I have been told I'm backwards and conservative because I despise how people are carrying themselves, IG has been the worst. I had an account for about 6 months in 2016 then deleted. I'm not joking but people were making fun of me not being on that app. Fashion-wise is becoming ridiculous, I was looking for cardigans and they were basically a piece of fabrics that couldn't suit even a 4 years old. I'm glad more and more people are finally starting to call out whatever is happening, it's disturbing seeing little girls twerking a Christmas. The list goes on...
@@Anonymous-cl2es YT is fine, I have private playlists and I add videos to different categories. This is a long-form content and I much prefer delving into different topics, to me this is the most viable way to open my mind to different cultures and mindsets. In fact I'm now based in Italy but I can connect to the US via YT. I get to know the madness of other social media platforms through the work of critical creators for instance Joey b toon. I'm also basically off Linkedin, I don't want my work history out there, privacy is an unknown concept in this day and age.
@@Anonymous-cl2es YT is fine, I have private playlists and I add videos to different categories. This is a long-form content and I much prefer delving into different topics, to me this is the most viable way to open my mind to different cultures and mindsets. In fact I'm now based in Italy but I can connect to the US via YT. I get to know the madness of other social media platforms through the work of critical creators for instance Joey b toon. I'm also basically off Linkedin, I don't want my work history out there, privacy is an unknown concept in this day and age.
@Rosa I've never been on social media, but I enjoy TH-cam for spiritual, educational and uplifting messages and vlogs. Then there's times I limit YT as well. I know that I'm different, because I'm not going with the masses. I wear what I like, I do what I like and create the space I'm comfortable with and the people I'm comfortable being with no exceptions. By the grace of God I have created a peaceful life. Majority of people would call it boring, but to each their own. I'm single, no kids, not dating or getting on my back I'm happy. Also, working on my self-care, self love and self examination/healing. I don't care what people think of me I keep God first and the rest is what it is. Be blessed.
Multiple women (including my own mother) always put me down for my god-given natural big butt. I always dressed modestly. But they made me feel totally ugly and insecure. Now, women are intentionally paying large sums of money to have a BBL surgery to have the butt that God gave me naturally 🤷♀️. I still will not expose or flaunt my butt. But I am upset with all the women who criticized and put me down. Women went out of their way to criticize my butt and tell me I am ugly. Even complete strangers did this to me. The reason I am writing this is to emphasize that NO one should put anyone down for the way God intentionally created us. Maybe you do not find it attractive, but someone else will find it attractive. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Please stop shaming people for the way God created them. If God wants a person to look a certain way, then God did it intentionally. Never criticize God’s handiwork/creation. I am also writing this for the women who are criticized for their natural looks/appearance by other women. I want to tell you to ignore these women’s hurtful/damaging comments. Just because society has a norm for what they think is beautiful does not mean there is something wrong with you if you are not an identical match to that norm. All women are physically beautiful. There are different versions of beautiful. Love and accept yourself.
@@Pheonix1111 You'll be fine! It's a learning curve for all of us. One suggestion is to visit a department store (cosmetic counter) and get a free make-up demo. While you get some tips, just purchase the items that you feel comfortable using. With regard to clothes, there are lots of fashion channels on YT. Check out some of those and use them as a guide to set up a wardrobe. Shop off-season and (thrift stores if you wish) to build your closet.
It’s important to know what to wear and where to wear what you are wearing. Knowing how to put it together as well. Real talk Tony. This is adult leadership talk not follower society trend.
This message is short and sweet, Tony is talking to men and women whether they are ghetto, classy, or sophisticated. A lot of people don't know who they are, so they conform to society standards.
I don’t have a “fake booty” or long nails. I’m also a Swedish girl, and I appreciate your perspective. The esthetics of women are up to them though. I work at a private country club and I see the entire spectrum of obvious plastic surgery and less obvious tweaks. It’s so tough as a woman to navigate. No man at that place has to worry about his body or features but women are constantly on and judged by their features. The aim is to stay classy no matter what. It’s just so harsh to feel like men always have a say in what to look like.
The Men have a say because you allow them to define you ; validate you ; and control you … I don’t judge other Women on their looks ; because I have my OWN look and my Husband loves it ; I also DONT participate in any social media except linked in for business. When you put yourself out in the public eye , you get what you ask for … drama and backlash 💪🏾💋
It’s because women are determined their worth by their beauty and men are sets their worth by how much they earn it’s just society and it takes strong people to. Or follow society’s standards but Gods. Pray for a Godly man without Attachment and addiction to society’s measures!
He never said it was up to him. He saying that whay we wear can entice and not help men stay faithful. Evil is here and some of our thoughts come from evil and why would we want a womans husband or other to be lookin at our bodies when lust may rise up and have thoughts come. He is saying if you want a good and healthy man then respect him and respect yourself by considering that other men, women, and children see you and your behavior.
Thank you Tony for touching on the fact that people do NOT know how to dress for the occasion these days. And it's so annoying. That's why different types of clothes are made for different situations. People wearing out/club clothes to interviews, work and church. People dressing teenagers in prom clothes and full face make up for the first day of school. People wearing casual clothes to weddings. Like let's get it together. It's called adapting.
Is it me but did anyone notice brother Gaskin can low key sing 🤔🙂..anywho just a observation 🙂 Gaskin is always dropping gems and blessings through his purpose. Thank you!
