Is dating older women just a trend? | Men, Explain
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 30 ก.ค. 2024
- Is it still a stigma to date older women or younger men in today’s day and age? The modern dating scape has changed drastically and people are now more open to meeting people from different backgrounds, cultures, and ages.
In this episode of Men, Explain, Sonia and our guests, Brandon and Kaykay, will share their experiences and views on dating older women/younger men, and how they navigate the stigmas and stereotypes of such relationships.
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0:00 Introduction
01:33 Brandon and Kay Kay love story
07:01 The age gap between Brandon and Kay Kay
09:04 Ghosting Kay Kay for 3 months
13:05 Financial difference in a relationship
17:12 What was the biggest concern regarding the age gap?
20:15 Compatible values
21:10 Are there more people dating older women nowadays?
23:26 Does older women wear the pants in the relationship?
29:00 Is communication more challenging in a large age gap relationship?
30:14 Compromising in a age gap relationship
32:14 Mean comments on age gap relationships
35:01 The biggest lesson Kay Kay and Brandon learnt from each other
36:02 Conclusion
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Its so sweet the way he looks at her. KK is a smart woman who knows how to make a happy home and Bran is lucky n wise enough to realise that at such young age !
She is queen control
She will control him
great nice to hear and see this couple having a happy relationship thx for sharing
My parents have a wide age gap and I personally don't think it's an issue. Feel encouraged by your story
Sweet couple :) And Sonia is so respectful with her questions and at the same time I love how it is so transparent
Glad you enjoyed it 🥹 I really loved recording this ep too!
Great interviewer! I give a sub :) I like how she is very mature, classy, very straight to the point and understandable compare to the other interviewers I seen on sg TH-cam who over laugh, loud and sometime a bit inappropriate.
Thank you so much 🥲🥹
Wow, what an insightful interview. Honest and sincere opinions, love it!
I relate so much to Brandon, literally how i think and act exactly. I've also thought about dating older women a lot but I just don't know still. But I totally get you Brandon. Thank you for making this video clarity!
first time listening and great insights all around. wonder if there are any filtered stuff since it is already pretty raw
This is my first time listening to your postcast and I've enjoyed it. My husband is 13 years older than me. I actually hid my relationship from my family for 6 years and we've been together 24+ years now. I was so young when we met and I wear the pants in our relationship ☺️ Kaykay & Brandon are so cute together!
you wear the pants? thats funny
Ohh, you might want to rethink that wearing the pants thing. I think that causes a lot of issues for men and even affairs, because they more naturally want to be in control..
Men being older is not the same thing as the women being older lol
Inspiring story and Sonia is such a great host as usual!
From the way the guy thinks and talk about the RS, I say Kaykay found a great spouse.
omg always felt that Kaykay had a really soothing voice since her clicknetwork days, she should really do podcasts!
So glad to see this! They seem very happy and very compatible! Healthy relationship❤❤🤗
lol the amount of effort Sonia made to make Brandon feel more comfortable when KK was like… interrupting
As someone in my late 40s and have dated mostly younger guys with age gap between 10 - 15, i've also been at the receiving end of many unsolicited nasty comments from close friends. Been called a paedophile, nanny, sugar mummy, desperate etc. Some even suggested that the younger men were interested only coz they were looking for short term fun, and could get laid without risk of unwanted pregnancy. These comments used to hurt, a lot, esp coming from close friends. I've learned since to keep my private life, absolutely private.
@@leisurecontentviewer age gap..that means 30s onwards.
they are jealous bc you are attactive and attract younger men
Then they are not your friends girl
@@JB-do2ru yup, thats why I'm no longer in contact with them
Why should you care what people say its none of their business and as you grow older the more you won't care cos life is short, you do what you like
“any words of encouragement for ppl who feel concerned about being judged by others?
you have only one life
if you spend your whole life caring what other ppl say, you might lose out on happiness
ppl will always imposs their own fears insecurities on you, so just don’t bother about it” 😊
I loved this
👍👍👍👍Great sharing!
I really love Sonia🥰 Watching Men Explain really helped me a lot especially in weighing different opinions and eventually forming my own💞
Would love to see more of them :) while I would also want Bran to answer more questions/elaborate, my husband is like Bran and this TH-cam interview may be slow and boring if we waited for him to look at partner, think and answer/elaborate… so I can see why Kay Kay interjects a lot. However, my family and friends also like listening to him so I’ve learned to take many steps back, lose the control and be okay with momentary silences while he takes his time to reply. Usually he will reply and not need my help, only occasionally :) it’ll just be slightly slower paced lor, and he won’t elaborate too much unless probed further by host
love your style, where is your black top from?
