What a Good Single Man told me about most Women today!

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  • @charlenelawson8399
    @charlenelawson8399 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    My husband and I waited until we were married. Best decision I ever made. If he’s a godly man he will wait! 💗

    • @cuprunnethover2509
      @cuprunnethover2509 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for sharing! 🙌🙌

    • @tinyking11
      @tinyking11 ปีที่แล้ว

      🔥❤️❤️

    • @SoulBeauty1111
      @SoulBeauty1111 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Love this!!! How long have you been married?

  • @QueenZeeT
    @QueenZeeT ปีที่แล้ว +787

    What you’re teaching is true story!!! 🙌🏽 After my divorce I decided to focus on me… spiritually, physically, mentally, emotionally and financially. I have been celibate for 11 yrs and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with me. With God all things are possible.

    • @yourstruly1984
      @yourstruly1984 ปีที่แล้ว +72

      11 years.. that's impressive.
      I've been abstaining for 4 years and focusing on myself as well.
      Much love n success to you sistar

    • @disapphire
      @disapphire ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Amen sister!

    • @YellowRoses10
      @YellowRoses10 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Amen💕

    • @marilynking527
      @marilynking527 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Yesss good job sis!

    • @jessicascreenwritingservices
      @jessicascreenwritingservices ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Great job sis! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @JustDoRight
    @JustDoRight ปีที่แล้ว +317

    We're out here. I've raised my daughters to do the same. Save themselves for marriage. Go to school, build thier credit, save, work, and develop yourselves Spiritually in The Word of God, having a relationship with THEE. Already carrying themselves as wives if thats what they choose. 🙏🏽 So far, so good. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

    • @doz6521
      @doz6521 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      That's beautiful, I intend to do the same but also ensure they develop healthy friendships with men who respect them to balance their lives. The men they marry will prove themselves a friend over time.

    • @MelenaSoleil
      @MelenaSoleil ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Unfortunately carrying yourself as a wife causes men to believe YOU'RE ALREADY MARRIED 😑 and they don't approach you. The ones that do approach you are approaching BECAUSE they think you're already married and are being predatory and devious cuz odds are they're taken themselves and they just looking for some playtime smdh

    • @JustDoRight
      @JustDoRight ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@MelenaSoleil Not true. I'm speaking of evolved men, not predators.

    • @JustDoRight
      @JustDoRight ปีที่แล้ว

      @DOZ Amen. They will already be best friends before marriage.

    • @donnanavarro9693
      @donnanavarro9693 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Talk about dedication. I’m so ecstatic that he’s shooting a video while pumping gas only Tony gaskets can do that. 🙏👍🏾

  • @jessiegraz7520
    @jessiegraz7520 ปีที่แล้ว +211

    I am a virgin and so is my boyfriend we are waiting till marriage and dating right now. When you take care of your outside and inside people notice. 😊 God has the right person for you or god wants you single. But no one is perfect.

    • @Dr.K.H
      @Dr.K.H ปีที่แล้ว +11

      This is lovely!!! Stay steadfast, yall!

    • @myahill7475
      @myahill7475 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      ❤❤❤😊

    • @StrengthDignity
      @StrengthDignity ปีที่แล้ว +5

      What a blessing ❤

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Do u think he's going to propose? What's he waiting for? I am so glad your both abstinent but I think he should propose.

    • @TheLovelysapphire
      @TheLovelysapphire ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Plan to get married within the next 6 months ( a year MAX). No need in waiting any longer. Get married soon so as not to fall into sexual sin. Or separate until you both are ready to go all the way.
      Blessings to you, 🙂

  • @22ValentineRosario
    @22ValentineRosario ปีที่แล้ว +18

    He needs to be saving himself as well. Women don’t want ran thru men either

    • @Itsque28
      @Itsque28 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And men always try to say"men can't be ran through, they do the running through".... It's disgusting

  • @kwoodson4232
    @kwoodson4232 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Why do people think that women aren't visual?🤷🤔😒

    • @ebonyg9632
      @ebonyg9632 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      😂😂😂I know right it's weird when people think we are not visual. We are super visual we just don't speak on it too much or we do so with only people we trust... But oh yessss we are more visual than men.

  • @Dr.K.H
    @Dr.K.H ปีที่แล้ว +229

    Tony is speaking 1000% truth!
    I also tell friends...you can make beauty modifications, but you can't change the core of anyone's character. 👏🏾

    • @JessSoReal
      @JessSoReal ปีที่แล้ว +3

      FACTS! The inner beauty shows on the exterior of a person.

  • @rosemarymartinez6709
    @rosemarymartinez6709 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    “When you close your legs, you gotta ask yourself; Is this the hairstyle for me?” 😂😂 don’t stop with the honesty cause we need it.

  • @weareallone6148
    @weareallone6148 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    The Biggest Problem is: People imitate what everybody else is doing; regardless if it’s Wrong and they make it a Trend! No wonder, doom is everywhere!
    Don’t be followers, be Leaders instead!

