@@thaitalkwithdan really minor but they make such a big deal lol everything has to stop. We are outside the army hq and they've came to take a look at the bus. So funny 🤣
Lol least everyone is alright 👌 and yeah they will make a big deal about it, you will see all their mobile phones dialing away and recording the scene at the same time 🙈 hopefully you don't have to wait to long for a replacement 👍
I was on a ferry from Pattaya to Koh larn when the boat stopped dead in the water half way. When I first got on everyone were putting on life jackets and I scoffed at that. Well when that ferry went dead I sure as heck grabbed one 😆 They brought another boat alongside with a plank gangway between and we went onto the other boat....took about an hour for all this to transpire.
I would have pulled her on it and stated to her that I found it strange and asked her straight what her thought process was to introduce a guy she doesn't really know to her 9 year old son 🤔 and then I would have swiftly ended the date as fast as possible without making her feel awkward and then go our separate ways 🤷
I have met a few decent girls that have told me they support a child back home, in fact it is almost the norm. However to meet the 'little one(s?) some soon is very rare ! Have met the little's ones a few times, usually at a big party or a temple type event. Takes time for them to talk about their young 'uns. Strange!
Yeah that's what I thought, it was very frightening to me that Chris didn't seem to see this and all my hard work has been for nothing as he is currently dating someone in Pattaya right now 🤦 he thinks she's ok so I'm just keeping my mouth closed now
Last month I picked up a bar girl in Chiang Mai, and we spent the next 18 days together. The first four days I took her to the restaurants I usually went to, but on the fifth day she said she wanted to go where she usually eats. She led me to a temple where a bowl of noodles was 20 baht. The place was full of workaday Thais on their lunch hour. When we got the noodles, the girl added some spices to my bowl, and tested to see if was okay for me. After that, we ate every dinner at Chiang Mai market, and the most I paid for the two of us was 110 Baht. I really miss that girl.
The thing is that these guys go to Thailand, and they tried to date way above their looks level, meaning way out of their league. And they end up having an unpleasant experience with that woman. So try to stay in your lane! Meaning try to date only women that are truly attracted to you! Then you have a better experience.
Exactly kelcat but a lot of these guys look in a snow white mirror and see themselves as a young Tom Cruise instead of their actual reflection of Jaba the hut 😆
out of their league, how do figure, looks don't make a person, better looking she is she may attract more guys, but that doesnt make her a good catch, and if the experience is unpleasant doesnt say much about her and why she is with you..i hear so many use that big age difference etc to explain why relationship go bad,,the age or appearance has nothing to do with it, that all fades away in time anyway, attraction depends on the person, i find even sexy ladies here, turn off soon as they speak
The morale of the story is don’t be Chris lol Honestly, he just needs some mates to steer him. It seems like he’s been out of the dating game for a while. As a younger guy, I tend to take girls to the billions of cafes in BKK. They’re usually really instagram worthy and girls love them. That’s always my first date go to. It allows for conversation, it’s typically quiet, and it certainly won’t cost 30 quid! Lol
He's had way more dates than me 🙈 but he's just had bad experiences etc ... Coffee shop dates are the best ways doesn't cost much money and you have not other choice but to communicate and interact with each other 👍
I worked on a gas tanker ship repair in Capetown many years ago. I met a nice 'divorcee' at a pub in town and Invited her to come and see the ship one evening . There was a dining room and small bar on board. She said " I have never been on a ship before'! So off we went and on arrival she said: "Oh , I see you have the bar and dining to the aft of the accommodation along the fly bridge that may be noisy because of the engine room generators and steering gear room, or are you taking shoreside power? SAY WHAT??
As an ex receptionist at the massage parlours in the UK??? I'm absolutely flabbergasted that these 'customers' sincerely believe that a young beautiful girl would want to spend the rest of their lives with an unattractive middle aged to elderly man!!! FFS!!!! These Thai girls are no different to the working girls out here in the UK!!!! They'll take the customers for everything they've got an move on to the next!!!! There big big big players in the game!!!! New subscriber from Manchester UK!!! Excellent channel!!!
Thanks Tasha 👍 and yes you're absolutely right but common sense gets left at the airport for a lot of men that come herez it's unfortunate and I don't think it will change anytime soon even with all the information warning people 👍 welcome to the channel, glad to have you onboard 🤝
Hi Dan, unfortunately common sense is not that common. Another great video. Chris should have brought you to pattaya with him, he could do with you as a wingman😀. Seriously though, you are saving people alot of hardship with your advice. Some poor people have been financially ruined because they were native in Thailand and in the worst cases have ended up throwing themselves off balconies after they lost everything!
