How to Heal From Past Trauma, and Find Forgiveness

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  • @juantovar4287
    @juantovar4287 หลายเดือนก่อน +87

    One thing that's helped me was seeing my pictures as a kid and saying I'm gonna get better because this kid deserves to be happy as a man . God Bless Us All 🙏

    • @Kathrynlove
      @Kathrynlove หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      God bless you dude. You do deserve to be happy!!

    • @SamIsHere444
      @SamIsHere444 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hell yeah! I love that for you. You owe it to your child self to be happy

    • @antonioacevedo1516
      @antonioacevedo1516 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I came to that same realization in my journey to getting sober.❤

    • @unicorndeth1986
      @unicorndeth1986 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Also getting sober and thinking of the little me with a genuine smile is a heartbreaking journey I'm trudging to get through, hope you're doing well❤

    • @modsbeck
      @modsbeck 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Damn, now that I think about it, I don't have any

  • @lanceallenmcginnis1105
    @lanceallenmcginnis1105 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +873

    9 years ago my wife left, divorced and married another man. 4 kids. I’ve never been right since. I was generally a content healthy bio, social, spiritual, relational person. Now, I despise people genuinely asking me how I am doing. I’m not doing well and I haven’t been doing well for 10 years. Complex trauma is for real. I feel like the women in the bible with the issue of the blood. The harder I try to heal and the more I spend, the worse it gets. Please help me heal Jesus.

    • @holyshit5274
      @holyshit5274 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

      First its okay to feel that way. Have u been in therapy?

    • @richardbanks9519
      @richardbanks9519 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +63

      Forgive yourself for the suffering you have endured so far, forgive your ex for the decisions she made that effected you in a negative way and look for all the beauty in your life and keep working towards what will help your life.

    • @SuperFacecloth
      @SuperFacecloth 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +55

      I'm sorry brother. You are not alone.

    • @alelectric2767
      @alelectric2767 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

      Same here. It took 10 years it find myself again. I’m glad she’s gone now. Been missing the life I wanted to live.

    • @derekmaestas8949
      @derekmaestas8949 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      I feel that. Almost like I’m just a constant state of angry and not give a shit. I just don’t care about anything anymore. 4 years now.

  • @rhondasmith7413
    @rhondasmith7413 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +244

    A pastor once told me that forgiveness of others relieves ourselves from hatred in our hearts, but it doesn’t mean we need to trust them again. Not one of us is perfect.

    • @rosiedixon98
      @rosiedixon98 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I forgave my mother and it healed me. I also cut her out of my life. 20 years later I ended up living with her and caring for my father as he died over 18 months.
      I hate her now. I watched what she did to him (I caught her trying to k!!! him several times) I will never forgive her.
      I realize now when I was forgiving her I was seeing her as weak, which she is, but like a child with some innocence, which she isn't.
      I'm still working on this but it's shown me that sometimes forgiving someone can harm us.

    • @rhondasmith7413
      @rhondasmith7413 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@rosiedixon98 The problem is not your forgiveness, but trusting her again. Finding a way to let go of the hate is not easy.

    • @thecomeaufamily
      @thecomeaufamily 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@rosiedixon98just so you know, it’s okay to not forgive. I was a crossfire victim of forgiveness too. Do what you can to heal yourself, with all the boundaries you need.

    • @edweber9570
      @edweber9570 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I struggle with this. I know forgiveness I had to confess to truly get forgiveness.

    • @jennifercooper3812
      @jennifercooper3812 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciling. If the other person is abusive, never takes responsibility, just shake the dust off your feet.

  • @willyjaybobindy3402
    @willyjaybobindy3402 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +157

    My son was murdered almost 4 years ago. Shot dead in cold blood while visiting NYC for the first time. Just sitting on the porch of an Airbnb minding his own business.
    The anger and rage and severe depression have nearly broken me and my wife. It’s been really terrible.
    One thing I was told to do was WALK. I have walked so much. And while I walk, I pray. And while I pray, I remind myself that I am not in charge, God is. I ask for Grace,understanding and healing. It is coming. Slowly, but it is coming.
    As mentioned here, when I feel a memory if I’m able to, I try to think about it confront it. I tried ignoring it. But you have to relive the trauma to process. I don’t suppose I’ll ever be totally OK, but trauma is a total monster.

    • @niallyshere
      @niallyshere 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      So sorry for your loss.

    • @JenniferKlein-ld4bf
      @JenniferKlein-ld4bf 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      EMDR is a really great treatment for trauma. Yoga and meditation (along with prayer) saved me when I lost 3 close family members within the span of 5 years. Praying for you and your wife.

