@Dan Lons my first comment was deleted. Here we go: 6 months head in HTML/CSS and Javascript to understand how web development work. Then turned focus into Python and stuck with it. I'd do 3 Python problems daily over and over again until every single concept stuck. After I was comfortable enough with it, started doing every single youtube Python project follow along video I could find. Then I'd do them on my own over and over. Applied for at least 20 entry level jobs until one landed. (I'd send my very modest portfolio even if I wasn't the fit they were looking for.)
@Dan Lons I find that focusing on the process and not the goal was key for me. Doing 2 to 3 Python exercises a day became automatic, like brushing teeth. It stuck.
@@tonybp Not that I am aware of. Then again, it's remote working. But I only care for the employer's opinion on me being 40. They only cared about my skills.
Thank you for sharing. I feel sometimes it’s too late but reading this comment section I realized many others are in similar situations. We’re not alone, and I hope you continue to be happy.
:D its good things got better for you, keep growing and God bless, turn to Christ believe and repent if you haven't already we've all sinned and are in need of a Savior, heading to hell, but God sent His Son to die for us, have a nice day:D
I got my life together in my 40's. Teenage years lost to war and immigration, twenties lost to a debilitating illness and recovery from it, 30's lost to having had to catch up on education and making money that I could not do in my twenties due to the illness...Got finally everything together in my 40's, living my best life. It's possible. And sometimes you just don't have a choice, life does not run in a straight line for everyone, so you have to make it WHEN you can, whatever that age is for you.
Inspiring story. I began to sort my life recently, and i am almost 40. I have not been through war or serious ilness, but i had emotional problems in my 20,s, which i could not solve, so i escaped from them. fortunately, i did not become a drunk, addict or anything, just felt stuck in a loop. Life is a not a game when you have to check the boxes, make the quest before anyone else etc. I am still singel, but well,n ot everyone is meant to have a family and kids, does not mean your life does not hold value. You gotta seek your own path, not emulate what people around you do. Some of them are clueless just you were , but just try to hide it.
I'm 23 and I needed this. Thank you so much! I just started studying in a foreign country, alone and away from my home. I feel like I'm loosing my youth sometimes.
@@kentajin7860 spent one year in northern Michigan. 15$ an hour makes you a good living there. Much better than the above minimal salary in the UK. You guys from the US live the best lives, stop talking tankie shit
You're not alone. I've had negative balances in my bank account more than I have fingers and toes. The worst was when someone nearly half my age had to pay for a dinner we went to. Can't tell you how embarrassing that was. It's rough to see the light when you are so swamped with hopelessness. There is light at the end of the tunnel, brother. Give yourself a break, get back on your feet, persist. It will get better, I promise you.
Me too bro. I’m 31 and I’m currently living at my dads and looking for work. I have developed alcohol use disorder and I just feel bleh. I had a job from 16-26. But since then I’ve gone downhill in ways. Feel lonely too
A lot of comments say “I wasted my 20s”. Nah man, if you’re still here, you survived them, you’re on your path and all those years were valuable in shaping who you are today. Forgive yourself for not living up to some imaginary ideal and just focus on today and tomorrow. You got this ❤
Thanks man, I actually started thinking like that as well, like look at the world today, I dont feel bad for getting older and reaching 30, hell we earned this, we survived all the crazy shit and it seems that more is coming :D
Exactly. There is a video with Steve Harvey and he says 99 percent of people "waste" their lives in their 20s. It's just the way things go. You're not alone and trust me, being in your 20s when the 2008 bubble hit, yeah that has long lasting effects. If you are 30 now, I'm 31, you have MADE it this far. It's not all on you. Now the future and your next Decisions is all on you. Only you can change it. Don't worry about the past. It's done. Make the memories and experiences work for you. Godspeed everybody. We all have a purpose here.
I'm the ultimate late bloomer. I wasted my 20s and most of my 30s. It wasn't until my early 40s that I decided to go back to school. It's true, it's never too late.
I’m a recovering addict who is in the process of rebuilding my life at age forty. Depressed, anxiety ridden, epileptic and with brain injuries…it’s hard. Everyone looks at you as a failure and it SUCKS. I’m trying different things to try to bring my spirit up
I wasted my 20s mostly on a career that wasn't for me. Last year (when I was 32), started an online fitness coaching buisness and started to grow, enough to quit my 9-5 job. Currently I'm 33 and still working on it, still growing. It is never too late to turn your life around. I'm 33 and literally starting a new career.
I’m the same age as you. I currently work in healthcare but I am just burnt out. I make a decent living but I just want to do something else with my life. I feel like there’s more to life than throwing scrubs on at 7am and working 12 hour shifts in a hospital. Everybody thinks it’s an awesome field, but it’s honestly overrated and exhausting.
Thank you yes that's what I want to believe it's never too late I'm 29 and things seem bleak and I feel dragged down by a lot of things but I'm still trying
@@jtc9098 are you a nurse that's my dream job I want to work in a nursing home tho I use to as a psw and miss it but I totally understand take some time for yourself do little things you enjoy here and there xx you can even try to do a second career or hobby you love wish you the best
I'm almost 33 and unemployed, living with a family member. I feel like a failure. In my mid 20s I was married, had a child, and a house. We got divorced a few years ago and my life fell apart. I'm hoping I can get it back together.
Life happening to you, does not make you a failure. Keep watching videos like this one and reading the comments to remind yourself that you are not alone.
Just wanted to echo the sentiments in this video. When I was 29 I was unemployed, living at home with my parents, and just played video games all day. I went back to school (community college) and got my RN license at 32. Made 100k my first year. I'm 36 now. I'm single, own my home, car, making 110k a year with no debt other than my mortgage. Life is good. It can be done.
I got out of prison at 31, started a wonderful career at 33 (hired in at $14/hr, now salaried with full benefits), got married at 36, and had 2 kids at 40 and 42. Life seems pretty good to me and I was in prison a little over a decade ago.
You don't know how much of an inspiration your story is to me. I felt like my life collapsed over the past 6 months. I have been battling my own demons and issues and constantly in doubt about trying to break free from my past. If you can make a success and find happiness then why not.
I’m a late bloomer. I didn’t treat my 20s right. Now I’m in my 30s doing way more that I would’ve screwed up in my 20s. A great childhood is so important because I believe a large part of us didn’t use our 20s wisely due to what we endured as children, and unresolved, it carried over into adulthood. We gotta get to the root of things, heal, and keep moving forward.
Yea, in my teenage years couldn't have fun, because my parents were overly protective. I had to be home before 10 PM every night, even when I was 17 years old. When I got 18 and escaped that "prison", went all in and fucked up 5 years of my life without doing anything productive, only living pay check to pay check and partying. Some things have to be done, at the right time. My parents are great and they only wanted what was best for me, but they failed to give me freedom. They saw that when it was too late, and gave my brother the freedom I never had. 😁
So true. Science is finally validating our experience. We can get to the root through therapy and intentionality. And then we can heal with time and patience.
I'm now in my early 40. Every decade has gotten better. Now in my 40's I have a great job and life is good. Don't listen to people that say you can't improve your life.
Exactly. All I ever hear is tons of defeatist talk. Anyone who says there's ever a point in life where it's too late to improve has zero idea what they're talking about and needs to grow up.
I turn 35 this month and am not happy with where I am in life. Though this video is 2 years old, it couldn’t have popped up at a better time! I was feeling defeated like it too late to pivot and start anew. But this gives me hope. It’s never too late to change the trajectory of one’s life. ❤
You're not alone at all, I'm 35 in March and wow do I feel so lost and defeted. But you're right this video has helped and given a lot of hope. You've got this! I hope you have a great birthday too 💚✨️
@@Thewrongshoes2 as long as we’re alive, we’ve got options, and we can change our trajectory. We just have to made the decision, and strive for the life we want. We’ve got 5 more years until we’re 40… let’s grind these next 5 years out so we can coast when we are older. ✨ My daughter’s bday is in March 🥰. I hope you have a great bday as well! 💙
@@nell_uhh Thank you! Wishing ypur daughter a fabulous birthday as well! And very very wise words! Thankyou for that as well. The time is now, let's GO! 💚✨️
@@mkbriljante sure! Started doing drugs and drinking at about 12 years old. Long story short lived a crazy life for over 20 years. Finally, i got sick and tired of being sick and tired. So on October 11th, 2015...I hit my knees and cried out to God. He heard my cry. A literal weight was lifted off of me that night. Been sober and the start of a different journey since I got off the floor. Not just sober...but a different person altogether. I'm not angry anymore. I'm not jealous. I love life. I went to college and got a degree in substance abuse counseling. It took God to straighten me out. I was a mess.
@@TheSlickmicks How many authors out of millions make it? Let's be real, the numbers don't add up. You're more than likely to fail the later you change than you are to succeed and that's just a fact. Could it happen, sure. Is it likely, no, statistically
@FuckOuttaHere nope, it's possible for most people, the ONLY thing you have to have is will and determination to do it, from then you can gather everything else
@@donaldlyons17 But they did. And they are. Gahhdamn. The point is to try. Majority of people just give up and accept their fate. Didn't get the job? Try again. And again.
Absolutely true! At 35 I quit drinking, smoking, and completely wasting my potential at a factory job where I'd worked for 10 years and where the last day of work was almost identical to the first. I threw that whole life away and made a big break - not necessarily a clean break but a big, dramatic break. My friends who wanted me to hang out with them and stay drunk were angry and the friends I had who wanted the best for me understood my leaving. I left town. I left everyone. I hit reset. I started out with only the money I could make in busking (which is no more and no less than hustling with a guitar) and odd jobs. But I lived cheap with no need for alcohol, tobacco, and other ludicrous expenses. I bought ten big notebooks, a Parker fountain pen, and started writing. I read James Clear's 'Atomic Habits'. I began waking up at 4 A.M. and running every other morning. I started a study routine. I began making a new, tiny circle of friends who were trying to make their own lives better. I read, diligently, the works of great people of the past. I still do all this on a daily basis and it costs nothing. Now I have new problems but they are the problems of a person progressing, of a person getting better. I am 36 - a year has passed - and I don't recognize myself. I have my own business now and it is growing every day. I was homeless then and my prospects were shrinking every night. I just assumed I was too old to change.
@@TheFxEditor I do repair work, painting, and installations on residential properties. Most of my "work" time is spent networking and advertising. A lesson I had to learn quickly was that not everyone is my customer. I only do the highest paying clients now in the richest part of town (unless it is an elderly person, for example, who really does need an urgent job done - then I'll help them out). I managed to change so drastically because of what I've cut out of my life. I had just as much time then as I do now but I wasted every minutes of it proactively. I saw free time as something needing to be filled up. What I've realized is that the progress I'm making now isn't all that amazing - It's the progress I would have been making all along if I didn't have all the obstacles I'd placed in my own way. For example: a year ago if I'd done a small repair job and made, say, $1,000 I would let the news out to my friends. They'd be knocking on my bedroom door within 20 minutes asking where the party's at. It might seem like a stupid problem but that kind of mindset was holding me back. In short: I've cut out all the time-wasting (and it was almost all time-wasting) and I started treating my hours as sacred.
From men we tend to come into our own around our mid 30s. The sooner the better most definitely but once the 30s come creeping in it's like there's an inexplicable paradigm shift that unlocks the drive to do more and become better. For those who aren't frittering their lives away on useless habits that is.
I just turned 30 and am making the changes that needed to be made. Started the changes around 28. I now have a great circle of friends, im about to get my own place, and my career is on an upwards trajectory. Anyone reading this, you can do it.
@@benjaminpayne6355 2 big things. reliability, prioritization. Reliability is time management. showing up to work early, doing things when you said you would, communication, consistency. I focused on improving each of those as the opportunities to came. Hold yourself accountable to those things, and hold those around you to them as well. Second was prioritization and this will always be an ongoing thing. I wasted my time on a lot of things that dont help me at all. I would say i didnt have time to cook or work out, but would come home and doom scroll reddit and youtube for 4.5 hours before going to bed bored. If its not benefiting me, it goes. You wouldnt believe how much time you have to accomplish things until you start removing things.
I'm mid 30's now and practically threw away my entire 20's due to depression. I never had help with it. Currently I'm definitely a lot more confident and decided to focus on coding myself to earn a better living. Wish me luck folks 🙏 😅
Dont rush during your journey You could find yourself getting stuck and doubting your abilities and you never want that Itll stall your journey even more
I'm 25 years old, and I've messed up a lot until now. I didn't finish college, stopped attending classes, and at times, I've even thought that my life is beyond repair.
Almost 24 and this is abt to be me. But im willing to work retail for now but no one is hiring. Idk what to do but im trying to think of something. Also not going back to school b/c I can’t afford to put myself through it anymore
I wen't back and finished high school at 29, took 3 years. Now, at 35, just graduating university, keep at it bro, make your brothers proud. We believe in you.
I am a 38 year old Doordasher, living back with my parents right now. Most days I don't believe that life can get better, or that I will ever amount to anything more, but still I wake up at 5 am EVERY DAY, and I get on my computer, and I try to figure out what I'm doing in this life. I haven't seen the fruits of my labor, and don't even think I am close to that light at the end of the tunnel. But I will keep trying until the day I die, and I thank you for your video, and some MUCH needed positive reinforcement today. Again, thank you so much!
Everything will definitely get better for you, because you want to keep trying, and that's the key - your choice of direction in life. Good luck with all the things you plan to do or the things you're doing right now! Just a bit of support from a stranger ❤️✨
Great attitude my friend. I'm 33 and living at home currently too. Figuring out where I'm supposed to be, as well. We are all gonna make it. Keep grinding my man
30 was my wake up call. Me at 29- no driver's license, no money, lived in my moms house. Me at 31- got my license, got a really good paying job and now own my own home. It can be done. You just need the motivation.
Man, this comment section is awesome. It makes you realize that the real world looks much different than what you see on social media. I also only started learning to code 1 month before turning 27 (exactly 5 years ago)
Brother, I appreciate you putting this video out into the universe. I’m 34 years old and I’m at the lowest point of my life. I’ve been a plumber and struggling musician for the last 10 years of my life and neither one of them have gotten me where I want to be. I’ve been spending the last month of my life trying to figure it out and get back on track after losing my girlfriend of 3 years, then my job and house. I’m now to a point where I’ve exhausted all of my savings and just looking for answers. But thank you for putting this out there🙏🏼
@MrNecryptic this is the case for many. Many countries system is corrupt and getting worse. Just time to change our approaches. Look at what you do have (ability to learn or other advantages) and focus on working to your advantage. ❤
WOW bro its crazy you say this bc i want to be your profession! (become plumber, learn instrument) I have no skills I will be 24 in 2 months, but want to get to where you are, but you feel like going elsewhere. funny how life works
I'm 34 and a late bloomer. All good things started happening to me after 30. I moved out, my salary increased, started working on myself both mentally, spiritually and physically and I just generally felt MUCH better - more confident, at peace with myself, stopped giving f*cks about lot of things and people, became more outspoken, set boundaries, realized tons of things about life and it just keeps getting better. Now I'm planning to learn how to ride a motorcycle 😂 I'm just living and trying to keep life interesting without any pressure, grand expectations or great goals. Of course we all have ups and downs in life, no matter the age, but the older you get, the less you are stressed about it because you know, this too shall pass.
Exactly. I am 26 and was trying to get into my university of first choice since I was 19. After 7 years I finally made it and in 4 years I will graduate and find a good paying job, get my own place and things can only get better. I am a late bloomer too so I get your situation exactly. God bless!
You'll probably be better of learning to ride now than in your 20s. I'm fortunate that I lived through those adrenaline filled rides at 3 digit speeds. It's an amazing hobby. Get lessons and gear. Don't worry about your first bike, if your really enjoy the sport it will definitely not be your last
Reading this was incredibly inspiring. I'm 26 and feel like I've wasted so much time. Reading comments like yours just makes me feel so hopeful. This is why it's so important to get out of our heads and actually speak to people. I get no one wants to feel ashamed but look at the same space here in the comments?! Love it!
