I couldn’t care less on how my ex felt when they realized that they lost me. It doesn’t compare to how I felt when I lost me trying to find them. Never again.
Same her got cheated treated like shit for no reason. Now because the guy who she left me for cheated on her like 3 times already she eants to be back f that. Theres much better people out there guys and girls.
I lost myself trying to get my ex back. I genuinely looked like an idiot now that I look back at it. I promise anyone going through this, when you finally let go and get yourself back, or a new you, it’s the best feeling in the world and you realize you are right where you are supposed to be. I promise it does get better. I am a person who’s not the best at taking advice but I wish I would have earlier on, if I would have just focused on myself I would have realized that wasn’t the right person for me. I would have seen that my self worth isn’t based off another human wanting me. I promise when you get that dignity back the love you thought you had doesn’t seem as intense. You can love someone with all your heart, if it’s not reciprocated it’s not real love. Find that person that will show up on your bad days. I pray for all of you going through this. I promise it gets better.
3rd round of no contact. 3 weeks no contact so far. I think this time it's done for good because I keep learning more things about him that I dislike. I deserve so much better.
@Wildanimal864. the first time he broke NC but i wasnt prepared to handle it so it went downhill after we met. The second time I broke NC because I needed to confront him about something.
4 months after the break up, 1 month no contact and i must say, i enjoy being alone. Hitting the gym, reading, family time. No drama, no pressure. I am slowly enjoying life again and finding myself again after being a shell of myself for years.
2.5 months since third (and final) discard. Just now able to function. Not 100%, but I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. Now, instead of praying him back, I pray he DOESN'T return like he has in the past. Remember how special and unique you are. You DESERVE better. Just hold on.
My ex of over ten years had that same mindset he spoke of. Everything changed for me when I picked up the pieces of my heart and put it back together myself. I moved on for good and learned self love, self awareness, boundaries, and self worth, and my Lord and savior Jesus Christ. My life has been peaceful, filled with joy, and blessings. Never allow anyone to manipulate you, walk away from those that don’t respect you.
I’m over 4 months in to my NC and I can honestly say I’ve never felt better I’m now in a position strong enough to accept that what I had is gone, and will not come back until she shows sufficient effort worth my time.
Nc for 6 months and same. Im willing to accept that she is gone forever. She keeps watching my stories every Single day. Liking my moms post on Facebook.. Hold strong ❤️🙏
You need to love, value, respect yourself first before others can. Imagine seeing someone being treated badly by their boyfriend/girlfriend, you would tell that person not to let them treat her/him like that, same applies to you. You deserve to be loved and treated well.
I screwed up after the break up and broke no contact twice, once 3 weeks in and then a week later. Now a month on, I have heard nothing, but i know i am better off alone and she is worse off alone. I still win.
After almost 3 months of no contact my ex sent an apology text saying he's sorry for the way he treated me. He also said that I am a great woman and I did not deserve that. He asked for my forgiveness.
I’m so sorry about your SUV incident ! I hate it when someone messes with my cars. I usually park a little off from other cars and take the extra walk to my destination. It’s not that I worship material things but I try to take care of and preserve things I paid my hard working money for.
She texted me then deleted it. Called me late and then hung up when I answered. I texted her a few days later and eventually asked to meet up. She said no and I asked her not to do those things if she didn’t want to communicate further. I’m done with these games.
That analogy was spot on!!! .. my mom used to say a wasted soul comes to want...that puts me in the mindset "you don't know what's missing until its gone. I enjoyed this one
When my ex broke up with me on my bday, I told him that I respect his space . Tell me once you don’t want me and the text and calls will stop immediately.
Coach, you are so thoughtful and supportive. You make an extremely difficult time a little less so. It means a lot. So appreciative of your genuine caring. Hugs. 🫂
My 29 year relationship/marriage dissolved 1 1/2 ago after i found out he was living a double life… i asked for the divorce, but he didn’t want to leave. He then filed before i could, and the divorce is in process. I don’t speak to him and I’ve blocked every form of communication , why won’t he leave?? I added that he leave in the divorce decree (we don’t own), and I’m living my best life… i am gladly letting the mistress have him on a dirty platter. What is the thought process of someone like that? I don’t regret my choice !
Thank you so much for the videos. You’ve been carrying me for the past month. I don’t think my ex will come back. I’m not even sure I want him to because of how badly he did me. He moved out and broke up with me when I was out of work. So I have no way to pay bills or anything and he left me in this time. While he was here even though I wasn’t working I still went in on all bills, same portion as when I was working. But he put it in his head he was doing more when in fact I did more. Four of my bills increased right after I lost my job. I handled that. I was the one with the car that he used to go to work. We worked together for four years. So now that I was no longer working there I allowed him to use my car so he could still go to work. None of that mattered. I don’t think my case applies here because of him leaving me to possibly get evicted. He did not care what happened to me. I have to focus on that because emotionally I still long for him, but logically a person who would do me like that does not deserve a place in my life.
