EXs Will ONLY Chase and Come Back to YOU IF This Happens FIRST
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- EXs Will ONLY Chase and Come Back to YOU IF This Happens | The Fourth Fundamental Law
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Boys I used to watch these in the desperate hope my girl would come back..... cried daily thought about suicide. 1 year later I don't care.... I worked on myself, Yes I miss her but life is better now. Hold in there lads you will be good stop chasing women who don't want you.
Indeed!
I hope I stop missing him
@@ghoulicbae you will. Trust me i thought it would never stop but it finally let up just took a good while!
@@Tristan-fh5ui thank you so much, I hope it’s over soon because it’s been hell..
@@ghoulicbae the only thing that helpd ALL year
Is when i finally did meet someone else even tho i wasnt rdy. It helped speed it up and take my mind off them because i tried EVERYTHING lol
As the saying goes... "WHY BE WITH ANYONE THAT DOES NOT WANT TO BE WITH YOU??!"
Agree
Im on month 10 with my ex. I blocked her and i totally went NC when she started played a goofy game. Ever though she broke up with me. She's done subtle things to get my attention.... i know she misses me and Everyone knows it. Im super patient, and my life has gotten better for it. At the end of the day, she threw me away and thought she could do better. So I took my dignity, left, gave her the break up and just focused on me. Why should I ever chase or entertain someone who didn't see my value or worth?
Braaa I'm 3months in. After a 11yr split up. It's getting easier, but I'm not gon lie bra..
It's my baby mother and I want to block her ass but my son still have us crossing paths.
Im on month 6. Strict NC by me after she monkeybranched to lesser. Not a peep from her but loads ugly social media stuff. Helps knowing im not only 1. Thanks for share.
lets be real here, the first few days without her are like a horror movie. everything feels like it’s empty and useless, you only think of her, can’t eat or sleep, dream of her in the arms of another guy, ask yourself „is she dating already, did they have sex?“, I swear it’s like a never ending nightmare. find ease in the fact that she feels the same way and that everybody else in this world does! it will go away, just cry it out and speak with your friends, don’t worry. there is no chance that you should never feel good again. this never was the case with ANYONE!
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Yep my ex said idgaf about your feelings & leave him TF ALONE & I did!!! Been just over a month. I mourned the loss of the relationship and have literally moved on.
Wow whoever cares the least wins!!! That’s profound! TY Mr beautiful man!
I don’t want to be in a relationship until he’s changed! Until he chooses me, chases me, pursues me! He has got to win me back! I vow not to initiate contact! Amen! 🙏🏽
Did you tell him not to contact you? I want to do the same to my ex, but have been told to stop contacting them even though they watch my stories.
For me she tries but m not happy but her approach so I keep ignoring her.
@@comparecards5688I don’t think it’s a question of being big headed. It’s knowing your worth. And what you want moving forward.
@@starbery911No I didn’t tell him not to contact me. I would never do that.
It will n3ver be good enough trust all things you don't like will bother you more @@siphumelelezibi4487
I went on a first date with my ex 2 weeks ago (6-7 weeks after our breakup), which I thought went very well (we made out and kissed several times). But then I called 1 week later since she hadn't set up the next date yet, and I noticed I was the one (who was dumped) initiating the texting, rather than her. Even though she'd still reply quickly when I texted.
I realized I had to pull back and I've been no contact again for 1 week. Let's see what happens. SHE needs to chase. SHE needs to realize that I'm an amazing catch. SHE needs to do most of the work in getting me back, if she wants me. No more chasing or calling from my end!!
stick to it! im trying too
Exactly. She broke up with you so she needs to be the one to fix it. Don’t make things easy for her else she’ll take you for granted for the second time.
Same here man! Same situation! Stay strong mate!
Sigh, men are the hunter and women are the hunted. It's ingrained in women to be chased, if you don't go after her someone else will. It's good she's responding back quickly
@@candicewhite4182she did the breaking up… and I’m supposed to chase her?? No. But I agree that in a typical new relationship, the man does she chasing
wished i saw this video first, coach. all the things you mentioned that we SHOULDNT do, was exactly what i DID and he pushed me away.