The women with all of those assesories get the attention. Regardless of if it's fake or not. It's women who are naturally slim with small butts that are often ignored by men and body shamed by so called "friends". So men are lying when they say that's not what they want/like? Are they lying when they break their necks to look at those type of women, while body shaming those of us slimmer? Is it a preference more than a spirit? And is all of society jezebel ? because that's all they do is talk about women built that way. I've never heard a man call skinny/slim body type as a preference. Especially in the black community. Skinny body type women are treated better by Caucasian men. But BM will go get a skinny WW and call her thick. Lol
These are all facts!! Same with black men claiming they like natural hair...but thats not who they are with and certainly not what they get excited about. The facts are all these hair, nails and butt augmentations are what men want.
I just seen a lady on TikTok talking about the girls who got bbl or circus attributes that they are only desired but never valued or able to have a real serious relationship with a man, I feel so bad for them b/c some thought it would keep a man or the man would love/ cherish them more 😢
Hey Pastor Tony! Thank u for bringing us back to reality, teaching us not to be like the world and what a whole healthy good man is looking for. Perfect! Be blessed.
Tony your wife is a good example of what you're talking about. I appreciate your words and all that you're saying implying the words behind what you're saying. In other words you're saying would we be embarrassed at our appearance if we were before the Lord. Thank you for all that you said. It wasn't easy for you to say that to a lot of women but it's well appreciated thank you.
This was real good!!!! You spoke on so many things my husband and I discuss but I can’t really talk to other women about. Thank you for great content❤!
It’s important to be attract the audience of men that you desire. Aesthetically this can be different for each women. All men are attracted to something different. What’s most important is who you are as a person. Are you a wife before you even meet him? In the end it’s important to do the inner work and heal. This is how you’ll be able to attract a healthy, whole masculine man if that’s your desire. This is what I discuss on my channel.
I am a curvy women with boobs, butt, and hips, I wear a bathing suit that resembles a Capri pant set, my body is reserved for my husband only. I don't understand how some women can walk around half dressed, with their husband by their side and the man is okay with that.
I'm naturally built the way girls get their bodies done. I've never had any work done and I certainly have to wear a cover up at the beach etc. I got emotional seeing everyone at the church bbq in their bikinis because I loved to swim but as a single woman I knew better so I just sat out of the water with my pants and crop top. I went swimming the next day with some of the women and as soon as I took off my pants one of the ladies said Kkkkkklkkrrrrryyyyyyyyssssstttaaa!!! Omg your waist is so tiny!! I told them this is why I didn't get in the water when the men were around yesterday. They said you are so beautiful but I could tell they respected my decision. My body is impossible to ignore. I'm an oxy moron in alot of ways. The dark skin girl with alot of hair and now I'm over weight but still heavily desired by men and women. I get compliments almost daily. I'm not be cocky I'm just trying to be thorough. When I was slimmer with this same tiny waist huge butt and flat stomach it was a different desire. People would genuinely be ready to marry me within weeks. I had a man literally pay for toes and nails for a year. I told him I wasn't interested but he was so appreciative of how I carried my self plus he had a foot fetish I never slept with this man nor kissed him. He never been to my house or me to his. I've never rode in his car. He would legitimately meet me at the nail shop and proudly pay for my nails and toes. I'm getting bariatric surgery in 6 months my next body type will be fit slim thick. I'm going to go hard in the gym. I've been skinny with a shape as a teen. Super thick right after my son still same slim waist, flat stomach bug butt. Now I'm a bbw with a flat stomach 273 pounds 4ft 10 been in the 200 hundreds for three years now. Steroids, health issues, bed rest and trauma caused the weight gain. So I'm using weight loss surgery as a head start. I care more about how God feels about me and how I feel about myself but doesn't mean I can't acknowledge how I'm received. Don't be afraid to evolve ladies. I've worn long nails less than ten times in my life and long lashes maybe 5 times but when I see my old pics with them I'm genuinely turned off. I know that wasn't who I really am. I'm so grateful for growth. It's all about becoming your best self.
As always, Perfect message! (I’m Proud to be one of the Natural, Healthy, Wholesome/Graceful, Disciplined, Discerning, Intelligent/Educated/Career-Driven, Women on this platform) Stay Blessed/Happy Holidays!
Tony was spot on! This shows that it’s the little things that set us apart. Let go of the caterpillar lashes, wigs and Cardi B nails.you’ll realize that a good man is going to appreciate classy simplicity
Great Afternoon 🙏🏽 Yesssss it's a attention seeker👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 most women just don't have respect at all anymore. It's more to life than my body. GET YOUR INSIDE TOGATHER!
Exactly! Today’s society is fighting so hard to BE what they think authenticity is… it’s not holding on for dear life to rebellion- or running into the room! It’s being an authentic chameleon… in life and relationships. We’ve somehow confused “versatility” with “faking.” If the human is “complicated,” we should be diverse- or have the ability to blend, shift, pivot… in any room.
That’s not authenticity for everybody. Some people try their whole life to fit in knowing full well if they expressed themselves honestly it may scare or intimidate “regular” people. Everyone should do what fulfills them and makes them happy and sometimes that looks like rebellion but it’s truly just freedom
@@lv2756 I agree. Your post brings to mind both Moedecai and John The Baptist in The Bible. Mordecai refused to go with the status quo and bow down to Haman. Yet his integrity and courage saved The Israelites from destruction because he was first used to warn the king of an impending plan to assassinate him. And he was used to persuade Esther to use her position to save their nation. John The Baptist ate honey and locusts, and wore a tunic made of camel's hair. His attire was strange and his food the same. Yet he was used to announce the coming of The Messiah's ministry and to baptize The Messiah as well 🤔. We each have our purpose, portion, and personality assigned and given to us by The Most High to be used for His Glory.
