Being a man you can fight against physical violence but fighting against mental violence is a totally different matter walking away is always the best no matter how hard it is
Thanks for your words, it is not that I did not try, I did consulting Doctors, other friends talking and being on the receiving end of the violence is not good, each attack got more intense, When she came at me with the meat cleaver I did fear the worst. I never want that experience again. Thanks so much for your comment and for watching.
Sorry to hear your story Les, it seems you were fortunate to get away from her alive...thank goodness. In all my years, the only time i've experienced/witnessed violant behaviour is with alcohol, drugs or both being the underlying issue & common denominator. I've been the victim, just as you have. One person who beat me to a pulp with repeated blows to my head & caused me to have a blood clot to the brain, which caused me to have a TIA/asphasia etc. This individual served 10 months in jail, yet could easily have killed me. Guys/gals, being with or even associated with a violant individual, drink, drugs or both...get out of there, it's not worth the damage they can cause.
@@t4toph Thank you. I've actually suffered two blood clots/TIA's due to this incident. Asphasia can be a symptom & it's the most frightening thing imaginable for a person to suffer. Imagine you're talking to someone & it making sense in your own head, yet the words that come out of your mouth are total gobble, not even words. The first time it happened to me, less than two weeks after my beating, it lasted 2hrs 40mins...something the hospital said was a very long time for that part of the brain to be starved of blood/oxygen. Other than it happening again, i'm lucky that i've had no other lasting effects...that I know of.
Alcohol can turn a passive person normally into a Monster. I had a friend here who was great fun to be with until he had too much to drink then he became a monster who looked for trouble, walked into 7/11 and picked a fight with 5 Thai lads, he did not win that one. Walk away early from these people they will give you grief later on in life. Thanks for sharing T Man
@@RetiredandLivingthedream Right move for sure. I walked away from my first marriage after 5 years for similar reasons. There was way less violence but any is too much for me. Happily married now for 30 to wife 2.0!
an excellent and honest video. whilst my gf is not violent at the moment,her mood swings are extreme and the jealousy of imagined girls is completely off the scale. I realise it is a cultural clash but when every generous step from you is met with indifference and just more demands then eventually a straw is broken. Thai women should come with a government health warning. I have just spent 2 years supporting one through covid and 2 weeks back via Phuket sandbox have realised it was just a waste of time. I used to be an optimist but now I believe 95% are cynical manipulators. Beware. I still love Thailand.
There are many bloggers beating the same drum on this one but it still happens, the secret is finding out your the cash cow early and walk away. There are many nice girls out there but the bad ones make better stories. Tread carefully those who dare enter Thailand, Full of Newbies Next year and rich pickings. Thanks for watching Enjoy Thailand.
My gf is a mature student so isn’t restricted to bargirls. I realise a lot have had a tough time as well and after quite a few short relationships I thought I might have just found someone. Would be interesting to get Les’ comments as to where a falang stands in a Thai family lol
@@cliveodonnell2498 This is a interesting question I can only give an answer to what I think as we will never know for sure. I feel accepted by my wife's family I will never fit in as a Thai would do as culture we are far apart, I am not looked on as a provider for them I would say the opposite. Language is a barrier for sure but not impossible. I have to believe what my wife translates but I do not doubt what she tells me. I have also seen other felangs gf family expect payments for everything and demand sometimes. I am always made welcome from my wife's family and enjoy my stay. I am happy my wife can spend time with her family and do not just visit for one or two days we are there two to four weeks is normal for us. I enjoy her farm and open countryside.
It was hard to sum up 2 1/2 years in a 12 min video. I feel no anger towards her just sorry that I could not sort her problems out, I tried but failed. Sometimes its best to walk away and more so when your life could be in danger. Thanks for your comments.
From what Ive seen in the Uk, thai women can be exceptionally violent and agressive. Just witnessed one loose the plot over curtains in a soft furnishings store, let out a blood curdling scream and shout abuse at her older husband who remained calm throughout the incident. It was trully mind boggling that she could get so angry about curtains.
Your a Top Man Les , For me Life is like a Book , The more Chapters in the Book then the more interesting it will be , I’m very happy for you that this particular Chapter came to an end and you managed to turn the page . I can relate to what you have shared as I had a similar situation in the Uk with a partner and it lasted for many years , Her problem was Jealousy and insecurity in an unbelievable way . I went through a very Long Rocky Road but eventually escaped . Once again Les your a Top Man 🙏🙏
Thanks Paul, only the people who have been their fully understand, I would not wish this on any person. Yes I have found happiness and live a contented life now I have learnt what I will not tolerate and will move on sooner than later. My wife is one of the best for sure.
@@RetiredandLivingthedream when I can get back I stay in Ban Chang with my partner, We have the Moonshine Bar in Ban Chang , Are you on Facebook or Messenger
It took extraordinary courage to talk about this, your an inspiration. Abuse should never ever be tolerated. Sounds like this woman was extremely narcissistic.
Thanks for your comment, I would not say Narcissistic just troubled We had a fantastic time together before things started to go wrong, We travelled a lot we opened a coffee shop with no financial worries. I am sad it ended but I did not retire to suffer from living with a Violent partner. I tried to sort it out but was unable to do this. I decided to move on for my own safety I do not wish the girl any harm and only wish her good fortune. I hope she does well. Thanks for watching.
Yes, a good friend had a Thai girlfriend who during one rage, placed a gun in my friend’s bureau, called the police, he was arrested, and spent 4 days in jail until his employer (he held an executive position) and the embassy had him released. He was still traumatized a half year later when I met him.
Wow, A lot of people think it is a Man hitting a woman is common and many do not see that Men can be victims also. I am a big guy and my girlfriend was small so seeing me covered in blood and not a mark on my girlfriend. I would not fight back better to walk away maybe she took this as a sign of weakness ( who knows ) but when the violence got worse it was time to go. Yes many men can be Traumatized by such events, thanks for sharing your story and for your comment.
I hope so, I have no bad feelings towards her when she was good she was great but the down days got more and more, as I said we tried but I moved on for my own safety. I am in a far better place now and hope she is also.
Les, I think it is brave of you to share your story. It seems to have touched a chord with many of your viewers who have had similar experiences. My soon to be Chinese ex wife also had serious anger issues, and was violent with me once, though not as bad as your gf. I hope you find someone who will truly love you.
I had a Chinese wife also who was difficult to live with and we got divorced as she wanted to move back to the UK and I did not. Yes it is a personnel story but I have also talked about my divorces and Bankruptcy, not to get pity it is to give hope to those going through a hard time to say Life goes on it can be done I have had more knocks than most I would say and am happy with my life here in Thailand and I hope to inspire others that they can do this also. I have found a wonderful girl here and we have a good lifestyle.
Thanks Stephan, Yes I did as much as I could of done before taking my own safety 1 st being threatened with a meat cleaver is not fun, We consulted Doctors spoke to friends had many conversations about this but sadly we could not sort it out. For my own safety I moved on. Thanks for your support and comment.
This reminds me of what happened in the condo next to mine at City Garden Pattaya a few years ago. The Thai woman was screaming at the top of her lungs and going completely crazy at the farang who was living with her. I have never heard a woman go as crazy as she did. I recorded her screams on my phone. I considered it a warning sign to be very careful giving any Thai sufficient power over me that they would consider it appropriate to behave in such a manner towards me.
Wise words, moving a Thai girl into your home to soon can end in a bad way. Then it is hard to make them leave and the damage they can cause is unbelievable. Seen a gentleman's clothes being thrown out of the fifth floor of his apartment not a happy ending.
