Felt this. From 18-24, i had a rough go at life. I was drinking heavily and was letting my regrets and failures drive my life. Then one day i woke the fuck up and havent looked back, now im going to be graduating college and played college basketball on a winning program for 3 years at an older age. Im blessed beyond belief
@@Bayer04lev went back at 25, grinded community college for 1 year and got accepted to a university. Best decision ive made in my entire life. Wasnt easy by any means though. Keep grindin' homie!! Believe in yourself, you all you got 💪💪💪💪
@@riptaye yes if your good enough and have a good attitude, and coachable. Colleges need older players in the locker room, these young people dont have that dog in em
I’ve found, When I just can’t get past a failure, when I get stuck in that loop, I’m taking myself too seriously. At the bottom, It’s an ego block. Humbling myself and remembering that I’m here to learn and grow, then getting back to work, is the remedy
I wasted too much of my life because of ruminating and regrets. Joe's advice is great, need to learn and move on. Took me 41 years to learn it but better late than never.
I'm right there with you brother I spent probably 50 of my 62 years on this Earth regretting stuff worrying about the what if and if I should have or would have or could have and took me years to figure out once it's gone it's gone regret will destroy you you do it you own up to it and you go on responsibility and accountability and you won't have no regrets
The reason Joe is popular is not only because he’s funny, and smart and charismatic - it’s also because he’s humble and honest which is invaluable in today’s society.
Yeah you know what it’s describing here. It’s lifes stream and navigating down it. Joe seems to navigate through it so easily.. while others.. there hitting the sides of the stream, falling out the boat etc. Joe just makes life so easy, and it truly can be but for some reason a lot of us just can’t seem to find that easy stream.
@@hook8535 I mean he doesn’t have to confront mistakes or hardships ever which is probably why it’s so easy. He’s at the point where he doesn’t have to do anything he doesn’t want to, and no matter what he says or does there isn’t really a downside because he will still get the fan support from some people. He really can’t lose no matter what he does because some group of people will always validate him and therefore he can’t messup.
Brah, been watching joe rogan since he was a nobody. When I say what I say I mean it when he was a nothing. Already had the mentality and breakdown of what was what on point. It’s the come up and the beginning is the only important parts to learn from joe. Not what he is and what he gets away with now.
Invaluable or Exceedingly Rare? Not many are impressed in today’s new USA with the qualities of high standards of integrity, ethics, and humility. Stefan C L USAF ‘78-‘01
The fact you regret bad choices shows your moral compass points in the right direction. Focus on that inherent desire within you to be better, not the mistakes. You are good!
2:11 bro.. i cried. when you realise "im alright" like that feeling that you know it's ACTUALLY gonna be fine, it's like a fucking ton off your shoulders
I'm 24 years old. I've been living in regret for most of the years after my teen age. dwelling on my past mistakes and not being able to do anything. I'm not wasting any more moments on it. I'm going to win and that's what matters.
Hey man I’m 23 and I wish you the best. I go through the same thing. Dwelling on the past (high school and college mostly) and the missed opportunities of networking and dating.
@@fiat_ow7876dude yeah, i’ve fumbled a lot of pretty girls on dates & a bunch of networking opportunities, job opportunities just cause i was not confident in myself, not social enough, it sucks dude but dwelling on it makes it worse, i’m just glad i’m finally starting to realize it
This is very true. 100% agree with Joe. Here is a tip: when you start thinking about these “failures” and start feeling down just remember that you’re probably the only person thinking about that failure over and over. The other parties involved have probably moved on.
My whole life , I had a problem with timing and procrastination. My therapist taught me: try to make every minute of everyday a major accomplishment. And wow, how my life has changed.
this is the mindset I am stuck in. I can't get over my past mistakes and the ways in which I've wronged people. and this little clip alone is a nice boost to my confidence. doesn't help in all ways, but it does give me the drive to forgive myself.
@@NASkeywest I just wronged someone recently and I am hoping she forgives me after my many apologies, but I think the best thing for me now is to stop replaying that particular scene over and over again, accept the situation, learn from it and move on. Sometimes that's all we can do, there is nothing else you can do.
Ive warmed to theo. I sort of didnt pay him much attention for years. Hes not just another comic, hes a special guy. Funny, caring and introspective. A genuine good dude
Always? I think people get too wrapped up in the notion that their life is a novel or something, with a three-act structure and redemptive arcs, etc. The fact is, life is very very random because the universe is that way. It's easy for successful people, especially people like Joe Rogan, who could've easily led a very mediocre life (wasn't academically inclined, went into a field like comedy where 0.1% or less succeed, etc.), to attribute their success to some method(s). What happens in their lives are very very small sample sizes in the realm of what is possible in life.
@@bojackkatarn -random yes, personal responsibility still applicable in the randomness. $$$ and society perceived notion of success, are but a small portion of real personal success. We all have the decision to be personally effective and positive people. We all have that ability in us. That is the relevance in this entropy we experience. We have effect brought by our efforts. Accepting being just a victim of chance denigrates us all.
My 16 year old asked me the other day who was my biggest regret in dating? I stopped to think & said "I don't regret dating anyone. Because they all taught me something that was important to get me here to this very moment. So I wouldn't take any of them back"
How fitting is this. I've been feeling down because of regret and thought of searching "joe rogan talks about regret". And then the first clip that pops up was this uploaded just 10 minutes ago.