  • @christineporter9914
    @christineporter9914 ปีที่แล้ว +124

    I receive this message to Save myself for marriage. I was tried by this man that's interested in me he wanted to lean in to kiss me I quickly Turned my face he was totally shock but he immediately told me that it's different for him what I did but the next day told me he truly Respect me. So am taken in these videos it's not in vain what you teaching and sacrificing your time away from your family Bro Tony. Am just praying I continue to stay strong I've been abstaining for 3 years now. It's real out here when we hear these messages and we will be put to the test.

  • @lisaappoh6484
    @lisaappoh6484 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    With all the fleshly desires you described. The MOST IMPORTANT is the HEART. So while Man is looking at the abs, the teeth, the face, etc. God will ALWAYS look at the HEART.

  • @rebekahjette6304
    @rebekahjette6304 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    Not all women want 6' tall men. I am 5' 6" and just wanted someone taller than myself. Kissable height is what I call it.

    • @kiaracouch9315
      @kiaracouch9315 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Yes mam I'm 5'4" and my dude is 5'8" or 5'7" 😉 I told him I'm glad he not tall because when we get old I need someone I can help not somebody I gotta leave on the floor because he too damn big 🤣

    • @amaragrace94
      @amaragrace94 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@kiaracouch9315 lmaooo so true

    • @amaragrace94
      @amaragrace94 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same sis!

    • @rogers5622
      @rogers5622 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Right. We all are not height exclusive 🤣

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 ปีที่แล้ว

      I think it stems from hunter gatherer era when women needed tall built men to protect them but now with public security it is less important how physically in shape they are cause money is power now since they can hire guards and camera.

  • @nekam.3216
    @nekam.3216 ปีที่แล้ว +115

    Thank you so much Tony Gaskins for teaching Queens in the world. We need more men like you in their purpose. I'm happily single at 46 & I've been abstinent since 2017. I never felt so whole, free, loved, respected & worthy. I'm not focusing on meeting a man, but I am open to it. I'm focusing on me & enjoying life in my singleness, until God blesses with my husband. God bless you, your family & everyone on here.

    • @junelockett5295
      @junelockett5295 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Bless you as well sis...keep loving your self

    • @lifeisbeautiful9455
      @lifeisbeautiful9455 ปีที่แล้ว

      I know that’s right! I love myself too much!

  • @lillianbrandon3679
    @lillianbrandon3679 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I’d really like to hear from more men respecting their bodies by abstaining. It seems rare.

  • @HealThyLivingQueen
    @HealThyLivingQueen ปีที่แล้ว +46

    Man TONY!! You speaking straight facts. My mouth is on the floor. 😂
    I been so focused working on me and my brand while getting my degrees not even worried about a man and BOOM… The Good Lord done sent me a GOOD ONE!!! Ayyyy ♥️🙏🏾

  • @journey2greatness766
    @journey2greatness766 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Wealthy people have a budget. It just may be higher than others, but they still have one. Therefore, they stay rich. Wealthy people have temperance and limits on what they do. They have self-control.

  • @spokenpoet5074
    @spokenpoet5074 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I truly agree. I'm 58 soon to be 59 in July and I've been single and celibate for over 5 plus years now and refuse to settle . I'm enjoying my life regardless of being single and I'm a chef so I stay busy and want to start a channel for older women who are single and this world tried to tell you that you need to be desperate. Hell naw.. wait wait until you meet the right guy. At my age we've been married, grown children and have had enough sexto last us .

  • @Brandiisbeloved
    @Brandiisbeloved ปีที่แล้ว +38

    I know I need to lose weight. That's what holding me back. I like to look good
    I know I'm pretty but a bit hefty. I love God,not Into hookups and waiting until marriage. Its just I like to eat. But I've been seeking God to help me with this problem and taking the steps to make some changes

    • @yvettecook9870
      @yvettecook9870 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      You've taken the first, big step, which is acknowledging what YOU want to change. Not for a man, but better health. Also note that the right man will love you just as you are!

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm glad your self aware. Join a gym or if not go walking. I lost a great deal of weight just walking. Pray about what your eating. Drink plenty water.

  • @katrinajames85
    @katrinajames85 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    All the unqualified dating coaches has ruined dating seriously Dating is really simple I don't understand why everybody is making it so hard today just be the best u you can be and when you find someone u like and that truly likes u date them if it ends in marriage great if not keep dating.

