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what frustrates me is those girls are explaining boy logic, not boy math. boy math is 4 inches being equal to 8 inches or rounding up your height to 6’ if you’re between 5’5” and 5’10”
as a guy I puff out my chest triceps and lats whenever I walk past a guy who intimidates me in the hopes that the "hes just as scared of you as you are of him" kicks in.
this!! supporting each other is great, but it DOESNT mean supporting someone no matter what. im a girls girl, that doesnt mean im gonna support a woman who cheats or is racist or something
May seem empowering and cute, but can't help but feel like all of this is another way to stereotype women as helpless and feminine and also absolve us of blame for any wrongdoing.
You need to be very silly to think that. You are just saying you think this trend gives that instead of what it actually supposed to give. That's on who ever thinks that way and no one else.
@@violetvictoria7248 I mean it's not really that different from men "joking" about being sexist and commenting women 🍵or making kitchen jokes everywhere.
@@violetvictoria7248 Nope. Ironically, a lot of these "I'm just a girl" trends may be cute and funny at first, and I may have said that phrase a few times of course, but you can't deny that it does feed into the idea that women are fragile and helpless and conversely, can do no wrong.
It's more about using people's negative stereotypes to avoid accountability you shouldn't have to take in the first place. OK, I'm irresponsible with my money, how tf is that your problem? I'm allowed to be flawed as a woman and I'm tired of having to live up to your weird standards.
My issue with some of these trends is that they gender everything. Like I think we should stop gendering so many things that truly don't have anything to do with gender. Its important not only for people who are don't abide by gender sterotypes but also for transgender and nonbinary people. How are we supposed to degender body parts or periods when we gender going on walks or eating hot air for dinner?
I never thought about this but it’s so right. Why not just call it like “Young Adult Math” considering it’s the kind of trivial finical irresponsibility that a lot of young adults make without realizing?
those zodiac traits call for a level of accountability though "omg ya that's totally me" but "i'm just a girl" just brushes it aside somehow ? Not saying either are good !
Funnily you bring up women only owning property recently, but before then in most cultures wives managed the household finances while emotionlessly staring at their husbands blowing a week's savings on alcohol. Men earned the money but they didn't balance the books. Generalizing here, but still. Statistically men have higher personal debt, while women have higher student debt, so really men are less financially responsible.
I’m sorry but men objectively are more financially responsible and there are a lot of studies done on this. And I’m not drawing the conclusions myself here or trying to counter you just because, the stats really say that by like every metric. The average savings of men vs women is shocking. Men on average (today, not decades ago or anything) have much more money on average in their saving accounts throughout all ages, they have more investments on average, and more men contribute to their 401k. Surveys also show men’s attitudes surrounding money is different. Men reported having more knowledge about and being more involved in all things financial whereas a lot of women say they don’t know anything about it (savings, investments, financial strategies, etc). Sure, some men in the past may have blew their money on gambling or alcohol or whatever, but that was obviously not the norm (seems more of a movie stereotype), and women back then not even having the capability to do so can’t tell us anything either, but their money habits now do tell us a lot. Your example of men having more debt doesn’t really say much on the whole, neither does it say much about financially responsibility, maybe some of them took out a loan, or they’re failed business owners.
FYI, this is coming from New York Life’s Wealth Watch Survey, ASIC’s Gen Z research on money and cost of living, and a study on marketing vs gender (showing women more influenced to spend money after seeing all types of advertisements compared to men).
I think the Vikings had it down - women owned the property, could be warriors alongside the men IF they wanted, and could divorce their husbands just by putting their stuff outside the door and telling them to leave. (Interestingly, Viking men also kept a purse on them containing combs and cosmetics to keep them looking good for their women.)
@@Ryan-cb1eiwow. So, do you not see that this is due to societal pressures and accepted roles and expectations, it’s not tied to whether somebody has testicles or ovaries?
@@Wud-f2r Roles and pressures only explain so much, but you make it sound like an excuse. At the end of the day, isn’t everything just societal roles and pressure then? It’s just arguing in poor faith honestly and doesn’t do much. There’s nothing wrong with saying this group doesn’t do X well and should do better there. God knows if this were about men nobody would say what you said, like cmon dude…
I also don’t like this trend. I understand the girl math and girlhood as a teen as I sometimes relate to them, but the rest forces women to be seen as girls which makes us feel infantilized. One example is girl dinner, it originally shows either the last fanart that some girls thirsted over or Pilates women enjoying a cheat meal to give into their sweet tooth, but now the girl dinner trend shows girls starving themselves by eating small plates with nutrient-deficient food that can fill up less than a spoon. Also, I missed it when the song I’m Just a Girl was about wanting to be accepted as a woman in a world with more men than women, now girls are using the chorus lyrics as an excuse of not taking accountability
Apparently I had a while other veiw on this, I always thought girl math was buying something ridiculously expensive because you'll get a lot of use out of it not bragging about being financially irresponsible
Both can be problematic though, used to excuse bad behavior and cement gender stereotypes. It's fine when these sayings are being used to justify silly things, "I'm just a girl, getting that manipedi" or "hitting the racetrack, boys will be boys". But these sayings are also being used to excuse bad behaviors based on gender stereotypes. "The boys were caught peeping in the girls' toilets, lol boys will be boys" or "the girl did a hit and run, it's okay, she's just a girl"
an interesting thing i noticed is that i normally see people who would not consider themself a ‘boy’ perpetuate the “boys will be boys” mentality. whether it’s a woman or a man who previously acted in that manner, it’s never really boys who excuse their own behavior with that statement. on the other hand, i only see girls use the “i’m just a girl”phrase to excuse themselves. i think it says a lot about peoples expectations on girls vs boys. it definitely aligns with the idea that girls mature earlier-not because it’s natural, but because boys are not expected to. the emphasis that girls should be allowed to get away with the same things boys can is more harmful than good, in my opinion. it feels counterintuitive
Kind of hate the fact that ozempic is associated mainly with eds instead of its actual use, which is for people with diabetes. Additionally, this raises the prices of ozempic and wegovy for people who actually need it.
Girl math can be founding the discipline of computer programming (Ada Lovelace, Grace Hopper), connecting physics with math (Emmy Noether), or sending astronauts to the moon (Dorothy Vaughn, Katherine Johnson, Judith Love Cohen, and more). With so many women fighting for recognition in STEM fields, learning about the trend of girl math videos made me sad. I appreciate you talking about it.
Boy math is when you buy $100 worth of pokemon cards, pull a few cards worth a lot on trading websites, and believe you made back money despite never selling any of them.
Yeah no. In my country women were the ones who did all the calculations of how much food etc the family needed trough the year (which was especially important trough the winter), so if the girl math shit was true then I wonder how tf I’m alive. There are actually many cases of men gambling away important tools on the farm (and sometimes even the whole farm) and men using almost all the money on alcohol. The women were the ones who were able to keep those families afloat.
yeah but americans are so self centered that even though our hateful stereotypes of the opposite gender can be broken by simply looking anywhere else where gender roles are not the same, we could realize “wow, maybe if people aren’t put into a box of expectations right when they’re born based off their genitalia, and we encourage them to follow their natural strengths wether it align with their sex or not, to put good into the world because we are all humans that can try, maybe just maybe we could improve the state of this world” or not..
