Usually, my insomnia and/or warped circadian rhythm allows me to nap during daylight hours only. So...👋 Hi, Dustin! Glad I'm only 6 hours late from this upload. LOVE your stuff! Keep it up, you're doing swell! 😊❤❤❤❤❤
I laughed so hard when you did that at 3:52-ish! 😂😂😂 Tried not to wake my family - failed miserably... This is the first video of your's I've seen, but now that the tears from the laughter are finally subsiding, I am definitely subbing just for that. Well earned, my friend! 😎👍😂
I also love the subtle little 🚩 stirrings that lead up to the "tiptoe" interlude: -Peeking out from behind the 🚩 -The hesitant readiness of your fist to grip the 🚩 Then you unleashed the "TIPTOE" 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🤣😭💀
They were probably doing the bare minimum for both families and thought that providing money or other things would make up for the time they're not spending for the other family.
I wonder the same thing, but now with phones and people with loose morals, they will get with your spouse and take what they can get. It's insane and when they travel 'for work', it's scary
@@Arri7979The mother of his second family was his fiance only, and she had teens with him. So he was doing less than the bare minimum. Obviously there has been friction about it in his legal marriage because of her "works so damn hard" comment. Two whole neglected families, five children's lives ruined; just so that he wouldn't have to cook his own dinners and clean up after himself at the second location. Good grief.
Comment on the BO story: my ex bf used to tell me negative stuff about my body all the time. It wasn't until I had broken up with him, spent a good few years with my new bf (a green flag guy indeed), AND watched this video, that I was finally able to connect the dots. That guy had been systematically lowering my self esteem so that I would feel too desperate to leave him. That was such a low blow. I am absolutely fuming rn.
Sounds like it yeah, too many men taught that the way to maintain a relationship is tearing their partner down instead of being you know... a decent human being.
It's called "negging" and it isn't only about getting a partner to feel so bad about themselves they won't leave, it's supposed to make the person want to please you and focus on impressing you. I'm glad you got away
@@artieprime6513 Honestly, look up "negging". Thanks to commenter @poodypooroo I was finally able to get the mental clarity and understanding I needed about what actually happened to me. Its way more insidious than one would think
As someone who has unfortunately been a narc magnet most of my life, I knew from the beginning what this was actually about. Narcs and psychos looooooooooove to devalue you every chance they get. Sometimes they use things that you are insecure about, sometimes they try to make your good traits into bad ones to really throw you into an existential crisis. And sometimes they just straight up make things up, or heavily twist reality. Like I said about them saying your good traits are bad... Over time you will catch them contradicting themselves. Like they one day say X about you is a bad thing, another day they praise you about X. People who come at you with negative remarks all the time should never be trusted. THEY ARE TELLING LIES!!! Don't trust a single word out of their snake mouth!!
Met a dude that said small passive shit that was meant to pick at self esteem. Ashamed to say that at first I didn't really 'notice' because I really could have cared less when he made the comments at the time (and it only lasted a few dates), but retrospectively.....yeah. Insecure af to the point the only way they could be secure in a "relationship" is to make sure you're emotionally manipulated into staying. Because, y'know. They don't know how to build a healthy one or treat you like a person with human decency and respect.
My mother did that to me with my daughter’s father. I went NC. He was never faithful, wi whatever. But my mother did that to me. I got divorced and orphaned in one fell swoop.
The worst story I heard was from a buddy of mine. His aunt was caught red-handed with his cousin's (her daughter) husband. How, you ask? This was the visual his cousin saw and said she would never forget or forgive: She was in his lap, and he scroaning (scream-moaning) with his head tilted back....yep. He was watering the seeds...The irony is that his cousin said he would always joke about her mom having a big 🍑 when all along, he was fantasizing about it.
I like how the boyfriend was verbally degrading her several times a day for YEARS, but once she pushes back and challenges him he "goes into a panic" and blames his dad 😂
@@naranara1690 It’s never the abuser’s fault, according to the abuser! And he was not only verbally degrading her, he was psychologically abusing her. Sick man.
Dude I'm cisgender female and I am so self concious about body oder that I use bleach wipes, "down there" and my armpits, ect. And wash my hair and body with dawn.
@alchemicmercury please don't use bleach near your goods. It has the opposite effect. Ur goods are supposed to be acidic to prevent fungal growth down there. Bleach is a very strong base and neutralizes your natural acidity in that area. You can get a lot of yeast infections if you do that. If anything just Clean with water!!!
@alchemicmercury bleach down there is not going to help odor. And dawn for your skin and hair is going to disrupt your natural biome and actually make any body odor worse. If you have unusual b.o. you might want to see a dermatologist. Or try Lumi. I expected it to be useless, but it's actually amazing -- and it is safe to use in sensitive areas.
third story: That man taking video evidence was genius. Even when he was stunned and having a million thoughts in his mind, he handled things well. I'm happy he's doing better now.
@@DustyHoney who cares. Maybe don't sleep with your son's ex for months and lie about why they got punch, lmao. Now he has proof if they decide to go to court and isn't gonna get gas lighted by the dad.
@@DustyHoney That's not revenge porn, it's evidence. Revenge porn is uploading nudes or anything similar from an ex or any other for the sake of humiliating them as a form of revenge, which he didn't do. He just wanted evidence/"blackmailing" material
@DustyHoney it's only called that if he uploaded it online or shared it to a bunch of people, as far as we know he only showed it to his mother because it concerned her relationship too.
@@DustyHoney No, that's not revenge porn. Revenge porn is uploading it online for millions of strangers to see or sharing it with multiple people. He took evidence so that his mother would believe him and both could leave these horrific people.
Some people just have a certain smell to other people. Not all people but what I smell like to you, isn't the same as how I smell to others. Why would she stay with him if he told her she stunk all the time. I will "victim blame" this one. It's ridic
@@Cassiee102 did you like... watch the video? the boyfriend literally admits she wasn't smelling bad but his dad told her to say that to his girlfriend anyway because it would make her stay with him. like it literally says in the post that he admits that. did you not watch the video? did you just start scrolling and looking for comments to disagree with?
@@ishathakorno. I made the comment specifically to piss you off. I thought to myself, how could I upset ishathakor the most and came up with that comment. I think it worked, success!
@@Kira-xs1zv, Okay. He's leading a double life. He's "officially" living in 2 different states. In each State he has a "full time family" that he, supports 100% with his income. Couples, who are living together, do their taxes together. Since the person who has the higher income are able to reduce their "tax bracket" (aka how much taxes they own) by "transferring" some of their "income" to their spouse's taxes. This also comes into play with _children_ that they also need to support and, sometimes, get tax credits for supporting them.
@@aralornwolf3140 I'm sorry that two hundred people liked this comment... because it is completely and utterly wrong. The IRS assesses tax liability on the combined income of both spouses (if they elected "married filing jointly"). There is absolutely no mechanism to "transfer" income to another spouse. The ultimate applied tax bracket is based on the calculated adjusted gross income, which is the combination of both spouses' incomes mitigated by applicable tax deductions. The end result is what determines the applicable tax bracket. While the husband is a scumbag, there's nothing inherently close to tax fraud about what he's doing, at least at the IRS level. States taxes could be different.
@michaelhaydenbell im rly curious why there's someone like you on every single reddit story? Like even if the person did make it up, what could have possibly alerted you to that? It's a completely realistic story and there's at least 100 fake claims on every single reddit AITAH story nowadays. What's your motive?
Ok. First story didn't go where I thought it would. Like, it's worse. I was expecting he had a super sensitive nose and just didn't like her scent or something. But wow. 😮
Hey! At least the young man can go to his father and say "following your advice destroyed my relationship. Also, I just realized how much of misogynist you are."
@@surewhatever8843 As soon as I finished writing I remembered that, but then I thought I'd leave it because that's what I had been thinking before I heard about the psyops. Because it still could be true for someone else, where someone is projecting.
So I found this channel today. The reddit stories channels I usually follow don't have much more than commentary, and while it's good background noise it gets a little stale. Watching you run around with a giant red flag and singing "tiptoe through the tulips" through your teeth made me snort so hard I think I pulled something. You, sir, have a new subscriber.
I saw the shorts a few times last week for some reason and when I realised he was running with giant red flags in response to relationship issues, thought it was hilarious! Today I'm binging the channel, he's really sweet and the content is a lot more entertaining than other reddit read throughs. ❤
for the first story, op please don't ruin your skin's natural biome for a man, dump him please. edit: i obviously commented before the update. GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!!!
2:27 for clarification, this is a psychological manipulation tactic that is common in abusive relationships and cults. By consistently insulting and demoralizing someone, they'll feel more insecure, and if you make them feel like its their own fault and youre just "helping them out", it might twist their mind to make them think you're trustworthy and that they're the actual issue. It makes them more clingy and afraid of leaving because they think that no one else would tolerate these things. It's also a form of emotional abuse and can be incredibly traumatizing for the victim and lead to trust issues, self-esteem issues, dysmorphia, depression, anxiety, paranoia, and suicidal tendencies.
