That's actually not true. But, the lesson should still be for a women to respect themselves first and foremost. That will attract men who respect themselves.
Gems: A grown man will fall in love with a woman who is an accountability partner, not a doormat/nagger/enabler. A man will fall in love with a woman who loves herself, knows who she is, has boundaries, has standards, and is firm on what she will do/not do and give/not give. Women: Be a strong loving woman. You must stand your ground (in love)! Give, love, sacrifice, support, do not reinforce toxic behavior, do not allow yourself to be mistreated or taken for granted, only compromise on things that do no effect your soul/ eternity, & always speak up for your needs. Be consistent! You cannot finesse a real man! No husband benefits to a boyfriend!!
Decenter men. That's how you do it, ladies! Men seem to love me the most when I am booked and busy and barely available. When I'm flirty one day, and gone the next. But don't do this by playing a game. No, do it naturally by making everything else in your life a higher priority than men. The man who wants you for real will earn his way into being your highest priority. And he will earn it through consistency, persistency, reliability, emotional stability, integrity, etc. And you can very slowly make him a higher priority after he shows you that he's willing to do that for you. Men like boundaries, standards, and expectations and you don't always have to say what they are for him to know that they are there. Your actions can tell him everything he needs to know about you and what you will and will not tolerate.
Mannn it’s really rare for a man to appreciate this type of woman in this generation.. You’ll get placed in the “mothering” category even if you are just holding them accountable.. Then they chase after the “fun girls” and appreciate the good woman after they’ve been tossed to the side by them. Grown men who can appreciate accountable women are very, very rare.
THIS. im so tired of curating and trying to be extra careful trying to come off “encouraging while making him accountable” without coming off nagging and motherly.
You have a lot of men that are good men, you just have to take the time to find them, like my grandma use to say “If you wanna find gold, you don’t go digging in the trash!
I Just watched this for the 2nd time and it hit harder. I feel so confused by all the man signals and lack there of that I decided to stop trying and pray to The Most High that if its his will to have me found then so be it. I cried myself to sleep last night with Otis Redding on repeat and its not healthy so Im letting it alone.
And unemployed 😂😂😂😂. Ain’t no way she’s employed & has stuff other than her relationship going on in her life 😂😂😂, if she did she’d be tired and then realised her bf’s addiction and left him.
I knew from when I was very young that sex wasn’t supposed to be had without time, commitment, compatibility, and love. That wasn’t ingrained in me by anyone, it was almost innate knowledge. How come some adults don’t understand that concept?
Everyone does not think the same as you. With peer pressure, societal pressure, and biological programming, some people jump in the deep end without enough of a vetting process. Some women have sex with males to try to fill the love they did not get from their dads. Some young women don't know that sex does not equal love. Sometimes it is easy to get carried away from making out. People are waiting to get married later in life. Especially with a hook-up culture, and people choosing casual relationships over real solid relationships, it has ruined our society. A lot of men have no idea what courting is or women for that matter. People say, "I love you" without knowing the person. How many layers do you need to experience and see before you truly are in love? How many hours with him have you experienced with him face to face. That is why always watch a man's words and actions. Do they match? How many quality conversations are being had with both parties curious about each other.
@j-tenn yeah right! I been called weird, told to grow up, told idk what an adult relationship is etc. One told me that I think I'm top good to be touched on the leg, like wt?! Heck, once I was even called cursed cause I didn't wanna sleep with a vile swine!
They get swayed with their hormones (biology and baby making hormones) and society. I did. Took me until 34 in 2018 to realize what you realized. So now I am waiting till marriage for sex, but it's been a long, lonely and hard road because I've been meeting nothing but toads! As soon as they realize I'm not into the easy sex thing, their out. Either that or the first few challenges of a relationship, their also out! So yeah... harder to get a man to love.. Maybe I've been barking up the wrong tree because I like white men, but I do know that a lot of white men DO like Asians so I really don't know what it is!
