Well.... Got married, had kids, built a nice home, had three kids.............and....... Here I sit, by myself! No friends, ex wife, family, nothing! Paying child support! 🤷
@@manikyum I'm quite sure she was contemplated leaving, way before this, but we got into a big argument over something, that I didn't agree with her on, and she used that as the final excuse to get a divorce! Also, she worked in the school system, and there was a woman on her job, that was bragging about how she divorced her husband, and got a new man! She would let me know this on a consistent basis! It was already the beginning of the end, I just didn't know it!
I'm 28, My whole life was literally just trying to survive. I've never had these thoughts of leaving something behind for my next generation, because my mind is always preoccupied with trying to leave something for myself.
4 real I'm 47 and still feel this way. Pass the legacy over? 🥴 Brah! We live in different times. Can a man's average measly income provide to pay today's mortgage payment as well as college for your brats as well as every other expenses? Women nowadays don't need us around anymore neatless to say they're financially independent and very self centered it's all about me me me. Just live life as best as you can keep on doing what you're doing don't rely on no one really cuz you know what at the end....we all die alone.... anyway!
@@gregoriopreciado6719honestly it doesn't matter when we are dead and gone. I think a lot of the legacy thing stems from ego and existentialism. But to each their own and people should do whatever makes them happy. Everyone had a different path!
I have no friends, no family, I don't get any phone calls, I dont' bother with anything, just stumbled onto this video unfortunately, but it really is peaceful and free life; hell is other people
It's because there not brainwashed by consumerism and social expectations they live at one with nature and appreciate the simple things people have forgot. Replace vanity with humanity 👍
Same. I'm 56. But yeah basically that's it. I have nothing to look forward to anymore. I work full time. Great job. The pay comes in. Goes out. Week after week. Year after year. My kids live a little far from me, both doing well. I'm proud of them both. I lived life on the wildside for 3 decades plus. Had a ton of fun. Made some great memories. But then it got out of hand. So I quit that lifestyle and now stay under the radar for the most part. I have 2 of the best cats in the world. They love me unconditionally. They're loyal and SO BOSSY 😂😂😂 but I wouldn't change it for the world. I guess I'm still here today for a reason. He's not done with me yet ❤ 🙏 I am really grateful for the small things today. It can all disappear in a New York minute. Great video. I got alot out of it. Thanks so much.😊
And? Should we feel bad or happy for you? Is this a warning? Is it advice? Why even start typin' if you're not gonna offer your two cents on the issue?
Im 62 and my family has died off. Recent close friend Died and now it hard to make new friends. But I look forward to wake up and find the positives of life.
35 here, single wolf all my life, life had been always struggle to survive for me, it hits bad in the feels, but I did the best I could, this one gives me peace, and I am honestly now just happy I am alive and healthy every single day, it's enough for me, if I don't have kids ever that's ok.
Hey, chin up. Was in your situation once. A funny thing happened a year later and met my new wife. Neither of us had kids and we started a family. King story short, the universe has another plan for you. It’s coming. Hang in there.
I got divorced a few years ago in my 30's, having been with her since I was 18. Honestly, it was messy and the worst thing I have ever been through. The worst part for me was having my children turned against me and that still haunts me. But work on yourself for a period of time, might be 6 months or 2 years. During that time don't date anyone. I needed that time on my own to find myself more than anything. I still have issues with my children and the ex-wife, but I have a different girlfriend now. I've upgraded. As horrible as it was, it gave me massive determination to improve myself and go for what I want in life. I think it either does that, or you go the other way and drink/take drugs or commit suicide. Choose the right path, you can come back better but as a man it takes time. You can win in the long run.
37, no kids no family and happy as I've ever been. As recently as February of this year (2023) I was bed ridden for 3 months with one of the most painful diseases known to medicine. I was literally screaming every day and had chronic lethargy so I just had to lay in bed 24/7. But now I feel perfect and have also started going to the gym. I couldn't be more thankful. I thought I was gonna die or never get my health back. It was a blessing in disguise though because I really am as happy as I've ever been.
I am 45, single with no kids. I retired early and own property and endulge in things I love to do. I am the happiest I have been my whole life. All the relationships I have been in I felt alone and was very unhappy. Once I worked on myself and decided to go solo, I don’t have any regrets. If I am single for the remainder of my life, I am fine with that. It’s about self love. If you have self love, no one can take that from you. Life is always beautiful.
@Gin-San101 Those are the ones who have never actually applied what they think they've learned. Stuck in the loop of - I know just enough key words to behave in a self righteous manner- ICK. Those are the worst! It's best to find those who ACT in self love, rather than speak it. They are out there!!!😍
All of us, even your children, will eventually be forgotten. Most wealth doesn't last 4 generations. Everything you do will fade away, family or not. Enjoy life while you have it.
This man just realise he needs to settle down. He still doesnt know the next phase yet. If he is lucky he may stay married till 67? He may take care of his family but His kids will unlikely take care of him when he is invalid, at most they pay a visit some time not often. He be back to being alone again in his last phase of life.
I have taught 24 years - 11 years of high school and 13 years of middle school. I’m 60 and I have no children. I’m very happy and look at it like God wanted me to influence 1000s of children instead of a few.
Growing up in a narcissistic home, rest of my life was coping and surviving. After probably 8 years of trying to figure this life out, at 35 I can finally say that I have found myself again.
Do you have any advice for a young adult whom just got out of a narcissist family. How do you get the chance to know yourself? How do you heal for that situation and move on to a better life?
have to find the environment where if you are not appreciated, atleast where you will be free. You must to have as much freedom as possible to make your own decisions and do what you want to do. For yoursefl only. I would say even leave most of the relationships, even friends, because they will never understand you. Leaving the environment you have been you do not trust yourself, do not feel worthy of anything good and most likely are a people pleaser. Now it is time to please you, only you matter. Love yourself as much as you can, little by little, call out to God (if you believe). Pretty much nobody cares about you really, but in your journey you will be blessed by people who will want to see you for who you are. But they will be gone too, because you will be constantly growing@@applepretz5368
@@applepretz5368You have to physically put your life back together. If you need qualifications go to school and get them. If you need a better job do what the employer wants for you to get that job. If you want friends become a person your ideal friends would like to hang out with. If you want a family go and start one responsibly of course. Most likely none of this will be easy but if you want it you will need to make a start wherever you at. Self will come through living life. Healing comes with time and no contact. Best of luck I am doing it now.
@@applepretz5368Honestly the best thing you can do is turn to God. He will be your guiding light and provide everything you ever need. Just pray, stay strong, and whatever you do, do NOT allow your family back into your life. They will try especially once you become successful. They'll try to shame you and blame you ever more, for things that aren't or we're never your fault. Keep your privacy and life away from them. Go back to school if you can do you can get a career and ensure your financial stability/future. They hate independence but that's what you'll need. Always get some therapy or counseling if you can. You'll need that as well when healing and moving forward.
That's the part he's not admitting. He's saying it in an all perfect world which is not always the case. Most of your so called loved ones unfortunately are just there to take from you and some even go far as killing you the one helping them . Nah I'll pass. My peace of mind and happiness comes from my loneliness
True,I have a older brother who feeds off others downfall,and as far as relationships go for myself its better to have no relationship than a terrible one.
@@bob2k375 it's in our nature. God created us to like the opposite sex, off springs, wealth, beautiful or rare things, horses/cars and all sorts of things that make us temporarily happy or give us high status. But all of those are just a test and can be given or taken away just like that. We have free will and only in the remembrance of God the hearts find tranquility and peace. A professor from Harvard once made a little study where he found out, that practicing and devoted muslims are generally more happy or content with life and death than any other world view or community. From here on, everyone should read and study deeper for thenselves.
We were best friends. We didn’t have friends outside because we were all we needed. When he got cancer we fought it with everything we had but he lost the fight. I tried to keep our home but couldn’t afford it alone. After 4 years of living in a van and trying to figure out what to do, I bought a hundred acres in Virginia. I’m building a cabin. By myself. At 56. I dream of having a man of my own who I can play in the woods with, but Iseldom leave my property to meet any. And when I do I meet the typical American male, into the American culture, loving his sports and material possessions and tv. They don’t want to create- just consume. At least I got to experience true love in my life. Most never have. Good luck out there.
Well that was a bitch slap of truth if I ever heard it. 60, broke as a joke, 50k medical debt, unemployed, alone with no children may God have mercy on me.
Tell me, how does it feel. I’m worried and want to die now, I’m 22. I live utterly alone and away from family because I was dumb and wanted to move up in life, I sometimes just want to go back to that simple life. Fuck success. Tell me, someday I will not have anyone in my life anymore. No love. How does it feel?
Passing my wealth onto my nephew. No problems. No cope. Never wanted kids since the day I was born. I still watch all your videos and agree with 99% of it.
He only thinks it's COPE because he WANTS kids and he's projecting his own shortcomings onto his audience. My younger brother HAS 3 kids...He gave nearly 13 yrs of HIS life to a Single Mom and got kicked to the curb 3 yrs ago. I can BET my bottom dollar he loves his kids but would hop into a time machine and NEVER give that Bitch a chance and just stay single IF he could do it all over again. Having kids isn't some type of secret formula to Happiness. Plenty of Men rope themselves or blow their heads off AFTER having children...
Most folks nowadays are so in debt that they’ll never leave an inheritance beyond some tattered clothes, a bunch of broken cell phones and a heavy urn.
If I’ve learned anything in my 33 years of life it's that you will never be completely happy no matter what. Life isn't about being happy. Life is a mix of moments of joy, happiness, and pain and suffering. From birth to death. Having family and friends won't solve your problems, it just adds on more. Life is an experience, neither good nor bad. Life is about living, there's no right or wrong way, ultimately.
Goal Living life peacefully, through god Through displine Have more positive memories than bad And enjoy every money don’t just exist Enjoy the rain sun food sand dirt drive traffic enjoy every moment living with intent
This is kinda the way I see it also. It irritates me that lots of people seem to think life is about being happy as much as possible. That's actually not realistic. All emotions and feelings we experience are there for a reason, and they all play their own role in the whole grand scheme of our lives. They all have an actual purpose. Too much of any of them is unbalanced, including happiness. Once you achieve satisfaction or happiness from something, it will most likely eventually get old, and you'll inevitably crave something new, something different, something more. Life is a perpetual cycle of that over and over.
I sympathize with your feeling because I fell into the same nihilism before giving my life to Christ 5 years ago. I will never be grateful enough that he revealed himself to me and gave me purpose. Pray and read the Bible, it will show itself to you, heal your emotional wounds and guide you to what you were born for. _"Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you."_ (Jm 4:8)
I married my wife because I had this dream of being a dad and having a family. She’s a single mom and was very good to her child and despite being a single mom we had similar goals and I thought similar values as well. I gave my wife everything including sharing the same bank even tho I was so against it. There was a lot I sacrificed in the relationship and there were a lot of attitude and fights that I tolerated because I wanted to be a father. We ended the relationship after being married for 1 year. Every other week or so there’s always moments where we’re fighting but those fights mostly occur because she’s mad at something and would never tell me. Communication is key. I got so tired of it. She says, “I’m not a good communicator.” Gaslights me saying she already said so why does she need to repeat herself. It was so difficult to be around her anymore and I was losing sense of self. It’s tragic that we’re not going to be a family anymore but I let my dream get the best of me. She just wasn’t the right person for me.
58 and the forever bachelor. Been through it all...houses, women, and cars. Now I'm happy with a good book and a round of golf. Will walk the 18 tomorrow! Timmy C Arizona
@@pete531 - here in NYS you have to have a license to do just about anything including fishing… but absolutely no training is required to raise a child…
I'm a a single gay man. All my straight guy friends vent to me about their wives or girlfriends. They break down into sobs. Alot of them take huge risks because their sexual needs and urges blind them into toxic situations.
I never had kids, never regretted a minute of it. I’m 55 yrs old. Today I visited my dad, he’s 84. I had to help him to the bathroom and off the toilet. On my ride home I questioned, “ who will do this for me when I’m old?” I don’t know, but still glad I didn’t have kids.
Just keep stacking your money, and when you're older, you can afford to hire a care nurse to help you with stuff you can't do. Wishing you and your dad all the best. Godspeed, brother.
Even if you have children, it's usually hired health care aids who does this for them. Children can visit once in a while but usually not available for daily care because they are busy with their own lives.
How about taking care of yourself through exercising. Mainly strength training instead of sitting around consistently and eat better healthy food and work on your mental health. Old people like that never cared for that their entire life by choice and they most often pay the price in the end. No disrespect for your father but as someone that works at a hospital and sees these elderly people going through with this while talking about how they should’ve taken care of themselves and many other regrettable stories they share, it’s just not worth letting age catch up for you to find out. They did and already living a life of regret by choice
My parents are still alive, and I have no intention of taking care of them. Meanwhile, I'm helping my best friend with her parents, because they were there for me when my parents weren't. Be kind to people, and you won't die alone.
My father is 75. He doesn’t have friends, doesn’t have social media and phone because he doesn’t know how to use it. He didn’t want to watch tv at all, he just want to listen to his old radio, listening to music and news. He is so contented and eating same kind of food of what he knows and liked. Im so amazed because I can’t live without my phone and I’m getting depressed if I didn’t go out for travel. How I wish i can live longer like my father.
I don't know how old you are but I'm guessing you grew up with cell phones. I'm 47, no internet, no cell phones growing up. Those of us that didn't grow up with them have a easier time not having them because we lived without them. Im on my phone just as much as anyone, but if all phones went away tomorrow I'd be fine
Depopulation is a natural process after overpopulation. Why travel when you do not know your own hometown? There is a lot of places to find the exact sense of fulfillment. Let me guess, you are idealizing traveling to an exotic location or Europe. Look, baby, all those places do not exist anymore like they used to exist. This problem is global.
I got disabled at 20. I ve known only suffering, abuse and abandonment since. Having thoughts like yours is a luxury you dont relize you have. Some people didnt got a chance. I don't have any money, friends, girlfriend and totally disabled. So I know what it means to have truly nothing. And trust me if I could get my health and not talk to another person ever again I wouldn't skip a beat.