I know this is a SERIOUS CONVERSATION! SERIOUS VIDEO! AND YOU ARE SPEAKING NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH!! BIG FACTS! I AGREE! BUT I'm laughing sooo hard because in the very beginning you did a disclaimer and told certain women to click off! You are telling the truth about women These days with the nails booty and lashes! I'm not a immature person at ALL, but your Truth has me laughing soooo hard! GREAT video! Much needed to be said and heard🤍👍🏾😂
Tony! Thank you soo much for this message!! As a young 25 year old woman who is trying to stay true to my values, I admit, the pressures of society today and social media makes it rough for women like me who rather save what you see on social media for my husbands eyes only! Thank you!
Most Women with a particular type of big butt, wear thongs for comfort. It’s annoying to have a bunch of fabric always riding up your butt, no matter what you try… briefs, boy shorts, regular cut, nothing works and they are constantly pulling out wedgies. I really wish more men would check themselves for insisting on being in lusty teenager energy their whole lives. Be 40+ yrs old, man parts be on its last leg struggling to stand at attention AND STILL holding on to yesteryear’s blood flow. Do y’all know how to take accountability for lusting over women’s bodies??
I'm triggered... It's like no matter what I do or not do as a woman I will be judged and harshly... Where are the men that he is talking about that is whole healthy and godly?? And even those men still look at a big ass!
Don’t be triggered. He’s speaking from a man’s perspective. Women do “add-ons” because they aren’t happy about something so they try to enhance it. I believe he’s trying to let women know what Godly men look for. He’s saying that Godly men will not choose you based upon the sexualized extras “long nails, lashes etc… just his opinion.
You are right! This is the type of woman I was in my 20 year marriage and my ex-husband wanted the more worldly woman that partied and drank and traveled more. When I had his kids and help him built his career. Not bitter and forgive just glad to hear the prospective from a real man and know that good men are still out there.
🙋🏽♀️🖐🏽🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽Amen Tony! This video was very much informative & needed for women who want to be married. I hope it touched, inspired & motivated them to change their styles. Thank Tony for always keeping it💯!. God bless you.
It takes courage, faith, love, to speak the truth, when you KNOW, that truth might hurt, might not set well, WILL cause some to stop supporting you... It takes a true man of God, STILL seeking God and his mercy, to DO IT....because it NEEDS to be done, needs to be said, needs to be heard, DESPITE any backlash that may come. Thank you Tony. We need to hear truth from a man’s perspective, truth that we know is from the heart and not constrained by the wallet. Thank you.
I love how you preface your videos 👍🏽 you have a great singing voice too!I appreciate the wisdom you share with us women who are working on ourselves and wanting a good relationship aka marriage. GOD Bless you and your family 🙋🏽♀️💜
Mr, Gaskins! Thank u Sir for sharing God's love, not only with ur words but also with ur life. Sir, Thank u for reaching out and touching the lives of others with the love of the Lord. May God continue to bless u Sir!! May God shower u with His blessings! I appreciate u sir! Much love from the Netherlands!
Good one. I was taught to be conservative in appearance. After many situations, I now have my own vision, direction, and thoughts for my life. I don’t need my purpose partner to be my manager.
Well said brother I’ve been refining my image also. As I’m going into the business world. I’m becoming a classic but also a transitional woman. I know God was helping me confirm what had already been in my spirit. Blessing to your family and you in Jesus name.
I hear you Tony! I recently did a photoshoot for my business and tried the eyelashes. Those were the most uncomfortable things I had to wear ever in life. I made a promise to myself never again LOL. Great video as always!
@@dimedavispresentstalkyospit lol I’m saying they were so uncomfortable. I literally don’t get how some women wear them on the regular 😅 but to each her own.
IF GOD..... WANTED YOU WITH THAT!!!....YOU'VE WOULD HAVE BEEN BLESSED WITH DATTTT!!!!... AS YOU GET OLDER ALL FAKE THINGS AND PARTS BEGIN.... TO LOOK NASTYYY... SOME LOOK LIKE DRAGGG.. QUEENS WHO AND WHAT MAN WANTS TO WAKE UP WIT THAT... NEXT TO THEM BUCKLE... BUCKLE, IT DO NOT TAKE ALL THAT... BE YOURSELF 💜 💜 LOVE.... YOURSELF AMEN 🙏🏽 🙌🏽 ✨️
Truth is their are approximately 162 million men residing within the Unites States, Its absurd and somewhat irresponsible to suggest or attempt to identify "The woman every good-man wants." individual preference and expectations will always vary from one individual to the next. As a married man of 20 years, I would simply suggest aligning yourself with a partner who's ideologies, goals and expectations coincide with your own. Those commonalities are truly what we all seek within intimate relationships.
You are so right about how secular music is supposed to emulate the gospel music not the other way around. I love what Kirk Franklin has done because it’s a blend of hip hop/R&B/gospel but he never went trap! John P.Kee has an old gospel song called “Life & Favor(You Don’t Know My Story)” and Queen Naija came with a song a few years ago “Karma” with the same tempo. I love both songs but I definitely do not like trap gospel. It makes no sense.
Thank you for making a video on this topic, we good woman really appreciate you ❤ for the women not looking to be married, healthy & elevated please do not argue in the comments hire you a coach to fix that anger & bitterness
I'm conservative in my looks besides nails and I don't even like attention nor do i want to seduce anyone ..nails have always artistic to me, but I did have to finally come to terms with an undeniable fact that long nails bring about attention from certain types of people carrying certain spiritual energy and they assume I'm the same. When I speak with common sense and self respect it confuses them and aggravates me as I don't want to keep proving I'm not a loose minded woman. It's these types of truths women to hear to mentally and spiritually evolve. No one is walking around in Heaven with lashes touching the eyebrows, 32" rainbow lacefronts and curved dragon claws.
