A Quick Explanation And Update
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ก.ค. 2024
- I have been keeping something from you and am about to come clean. While traveling, I felt a lot of stress and tension from different things that were going on in my life. I am very transparent and do not hide things well. I strive to be genuine and honest and want to share it with you. Someone could relate to my situation or get something out of it. There is power in community! Thank you for watching!
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00:00 Introduction
00:32 Under Stress
01:41 The Interior Struggle
02:52 Guilt
03:44 Mental Wellbeing
07:04 Accepting Emotions
09:41 Channel Update
I totally feel your conflict as I’m experiencing the same. Caring for my Mother who is 89 and happy to be there for her, but at the same time I can’t go, see, do and feel it is affecting my mental health. No family near by! I appreciate your videos!!
I appreciate you sharing. It is comforting to know other people are going through the same thing. Take care of you!
That camper should provide a haven no matter where you are. To me it provides a hotel, no matter where you are. So to be with family at time of crisis and have flexibility is priceless.
You are right! It feels so much more comfortable to be in your own home and you can still visit and take care of family.
I appreciate your sharing. Many of us have healthy parents over 85 are torn. Our brain is amazing and I have spent many years better understanding just how wonderful we are all made and all that makes us unique 🤟🌺
God bless you and your parents. Family first, especially as we age. ❤
Yes! Thank you!
Your upcoming trip in the swiss alps sounds so amazing. Thank you for being so open and honest about your life experience.
I appreciate you!
Watching and thinking that you should be sponsored by Better Health. It's okay to set boundaries for your own health. IDK, I lost my parents early to cancer (15 and 25 years ago - I'm 58 yrs now), and wonder if I would have chosen the nomad life if that were different. But also know it's the healthiest choice.
Looking forward to your European adventures. Stay healthy and embrace those emotions.
You made me laugh with the Better Health comment! You reminded me that having my parents live up to their 80s and 90s is a privilege. It must have been so difficult for you to lose them so early. Thank you.
You talk a lot of sense and you are now living your best life. I am a 51 year old living a miserable life and my mind works overtime with how to change my life for the better. It’s not easy but I am trying. This is why I love watching your videos and people like you who have made a better life for themselves. Good luck in Europe and enjoy. Jonathan 🇬🇧
@@Mary-tj5qx i appreciate you taking the time for a reply. Many happy years of your can to you. Thankyou
That should say your van not can sorry.
@jonathanmchugh5978 It's OK, Jonathan. Society doesn't teach us how to live our best life. It teaches us how to be a worker bee, conform, and make money for others. If you add family shiitake, you must dig deep to find yourself. You are not alone. Find the little things that make you happy, and don't judge it. Take small steps. It's hard, but everything worth it is hard. I have faith in you! I am sending you warm, fuzzy, positive vibes because you are worth, always!
@Mary-tj5qx I loved your advice, Mary! I am so happy and excited for you!
@@KimannChessa I very much appreciate you also taking the time to reply to me. Life is not easy but I will take your advice and hopefully I can find happiness. I’m hoping to see my uncle in California in 2024 and very much looking forward to it. Thanks again. 👍
Kimann as I'm getting to know you I'm seeing a genuine honest and a very strong woman living life!! Don't ever change!! Even if you think your not doing the right thing that comes your way!! Your smart and will find your way!! I'm alittle older than you and have been on the same path!! I truly enjoy all your videos !! I feel like I know you becaus we have so many of the same interests!! Though I have no children only a niece and nephew who both are on their own!! Just let those emotions flow out and move forward!! Don't look back!! I look forward to your next video!! Your trip sounds like the perfect thing to come in your life!! Focus on that and seeng your children in Europe!! Your new friend Carolyn
You words warm my heart, Carolyn! Thank you. I am happy to have you as my new friend!
Oh wow...this was a powerful video. And yet, I think you need to release merch, a t-shirt that says "You are not the snot". Seriously. That is amazing.
LOL! I love that idea!!
We are not flawed, we are humans with experiences that teach and guide us toward evolving into better human beings. Embracing all the parts of ourselves no matter how ugly they might seem is what makes us whole beings and avoiding or rejecting parts of ourselves leaves us fragmented and inauthentic. Suppressing our emotions is never healthy and can lead some humans to addictions.