    • @Greeceismygoto
      @Greeceismygoto 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I’m so sorry 😢

    • @colexxiii
      @colexxiii 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      god bless you. there’s no such thing as a normal or reasonable response to what you’ve been thru . only a non linear and unpredictable response. work slowly to understand what you’ve been thru and work from there

    • @Nautilus1972
      @Nautilus1972 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      “The seed in your heart shall blossom…”

  • @mas7241
    @mas7241 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +154

    This guest is a genius. This has to be taught in schools.

    • @robertapascal6962
      @robertapascal6962 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      He has an amazing yt channel but I agree we need this to be normal in our society so we can evolve.

  • @SamBassComedy
    @SamBassComedy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I been doing this the last 10 years. Relearning things I was taught wrong from the start. It's like a never ending battle man. I never feel like it's over.

    • @sahara4555
      @sahara4555 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Same

    • @Jen-dt3gm
      @Jen-dt3gm 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      Because as we heal, we ascend in our growth and gain understanding. This happens in like layers cuz you have such an understanding of something then later with more growth you understand another layer

  • @sarahfaith6531
    @sarahfaith6531 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +198

    Prayer was the best therapist I ever found. I had complex ptsd and made it to the other side 100% because of God

    • @javierfranco07
      @javierfranco07 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Amen

    • @Khoros-Mythos
      @Khoros-Mythos 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      "Complex" PTSD does not exist, it is not a disorder in the DSM and was explicitly created as a term for people who *do* *not* have PTSD but want to. In order to "have" "complex" PTSD you literally have to *rule* *out* actual PTSD.

    • @pineappleflow2876
      @pineappleflow2876 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      @@Khoros-Mythos What on earth are you yapping about? Why would anyone "want to" have ptsd? Cptsd and ptsd can co-exist, they are just labels. The DSM is just a book written by people, just because some diagnosis isn't there doesn't mean it isn't real. How old are you dude?

    • @Thatsbannanas-d8c
      @Thatsbannanas-d8c 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@Khoros-Mythosah that’s really nuts! You might be on the wrong channel. Good lord. Who cares about the dms when you are sick !

    • @Limonaid
      @Limonaid 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@Khoros-Mythosnot only were you incapable to doing a quick good search, but you also attack and belittle others. Try to be more kind.
      PTSD is usually caused from a singular traumatic event like witnessing a death. while C-PTSD is caused when someone experiences trauma again and again over a prolonged period of time.

  • @dianareddell1496
    @dianareddell1496 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Boy, this guy is amazing. What a gift he has for breaking down trauma and human frailty.
    Theo’s vulnerability and honesty about himself is endearing and admirable, too. ❤

  • @masamordior
    @masamordior 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +117

    Surrendering my life to God, Complete sobriety, and practicing Celibacy & therapy saved my life. I had to turn my back on life as I knew it and walk a whole new path. I allowed Christ to do a New Thing in my life. It was the best decision I have ever made.

    • @waitwhat564
      @waitwhat564 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I believe after trying so many things , this is the answer. Complete surrender to Christ

    • @toseltreps1101
      @toseltreps1101 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      so you're saying you've been a 304 all your life?

    • @linaespinoza3574
      @linaespinoza3574 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Amen 🎊 🙏🏽

    • @diztens4678
      @diztens4678 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You go girl I'm proud of you won't ever meet you in this life but we'll see each other in the life to come my sister in Christ

    • @laotouaxiong
      @laotouaxiong 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      lol you actually listen to this clip. They scrually got the resolution to the issue. lol stoping putting your issue on god lol.

  • @JussFooty
    @JussFooty 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +104

    Ever since this came out, I listen to it almost twice a day.

    • @totojeens394
      @totojeens394 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That makes so much sense.

  • @Guammaine
    @Guammaine 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Theo is Adorable.

  • @dragonrider9051
    @dragonrider9051 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +197

    Helping others and working a homestead taking care of goats, chickens, pigs. Moved to the mountains to escape the city.

    • @robbobsjobs8456
      @robbobsjobs8456 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      My homestead is here

    • @user-xr1vd4pl7w
      @user-xr1vd4pl7w 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @dragonrider9051 @eobbobsjobs8455 well done to you both, and your magnificent beards

    • @Spaltyslife
      @Spaltyslife 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Hell yes brothers!!

    • @Sunmoonstars976
      @Sunmoonstars976 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I wish I could. I need to get away from hurtful, angry people. They seen to be everywhere. I just one to be one with nature, everyday.

  • @Thoughtworld1984
    @Thoughtworld1984 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +65

    I don't believe i can ever be healthy enough for a romantic relationship. Just getting to the end of my life, without killing myself, will do.

    • @katenicholson4152
      @katenicholson4152 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Relatable

    • @nathanielyoung7418
      @nathanielyoung7418 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Felt. I'm right there aswell, we got this.