@@prayshapuri3800 Lyme. Can't walk, problems speaking, even reading or typing. Many people don't even believe it, most family members especially my father. Doctors don't recognize it so no treatment or social support. Can't socialize because of problems speaking and bad sound sensitivities. So old relationships fade, doesn't matter how strong they were or the people evolved (girls, guys, compationed, shy, extroverts... Don't matter when you can't even talk you have nothing to offer) I'm working on it as much as I can. I went to med school believe it or not and managed to make some progress on my own via mitochondrial support, immune interventions etc. Crazy thing is that this life became normal to me over the years. And it is possible to find sort of happiness/comfort and good memories even in this situation. You can't give up yourself when everyone else did. Be your own best friend and your own hero. I don't care how pathetic that sounds. There is no other way.
41 years old, no kids, no wife, my 5 year old relationship ended 3 years ago. I have very little friends at the moment. My parents are still alive but I think that once they are gone I am going to be very very lonely.
45 here, and I can't wait for my parents to go. I'm already alone, but not lonely. Having someone to call if my car breaks down would be nice, though. Get a tarot deck. Learn the I-Ching. Get some runes. Your life will change. Know thyself.
I'd like to introduce you to the word "few". You have very few friends. If you have very little friends, it means that they are very small, not necessarily very few.
You forgot the third phase…likely divorce and financial ruin which hopefully is offset by what you achieve in number 2. The fact that cool dudes like you aren’t having kids shows there are underlying issues. Having lost my father and only sibling when I was young, you have my prayers and best wishes. Keep fighting
But even if you don’t divorce and hit financial ruin - an almost scarier fate is being trapped with someone you don’t like or live anymore. I don’t know how many of these “dead marriages” are out there but I know of several. That or where half the time you are fighting with your wife and just want her out of your sight or vice versa. I mostly agree and understand what LFA is talking about in this video but it’s not easy meeting someone you really are into - even harder to make it last. Oh and trying to meet childless women that are somewhat attractive in your 30s is very difficult
Facts. Dead bedrooms and/or divorces are where most marriages head to. Most married men look absolutely miserable to me. Then again, nobody wants to end up alone. We’re kind of screwed either way.
@@Thatdude64317need to go back to our tradition and living by what our creator told us First getting out of the system of ensalement And getting in communities self sufficient we live in herds there is no way that we can live alone is a thing created by the rulers to seperate us from our nature in every aspect of life !
I will just say this, I became a social person after 25 and found out that most people are fake and trying to exploit each other. It’s all empty time with them. Being alone is not a bad thing, find something to keep you busy until your end. More friends = more suffering.
I'm turning 65 in a week and I believe that we should live for God and nothing else. Self improve for yourself not to just try to get women. Keep your body and mind strong. Help others who could benefit from your wisdom
"Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's Mighty Hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." - 1 Peter 5: 6-7
What a lot of nonsense coming from an elder. Just because you will die alone doesn’t mean other have to. If you truly lived for God then you will have a family since that’s what God wants us to do unless your calling was to be a monk. Nobody loves or cares about old people except their own children. Your advice only proves one thing and that is Misery loves company
@@ThePatrick464 I think what Ricky is trying to say here is to encourage young men to conduct their lives with a foundation rooted in God. In other words, hold yourself accountable to a Love and Power greater than yourself. Having this Love will see you through the dark times and will embellish the good times. Some men will get married to the right spouse and have a wonderful family. Many others will get divorced or widowed, suffer through job loss, family deaths, illness, injury or loneliness. Some bad things and some good things will happen to many of us. The problem is when we fall into the abyss of darkness and despair or vanity and hubris. Having God will help keep you on an even keel. Its so hard to understand this when you're young, but do the best you can. I recommend reading The Book of Job and Ecclesiastes as a start.
If you have even one GENIUNE friend you are very fortunate. After you have several one sided friendships you will eventually realize that you're better off alone.
Family scapegoat here.. 48.. no kids, no friends now, dont want kids lol.. I have accomplished for others and now don’t trust people and I want to be alone all the time. Been in therapy 3.5 years. I was such a codependent and now I’m an arsehole. I can now see through the bullshit. People hate it. People are fake and dangerous and unless you’re doing something useful for them, they don’t give a fq.
I agree on what your saying. Life balance is the secret. I found my wife very late in life and had kids at 44. After thinking l was never going to have a family. Best thing l ever done.
I’ve been there done that. I was married for twelve years and had a daughter. Marriage and having a child is not all that it cracked up to be. I’m still ordered to pay alimony twenty seven years later. My daughter thinks I’m the reason for the divorce and doesn’t talk to me. I’m more than happy to be by myself. I’ve been in the United States Navy and retired from a great company. I really enjoy the peace of being single and retired, with a comfortable retirement check every month. Living the in San Diego, California
You just chose wrong. I did too cause I didn’t know self, Boundaries and self respect. Now I know what I don’t want. What’s important! Choose wisely. Don’t rush. Watch the person actions and not words.
I live in my camper on a horse pasture. I feed 20+ cats, 35 squirrels, 5 skunks, 5 raccoons, 9 rescue goldfish. Listed are the best people ive ever met except my parents and siblings.
I wanna do that! I’m getting ready to plan for change, the city urb concept is getting wiggy these days…..a quiet place with animals sounds like peace…
@@xdrazormon454 I highly recommend it. I've lived in the mountains of Idaho, Montana, Utah and Colorado. The people in CO & MT are problematic. Living with the wildlife is far better than what we've created.
At 50 I lost my partner. Home ,everything I worked for . The first year I was devastated. Now I have my cabin in the woods . My dogs . Simi retired . I love life . I'm tiered of being used , by people . Today at 60 , I'm good.
Good for you Denise! I'm getting close to your age, still single and it's the happiest time of my life! Don't need those things to be happy. You have to find happiness wherever you are imo.
Ima say this then ima leave it alone. Being alone, no friends, no relationship, staying away from toxic family members and living solo is the best gift you can ever give yourself in this life. Live free, love yourself more, study Gods word. It’s the best peace of mind ever!!
After almost died from my depression after my partner dumped me and hurt me mentally and emotionally i love being alone.I used to think i would not be able to live single but single is the best of best PEACEFUL NO UNNECESSARY STRESS,CHEATING,GHOSTING.Thank God for the rescued from toxic relationship🙏
Being hurted mentally and emotionally is not even the worst thing that can happen to you. My partner ruined my health with a thoughtless act 7 months ago, and as a consequence I cannot continue my much loved career as a piano teacher. 20 years of education and my dream job is over. My financial existence is in danger. My identity fades away. I have sore ear, and sensitiveness in my ears, which influences my everyday life too. Most probably it is a permanent state. She tried to invalidate what happened, she denied her responsibility, and then ghosted me within 2 weeks. I am still very traumatized. I am 45.
Every word you said is correct. I've tried to do the right thing in life, waited for the right time to have kids, tried to get all the fun i needed out of the way. Lost many friends and ended relationships over the years. I'm 48 now and have realised every word in your video, I have no kids, friends and relatives passed away over the years, I live on my own with nobody around me. I count years rather than days of the visits I've had to me and where i live. If i had kids now I would be too old by the time they are 30 to see them grow older. All of these realisations are constantly in my mind and all I can think about is growing old and being more lonely than I am now. It makes me think about if there's any point in hanging around, why put myself through it. End it now and give anything I have left to any remaining relatives to give them a better chance of happiness in life than I've had. I wish things were different.
Jesus the amount of people that blame parents for not being perfect in this age... U do realize they're just trying to live life like everybody else is, they probably had the same shitty experience growing up, it's on you to improve the next generation. A fathers job is to bring the food to the table and keep you safe, anything else is a bonus. They're not there to babysit you and teach you philosophy all your life. As a man you need to embrace responsibility no matter how hard your childhood was because nothing will give you more pleasure than to help the people in need.
@@GamingAndChill If people don't like that they were born because it wasn't their decission there is always a way out of that. Nobody is forcing oxygen down your throat. We don't know what goes on before we are born and after we die, so as far as we know living is a blessing regardless of how hard your childhood was. It's just that in 2023 in the best countries in the world with everything given to you people love to complain about every single little thing, watching fake TV shows and thinking that's how every family behaves. Nobody had a perfect childhood, what we can do is move on from it a be a better man for your own kids. Sulking about it for the rest of your life is just gonna make you resentful and angry.
I am 45. Never got married. Never had kids. The amount of life experiences, self-worth, VERY low levels of stress, great health, financial security, and my overall happiness can all be attributed to certain degrees to “no kids, never married". When taking a look at my fiends, family, and others around me I don't think anybody would argue that I appear to be MUCH happier and fulfilled than most if not all of them. And they'd be correct. I go to bed whenever I want. I wake up whenever I want to. I go where I want to. I buy what I want to. I flirt/date whomever I want to. Furthermore, by not having kids I am not subjecting any other life to the dilemmas of living/surviving.
The movie "Fight Club," had so many gems. One of Tyler's sayings that stuck with me was, "The things you own, end up owning you." That movie is a must see for every man.
Ive been alone most of my life, no friends, no girlfriend, nobody! Im learning something new though and it IS changing my life. We are ONE. Time is an illusion. We ARE one conciousness, the universe, God, whatever you choose to call it. To awaken to who we really are is everlasting joy and delight. We are the creators of our reality. Life is a dream, we create the whole damn thing. We manifest through our beliefs and concepts about ourselves. The power of the mind. I came from a dark place in life, i was contemplating putting a slug'd 12 guage to my head. Ive listened to teachers such as Neville Goddard, and Alan Watts. Id HIGHLY recommend. Its life changing! The power of the mind. No bulls**t man. I use to think it was but its changing my life.
Sign outside a hazardous kitchen tool exhibition...”Enter at your own whisk” Roofs always want to be on top...egotistical, narcissistic sods. Also I'm also not a big fan of stairs...They're always up to something. I couldn't figure out how to put my seatbelt on, but then it clicked. Yes It's true...I am always buying ointment, but you don't have to rub it in. Did you know that William Tell had a brother called Doo? No I didn't...Doo Tell.
@@slapshotjack9806 Absolutely agree with you there...I think that often people find a relationship, get married and then forget who they are, instead of focusing on social connection and network!
I work with a lot of married dudes who are married with kids and when they find out at 40 that I have no wife and kids they tell me how nice that must be. I guess grass is always greener. I’ve experienced love and relationships, but when it don’t feel right trying to force it leads to unhappiness.
Was married 22 years thought it was the best thing in the world until it turned into a nightmare. Divorced at 44, had a family, good job, house, 2 cars and the rug was pulled out from under. It was a living hell going through that. Looking back don't know that I would do it again. Today everyone appears to be out for themselves, nothing but surface talk, no real connections for the most part. I am blessed to have a few close, true connections, but I am with the other commenter, live your best life for Jesus and help as many as possible.❤
You might think married people are happy and not lonely but you can be the most unhappy and lonely while married. No one really is honest about it. I bet you 10% of current marriages are good. Could be less. I’ve never in my life seen a married couple and thought “I want that”. It just comes with so much negatives. It’s relationships that are challenging and are forever challenging. Always need work
@@b-rare I’ve been married nearly 5 years and I can tell you it hasn’t really made my life any better. I’m more lonely and miserable than I ever was when I was single. I never really appreciated the single life as I always felt I was on the outside looking in. Many if not most women will cut off the sex and affection after marriage and kids. All you’re left with is a lot of work and responsibility and very little reward other than spending time with your kids and watching them grow up (which you don’t really need to be married to do). My wife even admitted to me that her only priorities are the kids and her job; a very clear indication that she doesn’t give a shit about me as a husband or a lover anymore. I think is “normal” for most married men.
Quincy on TV said in 1978, "Women you can't live with them and you can't live without them. Today, we men can live without them, we have microwave ovens, washer/dryers, dishwashers, dogs/cats, Big Screen TVs, Unlimited Free XXX online, chatting apps, etc. and our hobbies and interests. Women need men, men don't need them anymore.
This is the 2nd time ive come to this video. Its thanksgiving so it hits harder today. Its such a hard realization to realize family is really the most substantial thing you can accomplish on this earth when you have a broken or damaged family situation. It makes you feel like you were doomed from the moment you were born to ever have a good life. It becomes hard to even conceive the idea that you will ever have a happy family or truly happy life. You cant even identify yourself with happiness and love because it always feels fleeting like it will fade away or go away so it makes it hard to cherish it especially when youve already experienced losing family or people close to you. For anyone experiencing this, working through the pain, i want you to know you are a valuable human being worthy of love. And youre not alone. And your life will mean something to someone if you keep going with a good heart. I pray for everyone reading this you find someone who values you for YOU not what you provide and who makes you feel like that love is eternal. And that whatever you create on this earth fulfills your whole spirit. God bless
We have a similar story, LFA. I haven't suffered the same amount of loss as you, but I have lost many friends including my best friend. Keep in mind that you have impacted the lives of countless people on this platform. You're the most balanced person in the space imo. Keep up the good work.
31, no family, no friends, I live out of my car. I love Jesus and I love making the most of each day. Being outdoors is what keeps me healthy and happy. I haven't found the right man yet but I know he's out there ❤ Thank You God for this life, and everything about it.
Continue praying, read the Gospels, Psalms & Proverbs, but work hard to get a roof over your head. It might be a roommate situation, but hopefully something will come up. There are good man out there, but for the love of God, stay away from the players and F-boys, they will destroy you. Peace. 🙏
Im alone at 63 divorced 2x My family was small and passed on...even my 2x best friends my horses have passed away. But I have the Lord. He helped me in so many ways its hard to explain. When I get to a dead end a new road opens up and leads me to new opportunities. I have my health and im fortunate to have a good paying career. I see everyday as new opportunity for adventure or just finding the beauty all around me and not take it for granted. The negative is in todays world true love rarely exists....its very fleeting.....my parents were married 50 yrs......I was lucky as a child. Great video.......God bless.
