*THE KIBAARUL ULAMA HAVE WARNED AGAINST THIS HARAM TREND OF HIJABI NIQABI SELFIES VLOGS VIDEOS ETC. EDUCATE YOURSELF UKHTIL KAREEMA & FEAR ALLAH & DELETE ALL YOUR PICS VIDEOS STORIES FROM ALL SOCIAL MEDIA ONLINE* 🔥🔥🔥☄
*THE KIBAARUL ULAMA HAVE WARNED AGAINST THIS HARAM TREND OF HIJABI NIQABI SELFIES VLOGS VIDEOS ETC. EDUCATE YOURSELF UKHTIL KAREEMA & FEAR ALLAH & DELETE ALL YOUR PICS VIDEOS STORIES FROM ALL SOCIAL MEDIA ONLINE* 🔥🔥🔥☄
*ITS HARAM FOR A WOMAN TO EVEN RECITE QURAN IN FRONT OF A NONMAHRAM MAN🔥✋🏻BCUZ RECITING THE QURAN NECESSITATES BEAUTIFYING YOUR VOICE FOR TAJWEED & TILAWA & TARTEEL🔥✋🏻Allah forbade women from beautifying their voice in SURAH AHZAB **33:33** & 59 DESPITE THE FACT THAT VOICE IS NOT AWRAH🔥✋🏻EVEN THOUGH A WOMAN'S VOICE IS NOT AWRAH✋🏻STILL ALLAH FORBADE HER FROM BEAUTIFYING IT LEST SHE TEMPTS THE OPPOSITE GENDER WHO HAVE DISEASE/WEAKNESS IN THEIR HEARTS AS ALLAH MENTIONS☝🏻🔥ALLAH & MUHAMMADﷺ EVEN FORBADE WOMEN FROM SAYING SUBHANALLAH FROM BEHIND THE IMAM TO ALERT HIM OF HIS MISTAKE✋🏻ONLY THE MEN CAN SAY SUBHANALLAH IF THE IMAM MAKES A MISTAKE IN SALAH☝🏻BUT WOMEN SHOULD ONLY CLAP TO ALERT THE IMAM ACCORDING TO SAHIH BUKHARI 78✅652 & 684✅I SEE THERE ARE SO MANY SO CALLED FEMALE QURAN COMPETITIONS ACROSS THE GLOBE ASTAGHFIRULLAH WHERE IS THE HAYA OF THESE ORGANISATIONS⁉️🔥& WHERE IS THE HAYA OF THESE SISTERS APPLYING FOR SUCH COMPETITIONS WATCHED BY MILLIONS OF NONMAHRAMS ONLINE & LIVE TELECAST CHANNELS⁉️ASTAGHFIRULLAH NAOOZUBILLAH🔥Where is THE GHEERAH of these women's "men" folk⁉️How can they let their wife sister mom daughter take part IN SUCH HARAM COMPETITIONS WHICH INVOLVE BEING PHOTOGRAPHED VIDEOTAPED & ALSO KINDA FORCED TO BEAUTIFY THEIR VOICE FOR QURAN RECITATION TAJWEED TARTEEL & SO ON🔥May Allah guide these sisters & IGNORANT organisations who promote this☄If a woman wants to learn Quran she can learn from any good SALAFI female Qari & teacher in the privacy of her home or online video conferencing✋🏻ALSO 1 MORE THING TO NOTE✋🏻SHE CANNOT LEARN QURAN OR ANYTHING FROM A QABR WORSHIPPER SHIA SUFI DEOBANDI ASHARI MATURIDI MUTAZILI JABRI QADRI JAHMI🔥SHE CAN ONLY LEARN FROM A TEACHER WITH THE TRUE ORTHODOX SALAFI SUNNI MANHAJ HAQ AHLUSSUNNAH WALJAMAH🇸🇦🕋👑✅☝🏻SHE CANNOT LEARN QURAN FROM MEN ANYWHERE WITH DIRECT CONVERSATIONS WHETHER IN PUBLIC OR PRIVATE WHATSAPP MESSAGES OR VIDEO CALLING APPS🔥In case there are no female teachers, then she MUST have her husband✋🏻son✋🏻father or brother along with her while she learns Quran Tajweed from an online MALE TEACHER OUT OF NECESSITY AS A LAST RESORT✅BCUZ PROPHET MUHAMMADﷺ SAID WHENEVER THERE IS A MAN & WOMAN IN SECLUSION✋🏻🔥THE 3RD 1 IS THE DEVIL✋🏻🔥SO TO BREAK THE KHULWA (HARAM SECLUSION) HER MAHRAM OR CHAPERONE SHOULD MONITOR HER THROUGHOUT EVERY SINGLE LESSON EACH & EVERY DAY & SECOND* ✅
Jazakallah for putting these videos out. We see degeneracy everywhere in the society, even amongst Muslims. Listening to this content gives me some peace of mind and puts me back in touch with reality. May Allah reward both of you for doing this.
Wallahi it’s so comforting, not to mention crucial, to be hearing this from a fellow Muslima’s perspective. It just hits different. It hits home. JazakAllahu khairan for giving us insight into this topic from a sister’s point of view. It was much needed.
Hearing this from someone who went to Harvard speaks volumes on this subject JazakAllahkhair for sharing your perspective May Allah bless and reward you
Dont tell me youre falling for this. She went to harvard and got a useless degree. Dont fall for her swift diction. Anyone with a ounce of islamic knowledge knows there isnt an islamic basis for women not getting their education.
Asalaam wa alaikum sister umm Khalid. I am a revert, I reverted 10 years ago Alhamdulillah but I just recently started moving away from my liberal ways and am trying to get closer to Allah. I live in southern California and have no Muslim family or friends besides my husband, his family is all abroad. I would love to connect with you. I have a 1 year old little girl and I want to be able to give her the best Islamic upbringing. My knowledge is so basic, in sha Allah I will learn more so I can teach her. JazakAllah khairan 💕
I use their homeschooling curriculum mashaa Allah it's very good! But since your daughter is so little, maybe you can focus on learning tarbiyah yourself so you can teach her later on. I understand where you're coming from sis, I ask Allah to keep you steadfast.
I’m a women suffering from social anxiety, I completed my bachelors in environmental engineering and told my parents I don’t want to work or continue secular education but instead I want to stay home and self learn Islam. My father got angry telling me that “no one will marry me” “one person can’t run a home these days” along with those vulnerability crap. For some time I was considering their concern especially being vulnerable stressed me. thanks for addressing this issue I feel better now
I have a question, "Am a womb suffering from social anxiety " how does it relate to everything you spoke after? Social anxiety at school? Home or generally?
@@Fundamental_Islam. Some men too suffer from social anxiety. Could that be a reason for them to not go out and work? You should possibly see a psychiatrist and seek therapy. Social anxiety is usually a product of something terrible you experienced at childhood. I also had anxiety but worked my way through it. You know your God but hardly know the way in which he works or make things work. Didn't you ever want to know about them? Study physics. Watch some channels in TH-cam. You'd be amazed how things work. You don't need to get a high paying job necessarily. Go to the research field. Get a PhD. You don't need to work in corporate sector. Still if your goal is just to get married and have kids then I'd just wish you all the best and pray your husband is good because if not, you're seriously going to be in trouble especially financially.
@@sjjdhwhjw1257 I understand social anxiety needs to be rectified and prolly that’s just my excuse for not working 😅 but after getting close to Allah I realised getting job is not the only purpose a human being has. Why do I waste my energy on doing something that’s only gonna benefit me in this fleeting life? Unfortunately today a highest achievement a person has is that they make good money and have phd (not to mention they still are dumb and lack critical thinking). I’ll rather spend my life helping humanity that is suffering so that I get eternal peace ✨ (this can also help me get rid of anxiety) Praise Be to Allah, who is giving me more than what I need and I believe He’ll keep giving me till I die. As for your concern about my future husband turning out to be cruel than you prolly have seen the video that we Muslims put trust in our creator who took care of us when we were invisible cell in our mothers womb. It’s pretty rare in city where I live for such things to happen with women, I personally never came across such case. But if it happens then I can take divorce and marry someone else 😅
@@sjjdhwhjw1257 and I don’t understand why suddenly in human civilisation a women getting married and have children is becoming a stigma, aren’t our ancestors doing that for thousands of years? Did they not have this fear that “what if my husband turns out to be a monster”?
My mother was a teacher. She thought math to kids in school. After my father passed away my mother all alone raised us 5 kids. Alhumdulillah. She was financially independent but she was a dedicated wife and a mother. In a third world country raising 5 kids is not easy. My educated mother married my father who was a school drop out. They respected each other. I don’t think educating women is the problem. The problem is not being educated in the Deen and not trusting Allah Subhanatala. My mother married at the age of 24 but she had Six kids. I’m educated and I escaped an abusive marriage. My education helped me to qualify for a job. Allah Subhanatala guided me to a life out of a very bad situation. Allah Subhanatala provided me a way to earn my living and live a dignified life. Yes a Harvard PhD may not be needed but definitely enough to be able to live a dignified life is needed. I’m not in favour of wasting life away in education. I’m not in favour of taking loan for a degree. I agree they are harmful. I’m also not in favour of young kids going away to live on their own. But here is something to consider, being educated enough to be an active member of the society and contribute is not wrong. I think it is essential to separate the overall dark perspective. I agree the first level of education should be of our Deen. And I agree that my kids don’t need to go to college or university to get education. They can be home schooled. I also agree we need to have more mothers who want to stay home and take care of children. Which means men of our umma have to be thought how to be men. The first reason women went out to get a job was because we were pushed to do it by the abusive husbands, abusive mother in laws. Families who considered women less than animals. These are not 1 in one hundred situations I’m talking about. In countries like India, Bangladesh, Pakistan etc women are abused from birth to death. If we have to change, the change has to happen from multiple levels. I do agree with a lot of things the sister has mentioned. I would be the first one to quit my job and be a home maker. All I’m asking you sister is to also consider the lives of the less privileged third world women.
Thank God, but it happens to thousands. It has already destroyed the Western world beyond recovery, and now it has started to destroy Muslim umma, but we will never allow that.
Liberal modernists and feminists will feign outrage, but their moral system is what creates this situation. Liberal principles of individual choice, female empowerment, and destruction of patriarchy create a society of people who have no family to take care of them in their old age. The liberal feminist solution to this problem is to create more welfare programs. What this means is that they want the elderly to live alone in what are essentially pods, their only human interaction being with "care" takers to check if they're still alive once a week. Let me put it like this. The only human solution is for the elderly to be surrounded by loving family in their old age. The only way to get that is patriarchy, gender roles, and other limitations on individual freedom. But the liberal mind can not allow any of that. So the elderly will continue to suffer, and liberal feminists and modernists will continue to pretend like they care about humanity.
I enjoyed every single minute of this reaction video as much as i did watching the original debate, thanks you sister and thank you brother Daniel JAK both of you for shading the light on this important subject..
All of us should be respectful to the new muslims generally, even if they do mistakes and say things which should not be said because we all learn as life goes on. Has not there been a time when we were ignorant and Allah guided us and had mercy us and gave us the rizq of imaan and knowledge. Our manners should be excellent and yes this also dosent mean that we should water down the religion.
@@elyamkhan6299 as much as I agree with the original comment, let’s not stoop to the level of the mechnical engineer feminist woman. Alhamdullilah we are on the right side, let’s make dua for her that she changes and sees the light as she is lost in the sea of feminism and liberalism.
_"Feminism is doomed to failure because it is based on an attempt to repeal and restructure human nature."_ _"The feminist movement taught women to see themselves as victims of an oppressive patriarchy....Self-imposed victimhood is not a recipe for happiness."_ - Phyllis Schlafly
This isn't right, women truly have been victims since ages, even in my own family most women have almost no say in the family, and I could clearly see the pain and Don't want to suffer from that.
@@seekfactsnotfiction9056 this statement isn't related to what I stated. Yes!! We have been victims since ages, I have seen that in my own family and Don't want to suffer from the same mental and physical abuse my mother or my grandmother faced. This is coming from someone who is born in a Muslim family itself. To your answer yes! Feminism is about equal opportunities and letting people know that women are humans too, they should have the rights to make their decisions same as men like how much education they want to receive, whether to get married or not, rights to escape abusive relationships or husbands, rights to have proper infrastructure and Healthcare without anyone's permission, to be able to decide what religion they want to follow or what they want to wear without being stoned to death like in Saudi Arabia or Iran or without being treated inhumane and abused mentally and physically.
@@frenzybuzz3703 _Thank you for uncovering your stand! You fully described your idiology! What you literally said is that: the divine doctrine of Allah failed to be the Solution to Mankind and Protect "Human Rights" in all aspects of life! End of discussion. So please stop complaining and whining around. Follow your dreams! Peace_
@@seekfactsnotfiction9056 Sir jee ! Any doctrine which involves or justify abuse on a group of particular people irrespective of gender, caste, creed or religion definitely fails to protect human rights because it doesn't have empathy and sympathy regarding that group of people and hence not able to bring peace in the society, it's a common sense. Every country has problems, but still certain countries such as west has given far more rights to women and minorities atleast legally or constitutionly such as strict prohibition of forced marriages upon women and strict prohibition of any kind of abuse on women whether verbally, physically or sexually in a relationship which will damage her mental or physical state while these things are extremely prevalent in muslim societies, I can see that cuz I have lived in a Muslim area. Almost all of my own female relatives ( I'm born in a Muslim family) are forced into marriages which definitely involves a lot of torture cuz I have faced it myself and then all my female relatives have faced verbal, physical and sexual abuse which damaged them to the core so much so that when they see a woman enjoying her freedom they get jealous and start cursing them and when a female decides to not wear loose and full clothes then for that they get tortured in both mental and physical way. How is that humanity? Looks like women in these regions are born to get tortured mentally or physically if they aren't traditionalist and not living in a way her husband wants her to live. Feminists care about humanity and have sympathy for the women. It's the people here like you who are whining around and trying to stop us against the abuses happening to women on daily basis by their families, inlaws or husbands. If u r a traditionalist then fine, u can't force someone into being a traditionalist. My parents are traditionalist, they tried their best to make me so, but still I'm not, and tried my best to get rid of the domestic violence such as forced marriage and not giving me the freedom which I'm enjoying here in the hostel without being abused for that.