I mean that doesn’t really say much. Both of those things could have happened, it doesn’t really tell us anything on the whole though. But I think it’s important to note that now, with women earning their own money, how they deal with it and how responsible they are with it, which… 😬🤷♂️
@@dovelynight girl I have like 6 comments under this specific video, I can say what I want. Literally all I’ve done is debunk silly stereotypes, that’s shouldn’t offend you .
Not a women, but I understand a lot of what is said about the trend. It's kind of opposite of previous feminism of proving women are capable to almost self-infantilizing yourself to fit into "just a girl" tropes. Sure it's fun but just don't take it too far to where you actually believe it's okay to think you're less capable because you're a girl
If I had to guess, the whole wanting boys to fear you as a kid is related to not being attracted to them, or men in general, while living in a cishet world. I can remember doing things for the vindictive pleasure i would get from watching my male classmates be frightened off (shout-out to every other individual sent to anger management for this). When pressured into being cishet, children get spiteful.
EXCUSES. I'm far from straight and you are justifying being a bad/emotionally immature person. Not everything you do stems from your environment, sometimes it's just your personality. Many kids are being aggressive/have poor impulse control because their brains are still developing. That's quite literally it, no deeper philosophy behind that. And they also tend to really hate the opposite gender. It's completely fcking normal. Touch grass.
Am I the only one who finds it insanely annoying when these TikTok’s use the song “just a girl” by no doubt? That song is the exact opposite of everything this trend is implying it makes me so mad
Talking about "girl math" as if it's about women not being good with money and not about behavioral economic says a lot about how misogynistic and ignorant in finances we are (I learned it in a tiktok, I'm not free of guilt)
It could also be the expectation that women care for family members. They might be spending more money or not pursuing financial success because they are supporting children/ elderly parents/ siblings ect.
I’m non-binary so a lot of the feelings surrounding the trends of girlhood kind of went over my head (which is alright, I don’t have the find everything relatable obv) but with girl math and girl dinner it felt more to me like people coping with living under capitalism and dealing with mental health issues and making jokes to alleviate some of the stress, and the word “girl” just got stuck on the front of the trends somehow
This made me think of this time in second grade when I went to this school dance and I begged one of my friends to let me borrow her mascara because I really wanted to try it but when I got home and my older sibling saw it (they're genderfluid now) I pretended that I didn't really want to do it and that my friend wanted me to do it even though I really liked it I just pretended not to because neither of us really we're in touch with femininity at all
Something about these girltok trends (except for the girlhood one) usually annoy me and I thought maybe it’s just internalized misogyny or I’m just being boring, but I feel better knowing there’s been a reason why and that I’m not the only one. As for the girlhood trend, in high school I sort of rejected femininity too, not to impress boys, but because I was jealous of other girls who were more feminine because they did their makeup perfectly and wore cute clothes. Since I was terrible at makeup and couldn’t rock my clothes, I just gave up on trying to be cute and feminine and considered myself better than them. Thankfully now I love feminine things more and I’m better at makeup and wearing clothes in my style. 💗💖
What you said about girlhood at the end really resonated with me. It sounds silly, but I used to resent my 6-year-old self for picking the color light pink for my bedroom walls. I never had a 'I'm not like other girls' phase in the typical sense, but I never felt connected to the girls at school back then. (My social anxiety *really* didn't help with that lol.) But as I got older and eventually realized that I'm not straight, I started to figure out that I _do_ want to be like the girls I grew up with, but because I wasn't I started to internalize that feeling of 'I'm lesser than others', 'I'm not worthy of forming friendships with them or ever loving them' and so on. (Different problems came after that, a whole gender identity crisis and mental illnesses only made me feel more and more removed from the girl that I once was and made me not even want to grow up to see the woman I could become. There's more to that but that's a long story 😅😅😅😅) Luckily, I can now allow myself to like girly things without feeling like I'm not worth it. When I watched the Barbie movie last year, I put on something pink, even though I initially didn't want to. But the world didn't end and I had a good time and for the first time in forever, I wasn't mad at 6-year-old me for wanting and getting those light pink bedroom walls. I'm so glad that I got to grow up with a sister, who joined in on all the girly things with me as well. I also wouldn't want to live in a world without my sister, my mother, my aunt, my grandmother; all the women in my life added a piece to the person I am today and ugh I could cry right now 'cause I love and appreciate them so much. This is such a great video and I love how much each video of yours makes me reflect on different topics. A million flowers for this absolute banger of a video 💐💐💐💐
I had a similar experience but different outcome. I hated pink and girly things but it wasn't cuz they were girly, I just didn't like them, no matter how much I tried. I liked boy stuff and hanging out with boys cuz girls didn't like me (minus a few). By the time I was in high school, almost all my girl friends were either bi or lesbian and you really think that's where I would have fit in but no. I just had zero attraction to anyone. Once hormones died down, I had zero desire for men or women and honestly, if I hadn't met my husband, I would have been ace and happy with it. I've already told him I don't care if he turns into the Terminator and is just a face and a brain, id still love him cuz I feel in love with his mind, not his body. I feel like there was SO many signs I just looked over cuz I simply did not care to know. Could have saved myself a lot of grief from going into bad relationships I felt I had to for whatever dumb reason I told myself. Now I happily enjoy feminine stuff more than I did before but I still like my masculine side. Perfectly balanced lol
A lot of recent feminism has been about embracing feminine stereotypes, then people decided to embrace the negative stereotypes around women. Like, the whole point was to show that femininity doesn’t make women inferior. Can we throw out the rest of that useless crap instead of keeping it alive by joking about it?
Here’s a hard question to ask yourself though, is it chicken or the egg? Maybe the stereotypes come from truths. Trust me, I wish they didn’t. Especially as a guy, it’s not fun when apparently only you can have agency and financially responsibility.
@@Jojo-yy2ck Well I’d also be questioning it if the men themselves were embracing those stereotypes and asking myself why. It’s an important distinction. And if you weren’t trying to be mean about it and were upset about it because it also affected you, then I’d understand even more.
@@Ryan-cb1ei i’m not trying to be mean nor i’m upset by it, my comment was based on how you don’t seem to understand the original comment, women have been trying to get rid of harmful stereotypes and people on social media making “jokes” about said stereotypes just lead other people into believing they are the truth, example: you.
This made me so emotional. Thanks so much Emily. I watched the Barbie movie with my older sister. Growing up I would avoid wearing pink and tried to do tomboy things. Which I think a lot of us can relate to. Going to see that movie with her was almost like looking at a reflection of my younger self and telling her everything is going to be okay.
There’s also an expectation on women - and from within - to constantly maintain and update their appearance (makeup, skincare, clothes, hair, bags, shoes) that crap is expensive af. Also birth control or sanitary products literally every month for 30-40 years. Even women who earn equal or more than men - even those who dislike fashion or work hard to make their (increasingly garbage quality) clothes last - still have a higher cost of living just to be ‘basic’.
Real boy math is playing a free gotcha game and spending an embarrassing amount of money on loot boxes because "hey I saved money i would have spent on getting the game so.."