@@SpiritusMundi4EVER amen! everyone who called out to the Lord in his life he helped from the woman who just touched his robe was cured... to the thief on the cross called out to christ who stopped dying to promise him a place in paradise.....Russian Orthodox.
So nice to read about your faith in God and how you see the positive in life. I am also Orthodox but I am so acutely aware of all the evil in this world. I see it everywhere and in everything. And even though I believe in God it’s hard to get rid of this feeling
@@hautecouture2228 True but you must not waste your time here...the past will never return...focus on the new.... At this very moment someone is being diagnosed with stage 4 cancer.......soon the bell will toll for all of us....focus on what you can do to make yourself happy.... God is giving you this time dont waste it. God Bless.
Loving my God and loving myself takes my eyes off the loneliness. 63 youthful, loving still amazed by new experiences. My spirit gets younger and is preparing me for life beyond one day. I am trying to spend this time with no distractions enjoying what I missed in my youth. Blessings 🙏🏾
Just turned 65. Got the loving spouse, got the 2 successful adult children. Now feeling like I've sacrificed so much for other people/family and got very little back. I think you have a very idealised vision of family life. Just tour nursing homes and ask the residents how often their kids visit.
I was a party boy in my younger years. Then I moved to the US by myself and started becoming more and more of a loner. Now I'm 44, no gf or wife, no kids, all my family and friends are back in Europe. I thought it was a good idea to build a cabin in the desert by myself and document it here on TH-cam. I thought people would watch my videos and I'd make a friend or two. Boy was I wrong, nobody is watching my videos, which put me down even more. I am now starting to accept that I'll probably stay alone till the end of my life, which I hope wont last too long. Anyhow, not tryingto cry here, just sharing a quick story. Good luck to all of the loners out there.
❤Remember Juses loves you--- many people are in this same Storm of lonely ness--- Juses will never leave yr side-- he's yr best freind brother ; and like me I'm I. Same boat as you---- Juses is coming bck soon; so change yr sails ⛵️; and travel on smoother waters--- you will find peace then -- GOD BLESS--- ❤
Hell, I'm 62, and I forgot to build a life for myself. If anything, take solace in the fact that you've helped a lot of people through your work. Hell, 50 years from now, NONE of us will be remembered anyway. So eat that steak, drink that beer, enjoy life as much as we can while we're still here. The bad news is, we're lost. The good news is, we're WAY ahead of schedule. So eveybody keep dancing.
Make peace with yourself, accept yourself as you are, then you will see that none of what you mentioned are a must. When you NEED something, be it family, kids, woman, friends, material things, to be happy, that is a sure sign you are not balanced and there is work to do with yourself. Again, start by ACCEPTING yourself as you are.
I agree. And those who have a family are generaly those who pursue material things the most because of modern women caprices. Or this would not explain why bilions of people are not just happy with having kids, some food and a shelter. Even the idea that kids are necesary to assure one's wealth is left to his kids is contracdictory because it implies the belief kids needs money to be happy
Hi there , i am a women in my early 40s and you message about improving has held me hostage. Now i want to have a family but i feel afraid. Thanks for this message. Greetings from Djibouti
Well, ultimately we are always ALONE. We just distract ourselves with friends, family, career, goal, self improvement etc..Embrace the loneliness and those things are you saying won't affect you.
You'll be forgotten in this world in a series of twos. 2 days after death, your acquaintances will forget about you. 2 months after death, your friends will forget about you. 2 years after death, your spouse and children will forget about you. The ONLY people who would never forget about you are your parents, and only in the rare occurrance where you precede them.
How old are you though? 20s 30s? That’s a big stumbling block in me developing a relationship - I need to find someone that is worth sacrificing my solitude for .. of the women I’ve met lately - they don’t come close
its because your sexual market value has dropped to nil and now you dont get attention, this is a sad reality that most women dont see or take notice of until they hit that point in their life, but before that women spend their lives looking down on men and using them so its natures way of dishing out what women dish out earlier in their life.
I feel your pain brother, I felt similarly at your age, but now I’m 43 with no kids and no wife and I look at my friends who took the traditional path and they are miserable - I have no regrets
im 34 lost everything lost apt losing a relationship with my older brother. Got scammed twice. Addicted to Pornography and Masturbation addiction since 2000. im homeless lost everything. lost job.
Recognize that those thoughts that come to your mind, aren't yours. You can then with control of your mind tell those thoughts that you are not doing any of that. In other words, those thoughts are deposited into your mind so you act on them, but they are not yours. Don't be afraid, you have total control of what to do as long as you don't make those thoughts yours. You are in charge, you control your mind.
I"d have to say this is one of your best videos. I've done a lot of self improvement. Retired at 46, no wife or kids, and no regrets. The ones that are most jealous of me are the ones with a wife and kids. As far as leaving your wealth to your offspring, I've seen a lot of kids piss their inheritance away. For me, the only thing that keeps me grounded is my faith in Jesus, and that there is something better after this world. I think having a wife and kids in this day and age is a bad decision, with the financial cost, and the quality of women to choose from.
Let’s not forget guys the grass is always greener on the other side of the tracks .. the single guy will sometimes be envious of married family guy - the family guy will sometimes be envious of the bachelor. It’s human nature .
“You’re free to disagree with that.” OK, I think I will. I’m 42, never married, no kids, and have never been in a relationship. I used to get bummed out about that, but when I see my fellow man getting cheated on, divorced, having their kids taken from them, and gutted like a fish in court, I’d say I dodged a HUGE cannonball. Sure, I may have that feeling of regret at what “could have been” later on in life, but I have a feeling that will happen regardless of whether you had a family or not. It happened to my aunt after having had 3 kids, divorcing, getting old with type 2 diabetes and liver cirrhosis, having all of her possessions sold off and spending her last days in a home wishing she’d done more with her life. Or my dad, having me and my 2 brothers and then dying of a massive heart attack at age 48, leaving, really, NOTHING for us to inherit. Either way, we all ultimately leave this world with NOTHING. And before anyone responds with, “Well, it’s your biological imperative” or “it’s your birthright” to get with a woman and have kids, historically, only 40% of men have had the PRIVILEGE (NOT a right) of reproducing and passing on their genes. 40%. I would even dare to say, it’s even lower now because of feminism, and me too movement, social media, etc.
@theduder1981 - You're right. Twice divorced here, no kids, and now I've been single for the last 10 years. While I can't say I'm "happy" at 50 and alone, I can say my life is better than being in those marriages. The constant nagging, "do this do that", going to places to spend money every weekend when sometimes I would rather just chill at home and save some money, etc......And like you said, while it's a biological urge to want a woman and kids, it can be a huge burden with little actual reward. But us men are still operating on old software that is programmed to sacrifice ourselves for the sake of women and children at any cost, and to feel our only value as men is to give up ourselves for that goal. And 90% of the women today are simply not worth it.
@@Oiuytkjhgfmnbvc Yep, sadly. In a way this video here is almost a call for men to just go back to the plantation and sacrifice ourselves for the sake of biological urges. And because he feels a certain way he expects that we should too. I get it though, it's hard to fight thousands of years of programming and biology. I think most of us men here would actually love to have a good wife and perhaps some kids, if there wasn't such a horrible failure rate. But as men, we have to be logical and also look at the facts, and it seems in this video it's simply his biology and predictive programming doing the thinking for him.
@@jasenwm Exactly. VERY few people have made a mark in history. (George Washington, Neil Armstrong, Arnold Schwarzenegger, etc.) As for everyone else outside of your immediate family and close friends (maybe), no one will care or even know you existed.
I was married 48 years, now a Widow and so alone , insecure my life has changed, my routine is not the same anymore, im scared of things breaking down , house ,car , im in a fixed income and just now my car broke down and haven't the money to fix. Im 69 and a woman and worked hard till i retired not thinking my husband was going to die . Im devastated.🙏💔😭
Maybe your wife was horrible to them? There’s always a reason why kids don’t call their parents once they’re adults but most parents don’t want to look too closely at their own behaviours to recognise why and prefer to make their kids look bad for it to everyone else
40 years old. Never went down the "self-improvement" path, but got out of a LTR 3 years ago (no kids) which was the right thing to do for us both. Figured that stepping into the dating world would be a great improvement in life, and finding a partner would be pretty accessible. 3 years and how many dates later, and still nothing. I know everything you're talking about about though. What's my purpose? Why am I here? What am I working for? To die alone. Funny thing is, the people who are close to me never even think to ask what's up. I think they assume I want this solitary life or something. Thanks for putting this out there man. Turns out we're not alone.
Same and I’m 45. Dating for me has been a complete and utter waste of time. No matter how low I make my standards it’s never low enough to draw interest
Having kids won't necessarily make you happy or fix that existential dread you're experiencing. It's having a mind that doesn't crave that will free you. Think about it. When you have moments of true happiness, joy, etc, your mind doesn't want anything in that moment. You don't want or need the present moment to be any different than what it is. That is why you're happy. Maybe a short moment later you will try to latch onto whatever is making you happy or mourn its passing, but it is the not wanting anything that makes you happy and fulfilled. This can be worked on with meditation and realization of true nature beyond mental concepts. There is a peace inside that is inherent. It is the joy of being awake. Try to generate loving kindness for yourself and others. This will give you more of those feelings of contentment and equanimity.
I'm 40, with disabilities, broke and many people don't want to care for another person. All I can do is pray and help others at church and the community. Hope to adopt a fur baby, they love unconditionally.
I am still young, 28. However, it feels for me that this talk is more of a personal view of somebody who can't manage the thought that everything disappears anyway, whether you have offspring or not. Kids are not some magical way to preserve your legacy and make your time here on earth meaningful. Only constant that you have control over is you, and the mark you make while you are here. If you truly think that you need kids to make your mark, I think that you can't make mark big enough.
by definition, people crave things they don't have. It's like water, in the civilized world, means nothing. In the desert is everything. Don't let your cravings or your needs define you.
Or freedome means nothing, but imagine slaves being killed by their owner. That freedome had to be their dream of the life as something like being rich today....
Yeah. 58 with no wife and kids. Lots of regrets about that. Then I go visit my brothers. One divorced in early 60s and lost half of everything. The other has a fat wife and is shelling out $35,000 a year for each kid in college. They both have failing personal health and I think "You know I am doing OK."
I appreciate this video. I’m a 36 yr old single woman with no children and I agree. There is nothing more fulfilling than meaningful connections and relationships. Thank you for this I feel less alone.
I'm in the same situation; 40, no kids, no family, two-friends that live literally 1,000 miles away, no money, still living at home with the folks...it's like I'm perpetually 16 years old. I'm just trying anything new. I've started volunteering at a dog shelter just to meet new people (and new dogs). My advice is just volunteer at something you're passionate about and meet some new people. Especially if you have few or no current connections, or the current ones aren't working out or are toxic.
@@williamyoung9401I'm so sorry, I hope things get better for you. Maybe consider going back to school for a trade or degree? Or just monetizing anything you have a passion for. These days you can become financially free from just about anything. Prayers to you🙏✝️
Life is U shaped from 40 to 60 or so. You bury your parents, your strength and health decrease, you realize your life is as good as it's gonna get and game mostly over. And that super sucks but then it gets better as you let go of the stuff holding you back, you accept the way things are and you change what you can. And you make a new path and new plans because the old ways just don't fit anymore. And it's way easier to go thru with at least 1 or more good friends that love you no matter what. Ok good luck and hang in there.
Wow, this video hit. I think a lot of people..all ages..are suffering from loneliness and social isolation. I go for walks every day in my neighborhood and smile and say hi to strangers, but usually an average of 2/10 will even look at me. It seems this world has become so disconnected. Teens from the middle school nearby walk with their heads down, wear black hoodies in 90 degree weather while staring at their feet, and look depressed. It breaks my heart. Also, it's so easy to get caught up in the "self-improvement." When you don't have a family of your own or many friends or maybe just never felt good enough or like it's been the right time, I think we turn that inward, constantly trying to fix/heal/work out our issues...it can be a constant battle. Thank you for sharing this. I think a lot of men and women can relate. ❤
It takes two. Gotta self improve to a certain level to attract someone. Gotta earn enough to support a family. Think a lot of it can come down to having the means to access parenthood. But definitely some people can talk themselves into needing more time or not being ready
I agree. While its easy for LFA to say to fellow 37-year-old dudes to "get out there and meet people" etc. its a mountain to climb for out of shape, semi socially awkward, and broke guys to do. Heck, if you're broke you don't even have the gas money to go to any kind of social event anyway.
I had the whole wife/family thing and had a kid in my early 30s. Later I got divorced and had a blast living the single crazy life dating mostly much younger women in my early 40s , but I tell ya'all if it wasn't for my kid everything else would have just felt empty at the end of the day... The coach is spot on on this one. Family and legacy is everything.
@@limitlesky nope we just grew apart in the relationship... Then I realized I was single again as a mature man and still had a lot of options in the dating market with younger women, which I was never aware before it happened
@@trqster hey man more power to ya! Everyone is different. For me I dont want a family and recently got out for a 13 year relationship. I found what makes me happy is focusing on me, finding new hobbies, spending time with friends and loved ones, and I love being by myself! Anyway, wish the best of luck to ya on your future endeavors. Happy trails brotha
"...but I tell ya'all if it wasn't for my kid everything else would have just felt empty". How do you know this? You can't have a kid and not have a kid at the same time so you can't know how your life would have unfolded if you didn't have a kid. This is usually said unconsciously as an internal defense to squash feelings of doubt before that feeling manifests into regret and resentment. This not to take away from the positives that having a kid has done for you which I don't doubt. And why do you (or anybody for that matter) care about one's legacy?
At the end of the day, it really does come down to your own individual preferences and living a life that makes you happy. There are folks out there who have lost faith in others and find it easier to cope with life alone, but then other people who can't stand to navigate life by themselves. If you have even just 1 real friend in this world, consider yourself lucky
People like to say opting to not be a parent is selfish, their logic usually being that you only care and worry about yourself, but have never agreed with those people and have come to see it similarly as you. None of us asked to be here, most people have children because THEY want children, bringing a child into this shitty existence voluntarily is inherently a selfish act that people do for themselves. That's definitely not the popular opinion, but it's my opinion.
