I was in a 14 year relationship. She discarded me 5 months ago. She contacted me February 11th and 20th. I did not answer the phone. Her birthday was March 5th. As hard as it was , I did not reach out and wish her happy birthday. She put me through hell when she left the way she did. As my sister said , she was probably pist I didn't answer the phone. She likely expected me to drop everything I was doing and answer her calls. Nope. She really wants no contact? Well , you got it. You will never hear from me again. Hope whatever you left me for was worth losing me for the rest of your life after 14 years. I reached out to her in the beginning a couple times. Not begging and crying for her back but, just simply seeing how she was. She rejected my advances. The last rejection I got was my ticket to never contact her again. Hope you can live with you decision !
I never chased my ex. As soon as he suggested we take a step back I said ok. He contacted me 4 days later trying to return something I left in his car. I told him to throw it away. He waited a month and sent me flowers fie mother's day, we don't have children together. Bread crumbs! No contact is also a time for you to reflect if it's a relationship you really want. He showed out on social media with attention seeking behavior. He can have a nice life.
@gejimckinney8062 It's so funny. He recently began contacting me on Social Media, after I ignored him, he texted me HBD, knowing my bday was 2 weeks ago. I wasn't going to respond, but I decided to make it clear. Once again, I want nothing to do him, and he should refrain from contacting me. This man had the audacity to say we both said one thing and did another. Mind you, I have not contacted that man since April. It's been months. He's delusional. Hopefully, he has the closure he needs and understands that I'm not playing hard to get, but I'm done!
So helpful! So on point! It has been 7 months and for the last month he has stayed reaching out. I still cannot believe how on point you are Coach. Honestly. I got your journal and never even got a chance to use it. I was so hurt. So so devastated that he went back to his ex immediately after leaving. I still don’t know how this is happening. But I am enjoying it. The best part is that while I am reserved and hold back if it backfires I know that I can do the work. I can trust the process. I have already done it. Only the next time will be to eliminate him from my life completely. Enough chances given to him. All the next will be on me. Love him but am learning to love me more. It feels good to love on yourself❤
Dear coach blac, I want to start out with saying how much I appreciate your video’s, it’s been only a month since my break up and started no contact once it happened. When I first started no contact my reasons were to get my ex back but on the 3rd week I started to realize that it’s more for me, to better myself and focus on the future, keep up with the guidance that you give all of us
Men are so difficult what happened to men that were loyal to the end, so no wonder women are deciding to stay single. Hookup culture has destroyed love period!
5:25 i hope he begins to fear losing me. Almost 3 weeks no contact. Hes already breadcrumbing. I hope he feels the loss and pain. 7:35 i hope that pain, anger, anxiety and fear turns into proposing real commitment.
As of right now me and my ex are in no contact and you almost perfectly described how things unfolded between us. I just hope you’re right about the process and I hope we’re able to get back together. Thank you for your help, it’s been a hard process for me.
This is so true. I was so desperate for him to stay since I was 5 months postpartum. But that pushed him away. I went for counseling and my coach advised me not to chase because of my fear of abandonment. Its been a couple of months now. And he's been extremely rude and difficult for no reason when texting or communicating with my family when it comes to co parenting. Perhaps its because he's realized my baby and I are safe and moving on without him in our lives. He made the decision to find a better wife but he cant stop harassing his ex in the process.
Just remember you guys, if you’re involved with a narcissist they can give a flying F about you personally maybe your duties that you provide for them but mold is they don’t miss you they don’t care about you and certainly when there with another supplies they will let you know that that’s OK
Coach I get peace when I hear you. The man that I was engaging 2 times told me he was going to visit me and never showed up. The next day he calls me as if nothing has happened. Lo and behold last time was last Sunday. He called me on Monday.. I did not answer to his audio as if nothing and multiple video calls. He takes no responsibility for his actions. That coach is very disrespectful to my person and I decided to go no contact. Tons of problems and erratic behavior. I feel as if I am dealing with someone that has some type of mental disorder.
Amen..this was so good!! I am currently in a situation like this where my ex just basically broke up with me because in a nut shell, I wasn't doing things right or the way he wanted me to.
But how do they feel the loss if they're in a Rebound/Relationship? Seems like that would distract them? I've felt the loss, pain & separation anxiety, he hasn't.
If they are in a rebound relationship , your absence still will make them think of you. If you continue to chase you will only end up being a gluing factor as you will make the ex more attractive to the rebounds since they feel your ex is such a valuable person still sought after.