Same brother. Not lately but definitely a lot in the not so distant past. You beat yourself up, put yourself down, talk to yourself in your head and tell yourself what a POS you are. No. We're all human. We all make mistakes. That's life. You can't learn and improve if you haven't experienced the lesson. We can't live in the past thinking about our mistakes which we we can't change, we have to focus on the future which we can change and make better choices for a better tomorrow. Just remember, nothing stays the same. Things won't always be this way. You got this man! Have a blessed day!
Man, looking back with regret is a path to nowhere and self-deprecation. Mistakes made and how we react to them, maybe more than successes had, define who are. The culmination of our past experiences- good and bad, brings us to where we are today and what we do today is the only f@chin’ thing that matters to anyone. ✌️
Sometimes you just have to accept that you failed or you made a mistake you can’t fix. Sadly, sometimes your life would have been better if you did something differently but it’s done. You can’t go back. You’ll hurt yourself if you dwell on it.
Whoever's reading this, i pray that whatever you're going through gets better and whatever you're struggling with or worrying about is going to be fine and that everyone has a fantastic day! Amen
Sometimes I’ll find myself stuck in 2016 when my brother died. I just keep thinking “I could have said xyz” “we could have talked about xyz” “we could have done xyz again before it was too late” I know he wouldn’t want me stuck in 2016 and for me to move on but this sucks and I’m not supposed to be here without him. He’s supposed to be here so we could watch each other grow up and make it through life together. I love you and I miss you so damn much and I hope one day maybe we can see each other again
It's hard to get over certain mistakes with people when you know you'll never have an opportunity like the one you had and messed it up for a silly reason, while you may learn a lesson you can't get that moment back..still makes me sick to my stomach sometimes to think about
Yeah idk how to get over some things people say you learn from your mistakes but I never seem to learn and improve. Looking back there’s too many moments you would change until you just start wishing for a completely different life or no life at all
I feel your pain brother my girlfriend broke up with me recently, we were both deep in love and stuff but after I got blackout drunk at her brothers wedding I did some unforgivable things , some many things I wish I could change but I feel joe hits the nail on the head here with his advice
@@harrytowers1076A lot of times there's not much to learn. A lot of times you just don't learn and get stuck in a downward spiral and it can last years. A lot of times even if you learn the trauma you carry on will never let you be the same. A lot of times you just become a total trainwreck and at a younger age than you might think. Consider yourself lucky if you get your silver lining.
I’m 27 and a severe alcoholic. I’ve lost jobs, cars, friends, girlfriends all due to alcoholism. It’s sad living with that regret because I’ve done so much unforgivable things to people I love while under the influence. But I know if I was sober, I would’ve never hurt them so much. Still madly in love with my girlfriend but she’s been gone for months and isn’t coming back. Heard she’s talking to someone else. Life is hard man, but this go around I really hope I can turn my life to a positive direction because all I want to do is be happy man. And stop hating myself.
exactly man. im 16 and made many mistakes that hurt my girlfriend and she decided to leave me a month ago. i was changing honestly but she was tired, together for over a year and now shes talking to someone she met barely before she dumped me. sucks because she gave me false hope and lied, found out for myself and i saw them holding hands in person. i feel so much guilt because i know we cant get back together. i believe that we can both be better people and change for ourselves but to also attract better opportunities. its hell right now, but feeling guilt and regret shows that we are human. all we can both do now is learn and move on, itll take a while but should be worth it
I was on the same boat brother I was cheated on when I was 23 and for 3 years I was binge drinking everyday until I was broke and had to wait for next paycheck. During all that I hurt my parents and my brother with all the stuff I was doing while being hella drunk. And to top it off I just got a DUI about 9 months ago. And every time I would hurt them with my actions or even verbally I would go home hurting to drink more and forget about what I’ve done to them. Been sober ever since the DUI and my relationship is better with my family. I’m not going to apologize to them what I am going to do is be a better son and brother through action. Action speak louder than words
You can't change the past but you can replace it with the future. You can balance out your bad past with a good present, the present becomes the past and the bad starts to look smaller in comparison to the good. Starting and keeping going is the hardest part, but it's worth it when you look back and see the good progress you've made
I have been caught in the cycle of ruminating on my failures for my entire life. Joe said it well, failure is incredibly hard to get over and some people never do. I've blundered immensely with relationships, and now I find it near impossible to have any confidence that I will do it right the next time. But I know that I can. I know that I have value, and even if I don't recognize it fully yet, knowing that other people do is enough to build on. Going to keep "lying" to myself until it becomes true. That seems to be the only thing to do. Good luck out there fellas
I think what is often mistaken about regret is not that people regret things they did or didnt do but they regret the life they think they should be leading now but aren’t because they believe that there is something intrinsically wrong with them. This is not a regret about their actual life but about an idealised image of a life they built at an early age, often to escape a painful childhood. Clinging to this ideal, which was an escapism for them, makes them feel that their actual life, good or bad is not significant until their ideal life arrives. This type of regret requires a letting go of the ideal, by understanding why it was built in childhood. I think Theo is not present because of his unhappy childhood and his ‘regret’ is in his inability to reconcile this
It's so easy to say this shit when you're rich. To look back at the hardships of life as a positive. Regret haunts , especially if it has nothing to compete with.