I was in a severe car accident when I was 20. Almost died. Lost my fiance in the wreck. I'm 35 and I'm just now getting physically and mentally stable enough to start to get my life together. Thank you for reminding me that I can still get my life together. Further proof to never give up.
What a terrible thing to go through right at the age when we’re “supposed” to be getting our lives together and enjoying the best years of our lives. I can relate although my story is different. I’m happy you’re finally starting to feel better.
I was depressed as hell in my twenties, just turned 30 a couple months ago. Joining a group fitness gym changed everything for me. You will do nothing but sharpen your memory & communication skills as well as gain confidence & obtain a healthy habit. Trust me. I've never felt so alive or young. Life is good.
I was making $35k at 35. Now at 40, I am making $150k, own a home and have a kid on the way. Its hard when you are in the thick of being at rock bottom to believe life can turn around, but it absolutely can. You just have to have a concrete methodical plan and be patient. Cut out all destructive friends, addictions, etc and get your health, spending and daily routine straight. The most important thing is to keep learning the skills and knowledge you need to get to where you want to be.
@@daks8888I acknowledge I am very lucky and won't claim it was easy or that it is guaranteed but you definitely can increase the probability of good things happening to you if you set yourself up for success
@@daks8888nothing is guaranteed and I am no doubt very lucky, but making a plan and following through will at least make your life better in some way.
@@sohelkumarsamantaray973 I am in marketing. I quit my job, took some certification courses (which in actually were practically useless but were good to help get my foot in the door) and then started at a low level role in the career field I wanted. I hopped jobs every 1.5 years, which is going to increase your salary faster initially than staying at a place working towards a promotion.
Some of us lost our childhoods and a good portion of our 20s to trauma, abuse, mental illness, or some combination of the above. This is our time to truly shine, it's never too late.
Nah, as someone in my 40s I can tell you, it IS TOO LATE to get your life together in your 30s... It just simply is too late lol. You are 31, like ok good, 32, yeh no problem, 33 still fine! 35 pfff easy, 38 nah I am young! 39 and... hmmm shouldn't I have like 3 kids going to school by now....? lol... Too late for love, for family, for children, for carieer change, for everything. Why? Cause at 40s you will be in fkin pain most of of the time, tired, exhausted, bored and you will just give up. And datng a 30 year old is a nightmare.... everyoe is divorced, weird or with kids and debt lmao...
@@SimilyYT Of course. There is no reason to start a family or a new life after 40s lol. You can't even enjoy that. I know some ppl can be happy just cause sun shines, well, some ppl can't. That's how it is. There is "oooh you can be who you want" or "oooh you can fulfill your dream just don't give up" or "uuu life is so beautifull" lol. It doesn't work for everyone. Actualy, I have never a person who managed to have a happy life lol. We all just go to work every day, eat, sleep and then die lmao. So why bother anyway? And after 40, 50, you are just not so sharp anymore, you have pain, sickness, you will fall asleep on your dreamy trip around the world lol... So ya, if you didn't travel around the world in your 30s, you probably never will lol... all other dreams- just the same situation.
I worked my ass off during my 20s, graduated in the top of my class in college, then my entire family died and I've been struggling ever since. I try to find things that make me feel like it's not too late.
Stay strong. As the author of the clip said, and other people in some comments, it's truly never too late. You can be in the worst position in the world but you can always move forward. As long as you move forward you'll feel better and you'll realise there are actually more opportunities than you thought. Sometimes you just have to fight and you can't let yourself go.
Damn. Sometimes life straight up gives you a friendly smile, puts its hand on your shoulder & then sucker punches you right up the guts into the bottom of your lungs knocking the air right out of you, dropping you to your knees & walks away giggling. The question is what do you do from there? Get lost in your own head, daily bad habits & stop taking care of yourself? Or do you decide right now, RIGHT NOW, I'm taking control & going to be proactive, not reactive, & start to create good habits & set goals beginning today. And if the weight of the loss is too much, ask yourself, what would my loved ones say to me? What would they want me to do? Live your best for them.
Just got accepted into medical school. I'm 33 years of age. Many of the expectations that we enforce upon ourselves are due to a social clock. The truth is that we're all on our own, unique journey.
Thank you for this video, first of all because I am 37 years old and really want to change my career , leave successful family business and do the thing that interests me, secondly because you mentioned that it took 1 year for you to learn coding, Its 1.5 week I started python, and for this time I could cover only 2 chapters...its quite challenging but I aint stopping. TH-cam is full of videos like : "I was totally newbie and learnt coding in 1 month" .... it's so disappointing and stressing for people like me. Thank you once again for sharing your experience. I would say I dint have fun in my 20 's, when my friends were having fun I was really working hard, without day offs or holidays and I am so tired now,. I do hope people like me, who face some challenges will see this video and recharge themselves. Good luck mate
I haven't lived life the best part of my 20's after losing my brother to suicide. It's my 30th today. Here's hoping for a brighter future. Thansk for your video!
I’m 29 and I’m terrified of turning 30 and having accomplished nothing but this gave me hope and encouraged me greatly. Thank you, brother. I’m glad you’re doing well now!
Feel the exact same way bro. I’m 28 about to turn 29 next yr in February and I literally have accomplished nothing adulthood wise ever since I graduated college 3 yrs ago. Despite that I’m still finding ways to enjoy life to the fullest so hang in there
I'm 29 , 30 in month and been struggling with the fact that I don't have my life together. Today is day 1 of trying to improve my life and this is the best video and best advice I have received . Thank you so much ❤️
Cheering you on! Going thru the same feeling, i turn 30 in January & procrastinated ALOT. and two days ago was like a switch flipped. We ultimately do decide what our next move is even if it’s difficult, but choosing to take action is the first step. :)
The thing with life is that you may or may not get your life "together" before 30. If you did manage to get it together by 30, there's no guarantee that it'll last. You could lose it at any moment. The most difficult part is to accept this fact and work on yourself regardless. Like for me, I had a decent job and was doing fine till a year ago. Everyone including me thought that I had it together. Then the pandemic and other bunch of stuff all came together and wrecked everything. Now, I'm starting from the ground up again. It sucks but meh such is life.
I feel like there's a bit of a blessing in disguise in struggling in your 20s and getting it together after 30. I envied a lot of my friends as I went through my 20s because they were so way ahead of me, but nowadays I see them either being stagnant or panicking over losing something that I'd consider "convenience" rather than necessities. After all, if you've been struggling, the worst you can lose is your life and limb. If you had a successful career and lost it, you probably don't even know/want/can't downgrade towards waiting tables or working retail. It's made even worse by how much our lives are usually lived through debt.
I’m 31. I lost my 20’s to depression, isolation, and anxiety. Recently discovered I have avoidant personality disorder, and now the course of my life makes so much sense and I feel I have a starting point for change
Oh shit me too but mix in some failed relationships that kept me complicit for large chunks at a time. I too now know I have depression and avoidant personality. It's been a powerful tool just knowing what your fighting. I'm now educating myself in pharmacology
This sounds just like me! I haven't diagnosed yet, planning on seeking help soon but I may have the same disorder. I completely isolated myself and now in late 30's it feels absolutely hopeless.
I absolutely blew my 20s. Made a lot of money, spent it all on drugs and booze. Lost everything. Had to start over. I'm 2 years sober and turned 34 yesterday. Thanks for the video.
Still you had some life and good vibes in your 20s. I have nothing, it's full of loneliness and severe depression with an empty pocket. I never know how a normal life in 20s feels like. Because i never had
I’m in the same boat as you were OP. I’ve been clean for a few months now staying at my moms. Trying to figure out what I want to do with the rest of my life.. don’t have any college completed but would consider going back to school . any advice in general?
Sounds so familiar. Got money from crypto, put all into drugs and booze, got into bad bad relationships with evil people (this one fuckin girl dude, shes the worst). Im 28, started putting the puzzles together again, like 6 days sober, but by God bro, i swear we are all gonna make it.
I feel like everybody that feels like they wasted their 20's due to depression or other issues needs to take a second to mentally forgive themselves for those years to be able to move forward without all the guilt and extra baggage
Some of us are now getting help after the fact, but I guess it's better late than never. Wish I could have gotten a diagnosis for my mental health before my 20s but I'm doing better now in my 30s. :)
Maybe it's easy like this for neurotypical people but for me it's a constant struggle. I can't just "take a second", forgive myself and done, everything magically changes for better. In every single moment I would have to be aware of my true priorities in life. It's impossible, it will always be.
Im 27 and trying a different job and felt like i was job hopping a lot and i feel so insecure, but wasnt lazy i was just lost and unsure of what i wanted and i never listened to myself. Now that i went to therapy it helped me understand that i should just do what i enjoy rather listen to other people or compare myself. Now im going back to school to be an a LPN (practical nurse)
I'm 37. I think when you are in your teens or your twenties time seems to go very slowly. Chaging your habits to develop new skills for a couple of years seems like an overwhelming task. In your 30s you realize that 3-5 years is a blink of an eye. You can take that time to develop new skills and completely change the direction of your life.
Also, that time is gonna pass by anyway! Idk why something so small never dawned on me until recently, but I struggled with this when thinking about how daunting going to college for 4 years would be. If those years will pass by no matter what, why not have something to show for it at the end of them?
Dude, I'm 22 and the last 5 years went by so fast. Life was slow as a kid and a teenager but now life is going by in the blink of an eye. It makes me really appreciate the phrase "Life is short". It really is.
Thats so true mate. I'm 31 now but in my 20s, time went so slow, and you always thought you have enough time to do all the shit you wanna do but in reality, we have no idea wtf we are supposed to do and waste it all on fun and games, now when I reached 30, I actually started to think straight and more serious than before, sometimes get to think like, if I only had this way of thinking back when I was younger.
@@DenerWitt i think you missed the joke, the guy looks a lot like a porn star that plays a lot of different roles and thats what OP is saying by all the different skills haha
In my experience, it really just takes about 5 years at any point in your life to completey change your tragectory. Just work towards ANYTHING for a solid few years and you'd be surprised where you come out on the otherside.
5 years for the results, very true. But you could realistically completely change yourself in 6 months. You could lose 50 pounds, or get jacked or train for a marathon if committed. You could start on a new career/ moneymaking path. Get a girlfriend. Develop a lot mentally with conscious practice. Within 6 months you could actually be unrecognisable both physically and in your mentality compared to 6 months before, if you follow a disciplined path of progression each week. Keep that going and in 5 years you are literally a different human being
This is my plan. I just started working out, and a lot of the things I’m in have about a 5-year time horizon. I want to upgrade my housing by the end of that and be stronger.
True. 5 years is the average to change the direction of your life. Even marriage need 5 years to stabilize especially on financial and get to know each other better. Me took 6 years to improve/optimize relationship between my wife, kids and financial. However its need knowledge, plan, aware and put effort on it. Otherwise those 5 years will succumb you to abyss, no improvement is not good.
Believe me, 5 years is complete overkill. The amount of stuff that can change in a persons life within just 1 or 2 years is insane. 5 years is only needed when you are completely trying to change your career or when you live in the US/another country where working conditions are so terrible that you need 5 years just to have enough free time.
My heart almost jumped out of my chest when I read the tittle but this video helped me not to see myself as a complete failure. I'm 26 and I haven't done anything with my life because I lost passion for life and the things I used to love. I thought it was depression but yesterday I had my first therapy session and they made me realise that maybe it's all in my head and I just need to change the way I think.
I can relate to your post. I'm in my 30s and started on a career change but got hit with major depression and been working through that. I know when I'm better I'm energetic and ambitious but that side of me isn't back yet. Well done for going for therapy and getting help. You're going to be ok. Like you said, a new perspective can change everything. Taking steps forward no matter how small and trying not to beat yourself up about the past
I was 26 when I started my change. It took many years until I hit 31 before I got my degree and then had to take entry level jobs to build my resume. Life is not an on switch. When you start to get passions you will find it is a dimmer and over 10 years it slowly increases. My passion was to prove people wrong that I was a loser who with ADHD was restarted when I was 26. It fueled me and I went to a community college to take just 2 courses I would enjoy. I get straight A's! Those credits are transferable to a state university btw. I worked crappy side hustles and kept at it with school and kept going and going. You can do it. I proved my naysayers wrong. Maybe if that doesn't motivate you find something else. Win at something! Do you love cars? Take a mechanic cert program with several courses and work at a corvette dealership. Love fashion? Go take art courses and apply after 2 years to a fasion institute. You get the picture
**Success at Any Stage:** Success is subjective and can be achieved at any stage of life. Whether it's personal fulfillment, professional accomplishments, meaningful relationships, or other forms of achievement, success is not restricted by age but rather by dedication, effort, and resilience.
Yeah that's very common too. You do everything right, work hard, stay disciplined and yet, you're not getting ahead. In fact maybe you overwork yourself, pushing too hard, breaking yourself down, thinking that this will be the way to get rich and make it! Bit really you just try too hard, overwork, lose relationships, miss out on life itself, caught up in the rat race. "Working more hours, to buy things you don't need, to impress people you don't like."
Doing what's right is the bare minimum standard. You participated, and got a participation trophy out of it. Don't really know what else you expected. Success is not for everyone, there has to be losers like you out there to give meaning to the word "success." If everyone was successful, then nobody would be.
I think having some patience really goes a long way. A lot of people want things now and overestimate what they can do in 6-12 months but they underestimate what they can do in 5-10 years.
Ive learned its better to underestimate, rather than overestimate. The times I underestimated, I ended up accomplishing more than I intended. When I overestimated, I always ended up short.
Yes, people don’t understand the time and effort put into accomplishing these things. Some people it’s takes less time but that is only because of their environment most of the time. They are around the right resources or have the right support.
I'm 52, I decided to go back to Uni, the struggle is real, but the challenge of learning & the sense of purpose, has given me a new zest for "EVERYTHING" Never too late
I'm 28 and have been struggling with getting my life together. I just started learning coding a couple months ago and every time I see people talk about where they started learning coding I get discouraged when they say they started in their teens or early 20s. I start feeling like I'm starting too late to learn. I'm glad I watched this video it made me feel more confident about learning now.
Started to learn code at 45 and gave up. Was hard to sit in a chair coding when I worked on my feet my whole life. My wife and I started a Health Care business that has become rather successful. When I think about my coding endeavor it makes me giggle. At 28 your at your prime! You got this bro! Remember, the money you work hard for, try to save as much as possible. That saved us from ruin in 2020. My buddies who financed big houses, cars, boats where all screwed when they lost their jobs. We lived modestly with only our house affordably financed. I was able to take some time to find the next path and had money to invest in whatever endeavor. My foolish friends are now mostly working jobs that would make me want to DIVE OFF A CLIFF...lol...really not funny though...
@@jaycarl1562 Watching this video and reading ur comment honestly made me feel better. Because even as a 16 year old, I'm always being put down and told by everyone that my future is gone, there's no hope for me. All cuz I have a GPA of 2.8. I know my context is a bit different in this case but knowing that there's hope makes me feel better.
@@ToroTechie Life is just to be enjoyed, money and career is just to gain the ability to afford the essentials, live more comfortably, and more readily be able to enjoy life. Don't need a ton of money or anything really as long as you enjoy the life you are living and sustain it. Anything extra is just a means to more easily enjoy it. People get too caught up in "what you should do" or competing to be better, but really that is not important unless you are competitive driven and enjoy that anyways. Just my view point, everyone dies anyway. Don't matter if you are extremely rich or have a great job. Just that you enjoyed what you had and appreciated it. Many in such positions are stressed and dreadful because of the pressure and sacrifices to reach and maintain such positions unless they are lucky. Sure they don't worry for money, but everything has it's own problems.
It took me until my 40s to “get my life together”, and this was after decades of “doing all the right things” beforehand. It literally took decades before I could finally find the right opportunities. Decades of getting educated with multiple “useful” degrees, staying out of debt, drinking, drugs, and finding the right relationship eventually. It still took decades. So even when you “do everything right” for decades, it doesn’t guarantee anything. Luck and being in the “right demographic” unfortunately both play a big part. Both of those things were not necessarily on my side.