@@RetiredandLivingthedream I was really shocked at the viciousness of the Thai woman that was screaming at her farang and what she might have been capable in terms of violence. At all times I try to keep in mind that as a farang I represent an asset to them and a very useful controllable ATM. I guess it would feel like losing the lottery for them when things go bad and they can lash out big time at us. The Thai woman and her farang got into the lift together a few hours later and never said a word to each other when I was there but knowing what went on I was nervous being next to them. It's like they were putting on an act in public like everything was fine even though it certainly wasn't. I'm taking the Kramer attitude on marriage :-) th-cam.com/video/suAhGfVr_4U/w-d-xo.html
I've heard similar issues of women that have had a hysterectomy...throw in some alcohol and a little nutty to begin with and you've got full on kook. The first touch of any violence, she would have been gone....that might have been harsh but once violence begins it usually doesn't end. Thanks for sharing Les...great story...sorry but I even laughed throughout it, especially when the clever came out.I guess that's why I'm still single...I don't put up with nonsense.
I looked at every way why she was behaving like this, I understand the mental pain thinking you had cancer, but the operation saved her life for sure, but I also understand the mental scar living with this, I seen this 1st hand survivor guilt with my 2nd wife as her sister died from Cancer. This is why I researched what I thought the problem might be, consulting the Doctor confirmed it was not the Hysterotomy that was causing the problem it was a mental issue. She refused to see the Crazy Doctor as suggested by the Hospital Doctor. she drank more and became more violent drinking was a trigger point for sure. I could not take here actions any more due to her violence getting worse at every argument. I tried but failed at this one. Thanks for your comment and for watching.
@@RetiredandLivingthedream You were right Les. After thinking about my first response and recalling that I had a friend whose wife went through a similar reaction. She went from a loving person to a she devil and being violent as well. The police were called numerous times to his home and he'd explain to them her illness and basically beg that they not arrest her even though he had been brutalized. Most of the time that worked but she did get arrested one time and that made it worse.. I asked him why he didn't leave her and he said she had mental illness and that like any illness it wasn't her fault. He went through hell with her but stuck with her and eventually she got a little better...their children who were teenagers even told him to move on but he wouldn't. Certainly a better man than me and most. You can only do so much even with the best intentions or you'll get dragged into hell as well. I guess its always easy to arm chair quarterback until you live in someone else's shoes. You're a good man.
Thanks Mark, All done now on my Iphone 11 and a Osmo Action camera and a DJI Mini 2, do not do the 4k as my computer struggles to render 4k. Looking to upgrade to Apple Mac Mini, I have put a request to Santa, fingers crossed. I thought the new Mac Mini was getting released this month but sadly not. Hope this helps, thanks for watching
Anybody that brings their children up saying "boys shouldn't hit girls" is a bad parent Teach them instead that nobody should hit anybody. Otherwise you give the girl a free pass to get away with taking advantage.
I was told not to hit girls when I was younger a girl cut my lip open and everyone made fun of me and then another girl slapped me in the face I complained ever made fun of me all big bad Rick scared of little girl the same girl tried to get me again I strangled her and wouldn't let go for ages she was definitely losing consciousness I just left and then everyone was angry at me I was going to get expelled from school until I bring up that I have complained to at least three separate teachers on at least five occasions and that it was just off to fences I have been hit first and actually haven't hit anyone
Everyone can change it was a part of my Job to help people change so it is very difficult but it can be done. I had a few successful outcomes but more failures than success. But that is life also. You can't win them all. Thanks for your comment and for watching.
This happens a lot for Thai to Thai relations it's actually very normal if alcohol is involved your very lucky the police didn't arrest you most times no matter what it's the falungs fault especially if you have a car accident it's always our fault Les you deserve everything good shit you have had a hard life a friend of mine has a saying if you haven't got a really good relationship your better off with none
Thanks for your comment, yes my life has its ups and Downs but I would say more ups than downs. Thai girls can have many problems family pressure to provide, Alcohol drugs etc etc and these can be brought into a relationship. I see it so many times the money pressure being brought into the fold Sick Buffalo Sick family, the trick is to beware of the constant money pressure. Lean quick it is a different World living here in Thailand.
Alcohol is a real big problem in the villages lots of fighting men hit girls girls stab men it's that bloody lae cow they drink it's like bloody petrol and cheap
Les...that's no way to live and be treated no matter which country you are in and wether retired or not...dealt with loads of domestic incidents which were 90% caused by alcohol or/and drugs but mostly alcohol.. busiest day for alcohol related domestic incidents was usually Christmas Day...used to dread working late shift as we were run ragged.. remember one young man thinking he could get drunk and batter his partner on Christmas Day and couldn't be arrested because it was Christmas!...how wrong he was! Alcohol consumption has much to answer for in the world..if you can't handle it leave it alone..have soft drinks or tea / coffee. Have seen how the police respond over here which leaves much to be desired and of course pretty much one sided with Thais where a non Thai is involved. Pleased it's a memory for you and you now seem to be much happier...
100% agree there is no place for violence in any relationship. My father suffered Friday evening beatings when his father got paid and went to the local pub and returned home. My Father never drank because of this. Thanks for sharing your views on this Chris.
I was married for 30yrs & my wife she had a full hysterectomy within 3 months She was aggressive and blaming me for everything and then she went off with another man at this I got a divorce. I put this down to hormones but she would never try and fix this.
Hi and thanks for sharing, we did try to solve this by seeing a Doctor she said she needed to see a ( in her words ( a Crazy Doctor, ) my gf did not like this solution and never went any further but soon after this we split after she attacked me with a knife. Best move.
I am ashamed to say with alcohol she sounds like me... I once smashed up my flat 9 years ago where my wife and kids lived... it was ludicrous looking back. But I just wanted to get to a place where I didn't care. I appreciate your stories let they are very worth while. I feel sorry for her but what you did was right. You cant be responsible for other people addictions especially when they hit you. I'm still with my wife as she is chinese (every western person she knew was telling her to get a divorce). Anyway since then I retired at 40 and my temper is completely under control and limited to swearing at the extreme. Age changes you
Happy to hear you have it under control being on the other side you can see more clear what I went through, I am happy to hear you have learnt from this well done. Enjoy your older wiser retirement.
One time my dad ripped off all the radiators off the walls in the house destroyed every internal door in the house completely destroyed the bathroom broke my bed but no one else's and poured cement down the mains so that no one in the house could flush the toilet run any water then he got dressed up and my mum summer dress and driver around in his car before the police pulled him over and he got done for drink driving we all do silly things from my drunk and maybe a little tired
I agree with the other comments there are so many options it is impossible to give the price but most people are happy with Pacific Cross I would start there.
When a women gets an hysterectomy it sends her straight into menopause. For younger women it can be especially difficult. Hopefully she was getting hormone replacement therapy. The alcohol was certainly not a good idea. Unfortunately there is not much you can do but grin and bear it for a few years if you can.
I thought that and that is why we went to the Hospital, we found out it was not a full Hysterectomy they left one overy in to control the hormone release, they did some tests and said her hormones were normal and that is when they said you need to see a Crazy Doctor. I tried but I could not live with someone who became violent at nothing and attacked me and smashed everything I had. Sad I know but things like this happen.
Been there. My last wife was very violent. Now, whenever I meet a woman I tell them "If you are crazy, addicted to anything or with disease we cannot be together", and then I tell them, "plus, if you get violent or physically aggressive with me in any way, I'm gone immediately and we are done". It's tough when you care about someone so much and then you realize it is a bad future if you stay with them. BUT, you are making the right choice. I've noticed often times if Thai a girl comes to the conclusion she cannot rip you off she'll be extremely pissed and maybe violent. I knew a man that had a girl there who lied to him about medical care bills. They were married! He grew suspicious but wasn't sure how to investigate the issue so he told her a "necessary operation" she needed his doctor friend in the USA would do for free, since he owed him money ..this event became violent and they were divorced shortly thereafter. Good Luck!