Getting around people that are doing what you aspire to is one of the best ways to continually pull yourself forward out of failure. They teach you what's possible and help you set new standards for what you believe you can become.
i have a feeling, theo, that you don’t trust yourself enough. i feel like when you get around people like Joe & Jocko who appear so macho and together that you pick their mind on these things because you think they have it more figured out than you. But you probably already know what he’s saying - with any negative emotion all you can do is accept it and move forward. You don’t ignore it or dismiss it, you feel it, you accept that it’s occurring for you, but then you let it go. I understand regret. For a while I grappled with regret over leaving my ex boyfriend, but in truth i know our relationship wasn’t right & im just feeling regret because i’m lonely (4 years later). I regretted certain ways I acted around people when I had lower self esteem, how i wish they could see me now. But with regret, all you can do is choose to be present. We can never go back. Don’t have a scarcity mindset that convinces you you’ve had all the great moments - that’s what causes regret. The greatest of the great is yet to come..
that’s funny bc I’ve been doing the same thing I broke with my gf and have been regretting it and I tried to apologize and make things right but I don’t know if it’s gonna work out and I’m stuck on whether I try to fix it or move on and find other ppl and other things. I hope I don’t hold onto this for four years bc it’s honestly a lot and idk kinda just in limbo wondering what to do. Hoping for something that prolly won’t happen if I’m being entirely honest with myself.
That support system is a big thing. It helps you handle your failures much better than if you don't have one. It really can harm your self esteem & confidence
I would say the best successes I’ve had were after a big failure. Knowing I don’t wanna be in that place or have my back against the wall is where I shined the most.
Joe is a true student of Musashi sensei. Most people don't realize how heavily his philosophy is based on his teachings. Honestly I love that he has brought this perspective to so many people. Beautiful stuff man.
Resonated like fuck with this. I got took advantage of in high school by a lot of other guys because of how vulnerable and naive I was. I was a high school idiot and as a result it crushed my self esteem and aspirations for the future. I’m 23 and it still affects me especially when it comes to engaging with girls in any way. Always tell myself to stop being a bitch, stop dwelling on the past and move on but it’s still so hard on me, like joe said that emotional sting just comes right back as if I was right back in school.
I’m 31 years old, I have been married to my wife for 6 years and we have a 2 year old son. They are my world and they are the only thing that has kept me going lately. I am constantly paranoid and anxious. I have been constantly thinking that people are out to get me, that I will lose my family and my life will be ruined. The feelings of not deserving to be happy have always been with me and I think my family deserves a lot better than me. I have had stretches where I have been healthy but the paranoia always comes back and this time it has taken its largest toll yet. I just want to come out the other side and enjoy my life with my wife and son. I appreciate all the positivity here, it’s encouraging and I wish the best to everyone dealing with similar thoughts and feelings that I deal with.
I'm convinced that regret is only powerful when we know we can't prevent the same thing from happening again. We know we didn't learn the lesson, so it keeps coming back up till we figure it out and change somehow.
I’m dealing with this. I have a lot of regret over mistakes I’ve made and things I’ve done wrong. Times I’ve let people down. I feel reborn after having a child and just recently getting married. I find myself now so fearful I’ll mess this up. I doubt my ability to be able to move forward in a way that will make me successful. I guess I just don’t believe in myself because of my mess ups. Joes right… it all taught me a-lot. All you can do is move forward and take what you’ve learned.
I think there are mistakes that are harder to learn from and rationalize as a part of the journey with enough upside to focus on. Things like inaction and doing things when you know better already, are like a poison and baggage to carry forward in your life. At that point it’s literally only about letting the past be the past and changing what is in your power. I advise people that when you make a decision, it’s not just about the outcome of the thing itself - what you’ll get or what you’ll learn if it turns out differently from expected, but how it will shape you going forward. What kind of inertia do you create with your habits and decisions?
It took me 10 years to get over a life changing mistake. Some family members were there for me, some walked away. Same thing with most of my “friends.” With the help of a lifelong friend and the saving grace of Jesus, I got through it. Today I’m a blessed man with a wonderful wife. I’m grateful to those who stood by me and for my Lord and Savior.
I’m about to be 26 and I feel like I’ve fucked up enough that I haven’t really started living. I’m just now starting to realize I’ve got to grind and just focus on myself for everything else to fall in place
I've had serious failures as I'm sure we all have. Getting over them is easier said than done and I've spent years not getting over past mistakes. Word to the wise: Start accomplishing very small goals, and then move to bigger goals. Maybe today that goal is to make your bed, take a shower, cut the grass. If you plan to do those things, and then you actually do them, you will have a sense of accomplishment and that will build confidence in yourself. Start small and move on. Maybe down the road it's clean your room, then maybe get in shape, then practice the art/instrument you haven't done in a while etc.etc. Small, even tiny goals accomplished will build. It's ok to feel worthless and hopeless, because we've all been there. But life isn't over and it CAN get better. Little goals are the key to success and happiness.
