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Paul and Morgan You should do a video about age gap relationships 🙏🏼 I’m a little bit confused, here’s the thing we’re both Christians, love God, wanna serve together but I’m way too older than she’s, like 10 years older!!! 🙆🏻♂️ Please! Some advice
Love this video. I think that you hit up all of the questions that my husband and I asked each other early on...But for us, we actually talked about most of this stuff before we even started 'officially ' dating. We started off on a friendship level with the intent of being in a relationship and that's when these questions came up. We wanted to see if our end goals were the same before we got into our relationship. What are your thoughts about a friendship stage before a dating one?
This may sound a bit weird in regards to my circumstances but here goes... I am a twice divorced 40ish woman. I was not a Christian until 6 years ago. I had no idea how to date in a Christian relationship and not use the ways of the world to guide and lie to me. My church family has been giving me knowledge about it, but your videos are very focused and practical too. As I grow ever closer to the Lord, I am learning what Christian relationships should be. You are great "teachers", living in the Lord together! Thank you for the lessons you share with ALL of us!
Christine “And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.” Mark 10:12 KJV www.bible.com/1/mrk.10.12.kjv
@@firaolasana2262 "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" 1 John 1:9. My heart is good thanks for asking, hope yours is too.
1. Where is your walk with the Lord? 2. How serious are you about finding a husband or wife? 3. Physical Boundaries? 4. Relationships with their family? 5. What's your career path plan? 6. Would you prefer that the wife works or is a stay at home mom? 7. What do you think about kids? 8. Be gentle about this one: Are they saving themselves/ abstinence? Don't forget to have fun on these dates! 😁
The first question is soo important, but what Paul said about “knowing them by their fruit” is doubly as important. They can say all they want about how invested they are in their walk with the Lord, but if there isn’t a heart change and actions that spring from that...might be a red flag.
Love it! One thing I would add, If someone has a negative relationship with their family to not hold that against them, you never know the full story there. I agree on the person not gossiping to you about their family especially not in the first date or two. But to not count that as a deal breaker. You never know what a person has endured from their “family”
Hey! I really appreciate you guys talking about what intentional Christian dating looks like! People in our generation needs to listen to this!!! I've been raised to intentionally date for marriage, and it is rare that I find others who agree with this kind of dating/relationships! Thank you, Paul & Morgan!!
First date: Morgan: hi! Paul: Are you serious about finding a husband? Because. . 🤗😂 haha.. .love you guys!! Great topic. Boundaries are so important to discuss as well as probing for a genuine faith. And seeking to know the trajectory of his/her life is great too! Don't waste your time by settling when you could have God's best.
I am grateful for Paul and Morgan's video . I am applying everything I have learnt from Paul and Morgan currently in my relationship. We have been dating for 3months and we have not kissed, I learnt this from Paul n Morgan. I ask him about sexual boundaries early on in the relationship and this helped us to be on the same page. In the past I would kiss on the first date, but I am a lot happier with the sexual boundaries I have in this relationship. Please pray for me that God gives me wisdom and guidance in this relationship
Paul and Morgan so you two no you come across as idiotic brainwashed cult members who barely understand your own religion. You call others out for sin whilst uaving tattoos and shaving your beard which are considered far more sinful in the bible
So excited for this series!! I feel like this came at the perfect time in my life. Even though I'm kinda young, it still really helps to know all this beforehand. Love you Paul and Morgan! Also, that intro though 😆😂
Cool that you talked about over seas missions and dating a bit. I thought the title of the video said it was about international dating. Haha. You should talk about long distance relationships sometime.
Haha, before we started dating, we totally asked question after question and it was definitely like an interview!! But it honestly worked out for us because we didn't want to get involved with each other if we weren't on similar life paths. We definitely had specific goals and expectations in place, so asking everything (even marriage and children) was critical! People thought we were so weird for discussing all this stuff prior to entering into a relationship, yet our thinking was, "why date someone if you aren't compatible and don't intend to marry them?". We wanted to gather all the information we could!!! By the way, your hair is so beautiful, Morgan!
nice video 😁 one question i would ask: „What did you experienced with god“ ore „how and why did you decided to give your live to Jesus?“ I hope my english is okay. I‘m from germany and enjoy watching your videos. 😊
Great job guys, have to be intentional. Huge question(s) to ask also is on biblical roles in marriage, is she comfortable with submission? How does he plan on being the spiritual leader? What does all this look like? Etc.
Something I think is super valuable to know is how do they view authority are they under authority are they surrounding themselves with accountability.
Hey guys! I loved the video; asking questions is really good to get to know each other, but I want to share one thing I did and it helped me A LOT with this process that is to ask the Holy Spirit some of these questions and also pray for Him to show you who in fact the person you like is, because it can happen that the person maybe lie to you or keep things from you, so... the Holy Spirit won't! He is the truth so He'll show you everything. I'll give you an example on how I did my prayer: "Holy Spirit, I pray for You to show me who this person is; show me the good parts of him and the bad ones as well, and also show him who I am, so we don't need to have any kind of doubts in between." You need to truly know someone so you can be able to decide if you wanna choose this person to be with you in a relationship. Remember, the Lord will help you, but the choice is yours. ☺😄😘❤
This series is gonna be great!! Much love for you guys! Morgan you have helped me so much with realizing my authority over depression. Keep on doing what the Lord has called y’all to do :) Y’all are amazing 💗💗
6:05 please be mindful that a lot of people aren’t lucky enough to be raised by loving parents. Many had ones who neglected and abused them. If their relationship is strained, there’s a good chance it’s due to the parent and not the child.
If your parents are Christians, I'd love an episode where you interview them and how they were involved in the intentional dating process. When did the parents meet the other parents?
Hey Paul and Morgan! Absolutely loved this video, especially you’re guys advice of asking what the other person’s physical boundaries are on the first date. Another great question to ask early on is what are your short and long term goals. His or her answer will determine whether you want to be a part of that plan or not. Take care, loves ❤️☀️
Spot on! My fiance and I courted each other, which goes against what the world does. We both asked the questions you mentioned with other questions as well, which definitely is important.
good advice here. the sooner you get those big important questions out of the way, the less wasted time with the wrong person. simple as that. too many spend so much wasted time with the wrong person and do not even covers these important topics. Blessings.