@@kitsunemusicisfire All true. It also causes severe PTSD from abuse. It’s especially sick when the insults are disguised as loving concern. A seemingly kind person who loves is “worried about you” may actually be creating issues you don’t have and making you believe there is something wrong with you. For example someone who steals your belongings so you think you are losing things and the partner says “I’m worried about you and your memory, you keep losing things.” Soon you are questions your mental health and mind. It’s sadistic, diabolical and extremely damaging.
@@AriaSumner Very true. It's a common tactic I also see in eating-disorder-centered relationships or on pro-ed social media. They say that they're "concerned for your health" that you're "gaining so much weight" to try to pull you into the same hell that they're going through. My ex was heavily deep in that shit, I'd constantly get fatshame threads that he retweeted and it sent me spiraling back into anorexia. He would also bring up how much he hates fat people when I try to eat. It's very disturbing behavior, and terrifying.
So many stories about men ruining their relationships because they took advice from misogynists or Tater Tot manosphere bullshit. My favourite is an OOP whose boyfriend started choking her during sex and whispering he would cheat on her. He got the idea from an MRA podcast that said doing that would 'program' a woman into being hypersexual for them and them alone. She dumped his ass. As to the other family, it happens. My dad has five other kids that we know of, the youngest was born after my niece. He maintains at least two other houses in gated communities and he thinks we don't know
@CurliFox They know about my mom but I'm not sure if they know about each other. Tbh I don't think they'd care as long as my dad continues to finance their lives.
That story about the second set/family happened to my aunt. My cousin found out right before his own wedding. Saw it online somehow and he talked to his dad, who didn’t come clean even after months. My cousin had his wedding-hiding this all from the rest of his family-and afterward he told my aunt and everyone’s lives imploded. I think my aunt had been cheated on for 17-20 years of their …30(?) year marriage. Thought he was on an international business trip most of the time, or stuck in Louisiana for weeks during COVID one time, but the husband was 30 minutes away the entire time. He and his lady owned a ranch together. So sad… Our neighbor, too, found out her husband had a second family. I don’t know how people are able to maintain the lie so long. My uncle messed up because he was inebriated and accidentally mixed up where he’d been during one occasion which led my poor cousin down the internet’s rabbit hole.
Holy shit 😭 sounds like you need to submit your own Reddit story. For real though I hate to hear this. And you’re right, I truly don’t know how you keep up this lifestyle for so long. It’s morally reprehensible, and it also seems like a logistical nightmare.
@@tiannanelson8986I'd like to know your logic on why it was bad for the cousin to tell her after the wedding.. what benefit would there have been to tell her before it? 🤨 Not to mention it's not that long of a time gap by the sounds of it..
@@tiannanelson8986 How is that selfish? It was the COUSIN's wedding. Why ruin your own wedding and pretty much the whole event for everyone for...something that can be dealt with afterward? If anything that was smart and selfless. He let his mom enjoy her son's wedding without this weighing on her head.
Yeah and then he was in the interrogation kind of like...can't believe you lied and cheated at the game! He really thought the cops were having fun with it all so they wouldn't want to catch him and end it. SIR WHAT
8:45 actually it's worse than that, BTK was in contact with the newspaper and was like "I want to send you this disc, but be honest, will you be able to trace me through it?" And they were like "uHHhh nOoooOOoooo." So he sent it.
When I saw that BTK documentary this part took me out!!! 😂. There was another serial killer (can’t remember his name). He killed prostitutes and sent a letter to the news that included a map to body dump sites. A map he printed from Mapquest! You can guess how that turned out.
This is 100% true but indicates a very uncomfortable truth. Several prolific serial killers have been caught in recent years due to things like DNA testing, metadata, etc. These were not at issue in the 80s and 90s so serial killers did not know to watch for them. But this is a golden age. Any modern killer will know that they can be tracked through their DNA, metadata, cell phone location, etc., and will know not to leave that evidence. So cases in the future will be much harder to solve and killers much harder to find.
@@asmodiusjones9563 very true, when I rewatch true crime series I always catch myself thinking "oh man, the 80s really were the golden time to do crime. All you had to watch out for was grainy security footage or just make sure to take the tape with you. "
Unfortunately, sometimes the negging can ruin a partner's self esteem and make them suicidal. I have a friend who went through this with her narcissistic ex. He was always putting her down, making her feel like she was a burden, acting like any health issue she had was just an inconvenience to him and generally making her feel like shit. Long story short, she finally grew a spine and dumped him. She's now happily married to someone who loves her and treats her like a queen.
It's hard to leave when you actually love the piece of shit, though. It took me far too long. That was almost 40 years ago and it's only been recently that I understood what narcissm is, and that I'd been gaslit through the whole relationship. Now I'm in a loving relationship, and it's so nice to be both loved and complimented.
@@Tamaresque Yeah, the narcissists are good at getting people attached to them, feeling dependent on them, while simultaneously wearing them down and making them feel no one else will want them and they should be lucky to get any "love" from the narcissists. And a lot of people in relationships with the pieces of shit don't know how bad their lives are until they are out of those relationships and experience actual love with people who truly respect them. I'm very sorry you went through that but am so happy for you that you are in a loving relationship now.
The second story made me cry because someone I love lied to me six years. But the "but it's floppy" was marvellous 😂 I really like your content and please consider doing more true crime videos like the OJ one, it would be great to hear more stories from your perspective
My girlfriend and I are working on a video together that’s in the OJ video style! She does similar videos about cults, high-control groups, crime, etc. It’s definitely gonna become a mainstay on this channel. Appreciate you!! 🕺🏻
Story one: my stepfather who has since passed away, used to tell my exes that they should fatten me up in order to keep me (I never did adhere to that train of thought but my mom always struggled with her weight). So men did use to think crazy stuff like that. As far as story two: two things, I used to live in Albuquerque until last year so I’m definitely wondering if this is someone I know and two, I think a therapist would be best to assist in this situation because different strokes for different folks. You can never blindly assess what’s best for a stranger in a situation like that
@@tegamingotherI… what horrors hath thou witnessed for thou to be bequeathed with the knowledge of what abomination smelleth like? (Translated: what had to happen for you to find this out and did it infect you in any way?)
No way! He's a master manipulator and would undoubtedly try to spin it to where he's the victim. I get the sentiment but I would want to make sure they get accurate facts and know what a dirtbag he is. The younger one should be spared some more egregious facts but the college age ones can handle the facts.
There was a story I heard recently where the dad had an affair, created a child, whom he ignored. He left the mistress bc how dare she get prego. Cue 5 years later. AP was in a car wreck and didn't make it. Dad was listed as next of kin. So the OP made arrangements to take in the kid. All the dad had to do was tell their two kids. Dad did not. It created a huge issue, bc the literal just lost their mom child is brought to the home (it took a few weeks to sort through everything) dad tries to imply it's the child of a family friend and OP, assuming her husband did the one thing asked, told the kids it was their half sibling. The son, who was younger, got along great. But the older daughter was old enough to understand the existence of the child meant her dad was a cheater. Dad blamed the affair kid. OP just full armed welcomed kid in. Iirc in updates, dad became unhinged and OP was working towards adopting her kids half sibling ASAP so she could get custody in the divorce bc the dad would absolutely neglect or abandon the kid. Oldest daughter was put into therapy and was making progress.
Yes! Sit the whole family down, have Bigamy Dad tell the kids, and every time he starts lying or twisting it to make him sound better go "nope, try again" like the fucking child he is. 💁♀
I love the green flag stuff, not only for the wholesomeness but the way you break it down. So often bad stuff is analysed and good stuff just taken at a superficial face value, it's honestly nice to see it get the same attention.
If i remember correctly, the story the dad gave his wife was that his son was abusing his fiance and the dad stepped in to defend her and that's why he got hit. Still a dumb story considering his son had video evidence, but considering the circumstances he put himself in, I assume the dad is an idiot. Or at very least concussed.
Wow, so the Father was completely willing to smear and destroy his own son’s reputation, and all for a trashy home wrecker who, obviously, was also capable of manipulating both the father and the son at the same time. Cause if she’ll do it with you, she’ll do it you. Like, it wasn’t enough for him to sleep with his son’s fiancée, and all the shame and embarrassment, and distrust that would undoubtedly inflicted on the son. No, that wasn’t enough so what does he do, attempts to defame and slander HIS OWN SON to his wife and turn himself into some sort of hero in that narcissistic wet dream of a fictional scenario in which he saved the Trashy Home Wrecker. Just when you thought you’ve hit rock bottom and it couldn’t get any worse… it does, because of course it does. Rock Bottom is a lie, you can always tumble deeper down rabbit hole. What you think is rock bottom is really just ledges you clip on the way down.
honestly it really explains why his mom was so mad at her son, she thought he was an abusive asshole who beat up his fiance and his dad. I get why OP was mad at his mom, but she didn't know any better at the time
"oh you poor dipshit" I laughed way to hard at that. On the first one. As someone who grew up in a psychologically and verbally abusive household that is all on the BF. We know the difference society teaches us the difference between our childhood experiences and normality.
