How to heal when love is self-betrayal
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*"No one has betrayed you more than yourself"*
_[Insert Spiderman pointing at Spiderman Meme]_
Duchi why is this so funny to me 💀
With great power comes the responsibility not to betray oneself.
Anna be in her therapy sessions like “damn I gotta write that down, that’s good content.”
😂
Damn right!
Write it down write it down
😂😂😂😂
No intro, no greeting, no TH-camr hullabaloo, just straight up getting attacked by all of this
Anna really said I’m not gonna say hello I’m just gonna attack
my parents basically raised me to be an android that exists to obey and regurgitate the correct opinions and no form of individuality was allowed so this hits home
BRO MMMMEEEEE THIS HIT ME HARD
same going through it right now
GASP!!! A FELLOE ANDROID 🙌😤❤
Same my upbringing from both parents was simple. Shut up and obey. Still struggeling to change this behaviour.. it's been years now xD
So, basically it was just like everyone else's childhood, right?
I feel like I needed to hear this... maybe therapy wouldn't be a bad idea after all.
Also don't feel discouraged if you don't click with your therapist. For most people it takes going to several therapists to find the one they're comfortable with.
Ikr..whenever I watch Anna's videos I usually think that therapy sounds like such a good idea. You could unlearn so many horrible habits and get a healthier mindspace.
@@oriannedueck7356 Ask them anyway! Better try than not going at all. I seriously manifested lots of those toxic behaviours throughout my teensjust becaue I didn't go see a doctor.
Do itttt. It changed my life, honestly
Your mind is your WORST enemy and your BEST friend 🙏🏽
*I think when we allow someone to cross our boundaries, we betray ourselves, because we permitted them to do so!* ☝️
Remember everyone, our biggest commitment is to ourselves. So make sure to be the best partner you can be ❤
Thanks nee-chan!
No one will hold you as a priority, as much as you will. Thank you for expressing what is needed.
"I am the ship's doctorrr" lol
Some good advice here. The best part was that we generally really do know what we need but just don't do it. I know I need to not eat unhealthy foods. Procrastinating will only make things worse. I hate my job and should quit but, etc. etc.
"Remember, always put yourself first."
- a caring friend :')
Had a session with my therapist yesterday just about this topic PERFECT FREAKING TIME
Am I the only one who just can’t wait for this girl to be in a happy and healthy relationship with a caring partner 😅❤️
I cant wait for her to just be happy without one!
Self betrayal is a HUGE thing in the book: The Anatomy of Peace, it’s one of the best books I’ve read and many others have also told me this. It’s about conflict management. I’m sure you’ll love it!
Still sounds healthier than my resentment towards literally everything and everyone. Your good... well, almost.
I don't think you would have commented if you really resented *literally* everything and everyone. I don't think anything or anyone actually damaged you, and you are looking to be damaged. Dig deep, you might find that there is something better in you.
Well, we've all earned your resentment. We're mostly evil people doing things just to annoy you, you know? I resent your resentment of my resentment of your re....
When Anna said "No On HaS bEtRaYeD yOu MoRe ThAn YoUrSeLf" for the second time I got some serious goosebumps due to self realization. 😗😗😗😗
I think we all have been there... We all try to be someone else.... We just need to hear it from someone to realise we are actually doing it... Atleast that what I needed right now.... Thanks Anna....
I wonder how many times have you mentioned your therapist, she should have her own segment 🤔
Jesús Pineda Awww cute!
"Dad! Look imma pirate" is the comedy I needed for the day.
Yeah, she's a hook-doctor.
"What do I need?" Now there's something I don't think I've ever really asked myself, let alone daily.
I thought this was going to be int he category of toxic ex/manipulative friend videos, but this is good. Being true to yourself, as cliched as that sounds, is incredibly important. Thanks Anna.
This is why I always say I'm in a serious relationship with myself! ❤️
TLDR: Personal happiness is a priority.
And what about recognizing that personal happiness when it's staring you in the face?
You are my online therapist 💞
Careful, she might start charging you :D
For ten years I drove by one condo building every day, always wanting to live there. I bought and now live here. It is my commitment to me. Parking underground in a former Nike missile base is just a bonus.
JJ Hantsch oh cool!
Man. This came up at exactly the right time for me. I just finished talking to my therapist about this kind of conflict.
This was the case in my childhood. Under the control of patriarchy and motherhood, I unknowingly developed the habit of pleasing others, and habitually made myself into another person to obtain "love". Some bad PUAs now make use of this kind of self-awareness and weak self-awareness. Some of my current experiences also tell me that excessively catering to others may not necessarily be respected or cherished by others. A truly charismatic personality is an independent personality.
nobody:
anna: my therapist said...
Thank you for bringing up such important issues. You open my eyes every time
That feeling that you have when you decide not go out (although your friends expect you to do so and insist), because you stopped for a moment and asked yourself if you want this- YOU, not your friends => A M A Z I N G!
