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Everyone always talk about the Kardashians for that esthetic no one ever ever mentions Nicki Minaj for me she is totally a baddy and so so so popular back in the Time she popularisé rhe Big butt lots of make up false lashes and the colored wigs why isn't she ever mentionned anywhere on that specific subject she IS far more popular than the (snakes😂) Kardashians family in my opinion.
Cause they see ppl on ig living it up and think I want that when it’s just smoke and mirrors 🪞 none it real for everyday ppl heck not even most celebrity/influencers
easier said than done when ur constantly being fed the new social media beauty trend, being told that youre not pretty enough and made to feel like your body is a fashion accessory, being told that if u dont live this very specific lifestyle of being a "baddie" that you are not good enough. constantly. lets consider, for a moment, that maybe solving this issue is a little more deep than just "appreciate ur youth!!"
@@mikudayo_biggest_fan3939@mikudayo_biggest_fan3939 part of the solution is don't allow minors on social media. 18+ should be the standard. Also, ban plastic surgery (without an extremely medically necessary) reason until age 25 when the brain has fully developed. There is NO reason anyone under that age needs it (with the exception of severe medical circumstances)
They totally changed the definition of “Baddie” too. A baddie used to be a strong independent woman who would protect herself, not sexualize your self.
Meh, it came from calling wmen Bad as in being pretty/sexy, and then it turned into Baddie, in the vein of Hottie that came from Hot. The extra you added has nothing to do with it, but you're entitled to your definition. Songs like She's Bad by Keith Sweat comes to mind.
I'm a 17 yrl black girl, and I literally get made fun of for dressing normal and being "white washed" In school. I hate how the baddie esthetic is associated with black women at all. It just continues the hurtful stereotypes that black men help push onto us.
It’s okay girl just keep doing you! You have a mind of your own and that’s a beautiful thing! A lot of them will look back and wish they carried themselves differently.
God forbid (black) women do anything :/ I'm sorry people are dunking on you for literally just existing 🫂 I'm obscenely white, so I can't fully relate, but just the thought of a whole community pushing that shit on you is overwhelming.... Keep being you, adult-you will thank you :)
@@CocoBoo_Anti-Oblivious it's very hurtful. The mainstream black girls are so embarrassing. There's no variety. It's just pu$$y and fighting with other celebrities.
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They will be washed up and burnt out at the ripe age of 20. Then they get knocked up by a rapper or athlete and stay a baby mama only forever. THE END 😂😂😂😂😂
sneaking to a function in the middle of new york saying your a tiktok influencer with more than a million is pretty fcking convincing, lets start using our brains and realizing there are always two sides of a story but yall only choose to hate on one
@@layebanks8672 ofc it wasn't a great idea for her to go and present herself to Ice Spice to begin with, but it's also on Ice Spice for not checking to make sure she was an adult-neither side is innocent in this situation tbh
Right!!! The chin is not a baddie she's like 40 she needs to go sit somewhere and watch her daughter. Speaking of she only promoting being a bad bitch but never a good mom. 🤔🤔
As an 18 yo black girl its hard because I get seen as weird because I am not like that. I dont wanna shake my butt to be loved and I ask why thats crazy? I also find it concerning because we still haven't seen the affects of people under 20 getting these surgeries in 10 or 20 years not even mentioning the mental state of us girl's.
Tbh it's mostly girls who are promoting it. And I'm gonna be honest it gives.."wh0re vibes." It's seriously very sad. Like..I'm sorry but shaking your butt won't make you great.
22:59 “YOURE the one sexualizing her!!!” oh my god when are we going to admit that these young girls CAN and ARE sexualizing themselves. not saying they should, but they ARE and we NEED to talk about this without being accused of sexualizing these already promiscuously appearing girls
I agree! And also acknowledge society’s role in making these girls feel like they HAVE to sexualize themselves in order to be relevant / successful/a valid woman . It’s not their fault but of course everyone is going to objectify them !!!!!
Right! They’ll purposefully have their entire butts out TO be seen as sexy and bad, but it’s everyone else’s fault they’re sexualized? They literally want that!!
Getting your body chopped up as a teenager when you haven't even fully developed yet is sad. What's even more sad is its for aesthetics... aesthetics that come and go. Are you going to go under the knife every few months/years when a new aesthetic arises??
This is so true. My hips continued to fill out as I got older and even though I was an a cup in my teens, I’m probably a b cup now and also don’t want bigger boobs. I’m happy I never got implants when I was 18 like I thought I needed to so badly. Male attention is overrated.
@@desiree5895That’s not how weight gain works. You need extra food and lack of exercise to gain 30 pounds in a year. Your body doesn’t just magically do that I’m afraid. Not even trying to be mean here.
I agree. In general, unless the surgery is medically necessary, everyone should wait to surgically alter their bodies like that until they're done with physical development. It's much better for the body like that.
Let’s be real here. The reason why there is no “awkward stage” anymore is because we as a society discourage anything that is child-like and society isn’t as friendly to children as it once was. Third places are gone, most adolescent socialising is done online, there is this perception that the world has become unsafer compared to the past and we don’t allow kids to be kids. But if I’m being honest, I believe that the awkward stage has been subliminally discouraged even as early as in the 2000’s. I’m 24 years old, but I could already recall how movies like “Mean Girls” and plenty of other Disney channel movies have been the “precursor” or “prototype” to baddie culture well before it became mainstream. The characters that faced bullying in those movies - look at how they dressed or what sort of characteristics they embodied. They were characteristics of those who were in their “awkward stage”. Even in our generation, the pressure to be and act grown was always there, but social media has just exacerbated the trends. Me and my old manager from work went for drinks one time and he said how he would hate to grow up as a child in today’s world and I wholeheartedly agree. The peer pressure to conform is so much worse because your mistakes could very well easily be broadcast on social media - even if you are not an active user or participant of social media at all. Plus being a parent is so much harder because the balancing game has become so much more delicate. If you allow your daughter to dress and act grown, she would be more at risk of attracting very negative and manipulative attention to herself, but if you go to the other end of the spectrum, they could easily be a target or be singled out amongst their peers as they are so much more likely to be bullied as having an “awkward” stage would almost be like a death warrant socially speaking. It’s like you want your child to be protected, but on the other hand, you don’t want to see your child being left out or be the cause of your child being left out socially. Just some observations from a 24 year old man. This was a great video.
Nope you said perfectly!!!! This has what had happened, me and my cousin have the same talk… if they have the awkward stage unfortunately kids in the social media world now cause let’s face it, I see families who let their kids just go the phone like that, some parents are different but like you took the words out my mouth. I feel for parents nowdays
Aaand this is just one of the reasons why I choose to be childfree. I do not want to subject my kids to the crippling pressure of our ever-evolving (devolving?) social norms, bullying, objectification and commodification.
This is my take on this issue, im in my last year of high school, and every time I see a “baddie” someone who wears long eyelashes or wears revealing clothes, I don’t judge them, because some of them are really nice people. I think these people just like the aesthetic, but whatever the case is, I definitely don’t like the idea of people sexualizing baddies. I know people who dress up like “baddies” but they have a good heart, and aren’t people who wear these type of aesthetics on purpose, it’s mostly for their own fashion aesthetic and that’s ok. But it does concern me with the increasing amount of kids that are younger than me dress up so maturely at a young age. When I was around their age I barely had any clue on what to wear and mostly wore a sweater and jogging pants 💀 I love fashion as a whole, but not when young kids wear clothes that make them look mature for their age, or make them look older than they really are.
@@darlene6389I feel you! I got off socials except TH-cam and Reddit a few years back and I would recommend 10/10. It’s not that I don’t still have some insecurities around my looks, but overall I’m way less focused on comparing my looks to other people. Plus I have more time for my hobbies since I’m not scrolling through ig or TikTok.
I watched this entire 50 minute video without looking at my phone or needing any other distraction. You are so good at this NK, the theme, the tallking, the editing, everything is on point
Thisss. I think women/teens confuse being sexually provocative as empowering and confident because it attracts (male) attention), but don’t realise that the attention is inherently predatory. Or maybe they do realise and don’t care, which is sad because women’s bodies deserved to be respected, not exploited
But…do they encourage it? I never hear real life men say anything positive about this aesthetic, and they actively discourage the ladies they think will listen from participating BECAUSE it’s dangerous and it’s not empowering.
@@evaphillips2102 you may not hear it irl but the baddie lifestyle is definitely glamourised and rewarded in the short term. Men will follow these baddies on social media and even subscribe to their only fans or whatever, but they will shame women who had a high body count (or even a body count) and never want a long term committed relationship with them.
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Baddie culture was popular in the early 2000s, it was and always will be from stripper trends It just exploded when Instagram meant you could post your butt online without shame as a normie
Baddie culture just leaves women single mothers. Men don’t actually respect baddies they only want to sleep with them. Young kids need an awkward stage it builds character. Everyone looks the same on social media and is after the same things. It’s so superficial and damaging.
Everyone has other things thinking about than what men do or do not desire. Our lives don't revolve around that. These girls shouldnt be in these kind of attire simply because it's damaging to their self esteem and so on.... not because they are tryna be suitable for marriage. Not everyone cares about that
Fr , its like everytime i vaguely think of something that is considered beautiful on media , its just "blue eyes" and "blonde" I mean its like everyone is the same
I thought the same thing! I’m so glad I was able to just BE ugly and go thru puberty in the privacy of my immediate circle and not the entire internet. I was FORCED to develop a personality because dear god there were plenty of moments as a teen where I thought my looks alone just were not gonna cut it lmaoo… Now I’m of an age where I realize there’s more to life regardless but those years of insecurity, self discovery and character building were so so important and necessary to become the woman I am today and fortunately I think she’s pretty cool. I hate to think the next generation won’t have the mental building blocks to get to that point in a healthy way.
its not just young people. if you're a naturally curvy person, its annoying to be looked at like that when youre just living. who wants to be constantly looked at 😭
As a 19-year-old about to turn 20 in a few days, it's really strange. I have never and will never be a “baddie”. The fact that girls like me get shunned for not looking like that is dumb.
Same here, I'm not a baddie and I'm 25. I've always had a more olive bottle shaped torso, average chest, and thick thighs so I always felt self conscious. I prefer structured fitted clothes and knee length/ankle length skirts. I'm sure you're beautiful and have your own sense of style and interests. It's crappy that people make you feel unwelcome for not fitting 'their narrow minded ideas.'
I am in my 30's and have always been a workout queen but at the gym I cover up so I don't attract unwanted attention. You have no clue how many girls come to the gym dressed half naked, don't even really work out and try to to get men to stare at them. Crazy bending over, leg up in the air kind of crap. Then they try to catch them on video, will scream that they are creeps and cause a sceen. The owner has started to kick them out. Men are starting to dislike them. They are finding that girls with class and respect themselves are senior and more attractive. I hear them talk about it all the time. Trust me, took men awhile but they are realizing that they are just self-centered bi*ches and have no valve. Hang in there.
@@HoneyBee-yr6bn the commenter is clearly bitter and jealous of baddies, so she copes with that by having a superiority complex of being “not like other girls”.
What really gets me when teenagers/children on the internet are told not to wear revealing clothes (by the comments etc) and suddenly it's "you're just weird, a teen should be allowed to dress like." Obviously the CHILD isn't the problem, the problem is you never know who's going to see it! Keep your children off the internet. Protect our youth.
That would irk the shyt out of me because I’m sitting here looking like ummm last I checked Cosmetics were meant for grown women, weave was meant for grown women, tight clothing was meant for grown men women, high heels are meant for GROWN WOMEN. What about this is ok and why in dafuq can I not look at side eye in being a weirdo for saying some dumb shyt let them children how they want. I bet them ppl would be ok with a child rocking a thong. The shyt is annoying.
But revealing clothes are meant to make (adult) women look sexy, which makes it inappropriate and weird when girls wear them because why do they want to look sexy? Do they even know they want it and what it means? I also want to stress here that the problem isn't the children, but that they have inappropriate role models and influencers. You want children to dress like children, not want to be "baddies" showing off their curves (if they even have any).
As someone who was an exotic dancer (skripper), the baddie aesthetic is 100% just looking and acting like a stereotypical str*pper in my opinion. because i identify with that, i embrace the baddie aesthetic. however, i’m a grown woman. seeing teenagers/very young girls act and look like that just to fit in and be praised for objectifying themselves is truly disheartening. young ladies have so much more to offer the world than just their bodies/looks. trust me, that kinda lifestyle isn’t as luxurious as it looks on social media… it’s corny but it’s true so stay in school. having a beautiful heart / mind is always going to be more valuable than a nice body/looks.
@@aniyaruffin3288I’ve been in the industry for over a decade. When I first started it was shamed heavily. Over the years with social media and the pandemic it is now more mainstream because women are turning to swork to survive. Do not blame us for trying to make the best of our situations. It’s really the government and capitalism because people do not want to struggle. Minimum wage is $7.25. Look at the root of things.
Baby you’re accountable for how you use your body. How you choose to love yourself and be loved. You’re partaking in something very perverted. And it doesn’t just affect you.
I’m not even judging you. If you’re still stripping i already know how poor your mental health is. I know the distortions it created in your mind. And the perverted energy of the people in your environment. It’s literally demonic and if you’re still doing it i ask you to consider stopping it. Idgaf about making you feel bad. We both know you already feel bad. Not because you’re bad worthless or nasty, but because you out here dancing like you are. You putting something sacred up for sale, and as you kinda implied- if you didn’t have to you wouldn’t. I’m telling you that you don’t have to. Love You.
It's mainly the women's fault. They're over here promoting it and then supporting girls who do it with loads of compliments because "girls support girls" then get mad at men for being real and honest and then say "mind you business" or "you're so miserable". Women promote and encourage the youth so much with their "aesthetics" and over the top makeup
Your videos get 500k plus views, you deserve soooo many more subscribers. The content you post is so refreshing and you help me unlearn so much. Thank you for being brave and speaking on things that are super difficult for social media to handle. We appreciate you so much ❤
part of the solution is don't allow minors on social media. 18+ should be the standard. Also, ban plastic surgery (without an extremely medically necessary) reason until age 25 when the brain has fully developed. There is NO reason anyone under that age needs it (with the exception of severe medical circumstances)
Best comment 🎯 This is something that will ACTUALLY help, and the fact that people aren't switching to such a system means they don't want to make their own society and their children better. Sad to see people not love their children enough to care like that.