Also, speaking of boy math - talk about failing the bechdel test. Same with the “she deserved the purse” trend on TikTok, why are guys so obsessed with us 😭 just let us do our own thing and come up w your own trends for once
As a dude who grew up predominately around girls and women, hearing this commentary was really helpful in piecing together what I know logically into an emotional context. 10/10 vid
I love embracing playfulness and keeping that robust energy as a woman.... but that's a lot different than avoiding responsibility and infantilizing yourself like the girl trends promote
I'm glad I'm not the only one who felt weird about it. like in a lot of posts, "girl dinner" was basically promoting eating disorders, "girl math" was we can't be trusted with money and "I'm just a girl" was like "I should get away with things because I'm dumb". Most times it wasn't even funny because there wasn't even a subversion of expectations, it was just "I a dumb wittle girl", it felt like doing ourselves a disservice by tying these jokes to gender.
I looked at the girl math trend differently as someone who grew up and had a hard time asking for things due to fear of money. It felt like something we were using in order to explain how we try and justify spending on ourselves for our own enjoyment when we might have been told that it isn't worth it, or it has been withheld. But that's just my ramblings. 10:49 the two sides of my brain.... 24:00 I honestly never enjoyed things like the color pink and skirts and dresses growing up. I never felt like they represented me, but I wasn't allowed to say that It took me until last year to come to terms with the fact I'm agender. However, despite that, I still relate to girlhood in some capacity because I was brought up and raised as a girl, even though I am not one. 24:23 I vividly remember once asking for a Lego Ninjago set for Christmas. At the time Ninjago was my whole world. I loved it so much. I received a Lego Friends set. I didn't even know what that was. I played with it reguardless because I was just happy to get Legos. I feel like this has to do more with parents brushing off kids actual interests if it doesn't align with their gender though.
JK, don't ever feel pressured to upload videos when ur unwell or just feel don't like it. I hope you still enjoy uploading content cause we love it and we'll keep eating it up EVERY TIME💋
i felt the "i wanted the boys to fear me" in my core. for me it always came from a place of seeing how men treated the women in my family and if i could be the "scarier" person then maybe boys wouldn't hurt me the way i'd seen other women/girls get hurt. they wouldn't even want to approach me at all. if that makes any sense 😭 its lowkey sad when i think about it now that i'm older
What a great analysis on this subject! I feel as if this is the most insighful one in a while, topics of gender sterotypes and similar topics have nearly infinite depth, and this video did a great job highligting much of it!
yo so real and true. i just hate being reduced down to my gender and i’ve developed this weird complex because of past experiences where people just see me as some girl and i hear it in the words they choose, ive really struggled being a girl and accepting that i am one but i am also aware of the fact that society cultivates this self hatred for girls. but i just don’t know what to do no more especially when women who are genuinely slow think it’s cute to reduce themselves down to these stereotypes, like you’re better than that. we’re all just people, i don’t want to be seen as a girl, just a person. but i do have some self-hatred because of my gender so i have to navigate that and try to find balance. It’s just so sad, i hate gender wars, those stupid memes. ‘they’re just memes’ but when the majority is clowning on women putting them down to lift men, it affects the way we act as a society, it’s no secret that social media influences us. And i do stray from the stereotypes, just naturally because how i grew up, but it’s not like i didn’t want to deviate from the stereotype, i really did. and now i struggle with connecting with any gender, i never felt like i fit it, not even with “boys” because i just saw everyone as a bit dumb. Like i relate to both genders, but at the same time i feel like neither i strongly align with, and i look around at my school and except for some who look like me , people just so strongly lean into either or. and it’s not like i’m claiming to be an all knowing human being, but a lot of us are so passive about these things and it IS stupid when you see everyone around you, grown and young, perpetuating this cycle. i always felt like i’ve watched from afar, trying to understand others, and myself. it’s hard, but i hope we all can find some sort of peace, i think it only exists within ourselves, we have to create and share it.
@@KOmyself Yeah, it's so bad that when I get referred to with feminine terms (she/her, lady, girl), it feels off, like they don't belong, and I'm trying to embrace femininity a bit more but I'm so disconnected that it feels like cosplaying a real person just by putting on a skirt,
omg SAME!! i think for me it was mostly cuz i have the double whammy of lesbianism AND autism which made me feel very disconnected from like all of my female peers. not to mention, i also had this constant feeling of people perceiving me differently simply because i'm a girl, and i haaaaaaated it. so tldr being a girl isn't very fun sometimes
@@scuffed-diceyou know, you might actually be non-binary or just gender non conforming. You can be those things while being feminine, it’s not about how you look it’s about how you identify.
yknow with your explanation and my own understanding of this trend it seems really sweet and wholesome, but there’s that (gender-non conforming and also autistic) part of me that can’t whole heartedly agree and associate with it because of the generalization (not just the sexist part but the girlhood part) of all woman who take part being feminine presenting/identifying. for me, I was born a woman (uterus+ovaries) and I’ve been identifying with she/her for my whole life (which fyi hasn’t even been that long im a young teenager) and have, for the most part been fine with it, and I LOVE my female friends and the relationships I have with them, but I look pretty androgynous and don’t dress/talk/even act feminine-not to say people like me can’t participate, cause if you want to, it’s for everybody go for it- so im not sure I feel comfortable using “im just a girl” or “girlhood” for myself or anyone else because it’s not really about being a girl in my eyes, it’s about being girl-Y and feminine which- I can’t fully identify with. So for someone like myself this topic is really confusing but of course, while it can be discriminatory at times it’s quite wholesome, and I think that’s great. I’d love to participate in discussions with others on this !
I also think its not fair that its insane to say "I'm just a girl" when "hes just a boy" is the automatic response for when a boy or man does something wrong. there is clearly a needed stopping point but thats crazy
funny thing about the girl-math "If I bought the tickets a long time ago going to the concert is basically free" or "if I have money preloaded to my starbucks-app ordering something is basically free" is that in economics you actually kind of think that way when looking at "sunk costs" which are costs which you don't take into consideration anymore when making a desicion today because you've already spent the money. (It's not exactly the same thing but kind of the same direction XD)
Girl math is the sunk cost fallacy, so the way how not to look at sunk costs. With the prebought concert ticket example, the economically rational way to behave is that you shouldn't go just because you already paid for it if you don't feel like it. You especially shouldn't go if there's extra costs incurred like transportation - staying home for free is so much better than paying for a ride to a concert you no longer wanna go to.