As a muslim woman who grew up in north africa, I was rised by the idea that the worth of a woman is in her studies and professionnal achievements. I belived that university and phd was the only mean for me to be happy, I went to France to pursue studies and carriere and i was gratuated as a mechanical engineer, I spent all my best years in studing math and physics ( what a waste of time) , and once I was married I find myself worthless because I didn't know how to change a diaper, how to household my home and how to take care of my husband, I was depressed and completly hopeless, it took me ten years to finally understand that my value is in being a muslim woman, al hamdoulilah, and My worth is in me worshiping Allah and only Him, take care of my faith in my home, take care of my husband and my children. It's funny how we forget all the things that we learn in university...may Allah forgive me for being so arrogant.. احبكِ في الله اختي ام خالد جزاك الله كل خير 💕
It's the same culture in Lebanon where I'm from and the Levant in general. Our modern society let go of its past values of Islamic spirituality and humility and now has westernized materialist obsession with wealth and social status, so a lot of parents put immense pressure on their kids, both sons and daughters, to pursue only the prestigious studies/careers that they force on their kid like doctor or lawyer or engineer even though a lot of the time, if not MOST of the time actually, the kid doesn't truly want this path and feels extremely pressured and unhappy. But they're forced into it. And since marriage is also all about social status and reputation parents also pressure their kid, again both sons and daughters, to only marry women and men who have a fancy phd, a high paying job, rich, etc. Nobody cares about character or values, nobody thinks anymore that happiness can be found in a simple humble lifestyle rather than only being obtained through luxury and constant consumption of fancy food, fancy cars, fancy houses, and showing it all off on Instagram to impress other people...yet the irony is usually these people are the most unhappy, with such common cases of divorce or broken families, mental illness, taking medication for depression and anxiety... Just sad. I can assure this is how things are because I literally lived in this environment my entire life. I wouldn't be surprised if the reason why Muslim countries are in such miserable state is because we are receiving divine consequences for our total abandonment of our faith and morals.
@@whoistherealmonster4939 i was sure that she is tunisian like my self imagine telling our people here the stuf that we learn from the muslim skeptic and the anti feminism advocate in internet ! whenever i know something i feel depressed by knowing how corrupted the society we r living in ! but any way alhamdulilah for everything !
@@colonelv3513 yeah needed to learn a language. Sometimes I think covid is a blessing at certain times. Look down helped me so much as I have more time to reflect upon my creator. You know when you are constantly chasing life you wake up in the morning go to school or work then do homework then have little time so that you play video games or stuff, very little time is made for you to think.
but what the sister higlighted was delay in girls' marriages, neglect of husband children and home of working career oriented females. what about all this? it makes total sense
MashaAllah this is an excellent video. Thank you Umm Khalid for sharing your stories & dropping valuable gems of advice. Hopefully our sisters will take this on board & make decisions that will benefit them & their families in this world & the next. May Allah give you & Daniel Jannatul Firdaus. Ameen.
بارك الله فيك و في من رباك و في زوجك و ذريتك لا فض فوك من نصرة الحق و تبيان طريقه... الا انك قد اسعدت قلبي بكلامك اسعدك الرحمان اخيتي... جزاكما الله خيرا عن الامه اجمعها
@King Sultan What THAT said? And To Whom He Said? When He Said? How He Could Say? Why Did He Say? Did He Took My Permission? And How You Said? Took My Permission? JUST KIDDING 😆😆😆😇🤪
Finally, we have a female muslim perspective. Alhamdulillah! Perks of secular college education : 1) Loss of Deen 2) Zina & Sexual Immortality (Partying and Hooking Up) 3) LGBTQ+ 4) Drugs & Alcohol 5) Ikhtilat (Gender Mixing) 6) Debt & Riba 7) Feminism 8) Anti-marriage Sentiment 9) Waste of Time, Youth, & Beauty 10) Delaying of Happiness Here, we have a holistic take on the matter - human biology, human psychology, practical realities of the world are taken into account. Job well done.
I am man, and I went to schools in USA, and I can attest to what sister is saying. I became Atheist for no sensible reason; because some of the philosophy classes I was taking had impression on me. My experiences are far worse than what sister mentions. Now that I have kids, I am worried. I want education for my kids, but not like this.
The best advice is to migrate with them to a Muslim country or a less bad country, and make this for the sake of Allah, and Allah will compensate you with good.
You're talking about Western campus life. It's not the same everywhere. In a lot of countries, especially Muslim ones, the aspects you mentioned are not that overwhelming. I went to college and I didn't at all have the same experience. There were some parties, but nowhere near being the same way you described them. And I never felt like missing out on anything by not attending them. I remember most of my classes, and I loved the subject I studied, I didn't study it just to go to college, it genuinely appealed to me, and I'm working with my degree, now, which was necessary because my parents are extremely limited financially. I was able to interact with people and force myself to overcome my social anxiety, I can't imagine how enclosed I would be by now if I didn't go to college. You seem to think that a woman going to college can't have her family a priority, which I don't think. First, If she goes to college It doesn't mean that she must have a job afterwards. She could finish her education and then get married and take care of her husband and kids. But then, she will be aware of what's goes on in colleges and be aware of what her kids will be facing so she could educate them accordingly to avoid the bad things, instead of being clueless and have her kids lie to her. And would you be so articulate and have your ideas organized and collected, and do this video the way you do it if you never went to college? You sure would've been a different person from who you are today. Plus, not all men are responsible and good people. Some men (a lot) have no sense of responsibility, some don't know how to respect their wives and treat them as humans. A lot of women are trapped in very bad marriages that cost them their sanity and health. Education is a safety net in case the woman is unlucky in marriage. Now I'm not saying All women must go to collegr. If you're lucky enough to marry a rightful man who knows your worth, and are able to educate yourself at home, then by all weans stay at home and enjoy your family life. But it doesn't work for everybody.
Finally a fair comment. Same for me, being able to socialize even a little, commuting to school and getting some exercise was good for me. On top of that, I benefitted from studying the degree I did. I’m also able to do well and take care of my parents, and my family back home in the future. Not everyone has the luxury to not get an education. Also idk if it’s an American thing, but where I’m from we got to class, study, socialize a bit and leave. Why is she acting like every student goes to parties and get involved in Zina.
No body say3 there is no exceptions especially in some Muslim countries. She gave a list of 10 powerful points. What you have to do is to weigh the good from harm therewith.
wallahi...she's speaking the truth......she's talking about America.... I live in a country where 90% people are "muslim"..... And dorm culture of our universities and colleges are somewhat similar to this....
College literally almost killed me. I got severe anxiety and depression. If my parents had sheltered me and society had not pushed me so harshly, I would not have suffered like I did. I’m a stay at home wife now and I’ve never been happier. Alhamdulillah. My parents are disappointed in me.
Have patience and make duaa for them, your not alone in that boat, raised in a western secular environment and my parents see success as career achievements and financial well-being . Hold on to your deen and make dua for them sister.
I went to university and studied dentistry in Switzerland. I am now working as a dentist and feel so grateful to Allah when a patient comes to me in pain and alhamdulilah by the Grace of Almighty Allah I can relieve that patient from his/her pain. Medical studies are really tough and I have to say my university years were my best years regarding my relation to Allah because I struggled in my studies and this brought me so close to Allah. I started wearing the hijab in the middle of the year, I prayed tahajjud regularly and quran was part of my daily routine. I never felt such a peaceful feeling than during those years. Now as a mother of 2 children and working 3 days a week, I have to say life is stressful but my studies were totally worth it. Naturally you will face temptation and "haram stuff" in university but with Allah's help, guidance and protection, you can get through it. We need muslim women who are teachers and most importantly who are doctors!!! Sorry to say that but Muslim women or men who say "I don't send my daughter to university", I am asking you this question: to whom to you send your daughter when she's pregnant and has to deliver her baby? You will grateful to find a female doctor who sacrificed years of her life to study medicine and make herself available to serve women! So it's normal to go to female doctors but why would it be wrong to become one? Btw I got married during my 3rd year of university and I really recommend women getting married while studying. Don't wait to get your degree, you will be too old by then ;-)
I think there are online universities now so that can help and your iman was high that's wh you didn't fall in haram it's not same for every person don't you think universities should be separate for men and women
Dear Ali Hussain, what point are you trying to make? Whether it's the profession of midwife or nurse or doctor or whatever.. you need to go into an environment where you study the profession and get a degree in order to practice that job. So yes indeed there were certainly first midwives before doctors but there were also more deaths due to pregnancy/delivery in the past. Alhamdulilah thanks to all the scientific advances things have changed a lot.
@@sharmilaabidine2132 Assalaam’waley’kum Thank you 🙏🏻 Jazaak Allah khair. But I’ve observed many of her followers are brainwashed due to excellent oration. Or others who already had an agenda have now found validation in a moderately famous and influential couple. She herself is highly educated. When I pointed that out. One follower had the audacity to say “it’s because Umme Khalid is special like a unicorn” 😂 And they disregard comments like yours by saying that “ you guys always bring forth the doctor card;Allah Taa’la has provided us with many non Muslim female doctors if we need them”. I mean, I can’t even begin to… how stupid that comeback is. Plus we need women not just in Medecine, we need them in police stations, at airports, in schools, in orphanages, as cooks, as drivers, photographers, in fashion. Almost everywhere. And don’t they see the condition of countries who police their women with extremism?!! Even Allah Taa’la has sent Humans to a world full of temptation, He created temptation, because that is the TEST. You don’t learn to swim sitting on the shore. 😇
@@Shamazcorner they are brainwashed by influence of fundamentalist wahhabism ideology with their 18th century reformists doctrines they think can be canonized into holy scripture which is committing bid’ah and very close to the edge of shirk if they are submitting themselves stronger to their imams and hadiths than they are to Allah.
@King Sultan I'm 21 right now!!! Best years of my life 💖💖💖 Alhamdulillah! All you have to do is stay steadfast and trust in Allah's commands and life will be beautiful and easy
Mashaallah! It is so refreshing to hear a traditional, practicing muslimah's perspective on this issue. May Allah bless Brother Daniel and Sister Umm Khalid!
As an abroad Saudi College student in the US, I landed exactly on these factual norms in Colorado after high school in Riyadh to the point I lost my scholarship from these influences and distractions. I made Towbah many times and I am now on a solid one with a balanced path Alhamdulillah and I am speechless on what else to express on this and where to move on and how to even open this topic to my Fam and Sisters as I am now a "Black sheep" to some members...Your prayers please for me and for all and my prayers for all of you guys.
رَبَّنَا آتِنَا مِنْ لَدُنْكَ رَحْمَةً وَهَيِّئْ لَنَا مِنْ أَمْرِنَا رَشَدًا Assalamualikom akhi recite this dua from suratul kahf and ask Allah to make things easy for you I will also make dua for you inshaAllah
@@anonymous-il9sd الله يجزاك خير ويضاعفه دنيا وآخره واللهم يجعلنا مِن مَن يقاوم ما يحب ويتحمل ما يكره May Allah Bless you and double it in this life and the after and May he make us from those who resist what what they lust, and tolerate what they hate
Salam walaikum, I have seen many of our Muslim brothers fall of the path that come from abroad, it is so scary. I’m glad you’ve managed to find it again through the guidance of Allah. I’m also a “black sheep”, I in-fact didn’t complete my bachelors degree but recently I went to india and seen the women in my family are going to college/school in a free mixing environment and it’s destroying them. They all have desires and it’s so bad with phones now. I want to be able to send this video to my family group chat so their parents can listen but they will say I’m stopping girls from education because I myself didn’t finish it completely. Alhumdulilah I have a great job still without education in IT. I need advice because this video is so informative because the parents and children have opposite views and believe they can control their children when reality is the children get outside influence and stray away from the righteous path.
Very well-argued. This is the first time I've heard compelling arguments against women's education. I agree with many of your points, especially with regard to American college. However, couldn't many of your concerns be combated with the introduction of more Islamic universities? For example, I went to a medical school in South Africa where two thirds of our class was female. Simply having a close-knit, small Muslim community on campus means most of your deeni concerns you've raised don't apply to any of the girls in my class. In fact, I can safely say that the Muslim girls in our class who were less religious before campus became more religious, Alhamdulillah, due to the positive influence of practising Muslims
bruh? education and knowledge is compulsory for both man and women. just because people lack disipline dosent mean you stop going to education institute. the dangers of zina are more for men than women. zina is a major sin. so men should stop going to? there are other ways to earn as well outside of uni for men
@Maryam Abdullah what do u have to say about the first university established by a muslim women? and here sunnah is not discussed the dangers are discussed
to be fair, having those two things dont make her perspective more valuable than someone as pathetic as that woman. lets be honest, shes straight crazy
@@7LamarOdom Mashallah let's not say such words brother. The sister is simply a victim of modern secularism and feminism. Not everyone is able to know what they do is wrong, however they can learn to better themselves. May Allah guide her back to the right path. InshaAllah.
Even though brother Daniel said all of that before, these words coming from sister Um Khaled are even more convincing and easy to listen to. I hope the best for both of you. May Allah reward you and make your children pious.
what I think would come from university is critical thinking, being able to discuss topics at a deeper level, improved vocabulary, improved confidence. The question we should be asking is can educated woman take the role of a Muslim wife with the qualities mentioned by umm khalid. Would these qualities be reduced by a degree or is this something that should be instilled into a woman by her parents when she is being raised. How does higher education impact a man? Do brothers really need degrees or can they get away with minimum education too. Would the women who are not getting degrees marry men with similar education? Educated men like to marry educated women? There is so much more to discuss on this topic. But I definately see their point
Even as a man, mass education has been bad for me. I went to the BEST university in my country after a soul-crushing competition against 60 million people for only 120 seats in engineering, then did a master's abroad on a fully paid scholarship with all expenses covered. In the workplace, I use only 10% of what I had learned in my degree programs. I had filled my mind with only useless knowledge, and still feel that every job I do could've easily been done by me after high school. but I wasted 10 years of my life rifting through universities and stupid degree programs. The only beneficiaries of my education were the universities themselves as I became a poster boy for them for my success, but I feel like its just a ponzi scheme and I have to act that I benefitted from mass education to uphold my image and status. I have forgotten most of what I have learned in my degree programs, and have learned much more while working in the real world and narrowing my knowledge to the problem statement. One thing is for sure, I'll never compel my kids to go to college after high school, and will force my son to join the workforce early and my daughter to marry early. Universities are just a scam and I wish I knew it earlier.
I wish you could tell that to my parents. They dont understand how useless college is and that college doesnt equal education (which comes through experience and lectures).
I was in American campus in 1990s.. what the sister describe already exist, let alone now. With the internet, knowledge is available much cheaper than before. Hopefully we can educate our children from home, anything that might relevant to the family and society needs. I agree with Ummu Khalid, the risks is really overriding the benefit in the long run.
As a current college student, everything the sister has said in this video is 100% true. But unfortunately it has become even worse now. Many sinful acts are now so normalized that most students, even Muslim students, don't think twice before doing them.