Honestly, I used to be of the opinion that teens maybe 15-16 up should be allowed to get their internet training wheels, to begin safe internet surfing at a developmentally appropriate age, but at this point… just make it 18 plus please god 😭. This needs to be a law.
something that has always bothered me with the new focus of people reducing their bbls and breast enchantments is the weird way in which it feels like some people are starting to look down on their past bodies and are treating it as like a, "Ive matured out of having a curvy body." Maybe Im just crazy but it just doesn't sit right with me, especially because there are a lot of women who naturally have curvy bodies that they cant change at the drop of a hat or dont want to change their body. Curvy women are already stereotyped and sexualized to an extreme degree, and I dont think this attitude helps.
It might help cause what if it results into men not desiring curvy bodies anymore? They won't have to be worried about being bothered by men because their body is nice
@@stax5ave380 that will never happen. A lot of men just naturally prefer curvy, a lot also just like women’s bodies in general, and there are men who prefer smaller assets.
I feel this so much. As the girls got skinnier, my curvy body just got fatter lol I work out. Maybe not as much anymore, and I just got older and life is different. I always had assets during the BBL moment, so people always asked me if it was real. 🙄 And now it’s not popular so it makes me feel fat…at times. I have no problem dating so that does prove that men don’t care about your fupa or your cellulite. They love it actually. Because it’s natural. So I am not against surgery but not for the young girls who are still growing. Wait until at least 30-35. I was thick slim until 35 then gained weight gradually and it’s steady now, so yea idk.
You Done Got Yourself A New Subscriber! This Trend or Aesthetic is getting way out of hand, especially when i use to watch bad girls club and the meaning of a bad girl was something along the lines of being strong and independent while being yourself and that being different is okay, but now this just a competition on who's the sexiest or "a stripper or cornstar could never" type of mentality atp, its worst because now the younger generation is now implementing that this is what it takes to make it in life now, idk if that's even a good reference in itself but that's what i think of the baddie culture
I personally wouldn’t say the baddie aesthetic is dying down but starting to go to younger generations or being called different names. i’m hispanic and in hs and i majority see the “copy and paste latina” makeup on hispanic girls my age while being provocative. this is also what majority guys my age also look for because they like the more older and sexualized look. i’ve tried the “baddie” aesthetic because my friends were also starting to do that kind of look and i felt uncomfortable and like i wasn’t looking at myself. i really think it just depends on the age group and what is around your city 🤷♀️
@@lunaloveless7234 I don't think they're "lat to trends" it's just that they've grown up in a time where the "trends" just went out of style. Teens grew in while adults grew out.
The problem with trends is everyone ends up looking the same and yeah it is to appeal to guys and their desires (hence why it's all so grossly over sexualised and pornified). It's just a load of women at this point reducing themselves down to, essentially, porn categories and objects made for the male gaze. I wish more people would wake up and take notice that this is not the way to go and that these guys do not even respect you or this style of look... they just want to sleep with you or use you to show off to other men to make themselves look better to their male peers. They all say, long term, if they are even interested in a relationship that is a long lasting one or marriage, that these kinda of girls aren't the type they settle down with.
There’s some areas where this aesthetic won’t die because we always dressed like this especially if your black or Hispanic from a big city like I’m from Chicago the baddie aesthetic isn’t going anywhere lol
It's mainly the women's fault. They're over here promoting it and then supporting girls who do it with loads of compliments because "girls support girls" then get mad at men for being real and honest and then say "mind you business" or "you're so miserable". Women promote and encourage the youth so much with their "aesthetics" and over the top makeup
Rihanna is bad but she never gave baddie in the sense that most people know. She’s always just been stylish and extremely naturally beautiful, no surgery no enhancements. You can’t class her with people like Kim or Kylie or Cardi or Ari because she’s not emulating black aesthetics the way they do & did.
i'm 12 and chronically online (i've been on this internet since 6 years old) and the whole baddie trend has absolutely destroyed me. i used to have decent self esteem until i started growing and this trend just made things a whole lot worse, and my desire to fit in and my desire to stand out are constantly at war over whether or not i should dress like this. i constantly need to remind myself i am TWELVE, and i avoid going outside because i always get shamed for being awkward and having strange proportions, as preteens usually do, and i look very grown up for my age which has only influenced my desire to conform to this trend even more. thank you for making this video, i appreciate this video and this discussion so much because i'm seriously sick of it being so normalized among teens, someone needed to talk about this
The awkward stage of pre-teen and teenager is something everyone goes through. The older generations just had the benefit of not having it slapped online for the whole world to see, and not being told that *having* an awkward stage was wrong. We were allowed time to figure ourselves out before entering the wider world. Kids now are out in the wider world before they’ve had the opportunity to grow into themselves.
Yeah, I'm fifteen now but I had the same issue in middle school - 9th grade. I didn't have the best self image and it seemed like the only way I could feel better about myself is showing myself off. The attention I got wasn't good attention, but it was the only thing that made me feel not ugly. It'll get easier as you grow up, you'll find a style that truly fits you and that you're comfortable in. I mean now I get told I dress like a grandma or mom lol. I definitely regret how I portrayed myself when I was younger, so my style did an entire 360 just to disassociate my old self to my current self. My advice would be to not give in, don't dress like this. Especially not when you're so young. You're going to regret it eventually. So find a style that makes YOU feel good and pretty. I dress so extra to school lol, I stand out a lot with the stuff I wear. But dressing the way I do makes me feel good! Also, dressing so provocatively at a young age is definitely looked down on. My friends at the time were going through the same thing so we all hyped each other up, but now as we look back on how we were and seeing younger kids follow the same path, it's saddening. Enjoy your youth, enjoy being a kid. It's cool.
Kudos to you for sticking to your principles! It's rough out there but if you keep at it, eventually you won't be surrounded by the same toxic nonsense. Try to make use of the feedback functions that let you curate your ads and suggested content on TH-cam, Tiktok, etc, and don't hesitate to block people who you can't stand seeing on your timeline. Coming from an 18 year old, it's especially important to protect your body and mind at 12. It's going through enough stress even without social media, so if you can't beat the urge to be online, make sure you make the effort to streamline the experience. It pays off tenfold. Sending well wishes.
As a Latina with a natural hourglass body and an eh face, this trend forever ruined my relationship with men. Every one I have been with has had a s*x addiction to some degree. Dudes who were genuinely wanted a relationship just wanted me as a fwb. Sometimes I just wanted to shave down the curves on my body cause of it. Ik it sounds like a “boohoo my body is a beauty standard” sounding moment, but I don’t “embrace” a baddie body. I just wanted something real but there’s too many hungry roaches it’s destroyed my self worth
natural hourglass coloured girl from South Africa here too. literally never had a cishet man successfully be my friend without expecting sex in some fashion.
This trend didn't ruin your relationship with men at all though , that's simply how men ARE. Males are all sex addicted whether you're curvy OR NOT, the trend didn't make males who wanted a relationship only want to be FWB, that's what they wanted w u in the first place.
baddie culture made me feel traumatized with my gender as a whole because when i was in high school boys just came up to me and asked for my number, they didn’t even want to know my name when asking for sex
this will probably get buried in the comments, but i’ll share my experience. back when i was around 17-18, i was insecure about the way i dress. people my age were dressing up “maturely”, they would wear crop tops, short shorts and skirt, backless and cutouts. it didn’t help that i also had access to instagram at such a young age, i wanted to look like them; sexy and a baddie. when i started dressing up like them, sure people would approach me but they wouldn’t compliment me, but rather what i was wearing. i had to force myself to wear “sexy” clothes, because i wanted to blend in so bad. now that i’m 22, i’ve thrown out any “sexy” clothing i had and started to wear what i want. i wear light, flowy clothes. i like wearing clothes with characters on it (e.g. sanrio, anime). sure, no one looks at me anymore, but i feel more confident and happier than ever.
If people care only about your clothes or look they are not worthy of a deep relationship. Beauty fades and men who are big on women looks will drop you as soon as you turn 40 for a younger model. Some stupid 20 year old will hook right up to because they automatically assume older men have money and will just take care of them. But in the black community 80% of black children are born out of wedlock. It is 25% for white babies.
@@Daniscorner1738 do you have loving family? Were you raised with values? Some of these people had teen parents who can barely read and sell drugs for a living. Probably not so easy for them
Your discussions are so put together and easy to listen to. I am really irritated by the “mouse clicking” sound effect used so often. I could very well be the only person who is bothered by this, but I want to mention it because it is the reason I am not finishing this video 😢
As a 30 y/o man, i appreciate you and this topic. Its pretty disturbing the young underage girls you presented here that are being publicly objectified and promoting sex appeal. Also that jellyfish lamp is cool!
parents being ignorant of how their young daughters present online is so concerning, not to mention how a lot of them in fact exploit their young daughters for money and fame.
It's mainly the women's fault. They're over here promoting it and then supporting girls who do it with loads of compliments because "girls support girls" then get mad at men for being real and honest and then say "mind you business" or "you're so miserable". Women promote and encourage the youth so much with their "aesthetics" and over the top makeup
I think the younger generation gets a scaled down dose of what life was like in the 90s and 00s. We didn’t have lace fronts but we wore weaves and they weren’t always flawless and natural beauty. You had the 90s baddies who were naked (I had plenty of those friends), the hustler girlfriend who only wore designers, we had trashy women too. To my high school prom in 1998, a girl came dressed as a stripper and wore pretty much only a thong and glass heels. Times are just different and some things changed. In terms of yesterdays impact comparing to how it felt then and now - Lace wigs replaced weaves, being naked was always a thing, sexy red is this generations little Kim, you had the drug addicted rappers - DMX, Old Dirty, rapper baby mothers who became famous. Ari Fletcher and crew are the modern day Misa, Kim Porter, Faith, etc. The only thing that wasn’t popular was surgery, but that was found among the Tracy Bingham girls, Angel Lola Luv’s. Its literally the same script just newer trends
interesting comment for sure, this is the first time lil kim has been compared to sexyy red haha. but I def don't think this is anything new for sure, young girls have been dressing way too grown since time, but now that we have social media we are allll so connected so we see this bs all over our feeds, and it feels like its much more worse than how it was before.
@@NkirukasWrld The raunchiness and how she was received initially. She’s seen as an icon today but the rumors that was floating around, her music, the Biggie situation. It was scandalous!!! lol. Listen to her first album Hardcore. We were clutching our pearls chile lol
while i agree, in the 90s you were mostly associated with the people you surrounded yourself with. it was super easy to be sheltered to the reality of other people and the way they live their lives because you didn’t really know if you didn’t interact with those people. plus even then, they were mostly seen as trashy if they were doing all that and not in a related industry (modeling, acting, fashion, etc). now it’s everywhere online, and it is becoming seen as the the way that average teens look/dress/act, making more teens feel the need to fit to that standard. not only that, but it’s getting even younger. as young as like 12 or 13 girls are wearing skimpy clothes and makeup, but unlike kids who did that in the 90s, due to the whole world at their fingertips via the internet, kids these days ACTUALLY look like adults. i do see a lot of similarities between now and then, truly, but i think that the 80s and 90s (and even the 00s) eras of acting or dressing provocatively and being rewarded paved the way for the 10s and 20s. it has built upon itself, meaning that it only compounded and has become an even larger and deeper engrained issue.
@@goopbuniabsolutely agree with you and impo I would add that children need to be offline until they're about 18 and off social media until they're about 25. The danger with that, however, is that if they haven't participated in social media for a quarter of a century the likelihood of them wanting to afterwards is slim. The danger is all corporations' danger, that is, not the populations'.
Diva, could you make a video about the comeback of extreme thinness? I genuinely believe this might become the next obsession for teenage girls to pursue.
Baddie aesthetic never left, they just evolving into something else. Just wish the girls and guys didn't undergo surgery at such a young age. body and face changes a lot over the years...
@@Brendaglam24...do you genuinely this is making them happy in the long-run, when the baddie trend is over? I'm not saying all of them will be unhappy with this decision when they're in their 40s, but I don't think a good chunk of them will be happy with it.
The second Instagram started monetizing the women with the baddie aesthetic and allowing them to call themselves “IG models” or “Fashion Nova Ambassadors” that’s when it took an absolute turn for the worst on the internet
kids are not being kids anymore and thats tied to bad parenting. i know my momma would've whooped my ass if i tried to go outside at 15 in a tight bodysuit.
It literally kills me to see 9, 10, 11 year olds walk around with fake lashes and crop tops. Luckily I feel like it’s a pendulum and hopefully our generation, who has seen the effects of it will force our kids to be kids
That’s because now it’s kids raising kids the average woman is a overgrown child and so is most of the men as well one big society of dysfunctional people
As a millennial women, I am deeply disappointed with my generation of parents, in my opinion its not the kids fault it is the parents fault, go be a parent instead of putting on that fake mommy life aesthetic, for youre online followers. Just by what I observe I have noticed so many parents now follow other online mommy influencers, instead of trusting their own instincts.
When we were kids, adults were mysterious and unavailable. They existed only at schools (if you were younger than 18), on the streets, and at family functions. Maybe an older sibling's friend. Nowadays, this mystique and curiosity doesn't exist. The worlds are merged and there's no "under 18 zone" and "18 and above" zone. With a few clicks you can go to an adult's profile, look at their friends, see their nights out, their party outfits, their relationships, their adult problems and adult dramas. So you feel closer to them. It's easier to mix in with them and pretend to be one of them. It's sad and dangerous.
I hate that as a black women people expect me to want to be a baddie. I always told him I don’t give a fuck about that shit. Do I need to do it when there’s plenty of women doing it? 😂
@@defaultdacat sure. When I go out in public, because I am a black woman, people expect me to be a certain way. From what I was told, people expect black women to be baddies and whatever stereotype people see in entertainment. I’ve asked why people why do you expect me to be this way? And they’ve always told me I’ve seen your people (Black people) be like that. Why are Black people expected to be baddies? I don’t know. But I don’t care for it. It’s not for me. Maybe another reason why black women do it is for attention. Or they’re just following a trend. I don’t know why people do things. It’s not for me though.