I’ve been robbed. I get it. I know what they robbed and through the years more and more things pop in my head here and there of “oh yea they took that too”. Much love to you.
I'm hurting right now my ex was cheating behind my back after convincing me at the beginning that my age doesn't matter now he says I'm too old for him now he used my car to attract younger girls. He broke up with me after confiding in my best friend and I heard about it. I'm feeling so betrayed by him right now because I really loved him
Coach: You are the best relationship coach out there! I've been in actual therapy but it pales in comparison to your life changing, deep and truly incredible coaching online - you have helped me more than all that therapy put together! You are a gift to all people who gave all they had to give: true love, passion, loyalty, commitment, caring but who were abandoned and discarded in the most cruel and ungrateful way! GOD BLESS YOU FOR ALL YOU DO!
Me and my ex went no contact for about a month and then I reached out to him as we said we were gonna try be friends after the break up cause we didn’t want to lose each other. 2 days later after reconnecting, obviously feelings and attraction and love is still there. We only broke up because he said he had past trauma to heal from and he needed to do it alone. I found myself realising on Christmas Day, that I could never just be a friend in his life. And that if he really truly loves me, and wants me in his life forever, then I’ll be worth being in a relationship with. But if not, then he’s lost me forever. So I called him and told him that he’s lost me forever, and that this’ll be the last phone call we have. He was devastated. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But seeing this video, I’m really grateful that I did it.
We have a 2 year old and a 5 year old together we went from being together every single day to it’s been almost 4 months since I’ve seen them it’s hard when there’s kids involved
Yes, they never speak about that situation! When a new partner was the reason for the break and you have to give that person your child it is so painfull but nobody Talks about that.....😢
@@danilaroche1156 so true. Also sometimes easier said then done I will continue to pray on it leave it in Gods hands that’s all I can do atm i have to find myself again that’s situation messed me up mentally not being able to be there with and for my kids the last couple months it weighs heavy.
@@spicydragonroll88-wd2jl we had that last month. We did not really talk. He took care of our daughter and i was looking after the rest of the guests....😮💨 it is like there is a wall between us
@@Ivy89261 I survived it by remaining indifferent 😂 but I walked around with the kids the trampoline park was huge enough I was able to have space 😅 he did try to put his arm around me and ask what's up with me and him but I suppose they will always shoot their shot just to see if you wanna play the game again
I did the no contact and it just pissed my ex off and now he is doing passive aggressive things to me at work and it sucks because we work together. I even try to have a conversation with him about us being able to work in harmony, which he said a lot of mean things and it made it easier for me to walk away. This man pursued me for two years, just to treat me like dog poop under his shoe so I had to walk away. But now he’s angry, it’s so confusing to me.
She reached out via text after 3 months of no contact- called me by the cute pet name she would call me… then proceeds to say she went somewhere and it made her miss me.. and asked how I was doing! Begged for me back 3 months ago, then said it wasn’t gonna work… we go no contact and now she decides to contact me. I don’t know what to do!
Why i watch this for the 3th time. To hear and believe what i hear.. Coach you hit my bottum.. You just hit me with reality of me hurting myself.. Wow !!! I need to handle myself😢❤
Hi Coach! Its 1 am in Indonesia and about to sleep.. thanks for the new video, i wish i could tell you my story and get some great advice to help me get through it 😢
Really enjoyed this video in your pointing out we all have a special Superman - Woman value many of us haven’t discovered or awakened to mixed with your personal experience on a well deserved night out for dinner with an unfortunate ending. I personally resonated with the message. Thank you.
my ex had left me for another woman, basically. But now he's in my emails, asking me to hang out and apologizing to me. He made his choice. Guess now he realized the other woman couldn't compare to me. I'll never be someone's second choice. I love myself too much.
Coach Blac. I’m in a worst situation now. She broke up with me for religious reasons. She says she got a conviction and her pastor confirmed it so she’s made up her mind. It’s a long distance relationship so the only option I had was no contact. Unfortunately I couldn’t endure the no contact. I broke it, she wasn’t rude to me but didn’t give me any assurance for the future. I’m unable to return back to my country to see her, neither am I able to talk to new people here due to language barrier. I wrote her this message last week “I’m leaving your life for good. Time will reveal that I’ve given my all” and I blocked her but I’ve now regretted blocking her because my emotions are traumatizing me. I can’t unblock her at this point. I guess she doesn’t give a damn.
I did everything to get a conversation of what happened but he wouldn't talk. The last conversation got heated and he said he hated me. I was the worse relationship ever but mind you he had just taken me away on vacation. I'm in no contact now but it hurts some days. Especially after seeing him with that woman. I was disgusted.
What a great video! Probably the best one I've seen on this subject, I'll definitely be rewatching it whenever I need the reminder. Although now I'M wondering what they could possibly have taken from your car.