What my ex husband need to be feeling is good! He choose Multiple Women & My Aunt on my father side to have sex with over his wife, Abused me Mentally, Verbally & Emotionally & screamed at me thru the phone saying he do not want me, so I finalized my Divorce on 12/5/2022! Thank You for your Messages!
I walked out of a three-year relationship relationship with a woman who I really cared about… July 11, 2024.. she pushed me away. I’ll grab my things walked out like a man I stayed my f frame. I stayed my purpose… 20 minutes later she text me back.. I did not answer three days later she text me again.. the only thing I said was yeah.. Towards later, she tried to text me again. I did not answer… it’s been 33 days no contact… next is her phone… I will cut that off
Human are more.likely to use action to avoid pain than pleasure. Very cool. Will help my no contact. Moving my desperation energy into silence energy will give me my own power back
She told me to let her go. She keeps telling me that just because she still loves me it doesn't mean we should be together. I'm currently in 1 month of NC.
My ex told me the same thing. I just don’t understand how you love one person but opening your legs to another person lol. These women always have 2 lives, they always have back up plans.
It’s been almost 6 months no contact. Emotional connection fizzled out the last month or two and she split things off saying things along the lines of “we’re too different.” Day after the breakup she stopped responding, I reached out a week later pretty pissed about how abrupt it all was, she stopped responding. Three weeks later I apologized for being pissed and we texted for a while catching up, but she said we shouldn’t talk often but if I need anything she’s always there. I agreed the breakup was for the best and said the same to her, haven’t spoken since September, including holidays and her birthday. Surprised honestly she hasn’t reached out at all, and not sure if I even want to reconcile things at this point. But always have that lingering thought about it in my head Edit: we introduced our best friends who started dating and their relationship has now gone longer than ours, so I don’t know if we’ll ever truly be completely “gone,” but the whole situation has just been strange to me. But I don’t want to reach out after she split and seemed so dead set on it in the month after the breakup
I did no contact on all my exes, 3/4 moved on and got married/engaged. The 4th came back with bread crumbs after 4 years ago I ignored. We'll see what happens with number 5 but there is confusion of who dumped who and she night be applying no contact as well so I'm not very hopeful, 6 weeks no contact
This is soo right I know my x is on a high at the moment she hasn’t spoken to me in about 3weeks after dumbing me over txt and I asked her please just tell me if you don’t wanna work this out? And I have now sat in my pain for 3weeks I have come off all social media I have gone ghost and I’m hurting really bad but I know when she checks in I will show her I’ve levelled up in a crazy way 😅 Wish me luck people 😢
I wish you all the best bro, I'm in the same boat here and I'm hurting like never before, she was everything to me and she dropped me just like that, I chased after the break up, she blocked me and now we're in forced no contact but she's in monaco with her two friends (julian has a lambo haha. (Stfu...)). I hope you're doing better or if she reached out in any way let me know! I'm wishing for that to happen every day.
Loll it’s crazy how the silent treatment works for so many things in life. I’m naturally a quiet person so it’s easy for me. At first I was begging to stay together and calling her every ten mins. She would tell me to stop and we can’t be talking or seeing each other because she has new man. One day i manned up and said F this, I’m never talking to her again. She calls and I tell her “ don’t call my phone, and I hope I never see you again” CLICK. She thinks I’m just mad and calls a few days later. I say uhh why you calling me? Didn’t I tell you to stop? That’s when she got kind of desperate. She calls probably a month later, talking about “I thought we was good.. I didn’t do anything for you to treat me like this. I just want to buy some weed off you anyways. She didn’t want weed, she wanted to see me so i told her to go ask her man or his friends they have weed most likely. She says ok I won’t call you anymore but I can tell she’s about to cry. I told her I’m giving you what you asked for. I’m a literal person, when someone says don’t call me or talk to me. Trust me, you won’t hear from me for the rest of your life. She thought I would get over it and we could be friends like we were before the dating. One of the last times I spoke to her she calls looking for “weed” I said yea I got some Great weed but not for you! I even told her I forgot her name when she asked “you kno who this is?” I said yea but I forget your name.. she says “wow that really hurts”. While she’s still in the phone the other girl I was with at the time keeps asking who is that?! And I know my ex heard her. After that I never spoke to her again. She still calls private ten years later but leaves it on mute. That’s her way of checking if I’m still alive or something. There’s no way in hell I’d ever reach out to her after what she put me through. I got caught talking to other girls but she gets caught sending her baby daddy money and it’s fine lol. I caught her talking to another dude one time and I think it’s the dude she’s dating now. She did exactly what I did but she cuts me off and starts a new relationship. We had a big fight and stopped speaking for months. Finally we start talking and I’m thinking everything is good and we will get back together. Than all of sudden I realize how weird she’s acting and why she doesn’t answer at night time. So she finally says she has someone else and we need to stop everything now. She did it on purpose for revenge. Giving me a false sense of hope and pulling the rug from under my feet. I wasn’t mad about the fact we broke up, it’s how she did it that makes me wants to kill her. You live and you learn!
