Why Are So Many Young Men Afraid to Talk to Women?

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  • @Vnov93
    @Vnov93 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2545

    In my experience, the only way to get over the fear, if it even exists in the first place, is to simply stop caring about the outcome.

    • @musashi542
      @musashi542 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +63

      nah just do it alot till it becomes normal .

    • @tristintejada8915
      @tristintejada8915 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +92

      Well said. Emotionally detaching yourself from the outcome is eye opening and typically does mitigate fear

    • @experience5988
      @experience5988 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +94

      Stop caring about rape accusations then

    • @stroodlepup
      @stroodlepup 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Or the process altogether

    • @Vnov93
      @Vnov93 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@experience5988 No girl will accuse you of rape for simply talking to them. That’s paranoid. Even if they did, there’s not going to be any evidence, because nothing happened.

  • @maris2353
    @maris2353 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4604

    I think nowadays it’s not the fear of talking to them it’s more that they can shame you publicly or try to ruin your reputation if something goes wrong.

    • @nextfb5578
      @nextfb5578 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +473

      100000% that’s the culture of woman on America today.

    • @karkitty202
      @karkitty202 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +485

      Imagine asking a girl out and she starts recording you as she rejects you. It's not even that hard to imagine because that's just how things are

    • @VoidMaker407
      @VoidMaker407 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Exactly, this chick i was talking to didnt me she had a bf cheated on him w me and then he found out and instead of telling him she told all of the internet that i rped her and i lost everyone i knew off of that lie.. girls are evil.

    • @VoidMaker407
      @VoidMaker407 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +134

      Fucked up my whole life..

    • @docd2295
      @docd2295 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +234

      4-5 comments talking about this on here and how many ever had that happen? One.
      Are you afraid of what might happen or what will definitely happen? You will definitely die alone with no kids if you do t approach women.

  • @scesfizia
    @scesfizia 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1761

    I had a job where this girl flirted with everyone and I realised through painful experiences in my past that because a girl flirts with you it’s for attention or in my case it has been. Anyhow a few months in a new manager asked how long me and this girl had been going out, I replied we aren’t and the manager said she was surprised as we clicked and would make a good couple. This girl was there whilst this conversation was taking place and she said well it’s because he hasn’t asked me out. I laughed and she went seriously you haven’t asked me out, asked her out and she never spoke to me again.

    • @msinna6433
      @msinna6433 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +535

      We call that an attention where, happens to every one of us dude just keep pushing. You shouldn't even want a girl that flirts with everybody anyways thunk about it

    • @FrickinCCDeVileV
      @FrickinCCDeVileV 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That's called histrionic persoality disorder on that chick

    • @Annntttt12
      @Annntttt12 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +280

      Sounds like she’s a love addict who needs everyone to like her and then she moves on when she gets it

    • @lifeisbannanas
      @lifeisbannanas 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

      Men do the same thing to women too

    • @TheEdwardAlchemist
      @TheEdwardAlchemist 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +238

      ​@@lifeisbannanas Lmao where? Like 2% of dudes might do this. Foh some stuff is pretty much just one way

  • @jamest3336
    @jamest3336 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +939

    rejection is different now. ghosting out of nowhere on both sides

    • @davedavid7061
      @davedavid7061 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

      We got ghosted in the 90s too

    • @kevinnorris6157
      @kevinnorris6157 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Ghosting on both sides? U mean 90 percent of women ghosting 90 percent of men, and 5 percent of men hooking up with all the women and then ghosting them?

    • @Mmmmkaaay
      @Mmmmkaaay 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +70

      ​@@davedavid7061Truth. We just didn't pick up the phone when it rang 🤣

    • @johnfisher8401
      @johnfisher8401 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      no, ghosting from the 10 percent of men who have access to 90-95 percent of the women lol most men dont get anything at all. Literally 1 and 3 men are sexless.

    • @King9tails
      @King9tails 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

      @@Mmmmkaaaylmao ghosting has been around forever. Like in the age before technology you just wouldn’t respond back to their letter or pigeon

  • @gregamania1327
    @gregamania1327 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +657

    This is the best version of Theo that I’ve seen. He’s being way more sincere than usual and it makes the podcast so much more interesting.

    • @TomaszOdkrywca
      @TomaszOdkrywca 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

      For me it feels like this is him whenever a mental health professional or a spiritual person comes on. Those are my favourites, when Theo opens up

    • @murkartik
      @murkartik 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      you're both gay

    • @charlespancamo9771
      @charlespancamo9771 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He'd still fk your girl, Greg

  • @ButchersNailsEnjoyer
    @ButchersNailsEnjoyer 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +546

    Im not afraid, im just tired man. I already live alone and have to support myself and work 10-12 hours a day and try to exercise 1-2 hours every day. Ive gotten zero dates in the past year, every girl i met last year rejected me and the few relationships ive had felt like another full time job just trying to keep her happy. I dont think it’s worth it at this point.

    • @user-uc7qb1su4e
      @user-uc7qb1su4e 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      My question is why you wanna keep her happy?

    • @watermelon2223
      @watermelon2223 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      cringe comment

    • @JorgeTorres_777
      @JorgeTorres_777 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

      Sounds abt right 🎯

    • @Closedeyewilly
      @Closedeyewilly 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +87

      ​@@watermelon2223 more girls for you then?

    • @MelanieMartinezxxx
      @MelanieMartinezxxx 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@TheSolitaryMonkbingo

  • @2ndNatureHairSolutions
    @2ndNatureHairSolutions 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +499

    Theo von explains what a lot of people will never speak on because it’s embarrassing
    But social anxiety, drugs, bad experiences will do that.

  • @official_emayel
    @official_emayel 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +826

    I was speaking with a coworker of mine at the gym yesterday, and he took notice of a guy that was approaching some girls. He was probably mid 20s, they were 18-20 if I had to guess. Coworker was ridiculing the guy to me, then a few minutes after I walked by the girls and I heard them talking about it.
    Not sure why simply approaching someone has to be such a big fucking deal. It's brutal that a person could be demonized for such a thing considering the inherent risk it already involves of being rejected. It should be considered a natural process, unlike using apps or however else people may meet. But nah, people gotta be sensitive, or maybe a few legit creeps that can't take no for an answer ruin it for everyone.
    Crazy times.

    • @karkitty202
      @karkitty202 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +96

      I'm worried I'll be called a pedophile creep if I (25) even talk to a 18 year old girl.

    • @dash4800
      @dash4800 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +269

      Dude, I used to have a decent amount of female friends in college and they all told me I should just go up to women and start conversations. Then a minute later they would be complaining about the disgusting creep who tried to talk to them in the line at starbucks.

    • @laptv2144
      @laptv2144 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +73

      I know the exact type of sentiment they were getting at. It is for some reason seen as weird to approach a girl in public, especially among gen z despite the fact that these girls still want to be dating. Not sure how they expect to meet people.

    • @laptv2144
      @laptv2144 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +93

      @@dash4800 Yeah were apparently supposed to magically know if we’re attractive enough to a woman for her to be flattered rather than creeped out

    • @docd2295
      @docd2295 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      @@dash4800so what? They didn’t like him. They like somebody. Only way to find out if you is approach.

  • @gobabawonan2199
    @gobabawonan2199 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1225

    Approach early, approach often -- the fear will go away with practice

    • @dudeguyman96
      @dudeguyman96 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +71

      This is true. Conquering a fear is to expose yourself to it as much as possible.

    • @bigbodybenz8707
      @bigbodybenz8707 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No one is afraid. It's the fact there are no consequences no repercussions for females at all.. they can lie. Ruin your reputation nothing happens to them... so men focus on themselves.

    • @PostClarity7
      @PostClarity7 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +113

      Jail will come fast enough too 👍🏾

    • @graysongriese
      @graysongriese 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +128

      @@PostClarity7by talking to a person?

    • @ThePro499
      @ThePro499 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +65

      @@PostClarity7 How will you go to jail for talking to somebody?

  • @httr94
    @httr94 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +819

    Because they're deeply insecure and the average modern young woman doesn't resemble past generations. The influence of social media on the psyche of young people has been a disaster and has propped up behaviors that are so toxic for the soul and society. The replacement of face-to-face communication has been disastrous.
    If I wanted to depopulate the earth, I'd do exactly what we've done the last 15 years.

    • @Ben-js7kj
      @Ben-js7kj 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

      Wow. That is really well put.

    • @aiydanf
      @aiydanf 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +63

      Right. I hate to be a broken record about it, and I’m just as susceptible, but social media breaks down the fabric of natural communication. It creates scenarios and perspectives that can only be found online, and a lot of people who avoid social media tend to do better socially.

    • @user-lt1jd1ye3v
      @user-lt1jd1ye3v 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The average woman is fine and normal, it’s your fault you’ve skewed your own brain by watching so much porn that you think all women are on onlyfans. Get out in the real world and realize most women are normal. But you can’t do that staring at a computer screen 24/7 complaining that women are “evil”. It’s just so damn pathetic. And you say women are the ones who are different when all modern men want to do is watch porn and complain about women all day long through the INTERNET when men of past generations were out there fighting WARS and protecting their families…… I mean give me a break. Be the change you wish to see in the world. Stop being so damn pathetic and man up.

    • @justinmonk3522
      @justinmonk3522 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      You hit the nail on the head

    • @purplered-eq5of
      @purplered-eq5of 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Fax

  • @wotanmituns33
    @wotanmituns33 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +340

    I just found out Theo Von is 44 yars old! That's insane, I thought he was like 10 years younger. Good for him.

    • @Jade-ms2ys
      @Jade-ms2ys 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      really? wow he looks great.

    • @amalrajpr6800
      @amalrajpr6800 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Its the hair, he maintains its good

    • @Apricot90
      @Apricot90 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      He must be a Gemini rising lmao He also has that nervous energy but very talkative and curious personality.

    • @neox9369
      @neox9369 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      That’s how he should look at 44, just take care of yourself. I’m not sure why it’s “amazing “. A lot of people age in dog years nowadays so no wonder some people are amazed at what should be the standard.

    • @wotanmituns33
      @wotanmituns33 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@neox9369 Nowadays? Look at old videos and pictures, people aged even worse back then. But sure, taking care you yourself is good advice.

  • @fastest3246
    @fastest3246 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +160

    It’s very easy for older people to sit here and criticize the youth. But even in the older guys analysis he’s not even being honest with himself. The truth is now young men aren’t chasing women. For many reasons, and if you think it’s a confidence issue. You are very out of touch.