She always intercepts his speech(dominant)…… Sonia so kind in commenting “you look young”
Thats what i was thinking when i was watching this
My fiancé 18 younger than me at first I don't fell comfortable I try to turn him down in a nice way he don't care
Why does she keep interrupting him and answering his questions?
I used to date younger guys too and people will kept saying us and until one day we really broke off.
Yes why not. Age difference it's not the problem actually
It's about How you felt about him .
I know this Post is from a year ago but if I knew now what I didn't know then, and understood the complications of being younger than my wife. I would have not made the decision to get involved in the long term. I haven't had any intimacy on over 3 years. She asked me the other day if she should be concerned about me being involved with another woman. Repeatedly being shut off and berated by the way I do things and not seeing any interest in intimacy like she used to be, turned me off in so many ways. After many years of therapy, it has been a very mundane relationship. Excitement comes from outside the relationship. Married almost 30 years. I wish you all the best.
i will marry my fiance next feb and shes 5 year older. Im overly excited!
Even if it was movie once a month, I would go for the cheaper one. So i understand him more. 😂 Different standards of living. As a woman, i wouldn't want my man to pay for everything either. To change my lifestyle to fit in your higher bracket is damn scary to know that if I get accustomed to it then that would also mean I may become reliant on your money. That's scary leh. What if one day I can't protect you and you made a foolish decision on money that I can never fanthom even having. 😂😂😂 I don't think its a gender issue... 🙄 How a poorer person uses money goes through more channels of thought. It is damn stressful to see how you casually spend $40 on something I wont care about while I try to save every bit I have to get something useful for myself.
She looks much older than when she was prominent in social media back then. I mean, obviously due to the passage of time. But kinda interesting to see the same person now after so many years
Ive been dating younger guys since my divorce and there are so many men out there that likes older women especially the under 45 guys as times have changed. However, I still find myself having to defend my preference for younger men with all my friends. They always have this incredulous look when I mention I am dating a younger guy.
I have dated older and more successful ladies. but I also understand him, it feels so bad that I can't do all those things,
but is that just social norms on conforms on genderism bias ?
Even then the ladies just picked up the tabs, as the waiter just approached me to again the gender bias.
Clearly, this isn't a rich or poor issue more than a gender issue as to what most podcast over the world are skewing towards.
I prefer the to each their own bank accounts and contribute where they feel like its best to help each other grow ideal.
Its tiring to put social norms to everything,
I`ll be the house husband, and i`ll tell my kids OF paid for your diapers.
So be it.
Or go " This Iphone14 is so expensive, now mom has to sell 200 pictures and videos on OF to get this for your birthday present. "
just to combine the all the recent topics covered so far.
There's one element that was not even brought up which I think is an important matter to consider, if the man is dating a much older woman - childbearing. I know of a person who had reservations about settling down with an older woman bcos she was almost past her childbearing age. When it comes to offspring, it will definitely involve getting opinions/blessings of both parents, whether they are okay without grandchildren. Regardless of how advance technology is, somehow the guy has to be ready and willing to give up the option of having biological children or else this could be a 'thorn' in the relationship
"When it comes to offspring, it will definitely involve getting opinions/blessings of both parents, whether they are okay without grandchildren." Respectfully, I need to disagree with you there. The couple's parents don't get to decide if their children want to have kids. Whatever the situation (grandkids or no grandkids), they're just going to have to make their peace with it. The decision is out of their hands. If they choose to antagonise the relationship for this reason (against the wishes of their adult children), then they're risking their children cutting them out of their lives.
To your other point, I know of plenty of couples who don't want and are choosing to live childfree lives. Gone are the days where kids were a must for a "happy stable family". I also know that "egg freezing" has become more and more popular. A few of my single female friends have done that (once they got close to a certain age). That + surrogacy means you're really not on nature's clock anymore. The obstacle is the high cost, more than anything else.
my husband is 20+ older than me and he is more outgoing than me lol. Whenver we go out I also am the one who wants to go home haha.
If you guys realised the two ladies kept interrupting the guy lol;;;;;;; let the guy speak!!!!!😂
Because he's the bb there
Am I the only one irritated that Kaykay keeps interrupting Brandon repeatedly?? Girl!! Just let him talk!
