6 ways to tell she's toxic: 1. Blameshifting, inability to take accountability for her toxic actions and behavior. 2. They play power games. Communicates insecurity and immaturity. 3. Achievement becomes competition. Doesn't encourage you, support you, genuinely celebrate your wins with you. 4. Excessive envy and jealousy. Constantly mistrusting you (projecting her own untrustworthiness), violating your boundaries. 5. She's controlling. She's controlling of people, situations, the information you're allowed access to, and even people's perceptions of you after you break up (smear campaign, character assassination). 6. Uses you for money, is non-reciprocal with money as well as effort, validation, honesty, etc. A personal note: I experienced all of the above and more from my toxic ex, who is a professional therapist. Don't blindly believe appearances, or credentials. People in any profession can be toxic. Believe their behavior. Covert narcissists and psychopaths can be especially adept at manipulating perceptions by controlling information and constructing appearances. They get their needs met through deceit and trickery rather than authenticity and actually earning it. Imagine getting treated like this and then further being sh*t on afterwards by her calling you creepy and cringy and her leaving the relationship feeling superior to you. The only solution to these toxic people (women and men alike) is to distance yourself from them and find someone worthy of your love and kindness and who actually adds to your inner peace.
Women who are therapists, psychiatrists, and psychologists are some of the most screwed up. I think that's why they are attracted to the fields of mental health. Best to avoid them outright.
@@moleahy6880 While it's hard to make blanket statements about entire groups of people, it is completely factual and fair to say that there is an over-representation of toxic/damaged people in the professions you listed due to selection bias.
Have been in love with a lady who was so toxic for me and has hurt me numerous times over the last 4 years. Tomorrow is the last day I am ever going to speak to her. Wish me luck
How have you held up? I had a similar realization with a woman i have been with off and on for 20 years over the holidays. I went NC on new years day havent spoke to her since. It was hard but over the months I changed from feeling like it was my fault to actually having anger toward her bc as the lust and affection fades I can clearly see the patterns of abuse over the years and how badly she just used me.
1. Love-bomb stage 2. Anchored (ex. kids) 3. Toxic behaviors start 4. Gaslighting to keep you or get you back. 5. Either leave or this Narcissist Cycle continues. I’ve been dealing with the worst for 8 years. I’ve filed divorce 2 times and ended both to “reconcile” and once she gaslit me to come back it started all over again. Take my word men. Just leave and don’t look back!
I don't see myself getting a girlfriend any time soon, but it's always nice to listen to positive and healthy-minded women like you, and even get good advice.
@@CourtneyRyan I was just with a female who always played the victim. She use to always day ppl done this did that point the finger, intentionally cause arguments then play ms little innocent etc I had to cut her off. All of ur videos remind me off this girl I use to be with.thank you for putting these videos out to get us guys aware of traits of these type of women. She was even jealous of the jobs i got closed I wear, she caused break uos in my friendship with my homies
Ha! My ex scored a perfect 6/6. It’s amazing how much toxicity you subconsciously overlook in another person because you’re blinded by love. Thank you Courtney, have a great day!
Cheating in a relationship is an unforgivable betrayal of trust that can not be remedied, at least for me. There is no excuse for it and, again for me, marks your character as a person as flawed beyond redemption, in the regards to a relationship; thanks to alomd genius for saving me from that bloody cheater..
I dated a female narcissist for more than three years, and she easily scores 6/6 on this list. This list only scratches the surface of how psychologically damaging different toxic behaviours can be in an unhealthy relationship. I would spare this experience for many, so I suggest we keep learning and take seriously those signs. Don't compromise. You are worth more than that.
Here are some extra ones 7) she insults you and attacks you when she is upset with you. Not able to control her emotions and justifies her mistakes. 8) she tries to separate you from family and friends. 9) she is manipulative of you and situations. 10) she neglects you and doesn’t show you love. At some point it crosses the line from to toxic over to abuse. If you find yourself in love with an abusive women, cut it off and move on. Find healing and find someone who will value you.
Number 7 was especially problematic with my ex. Such disrespectfull an verbally abuse behavior, and I wouldn't have it. Most important thing in a relationship is trust and respect. She deserved neither and I'm glad I got rid of her.
The best thing a man can do is be ready to let any girl go when it’s necessary. I’ve seen way too many of my boys stick around and put up with lot of emotional manipulation and abuse. Just because a girl is very attractive on the outside they think they can’t do better. No girl is worth your peace of mind. Being willing to walk away ironically makes it less likely you’ll have to since you’ll actually be able to set healthy boundaries.
I’ve just ended a relationship with my girlfriend due to all of the things that you mentioned. It has completely damaged my mental health and to the point that I’ve made the decision to steer clear of getting involved with another woman for a long while. Great video!! Thank you 🙏🏻
I'm with you. At the minute, I can't imagine getting together with anyone else. My ex was a monster. She was so abusive to me. If it was the other way round and I did and behaved as she did towards me, I'd be put in jail.
Just say F it!!! I don't know you, need you, want you anymore! I got sex and I can do better!! I'm off to find a decent girl! Watch her reaction but leave and stay strong 💪!!!
My ex had major toxic behaviour concerning nummer 1,3 and 5 plus being verbally abusive and kept physical intimacy locked away unless I was able to fully accommodate her. I fired her ass 2 months ago and have never been happier. I'd rather be single the rest of my life than deal with such high maintenance nudging behavior!
same me too for only 4 months, I hopped off the train very quickly fortunately. You lose so much interest and affection while also gaining hatred for a woman once you realise what shes objectively like. And dont try to fix them!!
My GF broke up with me about 7 weeks ago and she displayed all of these traits, was with her 3 years, I went to great lengths to help her thro those years with every aspect of life for her to blame me for the relationship ending. Never again will I deal with that crap
This. I stayed single after that. Each time a girl wants to be in the relationship with me, that's when all the red flags reveal themselves. Ain't looking, just chasing my goals. Life has never been better
Same here man but 6 years for me and I was lied too and only used to help win her kids back and then eventually discarded when her use of me was up. Went from I was her life to smear campaigning me left and right and playing victim none stop. She discarded after even helping her once again even long after the relationship ended of her reaching out for my help as always. I’ll just soon have to move to get totally away from her and her drama she always causes.
I had a ex-girlfriend who was competitive, jealous, and controlling. She was horrible. I'm glad I broke up with her and moved on. She was attractive and that''s all she had going for her.
Personally, I am no longer interested in a relationship right now. I am only 22 years old. I think its best for us guys to simply just focus on career and hit the gym constantly (this goes out to guys who are seeking relationships in their early 20s). This will bring a much better ROI in the long term as opposed to staying in toxic relationships and wasting time in unhealthy relationships where everything is one-sided. Now I am not against having a relationship but it is very difficult to date/ find the right person these days. God will eventually send the right person at some point.
Im 22 as well…i’ve been seeking like hell from 16 to 20…the last heartbreak really turned down my will to go get some girl…sometimes i hate being single and some I feel really fortunate of not feeling obligated to give my time to someone or deal with her BS…Checking how i dress, eating healthy 5 day a week, grinding for my grades, fixing minor aesthetic issues and better my social skills is more fulfilling than figuring out some girl’s mind that’s not really into you…some girl will look at you anyways, they pop in your life unexpectedly
22-23 or so is when things started to turn around for me dating wise. I’d left college and had landed my first job. Suddenly I was very attractive to girls still at college 18-21 yo or so. Hypergamy is a thing, girls want to date UP. That’s why guys have to wait and build their value. When you are just dating at school or college unless you have great looks, status or game you’re just another guy to the girls around you. You have to transcend that environment to get noticed, so yes, work on yourself but keep a weather eye out for girls who are interested. As you grow there will be more and more, as long as you have a good social circle. This starts with a solid male friend group. Cultivate that.
I was so blinded by all you've said by this woman that it destroyed our marriage 😢. I did see the red flags and ignored them all and now reaping from what I sowed.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
I never dated a toxic woman but my brother has. When they broke up, she sent 20 really nasty text messages to my brother. I lost all respect for her. I'm glad my brother is out of that relationship.
It happens all the time. Toxic is the new norm & worn as a badge of honor, especially in social media. Yesterday, I saw a woman sporting a top saying " "Proud Bitch" & her toddler daughter wearing a top "Future Bitch." with people huddled around her stroller commenting how cute that was. I guess she got her validation?
Lol. Yup, as an older guy I would agree. Current society---it's 'cool' and 'awesome' to be completely bloated and puffed up on yourself as the most important thing around. Pathetic and has horrible results.
I recently got my self esteem absolutely destroyed. She projected her insecurities on me and blamed me for things I never did or have done in my life, while trying to hold me accountable. The worst thing is I kept apologizing in the hopes she wouldn't leave, because I thought I'd never find such a perfect match again. I guess this was the "lovebombing" or "mimicking" phase. In the end she just wanted to feel validated, most likely due to a previous toxic relationship. It took me many months to stop internalizing blame, and I still can't let a woman in my life, even when a few times beautiful women were hitting on me. My brain has gotten over internalizing blame, but the trauma is still there. I hope you continue what you are doing, it helps a lot.