7:11 It's frustrating that I've seen people stake stances on equality as "we should all be harmed equally". Self deprecation is one of the less bad forms of "humor" and insulting people but like all things, humans take it too far when it becomes laughing at the things we do wrong then keep doing them anyways because it's already so normal and it's just a "joke" anyways.
i see what u mean, i know they are just jokes and they aren’t overtly hurting anyone in a serious way! but i also think that it’s okay to examine them critically since all jokes have to stem from somewhere! or even spiral into something that we didn’t intend, showing us a little bit about the current culture
@@notevenemily yeah I get where you’re coming from. I really do. I just feel like whenever men makes self deprecating jokes, It’s funny but when women do it we’re setting back feminism. (Not saying YOU said that, but that’s the general reaction to those jokes.) I get being mindful, but sometimes it’s nice to make a joke and not think about how it’s gonna affect all of womenkind. That’s a lot of pressure to be putting on these girls
@@Sunshineattacks3have you considered that, just because you call them jokes doesn’t mean they don’t have an effect on culture and society? It’s important to be critical of your thinking patterns so you recognize and understand where something is coming from and how it effects others
@@mic6412 that’s my point right there. Do you not see how much pressure that is for young girls? To constantly think about how everything they do and say and what kind of affect it has on all of culture and society? When society criticized women for making jokes that were unladylike or crass… we spoke out against it because that’s not fair to them. But we’re doing the same thing in the name of feminism. These girls have their whole lives to have the weight of feminism on their shoulders. Just let them be. Not everything had to be for the cause all of the time.
Loved the part where Emily proposes to Amanda and says “will you may or may not make me the happiest Emily in the world?” and they had the wedding ceremony at the Wendy’s drive thru🥰😍
Ok, so I appreciate that women embrace and reclaim their femininity that was associated with all negative stereotypes forever. But I also find the whole concentration on the term "girl" and playing into demeaning stereotypes, such as being stupid, materialistic or unable, really infantilizing. I'm a 20 y.o. woman, but for the entirety of my life, I never related to "girly" things and can not relate to any of those trends either. I feel like once again those trends set the expectation of what being a woman is and draw a line between "girly girls" and everybody who doesn't fall under the stereotypes. It is connecting only a portion of women while alienating others. I very much relate to the sentiment of trying to outdo the boys in childhood and early teenage years, almost trying to be a man. Toxic masculinity is a thing that not only men but women as well. The whole conversation of embracing girlhood is in fact a conversation of rejecting toxic masculinity and enjoying things that make you happy. For me, the thing that helped me to get over toxic masculinity, order a pink gaming chair and wear girly things st tomes are other men who rejected stereotypes. Men who talk about liking Saylor Moon, wear pink, heels, put on cat ears and play Dress & Impress with a lot of passion lol. It was really liberating and made me feel closer both to women and to men, and just be a more open-minded non-judgemental person overall. Whereas all the multitude of those girl trends made me feel even more alienated. I just know that when people are talking about "girls things" it's not about me. It makes me further question my gender, because what if I feel so alienated from women because I'm not one? So yeah, while those trends might be liberating to some, they can be alienating to others. I think we can wo better as a society. Thanks for reading my magnum opus lol
so thankful to have discovered this channel. honestly cried at the end because i totally relate to your experience of rejecting feminity as a child then embracing it after growing up. sending love to all my girlhood and womanhood sisters around the world
I don’t know if the silly parts of the trend overshadows the parts that encourages further negative framing of the average woman but I agree it’s not the worst thing to be trending! I relate to the female alpha thing lmaooo I was dragging boys around like all the time in elementary up until like 4th grade and turns out I’m lesbian 😂
As a trans woman, the part about repressing femininity as a child hit hard. It feels like we all have the same experiences of not wanting to embrace femininity as a child due to trying to prove ourselves or not wanting to be seen as feminine which is considered weak and for someone presenting as a boy, weird and gross.
25:16 encuentro muy potente esta experiencia comun, siento que el alza de todo lo "girly" fue en un inicio por veinteañeras que en algún momento sintieron la libertad de expresar todo lo que no pudieron de niñas, y de cierto modo es bonito poder conectar con nuestra niña interna, pero desafortunadamente, como todo lo que intentamos hacer las mujeres en esta sociedad patriarcal, nos salió el tiro por la culata xd.
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"Anyone who knows me, KNOWS that I LOVE throwing it back"
what frustrates me is those girls are explaining boy logic, not boy math. boy math is 4 inches being equal to 8 inches or rounding up your height to 6’ if you’re between 5’5” and 5’10”
That rounding up thing is hilarious evertime i see a guy doing it😂
Omg so true ahahahaha
I round down my height to lower my ego
I'm 6'2 guys (I'm 5'8)
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I think the not quite pick me experience of wanting men to fear you is just the lesbian girlhood experience 😭
Agreeeeddd😭
Literally I said that out loud in response to her, I'm glad I'm the only one who made that connection.
exactly. always wanted to repel them
I'm so glad the 'got into fights with boys in school, later realised lesbianism' is a shared experience.
as a guy I puff out my chest triceps and lats whenever I walk past a guy who intimidates me in the hopes that the "hes just as scared of you as you are of him" kicks in.
the way the term “girl’s girl” has been twisted and used against people is also so interesting
this!! supporting each other is great, but it DOESNT mean supporting someone no matter what. im a girls girl, that doesnt mean im gonna support a woman who cheats or is racist or something
They did the same thing with "pick-me", I can't stand real pick-mes but calling someone a PMG because she likes video games is crazy.
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Bro i read that as “pooping slop” 😂
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popping slopping polka dotting
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thank you emily its 11:37 but ill try to have a good 23 minutes of the rest of the day
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i love the quote 'as a young girl, hating pink was never really about hating pink.'
It’s been 10 seconds and she’s already talking about popping and slopping
May seem empowering and cute, but can't help but feel like all of this is another way to stereotype women as helpless and feminine and also absolve us of blame for any wrongdoing.
You need to be very silly to think that. You are just saying you think this trend gives that instead of what it actually supposed to give. That's on who ever thinks that way and no one else.
Intentionally perpetuating negative gender stereotypes for clicks and likes 😍
@@violetvictoria7248 I mean it's not really that different from men "joking" about being sexist and commenting women 🍵or making kitchen jokes everywhere.
@@violetvictoria7248 Nope. Ironically, a lot of these "I'm just a girl" trends may be cute and funny at first, and I may have said that phrase a few times of course, but you can't deny that it does feed into the idea that women are fragile and helpless and conversely, can do no wrong.
It's more about using people's negative stereotypes to avoid accountability you shouldn't have to take in the first place. OK, I'm irresponsible with my money, how tf is that your problem? I'm allowed to be flawed as a woman and I'm tired of having to live up to your weird standards.
I really like how emily makes such silly jokes and immediately snaps back to normal
22:10
emily: "the defendant will serve..."
me: "CVNT"
My issue with some of these trends is that they gender everything. Like I think we should stop gendering so many things that truly don't have anything to do with gender. Its important not only for people who are don't abide by gender sterotypes but also for transgender and nonbinary people. How are we supposed to degender body parts or periods when we gender going on walks or eating hot air for dinner?
yes! i think my biggest issue with this trend is that it’s still creating a “correct” way to perform being a woman and femininity
thank you for saying it
I never thought about this but it’s so right. Why not just call it like “Young Adult Math” considering it’s the kind of trivial finical irresponsibility that a lot of young adults make without realizing?
"I'm just a girl" has the same energy as excusing your toxic traits by blaming them on your zodiac sign
Oh my gosh that’s so true. I haven’t heard that in a while!
oh my god im such a scorpio!!11!
@@RaelExplodesmy Venus is small and my Cancer is in Stage 4😢
those zodiac traits call for a level of accountability though "omg ya that's totally me" but "i'm just a girl" just brushes it aside somehow ? Not saying either are good !