My anxiety has calm down completely since what this video
I put too much effort in for definitely have her on a pedestal which I need to take her off of and that’s the issue
Even though we split because he wanted my time 24/7 literally. I miss him BUT 9 days no contact and I'm starting to 2nd guess if I really want this relationship! I begged to make him feel good and make him feel more wanted and loved since I KNOW im guilty of not giving him the time he asked for. Now i created a monster. He's NEVER been so arrogant but now i understand. Yes i love him very much ,BUT its Scary how no contact is forcing me to look inward at myself .
Time apart helps to reflect on both sides. No contact is also much easier when youre emotionally detached.
Yes sis!! It’s been 11 days for me since the breakup, and I’ve had my ups and downs of wanting him back especially the first week… but now since I’ve talked to people, I realized why would I ever take him back?! I feel so much better and freer now that I’m single; there’s so many better options out there! Thank god you didn’t waste your best years on him
@@xannecorinnexseems like your hanging in there . Your strength is Fantastic! Keep it going! I'm not going to lie it's hard. This video hit the nail on the head ! Best one yet! Stay strong and kmp on how ur doing. I hope you get the outcome you seek.
Smh
I've been in no contact for the last 2 months and 3days and trust me she still chase me trying to call and texting even after she started a new r-ship I wish her all the best of she can just accept it and move on
Hello Coach. Wow, this is so on point. I think the person that is less invested in the relationship….controls it. Never wear your heart on your sleeve. It’ll bite you in the butt. Thank you.
I’ve been watching your videos for a year and Today is the 1st time I’ve heard you speak on personal experience. I can now really appreciate this..
i miss her so bad man
If they left let them go. If they come back it will be worse the next time..just move on
I definitely want to share my experience with the comment section.
Y'all I'm 3 months in on my 11yr separation. I have so much to say I just don't know where to start
it's incredible. I suffered for 10 months. Thanks to the videos I learned so much and can deal with the situation much better. We have contact through our child, but I'm just friendly like I am with everyone. Now I know that he is miserable. his monkey branch is crumbling. He makes up excuses to see me briefly but constantly says without me saying anything that we can never be together again. I feel like he has to say it to himself like a mantra. I don't care about him now. he hurt me and left me behind. Life is more relaxed without him.
Im in this situation right now..How did you manage to fully move on despite the fact that you still casually see each other and talk to each other because of your child?
@@vEnUs.06 I limit contact to a minimum. I don't talk to him on the phone unless it's very important. He is only allowed to write to me via WhatsApp and I also respond politely and never ask questions about him and when it comes to days when he wants to pick up our child or appointments. I only see him for a moment when he gets the child but he has to wait for the door. I also started not seeing him as the perfect man anymore. After a breakup we often only see the good sides as coach says. He thinks we are worth less and that is a lie. we show and live with the attitude of being better and it will seem smaller and less great. Also when he has the child i have time for myself to do anything i want. I use that to do pillates at home. Nothing better then sport. You look and feel better and that boosts your selfesteam. Hope that helps you a little 🙂
@@vEnUs.06 Smart no-contact (with kids involved) creates emotional distance and with distance you can see things more clearly. An emotional disconnect. How I did it was I focused on the DISCARD, the cold ending instead of all the great moments in our marriage. Who he became in the end is how he will be again, if I took him back.
Hi Coach! Just wanted to say thank you for meeting me yesterday, it was really helpful to get your insight. I was still experiencing a lot of doubt since it’s been less than 2 weeks of no contact. I almost broke when I saw that he’s kept our photos up and still wears our couples’ jewelry. Now, I feel way more confident about staying the course. Thank you so much!
She had plans with someone, and it didn't follow through. So she thought she double back and pick you back up. Good that you were busy. Joke was on her!!
Been in no contact since the day we broke up. Nearly 2 months now and I don’t think she’ll ever come back for some reason. We had that soul mate tie and everything. I’m moving on but having that feeling of potentially saying no to her if she crawls back is something I want more than anything lol
lol I’m going through the exact same thing as you
Don’t do it, boys!!
She is going to reach out for validation, attention, pulling at your heart strings so you tell her you still care, ONLY to make herself feel better.
FOCK their attention. FOCK their validation. Let her get attention from some other chump.
I had my ❤️ beyond broken by a woman who convinced me we were soulmates/gonna marry/have kids etc one year ago.
The 1st few weeks, I reached out, only hurting myself. Chasing her, validating she made the right decision.
Finally did NC, after just a month or two, SHE starts reaching out to ME. And I got angry and asked straight up “why are you calling, to know I still have feeling for you and you feel better?”