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
I’ve dealt with guys like this. Every bit of it. I finally got a healthy relationship and it’s unlike anything I have ever experienced. The problem isn’t the gender, you have to see what it is about you that you continue to draw the same types of women. I see a lot of comments on here that indicate the problem is not women, but the person writing the comment who refused to see their own issues and instead, transfers them on to an entire gender as to not confront their own inadequacies and unhealthy toxicity. I can tell you that it’s not about blaming a gender, it’s about examining yourself and why you continue to attract these types. I did the same years ago, but I will be blunt that when I was still dating, if a guy approached me with the same energy and mentality that some of you have? I would run for the hills because your own toxicity is GLARING and you can draw what you put out. Good luck. I hope you find a good person but for some comments on here? The irony is lost on you…
Hands down the biggest red flag is when they associate being dramatic and confrontational as a form of affection. If she WANTS you to get into bar fights with random dudes over her instead of talking things out like a gentleman, GTFO IMMEDIATELY
Then just ask her to first have a knife fight with some random girl in the bar. ;-) If she's alive after that, you tell her that you are not into murderers, while you already have dialed 911... ;-D And if she says no to that, you do what most of women do: You blame her of not really loving you and tell things like "How you did I ever fall in love with you? It's over. I go." and then just leave her. :-D
One of my exes ticked all these boxes. She had been abused by her dad, and her mom told her she was Queen/Princess/Perfect so that led to narcissism. She became cruel and Machiavellian, like a super-villain in her manipulations. Fortunately my work paid for 5 weeks of counselling to resolve the issues post breakup.
My ex had the same upbringing. Unfortunately after three years, I am starting counseling. We have a kid together and she dumped me at the beginning of this month for a 50 year old shiny new toy.
*Identifying toxic behaviors early on can save so much heartache. I especially appreciated the point about manipulation - it's subtle but can be a major red flag.*
Unfortunately my wife is toxic. But we have a 14yr and a 6yr old. She thinks she knows everything and can never be in the wrong or apologize. The funny think is though my kids always pick me over her in every situation 😊
My wife and I have been together for 25 years now. We both went through our toxic phase. She was controlling and I was the jealous type. We both suggested divorcing a number of times but we both really loved each other. We decided to go to couples therapy. And I have to tell you. The more honest you are the better the results. The therapist saw right through our passing the puck routine. She would even separate us to get each other’s point of views. Then put us together and discuss our points of views and each other’s flaws. She basically told us that we were both toxic 😂😂😂. But, she told us that if we don’t fix this now. That we will simply carry it with us to our next relationship. So my wife and I painfully started on the road to better ourselves. We are finally in a great place together now after 10 years. It’s like really learning who you really are and meeting your partner for the first time. We can’t believe how insecure we use to be and how many years were wasted cause of it. Don’t wait, get therapy now. I can honestly say that every single couple needs to try it at least once. You will be amazed at what you learn and be honest with your therapist. They will know if you are not. It’s not their first rodeo and they really have heard everything. 😂😂😂😂😂 great video!❤😊
I'm married 31 years. Our youngest daughter graduated this year. I've known my wife is toxic for Long time. She got cancer in December, surgery now it's back. I'm not happy, haven't been, but can't be "that guy" and leave now.
I would also like to give advice from my experience. If there is a "voice" in your head telling you that your relationship isn't gonna work you should probably listen to it. It really doesn't help being around someone you don't feel comfortable with no matter how nice they are or how good they look.
Hits the nail on the head. I actually went through counciling because I thought I was the problem. Come to find out from my councillor I wasn't the problem, she was. This video is 100% accurate and things to run from.
People tend to flip things around on the other person. Both genders do it. The fact you were willing to consider yourself part of the problem speaks volumes about your character and willingness to be open. You will be alright, you just need to find someone on your level.
Just went through a breakup about a month and a half ago, and she exemplified a few of these points. Past traumas, unnecessary jealousy, and controlling.
This was the same for me. It’s hard when you love them a lot, care for them and feel sorry for them. I genuinely want her to be happy, I feel horrible for leaving her and I had to really battle myself to leave her… even after I was doubtful of my decision and scared of seeing her with someone else… But it’s for both of your benefits, everyone looks back through their failed relationships no matter what and learn from their mistakes.
Being single at 48 years old is just fine for me. I don’t feel a need to want someone else controlling my life. I’m very passive and I don’t like to argue. I swear every girl I’ve ever been with is just been one situation or another. I’m fine by myself.
At 35 I have given up on a relationships as the last 3 girlfriends I had abused my good heart, flowers,romantic geastures and have made my life hell. It's not worth the hell. It's better to be alone.
I've been single for 5yrs now after a tough break up & was finally open to dating again but I found myself encountering a toxic girl. I didn't see it at first because after her affection I was hooked & was blinded. I found myself trying to help her & eventually becoming a simp. The lesson I learned was be cautious of who I bring into my life & leave ASAP if I notice any toxic behavior. Thank you Courtney for this video.
My woman is the complete opposite of this. I'm so glad I'm in my early twenties and found Mrs. Right so early in life. Cheers to many more, my love. Thank you, Courtney.
Be careful I thought the same thing and after that 4th of the 6th year my ex the sociopath narcissist true colors started to show little by little. The mind game manipulating sneaky evil beast came out and she tried her best to destroy me. They are so nice and charming at the beginning. Then they do a whole 360 change on you and then you’re enemy #1 and they smear campaign you like crazy and try to turn everyone against you.
@@BLUExEYEDxSLICKT yea which is why I tell my guys push back sex as long as you can to like the 6 or 9 month mark, scout the shit out of your potential gf, and truly try to get a read, even when you do have a read, you can never be sure, is this just all and act
This is so true. There are so many women like this, they simply never became women, they stopped developing at an early age emotionally. Thank you so much for validating what I already knew. God bless you.
Yup, the money thing resonates fully. I recently dated a girl who claimed she was a healthy feminist but still only wanted to spend my money. When I started saying "you're buying" to her "I'm hungry" or "let's go shopping" she would frown and say she doesn't have money to spend. I really let this thing drag on for more than I should have.
00:27 She is always the victim 🗯 01:25 - 02:37 Playing games 🏹❗ 04:18 Achievement becomes competition 💪👊 05:37 Excessive envy or jealousy 😠 06:39 She is controlling 🤚🤫⚠️ 07:30 - 08:31 She is using you for your money💶
1 - An accountable woman? LOL.....I have this bridge to sell you 2 - What else would she do with your boring behind... 3 - I am a boss chick.... 4 - Eh I guess so on this one..... 5 - Of course...she sees you as a weak simp beta 6 - What else are the bottom 80% of men good for other than cash. Certainly dont like us....
@Anonymous Apple if ur girlfriend scores a good job and gets a bonus or gets a promotion you would be happy for them . in a woman who is toxic's case , she doesnt like that u keep achieving more especially if she herself is lazy to work and because it reflects bad on her ( you keep working hard for better opportunities while she is wasting her life being picky or lazy) and she may be jealous and be jealous in the future and keep putting you down for every other small mistake u make in the future for her to say " he is good in his work but in other things in life , he sucks and i am better , i have my W" that is what is wrong with jealousy
I wish had this video back in the day. I think a part of the reason I don’t really date is because I don’t really trust myself to end the relationship or properly stand up for myself once I’m attached. I don’t think Amber became toxic until after they were married.
if she's playing games, that's reason enough to leave her.. even if you love her as hard as it may sound, you gotta distance yourself from her, cuz that shit will end up eating you alive. stay strong and always remember there's someone put on this earth for you, you just gotta look and see 🙏🏾
I think I’ve dated all the toxic types. I’m 59. 12 years out of a 22 year marriage. I started dating a couple of years after the divorce. One woman liked everything I liked, but had no interests of her own. I could have told her that I liked standing naked in my front yard skinning raccoons and she would have liked that too. I was a foodie call for another. Then I saw a woman who was always making changes to the plans I made. Even to the point of trying to change the menu at a cookout I was hosting. I dated (briefly) who wanted me to fix her car on the second date. There’s more, but I just decided to stop dating. Thanks for the reminder on why.
