The Cold Truth - 5 Signs He's Not Serious About You

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  • @SaveTheMessenger
    @SaveTheMessenger  ปีที่แล้ว +2

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  • @bethzy335
    @bethzy335 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    1. Do not pressure a man into commitment if he is not making the move himself
    2. If a man insists on staying together but shows no effort to change or commit, it's a red flag
    3. Pay attention to how he talks about the future and if he includes you in his plans
    4. Look out for hesitance or aversion towards labeling the relationship
    5. Compare his actions and intentions to how a loved one would treat you to gauge his sincerity
    6. Use past experiences with people who genuinely cared for you as a standard for how you should be treated
    7. Don't settle for someone who doesn't appreciate you, as this can lead to one-sided relationships.

  • @tazrinahmed5326
    @tazrinahmed5326 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    Problem is I never had a guy love me before so I don’t know what love from a man is like in reality. I have only faced this hot and cold guys till now in 25 years of my life

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Do you think is your fault? That you attract these type of men?

    • @thankyou1741
      @thankyou1741 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Same story! We need to pray girl. That God will have mercy on us

    • @caterinadelgalles8783
      @caterinadelgalles8783 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Im 42. Never been in love.

    • @Jillian15
      @Jillian15 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      At 62 it's the same, hot and cold. Not just men but children too. Get a dog they are eternally consistent when it comes to love. Find love in as many areas of your life and all of its forms. Romantic love is overrated and cannot be sustained.❤

    • @tazrinahmed5326
      @tazrinahmed5326 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@SaveTheMessenger I’m not good looking. I’m brown skin south asian girl and south asian muslim boys only love fair skin girls. Even the guys mothers reject me cause I’m brown skin and not fair white skin

  • @user-mv2tg8hc8c
    @user-mv2tg8hc8c ปีที่แล้ว +20

    You’re advise sounds sincere, honest, well balanced, and reasonable! Thank you!

  • @thinkplays1878
    @thinkplays1878 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Im feeling..days back I asked him but he couldn't give straight answer and he had been inconsistent.
    Then I quit. I do not deserve to be treated like that.

  • @sehrinteressant
    @sehrinteressant 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This is so true! Never had a guy in my life who truly wanted me. Now I‘m finally ready to only open myself up to MEN who want something deep, long-lasting, committed and who love me in the same way I love them. No more onesided feelings and relationships where we only are with each other because he only likes the way it feels. I want real men ❤ Love your videos Ismail, they’re such a blessing!

  • @Anastazka00
    @Anastazka00 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Your videos are of incredible quality! I can’t believe you don’t have hundereds of thousands of views. I wish you luck and subscribe!
    Btw, the video on how to make man respect you would be perfect and I think it would attract large audience.

  • @lynnebucher6537
    @lynnebucher6537 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    A wise man once said women should not make a man their priority when he sees her as only an option.

  • @garimadabral3127
    @garimadabral3127 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    thank you so much for this video i really needed this. It was my first relationship in life and i can clearly see some of these signs and i know i deserve better and its time to breakup.

  • @astridhanl4861
    @astridhanl4861 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This really helps holding n the the standards that I provide for my partners - this is what I should get back from them. And really reassuring about how I have to become a better selector. It's totally different weird and fucked up how "safe" and stable people start to feel and seem boring or like there is no passion, just because expectations were framed by toxicity and drama!

  • @Nataliaromanowska1
    @Nataliaromanowska1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for sharing such geniuine thoughts. These just spot on and reflect reality.

  • @angelicaschannel08
    @angelicaschannel08 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hei! Ismael. Thank you so much. Your videos were very helpful to me. Now,I can understand more about men, dating, and having a relationship.

  • @TKhajavi
    @TKhajavi 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Good direction!
    But a man who loves me
    I don't forgive

  • @akiwara
    @akiwara ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Jeeeeeezzzz My grasp of how men think has gotten better. You are now my best friend, my love guru. 😜😄 Thanks so much Ismael.
    All the best. ✨

  • @audreypistor4610
    @audreypistor4610 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Beautiful quote and by the way I loved a man by the name of Bob, and he showed me that kind of love you spoke about. He passed away before we were able to get married. I will always love him and never forget him. He had all the qualities you are talking about. So, for my future reference I do say what you suggested.... would Bob treat me like this and that's when I know. Thank you... you are so right. Love your site.

  • @thymetrees
    @thymetrees 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you.. such great advice for all!

  • @erinbailey7278
    @erinbailey7278 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank You Ismael! You hit the nail on the head with each of these. Dadgumit I wish you weren't right, but you sure are. Please keep sending out helpful videos. Much Appreciated!