People like Rogan, Goggins etc. who says that is important to suffer, to fail, this is good for who is succesful in life, that's is not good for who is always suffering, has none happiness in some way
I lost a girl from my junior highschool, i loved her since i first met her but i didn't realize that i loved her, long story short we went to different school and damnn i miss her so much, i think she is the most perfect girl i've ever know, i feelin like loser, i hope i can meet her in the future.,
you two together is pure gold. much love, Theo! 👊✨ ps your animated story telling Joe about partying by yourself, getting locked out of your place & almost burning it to the ground still makes me laugh. best. story. ever 😂
I was too needy with a girl that I liked a lot, and she ended up blocking me on social media… I feel so ashamed of myself, feel guilt and regret, like a fucking idiot
My whole life my Dad encouraged me to be a winner, and that losing and failure should never be accepted. Its screwed me up big time, because even something like approaching women I simply cannot do. The probability of being rejected and being a 'failure' and 'loser' in that moment - my brain cannot accept this. Study and preparation can guarantee success in school and work. There is no guarantee in picking up women.
im almost 21 and I regret my degree and choosing other peoples ideas of success instead my own. The application date is closed now so I cannot apply until I am 22. This eats away at me every single day. Sometimes times I genuinely feel like I’ve ruined my life. I don’t know how to realign and gain back my power, my control without feeling like a failure and like everything is already too late.
Wow ! :) I sooo needed to hear this today , love you and Joe Rogan . ❤️❤️❤️ Podcasts like this, remind me why even on my worst days - I gotta keep keep’n on ! So keep doing what you’d doing, your the best & always makes me smile listening !
Living in the past is depression, living in the future is anxiety.. big part of mental health is staying present
one of the realest things i've read. thank you
Thank you
Very true, great comment
Well said, my friend
how do you stay present though?
Joe is like the big brother Theo never had but always wanted.
Theo treats everyone like a big brother.. ❤️
No sane person would want Rogan as a family member LMAO
I completely agree, I was just talking about that not too long ago
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I was thinkin that too like two half brothers of a single mother off tinder.
Self sabotage is a hell of a thing. The low expectations for fear of failure thing was a bar it really do be like that.
Jesus Loves you ❤️
A bar? Lol
@@jjvs9 like a rap bar
that part really hit for me
@@NoorLovezYouh right in the feels
Felt this. From 18-24, i had a rough go at life. I was drinking heavily and was letting my regrets and failures drive my life. Then one day i woke the fuck up and havent looked back, now im going to be graduating college and played college basketball on a winning program for 3 years at an older age. Im blessed beyond belief
Fuck yeah! Good for you, this was inspiring thank you for sharing
When did you go back to college, i am at 27 and at the same time you were at 24
@@Bayer04lev went back at 25, grinded community college for 1 year and got accepted to a university. Best decision ive made in my entire life. Wasnt easy by any means though. Keep grindin' homie!! Believe in yourself, you all you got 💪💪💪💪
@@riptaye yes if your good enough and have a good attitude, and coachable. Colleges need older players in the locker room, these young people dont have that dog in em
@@riptaye it takes one summer to get back, believe in yourself. I was 300lbs an fat. I believe in you
I’ve found, When I just can’t get past a failure, when I get stuck in that loop, I’m taking myself too seriously. At the bottom, It’s an ego block. Humbling myself and remembering that I’m here to learn and grow, then getting back to work, is the remedy
wise words
If you made mistakes that have left you 500k in debt is that an ego block?
@@nomnomnommy2955 That no ego block! That’s terrible.
Truth my brother
Yup ego tripping
I wasted too much of my life because of ruminating and regrets. Joe's advice is great, need to learn and move on. Took me 41 years to learn it but better late than never.
im 44 and still trying to get over regret and lost time.
Better late than never You got that right! I see you, good job brother!
Wish I was called Bruce
I'm right there with you brother I spent probably 50 of my 62 years on this Earth regretting stuff worrying about the what if and if I should have or would have or could have and took me years to figure out once it's gone it's gone regret will destroy you you do it you own up to it and you go on responsibility and accountability and you won't have no regrets
It doesn’t matter how you started, or how it’s been, it matters how you finish man. You got this
The reason Joe is popular is not only because he’s funny, and smart and charismatic - it’s also because he’s humble and honest which is invaluable in today’s society.
Yeah you know what it’s describing here. It’s lifes stream and navigating down it. Joe seems to navigate through it so easily.. while others.. there hitting the sides of the stream, falling out the boat etc. Joe just makes life so easy, and it truly can be but for some reason a lot of us just can’t seem to find that easy stream.
@@hook8535 I mean he doesn’t have to confront mistakes or hardships ever which is probably why it’s so easy. He’s at the point where he doesn’t have to do anything he doesn’t want to, and no matter what he says or does there isn’t really a downside because he will still get the fan support from some people. He really can’t lose no matter what he does because some group of people will always validate him and therefore he can’t messup.
Brah, been watching joe rogan since he was a nobody. When I say what I say I mean it when he was a nothing. Already had the mentality and breakdown of what was what on point. It’s the come up and the beginning is the only important parts to learn from joe. Not what he is and what he gets away with now.
@@hook8535 tru
Invaluable or Exceedingly Rare? Not many are impressed in today’s new USA with the qualities of high standards of integrity, ethics, and humility.