Exactly right Jay, they get so depressed 😔 and it happens all to often especially when they are a lot older, they have sold all their possessions from back home and then spent all their money here and then lose it all and then they feel like they can't go on... and want to end it all 😔 it's extremely sad, I have read about so many stories and it's why I talk about the subject of women, dating, being careful a lot here due to the vast amount of sad stories I have heard 🙏
Ok Dan you have hit the nail on the head. Be aware of the main redflags. You have put them out there. Guys.Write then down on your phone. Tattoo them to your body.. Never deviate for 1 second.Think with your brain and not with your joystick
@@thaitalkwithdan I'm in Kanchaburi and the ladies here are very genuine.. they don't need their nails done or taken to expensive dinners. Lovely folk with nice smiles that turn darkness into light. . Youhoooo
Top advice Dan , i think some people get confused with things like how generous to be with women over in thailand because of the coulture diffrences , but if they act like there rich on a first date they will be taken advantage of in the long run
Thanks Tom, it seems to appear this way with the confusion element and I agree, big no no to show off and act rich here as you will be a prime target 🎯
Some people will say I have no sympathy for them they are in their fifties or sixties so they should have more about them, this isn’t always the case a lot of these guys have probably been married for thirty to forty years and been out of the dating game for years. Some will of been divorced or sadly lost their partner and are not use to being alone and are just looking for someone to fill that void, no matter what country your in some women are just out there for one thing and that’s themselves. Having a woman approach you to ask you out some will say this is a red flag straight away it’s a man’s job, that’s not the case my wife approached me first and we’ve been happily married for twenty five years. The only advice I would give anyone is don’t be too open with your wallet always let them share some of the expenses, if a woman is prepared to stick her hands in her pocket you are on to a good start. Watch what they do when your going past shops are they more into the shop or you, phones are another give away see how many times they interact with their phones when they are with you if they are really interested in you they shouldn’t even be on their phones. Clothes are another give away if they dress way above their pay grade it’s not their first time like the spider said to the fly😂, these are just a few things I would look out for and it has been a long time now since I was dating but I always set some ground rules and stick to them. Some good advice again Dan but sadly you can’t always teach a old dog knew tricks.
Yes, I would agree with your comment but some, like Chris has admittedly been to oattaya over a dozen times in like 4 years. He knows the score but like many the get caught up in the fantasy unrealistic world of pattaya and think the rest of Thai woman are like that. I used to travel with a guy many many years ago who once told me every girl in pattaya is for sale. I argued with him and demonstrated that isn't the case but that was his demented outlook.
Hi Dean, some people come to Thailand with mental problems, Alzheimer's, disabilities, schizophrenia, severe bipolar disorder, social anxiety disorder.... The list is literally endless... I am personally very aware of a lot of the issues that people could have but some people don't look that deep, they see it as.... He is 50 or 60 he should know better... He should be like the man off the worthers original advert.... For example... But unfortunately that is not the case, in terms of Chris he has had a lot of previous dates and been to Thailand more than 10 times in just 4 years 😯 but he still can't seem to differentiate between western and Thai and also understand the similarities 🤷 I feel like he gets lots in the moment and gives everyone the benefit of the doubt and is very trusting
Thanks Jamie, it was nice to do a video about all this with no holds barred 👌 you could probably see some of my frustration that I have had to try to hold in over the past week 😅🙈
Some things to look for / beware of in addition to what Dan indicated. Your spider senses should be tingling if you meet a girl with these characteristics. 1) Tattoos - Normal Thai girls will not have them. If you see them, it is probably someone with a connection to the entertainment industry. 2) Good English - The question being how did her English become good? It is not generally the case in Thailand that people speak English well. She could be well educated (which will show and she can tell you all about) or she could have spent a lot of time in bars with foreigners. 3) Dress style - If she dresses in a revealing manner on a date or has bikini shots or other sexy poses on her online profile, it is probably not just a normal girl. 4) Online profile signals - If her specifications are set to age from...to ANY, then be suspicious. If the LINE ID is given on the TF profile, that's another one. 5) Checks: Go the website TFMI (dot) com and copy her TF profile name into the search box. If it returns a result you recognize, you know what you are dealing with. 6) TF tricks: Set up another TF account with your location the same as hers (not abroad). If you are really into a girl and think she is for real, use the other profile to send her a message like "Today night ST can do? 1500 baht Ok?", If you get any answer from her negotiating or agreeing, then you know what you need to know. 7) Meeting place - If you meet a girl in a bar or nightclub in Thailand, there is a 95% chance she is a freelancer or works there. If you meet on an online App there is still a high chance. The best way to meet girls is through professional contact. For example, she works in the bank where you opened an account or as a dental receptionist in the dentist you use. If you have the inclination, studying in a Thai university can also expose you to a lot of normal, middle class Thai women. Normally, It will take substantial effort to get one of these girls to go out with you - especially in BKK. If it is too easy, wonder why. 8) Pattaya: If the girl lives, has lived or worked in the city, then it is probably a bad indication. Avoid for anything other than a liaison.
Very good comments!~ I agree but must say--in all my years here in Thailand , as to regards 'Dress style' I have never seen so many of the 'normal girls' wearing such close fitting, skimpy style clothing! Showing bare shoulders, tight pants/ jeans ! Wow! They have changed for sure! I am surprised at what I see some times! When I lived in Phuket some 35 years ago the normal you would see was an oversized T shirt or long sleeved shirt that went to about the knees and long pants / shorts! TRUE!