Do you strive to follow God with all your heart and try to make God 1st with everything in your life? I know some people that say they’re Christians, but don’t seem to add God in anything in their life, so I would want to clarify to have God in Are relationship, not just on the side when we’re bored:)
And about viewing the parents in a negative light, what about people who have been hurt by their parents. What about a child brought up in a narcissistic family and has negative view of the parent? What if a child does not have a good relationship with a parent because all the parent does is hurt the child? Just a thought 💭
I think letting them know you had a tough time with your parents for whatever reason is okay. Gossip though is not. Gossip is talking someone down, but expressing your hurt is something different. You could have had a bad relationship/still might even, but if you still have a godly love towards those people, it will show in the way you speak.
So for me and my boyfriend this was something we had to work through. To give you an understanding his father was a hard man to love. He made a lot of mistakes and did hurt the man I care about and give him issues we work together on and make work. And that’s okay. Am I happy what happened? No. But he’s still my boyfriend’s father. I have to forgive and accept the past, and while I want to be upset it’s honestly important to understand that God used that to shape him into the man I hold dear to my heart. And for my boyfriend I know when I told him about my abusive history with my father it was a tough topic. We had to sit down and honestly it’s really just about looking at the bright sides of it or accepting it happened. I’m not saying you have to love them, but always take into consideration how God would want you to feel and how your lover feels.
@@jesswollf so beautiful to read that you and your boyfriend helped each other in this difficulty. Family problems are very big and it is important to have someone there by your side to help you heal in Jesus name and with God's help. 🙏🏻☺️
I would ask what they think about gender roles :) Also a really cool question I'd love to ask is what they think their weaknesses are. I'd want to ask that cause I bet you could tell a lot about a person by how they answer that question! It would be interesting to see how open they are about their weaknesses, and whether they have a healthy humility. And adding to what you said about the virginity question, I would say it's good to ask that question providing you make clear that you won't judge them for their answer, and explain that you just feel it's something important you should know about one another from a communication point of view.
"You don't flirt to convert and you don't date to save." I like that a lot. It reminds me of a time where I was talking to one of my closest friends about I guy I was "dating" that was Christian, but we didn't have much in common and seemed to bump heads a lot. I told her "I only wanted to get to know him because he was Christian" and she was like "Well, you don't know if someone could come to Jesus because of you..." And I stopped there because I didn't want to debate (she was raised Christian, but doesn't really walk with the Lord). Yes, someone could come to Jesus because of you, but not in a romantic relationship necessarily. I've seen it happen multiple times and Glory to God for that, but that can't be your goal because it will cause frustration and hurt. Only God can convert and transform someone, not us. We could be used by Him to guide people, but not make them do something.
Haha!! I was going to mention you’re hair to Morgan, looking lush. This is great advice, now saved into my favourites folder as if hope that at some point I would be needing this :) It’s really making me see the real importance of dating
Don’t flirt to convert. Don’t date to save. This is gold! I made this mistake and it ultimately ends up being a very painful breakup after dating long-term...
Paul and Morgan You should do a video about age gap relationships 🙏🏼 I’m a little bit confused, here’s the thing we’re both Christians, love God, wanna serve together but I’m way too older than she’s, like 10 years older!!! 🙆🏻♂️ Please! Some advice
I think money, health, diet, exercise is important. I don’t want someone who’s working out to get a wife and then is gonna be a couch potato once we’re married 😂 someone who is always working on themself!
There is an awesome book my boyfriend and I have been going through called 101 Questions to Ask Before Getting Engaged by H. Norman Wright. This book asks you and your partner the questions you might have never thought about asking each other or thought would cause potential problems in the future! And Bonus the author is a Christian so there are a lot of questions about faith in there as well 😊
I'll be honest, I don't agree with a lot of what y'all say, but this video was really good! I totally agree, get to know someone quickly so you don't waste your time.
How do you bring up these topics. Like you don’t say hi and sit down and ask what’s your walk with the lord like. How to you get into meaningful convos
I really want to start dating, but I don't know how or where to start. How do you meet new people? And what happens when absolutely no one is interested in dating you?
Abby Oller i mentioned the idea that u stars in ur second question in another comment reply. I was raised from the time I was 8 with a Catholic step family and a Protestant biological family. I lived with my mom (protestant) and step dad (raised Catholic but converted to protestant (Presbyterian) but his parents and moms side are still catholic so I’ve been exposed to it a lot). I also live in a very heavily catholic area. I attended an Evangelical Presbyterian Church for 10 years (ages 8-18) but I have attended catholic weddings and funerals and rosaries, have very close catholic friends, and have studied it. There are many fundamental differences between the 2 denominations. I feel like there could be an issue in marriage of where to attend church, especially once kids come into the picture. It’s extremely confusing for a kid to have parents who believe 2 different things. I feel like it would just be a very sticky situation. Also, independent fundamental Baptists (protestant) hate Catholics. I attended an IFB school for 5 years while attending a Presbyterian Church living in a heavily catholic town/region (confusing? Yes!) and they very openly spoke against Catholicism.
Gracy I have been dating a Catholic for 19 months now and we are seriously considering marriage. He actually converted from his parent’s religion of southern baptist to Catholic while still a teenager. It shows that he doesn’t just live for the Lord because someone says he has to, but because he knows Him from his own experience. That being said, I am still attending the American Baptist Church I grew up in, but consider myself a nondenominational. I also practice head covering and don’t believe in birth control, so my only worry is having to raise my kids as Catholics. I would prefer for them to be baptized when they’re old enough to accept the concept...and want them to also take communion at my church. Satan has been trying to separate us, and I can feel him constantly trying to uproot the relationship. He even almost died last summer, but we have only grown closer through the struggles we’ve faced.
Abby Oller I personally would not date a Catholic. They have different beliefs from the the Christian faith. I believe their would be a lot of tension and if you could really be your complete self with them. Could he truly lead you as a man of God.