Wise words being straight at the beginning of a relationship is wise more so here in Thailand. Money plays a big part here let it be known you are not a cash cow from the start. Any relationship should not have violence in it at any times but when it does its time to do something about it nip it in the bud and find the cause then try to resolve the problem. Thanks for your comment.
Thanks for that, the worst thing was the hard drive with 5 years of my travels and pictures of the family, this can never be replaced. Never mind you can do nothing about the past only the future.
unfortunately I seem to be trapped on one of those relationships... everyone tells me to run while i still have my legs... i probably should listen but being away in another country and only going to thailand for a few months every year makes it more tolerable.
So sorry to hear. This has to affect your feelings when you return to Thailand not having a great feeling of returning home to a loved one and wondering what is going to happen. I can only give my feeling's about what I did. Not everyone agrees with what I did but I did what I thought was the best thing to do, people deal with their own situations and do what they think best. Listen to peoples advice settle in your own mind what your going to do and do what YOU think is best for you. Hope things improve for you and thanks for sharing.
She was not always like this, something changed her, I thought the operation but to be 100% I do not know, she had everything a Business a good income a caring person who also helped her family out. But I tried to understand but I did not want to be with a Violent partner so I moved on. Thanks for watching
My wife is a very calm person and nothing much frustrates her so she is a dream to live with so easy going and goes with the flow never asks for too much and is happy with what we have. Thanks for your comment John.
@@RetiredandLivingthedream Yes Les, they all count towards "Channel Activity" as far as the Algorithms are concerned so no disadvantage to you. All Channels seem to have the usual collection of _"Thumbs Down Devotees"_ who religiously poke the button like they're playing a Poker Machine in a Pub!
my thai mrs ( married for 12 years now divorced, 12 years ago ) was a nasty piece of work , glad to see the back of her , she went on to marry for a 4 th time to an english copper who was by all accounts worse then her , hope they are happy together
Bloody hell Les You’re lucky you to get away with your life. Thank you for the story and advice. They’re high spirited little buggers aren’t they? The drink unfortunately changes people. Retired life should be relaxed and happy Not a nightmare
Hi William, it should be, retirement is a time to enjoy the fruits of your labor, not being a drinker and a people watcher it was fun to watch in Pattaya around the Bars, these Newbie Older Men being played for fools. The Older men thinking they were 18 all over again. It can be a costly lesson. It cost me over 100,000 Baht of broken destroyed items over the 2 year period. So yes I learnt a costly lesson. Better days now though. I show what happened to me not for pity but to show others who are going through a hard time there is light at the end of the tunnel. I have had rough times but being positive gets you through these hard times. Thanks for your comment.
Hi Brian thanks for your well wishes I look for no pity from my story, I want to warn others that if you get into this situation then you need to take action. I have seen older men getting bullied by the Young attractive girl they are with being fearful that they will run away and leave them. They ( girlfriends ) keep asking for more and more money and threatening to leave as a punishment for not complying. Some of these girls know which button to press for sure. These are not the girls you want to be with. Thanks for your kind words and for watching.
Men can fix a lot of things,plumbing, electrical and mechanical,but not crazy. That takes a dedicated professional. Les was a dedicated first responder and as such was often in close quarters with the dregs of humanity. Harsh words to describe our fellow humans but truth is often uncomfortable. This leads to a feeling of normalcy after a while, blurring the lines of acceptable behavior and blinding to red flags. The woman hid her dysfunction well,until alcohol broke the barriers to her true self. Les responded. Hopefully being a farang in an incomprehensible environment has led to some retraining. History learned can be history not repeated and we can all learn from Les. Men are often physically abused in domestic relationships, few have the courage to admit it.
@Alexander No,she was left with one ovary to produce estrogen. She may get depressed because she will now be childless. Domestic violence against men is a world wide problem,even in Australia with aborigines.
@Alexander No,it's not in fairness at all. Domestic violence against men is a few percentage points below women and vastly under reported. Emotional violence against men doesnt exist due to the definition of masculinity which precludes men having emotion on display.
Thanks Martin, in my role of doing many jobs during my working career I came across many mental problems I sat talking someone out of suicide for 3 hrs then after dealing with this he attempted suicide later that day, he survived but I felt a failure at not stopping this. My ex Chinese wife attempted suicide twice on our Round the World trip so I know a bit about this subject and the after affects to those who try to help. Thanks for your comment.
Thanks Robert, I have seen so many older guys being bullied by their Thai gf and put up with it. One guy I know was with his gf he thought she loved him whilst in Thai she was mocking him to others calling him a buffalo stupid and she was taking his money as much as she can from him and it was easy. Me and my friend could see this and we told him what was happening, he left for 2 weeks then went back to her and she carried on, she took 3 million off him in two years. The penny dropped later.
Blimey Les. If its not your ex wife from uk effing you over its some thai bird turned into chopper harris! Im 54 this year and never married. Apart from not having kids I have enjoyed sweet peace! Good luck.
I had a few American nutcases over time like her but mine did not drink just got off hitting me and just being a wack job. I think your mistake was meeting her in a bar like most foreigners and living near Pattaya. Also, my advice is to all foreigners should learn to speak some basic Thai. Love hearing the birds in the background. Only had one Thai girlfriend had some issues like most couples but still together after twenty years.
You can meet problem girls everywhere my Chinese wife took two overdose's on our Round the World Trip I thought she had jumped from our hotel roof in Hawaii just a couple of events. I know many people happily married to bar girls here in Thailand they are not all bad there is good and bad everywhere. I know some Hiso girls married to foreigners who treat their husbands like crap. Thanks for your comment
Like is a learning curve I have lived a lot of living and done many things. No regrets only look forward never look back but learn from your mistakes. Anger and bitterness will always bring you down I am a positive person always. Thanks for taking time to comment.
Fair play to you for trying to help her : she could of kill you : I see a lot of this in thailand. And there is no one to help .Best thing is to leave her .the thai,s will blame you .
@@RetiredandLivingthedream I totally agree ... Things can go so pear shaped in an instant buy turn a blind eye sick it up and look around ... It's a perfect day here .. birds natural wouldn't want to be anywhere else & yes we are all in the same age bracket .. some are blessed with better health than others … good on you Les … always a Champion !!!!
Hindsight is a great thing, not all girls that work in the bars are bad, I know many have made good wives and girlfriends, I have met many guys who married a bar girl and are more than happy, In fact Id say 90% of the people I have met doing this channel are with either Bar girls or massage girls, sadly the good stories do not get the views but stories about bad things that happen whilst dating Thai girls are more watched. My story with Ploy would not be interesting to many as we have no issues and live a great life together were good together and long may it last. My stories are all genuine and i tell others to show the good and bad about dating Thai girls but as a warning only. I will never Judge anyone who dates a bar girl or massage girl there is good in every one. Living here I have herd many stories both good and bad so I hope I portray a balanced opinion. After all Men come here looking for Love so it can't be all that bad. Thanks for taking time to comment, and thanks for watching.
@@RetiredandLivingthedream lived here over 14 years heard them all mate … glad your out of the bad relationship I’ve seen it so many times with and other people you meet along the way !!!! I do disagree with your 90 % theory but yes there not all bad at all . I have many good friends bar girls…. Sounds like you have a good one now so happy days 👍👍
So apparently according to my mrs, after women have had a hysterectomy they can turn into psychos. So if yer mrs needs one, maybe the writing is on the wall.. Edit: after showing my mrs the meat cleaver bit, she said its not as bad as that tho, she said she just fucking hates him.
That why never buy anything on Thailand unless you want ro lose. Rent do not buy. If the lady or ladyboy acts up leave her without telling her the reason.
I have talked with her a few times she is very remorseful of what she has done and I believe her she is a nice girl but with problems, I tried but failed so hopefully she will come back as a nice person in time.
