How Do I Know God Has Released Me From My Marriage - Ask Dr. Clarke
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 ต.ค. 2024
- A controversial question has been asked, "How Do I Know if God Has Released Me From My Marriage?"
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God has shit off my heart after adultery, physical, emotional and sexual abuse. It makes me nauseous to think of going back to him. And God has blessed me so much. I've left with 5 kids and things have been going so smoothly. My kids don't seem to miss him, they were victims of his too, but nothing compared to me.
I really needed this video. I always knew that God had released me from my marriage. I separated and waited for over three years to move to a divorce. He not only never repented, but also continued to sim terribly.
God almighty is merciful.
you were more than gracious, allowing your ex time to repent. he chose not to. he ended the marriage, not you. I pray God blesses you in
your new life.
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God told me to wait until May. It’s May. I hear that I’m released. And it’s time to move forward.
He moved 5 hours away without telling me during our separation.
Yes. I learned this last year… I told my husband I wanted a divorce, but it wasn’t until God released me. I asked Him to show me in His Word where it was okay to do so and He did.
Now my plan is to let others know what the signs are and that it is okay.
Thank you for doing the same.
I subscribed after listening to only one video. Your videos are short and to the point and I love that.
Keep it up!!! ❤❤
What scripture
You are an answer to prayer! Been seeking wise counsel, a year out of a 25-year marriage, very emotionally abusive. Have a lot of guilt, guilt for leaving guilt for staying as long as I did. I do believe that I am fully released. Your words have helped me realize I am on the right track. Thank you so much! God bless you.
if your spouse asked for forgiveness and changed you should not leave
You did right in Gods eyes. He has released you from your abuser and has given you a new life in Him! ❤
Thank you a lot, Dr. My husband and I are separated. He showed all the signs you're talking about, but one time he asked to go counseling, but I refused as I knew he is doing that to prove that I am the evil
This really helps to know when I am released. It helped me to stop feeling guilty about my loss of feeling for him and look to the future.
Thank you for this. I truly appreciate the insight.
The response to this question sounded so familiar. I’ve played it over a few times and made notes on what was applicable to my situation and it felt like you were describing my experience. I’ve been looking for help and information and hitting a blank in most areas. I have shut down for a while already and just kept saying to the Lord, this relationship and this life can’t be the rest of my story. It can’t be the rest of my life.
I’m so grateful for this material!!!
I was divorced by the time I saw this. My "Christian" husband slept with another woman, slapped me around and abandoned me to live in a bachelor pad and THEN wanted to come back. That's a big nope.
My husband has committed adultery he has no remorse for it then he blamed me for it
classic abusive behavior. get my book, My Spouse Wants Out. it's time for tough love. if you want to talk to me, you can use my phone advice service.
Once an individual looks upon another, he has already committed adultery.
He never wanted me said if he met my friend he would have took her first 😢I’m single so long not sure if I will even look for a mate anymore
Can you help me understand what emotional abuse is? My husband claimed that’s why he left me abruptly but I’ve wracked my brain to think of anything I could have done. I confessed a long list of repentances, begged for counseling, and vowed to stay single for reconciliation purposes. From what I can see, he left for another woman who he introduced my daughter to as soon as he left. It all just seems like anyone could find a way to fit the third biblical reason to justify divorcing their spouse. 😔
You missed another sign... if your spouse lands a job with a high salary. After her adultery, my wife went back to work after 20 years a stay at home mom. No time for recovery work, no time for individual work, no time to amend the hurt or develop remorse or empathy, she was too busy developing her career. As a result she found success and a relatively high paying salary with a lot of potential.
The unbelievable pain abated when God revealed to me this circumstance was releasing me of my responsibility to provide for her. With her good salary, the spousal support and settlement will be much more manageable. We never notice these things without the larger perspective. My wife's career ambition paves the way for me to be positioned to provide for my next wife, should the Lord bless me with another helpmeet.
they sure do seem to overlook when it's a woman who's in the wrong. they don't even mention it as a possibility this is outrageous
@@Lyfe_Yasharahla I agree with you, but to be fair I have heard Dr. Clarke's disclaimers a few times that his content applied to men as well. It is obvious and well established that men are also abused, but I think men don't get the air time because it is a combination of not being as common, and simple economics; they are building a channel and speaking to their target market.
But to your point, I have heard a therapist say that women do abuse men, but it isn't the same. Her opinion is that it doesn't cause the same deep damage, the same depression, the same helplessness, it doesn't cause the trauma, etc. Her reasons are because there is a physical component, men are generally stronger, there is a power imbalance that makes men less vulnerable overall.