@@gracyk9934 If it helps, not all Presbyterians hate Catholics. In fact, where I live the local Catholic and Presbyterian church works together for bible schools and other events
Good video! Y'all are lookin' even better than usual for some reason. :) My mindset is to just use the first date as a time to get to know the person in general, see how they act, and what they like. But by the 2nd or third date, maybe start rolling out the big questions, maybe 2-3 per date depending on how long the conversations go. Looking forward to watching the rest of the series. One thing to keep in mind is that your advice is mostly geared toward people who are in the position where they are ready for marriage. For people who are a bit younger, I would give advice a little differently. (ex. Perhaps being careful with conversations about sexuality/past stuff. It could be fine, but if there are years and years ahead before marriage, knowing a person on that level that early could make things difficult.) Looking forward to when you hit 250 Patrons. :D
Any tips for long-distance dating? Trying to get to know someone who is a 15 hour car ride away. How often should you text, FaceTime, talk on the phone? Should the same intentional dating questions be asked if your not going on physical dates?
Any advice on how to go about getting into a relationship when you already have a child but has found God and left those ways behind?. I feel like no christian guy is ever going to want to marry me.💔
The Lord will provide a godly husband to you in his timing. Until then pray that the lord prepares you (and your future husband) to be a godly virtues wife and husband :) God bless !
I'm sixteen and I really like a girl and she also likes me allot, but neither of us are ready to date. Can y'all make a video on situations like these. Y'all are great. (Goals)
You both like each other but have no intention to date one another. In my opinion, you both need to first leave each other alone. Get your priorities straight, find out what exactly you both want because I think you will both just end up hurt if you continue to see each other without clear intentions of whatever it is that might happen. You only have one life, you don't want to have a history of being hurt so young.
@@thelmamadrine38 Well what we're doing is not seeing each other if it's not a big group of people, so that things don't escalated too much. I guess we're trying to be good friends before we go into any deeper relationship.
Hey guys, could you mention in one of the next videos your advice to the situation when you see your partner is getting away from God or just doing some stuff you know is not very good for him/her, but you don't know how to say it out loud and help him/her come back? Did you have any experience, when Paul was the one, who needed Morgan's words and help, so he could realise something in his life?
Yaass!! So excited for this series!! 🤩💃 Can't wait for the next episode! Whoop whoop! Maybe you could talk about how long is okay to be texting someone your interested in and/or dating... 🙌 Loved this! P.S. Yes, Morgan, your hair looks so pretty! 😍💖
Hey thanks for another great video. One things that would be great to talk about is that virginity and purity are not the same thing. Someone may not be a virgin because of upbringing or a bad start in life be they love God and are pure in heart and mind. Also there is a great resource called Moral Revolution its a book and teaching that you might love.
I'd say a big question is to ask if they have ever or currently use pornography. Question for Paul and Morgan: How important is it to be of the same Christian denomination in your opinion?
Hockey Scouting Reports with Matt Levine yes that is a very legitimate question. As far as denominations, as long as their faith is genuine, I don’t think that needs to be a deal breaker :)
Hockey Scouting Reports with Matt Levine i think denomination can be important cause like, for an example, Catholic vs Mennonite/anabaptist or anabaptist vs Baptist (BIG differences here despite name similarities). And there’s a million other possible combinations of denominations that all fall under “Christianity” but are VERY different. The ones I listed are just ones I have personal experience with that are drastically different. Now does the label of a denomination matter? I guess not so much, but you want to make sure your beliefs align because I can think of multiple major and minor differences between just the denominations I listed that could lead to a lot of conflict. Also, if u get married where will you go to church and in what denomination/church will you raise your kids? I’ve seen and experienced this be a big issue in married couples, especially with kids. Having 2 parents with different beliefs (even with Christianity) can be extremely confusing for the kids. On the surface denomination doesn’t seem to matter, but if u dig into it deeper it really can. Now if your talking like Methodist vs Baptist vs Presbyterian, those are all Protestant and extremely similar and not as big of a deal (in my opinion). But if your talkin Catholic vs. Protestant vs. anabaptist, there are some major fundamental differences there.
I am currently a junior in high school with dreams of a very extensive career, regarding years in school, leaving me no time to date with the intention of marriage. Nonetheless, I love watching your videos and preparing myself for those days when they come!
Nick Hawk I am a senior in high school and in the same predicament but do you think it’s too soon to ask about marriage or worry about serious dating at our age?
Mari Talavera, good question! I am honored that you would ask me lol, as me being only a junior in high school still “figuring things out.” But, I dont believe that it is “too early” to ask about marriage or “serious dating.” Here’s why... We know that Satan can lure us into sins as teenagers, such as pornography, that can harmfully affect our marriages later down the road. If then there are things that can HARMFULLY affect our marriages as teenagers (not yet married), then there also must be good things that we as teenagers can do that will benefit our marriages (and dating lives and the like) later in life. We can do things such as reading the Word, learning God’s ultimate design for marriage, or inquiring from married adults what they wished they would’ve known before getting married, and whatever else that may “prepare” us for marriage. (Watching Paul and Morgans videos is a great idea too! Lol) Therefore, I do not believe that it is “too early” to ask about marriage or “serious dating.” I hope that makes sense lol.
Thank you! Yes I just wanted to know your insight being young too but still wanting to live right. I’ve watched many Christian youtubers that did ask those questions young but because of the claim that we’re "still figuring things out", I thought I was getting ahead of myself for wanting someone to have the intentions of marriage if I am in a relationship with them.
My boyfriend is Agnostic while I"m Catholic. We sometimes talk about my religion but he is willing to go to Mass, Adoration Chapel, etc with me. I don't know what to do any advice?
What is more important to them: working later hours to better the family financially or spending more time with less money with your family. Not black and white of course but see what page they are on!
I have a question. How do you even find a woman who is willing to date intentionally? I'm getting stuck on this part. It is easier to get a woman to send me (a stranger) semi-nude photographs of herself than it is for me to get a woman who will respond positively to a statement that I'm looking for a wife. There are old ladies who are serious about marriage, but I'm 28 and I'd really much rather marry a woman younger than me than one who is older.