Alot of my clients ask me for short length individual lashes I have real mink and it comes out natural, bold, and lushes You can beatify yourself without overdoing it.
You’re right if he/she used to being a dope boy, golds, tattoos then expect his woman to lack education and be apart of that ghetto life. It’s true what you accept is a reflection of you
Tony your absolutely right A yr ago i was invented to a bday party at the club, i went nice environment, few minutes later A gentleman approached me He told me i been for 1 hr in this place, among from all this woman You're a classy woman I payed attention since i saw you Never changed I was omg man really pay attention Outhere
I wish some women would know proper dress code for their bodies and events they attend. Following trends does not make sense if you look bad in the trend, not right for your body type and if you look provocative.
I am not a religious woman, but i found a lot of truth in your message and thank you for making it so simple and clear. I realize values and integrity are so important especially when trying to stand aside to society’s ever changing trends. This has helped me. Bless you
I don't usually comment but today I had to. I'm over here cracking up. Especially at the "baby chicken hair w/ lashes." 🤣🤣🤣 Tony you're speaking straight facts! 💯
Listening to this as many times as possible because this need to sink and a constant reminder that I am the best version of myself. My natural hair, body and all. Thank you uncle Tony
agree and a lot of things today is not normal the spirit of God didn’t give us a lot of these fake things as woman… it’s like we’re telling God we don’t like what he gave us…
I 100% agree with modesty; I don’t go places to see another women’s goodies displayed ; and as much as I love Mens physics, I only desire to see my Husbands 💪🏾💋
Everything that women do, they need to question if they really like it, does it fit their lifestyle, does it fit them?I don't even like wearing really short shorts because I dont want the attention to that region.
I'm not a bible Christian and i agree on everything you had to say. you spoke nothing but truth bro. i am that woman who sticks to herself lol long nails are too much for me. i just paint my own nails. i don't know how moms change they kid's diapers with chopstick nails, and the BBL trend is really sad. we got young teenagers planning for their 18th birthdays to get one... it's sad. to each their own, NONE of us have the right to judge anyone... we aren't God.
Nothing like a natural, classy woman full of integrity, grace, and honor
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Absolutely true.
I love my natural body, hair and short classy nails. I dress modestly because I don't like attention. Social media has ruined this world!!
I agree although I do wear protective styles from time to time. I do not have social media except TH-cam and I rarely comment
It has ruined this world marriages busting up due to flirty men women online
I have been told I'm backwards and conservative because I despise how people are carrying themselves, IG has been the worst. I had an account for about 6 months in 2016 then deleted. I'm not joking but people were making fun of me not being on that app. Fashion-wise is becoming ridiculous, I was looking for cardigans and they were basically a piece of fabrics that couldn't suit even a 4 years old. I'm glad more and more people are finally starting to call out whatever is happening, it's disturbing seeing little girls twerking a Christmas. The list goes on...
I don't have social media either. I barely like using TH-cam. My life is peaceful with out it!!
@@Anonymous-cl2es YT is fine, I have private playlists and I add videos to different categories. This is a long-form content and I much prefer delving into different topics, to me this is the most viable way to open my mind to different cultures and mindsets. In fact I'm now based in Italy but I can connect to the US via YT. I get to know the madness of other social media platforms through the work of critical creators for instance Joey b toon. I'm also basically off Linkedin, I don't want my work history out there, privacy is an unknown concept in this day and age.
@@Anonymous-cl2es YT is fine, I have private playlists and I add videos to different categories. This is a long-form content and I much prefer delving into different topics, to me this is the most viable way to open my mind to different cultures and mindsets. In fact I'm now based in Italy but I can connect to the US via YT. I get to know the madness of other social media platforms through the work of critical creators for instance Joey b toon. I'm also basically off Linkedin, I don't want my work history out there, privacy is an unknown concept in this day and age.
I feel you, bout to let it go myself.
@Rosa I've never been on social media, but I enjoy TH-cam for spiritual, educational and uplifting messages and vlogs. Then there's times I limit YT as well. I know that I'm different, because I'm not going with the masses. I wear what I like, I do what I like and create the space I'm comfortable with and the people I'm comfortable being with no exceptions. By the grace of God I have created a peaceful life. Majority of people would call it boring, but to each their own. I'm single, no kids, not dating or getting on my back I'm happy. Also, working on my self-care, self love and self examination/healing. I don't care what people think of me I keep God first and the rest is what it is. Be blessed.
TG...💯👈 I prayed to God:... " until Im healed please don't send no man my way, I don't want to mess up no good man's life if Im still broken inside" 🙏
Multiple women (including my own mother) always put me down for my god-given natural big butt. I always dressed modestly. But they made me feel totally ugly and insecure. Now, women are intentionally paying large sums of money to have a BBL surgery to have the butt that God gave me naturally 🤷♀️. I still will not expose or flaunt my butt. But I am upset with all the women who criticized and put me down. Women went out of their way to criticize my butt and tell me I am ugly. Even complete strangers did this to me. The reason I am writing this is to emphasize that NO one should put anyone down for the way God intentionally created us. Maybe you do not find it attractive, but someone else will find it attractive. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Please stop shaming people for the way God created them. If God wants a person to look a certain way, then God did it intentionally. Never criticize God’s handiwork/creation.