@AaliyahClemons-fs1to ok, i totally get it now. I can see why the stereotypes are because also the music nowadays is very secxaual. The entertainment industry is very toxic to those that don't have the same morals and values. Little girls see this and think they should be this way too. The expectations are unrealistic. I hate that people stereotype and I feel like also it's getting worse with politics and the new election coming up. I've never seen such racism appear. It's sad. Thanks for sharing. I understand now.
@@AaliyahClemons-fs1to My least favorite part of being mixed will always be being black enough that white people and black men treat me like this while black women shun me for even trying to enter black communities. Literally the only black communities I find solace in are ones where black nerd culture are dominant. And I'm grateful for that, to an extent, because it keeps me away from the weird sexual, toxic side.
@@ErosNocturne sorry you experienced that. Even though I am fully black. I still get told that I’m not enough from the community. It’s unfortunate. All I do is keep my head up and go with the people that want me. I suggest you do the same. Luckily, not all of the black community is like that.
I think it would be a disservice to all of us if we didn’t mention the way p*rn has driven the rapid rise in the saturation of the baddie aesthetic in our social medias. OF is a prime example.
Baddie aesthetic for me is real life bratz doll. Hourglass figure with super thin legs. Pumped up blow up doll lips with super tiny ski slope nose and full glam cat eyes and heavy makeup that looks airbrushed.
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Ikr lol. I’m only 23, but I even see it as words of provision and protection. It’s really gross. I could understand dressing up for events, but I wouldn’t let my daughter go to school dressed that way on a regular basis “just because”. Hopefully this comes to an end before she comes of age. I love my baby.
I also noticed some men (the kind that say "a woman peaks at 35 and men are just getting started" say this to young girls as well so they don't realise who's trying to help and who's looking for prey
black women cosplay white women all the time tho lol if its not the hair its the skin....just look at photos from serena, lil kim, blac chyna, even beyonce, all had their skin bleached in the span of a decade haha
As a 12 year old I admit I sometimes give into social pressure to sexualize myself. I mean just today I wore a pair of jeans because they make my butt look good. The thing is at least for me it seems like it’s the only way too get attention, pretty much my whole life I’ve struggled a lot with insecurities and disordered eating, so when I got prettier it gave me a confidence boost when guys gave me attention. So I leaned into it, I didn’t post or actually act sexual but I was pulling up to 6th grade in crop tops and scooping my boobs so I get attention. And I mean it feels nice when a guy likes me or ask for my number, but it’s not that nice when it’s catcalling or sexual harassment or said guy asking for my number is actually a grown man. (Granted I’ve been catcalled in no makeup sweatpants and a hoodie) the thing is the confidence is really temporary, like in the moment it feels nice but not so much when it seems like the only thing people like me for is my appearance, but like I said me and most of the girls my age are super insecure from social media, than social media was like “here’s how to fix that” but it actually just serves men. I feel like the “sexual empowerment” movement was like a trick from men, they were like “yeah women take off your clothes for me-I mean for you, yeah definitely for you! Sooo you gonna show me your ass or what?” Also the whole “thin is back in” (was it ever really out though?) is really nerve wracking tbh as a girl who’s naturally curvy yk Sorry for my rant and atrocious grammar lol Edit: Yeah I know that social media is bad for me. The problem with a phone addiction is it’s an addiction, so it’s a lot easier said than done to just stop. I’ve had a phone since 3rd grade, also when it was peek Covid and I couldn’t see any friends or literally even leave the house during super developmental years. I totally get your concern (I hate it too btw), but like I said a phone addiction is an addiction.
Omg you’re so young 🥺 It’s normal for everyone to appreciate some level of outside validation from others. So there’s no shame in that. But I just want you to know that more than anything we have to learn to validate ourselves. I have a little cousin that’s a few years older than you and she talks to me a lot about stuff like this. Recently she was telling me she feels bad because the boys at her school didn’t like her (but she was also like the only Black kid in a mostly white school). But I asked her if she likes these boys or thought they were cute, she told me no. So I told her she definitely can’t give these musty boys that don’t have good personalities, that she doesn’t even like, control of her self-esteem lol. Even if she did like them it doesn’t matter. We all have to work on our self-esteem so we can feel good about ourselves no matter what others around us do. It’s easier to say than do, but you have many years to learn and practice!
@Fionas_planet We really appreciate that you're here and sharing your experience. But on a side note - you shouldn't be on any social media at your age. Period. I don't know why your parents let you go to youtube or other platforms unsupervised, maybe they don't know it's one of the signs of not having enough time for one's child. But there it is. Avoid brainrot: get off all social media platforms until you're about 22. If you have enough intelligence to write such an insightful, self-aware comment you SURELY must understand that you hanging out on social media and you having these confidence and body exposure issues go hand in hand. I hope that becomes clear to you after I pointed it out. It's a direct result of "consuming" inappropriate material at your age. If I knew your parents personally I would have told them off for dropping the ball on you like that. I encourage you to take care of yourself and fill in the parenting holes on your own. Find fulfilling activities, NOT entertaining ones. Moreover: comments such as yours are actually used by intelligence agencies that pretend to be children like you to catch pdf files. I hope you comprehend the implications of that last sentence for you. Unless you ARE an intelligence agency, in which case - oh the irony! Other than that I'm wishing you the best, sorry if I was harsh but truth had to be uttered and I hope I don't see you anywhere on social media for a good 10 years for your own sake.
Girl you're 12!!! Live your childhood. This stuff doesn't matter, I mean come on do you really want attention from a stinky boy who probably goes to the toilet and doesn't wash his hands 😂😂😂
I'm 31 and remember being 12 - what you're experiencing is so normal and so many of us girls and women have a pretty similar journey. When you focus on things you enjoy like hobbies, special interests, clubs, extra curriculars etc that's when you start to not need this kind of sxl validation from others as much to feel accepted. hang in there! and not to sound old but trust me that life is so much better the less time you spend on social media. even us older ppl are negatively affected by it if we're on too much. it's hard bc the pressure to be online and know what's popular is so high at ur age but trust that you'll find your ppl who don't care about that stuff as much, and will be happy with who you are and the person you are becoming. it's hard out here for girls! just know that with time you will get more comfortable in your skin, it comes with age ❤
I live in Vienna, so in Europe, and I always find it fascinating how popular this is in America. Here in (most of) Europe, it’s almost non-existent. When I see young women on social media posing just to fit into the 'baddie' trend, I find it quite surprising. Every time I hear about rappers or these baddies having kids, it seems like it’s treated as something so casual, as if they haven’t really thought it through or it doesn’t mean much to them. As a European, it also feels like some people want to act criminal on purpose, as if it’s something to be proud of. (I'm sorry if there are any mistakes, English is not my first language :)!) Don’t get me wrong! I think it’s great that we, as women, have the right to express ourselves however we want, but in terms of young children, I find it quite concerning. I don’t think you need to show off your body or your figure to prove that you’re confident or independent.
Hi Hannah, I don't get it either. I'm Chinese American, first gen on my mother's side, fifth gen on my dad's. Sexualization/broken homes/deadbeats are a common theme in American rap music culture, and it's never made sense to me. Irresponsible men who willingly go out and have multiple children with many different women are by far the worst financial/family planning ever. Kids don't appeal to me, and I certainly wouldn't want to be abandoned baby mama #4. I pity the children in these infamously public relationships, they will have to deal with their embrassing home lives being exposed to the world as they grow up. Most of this is the vocal minority, since notoriety and scandal sell. Plenty of regular folks have both parents in the picture to raise children. It's only now that social media has given a platform for people to do 'tell alls' about their own unique parenting/relationship situations.
I live in France and here minors love to look like adults. There’s also minor girls from the suburbs, getting into prostitution just to buy a pair of Louboutins, starting at age 13-14 just because they want the luxury life of their favorite brainless reality show contestant. So yeah, just because you’re not aware of it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. The sad reality is worse than you think.
im 30 and look 12 compared to these 15-17 year olds i was always made fun of for not participating into baddie culture and doing my own thing but now im actually thankful i just stayed in my own lane and didn't give into the peer pressures of it
That's actually amazing :D I'm almost 17, I've been doing heavy makeup with bold eyeliner often since I was 13, but not because I'm trying to look older, but because I want to be creative with my makeup looks. Hopefully I won't look super old by the time I'm your age lol
@@Ilikecatsandcannedtunabe creative on a canvas, not on your eyelids. Also, you shouldn't be on social media at this age. Period. If anyone says otherwise - they wish you harm. Get off social media, get off whatever device you're using, limit your own access until you're 22 (ideally until you're 25).
@@Ilikecatsandcannedtuna I'm also 30 with 20 year olds thinking I'm their age and also was into heavy makeup until my brain fully developed. Now I never wear makeup (I have a clear complexion and full brows to be fair) but still eye bags and sometimes redness) but I think we all are so beautiful the way we are and that's what makes us unique it sounds like a wall tattoo but it's true, no matter in what face you look you can always find something that makes it beautiful and it's always unique. It hurts me when I look back and not a single day from 16-22 was I without makeup literally for no reason because I simply never gave it a critical thought and said ''it was a hobby'' but it's so insanely powerful and freeing to be at peace with your natural appearance, not feeling the need at all to put on makeup and REALLY just doing it for yourself which is never for me personally and it took me so much unnecessary time to reclaim this feeling when it could've been there all along. I go out and to work and not a single thought is spent on how I look, imagine what I'm able to do with all this free head space
As someone who was like 10 years old in 2015, I'm very glad to not have ever ben influenced by this baddie aesthetic, during that time I was more interesting in looking like an anime girl 😂
No bc let’s really talk about that marriage and kids thing. I don’t know why men in this generation would much rather get you pregnant then marry you I asked my boyfriend daily does he see his self marrying me and he says not yet that’s a big step which is understandable we just started dating and we are still very young so marriage can be scary, but he is so quick to try to get me pregnant and have a kid with me because he wants a son. maybe I’m just a woman but I can’t see how can you rather get someone pregnant then marry them what kind of math is that you’re stuck with that person for life is much worse because now you’re stuck with them and you’re stuck raising her he little human with them. I’m so tired of seeing every female my age getting pregnant and not even having a ring on their finger. Everyone got pregnant as soon as we left high school like, what are we doing?🤦🏾♀️
Men who pressure women into having babies first and maybe marriage later are the worst. Too many men are dangerously charismatic smooth talkers who manipulate and dump women for sport. It's so disgraceful, and many are deadbeats to the children they 'wanted.' In East Asian cultures, we're taught not to marry someone before they have 3 keys-a key to a house, a key to a car, and a key to an office. It's not to be snobby/elitist, but to prove to potential marriage partners that they are a suitable match. I see so many women around my age (25) who have kids way too young with men who are only talk. It's much harder to complete your studies and establish a career with a kid in tow. I've dated many different men since university, and I made sure to never get pregnant. I vowed that I would never be trapped by a man and have no education or finances of my own. Nothing wrong with being a housewife, but it is too easy to be trapped in a toxic relationship.
I’m 26 and it’s actually a breath of fresh air to see a young woman with your mindset I honestly relate to you so much❤️ I am delighted I found your channel! You’re killing it! 🫶🏼
I’m 22 with a “baby face” and idk how to do makeup, most people don’t believe me about my age and I don’t fit the beauty standard at all. Literally hate the way I look bc I look nothing like any of the girls in this video
as a person who have that body, i'm really glad that for a period of my life I wasn't worried about my figure bc no one care... nowadays it feels like i'm commiting a crime for not going to the gym
Not only is this “baddie” culture negatively impacting this generation, but it’s also robbing young women, ESPECIALLY women of color, of their individuality and the chance do develop or even QUESTION their own personal style because this default is so rigidly forced onto them. Black woken especially are plagued more than any other race with this baddie-bug that has us assimilating to this aesthetic that a lot of us probably wouldn’t even find appealing if we had the freedom to explore other potential styles. We have to jump through hoops just to looks “acceptable” in this absolutely extreme standard. Just copy and paste, and we all end up looking the clown faced blow up dolls with no sense of personal style. It’s so sad.
Another part of the problem too is that sometimes you have to turn your phone off and look outside. I get what you’re saying, but in the real world nobody is dictating whether or not you follow a baddie aesthetic as a black girl. I wear my natural hair, light makeup, and typically dress more so like the clean girl aesthetic. And I never have anyone say anything to me about the way I carry myself in the real world. If anything, i get a lot of compliments because I don’t dress like the baddie aesthetic.
@liyahsoreal911 The problem is that a lot of black people see this crap as the norm without any influence from social media. It's been rotting generations since the eighties. It's not new, the shame around it is just completely gone.
Exactly, it never looked good in my opinion, it just looked ridiculous and fake. Huge cartoonish lips, giant over exaggerated fake ass in your face 24/7 🤮 it’s so clearly a result of p0rn’s prevalence and influence on the culture. It’s like a caricature of what men think women should look like, just really gross. Not to mention the fashion was always tacky and fugly and only had the purpose of showing off your butt, nothing more. I’ll never forgive the kardashians for making it popular, lmao
Not when done properly. It also doesn’t suit everyone. In our new world of “everything is possible” people don’t want to hear it, but not all aesthetics suit everyone equally, the obvious glamour of this aesthetic doesn’t suit everyone’s face and body.
Other races of women (and some men, lol) were hating on the new black girl swag and aesthetic, and companies sexualized, culture vultured, and then capitalized off of black women's looks/style, as they have been doing for years, unfortunately.
@@GytSigma username is as expected for a 10 year old, kinda miss when I was in that cringe era of just being a kid on the internet. Don’t talk to strangers online young padawan, and tell no one your age or year of birth from now on, there are predators online who will attempt to groom you just because they know your age.
This baddie look/strict version of (cishet) femininity makes me feel so alienated from my own gender, that i've been exploring androgyny a LOT more and it feels scary to do, but good that there's another way to express myself
We now literally have minors dressing, acting and looking like grown adults. It's honestly so sad and disturbing to see. They are rushing more and more now to look older.
