Signs you're scared of commitment
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"Get a life."
"Make one with me, coward."
Hilarious.
I’m using that forever now on
HAHAAHAH
Lol
Anna is a funny lady, alright!
Fun fact: Not all facts are fun.
Say sike right now.
Oh yeah, we just call them facts
Thank you, Mr. Bastion "Posh Sh*thead" Misawa. Truly, your insights are among the poshest & the sh*test out there. We salute you, sir.
WingSlash I blame Martin for this. -_-
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You are right to do so, good sir. :P
Fun fact: Oranges are pre-sliced by nature
Priyanuj Bordoloi how considerate of it ❤️ 🍊
Damn.
Priyanuj Bordoloi yup
Fun fact: I'm about to slap you.
Fun fact: Mandarins are oranges pre-sliced by nature
"get a life"
" *make one with me coward* "
That's called being Tsundere
Roseta Hearts "fun facts"
"Enjoying the pursuit of a relationship rather than actually being in one". Yep, that's me for sure...and probably alot of others too : D
Yesss
Me me me!
Yupppo
Me lol
@Sarah, Chase me until I say no.
Reasons why I'm afraid of commitment?
1. Possessiveness/Controlling People
2. Afraid of hurting or being hurt
3. Despise disappointing people
4. Don't like being counted or dependent on
5. Don't believe in promises
6. Value personal freedom above anything else.
Yeah, I think its safe to say I'll be single forever.
Then you're not alone girl, same here
I Don’t believe in promises.. and I wish all people could think that way
this channel should be named Anna Attacka based on how much your recent content attacks me and forces me to face my issues thanks babe
LMAOOO TRUE.
anna attacka SUIADHSUAYDSGFUYDSGFUYDSGFUSHFUIDSHFIS
Yeah, I guess my relationship goes good.
20secs later, Anna: YOU ARE AFRAID OF COMMITMENT
Fun fact: We all are gonna die c:
Anna: *Smiles in death* That makes me happy :)
The funnest of facts
That's what makes everything totally less worrisome and serious.
HOW is what I'm more worried of lol
"You still feel scared from a previous relationship, and you carry those beliefs into the now. You are convinced, most likely subconsciously, that any future partner will hurt you as your past one did, and as a result, you keep everyone at arms length"
Fun fact:.......... that one wasn't fun
I almost think a guy did this to me. We talked for hours on the phone, then he insisted we meet up after that I almost didn't want to see him a third time but he persuaded me. Then not to long after he made it clear he was uninterested but he still tried to get me to want him, he had been hurt in past relationships, I think the one woman left him and he was super attracted to me, but out of the 8 traits he was looking for i didn't have 3 and it seemed very nitpicky, to me anyway. We had everything in common, we could talk for hours and yet he was attracted to me, but he would find reasons that it wouldn't work and instead of trying to work through those had a that's the end all be all attitude.
I felt attacked by that one. 😓
Not fun, but definitely a fact
@Teddy James wat?
@Teddy James what do you mean a crime? Lol. "damn I hate being single. Lemme go commit tax fraud" lol
Sign you're scared of Commitment:
1. You're still Single
Duchi Oof, why you gotta call me out like that
No?
You may be single because you're holding out for the RIGHT person to commit to.
me
You didn't.
"You're very interested...until they are" sounds like every girl I've ever met
Cactuaaaaaaaa
Me. Till I grew up
💀💀💀💀💀
Used to be me, then I realized I'm a lesbian lmao
sorry
"Commitment is not something that I fear, but something that I welcome. "
That's my 2020 vision a.k.a goal right there.
Thanks Anna 🖤
@Robert what
Dude I’m AFRAID of being in a relationship
SAME DUDE.
me too.
Me 😭
same 😭
Mee too ..i feel all those thing that she mentioned here
Fun fact: Anna is smart because therapy is most likely business expense, better use it on therapy sessions rather than being taxed on
Fun fact: I'm Chandler Bing in a relationship
Fun fact: Only being Chandler Muriel Bing is fun enough.
Same tho😂
@@vasilzhekov9245 lol
@@madsmaryann5141 XD
2:07 When she started getting into the smaller, more subtle signs it felt like she was repeatedly bashing me over the head with the book she recommended.
"I don't know if love is real" - I feel this in my soul.
Okay, so we all know Anna is the queen of introspection here, but can we also talk about how amazing her comedic chops are? That "arm's length" callback alone was pacing, planning, and relevance to the main topic freaking perfected. It's a privilege to watch such top tier content.
Life begins where fear ends
And what if it kills you ?
“Some of you might feel attack”
Me: yes but needed
I already know this about myself. My first relationship wasnt good or healthy. So when i first started dating my boyfriend i really notices how nitpicky i was like "the right person should just feel *right*" but like. I have anxiety and trust issues face it its never going to feel right until you push yourself out of your comfort zone and give your partner that little bit of trust until one day it does feel right. It feels like i can trust them finally because i pushed myself to trust
"Get a life!... make one with me coward..." what a great line
You know how everyone has their own definition for love? I made one that combines a few; tell me what you think.