Scorpios do be toxic tho
They’ season is coming up 😭
Funnily you bring up women only owning property recently, but before then in most cultures wives managed the household finances while emotionlessly staring at their husbands blowing a week's savings on alcohol. Men earned the money but they didn't balance the books.
Generalizing here, but still. Statistically men have higher personal debt, while women have higher student debt, so really men are less financially responsible.
I’m sorry but men objectively are more financially responsible and there are a lot of studies done on this. And I’m not drawing the conclusions myself here or trying to counter you just because, the stats really say that by like every metric.
The average savings of men vs women is shocking. Men on average (today, not decades ago or anything) have much more money on average in their saving accounts throughout all ages, they have more investments on average, and more men contribute to their 401k.
Surveys also show men’s attitudes surrounding money is different. Men reported having more knowledge about and being more involved in all things financial whereas a lot of women say they don’t know anything about it (savings, investments, financial strategies, etc).
Sure, some men in the past may have blew their money on gambling or alcohol or whatever, but that was obviously not the norm (seems more of a movie stereotype), and women back then not even having the capability to do so can’t tell us anything either, but their money habits now do tell us a lot. Your example of men having more debt doesn’t really say much on the whole, neither does it say much about financially responsibility, maybe some of them took out a loan, or they’re failed business owners.
FYI, this is coming from New York Life’s Wealth Watch Survey, ASIC’s Gen Z research on money and cost of living, and a study on marketing vs gender (showing women more influenced to spend money after seeing all types of advertisements compared to men).
I think the Vikings had it down - women owned the property, could be warriors alongside the men IF they wanted, and could divorce their husbands just by putting their stuff outside the door and telling them to leave. (Interestingly, Viking men also kept a purse on them containing combs and cosmetics to keep them looking good for their women.)
@@Ryan-cb1eiwow. So, do you not see that this is due to societal pressures and accepted roles and expectations, it’s not tied to whether somebody has testicles or ovaries?
@@Wud-f2r Roles and pressures only explain so much, but you make it sound like an excuse. At the end of the day, isn’t everything just societal roles and pressure then? It’s just arguing in poor faith honestly and doesn’t do much. There’s nothing wrong with saying this group doesn’t do X well and should do better there. God knows if this were about men nobody would say what you said, like cmon dude…
I really dont like this trend. It feels infantalising and sexist.
The word "girl" doesn't scream "adult" to you? I wonder why.
I also don’t like this trend. I understand the girl math and girlhood as a teen as I sometimes relate to them, but the rest forces women to be seen as girls which makes us feel infantilized. One example is girl dinner, it originally shows either the last fanart that some girls thirsted over or Pilates women enjoying a cheat meal to give into their sweet tooth, but now the girl dinner trend shows girls starving themselves by eating small plates with nutrient-deficient food that can fill up less than a spoon. Also, I missed it when the song I’m Just a Girl was about wanting to be accepted as a woman in a world with more men than women, now girls are using the chorus lyrics as an excuse of not taking accountability
yes it's gender essentialist bs for the most part
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Very true
Emily isnt pregnant but she always delivers ✨
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You ate with this comment
So original and funny
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Stoppppp the copy and pasteeeeeee girlie you are so creative and awesome you can think of your own original comment!!!
“girl math” thing is so annoying i HATE it
Apparently I had a while other veiw on this, I always thought girl math was buying something ridiculously expensive because you'll get a lot of use out of it not bragging about being financially irresponsible
“throw it back” *gets aespa flashbacks*
AESPA MENTIONED
Born like a queen born like a king aye
Imma get it DONE!
@@PurpleStay4 wayo wayo
THROW IT BACK THROW IT BACK THROW IT BACK
‘I’m just a girl’ is sort of the equivalent to ‘boys will be boys,’ but less problematic
message.
Both can be problematic though, used to excuse bad behavior and cement gender stereotypes.
It's fine when these sayings are being used to justify silly things, "I'm just a girl, getting that manipedi" or "hitting the racetrack, boys will be boys".
But these sayings are also being used to excuse bad behaviors based on gender stereotypes. "The boys were caught peeping in the girls' toilets, lol boys will be boys" or "the girl did a hit and run, it's okay, she's just a girl"
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I've seen it used (maybe jokingly) when girl posts about cheating. It can be just as problematic tbh
an interesting thing i noticed is that i normally see people who would not consider themself a ‘boy’ perpetuate the “boys will be boys” mentality. whether it’s a woman or a man who previously acted in that manner, it’s never really boys who excuse their own behavior with that statement. on the other hand, i only see girls use the “i’m just a girl”phrase to excuse themselves. i think it says a lot about peoples expectations on girls vs boys. it definitely aligns with the idea that girls mature earlier-not because it’s natural, but because boys are not expected to. the emphasis that girls should be allowed to get away with the same things boys can is more harmful than good, in my opinion. it feels counterintuitive
Kind of hate the fact that ozempic is associated mainly with eds instead of its actual use, which is for people with diabetes. Additionally, this raises the prices of ozempic and wegovy for people who actually need it.
Girl math can be founding the discipline of computer programming (Ada Lovelace, Grace Hopper), connecting physics with math (Emmy Noether), or sending astronauts to the moon (Dorothy Vaughn, Katherine Johnson, Judith Love Cohen, and more). With so many women fighting for recognition in STEM fields, learning about the trend of girl math videos made me sad. I appreciate you talking about it.
Boy math is when you buy $100 worth of pokemon cards, pull a few cards worth a lot on trading websites, and believe you made back money despite never selling any of them.
Rejecting girly things during childhood is such a mood lol
watching emily and eating glitter is peak girlhood
Why are you eating glitter ?
@@milaopacich9371 why aren’t you?
@@milaopacich9371Who doesn’t?
@@milaopacich9371to become prettier on the inside too😊😊
Yeah no. In my country women were the ones who did all the calculations of how much food etc the family needed trough the year (which was especially important trough the winter), so if the girl math shit was true then I wonder how tf I’m alive. There are actually many cases of men gambling away important tools on the farm (and sometimes even the whole farm) and men using almost all the money on alcohol. The women were the ones who were able to keep those families afloat.
yeah but americans are so self centered that even though our hateful stereotypes of the opposite gender can be broken by simply looking anywhere else where gender roles are not the same, we could realize “wow, maybe if people aren’t put into a box of expectations right when they’re born based off their genitalia, and we encourage them to follow their natural strengths wether it align with their sex or not, to put good into the world because we are all humans that can try, maybe just maybe we could improve the state of this world” or not..