    • @katrinajames85
      @katrinajames85 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @Gina Maria absolutely it's really very simple

    • @christianhenry4173
      @christianhenry4173 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ginmaria117 nothing works outside the bibles morals. And I'm not saying be religious. But I never seem success for women approaching men or pursuing men when it's supposed t9 be the other way around. I haven't much success in dating someone unequally yoked. A spiritual man needs a Godly spiritual woman who has the same beliefs

    • @christianhenry4173
      @christianhenry4173 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ginmaria117 incorrect. Read the book of Timothy. The bible calls that a silly woman. Never once in any biblical information did women approach their husbands. Not even Ruth. Boaz saw Ruth as a worker in his fields and he found that she had favor with God. It's absolute foolishness to me women today believe they can approach or initiate marriage. That is not a feminine roll that's a masculine roll. Men being leaders is not a form of slavery or anything. It's supposed to Be God first, husband 2nd, Wife 3rd then children or whole family. And Jesus is in between Husband and his Father. The problem today is people forgot God and they go after their own lust or will.

    • @katrinajames85
      @katrinajames85 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ginmaria117 exactly 💯

    • @katrinajames85
      @katrinajames85 ปีที่แล้ว

      @christian henry you do know the Bible was used for oppression and you do know it is man made and has been revised so many times things taken out things put in. We have the 10 commandments and lobe thy neighbor should be enough you think?

  • @kelinadeclouet6917
    @kelinadeclouet6917 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    As a young woman who didn’t grow up with a father figure in her life, I really admire these videos I’m not a part of your coaching, but watching your videos are enough for me. You’ve really opened my eyes and showed me how I really should operate , not only as a young woman, but a human being I watch all your videos back to back. They fulfill different parts of my life and answers that I’ve always wanted to know. It doesn’t matter what you talk about. I understand everything, you speaking nothing but the truth and I admire you for that! Thank you tony ! And god bless you and your family ❤

  • @nnena3631
    @nnena3631 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I understand what's being said here and I agree with a lot but at some point we have to stop grooming women to be wives for men that don't want to be married. men need to teach men to value women and marriage.

    • @beac8238
      @beac8238 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      We’re not grooming women to be wives to men that don’t want marriage. We’re grooming women to be wives to attract men that want marriage. We have no control over a man. We only have control over ourselves.

  • @TamBella80
    @TamBella80 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    If you’re a woman who has been sexually active in the past, please know that you can still choose to stop what you’ve been doing and change course. You won’t die from lack of sex. And any man who doesn’t want your company, time or attention without you putting out isn’t someone you want in your life anyway
    I’ve been abstaining for almost 3 years and it has been amazing for my mind, body and soul. There is absolutely no downside to it other than missing the pleasure of sex. However, that’s not even a big deal to me, because sex is temporary anyway. It may feel good in the moment, but afterwards, not so much. Especially if you’re having casual sex.
    Give yourself time to get to know yourself. Develop yourself. Your likes/dislikes. Your standards. Strengthen your faith. Develop a relationship with GOD. The ultimate source of unconditional love
    Trust me, you aren’t missing out on anything when you abstain. If anything, you stand out. And off the rip, guys know they can’t play with you.
    I’ve been watching Tony Gaskins for years and one thing I love is that he’s gonna give you the real deal Holyfield, from a Christian perspective. He’s relatable, and has a passion for helping women. God bless you.

  • @tamaramichelle4326
    @tamaramichelle4326 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    That’s why reality is all women will not have the perfect body … so some of the good men will have to be flexible unless they want to spend on cosmetic surgery! Our hormones are impacting this generation of women in ways we never seen before! Al women need to strive for the best healthy version!

  • @Shepraise808
    @Shepraise808 ปีที่แล้ว +106

    Thank you Tony! Leveling up physically, mentally, spiritually and financially!!!! Putting myself out there to be found by a Godly Man.

    • @slimchica1
      @slimchica1 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes I agree with you about leveling up in those areas, but also about putting myself out there.

  • @Iamfree33
    @Iamfree33 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I am abstaining and focusing on myself. Yet, I have met men that say my standards are too high because I don’t do “friends with benefits” or “situationships” 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      They are trying to manipulate you out of your standards and boundaries by saying that so you settle for them. If they cant meet it, then they shouldn't be giving you advice lol

  • @JessSoReal
    @JessSoReal ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Exactly virtuous woman isn’t trying to be over-sexualized.

  • @godseed79
    @godseed79 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    I still think it's important to have physical attraction. Just because someone's heart is right doesn't mean he's the right fit for me. Aesthetics is part of personality and I don't want to have to push him to work out and eat right, groom properly, and dress nice... I want him to want that on his own.

    • @user-mb9jx5tx9y
      @user-mb9jx5tx9y ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Exactlyyyyyy

    • @karahill5739
      @karahill5739 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      People so quick to say it’s what’s on the inside that counts as if looks are not important. You only see the outside first. If they are not attractive to you how will you know what is inside? And just because they may be attractive doesn’t mean they have good qualities. What you see is what you get. If they’re fat or sloppy when you meet them you accept them as they are. What reason would they change? So I wholeheartedly agree with you!!!

    • @mmhnma
      @mmhnma ปีที่แล้ว

      Facts

  • @Erika-f1f
    @Erika-f1f ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I agree with 98% of everything you’re saying , except every woman should have a business . I have job that I’m very content with , I’m looking for a man to build a life together .