Yes, it's quite irritating.
Well it is an aunty, when aunties let you talk hahaha😂
@@96Kyubi lol flash back to my auntie!
that's the reason why she had to tag along for this interview?
I feel that deep down she might be very sensitive or insecure about him. Caz now that he is also successful and still very young. And that he cares a lot about her. But men will come to a point and get tired if their partner are so sensitive.
KayKay has a very strong personality. The opposite nature of Brandon suits her hahaha...
What is Brandon and Kaykay's age gap actually?
11 years
Facts you only one life why does it matter what people think! I always say they don’t pay our bills so why do their opinion matters! Keep living your life!
my gf is 9years older , how to tell parents sia, im 26 and she is 35
Get her pregnant first, and then tell your parents. This is a diversion tactic, they'll forget about the age (difference) when they have the expectant grandkid.
@@rogerfaint499that’s seriously a bad advice
Let be honest...they are winning together because she didn't care about his financial situation!!! Unlike American women!! I appreciate this woman👍🏾
she's older, she better not care about his financials or she gonna b single, she has to lower her requirements
@@waterfoker8558 #facts and she did that
I'm 43 he is 29. 14 year age gap
1979/ 1993
Im almost in love even shes 6 years older than me. Too bad im not ready financially
If you show true potential, she'll be willing to go the distance with you.
As a 42 YO woman, all I can say is that, contrary to these people in the video, I'm more of an "equal parternship" and do not expect the man to take care of everything financially (especially if he's younger). If I can see that my -potentially future- partner has drive, is serious about his ambitions and works towards them then I'll feel open to a relationship with him. I wouldn't even be interested in a man my own age if the guy had no ambition at all. It's really a matter of character and if you're putting action into your words.
My bf is 6 years younger than me, my mom is not ok with it but I dont really care
6years is nothing
@@bertbrown1823 To my mom its something
Just ask him to buff up , grow beards and moustache. 7 days without shaving he will look older.
Since women generally live longer than men, it is good for women to marry slightly younger men so both would die at about the same period.
Im so weak lmaooo
For real though
That is so generalised. No one knows when someone will die… you can’t plan these things… or look for someone younger cause he is going to die around your age… he may die much earlier or you much sooner… we can’t predict death.
@@trinityp8575 it's understandable to generalize as in almost all populations around the world, women live 6 to 10 years longer than men
@trinityp8575 It's not letting me post the source, but look up PRB "around the globe women outlive men"
they always say age is just a number , NO its not just a number, as a woman there are a lot more considerations when they get older
I think its just an evolution from focusing on the cougars point of view to focusing on the cubs point of view
What do you mean?
@@SXLEOPARDSKINNED I mean its not really a trend if its been going on for a really long time! The focus used to be on the older women; why is she dating a younger man? Is she bored of men her age? Etc. Just as the focus used to be on Sugardaddies, now its on the sugar baby. Its just a perspective shift, but its still the same story thats been going on for a while!
@@SXLEOPARDSKINNED I mean it in a respectful way, with cub, cougar, sugar daddy and sugar baby used to describe a may-september romance. My observation is mostly on the shift on what society is focusing on now and how they are looking at it; from the lense of the September partner, to the lense of the May partner.
@@GiGiSchnapps Then why is it in older men/younger women romances, the focus is still on the potential predator?
@@Fakeslimshady not in all cases. In recent years theres been a rise in discussion surrounding the sugar baby and why she chooses to be that. Also, if you noticed, the terminology used for older women/younger men relationship (aka calling the women "cougar"), also paints these women as predatory, so I don't really think its excluaive to either gender. In my opinion, the older of the two is usually viewed as predatory due to the percieved imbalance of power dynamics with one being much older and usually seens to be of authority and dominance over the other.
Did they answer why he finally reached out after 3 months?
such a sweet guy KK is lucky
This is exceptional content. I read a book with a similar theme, and it was absolutely mind-blowing. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
What is the age difference between these too
11 years
This girl KK’s face looks very artificial. Like got Botox on forehead, some procedures to make her face very artificially v shape which is trendy now.. a lot of girls do that and they all look similar.
She has the standard bulky upper cheeks of a older lady though
The two women constantly cutting his talk was very irritating. Funny that the show is called “men explain”.
Firsst of all, why the host is looking away from the main camera? Very strange.. I know theres another camera but doesn't look nice. There is no audience connection. jusst my opinion.