Wow!!! 👏👏👏 Thank you LFA , I needed to hear this at this exact moment. We're all going through struggles and take things for granted whether alone or with family.
Bro this video hit me exactly in the spot. I’m 100% in this rut. I just turned 32. Im always self improving lol. I also am able to just cut people out and I have no friends but I do have family just not my own family. Problem is I don’t want a girlfriend or a wife it grosses me out . I do want kids . Something I have to figure out. Being alone coming home to an empty house to me is gold man. I don’t know how life could get better but I do want kids eventually. I just dont like girls man. They’re horrible most of them and they like only want you if you’re rich. I have my own business I own real estate I’m a landlord I’m jacked shredded 6ft I have the package but I find woman are super shallow today and it grosses me out so bad. I have to get over that mindset cause I know they’re not all like that. I don’t even want a hot girl I’m not even into hot girls they normally have big egos. I want like a humble loving person who’s kind and just feminine . I wish I had that. Dating apps are useless dude. Has to be real life connection for me. I have to open up more too im an introvert so I avoid all social interactions purposely but I do know I need to change. This video hits me exactly in the feels. But also you can be 50 and have kids it doesn’t matter for a guy so don’t feel like you’re too old. Also don’t rush cause one wrong woman can cause you tons of stress for life.
@@DavidLoveOfficial Exactly what I was going to say, I've seen quite a few guys in workplaces who's wifes are from South-America, Far East etc. they treat men so much better from there. Wish I'd done it years ago as dating was a nightmare for the most part in UK!
Just be patient my man. Take your time and dont rush into anything even when you finnaly find one thats different. Within a year or two all true colors will show. Most importantly if we are not living for God life is meaningless. Worship your creator and obtain salvation through His Son Jesus Christ. Believe in Jesus and repent of your sins and and He will make you new! Ask Him to bring you the right wife for you and he will. There are still some good ones out there but most are found through traditional means, the grocery store, meeting through friends etc.
This video hits home. I am 31 single as fuck, rejecting women who have good intentions for me for reasons like " she has a high body count " or " she is not submissive" and see all my friends making happy lives with women who on paper had a bunch of red flags. I am really wondering if I fell into the same type of rat race that we often fall in our careers, but in my case in my personal/love life. The thought of ending up alone creeps up on me and scares me, but then I remember that I am 31 and if I get my shit together I can turn this around. Fingers crossed
Don't let the fear of being alone convince you to put yourself in a worse position. #1 you don't know what is going on behind the scenes with those women and what they might be up to unbeknownst to your friends. Leopards do not change their spots and you don't know if they will make it #2 the sad reality is most of us die alone even if you are married and manage to stay that way unfortunately someone dies first and you are often still by yourself unless you have extremely good kids. My grandma lived many years a widow without my grandad and my mom the same thing. That being said don't give up and don't be down on yourself.
Stay a way from females with high body counts. You better yet dating older woman. Younger girls are hard to deal with. They expect everything from you for free and never I Mean never have I met a young girl to take responsibility for her actions. That bothers me to the core. I can't stand it. Try older women. They have their shit together and are easy to talk to.
It'll always look like sunshine and rainbows from the outside until it falls apart. Making life decisions out of FOMO is not good. Be calculated, know what you want out of life.
I used to be really picky in my youth, thinking I am high value and special. Later in my twenties I realized that I am not that special, I am just like everyone else. I then lowered my unrealistic standards, found a girl who is a great fit for me and I have been happy since.
💯 no compromises on that matter. Better to be at peace alone than to be trapped with someone who makes you feel alone. Proverbs 21:9 KJB “It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.”
To see how crazy America has become in the past 20 years. I'm glad that I never brought kids into this society. Plenty of kids and young adults that I don't mind helping for free.
I’m twice divorced man that’s closing in on 60 so I have a good looking back prospective for you young dudes, I have a daughter from each marriage, my divorces were tough, I’m single now dating but highly red pill, I’ve excepted women are hypergamous and if you show any weakness it scares them out of your life, I wouldn’t trade my daughters for ALL the money in the world, and I wouldn’t trade my pain for gain , my point is never give up and never be afraid to make that approach, you might get rejected but who cares , that rejection doesn’t define you, and remember, there is someone up above, great video!
How much do you/did you pay in child support per month? Maybe I should have children and accept that my wife might divorce me and have children with another wife like you. Better than being single forever.
Never married, no kids. No friends, no family and couldnt be happier. Regret not having a family? Hell no. I have had a great life, despite the narcisstic family. Freedom can be a very powerful drug.
I’m 50 and spent my whole life chasing the society’s norm, and yes I had relationships, love, children and lots of good times. But I also had heartbreak, abuse, betrayal, depression, sadness. Well that’s it for me. Ive got off the hamster wheel of life and going it alone. I’m chasing peacefulness and calm these days. Lone wolf. 3 years into it and most days I’m content and at peace. Sure I feel loneliness on occasions, but it gets less over time.
Yep, life is no story book. Relationships most of the time will end, especially now days in the social media era. I've been in 4 long term relationships myself, 13 years being the longest which ended last year. I'm not learning to love myself, spending time with childhood friends and finding new hobbies. I'm in my mid 30s and feel I am having some sort of awakening. Anyway I wish you all luck and good health.
As a lone wolf by choice from age 5, including no intimacy, I would say I get lonely about 15% of the time. But I spell it as horny. :) As a senior, the Internet has opened world upon world of interesting things to explore, along with the Nature I loved from age 5. To me a relationship is a distraction. I would rather have that occasional loneliness, than be in a relationship and wanting to be alone 85% of the time, and not being allowed to do so. Thanks.
@@stephenjones5304 I can relate to what you're saying. I thought I was built to be with someone. Not necessarily. I enjoy my own company. I like me. I had my heart broken. I will never apologize for loving a man who was unlovable sometimes. Nor will I apologize my true heart and having my partners best interests at heart. No hidden agendas, no hidden motives, yet I've had all those antics played on me. Not nice, but it's not about me. People are going to do what they want to do regardless of what I think or say. Zero control over that. Sure takes the pressure off LOL
This really helped me out. I have trust issues but i recognize that you just gotta get out there and find your people even if you feel like you have no one in your corner.
Well.... Got married, had kids, built a nice home, had three kids.............and....... Here I sit, by myself! No friends, ex wife, family, nothing! Paying child support! 🤷
What was the reason for divorce
if you lost all that, you deserve it. You must have been real dumb to lose all that
We need men to fight for more rights rather than being forced into a full time supporter and have to be a weekend dad. Not enough men speak up
What happen with your kids man??
@@manikyum I'm quite sure she was contemplated leaving, way before this, but we got into a big argument over something, that I didn't agree with her on, and she used that as the final excuse to get a divorce! Also, she worked in the school system, and there was a woman on her job, that was bragging about how she divorced her husband, and got a new man! She would let me know this on a consistent basis! It was already the beginning of the end, I just didn't know it!
45 no kids, no real friends , no family...just working to keep a roof and a car..honestly miss my mom..never felt love since i was 21 when she passed
I’m 20 right now I couldn’t imagine losing my mom
I'm 52 and still bless to have my mom. I dread the day when my mom won't be here the only person who will truly love you is mom ....
Love ya pal
We Mum's love and our heart aches for the hurt lost and fragile in life 💔
Thats awesome....some of us never had loving parents! God bless!
I'm 28, My whole life was literally just trying to survive. I've never had these thoughts of leaving something behind for my next generation, because my mind is always preoccupied with trying to leave something for myself.
Relatable.
May you leave the survival mode and enter your thriving era in 2024. We all fight a personal battle in different ways. Wish you well 😘
@@moniqueabundance thank you so much. Much love
4 real I'm 47 and still feel this way. Pass the legacy over? 🥴 Brah! We live in different times. Can a man's average measly income provide to pay today's mortgage payment as well as college for your brats as well as every other expenses? Women nowadays don't need us around anymore neatless to say they're financially independent and very self centered it's all about me me me. Just live life as best as you can keep on doing what you're doing don't rely on no one really cuz you know what at the end....we all die alone.... anyway!
@@gregoriopreciado6719honestly it doesn't matter when we are dead and gone. I think a lot of the legacy thing stems from ego and existentialism. But to each their own and people should do whatever makes them happy. Everyone had a different path!
I have no friends, no family, I don't get any phone calls, I dont' bother with anything, just stumbled onto this video unfortunately, but it really is peaceful and free life; hell is other people
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But at least people talk to you on social media, no one talks to me at all
My ringer is on silent because I get more annoying notifications and spam calls than I get calls and messages from people I know.
@@christopherwolf3134 huis clos
@@nopretribrapture2318hi ❤ hope you get through whatever your facing. ❤
This is why people in tribes are often genuinely very happy. They don’t have a lot, but they have each other.
Very nice point indeed
It's because there not brainwashed by consumerism and social expectations they live at one with nature and appreciate the simple things people have forgot. Replace vanity with humanity 👍
Their women arent bombarded with sexual options constantly on social media!
Are you sure they are happy? I heard stories that they are not, especially woman.
Just like Maga Morons. 🤣🤣
Im 62 and I will die alone. I've accepted that reality. People don't care about me because when the chips are down nobody will be there for me but me.
Same (I'm 20) and nobody is there for me apart of me
Virtual Hug for you am so sad😢
Same. I'm 56. But yeah basically that's it. I have nothing to look forward to anymore. I work full time. Great job. The pay comes in. Goes out. Week after week. Year after year. My kids live a little far from me, both doing well. I'm proud of them both.
I lived life on the wildside for 3 decades plus. Had a ton of fun. Made some great memories. But then it got out of hand. So I quit that lifestyle and now stay under the radar for the most part. I have 2 of the best cats in the world. They love me unconditionally. They're loyal and SO BOSSY 😂😂😂 but I wouldn't change it for the world.
I guess I'm still here today for a reason. He's not done with me yet ❤ 🙏 I am really grateful for the small things today. It can all disappear in a New York minute.
Great video. I got alot out of it. Thanks so much.😊
@Real_shred_kruegerAnd Jesus will always be there for you.
Everyone dies alone
I am 42 i have no family, no friends and no kids.
And? Should we feel bad or happy for you?
Is this a warning? Is it advice?
Why even start typin' if you're not gonna offer your two cents on the issue?
Miserable life.
@@madaraainna not really I am rich because I get to save my money I spend my days enjoying life more than ever.
Youre not alone man, for sure theres someone a friend, a woman, family waiting for you outside, hang in there buddy
Try another country if you can work remote
Im 62 and my family has died off. Recent close friend Died and now it hard to make new friends. But I look forward to wake up and find the positives of life.
hi
Hello Daniel!! 👋
35, recently divorced, no family. This one hits right in the feels.
35 here, single wolf all my life, life had been always struggle to survive for me, it hits bad in the feels, but I did the best I could, this one gives me peace, and I am honestly now just happy I am alive and healthy every single day, it's enough for me, if I don't have kids ever that's ok.
Hey, chin up. Was in your situation once. A funny thing happened a year later and met my new wife. Neither of us had kids and we started a family. King story short, the universe has another plan for you. It’s coming. Hang in there.
Recently divorced. That’s an ouchy. This is why I preach don’t rush cause of ur age . Could be a long road of stress
I got divorced a few years ago in my 30's, having been with her since I was 18. Honestly, it was messy and the worst thing I have ever been through. The worst part for me was having my children turned against me and that still haunts me. But work on yourself for a period of time, might be 6 months or 2 years. During that time don't date anyone. I needed that time on my own to find myself more than anything. I still have issues with my children and the ex-wife, but I have a different girlfriend now. I've upgraded. As horrible as it was, it gave me massive determination to improve myself and go for what I want in life. I think it either does that, or you go the other way and drink/take drugs or commit suicide. Choose the right path, you can come back better but as a man it takes time. You can win in the long run.
37, no kids no family and happy as I've ever been. As recently as February of this year (2023) I was bed ridden for 3 months with one of the most painful diseases known to medicine. I was literally screaming every day and had chronic lethargy so I just had to lay in bed 24/7. But now I feel perfect and have also started going to the gym. I couldn't be more thankful. I thought I was gonna die or never get my health back. It was a blessing in disguise though because I really am as happy as I've ever been.
I am 45, single with no kids. I retired early and own property and endulge in things I love to do. I am the happiest I have been my whole life. All the relationships I have been in I felt alone and was very unhappy. Once I worked on myself and decided to go solo, I don’t have any regrets. If I am single for the remainder of my life, I am fine with that. It’s about self love. If you have self love, no one can take that from you. Life is always beautiful.
Amen sister.
Copium
@@jennifermyers775😂
I also love living by myself.
@Gin-San101 Those are the ones who have never actually applied what they think they've learned. Stuck in the loop of - I know just enough key words to behave in a self righteous manner- ICK. Those are the worst! It's best to find those who ACT in self love, rather than speak it. They are out there!!!😍
All of us, even your children, will eventually be forgotten. Most wealth doesn't last 4 generations. Everything you do will fade away, family or not. Enjoy life while you have it.
True, basically everything is meaningless, just have fun
All we are is dust in the wind.-Kansas.
Depopulation is a natural process after overpopulation.
This man just realise he needs to settle down. He still doesnt know the next phase yet. If he is lucky he may stay married till 67? He may take care of his family but His kids will unlikely take care of him when he is invalid, at most they pay a visit some time not often. He be back to being alone again in his last phase of life.
Unless ur a star ⭐
I have taught 24 years - 11 years of high school and 13 years of middle school. I’m 60 and I have no children. I’m very happy and look at it like God wanted me to influence 1000s of children instead of a few.
Growing up in a narcissistic home, rest of my life was coping and surviving. After probably 8 years of trying to figure this life out, at 35 I can finally say that I have found myself again.