Hold on.... find joy each day that you can grasp that will make you feel better, make new fulfilling memories and moments. You will get through this and become stronger and more fulfilled.💯💯🙌🙌💖💖
My ex and I were together for 10 years and knew each other for 15. She cheated the entire time and I found out about it all at once, 10 years in. Tried to make it work, but told her I needed to break it off. She did terrible things during the breakup. I responded in kind. Told her I never wanted to see her again. No contact for three months. I’m guessing she will never reach back out. I don’t want her back, but I want to exchange forgiveness and move on.
12 years 3 kids and I'm moving out and starting no contact This week I'm terrified because I was the one that messed up but I have to respect her space at this point I just hope the goodtimes we had over the years can't count for something in the end....I know Ill never be in another relationship ever again I have to focus on bettering myself as a man...I miss my family everyday and it hurts me to my core she says she doesn't know what the future holds but i know i just wanna focus on a better me
My niece told me a month ago. Aunt Dedee remember how he made you feel at that time. Whenever you think about that when you think you want to give him another chance.
This is literally what my aunt told me years ago leave and stay gone while everything is fresh (I had a person that wanted to lay hands on me something I vowed never to deal with ) I left after TRYING to give him a second chance . My mom was a domestic violence victim so I wasn't gon be THAT !!
@@toxicty6595 Of course but the most important person is you and it's important to look after yourself in the best way possible. I've chosen the wrong choices before and made the situation ten times worse.
Did they take your garage remote? I heard from an ex lol who had a break in that garage door remotes will work on like 20-25% of standard garage doors so it’s an item of value to burglars. I’m not sure though.
I had such a nice relationship with my boyfriend and something’s started to wrong, I have some fault and he is confused so he wanted some space and just be dating exclusively but I decided to separate and revisit things after we doing better, we love each others and it was a hard decision. It’s been 2 days I hope he does the right thing, and come back. He liked my story today.
Hii Coach ..She broke up with me last year may month..I tried to convince her few months but she didn't respond..I am in No contact since January month..Still not heard from her anything..Is there any chance to get back ?? Our relationship was for 3 years
I made the same mistake as you. I'm now over 2 years into no contact and almost 3 since the break up. I'm going to tell you what I never wanted to accept back then. You must move on. Become a person she could only dream of ever having.
How can this play in when you’ve had a child together and were engaged? Trying to coparent and still stay away for my sanity. Upcoming family trip as well . Smh shits tough
I walked out of a three-year relationship with a woman who I really cared about… July 11, 2024.. I got tired of BS. She pushed me away… I got up grab my things and walked out… I walked out like a man I stand my ground. I have my masculine… 20 minutes later she text me back… I did not reply.. Two days there in a weekend she text me back the only thing I said or was Yep.. about 6:56pm she text me one more I did not apply.. I close my Facebook on my Instagram… not because of her because I wanna go forward.. to be honest yes it hurt very bad because I close both of them… and I know for a fact that she looks at my post.. and I know she plays her little games.. Next is her cell phone…
My ex broke up with me about 4 months ago, after a 4 year relationship. Ultimately the relationship had gotten monotonous and she ended up loosing attraction. We tried to stay "friends" afterwards, as we agreed that we had a really special connection, and i lowkey hoped to build back that attraction. The situation however got too tough for me, as she kept saying she needed space between meetings (and then proceed to text 2 days after). We now had a meeting that ended with us entering the first period of official no contact. It felt very final (she cried and said that she hoped she would find a way back into my life, but couldn't promise anything). Is it too late for NC to work after 4 months of not being in a relationship, but having text contact multiple times a week and seeing eachother 1-2 times a month?
What if he don't care if speak to his 15 year old daughter or not. I was with him a year and in thst year he didn't speak to her and didn't seem to care if if he did. How can he ever realize he miss me if he donr even seem to miss her. He's an avoidant and I mean nothing seems to bother him. I caught him with someone 2 weeks after us now..I'm hearing he's been around town with another person.
@@blacademic Have been in no contact since the day i moved out,i never called or texed,she calls and texts and i respond.The thing she keeps ending up in my bed,so far i been weak in saying no.Thats my next move,to turn her down and say kets focus on the kids till change your behaviir towards me and the relationship.
I had a relationship with someone for 2 months (i know its not a long time to get attached with someone) and we ended up breaking up but i still do love him and i do care. I've noticed that he is following alot of girls on social media but still sees my stories super quick and till now no contact (its been a week). what can i do to make him realise that he did a mistake and for him to come back? :(
I truly don't get it why let them play with you like that. I cuss mine straight out and degraded everything about her so she hate me so that door is slammed shut I don't let them come back or play games. It sounds cruel but you have to protect you and sometimes you as a good man, have to bite back to make sure they don't come back.