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Some successful women love the man whom they could have more control in relationship. The "alpha" type is definitely a no to them. In this interview, it's pretty obvious when he said "YOU ARE!" th-cam.com/video/j8g8khYm39g/w-d-xo.html
im so called dating this guy 3 yrs younger than me he's 19.. i'm 22. i have also been paying all our meals and expenses. im doing a small business and he is still interning, so he has not much money. i feel ok paying for meals cuz i sympathise with him but my problem is that he does not even mention anything about returning the favour or thinking of repaying me back in the future. not sure if we would even have a future tgt but its the lack of thought that threw me off. such as, he rather spend money on his friends and family but not me. when i have alr spent $300+ on him for our 5 dates so far.. its also not easy for me also since my business is not the most stable and doesnt earn as much as he thinks i do.. our lifestyle is also v different. he is born rich and im born poor. he wants all the branded things and i do not care abt any of those expensive brands..
Run, you are young also, you do not need to be paying anything for that boy.
Tell him to pay the next time before date. Ditch your “mother the saviour” attitude.Use your feminine charm to move him to save up for you. Shake him out of “comfortable gigolo mode”. Test him. You’re too easy for your own good - his ATM and cuddle bear!!
My first thought if I saw him siam the other girl would be he’s not into girls, not become interested in him lol….
Sound motherly
Agent, as the way it is, always trying to think of fast shot to more money zzz typical low resilient men …but i believe the woman not stupid to give him money freely…the man is not young also…just got age gap….by the way both of them got plastic surgery just look unnaturally weird
3 months of ghosting?? tbf I would've been really been petty about it lol
before even a commitment?
How old is Brandon?
29, means KK is 40
@@DarkPa1adin OHHH!! Thanks :D but ok la .. they happy can liao haha
@@DarkPa1adin oooh he's my age !! I thought he was younger
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Wow how you know?
OMG. What happened to KK? Face looks so aged and droopy. Body looks so out of shape. 😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱
She literally owes a lot of ppl money by taking friends monies for money game.
Did Kaykay undergo plastic surgery?
Thats what I thought of well looks like fillers and plastic surgery
LOTS of plastic surgery. She looks totally different from last time.
just thick makeup
there is nothing natural about her face
Very sad she used to be so beautiful. Dk why she did her nose
The test of their relationship is when she is 60 and he is only 49!
Then we will see if love will withstand age, look and everything 😂😅
Her interrupting him is more than too much. She's just not letting him speak....
Brendon looks like a kpop or k actor celeb
Totally Dude
I think often older women DONT WANT to date younger guys
For long term, usually not but for short term or for a one night stand, absolutely. Older women may not like the mind of a younger man but they absolutely adore and crave his body.
Are you speaking from personal experience?
I'm not "old" but the guys I date are always younger. I game a lot so the men I'm around or connect with are typically younger. With that being said, We do. It depends on how you act.
I saw him on tiktok before i tot he was gay sia JCIJSID i didnt expect him to be the husband
Regardless of age, singaporean women only loves the most perfect man in the world, no need to be good looking, but must be rich with a respectable career with high monthly salary
all i can really notice is how much bigger KK's face is compared to brandon's and sonia's...not just in the video but in her ig pics....O_O and also her chin and forehead filler which looks v big n swollen
looks like she did her lip filler too
@@girlosophy nose job also...q botched
It’s her nose that bugs me 😭
hes wayyyyy out of her league bruh even if she were 20 idgi,....i mean we all know it was a shotgun marriage but.....tbh i think he closeted gay cause he is very effeminate and shes a coverup
Yup my thoughts exactly
Hurhur some good looking guys like him like to fuck milfs. What do you not get. Milfs are hot.
Or you are dense to conflate gender, gender expression and sexuality. And too comfortable with gender stereotypes.
No wayyyy, Kaykay was really the OG of beauty with brains. Of course age has somewhat caught up with her, as will everybody one day, but she was mad pretty in her 20s. You can see her in "Babe of all trades" and all the other clicknetwork shows. But being pretty is not even the most attractive part about her, it is the fact that she is very intelligent and capable as well, not just academically but also in the way she speaks and carries herself. We will all lose our youth & beauty one day when we grow old but attractiveness that stems from intelligence will be something that will always stick to us for a long long time.
he's not even attempting to hide his gayness from the way he talks lmao
This is not such a big age gap as you are making it to be..