Hi, T. Just to add to the conversation. Was almost 25 years married. Divorced because of infidelity. My x was hyper sexual, not even getting older changed it. He was always so proud of himself looking in the mirror, fully "e. ct". I thought it was normal because I was taught, you don't talk out of the bedroom. It took an affair, epileptic seizure to get to the issue. Triggered by the stress obviously. When the neurologist asked me if he was hyper, I was shocked. On his brain scan, he showed me damage areas of his brain. He was in motorcycle accident when he was sixteen, that did the damage to temporal lobes. All made sense and everything fell into place. He then told me, it will never stop and if I'm willing to keep my eye on him 24/7. The trauma and lies up until then, I couldn't. We divorced and we still can be "friends" for children. God helped me overcome it all, by grace and grace alone. Point of this story is, please ask if your guy or woman was in a accident or head injury. It can alter things forever and never ever overlook it!!! 🙏
Imagine giving so much of yourself to someone who’s not ready n mature enough to receive n reciprocate…. When years have past by it does feel like a waste but that’s why awareness is important.
You described me... my guy had no intentions on being with me but he ended up falling in love for all the right reasons once he got to know me.. ive always had that with guys. Im not the finest or the prettiest. I just carry myself very well and im a genuinely good person.
In order words, respect yourself. I've seen it with my own eye. Men dont know how to respect what they didn't earn, carry yourself with grace, dignity and self respect. Know youre loved and already chosen by God.
I have been guilty of all of these things and am praying for God to restore me. Thank you for your inspiring message for direction to us women and healing🙏
I just read an article that stated due to the rising cost of living most people will enter relationships and marriages with individuals who they do not love but view as business opportunities to split costs.
Wouldn't feel the need to nag if men took personal responsibility. Basically, if a man isn't doing what he's supposed to/said he would do, its time to go✌🏾
Key word husband. Men and women need to learn their worth. Know you should be a husband and a wife. The old saying why buy a cow, when you can get the milk free.
It’s sad how it’s always about men , this is a big reason why women who focus on pleasing their man always lose themself in it . We forget ourselves and put ourselves last😢. A grown man will want to be kept and a grown boy don’t know about compromise. Both parties should learn one another !
I am a woman of a certain age and my husband is 10 years younger than me and he was with countless women before me. He was with one for 13 years referring to her as his fiancé we were married and engaged within 10 months and we are celebrating three years of marriage. The most important thing is that you elevate a man spiritually you hold him accountable and as everyone else said, close your legs open your heart and gently challenge him to become a better ..more improved version of himself and don’t lower your standards ❤ be patient consistent and lead in the love of The Lord
Ladies, stop giving a man the contents of your cup if he only drains and never fills it back up. What you have to offer whether tangible or intangible is ALWAYS earned...never freely given!!!
This message is so true. No… I’m not a man, but I’m so blessed to be married to a grown man!!! Everything that this guy described as a real man, my husband possess. I tell him every day that I’m so grateful to God for putting such a wonderful human being in my life!!
Im not a man of God. Im a man of the world.. listen to this man. In the ' manosphere' we tell each other, become the man of your dreams, as in become the best version of yourself, it means loving yours by getting fit, getting your diet right, getring yoir money right and working on your hangups. This really applies to everyone. But also keep in mind you are trying to attract the opposite sex. Learn what they value, and go out and provide value. If he doesn't reciprocate, realize thats not the person for you.
It took me a very long time to get to a place of true love for self. I really like being with ME. If I tell a man that I’m not dating and are happily single, there is something wrong with me. If a man says “what is wrong with you” after I tell him that, I am not interested. You should be happy that I am single by choice and not out screwing around. Some have accused me of sleeping around, just based on. The way I dress. I have been abstinent for almost 5 yrs and cool with it. I would love to share my life with someone but right now my focus is on me and what truly makes me happy. The right one will show himself one day soon….i am just thankful to God that I am blessed with a real spirit of discernment. Great topic!
So true!! That’s me❤ that’s why I got the ring 💍 The most important is RESPECT…if he doesn’t respect you it’s not love! If you want to be loved…stand in your ground…don’t compromise your own moral and your values I never give a second chance who betrayal me My feelings is gone I’m very strong to sabotage my own feelings that I know he is the wrong person in my life! I choose to hurt my heart! And remember what I deserve!! My values,my worth and my MORALITY! It’s ok to love him But it’s more ok to love yourself moreeee!! Put on the pedestal your own moral! If you want to be loved and honor you as a woman of his life 💍❤
Love this advice for our young women! And even for me 60+ After 50 years of unconditional love of a man he speaks of. Amen.He covered me his love. We served each other. He speaks truth, this young man! Intimacy is out of the bedroom is what he's saying. Don't ever lose you confidence in yourself. Strong but loving and expecting the best from your man. ❤ 😮
Everything you've said is so true I was in a relationship for almost a year. It had its toxicities. I felt as if I were taken for granted underappreciated devalued. I set boundaries, I held him accountable I stood up to him and I left him. He then revealed that he was in love with me. He wanted me to give him another chance and I told him no I've given so many and I'm tired. He didn't take that well. He also mentioned a attachment to me. Men better realize women often give a lot of chances but when we reach the end we're at the end. All of you men if you love a woman please listen to her please let her feel heard and seen appreciate her make sure she knows she's a value if you do not you're going to lose her forever.