    • @rhondasmith7413
      @rhondasmith7413 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I’m sorry for your pain.

    • @melindalee4574
      @melindalee4574 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Oh baby, I hope one day it gets better for you. Trust me I get it but at the end of the day we go through a lot of different emotions /feelings and the crap sometimes just suck! So we have to find ourselves a new normal even if means just appreciating the simple things in life. Sending love dear from Dallas you keep pushing through❤

    • @JD-5250
      @JD-5250 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Damn. Never give up though

  • @joshdiditt
    @joshdiditt 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +91

    My girlfriend Jasmine just sent this to me. I know im a good man but I struggle with things just like anyone else. I want to be a better person and I am trying.

    • @Sirjxy
      @Sirjxy 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      You’re not tryin, you’re actively doing.

    • @sebaz625
      @sebaz625 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      You can do it brother, be honest with yourself and your actions. I’ll pray for you, much love Jesus loves you no matter what.

    • @DanMaul-ip1is
      @DanMaul-ip1is 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      You got this! We all struggle, we’ve all been traumatized, you are not alone. The worst trick our minds play on us is making us think we are alone in our trauma.
      Trauma, hardship is a part of life. Find people who love you, and find community that cares for each other. It’s a journey.

    • @lean916
      @lean916 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Got you in my prayers man I’m on the same page found out my girls pregnant and I just wanna be the best person I can be for them wishing you peace and prosperity from Canada

    • @haykay222
      @haykay222 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I send videos to my bf & he doesn’t even watch them most of the time… I know I deserve better but at the same time I think “if I was being a good gf, he would”…🤦‍♀️..

  • @sterlingdafydd5834
    @sterlingdafydd5834 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +74

    When I was 14yrs I watched my mum walk down an airplane ramp going back to Wales 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿…. I was supposed to follow after the school year (all bollocks and lies) My father then thought that it was best if he bought a townhouse for me to live in alone (age14yrs) while he lived with my “stepmother” and raised her two children who happened to be the same age as me….stepbrother was 9 days older than me…stepsister was 1 year younger than me)….. I had to do everything…cook for myself…do my own laundry…get myself to school (the only thing that saved me was that I was smart and I liked school knowing I was going to university)…. The trauma left just from those experiences are profound (and there was more trauma…more obstacles put in my way)…. I’m 18 months sober age 61 and this will NEVER go away…. the hurt lessens….but it will always influence my life and choices

    • @RobertaFierro-mc1ub
      @RobertaFierro-mc1ub 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      You sound like you're on the right path. I too was thrust into.adulthood overnight. It's a miracle that I'm here today. Welcome to the rest of your life! We are basically the same age, you and I. The whole world has really changed, hasn't it...?

    • @sterlingdafydd5834
      @sterlingdafydd5834 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@RobertaFierro-mc1ub indeed it has…. Thank you fellow traveler…!!!

    • @user-zd3oc6jq8j
      @user-zd3oc6jq8j 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for sharing. Hope you gain peace 🙏🏼

    • @spectershore4482
      @spectershore4482 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for sharing ! That's so moving... from France 🇨🇵🙌🏾🙌🏾

    • @clararob9869
      @clararob9869 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I'm sorry you were treated that way, your father failed and betrayed you. You didn't deserve any of that ❤

  • @Michelle.A79
    @Michelle.A79 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +63

    I think we all have the inner child inside of us.

    • @jorgovan-ni9kz
      @jorgovan-ni9kz 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Probably

    • @RenegadeOfLight
      @RenegadeOfLight 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yep!! And even that lil fucker needs help ❤

    • @Tedtt655
      @Tedtt655 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      PAUSE 😂

    • @jaymysterio4197
      @jaymysterio4197 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      True. Some people have a very wounded one, others have a relatively nurtured one, some have an extremely fragmented one, to name a few

    • @paulofurtado81
      @paulofurtado81 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@jaymysterio4197 mine is messed up

  • @michaelk622
    @michaelk622 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    Tim Fletcher is great! I’ve worked my ass off for 6 years on CPTSD, trying everything and finally have more or less healed…it’s really difficult but so worth it!

    • @mattng4707
      @mattng4707 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      How

    • @TrustInTheUniverse
      @TrustInTheUniverse 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@mattng4707 Check out the book "Complex PTSD Surviving to Thriving by Peter Walker"
      Its a great resource for trauma

    • @valeriequinn9982
      @valeriequinn9982 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Try reading “from surviving to thriving”. There is a workbook too. Good stuff

    • @lolawhyte8911
      @lolawhyte8911 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Me too!! Tons of therapy, my favourite being Internal Family Systems and Rapid Resolution Therapy :)

  • @MickeyDs-mp7yr
    @MickeyDs-mp7yr 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    This whole video was worth it for the last 40 seconds - takes time to relearn the shit you were fed as a child.