I was under control for one year while I never left her alone, since that I decided myself to keep waiting until the right one deserves myself as his equal and respectful partner, I’m not in the rush and refused many bossy good looking girls .. I need a normal brave loyal lovely woman. It’s a kind of mission impossible but never know
I've followed you for almost a year now and yeah, the second anyone plays games and gaslights, I'm out! I've been through too much mental turmoil and to me, she's proving shes the low hanging fruit
First time listening to you and this was so worthwhile. I filed for divorce 8 months ago and 5/6 of your points I was subjected too. What finally ended it for me was the lack of loyalty she showed. She never had my back. Used condescending language toward me in front of friends. Of course the last 8 months have been perfect. But I know it is just manipulation trying to reel me back in to her web of dysfunction
i cant believe i accepted someone with all of these behaviors, i mean she wouldn't even let me get glasses because it would make me look too weird for her even though my vision was suffering. she got pissed whenever i said i wanted to go to college, she made me stop talking to all my friends using anger and violence and self harm until i had nothing left but her, and then it progressed to full on physical abuse. i did things too, but i didnt deserve that, this stuff is no joke guys if you see these signs rhen she is not ready to be dated
Yeah I know the feeling man. Just broke up with someone like that. It's not fun at the start, and you'll feel like crap at the start. But over time you'll feel better. Take it as a lesson on what you you're looking for in a relationship and what you won't except
@@exiledrespite thank you so much im happy for you that you broke up with your person. we've been broken up for a while now and i'm feeling like it was an amazing choice even though it sucked for a while. i definitely learned so much
If I look back on dating and relationship experiences, a lot of the time toxic behaviors I encountered were really just immaturity on behalf of the girl, or lack of strength of character to actually say they weren’t attracted or invested in taking a relationship further. Women are non-confrontational and rarely direct. If you take the lead, but they can’t follow, then they are not going to be a good dance partner, simple as. With experience I learned to read the signs and test their attraction early on by playing it cool and not being try-hard. If a girl likes you and has character, she’ll let you know. If you have to put in work, that speaks volumes. Simple rules. If she’s below 22yo, don’t expect anything much from her, most girls are incapable of flying straight at this age. Any girl that can is highly unusual and worth pursuing. Ages 22-27 are when most smart girls start to fly right. Again, if a girl is prepared to behave during this time she’s worth taking seriously. Any girl who gets to 27 and is still a handful will always be a handful. And don’t be fooled by girls 27-32 who are suddenly seemingly flying right but were party girls before. They’ve hit epiphany phase and are looking for a sucker to settle down with most likely. These are the most dangerous women of all. As said, a woman less than 27 years old who is ready to exit the carousel for you is what you should be looking for, and if she’s 20-23 with green flags like good family, hard working and naturally submissive then take her very seriously.
I'm glad I went no contact with my ex! I valued myself too much to stick around and put up with her manipulative BS!! I started learning about cluster B personality disorders a month before walking away from her. And started to see more & more red flags hoping that she wasn't a narc or a borderline, but she was a borderline with a lot of narcissistic traits. When I accepted that she would never change no matter what I did. So I just ghosted her. It was one of the best things I've done for myself!
I seen two damaged people against each other. One swears the other has issues, well, in blindness, too has issues and in denial. So will keep attracting same kind of women, even while fingerpointing at other men like himself!
I just got out of a relationship with a girl who disappointed me several times and kept coming back to me after I drew a boundary or pushed her out of my life. Even after she ghosted me I finally learned that you shouldn’t allow what you don’t want. It’s weird how some people will dump you but keep coming back to you. I learned to understand I deserve better. She didn’t feel andything doing me wrong so many times but came back with praise and flattery every time she came back. Man people are weird and you don’t need to try and figure them out. Live your best life and be content already and you will eventually get what you desire.
Thank you Courtney. I definitely agree that toxicity comes from unhealed trauma. my best friend's last relationship had most of these issues and they definitely were due to massive insecurity issues.
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i have a couple of these and didn’t realize it because i didn’t focus on taking care of myself and working on insecurities. i am taking charge of myself and growing to stop these toxic behaviors.
Thank you for providing men with resources to help themselves. It seems very hopeless in this day and age, yet alone Learning you are in a toxic relationship so content like this might save my life, and many others. Please keep helping people you never know how much this might help someone
I hear ya - stayhappylittle mermaid! Great tips - by Courtney! This is why you have to be very careful who you get involved with - because they could possibly ruin your life, and the career that you’ve worked so hard for. That’s why you also have to pay really close attention early on in the relationship, to see if you can spot any red flags before it’s too late. I’m sure John Depp wish he had - now! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 RE: Johnny Depp-- Birds of a feather, flock together. They were both wacko, which is why they ended up together. On the plus side, with more issues than Hugh Hefner, they created enough drama to keep some of us entertained by it all. 😜
Thanks for sharing Courtney. I think you missed a massive one here which is: IF SHE CONSTANTLY CRITICIZES YOU (clear cue of her own internal insecurities)
Most women aren’t worth the squeeze. The burden is on the woman to prove their worth. Probably worth not marrying unless God gets involved, and I don’t mean meeting in a church.
This woman Courtney is a gem, I’d love to date someone like her. Very educated and wise. Also you are very right about toxicity comes from trauma and immaturity. Trauma is where most of our actions stem from, that’s why so many people are dysfunctional. I teach my friends and family this as often as possible. You have to make an effort to be healthy in every area of your life. It takes sacrifice and it’s uncomfortable but it’s a necessity to grow. Hilarious when you said scum of the earth, I say that often 😅
Hi Courtney, it took me 20+ years but I am finally rejecting the toxic behaviour. Most women have impossible standards to meet, when they are average at best. There are good women out there, I have met a few usually through having the same interests or background. The future of society / reproduction is at stake. Pandering to women does not help anyone. Thanks again Courtney for all your work, Neil.
Thank you for shedding light on toxic behaviors! Your point about playing games is so true and connects to the self-serving bias, where people justify their harmful actions while ignoring how they impact others. A client I work with constantly felt manipulated by someone who claimed they were just “figuring things out” but was really using emotional games to avoid commitment. Your advice to walk away from these situations is invaluable!
On the topic of games my biggest pet peeve about dating apps is that women's bios always say "no time for games," but they are 100% the ones that play the games, so apparently they do have time for it.
If more women were like you the world would be a much better place. You are a keeper for sure. Your man better realize what he has. Kudos to you. A+ and gold star.
I had a girlfriend during the Dark Time (what I call the time before I met my wife) who couldn't get along with my friends and family. She even struggled with her own friends. She was what I call a spotlight personality. She needed to be the center of attention in any setting. This worked out fine when it was just the two of us. Under those conditions, she behaved well and communicated well. But whenever I tried to mix her with anyone else, she struggled to get the spotlight on her. I just couldn't mix her in with any of my family or friends without a tussle over who was going to be the center of attention during the social occasion. This proved unworkable.
Thanks for this video. My older sister, is a victim and doesn't take accountability for her actions, "Its everyone else's fault and not hers" Her life is in perpetual crisis and although I work on my relationship with her since we are good friends, I find it very hard work to be around her. I have firm boundaries and when I protect myself by implementing boundaries, that is when I get into big trouble with her.
Don't even know why I watch videos like this anymore as I have ZERO interest in dating, never mind getting married.. Single and DELIGHTED to be that way and am STAYING that way.
Yeah this channel is mainly about improving yourself and improving your awareness while it can translate its way into dating, family, friendships, and work life
Great tips! This is why you have to be very careful who you get involved with - because they could possibly ruin your life, and the career that you’ve worked so hard for. That’s why you also have to pay really close attention early on in the relationship, to see if you can spot any red flags before it’s too late. I’m sure John Depp wish he had - now! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
All these are valid. I married a woman who displayed some of these signs. I overlooked them thinking they were the exception not the rule. Once we married it instantly flipped and we were in frequent conflict within weeks.
@@womenwhowantmenbackakawwwm8232 there are some good qualities about women but all I ask for is accountability and i find that some women don’t take accountability and blame men instead of looking inward like you said. We all need to look inward
I have to be honest that people always say this person is toxic or this.... and if we think like that pretty much everyone would be single hahaha we are always toxic 😩
I think it's important to remember that toxic people got that way for a reason you don't have to stay with them but don't just write them off and try to hurt them let them off easy and get away Oh word you said it. Good job
And another great one!!! You’re like a supportive friend to all of us!!! Love these tips and videos, Courtney!!!! Keep it up with the great content!!!! ❤️🙏🏼🙌🏼💯
there's a woman I talk to, we've had a couple night outs but I ended things cause she was talking to other guys, a couple months later she recently reached out and said she misses me and still likes me but still sleeps with other guys 🤔 not gonna chase, gonna let her do her thing 😂
Ok, despite anything / everything my recent ex went through my phone while i was in the hospital on my death bed. She also got upset that my daughter wanted to have power of medical attorney over me. And here i am grieving and making a fool of myself to get her back
I’ve been seeing this girl and today I saw a side of her I’ve never seen. She was like “what was it like growing up with a silver spoon”. I tried to tell her that I’ve met many rich people who weren’t happy. I’ve met poor people who were full of joy and she was like “WHAT ARE THEIR NAMES. YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW” She was so angry and I’ve never seen her like that before. She must have some serious envy/anger towards people who grew up with successful parents. It felt like it was out of nowhere but I guess it was always under the surface.