Stefan C L
USAF ‘78-‘01
The fact you regret bad choices shows your moral compass points in the right direction. Focus on that inherent desire within you to be better, not the mistakes. You are good!
“And learn how not to do stupid things”
Immediately shoves microphone in his eye 0:26
😂
🤣🤣🤣 LMAO
Lmao i thought it was gonna hit his nose 🤣🤣🤣
2:11 bro.. i cried. when you realise "im alright" like that feeling that you know it's ACTUALLY gonna be fine, it's like a fucking ton off your shoulders
Nah fr. He has a way of just knowing how to talk man it’s amazing.
I'm 24 years old. I've been living in regret for most of the years after my teen age. dwelling on my past mistakes and not being able to do anything. I'm not wasting any more moments on it. I'm going to win and that's what matters.
Hey man I’m 23 and I wish you the best. I go through the same thing. Dwelling on the past (high school and college mostly) and the missed opportunities of networking and dating.
All the best man Im also of the same age going through same
@@fiat_ow7876dude yeah, i’ve fumbled a lot of pretty girls on dates & a bunch of networking opportunities, job opportunities just cause i was not confident in myself, not social enough, it sucks dude but dwelling on it makes it worse, i’m just glad i’m finally starting to realize it
I wish you the best. May we all strive to be the best version of ourselves always
Same here man 23 yo keep ruminating about what ifs and it prolongs 16 - 21
This is very true. 100% agree with Joe. Here is a tip: when you start thinking about these “failures” and start feeling down just remember that you’re probably the only person thinking about that failure over and over. The other parties involved have probably moved on.
That’s true
My whole life , I had a problem with timing and procrastination. My therapist taught me: try to make every minute of everyday a major accomplishment. And wow, how my life has changed.
Sounds miserable..
Absolutely agree with the first comment.. Every minute of every day? Sounds fucking exhausting! Sorry
Horrible advice
1:27 "People sort of define themselves by the worst moments that they've ever had"
this is the mindset I am stuck in. I can't get over my past mistakes and the ways in which I've wronged people. and this little clip alone is a nice boost to my confidence. doesn't help in all ways, but it does give me the drive to forgive myself.
If you have wronged people, maybe try apologizing to them sincerely. Doesn’t matter if they forgive or not, but you can move on.
@@NASkeywest I just wronged someone recently and I am hoping she forgives me after my many apologies, but I think the best thing for me now is to stop replaying that particular scene over and over again, accept the situation, learn from it and move on. Sometimes that's all we can do, there is nothing else you can do.
@@bigbadwolf4075 why did you cheat on her? Hope it was worth it.
Ive warmed to theo. I sort of didnt pay him much attention for years. Hes not just another comic, hes a special guy. Funny, caring and introspective. A genuine good dude
There’s always a redemptive moment available to us all. Own your mistakes and come correct on them. Accountability and responsibility
Always? I think people get too wrapped up in the notion that their life is a novel or something, with a three-act structure and redemptive arcs, etc. The fact is, life is very very random because the universe is that way. It's easy for successful people, especially people like Joe Rogan, who could've easily led a very mediocre life (wasn't academically inclined, went into a field like comedy where 0.1% or less succeed, etc.), to attribute their success to some method(s). What happens in their lives are very very small sample sizes in the realm of what is possible in life.
@@bojackkatarn -random yes, personal responsibility still applicable in the randomness. $$$ and society perceived notion of success, are but a small portion of real personal success. We all have the decision to be personally effective and positive people. We all have that ability in us. That is the relevance in this entropy we experience. We have effect brought by our efforts. Accepting being just a victim of chance denigrates us all.
My 16 year old asked me the other day who was my biggest regret in dating? I stopped to think & said "I don't regret dating anyone. Because they all taught me something that was important to get me here to this very moment. So I wouldn't take any of them back"
How fitting is this. I've been feeling down because of regret and thought of searching "joe rogan talks about regret". And then the first clip that pops up was this uploaded just 10 minutes ago.
I've been feeling down too for the same reasons, we'll get through this. Good luck friend 🍀
Synchronicity ma dude
Imagine if playboicarti was full mexican and a youtuber.. well i smoke weed on my TH-cam channel.. that’s basically me😭😭
Same brother. Not lately but definitely a lot in the not so distant past. You beat yourself up, put yourself down, talk to yourself in your head and tell yourself what a POS you are. No. We're all human. We all make mistakes. That's life. You can't learn and improve if you haven't experienced the lesson. We can't live in the past thinking about our mistakes which we we can't change, we have to focus on the future which we can change and make better choices for a better tomorrow. Just remember, nothing stays the same. Things won't always be this way. You got this man! Have a blessed day!
... don't go to Rogan for that lol
Heard this at the right time, "just keep going". Life only comes at you one moment at a time and it seems manageable that way
Joe. You're such a good mentor. Theo needs to hear this kind of stuff. He's such a super guy. He needs to learn how to accept himself.