They have been doing that forever. For a brief time in the 90’s being immature was preferred, but dressing like “little adults” at ages 12 and up is not new. Look at movies from before the 90’s❤
“Being sexy isn’t bad tho lol” yeah, of course it’s not, but putting in effort to have sexual appeal when you haven’t even graduated high school yet…?? 😕 Idk I just think some of these comments from minors are just… sad. I’m sorry you had to grow up in conditions that made you think sensual/sexual allure is something a girl MUST have at such a young age in order to be liked. I’m sorry about all the content on the internet targeting impressionable young girls. Genuinely, I’m so sorry.
The crazy part is girls SHOULD NOT have any sex appeal at their age. If they do it should protected and gaurded wtf. That’s their life that’s their innocence. The people behind this world and media are literally trying to create a pedophile friendly world, and it starts with little things like this that the majority tolerate. How did kids start thinking they NEED sex appeal. That’s literally what makes them children is their innocence. This world is so anti innocence.
This trope that “most” Black women are naturally curvy is so inaccurate. Some of us are “curvy” not due to genetics, but because we are often over weight and celebrate it. Let’s be real!! The Black women from the 50’s, 60’s, 70’s and 80’s were in much better shape and not “baddie” built. Their natural curves were not overly exaggerated like today. Lastly, if “most” Black women are curvaceous, then why are so many going under the knife to create the curves WE’RE known to have naturally??? Make it make sense… Don’t get me started on how this has over-sexualized our community and decimated the nuclear family.
Ur right, now that I think about it, never ONCE in my life of being a mega fan of 60’s and 70’s African American music have I seen this extremely ‘curvy’ body shape on the ladies. Even aretha Franklin who became overweight later on started out slim, if not slightly curvy.
I’m glad I’m not the only one to realize this. I love my black ladies out there, but the lie that they’re “naturally thicc” or whatever has to stop. Most of the time, it’s just them being above weight
Valid points, but I disagree on the nuclear family part. The nuclear family is a toxic patriarchal model rooted in capitalism /imperialsm for a WHOLE host of different reasons but that's for another time.
And it’s crazy how men popularize it all be in the gc talking about how she so bad but then turn around to their girl and tell her to be modest. Lmao. Like what is it then stop thirsting over the ones yall claim bad asf while seeking out the good girl or whatever bs they on
I think it’s cause they know how men are so they don’t want their girl to be sexualized by other men. But yesterday I was literally wearing baggy jeans and a sleeveless turtleneck that showed a tiny bit of my stomach and some older man was checking me out, up and down. You could literally see the pervertedness in his eyes and it’s just so disgusting no matter what you wear they’ll always find a way.
It’s really sad that being a “baddie” is almost synonymous with either being the most naked in the room or feeling like you have to look a certain way to get attention. And the fact that it’s so normalized is concerning. What happened to that thing called personality and variety that people used to care about?
Thats what im saying. Men dont even care about the sweetness of people yet go for the girls who dress up half naked and act like a bitch to everyone who doesnt even do anything to others especially with the way they act. One of the main reasons why i grew up never liking rap like no hate to female rappers but they just make me so uncomfortable. And thats why they the same ones who end up getting cheated on. Even my parents a few weeks ago complained on why girls are dressing up half naked..its actually so hard nowadays to be accepted and thats something i personally struggle with
As a white European girl with a naturally "heroin chick" body, this whole KarJenner-baddie-aesthetic has been absolutely brutal for my self-esteem and mental health in general. This trend of baddies made society demand that every woman out there should look like this. We do NOT look like that in Europe...
Honey, people don’t look like that most everywhere in the world. Hence all the surgeries and procedures to *make* yourself look like that. Bc most don’t naturally. Please, I know it’s hard, but don’t feel bad about yourself for looking a certain way ❤ don’t ever feel like you HAVE to look like this, you HAVE to get cosmetic surgeries to “fit in.” I’m super self-conscious about my body as well, and every time I’m tempted to get surgeries done, I just think, “I won’t look like *me* then. I’ll just look like every other person ever.” Not that that’s inherently bad, but it’s inherently just not worth the time investment. There’s other things to do which can drastically improve your (self) worth/esteem in more valuable and useful ways. Not to mention, this is a fad, a trend, and they ALWAYS change. NK mentioned how people are getting their surgeries reversed nowadays to seem more “natural.” Well, the most natural (if difficult, but no one ever said nature was easy) thing to do is to learn to love yourself ❤. It’s a lifetime journey, likely unending, but that’s also just like in nature. Nature doesn’t ever just *stop.* It keeps going, no matter how hard things get.
Why not just get off social media.. if it’s so detrimental. You guys know the issue.. and don’t take the pragmatic steps, to make the situation better.
Getting a bbl in your teens is insanity. Also teens are still kids even 18 and 19 year olds are still very young mentally so as the parents why would you let your child get one of the most dangerous life threatening surgeries???
I feel like the baddie culture is at its peak in some countries in Europe right now. All the young girls that I see around (Italy and Romania my countries) have the same aesthetic, they have a really heavy makeup with those specific eyebrows that you talking about and the brown nude lips. Same with the way they dress, a lot of them always dress with tops and pants that enchance their curves, and always with long slick hair and gel nails. I think one of the differences is the fact that here bbls are not that popular, but lip fillers (those big ones) and fake brows are really popular. Even the way they behave and talk do resemble the 'original' phenomenon in the usa.
I’m 16, I don’t dress/act like this but I used to want to because I noticed everyone else in a relationship/getting friends and I’m a homebody, antisocial, I play games all day.. but when I see someone that dresses like this I want to be like them but I try to get them off my pinterest/tiktok/instagram so I don’t get influenced to change myself.
It’s crazy because I’m 23 and I always have ppl telling me when they meet me that I look 16/17. The reason is because I don’t wear makeup to fit to societal standards . I wear minimal makeup and always have. I see my cousins and they all have the copy and paste baddie look. So ppl always tell me if I’m the youngest within the bunch. It’s sad to see girls sexualize themselves at such an early age when they should just be figuring themselves out.
Idc what grown women do, but if you're a child or teen trying to be a baddie then that's so embarrassing and sad. These kids think they out here really doing something, but instead they are missing a childhood. Just making grown women cringe and feel bad for them. They'll regret it when they are grown. Human brain isn't fully developed until 25 so ummmm
it’s definitely not right but it’s so sad society makes young people feel like they need to look a certain way to be considered beautiful and sad young ppl even care about that in the first place :(
I’m 37 and never tried the baddie aesthetic. It just doesn’t connect with my personality I guess. It always looked like an extreme amount of time and effort. Especially now that I’m older I can’t be bothered to care enough to try lol. I figure that my standard look will always work, and other things are trends that will come and go. I know these days there are people that will say it doesn’t matter what young girls do because people shouldn’t sexualize them in the first place. But when we have actual minors portraying images or doing actions that are overtly sexual, should we not voice concern?
Girl, I'm jealous of you. I'm in college and almost everyone is trying to look like a baddie, I sometimes feel pressured to change my style, but just like you, I don't feel like it matches my personality . I just try to be myself and hope I can Finnish school that way
@@sera.finaaa I feel like that’s the best thing you can do. Like, have fun playing around with fashion or style if that interests you. But so many people try to fit the mold, you end up standing out more as an individual that’s not just following the crowd. At least imo.
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Everyone always talk about the Kardashians for that esthetic no one ever ever mentions Nicki Minaj for me she is totally a baddy and so so so popular back in the Time she popularisé rhe Big butt lots of make up false lashes and the colored wigs why isn't she ever mentionned anywhere on that specific subject she IS far more popular than the (snakes😂) Kardashians family in my opinion.
what is the cute lava lamp you use girl? the jelly fish are so cute!!!!
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The baddie asctestic definitely promotes Baby mama/ baby daddy culture. It's sad.
@@MewluMoonyep! I have been there and it was HARD! Now I'm in a great relationship and living as a family is everything.
you can thank poor sexual education for that
No it doesn’t
Wow that's a good point. So true
@lashernedickson8675 well that's bl*ck culture for you so nothing new there
Why can’t ppl just appreciate their youth 😭🙏
Because they want the hookup culture freedom without taxes or adult responsibilities
Cause they see ppl on ig living it up and think I want that when it’s just smoke and mirrors 🪞 none it real for everyday ppl heck not even most celebrity/influencers
easier said than done when ur constantly being fed the new social media beauty trend, being told that youre not pretty enough and made to feel like your body is a fashion accessory, being told that if u dont live this very specific lifestyle of being a "baddie" that you are not good enough. constantly. lets consider, for a moment, that maybe solving this issue is a little more deep than just "appreciate ur youth!!"
Ever heard the saying "youth is wasted on the young" - the majority of young people don't listen. This is a main reason why history repeats itself.
@@mikudayo_biggest_fan3939@mikudayo_biggest_fan3939 part of the solution is don't allow minors on social media. 18+ should be the standard. Also, ban plastic surgery (without an extremely medically necessary) reason until age 25 when the brain has fully developed. There is NO reason anyone under that age needs it (with the exception of severe medical circumstances)
They totally changed the definition of “Baddie” too. A baddie used to be a strong independent woman who would protect herself, not sexualize your self.
It always meant “pretty woman” to me…
Meh, it came from calling wmen Bad as in being pretty/sexy, and then it turned into Baddie, in the vein of Hottie that came from Hot. The extra you added has nothing to do with it, but you're entitled to your definition. Songs like She's Bad by Keith Sweat comes to mind.
@@squarebear619your definition is exactly what it is lmao. What OP is describing is a “boss babe”
I'm a 17 yrl black girl, and I literally get made fun of for dressing normal and being "white washed" In school. I hate how the baddie esthetic is associated with black women at all. It just continues the hurtful stereotypes that black men help push onto us.
It’s okay girl just keep doing you! You have a mind of your own and that’s a beautiful thing! A lot of them will look back and wish they carried themselves differently.
kylie jenner wish she could have ur skin color and she probably doesn't want to be famous everyday.
God forbid (black) women do anything :/ I'm sorry people are dunking on you for literally just existing 🫂 I'm obscenely white, so I can't fully relate, but just the thought of a whole community pushing that shit on you is overwhelming.... Keep being you, adult-you will thank you :)
Keep being you! ❤️ this world is crazy
@@CocoBoo_Anti-Oblivious it's very hurtful. The mainstream black girls are so embarrassing. There's no variety. It's just pu$$y and fighting with other celebrities.
Baddie aesthetic came from stripper culture, but since women who were "the beauty standard" promoted it it became a trend to praise
lel stripper culture 🤣
I used to watch a lot of stripper vlogs. You’re definitely correct.
Nope it didn’t❤
Jesus loves you and died on the cross so you can find salvation through him before this world passes away. Acts 2:38 commands us to repent, be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ (not the titles) & receive the Holy Spirit. John 3:5 also states that we cannot enter into the kingdom of heaven without being born of the water and the spirit. First you must believe in Jesus who died for your sins (John 3:16). Find a church/community that baptizes in Jesus name and believes in the Holy Spirit
@@essies4294 definitely did
All of the men who jump on these girls the second they turn 18 need to be investigated
self bro weird as hell
It shows that the only thing stopping them is the law. If there wasn’t laws/social stigma, they’d gladly go after children. 😤
@@Angi3_6 they already do that..
@@Angi3_6 Diddy already did that earlier you know what game is game
So scary to me how I see girls on tiktok that look 25 and they’re actually 14, while being thirsted over in the comments it’s very weird.
You not lying that why I stop talking to women online because they be cap about they age.
do you know the username of the 14 year olds that look 25 ?
@@colleenmichellee come on thay be on dating app Continue to be 20 or 24 You never know.
Their fault
They will be washed up and burnt out at the ripe age of 20. Then they get knocked up by a rapper or athlete and stay a baby mama only forever.
THE END 😂😂😂😂😂
The word "baddie" just unsettles me
it was a cute word but now its not lol they have over did it for sure
so true
Right it just icks me now bc how the boys be saying “ dang bro she bad🫦🫦”💀💀
Same
@@mawdonkorew literally this just nasty ass dudes thirsting ab some oh she a baddie or she so bad like yall suck
Why tf would ice spice put a 17 year old in a music video like that?
She was 16 at the time
sneaking to a function in the middle of new york saying your a tiktok influencer with more than a million is pretty fcking convincing, lets start using our brains and realizing there are always two sides of a story but yall only choose to hate on one
@@layebanks8672 ofc it wasn't a great idea for her to go and present herself to Ice Spice to begin with, but it's also on Ice Spice for not checking to make sure she was an adult-neither side is innocent in this situation tbh
@@layebanks8672 Ice as the ADULT is more responsible
People confuse being a baddie with being a pass around.
PREACH
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What’s wrong with having a body count? Men aren’t shamed for it. Why should women be?
@@TH-camAccount-u9z She never mentioned women you did.
Right!!! The chin is not a baddie she's like 40 she needs to go sit somewhere and watch her daughter. Speaking of she only promoting being a bad bitch but never a good mom. 🤔🤔
As an 18 yo black girl its hard because I get seen as weird because I am not like that. I dont wanna shake my butt to be loved and I ask why thats crazy? I also find it concerning because we still haven't seen the affects of people under 20 getting these surgeries in 10 or 20 years not even mentioning the mental state of us girl's.
I’m literally in the same boat
Im an 18 y/o black girl too, same situation. I don’t twerk or dress revealing, or speak super AAVE. I get called “whitewashed”.
Tbh it's mostly girls who are promoting it. And I'm gonna be honest it gives.."wh0re vibes." It's seriously very sad. Like..I'm sorry but shaking your butt won't make you great.
Im a 33 year old , Hwyte 😈, in need of some young ,BLK♀️ company.........
@@bobdollaz3391u can get some company at the local sex offender con u creep
22:59 “YOURE the one sexualizing her!!!” oh my god when are we going to admit that these young girls CAN and ARE sexualizing themselves. not saying they should, but they ARE and we NEED to talk about this without being accused of sexualizing these already promiscuously appearing girls
I agree! And also acknowledge society’s role in making these girls feel like they HAVE to sexualize themselves in order to be relevant / successful/a valid woman . It’s not their fault but of course everyone is going to objectify them !!!!!