I agree with you Dan on what you said. If the girls want real relationship with a forienger, she will chat and find out about the guy information to make sure he is not lying and a good guy. For example: I and hubby used to chat and exchange information before we met. I would find out if what he told me true or not. I will asked him again and again later. If he lied the story won't be the same. I looked at the timeline and photos of his family. To make sure he is 100 percent to our relationship. I finally asked him to bring his mum and dad to our engagement. And he did! After that my concern was released and I am trusting him from day on. It's funny that people looking for love in Thailand are doing the opposite. Foreigner has to look out for the girl and make sure she is legitimate.
Great advice like always Dan 👍 you would think most of what you said would be obvious but what happened with Chris just proves that it's not 🙄 hopefully guys will listen to you and find a nice normal girlfriend and not be scammed out of their hard earned money, great interview yesterday by the way, just wish we could see his face but it's understandable why he wanted his identity hidden lol
Thanks Jay and yes it is obvious to some people and to others it's not 🤷 Chris IQ wise is supposed to have a high score but he found it hard to believe that some of the things I said was true, even in the interview he said he could see shades of grey 🤦 he's a nice bloke though and I wish him the best 🤝 It was an eye opener though to see why so many men have been scammed here with money 💰
@@thaitalkwithdan yeah I know what you mean mate, he's got book smarts but no street smarts, I was single and not dating for a long time but learned a lot from helpful bloggers like yourself, I'm off up to Glasgow for 5 days to see my lovely girlfriend next Wednesday ❤️ I'm thinking about proposing this time 😬 she was asking me if / when I'm going to be baptized (she's Catholic) so I think she's ready now 🤞
Wow 👌 Big Steps ahead 🙏 it sounds like you have given it a lot of thought and you have decided that this girl is the one 🙏 best of luck to you Jay, exciting times ahead, I hope you will be very happy 🙂
@@thaitalkwithdan cheers Dan 🙂 hopefully you can persuade your girlfriend that not going to the UK is the better option, maybe she'll change her mind if you have a holiday over here, take her to London 😅
London haha yeah leave her alone for an hour pretend I got lost and see how she feels 😬🙈 she hasn't mentioned it for a few weeks and William is too young for school so she won't be able to work there, so I'm hoping I can hold it off for a few years
I met a Thai online, she wanted me to come there and marry her within three months, we’ve only been chatting for a week or two, I said no and I can feel her pulling back
Dan I think you should make a video called "Danger of a dating/marrying to a Thai Bargirl" I say this because after many months of looking at videos, most of the videos I observed very carefully were about foreign men who married to a Thai "bargirl" One day I was browsing the subreddit groups "Support for the Accused" and I happen to read a story about this unfortunate guy who was married to a Thai bargirl and who was in the process of a divorce, apparently, this bargirl lashed out immensely at him with false stories, she even got the authorities to lock him up. I know people will always say negative things about American women, but bringing a woman from a developed nation and she treats you like crap definitely will make you lift your eyebrows.
My maths may be wrong but I thought Chris said he was on about a month holiday and in barely 2 weeks he had 5 dates? Throw yourself at every woman who responds to your dating site is asking for trouble. Particularly if, as he said, he was looking for something more serious. I would take things very very slow and wouldn't want a woman who will jump into bed after a couple dates. But that's me.
I thought he had more time left I was shocked when he said 16 days left 🤔 he was in Buriram for 2 nights I think before I met him and was organising 1 date per day 🤔
Reasons for foreigners not finding the good ones is because they are locked behind the language barrier. Many women learn english to find a foreigner who gets her out of poverty, because they saw that others having luck with this. I just made the experience that it is not good to look for women who are expecially looking for foreigners. But yeah learning Thai is mandatory this way. No pain no gain as they say it seems...
I totally understand where you are coming from Frank and you are right, it's a massive help if you understand the language but some people have really tried to learn the language and really struggled with it, I have spoken to a few foreigners and they just say it's too hard 🤷
@@thaitalkwithdan I know I am also struggling (trying and giving up several times), but the impact is so massive. That's why I am commenting here. It opens the door to the real Thailand and this is completely different from the tourist areas. You will meet much more decent people. Women with decent jobs, who might earn even more money than oneself do and so on. Whenever I am in Thailand I am everywhere with Thai people not understanding anything and it sucks. But this way I never met people asking me for money, they inviting me, showing me Thailand, the culture everything.
Frank you are correct, if your Thai improves then you will start to really understand Thai people better, they will open up more to you and your circle of Thai friends will grow much wider, it's a refreshing experience to be able to travel anywhere in Thailand and have no problems communicating, meeting new people and creating new friendships so it is a massive plus, the Thai language can be so difficult for people including myself, I can't do the Tones and a lot of words I say people can't understand, I really need to go to classes for the tones and I have tried so hard but my mouth just won't make the sounds 🤣🤣🤣 but to be honest I do prefer not to talk much for several reasons and just prefer to listen, so it is a nice feeling to know what people are talking about when I am sat around Thai people 👌 and If I want to join in I know what I can say to ensure others understand me but I am sure I sound very silly but at least they can understand me 😁
I totally agree. I learned Thai, and it opens up Thailand. Not only girls but Thai people in general will treat you differently, and you will meet different ladies and different people. It gives you respect and it shows respect...