I had a woman flirt with me openly for 7 months, even saying things that made other people side-eye how forward it was. I ended up asking her on a date and she assumed all I wanted was sex, that she was flirting with me, but that she very recently decided she wasn't available for dating right now. So I felt confused and kind of hurt that I was led on and that reciprocating HER interest was treated like I did something wrong. So I dropped it. I ran into her at an event and she was quite forward again, touching me, hugging me, staring deeply into my eyes inches away from my face. She started texting me a lot, sending me racy photos, and even wanted to drop her sweatshirt on my porch because she got too warm on her run. We ended up making out a couple times over the next two weeks, and it felt like it was going somewhere until she called me and started talking negatively about one of my friends and I told her it hurt to hear her talk that away. She told me I shouldn't take it personally and that I will learn that in therapy and that she had to get off the phone. I told her how upset that make me and that it felt like she was gaslighting me and broke it off. Then I run into her again a few more weeks later and she's right back to hugging me and staring into my eyes and I feel like such a sucker. She is very attractive to me, creative, etc, but there is something very wrong with how she treats men or at least me. When we spend time physically together everything feels good and even special, but I feel like she mostly wants to text. If we hang-out in a group she expresses interest in spending time with me separate from the group, and when I make an offer to spend time with her she says yes, but never follows up about the times I've presented to her, or told me when best works for her. It feels like I'm some kind of tourist attraction. Like all my creativity and silence and how well my friends like me and do cool things for our community is interesting, but that once they get to know that I'm a real person with feelings and needs of my own that everything becomes foggy. I feel good about my friends, career, hobbies, finances, health, etc, but man I hate dating, lol. I want to stop taking each interested person so seriously and just date a ton of people until I find one with some mutual respect, appreciation, attraction, and communication style I guess. Not someone entitled to toying with sexuality and emotions. I feel like she has goodness in there somewhere, but I'm feeling like most of what I know about her is a mask to protect her own traumas and ego.
This video relates to me because recently a girl that I have been friends with since 2023 has recently turned, toxic towards and mean me, which is a girl that I do not want to be.
If your girlfriend only cares about money. Get rid, your true partner doesn't care about money. I also have Depression and Anxiety, not a single one of my 3 exes cared or actually gave a damn, and did not support me whatsoever. Clear out the trash and bring in the positive stuff. Your true love would support you through anything, doesn't matter what it is, unless you cheated. They wouldn't dump you and make you feel useless, they would stick by you.
Thanks for your videos, I recently got outta this 1 sided relationship where I was getting used for attention! I binged get watched a bunch of your videos and it opened my eyes!
You not wrong bud if the girl is dating a guy 6 foot tall she's using him for attention, she will say in her head to other females look what I got! this guy has a big noodle, wasn't ever about love? just recognition, & attention! For me when I see a really small girl and a tall guy! looks so strange, they're girls? they think differently with what they want.
Courtney, I was wondering if you can do a video on the application of bounderies in relationships. I've noticed a big trend in self-help now is advocating for boundaries, especially in the women's self-help space. I know some ladies that are the people-pleaser types that definitely need some help establishing healthy boundaries, so it's been good advice overall. But I'm here to bring up something that I don't see talked about much. There's a growing number of people that take the boundaries self-help advice and use it to be CONTROLLING of others. Could you cover this topic?
Well, I think the woman I was interested in was toxic... Actually, we were in the same class for 2 years. From the second year on, we started talking to each other very often on snapchat, and we were really "close", sharing our problems, as well as our thoughts about everything... But once in class, she acted like I didn't exist anymore. I didn't understand, but I told myself that as long as we kept talking, everything was fine... But as time went by, I noticed that I was "talking in a vacuum", as if she didn't remember what I was saying (even though I was paying a lot of attention to what she was saying)... And yet, sometimes she was surprising me, giving me ideas for music that I could play and sing on the piano because she thought I sang well... But one day she talked to me, crying because the boy she was interested in was with a girl she knew, and she was asking me for advice (how ironic)... And even after that, she was still interested in him... Anyway, maybe I was wrong from the beginning, but I sincerely thought that there was something. And I swore to myself that after we graduated, I would confess to her, but after thinking about it, even though it hurt, I held back, because deep down I knew it wasn't going to work.
I'm so lucky, my wife is beautiful in all ways. But, I met her when we were in our thirties. Im 76 now and have had a wonderful relationship.❤❤❤ So hang in there. Yes, a loving relationships do happen.😊😊
Number 1 is very terrifying. Some women can be very manipulative better than men. Some women are very good at gaslighting, make you feel guilty that you don't do something for her. Be smart and ditch her fast.
Narcissist. Yes. Terrible. Stand up for yourself on day 1 and watch if her behavior changes. If it wasn't a test, she's a narcissist and needs to be on her own to either learn or endure her own punishment lol CCC Courtney Compounds Courtney
@@marcmays48 woah bro hahaha why pick it up to begin with? Steam and painful breathing is typically a natural sign to call in the professionals hahahahahaha
@@LatimusChadimus Yea, if only they came with warning labels. ⚠️. The only surefire method I've found is to watch out for unique hairstyles. When the hair ain't right, the head ain't right! The crazy ones might be more fun in bed, but that's about it, and they sure aren't worth the drama which inevitably follows. 😳
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Being a drama queen is enough reason to end the relationship.
😂True
When they only live through emotion.
So many things are actually more than enough reasons. Once you’re a mature, well-adjusted adult this reality can’t be unlearned.
King let the bitch go
😂😂 word
Lot of broken human beings walking around. Even more toxic ones.
And it is not our job to fix them, I tried for 2 years and nothing changed.
6 ways to tell she's toxic:
1. Blameshifting, inability to take accountability for her toxic actions and behavior.
2. They play power games. Communicates insecurity and immaturity.
3. Achievement becomes competition. Doesn't encourage you, support you, genuinely celebrate your wins with you.
4. Excessive envy and jealousy. Constantly mistrusting you (projecting her own untrustworthiness), violating your boundaries.
5. She's controlling. She's controlling of people, situations, the information you're allowed access to, and even people's perceptions of you after you break up (smear campaign, character assassination).
6. Uses you for money, is non-reciprocal with money as well as effort, validation, honesty, etc.
A personal note: I experienced all of the above and more from my toxic ex, who is a professional therapist. Don't blindly believe appearances, or credentials. People in any profession can be toxic. Believe their behavior. Covert narcissists and psychopaths can be especially adept at manipulating perceptions by controlling information and constructing appearances. They get their needs met through deceit and trickery rather than authenticity and actually earning it.
Imagine getting treated like this and then further being sh*t on afterwards by her calling you creepy and cringy and her leaving the relationship feeling superior to you. The only solution to these toxic people (women and men alike) is to distance yourself from them and find someone worthy of your love and kindness and who actually adds to your inner peace.
Yep my ex did all this except number 6 we both had good jobs out of college but everything else holy shit yep that was all her.
Wow, thank you for sharing this!
Here too, but you don't know until you're in.
Women who are therapists, psychiatrists, and psychologists are some of the most screwed up. I think that's why they are attracted to the fields of mental health. Best to avoid them outright.
@@moleahy6880 While it's hard to make blanket statements about entire groups of people, it is completely factual and fair to say that there is an over-representation of toxic/damaged people in the professions you listed due to selection bias.
Have been in love with a lady who was so toxic for me and has hurt me numerous times over the last 4 years. Tomorrow is the last day I am ever going to speak to her. Wish me luck
I hope you got rid of her..
How have you held up? I had a similar realization with a woman i have been with off and on for 20 years over the holidays. I went NC on new years day havent spoke to her since. It was hard but over the months I changed from feeling like it was my fault to actually having anger toward her bc as the lust and affection fades I can clearly see the patterns of abuse over the years and how badly she just used me.
Still there wimp. Balls up
block her. over and over if you have to. It takes 21 days to form a new habit.
Good luck. I bought that ticket, but my train doesn’t leave for at least another 12 months. Good luck to you and I.
1. Love-bomb stage
2. Anchored (ex. kids)
3. Toxic behaviors start
4. Gaslighting to keep you or get you back.
5. Either leave or this Narcissist Cycle continues.
I’ve been dealing with the worst for 8 years. I’ve filed divorce 2 times and ended both to “reconcile” and once she gaslit me to come back it started all over again. Take my word men. Just leave and don’t look back!
And hovering
“What you allow is what will continue.”
That said it all for any relationship.
Jesus
Amen
❤
100%
The best thing for any relationship is the word "No"
I don't see myself getting a girlfriend any time soon, but it's always nice to listen to positive and healthy-minded women like you, and even get good advice.
Hopefully when the time comes this is helpful! Thanks for watching, I always appreciate your comments 😊❤️
Self improvement and awareness advice found here, and it's valuable until the day you die. You got this Storm Eagle 💪 💪
@@joshsaundh4851 lol it's spam bro. A cam girl spam bot
The funny thing is that when you start thinking they aren't coming around anytime soon, then they start coming around 😅
@@CourtneyRyan I was just with a female who always played the victim. She use to always day ppl done this did that point the finger, intentionally cause arguments then play ms little innocent etc I had to cut her off. All of ur videos remind me off this girl I use to be with.thank you for putting these videos out to get us guys aware of traits of these type of women. She was even jealous of the jobs i got closed I wear, she caused break uos in my friendship with my homies
Ha! My ex scored a perfect 6/6. It’s amazing how much toxicity you subconsciously overlook in another person because you’re blinded by love. Thank you Courtney, have a great day!
Glad you’re out of it! I was in the same situation a few years ago and never looked back
@@aaron-damonkassner4715 Thanks man! Same to you. All we can do is learn from it and move on.
Love is blind
I had a marriage that was 6/6 too. Love makes us men stupid.
@@External2737 mine was 5/6 the whole money thing I wasn’t really an issue that I was aware of at least
Cheating in a relationship is an unforgivable betrayal of trust that can not be remedied, at least for me.