  • @wendaworkman8065
    @wendaworkman8065 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Excellent thoughts.

  • @graceemechebe6887
    @graceemechebe6887 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I enjoy your videos, I'm really tired 😩 because it seems like something wrong with being too fast in falling for someone and den they get bored and leave 😢

  • @astridhanl4861
    @astridhanl4861 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This video is really really good! I'll rewatch that a lot when I get insecure and feel like not good enough ❤

  • @makelifematter1896
    @makelifematter1896 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you, my brother keeps saying something isn't right..just as you say one minute, he sends flity stuff songs, then boom nothing..😢you are so won derful

  • @divyasam1179
    @divyasam1179 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The advices you give are so good that honestly I get tempted to date you ❤😂

  • @WashoeValleyCollies
    @WashoeValleyCollies 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You have alot of wisdom for a Kid! Great mind and heart I see in you!

  • @dogloverboxer1426
    @dogloverboxer1426 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Excellent video. Thanks so much!

  • @vicnanziri4617
    @vicnanziri4617 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Have just started watching your videos and it's amazing how they're on point!
    You're videos are very insightful, thanks very much. Have got me to subscribe.

  • @rimpasartofliving6987
    @rimpasartofliving6987 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So nicely no one has explained...it has become so easy to take the next step

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm glad to hear the video helped you to take the next step.

    • @rimpasartofliving6987
      @rimpasartofliving6987 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@SaveTheMessenger Thanks for replying..From India

  • @smartyetfashionable2085
    @smartyetfashionable2085 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hi, I've married a man after a "love story" that lasted 6 years. We have a daughter who's 5. But we're seperated now and I really don't know how to deal with him. We used to live together with his family, but when I told him I wanted an independant life together as a couple he refused. Then I left. It's been 4 years now that we're apart. I've tried filing for divorce but I chickened out. He shows up into my life then vanishes as he pleases. I really could use some advice.

    • @sorayalolita8052
      @sorayalolita8052 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Set boundaries: tell him what you need from him, and what you can’t accept. Draw the line in the sand. Then let him choose. He will give you what you need, or he won’t. Either way, you will be free.

    • @smartyetfashionable2085
      @smartyetfashionable2085 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sorayalolita8052 Thx for your advice. I really appreaciate it. I should just confront him and see where this goes.

    • @jenshaw8085
      @jenshaw8085 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You already know what to do. File for divorce, get what you’re entitled to, assets, alimony, child support… and move on with your life. Make sure your parenting plan is detailed about what he can and cannot do.

    • @lynnebucher6537
      @lynnebucher6537 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      He's toying with you, getting what he wants then detaching. Don't put up with a man who treats you like that.

    • @smartyetfashionable2085
      @smartyetfashionable2085 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lynnebucher6537 Thanks

  • @enrika.daubaris
    @enrika.daubaris ปีที่แล้ว +3

    good thoughts, loved that!

  • @jewelclark2512
    @jewelclark2512 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    If you’ve almost fell in love… it didn’t Really happen so now you don’t trust yourself anymore, what do you do? ( I just turned 44 and I’m a divorced woman who hasn’t ever been in love or a relationship since he divorced me in 2012. I don’t Date much and I was shocked to find myself reacting to a guy but I didn’t know what to do! My almost romance was in 2021
    I’m super sorry for the long comment/question thank you for the video)

  • @nishatchougule4660
    @nishatchougule4660 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thankk you for sharing. Much needed 💯❤️❤️🥺

  • @sana.sshaikh5790
    @sana.sshaikh5790 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thnks dude.. i need motivation nd heal my self to move on in ma lyf

  • @ZinaidaSkhaba
    @ZinaidaSkhaba 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    !Ismael, muchas gracias a ti!

  • @ireneperalta245
    @ireneperalta245 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Sir! good information.

  • @jamieolivarez9083
    @jamieolivarez9083 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hi, I just ran across your videos! 😮 thank you so much for your insightful advice on a “man's perspective” You are on point. Thank you, thank you! I'm in my mid-40s, divorced, and have been single for 8 years now. Your information is way more insightful than what have experienced in my dating experience in the past.

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for your kind words Jamie. I'm glad to see my videos are helping you.