Not saying you aren't an attractive person, but looks pay a HUGE part in what opportunities you have in life. Other peoples perceptions will change of you if you're ugly, and your own lack of self confidence will hold you back as well.
You're right, i also studied and didn't worked for me, it's more important to know how to make good relationships in the job to make people not hate you
@@dantenage9687 honestly, it's more about having the right family contacts, skin colour, the right dangly bits between your legs, privilege and nepotism far more than it is about individual charisma, intelligence or even competence. It's a total myth that we live in a meritocratic society. Decades of "doing everything right" has taught me that.
@@Gubers they still all have to work anywhere from 4-10x as hard to get half as far as cishet yt men who probably often just got legacy admissions to top universities without ever really having to work too hard. It seems you've missed that fact, probably because you haven't lived it. And btw many of those kids of immigrants you speak of ARE Americans (or Canadians or whatever) and are part of the domestic born population. They still have to work way harder than the demographics who have it way easier by virtue of things they never had to work for. Let's put it this way: if a person of colour (regardless of where they were born - btw something that's never questioned of yt people), especially a woman or non-binary person of colour with a disability spent years on drugs, dropped out of school or made the kind of life mistakes the person making this video is talking about, there's absolutely no way that society would even give them a chance to "pull themselves up by their bootstraps" - a nonsensical notion in the first place. They'd have no way "coming back". We're not even allowed to make mistakes. Not a single one. A cishet yt man who made the same decisions and worked as hard as I have done in my life would be far more statistically likely to be in a completely different (i.e. more successful) place in life, instead of merely middle class.
I so needed this. I did well in school and college, but due to grief and depression wasted so many years not putting in any effort into my future. I was a divorced single mother to 4 children by the time I was 28, and only now at the age of 39 I'm putting myself first. I've finally finished my business degree and I'm on my way to better employment. It's never too late so don't give up guys!!!!
Grew up fatherless, mother was hardly there either. Hated by my siblings, extended family was largely indifferent. Had to piece my life together and teach myself everything. Just hit 30 and I’m pretty much looking at a life wasted on depression, issues with childhood trauma and little accomplished. I really needed to hear this. I’m trying to apply for law schools this year and I really needed to hear this. Thank you.
Went through something similar!! Very dysfunctional family, had addicts and violent parents we were seperated from. They never cared to takes us back and do better. Social services failed us!!! Lived with family members we were neglected and always fend for ourselves. I never was a normal kid, always kept to myself. Couldnt keep friendships or relationships due to traumas, lack of confidence or trust. Wasted many years just trying to survive, not doing much. Fingers crossed youll succeed!!
I think for our generation the 20s are the like the new “teen years” with more freedom of choice, which makes us confused and lost. For the previous generation, you had a house and a family at 25. You had maybe 4 options of career. Now it’s like 30s are the new 20s. Money also changed its value. We have to explore more in search of a direction. I’m soon to get into my 30s and feel a lot more grounded. 20s was a mess struggling with undiagnosed depression and adhd. Went to study electrical engineering at 20 without having any clue of the work it takes. Still studying for that Bsc, for almost a decade, which takes regularly 4 years. But now at 29 it’s the first time I cope with my problems. Learnt a lot during those lost years. Stabilized after a few setbacks with a long term relationship and friends I met because of those lost years. Learnt to set boundaries for myself and others. Maybe not academic achievements and financial security, but I gained a lot in my 20s. We need to reframe our definitions for success and value in life.
Yes! So many people think financial security means you have your life together. Ive learned being the same age that no one really has their life together even if it appears so
@@mitzismith_scentslikehome9893 If I had ten million dollars, all of my problems would disappear. I could afford decent lodgings in any city in Europe, find an attractive partner, have all of my health problems treated, and devote my life entirely to work that I enjoy. The only thing more valuable than money is the grace of God (assuming there is a God).
@@alexhauser5043 Thats a big if. Nobody in this world is without problems. Life happens even if you have alot of money. Maybe you have marital issues, issues with your children, estranged parents, anxiety, depression etc. Money doesnt save you from life happening.
@@mitzismith_scentslikehome9893 Money saves you from the drudgery of the 9-5 grind, from hunger, from exposure to the elements, from chronic pain and illness, from sexlessness - in brief, from (real) pain. I won't die of a broken heart or because mommy didn't hug me often enough.
Thank you for this video! I am in my late 30s. I started to change my life 3 years ago when I decided to go to a film academy after I wasted my whole life playing games moving nowhere and wasting time on worthless things. I had a passion for film my whole life but was too lazy to do anything. My biggest enemy was laziness and I am finally coping with my enemy. Thank you for this video because it is true what you say. it is hard and I need it to watch this to remind me to go forward.
I dropped out of high school and spent a couple years scrubbing toilets at Taco Bell before I realized I needed to come up with some sort of plan for life. It is never too late to regain control over your life, and I'm so grateful you did. Thank you for being so open and for sharing your journey so unflinchingly. It's a big inspiration to me and many other people in the developer community.
I've got a friend who spent his 20s and much of his 30s playing in bands that went nowhere. In his late 30s he started a masters in computer programming, now he's earning a fortune.
@@talentnetwork7275 he started a masters - masters comes after a BA, BA is first degree, so yeah that person has the second degree in Computer sceince(Masters in cs)
@@filmbuffoon If you showed enough aptitude and knowledge, it's possible. Ed Witten went from a history degree straight into postgraduate physics. Although Ed Witten is a genius.
Gives me hope I'm almost 40 I squandered my prime years lesson learned. Working to turn my life around sometimes its gets discouraging once you start getting older. As a kid I used to think when I saw people 40 plus why are they stuck in the same position. Well now I understand alot more we all have our reasons, sometimes you gotta learn the hard way. But if you're still breathing and have all your senses then get it together before you get too old to do so. Best of luck to everyone who are very late bloomers!
From Sunscreen by Baz Luhrmann: “Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t.” I’m 50 in 3 weeks. If I knew what I wanted to be when I grow up I’d be doing it by now. But I’m happy with my life.
Thanks for bring me back that! I just love it! "For as the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young" and the part "get to know your parents" just break me. But trust me on the sunscreen! ( and the floss thing, guys, take care of your tooth! Is painfull and very expensive when you don't) by the way , the author is Mary Schmich "Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young" is the original text name
I'm 33 and turning 34 in a month or so. My life is absolutely miserable, i did everything wrong and closed myself hard to everything for the last 10 years or so. Never finished anything i did and now i'm in the middle of a serious anxiety disorder, fear of death, of where i am, of my parents dying. Its rough, but i'm trying hard to learn coding, got into a psychiatrist, a psychologist. God thiis is rough and i never though a video in the internet would be something that help me, even if just a bit. But thank you.
Im 30 right now. Living at my moms house struggling with depression and finding a job. Some days i struggle to even get out of bed. I myself blew my entire 20s and sometimes feel like its over. Im happy I came across this video.
Dropped out of high school due to social anxiety, spent my 20s drinking, smoking and working minimum wage. Now in my 30s, studying engineering and science at university and crushing it.
This is me.. I struggle with social anxiety every day. I turned 30 back in April, and I’m gonna be going back to school. I have so many things I want to get done & accomplished. So glad I am deciding now is the time. ❤
I’m 22 right now and already feeling like a failure. There’s so much social pressure these days and it seems like everybody has it all figured out. But this video is so encouraging. Thank you. I have hope
The first lesson in adulthood is realizing that NOBODY has it figured out. "Success" is just a mask we wear to make others think we know what we're doing when in fact we're all just silly little apes on a dust mote hurdling through infinite space trying to make meaning out of it all.
I'm also 22. I've always felt pretty bad about myself because it seems like I'm so far behind everyone else. I haven't learned how to drive yet, let alone got my license. I haven't graduated high school. I don't really have a lot of knowledge about life. I haven't been in a relationship yet. But I realized that life isn't a competition. Everyone moves at there own rate. As long as I accomplish the things I need to it doesn't matter if I'm a few years behind others, and I've realized more than ever that I'm not the only one in my position and I have time to do the things that i need to get done, but I also have to stop procrastinating.
No one has anything figured out. Life is a time spent pretending to have things figured out when no one really knows why they're doing anything when you dig deep enough into their motivation. Often times the root of most motivation really is as shallow as- "because I want more money to be happy and stress-free." This is a naive mindset. I'm 21.
I'm 31 as well, soon to be 32. Life absolutely fucked me since birth. Illness, Death and Loneliness was at every corner. Now I'm working odd jobs as well with no particular learned skill. It's good to know I sitll have options left and I'm glad learning to code is the right thing. I just want to "arrive in life". Not turn over every fucking penny. I hope I can say something else in 1-2 years. Thanks for the vid, Dorian.
I started your journey at 31 too. 34 now and finally got my first legit dev job. It is possible.. and I could've done it sooner if I wasn't such a lazy bastard. stay on the grind and start networking now. and don't waste a year on machine learning like I did.
I'm 47 married & father of 2 looking for a career change due to a work related injury. I'm scared shitless, I'm glad I came across your videos, they're a great motivational tool to keep going. I don't know if coding is right for me but I'm willing to give it a go. Thanks for what you do brotha, stay blessed!
This is the content that’s needed, turned 30 in September and studying to become a software dev and change from IT support which I’ve done for 5 years + Thanks for this Dorian!
IT support is the same as being a System Administration? I'm studying to be a developer as main job and I'm also interested as being a SysAdmin as a secondary job... any opinions?
I spent 30 years of my life doubting myself and thinking I'm not worthy of doing what I want, being happy, making my own choices (had to do with my childhood and type of parenting I received). I went to exactly 2 therapy sessions - and on the first one, the therapist told me I suffer from "learned helplessness". It blew my mind that I'm still acting and feeling as a 10 year old, not doing things because "of course I can't do them... what would my mother/father say? I'm not even gonna try, I'm sure I'd fail anyway". She told me next time those thoughts come into my mind, I should stop them and say "I dare to do xyz". No matter what it is, don't be afraid to do it, to try it, to fail at it, because the true failure is giving it up before even trying. I moved halfway across the world, I re-focused on an IT job I was kind of floundering at, I started learning Unreal engine programming and am making my own game. I might fail, but I'll know that just by trying, I've already succeeded in all the ways that count. I dared to be happy, or to at least go for a chance at happiness. It's not easy, but at least now I know that I can try to do different things until I find something that works for me and makes me happy, rather than stay in the same slump and never try.
thank you for your honest comment telling your experience. I also suffer from the same "learned helplessness" but wasnt sure how to articulate it until your comment. might have been small, but your comment has helped me reach clarity on it, thank you
It’s never to late!! In my teens and twenties I did drugs, went to jail, hooked up with many many random guys, had kids, and worked as a stripper at dead end clubs. I’m going to turn 40. I now have 6 kids, got my GED, and am working as a high end masseuse at a private parlor! I make A LOT of money serving vip and special clients
The same thought's here. For me the challenge is that I don't know what precisely I should go for and not having stable job or place giving me even more instability with that...
Wow, relatable. I don’t feel like I can do anything, I don’t know what I want and that if I do try I’ll fail. It’s a perfectionist, inexperience and self-esteem issue.
I'm 35 and my youtube channel is finally getting to where I want it to be where I can almost be full time! Eventually I'll be able to make enough to be pretty comfortable financially. But if I could do things over again I would save money, and work on my passion WAY earlier whatever that would of been.
Same age, I wish I would’ve found my passion in my 20s and worked towards it then. I waited until my 30s but I see the years of experience I missed out on. Definitely
Im 29 and needed this! My twenties went down hill after dealing with un treated Bi Polar Type 1. I lost everything 5X’s, was Homeless 3 years chasing my dreams in LA. I’m back at my moms with 50k in debt repossessions, f’d Credit, lost everybody, no one wants to be around me because I was a drunk! I’m finally on the right path! Isolated myself for 2 years healing, Meds and therapy and now I feel myself getting back to me! It’s never too late! I wanted to give up so bad but I’ll walk into Thirty stable at least with a debt repayment plan for the next 4 years
I earned a bachelor's degree at 23, a master's degree at 29, was in the emergency room for my back two weeks later, and became homeless at 36 through no fault of my own--simply a lack of responses to my job applications and being told that I can't have Disability because there is no physical reason that I can't do a desk job.
@@scottandrewhutchins Seems so cruel what you've gone/are going through. Back pain is no joke and the system is so unfair. Hope things turn around for you!
the problem isn't not having you yourself together in your 20's, its having things fairly ok and being content with that. and when you get to your thirty's, it falls apart at some point and you see it for what it really was.
Hell I started from nothing in my twenties and ended in a much better place in life now in my mid thirties. In your twenties everything is messed up because well that's life. We dont know where we are going, what should we have accomplished by that point...but life is moving too fast! You're working jobs you don't like until you find something that's pretty decent and pays more. I had my existential crisis in my twenties so everything is the opposite on my end but I can empathize. Hope y'all feel better.
I struggled a lot in my early and mid twenties. Went back to school at 27 for engineering, graduated at 32, got a good job, now finishing my masters and just turned 35. We got our house last year and have a baby on the way in the next few months. What changed for me was surrounding myself with the right people. Starting with a good mentor and putting aside bad relationships with "friends" and toxic GFs. Surrounding yourself with good people that enable you to be your best self can make a world of difference. Makes it so much easier to challenge yourself to be the best you can be and succeed.
@@LibbyKay24 I don't, I paid for junior college out of pocket (cheap), then had several grants and scholarships that paid for undergrad. My masters is paid for by my employer
@@Steven-ik6xx it's NOT easy that's for sure and definitely getting harder now at the tail end of the masters. It was helpful that my wife could pick up on tasks to help loosen the slack and was very supportive. Honestly though what really got me through it was I wanted it more than anything. I did not see failing as an option. I scheduled my days in advance with every second of my week planned ahead. I'd ask professors if they could assign homework an extra week in advance so I could get ahead wherever I could, etc. Lots of little tips and tricks but it's mostly a mental game. I'm seeing that now especially since I don't really like grad school and am already making a decent salary doing what I set out to. Mentally it's much more challenging me to force myself through the rough patchs.
Wow brother just like the video you’re an inspiration for me. I’m going back to school at 28 for finance and want to get my masters afterwards, I’m glad I’m not the only one going back a little later in life. Please any advice for help would be good, congrats on all your hard work 👍🏽
Thank you for this video. I'm freshly 33 and still living at home with severe mental health issues, rotting away by playing video games. I'm finally addressing my ptsd and trying to get my life into gear. It's slow going but I've decided I'm going to volunteer to work on my social skills and then want to study. I found this while trying to give myself a pep talk and that I can't give up now even though things feel hopeless. I needed to hear someone else's story and the comments here have been so inspiring. I need to be kinder to myself and know everyone has to start somewhere. Wishing everyone else here lots of luck with getting themselves together for a happy and healthy future. 💚
Hey man, good for you! I just wanted to share something with you briefly. I can relate to your story, very much. I'm 37 now and I only got my life together a few years ago. When covid hit I was sitting on the couch, collecting unemployment, and feeling sorry for myself. I started learning audio engineering right here on TH-cam. All free content. I now make a full-time living as a mixing and mastering engineer. Everyone told me I was crazy. This is a really hard job to get into and especially to do successfully. There are people who go to school for this for 5 years that never make it past making coffee and cleaning toilets in studios. I'm my own boss, one of the top providers on the platform I work off of (AirGigs), and I'm making more money than I ever have in my entire life. Just thought I would share this, thanks for sharing your story.
@@user-ux1vj9vx7s My process? Sorry, I'm not sure I understand what you mean by process and it really matters what the source material is but typically I highpass to around 120Hz (6 or 12dB per octave), and pull out some mid-range (from around 400Hz - 1.5kHz). Pull out some of the sibilance (I use eq after my first DeEsser so it's not much) and boost some top end. As far as compression I prefer 1176 REV A on most vocals but sometimes and LA-2A is nice as well. A lot more than eq and compression goes into processing vocals tho. I also send all the individual tracks of a group to a buss and do some processing there as well. Tape and console saturation is a big part of my vocal sound as well.