I mean that doesn’t really say much. Both of those things could have happened, it doesn’t really tell us anything on the whole though. But I think it’s important to note that now, with women earning their own money, how they deal with it and how responsible they are with it, which… 😬🤷♂️
@@Ryan-cb1ei girl why are you just yapping under every comment what does that say about you
@@Ryan-cb1ei bro you are everywhere. Stop commenting. Nobody likes you
@@dovelynight girl I have like 6 comments under this specific video, I can say what I want. Literally all I’ve done is debunk silly stereotypes, that’s shouldn’t offend you .
ok but why is emily so gorgeous and funny like all the time, im jealoussss
33:00 so generous, thank you very much
Not a women, but I understand a lot of what is said about the trend. It's kind of opposite of previous feminism of proving women are capable to almost self-infantilizing yourself to fit into "just a girl" tropes. Sure it's fun but just don't take it too far to where you actually believe it's okay to think you're less capable because you're a girl
If I had to guess, the whole wanting boys to fear you as a kid is related to not being attracted to them, or men in general, while living in a cishet world. I can remember doing things for the vindictive pleasure i would get from watching my male classmates be frightened off (shout-out to every other individual sent to anger management for this). When pressured into being cishet, children get spiteful.
EXCUSES. I'm far from straight and you are justifying being a bad/emotionally immature person. Not everything you do stems from your environment, sometimes it's just your personality. Many kids are being aggressive/have poor impulse control because their brains are still developing. That's quite literally it, no deeper philosophy behind that. And they also tend to really hate the opposite gender. It's completely fcking normal. Touch grass.
caught u in 2 seconds
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Am I the only one who finds it insanely annoying when these TikTok’s use the song “just a girl” by no doubt? That song is the exact opposite of everything this trend is implying it makes me so mad
As a No Doubt fan I totally agree 😭
its always "girl math" "im just a girl" "girl dinner" but never "hold the girl"
Hold the girl, hit song by Rina Sawayama ! Lol
@@sarahcunliffe3138 real
rina sawayama mentioned?!
@@pan6529 lol
💃hold💃the 💃girrllll💃
Talking about "girl math" as if it's about women not being good with money and not about behavioral economic says a lot about how misogynistic and ignorant in finances we are (I learned it in a tiktok, I'm not free of guilt)
My wife is so much better at finances than I am.
It could also be the expectation that women care for family members. They might be spending more money or not pursuing financial success because they are supporting children/ elderly parents/ siblings ect.
I’m non-binary so a lot of the feelings surrounding the trends of girlhood kind of went over my head (which is alright, I don’t have the find everything relatable obv) but with girl math and girl dinner it felt more to me like people coping with living under capitalism and dealing with mental health issues and making jokes to alleviate some of the stress, and the word “girl” just got stuck on the front of the trends somehow
This made me think of this time in second grade when I went to this school dance and I begged one of my friends to let me borrow her mascara because I really wanted to try it but when I got home and my older sibling saw it (they're genderfluid now) I pretended that I didn't really want to do it and that my friend wanted me to do it even though I really liked it I just pretended not to because neither of us really we're in touch with femininity at all
I saw someone admit they SA'd their boyfriend and said "I'm just a girl"...
WHAT.
that's awful
....? Excuse me?
That’s literally the equivalent of “boys will be boys” 😭
That’s insane
I'm not a girl 😔
You’re a girl nwo
how
I'm not one anymore ✨✨✨✨✨
GET OUT
We can solve that
Something about these girltok trends (except for the girlhood one) usually annoy me and I thought maybe it’s just internalized misogyny or I’m just being boring, but I feel better knowing there’s been a reason why and that I’m not the only one.
As for the girlhood trend, in high school I sort of rejected femininity too, not to impress boys, but because I was jealous of other girls who were more feminine because they did their makeup perfectly and wore cute clothes. Since I was terrible at makeup and couldn’t rock my clothes, I just gave up on trying to be cute and feminine and considered myself better than them. Thankfully now I love feminine things more and I’m better at makeup and wearing clothes in my style. 💗💖
Earlyana Grande
samesies!
What you said about girlhood at the end really resonated with me. It sounds silly, but I used to resent my 6-year-old self for picking the color light pink for my bedroom walls. I never had a 'I'm not like other girls' phase in the typical sense, but I never felt connected to the girls at school back then. (My social anxiety *really* didn't help with that lol.) But as I got older and eventually realized that I'm not straight, I started to figure out that I _do_ want to be like the girls I grew up with, but because I wasn't I started to internalize that feeling of 'I'm lesser than others', 'I'm not worthy of forming friendships with them or ever loving them' and so on. (Different problems came after that, a whole gender identity crisis and mental illnesses only made me feel more and more removed from the girl that I once was and made me not even want to grow up to see the woman I could become. There's more to that but that's a long story 😅😅😅😅)
Luckily, I can now allow myself to like girly things without feeling like I'm not worth it. When I watched the Barbie movie last year, I put on something pink, even though I initially didn't want to. But the world didn't end and I had a good time and for the first time in forever, I wasn't mad at 6-year-old me for wanting and getting those light pink bedroom walls. I'm so glad that I got to grow up with a sister, who joined in on all the girly things with me as well. I also wouldn't want to live in a world without my sister, my mother, my aunt, my grandmother; all the women in my life added a piece to the person I am today and ugh I could cry right now 'cause I love and appreciate them so much.
This is such a great video and I love how much each video of yours makes me reflect on different topics. A million flowers for this absolute banger of a video 💐💐💐💐
I had a similar experience but different outcome. I hated pink and girly things but it wasn't cuz they were girly, I just didn't like them, no matter how much I tried. I liked boy stuff and hanging out with boys cuz girls didn't like me (minus a few). By the time I was in high school, almost all my girl friends were either bi or lesbian and you really think that's where I would have fit in but no. I just had zero attraction to anyone. Once hormones died down, I had zero desire for men or women and honestly, if I hadn't met my husband, I would have been ace and happy with it. I've already told him I don't care if he turns into the Terminator and is just a face and a brain, id still love him cuz I feel in love with his mind, not his body. I feel like there was SO many signs I just looked over cuz I simply did not care to know. Could have saved myself a lot of grief from going into bad relationships I felt I had to for whatever dumb reason I told myself. Now I happily enjoy feminine stuff more than I did before but I still like my masculine side. Perfectly balanced lol
Omg this entire paragraph is meeeeeeee😭😭😭😭😭
A lot of recent feminism has been about embracing feminine stereotypes, then people decided to embrace the negative stereotypes around women. Like, the whole point was to show that femininity doesn’t make women inferior. Can we throw out the rest of that useless crap instead of keeping it alive by joking about it?
Here’s a hard question to ask yourself though, is it chicken or the egg? Maybe the stereotypes come from truths. Trust me, I wish they didn’t. Especially as a guy, it’s not fun when apparently only you can have agency and financially responsibility.
@@Ryan-cb1eiso if the tables were turned and i say something about all men, would you still argue that stereotypes also come from the truth?
@@Jojo-yy2ck Well I’d also be questioning it if the men themselves were embracing those stereotypes and asking myself why. It’s an important distinction. And if you weren’t trying to be mean about it and were upset about it because it also affected you, then I’d understand even more.
@@Ryan-cb1ei ryan, please be quiet. thank you
@@Ryan-cb1ei i’m not trying to be mean nor i’m upset by it, my comment was based on how you don’t seem to understand the original comment, women have been trying to get rid of harmful stereotypes and people on social media making “jokes” about said stereotypes just lead other people into believing they are the truth, example: you.
GUYS WAKE UP EMILY JUST DROPPED😊
who is this handsome young lady on my screen?
Cute necklace 👍.