Not that this is at all comparable, but I used to think it was normal for the master bedroom to be adjacent to the front door until I lived other places (my grandfather, my dad’s adopted dad, was paralyzed in his early twenties and my childhood home (also my dad’s boyhood home) was designed specifically for that-what became the pantry in the family room used to be an elevator lol).
holy shit some of these stories make me feel a sickening pit in my stomache. how the fuck are there people who think this shit is okay??? i feel so bad for the victims of this level of bullshit
There is a 1992 movie called Used People where the mother insists the daughter smells bad as a form of abuse. It was supposed to be a comedy, but you feel so bad that a mother would tell her young daughter such an unkind thing.
@@strawberryfox8819this. Like, his fiancé cheating on him wit his father? I don’t really doubt it. It sucks, but it is a thing that could very likely happen in real life: but I feel like the pregnancy bit at the very end makes it seem like OP was trying to shock the audience with everything he could think of
Okay the first one. The update? Omfg. No fucking way he believed that. I thought it was going to be him just nitpicking to push her away (which is still awful). 2nd one. She should absolutely talk about it openly with her kids. It would open a dialog that will teach them how to treat others and what not to do. Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should. The 3rd one just broke my heart.
He believed it because he was literally told about negging (before they called it that). It’s just a form of emotional manipulation: make your partner feel horrible and not worthy so they don’t leave you.
Sucks but when an authoratative person is involved like an older brother or father, even if the recepient is smarter. They can easily be impressionable upon it, we are fearful and doubt. Same thing happened to me with my brother. Difference is, I caught on to the f***kuppery and it only lasted on one corny line of text. I truly wanted the best for the women I encountered, but I realized "getting" someone doesn't promise that you'll even keep that relationship especially if it was based on the premise of lies and manipulation. Even if is just a "cute" text. Also, my brother sucked with girls. I was actually invited by a lot of them to their weddings even if it didn't work out, which is its own karma bc hello, theres single women their and a good reputation of yours on her account travels just as far. And there were good women who displayed interest in me the macho men were dying to get. But honestly, seeing her happy gutted me bc I wasn't able to evoke that, but years later I was honestly greatful and happy. Truly, thankful it ended on good terms. Cut out some friends that gave me bro advice who adressed her as a "sl*t" and a "wh*re". Being good to decent women really casts a light on the company you keep, and filters the crap out of your life as a hidden reward.
The first story shows one of the many ways abuse spreads. People aren't typically born with those tendencies; they learn them from somewhere, often as children.
Man the point you made about the cheating husband about how op should tell the kids so they don’t find it on their own. Speaking from experience. Yes. I found out my dad was cheating. I told my mom. She denied it to me. Turns out she knew for years. I was along in it and gaslit. Horrible.
I am also paranoid about my smell but that’s because I was born with a sense of smell and taste bad enough to confuse a caramel apple and a caramel ONION. There was three day old chicken rotting in the trash once from me forgetting to take it out and I had no idea. It was mortifying. So I understand on a level far deeper than I ever want to the feelings of insecurity that person in the first story was going through. It’s horrible and demeaning and eats away at you inside. I’m so glad they kicked that sorry excuse of a boyfriend out the door. What a disgusting human being. I hope he learned from this and never ever does such a thing again
I’ve had confirmed Covid twice & lost smell and taste both times. The first time it took about 2 weeks for it to come back, although it was never as acute as before. This past time was several months ago and I’m still not 100%. We have a water treatment plant near us and have to pass it everyday to pick up my kid from school. My son will be all “omg! Put the windows up it’s soo bad! It stinks like someone died!” And I can’t smell anything. 🤷🏻♀️ I have always smelled meat before cooking since having gotten food poisoning while pregnant from eating bad meat.(I couldn’t stand the smell of cooking meat so I used to overload it with spices so I couldn’t smell it.) I have to get someone else to smell meat now so I don’t accidentally make everyone sick
The BO story makes me think of my grandma who always tells me I smell. I basically bathe in perfume and shower regularly (she won't let me shower more than three times a week). She insults my 11 year old sister and I every single day and denies it when she's confronted. I'm 18, but I can't drive and live 15 minutes by car from the nearest town. I can't wait to get out. Sorry for the venting rant. I'm just tired of living with my grandma.
If it were me I'd be like I guess we were raised by a dirt bag who didn't teach us hygiene, oh well Just be turning it back on her constantly for my sanity lol
I had an abusive grandmother too. Big hugs to you and your sister. One day your grandmother will pass away and I’m wondering if you’ll feel as relieved as I did when my grandmother died. I didn’t shed a tear. And I don’t feel bad about it. She was a monster.
I listen to a lot of reddit readings and recently found your channel. Very few reddit channels show their face, and here you are running around for the sake of a bit and I absolutely love it. I also really like how your voice is on the calm side. Keep up the good work 😊
I was just about to comment the same thing. Since I'm here, I'd recommend checking out that documentary about the victims of BTK on the Unseen TH-cam channel. The stories of the victims' families are infinitely more impactful and memorable than the life story of that pathetic Elmer Fudd lookalike
That first story was crazy! I remember when I first read it last year. Thing is, that dudes dad is most likely not a boomer. I’m pretty sure hes a young guy in his 20s and that puts his father in his 40s or 50s, making him a shady ass Gen xr 😂😂😂😂
A LOT of Gen Xers think like this lol I’m no contact with my mom and stepdad partially because of their racist and sexist beliefs (they’re both Gen X, I’m in my 30s)
Yeah Gen X is a weird one. I meet people my own age who are about as knowledgeable about technology as my mother (who thinks dismissing a notification deletes something on her phone), whereas I had computer classes (including programming classes) since the 4th grade (1984 or there abouts, I don't feel like doing the math lol)
@@AspienWaifu And that’s pretty darn sad. I’m a geNXR and we were raised to be pretty inclusive so it’s so weird that so many of us are going down that road that our parents and grandparents went down.
Definately a narcissist! My ex-father-in-law used to tell my ex crap like that when he was growing up. The manipulation, gaslighting, and abuse in that marriage was horrible. We've been divorced for 23 years and I couldnt be happier about it. A narcissist will never be your teammate, they will only be your opponent.
I used to have problems with bo. What helps is that I don’t have any synthetic fabrics with couches, clothes, bed sheets, pillows, or towels. I’m very specific about the ingredients in soaps and deodorants, shower once a day, 2x if I work out or something, I typically eat healthy home cooked food. That guy pisses me off with how much smelling bad actually deeply affects a person.
6:11 for the second one, it would be such a plot twist to contact the second wife/fiancé and figure this out with her and then become friends and tell husband that he still has to support both families. 😂
For the hubby with two families- my uncle did this and got caught within 2 years. 17 years is impressive- impressively sociopathic. People with working conscience s would not be able to lie so heartlessly and so well for so long.
If they were brothers it might be a little challenging, but since you only have half of the genetic material of each parent, your DNA is actually quite easy to distinguish. Regardless…wild even yo have to THINK about that.
The red-flag runs and dances are amazingly awesome, my dude. Thanks for being one of those getting these stories out there. Not only do I find them fascinating (often as one does a train wreck - EEK), but I think people in similar situations might see themselves and realize ... some of this stuff is NOT okay!!
Second story reminds me of an ex boyfriend of my mom’s. She found out he had a fiancée while dating him and he blamed it on his split personality disorder. He also tried to set the house on fire once, so I’m pretty glad he never became a stepfather of mine
@@TheUnofficialNinja I might call it that as a quick shorthand, because nobody knows what dissociative disorders are, or if I genuinely don't know which one someone has, but it's definitely one of them, but uh, if you know you have one enough that you can use it to explain why you live two completely different lives, you know it enough to call it properly, and to make sure all of your partners are actually cool with that. There are respectful ways for one's alters to have different partners, but this was not one 😂
Y'all don't understand the psychological damage the boyfriend did to the girlfriend saying she smelled bad. She was likely very socially anxious worried about smelling bad. This kind of thing can cause body dysmorphia.
The “you stink” lies and her resulting feelings of craziness are the perfect example of gaslighting. It is an extremely damaging method of control and abuse. Glad she left him!
Dustin, can you please make a page on your website so we can submit stories to you??? Dusty thunder has one if you need an example of how to set it up. I have a few I REALLY want you to react to
I want a plot twist to second story: the wife and the fiancé move in together, the kids all become friends, and everyone except the greedy dirtbag is happy.