I switched careers late in my 30's from Corrections to IT. I went back to school at 37 for a B.S. in Comp Sci, and started working as a dev and later moved into Cybersecurity. It's been all upward movement and has been great.
I've been for 12 year in IT now. It outsourcing sucks as hell, one project looks the same as other. Money is OK I guess, but I'm stressed all the time from micromanagement
Depression kicked my ass during my 20's. I'm 33 and about to start doing a cert for nursing assistant then going for nursing after. I spent a good while getting my shit together and now i'm way better than i've ever been. I've gone back to church and got baptised, I'm in the best relationship with a wonderful woman, I'm getting back in shape and have dropped 35lbs in a couple years, got amazing friends. It's never too late to get yourself together. YOU'VE GOT THIS KINGS AND QUEENS!! NEVER GIVE UP!
I'm 29 making around $200 a month from Nicaragua, learning english and code, living with my parents, feeling like a looser. Rejected in many jobs for not having what's required for the position. I know how it feels, in my case I wasted my twenties trying to be master of all trades, being the ethernal student. But this video really helped me to continue and never give up. Thanks.
Bit late here, but in my 20s got into a terrible accident and almost lost my leg, spend a long time in hospital and rehabilitation. Lots of weight gain, depression, financial issues, but still standing strong. It's never too late, always remain strong and keep moving forward.
I'm 29. For me, I delt with depression a lot in my 20's, because of not having a support system in my family. Until I realized, I was wasting my time trying to get emotional support from my family, I had to find other ways to motivate myself, and it worked ☺️
I am a 21 year old guy who will be turning 22 this December and I messed up my college life. I am an electronic engineering student and previously I had failed in some subjects in 3rd semester and 5th semester and again in one subject in a 7th semester subject. Thankfully I managed to pass in those previous semester subjects in which I failed but I failed in one of my last semester subject too so I can't even graduate this year and can only write the exam in Feb 2023 and only after passing it, I can get my degree certificate and will graduate. My results were out in August 2022 and I still haven't told about it to my parents about it as I am too scared. I am planning to do my MBA either in my country or even abroad but I am a bit worried because I haven't got my degree certificate yet as I failed in that last semester subject. I wish I could go back in time and tell the 19 year old me to concentrate in studies and not fail in the subjects.
Amen! I am 43, just starting to feel im getting where I want to be and love where life is going. I was the biggest fuck-up in 20s and 30s. It only took a lot of self-work, reflection and improving my self-awareness which helped me identify my issues and address them. Once I removed toxicity from my life, and learned strategies to deal with my issues, meditation and focused on exercising seriously - did I finally start to make progress. Its never too late!
Thanks for posting this. I'm 45 and while I am where I want to be career wise. I keep feeling like there's a lot I haven't done yet with my personal life and that it's too late now. Reading your post makes me realise that I still can fulfill some of the life goals I haven't gotten to yet.
I'm 32 years old, and I damaged my 20s in every way possible. I smoked 3 packs a day, ate junk food every day , became morbidly obese, got into a huge debt, married the meanest and most selfish girl on the planet, got depressed, got into a job that wasn't for me in the 1st place. I started waking up when I was 26, I quit smoking,I fixed my diet and dropped my body type from morbidly obese into overweight and still working on it to reach normal weight, I went to high school again, I saved a lot of money and paid off my dept (sometimes I had to sleep hungry) got rid of that toxic partner for good, and now I'm attending an engineering program at college. I'm so glad for the comments who had their awakening at their 30s. They proved to me that I wasn't alone and lost his twenties.
I just turned 29. After years of depression I decided to change everything. I took an effective therapy, which helped me a lot. Several months ago I started to wake up early, exercise, read books, learn another language, build a relationship, and finally get a job. You can change, but first you must have a deep desire for it. Where there is a will, there is a way
@@bmsk0076 Everybody has his priorities. Me to don't want a wife and a kids. Instead I focus on my life and my hobbies, smth that is really interesting to me
I've spent my late teens, 20s and part of my 30s taking care of my father ( Parkinson's disease) He just passed a couple of years ago. I feel like life has just started for me at 38
That is a very admirable thing you did, some people would have just put their ill parent in a nursing home so please don’t put yourself down about it 😢 May God bless you with peace 🙏
Similar story. Was completely lost in my 20s, worked tons of different retail, service and call center jobs into my 30s and began struggling with severe episodes of existential depression. Finally made enough money to go to a coding boot camp and am now 37 and about 1 year into my career as a Python developer. Never going back! 👍
I got my act together at age 34. started community college then cut a bachelor's and just got accepted into med school in Florida. 8 years ago I was drinking All day and sleeping on couches with no driver's license and a 500 credit score. I got a job in sales and saved up for about 2 years, found a niche in society, quit to become a full-time student, took every opportunity I could to study and make money. started lifting weights again and cycling and mountain biking. I had to teach myself proper study habits by using Excel spreadsheets and had to force myself to change pretty much every aspect of my personality but it really wasn't that hard. it's no harder than wasting away on the couch as an alcoholic. I don't know what's wrong with people that tell you it's too late to start doing the right thing and getting things on track.
I understand your point of view. But there are people who struggle with quitting smoking, or cannot go for a Daily 10 minute walk. People are different.
@@jmcoldcreek2080 That's why all it takes is small changes. Just smoke one less cigarette a week. Then a day. Same with walking. Just take 10 extra steps a day. Then 20. Keep working your way up until you're walking that 10 minute walk. Then a 15 minute walk. Then a 20, and so on.
Thank for this. I’m 32 and a recovering alcoholic and I feel so far behind everyone. This is my first semester in college- I’m already overwhelmed but I’m going to do this. I’m also chasing the medical field
I'm almost crying watching this. I'm turning 30 this year with no direction in my life because I was lost in my 20s, I'm learning a new skill but it's hard af and I continuously doubt myself if I'm doing it right. It's my first time watching your video and thank you for sharing the motivation. I'll get back to work with all my mind bc you made me believe that eventually it will work, every one of us can make it work. Thanks again.
20s is the stage to be lost/depressed/etc as soon as I got to my 30 years I am finally figuring what I want and I am extremely excited for the future. Dont give up💐
I'm in my mid 20s, i never know how a normal life in 20s feels like, because i never had. It's full of loneliness and severe depression with an empty pocket 💀💀
@KnittingPasta me too. I got a bachelor's degree finished age 22. Now age 28 I work as a janitor and I feel like I'm drowning. I'm smart but I can't get over social anxiety. Feels like a waste of a life but I need healthcare to heal and to get healthcare I need money and to get money I need healthcare... I dont want to be negative but I just rly want to blow my brains out a lot of the time
I just turned 33, I'm doing now what I should've done 10 years ago but I was too retarded at the time, didn't know what the fuck I was doing. I think I'm not going to be successful until I'm 40. Stuck in jobs I despise. But this is literally the only card I have left, unless I miraculously win lotto or something. Life is tough but I'm still thankful for it.
I was miserable in my 20s, hat depression and felt so tired of life. In my 30s, I finished university, learned foreign language and made a school at that language. Been never so proud of myself
Realize that it is all in your head! Imagine if you allowed yourself to feel happy, joyful, and proud of your accomplishments naturally, rather than being so hard on yourself and comparing your situation to others.
As someone who’s about to hit 40 thank you for making this. So many people need to see it. My mom went back to school with 2 small kids to be a teacher at 50. She had a 20 year career after. It’s never too late. “Old” is not an age it’s a mindset.
@@RothBeyondTheGrave I think I should ask my friend to be a teacher then, she is working as a janitor currently and is not satisfied with her job, her older kid is starting university, maybe its time for her to start a second life once her younger kid graduates from university.
I'm still in my early 20s, overweight, and honestly feel like a tech addict(social media and video games). Thank you for putting this out there and I'm glad youtube recommended your video. I've already started turning around a little trying to go to the gym as often as possible eating healthier & getting my community college courses properly structured to be a grade school teacher. need work in other areas but this helps motivate me a little more
it's scary how many likes that guy got. if i can give any advice look at your day in beginning and end of day. if you get nothing done and only play video games it gives you motivation because you see trough it's pointless. look at video games they lead nowhere. i was fishing for hours in runescape as teenager. years later there were bots fishing. pointless to max. there are only two things in life time and choises. do you wanna throw your time most valuable thing what you can't get back even with all money in world like health in garbage can?
I left home at 19 started working and believe me I struggled just to get by. I'm now 47 and I have only 4 years left to pay off my house. I have a large 401k and plenty of money in my 3 savings accounts. While my friends spent their 20s partying I worked and saved money. Of all my friends I'm the only one with almost no worries and I've been able to travel the world have a new car every 3 years and no stress. I don't regret spending my 20s preparing for my future.
The weird and fun thing is that as a kid we always think our parents had everything figured out, while in reality there were just going with the flow taking one challenge after the next.
I'm 60 years old and I didn't start getting my life together until I was 30. I have no regrets.
No regurts
@@sheepleslayer586 whats a regurt?
@@arenuzzle6282 it's like yogurt, but you have it again
Amen, I aspire to obtain the same
@@arenuzzle6282 do not regurgitate according to Google translate
Im 40. 2 years self teaching. Got my first software engineering job 3 months ago.
Stay focused!
@Dan Lons my first comment was deleted. Here we go:
6 months head in HTML/CSS and Javascript to understand how web development work. Then turned focus into Python and stuck with it. I'd do 3 Python problems daily over and over again until every single concept stuck.
After I was comfortable enough with it, started doing every single youtube Python project follow along video I could find. Then I'd do them on my own over and over.
Applied for at least 20 entry level jobs until one landed. (I'd send my very modest portfolio even if I wasn't the fit they were looking for.)
@Dan Lons I find that focusing on the process and not the goal was key for me.
Doing 2 to 3 Python exercises a day became automatic, like brushing teeth. It stuck.
Did you come across some ageism before finally landing your job?
@@tonybp Not that I am aware of. Then again, it's remote working. But I only care for the employer's opinion on me being 40. They only cared about my skills.
@@PhreakPhantom so where did you find remote jobs?
Depressed at 50 then changed my life at 52 with therapy, now I have a new outlook on life and completely new career and never been happier.
Congrats...and thank God 🙏❤️🙌
Thank you for sharing. I feel sometimes it’s too late but reading this comment section I realized many others are in similar situations. We’re not alone, and I hope you continue to be happy.
Thanks, because I thought I should shoot myself now. This title alone should be cancelled! Because some might really just have the gun next to them.
I'm glad I read this because 50 is staring me down and I'm at a loss.
:D its good things got better for you, keep growing and God bless, turn to Christ believe and repent if you haven't already we've all sinned and are in need of a Savior, heading to hell, but God sent His Son to die for us, have a nice day:D
I got my life together in my 40's. Teenage years lost to war and immigration, twenties lost to a debilitating illness and recovery from it, 30's lost to having had to catch up on education and making money that I could not do in my twenties due to the illness...Got finally everything together in my 40's, living my best life. It's possible. And sometimes you just don't have a choice, life does not run in a straight line for everyone, so you have to make it WHEN you can, whatever that age is for you.
Jesus christ i needed to SEE THIS. You're a true champ. I can only hope to be as badass as you are.
Thank you for your story reminds me to not give up, im at my mid 20s right now battling physical and mental illness still hoping for the better
Inspiring story. I began to sort my life recently, and i am almost 40. I have not been through war or serious ilness, but i had emotional problems in my 20,s, which i could not solve, so i escaped from them. fortunately, i did not become a drunk, addict or anything, just felt stuck in a loop. Life is a not a game when you have to check the boxes, make the quest before anyone else etc. I am still singel, but well,n ot everyone is meant to have a family and kids, does not mean your life does not hold value. You gotta seek your own path, not emulate what people around you do. Some of them are clueless just you were , but just try to hide it.
I'm 23 and I needed this. Thank you so much! I just started studying in a foreign country, alone and away from my home. I feel like I'm loosing my youth sometimes.
Inspiring. Did you end up marrying or starting a family too? Or did you prefer staying single?
I'm 32. Never been so broke in my entire life. This video helped me to believe that I still can do something.
We've been there. You just gotta get up. Apply for a job. Suck it up. That's the only way.
@@copainlivreur8962 and live a meaningless capitalism world with minimum wage to survive!
@@kentajin7860 spent one year in northern Michigan. 15$ an hour makes you a good living there. Much better than the above minimal salary in the UK. You guys from the US live the best lives, stop talking tankie shit
You're not alone. I've had negative balances in my bank account more than I have fingers and toes. The worst was when someone nearly half my age had to pay for a dinner we went to. Can't tell you how embarrassing that was. It's rough to see the light when you are so swamped with hopelessness. There is light at the end of the tunnel, brother. Give yourself a break, get back on your feet, persist. It will get better, I promise you.
Me too bro. I’m 31 and I’m currently living at my dads and looking for work. I have developed alcohol use disorder and I just feel bleh. I had a job from 16-26. But since then I’ve gone downhill in ways. Feel lonely too
A lot of comments say “I wasted my 20s”. Nah man, if you’re still here, you survived them, you’re on your path and all those years were valuable in shaping who you are today. Forgive yourself for not living up to some imaginary ideal and just focus on today and tomorrow. You got this ❤
Thanks man, I actually started thinking like that as well, like look at the world today, I dont feel bad for getting older and reaching 30, hell we earned this, we survived all the crazy shit and it seems that more is coming :D
@Michael Davis Thanks man, I really needed to hear that. I’m 25 almost 26 and I have been beating myself up for not living more when I was younger.
Thank you my brother god bless you
Exactly. There is a video with Steve Harvey and he says 99 percent of people "waste" their lives in their 20s. It's just the way things go. You're not alone and trust me, being in your 20s when the 2008 bubble hit, yeah that has long lasting effects.
If you are 30 now, I'm 31, you have MADE it this far. It's not all on you. Now the future and your next Decisions is all on you. Only you can change it. Don't worry about the past. It's done. Make the memories and experiences work for you.
Godspeed everybody. We all have a purpose here.
Yep you only wasted them if you dont learn anything from it both the good and the bad.
I'm the ultimate late bloomer. I wasted my 20s and most of my 30s. It wasn't until my early 40s that I decided to go back to school. It's true, it's never too late.
Well to college twice and going to work as a waiter on a cruise in my 40's, i mean late late late bloomer here.
🤝🙏💪 I want this to I wish us all the best of luck💪💪💪
Diftor heh smusma
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Yesterday at age 42 I made the first step in applying for College. I believe it's not too late for me or anyone
Ok but will they give you work, when you will be 40 years old engineer without experience yet? I dont think so
I’m a recovering addict who is in the process of rebuilding my life at age forty. Depressed, anxiety ridden, epileptic and with brain injuries…it’s hard. Everyone looks at you as a failure and it SUCKS. I’m trying different things to try to bring my spirit up
I wasted my 20s mostly on a career that wasn't for me. Last year (when I was 32), started an online fitness coaching buisness and started to grow, enough to quit my 9-5 job. Currently I'm 33 and still working on it, still growing. It is never too late to turn your life around. I'm 33 and literally starting a new career.
I’m the same age as you. I currently work in healthcare but I am just burnt out. I make a decent living but I just want to do something else with my life. I feel like there’s more to life than throwing scrubs on at 7am and working 12 hour shifts in a hospital. Everybody thinks it’s an awesome field, but it’s honestly overrated and exhausting.
Thank you yes that's what I want to believe it's never too late I'm 29 and things seem bleak and I feel dragged down by a lot of things but I'm still trying
@@jtc9098 are you a nurse that's my dream job I want to work in a nursing home tho I use to as a psw and miss it but I totally understand take some time for yourself do little things you enjoy here and there xx you can even try to do a second career or hobby you love wish you the best
I'm 38 and attempting to start a new career. I'm trying anyway.
@@daks8888 Yeah man! Fk it
I'm almost 33 and unemployed, living with a family member. I feel like a failure. In my mid 20s I was married, had a child, and a house. We got divorced a few years ago and my life fell apart. I'm hoping I can get it back together.
