Do this, instead of staying upset after a fight.
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if they dont come dint ask any like why you upset what to do
Sir what is the cost of your counseling
@Boston Khari does they charge
I on personal experience say
The harsh protest came into picture after many peaceful protests .. the mere fore granted and least care attitude however more irritating is their words which no mor has any value Bcz it’s always easier said n forgotten than make an effort to change ..
hard to digest that how one can not realise the difference wen the perosn they so called “love the most” is acting different 😂😂
How to cope up with a relationship with your husband whose relationship with his mother is enmeshed?
I can say one thing for sure ...everyone who saw this video and searched it ...def cared about their relationships genuinely ...thats is for sure ...cz no one would search how to solve problem bout relationship until n unless they care about it a lot ....stay positive yall hope yall get along with ur partners and stay happy for ur life 💖✨
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So generous....this made me smile
Thank you 😊
Or may be to settle our mental health out of all those relationship dramas
You are certainly a gem of a person Kritika🤗😇❤️ wishing the exact same thing to you🙌🏻
Wow beautiful comment by Kritika . Such a remarkable positive attitude. Keep it up . ❤
He is absolutely right. Everyone makes mistakes. Learn to forgive and forget. But the problem is too hurtful make sure to bring to his or her notice. So they don't do that thing again.
Staying upset with patner who loves u truly. Works out....becoz he will notice the difference and clear the prblm.. so dont get too much upset with wrong person it may lead to depression.... which is dangerous ...
True
True...
Absolutely true
Trur
Absolutely right
Just the video I needed to watch today
Yes
Same yar...I am in relationship with a girl.... she loves me alot ...she does care...she always has my back...but we fight sometimes like idiots
Kmiiaàa
Me too
Mee too. Just right on time
Now a days, relationship lacks love and have high expectations. If there are too many fights and less good moments, then think again you won't get this life again and you didn't come on earth to fight with this person. Try to see bigger picture, then being caught up in little things. See what is important, your relationship or your ego/ fight.
In nutshell, if there is Love, then you will find a way. For Love, you need to have emotional connection with this person.
Love = Respect = Communication ( no abusive words ofcourse, good respectful communication without trying to showing ur partner down)
Awesome
Long term Block of communication creates negativity...So dont break communication ...
Thanks
Yeeee ik
True
If someone doesn't want to communicate then can't pressurise..This pandemic is not right time to fight and making communication gap.....But if someone doesn't want to understand this basic..We are helpless...may God help him and bless him with good health with prosperity
Completely agree with you!!!❤master level skills😄😄
*Pain is Inevitable... Suffering is purely our Choice...🤷*
True
Love changes everything try to explain by action how much u love him/her , if he get understood , then happyness will rain on you
@@MazharSunil
Happiness is within us !!!
@@Madhra2k24 that's the most important point
Sadly but not everyone has that level of understanding.. No matter you protest Or you die... They have their set pattern of living life keeping the other at the worst.. Disturbed, distracted and what not? 🙏
This is a problem I noticed. It cannot be our responsibility to change someone who won't understand you. Reducing expectations and setting boundaries are the only options that actually work. It isn't our responsibility to make some one understand and at the same time , it isn't practical to wait for karma after an unfair encounter. This is very difficult but with conscious efforts everyday, i do believe someday I can be the source of every emotion of mine and not somebody else. Again, I'm not sure when that day will come :)
If their pattern doesn't agree with you, it will crop up all your life.
I would add, if improvements are not happening, do not invest yourself more in that relationship. Every unresolved issue should help you decide if you want to take a step back from such a relationship.
My husband also same . he don't bother if die also
@@MrVishalkankatala correct..we cannot make a person to understand. Instead we have to save our energy from them.
This is the situation I m going through right now.... I ve tried angered...I have tried silent method... I ve tried peaceful protest...but still she is stubborn...
Now seriously it's out of my patience. I just can't bear more. May be I m behaving stubborn. But it's my nature and personality. If I m doing each and everything for you... I can expect few basics from you right . I m giving you all importance values but can't I get a little.
Yar it's painful... It was the biggest mistake to get into a relationship .that too with completely opposite mentality girl.
SIRRRR PEOPLE STAY UPSET BECAUSE THEY ARE HURT. AND THEY NEED TIME TO HEAL.. THEY NEED TIME TO TOLERATE THAT PERSONS BEHAVIOR
Where I'm at currently at right now😢
It's so practical and goal-oriented.Basically,its my natural way of protest,or I learned from life at some point, the tagline of the video gets my attention because I have to ensure it is the best way.Iam glad that I watched this.It was really helpful.
