He unblocked me aftwr 15months, that was 6 weeks ago, I mived on and met someone else, it dint work out. I've not contacted him, he hasn't reached out. Qhat was the point him unblocking me. No contact isn't working. I've give up.
Success story: We were together for 1 year, I fucked up treated her like crap and pushed her away and didn't realize how much I loved her until too late. She broke it off. I went into no contact, she dated someone, I did as well but not to provoke jealousy and just focused on the self-improvement. The things I was doing wrong. Truly transformational period of my life that was spearheaded by focusing on God, religion, my purpose, my work and future. And after 6 months apart we saw each other out and about, grabbed her, kissed her and started talking. It was awkward at first to reestablish trust; it was like getting back on a bike that you liked but that bike got you in a bad accident. Fast forward one month after talking we are back at it better than before and probably will get married and have a kid. My advice, focus on you, your purpose and IF the relationship was of value, they will gravitate towards you. Attract don't chase. Become a magnet and the universe works things out, her or someone else who fits into your magnetic field. Peace and love. Focus on you!
Congrats man sounds like it all worked itself out. I agree with the focusing on yourself and purpose. I’m in the same predicament broke up 2 months ago still no contact.
Value yourself more I agree what that but you also have to value her . Juts lost a girl who I truly loved and didn't valued . So its important to value yourself more and also value her
@marguskiis7711 same, I gave her everything of me, and still manufactured drama out of thin air and broke up. Staying strong in no contact, I feel it's not working at all
Been in no contact for 4 months.My ex finally reached out saying he so sorry for putting me through hell. At this point I'm done. Thank you for all your good advice. I'm working on me now and I'm over it. I told him lesson learned and I except his apology and i forgive him but this is over and I am happy and I'm finally at peace
Just reached out to my ex who dumped me. She is in a rebound, it's also been for months, but her first ex(I'm her second) just was shot to death. Sent my condolences but that's it
@MangoTangoFango yes and no. Her response was she is not okay but time heals all wounds. I could of been a real petty mf. But I didn't, would of been childish of me to stoop to her level.
It hurts that I’m the only one hurting, I’m the only one crying, I’m the only one missing him and thinking about him, I’m the only one that stare at his pictures and cry, I’m the only one that wants to see him while he’s probably home living his regular life and not thinking about me at all.
But how do you know that your ex is not crying in the dark? Your ex doesn’t want you to see him/her sweat. Maybe he is but his EGO won’t let you see it. Don’t assume.
@@mspenny6162 but he’s the one that left. And I’ve done the no contact with him and we’re chatting now. I’m taking it slow hopefully I see him soon but I won’t rush him.
I'm 40 days. She's out partying all the time. Wish she cared but I'm much stronger than I was 40 days ago. Still have moments when I want to reach out. But I wont. It's better being alone that with someone who doesn't really value you
I felt like no contact was good because it makes you self reflect and soon enough you realize you weren't the problem you just love to hard find someone who appreciates your love and loyalty make them regret you leaving
@Mr. Crypt You can control it now that you're aware of it. A therapist is a good place to check in on goals, meds if that helps you may have to try 10 of them to get it right and practice new coping skills, learn your Attachment Trauma Style and how that effects relationships, I promise you can rewire your brain and retrain your nervous system. If your motivated.
@@Mr_Cryptyeah in the same man I could have been better, but we aren't all to blame, something clicked in me recently that my ex kind of caused me a lot of stress so we aren't always to blame
Initially I thought I was the one who messed up. Following NC I've realized I put efforts for wrong person. Literally, I sacrificed a lot for that one person including my career. She left me for her career. Lesson learnt. Every thing happens for a reason.
Your videos helped me a lot. I'm on a "no contact" for one month now. It hurts a lot but i believe there is nothing i can do but leave the past behind me and disappear. I know that one day she will miss me and regret what she did but at that point on that day i would be completely detached from her. To every one who is experiencing the hard feelings of break ups, be strong. You are not alone. We all been there.
She is hurting now man. She blew up the bridge up of our fourteen year relationship. The last attempt to reconcile I made was back in January . After She ignored me , I knew I was DONE trying to reach out to her. I went completely silent after this. She since called me twice in February and tried to reach out to me on Facebook messenger this past Sunday. I haven't responded to her at all and quite frankly the situation in general has me pretty angry. It didn't have to be this way. It's her fault. When she called in Feb never left me a message or anything like that and when she tried to contact me this past Sunday, she said with the emojis included , "hellooo Robert😎🦋. " Honestly , I found that very offensive. It's like do you know what you put me through and you're over here trying to contact me with emojis ? I wanna tell her to f off but , I haven't reacted at all. We had a 14 year relationship, which she left me 7 months ago but again tried to reach out to me all the times mentioned above.
I would completely block her on all social media. If she wants to contact you, she has your phone number. But in your case, it seems like she did you wrong (you didn't specify what happened). If she was truly grimy to you, I would go ahead and block her everywhere.
@Champ1988 oh she was grimy. She has multiple profiles and honestly I think if I blocked her she'd try harder . She Is a little crazy .. dont want to go there but she is. If I block her that's just gonna give her reaction. I'm gonna go ahead and drive her crazy even further by not even blocking her. She's restricted on messenger so , she can't see that I read her message. Seems to me though , 7 months later and this being the 3rd time she's tried to reach out she's definitely feeling some type of way.....
If done properly it's an attitude adjustment for them. If you went no contact, and made sure they had to win you back, they will most likely appreciate you more. If not, end it and move on.
I watch your videos daily and they’ve helped so much. It’s been a few weeks since I’ve reached out. I’ve been hitting the gym 6 times a week, eating clean, Intaking nothing but water, reading more, learning how to play the piano. My body and mind has never been better, doesn’t mean I don’t think about her everyday and miss her but I know I will be okay. At the end of the day, I’ve gotten 1% better by focusing and improving on myself. For nobody else but myself. So thank you 🙏🏼
Why would you come into my life, make me fall for you and then you leave me like i don’t matter. I want to hate you but that’s because I love you so much and you’re the best person I’ve ever been with. I hope one day I’ll stop caring about you and meet someone better. I hope one day when I see a photo of you it wouldn’t matter to me.