  • @deborahparks1296
    @deborahparks1296 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I used self-hynpnosis for test anxiety. The
    Idea of going to my safe room helped me with anxiety.The hardest lesson with forgiveness is forgiving myself.

  • @Thatsbannanas-d8c
    @Thatsbannanas-d8c 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +70

    I love, ❤️ Tim Fletcher. I took his program in 2021. If you want to find a sophisticated, and loving experience, a safe place, take his courses. There is support, after you finish ! It’s amazing. Thank you Tim, for helping me.

    • @Treebranch_
      @Treebranch_ 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thank you. I didn’t think to look to see if he had any offerings. Definitely interested

    • @catw5294
      @catw5294 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Do you mean on-line programs or on-site?

    • @Thatsbannanas-d8c
      @Thatsbannanas-d8c 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@catw5294 there is both !

    • @Thatsbannanas-d8c
      @Thatsbannanas-d8c 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@catw5294 hello he offers both.
      I took lift that was online.

    • @Thatsbannanas-d8c
      @Thatsbannanas-d8c 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@catw5294hi I took the Lift on-line program.

  • @EcomCarl
    @EcomCarl 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    It's a reminder that rebuilding trust in relationships can lay a strong foundation for long-term healing and growth 💖.

  • @trespasscomplex
    @trespasscomplex หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    i have never felt so blessed to be in recovery. It takes care of so much trauma healing

  • @davidlanier2290
    @davidlanier2290 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Recovering from cptsd.
    Now teach dramatic arts therapy - hits all 5 areas required for healing and growth -
    Agree to heal we must treat the whole person.

  • @narnia216
    @narnia216 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Tim Fletcher = Rock Star

  • @kellyturley3465
    @kellyturley3465 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I cannot say how excited I was to see that he is a guest. I’ve listened to his series many times and it is the best most comprehensive info I’ve come across for healing, and understanding.

    • @d.m6614
      @d.m6614 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Exactly my thoughts, same here!

  • @meredithrietz1075
    @meredithrietz1075 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I am so glad Tim talked about forgiveness as not the first thing to jump to in a trauma state. I have struggled with the frustration of not being able to adequately forgive family members for childhood abuse and neglect. I feel bad for not being able to forgive and move on and I feel bad that I even call them abusers. I feel like it is harsh and so I start to justify and make light of everything and so I go in and out of loving them and resenting or hating them, all depending on if I am triggered or not. My life has been extremely hard because of them yet I am conflicted because they are also all I have. Something in me feels guilty when I voice how bad things really were and still and so I am always on the fence of forgiving and moving on and having a deep resentment and anger towards them. I am a Christian and that also confuses me because I know I should forgive but I live with the effects of CPTSD everyday that they caused and it feels like a prison. in some ways I am worse. I so need help!

    • @donwalker117
      @donwalker117 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      As far as I can tell forgiveness floats to the surface after the work to heal is well on its way. Definitely not beforehand

  • @amongstthepigeons1020
    @amongstthepigeons1020 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I've been working with hypnotists for years doing exactly this. I am so much better. Now I am working on my relationships directly. Forgiveness and grief have been the stuck points. This has been an incredibly rewarding process.

  • @patrickharrison4763
    @patrickharrison4763 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    This is great, thanks for giving him a platform. I've been in C-PTSD treatment for 12 years and everything he said rings true. Pete Walkers book "From Surviving to Thriving" is a great reference as well.

  • @KennethRobinson-rf9wj
    @KennethRobinson-rf9wj 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    Your videos are seriously cool, keep 'em coming!

  • @iSkulk
    @iSkulk 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    This was an enormously positive episode that I could see being life changing for a great number of people. Y'all covered some stuff that took me a decade to gather from all over and piece together for myself.

  • @crashmoar290
    @crashmoar290 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    This guy nails it. I’m glad Theo had him on

  • @joanfolds476
    @joanfolds476 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I wish I had heard this information 10 years ago. I was raised in a dysfunctional Christian family. I still struggle. My late mother suffered from a personality disorder. But no one knew this back then. After I did some research during COVID, I discovered she struggled with BPD. Because of this, family life was very difficult during my developmental years. I grew up hating myself. I still struggle.🤔

  • @Oscar_AH
    @Oscar_AH 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I had done that exercise of talking to my inner child to heal shame. I’m measuring my HVR for a while now, and it raised 30% after that. I can tell it truly works

  • @wendy1479
    @wendy1479 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Oh my GOSH, thank you for this!❤ This little clip gave me more "meat" about compassionate inquiry, forgiveness and healing than I found in years of therapy. Maybe that past work helped prime the pump- IDK. But this is EXACTLY what my what my soul needed today.