Love:
A pleasing desire of acceptance, regardless of flaws, to commit to care and/or help with a feeling of deep affection.
seems pretty accurate to me your definition.
...this sounds like how I would define unconditional love...
Soon as I read desire I stopped reading
@@johnathangulley9700 I think your attracted to disapproval if I’m the one comment you responded to
@@johnathangulley9700 hmm okay 👍
i knew i was going to be called out but i wasn’t prepared to be so accurately called out
*I can’t forget seeing you in Ant-Man o-o*
Oop-
I thought it was spiderman
Where? Which scene?
@@spinmaster6995 it's the after credit scene
👀 👀 👀
It’s crazy how the signs told me how I’m pursuing commitment so hard that I’m actually not allowing myself to be committed because of this underlying fear of it?! Yk? Thanks for this Anna, hope that made sense cuz this made a lot of sense to me now.
"Fun fact: you're 2.6 feet away from me" got me. The perfect timing on the callback
I knew i had commitment issues since i stopped finishing any game or series
when they abandon you n you’re sad but also relieved...
I feel so attacked. 😂😂
Great book! 👍🏼
Used to be anxiously attached. Securely attached now. Took time & a lot of work. You’ll have setbacks so be gracious & forgiving to yourself. You’ll get there - I know it!
Since Anna uses clones. Does that mean she's dating herself? If so? How many clones are there?😂
fun facts: anna loves to attack individuals like me with videos like these 😔🤲
Yeah, she nailed me too!
Same here. Lol.
"You are very interestend...until they are" ouch that one really hurt
I recently started therapy for anxiety and low self-esteem because your videos are one of the reason that made me okay with it.
This topic was really relatable for me, I always destroy the thing that just started and then proceed to blame the other party and eventually myself. And then start this cycle over. Thank you for sharing!
attachment styles are so so so important for undoing that deep childhood trauma stuff i love/hate doing the necessary work that it uncovers.... schema therapy is a really fun and different perspective that helped me once i realised i’d learnt all i could from cognitive behavioural therapy and i still wasn’t healthy !!
Anna's constant creative and helpful videos really make me feel motivated to live life. It's just fun to see her always creating and trying to give and analyze and in turn, help herself by talking out all these thoughts.
This is a huge issue in the world right now. Thanks for sharing. I think another contributing factor is there is so much access to choice as well with social media, multiple dating apps, etc…
“You think your married friends settled” lmao no I know this for a fact SO BOOM. 💀😂 I’ll commit when I feel like I’ve gotten my best option ☺️
but what if that's never 🤔
Sophie May lol! I don’t have those issues/concerns. But hypothetically, I would just never commit.
Anna be helping psychology students from her own findings
That's me! Thanks Anna💕
Andrea Valencie that’s me too! But I’m doing it as an A Level
seriously have no idea why i've been dweliing on all of your videos for a week now. Those messages you gave in the videos are no joke. Thanks for making everyon better and life's easier, Anna.
I seriously love your sense of humor mixed with your honestly and feel like I can relate so much. Thank you
The mustard yellow has been lookin’ goooooooood btw, lol.
letting go of the stories we tell ourselves, understand our limiting beliefs and understand ourselves better, building a relationship with ourselves first!!!
Giiiiirrrrl! I just saw you on A Million Little Things!!! Already one of my favorite shows, now with one of my favorite TH-cam Influencers! You rock, hon! So happy for you! 😊❤
A friend and I discovered we both watch you, and agreed that your videos are like free therapy sessions.
Stay Awesome Anna! ♡
“ We’re all gonna die”
I’m excited 🤩🤩🤩...
Fun Fact: We're all gonna die.
That needs to be a t-shirt!
I Will make that tshirt. İn several colors! 😂😉
@@erhantufekcoglu3193 There needs to be more people like you 😊👍👍
Going through something like this in my head but in the peak of a long term relationship. Thanks for this Anna, definitely need to do some more conscious work on my subconscious.
She deserves so many more subs. Intelligent, gorgeous and entertaining.
I knew I am. Afraid of commitment. I relate more or less to some of these signs, but I wasn't aware it was so bad. At around 2:26 (also from 2:44 to 2:49)... Anna got me good, that's an "attack" on me because it's so true (no matter how much I deny it and try to lie to myself). Thanks for the book rec. I'll try to help myself with it until I finally get the nerve to go to an actual therapist.
okay.......but you didnt have to drag me this hard
i swear your videos are always so relevant to what im currently going through its bizarre
You and everyone working to build this channel are awesome.
Not just a afraid of intimacy girl
I'ma scared of commitment too
Oh my god this outlines my entire existence
Anna this was fab, thank you!
This is like, scarily accurate
Fun fact: we're all going to die
@first last Than, not then
that's not a fun fact.