Your advice work! I had the strength to stop contacting my ex. He contacted me last week and now he is liking all my social media post. I’m gonna continue listening to your advices. ❤
I did all of the getting angry over explaining myself and trying to reason for months. Now although we are in loose contact I realized THIS IS NOT A PROBLEM to solve so stop trying to take action! It is what it is and I have to take my hands off of it once n for all.
Exactly!! I agree with everything you say in this video. It’s been a year now since I last heard from my ex and I don’t expect to hear from him anytime soon. In this period of no contact the urge to want to send him a text just to see how he’s doing has lessened and in the beginning of this break up I was afraid he would forget about me. But now I could care less if he does or doesn’t. I figured if he and I were to ever reconnect in the future it would have to be as friends no more getting romantically involved. And if I don’t ever hear from him again I know I will be ok moving forward.
It definitely feels that way, I def to want to call and text, and I wonder if time will kill the feelings. But at the same time, I'm going to the gym, I'm focusing on my health mentally and physically. Oh, and I started piano lessons! 💁🏼♀️ I really miss him much, but doing what I can for me.
Do YOU for YOU. I learned the hard way many times in the past that once they made up their mind, that's it. It's only different when you're the one who screwed up. Because happiness and anger go hand in hand with driving reactions. So when you screw up, they're mad; and it's easier to course correct because it's in your hands. But when THEY leave? They've moved into indifference. And there is nothing you can do short of throwing a grenade at them that will make them budge. So stay the course. That's all you can do.
Sure, time will certainly kill his feelings for you, but only in case you was toxic, overly needy or if the relationship was mostly bad! However, if it was mostly a good relationship, he will certainly think about you, and miss you! You are now very clerly communicating to him through silence that you can stand tall on your own, be creative, and move forward without him! That is incredible attractive for anyone!! After 3-4 months of NC, he will start wondering, "what's up with her?" , "why is she not contacting me?", "did she move on, does she have a new boyfriend?", and so on... He will then reach out to you as most of the dumpers do! Just continue to work on yourself, and do not contact him for any reason! Trust the process as it will be the best investment you have ever done for yourself, regardless if you take him back or not. You are amazing, and brave!
I was in NC for a week and my ex gf called my homie upset and crying saying she was thinking about me. Later that day she called me saying the same thing to me. According to her she was " just checking on me " lol. But ever since then she's been texting and calling me about foolishness. She said she misses me I noticed she has been alot more calm. Before a week the longest we went was 5 days without speaking. It was hard. But I guess she sees that I can stay away now. She even told me she's horny lol. We'll see how this plays out. But I can tell she's noticing my calm behavior. When you're a good dude and a catch they realize that it's hard to replace you. I was just insecure at times. Other than that our relationship was really good.
Did you ever run into the issue that you would try no contact and she would txt/call the next day? Like just to see how you were etc? Ik confused if im supposed to ignore there or just act unphased when answering
@@Daviddd10 She's VERY stubborn and can last days without texting or calling when she's upset. I showed her I can match that as well as becoming more relaxed and not attached to outcome. She's open to us. But it's gonna be a process.
The no contact rule is a time for you to learn to live without them. 30 days away from someone is enough time to move. If they reach out, that’s a bonus, but after 30 days, you really could care less.
My ex dumped me and came back 4 weeks later. We tried to work it out but he said i havent changed and left me again this time blocking me on everything. One week later i met someone else and moved on, my ex would unblock from time to time to reach out. Whithin 4 months i was no longer interested in my ex as i had gotten into a new relationship. Fast forward one year 4 months later im dumped again 😑, but this ex keeps texting me and saying he loves me but hes an avoidant and told me he has to guard his heart. I am going into NC not to get him back, just to move on with my life , cause if someone really loves they will try and make it work, not leave.
people give up on each other way too easily.....you have issues in your relationship and you just put it in the shitter. I wonder if most people do that with their car too? You have an issue with it and you just trade it in. That works well
Yeah, my ex threw away what we had so easily and it irritates me big time. She told me: "I hated how it ended, but it is what it is." What kind of lame justification is that?
NC is 🐐 Coach is 🔥🔥🔥if I could only found his teachings a little earlier but atlease I found him and I am learning more even thinking very high about myself and that I am first class...hmmm the way Coach is taking it so calm and confident very powerful even if an ex doesn't come back just the fact that one learns to be on top and become the best version of oneself... some days there are still flashbacks but eventually gradually I believe the pain and anxiety will fadeaway...thanks Coach
Coach Blac thanks for this video. Whether he'll ever come back or not, this video helped me calm down💆🏼♀️ Everything will turn out alright, with or without them!!
The best thing to do is focus on God and yourself love then everything will align with your purpose you have to 🙏 to God and always be grateful beside that meditate so you can listen to God has for you beside that eat healthy and exercise for your body mind and soul
I'm crying so much right now, I lost my best friend, my ex, we're not talking, on top of that college ends in a week and he'll go back to his state, there's so much anxiety that's building up inside of me, I feel like dying... I know for a fact this breakup was not needed. I know this breakup wasn't supposed to happen, I just know it.
I;m sorry for your loss, I lost my girl, 2 months ago. We met up couple of times over the weekend but then as soon as I came back home she was cold with me, I didn't understand her games or IDK what the hell is going on.. i've decided to go silent.. 4 days now... and I just found out she's out drinking everysingle day and getting drunk wasted.. idk what she wants,
It's been two months, and I ain't going front. I've been wanting to hit her up..she broke it off with me but I know I can move on.. I kind of already did but im cooling and working on myself. I just miss her so much. I just wish she stops being so stubborn.
@@JayDinero431do you have an update? same with my girl she’s very stubborn and she hasn’t texted or called me in 3 weeks but she watches EVERY instagram story I post….😢
Do you have an update? same with my girl she’s very stubborn and she hasn’t texted or called me in 3 weeks but she watches EVERY instagram story I post….😢
some random page requested me on facebook in 2021 right after I got married, I could tell it was a fake page so i left them in my requests. I became preggo & gave birth in 22, I posted my baby on snap for the first time & my ex’s brother sent me a message to congratulate me.Two-three mins later, that fake page on facebook re-sent me a request 😂 BLOCKEDDD
On on my first day of no contact . Yesterday we had an argument n i tried reaching out to him to fix things , he left me on read . Im planning this time to make him feel what it feels when its done to you . Its like u said, they feel save when they u ur still there as back up money .