Should I go with no contact a second time? came back initiating contact after 3 months . Came back with strong interest So hot then went warm .No date initiated . Few conversations few texts. Inconsistency took place. Now complete silence 🥲He’s avoidant. Any advice? Please
@@ruthdeliah2I agree with you. No contact is more for you to heal and focus on yourself. They need to feel your absence and if that person is for you they will come back.
I have beem binge watching your stuff lately. Thing is tho he is not my ex boyfriend, but my ex situationship. We dated and were hooking up and stuff and I walked away because he did not want a relationship. So my question is: do your "rules" and advice still apply to those circumstances?
I'll answer your question as honestly as possible. No. No contact doesn't work for someone that was never in a relationship in the first place. It's even worsened by the fact it was a situationship. I assume you mean fwb. The main problem is, anyone who enters a fwb or situationship only wants one thing. Sex. So the whole no contact thing that will make your "ex" miss you over your good memories and good times doesn't work here because you probably never had good times as one does in a proper relationship. He not initiating a relationship solidifies the point. No guy stays in a situationship with a girl he wants to be with. It's good you walked away, he might text you later on in NC but it'll only be to be in a situationship again. Please trust this. Do NC and move on fully to someone else who wants to actually be with you.
Today marks a week that I haven't talked to my ex.. I have him blocked but if he really wanted to get a hold of me he would of called me from his mom's or dad's phone. My friends say that he's always on ticktock dueting girls kinda flirting songs & sending flirty emojis to girls.. does that mean he doesn't care about me anymore & he moved on ?
2 yrs after she left recently began liking and following my stories alot but never reached out directly. Only after a couple months did I like but one of hers and left it there and have not heard from her since.
I hit up my ex at 2 months NC and she told me after the first month she realized she lost all feelings. Called her again after 2 months since I last called hee and she still feels the same. These last two months I thought she would’ve changed her mind, I now have closure and feel ok. I left the door open and was waiting for her, but I realize now she’s not coming back. The hope is gone and I can move on.
My ex honks me down whenever she sees me. She’s already rebound and tell people she wants nothing to do with me but whenever she sees me she tries to catch my attention. Now getting use to really ignoring it when it happens cause if you don’t want nothing to do with me why try to get my attention. I will not be an option
Hello coach thank you for your great videos. I am in a very difficult situation living in a country where i have no access to payment tools. Is there any chance for me to get a session with you or at least take some advice?🥺
He has me blocked, I can't even get things we need to finalize. He had someone before we were over, so he is happy. I have been on my own self discovery journey and now I dont know if I want him because I am enjoying my new life.
hi can you please notice me? I am the one who asked you about “do I still have the chance to grab my ex back if he says he doesn’t like me?” I have a question. If I am in the same with him, will that break no contact?
I've been on NC for a week now and she she contacted me 4 times,I ignored the the first two ,but she asked me in the the last two if I'm ok nd I said "yes",did I do the right thing or I should have ignored her completely?
I broke up with my ex We are still in no contact at all about a month and a half I don’t talk to any of his friends I have social media but I do not post anything on there at all for over a year thank you for your advice
I've been in no contact for almost 3 months now and I've noticed that my ex has been viewing my stories lately. Why is he doing that n not reaching out?
It's bait and bread crumbing to get a reaction out of you if you will chase them. Dont fall for it or give in. Wait until there is bold serious effort to date you.
First week of NC I was so desperate to hear from him I called him for about 4 days, then I stopped calling massaging and I told a lady that I know to help me communicate with him but unfortunately the lady knows him in the past!! Now it has been a 3 months and he never reached out to me. Do you think he can come back?
Hi have been with my girlfriend for 2 years on Friday last week I asked her. To come home cos I had a big problem she. Said she doest not care I love her so much wat I do to bdo ring back my power?
I’m blocked for treating in in harassment plus she in couldn’t even tell me she was done her brother told me haven’t herd form her in 3 months been broke up for 7 is been 9 months it feel like
The friends take him to drink n his always come back in the morning though i still love him but i was also tired of him taking me for granted advise me on wat to do.