We went 7-8mo’s w/o speaking. Once the feelings were gone, I reached out just to say hello. She has been chasing me ever since.
They are NOT worth it, guys. We gave her the world, and it was enough. Why would it be enough now?
2 months is short. I accepted my breakup, thought she’d never reach out. 7 months later, it happened. But she is still in the relationship she got into a month after ours.
I’m 10 months in. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t want anything to do with her. Sometimes it might not work how you want. I still think about reaching out weekly. Hang in there
Just cause it was a soul mate tie doesn't mean you were meant to be together. Apparently, it may have been an unhealthy toxic soul ties!
Such a good video, explaining the frame in calm voice and everything in one take...more of this please
Hey Coach,
Been enjoying your videos. First off my ex is a dismissive avoidant. Im an anxious attachment style, but currently taking steps to heal myself. I made mistakes and reach out a few times. She knows i love her at this point, so i stopped out of self respect for myself. Im also taking steps to level up myself. Healing, going to the gym, working on health, appearance etc. That being said it doesnt make no contact any easier. We were together almost 3 years. I lived with her every other week for a year due to 50/50 custody of my son with his mother who is not my ex. She has a 12yr old daughter who decided she didnt like me. I asked for a house meeting because the daughter and i had issues before, and i didnt want it to escalate to the point it was at previously. I thought the daughter and i were buddies, but apparently not the case. My ex said a house meeting was ok. It ended up neither daughter nor my ex being receptive to my feelings. I was asked to move out, which I did. That snowballed to space. My ex agreed to counciling, but only went to one. Thats the one we learned about our attachment styles. Right after that she broke up. She said the house conversation made her realize issues with me, and that she couldnt see a future for all of us being a happy family.I know im worthy of love, and i know due to her attachment style, she pushes people away if she feels smothered. I feel she used the issue as an excuse to break up. I shared my feelings, and she immediately abandoned me. Despite all this i feel she is my person. I love her and have never been with anyone who has made me feel this way, including my ex wife. I have 2 questions. 1. I know this is immature of me, but i cant bare to think of her having sex with another man. I know if she rebounds this will happen, and itll make sick, and feel like a cuck because i love her so much. Not sure how to look at this to feel differently? 2. Given all this information, if i go no contact completely, what chance do you think she will come back? I believe shes my soulmate. Not sure if thats immature of me also, but that how i feel. Im 46yrs old, and truthfully i dont want anyone else. If she doesnt come back i honestly might not date anymore. Not because i cant find someone, just because id be lying to myself. Any advice is appreciated. Your videos have kept me occupied, and given me some comfort over the past few days. Thank you.
You need to move on and work on yourself. When you have the mindset that you don't need her, they might come back. But you will be in a new place open for new women. Healed and strong.
Hello young man, give it a month or 2 if she doesn't keep doing what you're doing. Life is too short time is going by fast. Pray and ask God and be specific about the kind of woman you would like to have in your life. I'm a female going through what you're going through.
9 months later I finally come to realization I don’t care to have her back and my life . Note to anyone think of them as if they have died she blocked on social media and I’m about to change my number . I start working out eating better and soon to be starting my business and modeling back
My ex recently called me to tell me she misses me and “loves” me. I am not ready to express those feelings because then I will start to develop strong emotions again and I’m not trying to go down that roller coaster. It felt good to set my boundaries and tell her that she cannot be telling me such phrases because then it’s only going to mess with my psyche.
I was in a 21 year relationship with my boyfriend, I left to take care of my dad and sister dad had cancer sister had severe depression, I spoke to him and we spoke and we agreed I can go and take care of them. But he say i have not given him the attention he deserves so he is talking to two other women, and that he and I will take baby steps and see where it goes, but I found out he is going with a group people on vacation and he never told me . I felt he was being cold to me he blames me for the not giving him the attention he needed I led him to date other women. We are both are in great shape we work out 5days a week he is 58 and I just turned 60, we been together;for 21 years together and he blames me for him wanting to date. I told him never to call me again. I don’t think he is ever coming back. And I won’t call or text him ever. I feel lost.
Damn, 21 years is a long time.
Why did you guys not get married? Any guy who is serious about a woman and trusts her, and is of a stable mind would propose this, despite the unfair marriage laws towards men. We can judge that level of character in some years at least.