If Thai guys are not interested dating the Thai girl (whether it be a bar girl or from Bangkok), that is effectively your first warning sign. Not applying if to ALL Thai girls, but most of them. Anyway, that is your warning sign.
If the girl speaks English good or understands you good enough and can answer your questions. Then she has a lot of miles of kilometers behind her with other men or farangs. Remember this very good 👍
I'm not the best person to answer this, I remember over a year ago I went with AIS and paid just under 1000 Baht per month for an unlimited data service
I have AIS. Got it at the airport when I arrived. It's, I believe, 800 or 900 baht for a month of unlimited 4G data (and also calls I think). For 1500 baht or so you can get 5G.
Careful Dan, you are starting to sound a little bit like the whiny farangs 🤣. I know you are trying to help though. Western myth of romance is a lot different than here and dating is a lot different. I think genuinely there is a more practical component to dating here, rather than all out love and romance. Makes sense as the family structures are very different too . Many Thai women in tourist areas certainly know how to give that girlfriend romance experience, and that's what traps foreign men.
Chris sure got used! He really needs to slow down and think before doing anything. I think he will always run into the wrong women because the way he is. SMH .......
No Dan I gave Chris that girls Chris sald never had foreigner boyfriend before 50 50 on this may be ture why Buriram I would ask she every been to Pattaya she sald yes or work in Pattaya you know she been with a foreigner so you know bull shit from her but don't give too much away on you date she will open up to you way you do it
Mark it's over now, I did my best but I don't think I helped, he seems to be the type of person that needs to trip and fall in order to learn, you can't explain that he could trip and to avoid the rock to stop him tripping as he will trip anyway, nice enough man but he has to learn for himself 👍
You need to have you heard on with Thai women I don't think Thai women are good not great ok but when you going out with him super and fun to be with and look after you but it going be a price remember girls are from isan poor part of Thailand only think to improve the life and have nice big house in village be someone in the village all on the ladder
Do you mean via a dating app and speak to them for several months etc .... and yes this is a much better idea and if she is not asking for money then she is more than likely very genuine 👌
That's great news, I think if you take time to build a connection, ask questions, get to know each other, talk on video call and learn about each other then when you meet it will be fireworks 🎆 and work out much better, very happy to hear this working out well for you 👌
You channel is 25-30 years too late. The biggest red flag is that the woman already has children. Have a good time with her if you have to but get out fast
This is difficult 😬 because some have Alzheimer's, some their memory isn't what it used to be etc... But I do understand what you mean and if their brain is functioning properly (sounds bad that) but you know what I mean then yeah I can agree unless they have lived a very sheltered life with not much experience etc
My Bangkok bus has crashed. Everyone is safe but bored. so I guess this is a chance to watch your video while I wait around for a replacement bus lol
Bloodyhell mate are you ok, nobody was hurt was they 😬😬
@@thaitalkwithdan really minor but they make such a big deal lol everything has to stop. We are outside the army hq and they've came to take a look at the bus. So funny 🤣
Lol least everyone is alright 👌 and yeah they will make a big deal about it, you will see all their mobile phones dialing away and recording the scene at the same time 🙈 hopefully you don't have to wait to long for a replacement 👍
I was on a ferry from Pattaya to Koh larn when the boat stopped dead in the water half way. When I first got on everyone were putting on life jackets and I scoffed at that. Well when that ferry went dead I sure as heck grabbed one 😆 They brought another boat alongside with a plank gangway between and we went onto the other boat....took about an hour for all this to transpire.
👀 grabbed one fast 💨🦺
When she said that you can meet my son, that would been a deal breaker right there for me. I'm not coming to Thailand to date single mothers.
I would have pulled her on it and stated to her that I found it strange and asked her straight what her thought process was to introduce a guy she doesn't really know to her 9 year old son 🤔 and then I would have swiftly ended the date as fast as possible without making her feel awkward and then go our separate ways 🤷
I have met a few decent girls that have told me they support a child back home, in fact it is almost the norm. However to meet the 'little one(s?) some soon is very rare ! Have met the little's ones a few times, usually at a big party or a temple type event. Takes time for them to talk about their young 'uns. Strange!
Because Chris was so pleasant and nice and didn't drink then I am presuming she just thought I'll bring my son so he can have a free lunch also 🤷
@@thaitalkwithdan Spot on! They just don't care--for the lad, another uncle!