When there is shared vulnerability, there is an authentic connection between human beings and authentic connection is what humans crave.
***I look forward to your European videos!
I love your perspective! That was very well said! Thank you.
I feel ya! I moved back to my hometown while working remotely to be close to my parents (they’re in their upper 80s). Now I’m back in the office 2 days a week so my husband and I live in our campervan when I have to go in the office. So excited to see your travels abroad! Sounds like a great trip and so good that your brother will be around to help out if needed!
Thank you for sharing that. It is always comforting to know that you are not alone.
The internal tug of war is the hardest of all. I am sure your parents appreciate you and your presence. Wish I had one more day with my parents. Enjoy Europe, can't wait to see the videos. GO LIVE
You are right. Time with our parents is precious and finite. Thanks for the encouragement to 'Go Live". Sending love!
I so relate to your struggle... if im lucky I get one day off a week to do chores in the house or catch up on a to do list, otherwise I'm working as a RN and doing my best to be there for my aging folks. I often feel guilty when I leave their home to go back to my home and then cry on the way home. Ps Brene Brown is awesome, I have some of her books.
I feel you! It is so difficult and tears are inevitable! Your job is very demanding and taking care of your folks is hard. Remember to take care of yourself in the little time that you have left. It is a necessity. Thank you for commenting and watching.
Hi Kimann I hope you know we are All loving how you are and love how you explain everything and do the Camper bit I'm just like you I've gotta have Nature to renew my soul as well
Love that!
Thank you for sharing your journey. I am learning so much from your perspective and story. You are appreciated!
I appreciate you too and that makes me happy to hear you say that. I am sending love.
Words of wisdom to live by, thanks Kim!
Thank you.
Thank you!🙏🏻 Sending you love from the bottom of my heart.❤️
Thank you so much! I can feel it! Sending love to you! The Beatles got it right -"All You Need Is Love"!
Thank you for these words, Kim.❤
Thank you for watching! It was a difficult one to make!
I went through the same situation as you over 2 years ago. I moved back to my parents to help them.. and help my Dad to pass per his wishes. I still struggle with incredible guilt, and anger. Anger because I sacrificed my mental health by moving back to them. I lost a big part of myself in those 2 years. My Dad passed 9/18/2022, 4 days after his 94th birthday. My Mom is still in the house (the one I grew up in.. I even stayed in my own bedroom), and I left a week after his death to go back to work in a hospital (I am a Psych NP) for a short term gig. I needed to leave, to get back to work (which I love) in order to curb my feelings. I am still struggling, with my intrusive emotions and apparently not allowing to feel (forgive). I have blocked out how to feel happy. I definitely do not enjoy much anymore. I deprive myself of the things that I normallly like to do. I have become distant and really don't reach out to anyone. My oldest son does, but I push him aside as well. I do not like this about me.. and now all I think about is surviving one day to the next. I work a super high stress job and I think I do this to avoid my self. The 90 second rule makes sense, and I know I have stifled my feelings and your story has helped me to realize this. Thank you :)
Thank you so much for sharing! Life is always challenging, and, ironically, everyone goes through "the dark night of the soul" from time to time, and we hide it from each other. We distract and push it down, and it just lingers. It's hard to feel it because when it comes up a lot of other shiitake will arise, and it's scary, but the only way to the other side is through. I am happy that my story has helped you. That is my inspiration for exposing my life. You can get to the other side of the swamp! I am sending you love and positive vibes!
TY!!!!!!
Thank you !
You are so loved 🥰, I would love to see you live stream!! Your emotions and genuineness are so raw and real. You have no agenda, which is almost unheard of on this platform. I appreciate you!😊
Ahh! That is so nice! Thank you. If I livestream we might be the only two on there but that is ok!
You do a great job of balancing your time with your parents and also taking care of your own mental health. You are a strong woman ❤
I appreciate your encouragement!
Totally understand where your at. I’m also the only child to be there for my aging mom. I often have that inner battle of wanting to take care of my self and needs but also take care and be there for my mom. You will need to take some time for yourself through this.
Thank you for sharing that. It isn't easy, and I am glad that there are kind people like you that feel the same way. It is a comfort.
It's ok to feel that way!
Thank you. I feel guilty sometimes.
Beautiful and helpful sharing. Thank you so much.