Couch I don't have enough money to book a call so hopefully you can answer my question on here still, my ex left me like 2 weeks again, now she's dating a guy that's known for nothing good, only know fir trouble I been reaching out to her trying to get her to stay away from this guy because if he hurts her i probably black out, she's not listing to me, what should I do or should I let God take it into his hands i dont know how she can leave a hard working man like my self for somebody thats know for violence
We was together for 1yr 5 month's well I thought I called him wanted to ask him something because he was acting funny the last couple month's he told me I thought I told u it was over I said no u didn't he said nothing after that I think he was lying I just told him how I felt no begging nothing left him alone
Who is begging?! No one is doing that! NC is not hard at all… imo. He left. Not sure why he’s reaching out but how can anyone forget how you abruptly just left them?! Shouldn’t be a surprise that I dropped off the face of the planet. 👍🏼
What if you accidentally send your ex an Instagram video? The video was just about cutting onions nothing serious but when I clicked to save there was an old collection on instagram for her and I that I had not deleted. I clicked it by accident and it sent the video to her. We are over 2 months no contact I went in and deleted the video and deleted the collection but I’m pretty sure it notified her that I had deleted the collection. Does that mean that I have to start over no contact?
But if its been 5 months no contact on my end and nothing? No effort by him and I am NOT chasing if he certainly can't see my worth or feel the loss of me then I'm happy to be single.
She reached out after 12 weeks in the dms. But I blanked her and didnt read it. After 0 contact on my side. I told her not to contact me after the break up but she did anyway.
I couldn’t care less on how my ex felt when they realized that they lost me. It doesn’t compare to how I felt when I lost me trying to find them. Never again.
Well said
Then get your ass off the video duh
well said
Same her got cheated treated like shit for no reason. Now because the guy who she left me for cheated on her like 3 times already she eants to be back f that. Theres much better people out there guys and girls.
So why ru watching thr video lol 🤡🤡🤡
I’ve been no contact for years and remarried! Y’all move on and be happy! Get you some therapy and live your lives!
Yes! Thanks! 🚶♀️ walking away...
“Walk away forever if they don’t respect you.” Key moment! It’s so difficult but needed. Thanks Coach!
He lost me when he lied, cheated, manipulated and betrayed me.
You're lost because your still hurt
@@itisimSuffering is okay. A normal process. Cry and heal and you will come out of this stronger and wiser.
Same… thought this was my best friend now I don’t even now he… 1 year lost he ghosted me right before Christmas… we can be hurt but what does it help
Over a year of NC & I’m flourishing. Sometimes it’s best to walk away.
I lost myself trying to get my ex back. I genuinely looked like an idiot now that I look back at it. I promise anyone going through this, when you finally let go and get yourself back, or a new you, it’s the best feeling in the world and you realize you are right where you are supposed to be. I promise it does get better. I am a person who’s not the best at taking advice but I wish I would have earlier on, if I would have just focused on myself I would have realized that wasn’t the right person for me. I would have seen that my self worth isn’t based off another human wanting me. I promise when you get that dignity back the love you thought you had doesn’t seem as intense. You can love someone with all your heart, if it’s not reciprocated it’s not real love. Find that person that will show up on your bad days. I pray for all of you going through this. I promise it gets better.
3rd round of no contact. 3 weeks no contact so far. I think this time it's done for good because I keep learning more things about him that I dislike. I deserve so much better.
Nicca yous a victim. Seek help
Thats the good thing about N/C gives you space to see the woods for the tree's!
Have you found out about the cheating yet? That did it for me (finally).
@Wildanimal864. the first time he broke NC but i wasnt prepared to handle it so it went downhill after we met. The second time I broke NC because I needed to confront him about something.
@tredd9019 it was a situationship. we were "casually" dating, never committed.
4 months after the break up, 1 month no contact and i must say, i enjoy being alone. Hitting the gym, reading, family time. No drama, no pressure. I am slowly enjoying life again and finding myself again after being a shell of myself for years.
2.5 months since third (and final) discard. Just now able to function. Not 100%, but I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. Now, instead of praying him back, I pray he DOESN'T return like he has in the past. Remember how special and unique you are. You DESERVE better. Just hold on.
Amen 🙏🏾 I'm here right with you... there is hope, God is a heeler and will continue to see us through ❤
Have your ex ever reach out to you???
@archangelelmo Yes. I let him back and he did it again. They do not change.
My ex of over ten years had that same mindset he spoke of. Everything changed for me when I picked up the pieces of my heart and put it back together myself. I moved on for good and learned self love, self awareness, boundaries, and self worth, and my Lord and savior Jesus Christ. My life has been peaceful, filled with joy, and blessings. Never allow anyone to manipulate you, walk away from those that don’t respect you.
Have your ex ever reach out to you??
...some of us "think" someone may be feeling a certain way when actually...they're not.
