and my man is 26 its fantastic and best ever affair. The only issue here is that feel like am raising a child pls help
Hahaha you are but sounds like you are getting something from it 😉
@Julia Zaratova I can see why you are confused. I have revised my comment. I find myself attracted to much younger men now that I am divorcing. I take care of myself and I don't look or feel my age. I have been shy but not anymore. Life is too short for that but that comes with experience, LOL. I think you should tell your crush how you feel, especially if you know that she is unattached. You will never get what you want if you don't ask for it. Just because you are less experienced doesn't mean you don't have anything to teach/offer an older woman. My son and I are doing well and I really appreciate your comment.
I’m 25 and the guy I’m interested in is 20 but turning 21 this year. I think I’m more afraid and worried how things could go, since I’m turning 26 this year. I don’t want kids any time soon, nor to be married. I just worry that since I’m older I’m just throwing myself into a terrible position. Especially since I’ve always dated men older than me and never younger. Should I still pursue?
Pray about it
I'd go on a date with him and get to know him maybe he doesn't want kids or to rush into anything either. If you don't want kids at all I think that is a deal breaker for most people in general regardless of age.
Any man younger than 25 is simply not developed enough for something real but he might be that old spirit that is ready for what you are ready for. Proceed with caution. Truth is he doesn’t have a fertility window and you do xx
Boldhold London I do indeed ha, you can def reach me from my Instagram. No_body_cares1994
You dont have big age difference go on date get to know each other...and maybe with time u miggt want to settle or just experience something nice i mean u never know with tgese things
am open to dating some one older than me as long as we bond and connect very well. happiness is all i crave for ,so if am happily in love with you then am going no where with out you, at the moment am not seeing anyone but am looing forward to because being single isnt good for my mental health
Thank you for the insight! I think it depends on the ages and each other's situations. I'm 43 and hes 33. He does not want any children So it's not an issue.He's very mature for his age hes a business owner and he likes older women. And I like that lol keep up the good work on the videos thanks
Well I met a really nice man he's 35 and I'm 41.
@Marin Cuculic I never said I was dating him, I said I met a nice man and he is 35.
But to answer your question, no I am not dating him and do not have any plans on dating him. We went to lunch yesterday. He is a man of that would make a good friend and share different business ideas. Being an older woman we'll see what we are looking for in a guy and to be clear, it doesn't matter if he's six years younger or six years older. We are on different wavelengths far as I'm concerned.
@@naturallydope6971
Hi dear,
I’m Alex Johnson
I just need someone I can really love and who’s ready to love me with her whole heart for who I am.
I need a companion to live with and also plan the future together with.
I hate lies and cheats, these are my core dislikes.
I’m from Austin, Texas United States.
I’m about 5.9ft tall.
Are you married now or single?
@@naturallydope6971 How did that go? :)
So this is why all the older ladies give me that look lol about to be 29 soon and I’m very respectful and ambitious … I think they can smell it lol
They're either single or currently divorced. Most of the older women I use to chase were those women but most times they would hit on me because I use to do housework such as building or painting for some of the neighbours. When I worked on the single mums' houses there was always tension and most time I would make a move or she would even though I was young the more I spent with older women the more I got addicted to them.
I picked up a number of this woman at a wedding, so I thought would be older but not by much. I'm 26, she's about 34. I'm a bit of an old soul myself. But she's fixated on our age gap and won't consider it. What a shame.
All the comments are people only dating men 1-10 years younger LOL that’s not a a big age gap at all..same age bracket it’s crazy how society can make a woman dating or married to a man 5 years younger a “cougar” 🧐 it’s sad because men marry and date women 1-10 years younger ALL the time and it’s so accepted..the DOUBLE STANDARD is sickening
Not 100% truth... Some young men are financially well and are not looking for financial support from women. Just fun and good time. Im 53 female and my guy is 36. Perfect 2 years relationship
Good for you 🙏🏾❤️
I attract all ages so it's fun to date. I'm ready to settle down so I want older or only 2 years younger but has to be mature!!!
O really
as a young man interested in older women i would personaly say .......YES u are a liabilitiy but that doesnt mean theres no space for love and from my view older woman basically show more love which makes most of the type of relationships mutual
I am 71 and my younger friend age 39 wants a relationship with me. He lived with my husband and I as my husbands caregiver so we share common memories and mental hardships dealing with his death. We have drawn closer together dealing with his loss but nothing physical by any means. Help
These younger men can also be exceptionally cruel, thiks he’s doing you a favour! Been there hey.
mchlljls true
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Younger men have only a fetish for older women but still see younger women as the prize.
@@aaronoluoch4510 Thats why we women have learnt to maximise all opportunities....lol
Honey I just left my marriage of 24 years from a man that is the same age as me and he and his entire family are exceptionally cruel. Good character has nothing to do with age.