@@runout1013 3 days . She had to be angry first , do her thing, after being silent for a bit she starts to wonder why you haven't reached out and if you have moved on with someone better. We've been together still ever since. I wish you the best as well
I'm going through a breakup right now and I agree 100% with the no contact thing, I think it's the best for myself. However, I would like to know how to accept the fact that my ex is NEVER coming back, nor reaching out to me. Despite what you say in the video, I'm certain she's gone forever and she'll never contact me again, so how do I cope with that and move on as quickly as possible?
Hey coach, Are you saying with No Contact that's the way the male brain works- absence makes the heart grow fonder? I'd think it would mean out of sight out of mind. No contact is so against my nature. For any hope of reconciliation if you don't know what the issue is, how can situation possibly improve? 🤔To withhold communication seems like someone's not being accountable & the other person's letting them get away with it ~how can that be a good thing?? "Let It Go" is a real trigger for me. What happened to solving the problem or taking responsibility~is it my old age that makes me think like this??
Ironically I walked away from an ex who dumped me in a desperate mind game attempt to trap me into making the worst mistake of my life which fortunately I did not fall for. Because I had had enough of her and the strength to walk away she came running back and I changed the locks never for her to return!
No contact for 9 days and its crazy how i am now thinking she's contacting me every day 5 or more times NO CONTACT, she totally disrespected same day i was leaving even tho i had no were to go i put my things in storage and booked in a hotel that's were i have been up till now, next week i move in to my new flat finally. i will defiantly not contact her its funny because i feel she is not the women i met and i don't know her in fact i think she is dangerous so im just focusing on me, thanks for the vid it really helps
@@javiersblog2083 I mean 13 messages is crazy but just focus on yourself keep your mind busy workout go for runs make plans with friends work more hours or if your in school put all your time and energy into your dream
i miss her, she was my world. i stumble in many ways, it's was a bad break up and i'm still heal from it. i just can not believe such a beautiful angel can hurt me so bad. i was wrong, but this is too much
What happens above happens below. Sperm Inside a female never dies. Sperm from multiple males WILL battle each other inside the female. The Energy from the battles creates unbalanced EMOTIONS in the female. If my sperm defeats the other males sperm (inside) BELOW, I will conquer that Male in the physical world (outside) ABOVE. This could result in violence, death, incarceration etc. Most females accepts another mate when unattached therefore I will NOT mingle/combine my sperm with another for the outcome of this conflict may manifest physically. Meaning I will NEVER take an ex-back. Ladies, that's why folks die in these Situations & to safeguard your Emotions by innerstanding this concept.
Im watching more of these videos its really helping. Valentines day she dumped me because i didnt deliver at the moment when i should have.we share rent and i was late paying my half but we dont live together full time (its complicated and too long a story to tell on here) was with her for 10 years but i was selfish for once and she went mad..its caused a problem but i was always the giver in everything and in all ways and im usually the one that chases...i did for the first 24 hours lots of phone calls not answered by her and then suddenly i done no contact. As much as i love her and 10 years to gether is a long time she dumped me. I miss her but for now im in no contact.
My ex sent me a Alcatraz swim event picture this past Saturday morning, I didn't respond. She sent a picture of the Alcatraz swim shirt I gave her in August 2024 Saturday night. Still didn't respond, aiming for eternal no contact with her. Would rather end with silence, then getting divorced with my money on the line.
We’re together for three years and then she decided to start seeing this guy after a long argument with me. After three months of dating him she decided to come back to me for two weeks then she decided that I’ll never change and she went back to him two weeks ago. I went back to no contact. I’m guessing she gone forever. She likes dating men who are little boys that aren’t even close to being a man regardless of their age
@@CatwalkPurz yeah the clown she was cheating on me with broke up with her and she’s reached out to me from time to time telling me about her kids and that they miss me then telling me that’s she’s back on dating sites just hooking up with random dudes. The thought did pass my mind to rekindle the relationship with her but things that I didn’t see at the time are now major red flags for me. Just focus on yourself it’s a hard thing to do but trust me at the end of the day no one is going to be there for you except yourself do the work and listen to this guy. Trust me he’s not going to bullshit you
@@gregorypecht7891 I appreciate what you are saying. Yes, I literally binge watched all the videos and livestreams on this channel and no contact helped me detaching from a 6year marriage, the husband discarded and definitely see things clearly by throwing away the rose-colored glasses. Excellent advice and content here - always, no matter what stage of the break up we are in.
He states that I am not fighting for our relationship when he breaks up with me. Now we are on our second breakup and supposedly it’s for good. But wants to remain friends. I told him I can’t be his friend he got upset and told me I don’t get to make the terms. It’s just about power for him, he has an ego and always wants to be in charge. I am not doing the no contact method because I don’t want to be with him after this second breakup even though we are both still in love. I think it’s best I end it because he so attached
Going through that now We worked together rehabbing Now the rebound works with us so now I get to watch her pour into him like or better than she did me
Your videos got me through some times. But silence doesn't always work. Especially when she left. Its been going on 4 years since ive been silent an we haven't spoken every since
What if you try to go into non contact and they reach out immediately the next day? I try to tell her im taking a step back, and then she says that its okay but the next day she calls me to "wish me a good day" am i supposed to ignore it??? :(
She's making sure you're still there. You're now her backup plan. This will result in you being stuck in the friendzone. If you want to be in a relationship with her, you need to tell her. If she doesn't want the relationship, you need to tell her to please stop contacting you. She needs to FEEL the breakup. Remember what he said in the video? you're the bank account. you're the backup. She needs to lose that money so she doesn't feel comfortable. Only then will she see your value and want you back. So if she doesn't want the relationship, tell her to please stop contacting you, and then go no contact.
Idk man he knows he have options plus he gets lots of hype from this one friend who have this toxic masculinity so toxic that even men don't like hanging with him except my ex ... Me choosing his happiness over mine was not enough... I nearly lost myself fr the mental torture! I can write a book about it.. But I'm glad I'm moving on slowly even though I miss those happy moments before the third person entered the picture n everything that could go wrong went wrong. Ps. My ex keeps sending me cute couple reels at least 3-4 times a week... Idk what this man wants.. I feel like I'm about to get biceps due to self control... I do love him alot but i love my family more and I don't want them to see me in pain for the rest of my life.