Do you have any advice for a young adult whom just got out of a narcissist family. How do you get the chance to know yourself? How do you heal for that situation and move on to a better life?
have to find the environment where if you are not appreciated, atleast where you will be free. You must to have as much freedom as possible to make your own decisions and do what you want to do. For yoursefl only. I would say even leave most of the relationships, even friends, because they will never understand you. Leaving the environment you have been you do not trust yourself, do not feel worthy of anything good and most likely are a people pleaser. Now it is time to please you, only you matter. Love yourself as much as you can, little by little, call out to God (if you believe). Pretty much nobody cares about you really, but in your journey you will be blessed by people who will want to see you for who you are. But they will be gone too, because you will be constantly growing@@applepretz5368
@@applepretz5368You have to physically put your life back together. If you need qualifications go to school and get them. If you need a better job do what the employer wants for you to get that job. If you want friends become a person your ideal friends would like to hang out with. If you want a family go and start one responsibly of course. Most likely none of this will be easy but if you want it you will need to make a start wherever you at. Self will come through living life. Healing comes with time and no contact. Best of luck I am doing it now.
@@applepretz5368Honestly the best thing you can do is turn to God. He will be your guiding light and provide everything you ever need. Just pray, stay strong, and whatever you do, do NOT allow your family back into your life. They will try especially once you become successful. They'll try to shame you and blame you ever more, for things that aren't or we're never your fault. Keep your privacy and life away from them. Go back to school if you can do you can get a career and ensure your financial stability/future. They hate independence but that's what you'll need. Always get some therapy or counseling if you can. You'll need that as well when healing and moving forward.
Same for me.
Better to have no family and friends than to have family and friends who feed off of your downfall
That's the part he's not admitting. He's saying it in an all perfect world which is not always the case. Most of your so called loved ones unfortunately are just there to take from you and some even go far as killing you the one helping them . Nah I'll pass. My peace of mind and happiness comes from my loneliness
@@IMYOURMAJESTY92 👆🏼💯💣🙏🏼
True,I have a older brother who feeds off others downfall,and as far as relationships go for myself its better to have no relationship than a terrible one.
Exactly!
Ouhh guys. I was on Filipines. Very friendly people 🙂🏝️ we made video about
We live in a world full of loneliness.
Because the world is really one giant prison … we work chase money , want a big house n nice cars FOR WHAT ? Who said u need this living ?
@@kbernieshoWto impress others
@@bob2k375 it's in our nature. God created us to like the opposite sex, off springs, wealth, beautiful or rare things, horses/cars and all sorts of things that make us temporarily happy or give us high status. But all of those are just a test and can be given or taken away just like that. We have free will and only in the remembrance of God the hearts find tranquility and peace. A professor from Harvard once made a little study where he found out, that practicing and devoted muslims are generally more happy or content with life and death than any other world view or community. From here on, everyone should read and study deeper for thenselves.
we live in a world of Narcissists
BUT HEY, WE HAVE BIG CITIES WITH SO MANY COLORFUL BANNERS AND SOCIAL MEDIA. WE SHOULD BE HAPPY? HEH?
We were best friends. We didn’t have friends outside because we were all we needed. When he got cancer we fought it with everything we had but he lost the fight. I tried to keep our home but couldn’t afford it alone. After 4 years of living in a van and trying to figure out what to do, I bought a hundred acres in Virginia. I’m building a cabin. By myself. At 56. I dream of having a man of my own who I can play in the woods with, but Iseldom leave my property to meet any. And when I do I meet the typical American male, into the American culture, loving his sports and material possessions and tv. They don’t want to create- just consume. At least I got to experience true love in my life. Most never have. Good luck out there.
Hope you live happy you sound an amazing person 🙏🏼❤️🔥
I will chase u on those acres 😊💃🏃
You'll find someone, don't give up! :) Sorry to hear about your husband.... horrible thing to happen.
@ thanks
Well that was a bitch slap of truth if I ever heard it. 60, broke as a joke, 50k medical debt, unemployed, alone with no children may God have mercy on me.
adopt a dog or a cat
Tell me, how does it feel. I’m worried and want to die now, I’m 22. I live utterly alone and away from family because I was dumb and wanted to move up in life, I sometimes just want to go back to that simple life. Fuck success.
Tell me, someday I will not have anyone in my life anymore. No love. How does it feel?
@hamzaeljaouhari7512 Thanks
@@agarrikr2996hold tight man, we will survive this.
Depopulation is a natural process after overpopulation.
Passing my wealth onto my nephew. No problems. No cope. Never wanted kids since the day I was born. I still watch all your videos and agree with 99% of it.
I might do the same and charity
Same boat a lot of ppl have told me if I had the chance to do it all over again (having kids ) I wouldn’t do it .
He only thinks it's COPE because he WANTS kids and he's projecting his own shortcomings onto his audience. My younger brother HAS 3 kids...He gave nearly 13 yrs of HIS life to a Single Mom and got kicked to the curb 3 yrs ago. I can BET my bottom dollar he loves his kids but would hop into a time machine and NEVER give that Bitch a chance and just stay single IF he could do it all over again. Having kids isn't some type of secret formula to Happiness. Plenty of Men rope themselves or blow their heads off AFTER having children...
Most folks nowadays are so in debt that they’ll never leave an inheritance beyond some tattered clothes, a bunch of broken cell phones and a heavy urn.
Teach him how you made it, that’s generational wealth
If I’ve learned anything in my 33 years of life it's that you will never be completely happy no matter what. Life isn't about being happy. Life is a mix of moments of joy, happiness, and pain and suffering. From birth to death. Having family and friends won't solve your problems, it just adds on more. Life is an experience, neither good nor bad. Life is about living, there's no right or wrong way, ultimately.
Goal
Living life peacefully, through god
Through displine
Have more positive memories than bad
And enjoy every money don’t just exist
Enjoy the rain sun food sand dirt drive traffic enjoy every moment living with intent
Naw there’s many wrong and many right ways although I do agree with your sentiment
i would say health is the most important tool of all, without it everything else fails to work.
This is kinda the way I see it also. It irritates me that lots of people seem to think life is about being happy as much as possible. That's actually not realistic. All emotions and feelings we experience are there for a reason, and they all play their own role in the whole grand scheme of our lives. They all have an actual purpose. Too much of any of them is unbalanced, including happiness. Once you achieve satisfaction or happiness from something, it will most likely eventually get old, and you'll inevitably crave something new, something different, something more. Life is a perpetual cycle of that over and over.
I sympathize with your feeling because I fell into the same nihilism before giving my life to Christ 5 years ago. I will never be grateful enough that he revealed himself to me and gave me purpose. Pray and read the Bible, it will show itself to you, heal your emotional wounds and guide you to what you were born for. _"Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you."_ (Jm 4:8)
I married my wife because I had this dream of being a dad and having a family. She’s a single mom and was very good to her child and despite being a single mom we had similar goals and I thought similar values as well.
I gave my wife everything including sharing the same bank even tho I was so against it. There was a lot I sacrificed in the relationship and there were a lot of attitude and fights that I tolerated because I wanted to be a father. We ended the relationship after being married for 1 year. Every other week or so there’s always moments where we’re fighting but those fights mostly occur because she’s mad at something and would never tell me.
Communication is key. I got so tired of it. She says, “I’m not a good communicator.” Gaslights me saying she already said so why does she need to repeat herself.
It was so difficult to be around her anymore and I was losing sense of self.
It’s tragic that we’re not going to be a family anymore but I let my dream get the best of me. She just wasn’t the right person for me.
very narcissistic, glad you made it out.
46, never married, no friends, no family.
58 and the forever bachelor. Been through it all...houses, women, and cars. Now I'm happy with a good book and a round of golf. Will walk the 18 tomorrow! Timmy C Arizona
46 no kids, never married.. probably never will!!
@@brians2328Yep, same here. It’s a wonderful life 🙂
No wife = happy life. 😊
52, no kids, no wife, never married, nice car, house, collection of motorbikes, money in the bank, couldn't be happier.
@@Markycarandbikestuff Kickass!!
Not everyone is meant to have children and that's okay.
Kids often don’t make people happy, sure you can leave them your inheritance of broken cell phones, tattered clothes and a heavy urn…
often people who arent meant to have kids and are terrible parents, have kids...
@@pete531 - here in NYS you have to have a license to do just about anything including fishing… but absolutely no training is required to raise a child…
Like every street kid in 'The Wire'. Their "parents" consist of a non-existent father and a drug addicted or perma-aggro broke mother.@@pete531
makes no sense. as raising kids is the most important thing to do right... @@RustyZipper
When I see videos like this, i insta like. These are true spiritual warriors. Not scared to be alone and by themselves
How come every married man I talk to seems beaten down and dislikes their wife? I've had this interaction so many times
They stop sex for the man but the man feels trapped due to money commitments
Most married men are happy. Youre delusional.
try to get married
I'm a a single gay man. All my straight guy friends vent to me about their wives or girlfriends. They break down into sobs. Alot of them take huge risks because their sexual needs and urges blind them into toxic situations.
Because marriage to women is HELL.
I never had kids, never regretted a minute of it. I’m 55 yrs old. Today I visited my dad, he’s 84. I had to help him to the bathroom and off the toilet. On my ride home I questioned, “ who will do this for me when I’m old?” I don’t know, but still glad I didn’t have kids.
Just keep stacking your money, and when you're older, you can afford to hire a care nurse to help you with stuff you can't do. Wishing you and your dad all the best. Godspeed, brother.
@@strangerdanger8462 I’m saving lots of money, I want a hot nurse. LoL. Thanks for well wishes on my dad
Even if you have children, it's usually hired health care aids who does this for them. Children can visit once in a while but usually not available for daily care because they are busy with their own lives.
How about taking care of yourself through exercising. Mainly strength training instead of sitting around consistently and eat better healthy food and work on your mental health. Old people like that never cared for that their entire life by choice and they most often pay the price in the end. No disrespect for your father but as someone that works at a hospital and sees these elderly people going through with this while talking about how they should’ve taken care of themselves and many other regrettable stories they share, it’s just not worth letting age catch up for you to find out. They did and already living a life of regret by choice
My parents are still alive, and I have no intention of taking care of them. Meanwhile, I'm helping my best friend with her parents, because they were there for me when my parents weren't. Be kind to people, and you won't die alone.
My father is 75. He doesn’t have friends, doesn’t have social media and phone because he doesn’t know how to use it. He didn’t want to watch tv at all, he just want to listen to his old radio, listening to music and news. He is so contented and eating same kind of food of what he knows and liked. Im so amazed because I can’t live without my phone and I’m getting depressed if I didn’t go out for travel. How I wish i can live longer like my father.
Happiness are simple actually just enjoy every single little thing with pleasure, last just be grateful and don't be overthinking
I don't know how old you are but I'm guessing you grew up with cell phones. I'm 47, no internet, no cell phones growing up. Those of us that didn't grow up with them have a easier time not having them because we lived without them. Im on my phone just as much as anyone, but if all phones went away tomorrow I'd be fine
simple difference between men and women, women need validation it's just their nature. not a bad thing, find a good quality man
That’s different, he has his family.
Depopulation is a natural process after overpopulation. Why travel when you do not know your own hometown? There is a lot of places to find the exact sense of fulfillment. Let me guess, you are idealizing traveling to an exotic location or Europe. Look, baby, all those places do not exist anymore like they used to exist. This problem is global.
Had a family…lost the family…lost the money…Found video games.
Better than nothing.
Vr is awesime. Oculus 2 is cheap on marketplace
I got disabled at 20. I ve known only suffering, abuse and abandonment since. Having thoughts like yours is a luxury you dont relize you have. Some people didnt got a chance. I don't have any money, friends, girlfriend and totally disabled.
So I know what it means to have truly nothing. And trust me if I could get my health and not talk to another person ever again I wouldn't skip a beat.
What happened to u?
You've just met all the wrong people. 🙁 There are good ones out there.
@@prayshapuri3800 Lyme.
Can't walk, problems speaking, even reading or typing.
Many people don't even believe it, most family members especially my father.
Doctors don't recognize it so no treatment or social support.
Can't socialize because of problems speaking and bad sound sensitivities. So old relationships fade, doesn't matter how strong they were or the people evolved (girls, guys, compationed, shy, extroverts... Don't matter when you can't even talk you have nothing to offer)
I'm working on it as much as I can. I went to med school believe it or not and managed to make some progress on my own via mitochondrial support, immune interventions etc.
Crazy thing is that this life became normal to me over the years. And it is possible to find sort of happiness/comfort and good memories even in this situation.
You can't give up yourself when everyone else did. Be your own best friend and your own hero. I don't care how pathetic that sounds. There is no other way.
I am sorry. I hope you are able to meet others somehow.
I’m 26 and I’m a lot like you. It sucks to be loveless and just left behind by everyone
41 years old, no kids, no wife, my 5 year old relationship ended 3 years ago. I have very little friends at the moment. My parents are still alive but I think that once they are gone I am going to be very very lonely.
Yeah, seems pretty bleak for me too
@@Yggdrasill8same with me. We just gotta find a way to live through this mess of a world. It's tough but what else can we do.
45 here, and I can't wait for my parents to go. I'm already alone, but not lonely. Having someone to call if my car breaks down would be nice, though. Get a tarot deck. Learn the I-Ching. Get some runes. Your life will change. Know thyself.
I'd like to introduce you to the word "few". You have very few friends. If you have very little friends, it means that they are very small, not necessarily very few.
You forgot the third phase…likely divorce and financial ruin which hopefully is offset by what you achieve in number 2. The fact that cool dudes like you aren’t having kids shows there are underlying issues. Having lost my father and only sibling when I was young, you have my prayers and best wishes. Keep fighting
But even if you don’t divorce and hit financial ruin - an almost scarier fate is being trapped with someone you don’t like or live anymore. I don’t know how many of these “dead marriages” are out there but I know of several. That or where half the time you are fighting with your wife and just want her out of your sight or vice versa. I mostly agree and understand what LFA is talking about in this video but it’s not easy meeting someone you really are into - even harder to make it last. Oh and trying to meet childless women that are somewhat attractive in your 30s is very difficult
Facts. Dead bedrooms and/or divorces are where most marriages head to. Most married men look absolutely miserable to me. Then again, nobody wants to end up alone. We’re kind of screwed either way.