What is the general timeline for the various stages; I realize everyone is different and there are a lot of different variables to consider but is there a study that has revealed the time, distance, no contact, etc... and the stages and average times for each stage?
Hi Coach am Sophia from Uganda we broke up with my ex 3weeks back n the break up was beyond repair we continued to talk until wen he blocked me coz he told me he was very angry do i have a chance of getting my ex back
Coach black how about if we have 2 child and we break this previous last year and we are now 8months break up i do NO CONTACT now i just want to ask if theres a chance to we get together in the future but she already have new bf then now i think they are now 8months but we habe 10years together and have two children it is posible coach that is your better advice thanks a lot godbless my ex wife is so very high ego what is the best thing to do
Hey man I wanted to know if it was a chance of me getting back with my ex we were dating for 4 months we’d go out to eat and she’d come over everyday. She got mad at me because I got dropped off by my cousin to her house. I had never been to her house before and her and my cousin got into an argument. I told her I love her but she said the things I do don’t seem like I love her.
When ex does the check up message, should we resend during no contact, some people say don’t respond keep the no contact, so you are not an easy thing to get.???
How long does it ussualy take for ex to feel the loss and anxiety untill eventually she will reach out to me??? How long should i stay with no contact untill i will let go and move on?
Good Day Sir.. my ex broke up with me and says she don't want me no more and says goobye i didn't reply at that time and stay in no contact feb 09 then contacted me again today and she says: thank you and Goodbye no hard feelings.. then I replied: thank you for the memories and i wish you well.. did i say the right words Sir?
How can he be curious when he blocked me on every social media site me being an idiot message to him on messengerHe told to leave him alone me being an idiot again message him again he told me he would never hate me and that he still loves me and then he blocked me I'm not understand coach make me understand
@@Sammyy38 idk, we dated for like 6 months , went on 5 dates, she told me 3 days after the last date that she lost feelings, shes a avoidant,i dont know if shes in a rebound and gonna move on.
I asked the same, fearing seeing him with his ex that he went back to. I was advised to hold my head up muster all the courage I have to stand my ground and walk away HEAD HELD HIGH. They no longer matter. It will hurt but don’t show it at moment. Look away and walk away. 😔You can do it. You can.
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I was in a 14 year relationship. She discarded me 5 months ago. She contacted me February 11th and 20th. I did not answer the phone. Her birthday was March 5th. As hard as it was , I did not reach out and wish her happy birthday. She put me through hell when she left the way she did. As my sister said , she was probably pist I didn't answer the phone. She likely expected me to drop everything I was doing and answer her calls. Nope. She really wants no contact? Well , you got it. You will never hear from me again. Hope whatever you left me for was worth losing me for the rest of your life after 14 years. I reached out to her in the beginning a couple times. Not begging and crying for her back but, just simply seeing how she was. She rejected my advances. The last rejection I got was my ticket to never contact her again. Hope you can live with you decision !
I never chased my ex. As soon as he suggested we take a step back I said ok. He contacted me 4 days later trying to return something I left in his car. I told him to throw it away. He waited a month and sent me flowers fie mother's day, we don't have children together. Bread crumbs! No contact is also a time for you to reflect if it's a relationship you really want. He showed out on social media with attention seeking behavior. He can have a nice life.
Ha, sounds like he reaped what he sowed playing his own game
@gejimckinney8062 It's so funny. He recently began contacting me on Social Media, after I ignored him, he texted me HBD, knowing my bday was 2 weeks ago. I wasn't going to respond, but I decided to make it clear. Once again, I want nothing to do him, and he should refrain from contacting me. This man had the audacity to say we both said one thing and did another. Mind you, I have not contacted that man since April. It's been months. He's delusional. Hopefully, he has the closure he needs and understands that I'm not playing hard to get, but I'm done!
glad you stood up for yourself.
So helpful! So on point! It has been 7 months and for the last month he has stayed reaching out. I still cannot believe how on point you are Coach. Honestly. I got your journal and never even got a chance to use it. I was so hurt. So so devastated that he went back to his ex immediately after leaving. I still don’t know how this is happening. But I am enjoying it. The best part is that while I am reserved and hold back if it backfires I know that I can do the work. I can trust the process. I have already done it. Only the next time will be to eliminate him from my life completely. Enough chances given to him. All the next will be on me. Love him but am learning to love me more. It feels good to love on yourself❤
Whew chile...not us finding ourselves through their mistakes
It lasted one month! It is over! Over for good! I been blocked and all!!!!