This made me so emotional. Thanks so much Emily. I watched the Barbie movie with my older sister. Growing up I would avoid wearing pink and tried to do tomboy things. Which I think a lot of us can relate to. Going to see that movie with her was almost like looking at a reflection of my younger self and telling her everything is going to be okay.
There’s also an expectation on women - and from within - to constantly maintain and update their appearance (makeup, skincare, clothes, hair, bags, shoes) that crap is expensive af. Also birth control or sanitary products literally every month for 30-40 years.
Even women who earn equal or more than men - even those who dislike fashion or work hard to make their (increasingly garbage quality) clothes last - still have a higher cost of living just to be ‘basic’.
Real boy math is playing a free gotcha game and spending an embarrassing amount of money on loot boxes because "hey I saved money i would have spent on getting the game so.."
Also hello nfts and bitcoin are peak boy math
@@TomMinnow pls are you a girl?
popping and slopping ☹️✊
As a girl who grew up in the tumblr era, this is the TikTok equivalent of justgirlythings
Also, speaking of boy math - talk about failing the bechdel test. Same with the “she deserved the purse” trend on TikTok, why are guys so obsessed with us 😭 just let us do our own thing and come up w your own trends for once
As a dude who grew up predominately around girls and women, hearing this commentary was really helpful in piecing together what I know logically into an emotional context. 10/10 vid
as someone who is not a girl i
I love embracing playfulness and keeping that robust energy as a woman.... but that's a lot different than avoiding responsibility and infantilizing yourself like the girl trends promote
I'm glad I'm not the only one who felt weird about it. like in a lot of posts, "girl dinner" was basically promoting eating disorders, "girl math" was we can't be trusted with money and "I'm just a girl" was like "I should get away with things because I'm dumb". Most times it wasn't even funny because there wasn't even a subversion of expectations, it was just "I a dumb wittle girl", it felt like doing ourselves a disservice by tying these jokes to gender.
can’t wait to watch this girl video on girl youtube
Not Even Emily? More like Not ODD Emily.
For those wondering this isn't a math joke this is is a September 11th reference
Gurl dinnah gurl dinnah gurl dinnahhhhhhhhhhhhh
sing it girl !!
its basically the alt-right pipeline but for internalised sexism
I looked at the girl math trend differently as someone who grew up and had a hard time asking for things due to fear of money. It felt like something we were using in order to explain how we try and justify spending on ourselves for our own enjoyment when we might have been told that it isn't worth it, or it has been withheld. But that's just my ramblings.
10:49 the two sides of my brain....
24:00 I honestly never enjoyed things like the color pink and skirts and dresses growing up. I never felt like they represented me, but I wasn't allowed to say that It took me until last year to come to terms with the fact I'm agender. However, despite that, I still relate to girlhood in some capacity because I was brought up and raised as a girl, even though I am not one.
24:23 I vividly remember once asking for a Lego Ninjago set for Christmas. At the time Ninjago was my whole world. I loved it so much. I received a Lego Friends set. I didn't even know what that was. I played with it reguardless because I was just happy to get Legos. I feel like this has to do more with parents brushing off kids actual interests if it doesn't align with their gender though.
Oh my god that's so sad, I'm so sorry. I hope u can get Lego Ninjago now 🙈
don't ever stop uploading or I'll be depressed, thanks😚😚
JK, don't ever feel pressured to upload videos when ur unwell or just feel don't like it. I hope you still enjoy uploading content cause we love it and we'll keep eating it up EVERY TIME💋
i felt the "i wanted the boys to fear me" in my core. for me it always came from a place of seeing how men treated the women in my family and if i could be the "scarier" person then maybe boys wouldn't hurt me the way i'd seen other women/girls get hurt. they wouldn't even want to approach me at all. if that makes any sense 😭 its lowkey sad when i think about it now that i'm older
What a great analysis on this subject! I feel as if this is the most insighful one in a while, topics of gender sterotypes and similar topics have nearly infinite depth, and this video did a great job highligting much of it!
the bon appetite joke actually made me cackle
my older sibling's college essay was exactly about how they hated the color pink as a kid and it was really inspiring hahahahha
Firstttttt and also love uuuu Emily I've never subed to someone as fast as I have subed to U and love the content ❤❤❤
I thought I was nonbinary for two years because I didn't feel connected to other genders :')
yo so real and true. i just hate being reduced down to my gender and i’ve developed this weird complex because of past experiences where people just see me as some girl and i hear it in the words they choose, ive really struggled being a girl and accepting that i am one but i am also aware of the fact that society cultivates this self hatred for girls. but i just don’t know what to do no more especially when women who are genuinely slow think it’s cute to reduce themselves down to these stereotypes, like you’re better than that. we’re all just people, i don’t want to be seen as a girl, just a person. but i do have some self-hatred because of my gender so i have to navigate that and try to find balance. It’s just so sad, i hate gender wars, those stupid memes. ‘they’re just memes’ but when the majority is clowning on women putting them down to lift men, it affects the way we act as a society, it’s no secret that social media influences us. And i do stray from the stereotypes, just naturally because how i grew up, but it’s not like i didn’t want to deviate from the stereotype, i really did. and now i struggle with connecting with any gender, i never felt like i fit it, not even with “boys” because i just saw everyone as a bit dumb. Like i relate to both genders, but at the same time i feel like neither i strongly align with, and i look around at my school and except for some who look like me , people just so strongly lean into either or. and it’s not like i’m claiming to be an all knowing human being, but a lot of us are so passive about these things and it IS stupid when you see everyone around you, grown and young, perpetuating this cycle. i always felt like i’ve watched from afar, trying to understand others, and myself. it’s hard, but i hope we all can find some sort of peace, i think it only exists within ourselves, we have to create and share it.
@@KOmyself Yeah, it's so bad that when I get referred to with feminine terms (she/her, lady, girl), it feels off, like they don't belong, and I'm trying to embrace femininity a bit more but I'm so disconnected that it feels like cosplaying a real person just by putting on a skirt,
omg SAME!! i think for me it was mostly cuz i have the double whammy of lesbianism AND autism which made me feel very disconnected from like all of my female peers. not to mention, i also had this constant feeling of people perceiving me differently simply because i'm a girl, and i haaaaaaated it. so tldr being a girl isn't very fun sometimes
@@scuffed-diceyou know, you might actually be non-binary or just gender non conforming. You can be those things while being feminine, it’s not about how you look it’s about how you identify.
"I'm just a girl" is kinda becoming like "boys will be boys" and that is 👏🏻not👏🏻okay👏🏻
MOTHER WAKE UP QUEEN POSTED
yknow with your explanation and my own understanding of this trend it seems really sweet and wholesome, but there’s that (gender-non conforming and also autistic) part of me that can’t whole heartedly agree and associate with it because of the generalization (not just the sexist part but the girlhood part) of all woman who take part being feminine presenting/identifying. for me, I was born a woman (uterus+ovaries) and I’ve been identifying with she/her for my whole life (which fyi hasn’t even been that long im a young teenager) and have, for the most part been fine with it, and I LOVE my female friends and the relationships I have with them, but I look pretty androgynous and don’t dress/talk/even act feminine-not to say people like me can’t participate, cause if you want to, it’s for everybody go for it- so im not sure I feel comfortable using “im just a girl” or “girlhood” for myself or anyone else because it’s not really about being a girl in my eyes, it’s about being girl-Y and feminine which- I can’t fully identify with. So for someone like myself this topic is really confusing but of course, while it can be discriminatory at times it’s quite wholesome, and I think that’s great. I’d love to participate in discussions with others on this !