@ EXACTLY we need to tackle the root of the problem. and it’s NOT the girls who are affected by it
Right! They’ll purposefully have their entire butts out TO be seen as sexy and bad, but it’s everyone else’s fault they’re sexualized? They literally want that!!
LITERALLY!!
THANK YOU
Getting your body chopped up as a teenager when you haven't even fully developed yet is sad. What's even more sad is its for aesthetics... aesthetics that come and go. Are you going to go under the knife every few months/years when a new aesthetic arises??
Chopped up is crazy 😭😭
Fr. Women’s bodies change even in our 20s. I’m 24 and gained 30lbs this year. I think it’s my “2nd puberty” lol
This is so true. My hips continued to fill out as I got older and even though I was an a cup in my teens, I’m probably a b cup now and also don’t want bigger boobs. I’m happy I never got implants when I was 18 like I thought I needed to so badly. Male attention is overrated.
@@desiree5895That’s not how weight gain works. You need extra food and lack of exercise to gain 30 pounds in a year. Your body doesn’t just magically do that I’m afraid. Not even trying to be mean here.
I agree. In general, unless the surgery is medically necessary, everyone should wait to surgically alter their bodies like that until they're done with physical development. It's much better for the body like that.
Let’s be real here. The reason why there is no “awkward stage” anymore is because we as a society discourage anything that is child-like and society isn’t as friendly to children as it once was. Third places are gone, most adolescent socialising is done online, there is this perception that the world has become unsafer compared to the past and we don’t allow kids to be kids. But if I’m being honest, I believe that the awkward stage has been subliminally discouraged even as early as in the 2000’s. I’m 24 years old, but I could already recall how movies like “Mean Girls” and plenty of other Disney channel movies have been the “precursor” or “prototype” to baddie culture well before it became mainstream. The characters that faced bullying in those movies - look at how they dressed or what sort of characteristics they embodied. They were characteristics of those who were in their “awkward stage”.
Even in our generation, the pressure to be and act grown was always there, but social media has just exacerbated the trends. Me and my old manager from work went for drinks one time and he said how he would hate to grow up as a child in today’s world and I wholeheartedly agree. The peer pressure to conform is so much worse because your mistakes could very well easily be broadcast on social media - even if you are not an active user or participant of social media at all.
Plus being a parent is so much harder because the balancing game has become so much more delicate. If you allow your daughter to dress and act grown, she would be more at risk of attracting very negative and manipulative attention to herself, but if you go to the other end of the spectrum, they could easily be a target or be singled out amongst their peers as they are so much more likely to be bullied as having an “awkward” stage would almost be like a death warrant socially speaking. It’s like you want your child to be protected, but on the other hand, you don’t want to see your child being left out or be the cause of your child being left out socially.
Just some observations from a 24 year old man. This was a great video.
Nope you said perfectly!!!! This has what had happened, me and my cousin have the same talk… if they have the awkward stage unfortunately kids in the social media world now cause let’s face it, I see families who let their kids just go the phone like that, some parents are different but like you took the words out my mouth.
I feel for parents nowdays
Aaand this is just one of the reasons why I choose to be childfree. I do not want to subject my kids to the crippling pressure of our ever-evolving (devolving?) social norms, bullying, objectification and commodification.
U spoke the truth!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 come through with the facts!!!
Omg …I don’t hear many people talk about 3rd spaces missing. I’m glad these frameworks are getting around! This is so well said!
This is my take on this issue, im in my last year of high school, and every time I see a “baddie” someone who wears long eyelashes or wears revealing clothes, I don’t judge them, because some of them are really nice people. I think these people just like the aesthetic, but whatever the case is, I definitely don’t like the idea of people sexualizing baddies. I know people who dress up like “baddies” but they have a good heart, and aren’t people who wear these type of aesthetics on purpose, it’s mostly for their own fashion aesthetic and that’s ok. But it does concern me with the increasing amount of kids that are younger than me dress up so maturely at a young age. When I was around their age I barely had any clue on what to wear and mostly wore a sweater and jogging pants 💀 I love fashion as a whole, but not when young kids wear clothes that make them look mature for their age, or make them look older than they really are.
W
The baddies aesthetic has made me self conscious, ngl
me too growing up w these bbl warriors was not fun!
i swear, every time i open social media i find a new insecurity
@@darlene6389 no cus ACTUALLY THO
@@darlene6389this is part of the reason why I deleted Instagram and life has been so much better.
@@darlene6389I feel you! I got off socials except TH-cam and Reddit a few years back and I would recommend 10/10. It’s not that I don’t still have some insecurities around my looks, but overall I’m way less focused on comparing my looks to other people. Plus I have more time for my hobbies since I’m not scrolling through ig or TikTok.
And any grown man following these girls will def get the side eye from me.
Edit: I do mean the teenage girls for those who didn’t get it!
They are all PDFs
Nah@@tkstone8387
@@tkstone8387 we talk about grown man who follow young girls who do stuffs like this
@@tkstone8387 a grown man following a teen girl is different from a boy her age following her, you need your computer checked
@@avierysims when tf was anyone talking about teens? The original comment says girls, that don’t mean they’re minors. You weird as hell.
I watched this entire 50 minute video without looking at my phone or needing any other distraction. You are so good at this NK, the theme, the tallking, the editing, everything is on point
The baddie concept was never empowering for women. If it was, men would not support and encourage it.
Thisss. I think women/teens confuse being sexually provocative as empowering and confident because it attracts (male) attention), but don’t realise that the attention is inherently predatory. Or maybe they do realise and don’t care, which is sad because women’s bodies deserved to be respected, not exploited
EXACTLY. I wish more people would understand this.
Stfu let women dress how they want smdh!
But…do they encourage it? I never hear real life men say anything positive about this aesthetic, and they actively discourage the ladies they think will listen from participating BECAUSE it’s dangerous and it’s not empowering.
@@evaphillips2102 you may not hear it irl but the baddie lifestyle is definitely glamourised and rewarded in the short term. Men will follow these baddies on social media and even subscribe to their only fans or whatever, but they will shame women who had a high body count (or even a body count) and never want a long term committed relationship with them.
Ahem!.. STOP 👏 MAKING 👏BODIES 👏A 👏TREND 👏
Just embrace the body you already have. As long as your healthy it doesn't matter.
Wow, I know this obviously doesn't apply to me because I'm happy the way I am, but just... thank you (:
Good luck changing this old paradigm.
@@DrBeeSpeakspeople are thirsty so yes
Romans 8:38-39
And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow-not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below-indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord
@@DrBeeSpeaks I agree. The body positivity movie is so new. It will take years.
Baddie culture was popular in the early 2000s, it was and always will be from stripper trends
It just exploded when Instagram meant you could post your butt online without shame as a normie
So many stripper trends today also. *cough *cough poster girl
Baddie culture just leaves women single mothers. Men don’t actually respect baddies they only want to sleep with them. Young kids need an awkward stage it builds character. Everyone looks the same on social media and is after the same things. It’s so superficial and damaging.
Everyone has other things thinking about than what men do or do not desire. Our lives don't revolve around that. These girls shouldnt be in these kind of attire simply because it's damaging to their self esteem and so on.... not because they are tryna be suitable for marriage. Not everyone cares about that
Fr , its like everytime i vaguely think of something that is considered beautiful on media , its just "blue eyes" and "blonde" I mean its like everyone is the same
I thought the same thing! I’m so glad I was able to just BE ugly and go thru puberty in the privacy of my immediate circle and not the entire internet. I was FORCED to develop a personality because dear god there were plenty of moments as a teen where I thought my looks alone just were not gonna cut it lmaoo… Now I’m of an age where I realize there’s more to life regardless but those years of insecurity, self discovery and character building were so so important and necessary to become the woman I am today and fortunately I think she’s pretty cool. I hate to think the next generation won’t have the mental building blocks to get to that point in a healthy way.
its not just young people. if you're a naturally curvy person, its annoying to be looked at like that when youre just living. who wants to be constantly looked at 😭
How about - who GAF what males want !!! Dress for you!! Y'all so damn male centered and obsessed with what males want its disgusting
As a 19-year-old about to turn 20 in a few days, it's really strange. I have never and will never be a “baddie”. The fact that girls like me get shunned for not looking like that is dumb.
Same here, I'm not a baddie and I'm 25. I've always had a more olive bottle shaped torso, average chest, and thick thighs so I always felt self conscious. I prefer structured fitted clothes and knee length/ankle length skirts. I'm sure you're beautiful and have your own sense of style and interests. It's crappy that people make you feel unwelcome for not fitting 'their narrow minded ideas.'
I am in my 30's and have always been a workout queen but at the gym I cover up so I don't attract unwanted attention. You have no clue how many girls come to the gym dressed half naked, don't even really work out and try to to get men to stare at them. Crazy bending over, leg up in the air kind of crap. Then they try to catch them on video, will scream that they are creeps and cause a sceen. The owner has started to kick them out. Men are starting to dislike them. They are finding that girls with class and respect themselves are senior and more attractive. I hear them talk about it all the time. Trust me, took men awhile but they are realizing that they are just self-centered bi*ches and have no valve. Hang in there.
aww did he pick you yet?
Not the comment above me literally proving your point.
@@HoneyBee-yr6bn the commenter is clearly bitter and jealous of baddies, so she copes with that by having a superiority complex of being “not like other girls”.
My boyfriend and I just watched this. We totally agree with what you're saying, thank you for bringing awareness. 💕💕
I will die alone but NEVER change my body and face for anyone's 'love' or validation. It's so trivial.
I change it for my own validation 😔
@@Hxtice As long as it makes you happy and you're doing it for yourself, you're all good🫶🏻
real
What really gets me when teenagers/children on the internet are told not to wear revealing clothes (by the comments etc) and suddenly it's "you're just weird, a teen should be allowed to dress like." Obviously the CHILD isn't the problem, the problem is you never know who's going to see it! Keep your children off the internet. Protect our youth.
That would irk the shyt out of me because I’m sitting here looking like ummm last I checked Cosmetics were meant for grown women, weave was meant for grown women, tight clothing was meant for grown men women, high heels are meant for GROWN WOMEN. What about this is ok and why in dafuq can I not look at side eye in being a weirdo for saying some dumb shyt let them children how they want. I bet them ppl would be ok with a child rocking a thong. The shyt is annoying.
But revealing clothes are meant to make (adult) women look sexy, which makes it inappropriate and weird when girls wear them because why do they want to look sexy? Do they even know they want it and what it means? I also want to stress here that the problem isn't the children, but that they have inappropriate role models and influencers. You want children to dress like children, not want to be "baddies" showing off their curves (if they even have any).
@@webiorg6147 Yes I agree but I wanted to add my own point into the discussion because it's just something I haven't seen pointed out recently
@@bartyparty-u9y Oh, I didn't mean to criticize you, I just wanted to say the problem isn't just the creeps looking at children
@@webiorg6147 Absolutely lol I'm just so disappointed in the adults too
Video starts at 5:30
Thank you.
Thank you
As someone who was an exotic dancer (skripper), the baddie aesthetic is 100% just looking and acting like a stereotypical str*pper in my opinion. because i identify with that, i embrace the baddie aesthetic. however, i’m a grown woman. seeing teenagers/very young girls act and look like that just to fit in and be praised for objectifying themselves is truly disheartening. young ladies have so much more to offer the world than just their bodies/looks. trust me, that kinda lifestyle isn’t as luxurious as it looks on social media…
it’s corny but it’s true so stay in school. having a beautiful heart / mind is always going to be more valuable than a nice body/looks.
It’s the grown women with this mindset that’s creating that mindset in children. You are responsible for your impact in this world and on the youth.
I’m so glad to see that you’ve grown up. Character development!!
@@aniyaruffin3288I’ve been in the industry for over a decade. When I first started it was shamed heavily. Over the years with social media and the pandemic it is now more mainstream because women are turning to swork to survive. Do not blame us for trying to make the best of our situations. It’s really the government and capitalism because people do not want to struggle. Minimum wage is $7.25. Look at the root of things.
Baby you’re accountable for how you use your body. How you choose to love yourself and be loved. You’re partaking in something very perverted. And it doesn’t just affect you.
I’m not even judging you. If you’re still stripping i already know how poor your mental health is. I know the distortions it created in your mind. And the perverted energy of the people in your environment. It’s literally demonic and if you’re still doing it i ask you to consider stopping it. Idgaf about making you feel bad. We both know you already feel bad. Not because you’re bad worthless or nasty, but because you out here dancing like you are. You putting something sacred up for sale, and as you kinda implied- if you didn’t have to you wouldn’t. I’m telling you that you don’t have to. Love
You.
It’s actually so shameful of tiktok and instagram to allow accounts like aya…. She’s very literally 15-17 being VERY explicit and sexual.
that ice spice video was ick
Her parents bought her a smart phone, pay the WiFi bill. It’s on them too.
@@heysarasshe brought her own phone
@@heysaras oh absolutely, but that doesn’t take away from TikTok’s and instagrams involvement. No excuse whatsoever to allow that on your platform
It's mainly the women's fault. They're over here promoting it and then supporting girls who do it with loads of compliments because "girls support girls" then get mad at men for being real and honest and then say "mind you business" or "you're so miserable". Women promote and encourage the youth so much with their "aesthetics" and over the top makeup
Your videos get 500k plus views, you deserve soooo many more subscribers. The content you post is so refreshing and you help me unlearn so much. Thank you for being brave and speaking on things that are super difficult for social media to handle. We appreciate you so much ❤
part of the solution is don't allow minors on social media. 18+ should be the standard. Also, ban plastic surgery (without an extremely medically necessary) reason until age 25 when the brain has fully developed. There is NO reason anyone under that age needs it (with the exception of severe medical circumstances)
Best comment 🎯 This is something that will ACTUALLY help, and the fact that people aren't switching to such a system means they don't want to make their own society and their children better. Sad to see people not love their children enough to care like that.
Preach!!!