Yeah that's what I thought, it was very frightening to me that Chris didn't seem to see this and all my hard work has been for nothing as he is currently dating someone in Pattaya right now 🤦 he thinks she's ok so I'm just keeping my mouth closed now
Last month I picked up a bar girl in Chiang Mai, and we spent the next 18 days together. The first four days I took her to the restaurants I usually went to, but on the fifth day she said she wanted to go where she usually eats. She led me to a temple where a bowl of noodles was 20 baht. The place was full of workaday Thais on their lunch hour. When we got the noodles, the girl added some spices to my bowl, and tested to see if was okay for me. After that, we ate every dinner at Chiang Mai market, and the most I paid for the two of us was 110 Baht. I really miss that girl.
Awesome Bruce she must have really liked you 🙂
What happened to her?
Same for me in bkk. Are really well at small local places
Love your directness
Thanks Murray 🤝
The thing is that these guys go to Thailand, and they tried to date way above their looks level, meaning way out of their league. And they end up having an unpleasant experience with that woman. So try to stay in your lane! Meaning try to date only women that are truly attracted to you! Then you have a better experience.
I don't have that problem 😎
Exactly kelcat but a lot of these guys look in a snow white mirror and see themselves as a young Tom Cruise instead of their actual reflection of Jaba the hut 😆
@@keithd1219 lmao 🤣 😂
Well said
out of their league, how do figure, looks don't make a person, better looking she is she may attract more guys, but that doesnt make her a good catch, and if the experience is unpleasant doesnt say much about her and why she is with you..i hear so many use that big age difference etc to explain why relationship go bad,,the age or appearance has nothing to do with it, that all fades away in time anyway, attraction depends on the person, i find even sexy ladies here, turn off soon as they speak
The morale of the story is don’t be Chris lol
Honestly, he just needs some mates to steer him. It seems like he’s been out of the dating game for a while.
As a younger guy, I tend to take girls to the billions of cafes in BKK. They’re usually really instagram worthy and girls love them. That’s always my first date go to. It allows for conversation, it’s typically quiet, and it certainly won’t cost 30 quid! Lol
He's had way more dates than me 🙈 but he's just had bad experiences etc ... Coffee shop dates are the best ways doesn't cost much money and you have not other choice but to communicate and interact with each other 👍
LOL
I worked on a gas tanker ship repair in Capetown many years ago. I met a nice 'divorcee' at a pub in town and Invited her to come and see the ship one evening . There was a dining room and small bar on board. She said " I have never been on a ship before'! So off we went and on arrival she said: "Oh , I see you have the bar and dining to the aft of the accommodation along the fly bridge that may be noisy because of the engine room generators and steering gear room, or are you taking shoreside power? SAY WHAT??
Funny 😅🤦 "never lie as it's hard to remember the lie"
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Great video Dan. I think the lack of well-established personal boundaries leads to problems for a lot of guys in Thailand.
Thanks Daniel 🤝
As an ex receptionist at the massage parlours in the UK??? I'm absolutely flabbergasted that these 'customers' sincerely believe that a young beautiful girl would want to spend the rest of their lives with an unattractive middle aged to elderly man!!! FFS!!!! These Thai girls are no different to the working girls out here in the UK!!!! They'll take the customers for everything they've got an move on to the next!!!! There big big big players in the game!!!!
New subscriber from Manchester UK!!! Excellent channel!!!
Thanks Tasha 👍 and yes you're absolutely right but common sense gets left at the airport for a lot of men that come herez it's unfortunate and I don't think it will change anytime soon even with all the information warning people 👍 welcome to the channel, glad to have you onboard 🤝
@@thaitalkwithdan thanks very much.
Hi Dan, unfortunately common sense is not that common. Another great video. Chris should have brought you to pattaya with him, he could do with you as a wingman😀. Seriously though, you are saving people alot of hardship with your advice. Some poor people have been financially ruined because they were native in Thailand and in the worst cases have ended up throwing themselves off balconies after they lost everything!
Exactly right Jay, they get so depressed 😔 and it happens all to often especially when they are a lot older, they have sold all their possessions from back home and then spent all their money here and then lose it all and then they feel like they can't go on... and want to end it all 😔 it's extremely sad, I have read about so many stories and it's why I talk about the subject of women, dating, being careful a lot here due to the vast amount of sad stories I have heard 🙏
Great vlog Dan I doing to many comments on your video Great video Dan
Thank you
Yes 100% agree are some good one
Ok Dan you have hit the nail on the head. Be aware of the main redflags. You have put them out there. Guys.Write then down on your phone. Tattoo them to your body.. Never deviate for 1 second.Think with your brain and not with your joystick
Tattoo on your body 🙈 Joystick 🕹️ 😅 how's it going in Bangkok Al?