Thank you!
I understand what you are going through. I took care of both of my parents at home until they passed away. Now I would like to get a class b van and do some exploring.
Please look into the EES Healing Centers. They might help your parents if they are open to trying something new. As always, I wish you well on your journey.
I'll look into EES. Thanks for the suggestion. Being a caregiver is difficult and you did it for both parents. Exploring in your van would be fantastic!
love yah girl!!
Thank you!
Be there with parents or close by. .I lost my Dad when I was 31 ..a brother.. sister.. nephew..mom passed 2yrs ago .. I'm only 52. Been regretting alot but you can live your life just close as you can !
Thank you for sharing that. Regret is hard and so is forgiveness.
Hi Kimann, Since you sound like you want to be there for your parents then the decision is made. Then it too decide what you enjoy and make it work for your happy times. What I am trying to say is make your decision and move on with life. Life goes on and you do right now are free to make decisions or luck I call it. As sometimes we don't. We don't control life but we can decide what is best then make the choice and move on. I rather you be brain storming of your next step versus trying to make sense of it. At the end it doing what you think is right and making hard choices if you have to. This time you can as most the time in history we didn't have the luxury. What is the term nowadays. Living a interdependent life when really we live a dependent life on what life throws at us. All the time I have to remind myself I am not in control but make lucky guesses on what I should do by brainstorming.
Thank you. Your words make so much sense! I appreciate you!
You are a genuine, kind, person who wears here heart on your sleeve, definitely no slug lol.
I appreciate that! LOL!
You’ll be okay. It works itself out.
I believe that too! Thank you.
Good video!!)) I live in West Virginia and I was in Germany about 2 year’s in the Military.😊
Very nice! My son is at Ramstein AFB. This is my first time visiting him. I am so excited!
You're doing a wonderful job at being a fabulous, authentic person. I hope one day our paths meet, and we could visit. I'm in FL too. I aspire to travel in an RV. So many of the things you say, I'm like, my therapist says that too! Lol. Chin up, you rock!
Thank you so much! Maybe we will meet up someday!
I understand your deal. Take short trips in your 13:05 camper. Break it up. There is a reason for every season . And usually not the reason we think. Always looking forward to your videos and your pups. God bless and know you have come along way baby and more to go. Love to see the swiss alps
Thanks for the tips and encouragement! I appreciate your kind words!
Hi Kimman 🙃intense and emotional ! I really enjoyed this video. It’s good to get those emotions out. I watched a similar video where the message was to expel the energy by doing a sprint or doing push-ups or pull ups to exhaustion to get that pent up energy out of your body ! The fight or flight is real and natural ! Like you spoke about the ancestral self which the other individual did as well ! Cool 😉 sunshine first thing when you wake up is key! Maybe put on the headphones and put on a podcast or soothing music to get away from city noise! Your parents need you ! Yes, exciting news about Europe! A live from the Swiss Alps ! I’m there ! You have a great life and your channel is growing ! Take care ! Hugs to you and doggies!Cheers from Ontario Canada 🇨🇦
Thanks for the advice!. I'm going to try it! I'll try the scary live too! 😨
I can so relate to you! I’m an only child and I am also 58, I am one who does not like crowds, cities and being around a lot of people for a very long time. I get almost a panic attack. I have to be in nature where I can hear the wind through the trees and the birds and insects sing. But, I also took care of my Mom, she was very independent at 83 but learned of a 99% blockage on her widow maker, she had no choice but to try and repair it, after surgery she lasted a week with really good vitals, but ended up having a cardiac rupture and passed the day before Mother’s Day 2022 😢 and the day she would have been extubated. At our age, we were ingrained to take care of our parents, and that is what we do to the best of our ability. I am now traveling with my spouse and one dog in a TT and working remotely. It’s not selfish to feel
The way you do, we have to take care of our mental health and we cannot stop living for ourselves, our parents have lived full lives and we can devote time to them when we are able, but we should never feel guilty for doing the best we can, we have to find stability and balance and live our life. So, take a deep breath and realize that you are giving your best and do what makes you feel good, take care of you! Enjoy your international travels, stay safe and God bless. ❤
Thank you so much! Your words brought tears to my eyes! Wonderful advice from someone who lived it!