Been broken up from my kids father for a year but we were supposed to be trying to work it out until I found out last week he actually got into a rebound relationship & had other stuff going on moved her in and everything .. he’s been cheating with me the whole time & I didn’t even know . To make it worse I’m pregnant with his child .. since finding out I’ve went no contact on him & he apologized a few days after it happened saying that he messed up & he was totally wrong for everything and to not keep the kids away from him .. I haven’t spoken since and he texted me again last night saying so I’m really not going to talk to him and then text me at 4am saying ok it’s fine be that way and don’t say he tried to keep in contact with me .. I’m trying not to respond to him but it hurts cause we have history and other kids together we were together for a few years
Im really hurting today because my bf suddenly cut me off just because i did not say i love you when i hang up the call which i know that he doesn't like it, but i did it because we've been on a call for 6 hours but i feel like i dont exist in his world so i decided to tell him that I want to hang up the call which he said yes then the next day he doesn't want to talk to me anymore where i really did blow up his phone but after that he just need some time and space to clear up his mind so i decided to give him the space that he needs...I just really hope that we can solve our problem...He never disrespected me i never see an issue of third party that's why im so down right now...Thank you for clearing up my mind this really helps
Thank you so much.its helping me very much!! I'm off n on im always chasing looking for him to save my family but im tired im just doing me accepting things, keeping my distance... he seems fine without me.
When you asked them if they care, and they say they do, but which part? Just sitting there telling himself that he care about me but then after 3seconds just continue with his routine? Lol which part that SHOWS he CARE????
Hey coach my ex broke with me 2 month before … but still we was talking little bit … but now I think to move from the city to another because of work… what u think going far from her and being in no contact gonna work
@@mxolisisunshine1168 no contact is the best communication. If you did her wrong she’ll forget all your wrong doing by doing no contact till she initiate contact. You can’t accept friendship till they tell you they want to get back
I got brutally discarded by my ex like 2 weeks ago. Certain she has NPD. & Now im getting feelings for someone else. Its fucking crazy how it just happens. I'm not saying anything. I'm acting like James Bond.
I'm in a hard position right now, I basically dated my neighbour. (Silly I know but we got on so well.) Fell in love then her attraction clearly dropped for me. She said not ready for relationship because her kid is so young. I think it is just an excuse. We really loved eachother and it just slowly changed. We have a festival booked for next month but I don't know what to do
My EX has been talking about how amazing we are together been together solid for 6 months. Talks about living together. Wants to introduce me to his sister. Two days later he tells me he needs a break as he’s dealing with a situation with his kids Help
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@@carolinepirani3589 guess you should sign and for a one on one to find out
I have done silnece, no contact several times and it NEVER, I mean NEVER works. Women just move on. Simple.
What if u cheated tho
He unblocked me aftwr 15months, that was 6 weeks ago, I mived on and met someone else, it dint work out. I've not contacted him, he hasn't reached out. Qhat was the point him unblocking me. No contact isn't working. I've give up.
Success story: We were together for 1 year, I fucked up treated her like crap and pushed her away and didn't realize how much I loved her until too late. She broke it off. I went into no contact, she dated someone, I did as well but not to provoke jealousy and just focused on the self-improvement. The things I was doing wrong. Truly transformational period of my life that was spearheaded by focusing on God, religion, my purpose, my work and future. And after 6 months apart we saw each other out and about, grabbed her, kissed her and started talking. It was awkward at first to reestablish trust; it was like getting back on a bike that you liked but that bike got you in a bad accident. Fast forward one month after talking we are back at it better than before and probably will get married and have a kid. My advice, focus on you, your purpose and IF the relationship was of value, they will gravitate towards you. Attract don't chase. Become a magnet and the universe works things out, her or someone else who fits into your magnetic field. Peace and love. Focus on you!
Congrats man sounds like it all worked itself out. I agree with the focusing on yourself and purpose. I’m in the same predicament broke up 2 months ago still no contact.
That’s beautiful I’m happy for u
Morality : be a jerk guys, not a nice guy.
Value yourself more I agree what that but you also have to value her . Juts lost a girl who I truly loved and didn't valued . So its important to value yourself more and also value her
Congratulations, thank you for sharing this story, I am going through this rn and this helped to ease the pain a little bit.
Just because you haven't heard from them yet, doesn't mean its not working
Its not working
@marguskiis7711 same, I gave her everything of me, and still manufactured drama out of thin air and broke up. Staying strong in no contact, I feel it's not working at all
Silence / No contact, always works on yourself.
It is most painful method to get over and finally you do not get over. You romantisize your ex like she's dead.
Been in no contact for 4 months.My ex finally reached out saying he so sorry for putting me through hell. At this point I'm done. Thank you for all your good advice. I'm working on me now and I'm over it. I told him lesson learned and I except his apology and i forgive him but this is over and I am happy and I'm finally at peace
Just reached out to my ex who dumped me. She is in a rebound, it's also been for months, but her first ex(I'm her second) just was shot to death. Sent my condolences but that's it
Have you mated with another since the breakup? If so, it was over then. But he wouldn't know🤐
@@cosmicbodys7258 no just doing me
@MangoTangoFango yes and no. Her response was she is not okay but time heals all wounds. I could of been a real petty mf. But I didn't, would of been childish of me to stoop to her level.
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It hurts that I’m the only one hurting, I’m the only one crying, I’m the only one missing him and thinking about him, I’m the only one that stare at his pictures and cry, I’m the only one that wants to see him while he’s probably home living his regular life and not thinking about me at all.
This right here👆 I feel the exact same way!! I would cry myself to sleep while he'd go out w frnds, post memes on fb, date other girls etc.
Same. It's brutal. 10 months into separation
But how do you know that your ex is not crying in the dark? Your ex doesn’t want you to see him/her sweat. Maybe he is but his EGO won’t let you see it. Don’t assume.
@@mspenny6162 but he’s the one that left. And I’ve done the no contact with him and we’re chatting now. I’m taking it slow hopefully I see him soon but I won’t rush him.
In Yemen people are literally being vaporized. Get some perspective
I'm 40 days. She's out partying all the time. Wish she cared but I'm much stronger than I was 40 days ago. Still have moments when I want to reach out. But I wont. It's better being alone that with someone who doesn't really value you
She's hurting.. Did she used to party that much before?
@@WestsideClevelanddid your ex ever reach out to you??
Women just move on.