    • @idontknowwhattoputhere.3572
      @idontknowwhattoputhere.3572 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      First of all if you’re not a jock or the popular guy hardly anyone care about you in this society, let alone women. Second of all once you leave school social situations which you can meet new people become very limited unless you go to church or something, and who goes to church to chase girls? Internet and work is only option left. And dating apps have just become hook up sites or whatever and you have to pay for them. And public places are hard especially if you’re all alone because you will be seen as a loser. There aren’t many options for men to be fulfilled in this world. I just be myself and hardly ever hit on women and if they come to me, great.

    • @Tre_Vor194
      @Tre_Vor194 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

      100% bro! Not to mention how much easier these older people had it financially too.

    • @boxybox100
      @boxybox100 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      List the reasons then instead of just being a negative shitstain

    • @slothnation2635
      @slothnation2635 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      As a young man this is not true. It is a confidence issue combined with increased consumption by young men of online propaganda about “modern women” that is informing their worldview. This is In conjunction with the limited negative experiences they have with women due to there inability to judge good character born from a lack of self confidence. Insecure men spend time with toxic and insecure women because they don’t have the self belief to say no to these people, then they get burned and turn to crap online to cope and it becomes a self-sustaining, self-reinforcing cycle.
      I said no to romantic opportunities for years before I found someone who I liked and respected enough to enter a relationship with. It’s about having the self respect, patience and emotional intelligence needed to find and impress somebody with good character. There is a lot of them out there, a lot of young men just don’t have the skills to find them today.

    • @Iranoutofideasforachannelname
      @Iranoutofideasforachannelname 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

      Facts, it has nothing to do with confidence. It's just that when girls ask for my number as a joke or try to embarrass me in public, it's hard to see women as anything but people who want to hurt

  • @mtlev9886
    @mtlev9886 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +352

    Y'all are missing that there's a much higher risk of doing this stuff today. Consistently hanging out at a hotel where models stay might be treated as something potentially criminal for example. We've had it beaten into our heads that women do not want to be approached in public.

    • @docd2295
      @docd2295 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +72

      You’re wrong. They do want to be approached. Just by a guy who they already are attracted to and makes them feel good. Practice your skills and it will go well more than not. Oh, and he handsome lol

    • @brlyalve
      @brlyalve 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      a lot of women don't want to be approached in many places. how many times my girl has gotten hit on just walking home from school or work, there are acceptable times and places and infringing on peoples time because you feel entitled isn't it

    • @MrFrankEast
      @MrFrankEast 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@brlyalve Buddy im sorry but for most of history the only way thats happened is BY infringing on peoples time.
      Factually across all time in human history EVER.
      Guys used to get married off of pestering girls at work, on the street, and during free time. Thats how its ALWAYS been until recently with this mindset lol

    • @user-lt1jd1ye3v
      @user-lt1jd1ye3v 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      I am what could be deemed an attractive 28 year old girl and I would LOVE for an also attractive young man to come up and talk to me…. Everyone is so lonely nowadays. As long as he were nice, good looking, and could carry a conversation I’d probably go on a date with him too..

    • @stevenlee5806
      @stevenlee5806 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@user-lt1jd1ye3vwhat if there nice and can hold and convo, but you mind them ugly… then what

  • @Ja50nkAt
    @Ja50nkAt 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +230

    Without a woman throwing you a choosing signal your way, like holding eye contact for more than a couple seconds, there is no reason to approach, period.

    • @user-lt1jd1ye3v
      @user-lt1jd1ye3v 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      I stare at men and they do nothing or ignore me or look terrified LOL. And I am considered I think a decent looking female. If I see an attractive guy at the gym I’d like to talk to I look but apparently I’m creepy for wanting to meet people at the gym..

    • @Ja50nkAt
      @Ja50nkAt 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@user-lt1jd1ye3v Because of recent events in social media I think men are keeping to themselves at gyms so they don't get labeled a creep. A slim gal in a sundress at a grocery store or just out and about could get me to approach if I'm in the right head space,, that's the thing sometimes men just aren't in that mode at that moment to approach.

    • @elevidence8380
      @elevidence8380 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +152

      ​@@user-lt1jd1ye3v you'll have a better chance if you go talk to them like a normal human.

    • @gifi4
      @gifi4 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I gather you're being sarcastic. If you're not, you're the problem.

    • @Ja50nkAt
      @Ja50nkAt 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

      @@gifi4 Are you high? Women have always made that first move, the majority of the time in history. In the early 1900's women dropped the handkerchief. You're asking for rejection if you don't get that signal, unless you're a tall, handsome, well dressed man she will likely reject you.

  • @steven1671
    @steven1671 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +167

    It hurts to talk to women. I walk up to them and they say “Eww” or they just stare at you and shoo you away. Or you just say “hi” and they respond with “I have a boyfriend”. Ouch. I’m done getting hurt. I’m done approaching women.

    • @jeromefc1122
      @jeromefc1122 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @user82938
      @user82938 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

      Hit the gym or something, dude. If you walk up and women are saying "Eww" right up front, you need to fix something.

    • @steven1671
      @steven1671 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@user82938 Do you think I should take a hundred showers too? Maybe that’ll help… lmfao

    • @NeighborhoodWatchMann
      @NeighborhoodWatchMann 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +60

      I don't know man, he might be short lol. Back in the early 2000s, I never had a problem, but all of a sudden in the past 5 years, no woman wants me because I'm too short. I've literally been told that many times. I'm 5'6. It was so weird because even in the 2010s, the early 2010, I was in college and I used to pull easily. Now I'm more in shape than ever, I make six figures, I actually have a six pack, I'm definitely not a dumbass, but I'm 5'6 lol. And I've been straight told to my face that I'm short, like if I didn't already know that.

    • @user82938
      @user82938 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@NeighborhoodWatchMann That's rough, man, sorry to hear it. In that case, you gotta become a fat slob like Stavros Halkias and get the girls who want to punish themselves.

  • @stickiestring
    @stickiestring 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1090

    Not afraid... I already work 2 jobs, don't need a 3rd.

    • @NumbDiggerlmao
      @NumbDiggerlmao 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

      😂

    • @krusher74
      @krusher74 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      what about a hand job?

    • @yourmumsahoe1
      @yourmumsahoe1 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      quit mcdonalds and wendys than you can have 1 job

    • @milwaukeebuds
      @milwaukeebuds 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +74

      Excuses excuses😅

    • @purplered-eq5of
      @purplered-eq5of 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +83

      Bruh, he cooking 👨‍🍳🍳

  • @ShortyySpice
    @ShortyySpice 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

    Another factor is a lot of women have vocalized that they don’t want to be approached in public as it makes them uncomfortable which is completely valid but for me it’s difficult to approach someone because I don’t want them to be uncomfortable

    • @lefrenchy9021
      @lefrenchy9021 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thats fine, leave those women alone when they tell you that, and find someone else

    • @chowder7498
      @chowder7498 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lefrenchy9021trial and error

    • @Soundeagle3456
      @Soundeagle3456 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      @@lefrenchy9021 there is no someone else, this is most of them under the age 30.

    • @CHSlim93
      @CHSlim93 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      The first time you🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @Canaris_Kiss
    @Canaris_Kiss 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +125

    No one is afraid to talk to another. People are afraid to talk to a group of people who have gold-leaf thin egos and power they never earned psychologically.

    • @FirstnameLastname-zq8oy
      @FirstnameLastname-zq8oy 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Are you implying that women as a whole have "gold leaf thin egos"? If you believe an entire gender has thin egos then you're part of the problem, thats not a productive way of looking at women or men. Also what do you mean by "power they never earned psychologically"? Yes women have more power nowadays than they did in the past, but that empowerment was fought for.

  • @guy6044
    @guy6044 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +212

    Women say theyd rather encounter a bear than a man, why would i go where i know im not welcome?

    • @Solaxer
      @Solaxer 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

      “Women say” Wow all 4 billion of them said that?

    • @guy6044
      @guy6044 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +71

      @@Solaxer 🤓☝️

    • @YourUnionRep
      @YourUnionRep 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

      I know what you mean. I went down the same mental rabbit hole. It’s a large combination of men and women being on the internet and consuming too much media. People aren’t like that in real life and if they are it’s obvious they’re chronically online. The greatest suggest I can give you, brother, is delete social media. I still wish I could post and look at others posts and what not but the benefits are undeniable. Hope this helps.

    • @Solaxer
      @Solaxer 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@guy6044 it’s not that you’re not welcome because you’re a man, you’re not welcome because you stink and can’t hold a normal conversation you fuckin loser 🫵🏽

    • @guy6044
      @guy6044 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@YourUnionRep I have a GF bro, nothing serious but she's real sweet, I know it ain't all girls I'm just saying I understand where a lot of guys are coming from when they just kinda check out of dating. I've definitely met a few of those girls in real life, and all thought there is not a lot, I do believe it's enough to strick hesitancy into the average man.

  • @kashourikatsu2543
    @kashourikatsu2543 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +165

    I used to be a dating coach/pua and let me tell you. Its not just porn, its FB and IG. People are unaware of how much time they waste on social media. For most guys its already too late. But the best advice i can give is delete ur social media accounts. If not for good then temporarily, now start going out and just saying "hi how are u doing" Then when u get comfortable with that u can move on to small conversations and so forth.

    • @sirloin7633
      @sirloin7633 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

      This guy said he was a dating coach.....I am dead.

    • @TheGovernmentputcrackinmyblunt
      @TheGovernmentputcrackinmyblunt 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It's not too late. It was doomed from the womb

    • @Kyle-ii4fp
      @Kyle-ii4fp 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Can't do that in a small cow boy hick town with nothing to do (not my fault I live here, on disability ssi and cheapest place to live, I'm 29 never dated in real life) small towns also make dating rough.

    • @kashourikatsu2543
      @kashourikatsu2543 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      @@Kyle-ii4fp your 29, u just now starting to hit ur prime u have ur whole life ahead of you, don't make excuses.

    • @kashourikatsu2543
      @kashourikatsu2543 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@sirloin7633 your wasting time my friend

  • @bunsenn5064
    @bunsenn5064 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    I recently had an experience that made me realize something. I went ahead and tried to start a conversation with a women I liked by complimenting her on something she was doing, but I didn’t make it really open-ended, so it didn’t really go anywhere. She just thanked me and we went on with our doings. In my mind, I had just blundered because it didn’t go anywhere, and the panic began to set in. But then I realized that from her perspective, all that happened was that someone in the gym complimented her on something, and that was it. In my mind I had screwed up, but in reality I had just complimented someone and went on with my day, which isn’t a bad thing at all.