Very informational video, Tony and I thank you for taking the time to put it out here for us.✨❤️✨ Ladies…It may be challenging to stand your ground when you love the man or care about the man but when you love yourself more than you love the man and understand that the man is most likely acting out of immaturity, selfishness, entitlement or any other low vibrational spirit, you will feel your power and tell him “No” without worrying about the consequences that may come from the man. There’s power in saying no and walking away. Don’t let fear keep you from exercising that power…your non-negotiables.
This was so ON POINT!! Most women don’t understand that when they exhibit these qualities Tony covers they actually ATTRACT the right man!! Thank you sir for your guidance !!❤
This is by far the best input that I've heard from a relationship coach on the differences of "Grown Boys vs. Grown Men. " Thank you, Mr. Gaskins for taking the time to share your thoughts on this topic. Much appreciated 🙏🏻🙏🏿🙏🏻🙏🏿
I appreciate this Tony. Still working on me, too but you’ve helped me come along way. I find if the man isn’t “grown” even your best laid words (even if sprinkled with fairy dust and cake) will seem like nagging and complaining. No matter how you put it, he’ll find fault in everything you say and that breaks a woman down, regardless of how strong she is. The only man that can appreciate all you’ve said is a man who’s ready to be a man/husband, as you’ve stated so eloquently. God bless you for helping both men and women.
This is a good message highlighting the main point that a man is a spiritual warrior. He moves from pleasure-seeking to purpose-driven with God's plan guiding him. Good job Tony on this one. Possibly you can come out with a daily message to the males, maybe like 1-3 minutes focusing on reversing platitudes to help them move from taking a red pill or other pills to digesting meat, this being seasoned Word from God to cultivate their appetites. Their palette has to change. Blessings!
This was so good, Tony. I constantly have to remind myself not to complain but simply state what I need in a nice way. Who knew it was that easy to get what you need from a man that cares about you.
Very amazing points here ! Definitely you have to have character & integrity about yourself as a man. Also have identity through god and listen to the path he designed you in and the rest fall in line . Men need to start paying attention to what’s important . Your spirit is most important than flesh . Women we don’t ask for much only if men pay attention they would understand good one Tony 💯
Wow everything you said was exactly on point! It was amazing to listen to you speak and I learned a lot and left with a smile so thanks so much for being a kind man ❤❤❤love from Poland 🇵🇱
Love this. Thank you for sharing. Your channel has been helpful to my growth. Sending peace and blessings to you and all the beautiful souls out there 🙏💙🕊
Thank you Tony. Any advise for a woman who tries to hold him accountable but is met with toxic behavior such as gaslighting? And yes, she stands her ground & all the things you mentioned.
Tony, I appreciate you sharing your insight on this subject. I have been listening and reading some of the comments. I can understand why some people get a little uncomfortable about what you're saying. I get it you are speaking from experience and a lot of faith. In these last days, we can not use the name of JESUS in any way we feel. Be bless
What if he doesn’t drink or gamble but watches porn? Do I throw him out? Context: he is a single dad, ex-wife has mental illness, and he has custody of kids and they only see mom on weekends. Also, I’ve been dating him five months and we have not met friends or family on either side. It’s his doing…I’m open to it but he has not mentioned it. Also, he has a super high seggs drive and can go a long time, like nothing I’ve ever seen. BUT, he tells me he’s a Christian and has a big prayer life, feeds the homeless etc. But how do I really know that? Am I wasting my time?? I’m looking for serious responses bc I’m wondering if I am not paying attention to red flags. Do I exit? Btw, I’m a 49 year old female and he is a 52 year old man. I have s 19 year old son and he has 11 year old and 14 year old girls.
@@Forwardnow He's definitely a red flag and that sexual appetite isn't going anywhere. You have to decide if it's something you want to deal with long term. A lot of these men are full of lust and if you can't satisfy them someone else will. If he's watching porn he is watching a different woman and men doing different things. His expectations of you may change at some point. Some of these men surprisingly pay for sex ... I was shocked. You haven't seen all of his sides... Just give it some time. If you stay with him just take your time.