@@WestsideClevelandthis is very true. LMAO! 😂😂
I felt like no contact was good because it makes you self reflect and soon enough you realize you weren't the problem you just love to hard find someone who appreciates your love and loyalty make them regret you leaving
Except as someone with BPD, I was the problem.
@Mr. Crypt You can control it now that you're aware of it. A therapist is a good place to check in on goals, meds if that helps you may have to try 10 of them to get it right and practice new coping skills, learn your Attachment Trauma Style and how that effects relationships, I promise you can rewire your brain and retrain your nervous system. If your motivated.
@@Mr_Cryptyeah in the same man I could have been better, but we aren't all to blame, something clicked in me recently that my ex kind of caused me a lot of stress so we aren't always to blame
Women are just so immoral mostly.
@@maxjerome2545 mostly they left you
Initially I thought I was the one who messed up.
Following NC I've realized I put efforts for wrong person. Literally, I sacrificed a lot for that one person including my career. She left me for her career. Lesson learnt. Every thing happens for a reason.
Your videos helped me a lot. I'm on a "no contact" for one month now. It hurts a lot but i believe there is nothing i can do but leave the past behind me and disappear. I know that one day she will miss me and regret what she did but at that point on that day i would be completely detached from her.
To every one who is experiencing the hard feelings of break ups, be strong. You are not alone. We all been there.
Thank u
3:07 🔑🔑🔑 "silence is a action" 5:00 you will never be a backup or option to them. Have abundance mindset.
She is hurting now man. She blew up the bridge up of our fourteen year relationship. The last attempt to reconcile I made was back in January . After She ignored me , I knew I was DONE trying to reach out to her. I went completely silent after this. She since called me twice in February and tried to reach out to me on Facebook messenger this past Sunday. I haven't responded to her at all and quite frankly the situation in general has me pretty angry. It didn't have to be this way. It's her fault. When she called in Feb never left me a message or anything like that and when she tried to contact me this past Sunday, she said with the emojis included , "hellooo Robert😎🦋. " Honestly , I found that very offensive. It's like do you know what you put me through and you're over here trying to contact me with emojis ? I wanna tell her to f off but , I haven't reacted at all. We had a 14 year relationship, which she left me 7 months ago but again tried to reach out to me all the times mentioned above.
I would completely block her on all social media. If she wants to contact you, she has your phone number. But in your case, it seems like she did you wrong (you didn't specify what happened). If she was truly grimy to you, I would go ahead and block her everywhere.
@Champ1988 oh she was grimy. She has multiple profiles and honestly I think if I blocked her she'd try harder . She Is a little crazy .. dont want to go there but she is. If I block her that's just gonna give her reaction. I'm gonna go ahead and drive her crazy even further by not even blocking her. She's restricted on messenger so , she can't see that I read her message. Seems to me though , 7 months later and this being the 3rd time she's tried to reach out she's definitely feeling some type of way.....
Woman will break your heart and think 🦋 will fix things 😭😭😭😭😭
@@robpz448 same thing is happening to me rn
@@robpz448 stay strong brother ❤️
This guy makes more since than anyone I’ve ever heard
I’m finally at peace,I’ve moved on with no contact! Thank you coach ❤️
If you take em back, for some reason, it's never the same 😢
If done properly it's an attitude adjustment for them. If you went no contact, and made sure they had to win you back, they will most likely appreciate you more. If not, end it and move on.
Time is the key…… gotta forget about all the f ups and downs y’all had. Take time to yourself!
I was about to make this mistake but I saw this today !
I watch your videos daily and they’ve helped so much. It’s been a few weeks since I’ve reached out. I’ve been hitting the gym 6 times a week, eating clean, Intaking nothing but water, reading more, learning how to play the piano. My body and mind has never been better, doesn’t mean I don’t think about her everyday and miss her but I know I will be okay. At the end of the day, I’ve gotten 1% better by focusing and improving on myself. For nobody else but myself. So thank you 🙏🏼
Why would you come into my life, make me fall for you and then you leave me like i don’t matter. I want to hate you but that’s because I love you so much and you’re the best person I’ve ever been with. I hope one day I’ll stop caring about you and meet someone better. I hope one day when I see a photo of you it wouldn’t matter to me.
That day will surely come
Thank you for your support, i've now moved on with no contact and healing!
Me too! Thank god🙏❤️
@@ErPaige515 You will soon!
Why can’t the good men attract the good women. We keep attracting the crappy folks and being hurt. We need to find each other😢😢😢
Preach 🤣
You are damm right
Opposites attract...be a bad boy get a good gurl...be a good boy get the bad gurl...
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Because people wear a mask at the beginning. They listen to you about your likes and dislikes and act like they just like you
Your advice work! I had the strength to stop contacting my ex. He contacted me last week and now he is liking all my social media post. I’m gonna continue listening to your advices. ❤
If he's doing all that then he's a fool
How long did it take for him to come back
You can't get angry at the weather...good stuff
Yes this works. Just for me I dont want the relationship and my silence means just that. Im gone.
I did all of the getting angry over explaining myself and trying to reason for months. Now although we are in loose contact I realized THIS IS NOT A PROBLEM to solve so stop trying to take action! It is what it is and I have to take my hands off of it once n for all.
Exactly!! I agree with everything you say in this video. It’s been a year now since I last heard from my ex and I don’t expect to hear from him anytime soon. In this period of no contact the urge to want to send him a text just to see how he’s doing has lessened and in the beginning of this break up I was afraid he would forget about me. But now I could care less if he does or doesn’t. I figured if he and I were to ever reconnect in the future it would have to be as friends no more getting romantically involved. And if I don’t ever hear from him again I know I will be ok moving forward.
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I love it, the rolls will reverse!! 🤫🤫🤫
It definitely feels that way, I def to want to call and text, and I wonder if time will kill the feelings. But at the same time, I'm going to the gym, I'm focusing on my health mentally and physically. Oh, and I started piano lessons! 💁🏼♀️
I really miss him much, but doing what I can for me.
Do YOU for YOU. I learned the hard way many times in the past that once they made up their mind, that's it. It's only different when you're the one who screwed up. Because happiness and anger go hand in hand with driving reactions. So when you screw up, they're mad; and it's easier to course correct because it's in your hands.
But when THEY leave? They've moved into indifference. And there is nothing you can do short of throwing a grenade at them that will make them budge.
So stay the course. That's all you can do.