Something similar happened with me, but my girlfriend was only there for 3 years, when compared to your long 21 year period. And besides, you were simply being responsible, which should turn on a romantic partner, if anything, since it signifies that you would probably do the same for him if he is ever in such a dire situation.
If I am hurting this much, I can not even imagine what losing 21 years must feel like.
Can you make a video about how to deal with a fearful avoidant ex, please? On no contact
Hey Coach. Thank you for sharing your personal experience and your widom 😊
Very good advice! Thank you.
Glad to see another upload. I hope all is well coach.
Thanks Coach the dose I needed to heal. “I am the catch”.
Videos Coach talks about his personal relationship experiences
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I like these video episodes especially for that reason.
27 days no contact. Almost 1 month. We both unblocked each other on social media. He unblocked first on his own without me asking and then i decided to on my own later that week. I want time to reveal if he is bluffing or not...
Any further updates? 🙌
@CatwalkPurz he was bluffing. He messaged me apologizing and asking to see me on day 40. The meeting went amazing but then we both hurt eachothers feelings after, so now im back into no contact day 2 lol. No contact does work. When he blocked me last time, I didn't chase but blocked him back so now he knows blocking me is pointless and backfires for him which is why i think hasn't this time (yet).
Coach, can you please make a video on breaking the no-contact rule after a weak and responding to your ex's messages? Thanks
Question to everyone. What if they reach out after 7 months but still in a relationship they got into a month after ours?
Tell her to take you on a date and that you both are starting at stage zero. If it goes well she may dump the guy, but it has to be her idea apparently
Keep convo simple and don't accept friendship unless you want to miss out on a relationship
My ex left me two times in 7 years one for a year the other time for two years. And then act like nothing happen when he came back. I didn't take him back . It was too painful because he still was messing around with someone else.
Do we ever get to know why he walked out or why she walked out of the relationship.
Thank so much coach for your videos, I was blocked for a year and got unblocked last month, I was so confused and wanted to talk to him but I saw and watched your videos Ana as much as it’s hard I believe if he wants us to get back together he’ll say something otherwise I’m not running after him any more
Oh and we have a child together…
I'm glad I found this video.. I searched ur name today cz I just pushed away my ex for good an hour ago :/ she finally admitted to having lost her love and passion to me, but the last 3 weeks she was the one chasing and asking to see me.. She kept saying she is still in love with me so I thought it wasn't an issue of losing attraction and value difference, since there are other issues as well like financial and sectoral etc..
My relationship is exactly how you described yours, extremely deep connection and she loved me without control I've been with 7 girls before her but she was sooo different.. The last day before the breakup was amazing even and filled with love from her side, so it was very difficult for me to accept it.
I will let her know I accept her friend zone now and I'll start a no contact to see if something changes, hopefully
Coach UR AWESOME!!
Bro , this is exactly what is happening with me now ,, i am dating a fearful avoidant ,,, and we ended up with argument… and she ended up with a angry message blaming me for all the mistakes..😮 i plan to let go …. I had enough …
Thank you for sharing this! It helped so much
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Mine fiance broke up the relationship cause he said all whats he thinks of lately is money i wasnt the problem he said...was praying we get married cause he was very serious witj me and the best ive had...i can't even tell my family..i only wisged the best for him when he said that
I got 3 jobs now, im back on my purpose. Im detached now. Its been 4 days NC. I just want money, CREAM
Thank you. It makes perfect sense.
This is the best. I appreciate this
This is one of the most impactful video
This was very, very helpful thank you!
Thank you @Coach_Blac ! Those videos are great- I watch them for at least for a month now and it really helps to get over my ex after a 20 year relationship.
@victoriaelizabeth3836 I don't think it's reasonable to get together with my ex. It's been 2 years for now. She left for another dude, who dumped her. Yeah she's a little upset, that i have a third rebound relationship already and i guess that she might have some feelings because of acting that way, but i don't feel that I actually want to be with her in the long term again. Even though i still miss her sometimes, and it still hurts a little. I actually think I miss the relationship that we had, but not the last months of it, turning sour. She betrayed me, and if she doesn't come to me herself, then it would lead to the same outcome. I just go on with my life and stay in no contact nevertheless. I guess my feelings might change, but today, i almost like the things the way they are, and those videos help a lot.