Shoutout all the woman in these comments who date younger men , me myself I love dating older woman always have I like to have a much older woman instead of a girl my age ☺️❤️
I’m damn near 30 but look young af. So guys in their early 20’s hit on me 24/7. I had a 22 year old hit on me recently and I can’t do it lol I feel like I’m rocking the cradle man lol
24 years old single man looking a girlfriend for serious
I’ve been getting to know a man who is 10 years my junior. And I’ve been struggling with the idea that I might end up meeting his mama, and I don’t want to deal with the criticism.
On the other side of this, he “daddies” me more than I “mommy” him. 👀😂
He corrects me when I’m wrong. We are in agreement quite often. But, he takes the wheel and rescues me from time to time. I have decided not to mother him since I realized we wanted to get to know one another.
I am 31 she is 45. She has 3 daughters from a previous marriage. I am 3 years older to her first born. She now wants to end things because she believes her children will never accept me.
I have always been transparent with her regarding my age and what is it that I want from her which is a life with her.
Eish
All the issues you pointed out is spot on. Ill also add many older women who date younger men have child issues. Especially son issues. So it's like opposites attract each other
If you’re both past middle age its a whole different matter.
Marin Cuculić Oh, you charmer you 😉
You’re really beautiful
And I wish to have a word with you
Thanks so much for this video im 41 my boyfriend is 31 and everything you said always stuck in the back of my mind its so much common sense you pointed out on here fhsi is a wake up call for me
Does not mean you cannot have a meaningful and profound relationship with him. It just means there is a price you have to pay to have it like any other relationship. It’s just one women aren’t used to being asked to pay. ❤️
Thanks for responding back... Yes its a serious price to pay and a lot of what ifs. I also feel insecure when i have to meet his friends because all of them are so young and even some are younger then him so i know their friends have girl friends thaf may be 20 years younger then me and he has to be around their young friends. I just keep trying to leave him so i wont get hurt in long run because this relationship is very one sided . im the one with my own place i have a job and a car he has none of these but needs a place to live my car to drive and im footing most the bills cause his only jncome is 700 a month so i always ask myslef would he be with me if i had none of those things.
You are so beautiful!!!
The real wake up call will be when you figure out he has mommy issues and just wants a warm bed and roof over his head.
Good evening to all of you 🧚♀️🔮
I’m 22 and met a 28 yr old recently. Any advice? I really like her and she says I’m mature and that she also likes me. We are both Christians and have similar values. I find most girls my age too immature and wondering if anyone has advice?
I'm a massage therapist & I always have older women try and make moves on me . I've always wanted to get involved with one but don't want to come off as unprofessional. Hopefully some day .
My girl is 27 and I'm 20 what your oppinion on this I was forced to be older mentally at a younger age
@Boldhold London it's not that bad older woman seem to know exactly what they want and as younger Male that been through alot u wanna just settle down and u know exactly what u want its different for all males becuase just because were both 20 are mentality can be completely different but i dont even notice the age difference
I'm scared I'm 53, I don't look it I have a 26 year old guy pursuing me with a vengeance I'm terrified of what people will say if I say yes I will let you in my life.
are you single now
Satin you look very charming :) Are you single?
The oldest woman ive dated that actually wanted kids was 49 (still ovulating). The oldest woman ive actually ever slept with was a 54 year old doctor (thats when I found out a majorit of med professionals are horny as hell). Both times I was in my 20s. Now I'm not. I can safely say it is very hard to make it work on the mans side. That is without totally disregarding many common social norms and personal behaviors that men need. On the older woman's side I think it's way easier, because y'all have already been through a lot and know what works amd what to do. However I can say on a mental and emotional level I was treated WAAAaaaayyyy better by the older women ive beem with. They just talk like a normal human being and just help out with cooking and cleaning without being asked. Totally the opposite of modern day women 20s and 30s that bitch about everything. Its a weird trade off. Either way the man has to give up somethimg. The best way to sum it up is the pursuit of both worlds where both sides are committed bit the woman is still attractive and helps the guy out amd the man treats her same as a younger girl and she is fertile at same time. Thats my 2 cents.
Thank you 🙏🏾
Well said. Thank you.
Right,but what a lot of people will miss in your well written scribe...is that youre saying what Ive always known, if he is a man with things going on, has choices/options (which is often what attracts the older woman to him) he's not going to stay with her for the long haul. Her remaining attractive (not just for her age as in, Oh she looks great for 50) is key and beauty fades.
It does happen but boy is it rare. Thats why I warn women...dont do it.
Cos what they end up doing 95% of the time is wasting valuable years of their life they could have devoted to finding Mr. Forever.