I’m over 4 months in to my NC and I can honestly say I’ve never felt better I’m now in a position strong enough to accept that what I had is gone, and will not come back until she shows sufficient effort worth my time.
I'm in NC for 4 months as well. I'm done. I got plenty of other options so I'll be fine whatever come my way
Feels great! Don’t it!
4 months here too! Gettin to the point I’m not screening emails!
Nc for 6 months and same. Im willing to accept that she is gone forever.
She keeps watching my stories every Single day. Liking my moms post on Facebook..
Hold strong ❤️🙏
Bro once a person breaks the relationship they will never respect you and never be worth your time. Saving you from mental health issues 😢
Its amazing how calm and confident you are with your communication.
Thanks for watching!
You need to love, value, respect yourself first before others can. Imagine seeing someone being treated badly by their boyfriend/girlfriend, you would tell that person not to let them treat her/him like that, same applies to you. You deserve to be loved and treated well.
I screwed up after the break up and broke no contact twice, once 3 weeks in and then a week later. Now a month on, I have heard nothing, but i know i am better off alone and she is worse off alone. I still win.
After almost 3 months of no contact my ex sent an apology text saying he's sorry for the way he treated me. He also said that I am a great woman and I did not deserve that. He asked for my forgiveness.
I would love this. I wouldn't take the MF back (after finding out he's cheated almost the entire time we were together) but, wow, the validation!
@@tredd9019 It's coming. They're going to admit how amazing you truly are.
You know you are a great woman. I am glad he apologized. You deserved that. ❤🙏🏽
@@danilaroche1156 definitely
@@Dreamsareareality Thank you ❤
I’m so sorry about your SUV incident ! I hate it when someone messes with my cars. I usually park a little off from other cars and take the extra walk to my destination. It’s not that I worship material things but I try to take care of and preserve things I paid my hard working money for.
She texted me then deleted it. Called me late and then hung up when I answered. I texted her a few days later and eventually asked to meet up. She said no and I asked her not to do those things if she didn’t want to communicate further. I’m done with these games.
As you should leave forever
Let your new girl answer the phone and tell her you’re with a real woman now. That’ll trigger a narcissistic injury and turn them into a maniac 😂😂😂
You shouldn’t of never texted her
Do not respond
That analogy was spot on!!! .. my mom used to say a wasted soul comes to want...that puts me in the mindset "you don't know what's missing until its gone. I enjoyed this one
When my ex broke up with me on my bday, I told him that I respect his space . Tell me once you don’t want me and the text and calls will stop immediately.
That's a very interesting analogy about the stolen items in the glovebox. Makes sense. Great delivery as always coach😊
I appreciate you! Thanks for watching!
Coach, you are so thoughtful and supportive. You make an extremely difficult time a little less so. It means a lot. So appreciative of your genuine caring. Hugs. 🫂
You are very welcome! It’s truly a blessing to do what I do. And I am glad you find the videos helpful
My 29 year relationship/marriage dissolved 1 1/2 ago after i found out he was living a double life… i asked for the divorce, but he didn’t want to leave. He then filed before i could, and the divorce is in process. I don’t speak to him and I’ve blocked every form of communication , why won’t he leave?? I added that he leave in the divorce decree (we don’t own), and I’m living my best life… i am gladly letting the mistress have him on a dirty platter. What is the thought process of someone like that? I don’t regret my choice !
Thank you so much for the videos. You’ve been carrying me for the past month. I don’t think my ex will come back. I’m not even sure I want him to because of how badly he did me. He moved out and broke up with me when I was out of work. So I have no way to pay bills or anything and he left me in this time. While he was here even though I wasn’t working I still went in on all bills, same portion as when I was working. But he put it in his head he was doing more when in fact I did more. Four of my bills increased right after I lost my job. I handled that. I was the one with the car that he used to go to work. We worked together for four years. So now that I was no longer working there I allowed him to use my car so he could still go to work. None of that mattered. I don’t think my case applies here because of him leaving me to possibly get evicted. He did not care what happened to me. I have to focus on that because emotionally I still long for him, but logically a person who would do me like that does not deserve a place in my life.
I was wondering where your story was going but it turned out to be another fantastic metaphor brilliantly told by the sexiest voice on TH-cam :D
You’re too kind, I appreciate it 🙏
I’ve been robbed. I get it. I know what they robbed and through the years more and more things pop in my head here and there of “oh yea they took that too”. Much love to you.
I'm hurting right now my ex was cheating behind my back after convincing me at the beginning that my age doesn't matter now he says I'm too old for him now he used my car to attract younger girls. He broke up with me after confiding in my best friend and I heard about it. I'm feeling so betrayed by him right now because I really loved him
feel sorry to hear that, stay strong babe
Coach: You are the best relationship coach out there! I've been in actual therapy but it pales in comparison to your life changing, deep and truly incredible coaching online - you have helped me more than all that therapy put together! You are a gift to all people who gave all they had to give: true love, passion, loyalty, commitment, caring but who were abandoned and discarded in the most cruel and ungrateful way! GOD BLESS YOU FOR ALL YOU DO!