Ahhh, but if you die before me then how do you know I'll die? :D
Love how when she started getting real her voice became more nasal. 😂
I don't know how your videos always suit my current situation, but I love it
I love how you mention your therapy sessions
Sign youre afraid of commitment: You watched this
ugh I love being attacked by Anna
I'm not afraid of relationships, I was in a commited relationship for 10 years... Now I miss being in one so much, having that special partner that you can tell everything and hang up and make love. Lol
I have a dismissive attachment style working towards the secure attachment style. Self-love and open communication are the keys.
Have the awareness that you are complete and enough, and be the person you want to attract to life.
2020 didn’t have an easy start, but that’s the year for a change and we will make it better!
loved the fun facts call back. All your content is great, but its fun to see some hints of your standup creep in!
Fun fact: "If I measured pants using my neck I'd never get them over my thighs."
"Make one with me, coward." Just gold!
every single one of your videos is a personal attack!! i love it ngl
This came at JUST the right time for me, thank god for Anna Akana
"Get a life."
"Make one with me, you coward."
👌👀👅👌👌👀💯
I was today years old when I learned that I’m scared of commitment.
You made real progress today. Good job.
i’m so grateful for self awareness tho cause it’s brought me to learn most of this without therapy. and thanks to my internet searches guided by self awareness of my needs!
I'm not scared of commiting. I've commited to this channel.
I wonder whether many people at all are happy in their long term relationships. And whether the happily in love tend to have certain traits. How much of the population is unmotivated, unhappy, flaky, addicted, unfeeling, anxious, and so on?
I think maybe I'm just too isolated. I don't really know any examples in my personal life of healthy, loving relationships, while there are plenty of instances of unhealthy, unloving relationships.
But it seems to me that some people will never find anyone they love in return. Yes, not one out of the 7 billion people on the planet. Esp those who are mentally or physically ill.
I could have fallen in love once upon a time. But now, I'd have to find someone who not only could fall in love with someone as broken as me, but I could fall in love with as well.
Could be worse. I could be someone who can't stand to be alone.
You're awesome. Thank you for being real and amazing. Hit the target
I can relate to this SO HARD
Fun fact: Being single makes you a stronger person.
Well being in relationships and learning abt other ppl and how to handle situations is what actually makes you stronger. You need experiences to grow and as a result u remain single.
Oh bullshit
2:04, genius, I laughed so hard.
Your videos are so crisp and professional even ur content. You deserve more subscribers.. but u are on ur way to that
Thanks, Anna!
I do have commitment issues, but I can't relate to anything you listed. And I want to thank for making me think more about myself.
I'm in a long-term relationship w a man and have never been with a woman. So I haven't come out in years. Any tips on how to deal with people not believing your sexuality?
Move to California. You'll run into many sympathetic people in the same boat : D
I get it can be frustrating, but does it really matter if they believe it or not? It's not even something they should have doubts about lol, if you say you're a certain way, the least people can do is respect it.
PS: sorry if I sound rude, I just get mad in situations like these, even if it doesn't envolve me...
Agree with Renata Margues that true friends will believe you because they recognize your agency as a human being. Coming out is scary (amhik), one of the biggest fears is that your friends and family will abandon you but if you flip that over your being your authentic self is a test of the other's relationship with you. If they truly value you and their connection to you they will accept you and affirm you... though it can be a bumpy ride for all involved. Patience is a virtue however frustrating or painful but the most important thing that the people allowed to be in your life accept, support and love you as you. The good news is that as an out person there's another whole world of people waiting to welcome you and celebrate you!
Embody Geralt of Rivia: hit them with a hard stare and a “Hmmm”. In all seriousness, you don’t have to prove your sexuality. If people don’t believe you, that’s their problem. You know who you are and who you love. I’ve now gotten to the point where I actively enjoy correcting people who assume I’m straight. I just stare them out and enjoy their discomfort, make of that what you will!
Worth while to examine why you feel the need to make sure people believe your sexuality and if the same people consistently invalidate your sexuality have a candid talk about it with them. You may find that you need to cut some folks out of your life and set boundaries with people.
Dating coach time
Eyeliner on point! Also, good content.
I'm going down this road too! Getting to know yourself is great and enlightening, but too much exposure to these things could mess you in the head if you're doing a deep dive suddenly... just something I've experience.
*raises hand*
Me, I know 1700s sea shanties :>
When it comes to relationships I'm full-on avoidant lol I literally have a doormat that says "Go away" with a pic of a cat throwing up double middle fingers lol
*Person shows interest in me
Me: I bite.
😂
I got 50/50 avoidant and secure from a test. When ppl try to hit on me I just freeze and suddenly act super cold while internally I just wanna run and hide 😅
i will stan anna till i die for teaching me the most appropriate response to 'get a life'
i love you so much girl you have no idea
Sometimes and I mean ALL the time, I feel like Anna is speaking directly to me
Damn, the only time I felt attacked about commitment.
Fun fact : a fact is fun
as always ... thank you!
I actually love Anna’s videos
Bold of you to assume I want a relationship with anyone at all.......
**nods*
She's straight up talking about me 🤦🏻♀️🤣
Dang! Her production quality is top class on TH-cam
I love your video's! Not only are they insightful. They are so funny! Amazing work!!!
You will meet your true love! 🙏🙏🙏