You are preaching the most important sermon in history. My body was drained to the point of needing human growth hormone. I had other illnesses but now they are gone during five year divorce. My health is almost totally recovered in Jesus name.
I am the gullible woman in 2Tim 3:6. I was “taken captive” when I was 21. I dropped out of Stanford in 1974 and stayed almost 45 years! We had 3 children and we all lived in fear of this tyrant. Derek Prince says if you meet a manipulator and an intimidator in the same body; you have met the devil. He was a practitioner of all the dark arts and a Catholic (they do NOT follow Yeshua Jesus commandments)! My complacency and compromise led to literal spinelessness! Jesus Christ set me free from 24 years of Dr prescribed opiates! My 200 lb bloated crippled body was restored to my 30 year self! I am married to Yeshua now and bless His name every moment! I thank God for divorcing a satanically ordained beast!
I cannot thank you enough for this message. Coming from Africa and now living in the USA, the guilt that the culture and church has placed on women to stay in abusive marriages is sickening. The guilt we feel for leaving a narcissist. The lie that we will be forsaken by God if we leave. I am so glad that you are a beliver. May the Lord bless you and this ministry.
You’re 100% right. After 39 years of marriage, I filed for divorce. The last year, while separated, we tried marriage counseling and individual therapy. It didn’t matter. He didn’t do the hard work on himself, he only went to counseling because he didn’t want to give up any money. Now, I can’t afford an attorney, and my husband is busy opening different accounts and trying to hide our money. I can’t do anything about it. At 60 years old, I know I’ll never survive this. Ladies…don’t wait out of fear or hope, like I did. Just go! I know he’s a monster now…I see the evil, in hindsight I see all the bright red flags! I was so stupid, I hate myself. Don’t wait to wake up one day to realize you’ve been sharing your life with a stranger, a monster, an evil person. Just start planning a way to go…and then go.
I’m ready to walk away from my husband. He talks nasty to me like he is mad at me, like I’m stupid, with snark. He cuts me off in the middle of my sentences or questions and try’s to “finish” my thoughts. When I point it out to him he comes up with every other reason. “He isn’t doing that, I’m just mad that he isn’t giving me attention.” Or I love drama, I have anger issues, I’m trying to control him, he is isolated from his family because he has to pay attention to me, I have to try to fight to ruin his weekend or the holiday, everyone would agree with him.” And so on, no matter what…. It’s me. Not him.
I just cant say it enough of how grateful i am to hear this coming from a Godly man. When i finally detached and withdrew from the marriage, i went through a dark night of the soul because i thought i needed to stay married even though i was in so much pain thinking about staying. The more i kept attending my church services, pouring out my heart in teaching classes, the more i began to feel Gods love and presence and His voice telling me that He wanted me to leave. That if i stayed, i would not only injure myself but also my two children.
"God is not pleased when you stay with a narc, infact he is pleased when you leave a narc" 💯 If only I had this wisdom and knowledge a decade or so ago... I spent so much time and effort desperately trying to make it work but failing.
I’m pretty sure my husband is a covert narc. He loves to stonewall me. He always gets defensive when I bring up issues for me. He hasn’t touched me intimately in 3 years and knows how important that is to me. He gaslights. He’s angry often. Says there’s nothing wrong. Won’t talk to me. But then tries to say I’m the one being distant. I have no money to go or I would. What can I do. I’ve started ignoring his behavior and just being myself and trying to be happy. He’s always judging. I feel so full of anxiety and depression. And I have chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia.
Somehow they get you over time to put all your focus...your attention...your energy...your emotions and feelings all on them...while no attention is focused on you and you get totally lost in the mix... and end up in no man's land lost and confused...is it you..is it them.. and the only way out of the nightmare is to run..not walk out of their life.
I hope all these brave and deserving women realize and do what it takes to make sure abusive behavior does not pass down to another generation. Children soak up what they see and feel and realize you do all you can to make sure the abuse STOPS WITH ME!
I’m divorcing the narc soon after so many failed attempts and being a Christian I stayed but realized truth will set you free! I thank God for coming across this by my former marriage counselor and now I understand I did not do anything wrong!!!
Keep going. Take it one step at a time. My faith in God helped me enormously. I prayed and read the Bible alot and prayed alot. Only spend time with healthy loving people.