I love the BTK floppy disk thing because he ASKED THEM basically, “hey you can’t trace a floppy disk right?” And then when they caught him he was like “you lied to me!” And the police were basically like “well yeah we were trying to catch you.”
I would so re-subscribe a hundred or more times if I could. You are easily one of my favorite people on TH-cam because of your ability to navigate both green and red flag stories with empathy, humor that is never mean, and the beauty of your own being. Please keep up your work but also, please take care of your health, too. The world needs more people, more men like you! Much love and respect from me in the PNW. ❤️
I’ve only watched a couple of your videos so far, and the clip of you prancing around angrily singing “tiptoe through the tulips! 😡” had me cackling. Subscribed.
Good for her for telling him and file for divorce seriously. He’s pathetic. You can divorce and get him out of the home for sure. Judge is gonna side with the mom for sure.
LMFAO @ shoulder cave -- also seeing you literally RUNNING with a GIANT RED FLAG and your commentary while running with it -- I just... This is *chef's kiss*!
My mom went through that I’m not joking, she was engaged to a lawyer for 14 years. Five years ago, someone left a letter in her mailbox. Letter explained that he had a family, and the person that wrote the letter said they couldn’t believe how naïve she was. Which I agree.... I seen the red flags, I kept telling her it’s weird you’re never allowed at his house. He was always 100% of the time, going to my mom’s house. How can you be engaged to someone, and never see their house?? We got into such huge fights, because I told him to his face I know you’re cheating. My mom, would get so mad at me. Finally, I said to myself I have told her my concerns. It’s her business not mine. I gave up then she found out.
It's always naive people.... Let children be naive, but as a adult.... It's just embarrassing ngl.... As sad as it is.... 😢 I hope your mom is better now
My high-school friend Linda sadly discovered her father's second family when there was a house fire. Accident investigators discovered the dad's second family that he'd successfully hidden for at least 20 years. The man was an airline pilot, so he had an excuse for being gone a lot
My father had another family for many years, and he also had to go on business trips all over the country. When mom learned about his infidelity the first time, I was 11. She decided not to file for a divorce then, which I think was a mistake. Later he told her they had to initiate a divorce because he had some financial problems and he didn't want us to get involve. Mom hoped that when he resolved his issues, ho would go back to her. At the time he had already had a child from another woman and had been building a family with her for several years. Later we found out that this woman in particular was his former secretary. Mom found a photo of him on social media with his new baby sat on his shoulder 🤦♀️
Love how you share stories in such a unique way. Great that you try to keep a balance. These two stories made me super angry and sad. (For the moment letting it go now :))
If a man makes you feel less, ever, or makes your world smaller, or tells you who to be friends with- RUN. And KEEP running. Don’t try to be polite. The first negative put down, leave and don’t look back!!!!
Didn't know you had a YT channel until I saw about it at the end of one of your FB videos. Instantly came over and subscribed!! I absolutely love your content ❤ It's an original idea that has been done by someone likeable with mature and relatable views
Yea, that story had him so pissed off that he made a fist so hard that his veins looked like they were about to explode! Had more pumped up veins than a dehydrated roided up body builder 😮😂
Those faces Dustin are absolutely classic. I appreciate your humor yet the intelligent, kind reminder that we are all humans and everyone should be kind to eachother!!
The btk story is even funnier when you know that he asked the cops if they could obtain data from a floppy disc and they said no... And he believed them.
The mom was just reacting to what her husband told her. She didn’t know her husband was hit as he tried to get the phone away from his son as the son was recording his state w the son’s fiancé. I feel super bad for any child coming from that monster woman.
WHO UP ANGRILY TIPTOEING THROUGH THE TULIPS RN 😤 🚩
Usually, my insomnia and/or warped circadian rhythm allows me to nap during daylight hours only. So...👋 Hi, Dustin! Glad I'm only 6 hours late from this upload. LOVE your stuff! Keep it up, you're doing swell! 😊❤❤❤❤❤
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IK! I just want a cup of coffee before the dreaded door creek of my two year old waking up and shoving his cup in my face asking for juice 😂.
I laughed so hard when you did that at 3:52-ish! 😂😂😂 Tried not to wake my family - failed miserably...
This is the first video of your's I've seen, but now that the tears from the laughter are finally subsiding, I am definitely subbing just for that. Well earned, my friend! 😎👍😂
I also love the subtle little 🚩 stirrings that lead up to the "tiptoe" interlude:
-Peeking out from behind the 🚩
-The hesitant readiness of your fist to grip the 🚩
Then you unleashed the "TIPTOE" 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🤣😭💀
Whenever I hear about someone having a second family, my first thought is “how do you even have that much time to do that?”
They were probably doing the bare minimum for both families and thought that providing money or other things would make up for the time they're not spending for the other family.
I wonder the same thing, but now with phones and people with loose morals, they will get with your spouse and take what they can get. It's insane and when they travel 'for work', it's scary
@@Arri7979The mother of his second family was his fiance only, and she had teens with him. So he was doing less than the bare minimum. Obviously there has been friction about it in his legal marriage because of her "works so damn hard" comment.
Two whole neglected families, five children's lives ruined; just so that he wouldn't have to cook his own dinners and clean up after himself at the second location. Good grief.
@@SmokyRainbowQuartz - That's horrific. I have no idea why people continue to do this after knowing how much pain this causes both families. Awful.
And money. Everything's expensive now
Comment on the BO story: my ex bf used to tell me negative stuff about my body all the time. It wasn't until I had broken up with him, spent a good few years with my new bf (a green flag guy indeed), AND watched this video, that I was finally able to connect the dots. That guy had been systematically lowering my self esteem so that I would feel too desperate to leave him. That was such a low blow. I am absolutely fuming rn.
Sounds like it yeah, too many men taught that the way to maintain a relationship is tearing their partner down instead of being you know... a decent human being.
It's called "negging" and it isn't only about getting a partner to feel so bad about themselves they won't leave, it's supposed to make the person want to please you and focus on impressing you.
I'm glad you got away
This behavior on the bf's part is to destroy your self esteem a little at a time. He's not a keeper...congratulations on his leaving.
I just saw this and ran headfirst into the same realization. I ended things a decade ago 😅
@@artieprime6513 Honestly, look up "negging". Thanks to commenter @poodypooroo I was finally able to get the mental clarity and understanding I needed about what actually happened to me. Its way more insidious than one would think
The first one sounds like a narcissistic BF trying to devalue the GF by creating nonexistent stuff to make her feel bad.
As someone who has unfortunately been a narc magnet most of my life, I knew from the beginning what this was actually about. Narcs and psychos looooooooooove to devalue you every chance they get. Sometimes they use things that you are insecure about, sometimes they try to make your good traits into bad ones to really throw you into an existential crisis. And sometimes they just straight up make things up, or heavily twist reality. Like I said about them saying your good traits are bad... Over time you will catch them contradicting themselves. Like they one day say X about you is a bad thing, another day they praise you about X. People who come at you with negative remarks all the time should never be trusted. THEY ARE TELLING LIES!!! Don't trust a single word out of their snake mouth!!
I could tell right off the bat it was a textbook case of gaslighting, but then to hear his explanation for why he did it, holy shit.
The update is disgusting
It’s projection of his own insecurities. Probably a RP m@nosohere creep
Met a dude that said small passive shit that was meant to pick at self esteem. Ashamed to say that at first I didn't really 'notice' because I really could have cared less when he made the comments at the time (and it only lasted a few dates), but retrospectively.....yeah. Insecure af to the point the only way they could be secure in a "relationship" is to make sure you're emotionally manipulated into staying. Because, y'know. They don't know how to build a healthy one or treat you like a person with human decency and respect.
Parents that cheat with their kids' spouses are some of the vilest people on the planet.
My mother did that to me with my daughter’s father. I went NC. He was never faithful, wi whatever. But my mother did that to me. I got divorced and orphaned in one fell swoop.
@@Wants2knowitall I'm so sorry... there's nothing Narcs won't do to hurt the people they are jealous of.
The worst story I heard was from a buddy of mine. His aunt was caught red-handed with his cousin's (her daughter) husband. How, you ask? This was the visual his cousin saw and said she would never forget or forgive: She was in his lap, and he scroaning (scream-moaning) with his head tilted back....yep. He was watering the seeds...The irony is that his cousin said he would always joke about her mom having a big 🍑 when all along, he was fantasizing about it.
@@MrPoetistic85god, that is so vile. That poor woman (the daughter). I wish her all the best.
Exactly. The second most vile is the spouse that agrees to cheat with the parent
I like how the boyfriend was verbally degrading her several times a day for YEARS, but once she pushes back and challenges him he "goes into a panic" and blames his dad 😂
@@naranara1690 It’s never the abuser’s fault, according to the abuser! And he was not only verbally degrading her, he was psychologically abusing her. Sick man.
I can't get over the fact his father told him it would make her feel too low to ever leave him and he though 'yeah, sounds good'.