    • @pexus4127
      @pexus4127 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Finally someone with a brain

    • @dietlindvonhohenwald448
      @dietlindvonhohenwald448 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Exactly. You did not mess up and nothing went wrong. Just because it did not lead to more, does not mean anything. It was just a normal thing.
      In my gym the only men who are not afraid to talk to females are Russians and they are pretty successful it seems. Everybody else is never talking to anyone else. My daughter saw this guy in the gym she liked, she smiled at him but he never responded, this happened on several days, he kept looking at her a lot though but never smiled back or came over. She was too scared to go over to him because he was always working out with a group of guys. She tried so much to meet him but it never happened, she was 18 and he was probably 18 to 21. 😢
      Maybe he thought she was a minor.

    • @torachan23
      @torachan23 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Then she went home and made a tik tok about creeps approaching her at the gym and how men are toxic

  • @tomr6866
    @tomr6866 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    They are not afraid, they just don't care because it's not worth the effort required

  • @Aliens-Are-Our-Friends2027
    @Aliens-Are-Our-Friends2027 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +114

    Only person to impress is yourself.

  • @loganwamer2976
    @loganwamer2976 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    It's not just never rejected. For a ton of people, rejection is all they know.

  • @floshi6519
    @floshi6519 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    It's not a man duty to approach women.
    It should be reciprocal.
    Men are tired to do the hard work part and receive nothing.

    • @TirianOfNarnia
      @TirianOfNarnia หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      🎯🎯

    • @jones2277
      @jones2277 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      and that's the biggest difference between this generation and past ones. past men knew there were subtle cues to look for before approaching. it's a dance. but today's guys feel like they should sit back and be courted; meanwhile, the ladies feel the same way so nothing happens.

    • @floshi6519
      @floshi6519 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@jones2277 Yep, you summarize it really well.
      It's a mexican standoff.
      Nobody moves and everybody is single.

  • @jonghoonpark5497
    @jonghoonpark5497 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +116

    Women wonder why men aren't giving them attention. It's because women aren't countering the waves of resentful women's propaganda which says that a man approaching a girl is somehow bad or negative. Women need to make it clear that make attention is wanted and welcome.

    • @FazeParticles
      @FazeParticles 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      attractive men's attention is welcome. it's ugly men and ugly people in general who need not apply. women would never say this but their face reactions show this to be true.

    • @lace5131
      @lace5131 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      Men still give women attention. Where do you all live? Space?Me and my girlfriends get approached all the time and im not even gorgeous or anything

    • @jonghoonpark5497
      @jonghoonpark5497 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@lace5131 where do you live?

    • @joegambitt7414
      @joegambitt7414 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      ​@@lace5131he ment the type of women that would complain for the lack of attention, not every woman

    • @Mattipazz0
      @Mattipazz0 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@lace5131 Juggernaut Law

  • @collinluke7540
    @collinluke7540 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    Theo is so much funnier and more insightful than I thought the first time I saw a clip of him. Don't judge a book by its cover.

  • @lukester102d6
    @lukester102d6 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +520

    Edwardo is right. You have to think about THEM and not yourself. Spot on
    I feel like this goes for women but also In interactions with people in general. I’ve met truly humble people who are genuinely interested in what I have to say. They always have the most confidence, because they love life and are being themselves.

    • @ethanbrunt7755
      @ethanbrunt7755 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Treat them almost as if they have chlamydia

    • @braveboy2445
      @braveboy2445 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      What does that mean bro? I dont get it

    • @ethanbrunt7755
      @ethanbrunt7755 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

      @@braveboy2445 overcoming anxiety is about forcing your attention outwards. You have to listen to other people and look at them. That’s a way to have better interactions

    • @lukester102d6
      @lukester102d6 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      @@braveboy2445 If you think too much about yourself or how you appear to others, you’ll end up causing anxiety and not even paying attention to the other person at all. You have to focus your attention on the other person, and think less about how YOU appear. At least that’s how I take it

    • @jjwilly13
      @jjwilly13 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      Exactly. Your frame should be "do I like this woman?" and you'll ask her questions to get to know her. It doesn't matter if she likes you or not.

  • @ModernDatingMastery
    @ModernDatingMastery 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    *The fear of rejection has become more intense in this generation, and I think it’s a mix of unrealistic expectations and social anxiety. Videos like this help shed light on the reasons behind that fear and how we can overcome it!*

  • @dillonbacon4818
    @dillonbacon4818 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    They’re completely missing a huge part of this, which is the fact that men are shamed for being men and growing up we get taught to look down on our own masculine urges

    • @adelina1531
      @adelina1531 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      define masculine urges?

    • @FirstnameLastname-zq8oy
      @FirstnameLastname-zq8oy 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Men are not shamed for being men, what you mean by that? I also have no idea what you consider "masculine urges" to be as that sounds very vague, are you talking about the male sex drive or something? Because men arent taught to look down on that either.

    • @Bat-Georgi
      @Bat-Georgi 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@FirstnameLastname-zq8oy Have you been asleep for the past 15 or so years?? Man are absolutely shamed for being men. Do we not remember the #KillAllMen days? Or That whole Man vs Bear thing? Everything is set up to feminize you, from school to the workplace. Men are seen as the default monsters and our needs are seen as unnecessary.
      I don't know what fantasy world you're living in but I wish I could go there.

    • @Meldrick-jv7sy
      @Meldrick-jv7sy 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@FirstnameLastname-zq8oyBefore, no.
      These recent years, yes, to a certain extent.

    • @MonkeyDIvan
      @MonkeyDIvan 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Elaborate please.

  • @koolmatts
    @koolmatts 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +104

    Idk what world ppl live in but as someone who has paid attention to girl groups and working on his approaching skills it's harder now more than ever. Girls don't walk alone all like that anymore in NY and they don't give you that grace all like that anymore. If your not the guy...your not the guy, and they may try to embarrass you immaturely. I can't tell you how many times I've been nervous still had the courage to walk up to them than they take the h*ll off like I had vomit on my face 😅. The ladies have way more fear than we do and will run if needed trust me I've seen this multiple times and all I did was make eye contact and smile. I understand it's a dangerous world and guys do messed up things but I think we've taken it too far. Keep your heads up fellows

    • @GalaxyCommander07
      @GalaxyCommander07 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      fuck bro this is rough. the day a woman looks at me then unironically runs away screaming hysterically is the day i tie the noose

    • @jones2277
      @jones2277 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      i think what you're saying is fair. women have fear because for every innocent guy, there's another one who will flip a switch and get creepy or dangerous over something innocuous like "hello." that's what you're out there competing with. so maybe instead of going after random women walking down the street, join some activities where women night naturally be and just get used to making casual conversation without an ulterior motive. even if she's not your type, maybe she becomes a friend, or she has friends or sisters who might become part of your network. i was taking an art class and i would try to just have friendly casual conversation with some of the guys but they were super awkward and shifty-eyed. then some flamboyant gay guy walks in and he's charming and fun and we're on to like 10 topics in about as many minutes.

    • @m3staken983
      @m3staken983 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@jones2277it’s tough to find reliable friend groups too. had to kick 99% of my college age friends out of my life because they all found ways to leach/use me. & Going out in public and trying to make long lasting friends randomly seems like an even harder task than talking to a girl.

  • @iLLSHiNEz
    @iLLSHiNEz 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +225

    They aren't afraid, they have just opted out of the dating scene.

    • @sadudas11
      @sadudas11 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

      Ok sure but let’s be real, talking to women is and always has been a scary experience to some degree. Especially one that is very attractive

    • @LordVader1094
      @LordVader1094 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

      That's cope. Most of us have opted out because we're afraid.

    • @iLLSHiNEz
      @iLLSHiNEz 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      @@LordVader1094 I'm sorry to hear that brother and I hope it gets better.

    • @ottomobili2575
      @ottomobili2575 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m going to make ~$190K in my career this year, it is simply not worth the risk of all that to talk to girls. Even at bars, CCTV cameras don’t capture audio, so in the court of law, a girl can put any word they want into your mouth and you can be indicted for it. This is the collapse of Western Society

    • @phillylegion
      @phillylegion 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      yeah i can agree with that. there can be some fear/nervousness to talk to women, but mostly it’s just giving up. and i don’t blame us.

  • @jaredgmiami
    @jaredgmiami 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +169

    “Who is this damn Wizard?” Words we’ve all thought before.

    • @Ben256MB
      @Ben256MB 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That thought comes from a guy who don't know how to talk to women .

    • @idontknowwhattoputhere.3572
      @idontknowwhattoputhere.3572 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@Ben256MBwatch out. We got a badass over here.

    • @amalrajpr6800
      @amalrajpr6800 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@Ben256MBcome on don juan,stop putting us down, everybody had their moment

    • @GarageFiringSquad
      @GarageFiringSquad 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@Ben256MB Oh MAN, its Jesus with the revelations over here.

  • @lol_yeahwhatever
    @lol_yeahwhatever 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +86

    The Eduardo story is fascinating to me because it gets to the heart of the saying “Confidence is Key”. Everyone always says it but… Why? The Eduardo anecdote shows that it’s not just confidence, but the lack of judgement of others (and fear of judgement from others) that confidence brings, and subsequent ease or peace both people in a situation feel from that. Love it!

    • @braveboy2445
      @braveboy2445 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How do you become judgement free?

    • @miguelplays2921
      @miguelplays2921 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      he's confident because he is 6+ plus jacked, tan, chad face, all his life he has had postive enteractiions with women so why would he be scared or anxious, confidence 😆 tell that to the sub 5 balding janitor

    • @Mattipazz0
      @Mattipazz0 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@miguelplays2921 They're not ready for the blackpill bro, they should watch rehab room

    • @lol_yeahwhatever
      @lol_yeahwhatever 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@miguelplays2921 Improve your reading comprehension

    • @lol_yeahwhatever
      @lol_yeahwhatever 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@braveboy2445 Do I look like a free therapist?

  • @HonkHonkler
    @HonkHonkler 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    It's fucking disgusting how society wants to paint it ALL as men's issues, or even men logically WORRYING about not being creepy or being inappropriate is almost implied like it's selfish. I REALLY fucking hate when older generations of men try telling young gen of men how to date when things have MASSIVELY changed since they dated/got laid/met their wives etc. Things HAVE gotten more brutal and sociopathic on both ends.