Me and my ex went no contact for about a month and then I reached out to him as we said we were gonna try be friends after the break up cause we didn’t want to lose each other. 2 days later after reconnecting, obviously feelings and attraction and love is still there. We only broke up because he said he had past trauma to heal from and he needed to do it alone.
I found myself realising on Christmas Day, that I could never just be a friend in his life. And that if he really truly loves me, and wants me in his life forever, then I’ll be worth being in a relationship with. But if not, then he’s lost me forever. So I called him and told him that he’s lost me forever, and that this’ll be the last phone call we have.
He was devastated. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But seeing this video, I’m really grateful that I did it.
He does not miss! Amazing video!
I appreciate it 🤞🏿
Fug dat.. I don't chase em.. I replace em! Never go back!
You sound like a man of God with using words divine and bout us as creation. I like this channel even more 😊
We have a 2 year old and a 5 year old together we went from being together every single day to it’s been almost 4 months since I’ve seen them it’s hard when there’s kids involved
Yes, they never speak about that situation! When a new partner was the reason for the break and you have to give that person your child it is so painfull but nobody Talks about that.....😢
@@danilaroche1156 so true. Also sometimes easier said then done I will continue to pray on it leave it in Gods hands that’s all I can do atm i have to find myself again that’s situation messed me up mentally not being able to be there with and for my kids the last couple months it weighs heavy.
I'm in the same situation. Kids birthday is tomorrow so we are meeting in a public location 😅
@@spicydragonroll88-wd2jl we had that last month. We did not really talk. He took care of our daughter and i was looking after the rest of the guests....😮💨 it is like there is a wall between us
@@Ivy89261 I survived it by remaining indifferent 😂 but I walked around with the kids the trampoline park was huge enough I was able to have space 😅 he did try to put his arm around me and ask what's up with me and him but I suppose they will always shoot their shot just to see if you wanna play the game again
Houston in the house!!! Hello neighbor! And yes - parking in Houston is insane!
I did the no contact and it just pissed my ex off and now he is doing passive aggressive things to me at work and it sucks because we work together. I even try to have a conversation with him about us being able to work in harmony, which he said a lot of mean things and it made it easier for me to walk away. This man pursued me for two years, just to treat me like dog poop under his shoe so I had to walk away. But now he’s angry, it’s so confusing to me.
ANOTHER BEST video using human dynamics with regards relationship break ups! Thank you! “Have the mindset they are out of your life f.o.r.e.v.e.r.” 👏
Thank you for the feedback and support! Glad you enjoyed the video 🙏
@@blacademichi Coach I need your advice..I caught my girlfriend sit into another man car...if this is cheating ...am I a Cuck if I take her back?
It doesn’t matter, Iam in a new freedom, and Iam alright.Time will go on things too, places.And we will bothe be happy!
She reached out via text after 3 months of no contact- called me by the cute pet name she would call me… then proceeds to say she went somewhere and it made her miss me.. and asked how I was doing!
Begged for me back 3 months ago, then said it wasn’t gonna work… we go no contact and now she decides to contact me. I don’t know what to do!
Why i watch this for the 3th time. To hear and believe what i hear..
Coach you hit my bottum..
You just hit me with reality of me hurting myself..
Wow !!! I need to handle myself😢❤
It works. 3 days NC. We might break up again but it's a chance I'm willing to take.
Hi Coach! Its 1 am in Indonesia and about to sleep.. thanks for the new video, i wish i could tell you my story and get some great advice to help me get through it 😢
Really enjoyed this video in your pointing out we all have a special Superman - Woman value many of us haven’t discovered or awakened to mixed with your personal experience on a well deserved night out for dinner with an unfortunate ending. I personally resonated with the message. Thank you.
You give excellent advices that I trust but I have to implement them in my relationship.
PS : Nice low clean cut haircut 👍👍👍
You are AMAZING!!! I need a man like you in my life.
I ❤ all of your stories. Grateful for them and for your help. It’s a big blessing
Thanks for watching! I appreciate it and I wish you well on your journey 🤎
holy hell…you must be the hotter viewer coach blac has…why u here girl?
my ex had left me for another woman, basically. But now he's in my emails, asking me to hang out and apologizing to me. He made his choice. Guess now he realized the other woman couldn't compare to me. I'll never be someone's second choice. I love myself too much.
Coach Blac. I’m in a worst situation now. She broke up with me for religious reasons. She says she got a conviction and her pastor confirmed it so she’s made up her mind. It’s a long distance relationship so the only option I had was no contact. Unfortunately I couldn’t endure the no contact. I broke it, she wasn’t rude to me but didn’t give me any assurance for the future. I’m unable to return back to my country to see her, neither am I able to talk to new people here due to language barrier. I wrote her this message last week “I’m leaving your life for good. Time will reveal that I’ve given my all” and I blocked her but I’ve now regretted blocking her because my emotions are traumatizing me. I can’t unblock her at this point. I guess she doesn’t give a damn.