What about the Christian husband who abandons you? I was abandon by my covert, Narcissist, Christian Pastor husband. He didn’t physically abandon me, but he emotionally abandoned me. We lived in the same house, but that was it. What about him? I was going insane and had all the physical symptoms of adrenal withdrawals.
My Christian husband also emotionally abandoned me as well as controlling me with his mental abuse towards me. I physically left him 2 years ago. I will be filing for divorce to heal completely and not have any ties with him whatsoever.
My Christian Narc would literally cuss me out on the way to church with the children in the car, absolutely traumatizing! Then as soon as we would enter the church he would open the doors greeting everyone good morning sister, or brother...Grace and Peace. 😢 He was the biggest hypocrite i have ever might! Doing all kind of favors for women in the church against my wishes! He month was brutal😢...my poor babies suffer dearly!
8:15 Definitely. These narcs try to get you to act like they're GOD. They want you to please them which is a form of Idol Worship. I can no longer put a person above GOD. Galatians 1:10.
@@edelweissdebergbaldrian7696 Or convince you they have a direct line to God, starting their sentences with: "God told me..." Or, "God doesn't want you to read that/listen to that/watch that/do that."
I left my 20 year marriage, got on my feet, and another swooped in, had 4 sons from my first marriage, had twins with number 2 narc, left him crossed the country to get away, then was reabused by my family of origin, I need your books
Thank you so much for speaking the truth, especially from the Christian perspective. The narc that I divorced was, Mr. Goodbody. I called him, Dudley Doright. He hid behind church and still does to this day. It’s been over 30 years since I divorced him. I have nothing to do with him in any way, shape, or form for at least 25 years. When we have to be at a family gathering together, such as weddings, etc., I make sure I give off vibes of, “I don’t want to be near you “. He and his wife like to leave early. I like to sit there and grin and smile, knowing I drove them away. My daughters have told me that their stepmother tells them the things that they now know from me telling them. She is not a happy camper. I was so good at covering up his dirty tracks that nobody had a clue there were problems. Not even my kids knew, which was devastating to them when I divorced. I was primary in my children’s lives and I thought I was protecting them from the nastiness of the father. I made the narc look good to others, which ended up to be detrimental to me. I had lived a lie in pretending he was a good Christian man to the outside world. In my book, the covert narcissist, who hides behind church, is the worst of the worst!
You are awesome 😊😊God bless you 🎉🎉🎉Narcisstic people are too crazy to wrap your head around. Once my son sperm donor that i married in 2011 came to visit from NY on a Sunday and was leaving on the Friday. I had a dental cleaning that Thursday. Mind you we have a ten year old that I have to raise alone except for compassionate friend and loved ones looking out. The narcissistic person expected me to cancel my dental cleaning! So I could let him see our son before he leaves again. The level of entitlement of the narcisstic person is deadly toxic levels. I didn't cancel my teeth cleaning as it takes months to fit in the schedule again. The in and out energy of the narcissistic person has caused my son to act out before. Im not going to lose my dental hygiene because i stepped into the playground of the perpetual child narcissistic person. I cant call him a husband. Im stuck married to him and divorce isn't easy as the narc ties up all your time doing thier job with our child. Then they want back in when it suits them. Watching your content has kept me no contact. Thanks again 💐💐✨️💐💐
You've got to find strategies so he can't get to you, or the contact is minimal.. If you don't react, he will get bored at some point. Have a friend open information, letters, court docs, emails, etc. My ex used to file stupid things all the time. He wants to torment and harass you, he is a dangerous person. Treat him as such, don't let yourself be caught off guard. Hang in there sweetie!
my narc husband has alienated me from my 3 boys 25,23,18 all have violently abused me too. i am exhausted and i can't believe i am still alive. punched in the face head butted head thru the wall cold water poured on me while sleeping many times thrown across the rooms..subdermal hematoma. i live in wny and police do nothing
@kellyatkinson, whether you stay or leave, call the woman shelter in your area. Speak to a counselor or someone. God loves you & you have reason to live but your life can be shortened if you do nothing. An unintentional hard hit from your spouse can permanently damage your body. Get help please.