  • @MrFrankEast
    @MrFrankEast 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +121

    Im not afraid to talk to women, I genuinely don't like them. If I meet a cool chick, dope. But on AVERAGE girls i've met are across the board mean.
    If they aren't attracted to you on the FIRST impression they legit don't see you as human lol.
    There is no "winning her over" anymore. People don't even stay together that long anymore and because we've become so hyper independent we're always asking each other WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR ME?????
    Its not the fact that young men have never been rejected MOST have been rejected a good bit lol
    Its the fact that older guys have literally never dealt with THIS TYPE of rejection AS MUCH back in the day.
    Sure you might strike out 8/10 times on a night out in the 1980-90s but MOST of those rejects were "No thanks, haha I have a boyfriend, no your not my type"
    Not "Wtf is WRONG with you? get away from me? You really think I would get with YOU??"
    Its defo not all women but its a LOT of them.

    • @VRKyurem
      @VRKyurem 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      You mad bro

    • @MrFrankEast
      @MrFrankEast 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

      @@VRKyurem Nah not really, I just get with chicks who like me right off the jump no mo chasin thats crazy

    • @shrunkensimon
      @shrunkensimon 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      "We don't like you!" - Patrice ONeal

    • @VRKyurem
      @VRKyurem 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@MrFrankEast you’re almost 60 years old

    • @MrFrankEast
      @MrFrankEast 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      @@VRKyurem My guy I am not older, im in my 20s im talking about what OLDER guys have said about dating and women back then.
      Its true ask MOST men from that age or slightly younger and they say its night and day after like mid 2000's

  • @Martin-ej6tc
    @Martin-ej6tc 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +86

    It's not just rejection now though, it's also false rape accusations, MeToo stuff. I think most Gen Z women now think that a man approaching a woman sometimes or always constitutes harassment. But at the same time, women want men to make the first move. But that's harassment....
    Women said what they wanted, and it's for men to stay away from them.

    • @Chriss-ez7xk
      @Chriss-ez7xk 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Why are you living your life based off what society says?

    • @Martin-ej6tc
      @Martin-ej6tc 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @Chriss-ez7xk Because I like not being in prison, personally. I also like not being plastered all over social media and mass-shamed.
      Why would one not live their life based on what society says? Society has immeasurable power compared to me.
      Women wield that power and society will side with them by default without even considering my view. Obviously they get what they want, to be left alone.

    • @harsh3948
      @harsh3948 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +54

      @@Chriss-ez7xkbecause we live in a society

    • @zk3212
      @zk3212 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      ​@@Chriss-ez7xkbecause you have to?

    • @adrianw0w757
      @adrianw0w757 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      You should touch grass from time to time

  • @samirh.1763
    @samirh.1763 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +152

    I cried when Mr Robert Green said " I wasnt on the level of Edouardo.." and Theo Von responded for him "Noooooo" That was hilarious.🤣

    • @FalsePips
      @FalsePips 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      8:00

    • @Dreadheadezz
      @Dreadheadezz 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂😂😂😂

  • @truthhurts7
    @truthhurts7 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    “Who is this wizard 🧙🏽‍♂️” LOL

  • @sewilotrio
    @sewilotrio 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    It becomes so much easier if you want to get to know the person, not the image you build in your head.
    In the past I was very fixated in getting a girl and build scenarios in my head why it would work or not. But once I put that need aside and just tried to have a good time and talk about stuff like with all my buddies, it was so much easier and I really noticed if I really liked a girl or not.

    • @MissArtsyDeee
      @MissArtsyDeee 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      This 🙌 women just want to be treated like human beings, to be known.

    • @omotayosatuyi252
      @omotayosatuyi252 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@MissArtsyDeeewhat makes u think that they aren't?

    • @RobertMorgan
      @RobertMorgan 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Seems like a waste of time to get to know someone to find out if you like them, rather than liking them and that being why you invest the time to get to know them.
      In my experience growing to love someone is total bullshit, it happens instantly or not ever. All you can grow is negatives, resentment. As you get to know them you fall out of love.

    • @MissArtsyDeee
      @MissArtsyDeee 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@RobertMorganyou're confusing lust with love.

    • @sunkintree
      @sunkintree 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@MissArtsyDeee Yawn. Live laugh poster-tier wisdom. Keep it to yourself. No one wants to hear it. Throw the poster away.

  • @crs092
    @crs092 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +274

    Get off of social media, stop porn, go outside. Eat healthier, exercise.

    • @ethanbednarek8080
      @ethanbednarek8080 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      All of those made it way worse for me loooool except for the get off social media part

    • @tourdel2
      @tourdel2 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ethanbednarek8080 whyd it make it worse?

    • @ethanbednarek8080
      @ethanbednarek8080 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

      @@tourdel2people were accustomed to me being weak. As I grew stronger not much in terms of gym bro but complete health and fitness my family and friends saw me as an adversary. Family (all) and friends (few).

    • @coolswag4612
      @coolswag4612 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ethanbednarek8080how does friends and family make you worse with talking to women are you having sex with your friends and family?

    • @Kyle-ii4fp
      @Kyle-ii4fp 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I exercise, only on social media to meet people (small hick town with only bike access) meeting women is impossible in 🤠🏢

  • @dmerls8571
    @dmerls8571 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Make it all about her, forget yourself and just listen to her, ask good questions. Great advice from this fellow.

    • @NERO_MYBAND
      @NERO_MYBAND 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      L take

  • @Easttowest45
    @Easttowest45 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +115

    "I would hide under a bed in there."

  • @raypresutti6315
    @raypresutti6315 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I was recently at a bar with my friend and his gf, and i saw a girl who i thought was really cute. My friend motivated me to go talk to her, my first real try since my ex and I split up a year ago. My buddy goes 'the worst thing she can say is no'. So I go up to break the ice and she loudly said ' ew, no absolutely not'... all I did was ask if she liked the band. Im done with dating

    • @alanbradwell5835
      @alanbradwell5835 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I can't believe how bad it is now. It's like I slipped into a hellish twilight zone

    • @StromLxrd6
      @StromLxrd6 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      damn😆 I'm sorry that happen to you bruh but remember it's billions on women in the world. plenty of women that do find you attractive

    • @TylerMBuller12
      @TylerMBuller12 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      They all think they are super models now because of how much attention they get online.

  • @ameliafranco3883
    @ameliafranco3883 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    So interesting to hear a guys prospect, as a girl you’re always told that men only think about one thing when approaching you, it’s so nice to see comments proving this to be false. But I know many women, myself included that would be happy to be approached by a man, if done respectfully, and are always hoping to meet them in a natural way

  • @xChimkin
    @xChimkin 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +88

    i'd rather go my own way

    • @lav7161
      @lav7161 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Yet you're watching videos on the topic that you said you will reject?

    • @blazehall8086
      @blazehall8086 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lav7161came up as suggested, that’s the intent.

    • @impossiblegirl5700
      @impossiblegirl5700 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      MGTOW in a nutshell

    • @absolutelysobeast
      @absolutelysobeast 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      @teamcoalhapcharcoalyou obviously chose the wrong road. And now you are looking up at the single guys wishing you had gone left instead of right. But that woman tricked you into going right. Now you are stuck on a road you dont want to be on and you claim it was a choice

    • @reedre6177
      @reedre6177 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @teamcoalhapcharcoalI mean most women are used up and ugly fat what you expect

  • @ATRTAP
    @ATRTAP 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +105

    Theo’s writing poems and making collages for the ladies.

    • @Michelle.A79
      @Michelle.A79 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      He’s an old school die hard romantic ❤️‍🔥 which unfortunately doesn’t exist today!

    • @wurshraggwurshington2284
      @wurshraggwurshington2284 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I really thought about Theo out making some chick a diarama with dinosaurs and soldiers...

    • @joashedwards7206
      @joashedwards7206 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Michelle.A79 respectfully gen z gals dont give an f about it

    • @AyshRowland
      @AyshRowland 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@joashedwards7206 That's terrible

    • @joashedwards7206
      @joashedwards7206 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@AyshRowland hey man im just telling it how it is

  • @Ndw1995
    @Ndw1995 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    For me, modern women embody so many negative stereotypes, I can’t find myself liking them. Attracted to them sure, but I don’t like them. I don’t like vulnerability, I don’t like solipsism, I don’t like aversion to accountability, I don’t like highly emotional people, I don’t like how easily they fall for social movements & group think. Are they beautiful? You bet they are. But I want nothing to do with them anymore

    • @ccd1651
      @ccd1651 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      This exactly this. I can’t do all that vulnerability bullshit too and they always try to force that onto you. It’s boring 😂 and quite frankly a stupid ass way of living.. Mother Nature is cruel the last thing I’d call her is a nurturing mother lol

    • @cool08player
      @cool08player 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      You missed an important one: I don't like used up hors.

    • @assassin7250
      @assassin7250 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Imma take a picture of this comment and shove it to my parent this reason 😂

    • @Mrflowerproductions
      @Mrflowerproductions 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      hm what do you mean by vulnerability

    • @Patrick.Weightman
      @Patrick.Weightman 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Bingo. What I always found interesting - and what many people don't like to talk about - is looking at stuff from the early 1900s or late 1800s in regards to keeping a tight leash on your wife/daughters, in criticism of things like the 19th amendment, or otherwise in support of keeping women under the thumb of men's expectations. They all detail what they deem a "bad woman" is or what they'll ultimately become if you give them the freedom they ask for and make them equal to men; they'll be overly promiscuous, crass, inconsiderate, debauched, narcissistic, etc...
      Now take a look around at the average woman and tell me what you see. It's damn near spot on. But we've become a society that won't even entertain this observation as a rational one, let alone have a conversation around it. Go ahead, try to bring it up in a public space, and watch how quickly everyone just laughs at you and goes "get a load of this incel"

  • @mothershipish1
    @mothershipish1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I can only speak for myself, and I’ll try to make this short and succinct. 29 yrs old, have made a complete 180 this year. Been back in college for a year now, working out, eating real healthy food, no more porn for the most part, and the biggest change, I quit smoking cigs. I truly believe that the anxiety and stress that cigarettes perpetuated within me made me afraid to make the jump to make any scary decision. Especially asking out women. I’ve had my embarrassing experiences of whisky d*ck even while sober, and I blame anxiety, smoking, addiction, and porn. It’s been a solid month of real change, and I’ve talked to and asked out more woman in this time than in the last 3 years, I can actually get it up and have enjoyable sex again, I can feel this new confidence inside. I’ve been rejected, but trying and failing feels so good. Way better than going off and having a smoke all by lonesome, and sitting in my despair. I spent TEN years taking the easy route, cigs, hard drugs, porn, I was just floating by. I know how hard it is to change habits, it felt impossible, but it’s all in our heads, and it takes real work to even begin considering a new life. Good things don’t come easy for everyone and it’s never too late to make a change. Keep your heads up brothers ❤

    • @lionlikemessenger
      @lionlikemessenger 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Congrats, man! Keep adding up good days.
      Christ is King. All praises to the Most High.