Finally a life coach who makes sense.
Thanks Sir, its uncanny ,but this is exactly what i needed right now ..God bless you ! Thank you.🙏
How to handle ego and attitude issues where both the partners have it in abundance & everytime it leads to furious fights???? Please come up with a video on this topic.
Very very clear and logical approach!!!
Extremely helpful for bringing clarity and showing a way out of a conflict! 👌 Big fan of your videos 👍
You're right sir, I'm tired of her same temper everytime she makes me upset without any reason
When I stay upset for a valid reason,he blames for staying upset and spoiling his mood making me guilty,then I forget my own feelings and prioritize him and getting hurt again,any ideas to safeguard myself?
Yes same
You are not alone
Very true
my relationship is like this am currently working on putting myself first and focusing on me. my feelings matter too not just his. self respect ✊🏼 makes you more attractive
i guess thats the only i advice i can give xx
Can't agree more! Same to same..🙄🙏
This makes me curious to know about Shridhar's love life. Even before starting an argument he must be like "I know I know what's in your stomach".This guy knows it all 😂.
Superb technique... helps a lot to maintain healthy environment... But it needs lot of practice... yea..👍.. Thanks for making the video..
Thanks a lot ! For giving life points to sustain a better relationship
All of this will nly work... If the other person really understands this concept. Sometimes by being engaged people will take you for granted still...thinking oh it's all okay
Very beautiful.. And practical.. Approach.. When to avoid.. When to wait till the concern is addressed...
I am so lucky to see this video నేను స్వయంగా face చేసాను situation చివరగా మీరు చెప్పిన విషయాలు అలాగే నేను సాధించాను మీరు చెప్పింది వింటున్న పుడు అనిపిస్తుంది నేను కూడా బాగా నే ఆలోచించగలను అని 🤝
Very good advice. Thank you for your wise suggestions.
Really....u rVery intelligent man 🙏
Thank you for this important advice 🙏
Thank you
I don't know, me and hubby can't stay upset with each other for more than 5 minutes. We try to directly make our point and follow 'let's agree to disagree' mantra. Before you ask, we have been together for 18 years.
U r lucky n he is also lucky to hve u
Same here
@@illegal5745 thank you dear 🤗
Appreciate
Very lucky dear it's totally opposite in my case
I needed this 2 years ago
How did you deal with this situation? Could you advise.
I feel like a lot of the housewife are in silent protests forever. It's a personal view.
Sure- without any result 😇
Two things happen...1. if we are cutting extra luxuries...they take it for granted...n try to cool us down... 2. If we r silent...their imagination is unpredictable...more questions...more of their doughts. What ever way u choose.... should come to the way which he wanted. All the credits goes to house wifes..
Exactly... housewives facing this again anad again .... without getting any solutions 😭
So true
I am sad in my situuation but this makes me laugh ...relationship is hard there is a bit of comfort in knowing we not alone and somebody understands
I've never commented in any of the videos I watch in youtube except this channel ! Yes , of course it's very very helpful for many ...it's actually an higher level of thinking which u actually discuss here . True it's just classy sir 👍🏻!
Thank you very much Sir.. You hav Explained a Very important piece of matter in an ongoing relationship.. facing issues..
Superb surely it will work out
What will comes after this all only one person suffer the other is comforting in this whole situation .. If you cut down luxuries they will find it from somewhere else n you r making of fool to yourself for a long run n at the end accept where it will starts means no or not … what an approach 👏👏
Nobody is affected by this bec everything going through with only one person other is free from all
Really made me think in a new way. Thank you!
Ap kitne samajhdaar ho 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Your videos make good difference in my life thank you sir
Really useful info, I never had such a good relationship advice like this, this is really going to help me, thnx a lot
Excellent inspite...loads of respect and likes. Thumbs up mate.
Well said..👏👏👏
Sir whenever I do this goal oriented protest he eventually forgets that anything has happened and behaves everything has fine and gone back to normal
Lucky enough
True
When my do this, i hate it. They act like things have been normal and doing the same thing again which make me upset. And again act normal.
Not only that they enjoy to non emotional part
This video is really very helpfull to me thanku
Yes I agree and trying to protest peaceful.
This video is very useful and convincing . Thank you Sir.
Excellent stuff here!