yeah, same boat here, the police do nothing, the monster has turned everyone i know against me, my current boyfriend i don't even trust anymore, i'm jerking around in fear in flight or fight mode and thinking of a way to escape, the PTSD, unable to sleep, heavy drinking and a stressful life is taking it's toll on me playing with my bipolar mind to the point they will hospitalise me, the fact that the last person i ever could have a future with and had some fragile bridge of trust is now shattered and washed away in the river will be turned against me, leave me with nothing and no hope, i am in constant fear i can't deal with, the fear of losing everything, the fear of not trusting no one is something i can't live with anymore, i can't cope like this, i just want the easy way out
You used a spiritual sword to dismantel and expose this type of darkness! People are so blind and have always advised me to stay. Thank for being a spiritual father and giving me approval, confirmation and encouragement to move forward. Ive been sick with Lupus, and ive been afraid to let go😢...i believe this is my exit season and the door is open to walk out of it after 17yrs of marriage! Thank you for being obedient. I know that its God making it so uncomfortable in this situation that i cant rest, until i leave aka escape. You said what and how i needed to hear what God is saying...My revelation at this point is that he needs salvation. He could never measure up to the starndard he holds others too...his soul needs to receive JESUS for real...
im so glad he is gone. he has left me in a very difficult circumstance. lots to do this summer. selling everything i can get my hands on. securing other things. he has told others (really?) that he is coming back to town and wanted to know if he could drive up the mountain to get "home" yet! there is no "home" for him here! i am busy moving everything into his storage unit that he has not paid since last oct. no reason to come here.....
the discard that is worthy of a prize.....i was left in the middle of a national forrest. 10,500ft. with a few jugs of water. ended up with no phone even for two mnths. dec 14, 2022 to may 26, 2023. in 7ft of snow.... He has never looked back. the point. my husband gave me an std, just before he left. the gift that just keeps on giving. are we having fun yet? i emailed him and told him.... he denied it and accused me...."i dont know what you picked up, but it wasnt me", he said. seriously!!!!! and which tree would i have gotten that from?!!!! the town, 2miles away. had all of 20 people in it, including women. most of them old. I think he "forgot" where he left me..... ya right. i am a believer and i have not been with or wanted anyone but my husband. in 2012 he shacked up with another woman for the summer..... ugh. sooooo humiliating. embarrassing for me.
He attempted to humiliate you but in my opinion he just showed his true colour. The best way to be restored is to find Christ and self improve in all areas of your life. God will bring the right kind of spouse for you. Don't ever get bitter, rather, get better.🎉
Dr Clarke. I love your passion❤ You make it very clear biblically what to do , knowing that leaders and pastors, because of ignorance regarding narcissm, always encourage counseling, hard work etc They will never understand, until they've lived with a narc I know what to do... But where do I go? Nobody knows. And sadly, I am financially dependent on him Because God has known my suffering with my narc, will He take care of me from here on I'd love to believe that🙏
35 years together (26 married). I am not who I want to be. I’ve spent my life pleasing others. It’s time to be selfish and be happy on my own. You scare the hell out of me, Dr. Clarke, but I’m already in hell. The devil you know, so they say. I’m ready for change, something different. I deserve to be happy, or at least not abused.😢
although i'm not a christian myself the words you describe them and what he did to me is on point, i have PTSD, health problems and constant fear and paranoia, i'm at a point of hopelessness where i can't escape him, even when i have left him he still torments me and ruins my life around me, i'm scared of the snarling wolf in the closet, i can't even fight it as much as i try to survive it, the only way to cope is to drink or death to gain peace, if this monstrous narc nukes everything around me and leaves me with nothing what is there to look forward to? he sucked my soul and heart from me and he continues to take my life away, the law in my country is useless in helping me to escape this situation, it's hard to not give up on hope
The amount of religious counselors and pastors that told me not to get divorced, just separate, because God will bring us back together is insane. I don't know what God they know, by my father God doesn't want me in an abusive marriage. Still trying to undo that advice so I can file.