Thank so you much... Paul and Morgan! This particular video has touched me and I can relate to it practically. I am excited for the next parts 😊. (When I watch these videos and I see the unlikes I’m like 🧐🥺,...what don’t they like about this awesome video?)
I have a question that I’ve had on my mind for a while. It’s not really related to this video but here it is: What’s the Christian view on the death penalty? I actually don’t know if it’s okay or not, and I was wondering if you guys could help me answer it? Thanks 😊
I'm dating a nonchristian man. But he does seem to want something serious with me, I met him at school and we were good friends for a while first and neither really had intentions of eventually dating but we happened to like each other and he isnt the the type to pressure me to change but the opposite ..he encourages me to do keep going if loving and seeking God is my priority and doesnt want me to break my morals just to satisfy him . I have told him i want to save myself and wait till marriage and he has treated me very nice and has not only proofed how much he likes and appreciates me with words but with actions. My family is about to meet him too and many who know us agree and are happy for us because we treat each other right but just like i have thought about it.. others who are Christian have also mentioned to me that it is risky and he needs to be a Christian and I also have that on mind . What should I do? I dont want to break his heart and leave him after all he has done for me.
First of all you absolutely owe him nothing. I understand that he has done a lot for you and cares about you, but don't let that be the reason that you stay in a relationship that is not the one God has for you. Now secondly, just because he is not currently a Christian doesn't mean he is not "the one" for you. I would take this to God and pray about it for awhile. Know that God does want you to have a relationship with someone who is equally yoked so that y'all can lead each other in your faith. I know everything seems fine right now, but eventually there will be some tension if you are striving towards God and he is not. This guy does sound like a great guy and he probably is, but there are quite a few great guys out there. Again this doesn't mean he isn't the one for you, but I would take some time to pray and see if he comes to faith. I would not encourage missionary dating though. Whatever decision you make remember that if it is in God's plan for you to marry he has a Godly man for you who will reflect lead you towards Christ. I will be praying for God to give you wisdom and guidance in this decision.
@@Gigi-en5xw I recently had a non- Christian pursue me for almost three months before I told him that I couldn't date him. I felt bad like you do, but I had to remember that if I kept it going it was going to end up hurting us both. You don't have to feel bad for feeling this way. Because he cares about me we are still close friends. I think he is a great guy, but he is not the one for me. I also understand what it's like to want to hang on to your first real relationship. I'm currently 17, but last year I ended up spending way too much time in a relationship that with a great guy that just wasn't right for me because it was my first relationship. I have now been single for 8 months and I have learned to be okay with that. I know it's hard. You don't have to apologize for feeling these things just remember don't settle for anything less than God's best for you.
@@Howdy2024thank you so much for taking your time and answering my comments, means a lot to be honest 😥 ...I've had this in mind for a while and since I lack of Christian friends I really felt like I needed to tell someone with the same faith and give me some thoughts about this situation. Thank you Abigail! God bless you so much.
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I'd also ask where their faith interacts with their hot button issue beliefs (abortion, vaccinations, feminism, etc.)
I would ask if they use/have used pornography.
Great video as always! love the questions so good thankyou 😊 important to bring things to the table when dating for marriage.
Paul and Morgan You should do a video about age gap relationships 🙏🏼 I’m a little bit confused, here’s the thing we’re both Christians, love God, wanna serve together but I’m way too older than she’s, like 10 years older!!! 🙆🏻♂️ Please! Some advice
Love this video. I think that you hit up all of the questions that my husband and I asked each other early on...But for us, we actually talked about most of this stuff before we even started 'officially ' dating. We started off on a friendship level with the intent of being in a relationship and that's when these questions came up. We wanted to see if our end goals were the same before we got into our relationship. What are your thoughts about a friendship stage before a dating one?
“Lock me up for being too forward and godly” 😂
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Morgan your hair is looking fabulous 😊
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You're so right!! Gorgeous.
This may sound a bit weird in regards to my circumstances but here goes...
I am a twice divorced 40ish woman. I was not a Christian until 6 years ago. I had no idea how to date in a Christian relationship and not use the ways of the world to guide and lie to me. My church family has been giving me knowledge about it, but your videos are very focused and practical too. As I grow ever closer to the Lord, I am learning what Christian relationships should be. You are great "teachers", living in the Lord together! Thank you for the lessons you share with ALL of us!
Awe thanks for sharing, Christine. That’s so encouraging to hear!
Christine “And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.”
Mark 10:12 KJV
www.bible.com/1/mrk.10.12.kjv
@@firaolasana2262 that is so unhelpful and negative. Who are you to condemn? God bless you Christine xxxxx
clara that’s the word of God, check your heart if you really think that way because you obviously shouldn’t be.
@@firaolasana2262 "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" 1 John 1:9. My heart is good thanks for asking, hope yours is too.
1. Where is your walk with the Lord?
2. How serious are you about finding a husband or wife?
3. Physical Boundaries?
4. Relationships with their family?
5. What's your career path plan?
6. Would you prefer that the wife works or is a stay at home mom?
7. What do you think about kids?
8. Be gentle about this one: Are they saving themselves/ abstinence?
Don't forget to have fun on these dates! 😁
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The first question is soo important, but what Paul said about “knowing them by their fruit” is doubly as important. They can say all they want about how invested they are in their walk with the Lord, but if there isn’t a heart change and actions that spring from that...might be a red flag.
Love it! One thing I would add,
If someone has a negative relationship with their family to not hold that against them, you never know the full story there. I agree on the person not gossiping to you about their family especially not in the first date or two. But to not count that as a deal breaker. You never know what a person has endured from their “family”
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I totally agree!
Yes, that def does not mean it’s a deal breaker :) A person is not defined by their family’s shortcomings
ok but seriously morgan, what kind of shampoo and conditioner do you use??? Because I NEED that shine and softness😍
try strict carnivore for 60-90 days. Check out "Steak and Butter Gal" here on youtube.
Going to a church singles event next fri, speed dating and such... I'm excited!!! Love these ideas!!