@@thaitalkwithdan I'm in Kanchaburi and the ladies here are very genuine.. they don't need their nails done or taken to expensive dinners. Lovely folk with nice smiles that turn darkness into light. . Youhoooo
🤣🤣🤣🤣 sounds like a dream... Wake up Al... Wake up... 😁
Top advice Dan , i think some people get confused with things like how generous to be with women over in thailand because of the coulture diffrences , but if they act like there rich on a first date they will be taken advantage of in the long run
Thanks Tom, it seems to appear this way with the confusion element and I agree, big no no to show off and act rich here as you will be a prime target 🎯
Some people will say I have no sympathy for them they are in their fifties or sixties so they should have more about them, this isn’t always the case a lot of these guys have probably been married for thirty to forty years and been out of the dating game for years. Some will of been divorced or sadly lost their partner and are not use to being alone and are just looking for someone to fill that void, no matter what country your in some women are just out there for one thing and that’s themselves. Having a woman approach you to ask you out some will say this is a red flag straight away it’s a man’s job, that’s not the case my wife approached me first and we’ve been happily married for twenty five years. The only advice I would give anyone is don’t be too open with your wallet always let them share some of the expenses, if a woman is prepared to stick her hands in her pocket you are on to a good start. Watch what they do when your going past shops are they more into the shop or you, phones are another give away see how many times they interact with their phones when they are with you if they are really interested in you they shouldn’t even be on their phones. Clothes are another give away if they dress way above their pay grade it’s not their first time like the spider said to the fly😂, these are just a few things I would look out for and it has been a long time now since I was dating but I always set some ground rules and stick to them. Some good advice again Dan but sadly you can’t always teach a old dog knew tricks.
Yes, I would agree with your comment but some, like Chris has admittedly been to oattaya over a dozen times in like 4 years. He knows the score but like many the get caught up in the fantasy unrealistic world of pattaya and think the rest of Thai woman are like that. I used to travel with a guy many many years ago who once told me every girl in pattaya is for sale. I argued with him and demonstrated that isn't the case but that was his demented outlook.
Hi Dean, some people come to Thailand with mental problems, Alzheimer's, disabilities, schizophrenia, severe bipolar disorder, social anxiety disorder.... The list is literally endless... I am personally very aware of a lot of the issues that people could have but some people don't look that deep, they see it as.... He is 50 or 60 he should know better... He should be like the man off the worthers original advert.... For example... But unfortunately that is not the case, in terms of Chris he has had a lot of previous dates and been to Thailand more than 10 times in just 4 years 😯 but he still can't seem to differentiate between western and Thai and also understand the similarities 🤷 I feel like he gets lots in the moment and gives everyone the benefit of the doubt and is very trusting
Thanks Dan wise words as always 👍
Thanks Jamie, it was nice to do a video about all this with no holds barred 👌 you could probably see some of my frustration that I have had to try to hold in over the past week 😅🙈
@@thaitalkwithdan ha ha I could lol 😆 🤣
Some things to look for / beware of in addition to what Dan indicated. Your spider senses should be tingling if you meet a girl with these characteristics.
1) Tattoos - Normal Thai girls will not have them. If you see them, it is probably someone with a connection to the entertainment industry.
2) Good English - The question being how did her English become good? It is not generally the case in Thailand that people speak English well. She could be well educated (which will show and she can tell you all about) or she could have spent a lot of time in bars with foreigners.
3) Dress style - If she dresses in a revealing manner on a date or has bikini shots or other sexy poses on her online profile, it is probably not just a normal girl.
4) Online profile signals - If her specifications are set to age from...to ANY, then be suspicious. If the LINE ID is given on the TF profile, that's another one.
5) Checks: Go the website TFMI (dot) com and copy her TF profile name into the search box. If it returns a result you recognize, you know what you are dealing with.
6) TF tricks: Set up another TF account with your location the same as hers (not abroad). If you are really into a girl and think she is for real, use the other profile to send her a message like "Today night ST can do? 1500 baht Ok?", If you get any answer from her negotiating or agreeing, then you know what you need to know.
7) Meeting place - If you meet a girl in a bar or nightclub in Thailand, there is a 95% chance she is a freelancer or works there. If you meet on an online App there is still a high chance. The best way to meet girls is through professional contact. For example, she works in the bank where you opened an account or as a dental receptionist in the dentist you use. If you have the inclination, studying in a Thai university can also expose you to a lot of normal, middle class Thai women. Normally, It will take substantial effort to get one of these girls to go out with you - especially in BKK. If it is too easy, wonder why.
8) Pattaya: If the girl lives, has lived or worked in the city, then it is probably a bad indication. Avoid for anything other than a liaison.
Thanks for taking your time out of your day and typing this useful comment, very much appreciated 🤝
Very good comments!~ I agree but must say--in all my years here in Thailand , as to regards 'Dress style' I have never seen so many of the 'normal girls' wearing such close fitting, skimpy style clothing! Showing bare shoulders, tight pants/ jeans ! Wow! They have changed for sure! I am surprised at what I see some times! When I lived in Phuket some 35 years ago the normal you would see was an oversized T shirt or long sleeved shirt that went to about the knees and long pants / shorts! TRUE!
Hey Seni it's still kind of traditional where I am but I can imagine where you are they are more "hip" 😅 and with the times 💅
@@thaitalkwithdan Yep!!