Yes I always try to get to know someone on an emotional, mental, and spiritual level first. If we can pour into each other outside of physical intimacy , build a healthy friendship first, encourage each other to reach our highest selves, connect through common passions, nurture each other with self care, create a beautiful safe space that’s surrounded by peace, trust, and happiness then we might be able to have something special. It’s also important for yall to speak love and light into each other. Be each other’s biggest supporter, and respect the protection/ leadership the man provides in the relationship. I was also told by my grandfather to always stay feminine, pleasant, calm, and kind, and beautiful inside/ outside. Like you said Tony don’t just go for anything, hold him accountable but don’t nag or carry a negative energy 24/7.
Jesus isn't only the way the truth and the life to God; He's the way the truth and the life to my identity! In finding Him, I found (finding) myself!! Peace and blessings!!!
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LEGS CLOSED, EYES OPENED, Standards high!
@Kenyagirly ummmm ok. I'm a woman, so I speak for women. THANK YOU
MORALS GROUNDED!
This.
Facts have value in yourself and be modest
Hello!!!!
Stay off yo back and let him get to know you
Exactly 💯💯 💯.
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Very true 😊❤
And if he don’t try to get to know you, have the courage to compassionately release him
Well said!!
The best way to reach this place as a woman is to find your identity in Christ.
Amen!
Amen and Amen
Amen 🎉
Thank youuu!
❤❤🎉 Amen Jesus is everything ❤❤
“Men respect who and what respects themselves.” TG
Quoted and noted. 📝
That's actually not true. But, the lesson should still be for a women to respect themselves first and foremost. That will attract men who respect themselves.
@@truettadevil That is the lesson.
@@Dr.Elaine1 men should respect everyone, whether they respect themselves or not. That should be the lesson taught to boys and men.
@@truettadevil We agree. Unfortunately, men (and women) don’t always do what they should.
Well, I’m praying for the man that God has for me .. days get lonely, but I will not settle ❤
Amen sista. ❤ hold on to God.
I was just thinking this to myself. I’ve been through so much that I REFUSE to settle.
Amen! Me too.
You're not alone xo
Same! I'm safer and saner waiting.
Gems: A grown man will fall in love with a woman who is an accountability partner, not a doormat/nagger/enabler. A man will fall in love with a woman who loves herself, knows who she is, has boundaries, has standards, and is firm on what she will do/not do and give/not give.
Women: Be a strong loving woman. You must stand your ground (in love)! Give, love, sacrifice, support, do not reinforce toxic behavior, do not allow yourself to be mistreated or taken for granted, only compromise on things that do no effect your soul/ eternity, & always speak up for your needs. Be consistent! You cannot finesse a real man!
No husband benefits to a boyfriend!!
THis is great! Thank you!
@@ChiChick312 you’re welcome ❤️
Very well said!
Decenter men. That's how you do it, ladies! Men seem to love me the most when I am booked and busy and barely available. When I'm flirty one day, and gone the next. But don't do this by playing a game. No, do it naturally by making everything else in your life a higher priority than men. The man who wants you for real will earn his way into being your highest priority. And he will earn it through consistency, persistency, reliability, emotional stability, integrity, etc. And you can very slowly make him a higher priority after he shows you that he's willing to do that for you. Men like boundaries, standards, and expectations and you don't always have to say what they are for him to know that they are there. Your actions can tell him everything he needs to know about you and what you will and will not tolerate.
Your comment should be on top !! You covered alot of ground in your post and every woman needs to see this. God bless🙏🏾👍🙏🏾💖.
Love this!
I do this by accident but it works
Thank you 💯💯💯
❤💯💯
Mannn it’s really rare for a man to appreciate this type of woman in this generation.. You’ll get placed in the “mothering” category even if you are just holding them accountable.. Then they chase after the “fun girls” and appreciate the good woman after they’ve been tossed to the side by them.
Grown men who can appreciate accountable women are very, very rare.
Grown men vs grown boys. That’s the distinction.
Rare like Strawberry Kit Kat
THIS. im so tired of curating and trying to be extra careful trying to come off “encouraging while making him accountable” without coming off nagging and motherly.
Long story short, do not be unequally yoked.
And that's the bottom line!
You have a lot of men that are good men, you just have to take the time to find them, like my grandma use to say “If you wanna find gold, you don’t go digging in the trash!