    • @spectershore4482
      @spectershore4482 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What's wrong with therapy !?? First of my life today. I'm 38. And what a desappointement ! What can be done instead ? 🫣

  • @billmiller9145
    @billmiller9145 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I've been following Tim's channel since 2021 when I began to understand my own childhood trauma. Along with my amazing therapist and his wisdom I'm feeling "normal" for the first time in my 64 years on the planet. I can't say enough about how his teachings have helped me get my life back.

    • @Sunmoonstars976
      @Sunmoonstars976 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      This man is a treasure, for sure. He sets the standard for love, compassion and understanding.

    • @billmiller9145
      @billmiller9145 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Sunmoonstars976 He taught me compassion for myself and that's where my healing really took root.

    • @rosiedixon98
      @rosiedixon98 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm feeling really lost at 44 so thank you very much for this, I have time.

  • @krissijo5538
    @krissijo5538 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    I feel Theo. I know exactly how he feels. I have complex PTSD & it has literally worn my ass out and on SO many levels! It's one busy ass disorder. Have your ass sitting up there in a Texas sized tired.

  • @linusgerbsch374
    @linusgerbsch374 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    "CURL YOUR WAY TO FRICKIN COMPLETE FREEDOM!!!!😬😬" - loved the intensity on that one xD

  • @Eugenetra7
    @Eugenetra7 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I had so much trauma in my life that I don't even remember the early episodes. I've been influenced by 3 generations of narcs from my family + my narc wife. And I only learned about narcs and manipulators at 40, after decades of this craziness. I have little hope that I will ever heal. Absolutely alone now. And I live in Ukraine, for 2+ years at war, with missile strikes etc. This life feels like hell, it's often so difficult just not to finish it.

    • @alienatedd
      @alienatedd 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      i believe in you and your life. i can only imagine how hopeless things feel.
      for all you know you have years and years left. the war ends, new opportunities arise.
      you find joy again. you start your life for the first time.
      you leave the old life behind and realize you have become reborn.
      reborn in love, no longer stuck in the hate and constant threat of fear.
      my wish for you is that you find life in every corner. i am so sorry for your loss.
      i am sorry the life as you know it cannot fill the hole of loss.
      may your days become brighter. may you find hope. ✨
      sending you solidarity my friend 💛

    • @stefaniakonstantinidou981
      @stefaniakonstantinidou981 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      U won t believe it but it s true. Ask Jesus to help u with everything u need and He will. Just ask and wait and see what happens

  • @vClasia
    @vClasia 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    My mom passed in 2018 from Lupus and a CVA. I can accept what happened knowing she's free from pain, but I'll still hurt everyday.

    • @yourdaddy9622
      @yourdaddy9622 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That shows me, a total stranger, what a great Mother she was. You just told a billion people about her on youtube. Imagine telling her childhood self, that THAT many people would know about her. Wild right? But it’s true. I’m sorry for your loss. I love my mom, and I know you do.

    • @exclusivefresh
      @exclusivefresh 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      That fucking sucks man. I can’t imagine. One day I’ll have to deal with losing my parents too, it’s scary. Let me know how your healing goes, praying for you

    • @user-dy2xu3uv8k
      @user-dy2xu3uv8k หลายเดือนก่อน

      God bless you

  • @amedeosiano3146
    @amedeosiano3146 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Lost the first girl that I actually loved. After 2 relationships totaling 11 years. I can say I actually fell in love with my 3rd girlfriend. Unfortunately, her and I were only together for 4 months. Because as soon as my traumas poked their head, she ran and never looked back. That is what lead me here. After my first 2 relationships, I spent 5 years being single, not a clue that I had any lingering traumas from childhood and past relationships....but I did. Its sad to say the first girl I truly fell in love with, I lost after only 4 short months,; and this is where the pain led me. At least now I know where to start to hopefully one day develop a healthy relationship and start a family.
    Sidenote - I'm 31, I didn't learn what true love is until 31. And the girl I truly loved.... I didnt realize I lost until she was already out the door.

  • @SuperFacecloth
    @SuperFacecloth 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thank you for having him on. He is a profound teacher. Kudos to you both.

  • @dr.ruthziemba2222
    @dr.ruthziemba2222 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Bless you for posting this

  • @RobertaFierro-mc1ub
    @RobertaFierro-mc1ub 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Tim Fletcher and his videos are the breakthrough ive been hoping for! I cant believe he's not bigger! Learning self awareness and re-learning how to trust is the key to personal development.

  • @thomsutherland73
    @thomsutherland73 หลายเดือนก่อน

    We are Intellectual, physical, emotional, relational and spiritual beings. To get right, to be healthy, we must look at these. And I am assuming it's not going to be a quick fix but a journey. I appreciate this knowledge. Thankyou

  • @Ryl33hz
    @Ryl33hz หลายเดือนก่อน

    I"ve been studying Tim's videos for the last year now, learned more about myself and my past through observing his videos, vs going to therapy myself.