As a Muslimah I would like to enroll myself in an Islamic women's college/university. I am looking forward to be in a Saudia Arabian Islamic women's university. I want to learn fiqh and basically get Islamic knowledge instead of secular education. In Sha Allah. Islamic knowledge can make me be closer to our Creator. Secular education would instead make me be further away from our Creator. I have experienced this. Not in a college. But in school, with hectic hours of studying which essentially wouldn't give me any benefit in this world and the hereafter.
MaSha Allah what a wife too have.. Daniel my brother Habibi you are blessed to have a wife like this. Wallahi as A Muslim like myself we are losing our Muslim women and sisters to the worldly affairs of America. May Allah protect us Amin☝🏾🖖🏾☪️👍🏾👊🏾💯
السلام علیکم. I am a female medical student. Alhamdulillah right from my childhood we have gone to islamic gatherings, programs and attain knowledge of qiran and hadith on a regular basis. I have realised that we muslims have only focused our children towards achieving the highest in the dunya, whereas especially as females, it is very very important, infact an obligation to learn islamic knowledge. Or else how are we even going to build a powerful ummah. At this point i think that there are some feilds in which muslim women must go into adhering to the Islamic rulings strictly, like 1. medicine, specifically obgyn, paediatrics, 2. Islamic teachers 3. Dawah We need to build a strong ummah that is based on islamic laws and teachings. Although i dont strictly agree to your pov, that higher education is absolutely not needed, but i am of the pov that islamic knowledge and teachings should be thee priority, whereas the worldly education comes secondary. Living in India, my parents have stressed on importance of education both islamic and worldly because they have seen that here, 60-70% people are jobless because of corruption and various factors, and sometimes the girls of the families in those situations need to work to be able to feed their family. I think that your pov cannot strictly apply everywhere around the world.
Finally ! I agree with you totally! 💕 We can look back during prophet Mohammed PBUH days on how women were encouraged to learn literature, medicine, and others.
One thing I think what she said that college has issues but education or knowledge and college are not the same. So, if there are any fruitful knowledge for women in a suitable Islamic Environment then this could be something considerable but need to remember at what cost.
Ya Allah grant this woman the highest levels of Jennah. I've been searching for a spouse with this woman's intelligence for many years, and unfortunately only come across the girls that adopted the ideology of these liberal institutions this sister eloquently describes. As Muslims, we should collectively find a solution to this mental disease that's plaguing our society. May Allah guide the women of this ummah to the right path and make them the best of women.
What she said is all true. I myself, regret studying in college wasting my time studying something that's not beneficial to the hereafter and delaying the marriage. The sad part is not everyone understands it unless they have imaan in their heart. Your recitation of the Quran is so beautiful MaSha Allah.. Jazakillah khairan..
Well my sister left her studies eight years ago and got married. Today she regrets it and strictly advises me to complete my studies, get stable in life and get married. According to her, Marraige is a part of lufe but its not life. It means every individual shares a different experience about different things. Right?
Yes, not everyone will have the same life story. But if the husband provides for you and if he cares and loves you like he should I am sure no sister would regret it. But if your expectations are higher and can't lower it according to what husband can give you in case of money then yeh it's better for you to study and earn money. But I am sure if you love your husband the way you should love money won't be a factor..
@@faryaltariq9314 There's more to life than just marriage and parental duties. It's wrong to neglect children and husband, but obsessing over them and leaving everything else in the name of deen while believing it is generally bad to not prioritize on having kids and marriage is close-minded. When husbands know their wives don't need to depend on them necessarily it can also prevent them from being tempted to abuse their power over her and be in their place. Generalization of women education in a bad way was a very bombast misguidance spread by DH's wi*e. It's hard to say whether DH and his wife are just arrogant and ignorant or their just hypocritical extremists. Hearing them gives me the tendency to turn anti-religion, Astaghfirullah.
@@not_ahmadx lol your solution to vulnerabilities and hierarchy is to be a complete coward and run or hide. No like I said ignorance is bliss, live in your bubble of security.
she clearly likes to read books and is knowledgeable. that term "ignorant" is just a label that a lot of people put to person whose ideas that is not common. in reality, a lot of people are desensitized of the fact that their view ab this world is just a product of the society. and the society is full of humans who dont know better for themselves. well it is understandable though, people who only think ab this world, never thought about death, will never have the same point of view with people who are really conscious about the life after death. the term ignorance can both be used by opposing people. i may say that youre ignorant, but you can also say i am ignorant. we both have our own reasoning, but only ones who's guided by The True Creator is the real not ignorant one may The True Creator guides us
I do pardah myself and study in a co college in Pakistan and I got so much positive exposure from there. There arent any explicit acts that go on here publicly due to general social control. Certainly not am I required by Allah to suppress my harmless wishes. Certainly a muslim should be respected even amongst non muslims. If i want to earn this respect from educating myself regarding the world I am certainly allowed and I will ask Allah to help me in this journey and save me from all obstacles that can come.
Beautifully summed up! Loved your in-depth analysis based on your first hand experiences... These 42 minutes went so smooth that I didn't feel like exiting the podcast at any moment... I got stuck to it till the very last second... May Allah reward you both in Dunyah as well as in Aakhirah!
Yeah, same to me. I normally don't listen to women's talk, not even from sister Umm Khalid. But since Daniel shared it I paid attention and to me it felt like just a couple of minutes. As you have said, it went so smooth.
Unfortunately, the world we are living in doesn't encourage women to be proud of staying at home anymore, but many still do. I was ridiculed and called lazy for choosing to be a stay-at-home mom for 10 years. I don't take pride in working now but my family situation required me to work. I don't like my job but the fact that I can support my extended family financially Alhamdullilah
That 42 minutes was the most powerful most touching video I have came across in years. Full of wisdom and truth. May Allah protect and bless your family. Thank you for spilling your heart out to safe what is left of us jzk Allah khairan.
Women too have some social obligations . ie: in health care provision as doctors, nurses, or as teachers, writers, or skilled professions etc. Education is essential to any human's growth and fulfillment. But they shouldn't have to put their life on hold to do it. They can keep higher education as gradual and built around their lifestyle and needs. Going to work after forties may suit some women.. you have a decent husband but many women end up without breathing space if they don't get to go out or focus their mind on something they find interesting..., their brain would begin to shut down.
Another problem with people worshipping the exceptions but can't see the rule. Why do we try to favor and highlight exceptions as if it rule for everyone? Stop taking the outlier situation and think it'll work out for you too.
To each his/her own. As a woman who lost her husband I am very grateful for my education. Its helping me to earn a living for my children. I don't have to depend on hand outs.
الحمدلله اللهم بارك فيك انت و اولادك و أحترمك على ولاءك لزوجك Al hamdu lilah may Allah bless you and your children and i respect you for your loyalty to your husband
As for me, a Husband who lost a great job and something like a little handicapped in something also, I am so thankful of my wife who still have a descent job to look after me !!!
Good for you. But, We dont build general rules for society on an expetional event like the death of the husband. And in Islam, we dont say to each her/his own, we say there is Sharia and everyone obeys Allah without personal Wims and desires.
@@Fitratul The thing is, women getting an education or having financial independence isn't inherently haraam. So there's nothing wrong with her saying 'to each her own.'
That means that the education system needs a reform and an overhaul immediately. It can also mean that nice people who understand the problem should come together and build new universities and colleges and give pious women a fighting chance. Not in any universe, does this translate as “higher studies is harmful for women” or that under studied women are better mothers and wives. Astaghfirullah!!! We give the test; hence we pass, or fail. We face the fitnah and come out successful (or barely survive). It’s a test of our Imaan. Hiding or not giving the test to avoid failure is a joke. Yes be careful, choose colleges not based on accreditation but atmosphere. Don’t go to a club, don’t attend anything that’s not directly related to your course. Leave the course if it’s getting difficult. Don’t postpone marriage, be frank with your parents regarding your problems. But if you are out there for education, no question those fitnahs are now just a test. Make sure you take the best and leave the rest. Make groups and communities for other Muslim or like minded youths. Do Jummah together and fast and persevere. What she’s propagating is wrong. Her experiences are true, but her conclusion is biased and extreme and wrong. Teach the young people regarding the dangers of their time and how it can affect their personality, their deen, their future. Don’t discourage them from studying. We don’t find every class useful and we don’t remember everything we studied. But still it all definitely shapes us into better human beings. Everyday is a lesson in itself. And all the fitnah is exactly the same for both genders. I’ve seen men going stray much more compared to women. We can still be good Muslims, actually an educated Muslim finds it easier to study Islam.
@@Shamazcorner the issue is, how can women have careers and also maintain their marriages and be mothers? This is the elephant in the room. There needs to be more honest discussions on this topic.
@@user-ov1ps7go4m Assalaam’waley’kum Women’s education and career. It should be an individual and family matter. It should be and is different for every family. You can raise some general points where every person from both the genders can identify. Both genders should have a say in this matter. Like my friend’s husband is a very busy doctor and hence he is almost an absentee father. It bothers her to death and she’s extremely unhappy in that marriage. Her father is rich enough already and if she wants to she can easily raise her kids without the help of that man’s money- is what she says. She doesn’t just need his money. She also needs him to be present and taking part in parenting. He is an absent husband and father. The only thing present at home is his money and status. So you see how women could also be suffering due to men’s careers as well. So why are we discussing just the women’s careers. Actually We still have only a small percentage of women working. And many women leave their job or at least take a break when they have babies. My sister was earning way more than her husband Masha’Allah. But after her first daughter she left her job. It’s every family’s individual choice. My sister’s husband promised her that he will work overtime to provide better, but only for two years, so that he doesn’t turn out to be a good provider but absentee husband and father. He planned it well, and convinced her, it took some time, but eventually she agreed, She left her job and now is a happy maama Masha’Allah. Our whole family loved their approach. And we all told them that they have our full support in case they both want to work again. A child doesn’t need to be raised alone by the mother. Grannys and granpas and aunties can also pinch in. If you have some old trusting servant that can also work while mother Pursues her career, even if it’s part time. It’s actually better to have an active intellectual mom. So either speak for both spouses, both genders, and have a proper couples counseling tailored for every individual couple or don’t make an issue out of exaggerated generalizations. Both genders have excellent rights on each other in the light of islam. We need someone not biased to take care of that. And trust me people are mostly doing okay. This couple in the video, needs controversial subjects to attract viewers. They are trying to portray education as completely, utterly evil, and that too only for women. You don’t realize how dangerous that is? There’s no proof of Quran or Hadeeth that endorses their views. Even though it’s their personal opinion, they are portraying it as “Deen”. It’s not Deen, astaghfirullah.
I smelt weed, alcohol, cigerrette smoke, all due to bad environment in college and being surrounded by different sort of individuals. Its disgusting lol. You can smell an alcoholic from 6 feet away.
May sound weird, but its good. Good because you are getting in touch with people that shows the exact model of what you shouldnt be. As an example I am the only muslim in the history of my family, they are all catholics, protestants or non-religious and many of them live their lifes in a secular manner and I've seen and see many times my grandparent drunk, doing dumb stuff out of his drunkness and he lost a brother who died because of excessive consumption of alcohool. Alhumdilillah I never put a drop of beer or wisky in my mouth, just because I saw those things and said to myself: "I dont want to be like them".
So trust in Allah azza wa jal who sent the Truth to humanity despite the overwhelming mockery and disbelief and seek the example of our Messenger saw who went against the mainstream behaviours and religious pratices of his time, in all of that are good advices for people like us who live in non-muslim majority countries.
@@sallahoudinalial-brazili4901 Allahu Akbar, brother. In both hardship and in ease there is always benefit for a believer, and your comments reflect that, mashallah. May Allah deliver us into Paradise and keep us steadfast in this life.
Like the brother above said with his experience it is a strugle and fitnah but also a blessing. Seeing the destructive effects of kufr and disobedience to Allah's laws in real time reinforces my faith so much. Alhamdulillah for everything, TRULY.
Listening to this video for the fourth time it starts making sense to me. You are right. Jazak Allah Khair and my apologies for misunderstanding what you said. I am from a different background and a different country. Your argument makes sense "only" for the people living in the US only, especially for those who are associated with deen and dawa.
It was indeed a great speech which I enjoyed but this argument of hers does not work in northern Nigeria. The vulnerability of a woman does not bring about masculine responsibility here. It brings out pride, arrogance and abuse. That's why many women here seek financial independence to avoid what happened to their mothers
@@oyinkansolawewe4281 same goes for Pakistan. Because of lack of Shariya law and law and order in general people in rural Pakistan abuse girls and women. Marry them off with Quran to keep hold of inheritance, kill women for choosing to marry someone they like, keep women captive and the list goes on. When you do not have Islamic education, there is no way you can keep men from becoming firoun's and as a reaction women from becoming feminists.
At least in the US, women are not vulnerable as she was mentioning. Women have rights here unlike in any other so-called Muslim country. Early marriages can work here and even thrive because girls know how to survive if they get in trouble. Women becoming financially healthy is not a bad thing. There is a difference between being independent and healthy. Financially healthy women are more likely to be able put tawakkul on Allah. Over-dependence of women on men is equally dangerous and disastrous as feminism or independence is.
@@bead_on_demand I agree with you. There is a difference between being financially healthy and financial independence. Striking a balance is the best way. Taking a middle course and not over tilting tone side. I have a degree, work and married with kids. I want same for my daughters. I was taught Islamic knowledge and homely knowledge and also had a degree. My parents tried their best to ensure my sisters and I were well grounded in all 3 areas. Alhamdulillah
@@oyinkansolawewe4281 Alhamdulillah I also got Islamic education as I was growing up along with liberal Ed. Sure my views were not the same as they are today and that is because of my limited exposure to the world and I feel like umm Khalid views are kind of extremist because of the lack of exposure of the world as well. These guys don't know what's going on Muslim Ummah and that how hard it is for Muslim women now a days to hold on to Islam. Muslim men need to fear liberalism and firouni system and not "Muslim" women. I don't get when they keep quiet on the injustices happening with Muslim women all over the world but they only care about liberal dayooth feminist so-called muslim men who choose feminists for themselves and now crying and blaming all women for not taking their responsibility seriously. Why do they want more kids in liberal confused families I don't know
When I think back on my time at Uni, the list of what I gained comes up fairly short. Most of my classes were prerequisites in basic subjects headed by a professor that didn’t want to be there. The rest of the time spent outside of classes was honestly disorienting. I was surrounded by parties and hook up culture and drugs and a driving force behind it all to abandon any traditional beliefs I held or risk being labeled a bigot and prude. A girl in my dorm was even drugged and taken advantage of sexually in her state of unconsciousness. I felt like I was constantly battling between what was good and the evil that is very real and very present on most campuses. I was away from my family and surrounded by everything that we as Muslim women should be doing our best to avoid instead of immersing ourselves in. It was perhaps one of the most difficult tests of my life. Alhamdulillah, my experience in college and navigating through the challenges led me to cling more tightly to religion, but for many it has the opposite effect. My husband and I decided that if we ever have a daughter there’s absolutely no way we would send her off alone to a university in these times and environments. There’s simply too much at risk.