I am having a hard time understanding the,“abandonment by a non-Christian spouse”, passage. What if he professes to be a Christian and abandons his spouse?
they don't need a reason, they are born this way, they just like to be evil for the sake of being evil, they are like a black hole that sucks everything including you around them
I have had enough of toxic people i love myself now thanks for Jesus Christ being in my life there's people are led by an evil spirit they will destroy you sign Cynthia Smith Hixson Tennessee near Chattanooga TN i am learning to love myself i have had enough of physical and mental abuse i love every one want the best for everyone i am to good for my self Jesus Christ thank you for loving me this is my last rodeo 74 years old
My mom was raised and abused by a narcissist, I don't think she is a narcissist but she was usually very angry when I was a child and she treats my dad badly. I'm 41yrs old now and I think my parents are separating. In her eyes he can't do anything right and she thinks he is abusive to her when it is actually the other way around, she just can't see it. I love my mother very much but she takes all the anger and betrayal from her childhood out on my dad. I'm not sure how to feel or what to do. My husband passed away almost 2 years ago and I have been living with them ever since. My mom is now staying with her elderly mother and I don't think she's coming back. I honestly can't tell how my dad feels about this. I know he's probably sad but maybe a little relieved a little at the same time. I want to be there for him but I'm not sure how to do that.
How do you leave a sick narcissist! He had lung cancer, a lung removed and is in pain all the time? He has become even more dependant and I am losing my will to survive?
I had one boyfriend who is a narcissist, it was a terrible thing for me to encounter such a person with evil Tendencies and was a scholar in the Bible too , he became an apostate against Christ
Amen. So regret staying and giving him chance after chance only to be utterly betrayed again and again. He has destroyed my life and my health (physical and mental) and the lives and health of our children. Feel betrayed by the pastors and Christian counselors that guilted me into staying because “God hates divorce.” How someone who claims to be a Christian and active member of church and worship team can continue living in sin (very different from still sinning, repenting, and trying to live a Christ-like life).
Amen, this happened to me, and I should have left while my kids were little and could be raised in a healthy home, but God can redeem. I truly believe this.
Yes, God can redeem and I am praying for my children’s return to faith. Thankful that they are getting counseling and grateful that they love and support me while going through divorce. Praying for you and your family.
Dr. David E. Clarke Phd - One Size-Fits-All, Never Fails (unless YOU don't do it right) Plan 1. Pay me for a "phone session" and I will summarily diagnose your husband as a narcissist and abuser. 2. I then give you my permission, AND GOD'S PERMISSION, to leave and divorce him. (Remember, I stand for marriage!) 3. Keep buying all my books and paying me for individual phone counseling well into the future. There is no need to any input from anyone else. I refuse to listen to anyone other than you. I am the expert and I know everything! No re-evaluation for individuals, circumstances or situations. My word is absolute truth and I am ALWAYS right.
to gain superiority, to leech off of others and use them in anyway possible, to tear the flesh from victims bones and leave you in a shallow grave, an apex mind for an apex monster
You are preaching the most important sermon in history. My body was drained to the point of needing human growth hormone. I had other illnesses but now they are gone during five year divorce. My health is almost totally recovered in Jesus name.
I am the gullible woman in 2Tim 3:6. I was “taken captive” when I was 21. I dropped out of Stanford in 1974 and stayed almost 45 years! We had 3 children and we all lived in fear of this tyrant. Derek Prince says if you meet a manipulator and an intimidator in the same body; you have met the devil. He was a practitioner of all the dark arts and a Catholic (they do NOT follow Yeshua Jesus commandments)! My complacency and compromise led to literal spinelessness!
Jesus Christ set me free from 24 years of Dr prescribed opiates!
My 200 lb bloated crippled body was restored to my 30 year self! I am married to Yeshua now and bless His name every moment!
I thank God for divorcing a satanically ordained beast!
I cannot thank you enough for this message. Coming from Africa and now living in the USA, the guilt that the culture and church has placed on women to stay in abusive marriages is sickening. The guilt we feel for leaving a narcissist. The lie that we will be forsaken by God if we leave. I am so glad that you are a beliver. May the Lord bless you and this ministry.
I left 3 1/2 weeks ago!
I am so much happier and at peace!!
You’re 100% right. After 39 years of marriage, I filed for divorce. The last year, while separated, we tried marriage counseling and individual therapy. It didn’t matter. He didn’t do the hard work on himself, he only went to counseling because he didn’t want to give up any money. Now, I can’t afford an attorney, and my husband is busy opening different accounts and trying to hide our money. I can’t do anything about it. At 60 years old, I know I’ll never survive this.
Ladies…don’t wait out of fear or hope, like I did. Just go! I know he’s a monster now…I see the evil, in hindsight I see all the bright red flags! I was so stupid, I hate myself. Don’t wait to wake up one day to realize you’ve been sharing your life with a stranger, a monster, an evil person. Just start planning a way to go…and then go.