  • @Tcastilh
    @Tcastilh 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Lots of love from Brazil TYSM ❤

  • @elizkimu3361
    @elizkimu3361 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Waoh,very good lessons and insights.Keep up

  • @Gxgfi8yStfiy
    @Gxgfi8yStfiy 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks dear 😊now l know where l belong in his life 😢

  • @priyabachhar4043
    @priyabachhar4043 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hey ismael ! Thankyou your vedios r so inspiring n helpful to know a guy on a deep way bt what if a guy is loyal to you n still hanging with his female frnds or crush wothout knowing you too much information

  • @mnu9293
    @mnu9293 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I miss Bob 😢❤

  • @AnnaLim-tb6gm
    @AnnaLim-tb6gm ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks Ismael😊

  • @elliekudou8592
    @elliekudou8592 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So amazing video thank u alot.

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for your kind words.

    • @elliekudou8592
      @elliekudou8592 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@SaveTheMessenger if I may ask..what does it mean when he was great and cool in the begging sharing everything w me and even sending me precious present then suddenly.....cutting everything says u control and u ruin it and it's interesting anymore ..... even tho he shared his darkest sides anger issues I took it but then he says "if u have a topic to talk about u can talk w me otherwise dont " .. he becoming total stranger . Can u give me advice ?
      Ps. Its distant friendship

  • @ShopgirlNY182
    @ShopgirlNY182 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’ve only been persued by one guy who had a crush on me for years he said but I don’t know if the effort/energy he was putting into it was real or love bombing because he came in fast and furious with his affection which says love bombing but I don’t know if that was true feelings or not so I’m not sure if I should use that to compare to my future relationships…

  • @mariepadilla7001
    @mariepadilla7001 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    you’re awesome thanks so much

  • @Vaxedia
    @Vaxedia 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Does sending person a snap everyday counts as wanting to communicate everyday?

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I'd say yes, but that's a low-effort communication, so keep that in mind.

    • @Vaxedia
      @Vaxedia 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@SaveTheMessenger okay thank you

  • @deviram6061
    @deviram6061 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What about if a guy call u like twice an u didn't get to answer the call an up on the third time u still didn't get to answer him when he call again

  • @tericeytracyfifie
    @tericeytracyfifie ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Tired 😴😩.. wait love chase me lah..

  • @sssam844
    @sssam844 ปีที่แล้ว

    It always fails on the 4th point. All my exes moved away for a job😂 I don't know how to have something lasting in the late 20s, early 30s when everyone is a job hopper including myself. I also am not the good-looking one, so I'm becoming quite desperate

    • @annmariebudyn
      @annmariebudyn 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You will be beautiful to someone....be patient.

  • @burntchickennuggets7067
    @burntchickennuggets7067 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm so confused with this guy I like rn. So basically he learned that I had feelings for him, he blocked me because things won't be "the same".
    The thing is, the night before he discovered my feelings, he opened up to me about his mental health issues and I comforted him of course. But he ended up shutting down saying things like "forget this ever happened". So I sent him a long paragraph of comfort and all which was smth any other friend would do. Him being vulnerable to me demonstrates that he trusts me.
    So why did he cut me off? That's what I'm confused about.

    • @cr22294
      @cr22294 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Girl what I’ve learned is if it’s confusing then he’s wasting your time. A man that is truly into you won’t have you anxious about how they feel about you. It will be known.

  • @salsal9663
    @salsal9663 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My boyfriend takes an hour to reply and make less voice call .

  • @ialy9
    @ialy9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Omg so true! 😂❤❤

  • @Xianzara20
    @Xianzara20 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great 🎉

  • @farjanaakter3918
    @farjanaakter3918 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you.sir.good.information

  • @mrssun21
    @mrssun21 ปีที่แล้ว

    What if he does half of this ? But we are both moving away soon so there's probably an "expiration date"

  • @jonipangda2927
    @jonipangda2927 ปีที่แล้ว

    Woow,very well said

  • @lady00303
    @lady00303 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I gotta say, good advice.. but one thing is that it's wrong to assume all women love watching horror, suspense or murder shows/films.
    That is certainly something I'm not into. Not all women enjoy the same thing...

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Agreed. I just used that as an example.

    • @LoNoOr37
      @LoNoOr37 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      🙄🙄

  • @CristinaRodriguez-wl2mm
    @CristinaRodriguez-wl2mm ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Can we date u? heheheeh You seem like a great person

  • @hadeermostafadesign2169
    @hadeermostafadesign2169 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    ❤🎉

  • @mariaalina5870
    @mariaalina5870 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I see most of your videos on yt and insta and I was wandering are you single? 😊. Thank you

  • @heidypichardo4603
    @heidypichardo4603 ปีที่แล้ว

    It can go both ways, interesting

  • @arielvazquez2437
    @arielvazquez2437 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😐👌