Go get em!😄
It was a terrible experience... felt like high school all over again. Ugh
The event was terrible btw....felt like high school
Hey! I really appreciate you guys talking about what intentional Christian dating looks like! People in our generation needs to listen to this!!! I've been raised to intentionally date for marriage, and it is rare that I find others who agree with this kind of dating/relationships! Thank you, Paul & Morgan!!
Thanks for the comment!❤️
I think that talking about the family is so important! If he can respect his parents regardless of whether or not he agrees with them...
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First date:
Morgan: hi!
Paul: Are you serious about finding a husband? Because. . 🤗😂 haha.. .love you guys!! Great topic. Boundaries are so important to discuss as well as probing for a genuine faith. And seeking to know the trajectory of his/her life is great too! Don't waste your time by settling when you could have God's best.
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I am grateful for Paul and Morgan's video . I am applying everything I have learnt from Paul and Morgan currently in my relationship. We have been dating for 3months and we have not kissed, I learnt this from Paul n Morgan. I ask him about sexual boundaries early on in the relationship and this helped us to be on the same page. In the past I would kiss on the first date, but I am a lot happier with the sexual boundaries I have in this relationship.
Please pray for me that God gives me wisdom and guidance in this relationship
Really excited for this series and you guys are so inspirational! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
kenzie thank you!❤️
Paul and Morgan so you two no you come across as idiotic brainwashed cult members who barely understand your own religion.
You call others out for sin whilst uaving tattoos and shaving your beard which are considered far more sinful in the bible
I was about to comment on her hair within the first minute of this😂👌🏻
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So excited for this series!! I feel like this came at the perfect time in my life. Even though I'm kinda young, it still really helps to know all this beforehand. Love you Paul and Morgan!
Also, that intro though 😆😂
Christina Dimidenko so glad to hear that!❤️
The same applies to me!
How old are you? I’m a 17 year old Christian male
Cool that you talked about over seas missions and dating a bit. I thought the title of the video said it was about international dating. Haha. You should talk about long distance relationships sometime.
Haha, before we started dating, we totally asked question after question and it was definitely like an interview!! But it honestly worked out for us because we didn't want to get involved with each other if we weren't on similar life paths. We definitely had specific goals and expectations in place, so asking everything (even marriage and children) was critical! People thought we were so weird for discussing all this stuff prior to entering into a relationship, yet our thinking was, "why date someone if you aren't compatible and don't intend to marry them?". We wanted to gather all the information we could!!! By the way, your hair is so beautiful, Morgan!
Maddie and Chris thanks for sharing!
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one question i would ask: „What did you experienced with god“ ore „how and why did you decided to give your live to Jesus?“
I hope my english is okay. I‘m from germany and enjoy watching your videos. 😊
Omozee Marie Irabor love that question 😊
Lon Spector that‘s true 😊
Great job guys, have to be intentional. Huge question(s) to ask also is on biblical roles in marriage, is she comfortable with submission? How does he plan on being the spiritual leader? What does all this look like? Etc.
I dont get how people can call them condescending like they're just speaking their truth for people like us who ask for it
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Something I think is super valuable to know is how do they view authority are they under authority are they surrounding themselves with accountability.
Hey guys! I loved the video; asking questions is really good to get to know each other, but I want to share one thing I did and it helped me A LOT with this process that is to ask the Holy Spirit some of these questions and also pray for Him to show you who in fact the person you like is, because it can happen that the person maybe lie to you or keep things from you, so... the Holy Spirit won't! He is the truth so He'll show you everything. I'll give you an example on how I did my prayer: "Holy Spirit, I pray for You to show me who this person is; show me the good parts of him and the bad ones as well, and also show him who I am, so we don't need to have any kind of doubts in between." You need to truly know someone so you can be able to decide if you wanna choose this person to be with you in a relationship. Remember, the Lord will help you, but the choice is yours. ☺😄😘❤
This series is gonna be great!! Much love for you guys! Morgan you have helped me so much with realizing my authority over depression. Keep on doing what the Lord has called y’all to do :)
Y’all are amazing 💗💗
Kelsi Gambill awe so happy to hear that, girl! God bless❤️
6:05 please be mindful that a lot of people aren’t lucky enough to be raised by loving parents. Many had ones who neglected and abused them. If their relationship is strained, there’s a good chance it’s due to the parent and not the child.
If your parents are Christians, I'd love an episode where you interview them and how they were involved in the intentional dating process. When did the parents meet the other parents?
Cool idea :)
Hey Paul and Morgan! Absolutely loved this video, especially you’re guys advice of asking what the other person’s physical boundaries are on the first date. Another great question to ask early on is what are your short and long term goals. His or her answer will determine whether you want to be a part of that plan or not. Take care, loves ❤️☀️
Yes so true 😊
so right about the boundaries. did not do it soon enough in my last relationship and it back fired so bad
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Spot on!
My fiance and I courted each other, which goes against what the world does. We both asked the questions you mentioned with other questions as well, which definitely is important.
Love hearing that😊
Morgan you look beautiful! (As always of course)
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good advice here. the sooner you get those big important questions out of the way, the less wasted time with the wrong person. simple as that. too many spend so much wasted time with the wrong person and do not even covers these important topics. Blessings.
Yes right on :)
First one! ♥️ love you guys! Have yet to watch the video, but I honestly really needed this one! Yay!
Madison Levin glad to hear it!❤️
My utmost applause to both of you...you are so in the right direction the right advice at the right time ...big thank you
Thank you both for being so encouraging and giving practical advice for people wanting to live above reproach! I’m thankful for all y’all’s videos🤗
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Do you strive to follow God with all your heart and try to make God 1st with everything in your life?
I know some people that say they’re Christians, but don’t seem to add God in anything in their life, so I would want to clarify to have God in Are relationship, not just on the side when we’re bored:)
Yes right on😊
And about viewing the parents in a negative light, what about people who have been hurt by their parents. What about a child brought up in a narcissistic family and has negative view of the parent? What if a child does not have a good relationship with a parent because all the parent does is hurt the child? Just a thought 💭
I think letting them know you had a tough time with your parents for whatever reason is okay. Gossip though is not. Gossip is talking someone down, but expressing your hurt is something different. You could have had a bad relationship/still might even, but if you still have a godly love towards those people, it will show in the way you speak.