  • @mollyholland19
    @mollyholland19 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I turned 21 yesterday. When I was 15, I got into my first relationship. I discovered shortly after we got together and giving myself to him, from someone else that he was texting another girl trying to get pictures. He didn’t admit it until i confronted him, then he apologized and begged for another chance, not knowing any better I decided to do it. Then I started finding porn in his phone, multiple times. That’s when I really started to become insecure, and lost trust for anyone because of how much it scarred me. I started to think everyone was the same. Seems I’ve ruined good relationships since then, and pushed people away. I didn’t start realizing until recently that I am this way because of that awful scar. I hate living with this mindset, and I hope I can heal from this.

  • @wombatburrito5896
    @wombatburrito5896 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I had a very traumatic child hood and early years followed by more trauma and rough years self medicated with drugs and alcohol since the age of 12 . Finally spent 90 days inpatient and got some help in my 30’s remd therapy helped me but I fell off the wagon again a ways after my only daughter punched her own ticket. and am now going through a nasty divorce 3 sons … I am now back in therapy in my early 40’s . Cptsd sucks and requires constant upkeep to not fall back into old patterns.

    • @omarelizalde329
      @omarelizalde329 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I pray for you to have strength and courage to continue on the path. It’s not an easy road but not an impossible one.

  • @BTCBlumberg
    @BTCBlumberg 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +89

    "well that person is a politician" 😭😭

    • @dejax9
      @dejax9 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      I dont think some people realize the double joke he made there 😂

    • @gblack_69
      @gblack_69 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@dejax9 I had to look at the comments before i said anything haha'

    • @rosiedixon98
      @rosiedixon98 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Omg I'm cackling in a heavy traffic jam with my windows open and can't hide now 😂😂😂 that was VERY funny!

  • @FlaviøǐValiente
    @FlaviøǐValiente 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m all for holistic healing focusing all areas of our personhood. Love it❤

  • @aboogie24
    @aboogie24 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Omg! Tim Fletcher! His videos have helped me so much.

  • @oudude8770
    @oudude8770 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Writing a letter to your child self is a good exercise. Let that child know that its gonna be okay and that youre there for them and stuff along those lines. Might wanna do this alone because things will probably get heavy and thats fine. Tears are healing and they need to be let out. Most of us need to do that kind of emoting anyways. Let those tears flow.

  • @callumbrasher8048
    @callumbrasher8048 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love this, many cultures try and force forgiveness before someone is ready, like in a western culture or religious culture some encourage people to forgive and forget or to forgive immediately, though it's SO important to move through the pain, to feel it, process it and then to forgive once we're ready after we've started feeling and processing it, and I love how you talk about forgiveness as a by-product of healing and processing that pain because it's so true, it just comes naturally, though healing and processing often or may require some help like seeking a mental health professional to help us move through the pain.

  • @hdskl2150
    @hdskl2150 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Oh wow I’m so glad Theo is talking with Tim. Hoping you heal your shame, me too 💕

  • @tredd9019
    @tredd9019 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love that Theo is having such a wide variety of guests.

  • @jamianjacobs5898
    @jamianjacobs5898 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great guests and awesome show. I got a lot out of this episode. God bless you brother!

  • @zebralion6396
    @zebralion6396 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hearing Theo talk about feeling the addiction creep in: 5:02 relate so much to that. I think acknowledging it is what makes it torturous sometimes

  • @steveborne9821
    @steveborne9821 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Speaking to my hurt , sad and pissed-off 17 year old rebel helped me get through so many situations. He doesn't want to mature....I am not harsh with him but loving. It takes time. "The magical child within you" I found this great small book in the late 80's. Author Bruce Davis PHD. I even learned to grab control of my panic attacks by comforting and internally speaking with my inner child. I grew up in an unpredictable crazy family and control was a big issue....My mother was so bipolar at a time when it was called Manic Depressive......so intense and mean. Angry. And a father that enabled her craziness.....

  • @nancythran9353
    @nancythran9353 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm so grateful for you ,since I came across you .someone finally gets me

  • @sylvesterbestertester1013
    @sylvesterbestertester1013 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    If Theo gets better, he won't be funny anymore.
    But he would be happier, so it would be worth it.