    • @dietlindvonhohenwald448
      @dietlindvonhohenwald448 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      and no girl/woman wants to be with someone who is a drug addict, porn addict etc.

    • @TonyContra
      @TonyContra 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I am 29 yrs old too, and I am also making a change for the better. My problem has been alcohol, I wasted all my 20’s drinking and partying without ever getting any satisfaction from it. I’ve been 3 weeks sober and holy shit, I am feeling so much better both physically and mentally. I have also suffered from anxiety, I am surprised how much my drinking was affecting that. I have wasted so much opportunities when it comes to chatting up girls. Supposedly alcohol enhances confidence, at least that’s what i believed, so I kept drinking. But I was doing more harm than good, and I wasted so much time. Those days are over, and I am very excited about this new life that I am going to lead.

    • @MarquosXoloVanda
      @MarquosXoloVanda หลายเดือนก่อน

      Cigs had nothing to do with your anxiety but the p_orn. But least you quit the tobacco, if nothing else for your heart health.

    • @War-Zone349
      @War-Zone349 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      LFG brother, turn it up

  • @jilly1560
    @jilly1560 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

    Ive never had a romantic experience/relationship with a woman that wasn’t initiated by the woman first. It’s just not worth being publicly humiliated and having your reputation ruined for going up and talking to a woman who isn’t interested in you.

    • @awsambdaman
      @awsambdaman 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Same this is the way I prefer to do things too

    • @demonslayer6648
      @demonslayer6648 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Cope. I’ve been rejected few times. Never regretted it

    •  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Why do you believe women would humiliate you? Is it something you've personally experienced or are you just afraid it might happen?

    • @Iranoutofideasforachannelname
      @Iranoutofideasforachannelname 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Personally, girls would always say:
      Girl 1: Hey (my name), she has a crush on you
      Girl 2: NO I DONT!
      Happens all the fucking time, they ask for my number as a joke, too

    • @FirstnameLastname-zq8oy
      @FirstnameLastname-zq8oy 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I understand being rejected in a public setting can feel humiliating / embarassing, but most women are not going to go out of their way to publically humiliate you just for flirting with them, especially if you're respectful about it. If she's not interested, the vast majority of the time she will just try to end the interaction and leave the conversation. The vast majority of women are also not going to try and ruin your reputation just because theyre not interested in you and you flirted with them. For example, women get hit on all the time in club and bar settings by men theyre not interested in, the majority just accept the compliment and tell the guy theyre not interested. I understand the fear of rejection but theres a difference between being scared of rejection vs living in paranoia that women are going to publically humilite you and ruin your reputation.

  • @brainrich1358
    @brainrich1358 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    I believe the biggest thing is vulnerability. People are afraid of feeling vulnerable. I believe that's it because that's me currently. I was easily open to people when I was younger and getting burned for it that now I'm more closed off than I was before. I'm still working and trying to improve on that by getting out of my comfort zone.

    • @shnoopydoopy6707
      @shnoopydoopy6707 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I can relate to this comment a lot. I'm not sure what happened but i get very very anxious when im finally about to ask a girl out and bitch out last second every fucking time. I feel like i used to be a lot less anxious about it when i was younger too. I'm trying to expose myself in those situations as much as possible though.

    • @Meldrick-jv7sy
      @Meldrick-jv7sy 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Sure...

    • @jones2277
      @jones2277 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      bingo. i think the same can be said for a lot of women too. like taking a chance on a guy who doesn't check off all the boxes seems like a bigger leap bc of so many bad past experiences.

  • @D.Snutts
    @D.Snutts 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    Young men are not scared to talk to women. What they are tired of is working their whole life to only have someone leave and take half your shit with them. Its just not worth it

    • @dietlindvonhohenwald448
      @dietlindvonhohenwald448 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      this is really paranoid thinking.

    • @storm2945
      @storm2945 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@dietlindvonhohenwald448No it’s not.

    • @reecekyle6332
      @reecekyle6332 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@dietlindvonhohenwald448I’m from the uk but the American divorce system really does screw a man over big time marriage id be doing a prenup over there before she would get a ring on her finger

    • @lightup6751
      @lightup6751 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      That is so ridiculous. It’s the whole problem. People so removed from reality they believe the internet is an accurate representation of real life and society.
      women are just people. just like men. most just try to live their lives and find happiness.
      they are not all monsters lmao
      such an excuse

    • @jones2277
      @jones2277 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      lol. these young men are barely out of high school. they don't have anything to take.

  • @bandit_six5418
    @bandit_six5418 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

    “No” has never been the worst thing she can say. These days the possibility also exists that she records you or runs to HR.

    • @MikeJensen-w2v
      @MikeJensen-w2v 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      a lot of people dont get this because they have had mostly good experiences with vvomen
      but saying stuff like this is "incel talk" even though its reality for most men lol

    • @TimSlee1
      @TimSlee1 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I hope they don't do that to me, my life already sucks so it'd drive me over the edge.

    • @guedrini2045
      @guedrini2045 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Well HR only exists at your workplace which is a pretty awful place to be trying your luck with approaches 😂
      Regardless of HR why would you deliberately turn the place ur at everyday into a minefield of awkward encounters. Pick ANYWHERE else Bruh 😂😂

    • @defaultx238
      @defaultx238 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Well, don't ask your coworkers out then 😅

    • @lol_youre_mad
      @lol_youre_mad 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      well what did you say to make her run to HR, because that's not most women's reaction. you're just chronically online lol

  • @rickstevenson9585
    @rickstevenson9585 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    With the “Me Too” crap it’s now very risky for men to approach women and ask them out or even flirt. If she decides you’re not up to her standards you’re automatically “creepy”. She can then proceed to run you up the flag pole and ruin your reputation or accuse you of “sexual harassment” as the definition of the term has become so broad that it includes basically anything the woman wants it to.

    • @adelina1531
      @adelina1531 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      me too “crap” ??? women finally speaking about the sexual violence and harassment they’ve been forced to accept and be silent about for centuries is not some fad

    • @rickstevenson9585
      @rickstevenson9585 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      @@adelina1531 not saying there aren’t past wrongs that too place, But you have to admit it’s been taken WAY too far. The entire make population is basically being punished for what a small percentage of the population engaged in.

    • @adelina1531
      @adelina1531 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      @@rickstevenson9585 it hasn’t been taken nearly far enough. most rapists and domestic abusers still get off scot free. it’s absolutely NOT only a small percentage of men who harass and assault women or enable other men to do it. you’re not going to be accused of harassment if you nicely approach a woman in a social setting.

    • @rickstevenson9585
      @rickstevenson9585 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      @@adelina1531 most men aren’t sex offenders. It would be like me saying it’s not a small percentage of women that divorce their husbands and take all their money and never allow them to see their kids. Wild exaggerations aren’t helpful or productive. And it only appears that most offenders get away with it ( how do we know they are guilty in the first place in he said she said situations that make up a lot of the cases. The legal standard is innocent until proven guilty, and there’s been a fair number of incidents of women making it up to lash out at a ex boyfriend that dumped her, her ahole boss she doesn’t like, etc.). And what social settings? No one goes out anymore, women just swipe left and right on guys from home. If you’re a guy that didn’t win the generic lottery, then you’re going to have to try and strike up a conversation with a real life woman out in public, you know the old fashion way.

    • @adelina1531
      @adelina1531 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@rickstevenson9585 yeah that would be stupid to say because the percent of of divorces where women unfairly take too much money or don’t allow the dad to see the kids for an unjustified reason is literally minuscule??? yeah that’s exactly your problem that you think the number of women that lie about it is remotely significant especially since men literally lie about being victims of abuse and falsely report people of committing crimes more than women do?? (and men are more likely to win custody in a divorce if they actually ask for it so don’t start)

  • @wocannaseilai5983
    @wocannaseilai5983 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    The truth for me is that I feel that it's impossible for me to build that connection. I've noticed the same worldview even as I've grown older and stronger and better looking

    • @Mountainofcharm
      @Mountainofcharm 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Why do you feel that? maybe we can change that for you. It's best we don't die alone. Check me

  • @TremelJackson
    @TremelJackson 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +107

    Rejection is scary but I think young men should understand that being with someone that treats you like garbage is far worst than someone saying they're not interested trust me fellas once you're familiar with rejection it becomes the least of your worries

    • @Michelle.A79
      @Michelle.A79 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      You’ve got brains 🧠

    • @BillyOnYouTube
      @BillyOnYouTube 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      It's getting to the point where I'd rather be with someone who abuses me than to be alone. At least that person acknowledges my existence.

    • @TwanBankz
      @TwanBankz 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@BillyOnTH-camure pathetic lol find self respect

    • @fatmonkey4716
      @fatmonkey4716 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Be alone guys, the juice isn't worth the squeeze, at least until we get the courts back to an even playing field.

    • @briankelly7978
      @briankelly7978 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’ve learned that when you get rejected when I was single it made me say “it wasn’t that bad” and I was glad I took the risk. It’s apart of life and teaches you a lot about yourself

  • @Keviekev115
    @Keviekev115 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Also the biggest thing is “ caring”. The less you care, the better it goes.

    • @RobertMorgan
      @RobertMorgan 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      And if you don't care you don't participate anyway, so it's a self-solving problem.

    • @nakki889
      @nakki889 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      If you dont care, why do you even approach? Approaching a girl you are not interested in feels like nothing even if you get positive reply.

  • @david-wildcard
    @david-wildcard 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +88

    When Theo said about p*rn "I wish it hadn't been there", it really struck a chord in me as I really see it that way too. How much better it would be, if that stuff didn't even exist.

    • @zeethree
      @zeethree 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      It would be no different for me. I was socially isolated and anxious from childhood. Without social skills training I will never be comfortable interacting with people. The porn is an outlet for my problems, not the cause of them.