Are men affected less than women by abuse? I wouldn't know, I wouldn't even know how to measure it. But this was a practicing therapist and was her professional opinion. I should go research that, I remember feeling indignant but I never really researched it more...
Yup, I see it too but Dr. Clarke does say "he or she" toward the end .......@@Lyfe_Yasharahla
Thank you so much for this video!!! I feel so much better hearing this, I needed to hear this!
100%. Thank God for all of your eyes opening videos. 🙌🙏 Thank you!
Thanks, Dr. Clarke!
My husband has abandoned me. Does that count for divorce? We haven’t lived together for 7 years. I want a Godly marriage. He makes good money but will never provide for me financially. He says he wants to be a Godly man but his actions never follow. He won’t let me parent his child and has placed his child as an idol in his life. Ugh, there’s so much. My heart is broken. I don’t understand a God who doesn’t deal with men like this. 😓
He will deal with them in His time if they don't repent. There's tons of stories on here of changed marriages, the worst of the worst. God is faithful. Keep standing.
sorry you are going through this. 7 years is long enough. get my book, Enough is Enough: a Step by Step Plan to Leave an Abusive Relationship with God's Help. it's time to start your new life. you can talk to me in a phone advice session if you want. to set it up, email me at
davideclarkephd@gmail.com
@@tnj4ever …. Thx for the encouragement. I’m really trying to hang in there but I’m utterly exhausted.
"I don’t understand a God who doesn’t deal with men like this." God's ways are not our ways, and we may never understand. I struggle with this as well.
A comment for you; something I learned from my wife's adultery is that your spouse will do what they will do. After 7 years I can pretty much promise you that he's not going to change anything until you do something drastic. God honoring of course, but drastic. Pray about it. Pray for a solution, pray for any next steps, however small.
@@wm7929 thank you for taking the time to provide your input. Greatly appreciated.
You know once the legal physical divorce is over.
I knew that God had released me from my abusive marriage when: 1.) After cheating on me, devil hubby beat the snot out of me. 2.) Devil hubby got immediately on the phone, and called my father, and told him what he'd just done. 3.) Devil hubby stole my beloved cat, and drove off in our brand new van. 4.) Devil hubby filed for divorce and sent me the papers. 5.) I never received a single cent of alimony. 6.) I found out soon after that my ex devil hubby had immediately moved in with another woman; and not the woman I knew he'd cheated with. (It wasn't that hard to figure out).
Oh you WILL know!!!
Thank you . I've just started watching your videos
You are a blessing, doctor. Thank you!
I was released from my marriage because of severe and total neglect.
What if you’re abandoned by your “Christian” spouse?
Then you are released!
@@kjbrocky scripture please
A Christian spouse doesn't abandon their duties and commitments. We need to understand that when scripture talks believers and unbelievers, it is not talking about the titles and labels we like to carry in our modern world. A believer gives evidence of that belief, the way James makes it clear.
My husband has also claimed to be a Christian and yet his abuse has been destructive to our family. We must remember scripture also says, "you will know them by their Fruit", not by their labels
Great videoes
You don't know if there was an affair or not! What do you do in this situation?! If you know then you explained how to position yourself but, how do you position yourself if you simply don't know?!
We turn into the marriage police. We plant recording devices, GPS trackers, and hidden cameras. We hire private investigators. We search their phone when we can. We look at the phone bill / phone records. We continue to ask questions and analyze for inconsistencies, and keep drilling in. We trust our gut. We put log monitoring on the home router so we can track online activity. It's absolutely exhausting. I'm so, so sorry you're going through this.
If God releases a person from a marriage does that mean the person can Biblically remarry? The Bible says that anyone who remarries commits adultery. Am I sinning if I remarry?
The person who committed adultery shouldn't. The other person who remained loyal is innocent and can remarry. However, I'd stay single and heal.
Also, there's nothing wrong with enjoying single life. God calls some to singledom. 😊
My daughter’s ex husband broke her jaw and divorced her, can she remarry?
@@linak7155 she wants to remarry and she’s discipled now and wasn’t then and her ex husband is not discipled and has moved on
@@linak7155 they didn’t have any kids together she’s been discipled for over 2 years
Yes, she can remarry. She is free to remarry as long as it is a Christian man. my book, I Didn't Want a Divorce, Now What?, will help her.
@@DrDavidClarke ok thank you
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My wife passed away does that count
That's an automatic pass according to the word. :)
He or She* (they)
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God does Release people from marriage. I don't have time to set here and type all this out. But there was this very stupid church preacher in Letcher Co KY, that told this woman it says in the bible for a wife not to leave her hubby. This man was beating his wife. But she took the advice from this preacher. It ended up this hubby killed his wife.
Exactly