So for me and my boyfriend this was something we had to work through.
To give you an understanding his father was a hard man to love. He made a lot of mistakes and did hurt the man I care about and give him issues we work together on and make work.
And that’s okay. Am I happy what happened? No. But he’s still my boyfriend’s father. I have to forgive and accept the past, and while I want to be upset it’s honestly important to understand that God used that to shape him into the man I hold dear to my heart.
And for my boyfriend I know when I told him about my abusive history with my father it was a tough topic. We had to sit down and honestly it’s really just about looking at the bright sides of it or accepting it happened.
I’m not saying you have to love them, but always take into consideration how God would want you to feel and how your lover feels.
@@jesswollf so beautiful to read that you and your boyfriend helped each other in this difficulty. Family problems are very big and it is important to have someone there by your side to help you heal in Jesus name and with God's help. 🙏🏻☺️
I would ask what they think about gender roles :) Also a really cool question I'd love to ask is what they think their weaknesses are. I'd want to ask that cause I bet you could tell a lot about a person by how they answer that question! It would be interesting to see how open they are about their weaknesses, and whether they have a healthy humility. And adding to what you said about the virginity question, I would say it's good to ask that question providing you make clear that you won't judge them for their answer, and explain that you just feel it's something important you should know about one another from a communication point of view.
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Great advice as always! Thanks so much I'm excited for this video series! You both look awesome! Love yall so much!! God bless you!💕😁
Thanks for this video just entered into a Christian relationship and wanting to get it right
Thank you for handling this topic with so much respect and sensitivity ❤
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Morgan what does your tatoo mean to you. Just curious😊
Now I'm excited for this series!
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Thanks so much for this video! Loved what you said about seeing the fruit produced. We're excited for the next videos in this series!
G&A forToday awe thank you!
"You don't flirt to convert and you don't date to save." I like that a lot. It reminds me of a time where I was talking to one of my closest friends about I guy I was "dating" that was Christian, but we didn't have much in common and seemed to bump heads a lot. I told her "I only wanted to get to know him because he was Christian" and she was like "Well, you don't know if someone could come to Jesus because of you..." And I stopped there because I didn't want to debate (she was raised Christian, but doesn't really walk with the Lord). Yes, someone could come to Jesus because of you, but not in a romantic relationship necessarily. I've seen it happen multiple times and Glory to God for that, but that can't be your goal because it will cause frustration and hurt. Only God can convert and transform someone, not us. We could be used by Him to guide people, but not make them do something.
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Haha!! I was going to mention you’re hair to Morgan, looking lush.
This is great advice, now saved into my favourites folder as if hope that at some point I would be needing this :)
It’s really making me see the real importance of dating
Don’t flirt to convert. Don’t date to save. This is gold! I made this mistake and it ultimately ends up being a very painful breakup after dating long-term...
Paul and Morgan You should do a video about age gap relationships 🙏🏼 I’m a little bit confused, here’s the thing we’re both Christians, love God, wanna serve together but I’m way too older than she’s, like 10 years older!!! 🙆🏻♂️ Please! Some advice
I think money, health, diet, exercise is important. I don’t want someone who’s working out to get a wife and then is gonna be a couch potato once we’re married 😂 someone who is always working on themself!
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DON'T FLIRT TO CONVERT!
That needs to be a shirt!😅😅
Praises Burwaa RIGHT?!? I would totally buy it!
The word shirt rhymes with it too!
There is an awesome book my boyfriend and I have been going through called 101 Questions to Ask Before Getting Engaged by H. Norman Wright. This book asks you and your partner the questions you might have never thought about asking each other or thought would cause potential problems in the future! And Bonus the author is a Christian so there are a lot of questions about faith in there as well 😊
Sarah Veilleux i have this book too!!
Sounds like a really good book!
I have that book too!
I'll be honest, I don't agree with a lot of what y'all say, but this video was really good! I totally agree, get to know someone quickly so you don't waste your time.
Lighting looks great in this one 👍🏽
Awesome 😊
Yay I'm gonna love this series, love u guys 💕
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Paul's right. Your hair looks even more phenomenally good than usual. Good advice, too. :0)
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I totally agree with you. When I dated I asked early days too. Just to make sure I dated the right person but I got invested
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Thank you for this video really helping. I really want do things the right way if my current situation.
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How do you bring up these topics. Like you don’t say hi and sit down and ask what’s your walk with the lord like. How to you get into meaningful convos
I think you look for a ice breaker then just be genuine and sweet. Try to the person laugh first to calm down the mood
More wisdom as usual. You both communicate so well. Morgan, how do you get your hair so flawless? Serious question.
I really want to start dating, but I don't know how or where to start. How do you meet new people? And what happens when absolutely no one is interested in dating you?
Michaela Huffman you should watch the video we just did ‘4 ways to meet the one God has for you’
Yesss!! Been waiting for this upload! 😜😜
"The *BIG MAMA **_J U I C Y_* qUeStIoNs!"
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Love you guys and so glad I found your channel! This video comes at a perfect time as I’m at the beginning of a possible relationship. Much love 💕
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How old were you when you started dating/ married. Also, what do you think about Catholic-Protestant marriage??
Abby Oller i mentioned the idea that u stars in ur second question in another comment reply. I was raised from the time I was 8 with a Catholic step family and a Protestant biological family. I lived with my mom (protestant) and step dad (raised Catholic but converted to protestant (Presbyterian) but his parents and moms side are still catholic so I’ve been exposed to it a lot). I also live in a very heavily catholic area. I attended an Evangelical Presbyterian Church for 10 years (ages 8-18) but I have attended catholic weddings and funerals and rosaries, have very close catholic friends, and have studied it. There are many fundamental differences between the 2 denominations. I feel like there could be an issue in marriage of where to attend church, especially once kids come into the picture. It’s extremely confusing for a kid to have parents who believe 2 different things. I feel like it would just be a very sticky situation. Also, independent fundamental Baptists (protestant) hate Catholics. I attended an IFB school for 5 years while attending a Presbyterian Church living in a heavily catholic town/region (confusing? Yes!) and they very openly spoke against Catholicism.