Thank 😊 you coach Blac for your wisdom and support 🙏 🙌 👏
Wow, how well explained. Everything you said makes so much sense. Thank you, you changed my perspective of looking at things!
I did everything to get a conversation of what happened but he wouldn't talk. The last conversation got heated and he said he hated me. I was the worse relationship ever but mind you he had just taken me away on vacation. I'm in no contact now but it hurts some days. Especially after seeing him with that woman. I was disgusted.
Above all, we have to learn to love, respect treat etc ourselves first and feel complete within. Much love from Greece
Thank you for providing this amazing content. God bless you C.B! from 🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷
I appreciate you! Shout out to Brazil 🇧🇷
good afternoon. thanks. listening may 2024! bless all us here amen.
What a great video! Probably the best one I've seen on this subject, I'll definitely be rewatching it whenever I need the reminder. Although now I'M wondering what they could possibly have taken from your car.
❤Thanks
Coach Black’s analogies are amazing!!!
This is the position I am in right now.. I'm in so much pain😢
We will get through it ❤
Hold on.... find joy each day that you can grasp that will make you feel better, make new fulfilling memories and moments. You will get through this and become stronger and more fulfilled.💯💯🙌🙌💖💖
Brotha comin thru with tha right Emotion @ the right time, May god be always on your side!
Thanks!
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I really like your video this morning. Thank you so much for sharing.
Thanks for watching and thanks for the feedback 🙏
Hey your channel made my baby mama leave me…. Now I’m seeing a nice redbone thanks a lot
My ex and I were together for 10 years and knew each other for 15. She cheated the entire time and I found out about it all at once, 10 years in. Tried to make it work, but told her I needed to break it off. She did terrible things during the breakup. I responded in kind. Told her I never wanted to see her again. No contact for three months. I’m guessing she will never reach back out. I don’t want her back, but I want to exchange forgiveness and move on.
duuude was i the guy who rammed your ex?? jeez sorry bro
Did your ex ever reach out to you???
12 years 3 kids and I'm moving out and starting no contact This week I'm terrified because I was the one that messed up but I have to respect her space at this point I just hope the goodtimes we had over the years can't count for something in the end....I know Ill never be in another relationship ever again I have to focus on bettering myself as a man...I miss my family everyday and it hurts me to my core she says she doesn't know what the future holds but i know i just wanna focus on a better me
You are awesome coach!!! Keep up the great work! It’s inspiring! Thank you for everything
Great, video and excellent analogy. I definitely needed to hear this, much appreciated.
Such a great video Coach!
Thanks for providing 'value' content.
My niece told me a month ago. Aunt Dedee remember how he made you feel at that time. Whenever you think about that when you think you want to give him another chance.
This is literally what my aunt told me years ago leave and stay gone while everything is fresh (I had a person that wanted to lay hands on me something I vowed never to deal with ) I left after TRYING to give him a second chance . My mom was a domestic violence victim so I wasn't gon be THAT !!
Did your ex ever reach out to you???
Outstanding video!
Thanks for watching! I appreciate the feedback
Love it, always such helpful advice. Thank you!!
What if you're blocked on everything. How would they miss you if they were willing to block you out of their life.
Walk away and accept it. Work on yourself and not give a shit about what they are doing. Their story is irrelevant to you now.
@@OfWodensFolk easier said than done. Doesn't make you miss them any less. Only time will do that.
@@toxicty6595 Of course but the most important person is you and it's important to look after yourself in the best way possible. I've chosen the wrong choices before and made the situation ten times worse.
Did they take your garage remote? I heard from an ex lol who had a break in that garage door remotes will work on like 20-25% of standard garage doors so it’s an item of value to burglars. I’m not sure though.
I am sorry for your car, but thank you for your reminder!!
Thank you for these comforting words, God bless you 🙏 ❤
God’s work. Thank you
Thanks for all your advice 🙏
I had such a nice relationship with my boyfriend and something’s started to wrong, I have some fault and he is confused so he wanted some space and just be dating exclusively but I decided to separate and revisit things after we doing better, we love each others and it was a hard decision. It’s been 2 days I hope he does the right thing, and come back. He liked my story today.
Hii Coach ..She broke up with me last year may month..I tried to convince her few months but she didn't respond..I am in No contact since January month..Still not heard from her anything..Is there any chance to get back ?? Our relationship was for 3 years
Forget about it.
You helped her to move on easily for too long.
It is going to take months at best for her to even consider coming back
I made the same mistake as you. I'm now over 2 years into no contact and almost 3 since the break up.
I'm going to tell you what I never wanted to accept back then. You must move on. Become a person she could only dream of ever having.