I'm from north africa and i can tell 98% from our families draw this path for their daughters (career before family) Thank you oum khalid for sharing us this video .😇 بارك الله فيك و بارك لكما .
I went to university in a MUSLIM-majority Asian country and to be honest, it's the same here. I've had to hear my best friend from high school admit that she was no longer a virgin and I pretty much broke down crying. I've had to stare at classmates for a couple of seconds because I didn't recognise them after they took their hijab off. And even though I didn't express it outwardly or verbally, but I myself eventually lost my entire deen and became a de facto atheist within my first year. And this is all in ONE university. Everything you said, happened. And I don't even want to get into the horror stories on the university confessions page. Again, these are Muslims, in a Muslim-majority country. Not the West. Alhamdulillah, I came back and became Muslim again in my senior year (long story) but not everyone made it out unscathed. So this rings true on so many levels. No doubt going to university has it's benefits, like you gain research skills, social skills, are able to write and speak more articulately etc. But it's at the expense of your deen, your dignity and akhirah. Is it worth it? No. A millions times, no. Especially not on the basis of "just in case". "Just in case I get a bad husband." Or reasons like "I love this subject" or "I want to be more extroverted!" If you think you can stand in front of Allah and justify your reasons for compromising deen then.. Gosh, just don't. Please. An ayat that I hold on to dearly is this: "O you who have believed, enter into Islām completely [and perfectly] and do not follow the footsteps of Satan. Indeed, he is to you a clear enemy." (2:208) There are steps that lead to Zina. Being in an environment like today's university is one of it. Satan didn't tell Adam and Hawa to just eat from the tree. He LED them to the tree, step by step. His footsteps. May Allah give us baseerah of the heart to differentiate between right and wrong. Ameen. And jazakumullahu khairan Umm Khalid and Brother Daniel for your efforts 🌱
Assalaam’waley’kum May Allah bless you. And I don’t completely disagree. But then again all the people who agree with this video should think it through; that there were no bad women before we had universities? All the women who don’t have access to universities even today… are all pious??? People do fall, some get up and some don’t; University or not. There have always been reasons to sin, everywhere. We have to be careful. Parents and students need to find a way to navigate. You can’t hide your head in the sand, to remain pious. All that you mentioned is already happening in schools too. My cousin’s school did a surprise check due to suspicion and found 6 girls who were pregnant and many others who were sexually active. So we stop sending them to school too?? And are girls doing all this sexual stuff alone (are we assuming that they are all lesbians). That would be ridiculous, right?! A women can’t sin without the help of a man. So that means both genders are sinning. So why Danial and Umm e Salma promoting only women should stay away from these sin pits? Media and “me,me,me” culture is a big culprit behind this. LGBTQI… and so on. Parents busy earning money because we need $1000 phone for everyone every 2 years at least. There are many factors. Allah Taa’la has given us free will so He can test us. He could have kept us in cages and then we would all pass. Everything in this world is a test. Prepare your kids properly to face the world out there. Muslims are rich and they can reform universities and open their own reformed institutions etc. People like you can volunteer and give daawah to other young people regarding the dangers and how to educate oneself safely. I have people in my family, who are not educated at all other than mere basics and I know things they did, that I can’t even discuss. Education is not evil, the other factors surrounding it are. When you teach a kid to swim, that knowledge is not evil (never can be) but now that he/she can swim doesn’t mean that this a guarantee that they’ll never drown. But they are better equipped with knowledge. If you think that the waters they will have to navigate is full of sharks. The solution is not to skip swimming lessons or teach them just the basics so they won’t be able to go to the deep parts of the ocean. No!!! The solution would be to teach them about sharks, while teaching them to swim excellently, and give them better equipments to face the actual enemy. Muslim women are very strong. We have more good women than bad Alhumdulillah. We can survive and we can help others survive too. Jazaak Allah khairum
I can't express my self in English, i want to write in Arabic. لا استطيع ان اتخيل ان هذا الكلام يخرج من امراة اجنبية وقد سمعت هذا الكلام من احد الشيوخ الذين تعلمت منهم وقد قال نفس هذا الكلام قبل عشرين سنة من الان وهذا الشيخ اسمه ابو اسحاق الحويني حفظه الله . هذا الوعي الصادر من امراة اجنبية مسلمة سبحان الذي هداها وعلمها هذا ادعو الله ان يبارك لكما وعليكما وان يبارك في ذريتكما وان ينفعكم وينفع بكم واسأل الله ان يدخلكم جناته وان يدخلنا جميعا الجنة اخوانا على سرر متقابلين انا منبهر ما شاء الله لا قوة الا بالله
Idk.. I went to uni and learned alot related to health and holistic medicine etc. For the fitna or unislamic things that occured at uni, I was far removed from them, I just never paid attention to things around me. I would go to class, meet with my siblings/friends for salah and lunch, then go home and help with housework. I'm glad I went to uni (I was homeschooled my entire life before that) because it kind of puts you up to speed with the rest of the world. I was very quiet at uni and didn't talk much but when you make your intention to give dawah and to help the ummah, there will be barakah in it. I don't think uni should be demonized unless you're doing a useless arts/humanities degree that just teaches you kufri ideology. Another important point is to look visibly muslim (for me, I wore niqab etc so dressing in the shar'i way will automatically put a certain boundary between you and the opposite gender/unislamic behavior/events etc. Dorming should also be avoided and going to social events etc. I only ever went to a couple MSA events which were actually good because there was gender segregation and anyone who acted inappropriately was thrown out. One year, the MSA president was also expelled because he wasn't proper in his speech, and replaced by the brothers who overthrew him. I do know most MSA's aren't like this but it isn't necessary to be part of any social club for that matter. For my first three years of uni, I was alone. For the very first year, I didn't know any muslims or where the prayer room was so I would pray alone in the hallway where everybody would stare. It didn't matter to me because I knew who I was and had a good home environment. Anyway, everybody's life is different. Most of my friends at uni weren't there because they were putting off marriage or familial duties to have some kind of career over family lifestyle or because of some feminist mindset, it was just a beneficial use of time until a different chapter in their life opened.
SubhanAllah thanks for sharing your experience bc ur uni is completely different to mine and I'm glad it was bc it's the acception. The way Umm Khalid describes it is the majority of MSAs now. Also, may Allah reward you for staying on the Haq aka Islam throughout your college years and may you die upon it Ameen
Thanks for sharing your anecdotal experience. However it’s much different in American universities and community colleges. And the steady moral decay of the ummah in the west is directly linked to this artificial importance put on secular education over the deen.
@Mohammad Bakeer What part is anecdotal? Fitna can be avoided by everyone by not dorming or going to social events, not going into waste fields like arts/humanities etc.
@@fruitmonster7 the best thing to do is to avoid fitnah all together, btw Allah will not ask you about the degree you got in uni but He will ask you how you lost your Iman in the process.
Allahumma barik. I needed to hear this from a sister . Her story resonates so much with me Allhamdillillah. These unfiltered reality checks (regarding equality and our place as women in islam) are often given by male speakers, and although they proved to be very helpful in my journey away from feminism, the same message coming from a fellow sister in deen makes it a bit more relatable. I'm hoping to hearing a bit more from Umm Khalid on issues such as these. May Allah give barakah to our knowledge and guide us all.
@@thealpha1687 that's actually a good question. No allhamdulillah, that haven't occurred to me. But I'm aware that feminist call islam a misogynistic religion because of this (Astaghfirullah) I am an avid listener of speakers such as Daniel, Sajid Lipham, Sheikh Ahmad Musa Jibreel, etc. What I meant here though is I find it much more relatable when a women tells her story because instantly I'm aware that her trials as a women are similar to mine. May Allah guide us all
@@ayishaashraf9579 Ameen. Remember the following Quranic verse that emphasizes unity based on religion, whenever shaitan whispers to you, inshaallah... "The believing men and believing women are allies of one another. They enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong and establish prayer and give zakah and obey Allah and His Messenger. Those - Allah will have mercy upon them. Indeed, Allah is Exalted in Might and Wise." - Quran 9:71
Much of the arguments that you're stating is not the issue of education, it's the issue of the educational institutions. Plus society and how its decline. There are Muslim women who have made scientific contributions. The solution isn't no more education for women, you need to find an alternative. Other than its true, happiness for us as women is family and children it's true. Also don't ignore the reality and FACTS just like you're saying women have left their obligation many men have abandoned their responsibilities, this has nothing to do with not having tawakkul, it's about being a realist. The fact is men in the west and East many men are.not fulfulling their obligation hence why women work and study. I was a victim.of this years ago, in the end I suffered with a child to raise it took me 11 years to remarry. The consequences are far to big for women. Men don't pay much of a price.
@@a5amr2 oh yes I did, alhamdullah I remarried 2 yrs ago, but the stigma I faced and I came to realise once you've been married just oncz and if you have a kid you pay a big price. Men have more. Choices, I even got rejected by men with kids! I just accepted tje situation and made a lot of dua and alhamdullah I was blessed with a husband.
@@a5amr2 unfortunately there's a lot of redpill ideology going around in the Muslim community and Muslim men are being brainwashed into thinking that a Muslim women who has been married already is not an acceptable choice for marriage.
for those entering college if you get many different sexual partners not at once but over a span you will end up sad. There are no perks to it, you can either believe me or learn yourself eventually. Moral here is you can never have your way on this earth you are but a mere human.
@@yousef2154 I am not sure if this is a sin but I will take it. As a man I wanted to sleep with every women that was attractive. I can't stress enough that Muslim women are NOT meant for that. Nobody teaches us men that women are not sexual objects I had not known the Muslim faith back in college but now I know the faith well and have come to my senses.
As someone who went to university in a Muslim country, I had a very naive belief that since I was living and getting my degree in a Muslim country, there would be no danger to my Iman but I was proven wrong when entering the university system. Haram couples were the norm, trying out alcohol and drugs due to "curiosity", unnecessary intermixing parties and events, and weakening your aqidah for fake ideologies. I had friends (Muslim and non-Muslim) that I eventually stopped hanging with cause their influence was really affecting my iman and I graduated with one friend but it was worth it.
@Orient Express idk about saudia. but pakistan is kinda like this. free mixing and having haram relationships are v normal. drugs arent popular here , although weed is very common among boys. its a sad state of affiars , May ALLAH give us hidayat and eman and forgive us
@@d.bcooper2271 hey, careful with the backbiting of muslim rulers. No matter how oppressive they may be, there is no rational benefit to be insulting them here in youtube comments. Other than sin upon sin
I think this is mostly for the US and western education.. Don't you think there is a distinction for muslim countries.. I mean free mixing and alchohol and weed are concerns for the western institutions.. What about a muslim country, where alchohol and drugs are illegal and universities have different campuses for men and for women?
It's crazy that women ended up with a degree in mechanical engineering, and 6 "digit" salary. And yet middle aged, single, have no kids, lost the ideal time for marriage as a women and just a walking hypocrite. All that for her to be caught as a sngle women who is "looking" for marriage. or in "Talks" yikes. Actions speak louder than words.
i doubt she actually has this degree, if she got it then it must have been from money or other ways she cheated to get it, mechanical engineering is not a joke
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Jazakallah for putting these videos out. We see degeneracy everywhere in the society, even amongst Muslims. Listening to this content gives me some peace of mind and puts me back in touch with reality.
May Allah reward both of you for doing this.
May Allah give Umm Khalid (and Daniel) Jannatul firdaus. Look how much she prefers Islam over the evils western societies want to impose on her!
Inshaallah
Ameen
Daniel struck gold
Ameen
What are they doing living comfortable lives in the evil West? They should go and live in Islamic countries.
Wallahi it’s so comforting, not to mention crucial, to be hearing this from a fellow Muslima’s perspective. It just hits different. It hits home. JazakAllahu khairan for giving us insight into this topic from a sister’s point of view. It was much needed.
Hearing this from someone who went to Harvard speaks volumes on this subject
JazakAllahkhair for sharing your perspective
May Allah bless and reward you
Dont tell me youre falling for this. She went to harvard and got a useless degree. Dont fall for her swift diction. Anyone with a ounce of islamic knowledge knows there isnt an islamic basis for women not getting their education.
You think she could speak like this without education??? Don't be dumb.
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AYEEEE NINJA MOMMYY!!!!
Do you support this point of view?
May Allah grant you both Jannah tul firdous.
Mashallah as a woman i must say brother daniel has hit jackpot! Umm khalid so well spoken and has such an honest take on islam and society.
Thanks!
Asalaam wa alaikum sister umm Khalid. I am a revert, I reverted 10 years ago Alhamdulillah but I just recently started moving away from my liberal ways and am trying to get closer to Allah. I live in southern California and have no Muslim family or friends besides my husband, his family is all abroad. I would love to connect with you. I have a 1 year old little girl and I want to be able to give her the best Islamic upbringing. My knowledge is so basic, in sha Allah I will learn more so I can teach her. JazakAllah khairan 💕
You can enroll for one of her courses at the AlAsna institute website. Inshaallah, it would be beneficial...
May Allah bless and aid you in your deen and the raising of your daughter, Ameen.
I use their homeschooling curriculum mashaa Allah it's very good! But since your daughter is so little, maybe you can focus on learning tarbiyah yourself so you can teach her later on. I understand where you're coming from sis, I ask Allah to keep you steadfast.
May Allah protect you and your family and make you firm on His path sister
@@melissaa2337
Are courses free?
I’m a women suffering from social anxiety, I completed my bachelors in environmental engineering and told my parents I don’t want to work or continue secular education but instead I want to stay home and self learn Islam. My father got angry telling me that “no one will marry me” “one person can’t run a home these days” along with those vulnerability crap. For some time I was considering their concern especially being vulnerable stressed me. thanks for addressing this issue I feel better now
I have a question, "Am a womb suffering from social anxiety " how does it relate to everything you spoke after? Social anxiety at school? Home or generally?
@@seondeon6204 I means I don’t want to work because of anxiety. I don’t think I can deliver my best.
@@Fundamental_Islam. Some men too suffer from social anxiety. Could that be a reason for them to not go out and work? You should possibly see a psychiatrist and seek therapy. Social anxiety is usually a product of something terrible you experienced at childhood. I also had anxiety but worked my way through it. You know your God but hardly know the way in which he works or make things work. Didn't you ever want to know about them? Study physics. Watch some channels in TH-cam. You'd be amazed how things work. You don't need to get a high paying job necessarily. Go to the research field. Get a PhD. You don't need to work in corporate sector. Still if your goal is just to get married and have kids then I'd just wish you all the best and pray your husband is good because if not, you're seriously going to be in trouble especially financially.