    • @LastTorgoInParis
      @LastTorgoInParis 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@zeethree i go outside and talk to people, meet new people everyday for work. in over a decade it hasnt given me confidence or the skills to be charismatic and charming. i dont relate or identify with people who have those skills

    • @HellCat_Kenny
      @HellCat_Kenny 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Vote for trump and maybe he'll ban it under project 2025

    • @Avsfan23
      @Avsfan23 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Porn isn't the problem. I've had my fair share of sex with women, but there are some really long dry spells for me. Like all guys, I need a sexual release. I get rejected a lot and I'm not gonna force any woman to have sex with me (that's rape) so I gotta get my release somewhere. I don't think porn is good, but it sure helps when you're down on your luck

    • @user-og6hl6lv7p
      @user-og6hl6lv7p 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      @@zeethree Porn is definitely the problem in your circumstances. It's a coping mechanism. It's only going to keep you indoors more and you'll never be able to overcome your addiction. Do you tell your parents of your porn use by the way? Because if you're ashamed to tell them, what does that tell you about your habit?

  • @NB21021
    @NB21021 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Honestly… every time I see a video of Theo Von speaking, I fall in some sort of love with him more and more.
    Just seems so genuine and honest about difficulties he’s overcome and the way he experienced life, and acknowledging embarrassing parts of himself with empathy. 👏🏻👏🏻

  • @D87943
    @D87943 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +80

    I’m 41 and never been with a woman and now most women my age are married or single mothers. I guess now I’m gonna stay a single man, I’m ok with it.

    • @devinc9
      @devinc9 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      It really isn't a bad deal, lean on friends and family.

    • @aculx2639
      @aculx2639 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      hopefully you go to the gym a lot. You gotta release yourself physically somehow.

    • @D87943
      @D87943 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@aculx2639 it’s weird so I have a free membership at Lifetime but during the week I can go from 9:30 AM to 3:30 PM only and on Sunday it’s free. I forgot what Saturday was cause my brother was talking to a employee on the phone.

    • @krusher74
      @krusher74 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@aculx2639 you will get kicked out of the gym for jerking off!

    • @freeweezybitches
      @freeweezybitches 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You need to get some and then you can stay single if you want

  • @jcronin3155
    @jcronin3155 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    It's got nothing to do with fear of approaching and a lot more to do with the long term financial disadvantages of doing anything with her.

    • @nekemli2622
      @nekemli2622 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Why don't people tell women to approach men?

    • @FirstnameLastname-zq8oy
      @FirstnameLastname-zq8oy 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@nekemli2622 Its tradition. Traditionally for hundreds and hundreds of years, it was customary for a man to "pick" the woman (and when dating before marriage became commonplace it was customary for men to ask out the woman). Same reason why its customary for men to pay on dates and for men to be the one to propose. Im not saying its right, as society gets more equal that should definitely change. But if you have a problem with how men are expected to initiate everything whereas women are expected to be passive, then you have a problem with tradition lol.

    • @nekemli2622
      @nekemli2622 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@FirstnameLastname-zq8oy women traditionally initiated by dropping their handkerchief for example or by doing other similiar things... so youre wrong

    • @cs1645
      @cs1645 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      ​@@FirstnameLastname-zq8oy is not really tradition, is more just how it works... women dont need to move a finger to get men and if men do the same they wont get any women (normally)

    • @randyf25
      @randyf25 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You just sound cheap. What’s expensive about just hanging out at a cheap restaurant or walking downtown? What are you doing that’s expensive?

  • @Quarce1
    @Quarce1 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Disgust and disappointment override fear 9 times out of 10.

  • @joshswain6495
    @joshswain6495 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love Theo's honesty, i think it helps so many young men realise they aren't different

  • @martinmartin9084
    @martinmartin9084 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    Long story short:
    Social media has shaped the way we view men and women the last 20 yrs, for most women it has been “liberating” a “win” and “empowering”, for like 85% of men, we feel we have declined in like every way in the eyes of ourselves and a potential partner, and I believe what used to be fun and empowering being a man has become so much challenged, questioned and put under the microscope that, over time we has lost trust in women, ourselves and society as a whole.
    We as a society tells men they’re useless and dangerous, incels and “subpar”.
    I guess that, if you live enough in your iwn bubble you have not noticed it, this is a reflection Ive made of society as a whole, and individually we can feel ok, but man, men has to redefine what is means to be a man, and nowadays you have all the demands, but no genuine understanding of the roles anymore.

    • @adelina1531
      @adelina1531 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      is this a joke? social media has very famously harmed women’s self esteem and increased women’s mental health issues, self harm and suicide

    • @evamb2254
      @evamb2254 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I agree with some of these points but its also really important to understand the perspective of women too. Theres so many reasons why women have their guards up towards men. Theres also many reasons why a lot of men dont find a partner.

    • @martinmartin9084
      @martinmartin9084 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@evamb2254
      Yeah, I get what you’re saying.
      I do have a sister, and from her, I get much of the sentiments women today have abt men.
      But what abt fairness though?
      I expect a women to be fair to me, they show insecurity and resentment towards men, and as my sister calls is, she says men are ”creeps” and are too often ”to the point” while chatting.
      Myself as someone that is considerate and maybe TOO shy to state my case when chatting, I feel we ALSO get the boot from women, I am not driving things forward enough.
      So that leads me to this question, -is it any wonder many men join ”mgtown”??
      If we are too careful or too nice, we might get labeled ”incel” or ”insecure”, if we come on too strong we are ”creeps” or ”players” all the while MOST men really wish for a stable relationship, but nowadays we get the boot from online women, and, as you’ve guessed, go our own way.
      Is this womans or mens fault?
      I blame society, for blowing up expectations and generalising ppl, we are all different, but society acts as if we are the same mould, and blow up wmns self esteem while telling young men: you suck! It gotta be the outcome that you now see, men will to s lesser degree pursue relationships, and women.

    • @evamb2254
      @evamb2254 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@martinmartin9084 personally its very important to me to be kind to strangers and when men approach me in a nice way, even if im not interested in them, im always respectful. But some men will come off in a creepy way and obviously for our protection, we have to either ignore them or keep the conversation short to not make them think that they have a chance with us.
      Ive had men follow me and harass me, unfortunately we cannot always tell which one will act like that, so for our safety, many women decide to just avoid men overall. Yes its very unfortunate, but if you were in their position, you would probably do the same.
      Im not sure what you mean by « not driving things forward enough ».
      As per your statement that said that if you are too nice you might be perceived as « incel » or « insecure », this is probably the biggest bs that have spread on the internet. So many men say this but in real life, i have many many friends that are woman and none of them would ever date a guy that is mean to them. Most of them would want a guy to treat them as an equal or that is head over heels for them.
      For women, an incel is actually a guy that has deep hate for women. Not a guy who is nice to them.
      I def agree that social media is making us more seperated than ever, but i also think womens fear of men is very much understandable and even though i agree that men have some disadvantages, i still know that we have a long way to go to get treated as equal individuals (if you want more explanations, let me know)

    • @martinmartin9084
      @martinmartin9084 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@evamb2254
      I can understand, kind of, that we have to see things from other peoples lenses.
      I have a sister, she has this kind of (perhaps understandable) fear of men in general.
      At the same time she was always into men that were not good to her, the opposite of ”simps” or ”nice guys”.
      She just was never interested in the nice, more harmless dudes.
      I guess it is to feel safe and protected, you need someone able to provide and protect, sadly many of those guys have an abundance of wmn at their disposal, and can ”afford” not to treat women very good.
      Now we have the female movement of ”men going their own way” in society, and I feel it will be interesting to see where this gender wars will take us in 10-20 years.
      When growing up, 20-30 yrs ago, I never imagined that society would become so divided as it is today.
      We had much of the same issues, but the fear of rejection and the fear of others werent as strong I believe, you could politely show interest in a stranger, without worry or fear.
      I would like never do that today, and no, I am not creepy though I AM getting older 😄

  • @JuicySommelier
    @JuicySommelier 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +54

    Are they afraid or just not wasting their time? Using the “you’re afraid” tactic so you’ll prove you’re not. Homophobe? Be gay to prove you’re not. When I was a kid we just called you chicken to get you to do stuff and then we laughed at you. Phobic sounds more mature so I guess it’s different.

    • @Patrick.Weightman
      @Patrick.Weightman 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Man I never made that connection to calling others chicken but that's exactly what it is

  • @grim9488
    @grim9488 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    Because they don't want to go to jail? Makes sense

    • @katiemp670
      @katiemp670 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      even rapists don't go to jail, you'll be fine.

    • @Laughingyeen-00
      @Laughingyeen-00 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@katiemp670 falsely accused do and the one's who do raped sometimes tend to get smaller sentences than the ones accused.

    • @katiemp670
      @katiemp670 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Laughingyeen-00 please provide some stats on the falsely accused going to jail longer than rapists, and not isolated incidents like what percentage do u believe that is?

  • @inquisitorfederov5470
    @inquisitorfederov5470 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +129

    Social. Media.

    • @SisterT2242
      @SisterT2242 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yep.. the good ol' www aka internet

    • @kaj7135
      @kaj7135 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I call it the Women’s Narcissism Factory.

    • @erikkibler3466
      @erikkibler3466 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No not the internet.social media.like they said

    • @SisterT2242
      @SisterT2242 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What about gaming?

    • @inquisitorfederov5470
      @inquisitorfederov5470 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      @@SisterT2242 absolutely not. One of the most avid gamers alive right here. No correlation. Just unchecked parenting, destruction of the nuclear family, aversion to moral standards, etc.

  • @bm5_5_5
    @bm5_5_5 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Being curious about people is such a wonderful thing. The art of conversation has been lost these days on so many people so if you can hold and maintain a conversation woman or man then you’re already ahead of the game. Just be curious about the person you’re speaking to, speak with intention and ask people about their lives. Don’t be afraid to go deep. We’re all craving that these days. This is how you can build real intimacy over time.

  • @8figures8
    @8figures8 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    It’s really not a fear of them. It’s more like the risk reward ratio is like 9:1 in favor of risk and the reward just isn’t worth it. They’re not even fun to talk to.

    • @FirstnameLastname-zq8oy
      @FirstnameLastname-zq8oy 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      If you think an entire gender isnt fun to talk to, then I reccommend trying to make more platonic female friends if possible.