What if they are grown arse man of 55 ? And has done this before for three months 😮 he’s definitely an avoidant ! He was my first love and we met up again after 37!years 😊 we’ve been seeing each other for 18 months on and off ! I’ve reached out but learning a lot so thank you ❤ I’m focusing on myself now ! I’m to old for all this 😅
I wish my ex never cheated, we would get back but she cheated on me with her bestie which I know so. I deleted her friend request, ignore her chats, she opened new account to message me but I always delete her friend request. I don't want to have anything to do or share with her cause she deserves total silence. I never even imagine talking or seeing her ever again. Though I found it easy cause what she did is beyond my power to forgive or forget. Although I learnt my lessons but there's nothing to chat for, call for or have to be in contact for cause she screwed everything up beyond repair or amendment
this just makes me feel your pain.. I don’t know what happened between the two of you other than her cheating and you perhaps breaking up, and if that’s the case just believe me that time will be by your side and you will feel good again one day. Trust that your conscience is clean. Trust your heart.
@@noarainc5344 yeah have gotten over it but not fully. Thanks for your concern 🫂😊❣️
What do you mean by "her bestie"? Don't even think or write about her, start dating someone else, and eventually, you'll enjoy that other girl as well.
@@roguemaximmus3419 Thanks 😊
@@noarainc5344 I'm getting over it, I'm engaging in activities that'll add more value to my life. Thanks alot 🤗
Coach u r a beast homie! Great advice
Thanks for watching 🤞🏿
This is factz. Well explained. On time message
This is good. Thank you
I can relate to you as I have experienced the same thing.
My ex and I were together for twenty three years with two grown kids we bought a house so I moved out of the room no contact he came on to me today I gave in so now he's rite back at it what do I do.
I finally texted her goodbye forever today and it felt great letting that pressure to fix things go and I truly believe she will come around if she knows what’s best for her and don’t judge me but I’m a man of my word so I got her valentines day gift as a goodbye present I will always love her and I will always feel as if she’s my soulmate at this point I do not want any more relationships they are pointless to me now I wish her the best and I wish us as a couple the best my life will be decent but not great she’s my everything
You already f*clef up by gifting her before doing no contact. She knows she has you wrapped around her finger..she can simply snap them and you would come back at anytime without any questions. That’s why she won’t come back. There’s no sense of loss, cuz you’re still there🤷🏾♀️
I gotta agree u messed up but keep the no contact and don't do anything else going forward bro
Thank you sooo much again 🙂 🙂 🙂
Hi coach! I’ve found your videos and need some help. My ex broke up with my just 2 days after their beloved grandma died. I’m going to try no contact starting right now. I don’t want to be with anyone else but I now I wasn’t the best person in the relationship. Now I can’t say they were but I think they had a tough time accepting their faults and also had a tough time changing for themselves. I constantly did accept my faults and worked on changing because I knew I was pretty much reenacting my parents type of relationship! When I found out that I was pretty acting just how my parents act I started working on myself. And although my boyfriend would acknowledge that with me, after their grandma passed they told me they wanted peace that they never felt with me. I asked them if they could just be a bit more patient that it’s hard to change but I’m working on it and they said they were patient with me enough. Now I have a bit different of a mentality. In my eyes their struggles I embraced and was patient. I knew they were trying but they were also struggling and I said I wouldn’t leave because I truly did love them. I couldn’t just abandon them like other people in their life did or how they did me. I’ll try no contact, but I’m so lost. I want them to know that they breakup has even helped me to realize that damn, if we get back together I’m not going to act the way I did and I am continuing to work on myself for my best interest and all of my relationships as well. I want to be there since their grandma passed as well, I know it was very very hard for them. After no contact, should I expect? What if they never reach back out (they are a bit hard headed and proud, thinking they are always right)? Eventually can one reach out to check in?
They tell me to move on and meet new people, I told them I found the person I want to be with and if I’m not with them I’ll work on me but I don’t want to be with anyone else! I’m choosing our love, and want to continue to choose them over and over again
I don’t expect them to be “perfect” and have no issues. I just want them to confide in me. I won’t give up or leave you, even when you’ve showed me your worse, it was tiring but I kept choosing them and will continue to do it! I want them to know this, but I’ll try the no contact. Can I ever reach out? Even if it’s been months or 1+ years? Hopefully they reach out though
@@analauramongefonseca2135have u committed to no contact since commenting this? Hows it going? Is ur head in a better place?