Man, looking back with regret is a path to nowhere and self-deprecation. Mistakes made and how we react to them, maybe more than successes had, define who are. The culmination of our past experiences- good and bad, brings us to where we are today and what we do today is the only f@chin’ thing that matters to anyone. ✌️
3:00 really got me...Joe's a prime example...he sucks at comedy every night. But he picks himself up time after time and keeps moving forward
Sometimes you just have to accept that you failed or you made a mistake you can’t fix. Sadly, sometimes your life would have been better if you did something differently but it’s done. You can’t go back. You’ll hurt yourself if you dwell on it.
Whoever's reading this, i pray that whatever you're going through gets better and whatever you're struggling with or worrying about is going to be fine and that everyone has a fantastic day! Amen
Thank you man I really needed them words
Thanks bro.💯 i hope this makes others feel better too. a simple comment goes a long way🫡
And u as well🥰
bless you
Maybe people just like Theo and joe and not going through anything lol. Nice comment tho
My Brother allowed regret and failure to dictate his life path, a deception that kept him from EVER being the best version of himself, thanks guys!
These two are so real together, what they say is so relatable.
Sometimes I’ll find myself stuck in 2016 when my brother died. I just keep thinking “I could have said xyz” “we could have talked about xyz” “we could have done xyz again before it was too late” I know he wouldn’t want me stuck in 2016 and for me to move on but this sucks and I’m not supposed to be here without him. He’s supposed to be here so we could watch each other grow up and make it through life together.
I love you and I miss you so damn much and I hope one day maybe we can see each other again
I’m so glad Joe is friends with Theo and features him. It helps the world see Theo’s brilliance
Be good to yourself, you deserve it!
It's hard to get over certain mistakes with people when you know you'll never have an opportunity like the one you had and messed it up for a silly reason, while you may learn a lesson you can't get that moment back..still makes me sick to my stomach sometimes to think about
Yeah idk how to get over some things people say you learn from your mistakes but I never seem to learn and improve. Looking back there’s too many moments you would change until you just start wishing for a completely different life or no life at all
I feel your pain brother my girlfriend broke up with me recently, we were both deep in love and stuff but after I got blackout drunk at her brothers wedding I did some unforgivable things , some many things I wish I could change but I feel joe hits the nail on the head here with his advice
@@harrytowers1076A lot of times there's not much to learn. A lot of times you just don't learn and get stuck in a downward spiral and it can last years. A lot of times even if you learn the trauma you carry on will never let you be the same. A lot of times you just become a total trainwreck and at a younger age than you might think. Consider yourself lucky if you get your silver lining.
unfortunately for me ive done very regrettable things in the past that still haunt me to this day.
Same.. sitting here in its punishment
You’re not that person anymore. You’re here. Right now. Now live.
Don’t do them again …
Not worse than me tho
I’m 27 and a severe alcoholic. I’ve lost jobs, cars, friends, girlfriends all due to alcoholism. It’s sad living with that regret because I’ve done so much unforgivable things to people I love while under the influence. But I know if I was sober, I would’ve never hurt them so much. Still madly in love with my girlfriend but she’s been gone for months and isn’t coming back. Heard she’s talking to someone else. Life is hard man, but this go around I really hope I can turn my life to a positive direction because all I want to do is be happy man. And stop hating myself.
exactly man. im 16 and made many mistakes that hurt my girlfriend and she decided to leave me a month ago. i was changing honestly but she was tired, together for over a year and now shes talking to someone she met barely before she dumped me. sucks because she gave me false hope and lied, found out for myself and i saw them holding hands in person. i feel so much guilt because i know we cant get back together. i believe that we can both be better people and change for ourselves but to also attract better opportunities. its hell right now, but feeling guilt and regret shows that we are human. all we can both do now is learn and move on, itll take a while but should be worth it
I was on the same boat brother I was cheated on when I was 23 and for 3 years I was binge drinking everyday until I was broke and had to wait for next paycheck. During all that I hurt my parents and my brother with all the stuff I was doing while being hella drunk. And to top it off I just got a DUI about 9 months ago. And every time I would hurt them with my actions or even verbally I would go home hurting to drink more and forget about what I’ve done to them. Been sober ever since the DUI and my relationship is better with my family. I’m not going to apologize to them what I am going to do is be a better son and brother through action. Action speak louder than words
Do it man, do it! Go to meetings, find people to talk to, work on yourself. Really work on yourself. I believe in you, you deserve the best.
You can't change the past but you can replace it with the future.
You can balance out your bad past with a good present, the present becomes the past and the bad starts to look smaller in comparison to the good.
Starting and keeping going is the hardest part, but it's worth it when you look back and see the good progress you've made
I have been caught in the cycle of ruminating on my failures for my entire life. Joe said it well, failure is incredibly hard to get over and some people never do. I've blundered immensely with relationships, and now I find it near impossible to have any confidence that I will do it right the next time. But I know that I can. I know that I have value, and even if I don't recognize it fully yet, knowing that other people do is enough to build on. Going to keep "lying" to myself until it becomes true. That seems to be the only thing to do.
Good luck out there fellas
Grateful that Theo has the humility to have these discussions and ask questions
Theo the type of guy to interview Joe on his own podcast
Thank you guys, been lost a father figure in my youth phase but this is like a rewiring process to filled up that hole and it helped me a lot.