    • @GarageFiringSquad
      @GarageFiringSquad 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      90% fuckin stupid

    • @GarageFiringSquad
      @GarageFiringSquad 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​​@@FirstnameLastname-zq8oy Quiet down, you know they're fuckin stupid, first if all, and irrelevant, usually.

    • @Soundeagle3456
      @Soundeagle3456 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@FirstnameLastname-zq8oy but you're not fun to talk to, only a few of you, and most of the time it's a lesbian or tomgirl, every other time you're not. LOL

    • @lightup6751
      @lightup6751 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@Soundeagle3456
      you definitely have no experience with people and especially women lol
      if you reduce 4 billion people to being boring, that’s just an issue in the intelligence and experience department

  • @CullodenCowboy
    @CullodenCowboy 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Every young man has either experienced or knows someone who had their name and reputation wrongly dragged through the mud by a woman that they approached, or even a woman they deeply cared for and dated for a long time.

  • @blazehall8086
    @blazehall8086 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +86

    What is so difficult about women approaching men? I think that would solve this “problem”

    • @Johnnywanton
      @Johnnywanton 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +60

      Bingo. All this 'equality' stuff never seems to extend to women approaching men.

    • @levansegnaro4637
      @levansegnaro4637 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      They are, they are swiping through thousands of men and only swiping on prince charming.

    • @blazehall8086
      @blazehall8086 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      @@levansegnaro4637 that’s not “approaching” someone in the same context as they’re describing

    • @nickthompson1812
      @nickthompson1812 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Stop fighting biology and deal with it.

    • @blazehall8086
      @blazehall8086 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      @@nickthompson1812 even men apparently make it too difficult. I think this is why the greater masses of men are checking out of this, something “enjoyable” shouldn’t be consistently difficult.

  • @connorbyway8088
    @connorbyway8088 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I've never seen Robert Greene laugh so hard

  • @morsology
    @morsology 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You know what it is? From my experience, social media has taught me that there is no appropriate time to approach a woman. I’m afraid of being rejected because I feel as if no matter what I do, they’ll see me as a creep. Approaching women is already a scary thing to do, but social media has heightened the anxiety of the youth even more than normal.

    • @jones2277
      @jones2277 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      i can see this, but maybe instead of approaching women cold, join some social groups that women are part of and just get to know them in natural social settings. then you can feel out what kind of person she is before you go for it, or you can flirt or just vibe. i remember a guy who used to always chat me up while i was running on the treadmill at the gym. he might have had a better chance if he were in my art class and we were just chatting about art or something like that. but i'm running, i can barely hold a conversation. if i'm short it's bc it's not conducive to conversation.

  • @rodbelding9523
    @rodbelding9523 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Speaking from experience, it's not that we're afraid, it's that we've given up on it after getting rejected and ghosted literally constantly. A man can only take so much rejection.

    • @GarageFiringSquad
      @GarageFiringSquad 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Fear of rejection yes. Cant take anymore. Avoidance. Fear. Yes.

    • @lightup6751
      @lightup6751 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      That is what being afraid means

  • @OGCanadaCards
    @OGCanadaCards 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Scarcity vs abundance mindset

  • @danielcarlson2337
    @danielcarlson2337 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +70

    I don't talk to women because I know it in my heart that I have nothing to offer. I'm a huge loser with a bad personality. I just don't measure up, plain and simple.

    • @TheStonedHermit
      @TheStonedHermit 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      It's not like you can't change that, just gotta show yourself some love. As someone that suffers with depression and lack of self worth I know it's easier said than done. Chances are you know what you have to do you're just not doing it.

    • @absolutelysobeast
      @absolutelysobeast 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Damn son. Thats almost certainly not true. I mean, being honest with yourself is awesome, but humility doesnt mean you have to diss yourself. Most men dont have anything to offer. In fact, historically all men have offered is safety and security. Whether that be food, money, resources, a safe protected home. So now in the modern world how can we provide those to a woman, when we make minimum wage and live in an apartment building? Ill tell you what though, the secret to women is to make them feel special. Thats different for every woman, but if you make them feel special you have their heart. Make them feel loved, cared for, safe, and supported and you are good to go. I have met many thousands of men who didnt deserve to have a wife or girlfriend but they all did. Plenty of women out there dude, just dont shoot for dua lipa and you will be good

    • @El_Vicente1
      @El_Vicente1 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@absolutelysobeastdamn , I want a dua lipa

    • @LovedByYou
      @LovedByYou 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Honesty I appreciate the honesty, but you can change your personality.

    • @braveboy2445
      @braveboy2445 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Watch cobra kai, focus on a character names Eli.

  • @MichaelGreen57320
    @MichaelGreen57320 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I'm a 24-year-old virgin and I'm afraid of women. I've never asked a woman out on a date before. In fact, I've never had a romantic conversation with a woman before. Never flirted, never. I've never had any physical contact with a woman.

    • @autoclearanceuk7191
      @autoclearanceuk7191 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Pattaya

    • @joenglish9136
      @joenglish9136 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Have you ever asked yourself where this fear comes from truly, Im pretty much in the same boat shit is fucking scary, and Its very hard to understand why. Don't hate yourself for how your brain works, just geter goin it will be ok. I have been fumbling recently and I hate it but it feels better than being in the stagnant fear zone. Live your life type shit na mean.

    • @MichaelGreen57320
      @MichaelGreen57320 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@joenglish9136 I don't know where it comes from, I just know that in my entire life I've been timid around women.

    • @JLWprime10
      @JLWprime10 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Their are ways on social media you can pay a women to have sex with 😂

    • @Genshin_7708
      @Genshin_7708 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@joenglish913618 here I was walking and amount of time I have heard women mock me just for existing but what's is need to comment about my apperance bruh like can't even live

  • @Cofffeeeboy
    @Cofffeeeboy 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    if i'm ever feeling down about a certain a topic, i search that topic up, add "Theo Von" to the end of it and it never fails me. this dude is so level headed, i would love to sit and have a coffee with him

  • @modalsoul6511
    @modalsoul6511 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Sigh … I’m tired of this …. Men have NEVER approached women in droves since the beginning of time , hell I just turned 50 two weeks ago and I’ve never been married , never had a girlfriend nor the prospect of one … am I afraid to talk to a woman ( not generally ) but a complete stranger walking through the mall that I find attractive ( YES)
    again I said stranger … now if that woman is in proximity of me ( workplace , a store ) basically somewhere where I can ALWAYS see her then no because there is comfort in repetition…. But a random woman … no I’ll pass on that.

    • @awsambdaman
      @awsambdaman 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      100% I hope young men understand that this not a normal thing to have to endure. Previous generations were not cold approaching en masse. The solution is to find friends, friend of friends, meet people in groups, or if you’re lucky enough to be attractive, take advantage of online dating. Cold approaching is not normal for humans, which is why women generally don’t seem to like it

    • @BalkanManic
      @BalkanManic 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@awsambdaman well the problem is the average woman has been ran through by age 25 (no one wants a whore whos been around for marriage) so we are forced to filter out a lot of women. I'm tall jacked and have a good career and can get a new girl for every day of the week but not a single one of them is marriage material. Most men are just working out, making money, and just enjoying casual sex.

    • @thebar6095
      @thebar6095 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm Gen z and forcing myself to cold approach because there is no other option.

    • @thebar6095
      @thebar6095 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@awsambdamannot for me, I'm Gen z and need to force myself to cold approach. Those other options do not work/aren't viable. In reality you need to be brave if you want to succeed

    • @Soundeagle3456
      @Soundeagle3456 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@thebar6095 no, you're an idiot for this.

  • @mellowrockmusic
    @mellowrockmusic 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Man, these guys are just vibing and having a great conversation about a great topic together. This is great

  • @DanteGuerrero-ed6rs
    @DanteGuerrero-ed6rs 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Dude I appreciate his honesty

  • @ashaaib
    @ashaaib 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    I’m not afraid it’s just why approach when I know I will get rejected.

    • @youngdepp
      @youngdepp 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      why do u say that?

    • @shnoopydoopy6707
      @shnoopydoopy6707 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      You wont know if you dont try. Just believe in yourself and if you get rejected its kind of a good thing, it makes you stronger and you waste less time thinking "does this girl like me?" because you can just move on to the next one.

    • @Burn143
      @Burn143 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I understand you’re trying to be realistic in a sense, but this fixed mindset will hold you back. Like the comment above me said, believe in yourself and get rid of the preconceived notions beforehand. You may never know what could happen.💯

    • @ashaaib
      @ashaaib 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      @@Burn143 it’s not holding me back it’s saving my life. Can you imagine what getting rejected over and over again will do to your mental health.

    • @Burn143
      @Burn143 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@ashaaib I understand your sentiment. However, stop “imagining” just do. Getting rejected over and over again, at a point the individual just gets used to it; it becomes easier. Either way, lol you do you brother.

  • @Geno-xj9vt
    @Geno-xj9vt 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It's not fear or intimidatoon, it's self-preservation and peace.

  • @Level_Eleven
    @Level_Eleven 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +71

    *‘Why Are So Many Young Women Disrespectful To Men?’*
    There fixed the title for ya

    • @Jackholiday1025
      @Jackholiday1025 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It’s lame when either men or women wanna demonize the opposite sex. This bitter gender war rhetoric is so lame.

  • @kalgore4906
    @kalgore4906 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +86

    Your mom was right it’s that damn phone! Nobody wants to say it because everyone is addicted to it but it’s the only answer I’ve come across that holds water for me.
    It even stated before the introduction of the iPhone so I guess you could argue the breakdown of community is the cause

    • @kalgore4906
      @kalgore4906 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      @overlordfemto7523 no I disagree the internet is part of the problem but the phone is the catalyst. You can see it all around you how many people do you seen in your daily life that are glued to their phones and almost ignore the outside world? How many people walk around with AirPods/wireless headphones in and shut out the world?
      Maybe I’m wrong but I’ve gone through all the excuses and causes and for me the breakdown of community and me me me culture is the problem and it seems like nobody wants to change anything

    • @muscleman125
      @muscleman125 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @overlordfemto7523 I think it's more that the smartphones made the internet highly accessible to literally everyone and their mothers in a brand new, extremely easy way that fits into your pocket. Prior to smartphones, if you wanted to browse the internet, you needed a computer. If you wanted to browse the internet anywhere, you needed a laptop.
      Then when the iPhone dropped, Great Grandma and Baby Billy both had streamlined access to facebook, youtube, and the rest of the internet right in their pocket. This is what has led to the brain rot of society. The boomers, early millennials, and gen Alpha did not experience the internet in it's prime. They never saw the wild west era of the internet and what was capable. The iPhone marked the start of the "corporatized" internet.
      The same people that taught my generation internet safety is the exact generation who gets scammed, believes propaganda, and became vane with social media.