There is no excuse for it and, again for me, marks your character as a person as flawed beyond redemption, in the regards to a relationship; thanks to alomd genius for saving me from that bloody cheater..
can i see their infos pls, i'll love to see my partner's phone too
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thank you for the detals
I dated a female narcissist for more than three years, and she easily scores 6/6 on this list. This list only scratches the surface of how psychologically damaging different toxic behaviours can be in an unhealthy relationship. I would spare this experience for many, so I suggest we keep learning and take seriously those signs. Don't compromise. You are worth more than that.
Here are some extra ones
7) she insults you and attacks you when she is upset with you. Not able to control her emotions and justifies her mistakes.
8) she tries to separate you from family and friends.
9) she is manipulative of you and situations.
10) she neglects you and doesn’t show you love.
At some point it crosses the line from to toxic over to abuse.
If you find yourself in love with an abusive women, cut it off and move on. Find healing and find someone who will value you.
Who hurt lil mango?
11) she thinks that a group called "women" has any right to define what a "good man" is, or what's best for men. Its only for us to decide.
who hurt you?@@jordangarberg7744
Number 7 was especially problematic with my ex. Such disrespectfull an verbally abuse behavior, and I wouldn't have it. Most important thing in a relationship is trust and respect. She deserved neither and I'm glad I got rid of her.
I’m not attractive enough to get a woman who’s emotionally stable so I’m stuck with psychos
The best thing a man can do is be ready to let any girl go when it’s necessary. I’ve seen way too many of my boys stick around and put up with lot of emotional manipulation and abuse. Just because a girl is very attractive on the outside they think they can’t do better. No girl is worth your peace of mind. Being willing to walk away ironically makes it less likely you’ll have to since you’ll actually be able to set healthy boundaries.
Honestly, I think a return to patriarchy is necessary at this point. Nothing short of an organized movement to course correct.
amen. bro!
You be shocked at the number of straight guys who are so fed up with TOXIC FEMINISTS that they get sex from gay guys now .
A beautiful vagina can put the best of us in a trance
@Bryant Vargas, I am a woman, and I approve this message 👍
I’ve just ended a relationship with my girlfriend due to all of the things that you mentioned. It has completely damaged my mental health and to the point that I’ve made the decision to steer clear of getting involved with another woman for a long while.
Great video!! Thank you 🙏🏻
I’m trying to find the strength to do the same right now. Glad it worked out for you man.
Wish I could do this too
Women will only tear you down and leave you weak. I steer clear.
I'm with you. At the minute, I can't imagine getting together with anyone else. My ex was a monster. She was so abusive to me. If it was the other way round and I did and behaved as she did towards me, I'd be put in jail.
Just say F it!!! I don't know you, need you, want you anymore! I got sex and I can do better!! I'm off to find a decent girl! Watch her reaction but leave and stay strong 💪!!!
My ex had major toxic behaviour concerning nummer 1,3 and 5 plus being verbally abusive and kept physical intimacy locked away unless I was able to fully accommodate her. I fired her ass 2 months ago and have never been happier. I'd rather be single the rest of my life than deal with such high maintenance nudging behavior!
I was in a toxic relationship for 10 months and this girl is exactly right on point listen to her!!!
same me too for only 4 months, I hopped off the train very quickly fortunately. You lose so much interest and affection while also gaining hatred for a woman once you realise what shes objectively like. And dont try to fix them!!
@@momov4060yea…. Worse when they betray trust
My GF broke up with me about 7 weeks ago and she displayed all of these traits, was with her 3 years, I went to great lengths to help her thro those years with every aspect of life for her to blame me for the relationship ending. Never again will I deal with that crap
Almost exact same situation. Great learning experience
Very similar here. Close that chapter and LOCK IT SHUT !! LOL.
This. I stayed single after that. Each time a girl wants to be in the relationship with me, that's when all the red flags reveal themselves. Ain't looking, just chasing my goals. Life has never been better
Sounds like a narc discard
Same here man but 6 years for me and I was lied too and only used to help win her kids back and then eventually discarded when her use of me was up. Went from I was her life to smear campaigning me left and right and playing victim none stop. She discarded after even helping her once again even long after the relationship ended of her reaching out for my help as always. I’ll just soon have to move to get totally away from her and her drama she always causes.
I had a ex-girlfriend who was competitive, jealous, and controlling. She was horrible. I'm glad I broke up with her and moved on. She was attractive and that''s all she had going for her.
Glad you moved on! Sounds awful lol
Women like that become less attractive over time. Looks fade, but an ugly personality is timeless. 😝
I feel you here, similar experience. Hope your ok now 💪
It is true...a bit of skirt, a pretty girl and you tend to ignore all the red flags.
That's your mistake. You dated a woman because of looks!!!
Personally, I am no longer interested in a relationship right now. I am only 22 years old. I think its best for us guys to simply just focus on career and hit the gym constantly (this goes out to guys who are seeking relationships in their early 20s). This will bring a much better ROI in the long term as opposed to staying in toxic relationships and wasting time in unhealthy relationships where everything is one-sided. Now I am not against having a relationship but it is very difficult to date/ find the right person these days. God will eventually send the right person at some point.
Im 22 as well…i’ve been seeking like hell from 16 to 20…the last heartbreak really turned down my will to go get some girl…sometimes i hate being single and some I feel really fortunate of not feeling obligated to give my time to someone or deal with her BS…Checking how i dress, eating healthy 5 day a week, grinding for my grades, fixing minor aesthetic issues and better my social skills is more fulfilling than figuring out some girl’s mind that’s not really into you…some girl will look at you anyways, they pop in your life unexpectedly
Very well said and I totally second this
22-23 or so is when things started to turn around for me dating wise. I’d left college and had landed my first job. Suddenly I was very attractive to girls still at college 18-21 yo or so. Hypergamy is a thing, girls want to date UP. That’s why guys have to wait and build their value. When you are just dating at school or college unless you have great looks, status or game you’re just another guy to the girls around you. You have to transcend that environment to get noticed, so yes, work on yourself but keep a weather eye out for girls who are interested. As you grow there will be more and more, as long as you have a good social circle. This starts with a solid male friend group. Cultivate that.
I don't think people should be in relationships until they're about 25 and have matured, developed and figure out who they are as a person.
Very well said and I agree, wait for God to send you the right person
I was so blinded by all you've said by this woman that it destroyed our marriage 😢. I did see the red flags and ignored them all and now reaping from what I sowed.
It’s called codependency. You’re not alone brother. Stems from childhood trauma or hero complex.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Can Dr. sporessss send to me in UK?
The trick is to stick with psychedelics without switching to the addictive stuff
I never dated a toxic woman but my brother has. When they broke up, she sent 20 really nasty text messages to my brother. I lost all respect for her. I'm glad my brother is out of that relationship.
It happens all the time. Toxic is the new norm & worn as a badge of honor, especially in social media. Yesterday, I saw a woman sporting a top saying " "Proud Bitch" & her toddler daughter wearing a top "Future Bitch." with people huddled around her stroller commenting how cute that was. I guess she got her validation?
Yikes!!!
Sounds like a lot of women in the uk sadly.
a very well choosen mate/father/husband , and a very bright fullfilled future for the little girl....
Lol. Yup, as an older guy I would agree. Current society---it's 'cool' and 'awesome' to be completely bloated and puffed up on yourself as the most important thing around. Pathetic and has horrible results.
I would honestly be embarrassed FOR that woman if I saw her t-shirt (smh)
I recently got my self esteem absolutely destroyed. She projected her insecurities on me and blamed me for things I never did or have done in my life, while trying to hold me accountable. The worst thing is I kept apologizing in the hopes she wouldn't leave, because I thought I'd never find such a perfect match again. I guess this was the "lovebombing" or "mimicking" phase. In the end she just wanted to feel validated, most likely due to a previous toxic relationship.
It took me many months to stop internalizing blame, and I still can't let a woman in my life, even when a few times beautiful women were hitting on me. My brain has gotten over internalizing blame, but the trauma is still there.
I hope you continue what you are doing, it helps a lot.
let that chick go......one day, you probably identify her in a news story in the "police/fire section" as an assault victim or worse....
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Akunna, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father Akunna, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
I’ve dealt with guys like this. Every bit of it. I finally got a healthy relationship and it’s unlike anything I have ever experienced. The problem isn’t the gender, you have to see what it is about you that you continue to draw the same types of women. I see a lot of comments on here that indicate the problem is not women, but the person writing the comment who refused to see their own issues and instead, transfers them on to an entire gender as to not confront their own inadequacies and unhealthy toxicity. I can tell you that it’s not about blaming a gender, it’s about examining yourself and why you continue to attract these types. I did the same years ago, but I will be blunt that when I was still dating, if a guy approached me with the same energy and mentality that some of you have? I would run for the hills because your own toxicity is GLARING and you can draw what you put out. Good luck. I hope you find a good person but for some comments on here? The irony is lost on you…
Most guys know these toxic signs but they ignore them.
And girls are on the looks for guys who either don't know or are willing to enable their toxic behaviors
Because they are dependent and afraid to loss that toxic girl friend. Men now a days are now getting weaker.