@@ajthedirtpoet9433 yessir
@@Thatdude64317need to go back to our tradition and living by what our creator told us
First getting out of the system of ensalement
And getting in communities self sufficient we live in herds there is no way that we can live alone is a thing created by the rulers to seperate us from our nature in every aspect of life !
@@Thatdude64317watchz
Europa the -last-battle.
I will just say this, I became a social person after 25 and found out that most people are fake and trying to exploit each other. It’s all empty time with them. Being alone is not a bad thing, find something to keep you busy until your end. More friends = more suffering.
I'm turning 65 in a week and I believe that we should live for God and nothing else. Self improve for yourself not to just try to get women. Keep your body and mind strong. Help others who could benefit from your wisdom
"Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's Mighty Hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." - 1 Peter 5: 6-7
What a lot of nonsense coming from an elder. Just because you will die alone doesn’t mean other have to. If you truly lived for God then you will have a family since that’s what God wants us to do unless your calling was to be a monk. Nobody loves or cares about old people except their own children. Your advice only proves one thing and that is Misery loves company
@@ThePatrick464 You sound full of misery
@@ThePatrick464 I think what Ricky is trying to say here is to encourage young men to conduct their lives with a foundation rooted in God. In other words, hold yourself accountable to a Love and Power greater than yourself. Having this Love will see you through the dark times and will embellish the good times. Some men will get married to the right spouse and have a wonderful family. Many others will get divorced or widowed, suffer through job loss, family deaths, illness, injury or loneliness. Some bad things and some good things will happen to many of us. The problem is when we fall into the abyss of darkness and despair or vanity and hubris. Having God will help keep you on an even keel. Its so hard to understand this when you're young, but do the best you can. I recommend reading The Book of Job and Ecclesiastes as a start.
Whatever makes you happy!
If you have even one GENIUNE friend you are very fortunate. After you have several one sided friendships you will eventually realize that you're better off alone.
Agreed but the isolation is bad for mental health.
@@perfection9669 very true-
@@perfection9669 💯 absolutely ! guys please don't make that mistake ..stay in a small town or community ...🙏🏼
I had one great friend, he passed away years ago, but I still consider myself lucky.
True! You are lucky if you have one true friend.
No Friends, No Family, No Problem
Family scapegoat here.. 48.. no kids, no friends now, dont want kids lol.. I have accomplished for others and now don’t trust people and I want to be alone all the time. Been in therapy 3.5 years. I was such a codependent and now I’m an arsehole. I can now see through the bullshit. People hate it. People are fake and dangerous and unless you’re doing something useful for them, they don’t give a fq.
All scapegoats can see through the bullshit, that's why we're hated so much! But I'd rather see it than not.
Scapegoat yea
Very true. Took me awhile to finally figure it out. People will disappear in a blink of an eye when they realize you have nothing to give anymore
Yup so tryue. The people closest to you who criticize you the most often offer nothing to you in return
@@Lovingleroy exactly… it’s so devastating ❤️🩹
I agree on what your saying.
Life balance is the secret.
I found my wife very late in life and had kids at 44.
After thinking l was never going to have a family.
Best thing l ever done.
I'm jealous. Congratulations on your success!
congrats man
David Goggins: “yeah balance is important to a lot of fucking people”
Stay hard
44 is kinda late. The energy level goes down, I guess.
Thats why you marry a 20yo. She will have the energy to deal with them@Yonisaj12
I’ve been there done that. I was married for twelve years and had a daughter. Marriage and having a child is not all that it cracked up to be. I’m still ordered to pay alimony twenty seven years later. My daughter thinks I’m the reason for the divorce and doesn’t talk to me. I’m more than happy to be by myself. I’ve been in the United States Navy and retired from a great company. I really enjoy the peace of being single and retired, with a comfortable retirement check every month. Living the in San Diego, California
You sound like a deadbeat dad playing the victim card who women can't respect not even your own daughter because you sound cowardly and pathetic.
Sorry to hear things didn't work out with your daughter, Frank. Keep your chin up, sounds like you are doing better than most out there.
You just chose wrong. I did too cause I didn’t know self, Boundaries and self respect. Now I know what I don’t want. What’s important! Choose wisely. Don’t rush. Watch the person actions and not words.
Yeah das how it goes
If you're retirement age, I would strongly consider getting revenge.
I live in my camper on a horse pasture. I feed 20+ cats, 35 squirrels, 5 skunks, 5 raccoons, 9 rescue goldfish.
Listed are the best people ive ever met except my parents and siblings.
That sounds like a happy life to have no people around, keep on loving animals man, they’re therapeutic
I wanna do that! I’m getting ready to plan for change, the city urb concept is getting wiggy these days…..a quiet place with animals sounds like peace…
@@xdrazormon454 I highly recommend it. I've lived in the mountains of Idaho, Montana, Utah and Colorado. The people in CO & MT are problematic.
Living with the wildlife is far better than what we've created.
At 50 I lost my partner. Home ,everything I worked for . The first year I was devastated. Now I have my cabin in the woods . My dogs .
Simi retired . I love life . I'm tiered of being used , by people . Today at 60 , I'm good.
👌🏼
Similar situation. 🤘😊👍
I'll take you out hit me up
Unusual for a woman to live in a cabin.
Good for you Denise! I'm getting close to your age, still single and it's the happiest time of my life! Don't need those things to be happy. You have to find happiness wherever you are imo.
Ima say this then ima leave it alone. Being alone, no friends, no relationship, staying away from toxic family members and living solo is the best gift you can ever give yourself in this life. Live free, love yourself more, study Gods word. It’s the best peace of mind ever!!
100%
Amen
Exactly
Easily said by a women , yall are spoiled with love from the day you are born
The stoic life is best. Alone.
After almost died from my depression after my partner dumped me and hurt me mentally and emotionally i love being alone.I used to think i would not be able to live single but single is the best of best PEACEFUL NO UNNECESSARY STRESS,CHEATING,GHOSTING.Thank God for the rescued from toxic relationship🙏
Same experience, I’m alone and that’s ok.
She will never find what’s she’s looking for… be sure of that. So don’t regret her.
Just make friends, avoid very close relationships if that risked your life before. Even if they choose to stay, they can die at any time.
Being hurted mentally and emotionally is not even the worst thing that can happen to you. My partner ruined my health with a thoughtless act 7 months ago, and as a consequence I cannot continue my much loved career as a piano teacher. 20 years of education and my dream job is over. My financial existence is in danger. My identity fades away. I have sore ear, and sensitiveness in my ears, which influences my everyday life too. Most probably it is a permanent state. She tried to invalidate what happened, she denied her responsibility, and then ghosted me within 2 weeks. I am still very traumatized. I am 45.
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@@log791 sounds horrible. i'd advice to teach her a lesson she'll never forget.
Every word you said is correct. I've tried to do the right thing in life, waited for the right time to have kids, tried to get all the fun i needed out of the way. Lost many friends and ended relationships over the years. I'm 48 now and have realised every word in your video, I have no kids, friends and relatives passed away over the years, I live on my own with nobody around me. I count years rather than days of the visits I've had to me and where i live. If i had kids now I would be too old by the time they are 30 to see them grow older. All of these realisations are constantly in my mind and all I can think about is growing old and being more lonely than I am now. It makes me think about if there's any point in hanging around, why put myself through it. End it now and give anything I have left to any remaining relatives to give them a better chance of happiness in life than I've had. I wish things were different.
Dude gave more wisdom in 11 minutes regarding interpersonal relationships than my father has in the 20+ years of my life.
Damn that’s sad. Isn’t this common sense? I wouldn’t call this a brutal “black pill” as he said, it’s just reality.
Some dads are dumbfu**s like mine was. 😎
@@467076Common sense is black pill when delusion is ubiquitous.
Jesus the amount of people that blame parents for not being perfect in this age... U do realize they're just trying to live life like everybody else is, they probably had the same shitty experience growing up, it's on you to improve the next generation. A fathers job is to bring the food to the table and keep you safe, anything else is a bonus. They're not there to babysit you and teach you philosophy all your life. As a man you need to embrace responsibility no matter how hard your childhood was because nothing will give you more pleasure than to help the people in need.
@@GamingAndChill If people don't like that they were born because it wasn't their decission there is always a way out of that. Nobody is forcing oxygen down your throat. We don't know what goes on before we are born and after we die, so as far as we know living is a blessing regardless of how hard your childhood was. It's just that in 2023 in the best countries in the world with everything given to you people love to complain about every single little thing, watching fake TV shows and thinking that's how every family behaves. Nobody had a perfect childhood, what we can do is move on from it a be a better man for your own kids. Sulking about it for the rest of your life is just gonna make you resentful and angry.
I am 45. Never got married. Never had kids. The amount of life experiences, self-worth, VERY low levels of stress, great health, financial security, and my overall happiness can all be attributed to certain degrees to “no kids, never married". When taking a look at my fiends, family, and others around me I don't think anybody would argue that I appear to be MUCH happier and fulfilled than most if not all of them. And they'd be correct. I go to bed whenever I want. I wake up whenever I want to. I go where I want to. I buy what I want to. I flirt/date whomever I want to. Furthermore, by not having kids I am not subjecting any other life to the dilemmas of living/surviving.
Is it really?
No kids, no wife, get old and die alone eventually. It’s sad, I know someone like that at a nursing home. He was miserable
Yes, you go out and never have anyone to nag you when you come home. Is that independence or loneliness?
And nobody to support you or share your problems with.
Sounds like a sad existence to me pal
The movie "Fight Club," had so many gems. One of Tyler's sayings that stuck with me was, "The things you own, end up owning you." That movie is a must see for every man.
It’s an idiotic movie.
Ive been alone most of my life, no friends, no girlfriend, nobody! Im learning something new though and it IS changing my life. We are ONE. Time is an illusion. We ARE one conciousness, the universe, God, whatever you choose to call it. To awaken to who we really are is everlasting joy and delight. We are the creators of our reality. Life is a dream, we create the whole damn thing. We manifest through our beliefs and concepts about ourselves. The power of the mind. I came from a dark place in life, i was contemplating putting a slug'd 12 guage to my head. Ive listened to teachers such as Neville Goddard, and Alan Watts. Id HIGHLY recommend. Its life changing! The power of the mind. No bulls**t man. I use to think it was but its changing my life.
No kids, no wife...No problems! Life is too short worrying about what others may think of me. There's nothing wrong with being a lone wolf.
how old are you?
Sign outside a hazardous kitchen tool exhibition...”Enter at your own whisk”
Roofs always want to be on top...egotistical, narcissistic sods.
Also I'm also not a big fan of stairs...They're always up to something.
I couldn't figure out how to put my seatbelt on, but then it clicked.
Yes It's true...I am always buying ointment, but you don't have to rub it in.
Did you know that William Tell had a brother called Doo?
No I didn't...Doo Tell.
The lone survivor survives alone
@@jamestrent-nw9zb 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@jamestrent-nw9zbwhat is the message?
44 here. Marriage and kids isn’t for everybody. You can adult without them. It’s actually quite freeing.
@@slapshotjack9806you love your tribe so in heart, finding love is part of the requirement & discovery.
@@slapshotjack9806 Absolutely agree with you there...I think that often people find a relationship, get married and then forget who they are, instead of focusing on social connection and network!
dead end
@badxradxandy so? Who cares?
I work with a lot of married dudes who are married with kids and when they find out at 40 that I have no wife and kids they tell me how nice that must be. I guess grass is always greener. I’ve experienced love and relationships, but when it don’t feel right trying to force it leads to unhappiness.
Was married 22 years thought it was the best thing in the world until it turned into a nightmare. Divorced at 44, had a family, good job, house, 2 cars and the rug was pulled out from under. It was a living hell going through that. Looking back don't know that I would do it again. Today everyone appears to be out for themselves, nothing but surface talk, no real connections for the most part. I am blessed to have a few close, true connections, but I am with the other commenter, live your best life for Jesus and help as many as possible.❤
You might think married people are happy and not lonely but you can be the most unhappy and lonely while married. No one really is honest about it. I bet you 10% of current marriages are good. Could be less. I’ve never in my life seen a married couple and thought “I want that”. It just comes with so much negatives. It’s relationships that are challenging and are forever challenging. Always need work
@@b-rare I’ve been married nearly 5 years and I can tell you it hasn’t really made my life any better. I’m more lonely and miserable than I ever was when I was single.
I never really appreciated the single life as I always felt I was on the outside looking in.
Many if not most women will cut off the sex and affection after marriage and kids. All you’re left with is a lot of work and responsibility and very little reward other than spending time with your kids and watching them grow up (which you don’t really need to be married to do).
My wife even admitted to me that her only priorities are the kids and her job; a very clear indication that she doesn’t give a shit about me as a husband or a lover anymore.
I think is “normal” for most married men.
I did 13 years lol, got out of it last year and am learning self love and finding new hobbies in my mid 30s.
Quincy on TV said in 1978, "Women you can't live with them and you can't live without them. Today, we men can live without them, we have microwave ovens, washer/dryers, dishwashers, dogs/cats, Big Screen TVs, Unlimited Free XXX online, chatting apps, etc. and our hobbies and interests. Women need men, men don't need them anymore.
@@MD-xl1sq do you believe you chose wrong or too hasty to get hitched?