Wow, they hate Catholics? That doesn’t seem like something from the holy spirit
Gracy I have been dating a Catholic for 19 months now and we are seriously considering marriage. He actually converted from his parent’s religion of southern baptist to Catholic while still a teenager. It shows that he doesn’t just live for the Lord because someone says he has to, but because he knows Him from his own experience.
That being said, I am still attending the American Baptist Church I grew up in, but consider myself a nondenominational. I also practice head covering and don’t believe in birth control, so my only worry is having to raise my kids as Catholics. I would prefer for them to be baptized when they’re old enough to accept the concept...and want them to also take communion at my church.
Satan has been trying to separate us, and I can feel him constantly trying to uproot the relationship. He even almost died last summer, but we have only grown closer through the struggles we’ve faced.
Abby Oller I personally would not date a Catholic. They have different beliefs from the the Christian faith. I believe their would be a lot of tension and if you could really be your complete self with them. Could he truly lead you as a man of God.
@@gracyk9934 If it helps, not all Presbyterians hate Catholics. In fact, where I live the local Catholic and Presbyterian church works together for bible schools and other events
Good video! Y'all are lookin' even better than usual for some reason. :) My mindset is to just use the first date as a time to get to know the person in general, see how they act, and what they like. But by the 2nd or third date, maybe start rolling out the big questions, maybe 2-3 per date depending on how long the conversations go. Looking forward to watching the rest of the series. One thing to keep in mind is that your advice is mostly geared toward people who are in the position where they are ready for marriage. For people who are a bit younger, I would give advice a little differently. (ex. Perhaps being careful with conversations about sexuality/past stuff. It could be fine, but if there are years and years ahead before marriage, knowing a person on that level that early could make things difficult.) Looking forward to when you hit 250 Patrons. :D
Always appreciate the perspective bro!
Any tips for long-distance dating? Trying to get to know someone who is a 15 hour car ride away. How often should you text, FaceTime, talk on the phone? Should the same intentional dating questions be asked if your not going on physical dates?
Any advice on how to go about getting into a relationship when you already have a child but has found God and left those ways behind?. I feel like no christian guy is ever going to want to marry me.💔
Hey Nicole
Check the labrant fam’s story out, Savanah was kinda in the same position
The Lord will provide a godly husband to you in his timing. Until then pray that the lord prepares you (and your future husband) to be a godly virtues wife and husband :)
God bless !
This is really good guys.
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This video is great 👍🏼 just on time
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Yep, your hair looks amazing! Love it ❤
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Morgan you look especially pretty in this video! And love the advice! ❤️
I'm sixteen and I really like a girl and she also likes me allot, but neither of us are ready to date. Can y'all make a video on situations like these. Y'all are great. (Goals)
You both like each other but have no intention to date one another. In my opinion, you both need to first leave each other alone. Get your priorities straight, find out what exactly you both want because I think you will both just end up hurt if you continue to see each other without clear intentions of whatever it is that might happen. You only have one life, you don't want to have a history of being hurt so young.
@@thelmamadrine38 Well what we're doing is not seeing each other if it's not a big group of people, so that things don't escalated too much. I guess we're trying to be good friends before we go into any deeper relationship.
@@ethanhennigan6933 ohh okay, I understand. Wish you the best.
@@thelmamadrine38 Thanks so much for the advice
Good topic, thanks for the suggestion!
Hey guys, could you mention in one of the next videos your advice to the situation when you see your partner is getting away from God or just doing some stuff you know is not very good for him/her, but you don't know how to say it out loud and help him/her come back? Did you have any experience, when Paul was the one, who needed Morgan's words and help, so he could realise something in his life?
I’ve made it to the point win you guys where I like he video only 20 seconds in hahaa. Thank you for all you do!
Thanks for the great content!
What an amazing video god uses your videos to talk to me thank you so much god is good
Hope Torres awe praise God
Congrats for the better quality in the vids :)
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I love this video!!!! ❤️❤️❤️ you are an amazing couple!! 🥺❤️
Love this channel
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Hey Morgan, you are such a delight
Yaass!! So excited for this series!! 🤩💃 Can't wait for the next episode! Whoop whoop! Maybe you could talk about how long is okay to be texting someone your interested in and/or dating... 🙌 Loved this!
P.S. Yes, Morgan, your hair looks so pretty! 😍💖
Hey thanks for another great video. One things that would be great to talk about is that virginity and purity are not the same thing. Someone may not be a virgin because of upbringing or a bad start in life be they love God and are pure in heart and mind. Also there is a great resource called Moral Revolution its a book and teaching that you might love.
Jessie Pyron thanks for the comment :)
@Lon Spector But I want to know if they are or are not a virgin by their own choosing. That still is something to think about.
Oh yea- with how God-filled P&M are if they connected with Moral Revolution it would be epic. HS filled.
I'd say a big question is to ask if they have ever or currently use pornography.
Question for Paul and Morgan: How important is it to be of the same Christian denomination in your opinion?
Hockey Scouting Reports with Matt Levine yes that is a very legitimate question. As far as denominations, as long as their faith is genuine, I don’t think that needs to be a deal breaker :)
@@PaulandMorgan Thank you!!
Hockey Scouting Reports with Matt Levine that’s suchhh a good question!!
Lon Spector I’d have to say that I disagree. Because someone can be saved and not pursuing Christ at the same intensity as you or with the same goals
Hockey Scouting Reports with Matt Levine i think denomination can be important cause like, for an example, Catholic vs Mennonite/anabaptist or anabaptist vs Baptist (BIG differences here despite name similarities). And there’s a million other possible combinations of denominations that all fall under “Christianity” but are VERY different. The ones I listed are just ones I have personal experience with that are drastically different. Now does the label of a denomination matter? I guess not so much, but you want to make sure your beliefs align because I can think of multiple major and minor differences between just the denominations I listed that could lead to a lot of conflict. Also, if u get married where will you go to church and in what denomination/church will you raise your kids? I’ve seen and experienced this be a big issue in married couples, especially with kids. Having 2 parents with different beliefs (even with Christianity) can be extremely confusing for the kids. On the surface denomination doesn’t seem to matter, but if u dig into it deeper it really can. Now if your talking like Methodist vs Baptist vs Presbyterian, those are all Protestant and extremely similar and not as big of a deal (in my opinion). But if your talkin Catholic vs. Protestant vs. anabaptist, there are some major fundamental differences there.