I also think its not fair that its insane to say "I'm just a girl" when "hes just a boy" is the automatic response for when a boy or man does something wrong. there is clearly a needed stopping point but thats crazy
11:04 me when I make my wife (girl) dinner (dinner) and have an intrusive thought (I want her to be my dinner)
funny thing about the girl-math
"If I bought the tickets a long time ago going to the concert is basically free" or "if I have money preloaded to my starbucks-app ordering something is basically free"
is that in economics you actually kind of think that way when looking at "sunk costs" which are costs which you don't take into consideration anymore when making a desicion today because you've already spent the money. (It's not exactly the same thing but kind of the same direction XD)
nice to know that there is an actual economic term for that logic that has nothing to do with gender!!
Girl math is the sunk cost fallacy, so the way how not to look at sunk costs. With the prebought concert ticket example, the economically rational way to behave is that you shouldn't go just because you already paid for it if you don't feel like it. You especially shouldn't go if there's extra costs incurred like transportation - staying home for free is so much better than paying for a ride to a concert you no longer wanna go to.
YES EMILY POSTED 👏🏼
From wanting to be better than boys at kickball at recess to being a better choice to date than boys is so real tbh
I was watching a diff series and then i got a notif omg im early😭
i've always seen "i'm just a girl" as kinda a joke to make fun of "boys will be boys" but people DEFINITELY take it too far
22:44 *door knocking*, *trans-vestigator walks in, "I'll be the judge of that!"
Girl math and KAMALA???? Oh crap!!
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It's frustrating that I've seen people stake stances on equality as "we should all be harmed equally". Self deprecation is one of the less bad forms of "humor" and insulting people but like all things, humans take it too far when it becomes laughing at the things we do wrong then keep doing them anyways because it's already so normal and it's just a "joke" anyways.
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I feel like your taking this too seriously😅 your making good point don’t get me wrong but only if one takes the videos literally.
i see what u mean, i know they are just jokes and they aren’t overtly hurting anyone in a serious way! but i also think that it’s okay to examine them critically since all jokes have to stem from somewhere! or even spiral into something that we didn’t intend, showing us a little bit about the current culture
@@notevenemily yeah I get where you’re coming from. I really do. I just feel like whenever men makes self deprecating jokes, It’s funny but when women do it we’re setting back feminism. (Not saying YOU said that, but that’s the general reaction to those jokes.)
I get being mindful, but sometimes it’s nice to make a joke and not think about how it’s gonna affect all of womenkind. That’s a lot of pressure to be putting on these girls
@@Sunshineattacks3have you considered that, just because you call them jokes doesn’t mean they don’t have an effect on culture and society? It’s important to be critical of your thinking patterns so you recognize and understand where something is coming from and how it effects others
@@mic6412 that’s my point right there. Do you not see how much pressure that is for young girls? To constantly think about how everything they do and say and what kind of affect it has on all of culture and society?
When society criticized women for making jokes that were unladylike or crass… we spoke out against it because that’s not fair to them. But we’re doing the same thing in the name of feminism. These girls have their whole lives to have the weight of feminism on their shoulders. Just let them be. Not everything had to be for the cause all of the time.
Tbh the “I’m just a girl” is just another way to say you use weaponized incompetence
Loved the part where Emily proposes to Amanda and says “will you may or may not make me the happiest Emily in the world?” and they had the wedding ceremony at the Wendy’s drive thru🥰😍
Ok, so I appreciate that women embrace and reclaim their femininity that was associated with all negative stereotypes forever. But I also find the whole concentration on the term "girl" and playing into demeaning stereotypes, such as being stupid, materialistic or unable, really infantilizing.
I'm a 20 y.o. woman, but for the entirety of my life, I never related to "girly" things and can not relate to any of those trends either. I feel like once again those trends set the expectation of what being a woman is and draw a line between "girly girls" and everybody who doesn't fall under the stereotypes. It is connecting only a portion of women while alienating others.
I very much relate to the sentiment of trying to outdo the boys in childhood and early teenage years, almost trying to be a man. Toxic masculinity is a thing that not only men but women as well. The whole conversation of embracing girlhood is in fact a conversation of rejecting toxic masculinity and enjoying things that make you happy. For me, the thing that helped me to get over toxic masculinity, order a pink gaming chair and wear girly things st tomes are other men who rejected stereotypes. Men who talk about liking Saylor Moon, wear pink, heels, put on cat ears and play Dress & Impress with a lot of passion lol. It was really liberating and made me feel closer both to women and to men, and just be a more open-minded non-judgemental person overall. Whereas all the multitude of those girl trends made me feel even more alienated. I just know that when people are talking about "girls things" it's not about me. It makes me further question my gender, because what if I feel so alienated from women because I'm not one?
So yeah, while those trends might be liberating to some, they can be alienating to others. I think we can wo better as a society. Thanks for reading my magnum opus lol
as a boy💅🏻 girlhood looks so aesthetic but sometimes i feel like ion belong😭 but i won’t fragile stereotypes prevent my happiness
You know found a good TH-camr when you can’t really relate to the topic but still end up being entertained
Shoutout to all my guys watching
THE QUEEN HAS BLESSED US ONCE AGAIN 🗣️🗣️🔥🔥
i was watching this video and my mom passed by and started going on about how beautiful u are for like two minutes 😭
i always used to get into physical fights with boys but i actually was extremely girly. i am a lesbian now so i’m wondering if maybe that was just it
so thankful to have discovered this channel. honestly cried at the end because i totally relate to your experience of rejecting feminity as a child then embracing it after growing up. sending love to all my girlhood and womanhood sisters around the world
I don’t know if the silly parts of the trend overshadows the parts that encourages further negative framing of the average woman but I agree it’s not the worst thing to be trending! I relate to the female alpha thing lmaooo I was dragging boys around like all the time in elementary up until like 4th grade and turns out I’m lesbian 😂
As a trans woman, the part about repressing femininity as a child hit hard. It feels like we all have the same experiences of not wanting to embrace femininity as a child due to trying to prove ourselves or not wanting to be seen as feminine which is considered weak and for someone presenting as a boy, weird and gross.
I actually saw an "I'm just a boy" reel on ig and it gagged me 😭😭😭
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OTHER GIRLS.....EW
ME........YAY
this is the goddamn content i suBSCRIBED FOR
25:16 encuentro muy potente esta experiencia comun, siento que el alza de todo lo "girly" fue en un inicio por veinteañeras que en algún momento sintieron la libertad de expresar todo lo que no pudieron de niñas, y de cierto modo es bonito poder conectar con nuestra niña interna, pero desafortunadamente, como todo lo que intentamos hacer las mujeres en esta sociedad patriarcal, nos salió el tiro por la culata xd.
YAYYYY EMILAYSSS BACK AT IT AGAINNN
1 minute ago is crazy