How can this play in when you’ve had a child together and were engaged? Trying to coparent and still stay away for my sanity. Upcoming family trip as well . Smh shits tough
No text, no nothing, one day she took our twins 9 hrs away to NJ, we were staying in North Carolina, this was August the 4th.
Coach you are the best of the best!
What if we initiated the breakup, because of some disrespect or BS they did?
Video suggestion : Should you block the ex ?
I walked out of a three-year relationship with a woman who I really cared about… July 11, 2024.. I got tired of BS. She pushed me away… I got up grab my things and walked out… I walked out like a man I stand my ground. I have my masculine… 20 minutes later she text me back… I did not reply.. Two days there in a weekend she text me back the only thing I said or was Yep.. about 6:56pm she text me one more I did not apply.. I close my Facebook on my Instagram… not because of her because I wanna go forward.. to be honest yes it hurt very bad because I close both of them… and I know for a fact that she looks at my post.. and I know she plays her little games.. Next is her cell phone…
My ex broke up with me about 4 months ago, after a 4 year relationship. Ultimately the relationship had gotten monotonous and she ended up loosing attraction. We tried to stay "friends" afterwards, as we agreed that we had a really special connection, and i lowkey hoped to build back that attraction. The situation however got too tough for me, as she kept saying she needed space between meetings (and then proceed to text 2 days after). We now had a meeting that ended with us entering the first period of official no contact. It felt very final (she cried and said that she hoped she would find a way back into my life, but couldn't promise anything). Is it too late for NC to work after 4 months of not being in a relationship, but having text contact multiple times a week and seeing eachother 1-2 times a month?
What if he don't care if speak to his 15 year old daughter or not. I was with him a year and in thst year he didn't speak to her and didn't seem to care if if he did. How can he ever realize he miss me if he donr even seem to miss her. He's an avoidant and I mean nothing seems to bother him. I caught him with someone 2 weeks after us now..I'm hearing he's been around town with another person.
Nc is hard when we have 3 kids togather,and we keep being intimate.been crazy 7 months lol
Great video coach blac
The third video ever made on this channel deals with the topic of having kids together and no contact. 🙏
Thanks for watching, stay strong… what kind of boundaries have you set?🤞🏿
@@blacademic
Have been in no contact since the day i moved out,i never called or texed,she calls and texts and i respond.The thing she keeps ending up in my bed,so far i been weak in saying no.Thats my next move,to turn her down and say kets focus on the kids till change your behaviir towards me and the relationship.
I had a relationship with someone for 2 months (i know its not a long time to get attached with someone) and we ended up breaking up but i still do love him and i do care. I've noticed that he is following alot of girls on social media but still sees my stories super quick and till now no contact (its been a week). what can i do to make him realise that he did a mistake and for him to come back? :(
I truly don't get it why let them play with you like that. I cuss mine straight out and degraded everything about her so she hate me so that door is slammed shut I don't let them come back or play games. It sounds cruel but you have to protect you and sometimes you as a good man, have to bite back to make sure they don't come back.
Couch I don't have enough money to book a call so hopefully you can answer my question on here still, my ex left me like 2 weeks again, now she's dating a guy that's known for nothing good, only know fir trouble I been reaching out to her trying to get her to stay away from this guy because if he hurts her i probably black out, she's not listing to me, what should I do or should I let God take it into his hands i dont know how she can leave a hard working man like my self for somebody thats know for violence
@@danilaroche1156 thank you for replaying
Smart man thanks brother
Thank you so much! ❤
Thanks for watching! I hope you are doing well
No contact 18 months he said the only thing can make him happy is a car 🚙 not me me has his car married 22 years 😮!!!!!
An amazing coach u r, bro
We was together for 1yr 5 month's well I thought I called him wanted to ask him something because he was acting funny the last couple month's he told me I thought I told u it was over I said no u didn't he said nothing after that I think he was lying I just told him how I felt no begging nothing left him alone
Great content..enjoyed the video.
Who is begging?! No one is doing that! NC is not hard at all… imo. He left. Not sure why he’s reaching out but how can anyone forget how you abruptly just left them?! Shouldn’t be a surprise that I dropped off the face of the planet. 👍🏼
What if you accidentally send your ex an Instagram video? The video was just about cutting onions nothing serious but when I clicked to save there was an old collection on instagram for her and I that I had not deleted. I clicked it by accident and it sent the video to her. We are over 2 months no contact I went in and deleted the video and deleted the collection but I’m pretty sure it notified her that I had deleted the collection. Does that mean that I have to start over no contact?
But if its been 5 months no contact on my end and nothing? No effort by him and I am NOT chasing if he certainly can't see my worth or feel the loss of me then I'm happy to be single.
She reached out after 12 weeks in the dms. But I blanked her and didnt read it. After 0 contact on my side.
I told her not to contact me after the break up but she did anyway.