You can and you will. Take it one step at a time and stay focused. As long as you’re breathing, there’s still hope
I agree, keep grinding... only way your going to loss is if you stop moving. Keep fighting
You got this. Don't give up. Do your research, create a plan, execute it. Believe in yourself.
Life happening to you, does not make you a failure. Keep watching videos like this one and reading the comments to remind yourself that you are not alone.
Exactly you got divorced. Who thought that was good! Let me guess, your former friends.
Just wanted to echo the sentiments in this video. When I was 29 I was unemployed, living at home with my parents, and just played video games all day. I went back to school (community college) and got my RN license at 32. Made 100k my first year. I'm 36 now. I'm single, own my home, car, making 110k a year with no debt other than my mortgage. Life is good. It can be done.
thanks you inspire me
What’s an RN license
@@ccplusplus5333 Registered Nurse
@@victoriastroud4820 thanks
Hard Work baby!
I got out of prison at 31, started a wonderful career at 33 (hired in at $14/hr, now salaried with full benefits), got married at 36, and had 2 kids at 40 and 42. Life seems pretty good to me and I was in prison a little over a decade ago.
I'm really proud of you story I am really happy for you even though we don't know each other.
Good to hear that..Wishing you more happiness and joy❤️
Impressive man. Good for you ✊
Congratulations and thank you, this made me have hope
You don't know how much of an inspiration your story is to me. I felt like my life collapsed over the past 6 months. I have been battling my own demons and issues and constantly in doubt about trying to break free from my past. If you can make a success and find happiness then why not.
I was an addict throughout my 20s. I got clean at 29 and been traveling the world since. Been sober for 3 years.
How long your trips last? Just out of curiosity
I’m a late bloomer. I didn’t treat my 20s right. Now I’m in my 30s doing way more that I would’ve screwed up in my 20s. A great childhood is so important because I believe a large part of us didn’t use our 20s wisely due to what we endured as children, and unresolved, it carried over into adulthood. We gotta get to the root of things, heal, and keep moving forward.
It's so true that we spend our 20s thinking that our childhood was a disaster and end up doing nothing and making another decade of ours a disaster.
Yea, in my teenage years couldn't have fun, because my parents were overly protective. I had to be home before 10 PM every night, even when I was 17 years old. When I got 18 and escaped that "prison", went all in and fucked up 5 years of my life without doing anything productive, only living pay check to pay check and partying. Some things have to be done, at the right time. My parents are great and they only wanted what was best for me, but they failed to give me freedom. They saw that when it was too late, and gave my brother the freedom I never had. 😁
Very very true!! I’m still trying to heal from my childhood
So true. Science is finally validating our experience. We can get to the root through therapy and intentionality. And then we can heal with time and patience.
Hit the nail on the head!
I'm now in my early 40. Every decade has gotten better. Now in my 40's I have a great job and life is good. Don't listen to people that say you can't improve your life.
Yep. Beware of people who claim you can't do something.
Exactly. All I ever hear is tons of defeatist talk. Anyone who says there's ever a point in life where it's too late to improve has zero idea what they're talking about and needs to grow up.
exactly. They are just the ones who never did anything with theirs!
Any kids at all? Going to have any?
Thanks this is so encouraging
I turn 35 this month and am not happy with where I am in life. Though this video is 2 years old, it couldn’t have popped up at a better time! I was feeling defeated like it too late to pivot and start anew. But this gives me hope. It’s never too late to change the trajectory of one’s life. ❤
You're not alone at all, I'm 35 in March and wow do I feel so lost and defeted. But you're right this video has helped and given a lot of hope. You've got this! I hope you have a great birthday too 💚✨️
@@Thewrongshoes2 as long as we’re alive, we’ve got options, and we can change our trajectory. We just have to made the decision, and strive for the life we want. We’ve got 5 more years until we’re 40… let’s grind these next 5 years out so we can coast when we are older. ✨
My daughter’s bday is in March 🥰. I hope you have a great bday as well! 💙
@@nell_uhh Thank you! Wishing ypur daughter a fabulous birthday as well! And very very wise words! Thankyou for that as well. The time is now, let's GO! 💚✨️
@@nell_uhh I agree 💯
@@Thewrongshoes2dont give up
Got my life together at 34. I'm now 41. Never been happier
How? 😇 pls share your story 🙏🏼
@@mkbriljante sure! Started doing drugs and drinking at about 12 years old. Long story short lived a crazy life for over 20 years. Finally, i got sick and tired of being sick and tired. So on October 11th, 2015...I hit my knees and cried out to God. He heard my cry. A literal weight was lifted off of me that night. Been sober and the start of a different journey since I got off the floor. Not just sober...but a different person altogether. I'm not angry anymore. I'm not jealous. I love life. I went to college and got a degree in substance abuse counseling. It took God to straighten me out. I was a mess.
@@billymadison4903 hope you stay blessed, love that brief story 🙏
@@Leonidas037 thank you! Same to you!
That’s right success is so individual
There's been people who got their life together even at 40 and 50, so it's really never late to change it!
I'd say you're wrong especially in today's society.
@@nocause5395 I definetly disagree. The average age of an author for their breakout book is 36.
@@TheSlickmicks How many authors out of millions make it? Let's be real, the numbers don't add up. You're more than likely to fail the later you change than you are to succeed and that's just a fact. Could it happen, sure. Is it likely, no, statistically
@FuckOuttaHere nope, it's possible for most people, the ONLY thing you have to have is will and determination to do it, from then you can gather everything else
@@nocause5395 In today's society men are at their top earning years from 40-60.
I was poor most of my life - had a great opportunity in my late 30s and eventually got my career going. Never too late!
🙂🙂🙂👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💪🏾💪🏾♥️🙏🏾!!!
NEVA!!…… FUCK what “THEY” gotta SAY!
Never to late for anything,people,the only time is when you're in the grave.
What would have happened if you never got the opportunity in your career? Do you even think you would be where you are today?!!
Gives me hope, thanks!
@@donaldlyons17 But they did. And they are. Gahhdamn. The point is to try. Majority of people just give up and accept their fate. Didn't get the job? Try again. And again.
¡Gracias!
Absolutely true! At 35 I quit drinking, smoking, and completely wasting my potential at a factory job where I'd worked for 10 years and where the last day of work was almost identical to the first. I threw that whole life away and made a big break - not necessarily a clean break but a big, dramatic break. My friends who wanted me to hang out with them and stay drunk were angry and the friends I had who wanted the best for me understood my leaving. I left town. I left everyone. I hit reset.
I started out with only the money I could make in busking (which is no more and no less than hustling with a guitar) and odd jobs. But I lived cheap with no need for alcohol, tobacco, and other ludicrous expenses. I bought ten big notebooks, a Parker fountain pen, and started writing. I read James Clear's 'Atomic Habits'. I began waking up at 4 A.M. and running every other morning. I started a study routine. I began making a new, tiny circle of friends who were trying to make their own lives better. I read, diligently, the works of great people of the past. I still do all this on a daily basis and it costs nothing.
Now I have new problems but they are the problems of a person progressing, of a person getting better. I am 36 - a year has passed - and I don't recognize myself. I have my own business now and it is growing every day. I was homeless then and my prospects were shrinking every night. I just assumed I was too old to change.
What is your business in? How did you change so drastically in one year?
@@TheFxEditor I do repair work, painting, and installations on residential properties. Most of my "work" time is spent networking and advertising. A lesson I had to learn quickly was that not everyone is my customer. I only do the highest paying clients now in the richest part of town (unless it is an elderly person, for example, who really does need an urgent job done - then I'll help them out).
I managed to change so drastically because of what I've cut out of my life. I had just as much time then as I do now but I wasted every minutes of it proactively. I saw free time as something needing to be filled up. What I've realized is that the progress I'm making now isn't all that amazing - It's the progress I would have been making all along if I didn't have all the obstacles I'd placed in my own way. For example: a year ago if I'd done a small repair job and made, say, $1,000 I would let the news out to my friends. They'd be knocking on my bedroom door within 20 minutes asking where the party's at. It might seem like a stupid problem but that kind of mindset was holding me back.
In short: I've cut out all the time-wasting (and it was almost all time-wasting) and I started treating my hours as sacred.
From men we tend to come into our own around our mid 30s. The sooner the better most definitely but once the 30s come creeping in it's like there's an inexplicable paradigm shift that unlocks the drive to do more and become better. For those who aren't frittering their lives away on useless habits that is.
ho w much money
@@ElliotBrownJingles 20 k a month is a lot be content🙏🏼 resd the Bible now g time to secure ur eternal life
I just turned 30 and am making the changes that needed to be made. Started the changes around 28. I now have a great circle of friends, im about to get my own place, and my career is on an upwards trajectory. Anyone reading this, you can do it.
What did you start working and focusing on when initiating the change?
Thank you
God bless man, happy for you :)
@@benjaminpayne6355 2 big things. reliability, prioritization.
Reliability is time management. showing up to work early, doing things when you said you would, communication, consistency. I focused on improving each of those as the opportunities to came. Hold yourself accountable to those things, and hold those around you to them as well.
Second was prioritization and this will always be an ongoing thing. I wasted my time on a lot of things that dont help me at all. I would say i didnt have time to cook or work out, but would come home and doom scroll reddit and youtube for 4.5 hours before going to bed bored. If its not benefiting me, it goes. You wouldnt believe how much time you have to accomplish things until you start removing things.
@@MsabResearch thanks!
I'm mid 30's now and practically threw away my entire 20's due to depression. I never had help with it. Currently I'm definitely a lot more confident and decided to focus on coding myself to earn a better living. Wish me luck folks 🙏 😅
I turn 33 in the fall. I also spent all of my 20s in a deep depression. Good luck with your aspirations! 🍀 You can do this 💪
You got this brother!...
You’ve got this 💪🏼♥️
Don't let nobody tell you that you can't do iT! MICHAEL you can DO IT!!
Dont rush during your journey
You could find yourself getting stuck and doubting your abilities and you never want that
Itll stall your journey even more
I'm 25 years old, and I've messed up a lot until now. I didn't finish college, stopped attending classes, and at times, I've even thought that my life is beyond repair.
relatable, 26 here but same, and dunno what job to get now if i can get any
Almost 24 and this is abt to be me. But im willing to work retail for now but no one is hiring. Idk what to do but im trying to think of something. Also not going back to school b/c I can’t afford to put myself through it anymore
I wen't back and finished high school at 29, took 3 years. Now, at 35, just graduating university, keep at it bro, make your brothers proud. We believe in you.
all the best to you, you still have time and will figure it out! You got this!
As OLP says life is waiting for you, it’s all messed up but we service.
I am a 38 year old Doordasher, living back with my parents right now. Most days I don't believe that life can get better, or that I will ever amount to anything more, but still I wake up at 5 am EVERY DAY, and I get on my computer, and I try to figure out what I'm doing in this life. I haven't seen the fruits of my labor, and don't even think I am close to that light at the end of the tunnel. But I will keep trying until the day I die, and I thank you for your video, and some MUCH needed positive reinforcement today. Again, thank you so much!
You're the man goodluck to you lad
Everything will definitely get better for you, because you want to keep trying, and that's the key - your choice of direction in life. Good luck with all the things you plan to do or the things you're doing right now! Just a bit of support from a stranger ❤️✨
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Life is not a race, as you mentioned you are almost there. Focus on the end of that tunnel and you'll for sure get there! Wishing you the best!
Great attitude my friend. I'm 33 and living at home currently too. Figuring out where I'm supposed to be, as well. We are all gonna make it. Keep grinding my man
30 was my wake up call.
Me at 29- no driver's license, no money, lived in my moms house.
Me at 31- got my license, got a really good paying job and now own my own home.
It can be done. You just need the motivation.
That is excellent, Drake! I'm mega proud of you.
You went from no money to owning your own house in 2 years? LMAO 😂😭👍👍
@@BEATmyguest31 Covid worked in my favor heavily.
Just turned 29 and am in the exact same place you were. Hope I can start to turn things around soon...
@@BEATmyguest31 maybe got a cosigner 😂😂
Man, this comment section is awesome. It makes you realize that the real world looks much different than what you see on social media. I also only started learning to code 1 month before turning 27 (exactly 5 years ago)
Very true. Just found your channel and it seems to be having some interesting content for me, thanks for sharing :)
and how did it go? are you a programmer now ?
@@catarctic thanks bro
@@wipidipipaku yes I am
Brother, I appreciate you putting this video out into the universe. I’m 34 years old and I’m at the lowest point of my life. I’ve been a plumber and struggling musician for the last 10 years of my life and neither one of them have gotten me where I want to be. I’ve been spending the last month of my life trying to figure it out and get back on track after losing my girlfriend of 3 years, then my job and house. I’m now to a point where I’ve exhausted all of my savings and just looking for answers. But thank you for putting this out there🙏🏼
I’m so sorry to hear what happen to you. I hope you find what you’re looking for.
Im in the same place Brandon. Ngl im kinda scared. January i wont be able to make rent or major bills. Time is up now.
You can do it. Things will get better!!! ❤
@MrNecryptic this is the case for many. Many countries system is corrupt and getting worse. Just time to change our approaches. Look at what you do have (ability to learn or other advantages) and focus on working to your advantage. ❤
WOW bro its crazy you say this bc i want to be your profession! (become plumber, learn instrument) I have no skills I will be 24 in 2 months, but want to get to where you are, but you feel like going elsewhere. funny how life works
I'm 34 and a late bloomer. All good things started happening to me after 30. I moved out, my salary increased, started working on myself both mentally, spiritually and physically and I just generally felt MUCH better - more confident, at peace with myself, stopped giving f*cks about lot of things and people, became more outspoken, set boundaries, realized tons of things about life and it just keeps getting better. Now I'm planning to learn how to ride a motorcycle 😂 I'm just living and trying to keep life interesting without any pressure, grand expectations or great goals. Of course we all have ups and downs in life, no matter the age, but the older you get, the less you are stressed about it because you know, this too shall pass.
💫 that helped me get through everything that one saying” this too shall pass “
Exactly. I am 26 and was trying to get into my university of first choice since I was 19. After 7 years I finally made it and in 4 years I will graduate and find a good paying job, get my own place and things can only get better. I am a late bloomer too so I get your situation exactly. God bless!
You moved out? Of what? Your parent's? I wish I could imagine having parents that didn't use me as slave labor and kicked me out at 18.
You'll probably be better of learning to ride now than in your 20s. I'm fortunate that I lived through those adrenaline filled rides at 3 digit speeds. It's an amazing hobby. Get lessons and gear. Don't worry about your first bike, if your really enjoy the sport it will definitely not be your last
Reading this was incredibly inspiring. I'm 26 and feel like I've wasted so much time. Reading comments like yours just makes me feel so hopeful. This is why it's so important to get out of our heads and actually speak to people. I get no one wants to feel ashamed but look at the same space here in the comments?! Love it!
I was in a severe car accident when I was 20. Almost died. Lost my fiance in the wreck. I'm 35 and I'm just now getting physically and mentally stable enough to start to get my life together. Thank you for reminding me that I can still get my life together. Further proof to never give up.
I’m so sorry for your loss
You've got this!
What a terrible thing to go through right at the age when we’re “supposed” to be getting our lives together and enjoying the best years of our lives. I can relate although my story is different. I’m happy you’re finally starting to feel better.
True inspiration bro🥹🫡
Sorry for your loss god bless you 🙏🏿
I was depressed as hell in my twenties, just turned 30 a couple months ago. Joining a group fitness gym changed everything for me. You will do nothing but sharpen your memory & communication skills as well as gain confidence & obtain a healthy habit. Trust me. I've never felt so alive or young. Life is good.
I WASN'T depressed, and the gym STILL helped me a lot. It got me away from playing video games too much.
Agreed. The values that a gym provides is very significant.
I was making $35k at 35. Now at 40, I am making $150k, own a home and have a kid on the way. Its hard when you are in the thick of being at rock bottom to believe life can turn around, but it absolutely can. You just have to have a concrete methodical plan and be patient. Cut out all destructive friends, addictions, etc and get your health, spending and daily routine straight. The most important thing is to keep learning the skills and knowledge you need to get to where you want to be.