So nice to see you again 🌵
Thank you, Robert.
There she is. I knew she would come out. You Are not alone.. I'm looking forward to what you have to share
Thank you. It is so wonderful reading that!
Sorry to hear of your emotional conflict.
Thanks, John! It's just life. There are different periods in life, and some are harder than others. I hope you are doing fantastic!
If you can just take a couple of days or so in nature near by. You’ll still be close enough in case they need you. You do need to take care of yourself before you can take care of others. Give yourself the time to love yourself. It’s ok 💜🌸🌺🌻💐
Thank you. I like your suggestion!
Hi Kimann - your being a great daughter being there for your elderly parents. Nice your going to Europe. Will you be bringing your doggies with you? Do your kids live in Germany and France? 😊
The doggies are staying in Oklahoma with my cousin. My son lives in Germany and my daughter is just visiting France. I am excited!
Hi sweetheart. I am really sorry to hear about your mum‘s cancer. I hope she can beat it. So I will be sending blessings to her via you. I hear what you are saying about being wanting to travel and not staying in one place for too long and how you feel guilty about it but you shouldn’t feel guilty because I don’t think your parents would want you to feel that way. As for the glasses, believe me I know the feeling. I’m wearing mine right now just to be able to type and read what I’m typing. LOL. Getting older is not for the weak. LOL. I hope all goes well for you and as I always say, when you do get back to travelling, please take it easy and stay safe. Sending you blessings from across the pond.
Thank you so much. That is so kind of you! My mom is still functioning. Other family members are with her now. I will have to go back to Florida to help them soon. It isn't easy, but I have accepted that. I am sending blessings back to you!
@@KimannChessa that is fantastic to hear about your mum. Thank you for those kind words. Stay safe out there please.
Family first
You are right.
Beautiful smile
Thank you!
Yes the best part of living like that is changing locations . Maybe you can find some places on the outskirts close to your parents . Be safe God Bless ! John 14:9 KJV Bible and Jeremiah 17 7-8 to live Blessed and to weather ALL storms like a tree with its roots in a spring !!!
That's the plan!
Take care of your parents so you will have no regrets. Take small trips and come back to them.
Exactly what I was going to say...yes mini trips GA SC Alabama all close enough for 4 day trips. So sorry I totally understand your feelings try the mini trips......
Thank you for your advice. I am going to try that.
@KimannChessa Never feel down or like "well that's that" ....there is always another Way!!! You Go Girl!
Actually that's a great idea. Here in San Diego there's campgrounds everywhere. Many within an hour.
First of all its not easy being a care giver Kim its xtra hard if its your parents what works for someone else doesnt mean it will work for someone else and you cant listen to outside people do whats best for you
I appreciate that. You are right!
I hope by opening up helped you. Maybe you can set up some sort of a commute where you get outside the city and go back and forth for visits, and be never really far in the event of an emergency. Now i don't know Florida so i don't know if that's a possibility. I know the feeling you're in , I'm in a similar situation, I'm where i need to be but i fear ill never get to where i need to be, i still don't know where that is lol. Yes we definitely feel emotions lol.
Thank you for you kind suggestion. I am in a campground 15 minutes from my parents. I would love to be out West but this is where I need to be. It is comforting to know that you are in a similar situation. It is just part of life. When my brother visits my parents for a few weeks, I can travel. Also, my daughter is having a baby and I will definitely go to Nevada when she is due. Emotions are just part of life. You have to allow them to pass through you.
Congrats on becoming a grandma, a very young looking one . Take care and keep the videos coming
Kim...everything gonna be alright. Your a strong person, take it day by day. Hope your not near the hurricane, stay safe.
I appreciate that! I drove away from the hurricane and my brother is with my parents. Thank you.
I appreciate that! I drove away from the hurricane and my brother is with my parents. Thank you.
Can u make where u r ur home base for now & just take some short trips to get away & take a break from ur parents & the stress of it? You have to take care of u too❣️ 🙏🤗🥰❤️
That's a good plan. I will try! Thank you.
I would totally go find some other campgrounds to venture in while you are in Florida... And keep on going on those hikes!