@@sjjdhwhjw1257 I understand social anxiety needs to be rectified and prolly that’s just my excuse for not working 😅 but after getting close to Allah I realised getting job is not the only purpose a human being has. Why do I waste my energy on doing something that’s only gonna benefit me in this fleeting life? Unfortunately today a highest achievement a person has is that they make good money and have phd (not to mention they still are dumb and lack critical thinking).
I’ll rather spend my life helping humanity that is suffering so that I get eternal peace ✨ (this can also help me get rid of anxiety)
Praise Be to Allah, who is giving me more than what I need and I believe He’ll keep giving me till I die. As for your concern about my future husband turning out to be cruel than you prolly have seen the video that we Muslims put trust in our creator who took care of us when we were invisible cell in our mothers womb. It’s pretty rare in city where I live for such things to happen with women, I personally never came across such case. But if it happens then I can take divorce and marry someone else 😅
@@sjjdhwhjw1257 and I don’t understand why suddenly in human civilisation a women getting married and have children is becoming a stigma, aren’t our ancestors doing that for thousands of years? Did they not have this fear that “what if my husband turns out to be a monster”?
My mother was a teacher. She thought math to kids in school. After my father passed away my mother all alone raised us 5 kids. Alhumdulillah. She was financially independent but she was a dedicated wife and a mother. In a third world country raising 5 kids is not easy. My educated mother married my father who was a school drop out. They respected each other. I don’t think educating women is the problem. The problem is not being educated in the Deen and not trusting Allah Subhanatala. My mother married at the age of 24 but she had Six kids. I’m educated and I escaped an abusive marriage. My education helped me to qualify for a job. Allah Subhanatala guided me to a life out of a very bad situation. Allah Subhanatala provided me a way to earn my living and live a dignified life. Yes a Harvard PhD may not be needed but definitely enough to be able to live a dignified life is needed. I’m not in favour of wasting life away in education. I’m not in favour of taking loan for a degree. I agree they are harmful. I’m also not in favour of young kids going away to live on their own. But here is something to consider, being educated enough to be an active member of the society and contribute is not wrong. I think it is essential to separate the overall dark perspective. I agree the first level of education should be of our Deen. And I agree that my kids don’t need to go to college or university to get education. They can be home schooled. I also agree we need to have more mothers who want to stay home and take care of children. Which means men of our umma have to be thought how to be men. The first reason women went out to get a job was because we were pushed to do it by the abusive husbands, abusive mother in laws. Families who considered women less than animals. These are not 1 in one hundred situations I’m talking about. In countries like India, Bangladesh, Pakistan etc women are abused from birth to death. If we have to change, the change has to happen from multiple levels. I do agree with a lot of things the sister has mentioned. I would be the first one to quit my job and be a home maker. All I’m asking you sister is to also consider the lives of the less privileged third world women.
Thank God, but it happens to thousands. It has already destroyed the Western world beyond recovery, and now it has started to destroy Muslim umma, but we will never allow that.
Liberal modernists and feminists will feign outrage, but their moral system is what creates this situation.
Liberal principles of individual choice, female empowerment, and destruction of patriarchy create a society of people who have no family to take care of them in their old age.
The liberal feminist solution to this problem is to create more welfare programs. What this means is that they want the elderly to live alone in what are essentially pods, their only human interaction being with "care" takers to check if they're still alive once a week.
Let me put it like this. The only human solution is for the elderly to be surrounded by loving family in their old age. The only way to get that is patriarchy, gender roles, and other limitations on individual freedom. But the liberal mind can not allow any of that. So the elderly will continue to suffer, and liberal feminists and modernists will continue to pretend like they care about humanity.
I enjoyed every single minute of this reaction video as much as i did watching the original debate, thanks you sister and thank you brother Daniel JAK both of you for shading the light on this important subject..
Oh cool I didn't know she studied anthropology. Great take. May Allah (SWT) reward you.
Salam sister, good to see you here!
Aameen
Sister mehdi exposed you. I believe.
@@SuggarRushh ... Hey do not say exposed ... There were some difrences and thats all
All of us should be respectful to the new muslims generally, even if they do mistakes and say things which should not be said because we all learn as life goes on.
Has not there been a time when we were ignorant and Allah guided us and had mercy us and gave us the rizq of imaan and knowledge.
Our manners should be excellent and yes this also dosent mean that we should water down the religion.
You've made your case very comprehensively ma Sha Allah. Jazakillahu khaira
Umm Khalid is so classy! There's no comparison between her and the mechanical engineer, may Allah preserve the former and guide the latter.
She is a wife and mother, and intelligent.
Engineer single over 25 lady= depression beginning
@@elyamkhan6299 👍
@@elyamkhan6299 as much as I agree with the original comment, let’s not stoop to the level of the mechnical engineer feminist woman. Alhamdullilah we are on the right side, let’s make dua for her that she changes and sees the light as she is lost in the sea of feminism and liberalism.
_"Feminism is doomed to failure because it is based on an attempt to repeal and restructure human nature."_
_"The feminist movement taught women to see themselves as victims of an oppressive patriarchy....Self-imposed victimhood is not a recipe for happiness."_
- Phyllis Schlafly
This isn't right, women truly have been victims since ages, even in my own family most women have almost no say in the family, and I could clearly see the pain and Don't want to suffer from that.
@@frenzybuzz3703 _is "Feminism" the answer and the solution to your victimhood?_
@@seekfactsnotfiction9056 this statement isn't related to what I stated. Yes!! We have been victims since ages, I have seen that in my own family and Don't want to suffer from the same mental and physical abuse my mother or my grandmother faced. This is coming from someone who is born in a Muslim family itself.
To your answer yes! Feminism is about equal opportunities and letting people know that women are humans too, they should have the rights to make their decisions same as men like how much education they want to receive, whether to get married or not, rights to escape abusive relationships or husbands, rights to have proper infrastructure and Healthcare without anyone's permission, to be able to decide what religion they want to follow or what they want to wear without being stoned to death like in Saudi Arabia or Iran or without being treated inhumane and abused mentally and physically.
@@frenzybuzz3703 _Thank you for uncovering your stand! You fully described your idiology! What you literally said is that: the divine doctrine of Allah failed to be the Solution to Mankind and Protect "Human Rights" in all aspects of life! End of discussion. So please stop complaining and whining around. Follow your dreams! Peace_
@@seekfactsnotfiction9056 Sir jee !
Any doctrine which involves or justify abuse on a group of particular people irrespective of gender, caste, creed or religion definitely fails to protect human rights because it doesn't have empathy and sympathy regarding that group of people and hence not able to bring peace in the society, it's a common sense.
Every country has problems, but still certain countries such as west has given far more rights to women and minorities atleast legally or constitutionly such as strict prohibition of forced marriages upon women and strict prohibition of any kind of abuse on women whether verbally, physically or sexually in a relationship which will damage her mental or physical state while these things are extremely prevalent in muslim societies, I can see that cuz I have lived in a Muslim area. Almost all of my own female relatives ( I'm born in a Muslim family) are forced into marriages which definitely involves a lot of torture cuz I have faced it myself and then all my female relatives have faced verbal, physical and sexual abuse which damaged them to the core so much so that when they see a woman enjoying her freedom they get jealous and start cursing them and when a female decides to not wear loose and full clothes then for that they get tortured in both mental and physical way. How is that humanity? Looks like women in these regions are born to get tortured mentally or physically if they aren't traditionalist and not living in a way her husband wants her to live.
Feminists care about humanity and have sympathy for the women. It's the people here like you who are whining around and trying to stop us against the abuses happening to women on daily basis by their families, inlaws or husbands.
If u r a traditionalist then fine, u can't force someone into being a traditionalist. My parents are traditionalist, they tried their best to make me so, but still I'm not, and tried my best to get rid of the domestic violence such as forced marriage and not giving me the freedom which I'm enjoying here in the hostel without being abused for that.
Beautifully explained.
MashaaAllah. May Allah bless you brother Daniel. 💯
May Allah bless every boy out there with such wives. 🤲
As a muslim woman who grew up in north africa, I was rised by the idea that the worth of a woman is in her studies and professionnal achievements. I belived that university and phd was the only mean for me to be happy, I went to France to pursue studies and carriere and i was gratuated as a mechanical engineer, I spent all my best years in studing math and physics ( what a waste of time) , and once I was married I find myself worthless because I didn't know how to change a diaper, how to household my home and how to take care of my husband, I was depressed and completly hopeless, it took me ten years to finally understand that my value is in being a muslim woman, al hamdoulilah, and My worth is in me worshiping Allah and only Him, take care of my faith in my home, take care of my husband and my children. It's funny how we forget all the things that we learn in university...may Allah forgive me for being so arrogant..
احبكِ في الله اختي ام خالد
جزاك الله كل خير 💕
Which North African country are you from. I am from Tunisia sister
It's the same culture in Lebanon where I'm from and the Levant in general. Our modern society let go of its past values of Islamic spirituality and humility and now has westernized materialist obsession with wealth and social status, so a lot of parents put immense pressure on their kids, both sons and daughters, to pursue only the prestigious studies/careers that they force on their kid like doctor or lawyer or engineer even though a lot of the time, if not MOST of the time actually, the kid doesn't truly want this path and feels extremely pressured and unhappy. But they're forced into it. And since marriage is also all about social status and reputation parents also pressure their kid, again both sons and daughters, to only marry women and men who have a fancy phd, a high paying job, rich, etc. Nobody cares about character or values, nobody thinks anymore that happiness can be found in a simple humble lifestyle rather than only being obtained through luxury and constant consumption of fancy food, fancy cars, fancy houses, and showing it all off on Instagram to impress other people...yet the irony is usually these people are the most unhappy, with such common cases of divorce or broken families, mental illness, taking medication for depression and anxiety... Just sad. I can assure this is how things are because I literally lived in this environment my entire life. I wouldn't be surprised if the reason why Muslim countries are in such miserable state is because we are receiving divine consequences for our total abandonment of our faith and morals.
I completly agree with you. May Allah guid us
@حسام 🗡⚔️ I saw feminists in Tunisia running naked where are the Muslims
@@whoistherealmonster4939 i was sure that she is tunisian like my self imagine telling our people here the stuf that we learn from the muslim skeptic and the anti feminism advocate in internet ! whenever i know something i feel depressed by knowing how corrupted the society we r living in ! but any way alhamdulilah for everything !
As a college students what she said is totally true
True. Luckily I still didn’t go to college and took a gap year. And I used that to increase my islamic knowledge
@@bobtheagent9087 good for you bro, And good luck still in your gap year!! keep it up
@@colonelv3513 yeah needed to learn a language. Sometimes I think covid is a blessing at certain times. Look down helped me so much as I have more time to reflect upon my creator. You know when you are constantly chasing life you wake up in the morning go to school or work then do homework then have little time so that you play video games or stuff, very little time is made for you to think.
@@bobtheagent9087 May Allah increase you in knowledge and helps you in all your affairs.
Yep same happens at my college unfortunately .
Masha'Allah appreciable👍
May allah bless and reward you both.
The problem is not women's education per se, i would say. The way " modern" universities work can be dangerous for men and women.
Yeah I agree that even men shouldn't be going to uni tbh
but what the sister higlighted was delay in girls' marriages, neglect of husband children and home of working career oriented females. what about all this? it makes total sense
@@ummrawamus This is a problem with the system of education, not with learning itself
The problem is women's education. That's for sure. Modern or not, doesn't make much difference.
@@ummrawamus well, don't forget that men are also delaying marriage. Nouman Ali khan talked about this earlier.
MashaAllah this is an excellent video. Thank you Umm Khalid for sharing your stories & dropping valuable gems of advice. Hopefully our sisters will take this on board & make decisions that will benefit them & their families in this world & the next. May Allah give you & Daniel Jannatul Firdaus. Ameen.
This is such a valuable video…
I wish i could share it with others but none of them understands english..
Mashaallah jazakom allah khayr
بارك الله فيك و في من رباك و في زوجك و ذريتك
لا فض فوك من نصرة الحق و تبيان طريقه... الا انك قد اسعدت قلبي بكلامك اسعدك الرحمان اخيتي... جزاكما الله خيرا عن الامه اجمعها
"Feminine Vulnerability brings out a corresponding masculine responsibility"
Words worth more then Gold !!!
as a young man there's nothing more true
@@Kebbab.213 what Do you mean by that?
@King Sultan I said Nothing
@King Sultan What THAT said?
And To Whom He Said?
When He Said?
How He Could Say?
Why Did He Say?
Did He Took My Permission?
And How You Said?
Took My Permission?
JUST KIDDING 😆😆😆😇🤪
It brings out male exploitation. If a group of people are vulnerable then bad people will take advantage of them.
Mashallah this was a fantastic and wonderfully explained. I am sharing it with my networks Inshallah. May Allah SWT reward Umm Khalid and her family🤲
Finally, we have a female muslim perspective. Alhamdulillah!
Perks of secular college education :
1) Loss of Deen
2) Zina & Sexual Immortality (Partying and Hooking Up)
3) LGBTQ+
4) Drugs & Alcohol
5) Ikhtilat (Gender Mixing)
6) Debt & Riba
7) Feminism
8) Anti-marriage Sentiment
9) Waste of Time, Youth, & Beauty
10) Delaying of Happiness
Here, we have a holistic take on the matter - human biology, human psychology, practical realities of the world are taken into account.
Job well done.
"Putting women in bad environment is much more dangerous than putting men in bad environment."
Nailed it!
@@blackwhite5879 exactly 💯
Well said!
All the above are applicable to men too
@@blackwhite5879 both are bad, im a man i left secular education at 15
I am man, and I went to schools in USA, and I can attest to what sister is saying. I became Atheist for no sensible reason; because some of the philosophy classes I was taking had impression on me. My experiences are far worse than what sister mentions. Now that I have kids, I am worried. I want education for my kids, but not like this.
The best advice is to migrate with them to a Muslim country or a less bad country, and make this for the sake of Allah, and Allah will compensate you with good.
I invite you to islam brother if your arent already one. You should homeschool your kids.
Then by this logic higher education is bad for men and women both.
@@urwashahid9210 What is a a higher education?
@@codingblues3181 university
You're talking about Western campus life. It's not the same everywhere.
In a lot of countries, especially Muslim ones, the aspects you mentioned are not that overwhelming. I went to college and I didn't at all have the same experience. There were some parties, but nowhere near being the same way you described them. And I never felt like missing out on anything by not attending them.
I remember most of my classes, and I loved the subject I studied, I didn't study it just to go to college, it genuinely appealed to me, and I'm working with my degree, now, which was necessary because my parents are extremely limited financially.
I was able to interact with people and force myself to overcome my social anxiety, I can't imagine how enclosed I would be by now if I didn't go to college.