Honestly, I used to be of the opinion that teens maybe 15-16 up should be allowed to get their internet training wheels, to begin safe internet surfing at a developmentally appropriate age, but at this point… just make it 18 plus please god 😭. This needs to be a law.
Yes!!
Yep, I think Florida’s or some state might start that and Australia has said they’ll start that next year I believe
something that has always bothered me with the new focus of people reducing their bbls and breast enchantments is the weird way in which it feels like some people are starting to look down on their past bodies and are treating it as like a, "Ive matured out of having a curvy body." Maybe Im just crazy but it just doesn't sit right with me, especially because there are a lot of women who naturally have curvy bodies that they cant change at the drop of a hat or dont want to change their body. Curvy women are already stereotyped and sexualized to an extreme degree, and I dont think this attitude helps.
It might help cause what if it results into men not desiring curvy bodies anymore? They won't have to be worried about being bothered by men because their body is nice
"breast enchantments" - a magical procedure
@@stax5ave380 that will never happen. A lot of men just naturally prefer curvy, a lot also just like women’s bodies in general, and there are men who prefer smaller assets.
tell me about it 😭 I can’t just go to God and say, I would like a refund on my thighs, butt, and boobs please and give me the Kate Moss 😂
I feel this so much. As the girls got skinnier, my curvy body just got fatter lol I work out. Maybe not as much anymore, and I just got older and life is different. I always had assets during the BBL moment, so people always asked me if it was real. 🙄 And now it’s not popular so it makes me feel fat…at times. I have no problem dating so that does prove that men don’t care about your fupa or your cellulite. They love it actually. Because it’s natural. So I am not against surgery but not for the young girls who are still growing. Wait until at least 30-35. I was thick slim until 35 then gained weight gradually and it’s steady now, so yea idk.
You Done Got Yourself A New Subscriber! This Trend or Aesthetic is getting way out of hand, especially when i use to watch bad girls club and the meaning of a bad girl was something along the lines of being strong and independent while being yourself and that being different is okay, but now this just a competition on who's the sexiest or "a stripper or cornstar could never" type of mentality atp, its worst because now the younger generation is now implementing that this is what it takes to make it in life now, idk if that's even a good reference in itself but that's what i think of the baddie culture
I personally wouldn’t say the baddie aesthetic is dying down but starting to go to younger generations or being called different names. i’m hispanic and in hs and i majority see the “copy and paste latina” makeup on hispanic girls my age while being provocative. this is also what majority guys my age also look for because they like the more older and sexualized look. i’ve tried the “baddie” aesthetic because my friends were also starting to do that kind of look and i felt uncomfortable and like i wasn’t looking at myself. i really think it just depends on the age group and what is around your city 🤷♀️
Yeah teenagers tend to be late to trends..
@@lunaloveless7234 I don't think they're "lat to trends" it's just that they've grown up in a time where the "trends" just went out of style. Teens grew in while adults grew out.
The problem with trends is everyone ends up looking the same and yeah it is to appeal to guys and their desires (hence why it's all so grossly over sexualised and pornified). It's just a load of women at this point reducing themselves down to, essentially, porn categories and objects made for the male gaze. I wish more people would wake up and take notice that this is not the way to go and that these guys do not even respect you or this style of look... they just want to sleep with you or use you to show off to other men to make themselves look better to their male peers. They all say, long term, if they are even interested in a relationship that is a long lasting one or marriage, that these kinda of girls aren't the type they settle down with.
There’s some areas where this aesthetic won’t die because we always dressed like this especially if your black or Hispanic from a big city like I’m from Chicago the baddie aesthetic isn’t going anywhere lol
It's mainly the women's fault. They're over here promoting it and then supporting girls who do it with loads of compliments because "girls support girls" then get mad at men for being real and honest and then say "mind you business" or "you're so miserable". Women promote and encourage the youth so much with their "aesthetics" and over the top makeup
Rihanna is bad but she never gave baddie in the sense that most people know. She’s always just been stylish and extremely naturally beautiful, no surgery no enhancements. You can’t class her with people like Kim or Kylie or Cardi or Ari because she’s not emulating black aesthetics the way they do & did.
Exactly and Rihanna actually understands high/editorial fashion and has the edge and attitude to match it… she’s not out here looking like a muppet
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Agreed
agreed!!!
This exactly!!
i'm 12 and chronically online (i've been on this internet since 6 years old) and the whole baddie trend has absolutely destroyed me. i used to have decent self esteem until i started growing and this trend just made things a whole lot worse, and my desire to fit in and my desire to stand out are constantly at war over whether or not i should dress like this. i constantly need to remind myself i am TWELVE, and i avoid going outside because i always get shamed for being awkward and having strange proportions, as preteens usually do, and i look very grown up for my age which has only influenced my desire to conform to this trend even more. thank you for making this video, i appreciate this video and this discussion so much because i'm seriously sick of it being so normalized among teens, someone needed to talk about this
The awkward stage of pre-teen and teenager is something everyone goes through. The older generations just had the benefit of not having it slapped online for the whole world to see, and not being told that *having* an awkward stage was wrong. We were allowed time to figure ourselves out before entering the wider world. Kids now are out in the wider world before they’ve had the opportunity to grow into themselves.
Yeah, I'm fifteen now but I had the same issue in middle school - 9th grade. I didn't have the best self image and it seemed like the only way I could feel better about myself is showing myself off. The attention I got wasn't good attention, but it was the only thing that made me feel not ugly. It'll get easier as you grow up, you'll find a style that truly fits you and that you're comfortable in. I mean now I get told I dress like a grandma or mom lol. I definitely regret how I portrayed myself when I was younger, so my style did an entire 360 just to disassociate my old self to my current self. My advice would be to not give in, don't dress like this. Especially not when you're so young. You're going to regret it eventually. So find a style that makes YOU feel good and pretty. I dress so extra to school lol, I stand out a lot with the stuff I wear. But dressing the way I do makes me feel good! Also, dressing so provocatively at a young age is definitely looked down on. My friends at the time were going through the same thing so we all hyped each other up, but now as we look back on how we were and seeing younger kids follow the same path, it's saddening. Enjoy your youth, enjoy being a kid. It's cool.
Kudos to you for sticking to your principles! It's rough out there but if you keep at it, eventually you won't be surrounded by the same toxic nonsense.
Try to make use of the feedback functions that let you curate your ads and suggested content on TH-cam, Tiktok, etc, and don't hesitate to block people who you can't stand seeing on your timeline.
Coming from an 18 year old, it's especially important to protect your body and mind at 12. It's going through enough stress even without social media, so if you can't beat the urge to be online, make sure you make the effort to streamline the experience. It pays off tenfold. Sending well wishes.
As a Latina with a natural hourglass body and an eh face, this trend forever ruined my relationship with men. Every one I have been with has had a s*x addiction to some degree. Dudes who were genuinely wanted a relationship just wanted me as a fwb. Sometimes I just wanted to shave down the curves on my body cause of it. Ik it sounds like a “boohoo my body is a beauty standard” sounding moment, but I don’t “embrace” a baddie body. I just wanted something real but there’s too many hungry roaches it’s destroyed my self worth
natural hourglass coloured girl from South Africa here too. literally never had a cishet man successfully be my friend without expecting sex in some fashion.
Literally
This trend didn't ruin your relationship with men at all though , that's simply how men ARE. Males are all sex addicted whether you're curvy OR NOT, the trend didn't make males who wanted a relationship only want to be FWB, that's what they wanted w u in the first place.
It's okay, everyone's body type will come in and out of trends at various decades and people will ruin it and over-sexualize it all over again...
baddie culture made me feel traumatized with my gender as a whole because when i was in high school boys just came up to me and asked for my number, they didn’t even want to know my name when asking for sex
this will probably get buried in the comments, but i’ll share my experience. back when i was around 17-18, i was insecure about the way i dress. people my age were dressing up “maturely”, they would wear crop tops, short shorts and skirt, backless and cutouts. it didn’t help that i also had access to instagram at such a young age, i wanted to look like them; sexy and a baddie. when i started dressing up like them, sure people would approach me but they wouldn’t compliment me, but rather what i was wearing. i had to force myself to wear “sexy” clothes, because i wanted to blend in so bad. now that i’m 22, i’ve thrown out any “sexy” clothing i had and started to wear what i want. i wear light, flowy clothes. i like wearing clothes with characters on it (e.g. sanrio, anime). sure, no one looks at me anymore, but i feel more confident and happier than ever.
yass girl
fuck yea
I red your comment and I like it.
If people care only about your clothes or look they are not worthy of a deep relationship. Beauty fades and men who are big on women looks will drop you as soon as you turn 40 for a younger model. Some stupid 20 year old will hook right up to because they automatically assume older men have money and will just take care of them. But in the black community 80% of black children are born out of wedlock. It is 25% for white babies.
You are SO pretty I can’t even 😤
But more importantly you’re so smart & your takes are refreshing af.
The jellyfish lamp in the background was stealing my eyes, I was so memorized LOL
Same
Same here. That lamp is beautiful
*mesmerized
You mean mesmerized?
Me too 😅😅😅😅.
i can’t explain how glad i am to have been a teen in the early 2010’s , i don’t even want to imagine growing up in & having peers in todays society 😖
I’m glad I’m not a teenager today, because I’m early-twenties and I’m STILL very awkward and frumpy. I could NEVER compete with these teens today. 😂
It doesn't seem like they have real peers. Just fake friends to clout chase off
Yes we didn’t even have social media on our phones when I was a teenager. And we didn’t spend as much money on our looks
I'm a teen right now (legal) and it is relatively easy because you learn to not copy what others are doing
@@Daniscorner1738 do you have loving family? Were you raised with values? Some of these people had teen parents who can barely read and sell drugs for a living. Probably not so easy for them
Your discussions are so put together and easy to listen to. I am really irritated by the “mouse clicking” sound effect used so often. I could very well be the only person who is bothered by this, but I want to mention it because it is the reason I am not finishing this video 😢
As a 30 y/o man, i appreciate you and this topic. Its pretty disturbing the young underage girls you presented here that are being publicly objectified and promoting sex appeal.
Also that jellyfish lamp is cool!
I didnt notice till you mentioned it,how cool is that?!?😄
I love the non-stop “get into it yuh” references in every video😭😭
LMAOOOOOOOOO i honestly didn't realize i said that much until y'all starting saying it
@@NkirukasWrld plsssssss I’m obsessed with it😭😭😭😭
0:40 i was being an 11 years old playing minecraft
parents being ignorant of how their young daughters present online is so concerning, not to mention how a lot of them in fact exploit their young daughters for money and fame.
It's mainly the women's fault. They're over here promoting it and then supporting girls who do it with loads of compliments because "girls support girls" then get mad at men for being real and honest and then say "mind you business" or "you're so miserable". Women promote and encourage the youth so much with their "aesthetics" and over the top makeup
I think the younger generation gets a scaled down dose of what life was like in the 90s and 00s. We didn’t have lace fronts but we wore weaves and they weren’t always flawless and natural beauty. You had the 90s baddies who were naked (I had plenty of those friends), the hustler girlfriend who only wore designers, we had trashy women too. To my high school prom in 1998, a girl came dressed as a stripper and wore pretty much only a thong and glass heels. Times are just different and some things changed. In terms of yesterdays impact comparing to how it felt then and now - Lace wigs replaced weaves, being naked was always a thing, sexy red is this generations little Kim, you had the drug addicted rappers - DMX, Old Dirty, rapper baby mothers who became famous. Ari Fletcher and crew are the modern day Misa, Kim Porter, Faith, etc. The only thing that wasn’t popular was surgery, but that was found among the Tracy Bingham girls, Angel Lola Luv’s. Its literally the same script just newer trends
interesting comment for sure, this is the first time lil kim has been compared to sexyy red haha. but I def don't think this is anything new for sure, young girls have been dressing way too grown since time, but now that we have social media we are allll so connected so we see this bs all over our feeds, and it feels like its much more worse than how it was before.
@@NkirukasWrld The raunchiness and how she was received initially. She’s seen as an icon today but the rumors that was floating around, her music, the Biggie situation. It was scandalous!!! lol. Listen to her first album Hardcore. We were clutching our pearls chile lol
I'm sorry but comparing that sea urchin Sexy Redd to an actual skillful rapper like Lil Kim is delusional.
while i agree, in the 90s you were mostly associated with the people you surrounded yourself with. it was super easy to be sheltered to the reality of other people and the way they live their lives because you didn’t really know if you didn’t interact with those people. plus even then, they were mostly seen as trashy if they were doing all that and not in a related industry (modeling, acting, fashion, etc). now it’s everywhere online, and it is becoming seen as the the way that average teens look/dress/act, making more teens feel the need to fit to that standard. not only that, but it’s getting even younger. as young as like 12 or 13 girls are wearing skimpy clothes and makeup, but unlike kids who did that in the 90s, due to the whole world at their fingertips via the internet, kids these days ACTUALLY look like adults. i do see a lot of similarities between now and then, truly, but i think that the 80s and 90s (and even the 00s) eras of acting or dressing provocatively and being rewarded paved the way for the 10s and 20s. it has built upon itself, meaning that it only compounded and has become an even larger and deeper engrained issue.
@@goopbuniabsolutely agree with you and impo I would add that children need to be offline until they're about 18 and off social media until they're about 25. The danger with that, however, is that if they haven't participated in social media for a quarter of a century the likelihood of them wanting to afterwards is slim. The danger is all corporations' danger, that is, not the populations'.
Diva, could you make a video about the comeback of extreme thinness? I genuinely believe this might become the next obsession for teenage girls to pursue.
Baddie aesthetic never left, they just evolving into something else. Just wish the girls and guys didn't undergo surgery at such a young age. body and face changes a lot over the years...
Let ppl do what make them happy
@@Brendaglam24...do you genuinely this is making them happy in the long-run, when the baddie trend is over? I'm not saying all of them will be unhappy with this decision when they're in their 40s, but I don't think a good chunk of them will be happy with it.