Yes in hopes they change or they buy your forgiveness aka buying material items
@@moonrivercampersaying "men nowadays" is a sexist sterotype
"some men"
Love is blind he said,
Hands down the biggest red flag is when they associate being dramatic and confrontational as a form of affection. If she WANTS you to get into bar fights with random dudes over her instead of talking things out like a gentleman, GTFO IMMEDIATELY
I used to be one of those guys they would hit on in front of their men
Unfortunately, half the women out there today, do exactly that
Then just ask her to first have a knife fight with some random girl in the bar. ;-) If she's alive after that, you tell her that you are not into murderers, while you already have dialed 911... ;-D
And if she says no to that, you do what most of women do: You blame her of not really loving you and tell things like "How you did I ever fall in love with you? It's over. I go." and then just leave her. :-D
Half I’m thinking more like 75/80%
Biggest issue with women is trust. If she flirts with others constantly. She's probably not worth it.
One of my exes ticked all these boxes. She had been abused by her dad, and her mom told her she was Queen/Princess/Perfect so that led to narcissism. She became cruel and Machiavellian, like a super-villain in her manipulations. Fortunately my work paid for 5 weeks of counselling to resolve the issues post breakup.
They use past history as an excuse to behave in that type sander victimized 😅 and a half conditions mentally unstable to use as an excuse for behavior
My ex had the same upbringing. Unfortunately after three years, I am starting counseling. We have a kid together and she dumped me at the beginning of this month for a 50 year old shiny new toy.
@@johnsparks9641 I am sorry to hear that.
@@mattblom3990 Thank you. It's hard but I know it will get better.
*Identifying toxic behaviors early on can save so much heartache. I especially appreciated the point about manipulation - it's subtle but can be a major red flag.*
Unfortunately my wife is toxic. But we have a 14yr and a 6yr old. She thinks she knows everything and can never be in the wrong or apologize. The funny think is though my kids always pick me over her in every situation 😊
My wife and I have been together for 25 years now. We both went through our toxic phase. She was controlling and I was the jealous type. We both suggested divorcing a number of times but we both really loved each other. We decided to go to couples therapy. And I have to tell you. The more honest you are the better the results. The therapist saw right through our passing the puck routine. She would even separate us to get each other’s point of views. Then put us together and discuss our points of views and each other’s flaws. She basically told us that we were both toxic 😂😂😂. But, she told us that if we don’t fix this now. That we will simply carry it with us to our next relationship. So my wife and I painfully started on the road to better ourselves. We are finally in a great place together now after 10 years. It’s like really learning who you really are and meeting your partner for the first time. We can’t believe how insecure we use to be and how many years were wasted cause of it. Don’t wait, get therapy now. I can honestly say that every single couple needs to try it at least once. You will be amazed at what you learn and be honest with your therapist. They will know if you are not. It’s not their first rodeo and they really have heard everything. 😂😂😂😂😂 great video!❤😊
wish you the health mentally and physically
I'm married 31 years. Our youngest daughter graduated this year. I've known my wife is toxic for Long time. She got cancer in December, surgery now it's back. I'm not happy, haven't been, but can't be "that guy" and leave now.
I would also like to give advice from my experience. If there is a "voice" in your head telling you that your relationship isn't gonna work you should probably listen to it. It really doesn't help being around someone you don't feel comfortable with no matter how nice they are or how good they look.
Solid advice
That's a Perfect Advice! I suffered greatly in past ignoring my instincts!
Hits the nail on the head. I actually went through counciling because I thought I was the problem. Come to find out from my councillor I wasn't the problem, she was. This video is 100% accurate and things to run from.
People tend to flip things around on the other person. Both genders do it. The fact you were willing to consider yourself part of the problem speaks volumes about your character and willingness to be open. You will be alright, you just need to find someone on your level.
I went through the same thing.
Just went through a breakup about a month and a half ago, and she exemplified a few of these points. Past traumas, unnecessary jealousy, and controlling.
I feel you 😢
She played victim card against me.
Saaame! Haha!
This was the same for me. It’s hard when you love them a lot, care for them and feel sorry for them. I genuinely want her to be happy, I feel horrible for leaving her and I had to really battle myself to leave her… even after I was doubtful of my decision and scared of seeing her with someone else… But it’s for both of your benefits, everyone looks back through their failed relationships no matter what and learn from their mistakes.
Being single at 48 years old is just fine for me. I don’t feel a need to want someone else controlling my life. I’m very passive and I don’t like to argue. I swear every girl I’ve ever been with is just been one situation or another. I’m fine by myself.
At 35 I have given up on a relationships as the last 3 girlfriends I had abused my good heart, flowers,romantic geastures and have made my life hell. It's not worth the hell. It's better to be alone.
I've been single for 5yrs now after a tough break up & was finally open to dating again but I found myself encountering a toxic girl. I didn't see it at first because after her affection I was hooked & was blinded. I found myself trying to help her & eventually becoming a simp. The lesson I learned was be cautious of who I bring into my life & leave ASAP if I notice any toxic behavior. Thank you Courtney for this video.
My woman is the complete opposite of this. I'm so glad I'm in my early twenties and found Mrs. Right so early in life. Cheers to many more, my love. Thank you, Courtney.
Dont worry. Even opposite women from this can be dangerous. Women need a warning label like bleach does.
@@DiamondScuff same goes for most men.
@@womenwhowantmenbackakawwwm8232 Yeah. But itleast the "most men" are very obvious. Women disguise it way better.
Be careful I thought the same thing and after that 4th of the 6th year my ex the sociopath narcissist true colors started to show little by little. The mind game manipulating sneaky evil beast came out and she tried her best to destroy me. They are so nice and charming at the beginning. Then they do a whole 360 change on you and then you’re enemy #1 and they smear campaign you like crazy and try to turn everyone against you.
@@BLUExEYEDxSLICKT yea which is why I tell my guys push back sex as long as you can to like the 6 or 9 month mark, scout the shit out of your potential gf, and truly try to get a read, even when you do have a read, you can never be sure, is this just all and act
This is so true. There are so many women like this, they simply never became women, they stopped developing at an early age emotionally. Thank you so much for validating what I already knew. God bless you.
Someone please pay this lady 😭🙏 she's so right 💯💯
Yup, the money thing resonates fully. I recently dated a girl who claimed she was a healthy feminist but still only wanted to spend my money. When I started saying "you're buying" to her "I'm hungry" or "let's go shopping" she would frown and say she doesn't have money to spend. I really let this thing drag on for more than I should have.
My femnazi ex did the same thing. Will not date a feminist again
00:27 She is always the victim 🗯
01:25 - 02:37 Playing games 🏹❗
04:18 Achievement becomes competition 💪👊
05:37 Excessive envy or jealousy 😠
06:39 She is controlling 🤚🤫⚠️
07:30 - 08:31 She is using you for your money💶
Boom 💥 💥 💥 💥 💥 💥
Thanks. I hate the new video format.
You're welcome. 🤝
1 - An accountable woman? LOL.....I have this bridge to sell you
2 - What else would she do with your boring behind...
3 - I am a boss chick....
4 - Eh I guess so on this one.....
5 - Of course...she sees you as a weak simp beta
6 - What else are the bottom 80% of men good for other than cash. Certainly dont like us....
@Anonymous Apple if ur girlfriend scores a good job and gets a bonus or gets a promotion you would be happy for them . in a woman who is toxic's case , she doesnt like that u keep achieving more especially if she herself is lazy to work and because it reflects bad on her ( you keep working hard for better opportunities while she is wasting her life being picky or lazy) and she may be jealous and be jealous in the future and keep putting you down for every other small mistake u make in the future for her to say " he is good in his work but in other things in life , he sucks and i am better , i have my W" that is what is wrong with jealousy
I wish had this video back in the day. I think a part of the reason I don’t really date is because I don’t really trust myself to end the relationship or properly stand up for myself once I’m attached. I don’t think Amber became toxic until after they were married.
if she's playing games, that's reason enough to leave her.. even if you love her as hard as it may sound, you gotta distance yourself from her, cuz that shit will end up eating you alive. stay strong and always remember there's someone put on this earth for you, you just gotta look and see 🙏🏾
I think I’ve dated all the toxic types. I’m 59. 12 years out of a 22 year marriage. I started dating a couple of years after the divorce. One woman liked everything I liked, but had no interests of her own. I could have told her that I liked standing naked in my front yard skinning raccoons and she would have liked that too. I was a foodie call for another. Then I saw a woman who was always making changes to the plans I made. Even to the point of trying to change the menu at a cookout I was hosting. I dated (briefly) who wanted me to fix her car on the second date. There’s more, but I just decided to stop dating. Thanks for the reminder on why.
Wow, just wow. Sooooo many controlling wenches out there. It’s almost unbelievable.
I was under control for one year while I never left her alone, since that I decided myself to keep waiting until the right one deserves myself as his equal and respectful partner, I’m not in the rush and refused many bossy good looking girls .. I need a normal brave loyal lovely woman. It’s a kind of mission impossible but never know
I've followed you for almost a year now and yeah, the second anyone plays games and gaslights, I'm out! I've been through too much mental turmoil and to me, she's proving shes the low hanging fruit
You’re awesome, Tommy! I appreciate all your support in the comments. Totally agree with you! 🙌🏼 no time for games
@@CourtneyRyan back at ya! 😁✌
Hey Tommy, I have noticed you from both Courtney's channel and Amanda Silvera's channel. Keep up the good work brother 💪👊😎👍
@@varun.shenoy10 thank you very much my guy!😁✌
Excellent advice, Courtney. My ex displayed 4 of these toxic behaviors on a regular basis (that is why she is my ex).