You seem to think that a woman going to college can't have her family a priority, which I don't think. First, If she goes to college It doesn't mean that she must have a job afterwards. She could finish her education and then get married and take care of her husband and kids. But then, she will be aware of what's goes on in colleges and be aware of what her kids will be facing so she could educate them accordingly to avoid the bad things, instead of being clueless and have her kids lie to her.
And would you be so articulate and have your ideas organized and collected, and do this video the way you do it if you never went to college? You sure would've been a different person from who you are today.
Plus, not all men are responsible and good people. Some men (a lot) have no sense of responsibility, some don't know how to respect their wives and treat them as humans. A lot of women are trapped in very bad marriages that cost them their sanity and health. Education is a safety net in case the woman is unlucky in marriage.
Now I'm not saying All women must go to collegr. If you're lucky enough to marry a rightful man who knows your worth, and are able to educate yourself at home, then by all weans stay at home and enjoy your family life. But it doesn't work for everybody.
I agree with you
Best answer sis 👏 👌
Finally a fair comment. Same for me, being able to socialize even a little, commuting to school and getting some exercise was good for me. On top of that, I benefitted from studying the degree I did. I’m also able to do well and take care of my parents, and my family back home in the future. Not everyone has the luxury to not get an education.
Also idk if it’s an American thing, but where I’m from we got to class, study, socialize a bit and leave. Why is she acting like every student goes to parties and get involved in Zina.
No body say3 there is no exceptions especially in some Muslim countries.
She gave a list of 10 powerful points.
What you have to do is to weigh the good from harm therewith.
@@mbashirnasir4526
I wouldn't say my case is an exception. Especially seeing how many Muslim countries there are.
wallahi...she's speaking the truth......she's talking about America.... I live in a country where 90% people are "muslim"..... And dorm culture of our universities and colleges are somewhat similar to this....
College literally almost killed me. I got severe anxiety and depression. If my parents had sheltered me and society had not pushed me so harshly, I would not have suffered like I did. I’m a stay at home wife now and I’ve never been happier. Alhamdulillah. My parents are disappointed in me.
You’re so brainwashed your brain got washed away
Have patience and make duaa for them, your not alone in that boat, raised in a western secular environment and my parents see success as career achievements and financial well-being . Hold on to your deen and make dua for them sister.
@@AeybiseediyMay Allah make it easy for you and grant you a righteous child my sister.
I don't understand what you mean by sheltering you, could you please elaborate?
Shwltering her because women arw shwltwred.
They are not expected to be "empowered", go out there
I went to university and studied dentistry in Switzerland. I am now working as a dentist and feel so grateful to Allah when a patient comes to me in pain and alhamdulilah by the Grace of Almighty Allah I can relieve that patient from his/her pain. Medical studies are really tough and I have to say my university years were my best years regarding my relation to Allah because I struggled in my studies and this brought me so close to Allah. I started wearing the hijab in the middle of the year, I prayed tahajjud regularly and quran was part of my daily routine. I never felt such a peaceful feeling than during those years.
Now as a mother of 2 children and working 3 days a week, I have to say life is stressful but my studies were totally worth it. Naturally you will face temptation and "haram stuff" in university but with Allah's help, guidance and protection, you can get through it. We need muslim women who are teachers and most importantly who are doctors!!! Sorry to say that but Muslim women or men who say "I don't send my daughter to university", I am asking you this question: to whom to you send your daughter when she's pregnant and has to deliver her baby? You will grateful to find a female doctor who sacrificed years of her life to study medicine and make herself available to serve women! So it's normal to go to female doctors but why would it be wrong to become one?
Btw I got married during my 3rd year of university and I really recommend women getting married while studying. Don't wait to get your degree, you will be too old by then ;-)
I think there are online universities now so that can help and your iman was high that's wh you didn't fall in haram it's not same for every person don't you think universities should be separate for men and women
Have you ever heard the term "midwife" ? There were midwives before there ever was a female doctor.
Dear Ali Hussain, what point are you trying to make? Whether it's the profession of midwife or nurse or doctor or whatever.. you need to go into an environment where you study the profession and get a degree in order to practice that job. So yes indeed there were certainly first midwives before doctors but there were also more deaths due to pregnancy/delivery in the past. Alhamdulilah thanks to all the scientific advances things have changed a lot.
@@sharmilaabidine2132 Assalaam’waley’kum
Thank you 🙏🏻 Jazaak Allah khair.
But I’ve observed many of her followers are brainwashed due to excellent oration. Or others who already had an agenda have now found validation in a moderately famous and influential couple.
She herself is highly educated. When I pointed that out. One follower had the audacity to say “it’s because Umme Khalid is special like a unicorn” 😂
And they disregard comments like yours by saying that “ you guys always bring forth the doctor card;Allah Taa’la has provided us with many non Muslim female doctors if we need them”.
I mean, I can’t even begin to… how stupid that comeback is.
Plus we need women not just in Medecine, we need them in police stations, at airports, in schools, in orphanages, as cooks, as drivers, photographers, in fashion. Almost everywhere.
And don’t they see the condition of countries who police their women with extremism?!!
Even Allah Taa’la has sent Humans to a world full of temptation, He created temptation, because that is the TEST.
You don’t learn to swim sitting on the shore. 😇
@@Shamazcorner they are brainwashed by influence of fundamentalist wahhabism ideology with their 18th century reformists doctrines they think can be canonized into holy scripture which is committing bid’ah and very close to the edge of shirk if they are submitting themselves stronger to their imams and hadiths than they are to Allah.
You have no idea how much this video means to other traditional Muslimas who are on the same boat!!!!!! 💖💖💖💖💖
@King Sultan alhamdulillah married at 16 🥰
@King Sultan I'm 21 right now!!! Best years of my life 💖💖💖 Alhamdulillah! All you have to do is stay steadfast and trust in Allah's commands and life will be beautiful and easy
@@samirasaud5660 well, I am not going to get married soon. My own preference.
@@frenzybuzz3703 okay?
@@samirasaud5660 where ru from
Mashaallah!
It is so refreshing to hear a traditional, practicing muslimah's perspective on this issue.
May Allah bless Brother Daniel and Sister Umm Khalid!
Ameen
KM Hemmans The TH-camr
جزاكم الله خيرا و بارك فيكم
أحسنتم في ترجمة المقاطع.. ننتظر المزيد بارك الله فيكم
As an abroad Saudi College student in the US, I landed exactly on these factual norms in Colorado after high school in Riyadh to the point I lost my scholarship from these influences and distractions. I made Towbah many times and I am now on a solid one with a balanced path Alhamdulillah and I am speechless on what else to express on this and where to move on and how to even open this topic to my Fam and Sisters as I am now a "Black sheep" to some members...Your prayers please for me and for all and my prayers for all of you guys.
رَبَّنَا آتِنَا مِنْ لَدُنْكَ رَحْمَةً وَهَيِّئْ لَنَا مِنْ أَمْرِنَا رَشَدًا
Assalamualikom akhi recite this dua from suratul kahf and ask Allah to make things easy for you
I will also make dua for you inshaAllah
@@anonymous-il9sd الله يجزاك خير ويضاعفه دنيا وآخره واللهم يجعلنا مِن مَن يقاوم ما يحب ويتحمل ما يكره May Allah Bless you and double it in this life and the after and May he make us from those who resist what what they lust, and tolerate what they hate
نصيحتين:
١-الصحبة الصالحة
٢-الزوجة الصالحة
Salam walaikum, I have seen many of our Muslim brothers fall of the path that come from abroad, it is so scary. I’m glad you’ve managed to find it again through the guidance of Allah. I’m also a “black sheep”, I in-fact didn’t complete my bachelors degree but recently I went to india and seen the women in my family are going to college/school in a free mixing environment and it’s destroying them. They all have desires and it’s so bad with phones now. I want to be able to send this video to my family group chat so their parents can listen but they will say I’m stopping girls from education because I myself didn’t finish it completely. Alhumdulilah I have a great job still without education in IT. I need advice because this video is so informative because the parents and children have opposite views and believe they can control their children when reality is the children get outside influence and stray away from the righteous path.
@حسام 🗡⚔️ the first advice will land you at the second one Insh'Allah!
Very well-argued. This is the first time I've heard compelling arguments against women's education.
I agree with many of your points, especially with regard to American college. However, couldn't many of your concerns be combated with the introduction of more Islamic universities? For example, I went to a medical school in South Africa where two thirds of our class was female. Simply having a close-knit, small Muslim community on campus means most of your deeni concerns you've raised don't apply to any of the girls in my class. In fact, I can safely say that the Muslim girls in our class who were less religious before campus became more religious, Alhamdulillah, due to the positive influence of practising Muslims
Yeah I think this issue is very contextual. A safe & conducive environment would help to ameliorate the concerns
bruh? education and knowledge is compulsory for both man and women. just because people lack disipline dosent mean you stop going to education institute. the dangers of zina are more for men than women. zina is a major sin. so men should stop going to? there are other ways to earn as well outside of uni for men
@Maryam Abdullah yeah u do that. keep other out of it.
@Maryam Abdullah what do u have to say about the first university established by a muslim women? and here sunnah is not discussed the dangers are discussed
@Maryam Abdullah كيف تقارنين العصر القديم بالعصر الحالي ، قديما لم يكن عندهم جامعات ووو
Ma shaa Allah, a much-needed video from the sister. May Allah azzawajal reward you both.
Umm Khalid is a wife and a mother. That alone makes her perspective more valuable than Sabreens.
Shots
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why do you say that?
to be fair, having those two things dont make her perspective more valuable than someone as pathetic as that woman. lets be honest, shes straight crazy
@@7LamarOdom Mashallah let's not say such words brother. The sister is simply a victim of modern secularism and feminism. Not everyone is able to know what they do is wrong, however they can learn to better themselves. May Allah guide her back to the right path. InshaAllah.
Even though brother Daniel said all of that before, these words coming from sister Um Khaled are even more convincing and easy to listen to.
I hope the best for both of you. May Allah reward you and make your children pious.
Subhanallah Umm Khalid, you just spoke to me. I wish the Ummah could listen. May Allah guide Us.
what I think would come from university is critical thinking, being able to discuss topics at a deeper level, improved vocabulary, improved confidence. The question we should be asking is can educated woman take the role of a Muslim wife with the qualities mentioned by umm khalid. Would these qualities be reduced by a degree or is this something that should be instilled into a woman by her parents when she is being raised. How does higher education impact a man? Do brothers really need degrees or can they get away with minimum education too. Would the women who are not getting degrees marry men with similar education? Educated men like to marry educated women? There is so much more to discuss on this topic.
But I definately see their point
These issues are covered in some of their previous videos.
Educated men don't want to marry uneducated women. I've seen this in my own community.
Wow! جَزَاكَ ٱللَّٰهُ خَيْرًا
I LOVED IT!! Thank you!!
Even as a man, mass education has been bad for me. I went to the BEST university in my country after a soul-crushing competition against 60 million people for only 120 seats in engineering, then did a master's abroad on a fully paid scholarship with all expenses covered. In the workplace, I use only 10% of what I had learned in my degree programs.
I had filled my mind with only useless knowledge, and still feel that every job I do could've easily been done by me after high school. but I wasted 10 years of my life rifting through universities and stupid degree programs. The only beneficiaries of my education were the universities themselves as I became a poster boy for them for my success, but I feel like its just a ponzi scheme and I have to act that I benefitted from mass education to uphold my image and status.
I have forgotten most of what I have learned in my degree programs, and have learned much more while working in the real world and narrowing my knowledge to the problem statement. One thing is for sure, I'll never compel my kids to go to college after high school, and will force my son to join the workforce early and my daughter to marry early. Universities are just a scam and I wish I knew it earlier.
same here..dropped off computer science diploma and started a career in food industry. 😂
I wish you could tell that to my parents. They dont understand how useless college is and that college doesnt equal education (which comes through experience and lectures).
Same. Universities are really a scam.
You will force your daughter to marry early? You shouldn't have kids.
@@bonital119where did he say force?😂
I was in American campus in 1990s.. what the sister describe already exist, let alone now.
With the internet, knowledge is available much cheaper than before. Hopefully we can educate our children from home, anything that might relevant to the family and society needs.
I agree with Ummu Khalid, the risks is really overriding the benefit in the long run.
Clicked with the speed of light as soon as I saw this
جزاكم الله كل خير و بركة
As a current college student, everything the sister has said in this video is 100% true. But unfortunately it has become even worse now. Many sinful acts are now so normalized that most students, even Muslim students, don't think twice before doing them.
The worst part is even the MSA is not left alone . My campus msa has become a place for muslim student to meet-up and you know do what
As a Muslimah I would like to enroll myself in an Islamic women's college/university. I am looking forward to be in a Saudia Arabian Islamic women's university. I want to learn fiqh and basically get Islamic knowledge instead of secular education. In Sha Allah. Islamic knowledge can make me be closer to our Creator. Secular education would instead make me be further away from our Creator. I have experienced this. Not in a college. But in school, with hectic hours of studying which essentially wouldn't give me any benefit in this world and the hereafter.
@@user-dw2df4ke8x Inshaallah!
@@munis002 Subhanallah, the MSA in many universities is used as a dating/marriage market & clout-chasing society for power-trippers.
@@munis002 Meet up and get married? Sounds halal bro
MaSha Allah what a wife too have.. Daniel my brother Habibi you are blessed to have a wife like this. Wallahi as A Muslim like myself we are losing our Muslim women and sisters to the worldly affairs of America. May Allah protect us Amin☝🏾🖖🏾☪️👍🏾👊🏾💯
السلام علیکم.
I am a female medical student.
Alhamdulillah right from my childhood we have gone to islamic gatherings, programs and attain knowledge of qiran and hadith on a regular basis.
I have realised that we muslims have only focused our children towards achieving the highest in the dunya, whereas especially as females, it is very very important, infact an obligation to learn islamic knowledge.
Or else how are we even going to build a powerful ummah.
At this point i think that there are some feilds in which muslim women must go into adhering to the Islamic rulings strictly, like
1. medicine, specifically obgyn, paediatrics,
2. Islamic teachers
3. Dawah
We need to build a strong ummah that is based on islamic laws and teachings.
Although i dont strictly agree to your pov, that higher education is absolutely not needed, but i am of the pov that islamic knowledge and teachings should be thee priority, whereas the worldly education comes secondary.
Living in India, my parents have stressed on importance of education both islamic and worldly because they have seen that here, 60-70% people are jobless because of corruption and various factors, and sometimes the girls of the families in those situations need to work to be able to feed their family.
I think that your pov cannot strictly apply everywhere around the world.
I agree
Finally ! I agree with you totally! 💕
We can look back during prophet Mohammed PBUH days on how women were encouraged to learn literature, medicine, and others.