This is the 2nd time ive come to this video. Its thanksgiving so it hits harder today. Its such a hard realization to realize family is really the most substantial thing you can accomplish on this earth when you have a broken or damaged family situation. It makes you feel like you were doomed from the moment you were born to ever have a good life. It becomes hard to even conceive the idea that you will ever have a happy family or truly happy life. You cant even identify yourself with happiness and love because it always feels fleeting like it will fade away or go away so it makes it hard to cherish it especially when youve already experienced losing family or people close to you. For anyone experiencing this, working through the pain, i want you to know you are a valuable human being worthy of love. And youre not alone. And your life will mean something to someone if you keep going with a good heart. I pray for everyone reading this you find someone who values you for YOU not what you provide and who makes you feel like that love is eternal. And that whatever you create on this earth fulfills your whole spirit. God bless
We have a similar story, LFA. I haven't suffered the same amount of loss as you, but I have lost many friends including my best friend. Keep in mind that you have impacted the lives of countless people on this platform. You're the most balanced person in the space imo. Keep up the good work.
huh????? Stuffered?????? He not saying his sufferer he saying he be winning to much..... his tired of winning...
@@pro.empireI suggest you rewatch the video.
@@pro.empireyou seem to have no idea what the video is all about brotha
The message wasn't for you man, @@MrFlynn-bt6mt its was for frankimus go read his comment...
its was for frankimus go read his comment... @@artemisentreri4244
31, no family, no friends, I live out of my car. I love Jesus and I love making the most of each day. Being outdoors is what keeps me healthy and happy. I haven't found the right man yet but I know he's out there ❤ Thank You God for this life, and everything about it.
you have no real expenses (no family or friends) yet you live out of your car ? You would have either mental issue or drug issue, which is it ?
@@AbdalMalik-ye1dfI'm in the same situation but I'm not addicted to anything and not mentally ill I just cannot afford rent on my full time paycheck
Continue praying, read the Gospels, Psalms & Proverbs, but work hard to get a roof over your head. It might be a roommate situation, but hopefully something will come up. There are good man out there, but for the love of God, stay away from the players and F-boys, they will destroy you. Peace. 🙏
I'm glad you love god ... your doing just fine .... be you and be proud of yourself ... you will find someone who loves god and also loves you :)
Love Jesus ❤️ Praying for you 🙏
Im alone at 63 divorced 2x My family was small and passed on...even my 2x best friends my horses have passed away. But I have the Lord. He helped me in so many ways its hard to explain. When I get to a dead end a new road opens up and leads me to new opportunities. I have my health and im fortunate to have a good paying career. I see everyday as new opportunity for adventure or just finding the beauty all around me and not take it for granted. The negative is in todays world true love rarely exists....its very fleeting.....my parents were married 50 yrs......I was lucky as a child. Great video.......God bless.
“All things work together for the GOOD of those that love the Lord”- Romans 8:28
@@SpiritusMundi4EVER amen! everyone who called out to the Lord in his life he helped from the woman who just touched his robe was cured... to the thief on the cross called out to christ who stopped dying to promise him a place in paradise.....Russian Orthodox.
So nice to read about your faith in God and how you see the positive in life. I am also Orthodox but I am so acutely aware of all the evil in this world. I see it everywhere and in everything. And even though I believe in God it’s hard to get rid of this feeling
@@hautecouture2228 True but you must not waste your time here...the past will never return...focus on the new.... At this very moment someone is being diagnosed with stage 4 cancer.......soon the bell will toll for all of us....focus on what you can do to make yourself happy.... God is giving you this time dont waste it. God Bless.
Offfff get a cat and kitty litter.
Loving my God and loving myself takes my eyes off the loneliness. 63 youthful, loving still amazed by new experiences. My spirit gets younger and is preparing me for life beyond one day. I am trying to spend this time with no distractions enjoying what I missed in my youth. Blessings 🙏🏾
Just turned 65. Got the loving spouse, got the 2 successful adult children. Now feeling like I've sacrificed so much for other people/family and got very little back. I think you have a very idealised vision of family life. Just tour nursing homes and ask the residents how often their kids visit.
Whatever we get in life, most seem to regret their choices. I regret almost everything I did and everything I did not.
I was a party boy in my younger years. Then I moved to the US by myself and started becoming more and more of a loner. Now I'm 44, no gf or wife, no kids, all my family and friends are back in Europe. I thought it was a good idea to build a cabin in the desert by myself and document it here on TH-cam. I thought people would watch my videos and I'd make a friend or two. Boy was I wrong, nobody is watching my videos, which put me down even more. I am now starting to accept that I'll probably stay alone till the end of my life, which I hope wont last too long. Anyhow, not tryingto cry here, just sharing a quick story. Good luck to all of the loners out there.
Don’t take it personally. Your videos just have some weird editing
@@susancody9724 It seems you only watched the intro.
❤Remember Juses loves you--- many people are in this same Storm of lonely ness--- Juses will never leave yr side-- he's yr best freind brother ; and like me I'm I. Same boat as you---- Juses is coming bck soon; so change yr sails ⛵️; and travel on smoother waters--- you will find peace then -- GOD BLESS--- ❤
If you don’t do something about it now, you’ll regret it even more later. Do something about it.
@@kidus_tv You are right. Thank you brother.
Hell, I'm 62, and I forgot to build a life for myself. If anything, take solace in the fact that you've helped a lot of people through your work. Hell, 50 years from now, NONE of us will be remembered anyway. So eat that steak, drink that beer, enjoy life as much as we can while we're still here. The bad news is, we're lost. The good news is, we're WAY ahead of schedule. So eveybody keep dancing.
That’s perfect! Thank you.
There's still someone pulling for ya, whether you know it or not
interesting comment!
@@coolfinetime sounds good to me
turn to jesus, give him one day and your life will never be the same again.........i know the hard WAY
As a man I'm only 19 and feeling this way, I'm so lonely cause I always priotize self improvement.
LFA is a straight up dude that drops knowledge daily, he needs more subs. Thanks for everything LFA.
I’m his age I’ve come across ALOT of dudes so called “ dating gurus “ he’s the best .
Definitely one of the most practical advice channels ive come across in the past few years
Make peace with yourself, accept yourself as you are, then you will see that none of what you mentioned are a must. When you NEED something, be it family, kids, woman, friends, material things, to be happy, that is a sure sign you are not balanced and there is work to do with yourself. Again, start by ACCEPTING yourself as you are.
that's just another way of 'improving' yourself. the never ending acceptance of your shitty situation you pushed yourself in.
amen. abreeze of logic, not some wisdom.
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I agree. And those who have a family are generaly those who pursue material things the most because of modern women caprices. Or this would not explain why bilions of people are not just happy with having kids, some food and a shelter. Even the idea that kids are necesary to assure one's wealth is left to his kids is contracdictory because it implies the belief kids needs money to be happy
its true. ive been on this path recently
I lived in a psych ward for a month and was very happy. I was around 25 people and we were never lonely.
My friends sister met and married someone from the ward, had kids did the whole nine
Hi there , i am a women in my early 40s and you message about improving has held me hostage. Now i want to have a family but i feel afraid. Thanks for this message. Greetings from Djibouti
Well, ultimately we are always ALONE. We just distract ourselves with friends, family, career, goal, self improvement etc..Embrace the loneliness and those things are you saying won't affect you.
You'll be forgotten in this world in a series of twos. 2 days after death, your acquaintances will forget about you. 2 months after death, your friends will forget about you. 2 years after death, your spouse and children will forget about you. The ONLY people who would never forget about you are your parents, and only in the rare occurrance where you precede them.
Let’s not forget that simply being in a relationship doesn’t mean you aren’t alone
A family which you brought into this world together with a kind woman cannot be termed as a "distraction"
@@manikyumI agree. It gives your life purpose and meaning....healthy relationships that is 😊
Exactly
I feel amazing being alone with no friends and no family.
Me too ❤❤
How old are you though? 20s 30s? That’s a big stumbling block in me developing a relationship - I need to find someone that is worth sacrificing my solitude for .. of the women I’ve met lately - they don’t come close
no you don't or you wouldn't be looking at this videos LOL ! Don't cope, just admit you are a loser and need help
Then that means you're living life right. Don't listen to these normies and fuck conventional standards of "fulfillment" and "happiness"
Me too, and I'm 59.
Did that stuff.
I’m currently 47, alone and lost. Going through the motions until death comes.
Me too
Me three. 58. Maybe another 15 years that would put me at 73. Id be fine with that
are you a woman?
me too
its because your sexual market value has dropped to nil and now you dont get attention, this is a sad reality that most women dont see or take notice of until they hit that point in their life, but before that women spend their lives looking down on men and using them so its natures way of dishing out what women dish out earlier in their life.
I feel your pain brother, I felt similarly at your age, but now I’m 43 with no kids and no wife and I look at my friends who took the traditional path and they are miserable - I have no regrets
im 34 lost everything lost apt losing a relationship with my older brother. Got scammed twice. Addicted to Pornography and Masturbation addiction since 2000. im homeless lost everything. lost job.
Everyone is going through shit be stronger
This is your problema Bro, semen Is the creation Energy from god you need yo retain AND transmute your sacred Energy all your live can change
Recognize that those thoughts that come to your mind, aren't yours. You can then with control of your mind tell those thoughts that you are not doing any of that. In other words, those thoughts are deposited into your mind so you act on them, but they are not yours. Don't be afraid, you have total control of what to do as long as you don't make those thoughts yours. You are in charge, you control your mind.
@@yenfree0523I neeeed that thank you 💙
@@Airedale-lk5wswhat should I do with my energy how do I make the most of it ?
I"d have to say this is one of your best videos. I've done a lot of self improvement. Retired at 46, no wife or kids, and no regrets. The ones that are most jealous of me are the ones with a wife and kids. As far as leaving your wealth to your offspring, I've seen a lot of kids piss their inheritance away. For me, the only thing that keeps me grounded is my faith in Jesus, and that there is something better after this world. I think having a wife and kids in this day and age is a bad decision, with the financial cost, and the quality of women to choose from.
@@VaGdude Thank you for the compliment.
Maybe.
Let’s not forget guys the grass is always greener on the other side of the tracks .. the single guy will sometimes be envious of married family guy - the family guy will sometimes be envious of the bachelor. It’s human nature .
So true, how did you manage to retire at 46, an age most can only dream of.
Anyone can retire at anytime they want. Buy a tent and live off the land and stop being obsessed with money and material things.
“You’re free to disagree with that.”
OK, I think I will. I’m 42, never married, no kids, and have never been in a relationship. I used to get bummed out about that, but when I see my fellow man getting cheated on, divorced, having their kids taken from them, and gutted like a fish in court, I’d say I dodged a HUGE cannonball. Sure, I may have that feeling of regret at what “could have been” later on in life, but I have a feeling that will happen regardless of whether you had a family or not. It happened to my aunt after having had 3 kids, divorcing, getting old with type 2 diabetes and liver cirrhosis, having all of her possessions sold off and spending her last days in a home wishing she’d done more with her life. Or my dad, having me and my 2 brothers and then dying of a massive heart attack at age 48, leaving, really, NOTHING for us to inherit. Either way, we all ultimately leave this world with NOTHING.
And before anyone responds with, “Well, it’s your biological imperative” or “it’s your birthright” to get with a woman and have kids, historically, only 40% of men have had the PRIVILEGE (NOT a right) of reproducing and passing on their genes. 40%. I would even dare to say, it’s even lower now because of feminism, and me too movement, social media, etc.
@theduder1981 - You're right. Twice divorced here, no kids, and now I've been single for the last 10 years. While I can't say I'm "happy" at 50 and alone, I can say my life is better than being in those marriages. The constant nagging, "do this do that", going to places to spend money every weekend when sometimes I would rather just chill at home and save some money, etc......And like you said, while it's a biological urge to want a woman and kids, it can be a huge burden with little actual reward. But us men are still operating on old software that is programmed to sacrifice ourselves for the sake of women and children at any cost, and to feel our only value as men is to give up ourselves for that goal. And 90% of the women today are simply not worth it.
@@IKARIANOFFICIAL You hit the nail on the head. Woman today are not worth the sacrifice. Plain and simple.
@@Oiuytkjhgfmnbvc Yep, sadly. In a way this video here is almost a call for men to just go back to the plantation and sacrifice ourselves for the sake of biological urges. And because he feels a certain way he expects that we should too. I get it though, it's hard to fight thousands of years of programming and biology.
I think most of us men here would actually love to have a good wife and perhaps some kids, if there wasn't such a horrible failure rate. But as men, we have to be logical and also look at the facts, and it seems in this video it's simply his biology and predictive programming doing the thinking for him.
In a few generations you and your kids will be forgotten
@@jasenwm Exactly. VERY few people have made a mark in history. (George Washington, Neil Armstrong, Arnold Schwarzenegger, etc.) As for everyone else outside of your immediate family and close friends (maybe), no one will care or even know you existed.
I was married 48 years, now a Widow and so alone , insecure my life has changed, my routine is not the same anymore, im scared of things breaking down , house ,car , im in a fixed income and just now my car broke down and haven't the money to fix. Im 69 and a woman and worked hard till i retired not thinking my husband was going to die . Im devastated.🙏💔😭
That honesty was brutally refreshing, I am 37 and I felt every word uttered. Real knows real. Love 🧡
Never understood people with kids being happy. Then I had my daughter. Now I recognize I was empty before and never knew it.
Being the youngest girl with two very loving older brothers made my heart already so full.
My wife have kids and they don't even call her, so just because you have kids it doesn't mean that they will not throw you under the bus.
Your kids are not obligated to you, you are obligated to them until the day you die. They didn't ask to come here.
@@JohnWesleyHarden This.
Maybe your wife was horrible to them? There’s always a reason why kids don’t call their parents once they’re adults but most parents don’t want to look too closely at their own behaviours to recognise why and prefer to make their kids look bad for it to everyone else
@@philippagrimoire5968 nope they are just swindlers.
This is western mentality. Other cultures look after their parents
40 years old. Never went down the "self-improvement" path, but got out of a LTR 3 years ago (no kids) which was the right thing to do for us both. Figured that stepping into the dating world would be a great improvement in life, and finding a partner would be pretty accessible. 3 years and how many dates later, and still nothing.
I know everything you're talking about about though. What's my purpose? Why am I here? What am I working for? To die alone. Funny thing is, the people who are close to me never even think to ask what's up. I think they assume I want this solitary life or something.