Oral everyday? Shes working overtime😂😂😂 ain’t no way
Tony said a man who needs it everyday and multiple times a day is sick, he needs therapy😂😂
😂😂😂
I heard Its actually unbiblical to do it at all.
I Just watched this for the 2nd time and it hit harder. I feel so confused by all the man signals and lack there of that I decided to stop trying and pray to The Most High that if its his will to have me found then so be it. I cried myself to sleep last night with Otis Redding on repeat and its not healthy so Im letting it alone.
And unemployed 😂😂😂😂. Ain’t no way she’s employed & has stuff other than her relationship going on in her life 😂😂😂, if she did she’d be tired and then realised her bf’s addiction and left him.
Not unemployed 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I knew from when I was very young that sex wasn’t supposed to be had without time, commitment, compatibility, and love. That wasn’t ingrained in me by anyone, it was almost innate knowledge. How come some adults don’t understand that concept?
Maybe you're called to be a teacher on this ❤🙏
It’s called Group Think. You are strong will discipline
Everyone does not think the same as you. With peer pressure, societal pressure, and biological programming, some people jump in the deep end without enough of a vetting process. Some women have sex with males to try to fill the love they did not get from their dads. Some young women don't know that sex does not equal love. Sometimes it is easy to get carried away from making out. People are waiting to get married later in life. Especially with a hook-up culture, and people choosing casual relationships over real solid relationships, it has ruined our society. A lot of men have no idea what courting is or women for that matter. People say, "I love you" without knowing the person. How many layers do you need to experience and see before you truly are in love? How many hours with him have you experienced with him face to face. That is why always watch a man's words and actions. Do they match? How many quality conversations are being had with both parties curious about each other.
@j-tenn yeah right! I been called weird, told to grow up, told idk what an adult relationship is etc. One told me that I think I'm top good to be touched on the leg, like wt?! Heck, once I was even called cursed cause I didn't wanna sleep with a vile swine!
They get swayed with their hormones (biology and baby making hormones) and society. I did. Took me until 34 in 2018 to realize what you realized. So now I am waiting till marriage for sex, but it's been a long, lonely and hard road because I've been meeting nothing but toads! As soon as they realize I'm not into the easy sex thing, their out. Either that or the first few challenges of a relationship, their also out! So yeah... harder to get a man to love.. Maybe I've been barking up the wrong tree because I like white men, but I do know that a lot of white men DO like Asians so I really don't know what it is!
Hi, T. Just to add to the conversation. Was almost 25 years married. Divorced because of infidelity. My x was hyper sexual, not even getting older changed it. He was always so proud of himself looking in the mirror, fully "e. ct". I thought it was normal because I was taught, you don't talk out of the bedroom. It took an affair, epileptic seizure to get to the issue. Triggered by the stress obviously. When the neurologist asked me if he was hyper, I was shocked. On his brain scan, he showed me damage areas of his brain. He was in motorcycle accident when he was sixteen, that did the damage to temporal lobes. All made sense and everything fell into place. He then told me, it will never stop and if I'm willing to keep my eye on him 24/7. The trauma and lies up until then, I couldn't. We divorced and we still can be "friends" for children. God helped me overcome it all, by grace and grace alone. Point of this story is, please ask if your guy or woman was in a accident or head injury. It can alter things forever and never ever overlook it!!! 🙏
Wow thanks for Sharing this is powerful! Sorry about your Divorce and I pray your Strength 🙏🙏
Wow!!
If a man doesn't want to discipline of his lust, then he shouldn't be married.
Nothing makes a man fall in love..but him falling in love..
@@tiffanyhall6342 hello dear
How are you doing today
Good evening
A man that play games and don’t wanna be held accountable I don’t deal with when I did before it was miserable and I had to leave
i felt this because some men feel we come off hard to deal with but we been through maybe similar red flags
"Men respect who and what respects themselves." - Tony G.
Wasted my life on a BOY 😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮
It's never a waste. It's a lesson. God has more for you. Change your mind change your life.
Absolutely 💯
Imagine giving so much of yourself to someone who’s not ready n mature enough to receive n reciprocate…. When years have past by it does feel like a waste but that’s why awareness is important.
Move on and take the lesson with you. You know more now, so you'll do better. Your past is a lesson, not a life sentence.
So many of our young women need to hear this talk.