Sure, time will certainly kill his feelings for you, but only in case you was toxic, overly needy or if the relationship was mostly bad! However, if it was mostly a good relationship, he will certainly think about you, and miss you! You are now very clerly communicating to him through silence that you can stand tall on your own, be creative, and move forward without him! That is incredible attractive for anyone!! After 3-4 months of NC, he will start wondering, "what's up with her?" , "why is she not contacting me?", "did she move on, does she have a new boyfriend?", and so on... He will then reach out to you as most of the dumpers do! Just continue to work on yourself, and do not contact him for any reason! Trust the process as it will be the best investment you have ever done for yourself, regardless if you take him back or not. You are amazing, and brave!
Go ahead and call all u want…… u gon fk up , and it’s going to be the same damn thing
Reinventing yourself, rediscovering yourself is the best thing to do❤🎉
Silence is so freaking 🍭 sweet❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I was in NC for a week and my ex gf called my homie upset and crying saying she was thinking about me. Later that day she called me saying the same thing to me. According to her she was " just checking on me " lol. But ever since then she's been texting and calling me about foolishness. She said she misses me I noticed she has been alot more calm. Before a week the longest we went was 5 days without speaking. It was hard. But I guess she sees that I can stay away now. She even told me she's horny lol. We'll see how this plays out. But I can tell she's noticing my calm behavior. When you're a good dude and a catch they realize that it's hard to replace you. I was just insecure at times. Other than that our relationship was really good.
Did you ever run into the issue that you would try no contact and she would txt/call the next day? Like just to see how you were etc? Ik confused if im supposed to ignore there or just act unphased when answering
@@Daviddd10 She's VERY stubborn and can last days without texting or calling when she's upset. I showed her I can match that as well as becoming more relaxed and not attached to outcome. She's open to us. But it's gonna be a process.
@@mrkeitt thanks for the answer brother. Wish you the best 👍
@@Daviddd10 Thanks man. Same to you
I’m invested… what happened
The no contact rule is a time for you to learn to live without them. 30 days away from someone is enough time to move. If they reach out, that’s a bonus, but after 30 days, you really could care less.
Actually on day 30 or beyond, you reach out. If no reply, keep moving on, if you get a reply, you have something to work with. Very simple.
Na, I’m about 45 days into no contact and I’m still hurt, and I still care ….. perhaps he doesn’t , but that’s out of my hands …..
I just love to listen to what you have to say because you are telling the truth . Be blessed and safe . Miss . Linda ❤
Silence is an action allright ...thank you....Greetings from Belgium
Out of sight out of mind or absence makes the grow fonder? I’m scared he’s gonna forget about me and memories will fade.
My ex dumped me and came back 4 weeks later. We tried to work it out but he said i havent changed and left me again this time blocking me on everything. One week later i met someone else and moved on, my ex would unblock from time to time to reach out. Whithin 4 months i was no longer interested in my ex as i had gotten into a new relationship. Fast forward one year 4 months later im dumped again 😑, but this ex keeps texting me and saying he loves me but hes an avoidant and told me he has to guard his heart. I am going into NC not to get him back, just to move on with my life , cause if someone really loves they will try and make it work, not leave.
First ex said you haven't changed, this ex says he has to guard his heart....please do some introspection for the next relationship
people give up on each other way too easily.....you have issues in your relationship and you just put it in the shitter. I wonder if most people do that with their car too? You have an issue with it and you just trade it in. That works well
Yeah, my ex threw away what we had so easily and it irritates me big time. She told me: "I hated how it ended, but it is what it is." What kind of lame justification is that?
It’s easy to no contact when you’ve been blocked on everything 😅
NC is 🐐 Coach is 🔥🔥🔥if I could only found his teachings a little earlier but atlease I found him and I am learning more even thinking very high about myself and that I am first class...hmmm the way Coach is taking it so calm and confident very powerful even if an ex doesn't come back just the fact that one learns to be on top and become the best version of oneself... some days there are still flashbacks but eventually gradually I believe the pain and anxiety will fadeaway...thanks Coach
I love the break-up weather analogy
Thanks!
Coach Blac thanks for this video. Whether he'll ever come back or not, this video helped me calm down💆🏼♀️ Everything will turn out alright, with or without them!!
Your language here is so intense in how you describe the shift. Amazing encouragement in succession 🙏😊 thank you Coach Blac
The best thing to do is focus on God and yourself love then everything will align with your purpose you have to 🙏 to God and always be grateful beside that meditate so you can listen to God has for you beside that eat healthy and exercise for your body mind and soul
I did what you said ......it worked
One of the best videos, every word in it is a wisdom, thank you brother
I'm crying so much right now, I lost my best friend, my ex, we're not talking, on top of that college ends in a week and he'll go back to his state, there's so much anxiety that's building up inside of me, I feel like dying... I know for a fact this breakup was not needed. I know this breakup wasn't supposed to happen, I just know it.
It’s painful. It will get better with times and space
I;m sorry for your loss, I lost my girl, 2 months ago. We met up couple of times over the weekend but then as soon as I came back home she was cold with me, I didn't understand her games or IDK what the hell is going on.. i've decided to go silent.. 4 days now... and I just found out she's out drinking everysingle day and getting drunk wasted.. idk what she wants,
Ohhh sorry dia. I understand your situation 😭🥰
@@benithacalloway8286 Thats not an answer.
Who broke up with who
That works... I did that to an ex. I also had to accept the break up. Focus on the break up not the partner.
How long did you wait for her to reach?
@@runout1013 4 months later, she called.
@@hadiitiniguez2393 damn…I’m on 3 weeks NC
I appreciate your videos they always help me get through my days.. your a blessing to us All!
I love how relaxed and the way you deliver your messages coach! New to the channel, liking the content! 👍🏽
Yes, he's very...relaxed.
That’s why I’m here. It’s the calm delivery.
It's been two months, and I ain't going front. I've been wanting to hit her up..she broke it off with me but I know I can move on.. I kind of already did but im cooling and working on myself. I just miss her so much. I just wish she stops being so stubborn.