I hope I can have a turn out like this.
@@daks8888I acknowledge I am very lucky and won't claim it was easy or that it is guaranteed but you definitely can increase the probability of good things happening to you if you set yourself up for success
Just curious brother..what do you do for living?..and what plan changed your life when you were earning 35k?
@@daks8888nothing is guaranteed and I am no doubt very lucky, but making a plan and following through will at least make your life better in some way.
@@sohelkumarsamantaray973 I am in marketing. I quit my job, took some certification courses (which in actually were practically useless but were good to help get my foot in the door) and then started at a low level role in the career field I wanted. I hopped jobs every 1.5 years, which is going to increase your salary faster initially than staying at a place working towards a promotion.
Some of us lost our childhoods and a good portion of our 20s to trauma, abuse, mental illness, or some combination of the above. This is our time to truly shine, it's never too late.
real shit
This 😭
Nah, as someone in my 40s I can tell you, it IS TOO LATE to get your life together in your 30s... It just simply is too late lol. You are 31, like ok good, 32, yeh no problem, 33 still fine! 35 pfff easy, 38 nah I am young! 39 and... hmmm shouldn't I have like 3 kids going to school by now....? lol... Too late for love, for family, for children, for carieer change, for everything. Why? Cause at 40s you will be in fkin pain most of of the time, tired, exhausted, bored and you will just give up. And datng a 30 year old is a nightmare.... everyoe is divorced, weird or with kids and debt lmao...
@@memfis3858 No, it's not too late. You just gave up.
@@SimilyYT Of course. There is no reason to start a family or a new life after 40s lol. You can't even enjoy that. I know some ppl can be happy just cause sun shines, well, some ppl can't. That's how it is. There is "oooh you can be who you want" or "oooh you can fulfill your dream just don't give up" or "uuu life is so beautifull" lol. It doesn't work for everyone. Actualy, I have never a person who managed to have a happy life lol. We all just go to work every day, eat, sleep and then die lmao. So why bother anyway? And after 40, 50, you are just not so sharp anymore, you have pain, sickness, you will fall asleep on your dreamy trip around the world lol... So ya, if you didn't travel around the world in your 30s, you probably never will lol... all other dreams- just the same situation.
I worked my ass off during my 20s, graduated in the top of my class in college, then my entire family died and I've been struggling ever since. I try to find things that make me feel like it's not too late.
Stay strong. As the author of the clip said, and other people in some comments, it's truly never too late. You can be in the worst position in the world but you can always move forward. As long as you move forward you'll feel better and you'll realise there are actually more opportunities than you thought.
Sometimes you just have to fight and you can't let yourself go.
Damn. Sometimes life straight up gives you a friendly smile, puts its hand on your shoulder & then sucker punches you right up the guts into the bottom of your lungs knocking the air right out of you, dropping you to your knees & walks away giggling. The question is what do you do from there?
Get lost in your own head, daily bad habits & stop taking care of yourself?
Or do you decide right now, RIGHT NOW, I'm taking control & going to be proactive, not reactive, & start to create good habits & set goals beginning today.
And if the weight of the loss is too much, ask yourself, what would my loved ones say to me? What would they want me to do?
Live your best for them.
Entire family died? Like all at once? I’m so sorry that sounds like a lot for a 20 something to deal with. I hope you feel better soon
I'm so sorry
i wish you the best!!! you are a great girl and u will find happines!!!
Just got accepted into medical school. I'm 33 years of age. Many of the expectations that we enforce upon ourselves are due to a social clock. The truth is that we're all on our own, unique journey.
Good job bro that made me feel so much better.
I Start Medicina at 30 and also feel old
You got this!
Congratulations!
Best of luck
Thank you for this video, first of all because I am 37 years old and really want to change my career , leave successful family business and do the thing that interests me, secondly because you mentioned that it took 1 year for you to learn coding, Its 1.5 week I started python, and for this time I could cover only 2 chapters...its quite challenging but I aint stopping. TH-cam is full of videos like : "I was totally newbie and learnt coding in 1 month" .... it's so disappointing and stressing for people like me. Thank you once again for sharing your experience. I would say I dint have fun in my 20 's, when my friends were having fun I was really working hard, without day offs or holidays and I am so tired now,. I do hope people like me, who face some challenges will see this video and recharge themselves. Good luck mate
I haven't lived life the best part of my 20's after losing my brother to suicide. It's my 30th today. Here's hoping for a brighter future. Thansk for your video!
That's really tough man. Make your brother proud.
@@BrokenG-String Thanks man I really appreciate it:)
all the bestfor your future
@@topg2820 Appreciate the comments guys truly thank you :)
Good luck man, I'm cheering for you
I’m 29 and I’m terrified of turning 30 and having accomplished nothing but this gave me hope and encouraged me greatly. Thank you, brother. I’m glad you’re doing well now!
well sweetie im 59 be 60 next yr thats scary for me lol
You're not alone man.
Hey Rob. I am feeling the same. And I feel like I'm going to have a meltdown from the pressure after not achieving much in my 20s.
Feel the exact same way bro. I’m 28 about to turn 29 next yr in February and I literally have accomplished nothing adulthood wise ever since I graduated college 3 yrs ago. Despite that I’m still finding ways to enjoy life to the fullest so hang in there
Honestly same
I'm 29 , 30 in month and been struggling with the fact that I don't have my life together. Today is day 1 of trying to improve my life and this is the best video and best advice I have received . Thank you so much ❤️
Reminder to keep going. 🙏🏻 You can do it.
All the best, I'm 23 and I'm just starting my journey.
Cheering you on! Going thru the same feeling, i turn 30 in January & procrastinated ALOT. and two days ago was like a switch flipped. We ultimately do decide what our next move is even if it’s difficult, but choosing to take action is the first step. :)
@@beeperez444 wow thank you for this 🙆
Sis... you can do it I support ya
I’m 29 and starting my coding journey. Thanks for this. Same boat I’ll come back here every month and update everyone on my journey
The thing with life is that you may or may not get your life "together" before 30. If you did manage to get it together by 30, there's no guarantee that it'll last. You could lose it at any moment. The most difficult part is to accept this fact and work on yourself regardless. Like for me, I had a decent job and was doing fine till a year ago. Everyone including me thought that I had it together. Then the pandemic and other bunch of stuff all came together and wrecked everything. Now, I'm starting from the ground up again. It sucks but meh such is life.
such is life
Such, is.
@@marcelopena3537 life.
I feel like there's a bit of a blessing in disguise in struggling in your 20s and getting it together after 30. I envied a lot of my friends as I went through my 20s because they were so way ahead of me, but nowadays I see them either being stagnant or panicking over losing something that I'd consider "convenience" rather than necessities. After all, if you've been struggling, the worst you can lose is your life and limb. If you had a successful career and lost it, you probably don't even know/want/can't downgrade towards waiting tables or working retail. It's made even worse by how much our lives are usually lived through debt.
The Buddhists get it right. It’s not about what happens to you. It’s how you deal with what happens to you.
I’m 31. I lost my 20’s to depression, isolation, and anxiety. Recently discovered I have avoidant personality disorder, and now the course of my life makes so much sense and I feel I have a starting point for change
Same 💯 but now i am doing much better
Actually have the same story 31, played games and isolated myself, and just met with a therapist about Avoidant personality disorder
Oh shit me too but mix in some failed relationships that kept me complicit for large chunks at a time.
I too now know I have depression and avoidant personality. It's been a powerful tool just knowing what your fighting. I'm now educating myself in pharmacology
This sounds just like me! I haven't diagnosed yet, planning on seeking help soon but I may have the same disorder. I completely isolated myself and now in late 30's it feels absolutely hopeless.
What kind of job do you have?? I’m struggling between finding a job and finding the right job. I dread everyone.
I absolutely blew my 20s. Made a lot of money, spent it all on drugs and booze. Lost everything. Had to start over. I'm 2 years sober and turned 34 yesterday. Thanks for the video.
Still you had some life and good vibes in your 20s. I have nothing, it's full of loneliness and severe depression with an empty pocket. I never know how a normal life in 20s feels like. Because i never had
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I’m in the same boat as you were OP. I’ve been clean for a few months now staying at my moms. Trying to figure out what I want to do with the rest of my life.. don’t have any college completed but would consider going back to school . any advice in general?
Awesome!!
Sounds so familiar. Got money from crypto, put all into drugs and booze, got into bad bad relationships with evil people (this one fuckin girl dude, shes the worst). Im 28, started putting the puzzles together again, like 6 days sober, but by God bro, i swear we are all gonna make it.
I feel like everybody that feels like they wasted their 20's due to depression or other issues needs to take a second to mentally forgive themselves for those years to be able to move forward without all the guilt and extra baggage
Some of us are now getting help after the fact, but I guess it's better late than never. Wish I could have gotten a diagnosis for my mental health before my 20s but I'm doing better now in my 30s. :)
Maybe it's easy like this for neurotypical people but for me it's a constant struggle. I can't just "take a second", forgive myself and done, everything magically changes for better. In every single moment I would have to be aware of my true priorities in life. It's impossible, it will always be.
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Beautiful and very true
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Im 27 and trying a different job and felt like i was job hopping a lot and i feel so insecure, but wasnt lazy i was just lost and unsure of what i wanted and i never listened to myself. Now that i went to therapy it helped me understand that i should just do what i enjoy rather listen to other people or compare myself. Now im going back to school to be an a LPN (practical nurse)
Do you enjoy being a nurse?
I'm 37. I think when you are in your teens or your twenties time seems to go very slowly. Chaging your habits to develop new skills for a couple of years seems like an overwhelming task. In your 30s you realize that 3-5 years is a blink of an eye. You can take that time to develop new skills and completely change the direction of your life.
So true.
Also, that time is gonna pass by anyway! Idk why something so small never dawned on me until recently, but I struggled with this when thinking about how daunting going to college for 4 years would be. If those years will pass by no matter what, why not have something to show for it at the end of them?
Dude, I'm 22 and the last 5 years went by so fast. Life was slow as a kid and a teenager but now life is going by in the blink of an eye. It makes me really appreciate the phrase "Life is short". It really is.
@@KD.... Strap in! It's getting faster. 😆
Thats so true mate. I'm 31 now but in my 20s, time went so slow, and you always thought you have enough time to do all the shit you wanna do but in reality, we have no idea wtf we are supposed to do and waste it all on fun and games, now when I reached 30, I actually started to think straight and more serious than before, sometimes get to think like, if I only had this way of thinking back when I was younger.
this guy has so many skills, be a doctor, astranout, nurse, teacher, student, and now motivator ...respect to this guy
I think you got the wrong guy there, but who knows what he is doing on the late hours lol
@@DenerWitt i think you missed the joke, the guy looks a lot like a porn star that plays a lot of different roles and thats what OP is saying by all the different skills haha
@@DenerWitt R/ woooosh
you forgot plumber
I think he was also a cop, firefighter, pro goalkeeper
In my experience, it really just takes about 5 years at any point in your life to completey change your tragectory. Just work towards ANYTHING for a solid few years and you'd be surprised where you come out on the otherside.
5 years for the results, very true.
But you could realistically completely change yourself in 6 months. You could lose 50 pounds, or get jacked or train for a marathon if committed. You could start on a new career/ moneymaking path. Get a girlfriend. Develop a lot mentally with conscious practice.
Within 6 months you could actually be unrecognisable both physically and in your mentality compared to 6 months before, if you follow a disciplined path of progression each week. Keep that going and in 5 years you are literally a different human being
This is my plan. I just started working out, and a lot of the things I’m in have about a 5-year time horizon. I want to upgrade my housing by the end of that and be stronger.
Same here. 4.5 years for me
True. 5 years is the average to change the direction of your life. Even marriage need 5 years to stabilize especially on financial and get to know each other better. Me took 6 years to improve/optimize relationship between my wife, kids and financial. However its need knowledge, plan, aware and put effort on it. Otherwise those 5 years will succumb you to abyss, no improvement is not good.
Believe me, 5 years is complete overkill. The amount of stuff that can change in a persons life within just 1 or 2 years is insane. 5 years is only needed when you are completely trying to change your career or when you live in the US/another country where working conditions are so terrible that you need 5 years just to have enough free time.
My heart almost jumped out of my chest when I read the tittle but this video helped me not to see myself as a complete failure. I'm 26 and I haven't done anything with my life because I lost passion for life and the things I used to love. I thought it was depression but yesterday I had my first therapy session and they made me realise that maybe it's all in my head and I just need to change the way I think.
I can relate to your post. I'm in my 30s and started on a career change but got hit with major depression and been working through that. I know when I'm better I'm energetic and ambitious but that side of me isn't back yet. Well done for going for therapy and getting help. You're going to be ok. Like you said, a new perspective can change everything. Taking steps forward no matter how small and trying not to beat yourself up about the past
I was 26 when I started my change. It took many years until I hit 31 before I got my degree and then had to take entry level jobs to build my resume. Life is not an on switch. When you start to get passions you will find it is a dimmer and over 10 years it slowly increases. My passion was to prove people wrong that I was a loser who with ADHD was restarted when I was 26. It fueled me and I went to a community college to take just 2 courses I would enjoy. I get straight A's! Those credits are transferable to a state university btw. I worked crappy side hustles and kept at it with school and kept going and going. You can do it. I proved my naysayers wrong.
Maybe if that doesn't motivate you find something else. Win at something! Do you love cars? Take a mechanic cert program with several courses and work at a corvette dealership. Love fashion? Go take art courses and apply after 2 years to a fasion institute. You get the picture
**Success at Any Stage:** Success is subjective and can be achieved at any stage of life. Whether it's personal fulfillment, professional accomplishments, meaningful relationships, or other forms of achievement, success is not restricted by age but rather by dedication, effort, and resilience.
I didn't party, do drugs or got lazy in my 20s. I actually worked and did everything I was told but nothing came out of it...
Yeah that's very common too. You do everything right, work hard, stay disciplined and yet, you're not getting ahead. In fact maybe you overwork yourself, pushing too hard, breaking yourself down, thinking that this will be the way to get rich and make it! Bit really you just try too hard, overwork, lose relationships, miss out on life itself, caught up in the rat race. "Working more hours, to buy things you don't need, to impress people you don't like."
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Doing what's right is the bare minimum standard. You participated, and got a participation trophy out of it. Don't really know what else you expected. Success is not for everyone, there has to be losers like you out there to give meaning to the word "success." If everyone was successful, then nobody would be.
@@conservativelogic7028 XD
You believed the lie humans have been sold for the past few centuries.
I think having some patience really goes a long way. A lot of people want things now and overestimate what they can do in 6-12 months but they underestimate what they can do in 5-10 years.
Ive learned its better to underestimate, rather than overestimate. The times I underestimated, I ended up accomplishing more than I intended. When I overestimated, I always ended up short.
Because there are many "inspirational positive" post of "super successful" people achieving something big in few years or even few months.
Yes, people don’t understand the time and effort put into accomplishing these things. Some people it’s takes less time but that is only because of their environment most of the time. They are around the right resources or have the right support.
Getting your life on track and having ADHD is very hard.... especially if you don't take the medicine like I don't.
And the time it take thinking about it....u cudnve already finished it.
I'm 52, I decided to go back to Uni, the struggle is real, but the challenge of learning & the sense of purpose, has given me a new zest for "EVERYTHING"
Never too late
strong message full of encouragement, love from Uganda from a 39yrs Java developer student
I'm 28 and have been struggling with getting my life together. I just started learning coding a couple months ago and every time I see people talk about where they started learning coding I get discouraged when they say they started in their teens or early 20s. I start feeling like I'm starting too late to learn. I'm glad I watched this video it made me feel more confident about learning now.
Started to learn code at 45 and gave up. Was hard to sit in a chair coding when I worked on my feet my whole life. My wife and I started a Health Care business that has become rather successful. When I think about my coding endeavor it makes me giggle. At 28 your at your prime! You got this bro! Remember, the money you work hard for, try to save as much as possible. That saved us from ruin in 2020. My buddies who financed big houses, cars, boats where all screwed when they lost their jobs. We lived modestly with only our house affordably financed. I was able to take some time to find the next path and had money to invest in whatever endeavor. My foolish friends are now mostly working jobs that would make me want to DIVE OFF A CLIFF...lol...really not funny though...