  • @AG81018
    @AG81018 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Thank you for supporting my coffee shop habit and affirming my decision to make my IG public. I’m making it easier for my husband to find me 😂

  • @SignedBlake
    @SignedBlake ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Love this - A couple months ago, I decided to just focus/ work on myself and start stepping out more; I wfh and am mainly in the house, trying out coworking spaces and cafes just for a change of scenery. I’ve done the reflection/ healing and just have a fresh zeal for life; the world is at my feet.
    If he finds me, he finds me and I’ll welcome him with open arms. But if not, I’ll just keep enjoying what I’ve been doing til the next chapter comes❤

  • @christineporter9914
    @christineporter9914 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    Thank you Bro Tony for this Timely message for us women waiting on a Godly Man 🙏🏾♥️🎯

  • @Brandiisbeloved
    @Brandiisbeloved ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Tony said do I have an hyaluronic acid. I can't 🤣

    • @lovelyone2508
      @lovelyone2508 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      He's so funny 🤣😂

    • @karenvanschalkwyk9593
      @karenvanschalkwyk9593 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂😂

    • @Alovellyone
      @Alovellyone 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂 I rewinded that part because I thought thats what he said. As for me, i take collagen that includes hyaluronic acid and vitamin C. Im 45 and I refuse to look 95.

  • @reneedavis7248
    @reneedavis7248 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    As long as I have two legs, two eyes and etc, I’m not worried about nothing. I’m happy and everything is functional. So what if I not the beauty standards of male creatures. Things could always be worse.

  • @missraemarie7410
    @missraemarie7410 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    😆😆 don't no body know who you areee, ruh!! He makes me laugh but true words.

  • @treneemcgee8060
    @treneemcgee8060 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Amen! Women saving themselves until marriage exists too! We out here! Focusing, building and in God! SAVING OURSELVES! 🔥🔥

  • @brittanymillner
    @brittanymillner ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I appreciate this conversation Tony! Being a virtuous woman is the goal 🙌🏾 currently getting this body together for myself and for my king & putting myself out there more. I know I’m a good woman and I will have my good man!

  • @amaragrace94
    @amaragrace94 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    AMEN AMEN AMEN! Legs closed for 1.5 yrs praise God🙌! HIT THE GYM LADIES (arms, back, core, legs, cardio) 3-5 days a week 30-60 mins. Eat healthy. Choose classy/ modest but form fitting and flattering to your shape, cute/subtle sexy outfits; jewelry, a nice fragrance, and you don't need over the top makeup and nails (put effort into your skin), put effort into your natural hair/protective styles. My church is multicultural and more casual attire but I KNOW I looked good this morning fully covered. Dress how you want to be perceived. You don't know who is looking (i.e. possible future husband).

    • @user-mb9jx5tx9y
      @user-mb9jx5tx9y ปีที่แล้ว

      Guys actually like women who dress look simple

    • @fayolasaunders6342
      @fayolasaunders6342 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes thank you, these tips are great. I really need to work on looking after my skin

  • @gerrileylucas3318
    @gerrileylucas3318 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    You are the real. Thanks always for doing the lord's work 💐

  • @journeywithjustkeisha2627
    @journeywithjustkeisha2627 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Amen, a whole word!! Thank you for speaking the truth, no one is the full package because no one is perfect. Their heart for God is most important because if they love God, they can love you like Christ loved the church.

  • @shes_ah_truckher7716
    @shes_ah_truckher7716 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    “You can’t hide God’s blessings” You can’t hide the Favor Of God ✨🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾✨💕❤️

  • @hillmeli
    @hillmeli ปีที่แล้ว +63

    Tony, I just got out of a 9 year marriage that ended last year due to my husbands long time infidelity and adultery. A man from my job asked me out, he has been pursuing me for 4 years and I gave him a chance now that I'm in the process of a divorce. But, I realized he wants to sleep with me and I ended it. I am 40 years old and never got to have kids because my ex husband would deny me sex. He was into pornography. I know God has a GOOD MAN out here for me. I am putting God first because He knows my ❤️ and how I want to PLEASE HIM first. Even though I have seen my share of no good men, I still believe there are good men out there...and my heart is willing to cultivate something special. Meanwhile, working on myself and loving it.

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I'd advise you not to date until divorce is final. I applaud you for your stance for chastity. That's great. It's going to take time to heal. I pray you find peace & fulfillment in Christ Jesus.

    • @CalledUntoHoliness
      @CalledUntoHoliness ปีที่แล้ว +2

      My prayer is that the Lord will lead you in his perfect will. But pleaee do not make the mistake of getting into a second marriage that will be adultery in the sight of God. I will leave the scriptures here so thst you can prayerfully consider before making a decission. (Romans 7:2-4),(Mark 10:10-12),(1 Corinthians 7:10-11),(1 Corinthians 7:39). Take care.

    • @karahill5739
      @karahill5739 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@CalledUntoHoliness she is free to remarry. Her husband broke the covenant when he cheated. She is not bound to that marriage.