Living with a younger woman and paying her monthly, weekly, or whatever can always get you in trouble. If she has bank transfers from you she has proof you were using her as a prostitute which is illegal and could mean jail. We "retire" here, but are always non-immigrants who must report every 90 days and renew our visa annually. Best not to get involved to the point of living with a Thai ever if not married. Marriage and Retirement never mix well IMO. Cannot live "the dream" while chained to one person the rest of your life
We all live a different dream, I also know a few guys who could not settle with just one girl, not my lifestyle but they seem to be happy with their way of life, 90 day reporting and renewing my visa every year is a small price to pay for the lifestyle I live here.
Cactusric:3 failed marriages, violent relationships, ignored by children, Bankrupt always a "Victim" also in failed charitable work! by Les's own admission. Living the Dream is somewhat of a Thailand arrangement like nowhere else.😱
@@heatherwatson6120 yep always picked the wrong woman as many men have done living in their home country’s then living here in Thailand is mainly the best move they have ever done. I have yet to meet a person who wanted to go back to their ex. Not one. We all have a story to tell even you will of had your ups and downs I am sure I may of failed a few things but I tried. People can learn from failure Never marry a Western girl I learned never again.. I show the positive side of failure and show you should never give up, You it seems dwell on the negative side of things. Yes a victim but then that’s my side of the story and the ex wives will have their own and I’d bet it is totally they are in the right so always a victim in their eyes. To come to a balanced decision you need both sides. Life is an obstacle course it’s how you get over these obstacles that really matters.being a good person gives its own rewards. I have also met many angry ladies mostly in the U.K. who scorn the men who live here in Thailand. But never met a man with the same views. Thanks for your comment good or bad I try to answer them all.
@@heatherwatson6120 wow that is what you take away from Les’ stories. I think, sadly, why so many Western men find more understanding partners in the East… most men just want peace and harmony, not drama and battle of expectations.
This cancer comes from sex relations , most of times . The place where you meet a girl is important . Why not to meet a nurse or a lady teacher ? MORE and MORE people are nuts . Have relation with a working girl only .
Do not know what caused it but the sex industry has a part to play in this you are correct. We meet in our future partners our own ways some more easy than others, I would not blame the Bar girls for what they do they are seeking a better life also. Less skilled than Nurses and Teachers but how do you meet these men otherwise. Many a bar girl has made a good wife and also the opposite. I know examples of both.
@@juliusevola8806 please do not Tar all the bar girls and the sex industry workers with the same brush. There are good and bad in every walk of life. See the good in people and don’t label them, try life walking in their shoes for a while. It is tough for Thai people living here more so than the Western World with free handouts, Social support. Look at life with different eyes here.
The girl had cancer that lead to her having a hysterectomy. Then you ask her if she had Money Problems, or was she Gambling or doing Drugs. You even highlighted your suspicions on the video in large text. Then you told her you couldn’t live with someone who was emotional or a depressive. Well Sherlock you finally thought it might be something to do with the hysterectomy, still obviously didn’t think that having cancer might impact on her mental health. I thought you were going to finish your video on a high with some insight into what might of happened to your girlfriend and how you were a better person from the experience. I was disappointed to hear your only advice was to move on. I hope to God you don’t have to deal with the same again, you obviously learnt absolutely nothing. Hope you managed to get your TV box sorted out.
Wow Andy, Take note these problems started before the Cancer, Also Take note I Paid for the operation, Take Note I suggested to go See the Doctor following her change of Mood to see if the problem can be found, we got the answer from the Doctor Crazy doctor needed.Being attacked for nothing is not Normal, being attacked with a meet cleaver is not Normal. Trying to find out what the problem is involves asking difficult questions. Many Thai girls have gambling addictions drug problems and the list goes on. If someone starts being different there is for sure a problem which needs sorting which I tried. One has to draw a line somewhere. I tried more than most would of done.
Andy pretty harsh words to Les .. as he really is what u see us what u get !! Do u live in thailand Andy ?? Cause u sure seem to be on a different page .. oblivious to the realities of thai society .. there are fruit cakes everywhere that can end up in your face .. & then making demands or life threatening … if u do live here you obviously live u set a cloud .. Hope your happy days continue … Fortunately .. I love Les wife .. she is beautiful inside & out … why does any sane person deserve to be delivered violence on their doorstep .. as it’s always the Farungs fault .. lucky he didn’t get into trouble from the police .. Les covered all the facts yet u criticise him ?? Hope u live in a glass house
We were together for a while before she moved in and we were together a few years before she changed, it was after the op that things went down hill. Up till then we had a great life together. Thanks for taking time to comment.
Being a man you can fight against physical violence but fighting against mental violence is a totally different matter walking away is always the best no matter how hard it is
Thanks for your words, it is not that I did not try, I did consulting Doctors, other friends talking and being on the receiving end of the violence is not good, each attack got more intense, When she came at me with the meat cleaver I did fear the worst. I never want that experience again.
Thanks so much for your comment and for watching.
Sorry to hear your story Les, it seems you were fortunate to get away from her alive...thank goodness.
In all my years, the only time i've experienced/witnessed violant behaviour is with alcohol, drugs or both being the underlying issue & common denominator.
I've been the victim, just as you have. One person who beat me to a pulp with repeated blows to my head & caused me to have a blood clot to the brain, which caused me to have a TIA/asphasia etc. This individual served 10 months in jail, yet could easily have killed me.
Guys/gals, being with or even associated with a violant individual, drink, drugs or both...get out of there, it's not worth the damage they can cause.
So sorry for u T Man .. I’m inclined to agree .. stay safe
@@t4toph
Thank you. I've actually suffered two blood clots/TIA's due to this incident.
Asphasia can be a symptom & it's the most frightening thing imaginable for a person to suffer.
Imagine you're talking to someone & it making sense in your own head, yet the words that come out of your mouth are total gobble, not even words.
The first time it happened to me, less than two weeks after my beating, it lasted 2hrs 40mins...something the hospital said was a very long time for that part of the brain to be starved of blood/oxygen.
Other than it happening again, i'm lucky that i've had no other lasting effects...that I know of.
Alcohol can turn a passive person normally into a Monster. I had a friend here who was great fun to be with until he had too much to drink then he became a monster who looked for trouble, walked into 7/11 and picked a fight with 5 Thai lads, he did not win that one.
Walk away early from these people they will give you grief later on in life.
Thanks for sharing T Man
Happy for you and stay focused and happy...much love.
Thank you! You too!🙏
Thanks for share your story 👍😀sad too hear
Thanks for watching
Quite the horror story Les. Glad you got of that awful relationship. Never tolerate any abuse - even if it's only verbal.
Thanks I agree 100% sometimes its better to walk away, I tried to fix things but failed so left for my own safety.
Thanks for watching
@@RetiredandLivingthedream Right move for sure. I walked away from my first marriage after 5 years for similar reasons. There was way less violence but any is too much for me. Happily married now for 30 to wife 2.0!
an excellent and honest video. whilst my gf is not violent at the moment,her mood swings are extreme and the jealousy of imagined girls is completely off the scale. I realise it is a cultural clash but when every generous step from you is met with indifference and just more demands then eventually a straw is broken. Thai women should come with a government health warning. I have just spent 2 years supporting one through covid and 2 weeks back via Phuket sandbox have realised it was just a waste of time. I used to be an optimist but now I believe 95% are cynical manipulators. Beware. I still love Thailand.
There are many bloggers beating the same drum on this one but it still happens, the secret is finding out your the cash cow early and walk away. There are many nice girls out there but the bad ones make better stories.
Tread carefully those who dare enter Thailand, Full of Newbies Next year and rich pickings.
Thanks for watching Enjoy Thailand.