Dude I'm cisgender female and I am so self concious about body oder that I use bleach wipes, "down there" and my armpits, ect. And wash my hair and body with dawn.
@alchemicmercury please don't use bleach near your goods. It has the opposite effect. Ur goods are supposed to be acidic to prevent fungal growth down there. Bleach is a very strong base and neutralizes your natural acidity in that area. You can get a lot of yeast infections if you do that. If anything just Clean with water!!!
@alchemicmercury bleach down there is not going to help odor. And dawn for your skin and hair is going to disrupt your natural biome and actually make any body odor worse. If you have unusual b.o. you might want to see a dermatologist. Or try Lumi. I expected it to be useless, but it's actually amazing -- and it is safe to use in sensitive areas.
third story: That man taking video evidence was genius. Even when he was stunned and having a million thoughts in his mind, he handled things well. I'm happy he's doing better now.
It’s called “revenge porn” and it’s illegal.
@@DustyHoney who cares. Maybe don't sleep with your son's ex for months and lie about why they got punch, lmao. Now he has proof if they decide to go to court and isn't gonna get gas lighted by the dad.
@@DustyHoney That's not revenge porn, it's evidence. Revenge porn is uploading nudes or anything similar from an ex or any other for the sake of humiliating them as a form of revenge, which he didn't do. He just wanted evidence/"blackmailing" material
@DustyHoney it's only called that if he uploaded it online or shared it to a bunch of people, as far as we know he only showed it to his mother because it concerned her relationship too.
@@DustyHoney No, that's not revenge porn. Revenge porn is uploading it online for millions of strangers to see or sharing it with multiple people. He took evidence so that his mother would believe him and both could leave these horrific people.
that BO story is ACTUAL gaslighting
YUP thank you!!
Yes and projected blame on his father who "told him to do it"😂
Some people just have a certain smell to other people. Not all people but what I smell like to you, isn't the same as how I smell to others. Why would she stay with him if he told her she stunk all the time. I will "victim blame" this one. It's ridic
@@Cassiee102 did you like... watch the video? the boyfriend literally admits she wasn't smelling bad but his dad told her to say that to his girlfriend anyway because it would make her stay with him. like it literally says in the post that he admits that. did you not watch the video? did you just start scrolling and looking for comments to disagree with?
@@ishathakorno. I made the comment specifically to piss you off. I thought to myself, how could I upset ishathakor the most and came up with that comment. I think it worked, success!
Story 2... sounds like the IRS might have plenty of financial questions to ask of him...
Wait really? Why? I’m not familiar with American laws, could you please explain?
@@Kira-xs1zv,
Okay. He's leading a double life. He's "officially" living in 2 different states. In each State he has a "full time family" that he, supports 100% with his income.
Couples, who are living together, do their taxes together. Since the person who has the higher income are able to reduce their "tax bracket" (aka how much taxes they own) by "transferring" some of their "income" to their spouse's taxes.
This also comes into play with _children_ that they also need to support and, sometimes, get tax credits for supporting them.
@@aralornwolf3140although it did say in the story that the other woman was financially independent from him? Idk how much with them sharing kids tho
@@annceres1204if that’s possible… it means…
He’s giving her cash under the table to hide from the wife. IRS would never know.
@@aralornwolf3140 I'm sorry that two hundred people liked this comment... because it is completely and utterly wrong. The IRS assesses tax liability on the combined income of both spouses (if they elected "married filing jointly"). There is absolutely no mechanism to "transfer" income to another spouse. The ultimate applied tax bracket is based on the calculated adjusted gross income, which is the combination of both spouses' incomes mitigated by applicable tax deductions. The end result is what determines the applicable tax bracket. While the husband is a scumbag, there's nothing inherently close to tax fraud about what he's doing, at least at the IRS level. States taxes could be different.
First story .This is how you give trauma to people. His father is bastard and the ex boyfriend is even worse.
Good thing it's fake.
@@michaelhaydenbell This kind of thing happens. I lived it. It’s a severely damaging form of abuse.
@@ErisstheGoddessofmanhwas Yep. It’s gaslighting and crazy making. Psychological abuse results in PTSD for many of us.
@michaelhaydenbell im rly curious why there's someone like you on every single reddit story? Like even if the person did make it up, what could have possibly alerted you to that? It's a completely realistic story and there's at least 100 fake claims on every single reddit AITAH story nowadays.
What's your motive?
@@michaelhaydenbell good thing nothing ever happens to anyone
Ok. First story didn't go where I thought it would. Like, it's worse. I was expecting he had a super sensitive nose and just didn't like her scent or something. But wow. 😮
Hey! At least the young man can go to his father and say "following your advice destroyed my relationship. Also, I just realized how much of misogynist you are."
I was gearing up for a comment regarding pheromones as a protective function for reproduction. Then, BAM!!
Maybe it was him. His body or his odor receptors.
@@myst0dreamer No, he admitted it was a ploy he learned from his father to psyops women.
@@surewhatever8843 As soon as I finished writing I remembered that, but then I thought I'd leave it because that's what I had been thinking before I heard about the psyops. Because it still could be true for someone else, where someone is projecting.
The "tiptoe through the tulips" made me laugh so hard I had to pause the video
Same!
Or how about... I'm as nervous as a narwhal in a room full of balloons 😂😂
With the aggressive tiptoeing 😂
Ikr I wheezed like a seagull at that bit lmfao-
That one always gets me😂 he needs to keep doing it lol
So I found this channel today. The reddit stories channels I usually follow don't have much more than commentary, and while it's good background noise it gets a little stale. Watching you run around with a giant red flag and singing "tiptoe through the tulips" through your teeth made me snort so hard I think I pulled something. You, sir, have a new subscriber.
This means so much!! Thank you!! 🚩 🏃♂️ 🌸
same here, i knew the clip of the flag from memes on reddit but now im so glad i subcribed to the source!
The literal red flag waving and the little skits made me instantly subscribe 😂
I saw the shorts a few times last week for some reason and when I realised he was running with giant red flags in response to relationship issues, thought it was hilarious! Today I'm binging the channel, he's really sweet and the content is a lot more entertaining than other reddit read throughs. ❤
Me today. Same 😊
for the first story, op please don't ruin your skin's natural biome for a man, dump him please.
edit: i obviously commented before the update. GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!!!
I had the exact same thought!!! Just didn't know the English term here. Natural biome. 👍 Thanks for that
But also her teeth gosh
2:27 for clarification, this is a psychological manipulation tactic that is common in abusive relationships and cults. By consistently insulting and demoralizing someone, they'll feel more insecure, and if you make them feel like its their own fault and youre just "helping them out", it might twist their mind to make them think you're trustworthy and that they're the actual issue. It makes them more clingy and afraid of leaving because they think that no one else would tolerate these things. It's also a form of emotional abuse and can be incredibly traumatizing for the victim and lead to trust issues, self-esteem issues, dysmorphia, depression, anxiety, paranoia, and suicidal tendencies.
@@kitsunemusicisfire All true. It also causes severe PTSD from abuse. It’s especially sick when the insults are disguised as loving concern. A seemingly kind person who loves is “worried about you” may actually be creating issues you don’t have and making you believe there is something wrong with you. For example someone who steals your belongings so you think you are losing things and the partner says “I’m worried about you and your memory, you keep losing things.” Soon you are questions your mental health and mind. It’s sadistic, diabolical and extremely damaging.
That was a whole book to say he was gaslighting her.
@@heidiallen4563 Yes, and it was a great explanation for those who don’t know or understand gaslighting.
@@heidiallen4563 knowledge is power.
@@AriaSumner Very true. It's a common tactic I also see in eating-disorder-centered relationships or on pro-ed social media. They say that they're "concerned for your health" that you're "gaining so much weight" to try to pull you into the same hell that they're going through. My ex was heavily deep in that shit, I'd constantly get fatshame threads that he retweeted and it sent me spiraling back into anorexia. He would also bring up how much he hates fat people when I try to eat. It's very disturbing behavior, and terrifying.
So many stories about men ruining their relationships because they took advice from misogynists or Tater Tot manosphere bullshit. My favourite is an OOP whose boyfriend started choking her during sex and whispering he would cheat on her. He got the idea from an MRA podcast that said doing that would 'program' a woman into being hypersexual for them and them alone. She dumped his ass.
As to the other family, it happens. My dad has five other kids that we know of, the youngest was born after my niece. He maintains at least two other houses in gated communities and he thinks we don't know
Do the other women know he is married/sleeping around?
@CurliFox They know about my mom but I'm not sure if they know about each other. Tbh I don't think they'd care as long as my dad continues to finance their lives.