    • @CalledUntoHoliness
      @CalledUntoHoliness ปีที่แล้ว

      @@karahill5739 The scripture does not say that (Romans 7:2-4),(1 Corinthians 7:39),(Mark 10:10-11).

    • @karahill5739
      @karahill5739 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@CalledUntoHoliness well what about the scripture that says god hate a divorce except because of adultery or death? You should know that one. It’s Matthew 19:1-9. God hates a divorce between those he put together 1st off, but if they do divorce it can be because of sexual immorality. By the scriptures a woman is not allowed to remarry unless he committed adultery or dies.

  • @theresakingbell2957
    @theresakingbell2957 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Hiyalana acid I seriously LOLd. Hyaluronic it's Hyaluronic. But you are speaking truth, sir.

  • @amy863
    @amy863 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Thank you for this video ! Everything you said is correct ✅ I always said that when I get married I would never ask my husband to take me shopping or buy me jewelry and give me a huge house. I would rather live comfortably and simple and let him save his money ! As long as we’re not struggling and our children are safe and healthy that’s all that matters

  • @BP-fh8np
    @BP-fh8np ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Divorced since 2018 and been elevating since. I feel great and in my singleness I'm constantly thriving.

  • @DanielleStarr
    @DanielleStarr ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Yep everybody wants to give it up so bad. All they have to do is talk dirty or give a false sense of importance, approval. They fall in quick. Stop being with people of the opposite sex. Late at night. Temptation is stronger then you can handle.

  • @durbansaladyinaccra2173
    @durbansaladyinaccra2173 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    ".....we can't stop the music 🎼🎵🎶..." 😂😂😂Tony's hilariousness is too much fo me t hold back this laughter yall. 🤣

  • @tarahbruno3793
    @tarahbruno3793 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    Focus on yourself ladies! The man that God has will see you. Don’t let the devil make you feel like virtue and all the “ old” school values are no longer important , when in fact most of those qualities make you shine amongst the dust.side note: let the cartoon lashes go!

  • @anitam.williams4001
    @anitam.williams4001 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    😅 HE IS TIRED OF US 😅
    Mr. G
    We need your help, don't leave us ! Please 😅

  • @jasminehill6312
    @jasminehill6312 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    Does anyone ever tell men to keep their legs closed ??? Women are always told that but men have free range to do whatever they want and then go after the women who have been celibate 🤔🤔. And I appreciate the examples of the 3 men that Tony gave however I’m a therapist with a lot of Black female clients and things are different.

    • @lovelyone2508
      @lovelyone2508 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Yes, he does as well. Check out his other videos 😊 I get what you mean though. Marc The Messenger on here does too.

    • @BashaerB-h2c
      @BashaerB-h2c ปีที่แล้ว +5

      ​@Square Peg Same thing is starting to happen with Muslim men. They go after belly dancers and good practicing Muslim women are left standing behind.

    • @anjijack5392
      @anjijack5392 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      ​@Square Peg That has been my #1 experience. I met & married twice. Both of whom I had met in church & they cheated. Ugh!

    • @mamat1213
      @mamat1213 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Like I tell my elementary students, you can only worry about yourself… sure society is skewed a certain way but if YOU decide not to give up the goods then it doesn’t matter what a man decides to do or not do 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @amaragrace94
      @amaragrace94 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@lovelyone2508 Agreed. I follow both of them. People need to stop following pages that don't preach the truth. Those of us practicing abstinence are in the minority. Everybody isn't about Jesus. Pray for them but your focus should be on the ones that are actually walking in the word.

  • @MariaCM2024
    @MariaCM2024 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    Self-care is the best love 2 yourself...
    Hair
    Nails
    Skin
    Meditate
    Mental health
    Work out
    Healthy eating
    Girl friend time

  • @StrengthDignity
    @StrengthDignity ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Lol I love you Tony 😂😂😂😂 I’m a 31 yr old virgin and I’m still making myself better day by day

  • @tarawilliams5204
    @tarawilliams5204 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    We definitely need more christian Women & Men that are Prosperous and they need to be more visible!! Your message is On point and it is a message for those with a Progressive Mindset!!💯💯

  • @raemaxey3401
    @raemaxey3401 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is so true! I stay on a budget with my high credit score…lol. And I use the envelope system too. I’m single but not looking to date because it’s to much nonsense going on out here!

  • @hbrdge
    @hbrdge ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Big bruh wasgood! I just wanted to say you helped me change n become a real man. Been watching your vids back when the 19 first started. I love what you doing. I encourage all men to tap in with bro but, also tap in with yourself and the LORD. Not everything on this TH-cam is 100% accurate. Walk with the LORD, men! Dont sleep around, be faithful n accountable. Make decisions you feel are best n charge the rest to the game. John 8:7 (nobody’s perfect). You gonna make mistakes bruh, but, make sure you doing it on your own conviction. Not on what you seen on the internet my brother. I love the man im becoming big bruh played Tony played a significant part in it tho💯 I aint lying.
    Signing off,
    HB

  • @estheri5944
    @estheri5944 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    I think a lot of times as women we forget how visual men are. The same way we don’t want to date a godly broke man is the same way men don’t want to date a godly out of shape woman.