@@chrisdunbar2121 I think my heads in a better place. I committed to no contact early that day and I kinda feel guilty because…. My ex has messaged me that night! They were apologizing and have hinted at wanting me to move back in. I told them we’d have to talk in person about that but I don’t think I’ll be moving back in. I’d like for us to take things slowly, at least a year. I told them that we don’t need to get back together yet but we can start talking and seeing each other every once in a while (we live about 3 hours from each other). Just really take things slowly, not rush into anything.
❤Awesome advice ❤
She tell me to move on with my life she block me so i block her and i dont contacted her and this is about 2 weeks now coach
Don’t block her unblock her because she will think you are petty. She thinks she happy but she not
Do we think that it could ever work again?! If both people truly work on each other?
Hi, I have been watching your videos for quite some time now and it has always helped me calm down and be on my path. My ex dumped me after cheating on me last year. I was in love and asked her to stay. But when I saw my efforts weren't appreciated I left. It's been 8 months being in no contact and coincidently we saw each other in a pub. Her friend approached me to talk, but I just said hi and went back on enjoying myself. But she soon blocked me on WhatsApp. Not sure why this reaction ?
I noticed she was noticing me this time as I worked on myself all this while. But I'm just confused.
All very well said.
Why are all these the videos the same just slightly different?
I was in a ldr (before it was 5years normal relationship and 1yr ldr) I did no contact for 9 months my ex came back and contacted me , texted me, called me, we met 3 times , we had sex , we had a talk we still love each other , but the main problem is she doesn’t want to do ldr and is returning usa after 3 days and I want a commitment , she says she wants to marry me but asks me to come to usa and It’ll take more than 2 years so she says that if I’ll come she’ll marry me but rn she doesn’t want ldr, what should I do ?
This dude has carved out a nice little niche for himself, reiterating the same small handful of actual points to hurting people while chilling stoney in his house
dont h8
Off the topic, which Ai did you use for the pic on youtube its very realistic. Mind telling me the prompt used? Thanks.
I fucking hate these stupid games.
My ex and I met up and had a good conversation about our son for the first time in a while. She just had her boyfriend cheating on her and she was drawn towards me and she ended up kissing me. I never thought that would happen again and I still love her but I don’t know if I should not read into that
I text my ex on occasions and he does respond but 100 percent of the time he doesn't so it makes me think that he doesn't want to talk we used to talk all the time and I miss it a lot and a lot has changed for about three years but I have been fighting for our relationship ever sense our breakup in 2021 in January 17th it was sad over a silly argument I can laugh about it now but then it wasn't so funny I just want to make him chase me and fight for me as much as I have for him I believe it's his turn now if he wants to make that commitment to me I just try to give things time and maybe he would reach out to me one day but so much has passed like three years are already gone and it's makes me feel like he has moved on and forgotten bout me it's sad I cry sometimes I go back.and shuffle through the memories and I get all in my feelings it's dreadful and stressing and it builds anxiety and emotional states I just want to get out of all that I'm tired of suffering the burdens of the pain that I went through that I didn't deserve and I just want things to be right again
When you hit the lottery............Sorry Coach!
How to do not contact when kids are involved.
A human being like you made you not to eat and sleep for days? Wow 😅
@Coach Blac Which video are you referencing when you start this video, where you talked about a previous personal relationship - I looked for the link you mentioned you posted but couldn’t find it.
Thoughts ? My ex tells me she loves me keeps tabs on me blocked me on one social media platform but not others . Something happened to her daughter she says she doesn’t wana be with anyone she hooked up with me during the breakup I feel she will end up back with her husband she separated for idk what do ya think
How long should I stay in no contact? We broke up two weeks ago after the healthiest year of both of our lives. She left a letter in my stuff when I picked it up. I haven’t responded to it. Wondering if I even should….
Hello coach I want to book a 1 on one coaching session but the issue is that only the e-mail schedule fits to me for the 1on one it is limited at the level of the schedule
We had a long distance relationship almost 5 years.. he said he needed to find himself.. should I mail back his things?
How to respond if she comes back after no contact. She seems to blame me now coz I'm ignoring her. I don't respond to what she sent me.
Do you want her to come back?
When is the next live coach
She reached out after 6 weeks asking if I wanted to play Fortnite with her. I asked if that’s all she wanted. She said yes. I wished her well and blocked her
bro u did mistake
So today my ex reached out after almost 3 weeks in nc just saing “hi how are you” and after “im doing so good, juster wanted to ask you nothing more” im just currius is this a good sign or?