I’m ready to walk away from my husband. He talks nasty to me like he is mad at me, like I’m stupid, with snark. He cuts me off in the middle of my sentences or questions and try’s to “finish” my thoughts. When I point it out to him he comes up with every other reason. “He isn’t doing that, I’m just mad that he isn’t giving me attention.” Or I love drama, I have anger issues, I’m trying to control him, he is isolated from his family because he has to pay attention to me, I have to try to fight to ruin his weekend or the holiday, everyone would agree with him.” And so on, no matter what…. It’s me. Not him.
Yes, we lose a lot when we leave a narc, but we lose a lot when we stay with them too. As someone has said, we need to pick our pain.
we lose nothing but time
i dont agree, we win alot when we leave a narc, staying with the narc is a foverver lose
I just cant say it enough of how grateful i am to hear this coming from a Godly man. When i finally detached and withdrew from the marriage, i went through a dark night of the soul because i thought i needed to stay married even though i was in so much pain thinking about staying. The more i kept attending my church services, pouring out my heart in teaching classes, the more i began to feel Gods love and presence and His voice telling me that He wanted me to leave. That if i stayed, i would not only injure myself but also my two children.
"God is not pleased when you stay with a narc, infact he is pleased when you leave a narc" 💯 If only I had this wisdom and knowledge a decade or so ago... I spent so much time and effort desperately trying to make it work but failing.
I like Dr Clarke’s communication style
I’m pretty sure my husband is a covert narc. He loves to stonewall me. He always gets defensive when I bring up issues for me. He hasn’t touched me intimately in 3 years and knows how important that is to me. He gaslights. He’s angry often. Says there’s nothing wrong. Won’t talk to me. But then tries to say I’m the one being distant. I have no money to go or I would. What can I do. I’ve started ignoring his behavior and just being myself and trying to be happy. He’s always judging. I feel so full of anxiety and depression. And I have chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia.
Somehow they get you over time to put all your focus...your attention...your energy...your emotions and feelings all on them...while no attention is focused on you and you get totally lost in the mix... and end up in no man's land lost and confused...is it you..is it them.. and the only way out of the nightmare is to run..not walk out of their life.
Death by a thousand cuts
I needed your words today.The Lord Bless you!
I hope all these brave and deserving women realize and do what it takes to make sure abusive behavior does not pass down to another generation. Children soak up what they see and feel and realize you do all you can to make sure the abuse STOPS WITH ME!
I’m divorcing the narc soon after so many failed attempts and being a Christian I stayed but realized truth will set you free! I thank God for coming across this by my former marriage counselor and now I understand I did not do anything wrong!!!
I am going through a really tough divorce. I have separated and he’s still relentless with lawyers and court cases. Very exhausted
I know he rattles you, you have to try not to care. Get your mind on something else. Easier said than done, you can do this!
Keep going. Take it one step at a time. My faith in God helped me enormously. I prayed and read the Bible alot and prayed alot. Only spend time with healthy loving people.
You’re a year out from your comment. Where is your health and life now?
What about the Christian husband who abandons you? I was abandon by my covert, Narcissist, Christian Pastor husband. He didn’t physically abandon me, but he emotionally abandoned me. We lived in the same house, but that was it. What about him? I was going insane and had all the physical symptoms of adrenal withdrawals.
Mine isn’t a pastor, but he’s overly-involved in the church, and did the same thing.
That isn't a Christian man, your marriage was a lie, and really should be annulled.
My Christian husband also emotionally abandoned me as well as controlling me with his mental abuse towards me. I physically left him 2 years ago. I will be filing for divorce to heal completely and not have any ties with
him whatsoever.
They aren't, "Christian husbands." Please stop saying that narcissists and abusers are Christian! 🤦♀️
My Christian Narc would literally cuss me out on the way to church with the children in the car, absolutely traumatizing! Then as soon as we would enter the church he would open the doors greeting everyone good morning sister, or brother...Grace and Peace. 😢 He was the biggest hypocrite i have ever might! Doing all kind of favors for women in the church against my wishes! He month was brutal😢...my poor babies suffer dearly!
8:15 Definitely. These narcs try to get you to act like they're GOD. They want you to please them which is a form of Idol Worship. I can no longer put a person above GOD.
Galatians 1:10.
Yes! That is what narcissists want. To be worshiped as they are God.
A-----MEN!