I am currently a junior in high school with dreams of a very extensive career, regarding years in school, leaving me no time to date with the intention of marriage. Nonetheless, I love watching your videos and preparing myself for those days when they come!
Nick Hawk I am a senior in high school and in the same predicament but do you think it’s too soon to ask about marriage or worry about serious dating at our age?
Mari Talavera, good question! I am honored that you would ask me lol, as me being only a junior in high school still “figuring things out.” But, I dont believe that it is “too early” to ask about marriage or “serious dating.” Here’s why...
We know that Satan can lure us into sins as teenagers, such as pornography, that can harmfully affect our marriages later down the road. If then there are things that can HARMFULLY affect our marriages as teenagers (not yet married), then there also must be good things that we as teenagers can do that will benefit our marriages (and dating lives and the like) later in life.
We can do things such as reading the Word, learning God’s ultimate design for marriage, or inquiring from married adults what they wished they would’ve known before getting married, and whatever else that may “prepare” us for marriage. (Watching Paul and Morgans videos is a great idea too! Lol)
Therefore, I do not believe that it is “too early” to ask about marriage or “serious dating.” I hope that makes sense lol.
Thank you! Yes I just wanted to know your insight being young too but still wanting to live right. I’ve watched many Christian youtubers that did ask those questions young but because of the claim that we’re "still figuring things out", I thought I was getting ahead of myself for wanting someone to have the intentions of marriage if I am in a relationship with them.
These are great questions!
My boyfriend is Agnostic while I"m Catholic. We sometimes talk about my religion but he is willing to go to Mass, Adoration Chapel, etc with me. I don't know what to do any advice?
What is more important to them: working later hours to better the family financially or spending more time with less money with your family. Not black and white of course but see what page they are on!
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Love ur vids!!!
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I won't talk first on a date. I would ask him about his relationship with God, then keep my mouth shut and let him do all the talking.
Elegant Anne :)
Amazing!! Love it. 😊
I have a question. How do you even find a woman who is willing to date intentionally? I'm getting stuck on this part. It is easier to get a woman to send me (a stranger) semi-nude photographs of herself than it is for me to get a woman who will respond positively to a statement that I'm looking for a wife. There are old ladies who are serious about marriage, but I'm 28 and I'd really much rather marry a woman younger than me than one who is older.
You might want to consider going abroad to like for that because western women aren't traditional anymore
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Great questions! God bless!
Thank so you much... Paul and Morgan! This particular video has touched me and I can relate to it practically. I am excited for the next parts 😊. (When I watch these videos and I see the unlikes I’m like 🧐🥺,...what don’t they like about this awesome video?)
You two are adorable!
Ok these questions are so good!!!!🔥🔥
lol Morgan what is that accent in the beginning girl? 😆
Sarah Bellum 😂😂
I have a question that I’ve had on my mind for a while. It’s not really related to this video but here it is: What’s the Christian view on the death penalty? I actually don’t know if it’s okay or not, and I was wondering if you guys could help me answer it? Thanks 😊
Super duper random question guys: what is your MBTI personality types? I'm just genuinely curious. My personality is ENFP.
i love yall fr thank you
I'm dating a nonchristian man. But he does seem to want something serious with me, I met him at school and we were good friends for a while first and neither really had intentions of eventually dating but we happened to like each other and he isnt the the type to pressure me to change but the opposite ..he encourages me to do keep going if loving and seeking God is my priority and doesnt want me to break my morals just to satisfy him . I have told him i want to save myself and wait till marriage and he has treated me very nice and has not only proofed how much he likes and appreciates me with words but with actions. My family is about to meet him too and many who know us agree and are happy for us because we treat each other right but just like i have thought about it.. others who are Christian have also mentioned to me that it is risky and he needs to be a Christian and I also have that on mind . What should I do? I dont want to break his heart and leave him after all he has done for me.
Gigi Flower thanks for opening up. I’d recommend you go watch our video on dating non-Christians
First of all you absolutely owe him nothing. I understand that he has done a lot for you and cares about you, but don't let that be the reason that you stay in a relationship that is not the one God has for you. Now secondly, just because he is not currently a Christian doesn't mean he is not "the one" for you. I would take this to God and pray about it for awhile. Know that God does want you to have a relationship with someone who is equally yoked so that y'all can lead each other in your faith. I know everything seems fine right now, but eventually there will be some tension if you are striving towards God and he is not. This guy does sound like a great guy and he probably is, but there are quite a few great guys out there. Again this doesn't mean he isn't the one for you, but I would take some time to pray and see if he comes to faith. I would not encourage missionary dating though. Whatever decision you make remember that if it is in God's plan for you to marry he has a Godly man for you who will reflect lead you towards Christ. I will be praying for God to give you wisdom and guidance in this decision.
@@Gigi-en5xw I recently had a non- Christian pursue me for almost three months before I told him that I couldn't date him. I felt bad like you do, but I had to remember that if I kept it going it was going to end up hurting us both. You don't have to feel bad for feeling this way. Because he cares about me we are still close friends. I think he is a great guy, but he is not the one for me. I also understand what it's like to want to hang on to your first real relationship. I'm currently 17, but last year I ended up spending way too much time in a relationship that with a great guy that just wasn't right for me because it was my first relationship. I have now been single for 8 months and I have learned to be okay with that. I know it's hard. You don't have to apologize for feeling these things just remember don't settle for anything less than God's best for you.
@@Howdy2024thank you so much for taking your time and answering my comments, means a lot to be honest 😥 ...I've had this in mind for a while and since I lack of Christian friends I really felt like I needed to tell someone with the same faith and give me some thoughts about this situation. Thank you Abigail! God bless you so much.
@@Gigi-en5xw Your welcome! I'm glad I could help a fellow sister in Christ. God bless you and guide you in his plan.