@@jaycarl1562 Watching this video and reading ur comment honestly made me feel better. Because even as a 16 year old, I'm always being put down and told by everyone that my future is gone, there's no hope for me. All cuz I have a GPA of 2.8. I know my context is a bit different in this case but knowing that there's hope makes me feel better.
My friend taught himself to code at 30. In 9 months. At the time he already had 3 boys. Now he works for Google! And that was 2 years ago…
@@ToroTechie Life is just to be enjoyed, money and career is just to gain the ability to afford the essentials, live more comfortably, and more readily be able to enjoy life. Don't need a ton of money or anything really as long as you enjoy the life you are living and sustain it. Anything extra is just a means to more easily enjoy it. People get too caught up in "what you should do" or competing to be better, but really that is not important unless you are competitive driven and enjoy that anyways. Just my view point, everyone dies anyway. Don't matter if you are extremely rich or have a great job. Just that you enjoyed what you had and appreciated it. Many in such positions are stressed and dreadful because of the pressure and sacrifices to reach and maintain such positions unless they are lucky. Sure they don't worry for money, but everything has it's own problems.
Robots and AI will replace coders soon....automation is going to destroy tens of millions of jobs. Id say by 2030
It took me until my 40s to “get my life together”, and this was after decades of “doing all the right things” beforehand. It literally took decades before I could finally find the right opportunities. Decades of getting educated with multiple “useful” degrees, staying out of debt, drinking, drugs, and finding the right relationship eventually. It still took decades. So even when you “do everything right” for decades, it doesn’t guarantee anything. Luck and being in the “right demographic” unfortunately both play a big part. Both of those things were not necessarily on my side.
Not saying you aren't an attractive person, but looks pay a HUGE part in what opportunities you have in life. Other peoples perceptions will change of you if you're ugly, and your own lack of self confidence will hold you back as well.
@@JasonEllingsworth That´s playing in hard mode
You're right, i also studied and didn't worked for me, it's more important to know how to make good relationships in the job to make people not hate you
@@dantenage9687 honestly, it's more about having the right family contacts, skin colour, the right dangly bits between your legs, privilege and nepotism far more than it is about individual charisma, intelligence or even competence. It's a total myth that we live in a meritocratic society. Decades of "doing everything right" has taught me that.
@@Gubers they still all have to work anywhere from 4-10x as hard to get half as far as cishet yt men who probably often just got legacy admissions to top universities without ever really having to work too hard. It seems you've missed that fact, probably because you haven't lived it.
And btw many of those kids of immigrants you speak of ARE Americans (or Canadians or whatever) and are part of the domestic born population. They still have to work way harder than the demographics who have it way easier by virtue of things they never had to work for.
Let's put it this way: if a person of colour (regardless of where they were born - btw something that's never questioned of yt people), especially a woman or non-binary person of colour with a disability spent years on drugs, dropped out of school or made the kind of life mistakes the person making this video is talking about, there's absolutely no way that society would even give them a chance to "pull themselves up by their bootstraps" - a nonsensical notion in the first place. They'd have no way "coming back". We're not even allowed to make mistakes. Not a single one.
A cishet yt man who made the same decisions and worked as hard as I have done in my life would be far more statistically likely to be in a completely different (i.e. more successful) place in life, instead of merely middle class.
I so needed this. I did well in school and college, but due to grief and depression wasted so many years not putting in any effort into my future. I was a divorced single mother to 4 children by the time I was 28, and only now at the age of 39 I'm putting myself first. I've finally finished my business degree and I'm on my way to better employment. It's never too late so don't give up guys!!!!
Learning to code after 30 is no small feat,
and you've not only mastered it but also inspired many
well done
31 now, thanks for giving me some ideas! I didn't ruin my life in any illegal way but I did procrastinate and is constantly full of self-doubt.
Same lol 31
Same. Hopefully things get better for our generation.
Lots of 31 year old samessss lol but yeah same ✌🏼
Same boat
same 33 next month
Grew up fatherless, mother was hardly there either. Hated by my siblings, extended family was largely indifferent. Had to piece my life together and teach myself everything.
Just hit 30 and I’m pretty much looking at a life wasted on depression, issues with childhood trauma and little accomplished.
I really needed to hear this. I’m trying to apply for law schools this year and I really needed to hear this. Thank you.
You taught yourself everything, essentially raising yourself. Not really wasting time, even if it feels like that.
Went through something similar!! Very dysfunctional family, had addicts and violent parents we were seperated from. They never cared to takes us back and do better. Social services failed us!!! Lived with family members we were neglected and always fend for ourselves. I never was a normal kid, always kept to myself. Couldnt keep friendships or relationships due to traumas, lack of confidence or trust. Wasted many years just trying to survive, not doing much.
Fingers crossed youll succeed!!
Good luck, don’t quit
I think for our generation the 20s are the like the new “teen years” with more freedom of choice, which makes us confused and lost. For the previous generation, you had a house and a family at 25. You had maybe 4 options of career. Now it’s like 30s are the new 20s. Money also changed its value. We have to explore more in search of a direction. I’m soon to get into my 30s and feel a lot more grounded. 20s was a mess struggling with undiagnosed depression and adhd. Went to study electrical engineering at 20 without having any clue of the work it takes. Still studying for that Bsc, for almost a decade, which takes regularly 4 years. But now at 29 it’s the first time I cope with my problems. Learnt a lot during those lost years. Stabilized after a few setbacks with a long term relationship and friends I met because of those lost years. Learnt to set boundaries for myself and others. Maybe not academic achievements and financial security, but I gained a lot in my 20s. We need to reframe our definitions for success and value in life.
Yessssss this
Yes! So many people think financial security means you have your life together. Ive learned being the same age that no one really has their life together even if it appears so
@@mitzismith_scentslikehome9893 If I had ten million dollars, all of my problems would disappear. I could afford decent lodgings in any city in Europe, find an attractive partner, have all of my health problems treated, and devote my life entirely to work that I enjoy.
The only thing more valuable than money is the grace of God (assuming there is a God).
@@alexhauser5043 Thats a big if. Nobody in this world is without problems. Life happens even if you have alot of money. Maybe you have marital issues, issues with your children, estranged parents, anxiety, depression etc. Money doesnt save you from life happening.
@@mitzismith_scentslikehome9893 Money saves you from the drudgery of the 9-5 grind, from hunger, from exposure to the elements, from chronic pain and illness, from sexlessness - in brief, from (real) pain.
I won't die of a broken heart or because mommy didn't hug me often enough.
Thank you for this video! I am in my late 30s. I started to change my life 3 years ago when I decided to go to a film academy after I wasted my whole life playing games moving nowhere and wasting time on worthless things. I had a passion for film my whole life but was too lazy to do anything. My biggest enemy was laziness and I am finally coping with my enemy. Thank you for this video because it is true what you say. it is hard and I need it to watch this to remind me to go forward.
age should not be a defining factor in determining a person's worth
I dropped out of high school and spent a couple years scrubbing toilets at Taco Bell before I realized I needed to come up with some sort of plan for life. It is never too late to regain control over your life, and I'm so grateful you did. Thank you for being so open and for sharing your journey so unflinchingly. It's a big inspiration to me and many other people in the developer community.
Wait, I know you...
Hol up, you the one who emails me regularly about coding. Thanks yo
Your newsLetter is the shit. Keep it up!
what a legend, thank you
Wait... You must be the free code camp guy!!! Wow very inspiring!!!
I've got a friend who spent his 20s and much of his 30s playing in bands that went nowhere. In his late 30s he started a masters in computer programming, now he's earning a fortune.
has he a degree or a previous knowledge of the field?
@@talentnetwork7275 he started a masters - masters comes after a BA, BA is first degree, so yeah that person has the second degree in Computer sceince(Masters in cs)
@@filmbuffoon If you showed enough aptitude and knowledge, it's possible. Ed Witten went from a history degree straight into postgraduate physics. Although Ed Witten is a genius.
Is he happy?
Gives me hope I'm almost 40 I squandered my prime years lesson learned. Working to turn my life around sometimes its gets discouraging once you start getting older. As a kid I used to think when I saw people 40 plus why are they stuck in the same position. Well now I understand alot more we all have our reasons, sometimes you gotta learn the hard way. But if you're still breathing and have all your senses then get it together before you get too old to do so. Best of luck to everyone who are very late bloomers!
From Sunscreen by Baz Luhrmann:
“Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t.”
I’m 50 in 3 weeks. If I knew what I wanted to be when I grow up I’d be doing it by now. But I’m happy with my life.
Thanks for bring me back that! I just love it! "For as the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young" and the part "get to know your parents" just break me. But trust me on the sunscreen! ( and the floss thing, guys, take care of your tooth! Is painfull and very expensive when you don't) by the way , the author is Mary Schmich "Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young" is the original text name
I'm 33 and turning 34 in a month or so. My life is absolutely miserable, i did everything wrong and closed myself hard to everything for the last 10 years or so. Never finished anything i did and now i'm in the middle of a serious anxiety disorder, fear of death, of where i am, of my parents dying. Its rough, but i'm trying hard to learn coding, got into a psychiatrist, a psychologist. God thiis is rough and i never though a video in the internet would be something that help me, even if just a bit. But thank you.
keep pushing man. the human spirit is indomitable
it gets better but its hard hope you get this
Success is subjective
Im 30 right now. Living at my moms house struggling with depression and finding a job. Some days i struggle to even get out of bed. I myself blew my entire 20s and sometimes feel like its over. Im happy I came across this video.
I’m 33 just be glad you didn’t end up addicted to heroin
Where ur father
@@papoopse100 do you even know yours ? 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@sanaaniz OFCOUSRE MY MOTHER GOT A DNA TEST WHEN I WAS BORN 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
Glad i'm not the only one. Stay strong my friend. ❤️
Dropped out of high school due to social anxiety, spent my 20s drinking, smoking and working minimum wage. Now in my 30s, studying engineering and science at university and crushing it.
Love it! Don't stop winning!
@@hanfei6871 don't stop winning?
Awesome 💫
Yessss
This is me.. I struggle with social anxiety every day. I turned 30 back in April, and I’m gonna be going back to school. I have so many things I want to get done & accomplished. So glad I am deciding now is the time. ❤
I’m 22 right now and already feeling like a failure. There’s so much social pressure these days and it seems like everybody has it all figured out. But this video is so encouraging. Thank you. I have hope
The first lesson in adulthood is realizing that NOBODY has it figured out. "Success" is just a mask we wear to make others think we know what we're doing when in fact we're all just silly little apes on a dust mote hurdling through infinite space trying to make meaning out of it all.
Those who seem like they have it figured out- are trying to fool you. And it's working.
I'm also 22. I've always felt pretty bad about myself because it seems like I'm so far behind everyone else. I haven't learned how to drive yet, let alone got my license. I haven't graduated high school. I don't really have a lot of knowledge about life. I haven't been in a relationship yet. But I realized that life isn't a competition. Everyone moves at there own rate. As long as I accomplish the things I need to it doesn't matter if I'm a few years behind others, and I've realized more than ever that I'm not the only one in my position and I have time to do the things that i need to get done, but I also have to stop procrastinating.
No one has anything figured out. Life is a time spent pretending to have things figured out when no one really knows why they're doing anything when you dig deep enough into their motivation. Often times the root of most motivation really is as shallow as- "because I want more money to be happy and stress-free." This is a naive mindset. I'm 21.
@@KD.... I'm 29 and haven't got my license or finished high school. I don't have a job and I live with my parents... Everyone is somewhere.
I'm 31 as well, soon to be 32. Life absolutely fucked me since birth. Illness, Death and Loneliness was at every corner. Now I'm working odd jobs as well with no particular learned skill. It's good to know I sitll have options left and I'm glad learning to code is the right thing. I just want to "arrive in life". Not turn over every fucking penny.
I hope I can say something else in 1-2 years. Thanks for the vid, Dorian.
@soratamia you got this. 👊
im 30
I'm rooting for ya.
Best of luck. I believe in you ❤️
I started your journey at 31 too. 34 now and finally got my first legit dev job. It is possible.. and I could've done it sooner if I wasn't such a lazy bastard. stay on the grind and start networking now. and don't waste a year on machine learning like I did.
I'm 47 married & father of 2 looking for a career change due to a work related injury. I'm scared shitless, I'm glad I came across your videos, they're a great motivational tool to keep going. I don't know if coding is right for me but I'm willing to give it a go. Thanks for what you do brotha, stay blessed!
Thanks!
This is the content that’s needed, turned 30 in September and studying to become a software dev and change from IT support which I’ve done for 5 years +
Thanks for this Dorian!
Lol same boat. 3 years IT support, now 29. Good luck man!
I mean at least it's not like a Night and day type switch. Ur good
Best of luck!
@@andonir.6320 Same, kings!
IT support is the same as being a System Administration? I'm studying to be a developer as main job and I'm also interested as being a SysAdmin as a secondary job... any opinions?
I spent 30 years of my life doubting myself and thinking I'm not worthy of doing what I want, being happy, making my own choices (had to do with my childhood and type of parenting I received). I went to exactly 2 therapy sessions - and on the first one, the therapist told me I suffer from "learned helplessness". It blew my mind that I'm still acting and feeling as a 10 year old, not doing things because "of course I can't do them... what would my mother/father say? I'm not even gonna try, I'm sure I'd fail anyway".
She told me next time those thoughts come into my mind, I should stop them and say "I dare to do xyz". No matter what it is, don't be afraid to do it, to try it, to fail at it, because the true failure is giving it up before even trying.
I moved halfway across the world, I re-focused on an IT job I was kind of floundering at, I started learning Unreal engine programming and am making my own game. I might fail, but I'll know that just by trying, I've already succeeded in all the ways that count. I dared to be happy, or to at least go for a chance at happiness. It's not easy, but at least now I know that I can try to do different things until I find something that works for me and makes me happy, rather than stay in the same slump and never try.
I listen to John Moyer's work nearly everyday; it is life changing. He has been there too; he is now a professional hypnotist. Highly recommend.
thank you for your honest comment telling your experience. I also suffer from the same "learned helplessness" but wasnt sure how to articulate it until your comment. might have been small, but your comment has helped me reach clarity on it, thank you
It’s never to late!! In my teens and twenties I did drugs, went to jail, hooked up with many many random guys, had kids, and worked as a stripper at dead end clubs. I’m going to turn 40. I now have 6 kids, got my GED, and am working as a high end masseuse at a private parlor! I make A LOT of money serving vip and special clients
The same thought's here. For me the challenge is that I don't know what precisely I should go for and not having stable job or place giving me even more instability with that...
Wow, relatable. I don’t feel like I can do anything, I don’t know what I want and that if I do try I’ll fail. It’s a perfectionist, inexperience and self-esteem issue.
I'm 35 and my youtube channel is finally getting to where I want it to be where I can almost be full time! Eventually I'll be able to make enough to be pretty comfortable financially. But if I could do things over again I would save money, and work on my passion WAY earlier whatever that would of been.
Get a llc start a bss, invest in stock it’s never too late . Ppl are just too comfortable to get to the money
So Mista Cassla, how much money do you make with 158k subscribers??
@@jonplaud Nothing is wrong with him. I looked at his channel and seen how many subscribers he had and wanna know how much his channel brings in.
Same age, I wish I would’ve found my passion in my 20s and worked towards it then. I waited until my 30s but I see the years of experience I missed out on. Definitely
@@jonplaud nobody is complaining, I think you read something wrong somewhere
Im 29 and needed this! My twenties went down hill after dealing with un treated Bi Polar Type 1. I lost everything 5X’s, was Homeless 3 years chasing my dreams in LA. I’m back at my moms with 50k in debt repossessions, f’d Credit, lost everybody, no one wants to be around me because I was a drunk! I’m finally on the right path! Isolated myself for 2 years healing, Meds and therapy and now I feel myself getting back to me! It’s never too late! I wanted to give up so bad but I’ll walk into Thirty stable at least with a debt repayment plan for the next 4 years
I earned a bachelor's degree at 23, a master's degree at 29, was in the emergency room for my back two weeks later, and became homeless at 36 through no fault of my own--simply a lack of responses to my job applications and being told that I can't have Disability because there is no physical reason that I can't do a desk job.