Dear coach blac, I want to start out with saying how much I appreciate your video’s, it’s been only a month since my break up and started no contact once it happened. When I first started no contact my reasons were to get my ex back but on the 3rd week I started to realize that it’s more for me, to better myself and focus on the future, keep up with the guidance that you give all of us
That's what I'm talking about. You are truly understanding no contact!
Men are so difficult what happened to men that were loyal to the end, so no wonder women are deciding to stay single. Hookup culture has destroyed love period!
Did she come back?
5:25 i hope he begins to fear losing me. Almost 3 weeks no contact. Hes already breadcrumbing. I hope he feels the loss and pain. 7:35 i hope that pain, anger, anxiety and fear turns into proposing real commitment.
If they are a narcissist they don’t care 😢
Bye ❤
I haven’t spoken to her in 9 weeks and she rebounded I will not hear from her again and now I’m stronger than ever 😊
She ever contacted you again
As of right now me and my ex are in no contact and you almost perfectly described how things unfolded between us. I just hope you’re right about the process and I hope we’re able to get back together. Thank you for your help, it’s been a hard process for me.
They're feeling sadness because they can't manipulate you anymore. Leave it for another unwary man/woman.
I'm serious 💯💯💯
I really needed to here this today, my wife asked for time and space so I am going no contact
This is so true. I was so desperate for him to stay since I was 5 months postpartum. But that pushed him away. I went for counseling and my coach advised me not to chase because of my fear of abandonment. Its been a couple of months now. And he's been extremely rude and difficult for no reason when texting or communicating with my family when it comes to co parenting. Perhaps its because he's realized my baby and I are safe and moving on without him in our lives. He made the decision to find a better wife but he cant stop harassing his ex in the process.
Just remember you guys, if you’re involved with a narcissist they can give a flying F about you personally maybe your duties that you provide for them but mold is they don’t miss you they don’t care about you and certainly when there with another supplies they will let you know that that’s OK
Coach I get peace when I hear you. The man that I was engaging 2 times told me he was going to visit me and never showed up. The next day he calls me as if nothing has happened. Lo and behold last time was last Sunday. He called me on Monday.. I did not answer to his audio as if nothing and multiple video calls. He takes no responsibility for his actions. That coach is very disrespectful to my person and I decided to go no contact. Tons of problems and erratic behavior. I feel as if I am dealing with someone that has some type of mental disorder.
You have literally saved me so much hurt. You have calmed my craziest head storms. Seems like you always nail it perfectly! Thanks coach!
Amen..this was so good!! I am currently in a situation like this where my ex just basically broke up with me because in a nut shell, I wasn't doing things right or the way he wanted me to.
Can relate, me rn …
Thanks, need this, two months of no contact now.
But how do they feel the loss if they're in a Rebound/Relationship? Seems like that would distract them? I've felt the loss, pain & separation anxiety, he hasn't.
If they are in a rebound relationship , your absence still will make them think of you. If you continue to chase you will only end up being a gluing factor as you will make the ex more attractive to the rebounds since they feel your ex is such a valuable person still sought after.
You are a God Sent, Honest Voice....THANK YOU🙏🏾
Ppl are really losing it out here 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💔✌🏽🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
What my ex husband need to be feeling is good! He choose Multiple Women & My Aunt on my father side to have sex with over his wife, Abused me Mentally, Verbally & Emotionally & screamed at me thru the phone saying he do not want me, so I finalized my Divorce on 12/5/2022! Thank You for your Messages!
I walked out of a three-year relationship relationship with a woman who I really cared about… July 11, 2024.. she pushed me away. I’ll grab my things walked out like a man I stayed my f frame. I stayed my purpose… 20 minutes later she text me back.. I did not answer three days later she text me again.. the only thing I said was yeah.. Towards later, she tried to text me again. I did not answer… it’s been 33 days no contact… next is her phone… I will cut that off
Thank you. I'm learning not to care anymore. For my own mental.
Coach I think you are great and your advice invaluable . Just one piece of feedback - I find the background music very distracting - sorry ! Peace ✌️
Human are more.likely to use action to avoid pain than pleasure. Very cool. Will help my no contact. Moving my desperation energy into silence energy will give me my own power back
She told me to let her go. She keeps telling me that just because she still loves me it doesn't mean we should be together. I'm currently in 1 month of NC.