Make a video if you f up than how to get back
Hi, I didn’t accept. I chased. We got back
Together. Then she went cold again. And dropped me. So now I’m
Forced to except. I’ve told her I’ve moved on. (Have I really) I don’t know. And we have kids together. We are having occasional sex. Do you think this is healthy
No bruh!! U live once she can't take away ur happiness!! Find better person for u!! Honestly u deserve the world
@@user-tu9cw9ge9v thank you very much for the comment! It is so tough
No not heathy. You’re attached and it will keep eating at you because you’ll still be physically and emotionally connected. I’d find someone else you can have all of it with 🤍
Coach I was the one who broke up with my ex , I didn’t wanted to but he wasn’t putting a effort, he got back together and I broke up again because he doesn’t want to compromise and meet my needs, he’s a dismissive avoidant he didn’t want to brake up neither he said he loves me, would he come back and try to work on the relationship?
Why can't you just call him
@@danielmacharia466 I'm in a similar situation and if I text or call he won't respond. She's actually doing better than I am 😂
@@comparecards5688 Why? ...are women not allowed to have needs? Dismissive avoidants are very difficult to be with and often don't meet their partner's emotional and/or physical needs. It's a common problem. It has nothing to do with being selfish, it has to do with mutual happiness and contentment in the relationship
So my ex contacted me yesterday for my birthday after 5 days of no contact - he asked me what I was doing for my bday and I told him. He said okay don't do anything stupid. I said since when I have done anything "stupid"? He couldn't say anything. He also didn't elaborate on what he meant by stupid but I didn't ask either. I felt like he was saying don't mess around or be with someone else but I'm like dude we aren't together. I didn't say that but I'm thinking it.
@@comparecards5688 Makes sense to me but he just a week ago mentioned he didn't want to be in a relationship right now. Relationships are stressful, etc etc. I feel like his ego is telling me to not do anything stupid because for some reason he still feels this possession over me. There's more to this than what I'm saying but long story short before last week we've been already 6 months post break up but we were in contact. I've finally implemented no contact and that's what he says.
With only 5 days of no contact, you are still together morally. If you were my ex and dating someone shortly after the breakup, I would not get together ever again.
@@roguemaximmus3419 my ex and I were already 6 months post breakup but we were in contact. I finally decided to go no contact because there was a lot that happened in between all of that. When we broke up at first - a month after - he mentioned how there was a possibility of us getting back together. After 6 months, I asked him how does he feel. He still felt the same. I don't think he processed the loss considering we were in contact. I am 2 weeks no contact, and he's hit me up 3 times since. He asked me a few days ago if I was talking to anyone. I said no. I'm not ready for that. We were together for 5 years. He said because if you were it would hurt our chances. I feel like he's breadcrumbing me and I don't like that. When you let someone go, you really don't have a right to say what I should do.
I needed to hear this one bro appreciate you
hi Coach, my gf broke upa with me but after 2 weeks of no contact she reached out and apologize. Then 2 weeks after again, she texted me and said she was thinjing about me and made her cry. Not mentioning of getting us back and not asking for meet up. I initiated at one time for meet up but it bever happen as she had no time. Again, she kept texting me and asked for financial help for her cousin and that was our topic everytime she reach out. What does this mean. Im confused by her action but never ask me to see each other.Thank you
Bruuh! She can’t get the benefits of a relationship. She broke things up. You can’t be supporting her. Go no contact she’ll miss you and reach out especially if you were good to her.
Lads need some quick advice, went no contact and today is day 25. She just messaged asking to arrange to collect her stuff, do I view this as a reach out and she wants to chat etc or shall I just politely oblige and send/drop her stuff back? I’m pretty certain I don’t want to be with this girl but hoping we can at least be amacable
Omggg thanks
Does no contact apply when I'm the one in the wrong?
Ok I broke up w him. No contact 6months. But he talks to me thru fake accounts and tbh that insults my intelligence. I still think of him all the time. What do you think about making fake accounts to talk to me ?
So u r the “ex” in all these videos?
After 5 months of no contact we met at work (happened to be same day) and she asked me to grab a coffee after and we did, I did the 3B's you teach, but now what ..