9. If her water buffalo crashed her motorcycle, thereby giving her mother Covid.
I agree with you Dan on what you said. If the girls want real relationship with a forienger, she will chat and find out about the guy information to make sure he is not lying and a good guy. For example: I and hubby used to chat and exchange information before we met. I would find out if what he told me true or not. I will asked him again and again later. If he lied the story won't be the same. I looked at the timeline and photos of his family. To make sure he is 100 percent to our relationship. I finally asked him to bring his mum and dad to our engagement. And he did! After that my concern was released and I am trusting him from day on. It's funny that people looking for love in Thailand are doing the opposite. Foreigner has to look out for the girl and make sure she is legitimate.
Good advice Dan, cheers!
Thanks Mark 🤝
Great advice like always Dan 👍 you would think most of what you said would be obvious but what happened with Chris just proves that it's not 🙄 hopefully guys will listen to you and find a nice normal girlfriend and not be scammed out of their hard earned money, great interview yesterday by the way, just wish we could see his face but it's understandable why he wanted his identity hidden lol
Thanks Jay and yes it is obvious to some people and to others it's not 🤷 Chris IQ wise is supposed to have a high score but he found it hard to believe that some of the things I said was true, even in the interview he said he could see shades of grey 🤦 he's a nice bloke though and I wish him the best 🤝 It was an eye opener though to see why so many men have been scammed here with money 💰
@@thaitalkwithdan yeah I know what you mean mate, he's got book smarts but no street smarts, I was single and not dating for a long time but learned a lot from helpful bloggers like yourself, I'm off up to Glasgow for 5 days to see my lovely girlfriend next Wednesday ❤️ I'm thinking about proposing this time 😬 she was asking me if / when I'm going to be baptized (she's Catholic) so I think she's ready now 🤞
Wow 👌 Big Steps ahead 🙏 it sounds like you have given it a lot of thought and you have decided that this girl is the one 🙏 best of luck to you Jay, exciting times ahead, I hope you will be very happy 🙂
@@thaitalkwithdan cheers Dan 🙂 hopefully you can persuade your girlfriend that not going to the UK is the better option, maybe she'll change her mind if you have a holiday over here, take her to London 😅
London haha yeah leave her alone for an hour pretend I got lost and see how she feels 😬🙈 she hasn't mentioned it for a few weeks and William is too young for school so she won't be able to work there, so I'm hoping I can hold it off for a few years
They never ask your name at least not with me. They always say, baby or honey and then you know enough.
Mine dresses well at weekends as likes clothes like most women but in week conservatively..
I met a Thai online, she wanted me to come there and marry her within three months, we’ve only been chatting for a week or two, I said no and I can feel her pulling back
Dan I think you should make a video called "Danger of a dating/marrying to a Thai Bargirl" I say this because after many months of looking at videos, most of the videos I observed very carefully were about foreign men who married to a Thai "bargirl" One day I was browsing the subreddit groups "Support for the Accused" and I happen to read a story about this unfortunate guy who was married to a Thai bargirl and who was in the process of a divorce, apparently, this bargirl lashed out immensely at him with false stories, she even got the authorities to lock him up. I know people will always say negative things about American women, but bringing a woman from a developed nation and she treats you like crap definitely will make you lift your eyebrows.
Love your video
I been living in Thailand 8 years coming 22 years
I do love the Chriss storys lol
My maths may be wrong but I thought Chris said he was on about a month holiday and in barely 2 weeks he had 5 dates? Throw yourself at every woman who responds to your dating site is asking for trouble. Particularly if, as he said, he was looking for something more serious. I would take things very very slow and wouldn't want a woman who will jump into bed after a couple dates. But that's me.
I thought he had more time left I was shocked when he said 16 days left 🤔 he was in Buriram for 2 nights I think before I met him and was organising 1 date per day 🤔
Reasons for foreigners not finding the good ones is because they are locked behind the language barrier. Many women learn english to find a foreigner who gets her out of poverty, because they saw that others having luck with this. I just made the experience that it is not good to look for women who are expecially looking for foreigners. But yeah learning Thai is mandatory this way. No pain no gain as they say it seems...
I totally understand where you are coming from Frank and you are right, it's a massive help if you understand the language but some people have really tried to learn the language and really struggled with it, I have spoken to a few foreigners and they just say it's too hard 🤷
@@thaitalkwithdan I know I am also struggling (trying and giving up several times), but the impact is so massive. That's why I am commenting here. It opens the door to the real Thailand and this is completely different from the tourist areas. You will meet much more decent people. Women with decent jobs, who might earn even more money than oneself do and so on. Whenever I am in Thailand I am everywhere with Thai people not understanding anything and it sucks. But this way I never met people asking me for money, they inviting me, showing me Thailand, the culture everything.
Frank you are correct, if your Thai improves then you will start to really understand Thai people better, they will open up more to you and your circle of Thai friends will grow much wider, it's a refreshing experience to be able to travel anywhere in Thailand and have no problems communicating, meeting new people and creating new friendships so it is a massive plus, the Thai language can be so difficult for people including myself, I can't do the Tones and a lot of words I say people can't understand, I really need to go to classes for the tones and I have tried so hard but my mouth just won't make the sounds 🤣🤣🤣 but to be honest I do prefer not to talk much for several reasons and just prefer to listen, so it is a nice feeling to know what people are talking about when I am sat around Thai people 👌 and If I want to join in I know what I can say to ensure others understand me but I am sure I sound very silly but at least they can understand me 😁
I totally agree. I learned Thai, and it opens up Thailand. Not only girls but Thai people in general will treat you differently, and you will meet different ladies and different people. It gives you respect and it shows respect...