Same here same time frame as u too fuck em bro move ahead
My ex told me the same thing. I just don’t understand how you love one person but opening your legs to another person lol. These women always have 2 lives, they always have back up plans.
@@cvgodd1432some people do it in purpose so they do think about exs
Your videos are always help, I learn something new each and every time i messed up broke Nc im back in it now!!
It’s been almost 6 months no contact. Emotional connection fizzled out the last month or two and she split things off saying things along the lines of “we’re too different.” Day after the breakup she stopped responding, I reached out a week later pretty pissed about how abrupt it all was, she stopped responding. Three weeks later I apologized for being pissed and we texted for a while catching up, but she said we shouldn’t talk often but if I need anything she’s always there. I agreed the breakup was for the best and said the same to her, haven’t spoken since September, including holidays and her birthday. Surprised honestly she hasn’t reached out at all, and not sure if I even want to reconcile things at this point. But always have that lingering thought about it in my head
Edit: we introduced our best friends who started dating and their relationship has now gone longer than ours, so I don’t know if we’ll ever truly be completely “gone,” but the whole situation has just been strange to me. But I don’t want to reach out after she split and seemed so dead set on it in the month after the breakup
Move on. She has been doing her thing. You are better doing your thing. Focus on you she has been gone.
@@darkphoenixaresryuhate to hear this
I did no contact on all my exes, 3/4 moved on and got married/engaged. The 4th came back with bread crumbs after 4 years ago I ignored. We'll see what happens with number 5 but there is confusion of who dumped who and she night be applying no contact as well so I'm not very hopeful, 6 weeks no contact
Coach, you are telling the truth as matter a fact. It real happens!!
This is soo right I know my x is on a high at the moment she hasn’t spoken to me in about 3weeks after dumbing me over txt and I asked her please just tell me if you don’t wanna work this out?
And I have now sat in my pain for 3weeks I have come off all social media I have gone ghost and I’m hurting really bad but I know when she checks in I will show her I’ve levelled up in a crazy way 😅
Wish me luck people 😢
I wish you all the best bro, I'm in the same boat here and I'm hurting like never before, she was everything to me and she dropped me just like that, I chased after the break up, she blocked me and now we're in forced no contact but she's in monaco with her two friends (julian has a lambo haha. (Stfu...)). I hope you're doing better or if she reached out in any way let me know! I'm wishing for that to happen every day.
AS ALWAYS MASTER. IT IS HELPING ME. THANK YOU BROTHER. YOU DESERVE THE BEST
You simply amazing 💪🏻 thank you so much for your time & efforts…, respect & appreciation ✨
Loll it’s crazy how the silent treatment works for so many things in life. I’m naturally a quiet person so it’s easy for me. At first I was begging to stay together and calling her every ten mins. She would tell me to stop and we can’t be talking or seeing each other because she has new man. One day i manned up and said F this, I’m never talking to her again. She calls and I tell her “ don’t call my phone, and I hope I never see you again” CLICK. She thinks I’m just mad and calls a few days later. I say uhh why you calling me? Didn’t I tell you to stop? That’s when she got kind of desperate. She calls probably a month later, talking about “I thought we was good.. I didn’t do anything for you to treat me like this. I just want to buy some weed off you anyways. She didn’t want weed, she wanted to see me so i told her to go ask her man or his friends they have weed most likely. She says ok I won’t call you anymore but I can tell she’s about to cry. I told her I’m giving you what you asked for. I’m a literal person, when someone says don’t call me or talk to me. Trust me, you won’t hear from me for the rest of your life. She thought I would get over it and we could be friends like we were before the dating. One of the last times I spoke to her she calls looking for “weed” I said yea I got some Great weed but not for you! I even told her I forgot her name when she asked “you kno who this is?” I said yea but I forget your name.. she says “wow that really hurts”. While she’s still in the phone the other girl I was with at the time keeps asking who is that?! And I know my ex heard her. After that I never spoke to her again. She still calls private ten years later but leaves it on mute. That’s her way of checking if I’m still alive or something. There’s no way in hell I’d ever reach out to her after what she put me through. I got caught talking to other girls but she gets caught sending her baby daddy money and it’s fine lol. I caught her talking to another dude one time and I think it’s the dude she’s dating now. She did exactly what I did but she cuts me off and starts a new relationship. We had a big fight and stopped speaking for months. Finally we start talking and I’m thinking everything is good and we will get back together. Than all of sudden I realize how weird she’s acting and why she doesn’t answer at night time. So she finally says she has someone else and we need to stop everything now. She did it on purpose for revenge. Giving me a false sense of hope and pulling the rug from under my feet. I wasn’t mad about the fact we broke up, it’s how she did it that makes me wants to kill her. You live and you learn!