You described me... my guy had no intentions on being with me but he ended up falling in love for all the right reasons once he got to know me.. ive always had that with guys. Im not the finest or the prettiest. I just carry myself very well and im a genuinely good person.
In order words, respect yourself. I've seen it with my own eye. Men dont know how to respect what they didn't earn, carry yourself with grace, dignity and self respect. Know youre loved and already chosen by God.
I have been guilty of all of these things and am praying for God to restore me. Thank you for your inspiring message for direction to us women and healing🙏
Your Heavenly Father is writing a beautiful story for you!!
I just read an article that stated due to the rising cost of living most people will enter relationships and marriages with individuals who they do not love but view as business opportunities to split costs.
For most of history marriage has been a business opportunity. It’s the business of raising children.
So true! If a man starts to play mental gymnastics with me, I will leave instantly. Grown women don't have time for that.
Fall in love with self & everything will be added🙏🏽
THIS
Please and thankyou! Self actualization and self discovery over everything.
Wouldn't feel the need to nag if men took personal responsibility. Basically, if a man isn't doing what he's supposed to/said he would do, its time to go✌🏾
Yeah, Tony pushes patriarchy in this regard. Wives only nag husbands who aren't doing what they should be doing on their own.
Key word husband. Men and women need to learn their worth. Know you should be a husband and a wife. The old saying why buy a cow, when you can get the milk free.
It’s sad how it’s always about men , this is a big reason why women who focus on pleasing their man always lose themself in it . We forget ourselves and put ourselves last😢. A grown man will want to be kept and a grown boy don’t know about compromise. Both parties should learn one another !
I am a woman of a certain age and my husband is 10 years younger than me and he was with countless women before me. He was with one for 13 years
referring to her as his fiancé we
were married and engaged within 10 months and we are celebrating three years of marriage. The most important thing is that you elevate a man spiritually you hold him accountable and as everyone else said, close your legs open your heart and gently challenge him to become a better ..more improved version of himself and don’t lower your standards ❤ be patient consistent and lead in the love of The Lord
Beautiful young man! We need more BLACK men like you. May God continue to bless you and your famliy's journey.
Ladies, stop giving a man the contents of your cup if he only drains and never fills it back up. What you have to offer whether tangible or intangible is ALWAYS earned...never freely given!!!
This message is so true. No… I’m not a man, but I’m so blessed to be married to a grown man!!! Everything that this guy described as a real man, my husband possess. I tell him every day that I’m so grateful to God for putting such a wonderful human being in my life!!
Sometimes I cant help but cry when I'm hurting so bad.
This is the truth 🙌🏾 💯 sex isn't the whole package
No lies told .
Im not a man of God.
Im a man of the world.. listen to this man.
In the ' manosphere' we tell each other, become the man of your dreams, as in become the best version of yourself, it means loving yours by getting fit, getting your diet right, getring yoir money right and working on your hangups.
This really applies to everyone. But also keep in mind you are trying to attract the opposite sex. Learn what they value, and go out and provide value.
If he doesn't reciprocate, realize thats not the person for you.
It took me a very long time to get to a place of true love for self. I really like being with ME. If I tell a man that I’m not dating and are happily single, there is something wrong with me. If a man says “what is wrong with you” after I tell him that, I am not interested. You should be happy that I am single by choice and not out screwing around. Some have accused me of sleeping around, just based on. The way I dress. I have been abstinent for almost 5 yrs and cool with it. I would love to share my life with someone but right now my focus is on me and what truly makes me happy. The right one will show himself one day soon….i am just thankful to God that I am blessed with a real spirit of discernment. Great topic!
I like the way he takes the time to explain
So true!! That’s me❤ that’s why I got the ring 💍
The most important is RESPECT…if he doesn’t respect you it’s not love! If you want to be loved…stand in your ground…don’t compromise your own moral and your values
I never give a second chance who betrayal me
My feelings is gone
I’m very strong to sabotage my own feelings that I know he is the wrong person in my life! I choose to hurt my heart! And remember what I deserve!! My values,my worth and my MORALITY!
It’s ok to love him
But it’s more ok to love yourself moreeee!! Put on the pedestal your own moral! If you want to be loved and honor you as a woman of his life 💍❤
She doesn’t reinforce toxic behavior 😊 n if he doesn’t like it leave him
I love the way you articulated in this video
Love this advice for our young women! And even for me 60+
After 50 years of unconditional love of a man he speaks of. Amen.He covered me his love. We served each other. He speaks truth, this young man! Intimacy is out of the bedroom is what he's saying. Don't ever lose you confidence in yourself. Strong but loving and expecting the best from your man. ❤
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My! This is the most concise and accurate description of what love really is.
