Your newsletter is one of the few that I consistently open every single time. Keep up the great job. Your information is very helpful - straightforward and clear. Thanks!
Excellent. Your description of mindfullness training hit the spot for me. I understand, now, how mindfulness meditation can be useful for me. It's just training your mind to be able to acknowledge you thoughts and redirect your attention. And this can be applied to ruminative thinking patterns, like when you go over and over difficult situations, hurts, traumatic experiences etc. Gotta build up the muscle first before you will be able to apply that skill to those kind of difficult and painful thinking patterns.
Excellent delivery Nick, you are getting better and better every day! I would also add that mindfulness can help identify moments and environments that trigger intrusive thoughts. Your brilliant advice to acknowledge, reframe and redirect attention when such thoughts infiltrate the mind is fantastic!
Hello, your content is amazing. What I want to ask is, would you also conduct studies on toilet anxiety, which is a cause of agoraphobia? For some reason, this is an issue that no professional talks about and is ignored. The content about this has only been created by brave people who are experiencing the situation, but in fact, experts like you can help thousands of people who suffer from this pain. I hope my comment reaches you and I can learn your thoughts. thanks❤
@@TheFriendlyMind The main idea is that toilet anxiety is the intense fear/panic of being embarrassed by pooping in your pants or peeing your pants in situations where you do not have access to the toilet. For example, getting stuck in traffic, stuck in the elevator, public transport, or sometimes not being comfortable in places with only one toilet, in case the toilet is full., not being able to get into a car with someone and much more serious situations. Increasing number of such situations and eventually not being able to leave the house. As far as I understand, this is a situation that often happens to people with IBS. As someone who was trained as a psychologist in my own country, we did not see anything about this issue in our training, but believe me, it is a situation experienced by thousands of people like me. A few people who have experienced this situation have made videos on the subject on TH-cam, you can actually look at it to get an idea. but as I said, I wish the issue could be addressed by experts. If you have time, you can look at this video created by @LaurenRose. , and the comments below it to understand it in detail. th-cam.com/video/jLbY_z18gdA/w-d-xo.htmlsi=zxws4diU5YHE5N3Q Thank you very much again for your interest.
And the biggest problem is that we can change our thoughts about panic attacks by doing exposure as CBT suggests. Maybe yes, these symptoms will not kill us and we can accept this anxiety instead of fighting, but when it comes to toilet anxiety, what you fear while doing that exposure may happen to you because with that adrenaline and cortisol. You experience intestinal distress and it starts to work quickly and you can suddenly have diarrhea and this time it causes even more panic. Thus the fear is reinforced.
In general, yes. AVA: Acknowledge, Validate, Act on your values is the formula that is optimal for just about any difficult inner experience whether it's intrusive thoughts, painful emotions, or negative self-talk
My instinct is that that probably isn't a very helpful way of looking at it... I'd probably go for something more like: "My brain is trying to help me but is a little confused." Remember: Just because you have a thought doesn't make it true, or helpful.
@@TheFriendlyMind Hi Nick I am having a terrible time am dealing with my wife who has stage 4 kidney cancer we will be married for 50 years on August 10 2024. Can you give please give me some advice on coping with this terrible situation that I am in. Thank you!
Your newsletter is one of the few that I consistently open every single time. Keep up the great job. Your information is very helpful - straightforward and clear. Thanks!
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I agree
Same here!
Excellent. Your description of mindfullness training hit the spot for me. I understand, now, how mindfulness meditation can be useful for me. It's just training your mind to be able to acknowledge you thoughts and redirect your attention. And this can be applied to ruminative thinking patterns, like when you go over and over difficult situations, hurts, traumatic experiences etc. Gotta build up the muscle first before you will be able to apply that skill to those kind of difficult and painful thinking patterns.
I'd say we all have the ability to control our attention, even without mindfulness training. It just makes it easier :)
Excellent delivery Nick, you are getting better and better every day! I would also add that mindfulness can help identify moments and environments that trigger intrusive thoughts. Your brilliant advice to acknowledge, reframe and redirect attention when such thoughts infiltrate the mind is fantastic!