@@edelweissdebergbaldrian7696 Or convince you they have a direct line to God, starting their sentences with: "God told me..."
Or, "God doesn't want you to read that/listen to that/watch that/do that."
@@anng.4542 Yes
I left my 20 year marriage, got on my feet, and another swooped in, had 4 sons from my first marriage, had twins with number 2 narc, left him crossed the country to get away, then was reabused by my family of origin, I need your books
Jesus...i needed the message 20 years ago😢
15 for me😘
I needed this 32.5 yrs ago 😿
Me too.
I needed it 42 years ago.
Thank you so much for speaking the truth, especially from the Christian perspective.
The narc that I divorced was, Mr. Goodbody. I called him, Dudley Doright.
He hid behind church and still does to this day. It’s been over 30 years since I divorced him. I have nothing to do with him in any way, shape, or form for at least 25 years.
When we have to be at a family gathering together, such as weddings, etc., I make sure I give off vibes of, “I don’t want to be near you “. He and his wife like to leave early. I like to sit there and grin and smile, knowing I drove them away. My daughters have told me that their stepmother tells them the things that they now know from me telling them. She is not a happy camper.
I was so good at covering up his dirty tracks that nobody had a clue there were problems. Not even my kids knew, which was devastating to them when I divorced. I was primary in my children’s lives and I thought I was protecting them from the nastiness of the father. I made the narc look good to others, which ended up to be detrimental to me. I had lived a lie in pretending he was a good Christian man to the outside world.
In my book, the covert narcissist, who hides behind church, is the worst of the worst!
You are awesome 😊😊God bless you 🎉🎉🎉Narcisstic people are too crazy to wrap your head around. Once my son sperm donor that i married in 2011 came to visit from NY on a Sunday and was leaving on the Friday. I had a dental cleaning that Thursday. Mind you we have a ten year old that I have to raise alone except for compassionate friend and loved ones looking out. The narcissistic person expected me to cancel my dental cleaning! So I could let him see our son before he leaves again. The level of entitlement of the narcisstic person is deadly toxic levels. I didn't cancel my teeth cleaning as it takes months to fit in the schedule again. The in and out energy of the narcissistic person has caused my son to act out before. Im not going to lose my dental hygiene because i stepped into the playground of the perpetual child narcissistic person. I cant call him a husband. Im stuck married to him and divorce isn't easy as the narc ties up all your time doing thier job with our child. Then they want back in when it suits them. Watching your content has kept me no contact. Thanks again 💐💐✨️💐💐
I am learning to understand that I am not losing but in fact I am winning 🏆 as I leave
I have sacrificed so much 😢 even separated, he continues to violate me.
I pray for your protection, dear sister! ❤
God bless you!
@@sigridehlendt2038 I second this.
Stay strong and strap in. Find advocates not attached to him so you can stay above water and retain your truth. May peace be with you.
Get help. There are domestic violence shelters or find a trustworthy friend.
You've got to find strategies so he can't get to you, or the contact is minimal.. If you don't react, he will get bored at some point.
Have a friend open information, letters, court docs, emails, etc. My ex used to file stupid things all the time. He wants to torment and harass you, he is a dangerous person. Treat him as such, don't let yourself be caught off guard. Hang in there sweetie!
my narc husband has alienated me from my 3 boys 25,23,18 all have violently abused me too. i am exhausted and i can't believe i am still alive. punched in the face head butted head thru the wall cold water poured on me while sleeping many times thrown across the rooms..subdermal hematoma. i live in wny and police do nothing
@kellyatkinson, whether you stay or leave, call the woman shelter in your area. Speak to a counselor or someone.
God loves you & you have reason to live but your life can be shortened if you do nothing.
An unintentional hard hit from your spouse can permanently damage your body. Get help please.
❤
yeah, same boat here, the police do nothing, the monster has turned everyone i know against me, my current boyfriend i don't even trust anymore, i'm jerking around in fear in flight or fight mode and thinking of a way to escape, the PTSD, unable to sleep, heavy drinking and a stressful life is taking it's toll on me playing with my bipolar mind to the point they will hospitalise me, the fact that the last person i ever could have a future with and had some fragile bridge of trust is now shattered and washed away in the river will be turned against me, leave me with nothing and no hope, i am in constant fear i can't deal with, the fear of losing everything, the fear of not trusting no one is something i can't live with anymore, i can't cope like this, i just want the easy way out
You used a spiritual sword to dismantel and expose this type of darkness! People are so blind and have always advised me to stay. Thank for being a spiritual father and giving me approval, confirmation and encouragement to move forward.