@@somanygoodfandomsnot everyone goes off of baddie by just body type, just the fashion itself is mwah
The second Instagram started monetizing the women with the baddie aesthetic and allowing them to call themselves “IG models” or “Fashion Nova Ambassadors” that’s when it took an absolute turn for the worst on the internet
I’m listening, but my adhd keeps looking at the jellyfish lamp 😂😭🤦🏾♀️
kids are not being kids anymore and thats tied to bad parenting. i know my momma would've whooped my ass if i tried to go outside at 15 in a tight bodysuit.
It literally kills me to see 9, 10, 11 year olds walk around with fake lashes and crop tops. Luckily I feel like it’s a pendulum and hopefully our generation, who has seen the effects of it will force our kids to be kids
I literally got in trouble for eyeshadow now in 9th grade
These days, the mothers are encouraging them, from the ripe old age of "able to walk."
That’s because now it’s kids raising kids the average woman is a overgrown child and so is most of the men as well one big society of dysfunctional people
As a millennial women, I am deeply disappointed with my generation of parents, in my opinion its not the kids fault it is the parents fault, go be a parent instead of putting on that fake mommy life aesthetic, for youre online followers. Just by what I observe I have noticed so many parents now follow other online mommy influencers, instead of trusting their own instincts.
I love how you do your makeup to match the video, it really shows the effort
THANK YOUUUU, i try lol but idk if it's noticeable haha
omg this is my first time watching her & i noticed that too!!
When we were kids, adults were mysterious and unavailable. They existed only at schools (if you were younger than 18), on the streets, and at family functions. Maybe an older sibling's friend. Nowadays, this mystique and curiosity doesn't exist. The worlds are merged and there's no "under 18 zone" and "18 and above" zone. With a few clicks you can go to an adult's profile, look at their friends, see their nights out, their party outfits, their relationships, their adult problems and adult dramas. So you feel closer to them. It's easier to mix in with them and pretend to be one of them.
It's sad and dangerous.
I hate that as a black women people expect me to want to be a baddie. I always told him I don’t give a fuck about that shit. Do I need to do it when there’s plenty of women doing it? 😂
Can you clarify? Why do you think that being black is expected to be a baddie?. Sincerely, thank you.
@@defaultdacat sure. When I go out in public, because I am a black woman, people expect me to be a certain way. From what I was told, people expect black women to be baddies and whatever stereotype people see in entertainment. I’ve asked why people why do you expect me to be this way? And they’ve always told me I’ve seen your people (Black people) be like that.
Why are Black people expected to be baddies? I don’t know. But I don’t care for it. It’s not for me. Maybe another reason why black women do it is for attention. Or they’re just following a trend. I don’t know why people do things. It’s not for me though.
@AaliyahClemons-fs1to ok, i totally get it now. I can see why the stereotypes are because also the music nowadays is very secxaual. The entertainment industry is very toxic to those that don't have the same morals and values. Little girls see this and think they should be this way too. The expectations are unrealistic. I hate that people stereotype and I feel like also it's getting worse with politics and the new election coming up. I've never seen such racism appear. It's sad.
Thanks for sharing. I understand now.
@@AaliyahClemons-fs1to My least favorite part of being mixed will always be being black enough that white people and black men treat me like this while black women shun me for even trying to enter black communities. Literally the only black communities I find solace in are ones where black nerd culture are dominant. And I'm grateful for that, to an extent, because it keeps me away from the weird sexual, toxic side.
@@ErosNocturne sorry you experienced that. Even though I am fully black. I still get told that I’m not enough from the community. It’s unfortunate. All I do is keep my head up and go with the people that want me. I suggest you do the same. Luckily, not all of the black community is like that.
I think it would be a disservice to all of us if we didn’t mention the way p*rn has driven the rapid rise in the saturation of the baddie aesthetic in our social medias. OF is a prime example.
Does corn influence body types, or does corn simply reflect what's popular in society?
@@whatwasisaying1338 I think both!
@@itbeyogirl2 I can see that. It reminds me of the chicken and the egg.
@@whatwasisaying1338 beautiful analogy!!
@@itbeyogirl2 Thank you!
Im glad my first time watching your content it has original thought and talking, not just a montage of tiktoks and facial expressions.
Baddie aesthetic for me is real life bratz doll. Hourglass figure with super thin legs. Pumped up blow up doll lips with super tiny ski slope nose and full glam cat eyes and heavy makeup that looks airbrushed.
That would be more along the lines of a bimbo aesthetic rather than a baddie aesthetic.
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Them girls look my age and I’m 29. They actually be looking older . It’s scary 😂
Whenever older women speak on this we’re “hating” and “jealous”…
I’m not an adult yet but, I hate when people say that about older women when they speak about things like this.
Ikr lol. I’m only 23, but I even see it as words of provision and protection. It’s really gross. I could understand dressing up for events, but I wouldn’t let my daughter go to school dressed that way on a regular basis “just because”. Hopefully this comes to an end before she comes of age. I love my baby.
I also noticed some men (the kind that say "a woman peaks at 35 and men are just getting started" say this to young girls as well so they don't realise who's trying to help and who's looking for prey
I did not like the era where Ariana was cosplaying black women, girl no, and no
And the blaccent made it even more annoying
her fans till this day keep making excuses
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
black women cosplay white women all the time tho lol if its not the hair its the skin....just look at photos from serena, lil kim, blac chyna, even beyonce, all had their skin bleached in the span of a decade haha
@@monicakiddo2897light skin isn’t a trait that only white women possess. how old r u💀
As a 12 year old I admit I sometimes give into social pressure to sexualize myself. I mean just today I wore a pair of jeans because they make my butt look good. The thing is at least for me it seems like it’s the only way too get attention, pretty much my whole life I’ve struggled a lot with insecurities and disordered eating, so when I got prettier it gave me a confidence boost when guys gave me attention. So I leaned into it, I didn’t post or actually act sexual but I was pulling up to 6th grade in crop tops and scooping my boobs so I get attention. And I mean it feels nice when a guy likes me or ask for my number, but it’s not that nice when it’s catcalling or sexual harassment or said guy asking for my number is actually a grown man. (Granted I’ve been catcalled in no makeup sweatpants and a hoodie) the thing is the confidence is really temporary, like in the moment it feels nice but not so much when it seems like the only thing people like me for is my appearance, but like I said me and most of the girls my age are super insecure from social media, than social media was like “here’s how to fix that” but it actually just serves men. I feel like the “sexual empowerment” movement was like a trick from men, they were like “yeah women take off your clothes for me-I mean for you, yeah definitely for you! Sooo you gonna show me your ass or what?” Also the whole “thin is back in” (was it ever really out though?) is really nerve wracking tbh as a girl who’s naturally curvy yk
Sorry for my rant and atrocious grammar lol
Edit: Yeah I know that social media is bad for me. The problem with a phone addiction is it’s an addiction, so it’s a lot easier said than done to just stop. I’ve had a phone since 3rd grade, also when it was peek Covid and I couldn’t see any friends or literally even leave the house during super developmental years. I totally get your concern (I hate it too btw), but like I said a phone addiction is an addiction.
Omg you’re so young 🥺
It’s normal for everyone to appreciate some level of outside validation from others. So there’s no shame in that. But I just want you to know that more than anything we have to learn to validate ourselves. I have a little cousin that’s a few years older than you and she talks to me a lot about stuff like this.
Recently she was telling me she feels bad because the boys at her school didn’t like her (but she was also like the only Black kid in a mostly white school). But I asked her if she likes these boys or thought they were cute, she told me no. So I told her she definitely can’t give these musty boys that don’t have good personalities, that she doesn’t even like, control of her self-esteem lol. Even if she did like them it doesn’t matter. We all have to work on our self-esteem so we can feel good about ourselves no matter what others around us do.
It’s easier to say than do, but you have many years to learn and practice!
@Fionas_planet We really appreciate that you're here and sharing your experience. But on a side note - you shouldn't be on any social media at your age. Period. I don't know why your parents let you go to youtube or other platforms unsupervised, maybe they don't know it's one of the signs of not having enough time for one's child. But there it is. Avoid brainrot: get off all social media platforms until you're about 22. If you have enough intelligence to write such an insightful, self-aware comment you SURELY must understand that you hanging out on social media and you having these confidence and body exposure issues go hand in hand. I hope that becomes clear to you after I pointed it out. It's a direct result of "consuming" inappropriate material at your age. If I knew your parents personally I would have told them off for dropping the ball on you like that. I encourage you to take care of yourself and fill in the parenting holes on your own. Find fulfilling activities, NOT entertaining ones.
Moreover: comments such as yours are actually used by intelligence agencies that pretend to be children like you to catch pdf files. I hope you comprehend the implications of that last sentence for you.
Unless you ARE an intelligence agency, in which case - oh the irony!
Other than that I'm wishing you the best, sorry if I was harsh but truth had to be uttered and I hope I don't see you anywhere on social media for a good 10 years for your own sake.
Girl you're 12!!! Live your childhood.
This stuff doesn't matter, I mean come on do you really want attention from a stinky boy who probably goes to the toilet and doesn't wash his hands 😂😂😂
Guuurl stahp what butt you're 12!!!
I'm 31 and remember being 12 - what you're experiencing is so normal and so many of us girls and women have a pretty similar journey. When you focus on things you enjoy like hobbies, special interests, clubs, extra curriculars etc that's when you start to not need this kind of sxl validation from others as much to feel accepted. hang in there! and not to sound old but trust me that life is so much better the less time you spend on social media. even us older ppl are negatively affected by it if we're on too much. it's hard bc the pressure to be online and know what's popular is so high at ur age but trust that you'll find your ppl who don't care about that stuff as much, and will be happy with who you are and the person you are becoming. it's hard out here for girls! just know that with time you will get more comfortable in your skin, it comes with age ❤
I live in Vienna, so in Europe, and I always find it fascinating how popular this is in America. Here in (most of) Europe, it’s almost non-existent. When I see young women on social media posing just to fit into the 'baddie' trend, I find it quite surprising. Every time I hear about rappers or these baddies having kids, it seems like it’s treated as something so casual, as if they haven’t really thought it through or it doesn’t mean much to them. As a European, it also feels like some people want to act criminal on purpose, as if it’s something to be proud of.
(I'm sorry if there are any mistakes, English is not my first language :)!)
Don’t get me wrong! I think it’s great that we, as women, have the right to express ourselves however we want, but in terms of young children, I find it quite concerning. I don’t think you need to show off your body or your figure to prove that you’re confident or independent.
I live in Düsseldorf and I see this baddie trend everywhere! But this city is really diverse.
Hi Hannah, I don't get it either. I'm Chinese American, first gen on my mother's side, fifth gen on my dad's. Sexualization/broken homes/deadbeats are a common theme in American rap music culture, and it's never made sense to me. Irresponsible men who willingly go out and have multiple children with many different women are by far the worst financial/family planning ever. Kids don't appeal to me, and I certainly wouldn't want to be abandoned baby mama #4. I pity the children in these infamously public relationships, they will have to deal with their embrassing home lives being exposed to the world as they grow up.
Most of this is the vocal minority, since notoriety and scandal sell. Plenty of regular folks have both parents in the picture to raise children. It's only now that social media has given a platform for people to do 'tell alls' about their own unique parenting/relationship situations.
I live in France and here minors love to look like adults. There’s also minor girls from the suburbs, getting into prostitution just to buy a pair of Louboutins, starting at age 13-14 just because they want the luxury life of their favorite brainless reality show contestant. So yeah, just because you’re not aware of it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. The sad reality is worse than you think.
Actually, those women look so cheap. Like hookers.
FINALLY someone is speaking on this!! It's sad frfr I'm 24 and I just remembered being 17 playing Sims all night 😂😂😂
the jellyfish on the background 🌪️🔃🔃🔃🪼🪼
looks really concerning (for me; even though I know it's not a real jellyfish)
im 30 and look 12 compared to these 15-17 year olds i was always made fun of for not participating into baddie culture and doing my own thing but now im actually thankful i just stayed in my own lane and didn't give into the peer pressures of it
That's actually amazing :D I'm almost 17, I've been doing heavy makeup with bold eyeliner often since I was 13, but not because I'm trying to look older, but because I want to be creative with my makeup looks. Hopefully I won't look super old by the time I'm your age lol
I’m 20 years older than Aya, same birthday, she could be my child 😅
@@Ilikecatsandcannedtunabe creative on a canvas, not on your eyelids.
Also, you shouldn't be on social media at this age. Period. If anyone says otherwise - they wish you harm. Get off social media, get off whatever device you're using, limit your own access until you're 22 (ideally until you're 25).
@@Ilikecatsandcannedtuna I'm also 30 with 20 year olds thinking I'm their age and also was into heavy makeup until my brain fully developed. Now I never wear makeup (I have a clear complexion and full brows to be fair) but still eye bags and sometimes redness) but I think we all are so beautiful the way we are and that's what makes us unique it sounds like a wall tattoo but it's true, no matter in what face you look you can always find something that makes it beautiful and it's always unique. It hurts me when I look back and not a single day from 16-22 was I without makeup literally for no reason because I simply never gave it a critical thought and said ''it was a hobby'' but it's so insanely powerful and freeing to be at peace with your natural appearance, not feeling the need at all to put on makeup and REALLY just doing it for yourself which is never for me personally and it took me so much unnecessary time to reclaim this feeling when it could've been there all along. I go out and to work and not a single thought is spent on how I look, imagine what I'm able to do with all this free head space
@@OlgaRykov nah i'm good
As someone who was like 10 years old in 2015, I'm very glad to not have ever ben influenced by this baddie aesthetic, during that time I was more interesting in looking like an anime girl 😂
Yeah I was 13 but did not use socials at all and just cared about school, anime and games😂
Ooof... Preferring one sht sandwich over another sht sandwich 😕
Oh that’s not…. 😅
That’s not good either😂
I was 10 in 2023
Edit: y'all old
No bc let’s really talk about that marriage and kids thing. I don’t know why men in this generation would much rather get you pregnant then marry you I asked my boyfriend daily does he see his self marrying me and he says not yet that’s a big step which is understandable we just started dating and we are still very young so marriage can be scary, but he is so quick to try to get me pregnant and have a kid with me because he wants a son. maybe I’m just a woman but I can’t see how can you rather get someone pregnant then marry them what kind of math is that you’re stuck with that person for life is much worse because now you’re stuck with them and you’re stuck raising her he little human with them. I’m so tired of seeing every female my age getting pregnant and not even having a ring on their finger. Everyone got pregnant as soon as we left high school like, what are we doing?🤦🏾♀️
Girl, leave him 😭
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Please do not become another baby mama. Love yourself and choose better
Your boyfriend sounds sus. If he's not willing to commit, then don't sleep with him
Men who pressure women into having babies first and maybe marriage later are the worst. Too many men are dangerously charismatic smooth talkers who manipulate and dump women for sport. It's so disgraceful, and many are deadbeats to the children they 'wanted.' In East Asian cultures, we're taught not to marry someone before they have 3 keys-a key to a house, a key to a car, and a key to an office. It's not to be snobby/elitist, but to prove to potential marriage partners that they are a suitable match.