You should anonymously turn him into the IRS. 😁
My history professor studies this phenomenon. It's called bigamy and it's more common than people think
Some people are just… wildly ignorant
That story about the second set/family happened to my aunt. My cousin found out right before his own wedding. Saw it online somehow and he talked to his dad, who didn’t come clean even after months. My cousin had his wedding-hiding this all from the rest of his family-and afterward he told my aunt and everyone’s lives imploded. I think my aunt had been cheated on for 17-20 years of their …30(?) year marriage. Thought he was on an international business trip most of the time, or stuck in Louisiana for weeks during COVID one time, but the husband was 30 minutes away the entire time. He and his lady owned a ranch together. So sad… Our neighbor, too, found out her husband had a second family. I don’t know how people are able to maintain the lie so long. My uncle messed up because he was inebriated and accidentally mixed up where he’d been during one occasion which led my poor cousin down the internet’s rabbit hole.
Holy shit 😭 sounds like you need to submit your own Reddit story. For real though I hate to hear this. And you’re right, I truly don’t know how you keep up this lifestyle for so long. It’s morally reprehensible, and it also seems like a logistical nightmare.
Your cousin sounds just as bad - he waited until AFTER his wedding to tell his mom! Gross.
@@tiannanelson8986I'd like to know your logic on why it was bad for the cousin to tell her after the wedding.. what benefit would there have been to tell her before it? 🤨 Not to mention it's not that long of a time gap by the sounds of it..
@@LadyTarasque Because its selfish. He waits to tell his own mom so he can have his wedding and then explodes her life. It's gross.
@@tiannanelson8986 How is that selfish? It was the COUSIN's wedding. Why ruin your own wedding and pretty much the whole event for everyone for...something that can be dealt with afterward? If anything that was smart and selfless. He let his mom enjoy her son's wedding without this weighing on her head.
the best part of the BTK floppy disk was that he asked if they could trace it, they said no, so he sent it …. 😂
Yup! I'm like, how dumb can you be?! 😂
That’s absolutely hilarious!!!
Yeah and then he was in the interrogation kind of like...can't believe you lied and cheated at the game!
He really thought the cops were having fun with it all so they wouldn't want to catch him and end it. SIR WHAT
Btk is even better than that. He asked the police if they could trace a floppy disk and they lied and told him no. 😂
I FORGOT ABOUT THIS HAHAHAHAHAHAHA.
Bahahaha, did he seriously expect them to answer honestly?! 🤦🏼♀️😂
Better part, he was upset that they lied. Like sir you killed people
@@yin-sinbut did he lie about it? Honestly what stuck with me is the cops getting his daughters pap smear to link him to the crimes.
@@HadrianGuardiolathat’s creepy af…
8:45 actually it's worse than that, BTK was in contact with the newspaper and was like "I want to send you this disc, but be honest, will you be able to trace me through it?" And they were like "uHHhh nOoooOOoooo." So he sent it.
KAKE was a real one lol the idiot wrote terrible poetry about it too
Wowzers.. that's crazy
When I saw that BTK documentary this part took me out!!! 😂. There was another serial killer (can’t remember his name). He killed prostitutes and sent a letter to the news that included a map to body dump sites. A map he printed from Mapquest! You can guess how that turned out.
This is 100% true but indicates a very uncomfortable truth. Several prolific serial killers have been caught in recent years due to things like DNA testing, metadata, etc. These were not at issue in the 80s and 90s so serial killers did not know to watch for them.
But this is a golden age. Any modern killer will know that they can be tracked through their DNA, metadata, cell phone location, etc., and will know not to leave that evidence. So cases in the future will be much harder to solve and killers much harder to find.
@@asmodiusjones9563 very true, when I rewatch true crime series I always catch myself thinking "oh man, the 80s really were the golden time to do crime. All you had to watch out for was grainy security footage or just make sure to take the tape with you. "
Unfortunately, sometimes the negging can ruin a partner's self esteem and make them suicidal. I have a friend who went through this with her narcissistic ex. He was always putting her down, making her feel like she was a burden, acting like any health issue she had was just an inconvenience to him and generally making her feel like shit. Long story short, she finally grew a spine and dumped him. She's now happily married to someone who loves her and treats her like a queen.
It's hard to leave when you actually love the piece of shit, though. It took me far too long. That was almost 40 years ago and it's only been recently that I understood what narcissm is, and that I'd been gaslit through the whole relationship. Now I'm in a loving relationship, and it's so nice to be both loved and complimented.
@@Tamaresque Yeah, the narcissists are good at getting people attached to them, feeling dependent on them, while simultaneously wearing them down and making them feel no one else will want them and they should be lucky to get any "love" from the narcissists. And a lot of people in relationships with the pieces of shit don't know how bad their lives are until they are out of those relationships and experience actual love with people who truly respect them. I'm very sorry you went through that but am so happy for you that you are in a loving relationship now.
The second story made me cry because someone I love lied to me six years. But the "but it's floppy" was marvellous 😂 I really like your content and please consider doing more true crime videos like the OJ one, it would be great to hear more stories from your perspective
I can already hear him ripping Karla homolka apart
My girlfriend and I are working on a video together that’s in the OJ video style! She does similar videos about cults, high-control groups, crime, etc. It’s definitely gonna become a mainstay on this channel. Appreciate you!! 🕺🏻
@@DustinPoynterVideos oh god I second the homolka comment so bad. That one bothers me so much
@@DustinPoynterVideos fuck yes.
I really like how you present things regarding crime. I think yours and Papa Meat delivery is the best.
@@DustinPoynterVideos YAY! I’m so excited! I love true crime stuff that is presented light heartedly but with respect 🎉
Story one: my stepfather who has since passed away, used to tell my exes that they should fatten me up in order to keep me (I never did adhere to that train of thought but my mom always struggled with her weight). So men did use to think crazy stuff like that.
As far as story two: two things, I used to live in Albuquerque until last year so I’m definitely wondering if this is someone I know and two, I think a therapist would be best to assist in this situation because different strokes for different folks. You can never blindly assess what’s best for a stranger in a situation like that
Not used to. They still do. It's still happening everyday right now.
@@rtphotos4691 *Cough* Andrew Tate.
i’m fucking eating and hear “it smells like locker room taco meat” THANKS I WASNT PLANNING ON BEING HUNGRY FOR THE NEXT TWO WEEKS ANYWAY 😂😭😡💀
🤣🤣 This made me laugh too much sorry 😂
I’m so glad I don’t know what this smells like and can’t even imagine it
@@Kogo-nw8zp Kinda smells like toilet water soaked corn chips and slight tinge of grounded beef.
@@tegamingotherI… what horrors hath thou witnessed for thou to be bequeathed with the knowledge of what abomination smelleth like? (Translated: what had to happen for you to find this out and did it infect you in any way?)
@@decaliciousyt1997 I worked as Janitorial for a middle school...
Mom with the two family husband needs to let Bigamy Dad tell the kids.
No way! He's a master manipulator and would undoubtedly try to spin it to where he's the victim. I get the sentiment but I would want to make sure they get accurate facts and know what a dirtbag he is. The younger one should be spared some more egregious facts but the college age ones can handle the facts.
Bigamy Dad is wild
There was a story I heard recently where the dad had an affair, created a child, whom he ignored. He left the mistress bc how dare she get prego. Cue 5 years later. AP was in a car wreck and didn't make it. Dad was listed as next of kin. So the OP made arrangements to take in the kid. All the dad had to do was tell their two kids. Dad did not. It created a huge issue, bc the literal just lost their mom child is brought to the home (it took a few weeks to sort through everything) dad tries to imply it's the child of a family friend and OP, assuming her husband did the one thing asked, told the kids it was their half sibling. The son, who was younger, got along great. But the older daughter was old enough to understand the existence of the child meant her dad was a cheater. Dad blamed the affair kid. OP just full armed welcomed kid in. Iirc in updates, dad became unhinged and OP was working towards adopting her kids half sibling ASAP so she could get custody in the divorce bc the dad would absolutely neglect or abandon the kid. Oldest daughter was put into therapy and was making progress.
@@benjie128 that OP is an angel ❤ really hope it all works out for the family, except the cheating bastard, I hope he steps on legos his whole life.
Yes! Sit the whole family down, have Bigamy Dad tell the kids, and every time he starts lying or twisting it to make him sound better go "nope, try again" like the fucking child he is. 💁♀
I love the green flag stuff, not only for the wholesomeness but the way you break it down.
So often bad stuff is analysed and good stuff just taken at a superficial face value, it's honestly nice to see it get the same attention.
If i remember correctly, the story the dad gave his wife was that his son was abusing his fiance and the dad stepped in to defend her and that's why he got hit. Still a dumb story considering his son had video evidence, but considering the circumstances he put himself in, I assume the dad is an idiot. Or at very least concussed.
Wow, so the Father was completely willing to smear and destroy his own son’s reputation, and all for a trashy home wrecker who, obviously, was also capable of manipulating both the father and the son at the same time. Cause if she’ll do it with you, she’ll do it you.