  • @stacytw79
    @stacytw79 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    TY TIM- SO IMPORTANT @ 9:45 ish in - Theo asked about “Forgiveness” and one key thing you said IS ABOUT THE BRAIN!!
    When doing all the therapeutic work w/ Trauma Therapy- the further you get into it, the Limbic system in our brains will not react the same way as before- the wounds/triggers won’t be there as they were BEFORE.
    So many people don’t know about ALL THE BRAIN STUFF- THE NEURO SCIENCE- IN TRAUMA AND TRAUMA WORK/THERAPY.
    And you don’t have to be a brain surgeon to learn this stuff guys, you can learn it! And really, you HAVE to &/or be open & willing to learn about it for Complex Trauma and any therapeutic work for it.
    ❤️❤️

  • @AvsFan32
    @AvsFan32 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Absolutely perfect response about forgiveness.

  • @SteveWSVG
    @SteveWSVG 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    my fav part is the paper he had which clearly shows he works harder for everything then many think

  • @crucifire9224
    @crucifire9224 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Tim is the man

  • @RippinPacks4you
    @RippinPacks4you 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

    Have a great day anyone who reads this 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤

    • @pvillelde
      @pvillelde 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Same to you!

    • @yourdaddy9622
      @yourdaddy9622 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’ll rip a pack to that! Thanks brother!

    • @RippinPacks4you
      @RippinPacks4you 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @Solitary-Birds ty

    • @RippinPacks4you
      @RippinPacks4you 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@pvillelde ty

    • @whhhhhhhhh
      @whhhhhhhhh 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thanks you too!!

  • @samanthaokunak3603
    @samanthaokunak3603 หลายเดือนก่อน

    “Curl your way to complete freedom”

  • @XZ858XZ
    @XZ858XZ 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    LOVE TIM FLETCHER !! Omg so unexpected to see him as a guest here ❤

  • @IntraAwareness
    @IntraAwareness 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is such a great conversation and once again Theo's openness is leading so many people to hear this in a new way.
    Healing is only possible at the root (unconscious) level when combining all of the worlds that make up a human. It is 100% possible! We see it everyday. There is no relation to the amount of time you've had your problem and the amount of time it takes to get rid of your problem. Going to the psychological, energetic and spiritual level will provide healing to the whole person (including parts from the past). Once you receive the lessons and insights the pattern can stop and a person can be free to feel peace and harmony where there once was hurt.

  • @victorialiarakos8593
    @victorialiarakos8593 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am so thankful for this man!! Thank you Mr. Fletcher and than you Theo for having him on your show

  • @erokglasco9016
    @erokglasco9016 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Theo thank you so much. I really appreciate you having the courage to confront the mental health issues that most of us have but, never confront. Love what your doing, keep it up and I wish you the best on your journey. Thank you, this help me feel human.

  • @created4passion442
    @created4passion442 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The voice of the Creator's wisdom is inside

  • @kambophyllomedusa8896
    @kambophyllomedusa8896 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Forgive yourself first ❤

  • @BrianSalazar-kn5ng
    @BrianSalazar-kn5ng 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Watch this pastor often, super insightful stuff, scrolled down after his video and was surprised to see this! Good job 👍

  • @eastalawest1633
    @eastalawest1633 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Tim Fletcher gets it.

  • @isaiahcohn8409
    @isaiahcohn8409 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    "curl your way to complete freedom" theo

  • @JDGxyz-t7c
    @JDGxyz-t7c 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was excellent and the process he suggests is right on point. Great video.

  • @monicalimbo5717
    @monicalimbo5717 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for bringing up Compassionate Inquiry, I hope Theo can get to talk to Dr. Gabor 🎉

  • @jackijohnson3778
    @jackijohnson3778 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I cannot get past what he has done and It doesn't take much and my anxiety is through the roof. What seams like a small comment or or movie or me leaving the house for days on vacation and I'm triggered, upset and crying. We go to counceler, he truly wants to fix him and our relationship. Counceler has helped us get along, teach him to communicate and our roles in the home plus he us compassionate with me. All the therapists wants to talk about is how to get us to get along. Nobody wants to help me with my trama, I'm told to take deep breaths when I get upset, deep breaths! They are pushing forgiveness but nobody wants to actually help me.

    • @rhondasmith7413
      @rhondasmith7413 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Forgiveness of others will help relieve the pain. It doesn’t mean you have to trust. Not one of us is perfect.

  • @LukeParham
    @LukeParham 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    this is the most insane crossover I did not see coming.

    • @stacytw79
      @stacytw79 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You must not know much about Theo then.

    • @jakehronek8376
      @jakehronek8376 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@stacytw79seriously! Theos range of guests is insane!

  • @thankyou329
    @thankyou329 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Everything I needed to hear in one video. Thank you.