I am also writing this for the women who are criticized for their natural looks/appearance by other women. I want to tell you to ignore these women’s hurtful/damaging comments. Just because society has a norm for what they think is beautiful does not mean there is something wrong with you if you are not an identical match to that norm. All women are physically beautiful. There are different versions of beautiful. Love and accept yourself.
@Sunny Lynn I never had the self-esteem to wear make up or the money to afford make up and expensive clothes.
@@Pheonix1111 You'll be fine! It's a learning curve for all of us. One suggestion is to visit a department store (cosmetic counter) and get a free make-up demo. While you get some tips, just purchase the items that you feel comfortable using. With regard to clothes, there are lots of fashion channels on YT. Check out some of those and use them as a guide to set up a wardrobe. Shop off-season and (thrift stores if you wish) to build your closet.
@@rrnn6472 Thank you for your advice. I appreciate your help.
Amen, sister! Amen. You said it @Phoenix
@@Pheonix1111 You are welcome, Ms. Future Diva!
It’s important to know what to wear and where to wear what you are wearing. Knowing how to put it together as well. Real talk Tony. This is adult leadership talk not follower society trend.
This message is short and sweet, Tony is talking to men and women whether they are ghetto, classy, or sophisticated. A lot of people don't know who they are, so they conform to society standards.
I really appreciate how you drew the line in the sand between a wholesome woman and worldly woman.
I hate to see fake eyelashes that make women look like snuffalufagus from Sesame Street
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Yes they do!! Just imagine the damage it's doing to their eyes ☹☹
I know man be scared when they see these extra spider like lashes 😂
I don’t have a “fake booty” or long nails. I’m also a Swedish girl, and I appreciate your perspective. The esthetics of women are up to them though. I work at a private country club and I see the entire spectrum of obvious plastic surgery and less obvious tweaks. It’s so tough as a woman to navigate. No man at that place has to worry about his body or features but women are constantly on and judged by their features. The aim is to stay classy no matter what. It’s just so harsh to feel like men always have a say in what to look like.
Men don’t say anything…. Women just do it cause think men like it…. Most REAL men don’t like those crazy insane aesthetics
@BeKey I agree. A lot of women do it mostly to compete with other women and be _the one_ among their peers.
The Men have a say because you allow them to define you ; validate you ; and control you … I don’t judge other Women on their looks ; because I have my OWN look and my Husband loves it ; I also DONT participate in any social media except linked in for business.
When you put yourself out in the public eye , you get what you ask for … drama and backlash 💪🏾💋
It’s because women are determined their worth by their beauty and men are sets their worth by how much they earn it’s just society and it takes strong people to. Or follow society’s standards but Gods. Pray for a Godly man without Attachment and addiction to society’s measures!
He never said it was up to him. He saying that whay we wear can entice and not help men stay faithful. Evil is here and some of our thoughts come from evil and why would we want a womans husband or other to be lookin at our bodies when lust may rise up and have thoughts come. He is saying if you want a good and healthy man then respect him and respect yourself by considering that other men, women, and children see you and your behavior.
Thank you Tony for touching on the fact that people do NOT know how to dress for the occasion these days. And it's so annoying. That's why different types of clothes are made for different situations. People wearing out/club clothes to interviews, work and church. People dressing teenagers in prom clothes and full face make up for the first day of school. People wearing casual clothes to weddings. Like let's get it together. It's called adapting.
How do people afford to go to the salon for nails or hair extensions these day...rent is so high. 🤔
I'm so glad you mentioned how those long fake nails interfere with cleanliness!
Is it me but did anyone notice brother Gaskin can low key sing 🤔🙂..anywho just a observation
🙂 Gaskin is always dropping gems and blessings through his purpose. Thank you!
The women with all of those assesories get the attention. Regardless of if it's fake or not. It's women who are naturally slim with small butts that are often ignored by men and body shamed by so called "friends".
So men are lying when they say that's not what they want/like? Are they lying when they break their necks to look at those type of women, while body shaming those of us slimmer?
Is it a preference more than a spirit? And is all of society jezebel ?
because that's all they do is talk about women built that way. I've never heard a man call skinny/slim body type as a preference. Especially in the black community. Skinny body type women are treated better by Caucasian men. But BM will go get a skinny WW and call her thick. Lol
These are all facts!! Same with black men claiming they like natural hair...but thats not who they are with and certainly not what they get excited about. The facts are all these hair, nails and butt augmentations are what men want.
They get attention but it’s not from good men.
There are woman that have gotten their bodies done and still get cheated on and not wife up so why do they keep thinking it will attract them a man 🤔🤔
I just seen a lady on TikTok talking about the girls who got bbl or circus attributes that they are only desired but never valued or able to have a real serious relationship with a man, I feel so bad for them b/c some thought it would keep a man or the man would love/ cherish them more 😢
Hey Pastor Tony! Thank u for bringing us back to reality, teaching us not to be like the world and what a whole healthy good man is looking for. Perfect! Be blessed.
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Tony your wife is a good example of what you're talking about. I appreciate your words and all that you're saying implying the words behind what you're saying. In other words you're saying would we be embarrassed at our appearance if we were before the Lord. Thank you for all that you said. It wasn't easy for you to say that to a lot of women but it's well appreciated thank you.
This was real good!!!! You spoke on so many things my husband and I discuss but I can’t really talk to other women about. Thank you for great content❤!
I'm a real man. And I agree with everything this man said. What society is turning our women into. Good men is not attracted to that.
Women don't want good men
It’s important to be attract the audience of men that you desire. Aesthetically this can be different for each women. All men are attracted to something different. What’s most important is who you are as a person. Are you a wife before you even meet him?