It sounds like you're near future you're going to be having a blast and yes I absolutely think you should go live when you get to the destination you were talking about what was it ...Sweden ? I already forgot haha! Good God I feel like Dory the blue little fish in finding Nemo sometimes with my memory what the heck...🤪
Hey don't feel guilty.. you are human.. nature should be everybody's mantra there's no doubt about it..
Hang in there and just get outside and go find some different campgrounds or boondock somewhere you've never been before. It will be alright 😁💕🌼✌️
Sweden - Switzerland - They are both gorgeous countries with breathtaking views! You are all right! I love Dora! Thank you for your comforting words. I appreciate you saying that you would be on a future live! I will not be alone with the crickets! Yay!
I’m so proud of you. You are right, we are our own best friend. I work on being my own best friend and showing myself grace everyday. I can’t wait until I master it! 🙏🏽🤍
I am happy that you do that for yourself! Everything is practice and mastery is an illusion. It keeps life interesting! That's for sure!
Ugh, yeah. I think you’re experiencing what a lot of women go through in their 60s (to be honest, if we’re lucky). It’s a gift to still have our parents but it is a time of great potential independence for us. It’s really just a new balancing act.
Thank you for that! You are right!
Would travelling on weekends help you manage the working week near your parents?
It probably would. Thank you for that suggestion.
I would like to meet you you person, give you a big hug and tell you everything will be alright! I think you are a beautiful women. You are just younger than me. I am 57. You seem to get anxiety attacks. You can be yourself, I love that!
Hi Todd. I am older than you. I will be 59 at the end of September. I am practicing constructive ways to deal with anxiety. Thank you for your kind words.
Alright your favorite poster is back. 😉
What I am going to tell you, applies to me as well. It's not about you, it's not about your comfort blanky, those damn dogs, it's not about me.
What it's about is there are people and in this case your parents that need you. Quit looking at yourself and your problems you have. Be there for them. They won't be here much longer. If their minds are fresh by all means don't leave them to deal with all this alone.
Thank God for your health, and you are a good looking lady, you're smart, and you have a lot of things going for you.
You seem to get along with people. Perhaps they can use your friendship. Be strong. Be brave. Be content. If you can, be happy.
Do you have old friends to talk to? Not about you but friends to share, to laugh with, to do things together?
Maybe watch a funny show?
Sometimes you have to put things in the rear view mirror as you drive away and those problems are left behind or you will lose your sanity.
Ok. You do have some words of wisdom there. Thank you. I didn't like the damn dogs. There are still my family. 😁
@@KimannChessa I'll be honest I didn't think you wanted me around anymore so I unsubscribed. If you want me around again then let me know and I'll subscribe again.
I wasn't happy that you got a tick bite. As humans we discount the fact that we do get parasites and they are the cause of most of the sickness in our bodies. HCQ has quite an effect on them.
This will make you happy. I found a dog in here, in fact right behind me that I like. It's a small ugly bull type of dog but it literally looks like a mob crime boss. Just put a black hat, dark glasses on him and a cigar in its mouth and it's a gangster. It is actually mellow. Good night girl.
If you are taking the dogs please double check all borders you'll cross for weird regulations. I don't recall the vlogger but they nearly had their dog seized and euthanized over a missed regulation. Have a wonderful trip. Everything is going to be alright. Hugs
Thanks for the advice. My cousin is watching the dogs for me. It seems like it would be difficult to take them overseas. That sounds like a terrible ordeal!
Hey beautiful how are you im sorry to hear this about your mom
Thank you. We are all doing well. I hope you are too!
@@KimannChessa im doing ok im about to loose my mom in a couple of days dont know what im going to do im broken hearted
My heart goes out to you during this difficult time. You are in my thoughts and prayers. That is so hard.
@@KimannChessa yes it is hard thank you for the prayers
Of course.
not much time left for you; your parents; and dogs to be getting to somewhere safe before hurricane starts going thru Florida. Time to leave is now.
Yes. I am packing up and leaving now! My brother is in Florida and staying with my parents. They should be fine where they are. I always move the camper somewhere safe out of Florida.
I thought you were a traveling OR nurse. Seems like you're no longer working, just wondering if I missed an update video?
I am still a nurse but I am trying not to have to go back. I was burned out.
Lose the guilt. Hire some part time help that you can scale up. You are not helping anyone by hanging around.
Thank you.
Don't know what the 13:05 is about. Lol
😆 Lol!