Mine showed 5🥴🥴 took* 5 years but once it clicked I cut it off👌🏾
My ex was 6/6, granted I'm Autistic so it's harder for me to pick the signs.
First time listening to you and this was so worthwhile. I filed for divorce 8 months ago and 5/6 of your points I was subjected too. What finally ended it for me was the lack of loyalty she showed. She never had my back. Used condescending language toward me in front of friends. Of course the last 8 months have been perfect. But I know it is just manipulation trying to reel me back in to her web of dysfunction
Courtney, you speak like my wife. Comforting, knowing many Earth Angel's are amongst mankind helping. You included. Thank you dear one.
i cant believe i accepted someone with all of these behaviors, i mean she wouldn't even let me get glasses because it would make me look too weird for her even though my vision was suffering. she got pissed whenever i said i wanted to go to college, she made me stop talking to all my friends using anger and violence and self harm until i had nothing left but her, and then it progressed to full on physical abuse. i did things too, but i didnt deserve that, this stuff is no joke guys if you see these signs rhen she is not ready to be dated
Yeah I know the feeling man. Just broke up with someone like that. It's not fun at the start, and you'll feel like crap at the start. But over time you'll feel better. Take it as a lesson on what you you're looking for in a relationship and what you won't except
@@exiledrespite thank you so much im happy for you that you broke up with your person. we've been broken up for a while now and i'm feeling like it was an amazing choice even though it sucked for a while. i definitely learned so much
If I look back on dating and relationship experiences, a lot of the time toxic behaviors I encountered were really just immaturity on behalf of the girl, or lack of strength of character to actually say they weren’t attracted or invested in taking a relationship further. Women are non-confrontational and rarely direct. If you take the lead, but they can’t follow, then they are not going to be a good dance partner, simple as.
With experience I learned to read the signs and test their attraction early on by playing it cool and not being try-hard. If a girl likes you and has character, she’ll let you know. If you have to put in work, that speaks volumes.
Simple rules.
If she’s below 22yo, don’t expect anything much from her, most girls are incapable of flying straight at this age. Any girl that can is highly unusual and worth pursuing. Ages 22-27 are when most smart girls start to fly right. Again, if a girl is prepared to behave during this time she’s worth taking seriously. Any girl who gets to 27 and is still a handful will always be a handful. And don’t be fooled by girls 27-32 who are suddenly seemingly flying right but were party girls before. They’ve hit epiphany phase and are looking for a sucker to settle down with most likely. These are the most dangerous women of all. As said, a woman less than 27 years old who is ready to exit the carousel for you is what you should be looking for, and if she’s 20-23 with green flags like good family, hard working and naturally submissive then take her very seriously.
I’ve never heard this put so perfectly
What about 40+?
Ugh this hit close to home. Whenever I achieved something good for myself, my ex felt the need to knock me down.
I'm glad I went no contact with my ex! I valued myself too much to stick around and put up with her manipulative BS!! I started learning about cluster B personality disorders a month before walking away from her. And started to see more & more red flags hoping that she wasn't a narc or a borderline, but she was a borderline with a lot of narcissistic traits. When I accepted that she would never change no matter what I did. So I just ghosted her. It was one of the best things I've done for myself!
Wow, I was dating a cluster B person!
I was told endlessly i was a narcissist. Didn't occur to me she might have the problem. Wasted years dating her. Your post makes a lot of sense.
I seen two damaged people against each other. One swears the other has issues, well, in blindness, too has issues and in denial. So will keep attracting same kind of women, even while fingerpointing at other men like himself!
I just got out of a relationship with a girl who disappointed me several times and kept coming back to me after I drew a boundary or pushed her out of my life. Even after she ghosted me I finally learned that you shouldn’t allow what you don’t want. It’s weird how some people will dump you but keep coming back to you. I learned to understand I deserve better. She didn’t feel andything doing me wrong so many times but came back with praise and flattery every time she came back. Man people are weird and you don’t need to try and figure them out. Live your best life and be content already and you will eventually get what you desire.
thats my story with my ex....
This true
I'm sure you didn't do anything wrong at all the whole relationship either and she was just the problem and toxic
Thank you Courtney. I definitely agree that toxicity comes from unhealed trauma. my best friend's last relationship had most of these issues and they definitely were due to massive insecurity issues.
Boys. Relax. Live your life. Organize your minds. Build healthy goals. Achieve goals. Strive. Seek knowledge and wisdom. Meditation and peace. Develop your souls. Build your bodies. Achieve and conquer. You can do this
Boring!!!!!
i have a couple of these and didn’t realize it because i didn’t focus on taking care of myself and working on insecurities. i am taking charge of myself and growing to stop these toxic behaviors.
Thank you for providing men with resources to help themselves. It seems very hopeless in this day and age, yet alone Learning you are in a toxic relationship so content like this might save my life, and many others. Please keep helping people you never know how much this might help someone
Never let the ups and downs along the way, stop you from doing what you know is meant for you to do.
I hear ya - stayhappylittle mermaid! Great tips - by Courtney!
This is why you have to be very careful who you get involved with - because they could possibly ruin your life, and the career that you’ve worked so hard for.
That’s why you also have to pay really close attention early on in the relationship, to see if you can spot any red flags before it’s too late. I’m sure John Depp wish he had - now!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 RE: Johnny Depp-- Birds of a feather, flock together. They were both wacko, which is why they ended up together. On the plus side, with more issues than Hugh Hefner, they created enough drama to keep some of us entertained by it all. 😜
@@marcmays48 I hear ya!
@@marcmays48 Both mad, but only one an abuser.
True saying dear
Toxic people never change in my experience
Nope… they just change victims and it’s many many victims that she will always blame and never herself.
@@BLUExEYEDxSLICKT borderline personality disorder is what that is called aka Amber turd disorder
You are absolutely right about that
Thanks for sharing Courtney. I think you missed a massive one here which is: IF SHE CONSTANTLY CRITICIZES YOU (clear cue of her own internal insecurities)
I could have used this advice 40 years ago.....Listen up men, this information is 100% accurate..HEED THIS ADVICE!
Decided to never ever approach a women for fraction of seconds.... but i,ll pray for women,s like u.... good health and hapiness MADAM...
Thnku❤
I’m 24 and never been in a relationship but I do have my stuff together and I am financially stable
Most women aren’t worth the squeeze. The burden is on the woman to prove their worth. Probably worth not marrying unless God gets involved, and I don’t mean meeting in a church.
This woman Courtney is a gem, I’d love to date someone like her. Very educated and wise.
Also you are very right about toxicity comes from trauma and immaturity. Trauma is where most of our actions stem from, that’s why so many people are dysfunctional. I teach my friends and family this as often as possible. You have to make an effort to be healthy in every area of your life. It takes sacrifice and it’s uncomfortable but it’s a necessity to grow. Hilarious when you said scum of the earth, I say that often 😅
Hi Courtney, it took me 20+ years but I am finally rejecting the toxic behaviour. Most women have impossible standards to meet, when they are average at best. There are good women out there, I have met a few usually through having the same interests or background. The future of society / reproduction is at stake. Pandering to women does not help anyone. Thanks again Courtney for all your work, Neil.
What you allow is what will continue! This is so on point and what opened my eyes.
Thank you for shedding light on toxic behaviors! Your point about playing games is so true and connects to the self-serving bias, where people justify their harmful actions while ignoring how they impact others. A client I work with constantly felt manipulated by someone who claimed they were just “figuring things out” but was really using emotional games to avoid commitment. Your advice to walk away from these situations is invaluable!
On the topic of games my biggest pet peeve about dating apps is that women's bios always say "no time for games," but they are 100% the ones that play the games, so apparently they do have time for it.
Saying, “they are the ones who play the games” meaning men do not is such a generalized statement- it’s toxic.
If more women were like you the world would be a much better place. You are a keeper for sure. Your man better realize what he has. Kudos to you. A+ and gold star.
I had a girlfriend during the Dark Time (what I call the time before I met my wife) who couldn't get along with my friends and family. She even struggled with her own friends. She was what I call a spotlight personality. She needed to be the center of attention in any setting. This worked out fine when it was just the two of us. Under those conditions, she behaved well and communicated well. But whenever I tried to mix her with anyone else, she struggled to get the spotlight on her. I just couldn't mix her in with any of my family or friends without a tussle over who was going to be the center of attention during the social occasion. This proved unworkable.
That's the key statement right there ! "What you allow is what will continue" !
Thanks for this video. My older sister, is a victim and doesn't take accountability for her actions, "Its everyone else's fault and not hers" Her life is in perpetual crisis and although I work on my relationship with her since we are good friends, I find it very hard work to be around her. I have firm boundaries and when I protect myself by implementing boundaries, that is when I get into big trouble with her.