So true everything life didnt teach me I learned from you! Thanks T.G! Keep letting God use you! You're going to deliver a generation of lost women!
Keep going Brother Tony Gaskins! Salute to you and your wife fir setting a God led marriage and family! Im so proud of you two!
Everything you've said is so true I was in a relationship for almost a year. It had its toxicities. I felt as if I were taken for granted underappreciated devalued. I set boundaries, I held him accountable I stood up to him and I left him. He then revealed that he was in love with me. He wanted me to give him another chance and I told him no I've given so many and I'm tired. He didn't take that well. He also mentioned a attachment to me. Men better realize women often give a lot of chances but when we reach the end we're at the end. All of you men if you love a woman please listen to her please let her feel heard and seen appreciate her make sure she knows she's a value if you do not you're going to lose her forever.
“just barkin” instead of affirming - U GO MR GASKINS, talk your talk … tell the truth about those addictions & vices!!
He is a spiritual warrior! He goes to war in the dark when no one is looking! ❤❤❤❤
Very informational video, Tony and I thank you for taking the time to put it out here for us.✨❤️✨ Ladies…It may be challenging to stand your ground when you love the man or care about the man but when you love yourself more than you love the man and understand that the man is most likely acting out of immaturity, selfishness, entitlement or any other low vibrational spirit, you will feel your power and tell him “No” without worrying about the consequences that may come from the man. There’s power in saying no and walking away. Don’t let fear keep you from exercising that power…your non-negotiables.
Tony,
Thank you for breaking down what will make a grown man for in love.
This was so ON POINT!! Most women don’t understand that when they exhibit these qualities Tony covers they actually ATTRACT the right man!! Thank you sir for your guidance !!❤
I love this video. It is worth re-watching numerous times!
This is by far the best input that I've heard from a relationship coach on the differences of "Grown Boys vs. Grown Men. " Thank you, Mr. Gaskins for taking the time to share your thoughts on this topic. Much appreciated 🙏🏻🙏🏿🙏🏻🙏🏿
I really love the advice you give. I pray that women will take the advice to get the relationship they desire and need.
I appreciate this Tony. Still working on me, too but you’ve helped me come along way. I find if the man isn’t “grown” even your best laid words (even if sprinkled with fairy dust and cake) will seem like nagging and complaining. No matter how you put it, he’ll find fault in everything you say and that breaks a woman down, regardless of how strong she is. The only man that can appreciate all you’ve said is a man who’s ready to be a man/husband, as you’ve stated so eloquently. God bless you for helping both men and women.
This is a good message highlighting the main point that a man is a spiritual warrior. He moves from pleasure-seeking to purpose-driven with God's plan guiding him. Good job Tony on this one. Possibly you can come out with a daily message to the males, maybe like 1-3 minutes focusing on reversing platitudes to help them move from taking a red pill or other pills to digesting meat, this being seasoned Word from God to cultivate their appetites. Their palette has to change. Blessings!
This was so good, Tony. I constantly have to remind myself not to complain but simply state what I need in a nice way. Who knew it was that easy to get what you need from a man that cares about you.
This was so enlightening and empowering. Your voice is so peaceful and sure. Thank you so much for sharing. 🙏🏽💛💐
I Appreciate You for Always genuinely teaching us 🖤✨
Very amazing points here ! Definitely you have to have character & integrity about yourself as a man. Also have identity through god and listen to the path he designed you in and the rest fall in line . Men need to start paying attention to what’s important . Your spirit is most important than flesh . Women we don’t ask for much only if men pay attention they would understand good one Tony 💯
Tony you a King, I don’t have these conversations with my Dad and I’m learning from you ! Thank you
Thank you for making this video I hope every young and older woman watch this
Great advice everything I thought was not right now I’m wiser n will apply new knowledge
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THiS 😊🤞🏽. BEEN STAYiNG OFF OF MY BACK FOR ALMOST 6 YEARS 🙌🏾. A LOT OF WOMEN NEED TO LiSTEN TO YOU.
Everything he said was definitely Rightttt
Preach Tony Preach……..True that!!!!!💯💯
Thank you I’m glad you confirmed what I am doing is correct. Loving myself and setting boundaries in a loving way.