    • @adarateranroldan
      @adarateranroldan ปีที่แล้ว +14

      That’s fine, but women’s weight is going to fluctuate throughout a relationship, especially if they’re having kids.

    • @estheri5944
      @estheri5944 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@adarateranroldan as a woman I understand but in the dating phase we have to present our best self. The same way a man’s finance will fluctuate during marriage but when he’s your husband there’s commitment and love (hopefully) holding you two together so you don’t leave him but if he was super broke from day one you wouldn’t pick him if you have any type of healthy self esteem. I know a lot of times it’s hard for us to hear these truths as women but that’s just how the world is.

    • @amaragrace94
      @amaragrace94 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      True 🙌 Can't be mad at the truth.

    • @amaragrace94
      @amaragrace94 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@adarateranroldan Of course it will fluctuate but if you are in shape (with lifting weights and cardio) and eat healthy before pregnancy, stay active during, and don't give in to every single craving, the weight should come off in 6 months to 1 year postpartum. Unless you are on medical bed rest during your pregrancy, you should still be exercising...just not as hardcore (yoga, lighter weights, and cardio).
      I have PCOS and weight loss is a lot harder but not impossible. Lost 30 lbs last year before I was even diagnosed. But I had to fight for them 30 lbs man😓. This year I'm going even harder and being more consistent. The part where Tony said you'll notice you're getting alot more attention is so true. I get my most approaches at the gym and I'm still trying to lose another 30 lbs this year. Nothing is easy, but if it's important to you, you will sacrifice the unhealthy habits to get to your goals. Discipline.

    • @marysmith6803
      @marysmith6803 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Bbl’s are not the answer just hit that gym ladies

  • @omayratorres7735
    @omayratorres7735 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    After my divorce with my ex religious narc am taking my life back by giving it to God .focusing on Him. Staying celibate and preparing my heart and mind for God .

  • @dshonette1
    @dshonette1 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Tony I just want to say thank you for telling us the biz & keeping us on point. Another thing that crossed my mind… you and your wife should be guests on the Dear Future Wifey podcast! That would be great!!!!❤️

  • @DaisyObi-oe7ow
    @DaisyObi-oe7ow ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This man paid for my food last night. Afterwards I said thank you and got ready to leave. He didn't ask me for my phone number and I didn't offer it. He said you gonna leave without giving me your number? I said if you don't ask me for my number I am not gonna offer it. I told him I am traditional and in my world a man ask for a number if He wants it. So many men don't even know how to treat a women that is traditional and I blame women. For accepting the bare minimum.

  • @TheGiftedHermit
    @TheGiftedHermit ปีที่แล้ว +1

    T giving us free game Ladies!

  • @kimbellas6874
    @kimbellas6874 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Tony you should create an app for ppl to meet each other

  • @AtlantaAngel84
    @AtlantaAngel84 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    You called me out because all my social media is private 😂

  • @Jalisialuxe
    @Jalisialuxe ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I’m 27, I’ve been celibate for 2 years, I started my own business last year, I Workout 4X a week, eat a balanced diet, have great aesthetic upkeep, god fearing, I have investments plans and I feel greatttt lol but I don’t have plans on seriously dating until I’m 30. So we shall see lol

    • @amaragrace94
      @amaragrace94 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Ummm...sis unless you're in therapy (which I recommend to everyone) and recovering from something (healing traumas, heart break, mourning, etc) please don't wait til 30😓. Think about it from the male's perspective. I'm 27 too with similar circumstances. THIS is our time. I say if you are getting respectfully approached, don't shut it down because you're waiting til 30. You might just pass up on your husband.

    • @Jalisialuxe
      @Jalisialuxe ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@amaragrace94 hey! I hear you! when I get approached I’m open but I don’t put any pressure on myself as I’m currently focused on doing inner work :)

    • @amaragrace94
      @amaragrace94 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Jalisialuxe Ok. I hear you. I respect that. That's how I am as well. I wish you all the best.

    • @Jalisialuxe
      @Jalisialuxe ปีที่แล้ว

      @@amaragrace94 Thanks love! Same to you ✨

    • @myahill7475
      @myahill7475 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You don’t have to wait though… there are men looking for a woman just like you. Praying for a woman just like you. You’re young and beautiful, share your beauty with a good man.

  • @Coolct
    @Coolct ปีที่แล้ว +17

    When Tony said he’s tired..😂😂it hard to be friends with a lot of females I sense the jezebel spirit and I can’t relate .

    • @sergiovela9961
      @sergiovela9961 ปีที่แล้ว

      What the hell is a “Jezebel spirit”?