In the end it’s important to do the inner work and heal. This is how you’ll be able to attract a healthy, whole masculine man if that’s your desire.
This is what I discuss on my channel.
What’s your channel name?
I am a curvy women with boobs, butt, and hips, I wear a bathing suit that resembles a Capri pant set, my body is reserved for my husband only. I don't understand how some women can walk around half dressed, with their husband by their side and the man is okay with that.
I'm naturally built the way girls get their bodies done. I've never had any work done and I certainly have to wear a cover up at the beach etc. I got emotional seeing everyone at the church bbq in their bikinis because I loved to swim but as a single woman I knew better so I just sat out of the water with my pants and crop top. I went swimming the next day with some of the women and as soon as I took off my pants one of the ladies said Kkkkkklkkrrrrryyyyyyyyssssstttaaa!!! Omg your waist is so tiny!! I told them this is why I didn't get in the water when the men were around yesterday. They said you are so beautiful but I could tell they respected my decision. My body is impossible to ignore. I'm an oxy moron in alot of ways. The dark skin girl with alot of hair and now I'm over weight but still heavily desired by men and women. I get compliments almost daily. I'm not be cocky I'm just trying to be thorough. When I was slimmer with this same tiny waist huge butt and flat stomach it was a different desire. People would genuinely be ready to marry me within weeks. I had a man literally pay for toes and nails for a year. I told him I wasn't interested but he was so appreciative of how I carried my self plus he had a foot fetish I never slept with this man nor kissed him. He never been to my house or me to his. I've never rode in his car. He would legitimately meet me at the nail shop and proudly pay for my nails and toes. I'm getting bariatric surgery in 6 months my next body type will be fit slim thick. I'm going to go hard in the gym. I've been skinny with a shape as a teen. Super thick right after my son still same slim waist, flat stomach bug butt. Now I'm a bbw with a flat stomach 273 pounds 4ft 10 been in the 200 hundreds for three years now. Steroids, health issues, bed rest and trauma caused the weight gain. So I'm using weight loss surgery as a head start. I care more about how God feels about me and how I feel about myself but doesn't mean I can't acknowledge how I'm received. Don't be afraid to evolve ladies. I've worn long nails less than ten times in my life and long lashes maybe 5 times but when I see my old pics with them I'm genuinely turned off. I know that wasn't who I really am. I'm so grateful for growth. It's all about becoming your best self.
That's good you are losing all the additional weight to become more healthy and I'm sure more active for and with your child.
@@n.Lenice yes! I can't wait to feel better, serve more and just allow my son to experience a healthy energetic mommy. Meeting my surgeon today🙌🏾
As always, Perfect message! (I’m Proud to be one of the Natural, Healthy, Wholesome/Graceful, Disciplined, Discerning, Intelligent/Educated/Career-Driven, Women on this platform) Stay Blessed/Happy Holidays!
Tony was spot on! This shows that it’s the little things that set us apart. Let go of the caterpillar lashes, wigs and Cardi B nails.you’ll realize that a good man is going to appreciate classy simplicity
Great Afternoon 🙏🏽
Yesssss it's a attention seeker👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 most women just don't have respect at all anymore. It's more to life than my body. GET YOUR INSIDE TOGATHER!
Yes, that was a Kirk Franklin & the Family song, "Melodies from Heaven".
Exactly!
Today’s society is fighting so hard to BE what they think authenticity is… it’s not holding on for dear life to rebellion- or running into the room! It’s being an authentic chameleon… in life and relationships. We’ve somehow confused “versatility” with “faking.” If the human is “complicated,” we should be diverse- or have the ability to blend, shift, pivot… in any room.
That’s not authenticity for everybody. Some people try their whole life to fit in knowing full well if they expressed themselves honestly it may scare or intimidate “regular” people. Everyone should do what fulfills them and makes them happy and sometimes that looks like rebellion but it’s truly just freedom
@@lv2756 I agree. Your post brings to mind both Moedecai and John The Baptist in The Bible. Mordecai refused to go with the status quo and bow down to Haman. Yet his integrity and courage saved The Israelites from destruction because he was first used to warn the king of an impending plan to assassinate him. And he was used to persuade Esther to use her position to save their nation.
John The Baptist ate honey and locusts, and wore a tunic made of camel's hair. His attire was strange and his food the same. Yet he was used to announce the coming of The Messiah's ministry and to baptize The Messiah as well 🤔. We each have our purpose, portion, and personality assigned and given to us by The Most High to be used for His Glory.
I know you’re being serious but I lost it at “baby chicken hair and lashes”😂😂😂😂😂
tony gaskins , i feel like i’m perfect bc of u . I’ve been in tony gaskins youtube academy for ab 3 years lol i’m only 18
I know this is a SERIOUS CONVERSATION! SERIOUS VIDEO! AND YOU ARE SPEAKING NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH!! BIG FACTS! I AGREE! BUT I'm laughing sooo hard because in the very beginning you did a disclaimer and told certain women to click off! You are telling the truth about women These days with the nails booty and lashes! I'm not a immature person at ALL, but your Truth has me laughing soooo hard! GREAT video! Much needed to be said and heard🤍👍🏾😂
Tony! Thank you soo much for this message!! As a young 25 year old woman who is trying to stay true to my values, I admit, the pressures of society today and social media makes it rough for women like me who rather save what you see on social media for my husbands eyes only! Thank you!
U have a good soul
Well spoken sir! God bless you for bringing this teaching of modesty as Godly women. Decency is the key 🙏
Thank you Tony for being a faithful servant to the Lord & always speaking the truth.