I think what is often mistaken about regret is not that people regret things they did or didnt do but they regret the life they think they should be leading now but aren’t because they believe that there is something intrinsically wrong with them. This is not a regret about their actual life but about an idealised image of a life they built at an early age, often to escape a painful childhood. Clinging to this ideal, which was an escapism for them, makes them feel that their actual life, good or bad is not significant until their ideal life arrives. This type of regret requires a letting go of the ideal, by understanding why it was built in childhood. I think Theo is not present because of his unhappy childhood and his ‘regret’ is in his inability to reconcile this
Theo knows how to ask questions. You can tell it comes out of pure curiosity.
It's so easy to say this shit when you're rich. To look back at the hardships of life as a positive. Regret haunts , especially if it has nothing to compete with.
It still applies to the poor
Getting around people that are doing what you aspire to is one of the best ways to continually pull yourself forward out of failure. They teach you what's possible and help you set new standards for what you believe you can become.
i have a feeling, theo, that you don’t trust yourself enough. i feel like when you get around people like Joe & Jocko who appear so macho and together that you pick their mind on these things because you think they have it more figured out than you. But you probably already know what he’s saying -
with any negative emotion all you can do is accept it and move forward. You don’t ignore it or dismiss it, you feel it, you accept that it’s occurring for you, but then you let it go.
I understand regret. For a while I grappled with regret over leaving my ex boyfriend, but in truth i know our relationship wasn’t right & im just feeling regret because i’m lonely (4 years later). I regretted certain ways I acted around people when I had lower self esteem, how i wish they could see me now.
But with regret, all you can do is choose to be present. We can never go back. Don’t have a scarcity mindset that convinces you you’ve had all the great moments - that’s what causes regret. The greatest of the great is yet to come..
thank you syd love from kansas
that’s funny bc I’ve been doing the same thing I broke with my gf and have been regretting it and I tried to apologize and make things right but I don’t know if it’s gonna work out and I’m stuck on whether I try to fix it or move on and find other ppl and other things. I hope I don’t hold onto this for four years bc it’s honestly a lot and idk kinda just in limbo wondering what to do. Hoping for something that prolly won’t happen if I’m being entirely honest with myself.
Thanks a lot, needed to hear that
That support system is a big thing. It helps you handle your failures much better than if you don't have one. It really can harm your self esteem & confidence
Joe survived an assassin this episode. His Mic tried to kill his eyeball at 00:30 and he didn’t skip a beat. True savage.
Theo is so real, seems like a really good guy.
I would say the best successes I’ve had were after a big failure. Knowing I don’t wanna be in that place or have my back against the wall is where I shined the most.
The most important in life is to learn from mistakes once made and to move
forward .
Joe is a true student of Musashi sensei. Most people don't realize how heavily his philosophy is based on his teachings. Honestly I love that he has brought this perspective to so many people. Beautiful stuff man.
Of course most people don't realise. A lot of people don't even watch Joe. He's just one podcaster in this big wide world
These two are golden. Love these conversations
Resonated like fuck with this. I got took advantage of in high school by a lot of other guys because of how vulnerable and naive I was. I was a high school idiot and as a result it crushed my self esteem and aspirations for the future. I’m 23 and it still affects me especially when it comes to engaging with girls in any way. Always tell myself to stop being a bitch, stop dwelling on the past and move on but it’s still so hard on me, like joe said that emotional sting just comes right back as if I was right back in school.
Joe please go into High Schools and teach this stuff! So many lost souls with no parental guidance could really benefit from this type of advice
I really enjoy the conversations these two have. They just shoot the shit and it's interesting to listen to. They enjoy each other's company.
“Failing at something where you half assed it, and you feel like a loser”
Ouch
It's that sting when you feel you are worthless you can never forget it
I come back to this video every few months to remind myself to give myself a break.
Man, he speaks the truth, failure is the only way to grow, it’s a tool for success.
3:00 Joe finally admits it
Omg 💀
Lol what’s funny is he’s actually gotten so much better at standup
I’m 31 years old, I have been married to my wife for 6 years and we have a 2 year old son. They are my world and they are the only thing that has kept me going lately.
I am constantly paranoid and anxious. I have been constantly thinking that people are out to get me, that I will lose my family and my life will be ruined. The feelings of not deserving to be happy have always been with me and I think my family deserves a lot better than me.
I have had stretches where I have been healthy but the paranoia always comes back and this time it has taken its largest toll yet. I just want to come out the other side and enjoy my life with my wife and son.
I appreciate all the positivity here, it’s encouraging and I wish the best to everyone dealing with similar thoughts and feelings that I deal with.
I'm convinced that regret is only powerful when we know we can't prevent the same thing from happening again. We know we didn't learn the lesson, so it keeps coming back up till we figure it out and change somehow.
Theo was so happy after joe Rogan give him some advice and reassurance this is so heart warming to watch love this!❤️
bro thanks I needed to hear this
This is something that a lot of people in the OSC need to learn about!
I’m dealing with this. I have a lot of regret over mistakes I’ve made and things I’ve done wrong. Times I’ve let people down. I feel reborn after having a child and just recently getting married. I find myself now so fearful I’ll mess this up. I doubt my ability to be able to move forward in a way that will make me successful. I guess I just don’t believe in myself because of my mess ups. Joes right… it all taught me a-lot. All you can do is move forward and take what you’ve learned.