Thanks for putting this out there man. Turns out we're not alone.
THIS IS ME!!!! I regret this soo much. 47. No kids. Never married. I want a family to love. No one to leave everything I have to. It’s a damn shame.
it"s ok brother you are not the only one
Lol never marry these 304s ever gentlemen
50% of the time it ain't the correct father
Same and I’m 45. Dating for me has been a complete and utter waste of time. No matter how low I make my standards it’s never low enough to draw interest
You come into this world with nothing,and you will leave with nothing but your faith.
Having kids won't necessarily make you happy or fix that existential dread you're experiencing. It's having a mind that doesn't crave that will free you. Think about it. When you have moments of true happiness, joy, etc, your mind doesn't want anything in that moment. You don't want or need the present moment to be any different than what it is. That is why you're happy. Maybe a short moment later you will try to latch onto whatever is making you happy or mourn its passing, but it is the not wanting anything that makes you happy and fulfilled. This can be worked on with meditation and realization of true nature beyond mental concepts. There is a peace inside that is inherent. It is the joy of being awake. Try to generate loving kindness for yourself and others. This will give you more of those feelings of contentment and equanimity.
Best response. Children will do nothing for a lack of self love.
I'm 40, with disabilities, broke and many people don't want to care for another person. All I can do is pray and help others at church and the community. Hope to adopt a fur baby, they love unconditionally.
read neville goddard 😉
Dogs can be great for comfort. Sorry for your struggles
Cats are great. I'm only still here because I need to take care of my babies. Life sucks
You have a good attitude and it's a great idea to get a pet ❤
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I am still young, 28.
However, it feels for me that this talk is more of a personal view of somebody who can't manage the thought that everything disappears anyway, whether you have offspring or not. Kids are not some magical way to preserve your legacy and make your time here on earth meaningful. Only constant that you have control over is you, and the mark you make while you are here. If you truly think that you need kids to make your mark, I think that you can't make mark big enough.
by definition, people crave things they don't have. It's like water, in the civilized world, means nothing. In the desert is everything. Don't let your cravings or your needs define you.
Or freedome means nothing, but imagine slaves being killed by their owner. That freedome had to be their dream of the life as something like being rich today....
Yeah. 58 with no wife and kids. Lots of regrets about that. Then I go visit my brothers. One divorced in early 60s and lost half of everything. The other has a fat wife and is shelling out $35,000 a year for each kid in college. They both have failing personal health and I think "You know I am doing OK."
I appreciate this video. I’m a 36 yr old single woman with no children and I agree. There is nothing more fulfilling than meaningful connections and relationships. Thank you for this I feel less alone.
I'm in the same situation; 40, no kids, no family, two-friends that live literally 1,000 miles away, no money, still living at home with the folks...it's like I'm perpetually 16 years old. I'm just trying anything new. I've started volunteering at a dog shelter just to meet new people (and new dogs). My advice is just volunteer at something you're passionate about and meet some new people. Especially if you have few or no current connections, or the current ones aren't working out or are toxic.
@@williamyoung9401I'm so sorry, I hope things get better for you. Maybe consider going back to school for a trade or degree? Or just monetizing anything you have a passion for. These days you can become financially free from just about anything. Prayers to you🙏✝️
Life is U shaped from 40 to 60 or so. You bury your parents, your strength and health decrease, you realize your life is as good as it's gonna get and game mostly over. And that super sucks but then it gets better as you let go of the stuff holding you back, you accept the way things are and you change what you can. And you make a new path and new plans because the old ways just don't fit anymore. And it's way easier to go thru with at least 1 or more good friends that love you no matter what. Ok good luck and hang in there.
Wow, this video hit. I think a lot of people..all ages..are suffering from loneliness and social isolation. I go for walks every day in my neighborhood and smile and say hi to strangers, but usually an average of 2/10 will even look at me. It seems this world has become so disconnected. Teens from the middle school nearby walk with their heads down, wear black hoodies in 90 degree weather while staring at their feet, and look depressed. It breaks my heart. Also, it's so easy to get caught up in the "self-improvement." When you don't have a family of your own or many friends or maybe just never felt good enough or like it's been the right time, I think we turn that inward, constantly trying to fix/heal/work out our issues...it can be a constant battle. Thank you for sharing this. I think a lot of men and women can relate. ❤
It's a mix of Covid + TECHNOLOGY that promises and gives soem stimulation and interest but is ultimately EMPTY.
@@YogaBlissDance very true
Yep loneliness is in every generation, I was extroverted with many friends now a loner
It takes two. Gotta self improve to a certain level to attract someone. Gotta earn enough to support a family. Think a lot of it can come down to having the means to access parenthood. But definitely some people can talk themselves into needing more time or not being ready
Broke, flaky dudes have kids out the ass, so the money aspect only matters to a man that actually want more than being a "baby daddy."
Those are the very basics tough.
I agree. While its easy for LFA to say to fellow 37-year-old dudes to "get out there and meet people" etc. its a mountain to climb for out of shape, semi socially awkward, and broke guys to do. Heck, if you're broke you don't even have the gas money to go to any kind of social event anyway.
I had the whole wife/family thing and had a kid in my early 30s. Later I got divorced and had a blast living the single crazy life dating mostly much younger women in my early 40s , but I tell ya'all if it wasn't for my kid everything else would have just felt empty at the end of the day... The coach is spot on on this one. Family and legacy is everything.
so did you divorce because you wanted to hook up with younger women?
@@limitlesky nope we just grew apart in the relationship... Then I realized I was single again as a mature man and still had a lot of options in the dating market with younger women, which I was never aware before it happened
@@trqster hey man more power to ya! Everyone is different. For me I dont want a family and recently got out for a 13 year relationship. I found what makes me happy is focusing on me, finding new hobbies, spending time with friends and loved ones, and I love being by myself! Anyway, wish the best of luck to ya on your future endeavors. Happy trails brotha
@@kingjoseph5901 Thanks bro, like you said everyone has a different path, but eventually things change and that's ok too
"...but I tell ya'all if it wasn't for my kid everything else would have just felt empty".
How do you know this? You can't have a kid and not have a kid at the same time so you can't know how your life would have unfolded if you didn't have a kid. This is usually said unconsciously as an internal defense to squash feelings of doubt before that feeling manifests into regret and resentment. This not to take away from the positives that having a kid has done for you which I don't doubt. And why do you (or anybody for that matter) care about one's legacy?
At the end of the day, it really does come down to your own individual preferences and living a life that makes you happy. There are folks out there who have lost faith in others and find it easier to cope with life alone, but then other people who can't stand to navigate life by themselves. If you have even just 1 real friend in this world, consider yourself lucky
I would rather leave the money to organizations. I don’t care to take care of souls who didn’t ask to be here. This world suckssssss
People like to say opting to not be a parent is selfish, their logic usually being that you only care and worry about yourself, but have never agreed with those people and have come to see it similarly as you. None of us asked to be here, most people have children because THEY want children, bringing a child into this shitty existence voluntarily is inherently a selfish act that people do for themselves. That's definitely not the popular opinion, but it's my opinion.
Wow!!! 👏👏👏 Thank you LFA , I needed to hear this at this exact moment. We're all going through struggles and take things for granted whether alone or with family.
Bro this video hit me exactly in the spot. I’m 100% in this rut. I just turned 32. Im always self improving lol. I also am able to just cut people out and I have no friends but I do have family just not my own family. Problem is I don’t want a girlfriend or a wife it grosses me out . I do want kids . Something I have to figure out. Being alone coming home to an empty house to me is gold man. I don’t know how life could get better but I do want kids eventually. I just dont like girls man. They’re horrible most of them and they like only want you if you’re rich. I have my own business I own real estate I’m a landlord I’m jacked shredded 6ft I have the package but I find woman are super shallow today and it grosses me out so bad. I have to get over that mindset cause I know they’re not all like that. I don’t even want a hot girl I’m not even into hot girls they normally have big egos. I want like a humble loving person who’s kind and just feminine . I wish I had that. Dating apps are useless dude. Has to be real life connection for me. I have to open up more too im an introvert so I avoid all social interactions purposely but I do know I need to change. This video hits me exactly in the feels. But also you can be 50 and have kids it doesn’t matter for a guy so don’t feel like you’re too old. Also don’t rush cause one wrong woman can cause you tons of stress for life.
You will find a good woman from another culture.
50? You Want to be able to play and run with your children not a grandpa
Yea bro, save money for a ticket and hotel to Philippines or Thailand or Indonesia. You will find what you're looking for in a woman there.
@@DavidLoveOfficial Exactly what I was going to say, I've seen quite a few guys in workplaces who's wifes are from South-America, Far East etc. they treat men so much better from there. Wish I'd done it years ago as dating was a nightmare for the most part in UK!
Just be patient my man. Take your time and dont rush into anything even when you finnaly find one thats different. Within a year or two all true colors will show. Most importantly if we are not living for God life is meaningless. Worship your creator and obtain salvation through His
Son Jesus Christ. Believe in Jesus and repent of your sins and and He will make you new! Ask Him to bring you the right wife for you and he will. There are still some good ones out there but most are found through traditional means, the grocery store, meeting through friends etc.
I had all the friends back in the day , but you can count your real friends on 1 finger ! being alone aint that bad .
This video hits home. I am 31 single as fuck, rejecting women who have good intentions for me for reasons like " she has a high body count " or " she is not submissive" and see all my friends making happy lives with women who on paper had a bunch of red flags. I am really wondering if I fell into the same type of rat race that we often fall in our careers, but in my case in my personal/love life. The thought of ending up alone creeps up on me and scares me, but then I remember that I am 31 and if I get my shit together I can turn this around. Fingers crossed
Yeah try to not be as picky - just go on dates and try to have fun.
Don't let the fear of being alone convince you to put yourself in a worse position. #1 you don't know what is going on behind the scenes with those women and what they might be up to unbeknownst to your friends. Leopards do not change their spots and you don't know if they will make it #2 the sad reality is most of us die alone even if you are married and manage to stay that way unfortunately someone dies first and you are often still by yourself unless you have extremely good kids. My grandma lived many years a widow without my grandad and my mom the same thing. That being said don't give up and don't be down on yourself.
Stay a way from females with high body counts. You better yet dating older woman. Younger girls are hard to deal with. They expect everything from you for free and never I Mean never have I met a young girl to take responsibility for her actions. That bothers me to the core. I can't stand it. Try older women. They have their shit together and are easy to talk to.
It'll always look like sunshine and rainbows from the outside until it falls apart. Making life decisions out of FOMO is not good. Be calculated, know what you want out of life.
I used to be really picky in my youth, thinking I am high value and special. Later in my twenties I realized that I am not that special, I am just like everyone else. I then lowered my unrealistic standards, found a girl who is a great fit for me and I have been happy since.
Family is vital brahs, but not with damaged females.
Facts!
@@LFA you inspire me to create new content bro. Hope all is well. Merry Christmas 🎄
💯 no compromises on that matter. Better to be at peace alone than to be trapped with someone who makes you feel alone.
Proverbs 21:9 KJB
“It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.”
Most of them are damaged beyond repair. Pass.
Exactly
To see how crazy America has become in the past 20 years. I'm glad that I never brought kids into this society. Plenty of kids and young adults that I don't mind helping for free.
Feeling accompanied by y'all 💜 44F alone, struggling in so many ways and observing it all from a higher place so that I can cope with it all wisely.
I’m twice divorced man that’s closing in on 60 so I have a good looking back prospective for you young dudes, I have a daughter from each marriage, my divorces were tough, I’m single now dating but highly red pill, I’ve excepted women are hypergamous and if you show any weakness it scares them out of your life, I wouldn’t trade my daughters for ALL the money in the world, and I wouldn’t trade my pain for gain , my point is never give up and never be afraid to make that approach, you might get rejected but who cares , that rejection doesn’t define you, and remember, there is someone up above, great video!
How much do you/did you pay in child support per month? Maybe I should have children and accept that my wife might divorce me and have children with another wife like you. Better than being single forever.
Amen
Never married, no kids. No friends, no family and couldnt be happier. Regret not having a family? Hell no. I have had a great life, despite the narcisstic family. Freedom can be a very powerful drug.
I’m 50 and spent my whole life chasing the society’s norm, and yes I had relationships, love, children and lots of good times. But I also had heartbreak, abuse, betrayal, depression, sadness. Well that’s it for me. Ive got off the hamster wheel of life and going it alone. I’m chasing peacefulness and calm these days. Lone wolf. 3 years into it and most days I’m content and at peace. Sure I feel loneliness on occasions, but it gets less over time.
This is the dark side tradcons don't tell you. Even if you win, life can still smack you in the face
Yep, life is no story book. Relationships most of the time will end, especially now days in the social media era. I've been in 4 long term relationships myself, 13 years being the longest which ended last year. I'm not learning to love myself, spending time with childhood friends and finding new hobbies. I'm in my mid 30s and feel I am having some sort of awakening. Anyway I wish you all luck and good health.
As a lone wolf by choice from age 5, including no intimacy, I would say I get lonely about 15% of the time. But I spell it as horny. :) As a senior, the Internet has opened world upon world of interesting things to explore, along with the Nature I loved from age 5. To me a relationship is a distraction. I would rather have that occasional loneliness, than be in a relationship and wanting to be alone 85% of the time, and not being allowed to do so. Thanks.
@@steve4524 ditto 😉
@@stephenjones5304 I can relate to what you're saying. I thought I was built to be with someone. Not necessarily. I enjoy my own company. I like me.
I had my heart broken. I will never apologize for loving a man who was unlovable sometimes. Nor will I apologize my true heart and having my partners best interests at heart. No hidden agendas, no hidden motives, yet I've had all those antics played on me. Not nice, but it's not about me. People are going to do what they want to do regardless of what I think or say. Zero control over that. Sure takes the pressure off LOL
This really helped me out. I have trust issues but i recognize that you just gotta get out there and find your people even if you feel like you have no one in your corner.