My gf is a mature student so isn’t restricted to bargirls. I realise a lot have had a tough time as well and after quite a few short relationships I thought I might have just found someone. Would be interesting to get Les’ comments as to where a falang stands in a Thai family lol
@@cliveodonnell2498 This is a interesting question I can only give an answer to what I think as we will never know for sure.
I feel accepted by my wife's family I will never fit in as a Thai would do as culture we are far apart, I am not looked on as a provider for them I would say the opposite. Language is a barrier for sure but not impossible. I have to believe what my wife translates but I do not doubt what she tells me. I have also seen other felangs gf family expect payments for everything and demand sometimes. I am always made welcome from my wife's family and enjoy my stay. I am happy my wife can spend time with her family and do not just visit for one or two days we are there two to four weeks is normal for us. I enjoy her farm and open countryside.
Wow Les. Salutary experience, thanks for sharing and lessons and advice for us all to take away - nicely summed up into a short video.
It was hard to sum up 2 1/2 years in a 12 min video. I feel no anger towards her just sorry that I could not sort her problems out, I tried but failed. Sometimes its best to walk away and more so when your life could be in danger.
Thanks for your comments.
From what Ive seen in the Uk, thai women can be exceptionally violent and agressive. Just witnessed one loose the plot over curtains in a soft furnishings store, let out a blood curdling scream and shout abuse at her older husband who remained calm throughout the incident. It was trully mind boggling that she could get so angry about curtains.
Wow they do get angry seen it 1st hand. My wife is the complete opposite thankfully.
Shocking Les, thanks for sharing this 🙏
Thanks for listening and watching, sadly I have seen this a few times with people I know. Alcohol is involved most times.
Your a Top Man Les , For me Life is like a Book , The more Chapters in the Book then the more interesting it will be , I’m very happy for you that this particular Chapter came to an end and you managed to turn the page . I can relate to what you have shared as I had a similar situation in the Uk with a partner and it lasted for many years , Her problem was Jealousy and insecurity in an unbelievable way . I went through a very Long Rocky Road but eventually escaped . Once again Les your a Top Man 🙏🙏
Thanks Paul, only the people who have been their fully understand, I would not wish this on any person. Yes I have found happiness and live a contented life now I have learnt what I will not tolerate and will move on sooner than later. My wife is one of the best for sure.
@@RetiredandLivingthedream That’s Great to hear , where do you stay in Thailand 🇹🇭 now
@@paulturner3543 I live in Rayong, been here about 8 years but lived in Thailand for 10 years now.
@@RetiredandLivingthedream when I can get back I stay in Ban Chang with my partner, We have the Moonshine Bar in Ban Chang , Are you on Facebook or Messenger
@@paulturner3543 you can fire me an email when you return. lesliepearson58@yahoo.com
It took extraordinary courage to talk about this, your an inspiration. Abuse should never ever be tolerated. Sounds like this woman was extremely narcissistic.
Thanks for your comment, I would not say Narcissistic just troubled We had a fantastic time together before things started to go wrong, We travelled a lot we opened a coffee shop with no financial worries. I am sad it ended but I did not retire to suffer from living with a Violent partner. I tried to sort it out but was unable to do this. I decided to move on for my own safety I do not wish the girl any harm and only wish her good fortune. I hope she does well.
Thanks for watching.
Yes, a good friend had a Thai girlfriend who during one rage, placed a gun in my friend’s bureau, called the police, he was arrested, and spent 4 days in jail until his employer (he held an executive position) and the embassy had him released. He was still traumatized a half year later when I met him.
Wow, A lot of people think it is a Man hitting a woman is common and many do not see that Men can be victims also. I am a big guy and my girlfriend was small so seeing me covered in blood and not a mark on my girlfriend. I would not fight back better to walk away maybe she took this as a sign of weakness ( who knows ) but when the violence got worse it was time to go.
Yes many men can be Traumatized by such events, thanks for sharing your story and for your comment.
Obviously a tough time for you both, thanks for sharing
Thanks Mark it was a tough time for sure, but another lesson in Life.
Wow Les, you did your best. This girl had problems well beyond just alcohol. Hope she straightens herself out - if that's possible.
I hope so, I have no bad feelings towards her when she was good she was great but the down days got more and more, as I said we tried but I moved on for my own safety. I am in a far better place now and hope she is also.
Les, I think it is brave of you to share your story. It seems to have touched a chord with many of your viewers who have had similar experiences. My soon to be Chinese ex wife also had serious anger issues, and was violent with me once, though not as bad as your gf. I hope you find someone who will truly love you.
I had a Chinese wife also who was difficult to live with and we got divorced as she wanted to move back to the UK and I did not. Yes it is a personnel story but I have also talked about my divorces and Bankruptcy, not to get pity it is to give hope to those going through a hard time to say Life goes on it can be done I have had more knocks than most I would say and am happy with my life here in Thailand and I hope to inspire others that they can do this also. I have found a wonderful girl here and we have a good lifestyle.
Thanks Les for a great insight into that previous relationship , you did all you could have . Just subscribed looking forward to more videos .
Thanks Stephan, Yes I did as much as I could of done before taking my own safety 1 st being threatened with a meat cleaver is not fun, We consulted Doctors spoke to friends had many conversations about this but sadly we could not sort it out. For my own safety I moved on.
Thanks for your support and comment.
Yer,.ve bin there dun it mate thanks for sharing, good luck
Thanks 👍Joe. Be safe.
This reminds me of what happened in the condo next to mine at City Garden Pattaya a few years ago. The Thai woman was screaming at the top of her lungs and going completely crazy at the farang who was living with her. I have never heard a woman go as crazy as she did. I recorded her screams on my phone. I considered it a warning sign to be very careful giving any Thai sufficient power over me that they would consider it appropriate to behave in such a manner towards me.
Wise words, moving a Thai girl into your home to soon can end in a bad way. Then it is hard to make them leave and the damage they can cause is unbelievable. Seen a gentleman's clothes being thrown out of the fifth floor of his apartment not a happy ending.
@@RetiredandLivingthedream I was really shocked at the viciousness of the Thai woman that was screaming at her farang and what she might have been capable in terms of violence. At all times I try to keep in mind that as a farang I represent an asset to them and a very useful controllable ATM. I guess it would feel like losing the lottery for them when things go bad and they can lash out big time at us. The Thai woman and her farang got into the lift together a few hours later and never said a word to each other when I was there but knowing what went on I was nervous being next to them. It's like they were putting on an act in public like everything was fine even though it certainly wasn't. I'm taking the Kramer attitude on marriage :-) th-cam.com/video/suAhGfVr_4U/w-d-xo.html
Sorry to hear about your experience. At least you moved away from it. Have a great week.
Thanks 👍Niki and you going to try some of your great recipe's look great
@@RetiredandLivingthedream Thank you. 😊
I've heard similar issues of women that have had a hysterectomy...throw in some alcohol and a little nutty to begin with and you've got full on kook.
The first touch of any violence, she would have been gone....that might have been harsh but once violence begins it usually doesn't end.
Thanks for sharing Les...great story...sorry but I even laughed throughout it, especially when the clever came out.I guess that's why I'm still single...I don't put up with nonsense.
I looked at every way why she was behaving like this, I understand the mental pain thinking you had cancer, but the operation saved her life for sure, but I also understand the mental scar living with this, I seen this 1st hand survivor guilt with my 2nd wife as her sister died from Cancer. This is why I researched what I thought the problem might be, consulting the Doctor confirmed it was not the Hysterotomy that was causing the problem it was a mental issue. She refused to see the Crazy Doctor as suggested by the Hospital Doctor. she drank more and became more violent drinking was a trigger point for sure. I could not take here actions any more due to her violence getting worse at every argument. I tried but failed at this one.
Thanks for your comment and for watching.