That was stated beautifully, and that is my exact dilemma. Men my own age are wonderful, and have resources, and are absolutely awesome being unselfish and fixing things. But, they either are not able to have sex at all, are they having a reaction for a few seconds. They are wonderful at foreplay, but they can never actually finish to the point of sex, so it’s like a big tease. The younger guys kind of just wanna have sex with any woman of any age, and I can’t picture them being as great as relationships as an older man. One of the reason an older man is more willing to commit to one woman is because his sex drive drops, and he starts to experience problems with impotence and would feel much more comfortable with a woman who loves him , rather than a hot woman expecting great sex. It’s very sad that these days, the hotties that are really great at sex don’t want to commit. And then the ones who are older and less sexually attractive will commit but you’re never satisfied sexually. For a younger man with an older woman, he may love the sex and love the woman, and be totally physically attracted to her. But if he wants children, he alsoHast to commit to a younger girl who will make more demands. That’s the bad thing about today sexually liberated society. When people have multiple opportunities for sex, they usually won’t commit. By the time they do commit these days they are sexually done, especially men
@@dawnallison3070 Here's the greatest yet oldest advice you can receive. Dont. Give up. The. Yumyum.
Be yourself (sorry, I know it sucks hearing that) and dont give it up. One of these idiots like me will come along with all these morals and values (which is what you want) and find great value in that.
Crazy some of these points even apply to dating same age men.
HELLO beautiful Queen How are you .Single man looking for one Seriously. 24 years old but age is not important for a good relationship
Hey im a 26 year old guy and ill date a woman whos 44 years old very soon. Im a bit nervous because shes very beatiful and kind and funny and im just ... well im just me nothing special. I hope it will work out for me
I'm 28 and just started dating a 40 year old. I'm pretty sure I'm just man meat to her, but I really like her!
Perhaps she behaves that way because she is guarded against disappointment. You should communicate how you feel and lead the relationship or she will assume you just want to play
Man Meat! Lol. Maybe you’re juicy and she likes it IDK? Lol
🤣🤣🤣😁
I’m 22 he’s 21, I’m older by 10 months. Is it big of a difference or wouldn’t it be the same if it was the reverse?
As someone who has been in an age gap LTR I can say that younger men are primarily looking for sex (no children involved) and emotional intimacy that women their age cannot provide due to lack of life experience. Also, they are looking for a nurturing person if they lacked a positive mother figure growing up. One who has all the answers and strategy. One who doesn't cause drama ( not possible). The one who doesn't need a man to make her feel worthwhile. She is a woman who is both feminine yet strong willed.
Mature women do not need augmentations of body parts and botox but to stay in shape-- for themselves. The younger man may not stick around too long but he will cherish the love and wisdom of an older woman. Forever.
YEah but the older women do need to go that extra sexual mile to prove they still got it
So it's all about the challenge. Because the pattern typically goes- the older woman finds it flattering but rejects the guy knowing that conversations might be a bit off due to life experiences/age gap, and this for some reason turns him on (Ashton Kutcher+Demi Moore).
I find it fascinating nonetheless. It doesn't seem as though sex is all they want though, especially when they seem to value even the boring daily chores you have to do- they find that even fun and interesting-- I think they love certain things about that woman that reminds them of their moms? It's also more than the physical when they look into your eyes and really listen like what you say matters and they remember the little things.
I agree with (love isn’t enough) my boyfriend is 21 years my junior. Sex is off the hook! I’m his until it no longer works. I’ve only been dating him 7 months I’ve seen the negative side and because I’m older I say let’s talk about what we can work on. I’m enjoying the now. By the way I’ve known him 3 years before dating. I love his work ethics. I thought we would have NOTHING to talk about, I was wrong his intellectual and down to earth.
Great attitude ❤️
Fantastic!! Good for you!
Help me
I admire this relationship and I would say don’t give up just yet. If he treats you well and is intellectual and down to earth and prioritises you then he’s a keeper.
I was in a similar boat with my now ex who was 22 years my senior and we met each other 2 years before becoming a couple and although she talked about a future with me which I was definitely ready for she was very insecure about the age after one person ASSUMED that I was her son even though visibly she looked amazing for her age and, you could almost say she looked at least 10 years older than me rather than 20+. I guess I’m curious if you don’t mind me asking, do you and your current bf ever get weird looks from anyone? Or have you ever had people assume your current bf is your son? If so how do you manage this and do you feel put off as a result?
Nonetheless if he really cares about you and puts you first despite the age difference please don’t leave him heartbroken like mine did me. If he’s not concerned about having children or anything then hang onto him please
Much love and respect for your relationship ❤️
If anyone know any older women interested please tell them holler at me
I'm 30 Male
Love older women a lot ❤
They were Amazing in Every way