Thank you! And nice point 👍
Very valuable video again, like your articles. They are all mind opening pieces Nick, thank you
You're welcome!
The only newsletter I read every week! Thanks for the helpful advice
High praise! Thank you :)
I learn a lot from your videos and texts. Thank you for sharing the information with so much dedication, care and quality 💟
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He has helped me so much
You have the most useful newsletter and TH-cam channel I subscribe to. I never would've thought to validate my intrusive thoughts. 🤯
That's very kind of you-thanks!
I gotta practice this!
This really is such a valuable channel , you explain things really well, thank you ,
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Thank You!
Your videos are great. Straightforward and positive guidance which is very helpful. Thanks for what you do.
You're very welcome :)
I'm thankful I found your channel. I'm learning so much.
Excellent!
Wow, one of my favorite video! Congrats, awesome delivery ! ❤
Thank you!
Thank you
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Intrusive thoughts - thanks for the mindfulness practice focus
You're welcome!
Hello, your content is amazing. What I want to ask is, would you also conduct studies on toilet anxiety, which is a cause of agoraphobia? For some reason, this is an issue that no professional talks about and is ignored. The content about this has only been created by brave people who are experiencing the situation, but in fact, experts like you can help thousands of people who suffer from this pain. I hope my comment reaches you and I can learn your thoughts. thanks❤
I'm not familiar with this specific struggle... Could you send me more info?
@@TheFriendlyMind Your return made me very happy. I will explain it in detail at an appropriate time.
@@TheFriendlyMind The main idea is that toilet anxiety is the intense fear/panic of being embarrassed by pooping in your pants or peeing your pants in situations where you do not have access to the toilet. For example, getting stuck in traffic, stuck in the elevator, public transport, or sometimes not being comfortable in places with only one toilet, in case the toilet is full., not being able to get into a car with someone and much more serious situations. Increasing number of such situations and eventually not being able to leave the house. As far as I understand, this is a situation that often happens to people with IBS. As someone who was trained as a psychologist in my own country, we did not see anything about this issue in our training, but believe me, it is a situation experienced by thousands of people like me. A few people who have experienced this situation have made videos on the subject on TH-cam, you can actually look at it to get an idea. but as I said, I wish the issue could be addressed by experts. If you have time, you can look at this video created by @LaurenRose. , and the comments below it to understand it in detail. th-cam.com/video/jLbY_z18gdA/w-d-xo.htmlsi=zxws4diU5YHE5N3Q
Thank you very much again for your interest.
And the biggest problem is that we can change our thoughts about panic attacks by doing exposure as CBT suggests. Maybe yes, these symptoms will not kill us and we can accept this anxiety instead of fighting, but when it comes to toilet anxiety, what you fear while doing that exposure may happen to you because with that adrenaline and cortisol. You experience intestinal distress and it starts to work quickly and you can suddenly have diarrhea and this time it causes even more panic. Thus the fear is reinforced.
Nick, this same process for trying to deal with negative self talk? If I pay it attention, it continues and/or grows, so validate and move on?
In general, yes. AVA: Acknowledge, Validate, Act on your values is the formula that is optimal for just about any difficult inner experience whether it's intrusive thoughts, painful emotions, or negative self-talk
@@TheFriendlyMind Thank you, Nick! I appreciate your reply. And also the emphasis on values in it. I keep forgetting!!
Why dont u use timestamps
😬 It's on the list...
This is a big help to me
So glad!
Nick when I get intrusive thoughts I say to myself I have a sick brain is this true?
My instinct is that that probably isn't a very helpful way of looking at it... I'd probably go for something more like: "My brain is trying to help me but is a little confused."
Remember: Just because you have a thought doesn't make it true, or helpful.
@@TheFriendlyMind Thank you for your great insight!
@@TheFriendlyMind Hi Nick I am having a terrible time am dealing with my wife who has stage 4 kidney cancer we will be married for 50 years on August 10 2024. Can you give please give me some advice on coping with this terrible situation that I am in. Thank you!