I feel u 💯
I feel same going on 13 days I miss her wish she come back but imma work on myself wait it out see what with comes out to me hope she come back 🤞🏽😏🤞🏽💯
@@JayDinero431do you have an update? same with my girl she’s very stubborn and she hasn’t texted or called me in 3 weeks but she watches EVERY instagram story I post….😢
Do you have an update? same with my girl she’s very stubborn and she hasn’t texted or called me in 3 weeks but she watches EVERY instagram story I post….😢
I walked away from my ex because she is the narcissist! Do a video on this scenario
Same here…. I walked away from her because she’s narcissistic and toxic
15 days NC and hoping he will reach out :(
some random page requested me on facebook in 2021 right after I got married, I could tell it was a fake page so i left them in my requests. I became preggo & gave birth in 22, I posted my baby on snap for the first time & my ex’s brother sent me a message to congratulate me.Two-three mins later, that fake page on facebook re-sent me a request 😂 BLOCKEDDD
Your words are awesome brotha, thanks for the wisdom.
Very insightful and informative video. Well done.
Love you man,no contact for a year,pray for us
I am happy for those that NC is working. I for one want to move on hut struggling. I know he will never change or even acknowledge me.
On on my first day of no contact . Yesterday we had an argument n i tried reaching out to him to fix things , he left me on read . Im planning this time to make him feel what it feels when its done to you . Its like u said, they feel save when they u ur still there as back up money .
Did he come back?
@@sabrinaganbold1634 yes, he did after a week of no contact , we still together. Stay strong , throughout the process
Update?
You cant be afraid to lose what is gone. Nc works 6 days and she is very angry. Blowing up my phone.
My ex jumped into a new relationship real quick. I know its a rebound and I do everything to try to ignore him
Definitely works 👏
How long did you wait for her to reach out to you?
@@runout1013 3 days . She had to be angry first , do her thing, after being silent for a bit she starts to wonder why you haven't reached out and if you have moved on with someone better. We've been together still ever since. I wish you the best as well
@@Logan_Hunter95 kl thanks for the update bro
I'm going through a breakup right now and I agree 100% with the no contact thing, I think it's the best for myself. However, I would like to know how to accept the fact that my ex is NEVER coming back, nor reaching out to me. Despite what you say in the video, I'm certain she's gone forever and she'll never contact me again, so how do I cope with that and move on as quickly as possible?
Accept it & keep moving forward
Hey coach, Are you saying with No Contact that's the way the male brain works- absence makes the heart grow fonder? I'd think it would mean out of sight out of mind. No contact is so against my nature. For any hope of reconciliation if you don't know what the issue is, how can situation possibly improve? 🤔To withhold communication seems like someone's not being accountable & the other person's letting them get away with it ~how can that be a good thing??
"Let It Go" is a real trigger for me. What happened to solving the problem or taking responsibility~is it my old age that makes me think like this??
“Let it go” means to choose yourself rather than the relationship . It means to choose self respect and dignity over the relationship.
Ironically I walked away from an ex who dumped me in a desperate mind game attempt to trap me into making the worst mistake of my life which fortunately I did not fall for. Because I had had enough of her and the strength to walk away she came running back and I changed the locks never for her to return!
No contact for 9 days and its crazy how i am now thinking she's contacting me every day 5 or more times NO CONTACT, she totally disrespected same day i was leaving even tho i had no were to go i put my things in storage and booked in a hotel that's were i have been up till now, next week i move in to my new flat finally.
i will defiantly not contact her its funny because i feel she is not the women i met and i don't know her in fact i think she is dangerous so im just focusing on me, thanks for the vid it really helps
Welcome back coach ❤
I moved on during no contact and im happy with my so called rebound
Love your video. You are always on point 💯💯
I needed this thank you sm
This was good !
Thank you. I so needed this 😢
I miss her so much😔 5 weeks NC so far
Stay strong after 4 months u wl get urself n heal
I’m blocked on everything out of nowhere so I think it’s done for good for me.
You and me both 😭 . I f-cked up and caved 20 days into no contact and messaged 13 times. Is there hope for ether of us? Im totally blocked now.
@@javiersblog2083 stay the course brother. Stay strong with me. They’ll beg for us back one day.
@@javiersblog2083 I mean 13 messages is crazy but just focus on yourself keep your mind busy workout go for runs make plans with friends work more hours or if your in school put all your time and energy into your dream
I'm also block on fb and messenger for almost 2 months now. He even change his cellphone number.It's excruciatingly painful. I feel like I'm dying.
@@javiersblog2083You're fine man. All that did was restart the process. It didn't "ruin" anything. Time is the ultimate healer.
i miss her, she was my world. i stumble in many ways, it's was a bad break up and i'm still heal from it. i just can not believe such a beautiful angel can hurt me so bad. i was wrong, but this is too much
How're you now my bro?
@@russelyg1803 i'm doing good now. i'm still missing her back and forth. but, haha kinda enjoying more of my life
Yes this is a badddasssvid. Sooooo on time ...as if God was watching over me. Everytime. Keep,healthy . Ur the salt of this earth
I have done silnece, no contact several times and it NEVER, I mean NEVER works. Women just move on. Simple.
Top Man 👍
thanks for the advice❤❤❤
Great video
What happens above happens below. Sperm Inside a female never dies. Sperm from multiple males WILL battle each other inside the female. The Energy from the battles creates unbalanced EMOTIONS in the female. If my sperm defeats the other males sperm (inside) BELOW, I will conquer that Male in the physical world (outside) ABOVE. This could result in violence, death, incarceration etc. Most females accepts another mate when unattached therefore I will NOT mingle/combine my sperm with another for the outcome of this conflict may manifest physically. Meaning I will NEVER take an ex-back. Ladies, that's why folks die in these Situations & to safeguard your Emotions by innerstanding this concept.
The fuck is wrong with you?
Great video so useful
Im watching more of these videos its really helping. Valentines day she dumped me because i didnt deliver at the moment when i should have.we share rent and i was late paying my half but we dont live together full time (its complicated and too long a story to tell on here) was with her for 10 years but i was selfish for once and she went mad..its caused a problem but i was always the giver in everything and in all ways and im usually the one that chases...i did for the first 24 hours lots of phone calls not answered by her and then suddenly i done no contact. As much as i love her and 10 years to gether is a long time she dumped me. I miss her but for now im in no contact.
At this point I don’t care if he comes back he has proven he chose to be with the side chick..
He seems fine, guess he actually did meet someone better than me
My ex sent me a Alcatraz swim event picture this past Saturday morning, I didn't respond. She sent a picture of the Alcatraz swim shirt I gave her in August 2024 Saturday night. Still didn't respond, aiming for eternal no contact with her.