Lol Tony said how is that going to look at your 5 y.o’s birthday party 🤣🤣
Tony is wild sometimes.
Most Women with a particular type of big butt, wear thongs for comfort. It’s annoying to have a bunch of fabric always riding up your butt, no matter what you try… briefs, boy shorts, regular cut, nothing works and they are constantly pulling out wedgies.
I really wish more men would check themselves for insisting on being in lusty teenager energy their whole lives. Be 40+ yrs old, man parts be on its last leg struggling to stand at attention AND STILL holding on to yesteryear’s blood flow. Do y’all know how to take accountability for lusting over women’s bodies??
Such a crucial teaching today from a helpful and Biblical perspective, thank you sir 🙏🏾
😆😆😆😆😆 Can't stop laughing at the butt, nails and eyelashes part!!! But so true. Too many followers. What about the big baby hairs?
I'm triggered... It's like no matter what I do or not do as a woman I will be judged and harshly... Where are the men that he is talking about that is whole healthy and godly?? And even those men still look at a big ass!
Don’t be triggered. He’s speaking from a man’s perspective. Women do “add-ons” because they aren’t happy about something so they try to enhance it. I believe he’s trying to let women know what Godly men look for. He’s saying that Godly men will not choose you based upon the sexualized extras “long nails, lashes etc… just his opinion.
You are right! This is the type of woman I was in my 20 year marriage and my ex-husband wanted the more worldly woman that partied and drank and traveled more. When I had his kids and help him built his career. Not bitter and forgive just glad to hear the prospective from a real man and know that good men are still out there.
🙋🏽♀️🖐🏽🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽Amen Tony! This video was very much informative & needed for women who want to be married. I hope it touched, inspired & motivated them to change their styles. Thank Tony for always keeping it💯!. God bless you.
Thank you Mr Gaskins you have no idea how much your videos help us, Also thank you to your wife for allowing you the time to help us!!! God Bless
I wouldn't waste any time on those who say this isn't true. The devil hates conviction/truth..
It takes courage, faith, love, to speak the truth, when you KNOW, that truth might hurt, might not set well, WILL cause some to stop supporting you... It takes a true man of God, STILL seeking God and his mercy, to DO IT....because it NEEDS to be done, needs to be said, needs to be heard, DESPITE any backlash that may come. Thank you Tony. We need to hear truth from a man’s perspective, truth that we know is from the heart and not constrained by the wallet. Thank you.
Why is this a serious topic but, funny at the same time 👏🏾😂 Bless you for speaking facts sir!
Yes my thoughts exactly! 😂😂
yes I don't like long nails and then lashes that look like flappers
I love how you preface your videos 👍🏽 you have a great singing voice too!I appreciate the wisdom you share with us women who are working on ourselves and wanting a good relationship aka marriage. GOD Bless you and your family 🙋🏽♀️💜
Mr, Gaskins! Thank u Sir for sharing God's love, not only with ur words but also with ur life. Sir, Thank u for reaching out and touching the lives of others with the love of the Lord. May God continue to bless u Sir!! May God shower u with His blessings! I appreciate u sir! Much love from the Netherlands!
Good one. I was taught to be conservative in appearance. After many situations, I now have my own vision, direction, and thoughts for my life. I don’t need my purpose partner to be my manager.
The good men are not following the world. I love seeing men who distance themselves from that.
The adult version of Annie..my goodness ☺️☺️
It’s amazing that each of us was carefully made to be unique and so many women want to look the same.
Well said brother I’ve been refining my image also. As I’m going into the business world. I’m becoming a classic but also a transitional woman. I know God was helping me confirm what had already been in my spirit. Blessing to your family and you in Jesus name.
I hear you Tony! I recently did a photoshoot for my business and tried the eyelashes. Those were the most uncomfortable things I had to wear ever in life. I made a promise to myself never again LOL. Great video as always!
lashes are an enhancement if they are put on right they are beautiful I enjoy mines but they look like they are mines and I can't tell they are on.
@@trulycay5714 exactly the natural ones are beautiful the extreme ones ain’t it
🤣🤣 OMG YES!! Some stuff you just can't do that the world does... that's how you know you were made to be different because it doesn't workout for you💯
@@dimedavispresentstalkyospit lol I’m saying they were so uncomfortable. I literally don’t get how some women wear them on the regular 😅 but to each her own.
@@jessicascreenwritingservices natural beauty is never painful and effortless 👌🏾
Class, grace. Everything should be done decently and in order. Moderation is the key word. We should not cause our brothers to stumble.
IF GOD..... WANTED YOU WITH THAT!!!....YOU'VE WOULD HAVE BEEN BLESSED WITH DATTTT!!!!... AS YOU GET OLDER ALL FAKE THINGS AND PARTS BEGIN.... TO LOOK NASTYYY...
SOME LOOK LIKE DRAGGG.. QUEENS
WHO AND WHAT MAN WANTS TO WAKE UP WIT THAT... NEXT TO THEM
BUCKLE... BUCKLE, IT DO NOT TAKE ALL THAT... BE YOURSELF 💜 💜
LOVE.... YOURSELF AMEN 🙏🏽 🙌🏽 ✨️
I 💯 agree I hate Christian rap it's pure trash... and all of this new gospel music has went down the drain.. Thanks for speaking on all of this.
Truth is their are approximately 162 million men residing within the Unites States, Its absurd and somewhat irresponsible to suggest or attempt to identify "The woman every good-man wants." individual preference and expectations will always vary from one individual to the next.