One thing I think what she said that college has issues but education or knowledge and college are not the same. So, if there are any fruitful knowledge for women in a suitable Islamic Environment then this could be something considerable but need to remember at what cost.
Quran*
جزاكم الله خيرا أم خالد
من النادر وجود نساء في هذا العصر اللواتي يحاربن فعلا النسوية السامة
At the end of the day, colleges and universities are more like business entities than educational institutions
Dear Brother Danial... Hats off to you... This is perfect example of virtuous women are for virtuous men, and virtuous men are for virtuous women...
Ya Allah grant this woman the highest levels of Jennah. I've been searching for a spouse with this woman's intelligence for many years, and unfortunately only come across the girls that adopted the ideology of these liberal institutions this sister eloquently describes. As Muslims, we should collectively find a solution to this mental disease that's plaguing our society. May Allah guide the women of this ummah to the right path and make them the best of women.
I bet you're still single lmao
What she said is all true. I myself, regret studying in college wasting my time studying something that's not beneficial to the hereafter and delaying the marriage. The sad part is not everyone understands it unless they have imaan in their heart.
Your recitation of the Quran is so beautiful MaSha Allah..
Jazakillah khairan..
Well my sister left her studies eight years ago and got married. Today she regrets it and strictly advises me to complete my studies, get stable in life and get married.
According to her, Marraige is a part of lufe but its not life.
It means every individual shares a different experience about different things. Right?
Yes, not everyone will have the same life story.
But if the husband provides for you and if he cares and loves you like he should I am sure no sister would regret it. But if your expectations are higher and can't lower it according to what husband can give you in case of money then yeh it's better for you to study and earn money.
But I am sure if you love your husband the way you should love money won't be a factor..
@@faryaltariq9314 There's more to life than just marriage and parental duties. It's wrong to neglect children and husband, but obsessing over them and leaving everything else in the name of deen while believing it is generally bad to not prioritize on having kids and marriage is close-minded.
When husbands know their wives don't need to depend on them necessarily it can also prevent them from being tempted to abuse their power over her and be in their place.
Generalization of women education in a bad way was a very bombast misguidance spread by DH's wi*e. It's hard to say whether DH and his wife are just arrogant and ignorant or their just hypocritical extremists.
Hearing them gives me the tendency to turn anti-religion, Astaghfirullah.
@@vito8633 the amount of bullshit I read on your statement..wow,just wow.
@Orient Express Accounting & Finance
زادك الله علما وتوفيقا
Ignorance is bliss. When you're ignorant, and ignorance makes your reason numb, you become a person like this girl.
Come back once you give this some good thought
Esp heirarchies and vulnerability :)
@@not_ahmadx lol your solution to vulnerabilities and hierarchy is to be a complete coward and run or hide. No like I said ignorance is bliss, live in your bubble of security.
she clearly likes to read books and is knowledgeable. that term "ignorant" is just a label that a lot of people put to person whose ideas that is not common. in reality, a lot of people are desensitized of the fact that their view ab this world is just a product of the society. and the society is full of humans who dont know better for themselves.
well it is understandable though, people who only think ab this world, never thought about death, will never have the same point of view with people who are really conscious about the life after death.
the term ignorance can both be used by opposing people. i may say that youre ignorant, but you can also say i am ignorant. we both have our own reasoning, but only ones who's guided by The True Creator is the real not ignorant one
may The True Creator guides us
She is well educated, why do you label her as ignorant? Do you have any valid reasons?
I do pardah myself and study in a co college in Pakistan and I got so much positive exposure from there. There arent any explicit acts that go on here publicly due to general social control. Certainly not am I required by Allah to suppress my harmless wishes. Certainly a muslim should be respected even amongst non muslims. If i want to earn this respect from educating myself regarding the world I am certainly allowed and I will ask Allah to help me in this journey and save me from all obstacles that can come.
Allah humma barik.... May Allah bless both of you
I was waiting for this to be honest. Especially after the constant slander the feminist did. You picked her apart well Mashallah well done.
Beautifully summed up! Loved your in-depth analysis based on your first hand experiences...
These 42 minutes went so smooth that I didn't feel like exiting the podcast at any moment... I got stuck to it till the very last second...
May Allah reward you both in Dunyah as well as in Aakhirah!
Yeah, same to me. I normally don't listen to women's talk, not even from sister Umm Khalid. But since Daniel shared it I paid attention and to me it felt like just a couple of minutes. As you have said, it went so smooth.
Unfortunately, the world we are living in doesn't encourage women to be proud of staying at home anymore, but many still do. I was ridiculed and called lazy for choosing to be a stay-at-home mom for 10 years. I don't take pride in working now but my family situation required me to work.
I don't like my job but the fact that I can support my extended family financially Alhamdullilah
That 42 minutes was the most powerful most touching video I have came across in years. Full of wisdom and truth. May Allah protect and bless your family. Thank you for spilling your heart out to safe what is left of us jzk Allah khairan.
This feels like a commentary on higher educational institutions in the west specifically since alot of this is not present in the east.
i dont know what east you are talking about bro. all this is happening now in our so called muslim countries too.
it's the same in the east bro
what?? maybe not as bad MAYBE but it's definitely happening
جزاك الله خير وجمعنا الله في الجنه
واشكركم على الترجمه
Women too have some social obligations . ie: in health care provision as doctors, nurses, or as teachers, writers, or skilled professions etc. Education is essential to any human's growth and fulfillment. But they shouldn't have to put their life on hold to do it. They can keep higher education as gradual and built around their lifestyle and needs. Going to work after forties may suit some women.. you have a decent husband but many women end up without breathing space if they don't get to go out or focus their mind on something they find interesting..., their brain would begin to shut down.
very much agree with this point
Another problem with people worshipping the exceptions but can't see the rule. Why do we try to favor and highlight exceptions as if it rule for everyone? Stop taking the outlier situation and think it'll work out for you too.
@@MuslimHomeschoolersUnite yup
To each his/her own. As a woman who lost her husband I am very grateful for my education. Its helping me to earn a living for my children. I don't have to depend on hand outs.
الحمدلله اللهم بارك فيك انت و اولادك و أحترمك على ولاءك لزوجك Al hamdu lilah may Allah bless you and your children and i respect you for your loyalty to your husband
Allahumma baarik. May Allah allow you and your husband to reunite in Jannahtul Firdaws.
As for me,
a Husband who lost a great job and something like a little handicapped in something also, I am so thankful of my wife who still have a descent job to look after me !!!
Good for you. But, We dont build general rules for society on an expetional event like the death of the husband. And in Islam, we dont say to each her/his own, we say there is Sharia and everyone obeys Allah without personal Wims and desires.
@@Fitratul The thing is, women getting an education or having financial independence isn't inherently haraam. So there's nothing wrong with her saying 'to each her own.'
May Allah bless this woman and give her Jenna ....from Ethiopia
Very informative. We need more strong women like this in general. Muslim/non muslim this is the correct approach to many hurdles we all face.
umm khalid is the real women empowered
As a man currently going to college, 80% of the classes have nothing to do with the actual trade that we try to specialize in.
That means that the education system needs a reform and an overhaul immediately. It can also mean that nice people who understand the problem should come together and build new universities and colleges and give pious women a fighting chance.
Not in any universe, does this translate as “higher studies is harmful for women” or that under studied women are better mothers and wives. Astaghfirullah!!!
We give the test; hence we pass, or fail. We face the fitnah and come out successful (or barely survive). It’s a test of our Imaan. Hiding or not giving the test to avoid failure is a joke.
Yes be careful, choose colleges not based on accreditation but atmosphere. Don’t go to a club, don’t attend anything that’s not directly related to your course.
Leave the course if it’s getting difficult. Don’t postpone marriage, be frank with your parents regarding your problems.
But if you are out there for education, no question those fitnahs are now just a test.
Make sure you take the best and leave the rest. Make groups and communities for other Muslim or like minded youths. Do Jummah together and fast and persevere.
What she’s propagating is wrong. Her experiences are true, but her conclusion is biased and extreme and wrong.
Teach the young people regarding the dangers of their time and how it can affect their personality, their deen, their future.
Don’t discourage them from studying.
We don’t find every class useful and we don’t remember everything we studied. But still it all definitely shapes us into better human beings. Everyday is a lesson in itself.
And all the fitnah is exactly the same for both genders. I’ve seen men going stray much more compared to women.
We can still be good Muslims, actually an educated Muslim finds it easier to study Islam.
@@Shamazcorner the issue is, how can women have careers and also maintain their marriages and be mothers? This is the elephant in the room. There needs to be more honest discussions on this topic.
@@user-ov1ps7go4m Assalaam’waley’kum
Women’s education and career. It should be an individual and family matter. It should be and is different for every family. You can raise some general points where every person from both the genders can identify. Both genders should have a say in this matter. Like my friend’s husband is a very busy doctor and hence he is almost an absentee father. It bothers her to death and she’s extremely unhappy in that marriage. Her father is rich enough already and if she wants to she can easily raise her kids without the help of that man’s money- is what she says.
She doesn’t just need his money. She also needs him to be present and taking part in parenting. He is an absent husband and father. The only thing present at home is his money and status.
So you see how women could also be suffering due to men’s careers as well. So why are we discussing just the women’s careers. Actually We still have only a small percentage of women working. And many women leave their job or at least take a break when they have babies. My sister was earning way more than her husband Masha’Allah. But after her first daughter she left her job. It’s every family’s individual choice. My sister’s husband promised her that he will work overtime to provide better, but only for two years, so that he doesn’t turn out to be a good provider but absentee husband and father. He planned it well, and convinced her, it took some time, but eventually she agreed,
She left her job and now is a happy maama Masha’Allah. Our whole family loved their approach. And we all told them that they have our full support in case they both want to work again. A child doesn’t need to be raised alone by the mother. Grannys and granpas and aunties can also pinch in. If you have some old trusting servant that can also work while mother Pursues her career, even if it’s part time. It’s actually better to have an active intellectual mom.
So either speak for both spouses, both genders, and have a proper couples counseling tailored for every individual couple or don’t make an issue out of exaggerated generalizations.
Both genders have excellent rights on each other in the light of islam. We need someone not biased to take care of that. And trust me people are mostly doing okay. This couple in the video, needs controversial subjects to attract viewers.
They are trying to portray education as completely, utterly evil, and that too only for women.
You don’t realize how dangerous that is? There’s no proof of Quran or Hadeeth that endorses their views.
Even though it’s their personal opinion, they are portraying it as “Deen”. It’s not Deen, astaghfirullah.
thanks get rid if these inappropriate behaviours
I smelt weed, alcohol, cigerrette smoke, all due to bad environment in college and being surrounded by different sort of individuals. Its disgusting lol. You can smell an alcoholic from 6 feet away.
May sound weird, but its good. Good because you are getting in touch with people that shows the exact model of what you shouldnt be. As an example I am the only muslim in the history of my family, they are all catholics, protestants or non-religious and many of them live their lifes in a secular manner and I've seen and see many times my grandparent drunk, doing dumb stuff out of his drunkness and he lost a brother who died because of excessive consumption of alcohool. Alhumdilillah I never put a drop of beer or wisky in my mouth, just because I saw those things and said to myself: "I dont want to be like them".
So trust in Allah azza wa jal who sent the Truth to humanity despite the overwhelming mockery and disbelief and seek the example of our Messenger saw who went against the mainstream behaviours and religious pratices of his time, in all of that are good advices for people like us who live in non-muslim majority countries.
@@sallahoudinalial-brazili4901 Allahu Akbar, brother. In both hardship and in ease there is always benefit for a believer, and your comments reflect that, mashallah. May Allah deliver us into Paradise and keep us steadfast in this life.
@@sallahoudinalial-brazili4901 Mashallah
Like the brother above said with his experience it is a strugle and fitnah but also a blessing. Seeing the destructive effects of kufr and disobedience to Allah's laws in real time reinforces my faith so much. Alhamdulillah for everything, TRULY.
Listening to this video for the fourth time it starts making sense to me. You are right. Jazak Allah Khair and my apologies for misunderstanding what you said.
I am from a different background and a different country. Your argument makes sense "only" for the people living in the US only, especially for those who are associated with deen and dawa.
It was indeed a great speech which I enjoyed but this argument of hers does not work in northern Nigeria. The vulnerability of a woman does not bring about masculine responsibility here. It brings out pride, arrogance and abuse. That's why many women here seek financial independence to avoid what happened to their mothers
@@oyinkansolawewe4281 same goes for Pakistan. Because of lack of Shariya law and law and order in general people in rural Pakistan abuse girls and women. Marry them off with Quran to keep hold of inheritance, kill women for choosing to marry someone they like, keep women captive and the list goes on. When you do not have Islamic education, there is no way you can keep men from becoming firoun's and as a reaction women from becoming feminists.
At least in the US, women are not vulnerable as she was mentioning. Women have rights here unlike in any other so-called Muslim country. Early marriages can work here and even thrive because girls know how to survive if they get in trouble. Women becoming financially healthy is not a bad thing. There is a difference between being independent and healthy. Financially healthy women are more likely to be able put tawakkul on Allah. Over-dependence of women on men is equally dangerous and disastrous as feminism or independence is.
@@bead_on_demand I agree with you. There is a difference between being financially healthy and financial independence. Striking a balance is the best way. Taking a middle course and not over tilting tone side. I have a degree, work and married with kids. I want same for my daughters. I was taught Islamic knowledge and homely knowledge and also had a degree. My parents tried their best to ensure my sisters and I were well grounded in all 3 areas. Alhamdulillah
@@oyinkansolawewe4281 Alhamdulillah I also got Islamic education as I was growing up along with liberal Ed. Sure my views were not the same as they are today and that is because of my limited exposure to the world and I feel like umm Khalid views are kind of extremist because of the lack of exposure of the world as well. These guys don't know what's going on Muslim Ummah and that how hard it is for Muslim women now a days to hold on to Islam. Muslim men need to fear liberalism and firouni system and not "Muslim" women.
I don't get when they keep quiet on the injustices happening with Muslim women all over the world but they only care about liberal dayooth feminist so-called muslim men who choose feminists for themselves and now crying and blaming all women for not taking their responsibility seriously. Why do they want more kids in liberal confused families I don't know
حسبنا الله ونعم الوكيل وثبت الله أخواننا المسلمين...
Education doesn't lead to haram, it's your weak imaan that leads to haram.
And you are saying this modern education would not contribute to weak imaan?
It depends on the education, wouldn’t you agree?