If she plays games with you (not the fun kind), she’s toxic!
it's fun to her lmao
@@kc270352 😂😂😂
Damn right
Don't even know why I watch videos like this anymore as I have ZERO interest in dating, never mind getting married.. Single and DELIGHTED to be that way and am STAYING that way.
Thanks for supporting the channel. The internet does come with an 'Off,' switch, should you feel the need to use it. Just sayin'. 🙂
Yeah this channel is mainly about improving yourself and improving your awareness while it can translate its way into dating, family, friendships, and work life
You never know - and you can date long term without considering getting married.
Great tips! This is why you have to be very careful who you get involved with - because they could possibly ruin your life, and the career that you’ve worked so hard for.
That’s why you also have to pay really close attention early on in the relationship, to see if you can spot any red flags before it’s too late. I’m sure John Depp wish he had - now!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Absolutely! Thanks for the comment, Carlos! 🙌🏼
@@CourtneyRyan no problem - Courtney! My pleasure. 😁❤️
All these are valid. I married a woman who displayed some of these signs. I overlooked them thinking they were the exception not the rule. Once we married it instantly flipped and we were in frequent conflict within weeks.
We need more woman like yourself knowing whats good and bad in a relationship thanks for this its been very educational me
Toxic is the default/ the starting point. Tell us what's not toxic.
I’ve done some videos like this! I can definitely do more.
I like this video. Everytime I call out women on their toxicity they just call me a misogynist. But is it really misogyny or is it just truth?
It’s because you most likely make sweeping generalisations based off on gender
I bet you’re the type to constantly and only see the flaws in women and definitely start looking inward because I bet you have some too
@@womenwhowantmenbackakawwwm8232 there are some good qualities about women but all I ask for is accountability and i find that some women don’t take accountability and blame men instead of looking inward like you said. We all need to look inward
Spoiler alert: If she has a boyfriend while seeking other male validation, she’s 🗑 toxic
There's a lot of those at the gym
You just described every woman out there.
LMAO...all are!
@@befreetv354 💯
"She never takes accountability." So basically every woman ever.
Yes
I have to be honest that people always say this person is toxic or this.... and if we think like that pretty much everyone would be single hahaha we are always toxic 😩
@@gabitapapa no. It's just women
Toxic woman,not all are like that do not generalize
True
I think it's important to remember that toxic people got that way for a reason you don't have to stay with them but don't just write them off and try to hurt them let them off easy and get away
Oh word you said it. Good job
And another great one!!! You’re like a supportive friend to all of us!!! Love these tips and videos, Courtney!!!! Keep it up with the great content!!!! ❤️🙏🏼🙌🏼💯
there's a woman I talk to, we've had a couple night outs but I ended things cause she was talking to other guys, a couple months later she recently reached out and said she misses me and still likes me but still sleeps with other guys 🤔 not gonna chase, gonna let her do her thing 😂
Ok, despite anything / everything my recent ex went through my phone while i was in the hospital on my death bed. She also got upset that my daughter wanted to have power of medical attorney over me. And here i am grieving and making a fool of myself to get her back
I’ve been seeing this girl and today I saw a side of her I’ve never seen. She was like “what was it like growing up with a silver spoon”. I tried to tell her that I’ve met many rich people who weren’t happy. I’ve met poor people who were full of joy and she was like “WHAT ARE THEIR NAMES. YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW” She was so angry and I’ve never seen her like that before. She must have some serious envy/anger towards people who grew up with successful parents. It felt like it was out of nowhere but I guess it was always under the surface.
Yes, all of them. Was married to a covert Narcissist. Mentally messed with my head.
Yes, I experienced all 6 of them from a single person, And many many more... Practically she is a narcissist.
Oouch
I had a woman flirt with me openly for 7 months, even saying things that made other people side-eye how forward it was. I ended up asking her on a date and she assumed all I wanted was sex, that she was flirting with me, but that she very recently decided she wasn't available for dating right now. So I felt confused and kind of hurt that I was led on and that reciprocating HER interest was treated like I did something wrong. So I dropped it.
I ran into her at an event and she was quite forward again, touching me, hugging me, staring deeply into my eyes inches away from my face. She started texting me a lot, sending me racy photos, and even wanted to drop her sweatshirt on my porch because she got too warm on her run. We ended up making out a couple times over the next two weeks, and it felt like it was going somewhere until she called me and started talking negatively about one of my friends and I told her it hurt to hear her talk that away. She told me I shouldn't take it personally and that I will learn that in therapy and that she had to get off the phone. I told her how upset that make me and that it felt like she was gaslighting me and broke it off.
Then I run into her again a few more weeks later and she's right back to hugging me and staring into my eyes and I feel like such a sucker. She is very attractive to me, creative, etc, but there is something very wrong with how she treats men or at least me. When we spend time physically together everything feels good and even special, but I feel like she mostly wants to text. If we hang-out in a group she expresses interest in spending time with me separate from the group, and when I make an offer to spend time with her she says yes, but never follows up about the times I've presented to her, or told me when best works for her.
It feels like I'm some kind of tourist attraction. Like all my creativity and silence and how well my friends like me and do cool things for our community is interesting, but that once they get to know that I'm a real person with feelings and needs of my own that everything becomes foggy.
I feel good about my friends, career, hobbies, finances, health, etc, but man I hate dating, lol. I want to stop taking each interested person so seriously and just date a ton of people until I find one with some mutual respect, appreciation, attraction, and communication style I guess. Not someone entitled to toying with sexuality and emotions. I feel like she has goodness in there somewhere, but I'm feeling like most of what I know about her is a mask to protect her own traumas and ego.
That song like her bro 😅
Run
She's a Narc!
That’s what we call an ATTENTION WHORE !
Constantly craving validation at the expense of your emotional well being.
This video relates to me because recently a girl that I have been friends with since 2023 has recently turned, toxic towards and mean me, which is a girl that I do not want to be.
If your girlfriend only cares about money. Get rid, your true partner doesn't care about money. I also have Depression and Anxiety, not a single one of my 3 exes cared or actually gave a damn, and did not support me whatsoever. Clear out the trash and bring in the positive stuff. Your true love would support you through anything, doesn't matter what it is, unless you cheated. They wouldn't dump you and make you feel useless, they would stick by you.
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Thanks for your videos, I recently got outta this 1 sided relationship where I was getting used for attention! I binged get watched a bunch of your videos and it opened my eyes!
You not wrong bud if the girl is dating a guy 6 foot tall she's using him for attention, she will say in her head to other females look what I got! this guy has a big noodle, wasn't ever about love? just recognition, & attention! For me when I see a really small girl and a tall guy! looks so strange, they're girls? they think differently with what they want.
Courtney, I was wondering if you can do a video on the application of bounderies in relationships. I've noticed a big trend in self-help now is advocating for boundaries, especially in the women's self-help space. I know some ladies that are the people-pleaser types that definitely need some help establishing healthy boundaries, so it's been good advice overall. But I'm here to bring up something that I don't see talked about much. There's a growing number of people that take the boundaries self-help advice and use it to be CONTROLLING of others. Could you cover this topic?
Well, I think the woman I was interested in was toxic... Actually, we were in the same class for 2 years. From the second year on, we started talking to each other very often on snapchat, and we were really "close", sharing our problems, as well as our thoughts about everything... But once in class, she acted like I didn't exist anymore. I didn't understand, but I told myself that as long as we kept talking, everything was fine... But as time went by, I noticed that I was "talking in a vacuum", as if she didn't remember what I was saying (even though I was paying a lot of attention to what she was saying)... And yet, sometimes she was surprising me, giving me ideas for music that I could play and sing on the piano because she thought I sang well... But one day she talked to me, crying because the boy she was interested in was with a girl she knew, and she was asking me for advice (how ironic)... And even after that, she was still interested in him... Anyway, maybe I was wrong from the beginning, but I sincerely thought that there was something. And I swore to myself that after we graduated, I would confess to her, but after thinking about it, even though it hurt, I held back, because deep down I knew it wasn't going to work.
Bruh same here! Why I’m staying single forever because today society ain’t nobody loyal
I'm so lucky, my wife is beautiful in all ways. But, I met her when we were in our thirties. Im 76 now and have had a wonderful relationship.❤❤❤ So hang in there. Yes, a loving relationships do happen.😊😊
'What you allow is what will continue.' -Brilliant
Number 1 is very terrifying. Some women can be very manipulative better than men. Some women are very good at gaslighting, make you feel guilty that you don't do something for her. Be smart and ditch her fast.
🙌🏼 spot on Court!!
Narcissist. Yes. Terrible. Stand up for yourself on day 1 and watch if her behavior changes. If it wasn't a test, she's a narcissist and needs to be on her own to either learn or endure her own punishment lol
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Yes, if she gaslights you, drop her faster than a molten lava rock. You'll be glad you did! 😂
@@marcmays48 woah bro hahaha why pick it up to begin with? Steam and painful breathing is typically a natural sign to call in the professionals hahahahahaha
@@LatimusChadimus Yea, if only they came with warning labels. ⚠️. The only surefire method I've found is to watch out for unique hairstyles. When the hair ain't right, the head ain't right! The crazy ones might be more fun in bed, but that's about it, and they sure aren't worth the drama which inevitably follows. 😳