It's likely that she is afraid of making a step, and seeing me in person enjoying myself did encourage her to act. I have noticed that laying low makes her miss me (seeing her sad and almost tearing up after looking at me texting someone and smiling) but won't push her to do the reaching (avoiding thoughts on purpose and keeping busy).
What to do coach?
Coach always says let them be the ones to reach out. You shouldn’t be one to. If she misses you enough, she’ll definitely reach out to make things up.
Im in no contact aince 2 weeks and it is getting harder , she is my fiancée and we has fight and blocked me everywhere 😢 , i dont know if this works with her , she is stubern thought
2 months into no contact and out of nowhere she reached out "Hey its been a while wanted to check up on you" and I'm like I'm good,asked how she's doing and i ended the convo.Back into no contact. A lady friend of mine says I should have engage the convo for long but I don't think it's the right step. What could her just checking up be?
When you say you ended the convo, does that mean you ghosted her follow up answer? Because that's what the guy I broke up with did a couple of times and I finally gave up trying. To me that's a clear message that you don't want to hear from me if you stop responding after 1 text... and I'm not gonna keep chasing at that point because I'm not a stalker
No I mean I didn't engage the convo further. Just yesterday she reached out again via text. I'm.just not too available for her as I did before when I was hurting but now I've gain back my power and she can't just think I'll be available to her anytime she wants
Power? That's not relationship talk. That sounds like games. Do you want her back? If not then ya, keep doing what you're doing
I agree that you don't have to be as available as you were before, that's understandable, but if you want her back and you're giving her nothing to work with she may lose hope and move on like I did with my guy. I love him and my heart hurts every day but he didn't give me the opportunity to talk about my feelings, and I couldn't keep going through that pain every time I reached out. I feel like he doesn't care about me at all, so if I keep trying it's just selfish on my part
Having a more in depth conversation with her doesn't mean you're chasing her or giving her power. You can talk but still remain cool and reserved. You won't know what she has to say if you don't allow the conversation to flow
Okay, I get your point.
I did nothing to her, she sort validation and attention from a different guy and was influenced to break up with me without any closure
I cried, begged and asked for closure at least. She came,insulted and disrespected me and said she didn't want to do anything with me adding that she only picking up my calls because she wants to be nice else she wouldnt, so I decided to focus on myself and heal 😌
And now she's calling and texting, for what actually 🙄
I understand your point very well
I do love her but I don't think I would want to be back into a relationship with her. I wish her well
Don't know why she's texting and calling while telling other people we are no more.
I won't allow that disrespect anymore.
I’m seriously debating texting her back. I made her make the ultimatum that ended our relationship. I made the mistake of making her choose between me or her second job. I’ve learned a lot about what I want since then, 10 months ago. What should I do?
What is her second job you did not accept?
Contact her 1 or 2 more times, if it doesn't work you have to move on.
@@roguemaximmus3419 it wasn’t that I didn’t approve of her second job, just that it took more time away from the relationship. It was a second waitress job. I was very supportive of it but until I realized how much it took away from the relationship
I do need help
What do you do when you went non contact and your ex still texts and calls, so you made the decision to answer, you talk things over, even meet up in person, then give the opportunity to try the relationship again, but then they say they don't know? 😅
Tell them to f-off... no seriously. It worked for 2 of my friends. They both told the guys to f-off and they guys suddenly became very sure about them 😂 Both of them ended up marrying the guys they told to f-off. Hilarious!
@creatureofstyle omg lol, are u serious 😂
@@dlgacct Yep, lol. It seems counter intuitive but I can see why it works 😂 Guys think they have you, and when it becomes clear that they don't then they are forced to make a decision and if you're telling them off it puts you in a higher position than them and suddenly you're a queen 😉
@@creatureofstyleI was recently broken up with my girlfriend of 10 months everything was going well up til July 5th. She would reach out via text always saying she misses me when we didn’t speak to each other after she said she didn’t want a relationship. I recently gotten tired of us not being able to get back together so I just decided to go no contact it’s been 1 week so far. I want her back but I want her to want us just as much.
@@breezedale3863 Yes, I can relate. I had someone that I tried to get back together with to no avail too. In that situation I think the only option is no contact. It really isn't even a choice anymore, it has to be done
She may come around after she's had some time to reflect. I had a boyfriend do the same thing to my when I was 20 and 6 months later (no contact that whole time) we got back together and eventually got married so you just never know
He messaged me and I don't even want it no more