Like, it wasn’t enough for him to sleep with his son’s fiancée, and all the shame and embarrassment, and distrust that would undoubtedly inflicted on the son. No, that wasn’t enough so what does he do, attempts to defame and slander HIS OWN SON to his wife and turn himself into some sort of hero in that narcissistic wet dream of a fictional scenario in which he saved the Trashy Home Wrecker.
Just when you thought you’ve hit rock bottom and it couldn’t get any worse… it does, because of course it does. Rock Bottom is a lie, you can always tumble deeper down rabbit hole. What you think is rock bottom is really just ledges you clip on the way down.
honestly it really explains why his mom was so mad at her son, she thought he was an abusive asshole who beat up his fiance and his dad. I get why OP was mad at his mom, but she didn't know any better at the time
"oh you poor dipshit" I laughed way to hard at that.
On the first one. As someone who grew up in a psychologically and verbally abusive household that is all on the BF. We know the difference society teaches us the difference between our childhood experiences and normality.
Not that this is at all comparable, but I used to think it was normal for the master bedroom to be adjacent to the front door until I lived other places (my grandfather, my dad’s adopted dad, was paralyzed in his early twenties and my childhood home (also my dad’s boyhood home) was designed specifically for that-what became the pantry in the family room used to be an elevator lol).
holy shit some of these stories make me feel a sickening pit in my stomache. how the fuck are there people who think this shit is okay??? i feel so bad for the victims of this level of bullshit
💯 % Agreeded! Grrr.... rotten, rotten....
There is a 1992 movie called Used People where the mother insists the daughter smells bad as a form of abuse. It was supposed to be a comedy, but you feel so bad that a mother would tell her young daughter such an unkind thing.
Damn… I need to look into being an insurance broker, man is providing for two families on one income?
SERIOUSLY
Quite easily
I’m subbing for your “Tiptoe through the tulips”
BY THE WINDOW!!!! THATS WHERE ILL BE 😤 (thank you for the sub though fr)
Dustin is amazing. Wise. Empathic. Creative. Articulate. Wry. I hope he keeps doing what he is doing as it is helpful for many of us.
The last one is wild …
It's so wild I'm honestly doubting it a bit
@@WhiteWolf-lm7gj Yeah same, especially with the details.
@@strawberryfox8819this. Like, his fiancé cheating on him wit his father? I don’t really doubt it. It sucks, but it is a thing that could very likely happen in real life: but I feel like the pregnancy bit at the very end makes it seem like OP was trying to shock the audience with everything he could think of
Okay the first one. The update? Omfg. No fucking way he believed that. I thought it was going to be him just nitpicking to push her away (which is still awful).
2nd one. She should absolutely talk about it openly with her kids. It would open a dialog that will teach them how to treat others and what not to do. Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should.
The 3rd one just broke my heart.
He believed it because he was literally told about negging (before they called it that). It’s just a form of emotional manipulation: make your partner feel horrible and not worthy so they don’t leave you.
Sucks but when an authoratative person is involved like an older brother or father, even if the recepient is smarter.
They can easily be impressionable upon it, we are fearful and doubt. Same thing happened to me with my brother. Difference is, I caught on to the f***kuppery and it only lasted on one corny line of text. I truly wanted the best for the women I encountered, but I realized "getting" someone doesn't promise that you'll even keep that relationship especially if it was based on the premise of lies and manipulation.
Even if is just a "cute" text. Also, my brother sucked with girls. I was actually invited by a lot of them to their weddings even if it didn't work out, which is its own karma bc hello, theres single women their and a good reputation of yours on her account travels just as far. And there were good women who displayed interest in me the macho men were dying to get. But honestly, seeing her happy gutted me bc I wasn't able to evoke that, but years later I was honestly greatful and happy.
Truly, thankful it ended on good terms. Cut out some friends that gave me bro advice who adressed her as a "sl*t" and a "wh*re". Being good to decent women really casts a light on the company you keep, and filters the crap out of your life as a hidden reward.
The first story shows one of the many ways abuse spreads. People aren't typically born with those tendencies; they learn them from somewhere, often as children.
Man the point you made about the cheating husband about how op should tell the kids so they don’t find it on their own. Speaking from experience. Yes. I found out my dad was cheating. I told my mom. She denied it to me. Turns out she knew for years. I was along in it and gaslit. Horrible.
1:12 this poor girl! Her boyfriend is going to make her destroy her teeth because of this nonsense!
Luckily she kicked him to the curb.
He’s probably smelling his stinky self
0:25 when Dustin said he was done making "the face" I was like noooooo. But then he did it again😂
"False!" 🤣
Beef cradled by a jock strap?! I can't tell you how terrible my day has been and how much I needed that laugh 😆😆😆😆 Thank you!!
For some reason it reminds me of beefcake pantihose 😂
The B.O. story is THE TEXTBOOK definition of “Gaslighting”.
I am also paranoid about my smell but that’s because I was born with a sense of smell and taste bad enough to confuse a caramel apple and a caramel ONION. There was three day old chicken rotting in the trash once from me forgetting to take it out and I had no idea. It was mortifying. So I understand on a level far deeper than I ever want to the feelings of insecurity that person in the first story was going through. It’s horrible and demeaning and eats away at you inside. I’m so glad they kicked that sorry excuse of a boyfriend out the door. What a disgusting human being. I hope he learned from this and never ever does such a thing again
But, but you'd make a great wound care specialist. Or mortician.
I’ve had confirmed Covid twice & lost smell and taste both times. The first time it took about 2 weeks for it to come back, although it was never as acute as before. This past time was several months ago and I’m still not 100%. We have a water treatment plant near us and have to pass it everyday to pick up my kid from school. My son will be all “omg! Put the windows up it’s soo bad! It stinks like someone died!” And I can’t smell anything. 🤷🏻♀️ I have always smelled meat before cooking since having gotten food poisoning while pregnant from eating bad meat.(I couldn’t stand the smell of cooking meat so I used to overload it with spices so I couldn’t smell it.) I have to get someone else to smell meat now so I don’t accidentally make everyone sick
THE TEA IS PIPING HOT TODAY WOW. Also thank you for some good genuine laughs in the midst of this chaos, you’re hilarious.
The BO story makes me think of my grandma who always tells me I smell. I basically bathe in perfume and shower regularly (she won't let me shower more than three times a week). She insults my 11 year old sister and I every single day and denies it when she's confronted. I'm 18, but I can't drive and live 15 minutes by car from the nearest town. I can't wait to get out.
Sorry for the venting rant. I'm just tired of living with my grandma.
Start recording it or writing it down! I hope you guys can get out soon, that's awful. :( also, SHE smells!
She's garbage. Maybe you could get custody of your sister one day and get her out sooner. Good luck.
If it were me I'd be like I guess we were raised by a dirt bag who didn't teach us hygiene, oh well
Just be turning it back on her constantly for my sanity lol
I had an abusive grandmother too. Big hugs to you and your sister. One day your grandmother will pass away and I’m wondering if you’ll feel as relieved as I did when my grandmother died. I didn’t shed a tear. And I don’t feel bad about it. She was a monster.
I listen to a lot of reddit readings and recently found your channel. Very few reddit channels show their face, and here you are running around for the sake of a bit and I absolutely love it. I also really like how your voice is on the calm side. Keep up the good work 😊
“But it’s floppy, it doesn’t just shake the data off?” As a computer engineer, I could not stop laughing at that comment.
8:46 The actual answer is "the police". The BTK killer asked the police if it was possible to trace a floppy disk, and they answered that it wasn't.
I was just about to comment the same thing.
Since I'm here, I'd recommend checking out that documentary about the victims of BTK on the Unseen TH-cam channel. The stories of the victims' families are infinitely more impactful and memorable than the life story of that pathetic Elmer Fudd lookalike
I was in town at a conference when the BTK story broke. It was CRAZY! I was in town when he was arrested. So I had the local news perspective.
That first story was crazy! I remember when I first read it last year.
Thing is, that dudes dad is most likely not a boomer. I’m pretty sure hes a young guy in his 20s and that puts his father in his 40s or 50s, making him a shady ass Gen xr 😂😂😂😂
A LOT of Gen Xers think like this lol I’m no contact with my mom and stepdad partially because of their racist and sexist beliefs (they’re both Gen X, I’m in my 30s)
I've dated enough genX dudes to feel like this just checks out.
Yeah Gen X is a weird one. I meet people my own age who are about as knowledgeable about technology as my mother (who thinks dismissing a notification deletes something on her phone), whereas I had computer classes (including programming classes) since the 4th grade (1984 or there abouts, I don't feel like doing the math lol)
@@elaexplorer same! I’ve been working with computers since our class got a Commodore 64🤣🤣🤣. But some of our generation are throwbacks.
@@AspienWaifu And that’s pretty darn sad. I’m a geNXR and we were raised to be pretty inclusive so it’s so weird that so many of us are going down that road that our parents and grandparents went down.