@@RetiredandLivingthedream You were right Les. After thinking about my first response and recalling that I had a friend whose wife went through a similar reaction. She went from a loving person to a she devil and being violent as well. The police were called numerous times to his home and he'd explain to them her illness and basically beg that they not arrest her even though he had been brutalized. Most of the time that worked but she did get arrested one time and that made it worse.. I asked him why he didn't leave her and he said she had mental illness and that like any illness it wasn't her fault. He went through hell with her but stuck with her and eventually she got a little better...their children who were teenagers even told him to move on but he wouldn't. Certainly a better man than me and most.
You can only do so much even with the best intentions or you'll get dragged into hell as well. I guess its always easy to arm chair quarterback until you live in someone else's shoes.
You're a good man.
@@keithd1219 Good man for sticking with her, I tried this but when the meat cleaver came out my life was more important, I tried and failed sadly.
Good advice Les. Move on. Love your videos mate. Can I ask. What do you film them on? very good quality. do you film in 4 k?
Thanks Mark, All done now on my Iphone 11 and a Osmo Action camera and a DJI Mini 2, do not do the 4k as my computer struggles to render 4k. Looking to upgrade to Apple Mac Mini, I have put a request to Santa, fingers crossed. I thought the new Mac Mini was getting released this month but sadly not.
Hope this helps, thanks for watching
@@RetiredandLivingthedream gee well it is good quality.
Anybody that brings their children up saying "boys shouldn't hit girls" is a bad parent
Teach them instead that nobody should hit anybody. Otherwise you give the girl a free pass to get away with taking advantage.
I like that one David it is true.
I was told not to hit girls when I was younger a girl cut my lip open and everyone made fun of me and then another girl slapped me in the face I complained ever made fun of me all big bad Rick scared of little girl the same girl tried to get me again I strangled her and wouldn't let go for ages she was definitely losing consciousness I just left and then everyone was angry at me I was going to get expelled from school until I bring up that I have complained to at least three separate teachers on at least five occasions and that it was just off to fences I have been hit first and actually haven't hit anyone
Not possible to save or change a damaged woman.. A relationship is to enhance a person's life. Not to ruin it & be a full-time therapist. 👌
Everyone can change it was a part of my Job to help people change so it is very difficult but it can be done. I had a few successful outcomes but more failures than success. But that is life also. You can't win them all.
Thanks for your comment and for watching.
This happens a lot for Thai to Thai relations it's actually very normal if alcohol is involved your very lucky the police didn't arrest you most times no matter what it's the falungs fault especially if you have a car accident it's always our fault Les you deserve everything good shit you have had a hard life a friend of mine has a saying if you haven't got a really good relationship your better off with none
Thanks for your comment, yes my life has its ups and Downs but I would say more ups than downs. Thai girls can have many problems family pressure to provide, Alcohol drugs etc etc and these can be brought into a relationship. I see it so many times the money pressure being brought into the fold Sick Buffalo Sick family, the trick is to beware of the constant money pressure. Lean quick it is a different World living here in Thailand.
Alcohol is a real big problem in the villages lots of fighting men hit girls girls stab men it's that bloody lae cow they drink it's like bloody petrol and cheap
Les...that's no way to live and be treated no matter which country you are in and wether retired or not...dealt with loads of domestic incidents which were 90% caused by alcohol or/and drugs but mostly alcohol.. busiest day for alcohol related domestic incidents was usually Christmas Day...used to dread working late shift as we were run ragged.. remember one young man thinking he could get drunk and batter his partner on Christmas Day and couldn't be arrested because it was Christmas!...how wrong he was!
Alcohol consumption has much to answer for in the world..if you can't handle it leave it alone..have soft drinks or tea / coffee.
Have seen how the police respond over here which leaves much to be desired and of course pretty much one sided with Thais where a non Thai is involved.
Pleased it's a memory for you and you now seem to be much happier...
100% agree there is no place for violence in any relationship. My father suffered Friday evening beatings when his father got paid and went to the local pub and returned home. My Father never drank because of this.
Thanks for sharing your views on this Chris.
Right it is better to run away .
Live to fight another day. Thanks for watching
Lucky u found Ploy ... Les ...u r blessed with a winner ...
She is one in a Million for sure.
great video and very important message
Out of interest am in hearing a Teesside accent there?
Morning Tim. Yep From Sunny Redcar. Well not so sunny today and a bit cold I suspect.
Thanks for watching.
@@RetiredandLivingthedream fantastic literally just down the road from me
Your a Good guy..
Wish you the Best Fella.
From Big Mick in England.
Thanks so much for your comment have a good day.
I was married for 30yrs & my wife she had a full hysterectomy within 3 months She was aggressive and blaming me for everything and then she went off with another man at this I got a divorce. I put this down to hormones but she would never try and fix this.
Hi and thanks for sharing, we did try to solve this by seeing a Doctor she said she needed to see a ( in her words ( a Crazy Doctor, ) my gf did not like this solution and never went any further but soon after this we split after she attacked me with a knife. Best move.
Great story!
Thank you!
I am ashamed to say with alcohol she sounds like me... I once smashed up my flat 9 years ago where my wife and kids lived... it was ludicrous looking back. But I just wanted to get to a place where I didn't care. I appreciate your stories let they are very worth while. I feel sorry for her but what you did was right. You cant be responsible for other people addictions especially when they hit you. I'm still with my wife as she is chinese (every western person she knew was telling her to get a divorce). Anyway since then I retired at 40 and my temper is completely under control and limited to swearing at the extreme. Age changes you
Happy to hear you have it under control being on the other side you can see more clear what I went through, I am happy to hear you have learnt from this well done. Enjoy your older wiser retirement.
One time my dad ripped off all the radiators off the walls in the house destroyed every internal door in the house completely destroyed the bathroom broke my bed but no one else's and poured cement down the mains so that no one in the house could flush the toilet run any water then he got dressed up and my mum summer dress and driver around in his car before the police pulled him over and he got done for drink driving we all do silly things from my drunk and maybe a little tired
Thats what I was thinking...a hormone imbalance, maybe menopause. They say to see a person's true character, see them when they are drunk
Thanks for watching and taking time to comment
Sorry to hear!!
No problem life has it's ups and downs. Thanks so much for your comment.
Hi les can you give me a guide how much it be for health insurance for me in Thailand am 61 no health issues thanks
Hi les thanks for your advice and reply I hope to be over in Feb for good
I agree with the other comments there are so many options it is impossible to give the price but most people are happy with Pacific Cross I would start there.
The cycle continued because you involved the police but never pressed charges and held her accountable.
Yep I would agree with that, Thanks for your comment.
When a women gets an hysterectomy it sends her straight into menopause. For younger women it can be especially difficult. Hopefully she was getting hormone replacement therapy. The alcohol was certainly not a good idea. Unfortunately there is not much you can do but grin and bear it for a few years if you can.
I thought that and that is why we went to the Hospital, we found out it was not a full Hysterectomy they left one overy in to control the hormone release, they did some tests and said her hormones were normal and that is when they said you need to see a Crazy Doctor. I tried but I could not live with someone who became violent at nothing and attacked me and smashed everything I had. Sad I know but things like this happen.
Been there. My last wife was very violent. Now, whenever I meet a woman I tell them "If you are crazy, addicted to anything or with disease we cannot be together", and then I tell them, "plus, if you get violent or physically aggressive with me in any way, I'm gone immediately and we are done".
It's tough when you care about someone so much and then you realize it is a bad future if you stay with them. BUT, you are making the right choice.
I've noticed often times if Thai a girl comes to the conclusion she cannot rip you off she'll be extremely pissed and maybe violent. I knew a man that had a girl there who lied to him about medical care bills. They were married! He grew suspicious but wasn't sure how to investigate the issue so he told her a "necessary operation" she needed his doctor friend in the USA would do for free, since he owed him money ..this event became violent and they were divorced shortly thereafter.