  • @nellybean18
    @nellybean18 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I have a hard time loving myself, it’s almost impossible to. I was broken up with recently and I had plans to move across the country for work. He was factored into my plans and now I feel paralyzed. I don’t know if I can leave anymore because my mental state is so awful. I know my worth isn’t tied to a man, but I’ve been praying for a good man and every single time I’m let down and left feeling worse and worse. I can’t help but feel like I’m the problem. My mother passed many years ago but she wasn’t the greatest (she had her own trauma from an awful childhood).
    When im in a great relationship, I feel great. But when that relationship is struggling or it ends- I’m left feeling absolutely devastated & depressed. I need to find out why these feelings come up every time.

    • @melindalee4574
      @melindalee4574 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m sorry your going through this dear. Please trust and believe your not alone. My daughter is going through something similar with dating. You put your all in just to de disappointed. It’s not fair that y’all have to put up with this. Just know that there will come a day that you will find peace for yourself and when you do find it that special person will find you. Always remember your the prize and whenever you walk down the street or around town. Hold your head up with confidence and love yourself!!!!others will feel your presence and wish they had it. Sending love ❤️ from Dallas. Everything will be okay baby trust me!

    • @nickthompson1812
      @nickthompson1812 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I respect you for acknowledging it could be you. This sounds like attachment rather than love.

  • @ayldog
    @ayldog 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ive already made peace with my past, it wasn’t really that bad. What I would like to shake is the habit that I’ve used for 40 years. I would love to learn how to ride that bike!

  • @alexbates9127
    @alexbates9127 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Two of my favourite people ❤

  • @perc1142
    @perc1142 หลายเดือนก่อน

    theo thank you

  • @DanMaul-ip1is
    @DanMaul-ip1is 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yeah I’m gonna need this whole podcast not just a clip

  • @Mera2886
    @Mera2886 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you Tim,6 mo to a year is not a long time is not a lifetime ling, perspective

  • @jojo-je2qz
    @jojo-je2qz 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Really loved this guys. Thank u❤

  • @BadComedy_
    @BadComedy_ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This podcast is my therapist

  • @KaylaMarie-kv2nf
    @KaylaMarie-kv2nf 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    1:27 Theo utilizing his imaginary footstool

    • @K.O.I_WORK
      @K.O.I_WORK 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for pointing that out! 😂

    • @jt4713
      @jt4713 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂

  • @smolove3336
    @smolove3336 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    ❤ thank you so much for speaking about this

    • @jorgovan-ni9kz
      @jorgovan-ni9kz 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You look good girl, got IG?

    • @stacytw79
      @stacytw79 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Just ran across your comment and Girl!! You look a lot like Carrie Underwood!

  • @FranciscoQuinonez-tb7wv
    @FranciscoQuinonez-tb7wv หลายเดือนก่อน

    I don’t really do “forgiveness.” It is what it is.

  • @JL-re1rx
    @JL-re1rx 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks for sharing

  • @dustinbennett9065
    @dustinbennett9065 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The How old do I feel part got me good

  • @MaryPatLevitt
    @MaryPatLevitt 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great discussion, Theo

  • @nancythran9353
    @nancythran9353 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I fear things that haven't even happened! I feel like I'm constantly on alert

  • @ljvue
    @ljvue 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Golden.

  • @GodHelpMe369
    @GodHelpMe369 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    even if you were never overtly told you were unwanted,
    a child knows/feels/understands/intuits there's a difference
    between being tolerated and being cherished...
    grief and rage rape me
    my soul is tortured and tormented
    and haunted and raped
    I'm lonely as all hell
    I've been raped all my life
    MY VOICE HAS BEEN SILENCED
    MY WHOLE DAMN LIFE.
    MY BEAUTIFUL SACRED MIRACULOUS VOICE.
    MY VOICE IS MY MAGICAL GIFT OF TRANSMUTATION!
    that being said,
    all my life...
    I have given people access to me
    in ways that I should not have EVER
    granted them access
    now,
    I want to scream
    at the top of my lungs:
    FUCK OFF!!
    YOU DO NOT GET TO HAVE ACCESS TO ME IN THAT WAY!!
    THE DOOR IS NOT OPEN!!
    YOU MAY NOT COME IN!!
    ACCESS DENIED!!
    I've been programmed my whole life to be silent,
    conditioned to have no boundaries...
    I MUST REMEMBER:
    one very crucial detail in life...
    the reason I am even capable of desiring
    is because the GODsource-LIFEforce within me
    has already created it for me and is telling I already have the thing I'm desiring...
    to desire is to have.
    it was manifesting me before I could even desire it. this is so crucial.
    I must take advantage of this knowledge...

  • @whatgodeats666
    @whatgodeats666 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thanks Theo

  • @nancythran9353
    @nancythran9353 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    When I see pix of myself makes me cry

  • @ironclad452
    @ironclad452 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Without purpose I don't see the point of life. Doesn't matter how long it will take for me to "relearn" how to not feel bad. I need a REASON

  • @livefreewithjp5251
    @livefreewithjp5251 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    That politician joke was genius