As a married man of 20 years, I would simply suggest aligning yourself with a partner who's ideologies, goals and expectations coincide with your own. Those commonalities are truly what we all seek within intimate relationships.
You are so right about how secular music is supposed to emulate the gospel music not the other way around. I love what Kirk Franklin has done because it’s a blend of hip hop/R&B/gospel but he never went trap! John P.Kee has an old gospel song called “Life & Favor(You Don’t Know My Story)” and Queen Naija came with a song a few years ago “Karma” with the same tempo. I love both songs but I definitely do not like trap gospel. It makes no sense.
Thank you for making a video on this topic, we good woman really appreciate you ❤ for the women not looking to be married, healthy & elevated please do not argue in the comments hire you a coach to fix that anger & bitterness
Tell the truth & shame the devil! Thanks for the message!
Tony you betta come through & educate these women and men about those spirits!! I’m here for this message MOG!
I really like your traditional, wholesome wisdom/teaching. Continue to allow God to use you.
I'm conservative in my looks besides nails and I don't even like attention nor do i want to seduce anyone ..nails have always artistic to me, but I did have to finally come to terms with an undeniable fact that long nails bring about attention from certain types of people carrying certain spiritual energy and they assume I'm the same. When I speak with common sense and self respect it confuses them and aggravates me as I don't want to keep proving I'm not a loose minded woman. It's these types of truths women to hear to mentally and spiritually evolve. No one is walking around in Heaven with lashes touching the eyebrows, 32" rainbow lacefronts and curved dragon claws.
I repent. Thanks for the reminder to be mindful that we r of Christ.
Alot of my clients ask me for short length individual lashes
I have real mink and it comes out natural, bold, and lushes
You can beatify yourself without overdoing it.
You’re right if he/she used to being a dope boy, golds, tattoos then expect his woman to lack education and be apart of that ghetto life. It’s true what you accept is a reflection of you
“The looks that scares the kids” 😂 I love how he adds humor to his messages
Where are the good men? I'm not saying there aren't, abundance mindset, but where are they?
Tony your absolutely right
A yr ago i was invented to a bday party at the club, i went nice environment, few minutes later
A gentleman approached me
He told me i been for 1 hr in this place, among from all this woman
You're a classy woman
I payed attention since i saw you
Never changed
I was omg man really pay attention
Outhere
I am a lady that has decorum about myself, virtue, 6 1/2 years clebacy, all natural as well, seems like this is not appreciated now day's
I wish some women would know proper dress code for their bodies and events they attend. Following trends does not make sense if you look bad in the trend, not right for your body type and if you look provocative.
Amen! Straight facts....🙏💜 I really enjoyed this video. Thanks
Spilling truth while cracking us up. 🎯🎯🎯🎯🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Thank you!
SPEAK bro If you can’t say Amen say ouch
"Melodies From Heaven" was and still is a great gospel song 🎵 I wish they still made music like that! Great video, Tony! You stay dropping Gems 💎 ✨️
A look that won’t scare little kids! I’m done 😂🤣
You stay coming with the gems, Tony!!!
I am not a religious woman, but i found a lot of truth in your message and thank you for making it so simple and clear. I realize values and integrity are so important especially when trying to stand aside to society’s ever changing trends. This has helped me. Bless you
Thanks Bro Tony for this reality check for me as a woman, it was truly needed.🙏🏾❤️
I don't usually comment but today I had to. I'm over here cracking up. Especially at the "baby chicken hair w/ lashes." 🤣🤣🤣 Tony you're speaking straight facts! 💯
Listening to this as many times as possible because this need to sink and a constant reminder that I am the best version of myself. My natural hair, body and all. Thank you uncle Tony
Thank you for sharing the message of modesty and humility!
Baby chicken 🐓 hair 😂😂😂
This was so good! I’m happy to hear that I’m on the right track!🙌🏽
agree and a lot of things today is not normal the spirit of God didn’t give us a lot of these fake things as woman… it’s like we’re telling God we don’t like what he gave us…
I 100% agree with modesty; I don’t go places to see another women’s goodies displayed ; and as much as I love Mens physics, I only desire to see my Husbands 💪🏾💋
Woah…I literally was randomly humming rain down on me right before I clicked on this video and I probably haven’t listened to that song in years.
Melodies from Heaven
Thanks for this video. It really makes a lot of sense and it's so valuable coming from a male perspective.
Great message! Thank you!
WHEW LORD…WE NEED THIS ONE UPDATED FOR THE MESS GOIN ON HERE IN 2023‼️💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Everything that women do, they need to question if they really like it, does it fit their lifestyle, does it fit them?I don't even like wearing really short shorts because I dont want the attention to that region.
You will attract what you rehearse.
Jesus may peace be upon him is the prophet and messenger of Allah, The One True God. Jesus called people to Islam.
Another blessed and truthful word!
I feel like I fit the description of the woman every good man wants that you're speaking of Tony, but good men still seem to not want me 😏
These wholesome men will use and sleep with women with the jezebel spirit but not marry them
True. I heard a Christian ✝️ hip hop song that had the squeeky sound 🤔 😳 in it...that sound is from a bed 🛌 squeezing oh my Lord
Thank you for telling the truth, Tony 🙏🏾
I'm not a bible Christian and i agree on everything you had to say. you spoke nothing but truth bro. i am that woman who sticks to herself lol long nails are too much for me. i just paint my own nails. i don't know how moms change they kid's diapers with chopstick nails, and the BBL trend is really sad. we got young teenagers planning for their 18th birthdays to get one... it's sad. to each their own, NONE of us have the right to judge anyone... we aren't God.