Good Luck!
Wise words being straight at the beginning of a relationship is wise more so here in Thailand. Money plays a big part here let it be known you are not a cash cow from the start.
Any relationship should not have violence in it at any times but when it does its time to do something about it nip it in the bud and find the cause then try to resolve the problem.
Thanks for your comment.
@@RetiredandLivingthedream Good channel and topics. Thanks.
I’m female, I’m straight and I have no intentions to visit Thailand, yet here I am! 😂
Hi fi dvd player lol 😜😜😜 proper old school 🏫🏫🏫!!! On a more serious note sorry to hear your stuff got smashed up and all you went through!!! Smdfh!!!
Thanks for that, the worst thing was the hard drive with 5 years of my travels and pictures of the family, this can never be replaced.
Never mind you can do nothing about the past only the future.
unfortunately I seem to be trapped on one of those relationships... everyone tells me to run while i still have my legs... i probably should listen but being away in another country and only going to thailand for a few months every year makes it more tolerable.
So sorry to hear. This has to affect your feelings when you return to Thailand not having a great feeling of returning home to a loved one and wondering what is going to happen. I can only give my feeling's about what I did. Not everyone agrees with what I did but I did what I thought was the best thing to do, people deal with their own situations and do what they think best. Listen to peoples advice settle in your own mind what your going to do and do what YOU think is best for you.
Hope things improve for you and thanks for sharing.
Such a sad story 😞
Thanks for watching John.
Les, she sounds manic. Manic depressive. Very high when things are good, and crashes hard when things are not.
She was not always like this, something changed her, I thought the operation but to be 100% I do not know, she had everything a Business a good income a caring person who also helped her family out. But I tried to understand but I did not want to be with a Violent partner so I moved on.
Thanks for watching
Oh Less, how well I know a story like this. Just one chance I realized very late, run away.
You have to live it to experience it then you know how it feels. Thanks Wolfgang
My Thai wife does not drink but can seriously act crazy sometimes over spilt milk. Thank God she does not drink! I think it is common for Thai women to immitate what is often seen in public. Men depending themselves.
My wife is a very calm person and nothing much frustrates her so she is a dream to live with so easy going and goes with the flow never asks for too much and is happy with what we have.
Thanks for your comment John.
Retired and living the dream? more like a complete nightmare 🤔
It was at the time, but all is good now.
Another great video .. and the same person everytine thumbs down .. ?? Too funny .. they have such a sad existence
Yes within an hour they put the thumbs down on every video. They all count good or bad, I cant please everyone 100% of the time.
@@RetiredandLivingthedream Yes Les, they all count towards "Channel Activity" as far as the Algorithms are concerned so no disadvantage to you. All Channels seem to have the usual collection of _"Thumbs Down Devotees"_ who religiously poke the button like they're playing a Poker Machine in a Pub!
my thai mrs ( married for 12 years now divorced, 12 years ago ) was a nasty piece of work , glad to see the back of her , she went on to marry for a 4 th time to an english copper who was by all accounts worse then her , hope they are happy together
Fatal attraction maybe. Thanks for sharing.
Bloody hell Les
You’re lucky you to get away with your life. Thank you for the story and advice. They’re high spirited little buggers aren’t they? The drink unfortunately changes people. Retired life should be relaxed and happy
Not a nightmare
Hi William, it should be, retirement is a time to enjoy the fruits of your labor, not being a drinker and a people watcher it was fun to watch in Pattaya around the Bars, these Newbie Older Men being played for fools. The Older men thinking they were 18 all over again. It can be a costly lesson. It cost me over 100,000 Baht of broken destroyed items over the 2 year period. So yes I learnt a costly lesson. Better days now though.
I show what happened to me not for pity but to show others who are going through a hard time there is light at the end of the tunnel. I have had rough times but being positive gets you through these hard times.
Thanks for your comment.
Mate you are like Unlucky Alf from The Fast Show.
Bugger!
Such is Life, we win some and lose some its the lessons learnt on the way that's important.
take care mate sad sorry
Hi Brian thanks for your well wishes I look for no pity from my story, I want to warn others that if you get into this situation then you need to take action. I have seen older men getting bullied by the Young attractive girl they are with being fearful that they will run away and leave them. They ( girlfriends ) keep asking for more and more money and threatening to leave as a punishment for not complying. Some of these girls know which button to press for sure. These are not the girls you want to be with.
Thanks for your kind words and for watching.
Men can fix a lot of things,plumbing, electrical and mechanical,but not crazy. That takes a dedicated professional.
Les was a dedicated first responder and as such was often in close quarters with the dregs of humanity. Harsh words to describe our fellow humans but truth is often uncomfortable.
This leads to a feeling of normalcy after a while, blurring the lines of acceptable behavior and blinding to red flags.
The woman hid her dysfunction well,until alcohol broke the barriers to her true self. Les responded.
Hopefully being a farang in an incomprehensible environment has led to some retraining.
History learned can be history not repeated and we can all learn from Les. Men are often physically abused in domestic relationships, few have the courage to admit it.
@Alexander No,she was left with one ovary to produce estrogen. She may get depressed because she will now be childless. Domestic violence against men is a world wide problem,even in Australia with aborigines.
@Alexander No,it's not in fairness at all. Domestic violence against men is a few percentage points below women and vastly under reported. Emotional violence against men doesnt exist due to the definition of masculinity which precludes men having emotion on display.
Thanks Martin, in my role of doing many jobs during my working career I came across many mental problems I sat talking someone out of suicide for 3 hrs then after dealing with this he attempted suicide later that day, he survived but I felt a failure at not stopping this. My ex Chinese wife attempted suicide twice on our Round the World trip so I know a bit about this subject and the after affects to those who try to help.
Thanks for your comment.
Lucky there les sympathise with you
Thanks Robert, I have seen so many older guys being bullied by their Thai gf and put up with it. One guy I know was with his gf he thought she loved him whilst in Thai she was mocking him to others calling him a buffalo stupid and she was taking his money as much as she can from him and it was easy. Me and my friend could see this and we told him what was happening, he left for 2 weeks then went back to her and she carried on, she took 3 million off him in two years. The penny dropped later.
@@RetiredandLivingthedream to late cheers your so right they bullie
Blimey Les. If its not your ex wife from uk effing you over its some thai bird turned into chopper harris! Im 54 this year and never married. Apart from not having kids I have enjoyed sweet peace! Good luck.
Yep I do know how to pick them hopefully 4th time lucky. Always live in hope.
Many a firery Thai girl...
I have met a few here and seen many firery girls.
Thanks for watching.
Dude, I'd have left the first time it happened. Fuck that for a game of soldiers!
I had a few American nutcases over time like her but mine did not drink just got off hitting me and just being a wack job. I think your mistake was meeting her in a bar like most foreigners and living near Pattaya. Also, my advice is to all foreigners should learn to speak some basic Thai. Love hearing the birds in the background. Only had one Thai girlfriend had some issues like most couples but still together after twenty years.
You can meet problem girls everywhere my Chinese wife took two overdose's on our Round the World Trip I thought she had jumped from our hotel roof in Hawaii just a couple of events.
I know many people happily married to bar girls here in Thailand they are not all bad there is good and bad everywhere. I know some Hiso girls married to foreigners who treat their husbands like crap.
Thanks for your comment
Sorry u experience all of this but i think everything happens for a reason this maybe a lesson
Like is a learning curve I have lived a lot of living and done many things. No regrets only look forward never look back but learn from your mistakes. Anger and bitterness will always bring you down I am a positive person always.
Thanks for taking time to comment.