    • @misssterling3094
      @misssterling3094 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sergiovela9961 Queen Jezebel was an evil queen in the Bible. It is believed that her spirit is still alive.

    • @CalledUntoHoliness
      @CalledUntoHoliness ปีที่แล้ว

      When people say jezebel spirit they mean her attitude or conduct not the literal spirit of a dead woman.

    • @sergiovela9961
      @sergiovela9961 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@CalledUntoHoliness And what “conduct” was that?

    • @CalledUntoHoliness
      @CalledUntoHoliness ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sergiovela9961 the conduct of a seductress,controlling,manipulative and vain woman who controls her husband.

  • @everevolve247
    @everevolve247 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Love these sobering messages. Always reinforcing the right mindset!

  • @famika34567
    @famika34567 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I agree that women should stay woke but have standards, boundaries, and expectations, because most men are on a new level with lying and sending their fake representatives daily. Most men are looking for a preference so let's be honest about that, because how are the men you describe meeting a loose woman if they didn't put themselves in the company of that. #1 good women aren't always in the club. Good black women are doing the work, the truth is most black men are not looking for black women. Most men don't think they have to do anything to improve!! Black women should be broadening their love quest but, Vet with none regret. Its easy to talk both ways but its only one rule to honesty, loyalty, trust, and true love to follow.

    • @reneearmstead5116
      @reneearmstead5116 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Thank you,very well stated
      No matter who's delivering the message, it's ALWAYS a double standard for BLACK WOMEN

  • @victoryflavored7711
    @victoryflavored7711 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Yes sir 16 years 🔒
    Preach and teach 🎉

  • @dimensionsofagemini
    @dimensionsofagemini ปีที่แล้ว +2

    He has me rolling talking about how she dressed and how her hair looked. I’m crying

  • @heidirose464
    @heidirose464 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you!! I’m sooo grateful for this!! I feel like the men I’ve come across are clueless on how to handle a pure virtuous woman. 😅 You’re preaching to me 🙏🏼❤

  • @LTW9429
    @LTW9429 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I'm so excited to know this! I'm being led by faith I know the things that I need to work on. I'm learning to love myself and invest in myself. In the past year I became serious about dating and wanting to be married. I know that I am in process. Thank you so much Tony for being a vessel. I'm going to keep listening to your videos. We need more leaders like you. You and your family are in my prayers! We need examples 🙂❤

  • @ZoeBlessed35
    @ZoeBlessed35 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks! You are always so on point. Love your spirit. God bless you are your family. Be blessed!!

  • @stephaniehereford4299
    @stephaniehereford4299 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    FACTS! The blessings of the lord maketh rich!

  • @lynnjones644
    @lynnjones644 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great message & you said it right. Folk’s definitely don’t want to see God’s ppl prospering, just sad & ridiculous mindset. God bless you..

  • @miknmas1301
    @miknmas1301 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i enjoy your videos. I am happily married almost 20 yrs and 27 years together. My husband told me recently how incredibly blessed he is for being married to me and that we're still going strong. Its not easy, takes work, lots of work. I am truly blessed to have a man who is my best friend, my rock, my everything. Ladies....just STOP thirsting, work on YOU, and the rest will fall right into place as they should when the time comes. There IS virtue out there....but like they say....PATIENCE, is key.

  • @joycewatt8289
    @joycewatt8289 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    10:24
    Lol you’re not alone TG I was driving on E too
    Driving on fumes 💨😂 I filled up today.
    On a more serious note,
    Women NEED to hear more of the truth from men! It would be nice if you could interview young men who are working on themselves and saving themselves for marriage because they believe in doing things God’s way. I trust and truly believe that God sees their faith coupled with their works and He knows who and what these young men NEED to help them work and build together for His glory.
    Ladies…..
    You can’t dress like a hooker and expect to be a wife.
    You can’t cuss 🤬like a pirate and expect to speak into a man’s life in a godly way to build him up and not tear him down.
    You can’t be ok being the size of a linebacker and think a man will not question if you’ll care about his health and the health of his children.
    God does ALL things decent and in order not filled with confusion.
    You gotta do the necessary work 🙏🏽

  • @LaniElevate
    @LaniElevate ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Soooo true about the women that be living out loud with the Jezebel spirit. That’s part of the characteristic of that spirit - it’s attention seeking. All the more reason for genuine, authentic, God-fearing women to not be afraid of having a platform.

    • @khanna9626
      @khanna9626 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I think alot of people don’t realize that Jezebel was married and was a queen and fought hard for her husband… she just served another God and that’s what made her demonized…

  • @KnollyJamesandJoJoOreo
    @KnollyJamesandJoJoOreo ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Instagram has become like a dating app. It’s disgusting

  • @tyleciasmith6285
    @tyleciasmith6285 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Tony gaskins: CLOSE YO LEGS!! 🗣️🗣️🗣️ true ish 😂😂😂

  • @tammywright898
    @tammywright898 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Amen brother Tony I receive this Blessed message/Word in Jesus name. I'm new to your Blessed Ministry and you really speaking truth about everything. And congratulations to you and all your Blessed brothers in Christ for their accomplishments, TGBTG

  • @venniesyummycreations802
    @venniesyummycreations802 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Ok. Men need to do the same!!! Not just women, it goes both ways! No exceptions!