@@Littleredgoon Living on a housing voucher, but still poor and very unwanted.
@@scottandrewhutchins Seems so cruel what you've gone/are going through. Back pain is no joke and the system is so unfair. Hope things turn around for you!
@@officialrivv Most jobs I can physically do demand a college degree in their postings.
@@scottandrewhutchins didn’t you say you have bachelors and masters?
@@alisonl5127 Yeah, but employers don't seem to care.
the problem isn't not having you yourself together in your 20's, its having things fairly ok and being content with that. and when you get to your thirty's, it falls apart at some point and you see it for what it really was.
Right, like feeling you're winning the race when you're actually the last one.
Hell I started from nothing in my twenties and ended in a much better place in life now in my mid thirties. In your twenties everything is messed up because well that's life. We dont know where we are going, what should we have accomplished by that point...but life is moving too fast! You're working jobs you don't like until you find something that's pretty decent and pays more. I had my existential crisis in my twenties so everything is the opposite on my end but I can empathize. Hope y'all feel better.
I struggled a lot in my early and mid twenties. Went back to school at 27 for engineering, graduated at 32, got a good job, now finishing my masters and just turned 35. We got our house last year and have a baby on the way in the next few months. What changed for me was surrounding myself with the right people. Starting with a good mentor and putting aside bad relationships with "friends" and toxic GFs. Surrounding yourself with good people that enable you to be your best self can make a world of difference. Makes it so much easier to challenge yourself to be the best you can be and succeed.
how did you balance school and work full time? I tried this semester and it was impossible, I failed every class.
Do you have college debt?
@@LibbyKay24 I don't, I paid for junior college out of pocket (cheap), then had several grants and scholarships that paid for undergrad. My masters is paid for by my employer
@@Steven-ik6xx it's NOT easy that's for sure and definitely getting harder now at the tail end of the masters. It was helpful that my wife could pick up on tasks to help loosen the slack and was very supportive. Honestly though what really got me through it was I wanted it more than anything. I did not see failing as an option. I scheduled my days in advance with every second of my week planned ahead. I'd ask professors if they could assign homework an extra week in advance so I could get ahead wherever I could, etc. Lots of little tips and tricks but it's mostly a mental game. I'm seeing that now especially since I don't really like grad school and am already making a decent salary doing what I set out to. Mentally it's much more challenging me to force myself through the rough patchs.
Wow brother just like the video you’re an inspiration for me. I’m going back to school at 28 for finance and want to get my masters afterwards, I’m glad I’m not the only one going back a little later in life. Please any advice for help would be good, congrats on all your hard work 👍🏽
Thank you for this video. I'm freshly 33 and still living at home with severe mental health issues, rotting away by playing video games. I'm finally addressing my ptsd and trying to get my life into gear. It's slow going but I've decided I'm going to volunteer to work on my social skills and then want to study. I found this while trying to give myself a pep talk and that I can't give up now even though things feel hopeless. I needed to hear someone else's story and the comments here have been so inspiring. I need to be kinder to myself and know everyone has to start somewhere. Wishing everyone else here lots of luck with getting themselves together for a happy and healthy future. 💚
Wishing you the Success bro 🎈❤
@English_Currentaffairs Thank you 😊 And to you.
Every individual has unique talents
Hey man, good for you! I just wanted to share something with you briefly. I can relate to your story, very much. I'm 37 now and I only got my life together a few years ago. When covid hit I was sitting on the couch, collecting unemployment, and feeling sorry for myself. I started learning audio engineering right here on TH-cam. All free content. I now make a full-time living as a mixing and mastering engineer. Everyone told me I was crazy. This is a really hard job to get into and especially to do successfully. There are people who go to school for this for 5 years that never make it past making coffee and cleaning toilets in studios. I'm my own boss, one of the top providers on the platform I work off of (AirGigs), and I'm making more money than I ever have in my entire life. Just thought I would share this, thanks for sharing your story.
I am so happy for you.
@@stephenodhiambo7556 Appreciate that Stephen, thank you! 🙏🙏
What’s your process for EQing and compressing a vocal track?
@@user-ux1vj9vx7s My process? Sorry, I'm not sure I understand what you mean by process and it really matters what the source material is but typically I highpass to around 120Hz (6 or 12dB per octave), and pull out some mid-range (from around 400Hz - 1.5kHz). Pull out some of the sibilance (I use eq after my first DeEsser so it's not much) and boost some top end. As far as compression I prefer 1176 REV A on most vocals but sometimes and LA-2A is nice as well. A lot more than eq and compression goes into processing vocals tho. I also send all the individual tracks of a group to a buss and do some processing there as well. Tape and console saturation is a big part of my vocal sound as well.
I switched careers late in my 30's from Corrections to IT. I went back to school at 37 for a B.S. in Comp Sci, and started working as a dev and later moved into Cybersecurity. It's been all upward movement and has been great.
Congrats man!
What made you switch from Dev to CyberSecurity? Is it less stressful? Pay more? etc.
I've been for 12 year in IT now. It outsourcing sucks as hell, one project looks the same as other. Money is OK I guess, but I'm stressed all the time from micromanagement
oh hey, iam trying to get into cybersecurity as well. applying to jobs and all that jazz. please let me know if you have any advice
I'd like to talk to you
Depression kicked my ass during my 20's. I'm 33 and about to start doing a cert for nursing assistant then going for nursing after. I spent a good while getting my shit together and now i'm way better than i've ever been. I've gone back to church and got baptised, I'm in the best relationship with a wonderful woman, I'm getting back in shape and have dropped 35lbs in a couple years, got amazing friends.
It's never too late to get yourself together. YOU'VE GOT THIS KINGS AND QUEENS!! NEVER GIVE UP!
I'm 29 making around $200 a month from Nicaragua, learning english and code, living with my parents, feeling like a looser. Rejected in many jobs for not having what's required for the position. I know how it feels, in my case I wasted my twenties trying to be master of all trades, being the ethernal student. But this video really helped me to continue and never give up. Thanks.
Bit late here, but in my 20s got into a terrible accident and almost lost my leg, spend a long time in hospital and rehabilitation. Lots of weight gain, depression, financial issues, but still standing strong. It's never too late, always remain strong and keep moving forward.
Some thing amazing is always around the corner waiting the happen 🙂
I'm 29. For me, I delt with depression a lot in my 20's, because of not having a support system in my family. Until I realized, I was wasting my time trying to get emotional support from my family, I had to find other ways to motivate myself, and it worked ☺️
The same. I'm 29. Just started to heal from depression several months ago. Life is a wonderful thing without depression
I am a 21 year old guy who will be turning 22 this December and I messed up my college life. I am an electronic engineering student and previously I had failed in some subjects in 3rd semester and 5th semester and again in one subject in a 7th semester subject. Thankfully I managed to pass in those previous semester subjects in which I failed but I failed in one of my last semester subject too so I can't even graduate this year and can only write the exam in Feb 2023 and only after passing it, I can get my degree certificate and will graduate. My results were out in August 2022 and I still haven't told about it to my parents about it as I am too scared. I am planning to do my MBA either in my country or even abroad but I am a bit worried because I haven't got my degree certificate yet as I failed in that last semester subject. I wish I could go back in time and tell the 19 year old me to concentrate in studies and not fail in the subjects.
Amen! I am 43, just starting to feel im getting where I want to be and love where life is going. I was the biggest fuck-up in 20s and 30s. It only took a lot of self-work, reflection and improving my self-awareness which helped me identify my issues and address them. Once I removed toxicity from my life, and learned strategies to deal with my issues, meditation and focused on exercising seriously - did I finally start to make progress. Its never too late!
Thanks for posting this. I'm 45 and while I am where I want to be career wise. I keep feeling like there's a lot I haven't done yet with my personal life and that it's too late now. Reading your post makes me realise that I still can fulfill some of the life goals I haven't gotten to yet.
I'm 32 years old, and I damaged my 20s in every way possible.
I smoked 3 packs a day, ate junk food every day , became morbidly obese, got into a huge debt, married the meanest and most selfish girl on the planet, got depressed, got into a job that wasn't for me in the 1st place.
I started waking up when I was 26, I quit smoking,I fixed my diet and dropped my body type from morbidly obese into overweight and still working on it to reach normal weight, I went to high school again, I saved a lot of money and paid off my dept (sometimes I had to sleep hungry) got rid of that toxic partner for good, and now I'm attending an engineering program at college.
I'm so glad for the comments who had their awakening at their 30s. They proved to me that I wasn't alone and lost his twenties.
I just turned 29. After years of depression I decided to change everything. I took an effective therapy, which helped me a lot. Several months ago I started to wake up early, exercise, read books, learn another language, build a relationship, and finally get a job. You can change, but first you must have a deep desire for it. Where there is a will, there is a way
@@ashpenny27 Hey Ashley! First find a therapist who will subscribe an antidepressant for you.
Deep desire is something I don't have in the slightest. I don't believe that a wife, kids, a house... is worth all the hassle.
@@bmsk0076 Everybody has his priorities. Me to don't want a wife and a kids. Instead I focus on my life and my hobbies, smth that is really interesting to me
@@vahangrigoryan768 Glad that things are turning around for you.
I've spent my late teens, 20s and part of my 30s taking care of my father ( Parkinson's disease) He just passed a couple of years ago. I feel like life has just started for me at 38
You have definitly NOT wasted your life!!
You got more strength than half the world.
That is a very admirable thing you did, some people would have just put their ill parent in a nursing home so please don’t put yourself down about it 😢 May God bless you with peace 🙏
May he rest in peace, same happened to my dad this past Purim. Keep on keeping on.
God bless you. God has got you!
Similar story. Was completely lost in my 20s, worked tons of different retail, service and call center jobs into my 30s and began struggling with severe episodes of existential depression. Finally made enough money to go to a coding boot camp and am now 37 and about 1 year into my career as a Python developer. Never going back! 👍
Dude! I’m looking at doing the same thing. 35 and learning to code.
Did you finish the coding camp? Have you started working as a developer?
@@hannahwatkins7992 he did, he's working as a Python Developer!
This was so encouraging man thank you very much. Totally lifted my spirit.
I got my act together at age 34. started community college then cut a bachelor's and just got accepted into med school in Florida. 8 years ago I was drinking All day and sleeping on couches with no driver's license and a 500 credit score. I got a job in sales and saved up for about 2 years, found a niche in society, quit to become a full-time student, took every opportunity I could to study and make money. started lifting weights again and cycling and mountain biking. I had to teach myself proper study habits by using Excel spreadsheets and had to force myself to change pretty much every aspect of my personality but it really wasn't that hard. it's no harder than wasting away on the couch as an alcoholic. I don't know what's wrong with people that tell you it's too late to start doing the right thing and getting things on track.
I understand your point of view. But there are people who struggle with quitting smoking, or cannot go for a Daily 10 minute walk. People are different.
@@jmcoldcreek2080 That's why all it takes is small changes. Just smoke one less cigarette a week. Then a day. Same with walking. Just take 10 extra steps a day. Then 20. Keep working your way up until you're walking that 10 minute walk. Then a 15 minute walk. Then a 20, and so on.
Thank for this. I’m 32 and a recovering alcoholic and I feel so far behind everyone. This is my first semester in college- I’m already overwhelmed but I’m going to do this. I’m also chasing the medical field
I am 36 and I am finally trying to take course to get that next job beyond retail. I am struggling with math.
this is awesome ! You inspire me even though I'm 23
I'm almost crying watching this. I'm turning 30 this year with no direction in my life because I was lost in my 20s, I'm learning a new skill but it's hard af and I continuously doubt myself if I'm doing it right. It's my first time watching your video and thank you for sharing the motivation. I'll get back to work with all my mind bc you made me believe that eventually it will work, every one of us can make it work. Thanks again.
You got this bro✊😊 Stay encouraged
Watch what God will do for you!
@@aaa38388 mhm✊😆 that's right sis.
Keep going fam keep that fire!
Same here bro , gonna turn 30 this year. I dont have any skill, dont know what to learn.
20s is the stage to be lost/depressed/etc as soon as I got to my 30 years I am finally figuring what I want and I am extremely excited for the future. Dont give up💐
I'm in my mid 20s, i never know how a normal life in 20s feels like, because i never had. It's full of loneliness and severe depression with an empty pocket 💀💀
Im 29 and im finally having a bit optimism something i havent had for 10 years
Lucky. I'm 34 and still lost. Even got a bachelor's degree at 25.
How'd you find your vocation? I can't find mine. The things I like (soccer, gym, games) can't really see a career in them...How to discover? 😢
@KnittingPasta me too. I got a bachelor's degree finished age 22. Now age 28 I work as a janitor and I feel like I'm drowning. I'm smart but I can't get over social anxiety. Feels like a waste of a life but I need healthcare to heal and to get healthcare I need money and to get money I need healthcare... I dont want to be negative but I just rly want to blow my brains out a lot of the time
I just turned 33, I'm doing now what I should've done 10 years ago but I was too retarded at the time, didn't know what the fuck I was doing. I think I'm not going to be successful until I'm 40. Stuck in jobs I despise. But this is literally the only card I have left, unless I miraculously win lotto or something. Life is tough but I'm still thankful for it.
I was miserable in my 20s, hat depression and felt so tired of life. In my 30s, I finished university, learned foreign language and made a school at that language. Been never so proud of myself
Yes girly we love it keep goingggggg🎉❤
Realize that it is all in your head! Imagine if you allowed yourself to feel happy, joyful, and proud of your accomplishments naturally, rather than being so hard on yourself and comparing your situation to others.
When did you begin university?
That language could not have been English. 😂
I'm on the same path, at.univeraity at 31, learning a language, hoping to go teach English abroad. Your comment made me smile ❤
As someone who’s about to hit 40 thank you for making this. So many people need to see it.
My mom went back to school with 2 small kids to be a teacher at 50. She had a 20 year career after.
It’s never too late. “Old” is not an age it’s a mindset.
50 year old teacher!?
@@1mol831 at least 50% if not 70% of all faculty at my elementary school were 50 or older.
You are very right. I knew plenty of elderly people who's ID's said they were 18-20.
@@RothBeyondTheGrave I think I should ask my friend to be a teacher then, she is working as a janitor currently and is not satisfied with her job, her older kid is starting university, maybe its time for her to start a second life once her younger kid graduates from university.
I'm still in my early 20s, overweight, and honestly feel like a tech addict(social media and video games). Thank you for putting this out there and I'm glad youtube recommended your video. I've already started turning around a little trying to go to the gym as often as possible eating healthier & getting my community college courses properly structured to be a grade school teacher. need work in other areas but this helps motivate me a little more
Read the book “dopemine nation” will help you understand technology addiction and what to do to balance it in your life
@@buknaked i heard atomic habits is a good one too
it's scary how many likes that guy got. if i can give any advice look at your day in beginning and end of day. if you get nothing done and only play video games it gives you motivation because you see trough it's pointless. look at video games they lead nowhere. i was fishing for hours in runescape as teenager. years later there were bots fishing. pointless to max. there are only two things in life time and choises. do you wanna throw your time most valuable thing what you can't get back even with all money in world like health in garbage can?
I left home at 19 started working and believe me I struggled just to get by. I'm now 47 and I have only 4 years left to pay off my house. I have a large 401k and plenty of money in my 3 savings accounts. While my friends spent their 20s partying I worked and saved money. Of all my friends I'm the only one with almost no worries and I've been able to travel the world have a new car every 3 years and no stress. I don't regret spending my 20s preparing for my future.
The weird and fun thing is that as a kid we always think our parents had everything figured out, while in reality
there were just going with the flow taking one challenge after the next.
Huge respect for what you are doing man! 👏
I know you