Fair play to you for trying to help her : she could of kill you : I see a lot of this in thailand. And there is no one to help .Best thing is to leave her .the thai,s will blame you .
Sooo true Harry … luck Les got away without be blamed or persecuted
It is always our fault we live in Thailand. But when its good its very good.
@@RetiredandLivingthedream I totally agree ... Things can go so pear shaped in an instant buy turn a blind eye sick it up and look around ... It's a perfect day here .. birds natural wouldn't want to be anywhere else & yes we are all in the same age bracket .. some are blessed with better health than others … good on you Les … always a Champion !!!!
Ok cashier at the bar ..... that there was your first red flag 🙄🙄🙄🙄
Hindsight is a great thing, not all girls that work in the bars are bad, I know many have made good wives and girlfriends, I have met many guys who married a bar girl and are more than happy, In fact Id say 90% of the people I have met doing this channel are with either Bar girls or massage girls, sadly the good stories do not get the views but stories about bad things that happen whilst dating Thai girls are more watched. My story with Ploy would not be interesting to many as we have no issues and live a great life together were good together and long may it last. My stories are all genuine and i tell others to show the good and bad about dating Thai girls but as a warning only. I will never Judge anyone who dates a bar girl or massage girl there is good in every one. Living here I have herd many stories both good and bad so I hope I portray a balanced opinion. After all Men come here looking for Love so it can't be all that bad.
Thanks for taking time to comment, and thanks for watching.
@@RetiredandLivingthedream lived here over 14 years heard them all mate … glad your out of the bad relationship I’ve seen it so many times with and other people you meet along the way !!!! I do disagree with your 90 % theory but yes there not all bad at all . I have many good friends bar girls…. Sounds like you have a good one now so happy days 👍👍
Many are possessed by demons over there ...
Mental issues are in every country. Thanks for watching.
sounds like a normal thai girl to me.
lol I have seen many different types here, thanks for watching.
So apparently according to my mrs, after women have had a hysterectomy they can turn into psychos. So if yer mrs needs one, maybe the writing is on the wall..
Edit: after showing my mrs the meat cleaver bit, she said its not as bad as that tho, she said she just fucking hates him.
Lol, thanks for watching. The Doctor said she needs to see a Crazy Doctor. She was not happy to hear that.
That why never buy anything on Thailand unless you want ro lose. Rent do not buy. If the lady or ladyboy acts up leave her without telling her the reason.
Thanks for your input.
I hope she doesn’t watch your channel? She might come looking for you 😂
I have talked with her a few times she is very remorseful of what she has done and I believe her she is a nice girl but with problems, I tried but failed so hopefully she will come back as a nice person in time.
Living with a younger woman and paying her monthly, weekly, or whatever can always get you in trouble.
If she has bank transfers from you she has proof you were using her as a prostitute which is illegal and could mean jail.
We "retire" here, but are always non-immigrants who must report every 90 days and renew our visa annually.
Best not to get involved to the point of living with a Thai ever if not married.
Marriage and Retirement never mix well IMO. Cannot live "the dream" while chained to one person the rest of your life
We all live a different dream, I also know a few guys who could not settle with just one girl, not my lifestyle but they seem to be happy with their way of life, 90 day reporting and renewing my visa every year is a small price to pay for the lifestyle I live here.
Cactusric:3 failed marriages, violent relationships, ignored by children, Bankrupt always a "Victim" also in failed charitable work! by Les's own admission. Living the Dream is somewhat of a Thailand arrangement like nowhere else.😱
@@heatherwatson6120 yep always picked the wrong woman as many men have done living in their home country’s then living here in Thailand is mainly the best move they have ever done. I have yet to meet a person who wanted to go back to their ex. Not one.
We all have a story to tell even you will of had your ups and downs I am sure I may of failed a few things but I tried. People can learn from failure Never marry a Western girl I learned never again..
I show the positive side of failure and show you should never give up, You it seems dwell on the negative side of things. Yes a victim but then that’s my side of the story and the ex wives will have their own and I’d bet it is totally they are in the right so always a victim in their eyes. To come to a balanced decision you need both sides.
Life is an obstacle course it’s how you get over these obstacles that really matters.being a good person gives its own rewards.
I have also met many angry ladies mostly in the U.K. who scorn the men who live here in Thailand. But never met a man with the same views.
Thanks for your comment good or bad I try to answer them all.
@@heatherwatson6120 wow that is what you take away from Les’ stories. I think, sadly, why so many Western men find more understanding partners in the East… most men just want peace and harmony, not drama and battle of expectations.
@@RetiredandLivingthedream Me doth think thou are art a victim by far too much by thine own hand...Shake-a-Spear.
This cancer comes from sex relations , most of times .
The place where you meet a girl is important .
Why not to meet a nurse or a lady teacher ?
MORE and MORE people are nuts .
Have relation with a working girl only .
Do not know what caused it but the sex industry has a part to play in this you are correct.
We meet in our future partners our own ways some more easy than others, I would not blame the Bar girls for what they do they are seeking a better life also. Less skilled than Nurses and Teachers but how do you meet these men otherwise. Many a bar girl has made a good wife and also the opposite. I know examples of both.
A lot of these farang guys meet whores and bar girls. They're not meeting average, or middle class, *normal* Thai girls.
@@juliusevola8806 please do not Tar all the bar girls and the sex industry workers with the same brush. There are good and bad in every walk of life. See the good in people and don’t label them, try life walking in their shoes for a while. It is tough for Thai people living here more so than the Western World with free handouts, Social support. Look at life with different eyes here.
Kids probably wanted kids.
She had 3 kids already
Borderline personality disorder
10:47 - holy shit.
Yep it can happen.
The girl had cancer that lead to her having a hysterectomy. Then you ask her if she had Money Problems, or was she Gambling or doing Drugs. You even highlighted your suspicions on the video in large text. Then you told her you couldn’t live with someone who was emotional or a depressive.
Well Sherlock you finally thought it might be something to do with the hysterectomy, still obviously didn’t think that having cancer might impact on her mental health.
I thought you were going to finish your video on a high with some insight into what might of happened to your girlfriend and how you were a better person from the experience. I was disappointed to hear your only advice was to move on. I hope to God you don’t have to deal with the same again, you obviously learnt absolutely nothing. Hope you managed to get your TV box sorted out.
Wow Andy, Take note these problems started before the Cancer, Also Take note I Paid for the operation, Take Note I suggested to go See the Doctor following her change of Mood to see if the problem can be found, we got the answer from the Doctor Crazy doctor needed.Being attacked for nothing is not Normal, being attacked with a meet cleaver is not Normal. Trying to find out what the problem is involves asking difficult questions. Many Thai girls have gambling addictions drug problems and the list goes on. If someone starts being different there is for sure a problem which needs sorting which I tried. One has to draw a line somewhere. I tried more than most would of done.
Andy pretty harsh words to Les .. as he really is what u see us what u get !!
Do u live in thailand Andy ?? Cause u sure seem to be on a different page .. oblivious to the realities of thai society .. there are fruit cakes everywhere that can end up in your face .. & then making demands or life threatening … if u do live here you obviously live u set a cloud ..
Hope your happy days continue …
Fortunately .. I love Les wife .. she is beautiful inside & out … why does any sane person deserve to be delivered violence on their doorstep .. as it’s always the Farungs fault .. lucky he didn’t get into trouble from the police ..
Les covered all the facts yet u criticise him ?? Hope u live in a glass house
Andy Oswald is everything I never want to be in life 😂
@@JohnMartin22222 hahahahaha
@@JohnMartin22222 you & me & most reading would agree .. just too silly
First off I commend you for not retaliating against her but you need to be mindful next time and not let another one move in with you
We were together for a while before she moved in and we were together a few years before she changed, it was after the op that things went down hill. Up till then we had a great life together. Thanks for taking time to comment.