Ive been sick with Lupus, and ive been afraid to let go😢...i believe this is my exit season and the door is open to walk out of it after 17yrs of marriage! Thank you for being obedient. I know that its God making it so uncomfortable in this situation that i cant rest, until i leave aka escape.
You said what and how i needed to hear what God is saying...My revelation at this point is that he needs salvation. He could never measure up to the starndard he holds others too...his soul needs to receive JESUS for real...
Thanks for clarifying, women are narcs also....I'm married to one.
As always thank you God bless You
im so glad he is gone. he has left me in a very difficult circumstance. lots to do this summer. selling everything i can get my hands on. securing other things. he has told others (really?) that he is coming back to town and wanted to know if he could drive up the mountain to get "home" yet! there is no "home" for him here! i am busy moving everything into his storage unit that he has not paid since last oct. no reason to come here.....
Exposure of these narc halflings is the key to getting out and walking in freedom in JESUS NAME !!!.THANK YOU Brother.🌿🌺🌿👑🙏❣️🕊🎉
the discard that is worthy of a prize.....i was left in the middle of a national forrest. 10,500ft. with a few jugs of water. ended up with no phone even for two mnths. dec 14, 2022 to may 26, 2023. in 7ft of snow.... He has never looked back. the point. my husband gave me an std, just before he left. the gift that just keeps on giving. are we having fun yet? i emailed him and told him.... he denied it and accused me...."i dont know what you picked up, but it wasnt me", he said. seriously!!!!! and which tree would i have gotten that from?!!!! the town, 2miles away. had all of 20 people in it, including women. most of them old. I think he "forgot" where he left me..... ya right. i am a believer and i have not been with or wanted anyone but my husband. in 2012 he shacked up with another woman for the summer..... ugh. sooooo humiliating. embarrassing for me.
He attempted to humiliate you but in my opinion he just showed his true colour.
The best way to be restored is to find Christ and self improve in all areas of your life.
God will bring the right kind of spouse for you. Don't ever get bitter, rather, get better.🎉
I like this guy Dr. He is truthful with tough love and says the truth to help people out of this horrific situation
Your message and content are absolutely spot on. Thank you!
Dr Clarke.
I love your passion❤
You make it very clear biblically what to do , knowing that leaders and pastors, because of ignorance regarding narcissm, always encourage counseling, hard work etc
They will never understand, until they've lived with a narc
I know what to do...
But where do I go? Nobody knows. And sadly, I am financially dependent on him
Because God has known my suffering with my narc, will He take care of me from here on
I'd love to believe that🙏
35 years together (26 married). I am not who I want to be. I’ve spent my life pleasing others. It’s time to be selfish and be happy on my own. You scare the hell out of me, Dr. Clarke, but I’m already in hell. The devil you know, so they say. I’m ready for change, something different. I deserve to be happy, or at least not abused.😢
although i'm not a christian myself the words you describe them and what he did to me is on point, i have PTSD, health problems and constant fear and paranoia, i'm at a point of hopelessness where i can't escape him, even when i have left him he still torments me and ruins my life around me, i'm scared of the snarling wolf in the closet, i can't even fight it as much as i try to survive it, the only way to cope is to drink or death to gain peace, if this monstrous narc nukes everything around me and leaves me with nothing what is there to look forward to? he sucked my soul and heart from me and he continues to take my life away, the law in my country is useless in helping me to escape this situation, it's hard to not give up on hope
The amount of religious counselors and pastors that told me not to get divorced, just separate, because God will bring us back together is insane. I don't know what God they know, by my father God doesn't want me in an abusive marriage. Still trying to undo that advice so I can file.
Yeah! That's the Scripture I go to!
Thanks, Dr. Clarke!
I am having a hard time understanding the,“abandonment by a non-Christian spouse”, passage. What if he professes to be a Christian and abandons his spouse?
Then he is not really a Christian, my dear.
Even the devil claims to be an angel of light 🤔
This was exactly my question in my above post!! I feel you sister! I think it needs to be addressed. The abuse was real, I wanted to die.
@@suzannemitchell560 It means he is a sneaky deceiver. Those are often the most dangerous ones.