Wow you are good thank you for this now I understand what’s going on with how I’m feeling
Thanks buddy really need this at this time
Thank u so much
word by word, this is exactly what he does. i keep trying to change things for the better between us but more fights would come up recently. and now he has me blocked saying he'll come back once he thinks im okay or done fixing myself
This is awesome
Hav done it all.
Been upset nd also been upset for long. But it hardly affects them for more than a mnt.
He hardly cares. Inspight of clear nd calm conversation s
Instead he may be happy that ur cool n calm..like in my case🙄
Thanks a lot 💓
I was super upset and dealt with situation by giving silent treatment and harsh punishment. My partner backfired, I came searching for this video, found it and made up with my partner. It did ground me showing realities and best way to deal with something and pros and cons of a lot of stuff. Thank youu!
Thanks.. Its the middle of the night and i was just exhausted thinking about how i can get rid of this vicious cycle....
Your ideas are superb
Aree...waaa...u nailed it ...exactly...
Nice one cleared many confusion thankyou :)
Very practical
Great!
Excellent thank you
I born to be happy..
Sometimes people stay upset because they are hurt. If things were said that’s ere very hurtful it can feel like you have been gut punched. Even if you talk it through it can take a little while to heal.
Hope your videos will reach to all couples.Its really a professional approach to sort out the things.
This is incredible video!!
Exactly!!
Indeed I know I shouldnt apologize when it's not my mistake... Unfortunately I'm damn insecured.... 😫
Very much informative and helpful...thankfully i found your channel...😇
Thanks👍
Thank you 🙏
Thank you. Really helpful.
I tried all this long back.
He rathar enjoys it that everything is working and he don't really need to put any efforts
Thank you...
Very true, shridhar 👍
I’ve quit talking after 5 yrs of being hurt and upset bcz I am totally through! I’ve blocked him and finally realize things do not change for the better. And it’s my turn to love myself and respect myself no matter how much I love him. I need to heal so yes I’m not smiling or happy. I’m not punishing him… I just give up and it’s time for me to see my worth and let him go. I finally lost respect for him and feelings. It’s not easy but by golly I am going to stand strong!
We Just want change.
First part of it was so funny coz I realise that it was me who he was talking about 😂
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It happens with me everytime....i seek solutions to my problems on TH-cam 😃
What should we do when our partner is not fullfilling our expectations but expecting from us
So true!!! 😂😂😂 I love this video ❤❤❤
Excellent analysis
It's ture and the same thing is happening with me now. My husbands sister constructed a house she invited only my husband leaving me. I didn't feel bad for that but my husband forced me to come for the house ceremony by pulling my hand and harassing me badly. Later he dropped me at my mom's house and quietly vacated our house as per his moms ideas. And filed a divorce in the court that my wife left me alone.
I am sorry I do not agree to your approach, cause eventually it leads to being taken for granted forever. One needs to stand up for their respect and honour.
True that 👍
He is telling an approach to avoid the worst consequences from both the ends which will eventually spoil days ending up with fights and arguments.
True...Gandhi ji approach is not applicable everywhere and in 2021..
You can't have opinion about something without having try.I think silent treatment makes other person feel more regretful than showing anger.When one of the partner makes other one suffer with feeling of venegeance then indirectly they are making negative impression about themselves in the mind of other one.While silent treatment makes the person feel more regretful about what they did to their partner.This approach will boost up love between couple in longer term unconsciously while harsh treatment is only going to decrease the love in longer term.But ofcourse silent treatment is not the approach in extreme cases.
True
Some scenarios mentioned here..might help ppl get ideas -How to stay upset...
When it's so enjoyable..the respective partner who is enjoying definitely has already planned an "alternative" to walk away from the partner who's ruined already by the so easily mentioned "punishment"
Excellent 👌
So good
Thank you for this vedio
Excellent lesson sir
Examples please - one solid example will convey this even better!
I can't upset more than a minute.
He hurts me everytime . And he was changed so much and I CNT even be without him for a single day ..I should be down to him everytime
Same my life why I don't know
No you shouldn't be. If you have conveyed your perspective and problems to him and Still he's hurting you then maybe he's not the right guy to be with. There are more beautiful and compatible people out there
Wonderful sir 🙏
Its a good topic..👍
But they never change.
Thank u
Thank you for sharing however, the only perspective you have taken is a relationship between a couple. Other relationships also have challenges which caused one to become upset. It should have been a generic approach on what to do when you are upset
Thank God ab muje ye sab sochne ki jarurat hi nhi hai.... Single mast life jaa rahi hai... ❤
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Chill 😃
Excellent
Great video great advice thanks
I do this whenever it requires...and it works