I see so many women around my age (25) who have kids way too young with men who are only talk. It's much harder to complete your studies and establish a career with a kid in tow. I've dated many different men since university, and I made sure to never get pregnant. I vowed that I would never be trapped by a man and have no education or finances of my own. Nothing wrong with being a housewife, but it is too easy to be trapped in a toxic relationship.
I’m 26 and it’s actually a breath of fresh air to see a young woman with your mindset I honestly relate to you so much❤️ I am delighted I found your channel! You’re killing it! 🫶🏼
I’m 22 and I feel like a literal baby looking at all the younger girls that make themselves look 24+… its honestly a big insecurity of mine
Enjoy it girl. Enjoy the freedom. Enjoy being “different”. Enjoy being happy with your own decisions 🙂
I'm 24.. same lol 😅😢
Sameeee lol, im 22 and my 17 year old sister getting into this trend, full face of makeup, and she looks older than me 😭
I'm 25 and have major baby face and feel this so much..
I’m 22 with a “baby face” and idk how to do makeup, most people don’t believe me about my age and I don’t fit the beauty standard at all. Literally hate the way I look bc I look nothing like any of the girls in this video
as a person who have that body, i'm really glad that for a period of my life I wasn't worried about my figure bc no one care... nowadays it feels like i'm commiting a crime for not going to the gym
Not only is this “baddie” culture negatively impacting this generation, but it’s also robbing young women, ESPECIALLY women of color, of their individuality and the chance do develop or even QUESTION their own personal style because this default is so rigidly forced onto them.
Black woken especially are plagued more than any other race with this baddie-bug that has us assimilating to this aesthetic that a lot of us probably wouldn’t even find appealing if we had the freedom to explore other potential styles. We have to jump through hoops just to looks “acceptable” in this absolutely extreme standard. Just copy and paste, and we all end up looking the clown faced blow up dolls with no sense of personal style. It’s so sad.
Another part of the problem too is that sometimes you have to turn your phone off and look outside. I get what you’re saying, but in the real world nobody is dictating whether or not you follow a baddie aesthetic as a black girl. I wear my natural hair, light makeup, and typically dress more so like the clean girl aesthetic. And I never have anyone say anything to me about the way I carry myself in the real world. If anything, i get a lot of compliments because I don’t dress like the baddie aesthetic.
@liyahsoreal911 The problem is that a lot of black people see this crap as the norm without any influence from social media. It's been rotting generations since the eighties. It's not new, the shame around it is just completely gone.
The baddie aesthetic just looks tacky and cheap imo
Exactly, it never looked good in my opinion, it just looked ridiculous and fake. Huge cartoonish lips, giant over exaggerated fake ass in your face 24/7 🤮 it’s so clearly a result of p0rn’s prevalence and influence on the culture. It’s like a caricature of what men think women should look like, just really gross. Not to mention the fashion was always tacky and fugly and only had the purpose of showing off your butt, nothing more. I’ll never forgive the kardashians for making it popular, lmao
Honestly....
Not when done properly. It also doesn’t suit everyone. In our new world of “everything is possible” people don’t want to hear it, but not all aesthetics suit everyone equally, the obvious glamour of this aesthetic doesn’t suit everyone’s face and body.
It feels like these chinese Barbie ripoffs with bright packages.
Other races of women (and some men, lol) were hating on the new black girl swag and aesthetic, and companies sexualized, culture vultured, and then capitalized off of black women's looks/style, as they have been doing for years, unfortunately.
If you weren’t an IG baddie in 2014-2015 what were you doing with your life?” First grade 😢
Same lmao
I was a baby in 2014 and 2015 lol i started first grade in 2019
@@GytSigma username is as expected for a 10 year old, kinda miss when I was in that cringe era of just being a kid on the internet.
Don’t talk to strangers online young padawan, and tell no one your age or year of birth from now on, there are predators online who will attempt to groom you just because they know your age.
Damn I was in my last year of college then 😅
Okay? Obviously they're not talking to you df
Taylor swift skipped the baddie trend and went straight for capitalism.
LFMFAOOOOOO
fr
Why is this kinda funny tho 😭
Smart woman
She didn’t😂
This baddie look/strict version of (cishet) femininity makes me feel so alienated from my own gender, that i've been exploring androgyny a LOT more and it feels scary to do, but good that there's another way to express myself
I miss the 2000s and 2010s
it was a timeeeeeee!
real
we all do
the baddie culture killed tween culture
nah fr
When everyone looks the same it's better to stand out and be a normies. Baddies are overrated
Who gaf about standing out though ? Y'all care way too much about how other women look. It is not some weird competition like you think it is.
Who gaf about standing out though ? Y'all care way too much about how other women look. It is not some weird competition like you think it is.
@@Rosemary46840 When did I say it was a competition. I don't care what anyone else looks like I just refuse to conform
oh wow you're so quirky and different and not like other girls 🤪
@@theflameofsnow2323 And? I'm a trans guy so I'm really not like most people deal with it
I’m glad my parents didn’t let me have Instagram at a young age.I see why😭
I wish because I’d be a different person
We now literally have minors dressing, acting and looking like grown adults. It's honestly so sad and disturbing to see. They are rushing more and more now to look older.
They have been doing that forever. For a brief time in the 90’s being immature was preferred, but dressing like “little adults” at ages 12 and up is not new. Look at movies from before the 90’s❤
“Being sexy isn’t bad tho lol” yeah, of course it’s not, but putting in effort to have sexual appeal when you haven’t even graduated high school yet…?? 😕
Idk I just think some of these comments from minors are just… sad. I’m sorry you had to grow up in conditions that made you think sensual/sexual allure is something a girl MUST have at such a young age in order to be liked. I’m sorry about all the content on the internet targeting impressionable young girls. Genuinely, I’m so sorry.
The crazy part is girls SHOULD NOT have any sex appeal at their age. If they do it should protected and gaurded wtf. That’s their life that’s their innocence. The people behind this world and media are literally trying to create a pedophile friendly world, and it starts with little things like this that the majority tolerate. How did kids start thinking they NEED sex appeal. That’s literally what makes them children is their innocence. This world is so anti innocence.
worst part is that all these young girls is that they are FEEDING the predators.
Never stop making these videos bc this needs to be talked about
This trope that “most” Black women are naturally curvy is so inaccurate.
Some of us are “curvy” not due to genetics, but because we are often over weight and celebrate it. Let’s be real!!
The Black women from the 50’s, 60’s, 70’s and 80’s were in much better shape and not “baddie” built. Their natural curves were not overly exaggerated like today.
Lastly, if “most” Black women are curvaceous, then why are so many going under the knife to create the curves WE’RE known to have naturally???
Make it make sense…
Don’t get me started on how this has over-sexualized our community and decimated the nuclear family.
Ur right, now that I think about it, never ONCE in my life of being a mega fan of 60’s and 70’s African American music have I seen this extremely ‘curvy’ body shape on the ladies. Even aretha Franklin who became overweight later on started out slim, if not slightly curvy.
I’m glad I’m not the only one to realize this. I love my black ladies out there, but the lie that they’re “naturally thicc” or whatever has to stop. Most of the time, it’s just them being above weight
Valid points, but I disagree on the nuclear family part. The nuclear family is a toxic patriarchal model rooted in capitalism /imperialsm for a WHOLE host of different reasons but that's for another time.
Nuclear family is a bad thing on multiple levels lol
@@kekedream ???? It's toxic to have both parents in the home? What??
aw man i really do miss 2014-2019 a lot
And it’s crazy how men popularize it all be in the gc talking about how she so bad but then turn around to their girl and tell her to be modest. Lmao. Like what is it then stop thirsting over the ones yall claim bad asf while seeking out the good girl or whatever bs they on
I think it’s cause they know how men are so they don’t want their girl to be sexualized by other men. But yesterday I was literally wearing baggy jeans and a sleeveless turtleneck that showed a tiny bit of my stomach and some older man was checking me out, up and down. You could literally see the pervertedness in his eyes and it’s just so disgusting no matter what you wear they’ll always find a way.
Men are all liars. Don't believe their fronts.
Can yall ever have a conversation or anything without men bringing men up it's ridiculous
It’s really sad that being a “baddie” is almost synonymous with either being the most naked in the room or feeling like you have to look a certain way to get attention. And the fact that it’s so normalized is concerning. What happened to that thing called personality and variety that people used to care about?
Thats what im saying. Men dont even care about the sweetness of people yet go for the girls who dress up half naked and act like a bitch to everyone who doesnt even do anything to others especially with the way they act. One of the main reasons why i grew up never liking rap like no hate to female rappers but they just make me so uncomfortable. And thats why they the same ones who end up getting cheated on. Even my parents a few weeks ago complained on why girls are dressing up half naked..its actually so hard nowadays to be accepted and thats something i personally struggle with
It still feels surreal to me when people talk about the 2010’s as the past
As a white European girl with a naturally "heroin chick" body, this whole KarJenner-baddie-aesthetic has been absolutely brutal for my self-esteem and mental health in general. This trend of baddies made society demand that every woman out there should look like this. We do NOT look like that in Europe...
Honey, people don’t look like that most everywhere in the world. Hence all the surgeries and procedures to *make* yourself look like that. Bc most don’t naturally.
Please, I know it’s hard, but don’t feel bad about yourself for looking a certain way ❤ don’t ever feel like you HAVE to look like this, you HAVE to get cosmetic surgeries to “fit in.” I’m super self-conscious about my body as well, and every time I’m tempted to get surgeries done, I just think, “I won’t look like *me* then. I’ll just look like every other person ever.” Not that that’s inherently bad, but it’s inherently just not worth the time investment. There’s other things to do which can drastically improve your (self) worth/esteem in more valuable and useful ways. Not to mention, this is a fad, a trend, and they ALWAYS change. NK mentioned how people are getting their surgeries reversed nowadays to seem more “natural.” Well, the most natural (if difficult, but no one ever said nature was easy) thing to do is to learn to love yourself ❤. It’s a lifetime journey, likely unending, but that’s also just like in nature. Nature doesn’t ever just *stop.* It keeps going, no matter how hard things get.
Describing yourself as herion chic is ridiculous
@@lemonpepper3577😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Why not just get off social media.. if it’s so detrimental. You guys know the issue.. and don’t take the pragmatic steps, to make the situation better.
Completely relate, I get called anorexic or prepubescent in my 20s because I’m skinny and don’t have a big chest :’)
Getting a bbl in your teens is insanity. Also teens are still kids even 18 and 19 year olds are still very young mentally so as the parents why would you let your child get one of the most dangerous life threatening surgeries???
So glad people are talking about this more & more on bigger platforms
I feel like the baddie culture is at its peak in some countries in Europe right now. All the young girls that I see around (Italy and Romania my countries) have the same aesthetic, they have a really heavy makeup with those specific eyebrows that you talking about and the brown nude lips. Same with the way they dress, a lot of them always dress with tops and pants that enchance their curves, and always with long slick hair and gel nails.
I think one of the differences is the fact that here bbls are not that popular, but lip fillers (those big ones) and fake brows are really popular.
Even the way they behave and talk do resemble the 'original' phenomenon in the usa.
I’m 16, I don’t dress/act like this but I used to want to because I noticed everyone else in a relationship/getting friends and I’m a homebody, antisocial, I play games all day.. but when I see someone that dresses like this I want to be like them but I try to get them off my pinterest/tiktok/instagram so I don’t get influenced to change myself.
Same I dress like a tomboy sometimes
It’s crazy because I’m 23 and I always have ppl telling me when they meet me that I look 16/17. The reason is because I don’t wear makeup to fit to societal standards . I wear minimal makeup and always have. I see my cousins and they all have the copy and paste baddie look. So ppl always tell me if I’m the youngest within the bunch. It’s sad to see girls sexualize themselves at such an early age when they should just be figuring themselves out.
Idc what grown women do, but if you're a child or teen trying to be a baddie then that's so embarrassing and sad. These kids think they out here really doing something, but instead they are missing a childhood. Just making grown women cringe and feel bad for them. They'll regret it when they are grown. Human brain isn't fully developed until 25 so ummmm
it’s definitely not right but it’s so sad society makes young people feel like they need to look a certain way to be considered beautiful and sad young ppl even care about that in the first place :(
obviously ppl make there own decisions but i mean the influence^
I’m 37 and never tried the baddie aesthetic. It just doesn’t connect with my personality I guess. It always looked like an extreme amount of time and effort. Especially now that I’m older I can’t be bothered to care enough to try lol. I figure that my standard look will always work, and other things are trends that will come and go.
I know these days there are people that will say it doesn’t matter what young girls do because people shouldn’t sexualize them in the first place. But when we have actual minors portraying images or doing actions that are overtly sexual, should we not voice concern?
Girl, I'm jealous of you. I'm in college and almost everyone is trying to look like a baddie, I sometimes feel pressured to change my style, but just like you, I don't feel like it matches my personality . I just try to be myself and hope I can Finnish school that way
@@sera.finaaa I feel like that’s the best thing you can do. Like, have fun playing around with fashion or style if that interests you. But so many people try to fit the mold, you end up standing out more as an individual that’s not just following the crowd. At least imo.
42:56 the “ you Dey craze “ spun me 😂 tell me you’re Nigerian without telling me you’re Nigerian 😂