Christians are known by the fruit they produce Gal5:22
Many narcs pretend to be Christians
What if you can’t leave do to finances?
You are so correct. Thank you.
Spot on! God does not want us miserable & suffering every day with these energy vampires.
Thank you for sharing this ❤
Can you please do a video explaining how a narcissist is formed, and the reasons why they won't change? Thank you
they don't need a reason, they are born this way, they just like to be evil for the sake of being evil, they are like a black hole that sucks everything including you around them
a Question should I leave our house if I file for Dirvorce? I don't want to leave my kids behind.
I have had enough of toxic people i love myself now thanks for Jesus Christ being in my life there's people are led by an evil spirit they will destroy you sign Cynthia Smith Hixson Tennessee near Chattanooga TN i am learning to love myself i have had enough of physical and mental abuse i love every one want the best for everyone i am to good for my self Jesus Christ thank you for loving me this is my last rodeo 74 years old
My mom was raised and abused by a narcissist, I don't think she is a narcissist but she was usually very angry when I was a child and she treats my dad badly. I'm 41yrs old now and I think my parents are separating. In her eyes he can't do anything right and she thinks he is abusive to her when it is actually the other way around, she just can't see it. I love my mother very much but she takes all the anger and betrayal from her childhood out on my dad. I'm not sure how to feel or what to do. My husband passed away almost 2 years ago and I have been living with them ever since. My mom is now staying with her elderly mother and I don't think she's coming back. I honestly can't tell how my dad feels about this. I know he's probably sad but maybe a little relieved a little at the same time. I want to be there for him but I'm not sure how to do that.
Showing him that you care is likely enough.
I live in Sweden how do I get the book Shalom 🙏
That's the truth!
How do you leave a sick narcissist! He had lung cancer, a lung removed and is in pain all the time? He has become even more dependant and I am losing my will to survive?
Your life or his life- which do you respect more?
@@InfiniteMindset99 even more better answer, does she think her husband would do the same for her if she was dying?
If the spouse of a narc is unemployed,will he be expected to pay her alimony in the event of divorce? Or must she go find employment at age 51
I had one boyfriend who is a narcissist, it was a terrible thing for me to encounter such a person with evil
Tendencies and was a scholar in the Bible too , he became an apostate against Christ
Amen. So regret staying and giving him chance after chance only to be utterly betrayed again and again. He has destroyed my life and my health (physical and mental) and the lives and health of our children. Feel betrayed by the pastors and Christian counselors that guilted me into staying because “God hates divorce.” How someone who claims to be a Christian and active member of church and worship team can continue living in sin (very different from still sinning, repenting, and trying to live a Christ-like life).
Amen, this happened to me, and I should have left while my kids were little and could be raised in a healthy home, but God can redeem. I truly believe this.
Yes, God can redeem and I am praying for my children’s return to faith. Thankful that they are getting counseling and grateful that they love and support me while going through divorce. Praying for you and your family.
Hello, Is there a way to mesg you personally ?
Amen
Dr. David E. Clarke Phd - One Size-Fits-All, Never Fails (unless YOU don't do it right) Plan
1. Pay me for a "phone session" and I will summarily diagnose your husband as a narcissist and abuser.
2. I then give you my permission, AND GOD'S PERMISSION, to leave and divorce him. (Remember, I stand for marriage!)
3. Keep buying all my books and paying me for individual phone counseling well into the future.
There is no need to any input from anyone else. I refuse to listen to anyone other than you.
I am the expert and I know everything! No re-evaluation for individuals, circumstances or situations.
My word is absolute truth and I am ALWAYS right.
Read 1st Corinthians 5, all. That will answer a lot of your questions.
Me n my fiancée need help!!!!
My ex husband uses the system to harrass us and he is stalking us and trying to run us over and the police won’t help
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Bad behavior does not 'end' a marriage. You can and should separate if youre being abused, but you are still married in God's view.
Disney beauty and the beast promoted an emotionally abusive relationship
Why does it cost so much for someone to care about another human being?
to gain superiority, to leech off of others and use them in anyway possible, to tear the flesh from victims bones and leave you in a shallow grave, an apex mind for an apex monster
I find your channel to be strongly gender biased.
I’ve been a longtime TH-cam user. You might want to stop the
“HE” “HIM” narcissist labeling.
VERY VERY TRUE, WHEN WOMEN ARE IN THE MAJORITY!!!