Would rather end with silence, then getting divorced with my money on the line.
We’re together for three years and then she decided to start seeing this guy after a long argument with me. After three months of dating him she decided to come back to me for two weeks then she decided that I’ll never change and she went back to him two weeks ago. I went back to no contact. I’m guessing she gone forever. She likes dating men who are little boys that aren’t even close to being a man regardless of their age
It is so tough. Any updates?
@@CatwalkPurz yeah the clown she was cheating on me with broke up with her and she’s reached out to me from time to time telling me about her kids and that they miss me then telling me that’s she’s back on dating sites just hooking up with random dudes. The thought did pass my mind to rekindle the relationship with her but things that I didn’t see at the time are now major red flags for me. Just focus on yourself it’s a hard thing to do but trust me at the end of the day no one is going to be there for you except yourself do the work and listen to this guy. Trust me he’s not going to bullshit you
@@gregorypecht7891 I appreciate what you are saying. Yes, I literally binge watched all the videos and livestreams on this channel and no contact helped me detaching from a 6year marriage, the husband discarded and definitely see things clearly by throwing away the rose-colored glasses. Excellent advice and content here - always, no matter what stage of the break up we are in.
@@CatwalkPurz no problem. Hang in there
Very important do not take an ex back except she got kids with you and did not cheat.
I work with my Ex. I'm on Day 6 of No Contact. She's now telling other co-workers to stop talking to me. What does this mean?
He states that I am not fighting for our relationship when he breaks up with me. Now we are on our second breakup and supposedly it’s for good. But wants to remain friends. I told him I can’t be his friend he got upset and told me I don’t get to make the terms. It’s just about power for him, he has an ego and always wants to be in charge. I am not doing the no contact method because I don’t want to be with him after this second breakup even though we are both still in love. I think it’s best I end it because he so attached
Going through that now
We worked together rehabbing
Now the rebound works with us so now I get to watch her pour into him like or better than she did me
Your videos got me through some times. But silence doesn't always work. Especially when she left. Its been going on 4 years since ive been silent an we haven't spoken every since
Does she watch your story’s on social media or has she blocked you on everything?
What if you try to go into non contact and they reach out immediately the next day? I try to tell her im taking a step back, and then she says that its okay but the next day she calls me to "wish me a good day" am i supposed to ignore it??? :(
That’s a GREAT question!!!! Coach?😳😳😳
Ignore after 4 reach out.
@@benithacalloway8286 what do you mean after 4 reach out? After she reaches out 4 times?
@@Daviddd10 yes….
She's making sure you're still there. You're now her backup plan. This will result in you being stuck in the friendzone. If you want to be in a relationship with her, you need to tell her. If she doesn't want the relationship, you need to tell her to please stop contacting you. She needs to FEEL the breakup. Remember what he said in the video? you're the bank account. you're the backup. She needs to lose that money so she doesn't feel comfortable. Only then will she see your value and want you back. So if she doesn't want the relationship, tell her to please stop contacting you, and then go no contact.
Thank brother ❤
Idk man he knows he have options plus he gets lots of hype from this one friend who have this toxic masculinity so toxic that even men don't like hanging with him except my ex ... Me choosing his happiness over mine was not enough... I nearly lost myself fr the mental torture! I can write a book about it.. But I'm glad I'm moving on slowly even though I miss those happy moments before the third person entered the picture n everything that could go wrong went wrong.
Ps. My ex keeps sending me cute couple reels at least 3-4 times a week... Idk what this man wants.. I feel like I'm about to get biceps due to self control... I do love him alot but i love my family more and I don't want them to see me in pain for the rest of my life.
Been broken up from my kids father for a year but we were supposed to be trying to work it out until I found out last week he actually got into a rebound relationship & had other stuff going on moved her in and everything .. he’s been cheating with me the whole time & I didn’t even know . To make it worse I’m pregnant with his child .. since finding out I’ve went no contact on him & he apologized a few days after it happened saying that he messed up & he was totally wrong for everything and to not keep the kids away from him .. I haven’t spoken since and he texted me again last night saying so I’m really not going to talk to him and then text me at 4am saying ok it’s fine be that way and don’t say he tried to keep in contact with me .. I’m trying not to respond to him but it hurts cause we have history and other kids together we were together for a few years
Let him invest in you first
Let him see the kids though. Wtf
Im really hurting today because my bf suddenly cut me off just because i did not say i love you when i hang up the call which i know that he doesn't like it, but i did it because we've been on a call for 6 hours but i feel like i dont exist in his world so i decided to tell him that I want to hang up the call which he said yes then the next day he doesn't want to talk to me anymore where i really did blow up his phone but after that he just need some time and space to clear up his mind so i decided to give him the space that he needs...I just really hope that we can solve our problem...He never disrespected me i never see an issue of third party that's why im so down right now...Thank you for clearing up my mind this really helps
Thank you so much.its helping me very much!! I'm off n on im always chasing looking for him to save my family but im tired im just doing me accepting things, keeping my distance... he seems fine without me.
When you asked them if they care, and they say they do, but which part? Just sitting there telling himself that he care about me but then after 3seconds just continue with his routine? Lol which part that SHOWS he CARE????
Hey coach my ex broke with me 2 month before … but still we was talking little bit … but now I think to move from the city to another because of work… what u think going far from her and being in no contact gonna work
Don’t tell her your business. StU with no contact 😊
I want to know that, I'm in that situation??
@@mxolisisunshine1168 no contact is the best communication. If you did her wrong she’ll forget all your wrong doing by doing no contact till she initiate contact. You can’t accept friendship till they tell you they want to get back
I got brutally discarded by my ex like 2 weeks ago. Certain she has NPD. & Now im getting feelings for someone else. Its fucking crazy how it just happens. I'm not saying anything. I'm acting like James Bond.
I'm in a hard position right now, I basically dated my neighbour. (Silly I know but we got on so well.) Fell in love then her attraction clearly dropped for me. She said not ready for relationship because her kid is so young. I think it is just an excuse. We really loved eachother and it just slowly changed. We have a festival booked for next month but I don't know what to do
My EX has been talking about how amazing we are together been together solid for 6 months. Talks about living together. Wants to introduce me to his sister.
Two days later he tells me he needs a break as he’s dealing with a situation with his kids
Help