Definately a narcissist! My ex-father-in-law used to tell my ex crap like that when he was growing up. The manipulation, gaslighting, and abuse in that marriage was horrible. We've been divorced for 23 years and I couldnt be happier about it. A narcissist will never be your teammate, they will only be your opponent.
I used to have problems with bo. What helps is that I don’t have any synthetic fabrics with couches, clothes, bed sheets, pillows, or towels. I’m very specific about the ingredients in soaps and deodorants, shower once a day, 2x if I work out or something, I typically eat healthy home cooked food. That guy pisses me off with how much smelling bad actually deeply affects a person.
6:11 for the second one, it would be such a plot twist to contact the second wife/fiancé and figure this out with her and then become friends and tell husband that he still has to support both families. 😂
For the hubby with two families- my uncle did this and got caught within 2 years. 17 years is impressive- impressively sociopathic. People with working conscience s would not be able to lie so heartlessly and so well for so long.
"We are (heel click) live! Heavens to Betsy!" What a great way to kick off. 🤣
“Who told you that?”
“Papaw.” 😂💀
Dude that paternity test is gonna be difficult and expensive since both potential fathers are so closely related
If he hasn’t seen her for eight months, unless she was ready to pop, I think the test is not needed.
@@jediping Legit.
Should be pretty straightforward actually. What an ungodly situation to be in though, wow.
😂😂that's not how DNA works.
If they were brothers it might be a little challenging, but since you only have half of the genetic material of each parent, your DNA is actually quite easy to distinguish.
Regardless…wild even yo have to THINK about that.
The red-flag runs and dances are amazingly awesome, my dude. Thanks for being one of those getting these stories out there. Not only do I find them fascinating (often as one does a train wreck - EEK), but I think people in similar situations might see themselves and realize ... some of this stuff is NOT okay!!
Second story reminds me of an ex boyfriend of my mom’s. She found out he had a fiancée while dating him and he blamed it on his split personality disorder. He also tried to set the house on fire once, so I’m pretty glad he never became a stepfather of mine
fun fact! if they call it a split personality disorder, _they don't have it!_
@@TheUnofficialNinja I might call it that as a quick shorthand, because nobody knows what dissociative disorders are, or if I genuinely don't know which one someone has, but it's definitely one of them, but uh, if you know you have one enough that you can use it to explain why you live two completely different lives, you know it enough to call it properly, and to make sure all of your partners are actually cool with that. There are respectful ways for one's alters to have different partners, but this was not one 😂
Y'all don't understand the psychological damage the boyfriend did to the girlfriend saying she smelled bad.
She was likely very socially anxious worried about smelling bad.
This kind of thing can cause body dysmorphia.
The “you stink” lies and her resulting feelings of craziness are the perfect example of gaslighting. It is an extremely damaging method of control and abuse. Glad she left him!
Support the 4B movement!!!
"Facebook has data too"
Biggest understatement of the century.
Dustin, can you please make a page on your website so we can submit stories to you??? Dusty thunder has one if you need an example of how to set it up. I have a few I REALLY want you to react to
This is a good idea! I have been including my email for this in some posts but honestly I need more avenues to get submissions.
I want a plot twist to second story: the wife and the fiancé move in together, the kids all become friends, and everyone except the greedy dirtbag is happy.
Not sister wives, just sister moms! Would probably be the most wholesome end to that story, but probably unlikely.
@@PanthereaLeonis Sister mom, exactly!
When you loose your mistress in the divorce.
I love the BTK floppy disk thing because he ASKED THEM basically, “hey you can’t trace a floppy disk right?” And then when they caught him he was like “you lied to me!” And the police were basically like “well yeah we were trying to catch you.”
I didn't know you had full videos! The clips are great but I'm so glad there's MORE!
I would so re-subscribe a hundred or more times if I could. You are easily one of my favorite people on TH-cam because of your ability to navigate both green and red flag stories with empathy, humor that is never mean, and the beauty of your own being. Please keep up your work but also, please take care of your health, too. The world needs more people, more men like you!
Much love and respect from me in the PNW. ❤️
YES!!!❤
So happy you upload on TH-cam. Followed you on IG, but I love your longer content. Cheers
the way you say update included activates some sort of neurons in my brain
1:33 I wonder if the bf just kept smelling himself & blamed it on her.
I knew right away he was gaslighting her. Sick, controlling f**k.
No. He was doing it on purpose as emotional manipulation.
@@stephanien6237either way he stinks.
Either way he’s the 1 who stinks.
2:34 throw him away!
Always amazes me that people can have secret lives. As an adult, just doing the things I have to do is exhausting. I'm not doing extra
I’ve only watched a couple of your videos so far, and the clip of you prancing around angrily singing “tiptoe through the tulips! 😡” had me cackling. Subscribed.
Good for her for telling him and file for divorce seriously. He’s pathetic. You can divorce and get him out of the home for sure. Judge is gonna side with the mom for sure.
I relate to the wheezing while running so much. And I’m part of the percentage who is subscribed!
Having two families sounds like so much effort.
❤🎉🎉🎉 we are all ready and happily waiting our green flag friend!
LMFAO @ shoulder cave -- also seeing you literally RUNNING with a GIANT RED FLAG and your commentary while running with it -- I just... This is *chef's kiss*!
I always laugh so hard when you start running with the flag! Good exercise for you and more dopamine for me!
I love when the updates are included!!
I love your shorts. Instant sub.
Finish video, zero regrets
ETA: off to binge land at 11:30pm. Still 0 regrets
My mom went through that I’m not joking, she was engaged to a lawyer for 14 years. Five years ago, someone left a letter in her mailbox. Letter explained that he had a family, and the person that wrote the letter said they couldn’t believe how naïve she was. Which I agree.... I seen the red flags, I kept telling her it’s weird you’re never allowed at his house. He was always 100% of the time, going to my mom’s house. How can you be engaged to someone, and never see their house?? We got into such huge fights, because I told him to his face I know you’re cheating. My mom, would get so mad at me. Finally, I said to myself I have told her my concerns. It’s her business not mine. I gave up then she found out.
It's always naive people.... Let children be naive, but as a adult.... It's just embarrassing ngl.... As sad as it is.... 😢 I hope your mom is better now
My high-school friend Linda sadly discovered her father's second family when there was a house fire. Accident investigators discovered the dad's second family that he'd successfully hidden for at least 20 years. The man was an airline pilot, so he had an excuse for being gone a lot
My father had another family for many years, and he also had to go on business trips all over the country. When mom learned about his infidelity the first time, I was 11. She decided not to file for a divorce then, which I think was a mistake. Later he told her they had to initiate a divorce because he had some financial problems and he didn't want us to get involve. Mom hoped that when he resolved his issues, ho would go back to her. At the time he had already had a child from another woman and had been building a family with her for several years. Later we found out that this woman in particular was his former secretary. Mom found a photo of him on social media with his new baby sat on his shoulder 🤦♀️
“But it’s floppy, doesn’t it just shake the days off?” I had to stop what I was doing and cracked up 😂
If anything is medically wrong with anyone in the BO situation it's the boyfriend.
Love how you share stories in such a unique way. Great that you try to keep a balance. These two stories made me super angry and sad. (For the moment letting it go now :))
If a man makes you feel less, ever, or makes your world smaller, or tells you who to be friends with- RUN. And KEEP running. Don’t try to be polite. The first negative put down, leave and don’t look back!!!!
I love these. Just straight up red flags, no victim blaming, no red pill bs, just the truth.
Kill 2 lovebirds with one stone…genius 😂
Didn't know you had a YT channel until I saw about it at the end of one of your FB videos. Instantly came over and subscribed!! I absolutely love your content ❤ It's an original idea that has been done by someone likeable with mature and relatable views
The BTK part, killed me.
Also, my mum's friend's dad had another whole family too and even gave the kids the same names and nick names.
😅
"Good luck finding a third family!"
Me: he probably doesn't need it!😂😂
Geezus, that Dad sleeping with his son's wife story was... wow.
First story just makes me think of generational verbal abuse. I honestly feel so bad for OP's ex's mother...
11:02 not to be off topic, but DAMNn
Yea, that story had him so pissed off that he made a fist so hard that his veins looked like they were about to explode!
Had more pumped up veins than a dehydrated roided up body builder 😮😂
Those faces Dustin are absolutely classic. I appreciate your humor yet the intelligent, kind reminder that we are all humans and everyone should be kind to eachother!!
Love your vibe dude
The btk story is even funnier when you know that he asked the cops if they could obtain data from a floppy disc and they said no...
And he believed them.
#2 6:54 you're saying exactly what I was thinking
The mom was just reacting to what her husband told her. She didn’t know her husband was hit as he tried to get the phone away from his son as the son was recording his state w the son’s fiancé. I feel super bad for any child coming from that monster woman.