You are still angry she still controls your emotions, forgive and forget
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Should I go with no contact a second time? came back initiating contact after 3 months . Came back with strong interest So hot then went warm .No date initiated . Few conversations few texts. Inconsistency took place. Now complete silence 🥲He’s avoidant. Any advice? Please
Go date better people it’s easy
Yes. No contact. AGAIN. Stay there till you feel safe to break it. Let it be on your terms.
I agree with @Doak
@@ruthdeliah2I agree with you. No contact is more for you to heal and focus on yourself. They need to feel your absence and if that person is for you they will come back.
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This video was awesome!! I do appreciate you. It's almost like you heard exactly what I'm dealing with
I truly love you brother you definitely are helping me I definitely from my heart appreciated 💯❤️
I have beem binge watching your stuff lately. Thing is tho he is not my ex boyfriend, but my ex situationship. We dated and were hooking up and stuff and I walked away because he did not want a relationship.
So my question is: do your "rules" and advice still apply to those circumstances?
I'll answer your question as honestly as possible. No. No contact doesn't work for someone that was never in a relationship in the first place. It's even worsened by the fact it was a situationship. I assume you mean fwb.
The main problem is, anyone who enters a fwb or situationship only wants one thing. Sex. So the whole no contact thing that will make your "ex" miss you over your good memories and good times doesn't work here because you probably never had good times as one does in a proper relationship.
He not initiating a relationship solidifies the point. No guy stays in a situationship with a girl he wants to be with.
It's good you walked away, he might text you later on in NC but it'll only be to be in a situationship again. Please trust this.
Do NC and move on fully to someone else who wants to actually be with you.
Remember, he did not want a relationship is simple for I do not want a relationship with YOU
I ended my situationship 7 months ago for the same reason
Today marks a week that I haven't talked to my ex.. I have him blocked but if he really wanted to get a hold of me he would of called me from his mom's or dad's phone. My friends say that he's always on ticktock dueting girls kinda flirting songs & sending flirty emojis to girls.. does that mean he doesn't care about me anymore & he moved on ?
Dueting girls on TikTok? How old is he? 16?
2 yrs after she left recently began liking and following my stories alot but never reached out directly. Only after a couple months did I like but one of hers and left it there and have not heard from her since.
She probably wants to give you a sign to reach out. Since you you were not initiated contact she got the message.
I hit up my ex at 2 months NC and she told me after the first month she realized she lost all feelings. Called her again after 2 months since I last called hee and she still feels the same. These last two months I thought she would’ve changed her mind, I now have closure and feel ok. I left the door open and was waiting for her, but I realize now she’s not coming back. The hope is gone and I can move on.
Hello I just text my ex and if he doesn’t answer. I don’t text back
My ex honks me down whenever she sees me. She’s already rebound and tell people she wants nothing to do with me but whenever she sees me she tries to catch my attention. Now getting use to really ignoring it when it happens cause if you don’t want nothing to do with me why try to get my attention. I will not be an option
Hello coach thank you for your great videos. I am in a very difficult situation living in a country where i have no access to payment tools. Is there any chance for me to get a session with you or at least take some advice?🥺
He has me blocked, I can't even get things we need to finalize. He had someone before we were over, so he is happy. I have been on my own self discovery journey and now I dont know if I want him because I am enjoying my new life.
hi can you please notice me? I am the one who asked you about “do I still have the chance to grab my ex back if he says he doesn’t like me?” I have a question. If I am in the same with him, will that break no contact?
Thanks you universe nd thank you angels nd i claimed this reading nd video
I've been on NC for a week now and she she contacted me 4 times,I ignored the the first two ,but she asked me in the the last two if I'm ok nd I said "yes",did I do the right thing or I should have ignored her completely?
I broke up with my ex
We are still in no contact at all about a month and a half I don’t talk to any of his friends I have social media but I do not post anything on there at all for over a year thank you for your advice
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I've been in no contact for almost 3 months now and I've noticed that my ex has been viewing my stories lately.
Why is he doing that n not reaching out?
It's bait and bread crumbing to get a reaction out of you if you will chase them. Dont fall for it or give in. Wait until there is bold serious effort to date you.
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First week of NC I was so desperate to hear from him I called him for about 4 days, then I stopped calling massaging and I told a lady that I know to help me communicate with him but unfortunately the lady knows him in the past!! Now it has been a 3 months and he never reached out to me.