Why would you get married as a guy really really dumb man
I wish Joe would talk more about stuff like this. Just giving some casual insights on how he's dealt with life
Only time youtubes algo actually helped me out needed this thank the youtube gods
I think there are mistakes that are harder to learn from and rationalize as a part of the journey with enough upside to focus on. Things like inaction and doing things when you know better already, are like a poison and baggage to carry forward in your life. At that point it’s literally only about letting the past be the past and changing what is in your power.
I advise people that when you make a decision, it’s not just about the outcome of the thing itself - what you’ll get or what you’ll learn if it turns out differently from expected, but how it will shape you going forward. What kind of inertia do you create with your habits and decisions?
Feeling this in my soul
It took me 10 years to get over a life changing mistake. Some family members were there for me, some walked away. Same thing with most of my “friends.” With the help of a lifelong friend and the saving grace of Jesus, I got through it. Today I’m a blessed man with a wonderful wife. I’m grateful to those who stood by me and for my Lord and Savior.
I’m about to be 26 and I feel like I’ve fucked up enough that I haven’t really started living. I’m just now starting to realize I’ve got to grind and just focus on myself for everything else to fall in place
Know you are loved Theo, know that you are not alone with your struggles and your struggles dont make you alone nor do they define you.👁️❤
I've had serious failures as I'm sure we all have. Getting over them is easier said than done and I've spent years not getting over past mistakes. Word to the wise: Start accomplishing very small goals, and then move to bigger goals. Maybe today that goal is to make your bed, take a shower, cut the grass. If you plan to do those things, and then you actually do them, you will have a sense of accomplishment and that will build confidence in yourself. Start small and move on. Maybe down the road it's clean your room, then maybe get in shape, then practice the art/instrument you haven't done in a while etc.etc. Small, even tiny goals accomplished will build. It's ok to feel worthless and hopeless, because we've all been there. But life isn't over and it CAN get better. Little goals are the key to success and happiness.
Thank you Joe, I feel like most people need something like this once in a while
Theo Von is one of my favorite people.
Do more like these please.
"Failing teaches you to get your stuff together" billionaire logic is funny. Joe can relate to all of us.
I’m so happy this got recommended to me. I needed this really badly right now.
The most successful people on the planet have failed more than most people. The difference is that they learned and improved.
People like Rogan, Goggins etc. who says that is important to suffer, to fail, this is good for who is succesful in life, that's is not good for who is always suffering, has none happiness in some way
I lost a girl from my junior highschool, i loved her since i first met her but i didn't realize that i loved her, long story short we went to different school and damnn i miss her so much, i think she is the most perfect girl i've ever know, i feelin like loser, i hope i can meet her in the future.,
Regret are the what if’s. I can overcome failure, rejection, etc.
It’s been a year since this comment. Been rejected by many women. Didn’t get the jobs I applied for. But have no regrets. 😊
Sometimes regret can last a lifetime 😔🥺
What did you regret?
You don’t know how much I needed this today. Crazy I stumbled upon this video when I did
came back to this from time to time
you two together is pure gold. much love, Theo! 👊✨ ps your animated story telling Joe about partying by yourself, getting locked out of your place & almost burning it to the ground still makes me laugh. best. story. ever 😂
I have tons of regrets in my life and I have been working hard to let that shit go. Not easy. Too many "do overs" I want to accomplish.
Love when Theo is serious too he's so wise!
I was too needy with a girl that I liked a lot, and she ended up blocking me on social media… I feel so ashamed of myself, feel guilt and regret, like a fucking idiot
It's ok bro , this shit happened with every men 😂 I hope u r doing fine
My whole life my Dad encouraged me to be a winner, and that losing and failure should never be accepted. Its screwed me up big time, because even something like approaching women I simply cannot do. The probability of being rejected and being a 'failure' and 'loser' in that moment - my brain cannot accept this. Study and preparation can guarantee success in school and work. There is no guarantee in picking up women.
It's only through failure that we grow and learn. Courage is only fear after a conversation with God.
@@chelledegrasse2787 Lmao leave "god" out of this. This guy is f+cked up enough.
why do you have to "win"? It's more about getting to know a person. It's not about winning or being rejected or having a guarantee.
Important stuff people need to hear now a days.
im almost 21 and I regret my degree and choosing other peoples ideas of success instead my own. The application date is closed now so I cannot apply until I am 22. This eats away at me every single day. Sometimes times I genuinely feel like I’ve ruined my life. I don’t know how to realign and gain back my power, my control without feeling like a failure and like everything is already too late.
Fuck dude I really needed to hear this right now. I’m glad I found this clip right when I needed it lol.
thanks for this
This is a great segment.
I hope everyone makes those dreams and dedications come to fruition
Love these talks good point from joe and good point from Theo about people not learning from mistakes and failure and just repeating themselves
It humbles me to know that each and every person in the world has to worry about getting shit on their hands everyday.
I needed this.
Thanks Joe, I needed to hear this.
So much to take from this 5 minutes for people who are hurting
Wow ! :) I sooo needed to hear this today , love you and Joe Rogan . ❤️❤️❤️ Podcasts like this, remind me why even on my worst days - I gotta keep keep’n on ! So keep doing what you’d doing, your the best & always makes me smile listening !