So many women on facebook have single status, yet have pics with kids or a husband also while wearing a wedding ring.
And some people are born smarter
Lets pray
If Thai guys are not interested dating the Thai girl (whether it be a bar girl or from Bangkok), that is effectively your first warning sign.
Not applying if to ALL Thai girls, but most of them. Anyway, that is your warning sign.
My wife never sald this I sald why you want to go she always sald I am easy so up to me
other great video advance dan
Thanks Sean 👍
Dan you must be irish ,you are to well mannered to be a Britt great video by the way
Some are human being with a brain...but many behave like they do not have a brsin when then are in Thailand
Thai woman ask me for money I be going to toilet never come out do a runner very fast
If the girl speaks English good or understands you good enough and can answer your questions. Then she has a lot of miles of kilometers behind her with other men or farangs. Remember this very good 👍
" U thinkin' Lobster, I'm thinkin' Burger King " - Ice Cube
i love these memes hahahaha 10/10
What’s the best all in data plans for mobile phones atm out there?
I'm not the best person to answer this, I remember over a year ago I went with AIS and paid just under 1000 Baht per month for an unlimited data service
I have AIS. Got it at the airport when I arrived. It's, I believe, 800 or 900 baht for a month of unlimited 4G data (and also calls I think). For 1500 baht or so you can get 5G.
Careful Dan, you are starting to sound a little bit like the whiny farangs 🤣. I know you are trying to help though. Western myth of romance is a lot different than here and dating is a lot different. I think genuinely there is a more practical component to dating here, rather than all out love and romance. Makes sense as the family structures are very different too . Many Thai women in tourist areas certainly know how to give that girlfriend romance experience, and that's what traps foreign men.
🤣🤣🤣 I have felt like one for the last few days!! 🤦 Hopefully I got through to at least one person with this video 🙏 that's all I can ask for 🤷
Love your jamas Darny boy
Haha cheers mate 😄
So in short - date nice girls. :)
But like I say to my mum, "What am I gonna do with a nice girl?"
Is that a shiner Dan?
Chris sure got used! He really needs to slow down and think before doing anything. I think he will always run into the wrong women because the way he is. SMH .......
I loove your meerkat which is standing on his feet and shouting out loud and your bullshit meter 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Search : "10 reasons not to date a single mother"...
No Dan I gave Chris that girls Chris sald never had foreigner boyfriend before 50 50 on this may be ture why Buriram I would ask she every been to Pattaya she sald yes or work in Pattaya you know she been with a foreigner so you know bull shit from her but don't give too much away on you date she will open up to you way you do it
Maybe, let's meet first for a cup of coffee first
Chris sounds like he comes from Barbie world.
Just leave this Chris thing alone what can you say that makes a difference after the dates
Mark it's over now, I did my best but I don't think I helped, he seems to be the type of person that needs to trip and fall in order to learn, you can't explain that he could trip and to avoid the rock to stop him tripping as he will trip anyway, nice enough man but he has to learn for himself 👍
Are you from Yorkshire? You sound like you from leeds
You need to have you heard on with Thai women I don't think Thai women are good not great ok but when you going out with him super and fun to be with and look after you but it going be a price remember girls are from isan poor part of Thailand only think to improve the life and have nice big house in village be someone in the village all on the ladder
ask her to go eat in 7/11 for a 20 bath noodles dish then look her face lol
Would it be better to meet someone before coming there.
Do you mean via a dating app and speak to them for several months etc .... and yes this is a much better idea and if she is not asking for money then she is more than likely very genuine 👌
@@thaitalkwithdan yes that’s what I mean because so far it has been working for me
@@thaitalkwithdan thanks for the tip I appreciate I watch your videos I wish they were longer
That's great news, I think if you take time to build a connection, ask questions, get to know each other, talk on video call and learn about each other then when you meet it will be fireworks 🎆 and work out much better, very happy to hear this working out well for you 👌
Thank you 🤝
You channel is 25-30 years too late.
The biggest red flag is that the woman already has children. Have a good time with her if you have to but get out fast
The Escalating Money Grab hahaha
Sounds like it's best to dress down and appear to be limited in money to meet an honest woman.
💯% Billy 👍
Dan all the men come to Thailand are in 60s they should have experience on all that so I don't feel sorry for them
This is difficult 😬 because some have Alzheimer's, some their memory isn't what it used to be etc... But I do understand what you mean and if their brain is functioning properly (sounds bad that) but you know what I mean then yeah I can agree unless they have lived a very sheltered life with not much experience etc
people think the women in Thailand are gold-diggers just go to Venezuela or colombia!
@@Rodderz1 no, they send them to traffic drugs instead.