Do you think he can come back?
Hi have been with my girlfriend for 2 years on Friday last week I asked her. To come home cos I had a big problem she. Said she doest not care I love her so much wat I do to bdo ring back my power?
I’m blocked for treating in in harassment plus she in couldn’t even tell me she was done her brother told me haven’t herd form her in 3 months been broke up for 7 is been 9 months it feel like
The friends take him to drink n his always come back in the morning though i still love him but i was also tired of him taking me for granted advise me on wat to do.
All good info!
What is the general timeline for the various stages; I realize everyone is different and there are a lot of different variables to consider but is there a study that has revealed the time, distance, no contact, etc... and the stages and average times for each stage?
Hi Coach am Sophia from Uganda we broke up with my ex 3weeks back n the break up was beyond repair we continued to talk until wen he blocked me coz he told me he was very angry do i have a chance of getting my ex back
I wish I had a person to discuss my situation with. I'm soooo confused.
very helpful thanks
She with her new guy
Coach black how about if we have 2 child and we break this previous last year and we are now 8months break up i do NO CONTACT now i just want to ask if theres a chance to we get together in the future but she already have new bf then now i think they are now 8months but we habe 10years together and have two children it is posible coach that is your better advice thanks a lot godbless my ex wife is so very high ego what is the best thing to do
@rejoicelove-zp8cy how my friend please
Hey man I wanted to know if it was a chance of me getting back with my ex we were dating for 4 months we’d go out to eat and she’d come over everyday. She got mad at me because I got dropped off by my cousin to her house. I had never been to her house before and her and my cousin got into an argument. I told her I love her but she said the things I do don’t seem like I love her.
When ex does the check up message, should we resend during no contact, some people say don’t respond keep the no contact, so you are not an easy thing to get.???
Thanks!
How long does it ussualy take for ex to feel the loss and anxiety untill eventually she will reach out to me??? How long should i stay with no contact untill i will let go and move on?
Good Day Sir.. my ex broke up with me and says she don't want me no more and says goobye i didn't reply at that time and stay in no contact feb 09 then contacted me again today and she says: thank you and Goodbye no hard feelings.. then I replied: thank you for the memories and i wish you well.. did i say the right words Sir?
But what if they still have feeling for her ex
Why do you care?
My ex drinks alot n he always want his friends to take control over our home it's the friends to set rules in our home wat can i do
I begged him cried n he refused to take me back but wen he blocked me i also blocked him n deleted his numbers so do u think he misses me.
It’s been 6 months, she disrespected nd didn’t love me truly, she hasn’t reached out to me since February
How can he be curious when he blocked me on every social media site me being an idiot message to him on messengerHe told to leave him alone me being an idiot again message him again he told me he would never hate me and that he still loves me and then he blocked me I'm not understand coach make me understand
She unfollowed me on snapchat after 1 week in no contact, is she angry?
Don’t tryna hit her up she gonna come back king
@@Sammyy38 idk, we dated for like 6 months , went on 5 dates, she told me 3 days after the last date that she lost feelings, shes a avoidant,i dont know if shes in a rebound and gonna move on.
@@florind93 Giver her space, bro act like she don’t exist and keep doing you she gonna come back they always come back talk to other girls
Heal yourself and don't expect comeback, if she ever comeback you will don't give a f about her
Hey coach……. My ex’s birthday is coming up on 10 April. Should I wish her or no ??
Yes you should...atleast a text message...if whatever was der was beautiful u should atleast wish her
No. Disappear completely. It will shock her more
@@sisg.official that’s what I was thinking too….. thank you for the suggestion
@MercyGrace-ft7ro who is that man ?
No
I don’t see it.. I broke up with him.. cause he was caught.. he said he would never try to fight for US
I have accepted the breakup and did not chase and it has been 5 months no contact. I have heard nothing.
She thinks you also don't care and why care after 5 months?maybe your other relationships failed to match up
@@leratoseretsi5603 I was married for 27 years until my wife passed away from cancer so I don't think that's indicative of my relationship history.
what should i do when i meet her with someone else?
I asked the same, fearing seeing him with his ex that he went back to. I was advised to hold my head up muster all the courage I have to stand my ground and walk away HEAD HELD HIGH. They no longer matter. It will hurt but don’t show it at moment. Look away and walk away. 😔You can do it. You can.
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No I didn’t I cussed him out and asked him how he did this to US..
After 2 months
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You have bailed it ciCh.