Wow everything you said was exactly on point! It was amazing to listen to you speak and I learned a lot and left with a smile so thanks so much for being a kind man ❤❤❤love from Poland 🇵🇱
Thank you. We're proud of you for speaking the truth. We appreciate you a lot!
Thank you for sharing your wisdom 🙏🏾
This right here !! Tony never misses 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾📝
Tony stay dropping them Jewels💎💪🏾🙏🏾
Wow, this hit home like nothing else!
Love this. Thank you for sharing. Your channel has been helpful to my growth. Sending peace and blessings to you and all the beautiful souls out there 🙏💙🕊
This message is beautiful!! Thank you! ♥️✨
Wow I love your advice. It’s so clear and I truly appreciate it! ❤
He makes a lot of great points here.
Creating balance is a must ✨️
Beautiful message
Love the message. Thank you.
Amen this definitely the truth
My Brother helping us Ladies as Always💪💪❤️❤️
Thank you Tony. Any advise for a woman who tries to hold him accountable but is met with toxic behavior such as gaslighting? And yes, she stands her ground & all the things you mentioned.
Tony, I appreciate you sharing your insight on this subject. I have been listening and reading some of the comments. I can understand why some people get a little uncomfortable about what you're saying. I get it you are speaking from experience and a lot of faith. In these last days, we can not use the name of JESUS in any way we feel. Be bless
So if the guy drinks, gambles, and watches porn then he's a grown boy...
Precisely. All hedonistic.
Correct that’s his social and love life!
What if he doesn’t drink or gamble but watches porn? Do I throw him out? Context: he is a single dad, ex-wife has mental illness, and he has custody of kids and they only see mom on weekends. Also, I’ve been dating him five months and we have not met friends or family on either side. It’s his doing…I’m open to it but he has not mentioned it. Also, he has a super high seggs drive and can go a long time, like nothing I’ve ever seen. BUT, he tells me he’s a Christian and has a big prayer life, feeds the homeless etc. But how do I really know that? Am I wasting my time?? I’m looking for serious responses bc I’m wondering if I am not paying attention to red flags. Do I exit? Btw, I’m a 49 year old female and he is a 52 year old man. I have s 19 year old son and he has 11 year old and 14 year old girls.
Yes he preaches this on a regular
@@Forwardnow He's definitely a red flag and that sexual appetite isn't going anywhere. You have to decide if it's something you want to deal with long term. A lot of these men are full of lust and if you can't satisfy them someone else will. If he's watching porn he is watching a different woman and men doing different things. His expectations of you may change at some point. Some of these men surprisingly pay for sex ... I was shocked. You haven't seen all of his sides... Just give it some time. If you stay with him just take your time.
This is by far the best explanation I've heard. Thank you 😊
Amazing video Tony as always! Thank you thank you so much 🙏🏾😁
This is great. I loved the wisdom
So needed to hear every word of this cause this is me now and it took self growth for sure
All I can say after watching many of your videos is; I was blind but now I see.
Yes I always try to get to know someone on an emotional, mental, and spiritual level first.
If we can pour into each other outside of physical intimacy ,
build a healthy friendship first, encourage each other to reach our highest selves, connect through common passions, nurture each other with self care, create a beautiful safe space that’s surrounded by peace, trust, and happiness then we might be able to have something special.
It’s also important for yall to speak love and light into each other. Be each other’s
biggest supporter, and respect the protection/ leadership the man provides in the relationship.
I was also told by my grandfather to always stay feminine, pleasant, calm, and kind, and beautiful inside/ outside.
Like you said Tony don’t just go for anything, hold him accountable but don’t nag or carry a negative energy 24/7.
Thank you for this one. Much needed for myself and have a better understanding of men and grown boys.
Jesus isn't only the way the truth and the life to God; He's the way the truth and the life to my identity! In finding Him, I found (finding) myself!! Peace and blessings!!!
I needed to hear this. Thank you. 🙏🏽
Being Christ/Yeshua led has led me to my Joshua, a hard working Christian man who courted and pursued me. I am grateful for this anointing.
So glad I was able to see you live! You’ve been pouring into us women for so long! May God continue to bless you
Ladies, KNOW your worth!❤
Love this message, Tony! Thank you ❤
This was eye-opening and a blessing 📍🔥
This was good! And a confirmation for me❤️🥰 Thank you!!
Thank you for this Tony🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙌🙌🙌✨✨