When I think back on my time at Uni, the list of what I gained comes up fairly short. Most of my classes were prerequisites in basic subjects headed by a professor that didn’t want to be there. The rest of the time spent outside of classes was honestly disorienting. I was surrounded by parties and hook up culture and drugs and a driving force behind it all to abandon any traditional beliefs I held or risk being labeled a bigot and prude. A girl in my dorm was even drugged and taken advantage of sexually in her state of unconsciousness. I felt like I was constantly battling between what was good and the evil that is very real and very present on most campuses. I was away from my family and surrounded by everything that we as Muslim women should be doing our best to avoid instead of immersing ourselves in. It was perhaps one of the most difficult tests of my life.
Alhamdulillah, my experience in college and navigating through the challenges led me to cling more tightly to religion, but for many it has the opposite effect. My husband and I decided that if we ever have a daughter there’s absolutely no way we would send her off alone to a university in these times and environments. There’s simply too much at risk.
Don't worry sister nowadays online universities are there
بارك الله فيك ام خالد لانكي اطلعتيني علي كثير من الحقائق . جزاك الله خيرا
I'm from north africa and i can tell 98% from our families draw this path for their daughters (career before family)
Thank you oum khalid for sharing us this video .😇
بارك الله فيك و بارك لكما .
I went to university in a MUSLIM-majority Asian country and to be honest, it's the same here. I've had to hear my best friend from high school admit that she was no longer a virgin and I pretty much broke down crying. I've had to stare at classmates for a couple of seconds because I didn't recognise them after they took their hijab off. And even though I didn't express it outwardly or verbally, but I myself eventually lost my entire deen and became a de facto atheist within my first year. And this is all in ONE university. Everything you said, happened. And I don't even want to get into the horror stories on the university confessions page. Again, these are Muslims, in a Muslim-majority country. Not the West. Alhamdulillah, I came back and became Muslim again in my senior year (long story) but not everyone made it out unscathed. So this rings true on so many levels.
No doubt going to university has it's benefits, like you gain research skills, social skills, are able to write and speak more articulately etc. But it's at the expense of your deen, your dignity and akhirah. Is it worth it? No. A millions times, no. Especially not on the basis of "just in case". "Just in case I get a bad husband." Or reasons like "I love this subject" or "I want to be more extroverted!" If you think you can stand in front of Allah and justify your reasons for compromising deen then.. Gosh, just don't. Please.
An ayat that I hold on to dearly is this:
"O you who have believed, enter into Islām completely [and perfectly] and do not follow the footsteps of Satan. Indeed, he is to you a clear enemy." (2:208)
There are steps that lead to Zina. Being in an environment like today's university is one of it. Satan didn't tell Adam and Hawa to just eat from the tree. He LED them to the tree, step by step. His footsteps.
May Allah give us baseerah of the heart to differentiate between right and wrong. Ameen. And jazakumullahu khairan Umm Khalid and Brother Daniel for your efforts 🌱
Where are you from if you didn't mind ?
@@amanytalaat7044 im guessing Malaysia or Indonesia.
Assalaam’waley’kum May Allah bless you. And I don’t completely disagree. But then again all the people who agree with this video should think it through;
that there were no bad women before we had universities?
All the women who don’t have access to universities even today… are all pious???
People do fall, some get up and some don’t; University or not.
There have always been reasons to sin, everywhere. We have to be careful. Parents and students need to find a way to navigate. You can’t hide your head in the sand, to remain pious.
All that you mentioned is already happening in schools too. My cousin’s school did a surprise check due to suspicion and found 6 girls who were pregnant and many others who were sexually active. So we stop sending them to school too??
And are girls doing all this sexual stuff alone (are we assuming that they are all lesbians). That would be ridiculous, right?!
A women can’t sin without the help of a man. So that means both genders are sinning. So why Danial and Umm e Salma promoting only women should stay away from these sin pits?
Media and “me,me,me” culture is a big culprit behind this. LGBTQI… and so on.
Parents busy earning money because we need $1000 phone for everyone every 2 years at least.
There are many factors. Allah Taa’la has given us free will so He can test us. He could have kept us in cages and then we would all pass.
Everything in this world is a test. Prepare your kids properly to face the world out there. Muslims are rich and they can reform universities and open their own reformed institutions etc. People like you can volunteer and give daawah to other young people regarding the dangers and how to educate oneself safely.
I have people in my family, who are not educated at all other than mere basics and I know things they did, that I can’t even discuss.
Education is not evil, the other factors surrounding it are.
When you teach a kid to swim, that knowledge is not evil (never can be) but now that he/she can swim doesn’t mean that this a guarantee that they’ll never drown.
But they are better equipped with knowledge. If you think that the waters they will have to navigate is full of sharks. The solution is not to skip swimming lessons or teach them just the basics so they won’t be able to go to the deep parts of the ocean.
No!!! The solution would be to teach them about sharks, while teaching them to swim excellently, and give them better equipments to face the actual enemy.
Muslim women are very strong. We have more good women than bad Alhumdulillah. We can survive and we can help others survive too.
Jazaak Allah khairum
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Great video as usual. May Allah bless the Haqiqatjou family.
I can't express my self in English, i want to write in Arabic.
لا استطيع ان اتخيل ان هذا الكلام يخرج من امراة اجنبية وقد سمعت هذا الكلام من احد الشيوخ الذين تعلمت منهم وقد قال نفس هذا الكلام قبل عشرين سنة من الان وهذا الشيخ اسمه ابو اسحاق الحويني حفظه الله .
هذا الوعي الصادر من امراة اجنبية مسلمة سبحان الذي هداها وعلمها هذا
ادعو الله ان يبارك لكما وعليكما وان يبارك في ذريتكما وان ينفعكم وينفع بكم واسأل الله ان يدخلكم جناته وان يدخلنا جميعا الجنة اخوانا على سرر متقابلين
انا منبهر ما شاء الله لا قوة الا بالله
I didn't even go to college but I still fell for a lot of the secular world ideologies, habits, thinking patterns and bs.
May Allah bless this beautiful educated couple...
اللھم ارنا الحق حقا وارزقنا اتباعہ، وارنا الباطل باطلا وارزقنا اجتنابہ۔آمین۔۔۔
If you’re from a family struggling to make ends meet, A DEGREE COMES HANDY
This was great food for thought. Jazakillahu khairan
وفقكم الله وحفظكم وزادكم إيمانًا وتقوًى وعلمًا وخيرًا، آمين.
Idk.. I went to uni and learned alot related to health and holistic medicine etc. For the fitna or unislamic things that occured at uni, I was far removed from them, I just never paid attention to things around me. I would go to class, meet with my siblings/friends for salah and lunch, then go home and help with housework. I'm glad I went to uni (I was homeschooled my entire life before that) because it kind of puts you up to speed with the rest of the world. I was very quiet at uni and didn't talk much but when you make your intention to give dawah and to help the ummah, there will be barakah in it.
I don't think uni should be demonized unless you're doing a useless arts/humanities degree that just teaches you kufri ideology. Another important point is to look visibly muslim (for me, I wore niqab etc so dressing in the shar'i way will automatically put a certain boundary between you and the opposite gender/unislamic behavior/events etc. Dorming should also be avoided and going to social events etc. I only ever went to a couple MSA events which were actually good because there was gender segregation and anyone who acted inappropriately was thrown out. One year, the MSA president was also expelled because he wasn't proper in his speech, and replaced by the brothers who overthrew him. I do know most MSA's aren't like this but it isn't necessary to be part of any social club for that matter. For my first three years of uni, I was alone. For the very first year, I didn't know any muslims or where the prayer room was so I would pray alone in the hallway where everybody would stare. It didn't matter to me because I knew who I was and had a good home environment.
Anyway, everybody's life is different. Most of my friends at uni weren't there because they were putting off marriage or familial duties to have some kind of career over family lifestyle or because of some feminist mindset, it was just a beneficial use of time until a different chapter in their life opened.
SubhanAllah thanks for sharing your experience bc ur uni is completely different to mine and I'm glad it was bc it's the acception. The way Umm Khalid describes it is the majority of MSAs now. Also, may Allah reward you for staying on the Haq aka Islam throughout your college years and may you die upon it Ameen
Thanks for sharing your anecdotal experience. However it’s much different in American universities and community colleges. And the steady moral decay of the ummah in the west is directly linked to this artificial importance put on secular education over the deen.
Congratulations 👏 but you are one in a million so that not a fact to follow.
@Mohammad Bakeer What part is anecdotal? Fitna can be avoided by everyone by not dorming or going to social events, not going into waste fields like arts/humanities etc.
@@fruitmonster7 the best thing to do is to avoid fitnah all together, btw Allah will not ask you about the degree you got in uni but He will ask you how you lost your Iman in the process.
Allahumma barik. I needed to hear this from a sister . Her story resonates so much with me Allhamdillillah. These unfiltered reality checks (regarding equality and our place as women in islam) are often given by male speakers, and although they proved to be very helpful in my journey away from feminism, the same message coming from a fellow sister in deen makes it a bit more relatable.
I'm hoping to hearing a bit more from Umm Khalid on issues such as these.
May Allah give barakah to our knowledge and guide us all.
Do you hear that voice when you hear the sayings of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ who was a man?
Genuinely curious....
@@thealpha1687 that's actually a good question. No allhamdulillah, that haven't occurred to me. But I'm aware that feminist call islam a misogynistic religion because of this (Astaghfirullah) I am an avid listener of speakers such as Daniel, Sajid Lipham, Sheikh Ahmad Musa Jibreel, etc. What I meant here though is I find it much more relatable when a women tells her story because instantly I'm aware that her trials as a women are similar to mine. May Allah guide us all
@@ayishaashraf9579 Ameen.
Remember the following Quranic verse that emphasizes unity based on religion, whenever shaitan whispers to you, inshaallah...
"The believing men and believing women are allies of one another. They enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong and establish prayer and give zakah and obey Allah and His Messenger. Those - Allah will have mercy upon them. Indeed, Allah is Exalted in Might and Wise."
- Quran 9:71
@@ayishaashraf9579 May Allah keep you steadfast in religion....
@@thealpha1687 Ameen
"You should base your assessments on facts and not feelings"
I have literally put this in my notebook. Thank you
Much of the arguments that you're stating is not the issue of education, it's the issue of the educational institutions. Plus society and how its decline. There are Muslim women who have made scientific contributions. The solution isn't no more education for women, you need to find an alternative. Other than its true, happiness for us as women is family and children it's true.
Also don't ignore the reality and FACTS just like you're saying women have left their obligation many men have abandoned their responsibilities, this has nothing to do with not having tawakkul, it's about being a realist. The fact is men in the west and East many men are.not fulfulling their obligation hence why women work and study. I was a victim.of this years ago, in the end I suffered with a child to raise it took me 11 years to remarry. The consequences are far to big for women. Men don't pay much of a price.
Did you not try to remarry?
@@a5amr2 oh yes I did, alhamdullah I remarried 2 yrs ago, but the stigma I faced and I came to realise once you've been married just oncz and if you have a kid you pay a big price. Men have more. Choices, I even got rejected by men with kids! I just accepted tje situation and made a lot of dua and alhamdullah I was blessed with a husband.
Agree. I feel that many facts were ignored in this conversation. Women need education
@@Steph-sb3ge exactly
@@a5amr2 unfortunately there's a lot of redpill ideology going around in the Muslim community and Muslim men are being brainwashed into thinking that a Muslim women who has been married already is not an acceptable choice for marriage.
for those entering college if you get many different sexual partners not at once but over a span you will end up sad. There are no perks to it, you can either believe me or learn yourself eventually. Moral here is you can never have your way on this earth you are but a mere human.
sending your daughter abroad to college is the most cucked thing ever
@@yousef2154 I am not sure if this is a sin but I will take it. As a man I wanted to sleep with every women that was attractive. I can't stress enough that Muslim women are NOT meant for that. Nobody teaches us men that women are not sexual objects I had not known the Muslim faith back in college but now I know the faith well and have come to my senses.
@UCPP1NZjvr7WL-I4_4JFi4Vw then they are in a state of disbelief. The Quran says they are deaf, dumb, and blind.
@الحقيقة all we can do is give back by educating, the people of america can never know enough about Islam
@الحقيقة that's at their loss. The world will end the way the Quran describes
ما شاء الله عليك! أحسنت! قلت ووفيت وأثلجت القلب! 👍🏼👍🏼
As someone who went to university in a Muslim country, I had a very naive belief that since I was living and getting my degree in a Muslim country, there would be no danger to my Iman but I was proven wrong when entering the university system. Haram couples were the norm, trying out alcohol and drugs due to "curiosity", unnecessary intermixing parties and events, and weakening your aqidah for fake ideologies. I had friends (Muslim and non-Muslim) that I eventually stopped hanging with cause their influence was really affecting my iman and I graduated with one friend but it was worth it.
@Orient Express idk about saudia. but pakistan is kinda like this. free mixing and having haram relationships are v normal. drugs arent popular here , although weed is very common among boys.
its a sad state of affiars , May ALLAH give us hidayat and eman and forgive us
@Samir bro in saudi men and women don’t even go to the same schools lol
@@Islam.is.the.truth.. it seems like this is changing very fast with Iblis MBS is grabbing more power
@@d.bcooper2271 yeah even your non practicing family and nation who have also turned their backs on allah are also a sign of judgment day Subhanallah
@@d.bcooper2271 hey, careful with the backbiting of muslim rulers. No matter how oppressive they may be, there is no rational benefit to be insulting them here in youtube comments. Other than sin upon sin
My friends became Atheists moving to universities in US and Canada.
Risks of pursuing higher education IS REAL.
May Alllah help us. ameen.
Jazakallahu khair ,sister. May Allah help us realize the wisdom behind it.
I loved this reaction so much that I showed my mother, brother, and sisters! Everyone loved it walhamdulillah!
I think this is mostly for the US and western education.. Don't you think there is a distinction for muslim countries.. I mean free mixing and alchohol and weed are concerns for the western institutions.. What about a muslim country, where alchohol and drugs are illegal and universities have different campuses for men and for women?
JazakilLahu khayran 🤲
It's crazy that women ended up with a degree in mechanical engineering, and 6 "digit" salary.
And yet middle aged, single, have no kids, lost the ideal time for marriage as a women and just a walking hypocrite.
All that for her to be caught as a sngle women who is "looking" for marriage. or in "Talks"
yikes. Actions speak louder than words.
Well said.
i doubt she actually has this degree, if she got it then it must have been from money or other ways she cheated to get it, mechanical engineering is not a joke
@@Beam_Teamer a liar thinks everyone is a liar, a thief thinks everyone is a thief
sounds like you believe her.
@@ShaikhaInk No, it's well known a lot of people with fake degrees in the west, that proverb is wrong and misapplied
Someone give this woman a diamond medal. Everything I needed to hear.
She deserves more than this
she’s amazing. may Allah swt reward her. I’m trying to be like her
بارك الله فيك يا أختي و جزاك الله خيرا