My mother neglected me. No bond. No love. She made sure no bond could be with my father. Her children were mostly more narcs. She was covert/vulnerable. What did I find for relationships? I found my mother. Even though I thought they were the opposite. The problem is spending most of your life learning these lessons and not knowing what a normal relationship is suppose to be like. The best part is I no longer care to find out.
@@thehealingdaughterMe too, exactly what she said here. This is scary , actually terrifying territory. You're so helpful. Thank you so much. Trying to be a healing daughter but it's so hard.
Mine is some sort of covert or vulnerable narc.. She's 83 this year and she just says "I'm too old to change". Well she's been saying that for about 30 years lol. And before that we (my brother and I) probably didn't say many critical things to her. I think one hallmark of narcs is lack of self-awareness and changing yourself is hard even with self-awareness. So I'd put my money on "no".
@@gypsylee73 mine is 84 and similar attitude. “I’m just like this.” That’s been her line for decades. Older sibling much the same. No contact with any family members now just to have some inner peace and heal safely.
NO! they can't, she hasn't apologized and wont for me right now I'm low contact! i told her to get therapy and she won't, she doesn't Respect my Boundaries!
Thanks for this video. I needed to hear this today. I’m 62 and she’s 82 and have been on super low contact for months. She keeps trying to suck me back in. Not happening 😀
After years of very low contact( birthday and Christmas text msgs thats all) where she prioritised her man over her children and didnt feel the need to care until his loss. Then she tried to get in touch with me as got lonely. I couldnt handle it and splitted on her setting strong boundaries and she called me mentally sick and said she was going to be ok without having any contact.Appareantly she cries to my brother that dont want to talk to her but never talked to me about it neither apologised so we stay no contact for the sake of us all inc my daughter who is 15 and still doesn't know her granny.Last time I texted her to stop taking advantage of my brother who is very vulnerable and takes all of her BS I called her Mrs.as if she was a stranger not mother anymore
you are 100 % correct ❤
My mother neglected me. No bond. No love. She made sure no bond could be with my father. Her children were mostly more narcs. She was covert/vulnerable.
What did I find for relationships? I found my mother. Even though I thought they were the opposite.
The problem is spending most of your life learning these lessons and not knowing what a normal relationship is suppose to be like.
The best part is I no longer care to find out.
❤️🩹🫶🏽
Your videos are so helpful and this one came at the perfect time. Thank you for all you do.. ❤️
So glad it’s helping, thanks for watching!
@@thehealingdaughterMe too, exactly what she said here. This is scary , actually terrifying territory. You're so helpful. Thank you so much. Trying to be a healing daughter but it's so hard.
Thank you for helping us and sharing your knowledge and experiences ❤
Any time!
Mine is some sort of covert or vulnerable narc.. She's 83 this year and she just says "I'm too old to change". Well she's been saying that for about 30 years lol. And before that we (my brother and I) probably didn't say many critical things to her.
I think one hallmark of narcs is lack of self-awareness and changing yourself is hard even with self-awareness. So I'd put my money on "no".
@@gypsylee73 mine is 84 and similar attitude. “I’m just like this.” That’s been her line for decades. Older sibling much the same. No contact with any family members now just to have some inner peace and heal safely.
They benefit from making no changes sadly.
@@gypsylee73 mine is 63... she says the same thing. When she was working,She put the blame on the work. Now she's too old to change or to apologize
NO! they can't, she hasn't apologized and wont for me right now I'm low contact! i told her to get therapy and she won't, she doesn't Respect my Boundaries!
Thanks for this video. I needed to hear this today. I’m 62 and she’s 82 and have been on super low contact for months. She keeps trying to suck me back in. Not happening 😀
Good on you!
After years of very low contact( birthday and Christmas text msgs thats all) where she prioritised her man over her children and didnt feel the need to care until his loss. Then she tried to get in touch with me as got lonely. I couldnt handle it and splitted on her setting strong boundaries and she called me mentally sick and said she was going to be ok without having any contact.Appareantly she cries to my brother that dont want to talk to her but never talked to me about it neither apologised so we stay no contact for the sake of us all inc my daughter who is 15 and still doesn't know her granny.Last time I texted her to stop taking advantage of my brother who is very vulnerable and takes all of her BS I called her Mrs.as if she was a stranger not mother anymore