    • @dynamicdingus
      @dynamicdingus 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      The internet is the drug. The phone is the dealer

    • @KriegerIngarten
      @KriegerIngarten 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kalgore4906because theyre on the internet using their phone idiot

    • @Cazket
      @Cazket 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      ​@@kalgore4906women didn't want to be approached before phones by regular dudes. You gotta understand, gen-z is the first time women can choose out of want and not need

  • @Kawaiijihad
    @Kawaiijihad 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    It's statistically safer not to. I've been robbed by an ex with my own gun (won in court tho).
    Needless to say I'm terrified of getting in another relationship and I'm definitely not having kids...

    • @GarageFiringSquad
      @GarageFiringSquad 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm sorry man.. life is unpredictable. But being a father is the most predictably satisfying and rewarding part of life. Far beyond any other relationship.

  • @DS-wl5pk
    @DS-wl5pk 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I gave a girl a compliment yesterday after helping her while I was working.
    She had come up to me with a Massive smile that made me smile…. She immediately looked down with a face and walked away quickly.
    Now, please comment as holes…. What did I ME MYSELF do wrong?
    What excuse will you make for the rudeness and treating people like they don’t exist unless you want something?
    Oh but it’s me right? I did something wrong, I spoke to her

    • @Jackholiday1025
      @Jackholiday1025 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Maybe you didn’t do anything wrong but the fact that you would bother even making this comment shows you don’t have the right mindset.

    • @DS-wl5pk
      @DS-wl5pk หลายเดือนก่อน

      @Jackholiday1025 not at all, youre making assumptions about me based on me venting about a single event.
      Besides, the interaction was short and i didnt expect anything more then reciprocated human decency
      So again, please try and tell me about MY mindset and how YOU know so much about it.
      Id love to hear more about me, please what else do you know?
      You know what i was thinking and doing? You know what i wanted and expected?
      Oh, no im just not allowed to he upset when someone treats me as if i somehow wronged them and/or did something to make them feel uncomfortable?
      Tell me how i should act and feel?
      I mean as far as i knew swallowing it and not pressing the issue is whats the thing to do... And what i did.
      So tell me more about how my mindset was anything about anything
      Tell me im not allowed to be bothered and vent
      Tell me, go ahead
      Cause i fail to see your stupid as point

    • @War-Zone349
      @War-Zone349 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

      she probably looked down because she was trying to hide her smile, because you're so handsome brother 😮

  • @leviticuscornwall9631
    @leviticuscornwall9631 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    We’re not afraid. The juice is no longer worth the squeeze. I’m not opposed to a relationship that forms organically, but the days of cold approaches are over

  • @darrellowings2343
    @darrellowings2343 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I think the reason is we all have this idea deep in our psyche that we can only sustain rejection so many times. It's akin to the idea that we can afford to lose only so much and still be us. Mostly it's a lie on the former. The later I don't know. But speaking to women just relax and talk to her like you would anyone else and be reasonable with who you approach or ask out. Don't approach a woman that looks like a super model unless you do too or are really rich. If you could somehow trick or connive her into a relationship with you it would be the worst mistake of your life. Of course there are always exceptions. Don't build your life around the possibility of outliers. Don't waste your life.

    • @Mountainofcharm
      @Mountainofcharm 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This is silly advice. How old are you? I'm the GOAT of this stuff and I cant say I approve of your message, at all.

    • @darrellowings2343
      @darrellowings2343 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Mountainofcharm You can't talk to women but you find my suggestion objectionable? OK educate me why you think men are afraid to approach women and why didn't you include that as a counter point. I have no idea what you think only that for no reason given you don't like what I think. You don't think part of the problem is there are a large number of shallow Hals out there that have looked at so much porn they think it's reasonable to approach women out of their league because I do. Sometimes getting close to the truth isn't comfortable but it's where hope is for those that will receive it.

    • @Mountainofcharm
      @Mountainofcharm 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@darrellowings2343 I cant talk to women? what?!!! I'm literally the best seducer alive. That's a fact. Check me out. "Don't approach a woman if she looks like a supermodel unless you do too, or if you're rich" Thats the weakest crock of S, I've ever heard. There's a multitude of reasons but a major one is that weak beta males like you, who spread misinformation based on their own insecurities and inability to foster real confidence that isnt shaked by countless rejections, is one of the foremost reasons why most men are afraid to talk to women today.

    • @Chriss-ez7xk
      @Chriss-ez7xk 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      ⁠@@darrellowings2343 lmao the fact that you say ANY woman is out of your league says a lot about your mindset, you basically put women above you and have made them God & idk if you’re even aware of it, no woman is out of your league. What would even make you even think that’s the case ?

    • @user-uc7qb1su4e
      @user-uc7qb1su4e 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Chriss-ez7xk this is the correct view.

  • @Burn143
    @Burn143 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    When it comes down to it: confidence, awareness, respect, not having a fixed mindset, and timing are key factors. Learning how to read the room is important.
    Edit: I left out money and looks out of my comment on purpose. Yes, they’re obviously important, but they’re not the ONLY/LEADING factors that matter or the end all be all. This is why so many men aren’t successful with approaching to begin with; they think it’s only those two factors. This is why you see some average guys that are great at approaching women, they already know this. Also keep in mind, each situation will be different.

    • @Bakarost
      @Bakarost 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Also $$, also genetic blessings

    • @Burn143
      @Burn143 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Bakarost Yes money and looks are obvious haha. Though, as we know those won’t always lead the way.

    • @Soundeagle3456
      @Soundeagle3456 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Burn143 they always do, i know you don't like to admit it, but we have stats to back that up.

    • @Burn143
      @Burn143 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Soundeagle3456 Sorry to tell you, but no, they don’t always. I have stats to back up what I’m saying as well. There are men that will actively try to refuse this though, but you have to understand that things aren’t always black and white. This is something I’ve studied and observed myself, both in and out of the lab. I know what I’m talking about. Respectively, thanks for your input though. :)

  • @C_98.
    @C_98. 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Well, speaking for myself, I recently decided to have more of an attitude towards women and got some numbers and a date, but what I realized is that most of them expect you to be an amazing man, have unrealistic expectations or just give you attention until they find someone “better than you”. Many girls today desire exceptional men but give nothing in return.
    I'm not the kind of guy who thinks no woman is good, but for now I'm the guy who won't waste my energy on girls anytime soon.

  • @lamartv3d366
    @lamartv3d366 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    It’s not afraid. Just not worth it

    • @OttoVonBizmarkie
      @OttoVonBizmarkie 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Sounds like cope

    • @lamartv3d366
      @lamartv3d366 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@OttoVonBizmarkie I have a girlfriend already. 😭

    • @OttoVonBizmarkie
      @OttoVonBizmarkie 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lamartv3d366 so it is worth it?

  • @tajhill989
    @tajhill989 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Approaching depends heavily on whether or not she already finds you attractive. Thats why women should just send signs to men THEY LIKE.

  • @brodythomas7176
    @brodythomas7176 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    A lot of situation-ships where you can bring a girl out to dinner or buy her drinks all night for her to ghost you and she does that several times a week to multiple guys. Guys are just choosing self love.

    • @Bendesho
      @Bendesho 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      That's not what "situationship" means

    • @Indie876
      @Indie876 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      congrats, you have discovered the meaning of dating! this is when people meet with someone they don't know much about to discover whether there is compatibility or chemistry. then, they decide whether they would like to meet again or not. hope this helps!

    • @gifi4
      @gifi4 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      @@Indie876 No no no. That is NOT what he was saying. He was saying that girls will often go on dates with guys simply to get a free or cheap meal. She will do this to multiple guys to get multiple meals for free or cheap. Don't even act like you don't get that.

    • @Indie876
      @Indie876 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@gifi4 of course there are. just there are men who date multilple women just for sex. this is simply a sub-type of people who have questionable values and morals. but this is not the real world. this is what you are being fed online. go into the real world. how many women do you know of in reality who are using guys for free meals??? as a women myself in my early 20's I and all of my friends could think of nothing worse than going out with a random man we know little about just for a free meal???

    • @LovedByYou
      @LovedByYou 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Your too chronically online, that doesn’t usually happen…

  • @Bendesho
    @Bendesho 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

    To any women who may see this: we guys have gotten so much negative feedback about cold approaching women. If you see a guy you want to come up and talk to you, you need to give him a green light. Eye contact and smile.

    • @user-lt1jd1ye3v
      @user-lt1jd1ye3v 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I do this and guys are still too shy

    • @Starfish-td2vj
      @Starfish-td2vj 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I can't look guys that I like in the face so we're both doomed 😂

    • @fembot521
      @fembot521 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      We do this all the time! I have never ever seen a woman be mean to a guy in my life. I was so nice to one guy he became my stalker. Women have to ride a fine line of being nice while rejecting someone and also being clear about their rejection. Some guys persist too much. Guys need to accept a rejection and move on. The creepiness comes in when they persist like a PUA.

    • @dynamicdingus
      @dynamicdingus 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      So many girls have done this to me, but I'm still hesitant cus it feels too risky. They make it super obvious, but I doubt myself

    • @reedre6177
      @reedre6177 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No they need to say yes and actually follow through not lead them on

  • @GuestYouTubeUser
    @GuestYouTubeUser 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I’m not. I get rejected all the time. I’ll admit I have unattractive women try to get with me. But I know my worth. Also they deserve someone that truly loves them.

  • @vagelis93codex
    @vagelis93codex 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    We ain't afraid, its just pointless.

  • @petercoderch589
    @petercoderch589 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    It's because being rejected is very painful and women will reject 95% of men right out of the bat, and the 5% that won't get rejected will pretty much face a job interview to get a diet. Realistically, only the top 0.1% of men face little or no risk of rejection when talking to women. Even a 6'3 man with an above average face is not cleared.

  • @Tre_Vor194
    @Tre_Vor194 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    thank god for it, because it stops that urge of you giving your time, effort and money to a void. Just like Theo said, he called off the date once he got his fix online. He knows.

  • @josephujustaru5795
    @josephujustaru5795 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Some say afraid others say know their worth or simply want to spend their time differently