  • @Dreamsareareality
    @Dreamsareareality ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have seen this where a lady will say I want to date, but they don't look up to par. Looking good is for you too. Good to save yourself but take care of yourself too. Always treat yourself top notch. ❤

  • @Lacilove1991
    @Lacilove1991 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Tony I have been abstinent for almost 5 years and since then my eyes have been clear and seeing what’s going on now and I feel sick. Thanks to you I met the love of my life he is from Africa and respect me and is hard-working. He respect my stance on absent it until marriage and he has been absent it for just as long as I have.

  • @keysherhendrix6232
    @keysherhendrix6232 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Tony you are so right I started a business two years ago and I deal with so many men it's a lot of good Brothers out here

  • @sandeejaye7239
    @sandeejaye7239 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This one blessed me Tony. Thank you for the real talk. I was weak at the milkshake comment

  • @waterfall1237
    @waterfall1237 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you King . This is a very educational video This world is looking for perfect people in an imperfect world. All is vanity.💜✌️

  • @quathetruth8314
    @quathetruth8314 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    My son is five and he said “that’s God” I said who…he said him(pointing at you Tony on my tablet) …I just had to tell you 😊

  • @QueenConsious
    @QueenConsious ปีที่แล้ว +11

    1 Corinthians 7:34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.

  • @weareallone6148
    @weareallone6148 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you Tony for always telling the Complete True to sisters who need to hear it! Listen up, Ladies and live your lives how Tony is telling it!
    When I was in my teenage years, I heard that once a woman is Sexually active, she can no longer abstain from it or it can even cost her, her life. That was the Biggest Lie I have ever Heard!
    I divorced my husband ten years ago and I have been Celibate since we partied ways. That’s the Best Thing that Ever Happened to Me. What I learned from being Spiritually Awakened, being Celibate is a Must to Ascend and become our Better Version. Start by learning to Love Yourself and realize that once you Love Yourself, you just can’t give yourself or allow anybody in your life! Truth be told!
    Thank you, Tony for the Truthful Guidance!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @venniesyummycreations802
    @venniesyummycreations802 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hairstyles have nothing to do about your character. I'm focused on what someone's character is, not outward appearance. As long as the hygiene is up to par that's what's important.

  • @azizabydesign
    @azizabydesign ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Thank you brother in Christ!!! You are greatly appreciated!!! You are speaking what I was recently thinking! I recently reposted a video that I made from last year and didn't realize how rough I was looking (was going through a rough patch).😆😂 I've spruced up since then but know I need to spruce up some more!!! Because if I want to date and want someone that looks upkept and fit I should be upkept and on point too. Will get it together!!!😆☺️😊
    Thank you for the reminder, confirmation and encouragement...cuz I was also thinking "are there still good, godly men out there?!?" Yes, thank you Lord. God bless you Sir!🙏🏽💯✊🏽
    Also, your female impersonations are hilarious!!!😆😂

  • @KFontLab
    @KFontLab ปีที่แล้ว +18

    TALK SIR!!!… and my Mother said this for years. Keep yourself up , just because you want to. Always be presentable.

  • @Tahtiluv
    @Tahtiluv ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Can’t wait for your podcast Tony you’re about to kill it! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @monicaadams8973
    @monicaadams8973 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Helpful Message Tony may God bless us all to take it to heart and connect with the right person that God has ordained! I am one that loves God, educates, just started my business it's doing well and I'm and a retired athlete. It takes a love relationship with God and with self to make the commitments to become and maintain having the whole package! Bless you Sir 🙏.

  • @cdnicole30
    @cdnicole30 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is facts. So use to lies we don’t like to hear the truth. That’s crazy I had to learn to receive when somebody trying to make me great

  • @MsPLR71
    @MsPLR71 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Talk that Truth Tony. The milkshake quote took me out. 😅

  • @gabj4665
    @gabj4665 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Thank you for setting us up for greatness and bringing your comedic perspective!!

  • @NurseMo337
    @NurseMo337 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Yea this was for me today. Confirmation👍🏽

  • @JohannasHair
    @JohannasHair ปีที่แล้ว +1

    On a serious note, it's really commendable how simply and lowly you break these things down in these videos. May God continue to bless you additionally!

  • @rosehamilton2665
    @rosehamilton2665 ปีที่แล้ว

    Real talk a grown man will help you to value yourself real talk woman selling their self short

  • @crystalnelson1775
    @crystalnelson1775 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It today in society it takes two people working together

  • @tamaramichelle4326
    @tamaramichelle4326 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Get in the gym together 💪🏾