OMG I DIDNT KNOW THIS EVEN EXISTED BUT I HAD THOSE SHOCK MOMENTS RN
Love how you show through this vid how impactful it can be to become aware about our limiting beliefs we learned in childhood...your humor is amazing to keep it real and light. Thx!!😁😁❤❤
Please keep making this kind of videos
It actually helped me understand alot of things
Sending love
I miss these types of videos from you. Very much needed thank you so much, I love you and I hope your journey has been well for you!
I call it being your own worst enemy. If you just get out of your own way you can succeed beyond your wildest dreams.
Thank you for sharing this, cause I always knew that something wrong but never verbalised it. I also was raised believing that I need to betray myself in order to be safe and accepted by others (by my friends, even my closest support group like my family)
So often Anna says the right words at the right time, so very thankful for all her videos that give such precious advice and direction! *BIG HEART EMOJI*
I am literally in LOVE with all of your videos. I've recently started therapy yet I feel like I'm gonna learn everything I need to from your content before we even get there in my sessions 😅❤️
Anna, I just want to thank you for your work! You are amazing!
I felt that. I go through that almost every day.
Internet therapist Anna back at it again with the truth! Thank you so much for this! I struggle with everything you've talked about, and it helps to put words to the problem and ways to get better :)
I love how you talk about this. Its great and framed incredibly well 😍
Anna you are awsome! Please never stop doing such helpful videos!!!
Wow! This is awesome! I've never... Thought of it that way. Thank you Anna! ❤️
glad you got your channel back!
Girl I love you so much. I learn so much from ur videos and I find u very brave for putting yourself out there and being so open about what you go through, which in turn helps others relate, understand themselves and grow. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Love your openness. Sometimes I don't agree but still love it. Keep it up
Thank you, Anna! You always post videos at the right time:)
Wow Anna, I really needed to hear this today!💐thank you so much for creating & sharing this!
Love love love this episode. Thank you for creating such worthwhile content and sharing personal insights that is relatable.
You rock bro 😊
This is nice that you are helping people understand what are the things we have been doing wrong since ages
Thank you for these videos. They are very helpful and informative while being easy to follow ☺️
I’m so glad I found your channel
trying to stop hating my mind for 'betraying myself' and trying to change my train of thoughts instead.. which will hopefully translate into positive actions : )
Thankyou Anna! Your such an amazing person and your wisdom has helped me so much babe. Truly, thankyou! 💜
I'm just gonna say and I'm sure you might hear this alot but I freaking love you, you helped me with so much
Wow , this hit me right in the soul
this seriously mindblowers me
I love how she's pushing herself to go out right before COVID becomes a thing
To be honest subscribing to this channel is one of the best and smartest things I've ever done! Thanks for the supportive and helpful content Anna!
I really really love this. Thank you for sharing!
Anna is my new therapist. Thanks Anna
You are amazing. Learning so much about self love x
This is so good Anna! Man can I relate. I love the tip to ask yourself what your needs are and keep promises to yourself even if they are simple. Proud of you for not only learning to love yourself but for sharing it with us so we can too. Love you friend! ;)
Omg I needed this so much, thank you
Anna, this explains so much about my life and current struggles! Now, just to break the cycle...
I needed this, thank you
Thank you Anna
This was eye opening. Thank you
Anna is my QUEEN
Thank you for these videos
Thanks again, Anna! Small promises to myself I’ll start now on.
I love this wonderful woman!
Anna, loving you on Million Little Things, and your TH-cam videos and TH-cam show. Thanks for the work you put in
just what I needed thank you anna
spot on anna.now im like that. mind blowned
I love that two of these self-love behaviors are at cross-purposes. It demonstrates the real-life varieties that exist from day to day decisions and the importance of listening to your self-needs as they exist, and not the overarching expectations of long-term goals.
Wow, that was a lot of hyphens.
I love that the dad was reading Ranma 1/2 my favorite manga of all time! Also love these talks!
Girl, your amazing
Priceless insight
Can we all THANK Anna's therapist for all these insights? Wow...
Thanks Anna 😊
thank you so much.
Awesome content, Anna.
self sabatoge is when a girl wants a relationship and saves her time to get married. while to whole time in motion looking back at her past of all the chances she could have had. then wanting to fill those dreams later in the youth unable to live the past of the dreams they wanted
Hits home. Brilliant.
That was really helpful 🙏🏻 thank you very much
I just love her
Anna I love your videos and wish they were longer 😔
Why does it feel like could be an amazing therapist
good job making the world a better place
I just love all your videos but this is one especially!
No one has betrayed you more than yourself 🥀
Great like always btw I love your hair 😍
thank you
I knew you were going to say that Anna as soon as I saw the title!
Thanks, Anna. You're very helpful! :)
Great message.
So true.
I missed you so much. Yes!